It's so incredibly nice to go through the comments and see people explaining their problems and then see others helping them out. It just reminds me that I'm not alone and that there are people (even strangers) that do care and are willing to help out with your issues. I have been diagnosed with mild depression and a lot of the time I feel so alone and worthless but going through the comments makes me realise that I'm not alone.
I never talk about my feelings to anyone cuz even when I try to no one gives a shit so I just stick with being on my own when it comes to my feelings...and maybe everything else as well lol... Also the bloopers at the end made me laugh so much.Thanks for that! love you three
Talking about how you feel is SO important. If you honestly think people don't care, then you aren't hanging out with the right people and they don't deserve to have you in their life.
Same. I feel like everyone will think I over reacting or doing it for attention, so I just keep my felling a to myself. And I'm so hormonal which makes it worse, so I'll just cry randomly like if I've had a bad day and my parents will ask what's wrong and I just make something up or say I don't feel well😞 don't worry. We'll all get through this❤️
I had the exact same problem as you I told one of my friends and she told one of my teachers , eventually my teacher brought my mum into school and explained everything to her and kind of softened the blow , but my mum took me to the doctor and as much as I hate talking about my feeling and problems it really helped. So I hope you know you're ur not alone.
Video Potato I have a friendship like Zoe and Mark so I know how to feels! Like we have soooo many inside jokes, we laugh at the littlest thing that aren't even funny to most people, we get along really well like it's honestly the best feeling ever to have a friendship like them 💕
U guys are all so inspirational and realistic. I have anxiety and I sometimes feel like doing nothing and never leaving my house and it's hard because I am just 15. Some people do try to understand but it is hard and I get that but u and Zoe really show me that u can do something even if u are really scared. Alfie thank you for always sticking by Zoe because I know that there will be times where u want to do something and Zoe will be nervous and have panic attacks. U guys may never answer this or even see this comment but to little young me ur so amazing. I know that the media and people in general may be mean or hate on u but there are fans who love all of u. I hope one day to see u all in person and thank u properly.
After watching this video I realized that there are a lot of people who are going through tough times like I am. I'm not fully secure about myself and I do feel like I am not good enough for others but I always try to stop these thoughts. I moved away from home for university and left my 2 best friends behind. It was probably the toughest thing I had to do because till today I feel like I won't find friends who I can be 100% myself around like I did with them. Everything here is different and I am still trying to adapt to the new place and to new people. For some reason watching this video made me burst into tears. I'm not entirely sure why that happened but I feel some kind of emptiness in me and I just need someone to talk to to take things off my shoulder. However, everything you guys said and all the advises made me feel so much better. Watching the three of you always brightens up my day. Thank you guys.
This helped me a lot seeing as I have had a recent friendship problem. It has shown me I can just forget about it now. Thanks so much Mark, Zoe and Alfie. Love you all XXXxxx
I went through depression and i was sure I was alone in my situation, after 2 months I couldn't handle it any more so I mentioned it my friend and he said immediately that he was going through the same thing. we had both been in the same situations so we talked about it. he made me feel better and pretty much got me through it all, so did I for him. it was a year ago now and we are both In such a better place we were in a few years ago! he really wanted to tell his parents about it however I didnt, so me and him went to his dad's and mum's place and explained his situation. the reason why he didn't tell his parents was because he was scared that they would send him to therapy or wouldn't accept it. so after the talk with them the completely understood it. I still find it difficult talking to people about it because it is still a sensitive subject, but because I quietly mentioned it in a conversation I'm now a completely new happy person. the moral of my message is that you have to talk to someone!!! trust me, it's does help alot.
This video was really helpful to me. I've lost the majority of my childhood friends in less than 2 weeks to a new squad that I'm not a part of. I'm still cordial with most of them, but I realized that people just change. I haven't talked to my best friend at all because I'm just tired of her running back to me when her new friends can't do something for her. I kind of felt like I was isolating myself for awhile, then I started to make new, better friends. This video has helped me come to peace with the fact that people grow apart and thanks okay. Thanks guys 😄!
My mum has mental health and whenever she has a bad day(which is often😪) I always watch you and Zoe. I absolutely love you guys because whenever I watch you I'm crying with laughter and I love the vlogs ( my favourite is all the emotions). I know it's a long time after this video went up but I'm not one of those people that watch videos straight away but I'm still a massive fan😍😍😘😘😘💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Try not to avoid going out with friends, you'll miss so much fun memories! And don't blame yourself it's not your fault you get anxious and uncomfortable. I suffer the same, but after a couple times going out just started small with friends I grew out of my uncomfortable and anxious stage and felt so much better! Some days I'm really bad but I'm lucky the friends I surround myself with are friendly caring people and always help me and take me away from a situation if it gets bad. Ensure you have friends like that that will help you when you need it, give going out a try! If it works it works if not find some time where you and friends can do something a little down to earth :) xx
Just start hanging out with them every now and then for a little bit at a time, always know that if you do start feeling uncomfortable they'll understand if you want to leave.
yes so me too...i reject hanging out with so many friends because i feel so anxious and uncomfortable somethings but then feel like they might be moving on and dont call me in other places and they always force me to say why i wont come with them and its really hard to make people understand that..
Mark saying about having friends in the past who didn't give anything in return made my heart melt, he seems so lovely and anyone would be blessed to have him as a friend 💕
I would love if all 3 of you made this a series!!! I love hearing all of your different opinions because you each have your own insight to bring into these advice videos 😊😊 thank you guys for making my days 1000x better
This was honestly so inspirational, I love how down to earth you guys are! Always willing to help other people and just by answering a few questions, some people are going benefit from this video, love you always x
I think perfection is what you see your self as for example if you think you look good you do just like the song most girls by Haylee Stanfield it said " some days you feel so good in your own skin, but it's ok if you wanna change the body that you came in,coz you look greatest when you feel like a queen" and that just means your your own kind of beautiful 😊keep your head up people nobody's perfect x
That was a generally nice video and knowing the amount of troubled teens that watch you, guys, I truly believe you helped a lot of them with your advice. Well done!
I love Zoe and Mark's videos because you can just tell they are always having so much fun together they are not just doing it for camera. It makes me feel so happy!
Omg the depression thing i can relate I feel sad and numb all the time and sometimes I get these really happy hyper moments and I want to go out and buy really expensive stuff. (I once bought and barbque ) hahaha and I've told my mum but she doesn't do anything she doesn't think I'm serious. Help😔
I'd honestly say go to the doctor, my mum wasn't much help either because I feel like they think you're too young to have stuff like that, but it's very common, the best thing to do is honestly see a doctor or find people either online or in therapy groups who are going through the same thing, it makes it SO much easier when you can talk to someone whose experiencing the same thing! Xxx
Sit her down and really explain to her about how you feel. As Zoe said in this video parents care about how you feel and they always want what is best for you. So don't feel like you can't sit down and have a deep conversation because you can and you should. Until you really talk this through with her she's gonna always think you're not serious. Couple days ago I sat and told my mum, and it's taken a weight off my shoulders. She finally understands me and helps me when I need it badly. It will truly help you to talk to her or anyone else about this xx
I am really sad to hear that you are drepressed, I have been depressed over a year now and it sucks. If your mum doesn't believe you talk to somebody else, teacher, school counselor, friend or somebody that you feel comfortable to talk to. Try to find something that makes you happy whatever it is watching youtube, sports, reading, whatever. Stay postitive and thank about everything that you are thankful for. Suround yourself with positive things. Try to let your mum talk to a doctor so he can give you advice, maybe a therapist and some meds. Remember you are not alone and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Do not let depression define who you are. And everything happens for a reason and What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Sending all my love and i hope you will feel better soon. ❤️
Literally everything you guys talked about hit home for me! Especially the whole 'if you have three close friends and you're happy it's fine, you don't need 20 friends to have a good life' subject. I'm 22 and just now realizing that. I used to have a pretty big group of friends that made me feel really insecure and bad about my personality and looks and I ended up getting really depressed and down because of it... then I found a group of people who I really CLICKED with, unlike my other group of friends. At first, I was nervous because there are only 3 of them as compared to my previous group of friends which had 10+. But then I realized 3 people who make me more confident and happy is so so so much better than 10 who make me feel shitty! SO, if you're somehow reading this and you're not happy with your friend group, please know that it may take a little time, but you WILL find your niche. There are people out there that will make you feel at home when you're with them and it's the best feeling :) Don't settle for any less and don't let people make you feel inferior! Who you surround yourself with makes such a huge difference - if someone is making you feel crappy, say adios. You deserve people who are positive influences and make you feel wonderful !!!
Young Minds is a really great UK-based charity for young people going through depression. And note the term 'going through' because there is light at the end of the tunnel and that light is you. So never give up. Believe it or not but life is rooting for you.
I'm so insecure about myself. I'm so far away from being confident and that makes me really shy too. People around me tell me I'm funny, I'm nice, I'm pretty, I'm beautiful and I'm kind but I can only feel like I'm not enough, like I'm not worth it.
Why wouldn't you be worth it ? You deserve happiness and love, and to be loved, like everybody else. Ask yourself what you would change about yourself to be "worth it". :)
I used to feel the same way!! But listen to your friends and those close to you, they know you and are able to see things about you that you can't seem to see just yet. The first step is leanring to love yourself because of course you're worth it!!
What helps me, is to remember that the worst that can happen when you speak to someone is that they arent interested in that possible friendship. They might be rude or they might not... but that response shows you who they are as a person. If they reject your friendship then 1. Thats their loss and 2. You know the position and move on to the next person! Eventually you will click with people you chat to (and the more you chat to the easier it gets). the others wouldnt have been worth your time! Everyone is different and this might not help you but I though I would share it just in case x
I totally agree with you Sami! It also helps me to think that most people are so concentrated at themselves that they don't even notice the flaws you might have and even if you go up to someone and start talking to them or ask them to hang out and they reject you it's very likely they will forget about all of it after a little while :-)
yess same here i had a tons of friends in school but in college i littreally talk to no one...i feel hard to approach people who already have their friend groups and i dont feel connected with any one of them at all
Sami has good advice so I just wanted to pop in and say that you aren't alone! My gf spent college without friends. She did have them but they came and went, her roommates were horrible to her so she moved and truly felt alone but that's when she ended up making friends naturally just by going to classes so things did get better. They'll get better for you too!
This video honestly helped me, someone had the same problem as me not wanting to go out with my friends and distancing myself from those that i called friends but then get upset and jealous that i was missing out, so i decided to change my friendship group but not completely stop speaking to them but to not be stuck with them. So i have these other friends that are really caring and understand me and listen to what i have to say and are constantly supporting me like i do them and i couldn't have wished for any better advice than the one given to me from the most aspiring and amazing people zoella and mark. Thank you so much for the advice it has really helped love you x
I wish I knew about this. Can anyone give me advice? I'm in college and pretty much all of my friends drink and party and I don't, so I'm never invited to parties and always left out. Also they always talk about them afterwards and I can never join in I just have to sit and listen. But the thing is I find the stories so boring because I just don't like when people are drunk and think they're just stupid tbh. I don't understand it. I don't want to drink but I hate being left out.
I'm so sorry. I don't drink either. Maybe new friends would help. You're an awesome girl, so i'm sure you have tons of people on a waiting list to be your friend.
don't pressure yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with, if these friends don't invite you places then they aren't worth your time, i mean like obviously still stay friends with them if they make you feel genuinely happy but your happiness is the important thing x
Omg I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes my friends got to parties and because I'm not really a drinker (or more popular I suppose) I never get invited to parties. Some stories are quite funny but when they always talk about them I have a feeling of fomo and it makes me feel a bit like I don't fit in, but I do love those friends so I wouldn't end a friendship because of it. It is hard. I understand how you feel. We'll be okay, I'm sure. Hope you're alright. We can do this. Stay strong😊😁xxx
I was in the exact same boat as you this time last year. I spent the majority of the year not being invited to things, feeling left out and just feeling down because of it. I spoke to one of my friends about it and she said that i was never invited because they all thought that i didn't want to go or be included because i hated it so much, and i completely understood that and then i explained how left out i felt etc, so i came to a realisation that if i want to remain friends with them, friendship is a two way thing. I started going to the pre-drinks before parties so that i'm involved without the party part, if it was a house party i'd go for the first hour or so before people got messy drunk, id just involve myself a small bit so that i didn't feel so left out and knew all the people in the stories and understood them a bit more, plus, making an effort made my friends want to make an effort right back, and they'd often go out of their way to do things i enjoyed in return. At the start, its very uncomfortable, but it is so worth putting yourself out there a small bit without throwing yourself into Unmanageable. I also joined a bunch of college societies/clubs to meet new people with similar interests so that i could split my time between friends who enjoy what i enjoy doing and friends i grew up with and enjoy the company of but not what they enjoy doing. I think the whole thing is a maturity thing. You and I have past the party stage because i no longer see the point in it, i feel there are much more productive and fun ways to spend and remember my night whereas my friends haven't realised this yet, and that's okay. I don't think it's worth completely cutting your friends off for because when they mature to your level, the friends you grew up with will mean the most.
i wish you three were my actual friends, you are the best people ever and i love your advice (and everything else about you 😂) Thanks for always making me feel accepted for who I am 💗
This video is so helpful and it's great to know everyone needs similar advice at times. Also I love how Mark Zoe and Alfie are able to make completely hysterical videos and serious advice videos that are both entertaining.
thank you so much. I didn't know I needed this video until I watched it. I do feel like something finally clicked about never having a perfect body because it doesn't exist and it doesn't matter. You're fine the way you are. So thank you so so so so so much Mark, Alfie, and Zoe. ❤
this honestly made me so happy and there were points where I teared up because you guys are so nice and sweet and I see everything just the way you do.
Please I need some advice, I've always struggled with expressing my ideas and my feelings. I just don't know why it's so hard for me, I think it's because I'm an introvert and a really shy person but I am not sure. Even if I want to post a photo on instagram (I know it sound a little bit stupid) I get nervous and I don't post it because I feel like someone is going to judge what I post. I always get this feeling that I'm being judged even when I am walking I think that people is staring at me. Oh God I really don't know what to do 😪. Any introverts out there relate to this?
i think everyone has a part of them that feels a little bit like this. I've found a way that really helps, even if these people are judging you you have to remember that they are people just like you. I'm sure you've thought something like oooh funky shoes that girl has on- but your immediate reaction after this isn't what a wierdo. mine isn't anyway, mine would just be funny how we all have different tastes, if that makes sense? people are just people, so don't stress about what others think because evidently it really doesn't matter. Post what you want on instagram and adore it because you love it, because it makes you YOU and that is amazing. the fact that you like and someone else else might not isn't a bad thing that's life! people will judge, that's life too but it doesn't make you anyless amazing then you already are. Hope that helps X
You've expressed yourself really well on here so maybe when you want to express yourself write things down! I get the same thing before posting photos to the world but at the end of the day no one is perfect and you should believe in your own beauty and embrace it because you're only ever given one body so love it. With the staring thing I think of it like this when you walk around do you judge other people and think in your mind I don't liker her outfit or I don't like his hair or he looks weird? probably not because you'll be thinking that other people are looking at you but there probably thinking the same as you and are more concerned about them also being judged than judging you. Stay positive :)
I'm a massive introvert and struggle with this too, but what you've got to think is as long as what you're doing isn't offensive or harmful in any way post/ do what you like because there will 100% be people thinking the exact same thing as you! Don't hide away. Exhaust you think you might be wrong, life's about risks, you'll never learn to be happy with who you are without pushing yourself, biting the bullet and just doing what you think is right, people will love you for it xx
same, all you need to do is not care what the random people think of you and just be you, the you that your parents made. BE YOURSELF 😊 hope it helped.❤
I'm 18 too and what Zoe said about going out is literally my life, it's not like I don't want to go I would love to go but my anxiety controls me so much I feel like I would ruin it for everyone else I'm with bc I'd want to leave 😂
i'm the same i had my freshers this week and i went with a group of friends but had one friend who agreed to leave with me if it was too much so maybe you should do the same? x
i found this video so helpful, and i really feel like you actually put care and thought in these answers. please make more videos like this, they´re great!
in response to your viewer who has depression and is worried about telling their family about it. I'd like to add that your family may not understand it or give you the response you want, it can also trigger your depression more, not to say you shouldn't say something (or write a letter to tell them) but understanding that another persons response may be different then we imagine they will. I say this from someone who has depression as a young person. No one knew, they just assumed it was normal teenage hormones. I felt terrible about myself and the one thing that helped turn those thoughts about me around was starting an internal dialog with myself, especially when I'm having very negative thoughts. I started replacing each thought with positive ones. It's hard but necessary to begin feeling better and be more stable emotionally. Even if you don't believe it, which you probably wont, but say those things you want to feel and stop the internal negative dialog as soon as you realize you're doing it. It is what helped me. It didnt fix things but it made me stop hating myself as much and feeling better to tackle it more. I also think going to a therapist is key to working on learning other tools to manage depression. all the best to you and those who suffer with depression.
Can someone please give me advise on this, My friend is really insecure about her face when she wears no makeup, but I think she's really beautiful, and when she says to me "aww I look so ugly :(" I get really sad for her. I just feel like she needs to be happy about who she is :|
I think you should reassure her and find small ways to boost her confidence, but in the end of the day, only she can help herself feel comfortable in her own skin :)
I think that you should tell her that alot but not too much like not omg dont wear foundation it looks ugly, but just like other people have said you cant change what she thinks at the end of the day you should not like someone for the out side its the inside that matters and i think she need to understand that x
Maybe it would be better from a boy, so tell her that she is wonderful, beautiful, smart, spectacular, special, strong, amazing, awesome, creative, generous, gorgeous, incredible, kind, loving, and really cool. I hope she smiles.
jesus christ why are you two the funniest pair together
They are the best duo
Amie T yeah why
raisingbabyj ghrhrtgerf vendre gargote brgffgcdtgggggggdth. LoL
lilly rose zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Amie T and then theres alfie
She's goes " oh yeah I am a sister " like she forgot😂😭❤️
Alfie is really good at giving advice :)
Agreed😁
Ikrrr😍😍😍❤️
He really is! I could listen to him for hours!!
Mark Ferris I love you soooooooooo much you video was sooo inspiring and I always sing and laugh with you and you and Zoe have great voices
yep
Alfie is gonna be such a good dad!
Reading this 4 years later and smiling because they have now announced Zoe is pregnant
@@LaurenDonald SAMEEEEE
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now she’s pregnant with baby number 2 🥹
Not saying Zoe and mark are bad at giving advice because they are good at giving it but as soon as Alfie came in he helped so much
Who else stayed till the end waiting for the bloopers? 😂💗
Gahahah i geniunely cry laughed throughout it all 😂😂😂 "mine's like this wahhh"
me
who didnt
the whole fucking video was one big blooper 😂😂😂
This is mine 😭😭😂😂
Watching the bloopers at the end was my ab workout for the day haha
Alfie is so knowlageable!
😂😂😂
Love ya
Mine too lol and the beginning of the video as well
Lysm Mark, who agrees that Mark and Zalfie collabs are the BEST?! ❤️❤️❤️
You deserve a reply haha💗
It's so incredibly nice to go through the comments and see people explaining their problems and then see others helping them out. It just reminds me that I'm not alone and that there are people (even strangers) that do care and are willing to help out with your issues. I have been diagnosed with mild depression and a lot of the time I feel so alone and worthless but going through the comments makes me realise that I'm not alone.
BeautybyLiv26 ikr it's lovely and comforting :)
whatever happens with your depression, you'll get through it 😊
"Name a more iconic duo than Kendall and Kylie" easy- mark and zoe😂💕💕💕💕
I never talk about my feelings to anyone cuz even when I try to no one gives a shit so I just stick with being on my own when it comes to my feelings...and maybe everything else as well lol...
Also the bloopers at the end made me laugh so much.Thanks for that! love you three
Relate so much.
Talking about how you feel is SO important. If you honestly think people don't care, then you aren't hanging out with the right people and they don't deserve to have you in their life.
You're not alone
Same. I feel like everyone will think I over reacting or doing it for attention, so I just keep my felling a to myself. And I'm so hormonal which makes it worse, so I'll just cry randomly like if I've had a bad day and my parents will ask what's wrong and I just make something up or say I don't feel well😞 don't worry. We'll all get through this❤️
Tara Griffith Jen Smith Morgan Maclellan at least we know now that we're not alone.We will be alright though
If you are reading this you are beautiful and deserve to be happy and loved💕
Yes 😂😂
you too
Thanks! You too😊
Thanks!! YOU TOO❤️❤️❤️
What a nice thing to say 😌☺️
The end of this video destroyed me!!! 'This is mine' hahaha so funny! xxx
omg the bloopers at the end.. i'm crying
I had the exact same problem as you I told one of my friends and she told one of my teachers , eventually my teacher brought my mum into school and explained everything to her and kind of softened the blow , but my mum took me to the doctor and as much as I hate talking about my feeling and problems it really helped. So I hope you know you're ur not alone.
Lucy Barber I feel so alone
WARNING WARNING ⚠️
DO NOT DRINK WHILE WATCHING ZOE AND MARK U WILL CHOKE
Video Potato I have a friendship like Zoe and Mark so I know how to feels! Like we have soooo many inside jokes, we laugh at the littlest thing that aren't even funny to most people, we get along really well like it's honestly the best feeling ever to have a friendship like them 💕
But im eating ice what shall I do
@@caitlynbrown2176 it’s been 11 months are you ok
That awkward moment when you wanted advice but you were too shy to ask...🙋🏽😅😳
on what topic? we can all help each other out here. ☺️
Ferris Family is here...What's up my friend? 💙
You guys are so cute
You can talk with us, we are here to help! :)
What topic we are all here for you
I've been so excited to watch this! I love you three!
Same 👍
Iaark
Oh my goodness, I've missed bloopers!
Same!!
Hehehe I didnt
Alfie actually does give really good advice.
Oh my gosh mark can you do a truth or dare with Zoe and Alfie?! Lysm
U guys are all so inspirational and realistic. I have anxiety and I sometimes feel like doing nothing and never leaving my house and it's hard because I am just 15. Some people do try to understand but it is hard and I get that but u and Zoe really show me that u can do something even if u are really scared. Alfie thank you for always sticking by Zoe because I know that there will be times where u want to do something and Zoe will be nervous and have panic attacks. U guys may never answer this or even see this comment but to little young me ur so amazing. I know that the media and people in general may be mean or hate on u but there are fans who love all of u. I hope one day to see u all in person and thank u properly.
"You're a big sister aren't you"
"Oh I am" 😂😂
When it says no views and you click on it and it has 7thousand views 😭
Sammmmmeee lol. But it had 1024 views when i clicked on it 😂😭
I think this is one of my favourite advice videos and this trio is so lovely.
Zoe and Mark in the bloopers are the silliest!!!!
This was so helpful and sweet. I also really love how open and casual Zoe was about seeing a therapist, I really appreciate that! :)
Alfie is really wise.
and he didn't even go to Uni haha
I can't stop laughing at the bloopers!
The advice was very useful too. Thank you so much! It was an all 'round great vid
Take the road less travelled dont follow the crowd
YES
OMG YOU ACTUALLY REPLIED, love you mark you make me laugh so much😘😂😂
Mark Ferris omg u replied to him/her please reply to my comment your the nicest, luckiest and funniest person ever
After watching this video I realized that there are a lot of people who are going through tough times like I am. I'm not fully secure about myself and I do feel like I am not good enough for others but I always try to stop these thoughts. I moved away from home for university and left my 2 best friends behind. It was probably the toughest thing I had to do because till today I feel like I won't find friends who I can be 100% myself around like I did with them. Everything here is different and I am still trying to adapt to the new place and to new people. For some reason watching this video made me burst into tears. I'm not entirely sure why that happened but I feel some kind of emptiness in me and I just need someone to talk to to take things off my shoulder. However, everything you guys said and all the advises made me feel so much better. Watching the three of you always brightens up my day. Thank you guys.
This helped me a lot seeing as I have had a recent friendship problem. It has shown me I can just forget about it now. Thanks so much Mark, Zoe and Alfie. Love you all XXXxxx
zoë and alfie will be amazing parents!!💕💕
You should really make more of these videos. This helped me so so much, and I love you even more now. Thank you xxx
I went through depression and i was sure I was alone in my situation, after 2 months I couldn't handle it any more so I mentioned it my friend and he said immediately that he was going through the same thing. we had both been in the same situations so we talked about it. he made me feel better and pretty much got me through it all, so did I for him. it was a year ago now and we are both In such a better place we were in a few years ago! he really wanted to tell his parents about it however I didnt, so me and him went to his dad's and mum's place and explained his situation. the reason why he didn't tell his parents was because he was scared that they would send him to therapy or wouldn't accept it. so after the talk with them the completely understood it. I still find it difficult talking to people about it because it is still a sensitive subject, but because I quietly mentioned it in a conversation I'm now a completely new happy person. the moral of my message is that you have to talk to someone!!! trust me, it's does help alot.
ThaT bEat DRoP ThO you should be so proud of yourself well done! keep being you 💜
GREAT video, guys. It is so refreshing to hear people talk about such important subjects like mental health.
Thank you so much for doing this :)
This video was really helpful to me. I've lost the majority of my childhood friends in less than 2 weeks to a new squad that I'm not a part of. I'm still cordial with most of them, but I realized that people just change. I haven't talked to my best friend at all because I'm just tired of her running back to me when her new friends can't do something for her. I kind of felt like I was isolating myself for awhile, then I started to make new, better friends. This video has helped me come to peace with the fact that people grow apart and thanks okay. Thanks guys 😄!
My mum has mental health and whenever she has a bad day(which is often😪) I always watch you and Zoe. I absolutely love you guys because whenever I watch you I'm crying with laughter and I love the vlogs ( my favourite is all the emotions). I know it's a long time after this video went up but I'm not one of those people that watch videos straight away but I'm still a massive fan😍😍😘😘😘💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Fleur Hounsell I relate sm to this comment
I get major FOMO but its always my own fault from my own fear of feeling anxious and uncomfortable so I just avoid ha
**avoid going out with my friends
Try not to avoid going out with friends, you'll miss so much fun memories! And don't blame yourself it's not your fault you get anxious and uncomfortable. I suffer the same, but after a couple times going out just started small with friends I grew out of my uncomfortable and anxious stage and felt so much better! Some days I'm really bad but I'm lucky the friends I surround myself with are friendly caring people and always help me and take me away from a situation if it gets bad. Ensure you have friends like that that will help you when you need it, give going out a try! If it works it works if not find some time where you and friends can do something a little down to earth :) xx
Just start hanging out with them every now and then for a little bit at a time, always know that if you do start feeling uncomfortable they'll understand if you want to leave.
Go out with friends trust me it makes a serious difference to even have people inviting you to things so embrace that
yes so me too...i reject hanging out with so many friends because i feel so anxious and uncomfortable somethings but then feel like they might be moving on and dont call me in other places and they always force me to say why i wont come with them and its really hard to make people understand that..
YAY I love advice videos! x
SAMEE
Please make this a thing, This video was so nice and I loved hearing all your perspectives of different problems out there!
Mark saying about having friends in the past who didn't give anything in return made my heart melt, he seems so lovely and anyone would be blessed to have him as a friend 💕
"This is mine" LMAO that ending...
The bloopers to this video have never failed to make me cry laugh.
Mark I fucking love your wheezy old man laugh
You're all so smart! It makes me so happy... Especially Alfie because he's still so young and you would expect him to be immature. :) love you guys x
this has helped me so much I've realised by watching this that having negative ppl around me isn't good.
Solid beginning 😂😂 I love these videos with you and Zoe they are always so funny
This is the most serious video Zoe and Mark have ever made! What?
THAT ENDING HAD ME LITERALLY CRY LAUGHING HAHA ILYSM
I would love if all 3 of you made this a series!!! I love hearing all of your different opinions because you each have your own insight to bring into these advice videos 😊😊 thank you guys for making my days 1000x better
This was honestly so inspirational, I love how down to earth you guys are! Always willing to help other people and just by answering a few questions, some people are going benefit from this video, love you always x
I think perfection is what you see your self as for example if you think you look good you do just like the song most girls by Haylee Stanfield it said " some days you feel so good in your own skin, but it's ok if you wanna change the body that you came in,coz you look greatest when you feel like a queen" and that just means your your own kind of beautiful 😊keep your head up people nobody's perfect x
I have never seen video with Zoe and mark quite serious
Does anyone else come back to this video just to watch the part where they sing their 'best' singing voices? hahaha 😂
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That was a generally nice video and knowing the amount of troubled teens that watch you, guys, I truly believe you helped a lot of them with your advice. Well done!
I love Zoe and Mark's videos because you can just tell they are always having so much fun together they are not just doing it for camera. It makes me feel so happy!
Zark/Markella videos are my absolute favorite they make me laugh so much lmaooooo
Omg the depression thing i can relate I feel sad and numb all the time and sometimes I get these really happy hyper moments and I want to go out and buy really expensive stuff. (I once bought and barbque ) hahaha and I've told my mum but she doesn't do anything she doesn't think I'm serious. Help😔
Umm. Maybe ask childline???
It sucks! You really need to sit down with her and tell her how serious you are! Tell her how it's affecting you!
I'd honestly say go to the doctor, my mum wasn't much help either because I feel like they think you're too young to have stuff like that, but it's very common, the best thing to do is honestly see a doctor or find people either online or in therapy groups who are going through the same thing, it makes it SO much easier when you can talk to someone whose experiencing the same thing! Xxx
Sit her down and really explain to her about how you feel. As Zoe said in this video parents care about how you feel and they always want what is best for you. So don't feel like you can't sit down and have a deep conversation because you can and you should. Until you really talk this through with her she's gonna always think you're not serious. Couple days ago I sat and told my mum, and it's taken a weight off my shoulders. She finally understands me and helps me when I need it badly. It will truly help you to talk to her or anyone else about this xx
I am really sad to hear that you are drepressed, I have been depressed over a year now and it sucks. If your mum doesn't believe you talk to somebody else, teacher, school counselor, friend or somebody that you feel comfortable to talk to. Try to find something that makes you happy whatever it is watching youtube, sports, reading, whatever. Stay postitive and thank about everything that you are thankful for. Suround yourself with positive things. Try to let your mum talk to a doctor so he can give you advice, maybe a therapist and some meds. Remember you are not alone and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Do not let depression define who you are. And everything happens for a reason and What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Sending all my love and i hope you will feel better soon. ❤️
I would love to see marks sister
She's in a couple of my videos :)
Omg markkk u replied I lovvvvve u :)))
MARK OMG I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!
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I really love Alfie's advice like, he's so wise!! He's very mature and thinks very like myself. Interesting video! Loved it!
Literally everything you guys talked about hit home for me! Especially the whole 'if you have three close friends and you're happy it's fine, you don't need 20 friends to have a good life' subject. I'm 22 and just now realizing that. I used to have a pretty big group of friends that made me feel really insecure and bad about my personality and looks and I ended up getting really depressed and down because of it... then I found a group of people who I really CLICKED with, unlike my other group of friends. At first, I was nervous because there are only 3 of them as compared to my previous group of friends which had 10+. But then I realized 3 people who make me more confident and happy is so so so much better than 10 who make me feel shitty! SO, if you're somehow reading this and you're not happy with your friend group, please know that it may take a little time, but you WILL find your niche. There are people out there that will make you feel at home when you're with them and it's the best feeling :) Don't settle for any less and don't let people make you feel inferior! Who you surround yourself with makes such a huge difference - if someone is making you feel crappy, say adios. You deserve people who are positive influences and make you feel wonderful !!!
YESSS IVE BEEN WAITING SO LONG😄😄😄😄😄 WOOHOO
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Over here 🙋🏼
Can't deal with Alfie always talking over Zoe
Well don't watch the video
I don't think she minds too much, they are a couple after all. I'm sure she talks over him sometimes as well. Try to ignore those parts perhaps? :)
Jess Fung I'm talking about in pretty much every video. It shouldn't be something she has to be accept
the anti-social question is literally me in a nutshell
Young Minds is a really great UK-based charity for young people going through depression. And note the term 'going through' because there is light at the end of the tunnel and that light is you. So never give up. Believe it or not but life is rooting for you.
The amount of 'this is mine' they did is mindblowing.
I'm so insecure about myself. I'm so far away from being confident and that makes me really shy too. People around me tell me I'm funny, I'm nice, I'm pretty, I'm beautiful and I'm kind but I can only feel like I'm not enough, like I'm not worth it.
Why wouldn't you be worth it ? You deserve happiness and love, and to be loved, like everybody else. Ask yourself what you would change about yourself to be "worth it". :)
I used to feel the same way!! But listen to your friends and those close to you, they know you and are able to see things about you that you can't seem to see just yet. The first step is leanring to love yourself because of course you're worth it!!
Well your not shy anymore because u were able to post that to loads of people
Ali blush blush hang out with a nice yet confident people that's what I did and my friend did and it worked out for us 😀 Hope this helps 👍
Ali blush blush same girl! I know I have a boys profile but it's not mine I am a girl lol. Zoe helps me out so much
The OUT takes at the end made me laugh so hard I couldn't swallow the nut in my mouth for like a minute
I find it hard to make friends when I'm on my own. I spent the whole of college on my own but in school I had tons of friends.
What helps me, is to remember that the worst that can happen when you speak to someone is that they arent interested in that possible friendship. They might be rude or they might not... but that response shows you who they are as a person. If they reject your friendship then 1. Thats their loss and 2. You know the position and move on to the next person! Eventually you will click with people you chat to (and the more you chat to the easier it gets). the others wouldnt have been worth your time! Everyone is different and this might not help you but I though I would share it just in case x
I totally agree with you Sami! It also helps me to think that most people are so concentrated at themselves that they don't even notice the flaws you might have and even if you go up to someone and start talking to them or ask them to hang out and they reject you it's very likely they will forget about all of it after a little while :-)
yess same here i had a tons of friends in school but in college i littreally talk to no one...i feel hard to approach people who already have their friend groups and i dont feel connected with any one of them at all
Sami has good advice so I just wanted to pop in and say that you aren't alone! My gf spent college without friends. She did have them but they came and went, her roommates were horrible to her so she moved and truly felt alone but that's when she ended up making friends naturally just by going to classes so things did get better. They'll get better for you too!
I'm going to the same thing, you're not alone 😭😭
Loved this video, your advices and all of you guys! It's nice to know there's people like you in the world! xxx
This video honestly helped me, someone had the same problem as me not wanting to go out with my friends and distancing myself from those that i called friends but then get upset and jealous that i was missing out, so i decided to change my friendship group but not completely stop speaking to them but to not be stuck with them. So i have these other friends that are really caring and understand me and listen to what i have to say and are constantly supporting me like i do them and i couldn't have wished for any better advice than the one given to me from the most aspiring and amazing people zoella and mark. Thank you so much for the advice it has really helped love you x
friendship goals i need a friend who i can laugh with at everything and dont care about being judged
I wish I knew about this. Can anyone give me advice? I'm in college and pretty much all of my friends drink and party and I don't, so I'm never invited to parties and always left out. Also they always talk about them afterwards and I can never join in I just have to sit and listen. But the thing is I find the stories so boring because I just don't like when people are drunk and think they're just stupid tbh. I don't understand it. I don't want to drink but I hate being left out.
Why don't you make some new friends? Perhaps to someone who's more like you
I'm so sorry. I don't drink either. Maybe new friends would help. You're an awesome girl, so i'm sure you have tons of people on a waiting list to be your friend.
don't pressure yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with, if these friends don't invite you places then they aren't worth your time, i mean like obviously still stay friends with them if they make you feel genuinely happy but your happiness is the important thing x
Omg I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes my friends got to parties and because I'm not really a drinker (or more popular I suppose) I never get invited to parties. Some stories are quite funny but when they always talk about them I have a feeling of fomo and it makes me feel a bit like I don't fit in, but I do love those friends so I wouldn't end a friendship because of it. It is hard. I understand how you feel. We'll be okay, I'm sure. Hope you're alright. We can do this. Stay strong😊😁xxx
I was in the exact same boat as you this time last year. I spent the majority of the year not being invited to things, feeling left out and just feeling down because of it. I spoke to one of my friends about it and she said that i was never invited because they all thought that i didn't want to go or be included because i hated it so much, and i completely understood that and then i explained how left out i felt etc, so i came to a realisation that if i want to remain friends with them, friendship is a two way thing. I started going to the pre-drinks before parties so that i'm involved without the party part, if it was a house party i'd go for the first hour or so before people got messy drunk, id just involve myself a small bit so that i didn't feel so left out and knew all the people in the stories and understood them a bit more, plus, making an effort made my friends want to make an effort right back, and they'd often go out of their way to do things i enjoyed in return. At the start, its very uncomfortable, but it is so worth putting yourself out there a small bit without throwing yourself into Unmanageable. I also joined a bunch of college societies/clubs to meet new people with similar interests so that i could split my time between friends who enjoy what i enjoy doing and friends i grew up with and enjoy the company of but not what they enjoy doing. I think the whole thing is a maturity thing. You and I have past the party stage because i no longer see the point in it, i feel there are much more productive and fun ways to spend and remember my night whereas my friends haven't realised this yet, and that's okay. I don't think it's worth completely cutting your friends off for because when they mature to your level, the friends you grew up with will mean the most.
i wish you three were my actual friends, you are the best people ever and i love your advice (and everything else about you 😂) Thanks for always making me feel accepted for who I am 💗
Mark you and Zoe are the pure example of Friendship Goals.
had a rough start this morning, but after this video and all of its positivity. I am set for the day with a much better mood!!!!
I love this!! Made me feel so reassured and happy
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same
not even 30 seconds in and I'm already cry laughing! love you guys😂😂
This video is so helpful and it's great to know everyone needs similar advice at times. Also I love how Mark Zoe and Alfie are able to make completely hysterical videos and serious advice videos that are both entertaining.
thank you so much. I didn't know I needed this video until I watched it. I do feel like something finally clicked about never having a perfect body because it doesn't exist and it doesn't matter. You're fine the way you are. So thank you so so so so so much Mark, Alfie, and Zoe. ❤
I have 2 siblings and never go to them for advice 😂😂 I always go to my cousins
But I probably should but they hate me so😂😂
Omg that's so me
Jess Sampson i don't go to anyone!
I needed a funny video!!
With these too
Aw thanks Mark,Zoe and Alfie! The way you all talked about it helped me build up my courage! Thank you all so so much! I love you all! Xx😍😊👍💖
this honestly made me so happy and there were points where I teared up because you guys are so nice and sweet and I see everything just the way you do.
The out takes literally make me laugh out loud, I want to be in this friendship, I would fit right in! X
Please I need some advice, I've always struggled with expressing my ideas and my feelings. I just don't know why it's so hard for me, I think it's because I'm an introvert and a really shy person but I am not sure. Even if I want to post a photo on instagram (I know it sound a little bit stupid) I get nervous and I don't post it because I feel like someone is going to judge what I post. I always get this feeling that I'm being judged even when I am walking I think that people is staring at me. Oh God I really don't know what to do 😪. Any introverts out there relate to this?
i think everyone has a part of them that feels a little bit like this. I've found a way that really helps, even if these people are judging you you have to remember that they are people just like you. I'm sure you've thought something like oooh funky shoes that girl has on- but your immediate reaction after this isn't what a wierdo. mine isn't anyway, mine would just be funny how we all have different tastes, if that makes sense? people are just people, so don't stress about what others think because evidently it really doesn't matter. Post what you want on instagram and adore it because you love it, because it makes you YOU and that is amazing. the fact that you like and someone else else might not isn't a bad thing that's life! people will judge, that's life too but it doesn't make you anyless amazing then you already are. Hope that helps X
Thank you so much, I aprecciate your advice and for taking the time to help a stranger! 💕
You've expressed yourself really well on here so maybe when you want to express yourself write things down! I get the same thing before posting photos to the world but at the end of the day no one is perfect and you should believe in your own beauty and embrace it because you're only ever given one body so love it. With the staring thing I think of it like this when you walk around do you judge other people and think in your mind I don't liker her outfit or I don't like his hair or he looks weird? probably not because you'll be thinking that other people are looking at you but there probably thinking the same as you and are more concerned about them also being judged than judging you. Stay positive :)
I'm a massive introvert and struggle with this too, but what you've got to think is as long as what you're doing isn't offensive or harmful in any way post/ do what you like because there will 100% be people thinking the exact same thing as you! Don't hide away. Exhaust you think you might be wrong, life's about risks, you'll never learn to be happy with who you are without pushing yourself, biting the bullet and just doing what you think is right, people will love you for it xx
same, all you need to do is not care what the random people think of you and just be you, the you that your parents made. BE YOURSELF 😊
hope it helped.❤
Hi mark please can u do another one of these advice videos as this really helped me so much and showed me so much. Thank you xxxx
I'm 18 too and what Zoe said about going out is literally my life, it's not like I don't want to go I would love to go but my anxiety controls me so much I feel like I would ruin it for everyone else I'm with bc I'd want to leave 😂
i'm the same i had my freshers this week and i went with a group of friends but had one friend who agreed to leave with me if it was too much so maybe you should do the same? x
Stay strong and always talk about it
i found this video so helpful, and i really feel like you actually put care and thought in these answers. please make more videos like this, they´re great!
"I think I'm haunted. Like ,I think I'm legit haunted. Do you know what I mean?" Marks laugh as in, erm no.
Mark you should do the song lyric prank on Zoe basically telling her you love her it would be a really good video,love you❤️
You guys give the best advice!
This video actually helped me so much omg
it was really nice to see you guys being serious together for some reason. it shows how good friends you are :)
in response to your viewer who has depression and is worried about telling their family about it. I'd like to add that your family may not understand it or give you the response you want, it can also trigger your depression more, not to say you shouldn't say something (or write a letter to tell them) but understanding that another persons response may be different then we imagine they will. I say this from someone who has depression as a young person. No one knew, they just assumed it was normal teenage hormones. I felt terrible about myself and the one thing that helped turn those thoughts about me around was starting an internal dialog with myself, especially when I'm having very negative thoughts. I started replacing each thought with positive ones. It's hard but necessary to begin feeling better and be more stable emotionally. Even if you don't believe it, which you probably wont, but say those things you want to feel and stop the internal negative dialog as soon as you realize you're doing it. It is what helped me. It didnt fix things but it made me stop hating myself as much and feeling better to tackle it more. I also think going to a therapist is key to working on learning other tools to manage depression. all the best to you and those who suffer with depression.
I wish to see a Collab with ZOE, JOE & Mark together singing christmas songs !! ...IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR ??????? :(
Can someone please give me advise on this, My friend is really insecure about her face when she wears no makeup, but I think she's really beautiful, and when she says to me "aww I look so ugly :(" I get really sad for her. I just feel like she needs to be happy about who she is :|
I think you should reassure her and find small ways to boost her confidence, but in the end of the day, only she can help herself feel comfortable in her own skin :)
I'm in the same situation😕 X
I think that you should tell her that alot but not too much like not omg dont wear foundation it looks ugly, but just like other people have said you cant change what she thinks at the end of the day you should not like someone for the out side its the inside that matters and i think she need to understand that x
Maybe it would be better from a boy, so tell her that she is wonderful, beautiful, smart, spectacular, special, strong, amazing, awesome, creative, generous, gorgeous, incredible, kind, loving, and really cool. I hope she smiles.
No is not me,it's my friend who would be insecure.She truly is beautiful.Its not that bad anymore tho rich is good☺️x
I love the 3 of them together so much
This is honestly one of the realist videos I've seen in a long time, and I love it! x
it is literally the BEST advice vid ever made! everything you say is just so helpful. loved it so much