"Most men never grow out of adolescence." Guy in shades Ladies.... stay single as long as possible. Even if that means for the rest of your life. Golden girl it out if need be. Stop trying to force anything. You are then advocating for your own suffering.
Isn't that the guy who said that being vulnerable is an unnatural state? Bc it's not. It's the most natural thing in the world to be vulnerable at times. So, I'm not sure what he thinks it means to be vulnerable.
Here is my dilemma. Married someone who is emotionally immature. Had a son- who I raised to be emotionally mature. Said ex calls his son "soft" and then son feels horrible (because they are still learning, even at 18 and up) and now I have to help along, to a point. Then I get called all kinds of names and that I'm raising a Mama's boy. I can't win. :(
Check out Mel Robbins podcast and her let them theory. Changed my life Ok your son is legally an adult, he has to learn about life on his own now. He can get a mentor and therapist to help him. You have done enough, I sympathize with u
I think you need to find confidence in yourself, because who cares what his nut job father thinks?! He is not the all mighty knower of everything, stop putting his father on a pedestal, f him!
@@MarchingFt I disagree. Mel Robbin’s theory doesn’t apply here. She’s not trying to rescue her son from anything or uphold him. Mel Robbins was talking about letting go of needy codependent people that suck the life out of you that was her husband in this scenario and she let him go already. She still would have to deal with this even if her son visited once a year. This is not something that you can fully eliminate or let go of unless you go completely no contact.
After a while, I realized that he was incapable of having deep, serious conversations. Just not introspective and learning from mistakes was almost non-existent. It was like being with a perpetual 13 year old.
I have met more emotionally mature men at work then I ever dated and it feels so weird to be around them. But I know it’s because I’m use to the opposite.
@Cafeallday222 they aren't perfect. Really bad hygiene type. Needs a lot of care... but they will pay for things and be there for you. Nobody is perfect, really. We are all a bit messed up looking for perfect, and that can be ironic.
@@passivestatue Girl… you sound ridiculous. None of that means they are good men lol. They’ll switch up on you quick. Especially if they can’t even take care of themselves. Trusting a man is dangerous no matter how good he seems to be to YOU…
@kikialeaki1850 honestly can't complain lol told this guy I was too mentally ill to date and he cashapp $400 for therapy. So we dated and he asked me to move in and I was NOT feeling the condition of that house. It was filthy and that was a red flag and I don't have $400 for that cleaning fee. Lol.
"Most men never grow out of adolescence." Guy in shades
Ladies.... stay single as long as possible. Even if that means for the rest of your life. Golden girl it out if need be. Stop trying to force anything. You are then advocating for your own suffering.
That's my plan! Single for LIFE.
Isn't that the guy who said that being vulnerable is an unnatural state?
Bc it's not. It's the most natural thing in the world to be vulnerable at times.
So, I'm not sure what he thinks it means to be vulnerable.
Here is my dilemma. Married someone who is emotionally immature. Had a son- who I raised to be emotionally mature. Said ex calls his son "soft" and then son feels horrible (because they are still learning, even at 18 and up) and now I have to help along, to a point. Then I get called all kinds of names and that I'm raising a Mama's boy. I can't win. :(
Keep doing your thing, momma. Your son knows who is right.
Check out Mel Robbins podcast and her let them theory. Changed my life
Ok your son is legally an adult, he has to learn about life on his own now. He can get a mentor and therapist to help him. You have done enough, I sympathize with u
Go no contact with people verbally abusing your son oml
I think you need to find confidence in yourself, because who cares what his nut job father thinks?! He is not the all mighty knower of everything, stop putting his father on a pedestal, f him!
@@MarchingFt I disagree. Mel Robbin’s theory doesn’t apply here. She’s not trying to rescue her son from anything or uphold him. Mel Robbins was talking about letting go of needy codependent people that suck the life out of you that was her husband in this scenario and she let him go already. She still would have to deal with this even if her son visited once a year. This is not something that you can fully eliminate or let go of unless you go completely no contact.
After a while, I realized that he was incapable of having deep, serious conversations. Just not introspective and learning from mistakes was almost non-existent. It was like being with a perpetual 13 year old.
There is ALOT of very good information here.. Thanks ❤
I have met more emotionally mature men at work then I ever dated and it feels so weird to be around them. But I know it’s because I’m use to the opposite.
Both, my crushes and men at work emotionally immature.
All the men i meet are absolute gems and always ready to help me and take care of me.
You sound secure. I attract narcissists like the plague.
@Cafeallday222 they aren't perfect. Really bad hygiene type. Needs a lot of care... but they will pay for things and be there for you. Nobody is perfect, really. We are all a bit messed up looking for perfect, and that can be ironic.
@@passivestatue Girl… you sound ridiculous. None of that means they are good men lol. They’ll switch up on you quick. Especially if they can’t even take care of themselves. Trusting a man is dangerous no matter how good he seems to be to YOU…
@@passivestatue that trade off reveal was unexpected😂
@kikialeaki1850 honestly can't complain lol told this guy I was too mentally ill to date and he cashapp $400 for therapy.
So we dated and he asked me to move in and I was NOT feeling the condition of that house. It was filthy and that was a red flag and I don't have $400 for that cleaning fee. Lol.
Describing the cluster b, borderline, or narcissist.
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