When to Cut Ties With Toxic Family Members | C.S Lewis 2025

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  • @julietphillips1991
    @julietphillips1991 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    You wish them well and you cut ties ... it's what you do to either gain or maintain peace in your life.

  • @TMoniq
    @TMoniq 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    11 yrs ago I moved out and this coming july will make it 6 yrs of complete "No Contact" from my family. I grew tired of being mistreated and neglected from my own family and so called friends.
    I cried so bad because I knew that I was going to be all alone then I realized,, I've already been alone. Always felt alone so actually being alone is better especially without that type of energy lurking around.
    It was lonely at first but as time went in I quickly got accustomed to being alone not lonely. I'm at peace and once you get a taste of it ain't no going back. The sense of freedom and to simply be is priceless.
    Hugs to you all struggling but it's possible to leave those family members behind. There's nothing worse than being surrounded by people who say they "Love You" yet you feel alone in a room full of them.

    • @TMoniq
      @TMoniq 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      The unknown was definitely scary but I had no other choice and what's even scarier is being stuck with them. 😂😂 So I took my chances and I'm better for it now.

    • @greenwoodreid3796
      @greenwoodreid3796 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I have done the same many years ago. It was a weight lifted off of my shoulders & im glad i did it. I was totally alone too, but life gets better with God leading the way.

    • @TMoniq
      @TMoniq 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@greenwoodreid3796 Yes, exactly in that order. I'm glad we had the courage and heart to do so because it sure wasn't easy. We are badass for that alone! 😊😁

    • @armonialumina
      @armonialumina 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😢

    • @RC093
      @RC093 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Sometimes it's best to just walk away, being around narcissists is exhausting and I would rather not have them in my life.

  • @ge8066
    @ge8066 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    My mentor once said, forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation. And oh has that been true in my life.

    • @gailwagner4316
      @gailwagner4316 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@ge8066 absolutely
      You can forgive someone but it doesn't mean you have to camp out with them. Draw firm boundary lines and stick to them!!

  • @holyspirit12
    @holyspirit12 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    To you - who is watching this video: I send my prayers that you find peace in your soul, free from troubles, enjoy a prosperous life, good health, and be under God's protection every day.

  • @mary333j
    @mary333j 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +43

    Leaving toxic people, you end up all alone sometimes 🔥

    • @christiande-wet
      @christiande-wet 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Not alone with gods will for us😭

    • @christiande-wet
      @christiande-wet 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      And with godalmighty my daddy n Jesus never alone

    • @deanpd3402
      @deanpd3402 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      And that's ok. What a friend we have in Jesus.

    • @ianalls4105
      @ianalls4105 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      And in PEACE.

    • @mooncat4965
      @mooncat4965 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      Ready for new people

  • @kengaroo5170
    @kengaroo5170 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    When we are around toxic people we become toxic as well. They tempt us to be resentful and we change. It's like a zombie movie.
    Evil is everywhere and in all of us.
    We have to weed it out with prayer and thinking about others.

    • @Tee-p5x
      @Tee-p5x 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @kengaroo5170 no WE don't become like them, You become like the evil that you dwell around.

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Excellent point. Never thought about the zombie moive analogy but it is very effective. Thank you so much.

  • @Tee-p5x
    @Tee-p5x 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    Thank you, Father, for reassuring my decisions to leave it behind and not look back.

  • @Ladyxce
    @Ladyxce 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Love the spiritual boundaries 😊

  • @discerningtruth6848
    @discerningtruth6848 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    " A man's enemies will be of will be members of his own household. Matthew 10 36 🙏 😢😮

  • @tomzhere1369
    @tomzhere1369 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I'm in a toxic marriage. But I am trusting Jesus to someday fix it. Amen

  • @Debbie-e3g
    @Debbie-e3g 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Finally! A fair and honest message about Jacob! I've been so weary of messages bad mouthing Jacob when so much was against him! His mother did all of this to him. She started the ball rolling against him. I see God favouring and blessing Jacob. So what's the matter with those in our pulpits making Jacob out to be the bad guy? No wonder there are so many doormats and codependent people in our churches! No wonder power is abused! I'm tired of people playing the devils advocate! Thank you for this message! 👍

  • @BibleHolyTales-ll1zd
    @BibleHolyTales-ll1zd 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I never realized how much courage it takes to walk away from toxic relationships until I read Jacob’s story. It’s inspiring to see how trust in God’s guidance can lead to freedom and blessings. This has challenged me to evaluate my own relationships. Is leaving toxic family members a lack of faith, or is it an act of obedience to God?

    • @gailwagner4316
      @gailwagner4316 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@BibleHolyTales-ll1zd it can be a very strong tie to break

    • @whitehotacceptance
      @whitehotacceptance 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This is exactly my question. How do I discern whether I am not trying hard enough, or if I am lingering too long? 🤦‍♀️

    • @gailwagner4316
      @gailwagner4316 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @whitehotacceptance and everyone's time line is different because everyone's relationship is not the same. It's very individual and unique. For me it took years to understand and believe that I didn't have to allow myself to get beat up. I committed to boundary lines now for a few years and the freedom is incredible. Only God can give grace for this situation. Plus grace to forgive the damage done for so many years. It's a personal journey with you and Jesus.

    • @whitehotacceptance
      @whitehotacceptance 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@gailwagner4316 awareness of God is grace itself 🕊️ my situation is quite subtle - this member does good, speaks well to me, but is poisoned with anger, my mood goes down as soon as I’m with him and his wife, he slanders everyone and everything, he mocks everyone. He even screamed at me so loud, cackling in a mocking way at my voice, I was physically trembling with the adrenaline. But then my mind thinks ‘I should have been gentler so as to not provoke’, but even with his wife he does the same. I don’t know what to do 😞

    • @gailwagner4316
      @gailwagner4316 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@whitehotacceptance so u must space your time with them.....I understand the oppression can do a number on you. I had to do that with my sister who I was close to at one point. She has narcissist tendency and can be quite manipulative. I only check in with her now once a week plus she moved so it's just texting. But I realized I can't share personal information with her as it is used against me. It's sad but it had to be done this way. I think we feel an obligation if it's blood related family members but Jesus said who is your brother? Sister? Etc. When you think about it you will discover to lead a healthy relationship you will need Godly influences in your life. The people you describe will pull u down into the Dungeons with them
      they're a liability not an asset in your life. Let the truth be revealed

  • @ronneymorrison2593
    @ronneymorrison2593 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I rather be alone than to be in bad company. Amen in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth in him I trust

  • @Oneof74million
    @Oneof74million 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    We have Jesus Christ , He will never leave us. ❤

  • @Blackthorne-y7q
    @Blackthorne-y7q 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Great video. Hits close to home.

  • @estefaniadauag4315
    @estefaniadauag4315 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Amen

  • @leehall2757
    @leehall2757 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    🎉 they have to go!! GOD LOVES ME MORE THAN I HAVE EVER HAD🎉

  • @CSLewisJubilee
    @CSLewisJubilee 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thank you. Amen

  • @monprenom3563
    @monprenom3563 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you for this video message..I am empowered and enlightened!God bless C.S. Lewis!🙏

    • @C.S.LewisLegends
      @C.S.LewisLegends  15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glory to God dear friend.. 🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌 continue your walk with God🙏🙏🙏 Blessings be upon you🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌

  • @mayangoddess9949
    @mayangoddess9949 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I find it extremely suspicious whenever certain family members will NOT allow each other to move far away into another country...to pursue their very own private and personal lifestyle, or to transact businesses abroad. Instead, they create a BIG ruckus... demanding to FOLLOW... you around...across the globe. As if they need to monitor your every move...simply to REPORT back to others about your everyday activities and your whereabouts. Hence, treating you like a CHILD who is simply NOT capable of governing themselves.

  • @James-wy1qb
    @James-wy1qb 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I've gave and give everyone but not my lord and I'm ashamed of myself please peaceful people 🙏 pray for me

  • @heidilovesliberty8088
    @heidilovesliberty8088 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    beware those who manipulate. Techniques: FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) & FUD (fear, uncertainty, doubt)

  • @saharnoble2928
    @saharnoble2928 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Jacob deceived his father too by steeling blessing from his own brother, he cultivated his fruit from his uncle.

  • @nimblehorse
    @nimblehorse 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    "The interval will be no longer than that between Abraham and Abraham. He was the grandfather of both Jacob and Esau, and when they were born, Jacob was holding Esau's heel. Esau represents the end of this age, and Jacob represents the beginning of the new age. So, if Jacob's hand is the beginning and Esau's heel is the end, do not try to find a space in between."
    ~ 2 Esdras 9

    • @nimblehorse
      @nimblehorse 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      “… I will lay My vengeance on Edom by the hand of My people Israel, and I will act in Edom in keeping with My anger, and in keeping My fury, and they will know My vengeance.“ ~ Ezekiel 25.12-14
      “Edom is in modern Jewry.” -The Jewish Encyclopedia, 1925 edition, Vol.5, p.41
      Genesis 36 : 8 ​​ Thus dwelt Esau in mount Seir: Esau is Edom. ​​

  • @CSLewisJubilee
    @CSLewisJubilee 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This message made me deeply reflect on the cost of staying in relationships that drain us emotionally and spiritually. Jacob’s story is a powerful reminder that setting boundaries is not selfish-it’s necessary for fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives.Do you think we owe unconditional loyalty to family, even at the expense of our well-being?

  • @UnaMansfeld
    @UnaMansfeld 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    What if your parents are the toxic ones?

  • @DesireeIsaacs-g6y
    @DesireeIsaacs-g6y 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes I have toxic family 😩

  • @teresabrewer6259
    @teresabrewer6259 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    YOUR SHOW IS SUCH A BLESSING,,, THANK YOU..

  • @DreIngram-g8k
    @DreIngram-g8k 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I ain't around nobody thus a demon or sombody that a friend doin thus mess or baby mother god expose who it is

  • @RosalindR.Bailey-Odeyale
    @RosalindR.Bailey-Odeyale 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Amen!

  • @TommyZeus-i8n
    @TommyZeus-i8n 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If so-called friends and or family members are sabotaging your successes and journey to being who and what you want to be in life - distance yourself and/or remove yourself from them. Don't live up to anyone's expectations but your own - because you have to live with it your entire life.

  • @ladyindaroom
    @ladyindaroom 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Jacob’s mother was the first toxic person in his life.
    He tricked his own brother out of his birthright because of a plan his mother put together.

    • @girlnextdoor2836
      @girlnextdoor2836 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Exactly..Sometimes a parent can make a child do something terrible to their siblings only because they are the favorite child 😢

  • @Sky-Man777
    @Sky-Man777 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have heavenly father and mother earth. The universe is my family.

  • @katydid1329
    @katydid1329 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen.

  • @elisabettagarcia2620
    @elisabettagarcia2620 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen 🤍

  • @Leonchuckmoutsoulas
    @Leonchuckmoutsoulas 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Did all Laban’s aquirements bring him happiness?

  • @الهامغ
    @الهامغ 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    sialuttk bbaluluh 💔alujluyal alujbbar an tnaqandhana qanbbl an namunwat munn shidit alujwae antunkhyak ani dunkhlut elua alluluh tm eluyak anay. fay wajuhk anay akhtk anay atrajak atwasil aluyak anaqandhana luwajuh aluluuh. yashiuhd aluluuh yaunkhy an munn alussbah huta aluan yahuram eluyanaa alakil ghayr alma' ( (..,..,.,.,.,..,.,..,.,.,.,.,.,...,...,.,.,.,...,. ,.,.,.,..,..,.,.,.,..,.,.,...,.,.,.,.,.,..,.,.,. ,forgive me. I honor you because you are a man. We are women. You cannot go out or work like you, my brother. Where is the brotherhood of faith? In your hearts? We are women. Brothers. No mercy, no compassion, no humanity. Telling the patient the good news is the greatest hope while waiting for what we want. ''' ... My mom ordered us food from the restaurant, and today my mom was crying. She said, "Why are you crying, mom?" I said, "My daughter, I am asking God to comfort me in death." She said, "Why, mom, are you praying against us?" She said, "My daughter, today the restaurant friend is the best of people. I ask God, my daughter, may God unite me with him. Death alone is better than any other insect. Who is this idiot and this despicable person?" Believe it, believe it, I am saying this, and this diminishes my value and respect, but brother, I swear to God that I did not say this. Kiss your shoe. I was so hungry that my conscience no longer allowed me to leave her and ask us for food. I kiss your shoe, my brother, and I ask you by God Almighty and in the book of God, my brother. Kiss your shoe, my brother. We have nothing to do with this, my brother. Even if it was a thousand Yemeni riyals, we could buy a kilo of minutes. 𝟬𝟬𝟵𝟲𝟳𝟳𝟴𝟯𝟳𝟯𝟭𝟭𝟲𝟬. May God have mercy on him, and may He who is in heaven have mercy on you. My brother, this is my number. Whoever can help us, message me on WhatsApp. We will send it to you. The full name will be transferred to us as much as he can. May God reward you. God knows that the owner of the house puts us out in the rain because of... Please see my case for your sake. I ask you by God, the Ever-Living, the Self-Sustaining, to help me. God is the Greatest. Even at night we cannot sleep from fear. We have no mattresses or blankets to warm us from the intense heat. The cold has covered everything with rain, and we have no one but God. So, my brothers, kiss your shoes. Don't let me feel disappointed. Help us as much as you can. So, would you accept us asking you to give us what we can? We live in this place? We are girls and we have no one. Our father died in a car accident. Consider us your daughters and come forward and help me as much as you can and may Allah reward you =>[[}>] ^][°] €] €] €] €...' ',,,,,, ,,;-'-"!;'(')"\|\(/()\|¶€(/)'|\€\>|\≧≫;;/:; -/;;!;? ;"????✓]}>>]}]}]\>]}>×}✓\...... ............
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  • @ReComy-h8f
    @ReComy-h8f 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Still pretty newborn although I have read the Old Testament once, the New Testament twice, Genesis twice, and I'm currently rereading the Old Testament from the beginning. What another commenter said about Jacob being a scammer is absolutely true. I'm still trying to work out the message of Jacob. It doesn't matter what sort of scams Jacob pulled off before he ended up at his uncle's getting a little taste of his own medicine, I know my life has been far less holy than Jacob's before I was born again. God chooses whom He wants to choose to do His work. You don't have to be perfect in fact no human has ever been perfect except one and that human is God namely Jesus Christ. I think that might have been the message, but let's not pretend Jacob was some saint, he was definitely a scammer from the moment he was born. I have yet to hear a single pastor adequately explain it I think they can't because the reality is Jacob was never meant to be holy he was simply chosen by God. That is God's prerogative, just like I feel I have finally turned over a new leaf after 50 years on the wrong side, and I'm now fully on board Camp Jesus. I can actually take solace in Jacob's imperfections but let's not pretend he didn't have them.

  • @ladyindaroom
    @ladyindaroom 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Abraham should have never taken Lot with him. Lot was perverse

  • @greenwoodreid3796
    @greenwoodreid3796 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Im not enjoying these videos as much, too many ads are destroying the flow of the message.

  • @DreIngram-g8k
    @DreIngram-g8k 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Who this person god

  • @sunshinemoon4189
    @sunshinemoon4189 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I walked away and blocked my own mother, she's been abusive physically, verbally, emotionally since I was a little girl, she allowed SA since I was 5 yrs old. She cheated on my dad, remarried and allowed her new lover to Sexually molest my 1 yr old baby. After all she had done to us, I still financially supported her for years, when I warned her man to leave my mom's house, she angrily sent me a nasty message defending him. I blocked her and I cannot will not look back. I could have said so many things she needs to hear, but I opted to block instead. I'm done with her evilness

    • @jammer88jijoe
      @jammer88jijoe 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I am sorry to hear this, I pray and wish you well. Decision to cut out a parent is anything but easy.

    • @sunshinemoon4189
      @sunshinemoon4189 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @jammer88jijoe thank you so much, I gave her so many chances to recognize her wrong doing but, she manipulated me and my daughter who's now an adult and married, the one my own mother allowed to be sexually molested by her lover. She uses sickness to get tons of money from us for years. I don't feel like I'm a bad daughter, but I'm also dealing with the PTSD, social anxiety and depression she caused not only to me but my daughter. I can't talk to her anymore, I'm done

    • @sunshinemoon4189
      @sunshinemoon4189 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @jammer88jijoe ❤️

    • @Tee-p5x
      @Tee-p5x 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @sunshinemoon4189 good choice, even though it was someone close that's who the devil tried to use the most so we don't ghost them, but I had to do the same. The ones I loved the most were trying to hurt me the worst 💔 😪 keep walking with God ahead of every step 🚶‍♀️ 🙏🏿

    • @sunshinemoon4189
      @sunshinemoon4189 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @Tee-p5x thank you for your comforting words, and I'm sorry you went through evil things as well. God bless you and give you the strength to go on. I'm sure you breath peace now

  • @Leonchuckmoutsoulas
    @Leonchuckmoutsoulas 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    We all live in the unknown, whether we know it or it or not. God made Labon. Talk about disappointing.

  • @Heaven-717
    @Heaven-717 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Jacob was a scammer himself so...

    • @nimblehorse
      @nimblehorse 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      not so...
      Jacobs mother took full responsibility for the Trick(Genesis 27:13)
      and then Esau despised his Birth right and married two Hittite women, against his parents wishes , & so he sold his birth right to Jacob fair & square, Esau was a dead man walking after he assassinated Nimrod.
      so...

    • @Heaven-717
      @Heaven-717 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @nimblehorse SO why was he named Jacob which means "deceiver"?

  • @greywolf850
    @greywolf850 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    FYI Jacob was 90ish so lol your pictures in the video are absurd

  • @andreafuller2198
    @andreafuller2198 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen

  • @beverlyodom-jackson2329
    @beverlyodom-jackson2329 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen