i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
Imagine in 20 years time this guy is the one up on stage giving the seminar, passing on his transformation story to the next generation. He’d even have this footage of the ‘old him’ to show them. That would be something.
I used to be just like that guy....and now I'm swimming. The good night's are getting more frequent. Took me over 10 years mind but had no other option haha
THIS is what it's all about! So many of us have been socially conditioned to HIDE, HIDE, HIDE and stay in the safe zone. I've been that kid. All in high school and years after I was that kid. I was in the center watching everyone else around me live life and truly not care while I put so much effort into pretending I don't care. I'm so glad this video is on here.
That’s basically a copy of me up there. I have never seen so much compassion and encouragement for super shy guys like me outside of this channel. That isn’t the occasional “wheelchair” fake niceness. It feels like getting out of this situation is impossible. Thank you so much, 5 years of watching without action is too long.
This guy i have tremendous respect for. Even though he might be shy, he is staying cool, calm, and collected. YOU got this brother! We are all in this together 🙌🏼
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
My favorite, and perhaps the best part of this entire video is 11:23 when Owen says “you’re not trapped, all this is is a contraction, that’s all” and the kids eyes light up.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Breaks my heart to see my dude like that on stage. Made me tear up cause I can see myself in that just a few years ago. Things can get better but you better fucking believe you're going to have to go through the fire. Hope nothing but the best for the dude on stage 👏
He's only 20 years old. By the time he's 30, I'm sure he'll be in a much, much better place Granted, if he takes all the lessons he's learning now to heart.
"torching the island" worked wonders for me....im 6'6" but always got bullied and picked on for not playing sports...i started playing sports to gain acceptance, then got bullied for not being good enough...i started practicing and got good but then got bullied for not being physically strong...i started lifting and got physically strong but then got bullied for not being mentally strong...i started meditating and reading, got mentally stronger than my opponents and NOW im in the position to do the bullying....sports helps a ton...this is bully self help and it works
Man if you're reading this I admire you for having the courage to step in and change your life, I know it ain't easy but seeing you in this video with Tyler inspires me
Owen I love your classic "how are you doing" to test people. Especially with people like uber drivers and cashiers. Works like magic. You talk about it in "coping vs thriving".
This is my first day as cashier , been two weeks and, finally am getting in this zone where I can relate to Owen. It’s a weird place, it’s addictive, it’s feeling alive. You just got to keep going, don’t stop, be loud, rewrite the code, your life, your reproduction, depends on it. Grab some air, deep as fuck, talk. Keep going, once more, keep going, every single time, even if your talking for yourself. Focus
Wow Owen I am so amazed that you were able to pick up that he was genuine when he said 'I rate myself a 3.' I saw it because he didn't blink that time he said it but you weren't even looking at him and you hit it!
Haven't listened to Owen in a good year or so, this was one of the more intense grillings I've ever seen him do. God, what I would have given to have this lesson at 18. This kid doesn't realise how lucky he is, hopefully he will soon.
its a shame that the school system dont teach people like this. when owen asked the kid if he was angry he said he was. he did really say how angry we was but i joked to myself that he is probably very angry and wants to shoot up a the school. when the schools emasculate boys with their transgender agenda that is the result. if the schools taught more social dynamics i bet the school shootings would be reduced significantly because guys would be much happier out their getting laid than playing violent video games
@@kyler4836 funny you said that. i get harassed by these girls across the street. their dad is well connected with the government and they 100% support it. they know i dont support the system for similar reason to what you just wrote. anyways one of the girls just came outside and she looks absolutely miserable. i think its sad, i really do. when i was in a drug treatment center the staff would tell us they could tell who came from the most traumatic environment because the teens would never smile and they also looked sad or blank faced. that is exactly how she is. its wide spread! there is a rise in suicide rates and opioid related deaths. the very foundation of society is falling apart and people support it. like crabs in a bucket
Owen I’m 32. I have a lot of things in my life I’m simply not happy about. Stumbled upon your page in November. Just signed up for a free call. I need to take action.
You can do it man. I was once in your place (am now 28) and have experienced a lot of things (break out of shell, sex with hot girls, girlfriends) and even though I am not where I want to be, I am working towards it and you can too. Stay strong, brother
@@jeremycalhoun6783 First I embraced a stoic mindset: Focus on what I can control and knowing that everything comes to an end, including any form of relationship. Working out which gave me a confidence boost and it even gives you some leverage when going out on dates (you can show her before/after pictures and she will be impressed), and ACTUALLY approaching women.I highly recommend reading the dating advice in this blog which is free: realkylemilligan.com/category/dating-tips/ The core advice is to be confident when approaching women, be Direct (e.g. Don't see a girl at a party, not approach and add her on facebook to talk to her. That is a chump move) and be congruent (own who you are, talk about what you like yet don't try to impress.) You also have to let go of limiting beliefs (I am not tall enough, handsome enough, wealthy enough, etc. therefore she won't go for me) This advice helped me out a lot when I started and I tend to go back to it. I think that 90% of problems are in your head (what is she thinking of me, am I ugly, what if I say something wrong, am I good enough) If did it (a little bit above average looking guy) then you can too. I did get rejected too but when I actually scored it was totally worth it. There are points when I get overwhelmed with talking to multiple girls that I don't have time to see all of them and have to cut some off. Going out there and getting actual experience is the best advice rather than spending hours, days, weeks, months, years gaining knowledge through books or videos. (Analysis Paralysis) There is good advice that Tyler gives and it can be inspirational but Action always trumps studying.
Tyler is being such a masculine guide in this video. We are so feminized that we believe we want to stop this kid's suffering, tell him "it's going to be alright." Tyler is just bluntly going against it, saying what this kid has never learnt his whole life. We need men to guide us boys into men. Be tough, stop placating loser behaviour, be harsh. It's so refreshing, and I'm so sure its shit this kid has never heard before! It's what I wish my dad did with me, and what I know I need to do with myself.
A A I really don’t know if it would’ve been better if your dad did it to you because my dad did and funny enough it did the opposite. He might’ve just not been good at it, but it made me even more self conscious and go into a shell. I think part of it is because he was such a scary guy and demanded respect that I was submissive, so of course I wasn’t going to speak loudly and with confidence. This video really was kind of therapeutic though to realize that you’re just trying to stay safe.
As someone raised by mostly my mother this comment really illuminates how much of my inner dialogue has been plagued by this lack of masculine balance. Well put my friend
@@SharkAcademy but having a masculine father that leads by example can and will help. The top comment was right, alot of boys/men have been feminized for some odd reason. Nothing wrong with being "sensitive" at times but you need that edge.
A A a teacher that’s strict vs kind is literally dependent on the personality of the person who is teaching. And you’re the type that needed a harsh teacher that applied pressure, u r a sub 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Awesome super recommend to do it soon, the price will go up about 3X. It's currently priced about 25% all other events from our team, so needs to be made congruent to the rest of the events catalogue. Trust me on this, do asap if you're doing it -Tyler
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
First I thought that it is cruel and evil what Tyler is doing with this poor kid, but then I thought: you had to give it to him: he had a plan. And it started to make sense, in a Tyler sort of way. No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.
This video made me look highly of Tyler. He actually cares (at least on some level) about what he is doing and about his fellow human. Kudos to you Tyler.
Wow. I feel so much empathy for this guy. At my low, id say I was a minimum of 20 times worse off than this guy, probably worse. Went through years of insomnia to point where I literally couldn't socialize. Lost essentially all of my friends as well. Game and a lot of Owen's advice has been something thats helped me get on track since coming out of insomnia. Currently, I am already dating 7's and 8's and have many friends again (which I know you would say isn't important, but its an indicator of internal success and me pushing myself mentally... and its enjoyable ;)). Thanks a lot for this, really cool to see as it reminded me of my life situation a lot.
have social power is so much more importent then dating. Having the guts to work on your self is what matters and also being okay with not being perfect all the time. Learning to distance your self from your self is also powerful to not take things so personal. Also to forgive your self when things dont go how you want it to. Just keep going you will get there at some point.
Yoooo I was there that day! It was such a good talk glad I get to watch it over again! I also met that girl about 6 months later and didn’t realize she was there that day until now. Crazy. Thanks Tyler!
I feel a ton of simpathy for this kid. Notice how, even when Tyler is speaking right next to him, his mind is somewhere else. You can tell that by the blank look on his face, and by how he's staring at nowhere. He's so anxious he can't even be reasonably present when people are speaking. Another sign of his anxiety is how he's always twitching his fingers. Watch since 24:00 to see what I'm talking about. I'd love to see him get some work done. He needs is desperately.
This is sad. I feel like you should tell him he needs to grieve. He needs to have a deep emotional realization of how fucked up it is that he isn't happy. It's what we all need . We all deserve happiness, life can be Soo beautiful
The first line, when he is talking about reading people via their pupils, Owen is referring to the ability for your emotional system to tolerate the intensity of the experience he is sharing with you when he looks into your eyes. That's what eye contact does. Rather, that is what focus does. Your brain is way smarter than you think it is. It is picking up on the most invisible of social cues, emotional expressions which is how our bodies are interacting with each other on this necessarily invisible primal level because if the animal nature of our humanity were to be free to unleash, as we have seen with the infields and as Owen has himself admitted, it would be chaos. The purpose of smallness and ego and so on is for survival. Not just survival from the outside socially, but even more so survival within, emotionally, the intensity of the emotions you can handle. That's why some people go out and most do not. They can not even handle the intensity of the environment out. This is just my extrapolation from the first sentence out of Owen's mouth. I am very freaking intelligent. It doesn't help me get laid necessarily in the sense that I impress women with my intelligence like some sort of status symbol. But *my* intelligence, or as Owen would call it my 'ego', the 'little me', does help *me* make sense of intense experience so I can progressively increase the intensity of my emotional experience. And the necessary ground for this socially amenable approach towards intense experiences, referring again to the truth about the first line in this video, is the amoralization of emotional experience. Morality is the lowest form of relating to your life experiences. It will imprison you in shame. Which is okay because that's just your shame doing its job given your life experience thus far. But, as we've seen in the phenomenon of 'CRAZY HOT WOMEN', I don't know if there is no metaphysical limit as Freud and Lacan would indicate, but you as a man certainly have to be able to tolerate an even MORE intense experience than the woman can in order to tame her. I think Zizek would validate that there is a limit but it is a virtual limit that exists only insofar as it is posited and necessarily never reached. This is the dimension of forbidden divinity. But me, as a materialist, I transcend divinity itself by recognizing its virtuality and assuming the Neitzschean call to the Ubermensch, which I believe is the exact same call to action that Owen makes!
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
I learn the most from these videos where someone goes on stage and Tyler points out the specific things that hold us back, using the person as an example. It may be scary in the moment to be on stage, but no doubt this video is helping loads of people. I see those qualities in me and it makes me take action to fight against the social conditioning that has affected me.
This guy in black has so much potential actually. He's in great shape, looking sharp (besides being shy), has no physical condition that prevents him from talking normally (which I did have at his age). He'll do great in couple of years
I hope this kid breaks the shell of shyness, he seems a smart person.. Because we are the right to be free of our mental barriers...Greetings from Colombia 🇨🇴 South America
Owen was helping him take up more 'space'. Vocal space, temporal space, physical space... dimensional expansion... magnanimity... He was setting boundaries via his vocal tonality. Wow. WOW. He didn't have to ask for the boundary to be set. He set it through his own intention made manifest via the expanded expression.
"does he even make it to 40" - wow this is brutal. Hahaha insane! I will say: The guy is 20, and he's at a seminar like this. He may feel insecure, but he is doing a DAMN good job to grow. Kudos to this kid
The needing to swim past the halfway point is where I stumble, very often pushing myself to go beyond boundaries but always falling back into their safety soon after.
Tyler, you literally got me more excited to go out this weekend after watching this... The part about going out and getting hooked on it, I’m definitely starting to feel that.
I can fucking relate to this, being raised in Pakistan but as Mayank says, we don't need to use this as an excuse ! we need to fucking forget the shit conditioning that was taught to us and instead open our minds to newer, progressive beliefs !
@@smyasir0 That's it. One has to realize that one is the true king if his own kingdom and that everything can be built there. Just create your vision, calibrate consistently and make it into your own personal reality.
This could've been the clickbait: Tyler the Creator transforms yet another chode into a barbaric beast to roar into the crowd right in front of your eyes. (Shocking)
What a dope idea if you just commented your top 3 headlines for videos on every video as a way to get a job at the company by showing your genius. (For anyone looking to get their skills noticed)
I've been following you for years and never commented on any of your videos but man, this was so painful and yet so eye-opening and mind-blowing to watch at the same time... I can see my younger self in this guy. I've since come a long way thanks to you. Thank you for all what you do. It's time to finally come to the US just to attend one of your events.
I like how a joke could be funny simply because it is so not funny. It's just a means to demonstrate social cohesion. I am sure this contributes to the credibility of the news station.
Major hardcase, but he spent 5 YEARS watching your videos with no action?! This proves that information junkies should put down the laptop and go outside.. Tyler, if you're reading this, please address this issue of non-action taking and help fix this horrible disease. Implementation is the the only way we can change the world. 💪
Well, you don't know his life or his background. Maybe he was even worse off before he watched any videos. He had the balls to go to a seminar and the balls to go up on stage so I think he deserves a bit of credit.
34:29 - The winner effect in social momentum, unlock your genius, assume familiarity (everyone is your friend), stop micro-managing, stop self-judging, stop self-qualifying, expect it will go well, and for your own enjoyment.
This is bullying, people should be uplifted, not ridiculed in front of others. Screaming in someones face about how weak they are can have negative effects
Tyler, I am almost like that young guy. I'm broke and my country's economy is shit (Brazil)... but I promise I'll save money to, one day, can afford the 4 day live event and have you as my mentor. you're the best. love you! -Gustavo
This kid reminds me of myself a few years back. I'm still pretty shy but getting out and talking to people has helped me out a lot also working out and fixing my appearance. I think my biggest motivation right now is not ending up a 40 year old virgin that's too shy to talk to women. I've come along way, but I still have along way to go, but stumbling on your channel today is a blessing and i Am definitely going to apply a lot of the things you talked about, and stop being a wuss. I can't take this crap anymore I'm a good looking dude with a decent personality, but I'm just too god damn shy and awkward around people. From today on I'm going to push myself as much as i can. No more damn excuses
I've had a hard time categorizing this type of content but I think I have figured out where it belongs, it's a new category I want to call practical existentialism, the philosophy of how to live embodied and practiced, love it! it's historical!
This guy is obnoxious as hell. As a girl, I wouldn’t want a guy to force confidence or take any advice from a dude like this. I don’t see guys becoming more successful after listening to him. There’s ways to become more comfortable and in tune with yourself instead of hiding away from society but it’s not learned through straight-up insults and a gang-up from a crowd and a “motivational speaker” (in apostrophes as I don’t see how anyone could become a more motivated man after watching him). His process is very dehumanizing. That guy isn’t a science experiment. People who lack confidence aren’t “weak” and shouldn’t be seen as incredibly flawed; they could have gone through trauma of some sort or have shortcomings they need to work on, yeah, but it doesn’t mean they should be mocked or laughed at. The guy was trying to be more open at times and he kept making these low digs at him…..that’s not what an effective motivational speaker does.
Yeah, I agree to this. Been into personal development, spirituality and some "newage" stuff for quiet some time now and my idea of confidence is way different than his.
As a fan of Owen and Kurtis, he really took a lot of clips out of context and didn’t even try to understand. To be alpha isn’t to be some macho douchebag, it’s to actually be yourself and be comfortable in your own skin, which is exactly what Owen teaches. When he says never be a beta he means stop being so stifled and uncomfortable all the time. Learn to love yourself and act from a genuine place that’s when your truly “alpha”. I agree though Owen can look absolutely stupid out of context and he’s kind of a dainty dude.
@@kyler4836This is why I went to his channel; to see more of the video and get a more accurate context and see his methods and I still think his techniques would be unproductive for most people. He seems to think that bringing people down and calling out their obvious shortcomings are gonna make them better people but it feels cruel instead of constructive. Criticism that helps you move forward is fine but I personally don’t see how his mindset would help most young men. It just makes them feel bad about themselves and probably angry they can’t be more assertive.
@@kyler4836 Then he probably shouldn't call himself an alpha or anyone else a beta??? He's better off calling himself a confident man or something along those lines Maybe he means well, but impact > intent
WOW! RSD has matured. About 6 years ago I got deep into this stuff but it in comparison to what Tyler is talking now... it seems shallow. Tyler, you helped me so much. After watching your videos I began taking action, taking control. Thank you.
That burn the island down to start swimming analogy is awesome!!.. it reminds me when I moved to LA with no place to stay.. I started hustling and breaking past my comfort zone like crazy.. because it's the only choice I had and I couldn't go back, I had to make it happen.
Not gonna lie this made me cry. I see myself in this kid so much. I was pretty roughly abused as a young kid which made me say "well fuck people" and isolate myself. Throughout my teens and early 20s I preferred to just be alone. Obviously that had me miss out on years and years of practicing interacting with people. To the point I can barely hold a conversation with people. I can totally see how it should be done but it feels so out of reach. Just in the past year or so I have started feeling confident in myself, not caring what people think, putting myself out there more etc. But this state where you can totally see the fun and light energy flowing back and forth between between people, and you have some fantasy in your head about how you could do that too, but you just can't get there because there's something blocking you internally is a fucking hell. I mean not to minimize the abhorrent conditions many people suffer in the world. I guess this can rightfully be framed as first world problems, but you get what I'm saying. I'm stoked that this guy got this lesson. He may have wanted to sink through the floor and disappear in that moment because the pressure was just too much. But I'm certainly not laughing at him, I sincerely hope this was a wake up call and he can break out of this prison of his own mind. I wish for him to be able to express himself freely and confidently. I'm really rooting for him, and at the same time my heart breaks for all the kids that are stuck in this mental state and don't see / have no idea that there is a path out of it.
I think what happened to this guy is similar to what happened to me. I am tall, but very skinny and had dark circles around my eyes from asthma.. When I was growing up I got into a lot of social situations where I was made fun of and treated like sh*t by my.peers. So I withdrew and developed severe social anxiety and depression. This guy has probably had similar occurrences. He's not a bad looking guy but he's very small and thin. And kids can be very cruel a holes, especially if they perceive you as weak, even if it's only based on physical appearance.
That was the first client that you brought up with whom I was able to relate the most. I am a skinny short dude with similar sort of behavior in public gatherings.
Step out your comfort zone I was once like this when I was 17 I told myself after high school I’m changing for the better freshmen year in college came and i stood out and improve my communication dated girls, had intimate relationship with girls and now onto pursuing my passion in one year anything is possible as long as you want to change
@@David28311 Once I took a self planned challenge of going out and ask random strangers to tell me the time (I approached a few men at first and did my task). Then I went to a middle aged woman and I freaked her out but she told me the time. But I grew a little anxious after that reaction(bit scared of outcomes) . And finally I went to a young woman who was walking with earphones on, I said excuse me to her but got ignored and since I was out alone doing this, I had no motivation or reference to rectify my mistakes, I felt bad and came home and I never did that again.
Divik Es do this today go up to a a girl your age go to an area where there girls your age. Say “excuse me I just had to come by and say hi I thought you were cute ..............what’s your name go from there “ don’t have too long of a conversation keep it short ask for the number at the end be like “i gotta go but here’s my number text me if you ever want to hangout nice meeting you” don’t ask for her number you always got to lead of the conversation don’t be scared at the end their just girls with makeup on their face they all look the same like everyone else
Divik Es start going to the gym,taking care of yourself, boost up your confidence, walk with correct posture, walk like you own it. You have to self improve yourself in order to gain balls to do get rid of social anxiety. Remember girls like MEN, alpha MEN they are attracted to bad boys you have to act like your the shit and you are above them
@@David28311 Hi bud. I didn't reply yesterday because I wasn't sure if I would actually be able to do that task. But here is how it went. I was sitting in my chemistry lecture and a girl came in and asked to sit next to me(probably because her besties were sitting nearby). That girl was no stranger to me as I see her in the class everyday but I never spoke to her and didn't even know her name. I felt that everyone was getting kinda bored during some phase of the lecture, so I took the opportunity to attempt a conversation with her. I was feeling a bit nervous so I didn't use your line as it was my first ever attempt at talking to a stranger girl. I simply said '' Hi, If I am not wrong, I have seen you in (some complex class to explain) class as well. Are you still taking that class or you discontinued it". Even though I was nervous I tried my best to come off as confident. Though we were sitting, I still maintained an upright posture(broadened shoulders and chest a bit outwards). I took the conversation naturally along with the flow while taking care of my posture. I expected myself to be at ease after a while but it didn't went way. Although I was coming up with some witty responses here and there. The conversation was absolutely normal and all about chemistry and various other studying stuff. I held the conversation for about half an hour before I felt that it was getting boring and dying out. Then I stopped talking and took down sincere notes for the rest of the lecture.
Oh my god !!,u can see at I rate my self at 3 he don't move his hand and Owen felt that without even looking at him , this show s Owen have worked with men like him hundreds of times
I don’t think there is a “society” out there that is trying to stop you from opening up and looking like a “try hard.” It’s all you, you are just projecting that. Even if there was a society out there trying to mock you for being more expressive, it is your responsibility to comply with that society or not. Therefore, ultimately, it’s fully up to you how expressive you will be. Society out there, the world out there is actually perfect and ideal. And this perfect and ideal world is what you are and have always been
I remember around 10 years ago when I saw Owen for the first time and that was the spark that made me face my fears, one step at a time, now I am a completely different person, I am a social catalyst wherever I go, I make myself seen and heard and I inspire people, just like he inspired me. I am eternally grateful to you, peace brother!
Groundbreaking dude. Crowdwork is some of the most difficult content to find (and create in my opinion) thank you for putting this up. I am amazed that I haven't found much on the internet (relative to other content out there)
When you say I am punching at the wall, this is to say that I am not fully committed to approaching or whatever. This just means I have multiple emotions that are asking for my attention by preventing me from being totally committed. Owen was suicidal about this and the suicidal urge is a very powerful emotion for change. That makes sense. I never have been suicidal about this. I don't know if I need to be but maybe!
40:00 "do you think that you are safe right now? " WOW that was cringe when he couldn't give his honest opinion for a yes or no answer which make me think we are blessed to have Tyler help us get there! This is crazier than scared straight bc Tyler just picked out the one guy who really represents the majority of ppl watching and there live.
Man, I totally relate with Tyler and the poor guy, I am in the between phase, escaping hell and tasting the fruits of heaven, it's like an obsession to me but not in a neurotic away, it's a passion and I feel just pulled to that stuff, I hope one day to help people like us be in a better place. I will attend to one of those events with Tyler.
Great explanation that the cause of the rush from external validation is due to his unconscious psychological dependence on external validation. I haven't had the peak state in a long time and this is I think due to me committing on shedding my psychological dependence on external validation but now I am seeing the banal neurological benefit of it. Btw I think that that rush is the emotion of Joy.
I got a door to door sales job and that helped tremendously with this kind of stuff and getting reference experiences. I still need the confidence to approach though
You dont need more confidence to approach bro, thats bs talk. Confidence is the result of approaching. The more you dodge it the more it will grow on you and will turn into a downwards spiral
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i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
Imagine in 20 years time this guy is the one up on stage giving the seminar, passing on his transformation story to the next generation. He’d even have this footage of the ‘old him’ to show them. That would be something.
It's been 2 years, I hope he did some improvements
@@Skiplegday18591 He actually did! See Owen’s latest video
Update He is Pablo now!
He's giving the seminar in one of the latest videos. Crazy cool to see how he transformed.
@@chasehassen5650 send the link?
I hope the guy he brought up really took this to heart. He did great but you can tell he's in a very hard place.
He did! -Tyler
I used to be just like that guy....and now I'm swimming. The good night's are getting more frequent. Took me over 10 years mind but had no other option haha
@@DREWGRATITUDE way to go bruh!!
@@DREWGRATITUDE you rock bro...
Yeah
THIS is what it's all about! So many of us have been socially conditioned to HIDE, HIDE, HIDE and stay in the safe zone. I've been that kid. All in high school and years after I was that kid. I was in the center watching everyone else around me live life and truly not care while I put so much effort into pretending I don't care.
I'm so glad this video is on here.
pressure makes diamonds
That sums it up really good!
Or hemorrhoids
Or dead bodies
yeah thats the spirit guys.
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5 years watching video without action... dont fall into this trap!! There is a BIG difference between knowledge and KNOWING. Go out and interact
Yes, my master
literally what i just said ^^
Jeff Allen all that he needed was the fucking Alexander technique lol
@@pablopalacios6634 what's that
@@TrollThings247 physiology exercises basically
That’s basically a copy of me up there. I have never seen so much compassion and encouragement for super shy guys like me outside of this channel. That isn’t the occasional “wheelchair” fake niceness. It feels like getting out of this situation is impossible.
Thank you so much, 5 years of watching without action is too long.
What is his name?
Hey man, hope you've been growing into a better place. Go take action! If you see this, let me know how you're doing
This guy i have tremendous respect for. Even though he might be shy, he is staying cool, calm, and collected. YOU got this brother! We are all in this together 🙌🏼
Yes exactly. That's why I put so much time into him. He clearly CAN and WILL get it -Tyler
Tyler Free Tour I hope he comes back to another seminar or we somehow see how he’s changed. That would be very motivating.
@@OwenCookFreeTour did he manage to get laid owen ?
WHAT IS THE CUTE BOYS NAME
what is his name?
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
My favorite, and perhaps the best part of this entire video is 11:23 when Owen says “you’re not trapped, all this is is a contraction, that’s all” and the kids eyes light up.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
i love this kids confidence even though he's ironically not confident, but that seminar probably changed him for life
He's not confident but he's definitely brave. I feel the warrior spirit in him.
Breaks my heart to see my dude like that on stage. Made me tear up cause I can see myself in that just a few years ago. Things can get better but you better fucking believe you're going to have to go through the fire. Hope nothing but the best for the dude on stage 👏
He's only 20 years old. By the time he's 30, I'm sure he'll be in a much, much better place Granted, if he takes all the lessons he's learning now to heart.
Owen yanked the man out of that shell, we love all that you do man! Your legacy will live forever!
"torching the island" worked wonders for me....im 6'6" but always got bullied and picked on for not playing sports...i started playing sports to gain acceptance, then got bullied for not being good enough...i started practicing and got good but then got bullied for not being physically strong...i started lifting and got physically strong but then got bullied for not being mentally strong...i started meditating and reading, got mentally stronger than my opponents and NOW im in the position to do the bullying....sports helps a ton...this is bully self help and it works
Man if you're reading this I admire you for having the courage to step in and change your life, I know it ain't easy but seeing you in this video with Tyler inspires me
Its not that he had courage,he was just too afraid not to do what owen asked of him
@@emirmaslo4054 exactly
What is his name?
Owen I love your classic "how are you doing" to test people. Especially with people like uber drivers and cashiers. Works like magic. You talk about it in "coping vs thriving".
Simon Benson looking forward to meeting at Derek business conference in Vegas!
"Coping vs Thriving" was an amazing video
Time note pls
This is my first day as cashier , been two weeks and, finally am getting in this zone where I can relate to Owen. It’s a weird place, it’s addictive, it’s feeling alive. You just got to keep going, don’t stop, be loud, rewrite the code, your life, your reproduction, depends on it. Grab some air, deep as fuck, talk. Keep going, once more, keep going, every single time, even if your talking for yourself. Focus
Everyone loves to feel like someone else actually sees them and not just the character they have to play for 8 hours a day.
@@jeffreycollins7297 nice quote!!!
Wow Owen I am so amazed that you were able to pick up that he was genuine when he said 'I rate myself a 3.' I saw it because he didn't blink that time he said it but you weren't even looking at him and you hit it!
Haven't listened to Owen in a good year or so, this was one of the more intense grillings I've ever seen him do. God, what I would have given to have this lesson at 18. This kid doesn't realise how lucky he is, hopefully he will soon.
Thanks, that's exactly the goal. -Tyler
I think he knows , at 18 would never have had show up in any of these kind of events.
its a shame that the school system dont teach people like this. when owen asked the kid if he was angry he said he was. he did really say how angry we was but i joked to myself that he is probably very angry and wants to shoot up a the school. when the schools emasculate boys with their transgender agenda that is the result. if the schools taught more social dynamics i bet the school shootings would be reduced significantly because guys would be much happier out their getting laid than playing violent video games
Jpm King they don’t want people to know this stuff because then they would learn to be happy with themselves
@@kyler4836 funny you said that. i get harassed by these girls across the street. their dad is well connected with the government and they 100% support it. they know i dont support the system for similar reason to what you just wrote. anyways one of the girls just came outside and she looks absolutely miserable. i think its sad, i really do. when i was in a drug treatment center the staff would tell us they could tell who came from the most traumatic environment because the teens would never smile and they also looked sad or blank faced. that is exactly how she is. its wide spread! there is a rise in suicide rates and opioid related deaths. the very foundation of society is falling apart and people support it. like crabs in a bucket
Owen I’m 32. I have a lot of things in my life I’m simply not happy about. Stumbled upon your page in November. Just signed up for a free call. I need to take action.
Gary DeJesus very good step
You can do it man. I was once in your place (am now 28) and have experienced a lot of things (break out of shell, sex with hot girls, girlfriends) and even though I am not where I want to be, I am working towards it and you can too. Stay strong, brother
go man, i was there
@@MrDream-zm1pw Whats some of the first things you started doing to get out of it?
@@jeremycalhoun6783 First I embraced a stoic mindset: Focus on what I can control and knowing that everything comes to an end, including any form of relationship. Working out which gave me a confidence boost and it even gives you some leverage when going out on dates (you can show her before/after pictures and she will be impressed), and ACTUALLY approaching women.I highly recommend reading the dating advice in this blog which is
free: realkylemilligan.com/category/dating-tips/
The core advice is to be confident when approaching women, be Direct (e.g. Don't see a girl at a party, not approach and add her on facebook to talk to her. That is a chump move) and be congruent (own who you are, talk about what you like yet don't try to impress.) You also have to let go of limiting beliefs (I am not tall enough, handsome enough, wealthy enough, etc. therefore she won't go for me)
This advice helped me out a lot when I started and I tend to go back to it.
I think that 90% of problems are in your head (what is she thinking of me, am I ugly, what if I say something wrong, am I good enough) If did it (a little bit above average looking guy) then you can too. I did get rejected too but when I actually scored it was totally worth it. There are points when I get overwhelmed with talking to multiple girls that I don't have time to see all of them and have to cut some off.
Going out there and getting actual experience is the best advice rather than spending hours, days, weeks, months, years gaining knowledge through books or videos. (Analysis Paralysis) There is good advice that Tyler gives and it can be inspirational but Action always trumps studying.
Tyler is being such a masculine guide in this video.
We are so feminized that we believe we want to stop this kid's suffering, tell him "it's going to be alright."
Tyler is just bluntly going against it, saying what this kid has never learnt his whole life.
We need men to guide us boys into men. Be tough, stop placating loser behaviour, be harsh.
It's so refreshing, and I'm so sure its shit this kid has never heard before!
It's what I wish my dad did with me, and what I know I need to do with myself.
A A I really don’t know if it would’ve been better if your dad did it to you because my dad did and funny enough it did the opposite. He might’ve just not been good at it, but it made me even more self conscious and go into a shell. I think part of it is because he was such a scary guy and demanded respect that I was submissive, so of course I wasn’t going to speak loudly and with confidence. This video really was kind of therapeutic though to realize that you’re just trying to stay safe.
As someone raised by mostly my mother this comment really illuminates how much of my inner dialogue has been plagued by this lack of masculine balance. Well put my friend
Yep agree with all of this. Do you watch a lot of Derek's content?
@@SharkAcademy but having a masculine father that leads by example can and will help. The top comment was right, alot of boys/men have been feminized for some odd reason. Nothing wrong with being "sensitive" at times but you need that edge.
A A a teacher that’s strict vs kind is literally dependent on the personality of the person who is teaching. And you’re the type that needed a harsh teacher that applied pressure, u r a sub 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Here's his results (you need to see this) - www.tiktok.com/@owencookselfhelp/video/6994950613754875142?is_from_webapp=v1&lang=en -Owen
Wow! Just amazing. You're still a great teacher
HOLY SHTTTTTTTTTT
Amazinggggg!
Great work
You're doing God's work. Never stop.
I hope this guy fights against his fears and in a few years we will see him as an rsd instructor showing his before and after
Yep se will he will crush it
Me 2 man
Grey Matter i would love that!!
what is his name?
Is Tyler basically still doing pick up advice but under the guise of self improvement?
This made me feel vulnerable and i wasnt even the one on stage. Truly powerful....
Thanks, that's the goal! -Tyler
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.
@@LookingGlass1865 Ok.
@@LookingGlass1865 you are clueless
Accidentally ended up here, 17 minutes in and I haven’t clicked off. Quality content locks you in sometimes.
Thats it. Im saving money for Tylers event. Starting right now. I love this guy, ive been following you for years but i never comment on your videos.
Awesome super recommend to do it soon, the price will go up about 3X. It's currently priced about 25% all other events from our team, so needs to be made congruent to the rest of the events catalogue. Trust me on this, do asap if you're doing it -Tyler
Esman Fakhro good job 👏 go forward
Lol good salesman!
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
First I thought that it is cruel and evil what Tyler is doing with this poor kid, but then I thought: you had to give it to him: he had a plan. And it started to make sense, in a Tyler sort of way. No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.
Keep on watching bro. It's the best way to let it find it's way into your psyche.
Owen giving for free better self help advice than most paid courses. You're better than Tony Robbins imo. Love it. Thank you.
This video made me look highly of Tyler. He actually cares (at least on some level) about what he is doing and about his fellow human. Kudos to you Tyler.
Wow. I feel so much empathy for this guy. At my low, id say I was a minimum of 20 times worse off than this guy, probably worse. Went through years of insomnia to point where I literally couldn't socialize. Lost essentially all of my friends as well. Game and a lot of Owen's advice has been something thats helped me get on track since coming out of insomnia. Currently, I am already dating 7's and 8's and have many friends again (which I know you would say isn't important, but its an indicator of internal success and me pushing myself mentally... and its enjoyable ;)). Thanks a lot for this, really cool to see as it reminded me of my life situation a lot.
How old are you boio?
have social power is so much more importent then dating. Having the guts to work on your self is what matters and also being okay with not being perfect all the time. Learning to distance your self from your self is also powerful to not take things so personal. Also to forgive your self when things dont go how you want it to. Just keep going you will get there at some point.
Yoooo I was there that day! It was such a good talk glad I get to watch it over again! I also met that girl about 6 months later and didn’t realize she was there that day until now. Crazy. Thanks Tyler!
I feel a ton of simpathy for this kid. Notice how, even when Tyler is speaking right next to him, his mind is somewhere else. You can tell that by the blank look on his face, and by how he's staring at nowhere. He's so anxious he can't even be reasonably present when people are speaking. Another sign of his anxiety is how he's always twitching his fingers.
Watch since 24:00 to see what I'm talking about. I'd love to see him get some work done. He needs is desperately.
This is sad. I feel like you should tell him he needs to grieve. He needs to have a deep emotional realization of how fucked up it is that he isn't happy. It's what we all need . We all deserve happiness, life can be Soo beautiful
I got the same feeling. I sensed tears coming on from him a few times thru out the video. Like when he said his grandmother died and if he was angry.
This guy is still so young. He has so much growth and potential
The first line, when he is talking about reading people via their pupils, Owen is referring to the ability for your emotional system to tolerate the intensity of the experience he is sharing with you when he looks into your eyes. That's what eye contact does. Rather, that is what focus does. Your brain is way smarter than you think it is. It is picking up on the most invisible of social cues, emotional expressions which is how our bodies are interacting with each other on this necessarily invisible primal level because if the animal nature of our humanity were to be free to unleash, as we have seen with the infields and as Owen has himself admitted, it would be chaos. The purpose of smallness and ego and so on is for survival. Not just survival from the outside socially, but even more so survival within, emotionally, the intensity of the emotions you can handle. That's why some people go out and most do not. They can not even handle the intensity of the environment out. This is just my extrapolation from the first sentence out of Owen's mouth. I am very freaking intelligent. It doesn't help me get laid necessarily in the sense that I impress women with my intelligence like some sort of status symbol. But *my* intelligence, or as Owen would call it my 'ego', the 'little me', does help *me* make sense of intense experience so I can progressively increase the intensity of my emotional experience. And the necessary ground for this socially amenable approach towards intense experiences, referring again to the truth about the first line in this video, is the amoralization of emotional experience. Morality is the lowest form of relating to your life experiences. It will imprison you in shame. Which is okay because that's just your shame doing its job given your life experience thus far. But, as we've seen in the phenomenon of 'CRAZY HOT WOMEN', I don't know if there is no metaphysical limit as Freud and Lacan would indicate, but you as a man certainly have to be able to tolerate an even MORE intense experience than the woman can in order to tame her. I think Zizek would validate that there is a limit but it is a virtual limit that exists only insofar as it is posited and necessarily never reached. This is the dimension of forbidden divinity. But me, as a materialist, I transcend divinity itself by recognizing its virtuality and assuming the Neitzschean call to the Ubermensch, which I believe is the exact same call to action that Owen makes!
Met this guy at a free tour once. Glad to see he’s getting the help he needs
Yeah i bet he was the one that approached you
How is he doing
What is his name?
i had the same shit like him!! finishing school helped, and then starting my own life and moving out far away from home! it all gets better.
We are not cowards. We approach girls every day.
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
I learn the most from these videos where someone goes on stage and Tyler points out the specific things that hold us back, using the person as an example. It may be scary in the moment to be on stage, but no doubt this video is helping loads of people. I see those qualities in me and it makes me take action to fight against the social conditioning that has affected me.
This guy in black has so much potential actually. He's in great shape, looking sharp (besides being shy), has no physical condition that prevents him from talking normally (which I did have at his age). He'll do great in couple of years
Tyler is playing the role of the father this guy needed
I hope this kid breaks the shell of shyness, he seems a smart person.. Because we are the right to be free of our mental barriers...Greetings from Colombia 🇨🇴 South America
It's insane to see the kids charisma hidden inside. We're literally seeing a live transformation in the moment.
Owen was helping him take up more 'space'. Vocal space, temporal space, physical space... dimensional expansion... magnanimity... He was setting boundaries via his vocal tonality. Wow. WOW. He didn't have to ask for the boundary to be set. He set it through his own intention made manifest via the expanded expression.
Tyler is the kobe of self development
Justin LA I love the fact we all know he reads comments and he’s gonna stumble on this one and be happy af
It is so crazy i also see this rsd guys as jedi's, they even mention this a couple lf times hahahah
That god of war theory was so on point, thats true in dating also if u will get something without any effort you will not appreciate it
"does he even make it to 40" - wow this is brutal. Hahaha insane!
I will say: The guy is 20, and he's at a seminar like this. He may feel insecure, but he is doing a DAMN good job to grow. Kudos to this kid
Exactly, he showed up and hes open to learning and growing. That's half the battle. 👍
better than sitting scared day after day, every day
The needing to swim past the halfway point is where I stumble, very often pushing myself to go beyond boundaries but always falling back into their safety soon after.
U should try accountability,
Tyler, you literally got me more excited to go out this weekend after watching this...
The part about going out and getting hooked on it, I’m definitely starting to feel that.
Lot of Indian and asian people like this cus our parents wanted us to only study and encourage us to go out of house as less as possible 🤦🤦
True, but dont let that be an excuse
I can fucking relate to this, being raised in Pakistan
but as Mayank says, we don't need to use this as an excuse !
we need to fucking forget the shit conditioning that was taught to us and instead open our minds to newer, progressive beliefs !
@@smyasir0 That's it. One has to realize that one is the true king if his own kingdom and that everything can be built there. Just create your vision, calibrate consistently and make it into your own personal reality.
The extremely high levels of compassion you've demonstrated here is nuts.
This could've been the clickbait:
Tyler the Creator transforms yet another chode into a barbaric beast to roar into the crowd right in front of your eyes. (Shocking)
Tyle rthe creator LMAO
What a dope idea if you just commented your top 3 headlines for videos on every video as a way to get a job at the company by showing your genius.
(For anyone looking to get their skills noticed)
@@thebackyardbuddha alternative title, learn how to UNLEASH your creative side and UNLOCK your soul and become neo from the matrix (job GIVEAWAY)
@@Steallio haha love that or "How to Have Brad Pitt God Swag In 12 Seconds"
Headlines are so fun tbh
"chode" lmao c'mon poor guy
I've been following you for years and never commented on any of your videos but man, this was so painful and yet so eye-opening and mind-blowing to watch at the same time... I can see my younger self in this guy. I've since come a long way thanks to you. Thank you for all what you do. It's time to finally come to the US just to attend one of your events.
I like how a joke could be funny simply because it is so not funny. It's just a means to demonstrate social cohesion. I am sure this contributes to the credibility of the news station.
Major hardcase, but he spent 5 YEARS watching your videos with no action?! This proves that information junkies should put down the laptop and go outside..
Tyler, if you're reading this, please address this issue of non-action taking and help fix this horrible disease.
Implementation is the the only way we can change the world. 💪
Yet it lead to action
10X Rule by Grant Cardone. Addresses this.
@@Steallio talking to one chick in 5 years = action? It was most likely his mother
Well, you don't know his life or his background. Maybe he was even worse off before he watched any videos. He had the balls to go to a seminar and the balls to go up on stage so I think he deserves a bit of credit.
Information junkie........ so true. Knowledge without action is just pointless. Utterly, tragically pointless.
The fact you offer this up for all of us to learn from for free is SICK. Thanks Owen
34:29 - The winner effect in social momentum, unlock your genius, assume familiarity (everyone is your friend), stop micro-managing, stop self-judging, stop self-qualifying, expect it will go well, and for your own enjoyment.
This is bullying, people should be uplifted, not ridiculed in front of others.
Screaming in someones face about how weak they are can have negative effects
He’s just telling him the objective truth…
Gotta love Tyler's authenticity..😂 His way of coaching is the best..
Dude that stuff about the islands is really key for me rn thank you
Tyler, I am almost like that young guy. I'm broke and my country's economy is shit (Brazil)... but I promise I'll save money to, one day, can afford the 4 day live event and have you as my mentor. you're the best. love you! -Gustavo
Ask him and maybe he could help make it happen
@@austingray6885 thank you!
@this guy on the stage: RESPECT for taking this "pressure". And take one step after the other and you will improve. Good luck ;-)
This was intense. I was half expecting the guy to have a break down at some parts. I think I would have wanted to cry.
That guy is a fucking boss to go on that stage being so nervous
I know exactly how that guy feels, this is a very powerful but constructive video
Dude the fact that this guy was so honest was truly inspiring. This is a great video
5 mins in and I’m already blown away. Tyler keeps creating such high level content still after all these years!
One of my favorite things in this video is the way that Owen is swinging his feet like a little kid the whole time
It seems forced as if to prove a point and that doesn’t sit well with me.
What is his name?
This kid reminds me of myself a few years back. I'm still pretty shy but getting out and talking to people has helped me out a lot also working out and fixing my appearance. I think my biggest motivation right now is not ending up a 40 year old virgin that's too shy to talk to women. I've come along way, but I still have along way to go, but stumbling on your channel today is a blessing and i Am definitely going to apply a lot of the things you talked about, and stop being a wuss. I can't take this crap anymore I'm a good looking dude with a decent personality, but I'm just too god damn shy and awkward around people. From today on I'm going to push myself as much as i can. No more damn excuses
Im in the same situation as you man> How are you going to get started?
@@jeremycalhoun6783 Baby steps bro by getting out talking to people, pushing myself out of my comfort zone and improving my social skills
I've had a hard time categorizing this type of content but I think I have figured out where it belongs, it's a new category I want to call practical existentialism, the philosophy of how to live embodied and practiced, love it! it's historical!
Cannot believe this was 54 minutes, felt like 15. Great stuff, very thought through & I appreciate you for your work!
this guy is insane . i love it
This guy is obnoxious as hell. As a girl, I wouldn’t want a guy to force confidence or take any advice from a dude like this. I don’t see guys becoming more successful after listening to him. There’s ways to become more comfortable and in tune with yourself instead of hiding away from society but it’s not learned through straight-up insults and a gang-up from a crowd and a “motivational speaker” (in apostrophes as I don’t see how anyone could become a more motivated man after watching him). His process is very dehumanizing. That guy isn’t a science experiment. People who lack confidence aren’t “weak” and shouldn’t be seen as incredibly flawed; they could have gone through trauma of some sort or have shortcomings they need to work on, yeah, but it doesn’t mean they should be mocked or laughed at. The guy was trying to be more open at times and he kept making these low digs at him…..that’s not what an effective motivational speaker does.
Yeah, I agree to this. Been into personal development, spirituality and some "newage" stuff for quiet some time now and my idea of confidence is way different than his.
As a fan of Owen and Kurtis, he really took a lot of clips out of context and didn’t even try to understand. To be alpha isn’t to be some macho douchebag, it’s to actually be yourself and be comfortable in your own skin, which is exactly what Owen teaches. When he says never be a beta he means stop being so stifled and uncomfortable all the time. Learn to love yourself and act from a genuine place that’s when your truly “alpha”. I agree though Owen can look absolutely stupid out of context and he’s kind of a dainty dude.
@@kyler4836This is why I went to his channel; to see more of the video and get a more accurate context and see his methods and I still think his techniques would be unproductive for most people. He seems to think that bringing people down and calling out their obvious shortcomings are gonna make them better people but it feels cruel instead of constructive. Criticism that helps you move forward is fine but I personally don’t see how his mindset would help most young men. It just makes them feel bad about themselves and probably angry they can’t be more assertive.
@@kyler4836 Then he probably shouldn't call himself an alpha or anyone else a beta??? He's better off calling himself a confident man or something along those lines
Maybe he means well, but impact > intent
I agree. This is so humiliating and counter-productive.
Tyler kicking his legs like a kid with an ice cream cone is so wholesome
WOW! RSD has matured. About 6 years ago I got deep into this stuff but it in comparison to what Tyler is talking now... it seems shallow. Tyler, you helped me so much. After watching your videos I began taking action, taking control. Thank you.
That burn the island down to start swimming analogy is awesome!!.. it reminds me when I moved to LA with no place to stay.. I started hustling and breaking past my comfort zone like crazy.. because it's the only choice I had and I couldn't go back, I had to make it happen.
Not gonna lie this made me cry. I see myself in this kid so much. I was pretty roughly abused as a young kid which made me say "well fuck people" and isolate myself. Throughout my teens and early 20s I preferred to just be alone. Obviously that had me miss out on years and years of practicing interacting with people. To the point I can barely hold a conversation with people. I can totally see how it should be done but it feels so out of reach. Just in the past year or so I have started feeling confident in myself, not caring what people think, putting myself out there more etc.
But this state where you can totally see the fun and light energy flowing back and forth between between people, and you have some fantasy in your head about how you could do that too, but you just can't get there because there's something blocking you internally is a fucking hell. I mean not to minimize the abhorrent conditions many people suffer in the world. I guess this can rightfully be framed as first world problems, but you get what I'm saying.
I'm stoked that this guy got this lesson. He may have wanted to sink through the floor and disappear in that moment because the pressure was just too much. But I'm certainly not laughing at him, I sincerely hope this was a wake up call and he can break out of this prison of his own mind. I wish for him to be able to express himself freely and confidently. I'm really rooting for him, and at the same time my heart breaks for all the kids that are stuck in this mental state and don't see / have no idea that there is a path out of it.
AMEN TO THAT!!!
I think what happened to this guy is similar to what happened to me. I am tall, but very skinny and had dark circles around my eyes from asthma.. When I was growing up I got into a lot of social situations where I was made fun of and treated like sh*t by my.peers. So I withdrew and developed severe social anxiety and depression. This guy has probably had similar occurrences. He's not a bad looking guy but he's very small and thin. And kids can be very cruel a holes, especially if they perceive you as weak, even if it's only based on physical appearance.
You are not alone. That stopped once I became taller and bigger. Now they just talk shit behind my back.
That was the first client that you brought up with whom I was able to relate the most.
I am a skinny short dude with similar sort of behavior in public gatherings.
Step out your comfort zone I was once like this when I was 17 I told myself after high school I’m changing for the better freshmen year in college came and i stood out and improve my communication dated girls, had intimate relationship with girls and now onto pursuing my passion in one year anything is possible as long as you want to change
@@David28311 Once I took a self planned challenge of going out and ask random strangers to tell me the time (I approached a few men at first and did my task). Then I went to a middle aged woman and I freaked her out but she told me the time. But I grew a little anxious after that reaction(bit scared of outcomes) . And finally I went to a young woman who was walking with earphones on, I said excuse me to her but got ignored and since I was out alone doing this, I had no motivation or reference to rectify my mistakes, I felt bad and came home and I never did that again.
Divik Es do this today go up to a a girl your age go to an area where there girls your age. Say “excuse me I just had to come by and say hi I thought you were cute ..............what’s your name go from there “ don’t have too long of a conversation keep it short ask for the number at the end be like “i gotta go but here’s my number text me if you ever want to hangout nice meeting you” don’t ask for her number you always got to lead of the conversation don’t be scared at the end their just girls with makeup on their face they all look the same like everyone else
Divik Es start going to the gym,taking care of yourself, boost up your confidence, walk with correct posture, walk like you own it. You have to self improve yourself in order to gain balls to do get rid of social anxiety. Remember girls like MEN, alpha MEN they are attracted to bad boys you have to act like your the shit and you are above them
@@David28311 Hi bud. I didn't reply yesterday because I wasn't sure if I would actually be able to do that task. But here is how it went. I was sitting in my chemistry lecture and a girl came in and asked to sit next to me(probably because her besties were sitting nearby). That girl was no stranger to me as I see her in the class everyday but I never spoke to her and didn't even know her name. I felt that everyone was getting kinda bored during some phase of the lecture, so I took the opportunity to attempt a conversation with her. I was feeling a bit nervous so I didn't use your line as it was my first ever attempt at talking to a stranger girl. I simply said '' Hi, If I am not wrong, I have seen you in (some complex class to explain) class as well. Are you still taking that class or you discontinued it". Even though I was nervous I tried my best to come off as confident. Though we were sitting, I still maintained an upright posture(broadened shoulders and chest a bit outwards). I took the conversation naturally along with the flow while taking care of my posture. I expected myself to be at ease after a while but it didn't went way. Although I was coming up with some witty responses here and there. The conversation was absolutely normal and all about chemistry and various other studying stuff. I held the conversation for about half an hour before I felt that it was getting boring and dying out. Then I stopped talking and took down sincere notes for the rest of the lecture.
I'm nervous on this guys behalf. Jeez...I feel u bro
This might be the funniest Yet most real free tour video that’s ever been released on this channel!
For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
Loved the video ❤
7:30 his right hand, it moves in sync with his voice when he says somethings not congruent with him. It is so interesting to watch!.
trieulieuf9 damn good eye
I noticed this too.
Oh my god !!,u can see at I rate my self at 3 he don't move his hand and Owen felt that without even looking at him , this show s Owen have worked with men like him hundreds of times
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.
If this guy continues to work on himself, he'll be good. Keep at it my guy!
I don’t think there is a “society” out there that is trying to stop you from opening up and looking like a “try hard.” It’s all you, you are just projecting that. Even if there was a society out there trying to mock you for being more expressive, it is your responsibility to comply with that society or not. Therefore, ultimately, it’s fully up to you how expressive you will be. Society out there, the world out there is actually perfect and ideal. And this perfect and ideal world is what you are and have always been
This man got his money's worth in this session!
I remember around 10 years ago when I saw Owen for the first time and that was the spark that made me face my fears, one step at a time, now I am a completely different person, I am a social catalyst wherever I go, I make myself seen and heard and I inspire people, just like he inspired me. I am eternally grateful to you, peace brother!
what fears did you have? what actions did you take to overcome your fears?
Groundbreaking dude. Crowdwork is some of the most difficult content to find (and create in my opinion) thank you for putting this up. I am amazed that I haven't found much on the internet (relative to other content out there)
When you say I am punching at the wall, this is to say that I am not fully committed to approaching or whatever. This just means I have multiple emotions that are asking for my attention by preventing me from being totally committed. Owen was suicidal about this and the suicidal urge is a very powerful emotion for change. That makes sense. I never have been suicidal about this. I don't know if I need to be but maybe!
40:00 "do you think that you are safe right now? " WOW that was cringe when he couldn't give his honest opinion for a yes or no answer which make me think we are blessed to have Tyler help us get there! This is crazier than scared straight bc Tyler just picked out the one guy who really represents the majority of ppl watching and there live.
Wow, you gave him a gift Tyler. He will remember it for the rest of his life.
He will remember the trama Owen brought on him by making him a in cult of people crazy thinking Alpha males are better then females.
Man, I totally relate with Tyler and the poor guy, I am in the between phase, escaping hell and tasting the fruits of heaven, it's like an obsession to me but not in a neurotic away, it's a passion and I feel just pulled to that stuff, I hope one day to help people like us be in a better place.
I will attend to one of those events with Tyler.
Great explanation that the cause of the rush from external validation is due to his unconscious psychological dependence on external validation. I haven't had the peak state in a long time and this is I think due to me committing on shedding my psychological dependence on external validation but now I am seeing the banal neurological benefit of it. Btw I think that that rush is the emotion of Joy.
I got a door to door sales job and that helped tremendously with this kind of stuff and getting reference experiences. I still need the confidence to approach though
You dont need more confidence to approach bro, thats bs talk. Confidence is the result of approaching. The more you dodge it the more it will grow on you and will turn into a downwards spiral
He wasn’t born like this, he had been damaged by people around him, well thanks for fighting back to gain the real you!