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This video was inspired from a quote by the French philosopher Blaise Pascal "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone".
I’m noticing more and more often that people tend to avoid spending time alone, because it makes them feel lonely. Whenever they experience a form of anxiety, they seek the company of others to escape their negative thoughts.
To be honest, I do it as well. We all do.
But it's increasingly important to stop running away from yourself and learn to spend time alone. It doesn't mean you're lonely, it's actually quite the opposite.
It is an invitation to deepen the connection with yourself. It is a sacred space in which you replenish your energy, explore your passions, and cultivate self-love.
True growth comes in times when you are alone by yourself, I really do believe that. It is in those moments that you will find clarity, self-discovery, and a deeper sense of inner peace.
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What people are failing to understand about this video is he’s not saying you should be alone forever. He’s saying that by cultivating a healthy independence & better relationship with yourself you can begin to attract people who are right for you without all of the codependency. There is nothing wrong with forming lasting emotional bonds with others, the problem arises only when you are so reliant on those connections that you’d rather be around others than confront your own shadow. What he is implying is that by taking time and enjoying your own company you form a better connection to self & therefore a greater understanding of self & you are able to show up in the world as a healthier more confident person overall.
I couldn't have said it better myself, thank you for the comment!! :))
I think a big part of people getting the anxiety is because they have insecurities they don’t take the time to feel, accept and love… all that takes time alone and self reflection. But until you put in that work your insecurities won’t leave you alone, and once you do accept them, they magically disappear. But most people try to distract themselves from them, always moving to the next distraction running from that anxiety. When the answer is to stop and face it
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Wow. Thank you for putting this out there.
@@aceggkspade958 PLEASE, you, and EVERYONE, if you haven't already, embrace the One True Only God YHWH Jehovah, Only One Jesus Christ His Only Begotten Son and Lord and Savior of our souls and the Only One Holy Spirit. God is good. God is love. Jesus is Lord. Jesus IS coming. Your soul depends on it!
I have seen God act in my life. He saved my soul, changed my heart, changed my mind, helped people through me, took care of people in my life, people I hurt before I found God. God is the only reason I was able to reconcile with my dad before he died.
God worked through Jesus Christ to save our souls. Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins. Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and that God raised Him from the dead and you will be saved. Be baptized in The Holy Spirit, and if He wills, water as well. Repent of your sins, accept God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit into your heart, that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son Jesus Christ, that all who believe on Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus Christ is The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father Jehovah God but through Him.
Not long after I got saved I prayed to God for help understanding the Holy Bible, and that same day someone knocked on my door asking me if I wanted to understand the Bible.
The Holy Bible says, "love thy enemy", "turn the other cheek", "If your enemy is hungry, feed him", "if he is thirsty, give him a drink", "pray for those who persecute you", "do not repay evil for evil".
LORD willing, all humans may commit sin of almost every kind (gay, straight), and that's wrong, and all humans sin, as God tells us through the The Holy Bible, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." The Holy Bible also says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
There is a difference between feeling lonely and being lonely. One is where you feel it when not around people. The other one is not having anyone at all, that is genuine loneliness.
Yuh
I understand , this is the kind of loneliness I experience a lot . Something big happens in my life and I don’t resllly have anyone I can share it with
@@gamingwithCONZOUL idk if thats worse or having friends but not being comfortable with anyone to talk to them becaus they'll probably judge you
@@bunibubble If you are not comfortable talking with your friends because they judge you then either they are not your friends or you are really insecure (depends on what do you mean by "judge")
And then there's the loneliness you experience when actually being around people, as well.
i get anxiety when i am with other people. When i am alone i finally feel free. I always ride my bike to places in the woods where nobody is and i just sit there and listen to the sounds. This is peace.
Same...i can feel lonely when I'm on my own for too long of course, but i also notice i often feel even lonelier when I'm with other people cause mostly i would just try to fit in and it makes me feel like an outsider and ended up feeling very lonely
Because u are around wrong people. Most people are normies, find people like you.
Same ❤ In my bubble I feel free. I enjoy doing my little things, I read, Write, see vidéos, study, draw, and when I walk in the city, I enjoy doing it alone. Before I Was afraid to be like that. Now I feel it is à gift❤
WELL YOU STILL NEED SOME FORM OF SOCIAL LIFE!!! YOU KNOW HOW IMPORTANT SOCIAL HEALTH IS FOR YOUR OVERALL HEALTH?!! CONSIDERING HOW A HUMAN BEING CAN'T BECOME PERFECTLY HEALTHY IF THEY DON'T GET ENOUGH SOCIAL INTERACTION REALLY SHOWS HOW CRUEL SOCIAL ANXIETY IS!!!
Dein PB passt kaum zu deiner Person. Aber wer entspricht schon seinem Äusseren
"Stop searching for comfort in others"
That statement really resonates
With me it doesn’t. We are social creatures and there’s nothing wrong in wanting love and affection.
I don’t mind spending time with myself and being alone. but a hug would be nice, just coming home and sitting down with someone after a hard day
its nothing but hardcore COPE!!!
@@AnnaTodorova_piano exactly, these ppl are coping hard
Imagine texting someone down to meet and they say who is this please stop texting me
I’ve been living in Finland for the past two years and one of the things I learned is the beauty of solitude. I relate to this story so much. Thanks for sharing!
Is living in Finland a lonely life?
@@heinmolenaar6750 Yes and this is coming from a finnish person
@@mikanuutinen2264the maker of this video comes from Latvia.
@@mikanuutinen2264 they say that Finland is the happiest country in the world. What you think about that? Is it true, while so many people in Finland are so lonely?
thats not healthy, you cant find happiness in yourself, we find happiness by doing meaningful things, like bonding with a fellow human.
As a hardcore introvert, this is the opposite problem I have. I do miss social interactions, but I burn out easily and crumple into my anxiety-ridden self and need to retreat from people. I love being alone with my thoughts, but my innermost needs for even a little social interaction is the bane of my existence. This is a great video for extroverts, it’s interesting viewing these issues from a different perspective.
Yesss, feel you. I got it with the first lines in video and immediately replyed with ''no I don't''. I tend to hide in my shell whenever something happens, mostly because there was never anyone who would take my problems seriously. No one to respect my moment of feeling miserable, which we all do, that's a part of life. Maybe that's the core of my loneliness. I never ask anyone to validate me. I want to, but safe enough people is such a rare occasion in my life for some reason.
@@mauersegler I definitely get that, though I am a mix of introverted-extrovert, I can and will talk to anyone and everyone, but I don't like people, anything more than a short conversation, I don't care about. Either way, you'll always have yourself, no one else will always and forever be there for you but you, so like the video said, talk to yourself
I literally feel the exact same as you
@ny6978 fellow hardcore introvert here, I get exhausted just from looking at people let alone being dragged to friends' sittings.. yet I crave socializing, whenever I'm alone my world starts collapsing and thoughts would eat me inside out, and the moment I meet any person, I'm happy for seconds until I don't wanna see anyone at all .. Sounds stupid goofy, I know.
this video feels like its perfectly for me, not extroverts.
Extroverts don't want to be alone, let alone learn to operate when alone.
It's for me because I need to be alone for most of my day, and I need to learn to function without people around instead of thinking how I will die alone everytime whoever person I'm texting gets busy for 2 minutes. :P
Read "the courage to be disliked" I've also heard somewhere social exhausting is caused by putting on a mask, a front. Maybe that's why you feel drained after. Ask your self this. Are you really being yourself? Are you authentic, do you love yourself, do you feel worthy and enough as you are, if not, there is work to do.
Here’s the thing: I already spend and enjoy a lot of time alone, but deep down I’m incredibly lonely, because I’m on the complete other side of the spectrum, where I spend almost all of my time alone and extremely rarely connect with any of my peers.
yeah exactly this, most people here don't get it. They just think alone= good, with people= bad. Yeah go and try to be alone for 5 years. Good luck buddy. We, the "aware" people are in minority, I would say only 10-20% of the people are aware, sentient. So yes, we get tired from most of the people, because they are different. But it doesn't mean that the only other choice is complete loneliness. No, we just unfortunately need to try harder than the rest to find people like us. But it's worth it. Having 2-3 GOOD friends that u feel connected to is way way way better than being alone. Quality over quantity.
Same, I dont run away from being alone, because I am literally alone all day. Its all Im used to, I dont know any different.
I wish I could be able to sit with other people and have a deeper connection with them, but I cant
@@JAKE-ng8yr Exactly. I've spent far too much time with my thoughts and had no group to distract me from self destructive thoughts and, now I'm an anxiety riddles person that is constantly overthinking and overanalysing, unable to find a moments peace from my own mind.
I understand how challenging it can be to feel lonely despite spending a lot of time alone. It sounds like you may be longing for more meaningful connections with your peers. While enjoying time alone is important, human beings are naturally social creatures, and the need for social connection is inherent. It could be helpful to explore ways to expand your social circle and create opportunities for connection. Consider joining clubs or groups based on your interests, attending social events, or even exploring online communities to connect with like-minded individuals. It may take time and effort, but taking proactive steps towards building connections can help alleviate the sense of deep loneliness you're experiencing. Remember, reaching out and being open to new relationships can lead to fulfilling connections and a stronger sense of belonging.
@@JAKE-ng8yr isn't that a bit extreme? everyone is aware and sentient, people can just have different views. while I can agree with you I would much rather be with someone than be alone. being alone doesn't have to be bad. that's the whole message of this video, yes prolonged time being alone could lead to loneliness. however being alone could help you help yourself, and then connect to other people, AND maybe even then help somebody else. ya know?
I've experienced the beauty of solitude long ago, I cut off unhealthy relationships from my life and I'm on my healing journey. I feel free when I'm all by myself but I do crave deep connections with other people. I feel like I keep meeting the wrong people (for me) in my life but I'm still hopeful that one day I'll meet my kind of people with whom our souls can connect.
Me too
fuuuck dude i could have written this myself. it took me years to realise my friend group was toxic for me, and i keep meeting people i just don't connect with. i'm staying optimistic that i'll find people with whom i feel genuinely at ease with but it's kinda hard.
@@lou-xr5rz I hope that we find the right people for us 🙏❤️❤️
@@singforsang5130 wish you the best.
No such thing as soul connection in this reality as women have no souls to connect with.
Since covid happened everything has gone down for me. Seems like I'm stuck. It feels like I'm drowning but I'm not dying and also I'm not floating. only stuck. Loneliness, sickness, failures and family problems have taken a toll on my mental and physical well-being. I hope it gets better for me as well as for others. Thanks for this video! Cheers
Same for me. I wish you all the best.
We’ve made it this far 🫶🏻
It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy burden right now, and I want you to know that it’s completely valid to feel this way. The pandemic has affected so many aspects of life, leading to feelings of isolation, stress, and uncertainty. It’s important to acknowledge what you’re going through.
Here are a few suggestions that might help you navigate this difficult time:
1. **Reach Out:** Connecting with friends or loved ones, even just for a chat, can help reduce feelings of loneliness. If it's hard to talk about how you feel, that's okay; sometimes just being around someone can be comforting.
2. **Seek Professional Help:** A therapist or counselor can offer support and coping strategies tailored to your situation. You don’t have to go through this alone.
3. **Establish a Routine:** Having a daily structure can provide a sense of normalcy. Try to incorporate small, positive habits-like going for a walk, journaling, or engaging in a hobby.
4. **Mindfulness or Meditation:** Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce anxiety. There are many apps and online resources available to guide you.
5. **Focus on Small Achievements:** Celebrate small victories, no matter how minor they may seem. This can help build a sense of accomplishment and purpose.
6. **Prioritize Self-Care:** Make time for activities that nourish your mind and body. This can include exercise, reading, or simply enjoying some quiet time.
It’s okay to acknowledge that you’re struggling, and it’s a sign of strength to seek help and take steps toward healing. Change takes time, but with support and small steps, it can get better. Take care of yourself, and remember that you’re not alone in this journey. Sending you positive thoughts.
My aggravation of loneliness happened a year ago, when a girl left me, but I got out of the hole. I was helped by several friends and my hobby - the gym.
I'm back at it after a few years off, I'm 73kg now, I squat 120/10, bench press 110/6, deadlift 150/8 and I feel good. Quit drinking, now i am going farming and riding my 150cc motorcycle for fun. Keep moving dude! You are definitely not alone and like-minded people are nearby)) greetings from Ukraine.👋
Thank you for taking the time to comment! :)
I'm with you on the gym part - any kind of physical activity is so important for our well-being.
Слава Украине!
It is such a nice video and your inspiring story telling makes this video better! As a video maker, it gives me such an inspiration🙏🏼
Working out for me is the best medicine to get mental clarity and stop the negative thoughts. Removing or reducing alcohol is also a good thing to do. Keep it up!
Dude, nice, I am white, european cis male in his 30s, walking 20.000 steps a day, 1000ccm motorcyle, 20-75mm Canon L Zoom Lens, 35 and 6x6 analog cameras, EMOS and CCD sensors, 24bit flac audio on my sony wh-1000xm5, I have a head like a rock and I'll stomp down that road. Maga
Be safe in Ukraine. Don't let the Russians get ya.
As someone who hates being alone and who lives secluded most of the week, this is pretty decent advice honestly. I usually think its weird to do certain things solo like going to a restaurant, checking out a particular store; lifting weights, but once I do so I feel relieved. Its easy to doomsday and believe you'll be outlined by strangers, however this is really rare(and if it happens, its usually not in a negative manner). Reminds me I should try stuff without bugging my friends for once lol. Thank you for reminding me of this and encouraging me to do it again :)
my solitude keeps me sane, it really stresses me out when people cant respect that, especially when its the type of friend who cant stand being alone themselves
yeah i can relate to this. some people take it too personally that I want to spend time by myself or they think it's weird. I like it this way. It gives me time for myself. It's peaceful.
how long solitude? You can't be sane after not talking to someone for 3 years
@@JAKE-ng8yr cant even really function as a human that way no, but for every day I hang out with friends I would like a day or 2 to hang out with myself
Loneliness and being alone are two different things. Like you said, being alone is a good thing where it allows you to deepen a connection to yourself. To me, loneliness is a state where you don't have meaningful connections to the people around you
This
Me definitely
Absolutely, you’ve captured an important distinction. Being alone can offer a valuable opportunity for self-reflection, personal growth, and recharging one's emotional batteries. It can be a time to explore interests, cultivate creativity, and enhance self-awareness.
On the other hand, loneliness is often characterized by feelings of isolation or disconnection, even when surrounded by others. It stems from a lack of meaningful relationships or the feeling that those connections don't fulfill emotional needs. This emotional state can lead to feelings of sadness or emptiness, emphasizing the importance of not only being surrounded by people but also feeling heard, understood, and valued in those connections.
Finding a balance between solitude and social interaction is key. Engaging in meaningful relationships while also valuing time alone can lead to a more fulfilling life. Recognizing when you need solitude and when to seek out connection is a vital skill for mental well-being.
I like my alone time but equally like being around others. There are people who are alone because they may not connect with people or perhaps be socially awkward and others don’t want to be around them while others can’t be alone.
That’s true !!!
Loneliness is power , tools which we can used !!! God give me everything 🙏💪🔋
Love the video, but I also offer another perspective. I'm a natural introvert. Was seperated from family and raised in foster care since 9 years old. I have always been very comfortable being alone and with myself and even have a degree of social anxiety, feeling like I need to have at least some time alone every day or I'd go nuts.
The downside to this is that me now at 35 years old, I've found it exceedingly difficult to form and maintain relationships. I can't name a single person I've known my entire life that is still with me today, and most people I know now I've only met in the last 15 or so years. I often go days or even weeks at a time without any significant interaction with another person, even online. Life feels hollow, empty, and unbearably lonely. I get crippling bouts of depression where I worry I live the rest of my life completely alone, never to form meaningful friendships or ever have a family of my own. Yes, being able to be comfortable alone with yourself is a virtue, but I also feel like (especially in today's culture), isolation can be a silent killer.
Much love for the video my friend
Yes i understand this a lot, i feel like while there's nothing wrong with being an introvert, i feel like it's very important to have someone in your life, a friend or a partner who you could talk to and share everything with, i feel like as human, we need to have that human connection
The plus side of being 'forever alone' is that you don't have to worry about your wife randomly filing for divorce and taking your kids away or waking up one day and legally throwing you out of your own house because she had a dream where you cheated on her.
You explained my situation perfectly. It's peaceful but also is a silent killer.
I hope you find the people for you. I hope we all do.
i don't understand. are you okay with not interacting with people for days/weeks? it sounds like you're not. you can be an introvert and still crave interactions sometimes. remember that you can text and/or ask to hang out your friends too, you don't have to go down the rabbit hole that you gonna live the rest of your life completely alone.
@@majkel2720that's not true LOL making significant connections as an adult its harder. People form family and spent time with their significant others.
It is good to be yourself. You will feel more free being yourself than being something that you are not.
this! i feel like a HUGE percentage of people are not being themselves, i think that's why i dont enjoy being around people. a lot of fake shit going on these days
Sometimes I wonder if people are using solitude as an excuse not to confront social anxiety. It’s always good to explain the nuance of these things.
We’re not meant to be alone forever.
This is interesting, i feel like there should always be a balance between spending time alone and having a good time with a couple of good friends, you have to be comfortable doing both.
@@nanki4339 everything in moderation
I agree
@@nanki4339agreed. And I enjoy my own solitude but I also get sick of it
Or from a majority of comments I'm seeing, a defense from toxic connections. Solitude and exploring self love and identity are definitely important, but I hope it's a healthy desire rather than a response to the worse out there (and I tell myself this one too)
Im watching this sitting alone in a dark room wishing I could hear someone's voice other than my own. The cure for loneliness is another person not isolation. Trust me
hey! I have so much empathy for you, it’s something understand, but this is a naïve way of thinking about things. that is a short term solution, while allowing yourself to be alone occasionally can help loneliness to be less common. you may be right, but I know that what he’s saying is true for me. as soon as I am alone, I break down, feeling unbearably lonely, however I know that this is due to lack of exposure. if you’re alone most of the time, then yes, I believe you’re right. positive, meaningful human connect may be what you need: but that’s not true for the type of person this video is aimed at. much love
Hi. It's okay :( one day we won't be alone
It sounds like you're going through a tough moment. Loneliness can be really challenging, and it’s completely normal to wish for connection with others. Consider reaching out to a friend or family member, even if it’s just for a quick chat. Sometimes just hearing someone else's voice can make all the difference. If that’s not possible, there are online communities and support groups that can offer connection too. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and there are people who care.
God bless you.
Your work is amazing, your cinematography is incredible, and the morals you preach are phenomenal. Truly inspired me to start filming and get my life together
No better feeling than being lonely/alone at a place you have been years ago with friends that is now abandoned. I think it cured some of the emotional void I would say loneliness is:
We used to have a small place in the woods as kids where we built a little shelter with rocks to sit on and interior like small chairs and stuff.
Now, 10 years later I revisited and had to hack trough thick brush and trees to get there, bur it was worth the thorns and the scratches.
It looked like I had remebred it, only now overgrown and old, but still with a feeling of childish innocence and the dreams we had of building a little cabin in the woods.
It felt nostalgic, but with a huge sense of melancholy and like I abandoned a part of my life in these woods that stayed there for me to revisit one day.
It even got kind of eerie as the sun set down, in a way that I have to abandon this place again, but this time forever.
I still vividly remember the bike ride home, embraced by orange warm sunlight, like I was closing a chapter in my life. I even shed a tear or two, or more.
But now, 3 years later, I still recall this day as a major shift in my life that made me feel less lonely, connecting with my childhood memory.
Same thing, forts in the woods and chairs made in the stone wall at the bus stop. Everyone has moved away. Memories burned in. 50 years ago and still I drift to those days.
nice
There is a flip side to everything. I am a shut-in or what people would call an isolated person. I haven't had a meaningful social interaction or friend in three or four years. What we seek are friendships that meet our needs. It's when the need is not met people have a tendency to withdraw from society whether good or bad
yeah exactly this, most people here don't get it. They just think alone= good, with people= bad. Yeah go and try to be alone for 5 years. Good luck buddy. We, the "aware" people are in minority, I would say only 10-20% of the people are aware, sentient. So yes, we get tired from most of the people, because they are different. But it doesn't mean that the only other choice is complete loneliness. No, we just unfortunately need to try harder than the rest to find people like us. But it's worth it. Having 2-3 GOOD friends that u feel connected to is way way way better than being alone. Quality over quantity.
@@JAKE-ng8yr Yeah I agree but, its a little dehumanizing to see people as NPCs and to be fair some of that behavior comes from deep systemic issues but yeah regardless, I still have to cut people out of my life if they are toxic.
@@derpherp1810 maybe it is but im just saying it feels like they are npcs. Most people can't say anything interesting
@@JAKE-ng8yr I get how you feel, sometimes people be like that but hey being alone helps you understand your values and personality more so that can help you find people.
For me, I know I just need to meet people who align with my political views because generally we share the same values and can have some solidarity in that. For you maybe its a hobby or a career path, but trust me you'll find good people again and even if they leave, all things shall pass even if it takes nearly an eternity.
Your reflections on isolation highlight a fundamental truth about human connection: our relationships are vital to our well-being. It’s understandable that when our needs for companionship and understanding go unmet, we might feel the urge to withdraw. This can lead to a cycle where isolation breeds further loneliness, making it increasingly difficult to reach out for connection.
However, you’re also spot on about the flip side of isolation. In some ways, it can provide an opportunity for introspection, self-discovery, and personal growth. During these periods alone, you can explore your interests, develop new skills, and engage in self-care practices that may not feel possible in a busier social context.
If you're considering finding ways to re-enter social interactions, it might help to think about what specifically you seek in friendships. Are you looking for shared interests, emotional support, or simply someone to talk to? Identifying these needs can guide you toward communities or activities that resonate with you, whether online or locally.
Starting small can be beneficial-perhaps engaging in online communities, local classes, or volunteer opportunities that offer a chance to meet like-minded individuals. Building connections often takes time, but finding even one person who meets some of your needs can make a significant difference.
Remember, it’s okay to take the time you need to understand and express what you're feeling. You’re not alone in experiencing these challenges, and there are paths to fostering connections that feel meaningful to you.
0:57 I love that you added that clip, going for a drive is like mediation, I always take the long way home and have fun getting lost in the city and seeing all the cool little spots that are right there but I had no idea about
i do nearly everything alone and its not uncomfortable or embarrassing, its just sad. ive had my fair share of being alone in the last 3 years of living alone away from my family and friends, and sometimes i just wish i could laugh with someone at the joke i thought of, compliment the food were eating, etc. im fine being alone, but sometimes im so tired of it. i want to share my life, some moments with other people.
Same
Ultimately comfortable. Thank you . I trusted a girl she cheated me , trusted a friend lied to me . This makes me embrace solitude
Been living in South Korea for 5.5 years, made zero friends, always alone and never feel lonely
It is very true. I embraced solitude couple years ago and it really did improve resilience, awareness and reflection as well as understanding of myself, facing my emotions and regrets head on and it did bring about a strange and unexpected clarity and recovery. Havnt dived into new hobbies or activities so I think it an element for me it wasn’t needed.
It also gave me a lot of growth and maturity and inner peace as well as mastery over emotions but above all an egoless state.
I am 17 and i don't have lots of friends just 1 or 3 but 1 friend who is close to my heart but
I care about her she doesn't; i used to get hurt but now i stop expecting from her , she goes outside with her another friends , she doesn't even call me , she call me when she need me , but i stop caring .
But yesterday she again went outside with her friend , and they are also my friends and i got hurt , i cried over night i don't know why sometimes its really hurt but it's okay i am not gonna expect anymore i will never , and i will not go with them ; i will enjoy my company , i will go alone outside its not loneliness its solitude and i love to be myself .
Your video is soo great , it's gets me on high level of energy >>>
Love from India ♡
This exactly happened to me when I was younger. Now I don't care if I do not have any friends. I enjoy my own company.
You are on the right track, do not chase after friends. Let her disappear from your life, she is not a good friend 💕
@@old-soul thank for your reply it's makes me feel good 😄
"You don't need a distraction from the silence" beautiful quote
i'm not kidding when i say this is what i actually need to hear rn. this is my new favourite video to rewatch whenever i felt lonely. thank you for making this video !! :)
Sup,didnt watched the video cus im not in the phylosofical mood, just came here to tell that i"ve been lonely for the most time of my life, and after years and years and years of suffering, i feel more alive than ever and i still lonely asf, you dont need anyone, yourself is more than enough and im so happy whit it
At 72 and being a hermit brought the realization that words read are spoken by a voice inside my head. This same voice recites words I think. Thinking is a 24 hour daily prayer. Should thinking prayer be about past regrets or about desires for the present. There is a need to trust and be trusted. A need to love and be loved. We are what we think and pray.
Thank you
A lot off people are desperately lonley and have no friends.. lonelienss is not always a choice , easy to look at your life and say oh just embrace loneliness when you ahve all the social resources you need and dont struggle with desperate painful loneliness that literally causes brain ddamage
Omg. This video actually has help me realize that I thought surrounding myself with people will help with my social anxiety which will but also need go outside by myself and stop worry if the neighbors are judging me. Which they are not but my thoughts like tell they are. I need to do things by myself and also do things with those that I’m not use to.
If you rock and stone... you're never alone!
I genuinely feel as if im drowning in the ocean .. theres so many creatures in there with me ..but i feel like im drifting far out alone.
THIS!
"When you are alone you are not lonely"... Helped a lot for infinite loneliness... It does not help...
Spot on. Very true. Thank you. 🙏💖💐
I moved from a city of millions and lots of social interactions and distractions to the countryside in a different country with very little social interactions and much silence. It has enriched the connection to myself tremendously and gave me many new perspectives on life while experiencing a lot more moments of mindfullness. I dont feel lonely often, being blessed with friends I call regularly, I still feel connected to people.
There's a big difference between choosing to spend time alone and not having an option
generally speaking,
I loathe and despise people.
my rage is murderous.
may all those whom I loathe
suffer for all eternity,
for what they've done to me.
hey man, this video is brilliant. recently ive been seeking validation from other constantly and spending time alone literally means loneliness in my mind.
I feel like I'm the exact opposite of this. I often feel more lonely around people than I do by myself
"True growth comes in times when you are alone by yourself […] stop searching for comfort in others, embrace the silence and find happiness in yourself." That's a beautiful quote
As an introvert who loves solitude. Sometimes i get lonely for needing too much solitude and also get overwhelmed when i am forced into being too social.
I didnt know extrovert can also feel lonely even when surrounded by people, its just you trying to find your sense of belonging. I always thought, wow extroverts are good at making a huge ton of friends, they seem so successful. Never knew extrovert wished they also could a little introvert and not always needing social connection. Its like in the end spectrum of being anxious(extrovert) and avoidant(introvert).
The term for that is Omnivert.
I just feel like I’m stuck. I just feel like I’m not moving forward and I’m stuck in this weird point in life. I also feel that if I try to do something new I’m just going be a dreadful constant loop that I’m not happy in. I really feel that deep down I want feel free and not trapped on the inside. Feels good to vent. lol probably should see a therapist.
I have friends all right, but sometimes I want some alone time to myself like a whole day. The only problem is that they dont quite really like leaving me alone by myself in school. Watching this video has given me the courage and idea to tell my friends that I want to spend some time alone, to get my inner peace. Remembering those times when I was alone felt very peaceful, and I miss that.
This video is exactly what i needed ! all my friends betrayed me , going through breakup phase and the worst that can happen is my ocd got triggered again , anxiety, depression, I can’t spend time alone with myself with all the negative thoughts. Im trying to enjoy and embrace this feeling of solitude still haven’t managed to overcome this loneliness but im trying !!!!
Omg you made my day!
Please keep posting more! We really enjoy your content and vids🩷🩷🩷🦢
Thank you so much for the kind words! :))
I really enjoy making these, so definitely more to come.
This video is exactly opposite of what i expected it to be
This is what David Goggins talks about when he says that he hates running, (like how we hate being alone)but once he’s out there tapping into the core of self, having only himself to rely upon in his darkest and most desperate hours, that’s when everything melts away and all of the pain, the unknown answers and plaguing worries become the most clear and rewarding answers.
love how the video and the audio are two different messages that complement each other
Being alone to me is one of the greatest feelings I have ever experienced, there's a huge room I provide to my ownself, everytime I am alone I feel not so lonley cuz I got myself, spend most of my time by writing some short articles, reading some books, when I go out that means there's an important stuffs that I have to do and I have to be out, but as long as it doesn't need to be out I'd love to be spending time with myself, being alone is so good, I can't even say much, huffff Im blessed❤.
I don't mind being alone, I in face like it. But sometimes I wish I had someone close
I was sobbing throughout this whole video, this has truly opened my eyes.
Thank you so much for this you beautiful European man. The cinematography is perfect btw. You can be so lonely in a world full of people. Took the time to watch a movie by myself, and not my girlfriend, and have felt so rejuvenated.
I spend a lot of time alone and I like that, and I have people I care for that care also for me, but I feel like my mind is so different and no one will ever understand me, that I don’t feel connected properly to anyone, not even my parents whom I love deeply and who support a lot. I have several mental health issues all arising from a rather higher IQ than normal and they make me feel like I exist only in my head and the material is a different realm (to varying degrees), and no one understands me. I intend to pursue the arts (art, music, literature, theatre…) and astronomy and physics and I have great ambitions. I am no genius is maths (though I do find it quite fascinating), but if I feel something, I might ask myself why and immediately I know the answer, and as for why that answer is that answer I know that too. I can see what and why things are happening, I just see it, but other people don’t and they are blinded by their own view. I can imagine each perspective clearly and observe it from a person’s point and I see a reason in why they think and act a certain way (even if I totally disagree, but others can’t seem to be able to see, and most don’t see I can. I so deeply wish to express myself and my appreciation for genuineness and nature and art and hatred for cold artificialness with someone receiving my expressions and understanding them and agreeing with me, but it seems there’s no one there, or at least not for long. It makes me feel so incredibly alone, and all these great people who have come before me, might touch me greatly and make me relate and compare, but now and where I am, I feel entirely alone.
What an amazing video, got a long story of going to Jamaica on a whim and everyone doubting me, little did I know it would lead to me being lonely as soon after my relationship ended and people close to me didn't see the vision I had and was persuing... Fast forward to now Jamaica has been a turning point in my life, I was at a very low point in my life and wanted to really give up but my community kept me motivated!
NEVER GIVE UP ON ANY DREAMS as wild as they may seem.
thank you for this. i've never subscribed someone after watching 1 video until today.
I cannot believe that this video made me miss myself!
I very much agree with you. Instead of running away from solitude, lets find ways to enjoy the person we are alone with, so we wont feel lonely but content.
Did move to the UK for one year after loosing someone I truly loved and being on my own many times helped a lot
Thanks for sharing ❤
I get to much from this one as a solo traveler and now I have trouble to talk to new people lmao. Have a good balance guys, don't get so much with yourself, social life is important to! . Amazing content g, love the message.
As someone who spends a lot of time alone it's really nice to realize that I have explored and learned so much about my self and the world, and done this already
that field is beautiful
Really glad you came up on my home page. Great thoughts, and this is shot in a very lovely way. Can’t wait to watch more. Cheers
That shot at 1:55 is beautiful
When i was about 18-19 i was sitting alone on the couch in my apartment. I had texted all my friends from highschool (we all had recently graduated that year) and they were all busy. This was one of the first times i was truly unable to be around anyone. I took a moment and had a revelation: that is what life is. Being with ourselves, exploring our inner thoughts, finding who we truly are, and cherishing those moments when it’s just you and god.
If you can master comfort in those moments, you’ll never truly be alone.
I pretty much only am able to cry when I am alone, and it's a comforting feeling being able to let out emotions without having anyone else know.
Great words, and great cinematography. You have what it takes to reach the minds of the lost people, keep it up!
I don't really need anybody,s company I am really fine by myself every where I go I am by myself
There's a difference between seeking comfort in others and ALWAYS seeking comfort in others. Our relationships and connections help us, we can understand ourselves better through connecting and relating with the close people in our life. I think instead of solely trying to have alone time, what we need to do is to try and find a balance between alone time and time with others.
Being alone can be expensive
bro I really need a hug from someone I'm no more good
you're videos always pop up on my recommended at the right time
im the other way around, I hide away from everyone especially when anxious. I like it, its nice being alone
There is no friendship without dependence upon another. Its just these days, so few are truly dependable.
love this!
Yes this is true. But there comes a time you need to socialize. But the problem is, people are too busy.
While learning to enjoy nature, solitude, and one's own company is important, it's not healthy to be on the other extreme, where you do nothing with other people. Both can be enjoyed, but as Christopher McCandless put it on his deathbed, "Happiness only real when shared".
Long term loneliness saps the confidence and you become so socially paralised that little or no change can be made...
As Christian’s the We are called to isolate from the world and seek God, reject worldly pleasures, and away from the noise of the city to more easily find God! It’s nice having this relationship
I LOVE alone time… when I was younger and mentally ill I never spent a single second alone. That was one big way I realized I had healed.
I’ve said it once and i’ll say it again - you really have a gift making videoes Rolands! Amazing shots, captivating story and a beautiful message - the thought of loneliness can be scary, but being alone dosen’t necessarily mean being lonely. I’ve struggled alot with this and I really try to embrace the enjoyment of being alone since your the only person your gonna be with 100% for the rest of your life. I still have a long way to go, but remember guys, one small step at a time :)
Really excited to follow your journey Rolands! Keep it up my man! Much love to everyone from Denmark ❤
this channel helps me a lot in english, thank you for subtitle. this channel to healing and learning
i don´t really care about being lonely alone, but be lonely around people.
you know a girl just asked me for my insta ,and i confronted the girl i was currently interested in about this. I already felt like i had nobody ,but this really cleared things up greatly. This is a lifestyle. This video was helpful thank you for this.
I love this video! But I also know that being alone too much makes you too independent. I love being alone and having time for myself but it has given me the perspective that I don't need help and I'm better off alone which is quite wrong. Be alone but still maintain and develop relationships.
I've lived the wrong kind of lonely life for 1 year and an half. It got me hard, now I am currently recovering, trying to socialize a bit, meet people and friends before starting to experience loneliness again.
it got you hard?
how are you making friends?
I’m never more alone than when surrounded by people I know
Love from Taiwan! I’m feel deeply about your description of loneliness.❤
I really need to hear what you said 🌱
I loved this video already, then he whipped out CSGO and then bouldering, this man knows how to live.
i cant explain how much i needed this advice. thank you, truly.
Bra video! Ett viktigt meddelande i dagens samhälle.
The visuals are so aesthetic that I had to watch the video 2 times because the first time I didn't pay attention to the talking the first time
My partner is gone completely for 2 weeks and I've never felt more alone, but I think this video is just what I needed to start being comfortable with that. I think that I'm going to start appreciating solitude a little bit more
I don't mind being alone. I do however mind being bored. That's just life with ADHD. We need constant stimulation so our brain could function effectively.
Personal struggles made me "isolate" at first, but looking back - it was the greatest thing. Otherwise, I honestly don't think I could've experienced such inner growth, learned to reprogram my mind, and adopt a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. Feeling full when you're alone is priceless. But it did raise my standards for other people immeasurably, which makes it difficult to enjoy most company. Good thing that at the end of the day, I always have myself though :) loved the message and cinematography you've shared!