Here's the thing... you don't "lose" your identity, you create your identity. You're creating your identity every day by how u think of yourself and the world. You simply changed and possibly grew as a person that's all, or lost your path which is okay just remember you change your identity every moment you make a new decision
42 years old two grown children.. I have no idea who I am anymore. I know things need to change… drastically! I was always competitive, driven, purposeful… now I have no idea! 🤷🏼♀️ I have tried on several occasions to reinvent but I have lost self esteem! So much self esteem! Small steps from now on x
Plenty of time, my friend. Get out there and try the things that interest you. Even though it may take time, we are goal-driven beings! Without it, we become lost. Small steps add up!
Getting as healthy as possible and doing things like breathwork can really help. Nick said it well that we overly place our identity on certain things. I do it myself as a teacher. Other things need to enter the equation. Hobbies help. Reigniting the inner spark is tough but it's on us to dig deep and bring it about. You've got this!
Needed to hear this tonight, I have to be kinder to myself and stop dragging myself down for not «measuring up» to what I have previously been. I need to be me, not what I was.
I used to think so much differently to what i do now. My passion, drive, my mind along with other things have gone. I had a short period where i discovered drugs and had a 6 month binge and i haven't been the same since. I miss who i was before, i felt excitement about meeting new people and reaching my goals, i actually wanted to be better and enjoyed it. It felt like i was leveling up in a video game and i loved it but now it feels like a chore and i can't do it. I feel like i'm grieving a loved one and it hurts so much.
I love this… thanks for sharing Nick! So weird I came across your video because I was in the CrossFit space for awhile myself - owned a couple of gyms. Didn’t grow up an athlete like you, but was in the space long enough to identify with it from an athletic and professional level. I started to deal with fatigue and other odd health issues that made me take a step back completely. I miss who I was physically, but I keep telling myself that even though I don’t know who I am or where I’m going, the “good ol days” don’t have to be behind me. I don’t know what’s next, and what level of fitness needs to keep being part of my journey in the future… but either way I really appreciate your perspective. If you can have been at the Games level and still found your way back as a different athlete/member, then maybe there’s a chance I can redefine myself if I go back without feeling like I need to meet standards again. I just figured the temptation to fall back to my old ways and be driven by ego would be too big that I should probably find a new fitness outlet altogether. Anyway, looking forward to checking out your other content!
I appreciate you checking this one out! Having been through the ups and downs after hanging up the competition shoes, it’s helped develop a different perspective. It’s taken me a long time to find purpose in other areas and it’s something I still struggle with in a sense today. I’ve found a lot of purpose in living a life like I would imagine God would want. I really miss the adrenaline I get from high pressure situations in sports, but there are many similarities I’ve found in other areas of life that help that fulfillment. At the end of the day, it’s a work in progress, but my identity can no longer be in worldly things and must be greater than myself. Again, I appreciate you watching and I hope to have given you a perspective you can take with you on your walk.
I’m in my 4th year of self loss. All drive has gone, no longer have any desires and it’s affecting my relationships. I would love to be me again. I’ve got stupider, angrier and I don’t even want to be around me. What is the first step that you think may help to find a positive goal?
I hate to hear it. That’s a tough situation but it is possible to overcome it. The approach I like to teach with people I work with is you have to reinvent yourself. It starts with the process of changing your thoughts, beliefs about yourself, and honestly, your expectations. When you get into such a low point, your expectations change and you can start to expect less of yourself. It’s tough to see forward when you get in such a debilitating position. One of the simplest things you can do is start working out. There are so many earned dopamine hits through working out and you can always lay your head down knowing you took care of yourself. You gotta break out of the cycle you’re currently in with something that will pull you out. Second, I’d start to fill your mind with some sort of positive input. A book, a podcast, an inspirational movie, anything that will start to reframe your mind that possibilities are up to you. You have to change your environment and your environment starts with your inputs. What you eat, what you listen to, who you admire or look to for guidance. Be patient with the outcome of the process, but create daily urgency of doing the things you need to do to change your environment. Visualize becoming someone wildly different. A more equipped, 2.0 version of yourself.
You didn't lose your identity you just had a change in circumstance. If you had lost your identity sports and competition would no longer interest you because that was a key part of your identity.
My identity was in being an athlete. Training, recovery, performing in the event, etc. Sports and competition were components of that. Change in circumstance forced reinvention. Identity reinvented from “athlete” to “competitor.”
I got a divorce after 42 years. I've been on my own for little over year. I'm at a lost I dont even know what I like to eat or cook. I've been taking care of someone else that I don't know who I am any more
I hate to hear that you're going through it right now. Stay on it though, things get better. Keep working toward learning more about yourself. Be patient through this process, as painful as it is. You'll come out the other side a brand new person. Keep going.
@NickTShelton thank you so much. I've learning to take it slow. It took 42 years to get here it's going to take longer than a year to get better. Thank you.
I also got a divorce and it does leave a void, there is no doubt about it. Little over a year? The same. I do recommend cooking basic things like mushrooms, garlic and onions or eating leafy greens. Really invest in healthy eating. Sure, overcoming the void takes more than that but it's a great start. Breathwork also slows you down and gets you more in touch with yourself. Show yourself that you can summon the inner strength to get things done. Have trust/faith.
I’m in the “is this really me” stage.
It’s a bummer not even REALIZING I lost myself, and didn’t know. Try finding yourself at 72 yrs old! 🤷♀️
It’s never too late.
it’s ok, as long as you’re living and still moving you can change ❤😂
@@dylanchua3579I mean, you do have a point lol
Identity is a load , mostly hoarded. Keep it light.
Here's the thing... you don't "lose" your identity, you create your identity. You're creating your identity every day by how u think of yourself and the world. You simply changed and possibly grew as a person that's all, or lost your path which is okay just remember you change your identity every moment you make a new decision
42 years old two grown children.. I have no idea who I am anymore. I know things need to change… drastically! I was always competitive, driven, purposeful… now I have no idea! 🤷🏼♀️ I have tried on several occasions to reinvent but I have lost self esteem! So much self esteem! Small steps from now on x
Plenty of time, my friend. Get out there and try the things that interest you. Even though it may take time, we are goal-driven beings! Without it, we become lost. Small steps add up!
Getting as healthy as possible and doing things like breathwork can really help. Nick said it well that we overly place our identity on certain things. I do it myself as a teacher. Other things need to enter the equation. Hobbies help. Reigniting the inner spark is tough but it's on us to dig deep and bring it about. You've got this!
Needed to hear this tonight, I have to be kinder to myself and stop dragging myself down for not «measuring up» to what I have previously been. I need to be me, not what I was.
I used to think so much differently to what i do now. My passion, drive, my mind along with other things have gone. I had a short period where i discovered drugs and had a 6 month binge and i haven't been the same since. I miss who i was before, i felt excitement about meeting new people and reaching my goals, i actually wanted to be better and enjoyed it. It felt like i was leveling up in a video game and i loved it but now it feels like a chore and i can't do it. I feel like i'm grieving a loved one and it hurts so much.
I love this… thanks for sharing Nick! So weird I came across your video because I was in the CrossFit space for awhile myself - owned a couple of gyms. Didn’t grow up an athlete like you, but was in the space long enough to identify with it from an athletic and professional level. I started to deal with fatigue and other odd health issues that made me take a step back completely. I miss who I was physically, but I keep telling myself that even though I don’t know who I am or where I’m going, the “good ol days” don’t have to be behind me. I don’t know what’s next, and what level of fitness needs to keep being part of my journey in the future… but either way I really appreciate your perspective. If you can have been at the Games level and still found your way back as a different athlete/member, then maybe there’s a chance I can redefine myself if I go back without feeling like I need to meet standards again. I just figured the temptation to fall back to my old ways and be driven by ego would be too big that I should probably find a new fitness outlet altogether. Anyway, looking forward to checking out your other content!
I appreciate you checking this one out! Having been through the ups and downs after hanging up the competition shoes, it’s helped develop a different perspective. It’s taken me a long time to find purpose in other areas and it’s something I still struggle with in a sense today. I’ve found a lot of purpose in living a life like I would imagine God would want. I really miss the adrenaline I get from high pressure situations in sports, but there are many similarities I’ve found in other areas of life that help that fulfillment. At the end of the day, it’s a work in progress, but my identity can no longer be in worldly things and must be greater than myself. Again, I appreciate you watching and I hope to have given you a perspective you can take with you on your walk.
I’m in my 4th year of self loss. All drive has gone, no longer have any desires and it’s affecting my relationships. I would love to be me again. I’ve got stupider, angrier and I don’t even want to be around me.
What is the first step that you think may help to find a positive goal?
I hate to hear it. That’s a tough situation but it is possible to overcome it. The approach I like to teach with people I work with is you have to reinvent yourself. It starts with the process of changing your thoughts, beliefs about yourself, and honestly, your expectations. When you get into such a low point, your expectations change and you can start to expect less of yourself. It’s tough to see forward when you get in such a debilitating position.
One of the simplest things you can do is start working out. There are so many earned dopamine hits through working out and you can always lay your head down knowing you took care of yourself. You gotta break out of the cycle you’re currently in with something that will pull you out.
Second, I’d start to fill your mind with some sort of positive input. A book, a podcast, an inspirational movie, anything that will start to reframe your mind that possibilities are up to you.
You have to change your environment and your environment starts with your inputs. What you eat, what you listen to, who you admire or look to for guidance.
Be patient with the outcome of the process, but create daily urgency of doing the things you need to do to change your environment. Visualize becoming someone wildly different. A more equipped, 2.0 version of yourself.
Thank you Nick. for a long time i have tied my self worth to being an MD and the longer it didn't happen the more worthless i felt! Thank you sir.
Proud of you and your growth, my friend. Keep it up!
Legendary video in my opinion
I appreciate you fam 🙏🏼
Thank you Nick. this was the need of the our for me. I will do my soul searching and reflection and get back soon.
Good luck, my friend. Reach out with any questions.
Hows it going?
Thank you sooo much brother💕💗God bless you
You got it 🫡 and may God bless you
I felt as if i was part of a group. That is one thing i lost.
Try loosing yourself at 25!! Our younger selves remember who we are why can’t our older selves remember!
You didn't lose your identity you just had a change in circumstance. If you had lost your identity sports and competition would no longer interest you because that was a key part of your identity.
My identity was in being an athlete. Training, recovery, performing in the event, etc. Sports and competition were components of that.
Change in circumstance forced reinvention.
Identity reinvented from “athlete” to “competitor.”
Thank you, this was very helpful.
Thanks for watching - glad you liked it
I got a divorce after 42 years. I've been on my own for little over year. I'm at a lost I dont even know what I like to eat or cook. I've been taking care of someone else that I don't know who I am any more
I hate to hear that you're going through it right now. Stay on it though, things get better. Keep working toward learning more about yourself. Be patient through this process, as painful as it is. You'll come out the other side a brand new person. Keep going.
@NickTShelton thank you so much. I've learning to take it slow. It took 42 years to get here it's going to take longer than a year to get better. Thank you.
@@Oma4317 Love the mindset - it's not overnight, but it's on the horizon.
I also got a divorce and it does leave a void, there is no doubt about it. Little over a year? The same. I do recommend cooking basic things like mushrooms, garlic and onions or eating leafy greens. Really invest in healthy eating. Sure, overcoming the void takes more than that but it's a great start. Breathwork also slows you down and gets you more in touch with yourself. Show yourself that you can summon the inner strength to get things done. Have trust/faith.
Thank you man ❤
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Thank you
Thank you for watching
Thank you 😢
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Thank you nick!
Thanks for watching, Kavin!
Bro I really like boxing and working out that's the best way to know a better me lol thanks bro
Thanks 👍
Come on januban
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