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Haters are going to hate. Don’t you dare stop sharing recipes! Ashley you’re the reason I have found my love for cooking again. I love watching you guys share your life and positivity
First off I could listen to you talk all day,for me your voice is very soothing! I am 60 years old and your confession today hit home with me more than you realize. I am very body conscience and today I will try something new, like not have a bulky sweater on to cover up when my husband gets home from work. I know it isn’t much for some but for me it will be big. Fingers crossed that I can do it! Love your family so much!
I cannot explain to you the amount that I understand your mind set on your body I have been working so hard on being comfortable in my body and it’s so hard! So happy you are getting to a place you feel happy and comfortable with just being you!
I literally just turned 22. currently living with my boyfriends parents. trying desperately to find a house of our own. & knowing that our family will start when the time is right.. THE TWO OF YOU INSPIRE ME! 💗 I have been following your journey for so long that you guys feel like a distant aunt/uncle to me that I WISH I could see more of. You may not see it yourself, but the BOTH OF YOU are some of the strongest, bravest, purest, most wonderful souls that I have been blessed to stumble across. In my opinion, you guys are doing a wonderful job raising G & J into becoming the warmest of people. Thank you for sharing your lives with us & being so open & vulnerable at times. Keep continuing to grow 💕🌻💫
First off, Ashley, can I just tell you, you’re one of my favorite people ever!!! ❤️❤️ It feels kinda weird to say that, because I only know you through a vlog, and you have no idea who I am. You are such a good and genuine person, and I admire you so much for it. I’ve never wanted kids, but if I ever do have them, I hope to be half the mom you are ❤️ I’ve been following you guys for almost 2 years now, and the amount of growth I’ve seen you guys go through is amazing to say the least. Your monologue made me tear up because I’m so happy that you’re learning to be happy with yourself and you’re striving to be a better person. And not for society or because of peer pressure or because you feel somehow inadequate, but because you love who you are and want to be an even better version of yourself for you and your family. With that frame of mind I wish you the best of luck and have faith you’ll reach your goals with no problem!! I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety for over 15 years now, and I really do look up to you. For several months now, my peace and decompression time is watching you guys (and a few other pages) while listening to music after work. I’m a pharmacy technician, so I’ve been at work throughout all of quarantine, and It’s been absolutely physically and mentally exhausting. I can’t even put into words how much you guys mean to me, and how many nights you’ve been the only ray of light in my day. I really want to say thank you so much for doing what you guys do. Also, don’t you dare let anyone discourage you from cooking!! I love the blog so far, and can’t wait to see what you share next!!! I love to cook and bake too!! I burn stuff all the time, over-salt the crap out of stuff sometimes, and recently made biscuits that could double as baseballs, but practice makes perfect, right? As long as you’re food is always made with love, that’s the only thing that matters!!! And One more thing. I really hope I’m not overstepping my bounds, but I feel like you guys should move to St. George!!! You’re ALWAYS saying how beautiful it is, and how much you love the weather. I know Dallin wants to live near the mountains for snowboarding, but I think for right now, and with how old the kids are, your family would be happier in St. George. I know you guys just bought this house, and Ashley, you’ve put so much love and effort into your garden, but to have “happy warm-weather Ashley” for 10 out of 12 months a year, think of the beautiful garden you could have in St. George with all the warm weather flowers!!! Plus St. George has great spots to take the Razer out, and with it being so warm, you won’t really have to put it away for the winter months. And think of all the camping/hiking possibilities!!! Anyways, like I said, I hope I didn’t overstep my bounds. I hope you guys have a wonderful blessed day, and again, thank you so much for doing what you do!! Y’all are wonderful 😘
First of all... you are awesome just the way you are. It takes a lot to acknowledge you want to make changes for YOU. It will stick. You will be more successful. It is so easy to get hung up in what others think. I get sad sometimes but at the end of the day I judge myself on how well I did in my set goals. I will be the one who will benefit by the success, Not the ones who judge. I deal with an issue that is one of a health diagnosis that affects most of my daily activity. I have learned that those who are quick to comment don’t really want to take time to understand or know what I am about. This is how I came to realize all that I do to improve myself is for me. It benefits others but the actions I put into the improvement is for my well being. I mark on my calendar the positive thing( or multiple things) I did to get me to my set goals. It is a solid reminder of where I started and what my journey has been to date. It keeps me honest in my adventure of change. It is like a badge of achievement too. It helps you learn to speak of the positives and focus less attention on the negative. I wish you well in your new changes. On the Calendar (or journal) Be sure to write “ I walked around the house in my underwear and it was AWESOME! 😂🙌🏻🙌🏻As far as your cooking..... wow...... be proud of what you share! You got up, planned a meal, shared it and maybe made a difference to someone. Who cares about the folks who take time to share their negativity. Keep cooking and vlogging from the Dashley kitchen! One last observation.... in the beginning of the video you talked about getting your kiddos out into the wild. To make them more resilient, have them exposed to different things, challenge their thinking, etc... etc.... etc.. YOU did that. You all survived and had a great day. You went back the second day more prepared and reaped the benefits. Just as you wanted. Doubt happens to us all. Our own self awareness and negative thoughts consume us. Just continue to be forward thinking when those times seem overwhelming. Your goals will be met. I am on year 54 of finding the perfect version of me. Every year it gets better and better through all the struggles and triumphs. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It just shows us how real you are. ❤️
Ashley, I could relate to the heart thoughts that you shared so much. I am about 10 years past 30, yet I still remember so vividly "not walking that fast" in life. My kids are 8 and 13 now, and in this stage we are all running together as a family! It does feel good and you will get there too! In the last year, I have put myself first like never before. It felt weird at first, but the kids are still alive and they are my biggest cheerleaders. I do at home workouts now and became a coach for a company that makes the workout programs and products that I use. I finally found something that I can do. I just show up and press play (which can be hard enough on some days!). I hope you find what works for you on your journey, and I am happy to share more with you if you like. Oh, and I also live near the desert and yes a pavilion is life out here!!!!
Long time follower here! You've really been on quite the internal journey of cultivating yourself each day and it is lovely to see and hear your thoughts as you find who you are. I appreciate your transparency, it's one of the things I really love about ya guys! Just as you are transparent, I hope you can appreciate my own transparency on something you said.
Fat does not = ugly.
It saddens me that that thinking still is prevalent in today's age. That may be the best part to start in evaluating yourself and growing. It sounds as though there is an internal struggle in your base identity. It's been my experience that when one finds their own identity in who, what, why they are the way they are there is a beautiful reconciliation of facts vs. falsehoods. An example; There has to be a point in your life when someone or an experience led you to believe that the measure of weight determined your beauty (worth). You seem like a reasonable kind woman who I don't think would judge an average looking person who may be on the heftier side. Based on that thinking, I would ponder internally why it is a measure for yourself?
Again, I really appreciate you guys and am really encouraged by your ability to open up dialog with your viewers about these type of conversations.
I have to say that I absolutely 100% appreciate the "monologue" as you called it, Ashley! That is the stuff that gets all of us thinking about our own lives and what we really need to be feeling and/or what we need to be figuring out for our own lives! It's important to know these things about ourselves and others we spend our life with! However, it is so much easier to just let it keep getting away from us than to forge ahead and make our dreams of happiness a reality for ourselves! So thank you Ashley for that great talk and for putting yourself out there for me/us to learn from and grow from this kind of talk. I know to you it doesn't feel the same because you're talking to a camera but for me/us, we feel like we know you and that we are just having a conversation with a best friend that we're visiting! So thank you for this!
I loved your Ashley Monologue SO MUCH! You are such a beautiful soul and are so courageous for being so vulnerable with your viewers. So many of us can relate.
Also- James is ALWAYS a mood!
You are teaching your children how to live life together and for themselves all at the same time!! The fact that you want to better yourself is amazing and just adds to being a great parent and spouse. I LOVE the food blog- please don’t stop it! I’ve always envied how smart you are when it comes to substitutions and recipes! Thank you for being so vulnerable and showing us what reflection looks like for you. Keep your head up and get stronger! Proud of you!!! Also- Dallin... don’t leave your wife and kids in the desert 😂
Ashley I am in such a similar state of mind in terms of being honest with myself about what makes me happy and what my dreams are and how to achieve those while still being the best mom I can be. Hearing you speak your truth was so empowering and relatable and inspiring. I ended up making a list of goals and dreams after watching this and was shocked how many were on there! I bet we could all benefit from really being honest with ourselves about what makes us happy without the burden of codependency and obligation with those around us. What a perfectly timed message for me. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE start doing some more vlogs where we get to see you(both of course) pursuing your personal happiness. Love from New Jersey!
Ashley....You are SOOO on the right track by each of you following your own dreams and needs. I was a lifeguard for many years. One of the first things that you learn, while training, is to make sure you are OK and safe before you attempt to save someone else.
That life lesson has stuck with me! I apply it to so many aspects of my life. I am a mom, grandmother, and sixth grade classroom teacher. In all of those things, I have to be okay with myself before I can lead others. You are being so thoughtful about it! That is half the battle! I love watching your little family grow! Dream on! 🥰
Girl !!! ❤️ Your candor here made me tear up. You are brave and authentic and a wonderful, responsible & playful mama! Your kids and their early speech and comprehension are a testament to that! Don’t overthink it too much.(I blame the quarantine). Wild & free homeschooling in the desert with 2 dogs in the heat is wayyyyy overrated. Your kids are already being raised wild & free. You are a creative cooker/baker, serve healthy meals, get them involved and you guys always put your kids first! You & hubby can grow together and still each have separate interests. I think it’s great that you want to have some time to yourself walking your dogs before the kids day begins. You look fabulous! (like a teen mom). Just focus on eating healthy, getting proper rest & everything else will fall into place. Love your videos & all the realism. SO refreshing to see on TH-cam. 👍😊
love that you shared your heart. we all have times we question things, and you are in the public eye and it must be hard to FIND who you are.. Bless you
I think it is so great that you are working on your marriage with help from a counselor. My husband and I went to premarital counseling before we were even engaged and it helped us work out a lot of things that would become issues to work through in our marriage. We have 4 children and are super happy but by all means far from perfect! Some things I have really loved about my marriage is that we are not each others sole source of happiness. I don't get my fulfillment from my husband I get it from God. He's the same and that takes off soooo much pressure for us to have to be perfect. I'm not responsible to complete him in every way and I wasn't created to. We've got a God shaped hole and we can try to fill it with a spouse and kids... career...money... hobbies, and it may cause happiness temporarily but life isn't perfect and neither are people so something is bound to go wrong at times. If you find your happiness and fulfillment in things and those things let you down or fail in some way, it's completely devastating. The best thing you can do for your marriage is throw out expectations that your spouse is responsible to fulfill you and complete you in everyday. That hole was put there by the creator to be filled by him. When you get your tank filled by the only one who can, you give your spouse a lot more grace and don't we all need grace. You give your kids more grace and your friends and co-workers. Isn't it great not having to try to be perfect all the time and giving yourself some grace too? You are doing great.
Thank you for being a real and honest couple who shares with us! My husband and I have only been married a year and are missionaries who are living in Guatemala (currently stuck and can't visit family in the US because of coronavirus) and I have been trying to find my purpose and passion. He builds houses and I will go help everytime there is a build, but when that isn't happening I am at home. It's hard not to feel useless since I don't have a "job" here, and I am trying to get past that mental fight. I appreciate your words and videos so much!
I love you Dashley Family! I have no idea how I stumbled upon your videos, but I have been watching since being put on quarantine back in March. You both inspire me to be a better father and more of a “family man.” Ashley, your monologue was beautiful. God bless you both for sharing your journey.
Sweetie, that disgusting feeling I've felt for years and I'm 64 HOWEVER, I've opened up more and have had wonderful friends that keeps my self esteem up.... It's not their responsibility but ya, sometimes you need a little love. You two are also can make dreams and actually they could come true. Don't give up dreams, communicate, and continue to walk forward with prayer... Hugs to all of you!! Love you!
You’re such a great inspiration for others. I’m pregnant with our first child and I am so excited and scared and happy. Lol. Your vlogs make me excited for our families future. God bless you and you beautiful family.
Thank you for sharing this and it was refreshing to relate to. As a newly wed I have been trying to navigate my anxiety with my spouse, and learning how to communicate without shutting down, and more importantly knowing when to ask for help. Working out helps me feel strong, knowing I am healing myself just by taking that time to focus solely on me. But I too struggle with body image and need for perfection. This comes with my inner voice of " I can workout tomorrow" or " I need to workout or else I'm not good enough". I try to balance this with yoga at home vs. more targeted workouts at the gym depending on my mental health that day. I've been trying to pay more attention to my mental health through the day as it ebbs and flows.
As a couple we are too trying to find that balance of our independant goals with mutual respect, and not doing things just because they are expected of us on some societal timeline.
You guys are amazing parents and amazing people ❤
Yall have inspired me and my family to be a more fulfilling family, not sweat the big stuff, and to spend as much time together. After watching your videos, i decided to quit my job and spent as much time as i could with our 4 year old before he starts school this fall. Thank you Ashley for helping me be a more patient and all around better mom!! We love y'all all the way from Tennessee!
This was so meaningful to me! I’m entering a new stage where my kids are grown and it’s more my husband and I. I love your advice to follow your dreams and do what makes you happy but doing it together and being mindful of your partner’s dreams. I find that if your relationship is strong you end up wanting the same things just with different spins on things! I truly love watching you guys each day and seeing your kids grow... ive never commented before but I’ve watched you forever!! You guys are just some genuine good peeps! Thx for letting us join you on the journey of life!
Oh and love yourself, even love your new you. You earned it. Carrying and having those babies is a gift and so is the body the transformed for us. I honestly had a good figure and always was self conscious I wasn't good enough, but after kids I felt the same if not worse, but then one day I realized.... I wasted so much time being negative and not focusing on the good. I have a tummy now, I have the love around me. Why not have love for myself within?! So I focused on that self love and if I wanted cookies.... So be it, but also did those adjustments to encourage more self care.... I too put time back into walking my dogs and one thing led to another and I am stronger for it. Mentally and physically. So yes, do you!!! Your a momma, a wife, but your Ashley first. Don't stop those recipes!
I cannot explain how much your vlog has changed my life. You guys help me spiritually and emotionally. You are also so humble and have the best ideas. Everyone has been where you are. I am right now. But this video certainly came at the right time in my life.
It feels so good to feel validated that someone else in the world feels the same/has similar struggles. Your vlogs have been so helpful and inspiring to me to be a better mom and a better person just in general. I love that you said, “you don’t have to be perfect every day to be good”. I need to remind myself of this more often. Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us! You guys are amazing ❤️
Ashley you are a super mom! Homeschooling, gardening, pod casts, vlogs, kids and dogs, keeping your family entertained during COVID!!! I’m 24 and you inspire me so much, I’m like dang Ashley is over here killin it with goji beery smoothie and butterflies. Keep loving God, yourself, and your family. You got this! And I would like you to upload the recipe for “funeral” potatoes when you get a chance, thanks :)
YOU AREA A GREAT COOK ASHLEY!!!! Please continue the food blog. ❤
Love it! Looks so fun. I love how Ashley tells stories to make George and James feel better. So cute. “my dad!!”
I’m 24 and watching this as I feed my newborn 3 week old baby. It is exactly what I needed. Thank you ❤️
I totally agree, this video says everything a woman/wife/mom will go through!
I feel and have felt everything you say, even though I have the most supportive and loving husband in the world, I feel like I don’t deserve it and my dreams shouldn’t count.
I watched your family all through my pregnancy and I loved the light and happiness you guys share with the world! I would love to follow in your footsteps! ♥️
But I love what you said about how we are both individuals and our dreams both count.
I loved this video!
Hey Ash! I seriously loved your talk, I felt what you said on such a deep level. I have seen you go through so much within yourself, in your marriage, as a mother and I just need to start out by saying.. you are doing an absolute amazing job! Life is hard. Soooo hard. And you and Dal are putting yourselves and your lives out for everyone to see (and haters to judge) which btw please don’t ever listen to anything negative someone has to say. They’re either just jealous or hurting themselves and that’s how they try to make themselves feel better. So I myself, stay positive and say a little pray for them. But seriously, I have struggle with my husband (together almost 7yrs married for almost 1, anniversary 6/29!) with happiness. We are trying to find our own happiness in this not so great situation that we are currently in, and man is it hard! We are also scared to take the next steps and start our family. We are afraid of the challenges it’ll bring, what it’ll do to our relationship and how we will be as parents. But watch you guys, even when you outwardly say, guys this is so hard! I still look up to you. I love up to the mother you are. I look up to how inspiring you are. I look up to how much you love your kids and how you would do anything for them. I look up to you, as a mother, as a person, as a wife and I aspire to be like you and have more courage to take the next steps! I applaud you and Dallin both for the steps you’ve taken to becoming even better parents and even better partners as husband and wife. You’ve both taught me so much, given me so much to think and talk to my own husband about and I am so so grateful so be apart of this community. I am so grateful for all the work you put into your content on vlogs, podcasts, blogs, merc and so much more. From the bottom of my heart thank you for always making me smile, laugh, think, aspire and dream. You guys are both amazing parents, amazing creators and amazing people!! 🥰💙❤️🌴💚💜🐶🐾
Listen, Oh sweet Ashley. This channel is not mandatory. Anyone who doesn't care to watch you cook, can not watch that channel or even some of your videos here. I for one adore your creativity and watching you try new things. Learning and growing in your cooking abilities. And I learn some thing from you every time! EVERY TIME! So stop reading comments. Let Dallin do it. Hire some one. You have such a tender heart and are so caring. No body's got time for all that negativity! As my Momma used to say when someone said something negative, "Let's just discount that one."
You do you and we will gladly follow. Or not. But I for one am hanging around. I always dreamt of being the kind of Mom you are. Mine are all grown but I have a diary of when I was in middle school, blabbering on about how I wasn't going to be like my Mom....but more like you. She wasn't any fun. She was selfish and not very creative with us. I wanted to dress up and dance with my babies. Teach them and break into song! Take them for long walks, exploring and going on adventures. The stuff of parenting dreams. And I did my best! DO NOT allow anyone to take that from you. It is a true blessing to have kids and to be an amazing parent like you are, like that....that is a double blessing for sure! Soak it in and don't apologize. Love you all. Pray for you daily and so adore you sharing all you do. Lea from West central IL. Mom to James, III -dinosaur digger, oceanographer and inventor extraordinaire (40 year old Dad to James IV) and Sarah. 21 year old dancing princess! I did my best and it was what I was meant to do. Wouldn't change a second! Live to never regret a minute!
Ashley, you are a precious person full of love and maturity beyond your 30 years. Your children will be a blessing to all that meet them because of your intentional love and actions during their childhood. I had two babies in 21 months and survival mode was brutal (I don't remember a lot of it) but coming out of that stage was so beautiful and refreshing. Enjoy the new changes you are implementing ❤️
So sorry you are having to go through all this but it will only make you stronger in the end. Due to this pandemic, I lost my job and now I’m having to re-evaluate my entire life. I changed careers two years and was finally finding my stride. Now, I’m dealing with all the personal doubt of if I’m good enough, smart enough and strong enough to make it through. I’m slowly realizing that answer is yes. I live alone so this quarantine has been pretty isolating and depressing. I’ve been focusing on my personal well being and looking at all the good around me. In the darkest of storms there’s always a light, it may be dim but it’s always there. Do things that make you and your family happy. People will always have their opinions. What works for them may not work for you, and that’s ok. Stay strong my friend, you’re worth it!
I’ve only just discovered you guys & you make me feel warm and fuzzy after watching. The positivity you create is just great.
You’re talking about wanting to be stronger, the strength you have talking about accepting yourself it’s just amazing! I am in awe of you! I’m 38 and still haven’t stopped getting hung up on being thinner, looking better, etc.
You be you! ❤️
Wow I felt this so hard! Especially the struggle of choosing to be mindful of the health and strength of your body, over how I think my body should look! I love your point of how you don't have to have the same dreams as your husband all the time. Its okay to be different and help each other work towards them! Thank you so much for putting time into these vlogs! They make my day so much better
This was such a great vlog! I loved seeing you both out doing wild adventurous things that we all aspire to do, yet let get pushed to the back burner because of life just happening! You two are an inspiration to me and so many others! Thank you for sharing your lives with us!
Ashley,
You are so brave to bare your soul to us. You seem like a hugely generous person, a totally dedicated mother and wife. You are so introspective which will help you adjust to the changes that are bothering you.
Dallin, as always is sweet, kind and an amazing dad.
The children, they are great kids, very smart.
You both are doing a wonderful job
I love love the puppies, they always make me smile, especially Luna
I live in Oregon, so your surroundings are very different.
Just a small thing that helped me. The other day I was complaining to friends that I gained weight... like 30 pounds to what I used to be. And the guy in the group said “ hey we have all gained 30 pounds.” And that really helped me to remember that everyone is different from when they were 18 and if I am not noticing their weight or judging them then they probably aren’t to me.
I would love to loose weight but there are some things in life that make it very difficult to accomplish that. So I’m kinda on the same page as you in that I’m working on it, but every day isn’t going to be perfect.
Thanks for your channel!
Hi Ashley! Thanks for the vulnerability and chance to connect with you. I relate to your message a lot. I’ve struggled with body image for a long time. The past couple of years especially as my body has changed due to chronic illness and just getting older. I am learning to do what I can, when I can to take care of my body so I can feel good. Rather than worrying about a number. My husband and I have been married for three years next month and we have a lot of different dreams/goals/opinions. We support each other, but ultimately aim for balance in our relationship. It falls back on trust a lot.
I highly suggest watching Sierra schultzzie's channel! She's so body positive. She's helped me see that my body is perfect no matter what shape and size I am.
Totally agree! She has helped me look at my body differently. Also Carrie Dayton is another great body positivity influencer to watch.
I love Sierra! I recommend as well!! I’ve always struggled with body positivity but with Sierra’s videos I’ve never been more confident
1) You’re recipes are amazing!
2) My husband and I have been married almost a year now. We are starting to come out of the newlywed phase, and we’re trying to really get our feet under us and start planning our life. It can be overwhelming at times but is absolutely amazing! Growth can be hard, but at least we’re all in this together ❤️!
You are doing the right things! I have been with my husband for over 16 years and we still find ourselves back to re-evaluating often, different situations over the years obviously. I love watching your family as a real life not always needing to be perfect type. Also get 100% your body/mind struggle, I don’t think enough people share their true thoughts on this and it may be harmful for those of us who need to hear that we are normal. Keep cooking and sharing! You don’t have to be a chef to share inspiration or recipes, remember most of us are moms just trying to feed our kids not a 12 course meal.
I love how you two are working on going forward together in a healthy mode instead of tossing in the towel quickly!!!! I’m so happy for you Ashley on your mind set it’s what I am trying to do with myself, just to be happy and grow for myself. Your an amazing cook, you try new things all the time even if something does not work out you tried it!!! That’s what all good cooks do!! I fail all the time, but I can’t grow without the fail!!! Keep in doing what your doing as long as it makes you happy who cares what the internet people say, it dose not even matter what I am saying. We all need to boost people up and tear them down!!! I’m proud of you both for being so positive in such a negative world!!! Thank you and you totally got this!!!! 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Thank you Ashley for opening up and being vulnerable don’t let people’s rude comments get you down. You guys are a sweet family💕
You being SO brutally honest and vulnerable Ashley about what’s in your head is one of the very top reasons I have followed you guys for years! We all have these thoughts and for you to put them out in the world is SO BRAVE and I just wish you wouldn’t hang on or keep the crappy comments in your head bc you are a great mom on a journey of self discovery along with a great guy! Please remember everyone that is great at something when they started out weren’t good at all but with practice and trial and error they became great! ******You are SO good at giving everyone around you GRACE but just remember to also give it to yourself that is one of the most important things in self discovery and growth!💙💕💙
You are so not alone Ashley! Thank you for sharing these moments with us. It truly helps other women understand that they are not the only ones struggling with their body. And I absolutely relate to building up your marriage too! I have a hard time doing things for myself. So does my husband. But he went on a backpacking trip with his brother for three days and I was nothing but supportive of it and it has improved our marriage and our family. I went to a concert (before COVID) with a friend of mine and every time I would second guess and just talk myself into not going he was so supportive and knew that I needed to be and feel like myself for a little while. You guys have been a huge inspiration to me and my husband (though he probably won't admit it) and I appreciate you. Also you are so beautiful Ashley and a great mom and I live for your cooking episodes. 💜 Thanks for keeping it real guys!
I myself have been needing changes that are better for myself and family!!! My father passed away in January, unexpectedly and it changed something inside me. I want my kids life to be better than me being a mombe. I work full time and since March, I’ve been working from home and having my kids here while working (2 year old boy and 5 year old girl). I’m slightly losing my mind. Lol. But this has played a part into wanting to be better as well. I am making changes in our house so I can love being home instead of dreading it and I’ve also made internal changes. I love watching your family and tbh because of a vlog, I made stroganoff the other night for dinner. And it wasn’t hamburger helper either. Lol. Thanks for putting your feelings out there and all your cooking, it inspires me! I am a horrible cook but I try and to me that’s all that matters! You both are good people and a great family ❤️
I totally understand where you’re coming from about your relationship. When I was married, and we went through marriage therapy, I learned one of the same exact things you’re talking about to. Although it didn’t work out for us ultimately, the fact that you’re having those conversations now and working through those thoughts and feelings is a great thing to see.
You guys literally uplift me every time I can see a video or listen to a podcast. I love how open and real you guys are about how up and down life is. Your honesty and loyalty to each other is beautiful!
What?!?! I love watching your cooking vids!!!! Keep up with the blog because you love it and you are wonderful!
You both are brilliant parents. George and James are a credit to you both. 💗
You’re amazing,. You both are so young to be so wise. Bravo
I can so relate to you Ashley! You're an amazing person! I'm 37 with 2 kids and have finally done so work to lose weight for the same reasons! Stay healthy guys!!
You’re such an intentional mom. I really respect that. And I love your casserole recipes. Those haters can get lost.
I love watching your cooking! Please never stop sharing ❤
I feel this... I’m working really hard rn to be a better me. A better friend, student, fiancé, all the things. I just get so overwhelmed trying to keep up with life I end up give up on diets, working out and going out with friends. I just get so tired and discouraged. How do I keep myself going? I love the vlog and I want to watch y’all live this amazing life forever 💕
I’m so proud of you Ashley. I suck at compromising with my husband and I know that he takes so much rejection from me and it makes me feel awful about it, whenever I do end up doing the adventures that he loves I end up having a great time, so I’m trying to not knock it till I try it! Thanks for sharing with us and continue supporting each other in each other’s wishes! ❤️
Ashley, your talk at the end was so well spoken. It is an amazing feeling when you reevaluate things and make life plans. That is real adulting. It has been amazing to watch you grow into a strong woman. I wish you happiness for the future. ♥️
I recently was broken up with during a very hard time in my life by someone who was slowly becoming my best friend. We had considered moving in with each other after I had gotten a certification that would have let me travel more and wouldn’t put a strain on our relationship. Sadly, things didn’t work out and I had an option to not put money down and get this license. But someone reminded me that I wanted this and even though the relationship had pushed me further into it, I had to remember that it was something I had wanted before the relationship ever started. So it’s definitely hard to do the things you want and pursue your dreams. But I love that you guys are so transparent about the benefits of counseling, that you guys are supporting each other fully, and that you’re working harder to compromise and follow your passions together as a solid unit.
Ashley you are a loving wife and mother. You have a kind heart toward others. I appreciate you sharing things in your vlog. I wish you could see yourself the way your kids, husband, family and viewers see you. You are stronger than you think.
I can definitely relate to being in a state of reevaluating what is important to me. I’m a bit younger that you guys (23) but I dream of having a life like yours one day. A beautiful family, a hardworking and supportive marriage, doing a job a love, traveling to my happy places, etc. But it feels so far out of my reach right now so it gets frustrating. Especially dealing with a lot of insecurity issues, I’ve found it hard to connect with people (potential partners). You’re not alone! I’ve been watching your videos since George was a wee little baby and your journey is my absolute favorite. Wherever you guys are headed, you will make it wonderful and lovely. 🖤🖤🖤
Ash you made me cry ... you’re beautiful inside and out and you’ve made me want to change my mindset and I’m 56... thank you...
Gosh I love this and your family. Thank you for this. 1. Listening to your voice is so calming. 2. I am in a different walk of life but feel oddly the same way- trying to do things with the intention of sticking to your values and what your dreams are. I am totally on this journey with you- keep sharing, I feel empowered and validated by this and connected! 💕
You and Dallin are at the exact moment in your marriage where you are building a true, solid foundation. You are your own person as is he and neither of you need to sacrifice feeling independent . Keep on cooking up a storm. Having a great look on your future is awesome and you all will make me proud through this journey. Love, trust, fear, enjoy, be angry but most of all...be you 🌟
Bless you Ashley... that was So So Brave sharing your Heart !!!! What an achievement... think you were also brave in the Desert 🌵... that would’ve scared the crap out of me... well done for surviving that trauma and going back the next day to overcome your fears... it’s FANTASTIC and also brave to having therapy... that is hard work and looking after two little ones!!! Your energy level is fantastic... the positives shone out of this Vlog and you had me almost in tears !!! Thank you for sharing your feelings and goals... many people are not brave enough !!!!
I love that you are so brave to put yourself out there... I like so much the way you are as a couple and help each other and do evething together and the beautiful way you are raising your kids. Some of us didn't have great examples on how to relate in a healthy way and is nice to find such good role models like you. So thanks for sharing!
I felt so bad for you Ashley as you were waiting for Dallin to frolic (lol) in the desert! I was thinking it had actually been longer than it really was, but when things are going downhill as fast as they were for you with the sun, heat, stickery sand, food depletions, cranky kinds, no cell service, sandy water, etc, etc, etc!! I am sure it felt like a much longer time to you as well!
Also I love that you’re trying to teach your kids how to be wild and free. Even if they aren’t always wild and free, at least their experiencing it. I grew up with not wild and free but with lots of anxiety and isolation. I’m 23 and wish I could be wild and free but it just isn’t in me right now, I always wish that my parents would have pushed me a bit more and given me more experiences outside of my comfort zone. Especially when I was younger and didn’t overthink everything as much and wasn’t so self conscious. You’re doing great!!
I love how you guys are teaching your kids to be in nature. And to be wild and free..I really wish that’s what my parents did for me! The first time I ever went camping or to any sort of state park was when I was 17..with my boyfriends family. You guys think of everything for your kids. Keep up the good work! I am so proud of you getting to a point where it’s about strength and not weight. I found an amazing free workout app. They have so many different types of workouts! The app is called FitOn. It has seriously changed my life! Little habits make big changes!
I really appreciate you putting yourself out there and not letting negative comments or negative self-talk get the better of you. I am really trying to have a positive body image and not feel "less than." Thanks for being YOU!
By far my favorite video of yours. I also live in Utah. So I already feel a connection to you guys. But Ashley sharing her feelings at the end are so appreciated.
Ashley I'm so glad you have decided to be you again and start your dreams again! I love your little family and I've enjoyed watching not only your babies grow but watch you and dallin grow. You have so much more confidence then when I first started watching you and it really is a good fit on you!
First and foremost I LOVE your family! Your wholesome values and free spirits are so refreshing! Your parenting skills are so motivational. I respect you so much and APPRECIATE YOU! I come here for a little escape from my life that isn't bad, but needs some happy every now and then. So today it hurt my heart to hear certain words being used to describe what your fear of becoming may be. I know we all have our own perceptions of our bodies. And we can be brutal on ourselves. I'm a big girl and I have stopped and started journeys to better or change my entire life. It is that reason that when I heard words like fatty and ugly used to describe your fears hurt my heart. Just because I will never be thin or the best looking. But I can be healthy and happy. And as always I am working on that. Those two words struck me and it is because when I was a child and small, those are words I heard from people that didn't have my best interests at heart. They left a spot in my brain that as long as I was not stick thin and gorgeous, I was less than. And maybe this is going too deep. But I felt compelled to reach out. Those words will never be you Ashley! Ever. And I know you would NEVER mean to hurt any one's feelings. Your heart is good and because you have doubts, those words have crept into your head... get them out of there girl! No- negative self talk.... cause man this world is hard enough on us that we don't beat ourselves up!!! I support you guys in your endeavors and hope we all feel a little bit better or a lot better in our own journeys! I ❤️ The DASHLEY'S
I am so thankful for all that you shared & being bold enough to be vulnerable. I’m newly married and struggling with the guilt you’re talking about-about goals-etc being different & being fearful/guilty about trying to achieve them. It really helps me to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and we can get there. Thank you so much. 😭💓
I think maybe something that would be so helpful is a goals chart that each spouse can write down their goals and can hang up in the living room to remind each other what each spouse is working towards together.
I have had anxiety my whole life, it has definitely been a source of contention in my marriage and just my everyday life. I know I have missed out on some awesome experiences/adventures due to it. It have definitely ebbed and flowed throughout the years (I’m 34). I have two girls (9 & 5), and I too want to be strong and brave for them. Recently I have been doing positive reminders about myself and my self worth as a singular person, wife, and mother. I write them down on post-it’s and put them in the front and back cover of the book I am currently reading(book nerd), and I read them aloud each day. It helps me to quiet the negative and fearful voices of my anxiety. Thank you for this vlog❤️
You two are wonderful people! I have been with my husband for over 16 year's and we still struggle to find a balance but that's just part of life. People change as we age and thr people around us that love us change with us! Even if we have different goals. My husband and I are complete opposites but we love each so much that we learn to love our differences. Stay strong! Good luck on your fitness goals!
I have been watching and following you all for 2 plus years. I also have a baby boy james age and a 9 month old girl. They are 18 months apart. I strive to be like you all. Perfectly imperfect. I have just made the decision to follow my dreams and become a doula and have an online presence and business. My 15 year old daughter is going to homeschool next year and she is going to help me on the tech/style side of things. I am 41 years old and wanting to be strong both in my business but also my body. We can do hard things and love who we are. Thank you for being you.
thank you for being so open and honest! It's been so amazing to watch you and your family go through journey of growth and I'm so thankful that you've shared it with us
Hey Ash!! You are an amazing person and thank you for opening up to us! Just know we support you and your family! I wanted to suggest that you get a Habit Tracker! I bought one on amazon and started using it, and I can keep track of walking my dogs, doing yoga, drinking water, etc. It takes some time to get accustomed to using it, but you might benefit from it!
Awesome thanks heather! Looking into this now
(This is for both of you) Everyone needs their own dreams and life goals. You don’t have to share and like everything your spouse likes or does. Share the things you both like and try some things your spouse would like for you to do. If you don’t like it, don’t feel guilty. We are all unique. There are foods and activities and all sorts of stuff I didn’t like when I was younger that I like now and vice versa. We grow, we change, we evolve. Don’t overthink it. Go with the flow and keep growing.
Ashley I was just talking to my daughter about this today. How I feel ashamed of my body and getting depressed about it too. She had a good talk with me about accepting the person I am and don’t beat myself up about extra pounds while on quarantine.
Ashley, you are such an awesome person! I love watching your family! I have always struggled with body image as well and still haven’t accepted myself 100%, but you are going in the right direction! Congrats on your new goals, you’re going to crush it!!
I have always wanted to get a degree but life, anxiety, lack of encouragement and lack of self confidence got in the way. My husband has built me up so much and I am on my way to achieving that goal! Better "late"than never, right?! We have one son and we are a little worried about not giving him a sibling until I'm done with school. But we decided that we can be different. Our son doesn't need to be extremely close in age to his siblings to be close with them. I'm closest with my sister who is 6 years older than me.
We are going against the idea that once you start a family you need to pump out all your babies back to back haha I'm so glad my husband is supporting me in my goals even though we have to change how we thought our life was going to look like or "supposed to look like". Dashleys, thanks for giving me more motivation to make my life taylored to my family's needs and not to what others except. You guys have been a great example.
Also, I love your recipes! Don't stop. As they say in Ratatouille "anyone can cook" 😜
My husband is working around 65 hours right now and things have just been changing a lot in our home and marriage during this time. We have sat down and talked about things and now things have been approving just in the past couple days. We have been focusing on what we need for us and what we want to do in the near and far future. We have a 7 year old (my stepson and not his bio..long story) and we have been trying to conceive for 2 years and 9 months (which is the main stresser in our lives) but we want to make sure we are in a good place in our marriage whether we have any future children or not. We have been making sure to spend time together and being spontaneous when we can about what we do together. I love you guys and I think you guys are doing a wonderful job as spouses, parents, and influencers. ❤
You , Dallon Are great peolpe you have fun with your kids , parenting it shows how much you love it . I am so glad i met you both .I would go for walks every day with you !! I love watching you all grow
Ashley I just admire you. I don't want to come off as odd(which I am 🙂) but I feel like I have a genuine connection with you. I honestly feel like I have a friend when I watch you. I have been super depressed lately and when I listen to you I feel at peace. I'm so glad you've come to a point in your life that you are feeling happy with who you are. I hope one day I can feel like that too. Thank you for opening up the way you do. Thanks for being my distant friend. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your struggles, goals, and reality. It's definitely a vulnerable thing to do, but note we all have different seasons in life and even storms within those seasons. It's good to recognize them and reflect and react when needed. Good for you. Love your vlogs and I laughed with you Ashley when you were saying y'all were in the "Saharah". Glad Dallin came back to the RESCUE!!!!
Ashley, I smiled so wide when you said about just getting a new bra and not wanting or feeling like you have to change! Well done for getting to that point. Proud of you
Ashley, You have a beautiful nature and heart, I think you are one of these people who make this world of ours a more wonderful place. Sending you lots of love from Australia xx
You are absolutely amazing and you guys bring so much joy to so many different peoples lives! You are so brave for being raw and showing your feelings. I think it helps us all feel like we are not alone. Thank you guys for sharing so many wonderful things with us, the good and the bad ❤️
I love when it's just Ashley talking. Dallin is great but it's nice to have Ashley's voice heard uninterrupted. You inspire me Ashley. Thank you!
You story or comments are beautiful and genuine! I'm so happy you feel the way you do! You are so brave for saying this ! Wow I wish more people could be this real and honest!
I love how you have been able to become open to all of these goals and acceptance of yourself and your likes and individual dreams and accomplishments. I have decided to strive to be like you. Not exactly like you, but my own place of acceptance and goals and accomplishments.
Omg I love you guys! Ashley thank you for taking the last part of the vlog the way you did! It made me see a new side of you and respect you even more (not that I thought it was possible to) you are an amazing mum but especially you’re an amazing person and I hope you and Dallin both find your new identities together xoxox here’s to growth personal and in life
Your journey with your body is so relatable. I'm trying to change my mind set and love for my body for everything it enables me to do. Walking, stretching, reaching, cuddling, kissing. These things get overlooked when we are bombarded by images of just how it should look. I'm proud of how you are doing Ashley! (I'm sure there will be setbacks but you are clearly onto the right path) I hope I can get there too! Thanks for sharing xx
Ps James's crisp (chip)dust facial is beautiful! 😂🇬🇧
26yr old female England
Idk about anyone else but I absolutely love this side of her. I love the vulnerability with these talks. I think they should happen more often. I mean we all know your human but these "talks" makes me realize you are just like us. As for me I've been thinking the same thing. 1st covid then yesterday I lost a very dear and long time friend to an overdose. Turning 49 in August, I no longer know my purpose in life. After my divorce almost 2 years ago, my son is now 25, I feel like I work and sleep and that's it. I'm very anti social. My home is my bubble. Its the one place I feel safe but I feel like I'm just living without a purpose. Idk how to change that or to find purpose in life again. 26 years with a narcissist has pretty much destroyed my soul
love you guys sooo much! i love how transparent you are Ashley i believe in you and know you can achieve all of your goals. Im sure you already know this but I hope you are not too hard on yourself if you are not perfect everyday!
I love your recipes!! Keep sharing! And thank you for being so open with us. I don’t have a a family or kids but it’s important for everyone to hear these messages!
Thank you for being so open with your thoughts and feelings! I love your family and enjoy your posts on Facebook and TH-cam! You both make me laugh out loud all the time. I’m so impressed with your marriage. Not because I think it’s perfect but because you both so FAIR. I just admire how you both are willing to make the effort to improve on things that need to be worked on. I also can relate to you on body image issues and lack of self confidence. I’m ashamed to say how old I am and how long I’ve struggled with each. I’m at a point in my life that’s it’s too late to change factors in my life and so I’m proud of you and happy for you at just 30 you are working on yourself and your family. I think your family is an inspiration to MANY people. I watched your TH-cam post last night and I laughed at Dallen’s puns. I’m a sucker for puns. Lol! I also loved the games. You guys are so funny. It really is the little things in life...