90 Day Fiancé - (Tiffany & Ronald #6) - Therapy - Therapist Reaction
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- Dr. Kirk Honda, couples therapist, reacts to 90 Day Fiancé - Tiffany and Ronald. Includes clips from 90 Day Fiancé, Happily Ever After? Season 6.
Therapist reaction to the reality television.
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There was also a scene missing where Ronald tells to the producers that he finds it extremely odd when “a female tells a male what to do”… Too much toxic masculinity. That’s the problem… I am sick and tired of these men. In my country there are plenty of them, but I am definitely not going to boost a man’s ego all my life or tolerate a behavior where the man does nothing because “he’s the man in the house” in order to have one by my side. I prefer to be alone if that’s the case.
Cicero said that all you need is a garden and a library, not a garden, a library and a man
@@princesstelevision67 OMG thank you for this quote. I'm going to say this a lot now!
@@akirebara he didn't say the part about a man, that was meeeeeeeeeee
The pro here for Ronald is I bet this uncle was free. 😆
Bingo!!!!!
Would a Pastor ever charge a member of his congregation? I can't imagine he would. Part of his duties.
This was my first knee-jerk insight/instinct.
@@thedudeabides5695 pastors love money ofc they would
@@meximouse dude, dont judge everyone the same. Im a pagan but even I know not all preachers are pedophiles....
Birth control is the hidden theme in this show
😂😂😂
Birth control can fail. XD
But yes. Both parties really should be using birth control measures
My mom really tried to tell me I should go off birth control and just adopt the baby out, should I get pregnant 🙅🏼♀️🙅🏼♀️🙅🏼♀️
@@abandonablesnowman Wow!
@@everythingiseverything9920 Yeah…
Dr. Honda!! LOL!! "You clean that poop!"
"That's got to be a meme by now."😂
😂😂Made me laugh so hard!!😂😂
He complains that his kids grow up over the phone, yet he can't participate in their life enough to change their diapers? Now isn't that a contradictory statement..
And he is determined to keep "his" children in South Africa. There is no way he can keep Daniel, and what is he going to be doing as a single dad to Carly? Never change her poopy diapers? He is delusional
@@gunillajohnson9727 from what I heard, domestic help is very inexpensive there. I would imagine he'd have a nurse or nanny or someone like that.
Change HER* poop diapers. (Not their)
I'm sure he could do more to help. And the way he talks to her is obnoxious. The way they talk to each other is toxic and stupid.
But on the subject of the poopy diapers, I think the issue is that he's concerned with being able to clean her properly because of the female anatomy. My husband had the same concern when we first had a baby girl. We ended up following up with cotton balls and warm water to make sure we "got it all".
Maybe if she didn't get off on telling him what an idiot he is, he could get more comfortable with the cleaning process.
@@mddell58 “their” is fine. I’m all for grammar but the singular they/them/their is fine. Nobody seemed to have a problem with it until it started being a mark of inclusivity.
My grandfather always said that it's not 50/50; it's 💯 for both parties. He was married for 72 years to my grandmother. The only thing keeping my grandparents from making 73 years was his passing at 93 years old.
This was exactly my grandmother’s advice as well. It has helped me and my husband - coming up on our 24th anniversary now, and we still both like and live each other. Mutual respect and commitment to work things out are vital ❤️💐
Yes❣️ my grandparents are married 70 years now - my grandfather did everything - and so did my grandmother❣️ my grandmother was diagnosed schizophrenic after a really terrible break down and he rocked her sleep every night at 70 years of age - just an amazing relationship - and she supported him in everything he did too❣️
Smart grandpa you got there.
The one-time therapy session is just for TV drama.
True even Tiffany admitted they never went again when it wasn’t for the show which might have helped with what happens in the future
I'm so glad you called out the sexism. As a woman I was so triggered about the councellors words and was sad to read on social media how many people thought the councelling went well. For me it sounds more like a conversation straight from the 50's..
What? Have you never seen an analogy?
For example, you don’t need to be physically in Rome to be in Italy and be like Mann I feel like a Roman
People don’t need to have physically been alive in 1920s to say “huh this restaurant has a 1920s feel”
It’s such a basic concept
That’s Afrikaaner men for you
It should be in the 90 day cast's contracts that they have to watch all of Dr Honda's reaction videos, and then hes invited to the tell all.
I would LOVE to know what Ronald thinks a husband is supposed to be and do?
Have a p*nis
It is a very different culture, based on old world Dutch values simmered for centuries in South Africa. It is not American and we have seen this with at least 2 American women on this show pairing up with SA men. So just because they are white everyone forgets they are from a different culture?
@@joywebster2678 Right.
sit on the couch drink beer and be served upon a golden platter
@@joywebster2678 They all seem to be drunken party boys. ALL of them!
Ronald gives woman beater vibes. He hasnt done so yet, because, as we know, Tiffany is still staying at his house, ditzy as hell. She will sit there when this man is giving "I want to be violent" signals and casual be chill about her situation. If the cameras weren't there I would be scared for her.
I wouldn't doubt it if he's already put hands on her
This isn’t a fair comment.
Is Ronald sexualizing changing his daughter's diaper? I find his behavior really odd
I dont think he is sexualiazing it I think he just feels akward/uncomfortable
@@AnNa-gv6ep he saying he feels awkward because it’s a female sex organ. That is sexualizing his child
*Agreed*
I was literally coming here to post this same thought because Huh??? That’s your baby, just change her diaper. I felt like he was sexualizing changing her diaper, and yes, that can make it awkward only if you’re thinking about her sex organ!
I've found that people who have experienced sexual abuse in their younger years tend to feel awkward with changing diapers. There might be something he isn't dealing with emotionally or just dealing with in general. We may never know
Colt and Vanessa! Vanessa had the “Man up!” therapist.
"Alpha Up!"....
@@thedudeabides5695 Thats right.
I am addicted to your videos! 😅 greetings from Germany! 🌅
Seeing so many therapists on dr kirks videos tells me finding a good one won’t be easy lol
This seems like a trad Protestant version of unlicensed therapy called pastoral care counseling. It's not the worst version of it because otherwise Tiffany would have been instructed to obey Ronald pretty much across the board.
It was funny af though that Ronald seemed to expect that his uncle pastor would completely or mostly side with him lmao.
That awkward moment you sign up for a pastoral counselling session hoping for an idyllic outdoor setting, and instead you get Father McWomanRib ready to train you in Wifing 101.
I've made a terrible mistake 😂
"He needs to Boost his own ego!"
😄😄
Preach Doc!
"I have a thing against them" I yelled EXCUSE ME? At my phone
Therapy is a long game. I spent 5 years with my amazing therapist. It changed my life.
New merch „you clean that poop“
As someone with 7 cats I can relate!!
I would get it xD
@@alice_rabbit8345 I have a few cats and the automatic litter box is a life saver
“Boost his ego” sounds like what society has been doing for men for centuries honestly 😂
Yeah I think that's why some men expect to be treated that way always, even if they are not contributing enough to the relationship, the couples economy or the child care
I think it's a disservice
“You clean that poop.”
Hahah nice
The pastoral uncle person failed to take into account that the Ronalds of the worlds have no idea how to do the simple things he suggested. "Be supportive" is too abstract. If Ronald goes home and says "I support you", he will consider his part done.✅
And the Tiffany's of the world are in a society that whispers in their ears "You're not gonna boost this macho's ego, are you?" ❌
* ° ¤ HAPPY 13th ANNIVERSARY ¤ ° *
I was married to a south African. Notice...WAS. They are taught to obey the man, men know best and women must hold their place in the household. I feel before marrying one, a woman should realize what they are getting into. Men certainly dont change those ways very easily even if they aren't exactly holding up their end of the deal
I just want to point out that not all South African men are like this and I know a lot of men that see women as equal
@@tc3443 you're absolutely right!
What I've found in dating men (from many different cultures) is that even the ones who say they believe in equality only believe in equality until you earn more/ are better than them at stereotypically "male" things/ show that you are not only equally capable, but perhaps even more capable. South African, specifically Afrikaner men (I am Afrikaans, so dated my fair share), are definitely guilty of this, due to the patriarchal messaging pushed by the church. I'm living abroad now, so I know there are crappy men everywhere, even (maybe especially) the ones who think they aren't...
But you're 100% right that men and women who are brought up in religious Afrikaans culture, believe that there are specific gender roles (which coincidentally benefit men).
OMG!!!! I’ve been waiting for this and the following reactions!!!!
im sorry, i died when he said 50-100 sessions. dr. honda said ronald you need two years of therapy bruh
I always find your videos ver interesting and insightful! Always learn something. Thank you.
When I had a stroke 6 years ago my husband had to get a quick learning curve with the kids, I had always taken care of the house, kids and cooking, suddenly I could no longer be super mom he had to pick up the slack with cooking, kids sports and hire someone to clean the house.
i can't imagine being able to afford hired help.
glad you're healing
I hope he is praising you for being able to do for years what he cannot manage without paying a cleaner ?
'BRO DOWN' is officially a word now
I've also been wondering about the One time therapy. Seems odd. Why would they all do the same thing? Could it be that the program sets this up? It makes no sense to just go one time.
because the person that was talked into going to therapy sees its going to be hard work and doesn't want to continue
That was my thought as well, seems too convenient and set up that it is always the same single session that was had reluctantly.
Oh nooo, we broke Dr. Kirk! I love your never relenting optimism :-D
Men employ weaponized incompetence daily. All women recognize it. It's enfuriating.
It's also easy to address and call BS on.
It's a very lame excuse.
This guy would have been a hard no for me. Too much toxic testosterone from him.
There were SOOOOOmany red flag and then she marries and gets knocked up🤦♀️
@@joybeavers5945 she has low self esteem like kahlani
I could walk this woman down to the highway underpass on the west side of downtown where there are people camping who are experiencing homelessness and guarantee that we could find her a less problematic partner than Ronald. She really scraped the bottom of the barrel here. He has a cute face and literally everything else about him is awful, but you can't make a happy marriage out of a cute face.
No in South Africa it is an ethical issue, but if the person is a pastor it's okay. However, I wouldn't recommend using your family member for therapy
I would NEVER go to anyone for any sort of therapy or guidance that was religiously affiliated. it's not ethical
@@pinkpugginz Why is it "not ethical"?
I wouldn't recommend going to my uncle who is also a pastor as a counselor.... but I would go to a Christian therapist, there is nothing wrong with religiously affiliated mental health professionals, I actually recommend it
@@isabellatambwe9525 Exactly. He's not claiming to be a Licensed Therapist. (and we don't know what that entails in South Africa anyway) He is a Pastor who counsels married couples - very common Nothing wrong with it at all. The Uncle thing is maybe not the best idea...
As a South African, who can afford a weekly/monthly therapy session @ R1600 per 40 minutes? Either this or you go untreated.
As a female clinician do you have any advice on how to address this kind of issue with me I.e. men are strong providers and don’t do chores (or any other patriarchal things)! I’m usually conscious of being ‘another nagging woman’ if that makes sense!
Would love to hear something on this too!
find a man that doesn't have those issues lol they exist
Break down the myth of “the nagging woman” first.
i just found you and am binging!!
OH HOW I WISH YOU DID RHOBH AND GAVE OPINION ON ERIKA JAYNE GIRARDI 😂😂
He actually is covering that show now. :-)
im not getting exited anymore, youre not gonna fool me again! 🤣
I hate how we sexualize children at such a young age 😒 They didn’t say it, but why else would a father say he doesn’t want to change a baby girl’s diaper?
I didn't get the feeling it was sexualizing so much as "vaginas are scary and gross." Still sexist, slightly less upsetting.
@@princesstelevision67 Something like that. Either way, it grosses me out that an adult would behave that way toward his child
@@abandonablesnowman agreed.
@@abandonablesnowman just like onision
Exactly
The sad part about the whole submissive thing is that some women grow up with that mindset and once they're adults, they're pushing for it too.
It’s like I’m watching the twilight zone
I think Dr. Honda has played a direct influence in making therapy a thing now on the 90DF shows.
wow Tiffany actually holds up quite well in that kind of bad situation....i would feel sooo lonely and feel so bad that he's not pitching in and I'm doing everything...like id have a mental breakdown... i was dating someone and he didnt offer to help when i was moving and it made me feel sooo sad and unloved so i just dumped him i just cant stand that kind of stuff
Man, this relationship is a real shitstorm.
Seeing Dr. Honda get jaded along with all of us about this show 😩🤣
You clean that poop hahaha
Clean it like youve never cleaned poop before. Clean it good 😂
What about the "I am a blessing in this man's life" quote? Why doesn't the Dr talk about that??
He is def making excuses to not take care of the child! Get over it Ronny and help your woman!
random but the diaper thing completely jolted and reminded me of someone. not sure if you are familiar with the TH-camr onision. He has huge scandals for years for grooming and abusing young girls. he has a daughter. there were several instances where he mentioned refusing to change her (and his friends daughter he babysat) diapers because he didn't want to be accused of being a child molester.
sexualizing infants genitals is wrong. I see Ronalds excuse as just that, and excuse....but where do those thoughts even come from?
Dr Honda, you're so right let's not get to excited about this
Lol seeing his uncle for therapy pretty sure that a big ethic violation haha
No, it's not. He's not posing as a Licensed Therapist, but merely doing his job as a Pastor, counseling his congregants. Very common.
@@thedudeabides5695 As a South African, in order to be a counselor you have to be registered and according to HPCSA this is not ethical
@@tc3443 Does that apply to a Pastor helping his congregants? Or are you just lumping him in with other practicing/paid Counselors?
@@thedudeabides5695 if he’s labeling himself as a marriage counselor then yes it applies. If he’s just giving guidance as a pastor then no. Only problem is, is that he is labeling himself as a counselor
@@tc3443 Is he? I don't know that it matters what he calls himself - the legal key could be whether or not he is charging his "clients"...he isn't, as far as I can see.
You didn't comment on Tiffany's statement that she wasn't the one with problems so uncle wouldn't point them out. Ronald isn't perfect but she does nothing but complain. He's trying but she shoots him down. I was surprised you glossed right over that and quickly found Ronald's faults
I would complain too if I were her. I dated a guy that refused to clean the house and help me with our pets. I complained non stop. Because if you can't respect me and the relationship and care for animals we chose to adopt together, you aren't worth my time.
are you seriously acting like her being upset about her husband refusing to EVER change poop diapers is a minor inconvenient? a huge part of childcare is diapers and potty training. and he just bounces out. come on.
He did towards the end. 25:09
She's *insufferable*
Ed also did one session of therapy
Tiffany: "I have no issues", "I was a blessing in this man's life".
Tiffany, if you are so AWESOME, why did you have babies with someone you don't respect, who lives in another country and doesn't earn much. You're "doing everything yourself" because you picked this situation. Maybe your decision making skills could use some work.
why r u so mad at her lol
Ikr this is the kind of dumpster fire of a relationship I have set myself up for... now in the past!!
I said the exact same thing! :)
Tbf, she said she was a blessing in his life, not her own, lol
Facts
New shirt: "Ronald, you clean that poop!!"
This are linda of lije additional therapy sessions to support us the public through watching this triggering show
Ronald is Afrikaans and really battles to express himself in English.☺
I noticed Ronald does this thing where in an argument, he will find a topic and “correct” it very literally and I’m not sure if he does it to be “right” in something since he is constantly told by Tiffany of everything he’s doing wrong. Like telling her she’s literally not alone, when that’s not even the point of Tiffany’s struggle in the U.S. or how he has changed 1 diaper when Tiffany said he doesn’t change diapers.
It’s free to see his uncle
This is only intended as a joke...but has Tiffany been traumatized by garments that have fabric over the shoulders?
LOL. I think with her body shape, she feels this makes her feel the most sexy and beautiful. She can show skin, but still feel covered. More power to her. :-)
It's a Fat Girl thing.
@@SSKlein Agreed, but it makes me smile because ALL her tops and dresses, without exception, leave her shoulders out, almost as if her contract specifies it should be so. Oh, well, she knows what she likes!
@@thedudeabides5695 Your comment is a nincompoop's thing.
@@irairod5160 But accurate. Kalani wears the EXACT same outfits!
Can you do reactions on the latest season of smothered and extreme sisters?
He did
@@dedu98 he didn’t do this current season with the new moms/daughters, and I didn’t see anything about extreme sisters, I think he REALLY needs to see it. 😬😅
In his own way....I can see that Ronald is in fact living down to Tiffany's expectations...
Where are the Doug therapists when you need them????
No one can remember their names!
He needs to boost his own ego!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽😂
If he is a pastor without an LPC or similar he doesn't have that ethical code....
Men don’t want to do housework, it must be toxic
Masculinity. (Bridge burned)
Men don’t want to do housework because it is something they were never conditioned to do. However, women tend to work full time jobs to earn income for the household- which is something they may not have been conditioned to do either but out of necessity they do. Does that make them more masculine to you? It does not? So how would conducting upkeep of your own household make you feminine? Do you understand how foolish that sounds when you say it out loud? Very well. Lets proceed forward under the presumption that you are not so much Man and Wife as much as you are a team working toward the common goal of raising your child. (BRIDGE FUCKING BUILT)
Will you do a reaction video to the John Delony Show?
The uncle definitely has hints of that South African view point on things.
"I just can't do [chores/tasks]" is often what people with undiagnosed ADHD or autism (sometimes even just depression) say because they don't have the vocabulary to describe their executive dysfunction. Some of your clients probably fall in that category, tho if you're noticing it is a trend for male clients, the toxic masculinity theory makes sense too because women are actually more likely to be undiagnosed with ADHD and autism than men 🤷♀️
I have adhd and have been on medication for it for a number of years. It’s funny because i actually get super triggered if i don’t clean. Cleaning actually helps me relax and able to focus on one task at a time
@@harrismatthew5553 wish I could relate to that! I'm newly diagnosed with ADHD at 30 (diagnosed with autism since 3) and all my meds do so far is make it possible for me to actually show up and put in a full day at work 🤷♀️
@@TheGamingFilly it gets better i promise ! One day at a time ❤️
I totally agree! Was recently diagnosed at 23 and when I started my meds I could finally have a weekly cleaning routine and realised that I actually am not a "lazy" person who is selfish and cannot pull their part. Now, I'm not perfect with the cleaning but I now have the words to advocate for myself to others
my ex partner has ADHD diagnosed since he was a kid and refused meds. the only thing he could do was show up to work then crash and let the house and animals go to hell. so I can sympathize and identify with the struggles of neurodivergents. what you said about the majority of people diagnosed are males I agree so much! and women's issues (undiagnosed) are perceived as personal faults or failures.
I actually agree when she says alone she should say without you,. She isn't alone she has her mom and kids. He is the one that is actually alone. She should understand that and maybe that could bridge the gap
She's not understanding at all. I heard what he said about only being able to see his kids through the phone. He's alone. Her tone with him is so condescending. She is constantly shaming him.
@@deeniesmothers9310 right i really think they are just incompatible I don't even see how they could even have a child together.
Ive said the same to my SO, im alone most of the time. At least you have your family.
Yes i can make friends but i really don't want to
The head of the family.... What does that even mean? Seems like a title to feel useful, while you do nothing useful....
@Anke Dee... you've nailed it😄😁
Respect me bro!
I do respect you bruh!
I feel like they chose to go to Ronalds uncle simply because he refused to see a therapist he did not know
And he probably assumed the uncle would be more on his side
Therapy is very expensive with a long waiting list.
I have a female friend who says she will not “allow” her future husband to clean their child’s diapers. I thought it was strange but I know she heard stories before and was scared. It was interesting to hear another person say the same thing.
I don’t care to be a preacher but this world has sexualized EVERYTHING.
@@summeretry251 really?!
As a victim of SA by my bio dad, I can relate to the act of diaper changing and bathing being triggering. I have struggled at times with unwanted intrusive thoughts during those moments. When I opened up to my therapist about this, she reassured me that is a normal reaction, but the difference between me and somebody you need to be wary of is that I HATE and feel SO uncomfortable when those thoughts surface, whereas a predator would feel excited by it. I do still have to self-soothe sometimes by very explicitly stating to myself (or even out loud) "I'm doing this because it is my job to maintain this child's wellbeing. It is health and hygiene, I am not hurting them, we are both safe and ok in this moment."
@@angelalurtz3638 I’m so happy you have a method for getting through those difficult moments. Lots of love and healing to you!
she may have been sexually abused
I feel his reading far to much in regards to his uncle was saying in regards to how to deal with each other’s characteristics(especially when later on they can work on changing that)
Tiffany has no respect for Ronald. There’s nothing he can do make her like him more. If he was to “clean poop” and do what she wanted, she will still have plenty of reasons to complain and criticize. She doesn’t want to be with him and she’s finding “reasons” to kick him to the curve.
Tiffany is definitely looking for any reason to leave. She thought she would get there and completely hand off baby duties to Ronald so she could have a “break”. Since that’s not happening she’s ready to leave.
She needs to get a lawyer and work out some custody arrangement going... Ronald could possibly keep the kids in South Africa without Tiffany. Those kids have every right to stay in America but still have Ronald in their life.
@@raquelruiz5696 I don’t see her trusting him enough to leave the kids there for a visit without her.
@@RockyDaTherapist same here
I’m a child of two therapists and also in long term therapy. It is absolutely WILD to me that they are going to family member for therapy. Just, no. I appreciate you pointing out potential positives or reasons for that, but no. Absolutely tf not lol. I’m just mind blown by this.
My opinion? Ronald has deep seeded issues. In this episode he told Tiffany " know your place" woman. That is a male chauvinistic remark. Very demeaning, as if he is above her, ideology. Very toxic when used as a weapon to restrict and control women. Ronald has a unhealthy and toxic primitive mentality and ideology of women. He has made statements in recent clips indicating that he plans on keeping Tiffany and the children there in Africa whether they want to be there or not. And he has also made statements in a clip that he is not going to let Tiffany leave Africa with the children. His making such statements indicates to me that he is deceitful and manipulative,, that he is planning to take the children from Tiffany in order to keep them there in Africa. . Which is not only dangerous but is indicative of a criminal mindset. After having watched those early previewed clips, then seeing Tiffany and the children arrive in Africa, at Ronalds house, then seeing that bedroom without any windows in it and that lock on the door, ummm it gave me the creeps, and the impression that he was or is planning to hold Tiffany and the children there in Africa against their will there, aka illegal detainment. She had better get a plan together to get him to run to the store or go out with his friends, and get packed up and leave while he is away from the house, because it is not looking good. In his clips he stated he has a plan to keep them there. Which means he never meant to go to the U.S., he plans on them staying in Africa regardless of what Tiffany wants. This is the way an abusive, possesive and controlling criminal mind thinks. Not someone who loves his family. She had better wise up and make a plan to get herself and the children out of Africa. She and the two children are American Citizens, born in the United States.. He knows this,, yet he thinks he can force them to stay. Not good.. Tiffany needs to get out of there with her two children, then once home, divorce Ronald. I do not trust Ronald at all, especially after those solo clips where he made those telling plans of his keeping them in Africa and "not letting her leave with HIS children". Very scary.. wondering did anyone else see these solo clips? And if so, why no one is mentioning this in their comments.
Did you know, Africa is a continent?
Wait.. the therapist is his uncle?
And not a real therapist
@@joybeavers5945 He never claimed to be....
@@joybeavers5945 counseling/therapy (theory and practical) is a huge part of their theological degree. So he is qualified, but in a different capacity than a licensed therapist
I went to a psych one time (been to several later) because I was having suicidal thoughts, she said she didnt believe me. I almost went from having suicidal thoughts to having homicidal thoughts. Luckily I just calmly walked out of there and didnt see that bitch again.
CONFESSION: I changed the majority of our boys diapers. However, with our daughter, I was extremely uncomfortable changing poopy diapers for the exact reason that Tiffany mentioned. I avoided changing her diapers for months, and really only changed her diapers if I was alone with her and there was no other adult who could do it. Maybe Ronald is just lazy and it's a convenient excuse, but it was a real issue for me
I’ve heard of this with men and their daughters before. I do find it VERY questionable, however. I don’t quite see WHY a father would feel uncomfortable changing his daughters diapers.
@@Bigeyeroll A nice firm poop isn't a problem; I always changed those. But, infants regularly have moist bowel movements that will go up their back, and all over the privates. Cleaning the private area on a girl made me queasy. I felt like I was touching an area that an adult man should never touch. That's probably some weird hang-up of mine, but it was a real thing, not an excuse to be lazy
You can’t control your feelings but you can control your behavior. It’s fine to feel worried or anxious about some aspect(s) of childcare, but those fears aren’t a good excuse to leave your partner with an unequal share of the work
@@morethan1 I'm a work from home dad following a stroke. My wife works outside the home. I changed the majority of the diapers for all of our children. Obviously, I wouldn't let my daughter sit all day in filth and risk rashes or infections waiting for my wife to come home to change her. But, changing my daughter was something I had mentally prepare myself to do. It was a genuine mental obstacle that I had to overcome
I'm not defending Ronald, who I dislike. I'm just providing one case of anecdotal evidence that this can be a legit issue for a father and shouldn't automatically be dismissed out of hand as an excuse for laziness
@@diaperdave2680 that is something that Tiffany and Ronald should discuss, but she's far too condescending for that to happen, and then Ronald would probably be too vague so his words come out wrong, and it's really a chore that no one likes to do, but you kinda have to. Can't there be some compromise? I'm sure there's some other shitty job they can trade off.
I find it really odd that Ronald feels it weird to see and clean his daughter’s private parts when changing her diaper…I’m not insinuating anything but the fact he feels uncomfortable doing that is strange like why does he see it in that light? Why is he making something out of it that is it not, she’s a child and ur child so u shouldn’t think of it in any other societal way, it’s not weird unless ur making it weird and thinking something else of a child’s body. Immature and says a lot about how he views and values girls and women and their bodies
I get that Ronald is wrong a lot. I'm not trying to justify his behavior in any way, shape, or form. I am going to say is I can understand some of his frustration, she never gives him an inch. Granted - he often screws up. But she doesn't acknowledge/praise him when he makes an effort, or God forbid she admits that she could be wrong about anything.
Ronald is toxic. From the moment I saw them on the show he gave me such bad vibes. Immediately cheated on her at his bachelor party, constantly was blowing money, yelling at her and abusive posturing during every small disagreement...
spoiler....
I'm so happy they're divorcing. Tiffany and the kids need a father figure that is going to be stable. that can provide them with security financially and emotionally. the roller coaster for Daniel is ridiculous and so damaging. Tiffany should be in individual therapy and so should her kids. Carly is going to feel abandoned by Ronald when she gets older.
I didn't know he cheated on her or the divorce thing. You're right, she needs to do some internal soul-searching. I feel terrible for the kids. :-(
I am so glad they are divorcing, but I really hope she doesn’t SEEK another man and relationship. I find it so unhealthy and detrimental to obsess over finding a replacement parent for your kids.
@@thedudeabides5695 such a sad cycle.
Worst therapy session ever…
WAY better than the "ALPHA UP" guy.....
Having it be Ronald's uncle is literally just so they could set up a scene for the show. This session was a joke, especially that Tiffany came out and IMMEDIATELY said she did nothing wrong.
Also I have to wonder if Ronald is afraid of being that intimately close with a young baby girl. My fiance had abuse in his childhood and was very worried about doing things with my daughter like changing diapers or bathing her. He changed diapers all the time but he hated it, especially going in there with poops. Bath time was hard too, I had to do it until she was like a year old.. So I see potential for some background issues with Ronald.. just because I've been through it too.
What happened to the scene where she says she was a blessing in his life? I don't like Ronald, but Tiffany looks down on him horribly.
if you watched more than 2 min you would see its in there. why are you hating on Tiffany so hard for one statement when Ronald is a walking disaster...
@@pinkpugginz Time stamp. I watched all 25 mins. And it's not hating on Tiffany, it's stating my viewpoint. He's a walking disaster and she's the one who chose him. She has a victim/martyr complex and that was evident in their first season and even more so once the family of Daniel's deceased father spoke out against her.
@@lavinder11 11:50
She's been in this for years and she has a foot outside the door of this relationship. Already talked to a divorce lawyer. As Dr. H said, not a lot of hope here. This is how couples talk when they're breaking up.
@@lavinder11 exactly right on the martyr/saint/victim complex, I spotted it too immediately.
She's a horrible woman.
These kind of character deeply hurt their "loved ones".
A very nasty twist on narcissistic personalities.
It's more concerning to me that he is sexualizing his daughter by not wanting to clean up her diapers. That is a sign witnessing or surviving sexual abuse as a child.
don't get excited bc as soon as they exit the building they literally disregard everything the therapist says. He says STOP criticizing each other... Immediately after the therapy session Tiffany to Ronald " that's not criticism. That's the truth."... Seriously!? Even though she's justified in her frustration with Ronald the therapist was right. She should help build him up ( and that goes both ways), stop nitpicking and find areas to praise him and show appreciation. He will then want to do better for her. Again i understand her frustrations but she chose to start a family with him. You have to learn to pick and choose your battles. From the moment she arrived all she has done is tear him down. As the saying goes " would you rather be right or happy".
It was colt and that woman 3, the black haired one that he was cheating with that went to the man up guy. I don't know what his new woman's name is, I kind of was team Jess and seeing them together was just bad for me. It's like the whole of the human race doesn't live up to my expectations and I feel so disappointed with them lol.
These two need to break up. They should never have been together in the first place. Why she had to go so far to find such toxic relationship is beyond me! They are obviously not suited for one another.
Lol Ronald did say that he was afraid of hurting his daughter while cleaning her poop. I don't even think he was there for her birth and this is the first time he's seeing her in person, so it's understandable that he's scared/very careful.
Still, he could just watch Tiffany and learn rather than shying away from it. Could also be a weird "dad" thing where he can't reconcile that his baby girl will be a woman some day.
Also, Tiffany is sexist herself in that she constantly berates Ronald for not being a man. She reminds me of Vanessa who likes that alpha stuff in men.
She's very, very sexist.
Always "I want my man to take care of me", etc, all. The. Time.
She's unbearable.
And such bad faith, that's a trait I really can't stand.
And so demeaning. Sneaky. Manipulative. The constant emotional blackmail.
She's no gift herself.
@@ChristmasLore someone's jealous lol
Ronald has a very 1950s view of marriage a strong American woman is never gonna be compatible with that
So she needs to tell him. “You can’t treat me like that because I am an AMERICAN”😄 but yes i agree he seems to have very rigid ideas about gender roles
Many South African women aren't compatible with it either 😝
@@DigitalDassie yes like it is only american women who is strong enough to stand up for themselves and who wants to be treated right.
I feel like Tiffany is a little much. Then again Ronald can do more. But Tiffany kind of talks to Ronald like a child, similar to the other couple, Syngin and ?
Trying to push someone that has the burden of addiction by constantly adding pressure just doesn't seem like a good idea
There was that "alpha" Therapist... Who was it?
For Colt and Vanessa.
They went to Vanessa's therapist for their trust issues.
Thanks😁
My favourite : Man Up! guy…
😅
Just a thought but I think TLC or 90 day fiance should hire a therapist like Dr. Honda (if not Dr. Honda, himself) to provide therapy to these couples.
Things would be much better that way.
Just a thought.
Hire Dr. Honda if he has space in his schedule.
Hire Dr. Honda if he has space in his schedule.
Heavily edited show, suggested story lines by editors, hard to do good therapy around that.
They won't do that. This shows are extremely unethical.
I don't know where Ronald lives but the small town issue could be at play with him seeing his uncle. However, I think it could also be that he wanted a counselor from his church and religion which would narrow the sample considerably
Also uncle would be free or cheap.
Also, he was disappointed at the end when he said the uncle sided with Tiffany instead of him. He might have expected for the uncle to help him gang up on Tiffany.
Oh goody, a pastor doing marriage counseling. Now, Pastor Paul might be an exception to the rule (the rule being that clergy tend to do marriage counseling without any psych training). Still, I prefer my counseling to be science-based instead of faith-based. Many places have a shortage of secular therapists, which is why the Secular Therapy Project was created.
I like both.. my spirt needs a lot of therapy lately too
Nope. The one here actually studied therapy with his theology degree. They have different sort of theoretical courses and practical classes. Can't be a counselor without the credentials.
{within certain churches - Dutch Reformed etc, this is necessary).
There are also quakes, but they are not the ones being visited/shown here
"Boost his ego" - it may not be worded well, but there is truth to make a husband feel wanted and needed by the spouse, that she respects him (and of course the other way around). Honestly, it's hard to be married to someone who you don't respect and show respect to. By being careful of his (and her) self-esteem, it encourages to do more of the same. The opposite is really disdain and contempt.
I couldn't and wouldn't boost someone's ego who refused to help with childcare. they're just completely fundamentally incompatible. agree with your sentiments though
I love how he said to "stop criticizing each other", and Tiffany IMMEDIATELY started criticizing him before they got to their car. And used the bad excuse of "I'm just stating facts"!
@@pinkpugginz well, I guess I mean that she needs to let go a bit, let Ronald have some success with the kids and then encourage him about that even if he didn't do it exactly as she would have done it. But they are way beyond that now, and I have no idea what she saw in him to begin with or at least after knowing about his gambling addictions and criminal record. I see no warmth or sign of liking each other between them - ever.
@@thedudeabides5695 Exactly!
Exactly!
I want a man to be head of the household. I want him to make the last decision and to provide for my kids. If I am alone I will do these things alone. I am not sexually attracted to a man who puts me in charge. I would break him.
Ronald, Ronald, Ronald…SMH