I appreciate how hard Phelps worked to try to understand the experience and usefulness of interventions for others and how patient Mona was advocating for the importance of seeking help and offering support. This episode was hella dope.
Unaddressed trauma , triggers other commodities like depression , bipolar, Alzheimer, and cancer. Especially in women ! Please find your happy place and things that bring you joy , do it all the time ! Don't suffer in silent. I go through seasonal depression , therapy and exercise have been my outlet. Great pod!
This episode made me realize that I’m only depressed when traumatic things happen to me. I was never born depressed, I had an amazing upbringing and was a happy child. What it comes down to is adulting, this shit super hard. I don’t take meds, I give myself pep talks and tell myself that everything will be okay. Talking out your problems may or may not help, do what works for you 💕
That's not depression then. Depression isn't conditional. People misuse the word too much. Depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain. You aren't motivated, can't focus, have no energy, etc. Stop confusing it with sadness. Someone who's depressed can't just snap out of it and it doesn't matter if everything is going good for them they'll still feel this way. A psychiatrist can diagnose it and prescribe meds to fix the chemical imbalance. Everyone has ups and downs, not the same as being depressed. What you described is just LIFE. I have bipolar Depression.
Wow me too! I just said to myself I wish someone told me how hurtful life could be because it completely blindsided me. It's been almost 10 years for me but I do know so much more now. I'm working to get away from this traumatic living situation I'm stuck in.
I'm a doctor (psychologist) and I REALLY appreciate the insight on how depression feels for you and others. Not enough people know what it feels like from the side of whoever is struggling. But KNOW, true friends don't consider you a burden. 🗣 LET THEM KNOW. Friends, ✔check on them consistently. Sometimes you gotta pop up when it's been a minute. Help them clean or cook for them. Show your love through actions. Depression will have you feeling numb. Our environments being beautiful and clean or smelling good HELPS! Bring something or do something that will boost their mood. Deep talks aren't always necessary. But anyway, thank you Mona!
I have a very very small circle and I hope they always know when I’m in one of the depression moods , it’s over looked a lot and it looks different to everyone 🙏🏽
@@lifewithkashmeere but it's important to know that you need to speak up as well. It's not up to those around you to read your mind or just be able to tell, that's not reasonable, because like you said, it looks soooo different for every other person. I know it takes alot but it's a give and take for all people involved.
The veil analogy was really great coming from someone who has struggled with depression for like the past 10/12 yrs. It’s bout time to take the veil off because my coping mechanisms are - not holding up
@@ChristinaQueenHeart for me if I can take some advice I’m manic and I just start constantly thinking about my trauma in life my childhood haunts me in a lot of ways I talk to myself I overly share I just get so nervous around people my coping skills are closing myself off and just trying to numb myself from intrusive thoughts‼️
@@babyxoxo oooh I get the over sharing & wanting to close off. I’m finding myself to have to find balance by loving myself enough to let go of something that does not serve me. I started by acknowledging my pain and then inviting things in my life that are pure because what I do frequently has become my frequency, you see. I’ll be praying for you baby xoxo 💖 don’t be afraid to seek more help
We appreciate the comedic relief of courseee, but we also need to have conversations like this 💖 you’re a gem because you connect to people that no one else can get to. Sending you love!
As a person who called a help line as a teenager, yes its a very good thing that they exist. In my mind at the time I thought I had nobody to talk to even though I actually did. I think the phone call helped open my eyes. ANYWAYS, I love the show Mona I never miss an episode 💕
When she gave examples of the depression... Yes I felt that I used to hate a sunny day because I knew ppl would be outside and expect me to come out and me just not being up to it , for months
Same here. I hate the summer because the days are longer & pple stay asking me to do things. I just want to be left alone. Winter time is the best. I get home it’s dark & I can get in bed w/o question. But summer time it looks bad when I’m in bed at 7pm with full sun out🥺
Heavy topic that needs to be had. Even as a mother to a three year old, I try my best to cater to my baby’s mental health bc itsssss so important. We were definitely raised by a “tough it out” generation and I don’t want my baby to ever feel like he cannot come to me.
This episode was VERY, VERY informative and necessary. Thank you DCMWG for being so transparent and thank you Phelps for asking the questions I always pondered. I had a friend on my grandmother's block as a child who committed suicide at 12. I was devastated because he thought he had no friends, he was bullied (which is why I hate bullying, became an advocate and a teacher). Your honesty is amazing, thanks again.
This episode was so good. Depression is so real man. And it’s tough for people in their 20’s and 30’s because our parents (black parents particularly) were never made aware of how serious mental illness is, like we have (mainly because of social media). A lot of us are trying to break toxic cycles of unaddressed trauma, depression, anxiety etc
I like that Mona spoke on religion and mental health. People always want to pray it away but that’s not always realistic. Take whatever means to get help that you can.
I wasn’t expecting to hear this. I came for jokes cause I’ve been really down and I really wanted to laugh. But this is exactly what I needed just to know I’m not alone out here. S/o everybody with mood disorders. We have to work 3x as hard to take care of ourselves
I think it’s so REAL that Phelps asked How to approach someone dealing with depression. He’s seems genuinely concerned and interested in how to support. As someone whose experienced depression, Mona did an amazing job normalizing the entire experience. Thank you both.
I loved the discussion piece on suicide. I honestly feel that you broke it down for me and now I have a better understanding of what it's like. I love this 😍
Yoo that conversation about mental health, mental health running in the family, having no men around generationally, and constantly feeling like you want to fix this and having a family of your own… hit home. Love this ❤️🔥
Even though this was a heavy topic, this was one of my favorite episodes. It’s so relevant to where we are today. Please keep up the important conversations. I have learned so much from this episode. Thank you 🙏🏾
ROSES, ROSES I'm throwin' roses!! Beautiful episode! Inner city/hood people and children alike need to see someone like them explaining or relating to depression. Not keeping it all down or a secret. Thank you for the awareness, I betchu so many ppl feel seen & heard after this episode! Annnnnddd it was still funny 💯
Phelps, I didn’t feel suicidal on purpose. Life’s circumstances landed me in the moments of my lowest times. It wasn’t because I saw “how to be suicidal” on television…
His ignorance really showed this episode. Like what commercial is saying to jump off your house but call this number first before you do. Ppl who don’t get depression need to just listen if they keep repeating themselves and keep getting corrected…
@@AmyChanChiignorance is lacking education on a certain topic. So yes, Phelps is ignorant when it comes to depression and suicide but that’s why he’s asking questions. I do agree that he could have done more listening at times but he also asked a lot of questions. He was seeking clarity and insight, which is always a great thing. He could benefit from learning how to be a better communicator but there is absolutely nothing wrong with his ignorance on this subject. Comments like this stop people from asking questions.
Yes Damona speak! You are doing the community such a service by keeping it 100. Yes finding the right prescription might take much longer than expected, yes it might take a few sessions with different therapists before you find your fit but you have to STAY COMMITTED. You have to advocate for yourself it is work, give your self a chance and stick with it. Sometimes you’ll find out that you didn’t even require medication you just needed counseling, for some meditation and more holistic treatments help. I cannot speak for those that have been in the fight for years with no avail🙏🏽 my statement is more for those who have yet to seek help.
I loveeee how you described depression. It's a hard concept to explain to begin with when you've never been depressed. Most people think "just be happy." I think that was an easy & accurate way of explaining it. Thank Mona❤❤ I always look forward to your show every week
One of the best episodes. Got chills listening on Spotify last night. We love the empathetic breakdown Mona. You’re educating your friends on real shit 💯
16:24 MARK this is some real talk my sister so blessed to here you openly talk and share with others about this issue of depression its so real and so many of us are suffering.
22:56 at 8 I told the counselor at school that I just wanted a break from life, a vacation on a island alone forever. At the time I didn’t know what I was saying but now I fully understand why she went to my house and told my aunt and uncle what I said. It hurt me at the time because she said she wouldn’t tell them but I also kind of thank her
1 min and I’m cracking up 🤣 about the wig situation. Also, coming from a mental health therapist, the discussion about mental health was spot on. Good job y’all. 🤎✨
Big ups to you Mona for having this conversation so openly. It's so necassary! And actually hearing the things that help and dont help from people in your life! And I get Phelps question in the sense that hearing in graphic detail about how someone ends their life does increase attempts. That's why the education about it has to be open and honest but without the gory details. Advocates have advised news reports to not share details of the method if they do cover suicides
Children are assumed to not have the emotional capabilities of adults just because "they're kids". Which means their problems usually get brushed off. In reality, even though their frame of mind is different, their pain should never be minimized. Lean into empathy, compassion, and creating a safe space for friends and family. If you can't personally help someone, suggest therapy (sometimes it's free, income-based or insurance may cover it)
What’s sad is that sometimes a person will open up to the WRONG PERSON who says all the wrong things. Sometimes it’s best to call a hotline with a professional. I’m a 39 year old man and I maybe have 1 person in my life out of many people I know that I would trust to open up and know their words will be wise to help me
This has been one of my favorite episodes. I have lost friends bc they don’t understand what depression looks like. I may look ok but inside sometimes I’m just not and I can’t explain it. People expect you to be ok bc of how you present yourself but sometimes you’re fighting silent demons alone. So glad you gave this insight.
I listened yesterday on Spotify but I had to leave a comment. I think you paint an accurate picture of the mental health issues and hang ups people in our community face on a daily. There are resources out there if anyone needs it and there should be no shame in asking for help.
Great episode! I replayed the beginning several times. When you said I really wanna do this and started pulling that wig off I hollered, and then she said i'm not cause i'm mature and i'm a pod caster almost took me out. This was one of my favorite episodes so far. Depression is real and your explanation was awesome. Thank you Mona.
Y’all “ we aren’t the news, we’re just for entertainment and to make you laugh” But then y’all go into the most helpful, & educational conversation about depression/suicide. My daughter deals with depression, I’ve gotten her therapy, but I won’t lie, I couldn’t understand. It literally opened my eyes when you gave the example of the veil, & made it make sense for me. It was much appreciated.
My first suicidal thought was at 8 and I would’ve loved to have known about a hotline. I absolutely love your show and how you bring awareness to mental health. I lol’d at the joke and I feel like ppl aren’t allowed to grow on social media. Ppl feel like they can compile all of the post you’ve made on social media and know who they are as a person.
I used to work at the Suicide Line & it’s not what Phelps think it is. They don’t play sad & depressing music or advertise it that way, because they don’t wanna trigger nobody. Now during certain holidays or major event, sometimes the wait is long for obvious reasons *BUT* most of the time, they’re available & even have a text/chat online option now (I think). Like Mona said, some people don’t have a support system so it helps to be able to call, speak to a neutral/supportive person (ideally), & get resources.
I really love every episode but this one HIT DIFFERENT! I’m going thru my own shit and hearing you speak so openly about your family issues along with your own experience is amazing and you have motivated me to seek help to get me thru what I’m going thru ❤️
You hit the real root of depression for me Mona .. Thank you very much for speaking a truth I typically refuse to share. I’m tired of people not understanding.
The mental health, depression piece...this discussion is so important. You gave excellent examples of situations that will hopefully facilitate better understanding and deter judgement.
Mona, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for the segment on depression and suicide. As someone who has struggled with these issues my entire life, I appreciate you for being transparent. I literally felt like you were our spokesperson in the moment. Nothing you said was off. It was some real sh**
Suicide has reached an all time high because depression and mental illness has reached an all time high. We have to prioritize mental health. People are starting to feel like the option of control death is less painful than their current painful situation. As a community we have to do more. Ignorance is not bliss it's deadly.
This description of depression, so on point! I wish I could explain those feelings like that, but either way, it's so good to hear the experience explained
This woman is SMART! I’ve never heard someone explain depression the way she did here, such a great way to break it down for people. I’ve been to therapy and have college degrees and never have I heard someone explain this so well.
Phelps makes a good point, there has been an increase in exposure to children and adolescents. From the music to tv shows, if shown to children with out true context or understanding they can misconstrue the effects behind attempting it.
Exactly! I believe that's what he was getting at. It does make you think as someone on the outside looking in if that kind of exposure is doing more harm then good. These comments talking about Phelps negatively for simply trying to understand is mind boggling.
unless the child is blind and incoherent of the commercial literally saying to SEEK HELP! Then idk thats the parents fault at that point. It literally says to call this number if your feeling down. Im pretty sure a child knows what feeling sad is. Parents need to sit with their kids and talk to them and pay attention in the first place or the child is left hopeless
Great episode! 🖤🖤 Struggling with depression hard asf. I just had a baby recently and my postpartum has been straight miserable. It's taken alot to get help and make sure I'm here for my children. It's hard but I take it day by day.
Great episode!!! Enjoyed it, I laughed, I got teary...really appreciate how candid you are about your life experiences Mona, it's touching, it's affirming ❤️❤️❤️ thank you.
I love this episode so much because you’re absolutely right! Depression is like a veil, some days are fine, other days aren’t. It really is hard to put that experience into words but I feel you did a great job. As a person that has struggled with depression & anxiety. I agree that a person distancing themselves - just to match energy- can be hurtful. Honestly, just knowing that people are emotionally supportive & care goes a long way.
Phelps was making some points, even though y’all don’t wanna admit it. A LOT of kids nowadays have found mental illnesses as “trendy”. Plenty of them got exposed for faking it on TikTok for views, there’s merch for the “antisocial” kid, etc. It’s that niche to fit in. It just sucks because it takes away from people who are actually crying out for help.
This suicide conversation being centered around children is very important. Not enough people are having this conversation with platforms and it’s unbiased. Especially with Mona being a mom and having this stance, her kids are blessed.
I’ve dealt with depression since 13 from what I can remember and I’m now 31. I made the decision to get on an antidepressant 2.5yrs ago & I did exactly what she said, went through 3 medications until I found the one for me. But I’m writing this to encourage those who need it because it really has helped me. No it doesn’t get rid of your depression as a whole, you’re going to still have your days, but it does help in your thoughts not going from 0-100. Not sure how to explain it but it’s worth the dedication to try until you find the right one.
i love how phelps asked questions about the suicide ads and commercials. i was confused too and understood what he was asking and mona did good explaining. thank y’all ♥️
This topic is triggering but I’m so glad y’all are addressing it… Mona chile some times I feel like your doppelgänger 😩 we share so many life similarities it’s scary… this was my favorite episode… thank you 🙏🏾
I definitely roll up and watch faithfully. Thank you for addressing mental health- as someone who struggles daily with depression and anxiety, I appreciate your honesty about needing to heal yourself first and foremost. I also grew up with a mom with manic depression who never got treatment. I'm trying to break the cycle tho. I appreciate the laughs and realness you give us weekly. And stay strong everyone - you are needed - you are loved 💙
I appreciate this conversation and I applaud Phelps for asking questions to better understand. This is definitely a topic that more people need to use their platform to speak about. Love this, great job Damona!
Good episode. A little sad with the suicide talk BUT it's def needed AND it added a diff aspect to the show. The ending lifted it back up. Prayers to those suffering with mental issues. 🙏🏾❤
Phelps asking legit questions we should try to address! It’s so important to have spaces like this to ask those types of questions so we can learn and see different perspectives
I appreciate this episode. I contacted one the hotlines due to my teenage daughter being suicidal and they were very helpful. As parent, I had no clue how to handle the situation and wanted to make sure my daughter received the help she needed. I've personally had episodes of depression but didn't know how to get help in my younger years. Like you Mona, I still get in moods where I don't want to be bothered so I don't take calls or talk to anyone. I have learned just how important mental health is in my 30s but I wish I had more tools and knew how to access resources earlier on. Sorry for the long post and be blessed everyone!!!
I understand Phelps saying Suicide awareness needs to be presented differently, it shouldn’t be suicide awareness or prevention the treatment before people even get near that point should be advertised more heavily rather than the ending steps being a rescue haven.. unsure if it’s what Phelps exactly means but how i would of added to it and understood it
This was a good conversation love this episode‼️ I suffered from depression for the 1st time in my life when I had my child n mannnn it was soooo hard I felt like I had nobody by time my daughter turned 1 1/2 years(she’s 2 now) it started to fade away I prayed WAYYY HARDER than I ever did n I try not to worry at all n let me tell you them 2 things are changing my life things are just fallen right in place n I thank the Lord EVERYDAY for it 💖
definitely didn’t get bummed out at all , shed a lil tear at 16mins 13 sec cause i felt that 😔💯 beauty is in your spirit and humor. i think it was Mike Epps that stated we’re made in HIS image , & HE understands my humor & so do I 😆 keepin coming Mona 💯‼️
Thank you for addressing this ..... I have so much to say but you hit it on the head and you didnt have to use your platform to do so thank you Mona !!!
Love the serious of this conversation. I prefer these life talk over trending topics! This was needed, and Mona u articulated ur self perfectly!!! Loved this.
I appreciate how hard Phelps worked to try to understand the experience and usefulness of interventions for others and how patient Mona was advocating for the importance of seeking help and offering support. This episode was hella dope.
Unaddressed trauma , triggers other commodities like depression , bipolar, Alzheimer, and cancer. Especially in women ! Please find your happy place and things that bring you joy , do it all the time ! Don't suffer in silent. I go through seasonal depression , therapy and exercise have been my outlet. Great pod!
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BIG FACTZ 🎯💯 I'm happy for you that doing things you enjoy such as exercise, meditating, cooking, therapy bring you happiness and joy. 🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing. Well said!
Thank you sis honestly this is great information that I did not know 🙏🏾❤️
Commodities???
This episode made me realize that I’m only depressed when traumatic things happen to me. I was never born depressed, I had an amazing upbringing and was a happy child. What it comes down to is adulting, this shit super hard. I don’t take meds, I give myself pep talks and tell myself that everything will be okay. Talking out your problems may or may not help, do what works for you 💕
omg same!!!! yes!
Yes, adulting is hard as shit.. finding an outlet can definitely be helpful
That's not depression then. Depression isn't conditional. People misuse the word too much. Depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain. You aren't motivated, can't focus, have no energy, etc. Stop confusing it with sadness. Someone who's depressed can't just snap out of it and it doesn't matter if everything is going good for them they'll still feel this way. A psychiatrist can diagnose it and prescribe meds to fix the chemical imbalance. Everyone has ups and downs, not the same as being depressed. What you described is just LIFE. I have bipolar Depression.
@@itzjess88 situational depression is absolutely a thing.
Wow me too! I just said to myself I wish someone told me how hurtful life could be because it completely blindsided me. It's been almost 10 years for me but I do know so much more now. I'm working to get away from this traumatic living situation I'm stuck in.
I'm a doctor (psychologist) and I REALLY appreciate the insight on how depression feels for you and others. Not enough people know what it feels like from the side of whoever is struggling. But KNOW, true friends don't consider you a burden. 🗣 LET THEM KNOW. Friends, ✔check on them consistently. Sometimes you gotta pop up when it's been a minute. Help them clean or cook for them. Show your love through actions. Depression will have you feeling numb. Our environments being beautiful and clean or smelling good HELPS! Bring something or do something that will boost their mood. Deep talks aren't always necessary. But anyway, thank you Mona!
This! Deep talks aren’t always necessary. Acts of care is the true gem 💎!
Thank you for sharing! I can definitely do this!
I have a very very small circle and I hope they always know when I’m in one of the depression moods , it’s over looked a lot and it looks different to everyone 🙏🏽
@@lifewithkashmeere but it's important to know that you need to speak up as well. It's not up to those around you to read your mind or just be able to tell, that's not reasonable, because like you said, it looks soooo different for every other person. I know it takes alot but it's a give and take for all people involved.
Mona : “Make up all done up”
Rhonda: “I don’t have on any make up”
Mona: “🙄 DAMN YOU PRETTY” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She’s so pretty especially her smile
@@dontcallmewhitegirlperiod3096 we want her back on camera, tell Tom to bring his ass and Juice ✨ or it’s Demerits for errbody
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The veil analogy was really great coming from someone who has struggled with depression for like the past 10/12 yrs. It’s bout time to take the veil off because my coping mechanisms are - not holding up
If you don't mind me asking, which coping techniques aren't helping? I'm a psychologist and I might have some ideas for you.
@@ChristinaQueenHeart for me if I can take some advice I’m manic and I just start constantly thinking about my trauma in life my childhood haunts me in a lot of ways I talk to myself I overly share I just get so nervous around people my coping skills are closing myself off and just trying to numb myself from intrusive thoughts‼️
@@babyxoxo oooh I get the over sharing & wanting to close off. I’m finding myself to have to find balance by loving myself enough to let go of something that does not serve me. I started by acknowledging my pain and then inviting things in my life that are pure because what I do frequently has become my frequency, you see.
I’ll be praying for you baby xoxo 💖 don’t be afraid to seek more help
@@PurelyChas thank you and same to you I hope everything improves and gets better for you 💘‼️
We appreciate the comedic relief of courseee, but we also need to have conversations like this 💖 you’re a gem because you connect to people that no one else can get to. Sending you love!
Right people will make you feel weird for going through depression I feel this is a safe space
As a person who called a help line as a teenager, yes its a very good thing that they exist. In my mind at the time I thought I had nobody to talk to even though I actually did. I think the phone call helped open my eyes. ANYWAYS, I love the show Mona I never miss an episode 💕
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So glad you called! 😊
Really good episode!!!!! NEEDS TO GO VIRAAAAAL beautifully done man. mental health matter, Black mental health is so crucial right now!
When she gave examples of the depression... Yes I felt that I used to hate a sunny day because I knew ppl would be outside and expect me to come out and me just not being up to it , for months
Same here. I hate the summer because the days are longer & pple stay asking me to do things. I just want to be left alone. Winter time is the best. I get home it’s dark & I can get in bed w/o question. But summer time it looks bad when I’m in bed at 7pm with full sun out🥺
Heavy topic that needs to be had. Even as a mother to a three year old, I try my best to cater to my baby’s mental health bc itsssss so important. We were definitely raised by a “tough it out” generation and I don’t want my baby to ever feel like he cannot come to me.
I have a 4 year old and I feel the same!
This episode was VERY, VERY informative and necessary. Thank you DCMWG for being so transparent and thank you Phelps for asking the questions I always pondered. I had a friend on my grandmother's block as a child who committed suicide at 12. I was devastated because he thought he had no friends, he was bullied (which is why I hate bullying, became an advocate and a teacher). Your honesty is amazing, thanks again.
This episode was so good. Depression is so real man. And it’s tough for people in their 20’s and 30’s because our parents (black parents particularly) were never made aware of how serious mental illness is, like we have (mainly because of social media). A lot of us are trying to break toxic cycles of unaddressed trauma, depression, anxiety etc
I like that Mona spoke on religion and mental health. People always want to pray it away but that’s not always realistic. Take whatever means to get help that you can.
I wasn’t expecting to hear this. I came for jokes cause I’ve been really down and I really wanted to laugh. But this is exactly what I needed just to know I’m not alone out here. S/o everybody with mood disorders. We have to work 3x as hard to take care of ourselves
I think it’s so REAL that Phelps asked How to approach someone dealing with depression. He’s seems genuinely concerned and interested in how to support. As someone whose experienced depression, Mona did an amazing job normalizing the entire experience. Thank you both.
Lmfao yo Phelps was really roasting.. He said it looks like you have a hoodie on😂😂🤣. Love the 2 of them!!!
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I screamed 😂🤣🤣
I loved the discussion piece on suicide. I honestly feel that you broke it down for me and now I have a better understanding of what it's like. I love this 😍
I feel like we will see more people trying to or committing suicide with the way that life is going so sad
Yoo that conversation about mental health, mental health running in the family, having no men around generationally, and constantly feeling like you want to fix this and having a family of your own… hit home. Love this ❤️🔥
Even though this was a heavy topic, this was one of my favorite episodes. It’s so relevant to where we are today. Please keep up the important conversations. I have learned so much from this episode. Thank you 🙏🏾
ROSES, ROSES I'm throwin' roses!! Beautiful episode! Inner city/hood people and children alike need to see someone like them explaining or relating to depression. Not keeping it all down or a secret. Thank you for the awareness, I betchu so many ppl feel seen & heard after this episode! Annnnnddd it was still funny 💯
Phelps, I didn’t feel suicidal on purpose. Life’s circumstances landed me in the moments of my lowest times.
It wasn’t because I saw “how to be suicidal” on television…
His ignorance really showed this episode. Like what commercial is saying to jump off your house but call this number first before you do. Ppl who don’t get depression need to just listen if they keep repeating themselves and keep getting corrected…
Yea I was kinda disgusted by his comment on that and what's worse is there are plenty of other people that think like him
@@AmyChanChiignorance is lacking education on a certain topic. So yes, Phelps is ignorant when it comes to depression and suicide but that’s why he’s asking questions. I do agree that he could have done more listening at times but he also asked a lot of questions. He was seeking clarity and insight, which is always a great thing. He could benefit from learning how to be a better communicator but there is absolutely nothing wrong with his ignorance on this subject. Comments like this stop people from asking questions.
“Look like you got a hoodie on” Phelps why 💀💀??? It’s giving Doja Cat with the hot pink wig. But it’s definitely braid temperature. Let me get mine.
Shit just took me outtt
A nike tech wig tho? Like he's sick 😭😭😭😭
Yes Damona speak! You are doing the community such a service by keeping it 100. Yes finding the right prescription might take much longer than expected, yes it might take a few sessions with different therapists before you find your fit but you have to STAY COMMITTED. You have to advocate for yourself it is work, give your self a chance and stick with it. Sometimes you’ll find out that you didn’t even require medication you just needed counseling, for some meditation and more holistic treatments help. I cannot speak for those that have been in the fight for years with no avail🙏🏽 my statement is more for those who have yet to seek help.
I loveeee how you described depression. It's a hard concept to explain to begin with when you've never been depressed. Most people think "just be happy." I think that was an easy & accurate way of explaining it. Thank Mona❤❤ I always look forward to your show every week
Phelps is trying to put too much logic into a situation that is illogical, it’s not to make sense of it just be grateful and be there too help
He gets on my nerves he needs to just be quiet because every time he talks we see how immature and uninformed he is.
@@jasminjenee Hes as childish as his shoe size🫡
One of the best episodes. Got chills listening on Spotify last night. We love the empathetic breakdown Mona. You’re educating your friends on real shit 💯
16:24 MARK this is some real talk my sister so blessed to here you openly talk and share with others about this issue of depression its so real and so many of us are suffering.
22:56 at 8 I told the counselor at school that I just wanted a break from life, a vacation on a island alone forever. At the time I didn’t know what I was saying but now I fully understand why she went to my house and told my aunt and uncle what I said. It hurt me at the time because she said she wouldn’t tell them but I also kind of thank her
This made me tear up, I pray you have some form of peace now in your life and doing well ❤️
1 min and I’m cracking up 🤣 about the wig situation.
Also, coming from a mental health therapist, the discussion about mental health was spot on. Good job y’all. 🤎✨
Big ups to you Mona for having this conversation so openly. It's so necassary! And actually hearing the things that help and dont help from people in your life!
And I get Phelps question in the sense that hearing in graphic detail about how someone ends their life does increase attempts.
That's why the education about it has to be open and honest but without the gory details. Advocates have advised news reports to not share details of the method if they do cover suicides
Children are assumed to not have the emotional capabilities of adults just because "they're kids". Which means their problems usually get brushed off. In reality, even though their frame of mind is different, their pain should never be minimized.
Lean into empathy, compassion, and creating a safe space for friends and family. If you can't personally help someone, suggest therapy (sometimes it's free, income-based or insurance may cover it)
What’s sad is that sometimes a person will open up to the WRONG PERSON who says all the wrong things. Sometimes it’s best to call a hotline with a professional. I’m a 39 year old man and I maybe have 1 person in my life out of many people I know that I would trust to open up and know their words will be wise to help me
The way Mona explained depression very well and simple to understand the concept.
This has been one of my favorite episodes. I have lost friends bc they don’t understand what depression looks like. I may look ok but inside sometimes I’m just not and I can’t explain it. People expect you to be ok bc of how you present yourself but sometimes you’re fighting silent demons alone. So glad you gave this insight.
I criiiiinge so bad when Phelp's try to give his opinion on anything...
Lol why?
Literally never makes any sense lmao
He threw his whole action figure body into that shitty ass take of his.
I listened yesterday on Spotify but I had to leave a comment. I think you paint an accurate picture of the mental health issues and hang ups people in our community face on a daily. There are resources out there if anyone needs it and there should be no shame in asking for help.
"all I need is one" 😭 that 30 minute breakdown made me a fan for life
Great episode! I replayed the beginning several times. When you said I really wanna do this and started pulling that wig off I hollered, and then she said i'm not cause i'm mature and i'm a pod caster almost took me out. This was one of my favorite episodes so far. Depression is real and your explanation was awesome. Thank you Mona.
Y’all “ we aren’t the news, we’re just for entertainment and to make you laugh”
But then y’all go into the most helpful, & educational conversation about depression/suicide. My daughter deals with depression, I’ve gotten her therapy, but I won’t lie, I couldn’t understand. It literally opened my eyes when you gave the example of the veil, & made it make sense for me. It was much appreciated.
My first suicidal thought was at 8 and I would’ve loved to have known about a hotline. I absolutely love your show and how you bring awareness to mental health. I lol’d at the joke and I feel like ppl aren’t allowed to grow on social media. Ppl feel like they can compile all of the post you’ve made on social media and know who they are as a person.
Phelps low key ruined this one for me. Wish he would have just dropped it after Mona answered his question.
LOVEDDDD THIS DOWN MONA!!!! This was a much needed dialogue and super informative
I used to work at the Suicide Line & it’s not what Phelps think it is. They don’t play sad & depressing music or advertise it that way, because they don’t wanna trigger nobody.
Now during certain holidays or major event, sometimes the wait is long for obvious reasons *BUT* most of the time, they’re available & even have a text/chat online option now (I think).
Like Mona said, some people don’t have a support system so it helps to be able to call, speak to a neutral/supportive person (ideally), & get resources.
I really love every episode but this one HIT DIFFERENT! I’m going thru my own shit and hearing you speak so openly about your family issues along with your own experience is amazing and you have motivated me to seek help to get me thru what I’m going thru ❤️
You hit the real root of depression for me Mona .. Thank you very much for speaking a truth I typically refuse to share. I’m tired of people not understanding.
I love this pod cast so much ! It’s so real and raw and funny 💕 mental health conversations need to be had more
The mental health, depression piece...this discussion is so important. You gave excellent examples of situations that will hopefully facilitate better understanding and deter judgement.
Mona pulling the wig back is me . 😂😂 Try braids boo
Mona, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for the segment on depression and suicide. As someone who has struggled with these issues my entire life, I appreciate you for being transparent. I literally felt like you were our spokesperson in the moment. Nothing you said was off. It was some real sh**
Suicide has reached an all time high because depression and mental illness has reached an all time high. We have to prioritize mental health.
People are starting to feel like the option of control death is less painful than their current painful situation.
As a community we have to do more. Ignorance is not bliss it's deadly.
This description of depression, so on point! I wish I could explain those feelings like that, but either way, it's so good to hear the experience explained
Watching this podcast is very soothing
Realistic and great convo on mental health. You broke it down especially when it comes to how loved ones and friends can try to be there 🥺 💯
This woman is SMART! I’ve never heard someone explain depression the way she did here, such a great way to break it down for people. I’ve been to therapy and have college degrees and never have I heard someone explain this so well.
Phelps makes a good point, there has been an increase in exposure to children and adolescents. From the music to tv shows, if shown to children with out true context or understanding they can misconstrue the effects behind attempting it.
Exactly! I believe that's what he was getting at. It does make you think as someone on the outside looking in if that kind of exposure is doing more harm then good. These comments talking about Phelps negatively for simply trying to understand is mind boggling.
@@DaFaBBMiSs3s yea they’re definitely missing his point 🙄 I get it’s a sensitive topic but we have to be objective in order to understand.
unless the child is blind and incoherent of the commercial literally saying to SEEK HELP! Then idk thats the parents fault at that point. It literally says to call this number if your feeling down. Im pretty sure a child knows what feeling sad is. Parents need to sit with their kids and talk to them and pay attention in the first place or the child is left hopeless
Phelps Always Got Mona Back Lmao I Love Thaat
YALL TOOK MY VOICEMAIL THANK YOU!!!!!! I was playing you in the background and heard my voice OMGGGGG
I would be embarrassed to say that was me
Girl. I would’ve kept this in
monaaaaa. i suffer from depression too…the way you broke it down bout to have me in tears 😩 thank you for that. i couldn’t find the words
You have showed so much spiritual growth. Keep being delivering the truth queen. 🕊❤️💐
Wait Phelps said it look like u got a hoodie on 🤣🤣🤣
Incredible episode and conversation.
Great episode! 🖤🖤 Struggling with depression hard asf. I just had a baby recently and my postpartum has been straight miserable. It's taken alot to get help and make sure I'm here for my children. It's hard but I take it day by day.
i shared this with my friends , i struggled to explain the feeling for almost my entire life and you summed it up exactly how i’ve felt
Smoking weed doesnt help at all! Working out helps me with depression. Thanks for talking about this Mona ❤❤❤
Yo I have so much love for Mona after this episode. Thank you for sharing with the community.
I love the balance of comedy & how Mona gives real life wisdom when it comes to serious topics like depression or domestic violence
Great episode!!! Enjoyed it, I laughed, I got teary...really appreciate how candid you are about your life experiences Mona, it's touching, it's affirming ❤️❤️❤️ thank you.
“Rhonda am I okay?”
Rhonda: “No! NOOOOOOOO”
I’m crying that she really did that. It’s so forbidden and she did that lmaoooo
I love this episode so much because you’re absolutely right! Depression is like a veil, some days are fine, other days aren’t. It really is hard to put that experience into words but I feel you did a great job. As a person that has struggled with depression & anxiety. I agree that a person distancing themselves - just to match energy- can be hurtful. Honestly, just knowing that people are emotionally supportive & care goes a long way.
When Phelps said it look like you got a hoodie on, I screamed out loud 😭😭
Phelps was making some points, even though y’all don’t wanna admit it. A LOT of kids nowadays have found mental illnesses as “trendy”. Plenty of them got exposed for faking it on TikTok for views, there’s merch for the “antisocial” kid, etc. It’s that niche to fit in. It just sucks because it takes away from people who are actually crying out for help.
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yea. I believe it happened after the netflix show 13 reasons why. which glamorized it to a degree that like you said jumped over to tik
yeah I got that too bc more so within the last 3 to 5 years mental health has been on some fluff bubble gum type …💯
He used the hotline which I feel was a bad example
Antisocial don’t mean you got a mental illness Lmfao
Love her🙏🏾 she’s always so chill & as real as it gets ❤️
Lol lol lol lol at the beginning when she said to Rhonda who's the star😂😂😂😂and dammm u pretty
This suicide conversation being centered around children is very important. Not enough people are having this conversation with platforms and it’s unbiased. Especially with Mona being a mom and having this stance, her kids are blessed.
That wig looks so natural on you. Loves the color🥰
I’ve dealt with depression since 13 from what I can remember and I’m now 31. I made the decision to get on an antidepressant 2.5yrs ago & I did exactly what she said, went through 3 medications until I found the one for me. But I’m writing this to encourage those who need it because it really has helped me. No it doesn’t get rid of your depression as a whole, you’re going to still have your days, but it does help in your thoughts not going from 0-100. Not sure how to explain it but it’s worth the dedication to try until you find the right one.
The suicide/mental health part was great, lost my brother to suicide. This podcast is needed
Watching your podcast always brightens up my day. This was a real episode 💯 touched on some real topics along with hella laughs😂 Love you Mona❤️
Yoooo🤣🤣🤣 that damn “little skittlehead “ joke took me tf out 😂😂😂
He is very correct, because as a child I had no clue what suicide was.
It’s the shirt and the hair for me. 😍 it’s definitely time for braids or faux locs though. 😂😂
i love how phelps asked questions about the suicide ads and commercials. i was confused too and understood what he was asking and mona did good explaining. thank y’all ♥️
This topic is triggering but I’m so glad y’all are addressing it… Mona chile some times I feel like your doppelgänger 😩 we share so many life similarities it’s scary… this was my favorite episode… thank you 🙏🏾
I definitely roll up and watch faithfully. Thank you for addressing mental health- as someone who struggles daily with depression and anxiety, I appreciate your honesty about needing to heal yourself first and foremost. I also grew up with a mom with manic depression who never got treatment. I'm trying to break the cycle tho. I appreciate the laughs and realness you give us weekly. And stay strong everyone - you are needed - you are loved 💙
I appreciate this conversation and I applaud Phelps for asking questions to better understand. This is definitely a topic that more people need to use their platform to speak about. Love this, great job Damona!
Your analogy on depression was good
I appreciate Mona for discussing this topic and Phelps for asking all those questions to genuinely understand ❤️
God bless you guys. None of this episode was a bummer. It will help SO many people, especially Phelps' questions.
Good episode. A little sad with the suicide talk BUT it's def needed AND it added a diff aspect to the show. The ending lifted it back up. Prayers to those suffering with mental issues. 🙏🏾❤
Phelps asking legit questions we should try to address! It’s so important to have spaces like this to ask those types of questions so we can learn and see different perspectives
he literally kept repeating the same thing over and over then basically said to not speak on depression on commercials/tv period…..clearly he was lost
I appreciate this episode. I contacted one the hotlines due to my teenage daughter being suicidal and they were very helpful. As parent, I had no clue how to handle the situation and wanted to make sure my daughter received the help she needed. I've personally had episodes of depression but didn't know how to get help in my younger years. Like you Mona, I still get in moods where I don't want to be bothered so I don't take calls or talk to anyone. I have learned just how important mental health is in my 30s but I wish I had more tools and knew how to access resources earlier on. Sorry for the long post and be blessed everyone!!!
I understand Phelps saying Suicide awareness needs to be presented differently, it shouldn’t be suicide awareness or prevention the treatment before people even get near that point should be advertised more heavily rather than the ending steps being a rescue haven.. unsure if it’s what Phelps exactly means but how i would of added to it and understood it
This was a good conversation love this episode‼️ I suffered from depression for the 1st time in my life when I had my child n mannnn it was soooo hard I felt like I had nobody by time my daughter turned 1 1/2 years(she’s 2 now) it started to fade away I prayed WAYYY HARDER than I ever did n I try not to worry at all n let me tell you them 2 things are changing my life things are just fallen right in place n I thank the Lord EVERYDAY for it 💖
Nah i swear u the funniest person ever!!
definitely didn’t get bummed out at all , shed a lil tear at 16mins 13 sec cause i felt that 😔💯 beauty is in your spirit and humor. i think it was Mike Epps that stated we’re made in HIS image , & HE understands my humor & so do I 😆 keepin coming Mona 💯‼️
It's da production fa meee😻😻😻
i can tell mona is a good mother 👏🏽
Thank you for addressing this ..... I have so much to say but you hit it on the head and you didnt have to use your platform to do so thank you Mona !!!
Love the serious of this conversation. I prefer these life talk over trending topics! This was needed, and Mona u articulated ur self perfectly!!! Loved this.