My husband and I couldn’t have kids over 10+ years. We adopted a newborn (non related) Couldn’t be happier. If he truly loves you, there’s so many other options out there to have kids.
@Pizza Pizza I was curious. How do we adopt? I too have a uncle and aunty who's been trying to have kids but no luck. (Myself included) what do we need to qualify?
@@sikamoua6760 theres a few options you can do. You can adopt internationally but that cost a lot of money. You can do private adoption (when the birth mother choose you) but that also cost a lot of money and the birth mom has up to 30 days to change her mind after birth. What we did was foster care. We foster newborns straight from the hospital and if you’re lucky, you get to adopt one. We have fostered 6 kids. And got to keep one.
Infertility is the most saddest and heartbreaking thing in this world!!! Money, gold, and diamonds we are able to make money and buy but having a child of our own takes so much prayers and long nights of crying. Sister I feel you, I get you and you are worth everything, I had Infertility and all the most horrible words a mother in law can say to her daughter in law I heard it all, its hurts but people who can have children doesn't realize that. ♥️ you so much, biggest hugs to you.
I feel you, sister. I been to that road before, the pain hard so much. No one understands how much it hurt inside of you. I been married 15 ½ before I had my first baby. May God bless you, sister.
Sister I feel your pain. You don’t need a man who constantly reminds you that you’re not able to bear children for him so that’s the reason he married a second wife. You can find happiness elsewhere. If you want to have children, you should adopt, find someone to surrogate, or marry a man with children who doesn’t want to have anymore children. For all that your ex husband and mother-in-law did to hurt you, I hope you don’t go back to him. The love you had for each other died the day he made the decision to leave you. He doesn’t deserve you; you deserve better.
Yep true. I used to have a coworker that said he doesn't want anymore kids because he already have 5 kids. So the next woman he marry have to not want kids too, he's white btw. She can always look outside the race to date or marry.
To all the Hmong parents around the world if the daughter in law couldn’t have kids for your son, he can get married again but if your son couldn’t have kids too. Please let the daughter in law get married to other men to have kids too.
I feel your pain in every way. Your story break my heart. Those who don't walk in your shoe, will never ever feel the pain you feel. I wish you the best.
Jesus love you sister!💕 Tsis muaj los txhob tusiab os. Kuv muaj ib pab los Kuv twb tsis muaj kev cia siab rau lawv. Kuv yug tau ib co los thaum kawg Kuv rov tig hlub Kuv tus kheej xwb. Txhob tos cov menyuam tiam no, lawv tsis xav li peb lawm. Koj niam pog & koj tus txiv lawv twb tau raws li lawv txoj kev ntshaw lawm. Koj kav tsij nyob kaj siab lug thiab hlub koj tus kheej kom ntau22 nawb. Vajtswv hlub koj.
Me nyuam xwb tsis muaj los puam chawj, yog yus txoj hmoo os. Ua li luag hais os, yus tus txij nkawm thiaj li yog yus txoj sia. Txawm yus muaj ib pab los yog tsis muaj tus txij nkawm lawm ces yeej yuav nrhiav dua tus tshiab lub neej thiaj li kawg. Hos me nyuam ces lawv loj tiav niam tiav txiv ces lawv yuav mus ua lawv lub neej. Tsis muaj los tsis ua cas. Tsuav yus ob niam txiv sib sib hlub xwb.
Living in the United States don't have kids doesn't matter, tej me nyuam teb chaws no txawm muaj thiab tsis muaj los thaum laus ces yeej kawg mus nyob tsev laus xwb os😥😥😭
I don't understand why they didn't just get a surrogate mother to have kids for them. It's not like her eggs are bad, it's just that her uterus cannot carry the baby to terms. Hmoob es hmoob
The whole process is only about 80k. Which they can definitely finance. They could have lived on one income and use another income to pay for the surrogate. I have a coworkers who had three babies through surrogate and this is what they did. She said that for twin, it only cost 5k more, but there's a little bit more risk for the babies like all twin pregnancy.
Tus me Viv ncaus yog kuv yog koj tej zaum kuv yuav xub muab nrauj ua ntej mus nplog teb txawm li cas los nrog koj zoo siab os mog kuv mloog mas kuv Nim nrog koj mob mob siab kawg li Viv ncaus cov txiv neej zoo li koj tus ko thiab koj niam Pog txiv yawg koj tseem nyob los yeej tsis tshav koj ntuj os mog
Why so many hmong women feel so helpless without a man...cmon you ladies can do anything a man can. Don't lose hope. There's always a calm after a storm.
It's not that we can't live without men, it is the betrayal and time wasted on the person that you loved so much. Accept all their flaws and stand by their side through all hardship just to get played like a clown.
Niam phauj aw..koj zaj neej neeg no hais tau tu2 siab kuv mloog neej neeg txog tav li no tsi muaj ib zaj ua rau kuv kua muag poob li koj zaj no hais tau tu2 kuv siab thiab raug2 kuv heev li o kuv los twb tsi muaj mi nyuam ib yam thiab o txoj kev no yog leej twg taug leej twg thiaj paub txog txoj kev mob thiab txoj kev tu siab chim siab o kuv twb xav tias lub ntiaj teb no kuv thiaj yog ib tug tiv txoj kev mob vim yus muaj tsi tau mi nyuam rau luag xwb no cas koj tseem yog ib tug thiab koj ces koj twb ua tau ib siab tso lawm ntshe koj mob los mob tsi heev lawm o kuv ces tso tsi tau tus txiv tseg ntshe kuv txoj kev mob tseem tshaj koj o tej kwv tij kom mu nrhiav dua ib tug los yug mi nyuam no kuv tseem uv nyob nrog txoj kev mob o kuv xav paub koj thiab nrog koj tham o vim koj zoo li kuv thiab o niam phauj aw ... Cas thaum kawg e ntshe kuv yuav zoo li koj thb o tej niam tej txiv los hai tias mi nyuam kwv tij thiab mab suav tsi zoo cuag li mi nyuam niam yaus no cas yuav hais rau yu tsi muaj ib txoj hauv kev yuav ua tau li xwb cas yuav mob yu lub siab ua luaj li o yog koj pom kuv cov lu no e kom koj xav tias tias koj tseem muaj tug ntxhais lub neej tu2 siab li koj lub thiab o mog
Me niam hluas aw...mloog koj zaj neej neeg no ma tu siab kawg li os kuv los twb tsis muaj minyuam ib yam thiab es kuv thiaj raug nrauj lawm tab sis kuv lub siab tsis zoo npaum koj es yuav mus saib lawv sib hlub os kuv li ces kuv xuj mus ua ntej vim kuv yeej paub tias yuav mob kuv nyiaj tsis taus tej kev ntawd os txhob tu siab os mog tsis yog koj ib leeg xwb tseem muaj peb cov tsis muaj minyuam coob coob kawg li thiab os
Oh sh*t, the minute he wanted to go to Laos to marry a 2nd wife, that would've ended for me. No need to go through all the heartaches and waste all that $$$$. I would've spent that time and money looking for my happiness and finding someone who will love me for who I am. I guess you needed to witnessed your husband climbing unto another woman for you to have closure, if that's the case, what you did was right and I don't blame you. But life is too short for someone who says they love you to push you aside for someone else. I hope you find your happiness and someone who cherish you.
I know polygamy in Hmong culture is still commonplace and no matter the reason, there will always be pain and jealousy. But being able to have kids, a bond as deep as blood, makes a woman worth more than one who can't. And the things Hmong say about having children not your blood is painful. My heart goes out for you. Love yourself. With or without children, if there is always some love in your heart, there will always be a place for you.
Tu siab tshaj plaws li os, thov Vajtswv hlub koj os tus me niam hluas. Koj niag txiv ces npam nws lawm nws tseem yuav raug tsim mob tshaj no ntxiv, txhob quav ntsej nws kav tsij ua koj lub neej kom kaj siab lug
If he love you, you two can adopt like many American couples. I guess he dont love you. Did you two even discuss adoption or surrogacy? I'm sure many women would be ok to be a surrogate mother for you two if you go that route.
Me vivncaus, tamsim lub neej no peb cov pojniam taug tib txojkev mob rau peb tej txiv uas mus yuav niam mos ab os. Peb nyias muaj nyias ib txojkev mob, los tib Co kev mob hlub xwb mas. Ua siab loj mog. Time will heal. Kuv tseem tabtaom npo tus mob no mas tsi yoojyim tiv kiag. Leejtwg raug mas thiaj to taub. May God give you and all of the sisters a healing heart. Nothing can cure our hurtings, but I pray that those whom still are going through this situation right now will overcome through our Lord Jesus Christ. I CAN DO ALL THINGS GS THROUGH JESUS CHRIST WHO STRENGTHEN ME Phillipians 4:13
Nrog koj tu siab thiab zoo siab thiabos tu me niam tsev. Yus tsis muaj los yog tus txiv hlub yus ces yeej tsis mus ib tug li os..peb hmoob ces thaum tsis muaj me nyuam ces yeej yog Tim tus poj niam xwb. Twb tsis paub qhov tseeb los nim ua tug paub paub li. Ntawm no yog Tim koj los yog nws hlub koj tiag ces leej twg hais li cas los yeej yuav nrog koj nyob. Niam no nws tau kev ti lawm ces xav kom koj los ua nws qhev tab sis ua siab loj loj es txhob muas nrog nws tu nws cov me nyuam nawb. Ua li koj niam pog hais uas tsis yog yus yug ces txhob hlub tsam muaj ib hnub lawv tsis hlub koj ces koj haj yam tu siab nawj
Yuag yuav ua li cas yuav nrog koj tu siab ua luaj li os. Kuv ua tsaug rau kuv tus niam pog wb tsi muaj menyuam los koj hais rau kuv tus txiv tsev tias yog wb ob leeg txoj hmoo no os. Kuv hlub koj thiab all cov kwv tij sawv daws os nej hlub2 kuv kawg li vim kuv los nrog nej tus tub wb ua neej nyob tau 42 ob lub xyoo lawm os. Thank you very much again💞
Don’t be sorry too much Dear sister, when we don’t have kids we thought that kids is meaningful so much, but after you have kids and when the kids grow up or when they have their get married and their have their own life then they don’t care you and they don’t love and care you anymore then you will felt so sad, so guilty, so much pain but you can not do anything to your children’s only the hurt left over for you so don’t regret ok because I had been through everything thank you for sharing.
Txhob tu siab os muab xav tias cov muaj me nyuam coob kawg los tus txiv yeej tseem yuav niam yau thiab mog sim neej no peb cov poj niam poob peev txhua yam li os
Mloog tag eg Cas hnov tau tiag tu tu siab og 😭 niam laus aw .tib neeg txojj kev hlub eg zoo li cas . Tiam sig thaum mob eg yuav mob tsi pom qab piav li og
I think you need to move on and love yourself. He didnt do anything to you. You allowed yourself to be hurt. You need to move on and marry someone who have kids and love you. You dont need to love a man like that. He does not love you but you’re too blinded to be in this relationship when it’s already failed.
Don’t know how long ago this story happened but there’s other options too. For those struggling to have children or couldn’t have any, infertility issue, know that there’s surrogacy. You can still have your happy ending.
Love yourself, there were so many other options that both of you could have chooses but it’s good you left to meet others who truly love you for who you are. Some mother n law just need to stop supporting with second wife.
Don't give up and don't be sad sister, even though doctors said that but if you change partners you could have kids too. I had see that happened before.
Yep, true. I have a nyab kwj tij , they'd been married for so many years and couldn't have any kids. The Dr. Said it's bc her ovaries are to far and his sperm couldn't reach it. The husband did her wrong by cheating on her with his niam mos ab in Laos. She eventually divorced him and got remarried. Not even a year later , she was pregnant. She now has 3 kids. Her ex ....well things didn't turn out the way he wanted.
What kind of human are u that u can watch ur husband do the dirty in front of u and plz stop letting ur tears fall as guilt. He no longer loves u when he betrayed u so move on and have integrity.
If you love someone, you wouldn't go looking for another person to give you children. You love that person for all that they are, wether they can give you children or not. I'm glad you left him. You deserve better. I hope you find someone that loves you!!!
I’m happy for you that you didn’t stay for him to hurt your heart even more. Your ex and his family got what they most wanted but it there isn’t much rainbow and sunshine for them.
Yog tim tus poj niam los lawb hos. Vim thaum kawg yeej kawg lawb los tau niam yau, tau ua qhev zov niam yau mi nyuam los sis li ua niam loj tu niam yau pab kas thaum niam yau tso tes plau. 1 tug ntawm 100,000 tus txiv neej hmoob thiaj tsis yuav tsis nrhiav tshiab nkaus xwb. Tsis muaj taus mi nyuam ua ke ces lawb kiag xwb, ua ntej mob siab. Cov uas niag txiv yog tus tsis muaj noob los twb tseem khiav caum tus poj niam tshiab uas muaj ib pab mi nyuam qees.
Yuav tsum tau hlub hlub yus tus kheej thiab...tej zaum ntshe twb tsis yog tim koj tsis muaj me nyuam thiab o...ntshe twb yog tim nws tsis roos thiab xwb o..muab nws tev hlo ...mus nrog lwm tus ntshe koj twb muaj me nyuam lawm thiab o poj hmoob e.
This man claims to love his wife but he is just an idiot. True love does not need kids to love each other. True love is to love her no matter what come in the future. If he truly loves her as much as he claims to love her, he should have gotten a surrogate mother to carry their child. If all of that is exhausted and could still not have a child then love her more. Cherish the first wife for her love that she gave all to you. He is not a man...he does not know what LOVE is...
Why didn’t they just go through fertility treatment and have the SIL carry the baby? That way it’s your DNA and there’s no conflict. Because to give up your blood to your brother to raise as their own is not an easy decision at all.
Tus viv ncaus aw ua cas neb twb nyob meka es hos tsis mus doctor pab kom muaj os, doctor keej li keej xwb. Tus viv ncaus aw koj txhob tu siab rau koj tus niam pog os lub neej tsis muaj me nyuam ces lub neej tsis complete li nawb mog. koj niam pog yeej ua yog lawm, vim koj tsis nrhiav kev pab koj kom koj muaj me nyuam ne
Me ntxhais txhob tu tu siab mog, koj li es niam yog muaj tsis tau me nyuam es tus txiv thiaj mus yuav ib tug os mog. Zoo li kuv es tub los muaj ntxhais los muaj vaj Tse muaj tsheb loj tsheb me los es luag twb tsis hlub os mog. Yus ib leeg xwb thiaj tsis khuam yus kev mog. Zoo li kuv ces yuav mus los tsis zoo yuav nyob los tsis zoo os. Tam Sim no ces kuv ua lub neej nyob nrog lub ntuj xwb. Nco qab ntsoov tias peb cov poj niam tsis txawj sib hlub es cov txiv neej thiaj tsis hlub peb cov poj niam mog.
Sister you are right men will never allow his wife to have a second husband because he couldn't give her children. I'm glad you love yourself enough to free yourself from the pain and heartaches. Now you're husband should be happy he have his kids because he didn't care for having a loving wife. He left a niam tsev for a niam dev so he got what he deserved.
I’m glad you found happiness. Kids are not everything. Most kids don’t love their parents anyways.
My husband and I couldn’t have kids over 10+ years. We adopted a newborn (non related) Couldn’t be happier. If he truly loves you, there’s so many other options out there to have kids.
Congratulations! 🥰
@@sikamoua6760 thank you! We are over the moon with our baby :)
@Pizza Pizza I was curious. How do we adopt? I too have a uncle and aunty who's been trying to have kids but no luck. (Myself included) what do we need to qualify?
@@sikamoua6760 theres a few options you can do. You can adopt internationally but that cost a lot of money. You can do private adoption (when the birth mother choose you) but that also cost a lot of money and the birth mom has up to 30 days to change her mind after birth. What we did was foster care. We foster newborns straight from the hospital and if you’re lucky, you get to adopt one. We have fostered 6 kids. And got to keep one.
Congrat! I was told I there were no kids in my future but at age 41 I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl, she will be 10 next year.
Infertility is the most saddest and heartbreaking thing in this world!!! Money, gold, and diamonds we are able to make money and buy but having a child of our own takes so much prayers and long nights of crying. Sister I feel you, I get you and you are worth everything, I had Infertility and all the most horrible words a mother in law can say to her daughter in law I heard it all, its hurts but people who can have children doesn't realize that. ♥️ you so much, biggest hugs to you.
Always love yourself more then anyone and any man! This is America, people can live without kids.
I feel you, sister. I been to that road before, the pain hard so much. No one understands how much it hurt inside of you. I been married 15 ½ before I had my first baby. May God bless you, sister.
Sister I feel your pain. You don’t need a man who constantly reminds you that you’re not able to bear children for him so that’s the reason he married a second wife. You can find happiness elsewhere. If you want to have children, you should adopt, find someone to surrogate, or marry a man with children who doesn’t want to have anymore children.
For all that your ex husband and mother-in-law did to hurt you, I hope you don’t go back to him. The love you had for each other died the day he made the decision to leave you. He doesn’t deserve you; you deserve better.
Yep true. I used to have a coworker that said he doesn't want anymore kids because he already have 5 kids. So the next woman he marry have to not want kids too, he's white btw. She can always look outside the race to date or marry.
To all the Hmong parents around the world if the daughter in law couldn’t have kids for your son, he can get married again but if your son couldn’t have kids too. Please let the daughter in law get married to other men to have kids too.
Hmoob are and have the most entitlement mentality people. Me me me, for me for me, the world is nothing is it’s not for me, na.
Agreed 💯
Lol! Right! I love that idea.
Lol that's not how it works.
@ThePrincessWorrior time hmong will Change. Nothing remains the same over time
Stay positive. Good things comes to those who are good people. Love yourself and I am very glad you see your self worth. ❤️
I feel your pain in every way. Your story break my heart. Those who don't walk in your shoe, will never ever feel the pain you feel. I wish you the best.
Jesus love you sister!💕
Tsis muaj los txhob tusiab os. Kuv muaj ib pab los Kuv twb tsis muaj kev cia siab rau lawv. Kuv yug tau ib co los thaum kawg Kuv rov tig hlub Kuv tus kheej xwb. Txhob tos cov menyuam tiam no, lawv tsis xav li peb lawm. Koj niam pog & koj tus txiv lawv twb tau raws li lawv txoj kev ntshaw lawm. Koj kav tsij nyob kaj siab lug thiab hlub koj tus kheej kom ntau22 nawb. Vajtswv hlub koj.
Me nyuam xwb tsis muaj los puam chawj, yog yus txoj hmoo os. Ua li luag hais os, yus tus txij nkawm thiaj li yog yus txoj sia. Txawm yus muaj ib pab los yog tsis muaj tus txij nkawm lawm ces yeej yuav nrhiav dua tus tshiab lub neej thiaj li kawg. Hos me nyuam ces lawv loj tiav niam tiav txiv ces lawv yuav mus ua lawv lub neej. Tsis muaj los tsis ua cas. Tsuav yus ob niam txiv sib sib hlub xwb.
Living in the United States don't have kids doesn't matter, tej me nyuam teb chaws no txawm muaj thiab tsis muaj los thaum laus ces yeej kawg mus nyob tsev laus xwb os😥😥😭
Agree!
Yog kawg!
Agree!
Sooo very true. Cov menyuam txheej tiam no tsis hlub tej laus lawm. Vim lawv ntse dhau ua rau lawv tsis nco qab txog tej laus tej txiaj ntsim lawm. 😢
I don't understand why they didn't just get a surrogate mother to have kids for them. It's not like her eggs are bad, it's just that her uterus cannot carry the baby to terms. Hmoob es hmoob
The whole process is only about 80k. Which they can definitely finance. They could have lived on one income and use another income to pay for the surrogate. I have a coworkers who had three babies through surrogate and this is what they did. She said that for twin, it only cost 5k more, but there's a little bit more risk for the babies like all twin pregnancy.
I agree. I'll do it for 20k. I want to help couples who want a baby by being their surrogate person.
Hmong people are still so old school and taboo about surrogacy
@@pkcyang2910 I would not do it for 20k but I will do it for 40k
I was thinking the same thing because they were already going to take in the brother kids. They could of just do surrogate.
Tus me Viv ncaus yog kuv yog koj tej zaum kuv yuav xub muab nrauj ua ntej mus nplog teb txawm li cas los nrog koj zoo siab os mog kuv mloog mas kuv Nim nrog koj mob mob siab kawg li Viv ncaus cov txiv neej zoo li koj tus ko thiab koj niam Pog txiv yawg koj tseem nyob los yeej tsis tshav koj ntuj os mog
Why so many hmong women feel so helpless without a man...cmon you ladies can do anything a man can. Don't lose hope. There's always a calm after a storm.
It's not that we can't live without men, it is the betrayal and time wasted on the person that you loved so much. Accept all their flaws and stand by their side through all hardship just to get played like a clown.
Tu neeg tsis muaj me nyuam li koj thiab kuv ces koj tham xwb lo kuv yeej nkag siab kawg...cov muaj me nyuam mas lawv tsis mkag siab nawb
Tos kuv tsis yuav niam yau los vim kuv twb xav li koj cov lus hais hauv no os tus muam, koj lub neej txaus tu siab heev 😢❤
Niam phauj aw..koj zaj neej neeg no hais tau tu2 siab kuv mloog neej neeg txog tav li no tsi muaj ib zaj ua rau kuv kua muag poob li koj zaj no hais tau tu2 kuv siab thiab raug2 kuv heev li o kuv los twb tsi muaj mi nyuam ib yam thiab o txoj kev no yog leej twg taug leej twg thiaj paub txog txoj kev mob thiab txoj kev tu siab chim siab o kuv twb xav tias lub ntiaj teb no kuv thiaj yog ib tug tiv txoj kev mob vim yus muaj tsi tau mi nyuam rau luag xwb no cas koj tseem yog ib tug thiab koj ces koj twb ua tau ib siab tso lawm ntshe koj mob los mob tsi heev lawm o kuv ces tso tsi tau tus txiv tseg ntshe kuv txoj kev mob tseem tshaj koj o tej kwv tij kom mu nrhiav dua ib tug los yug mi nyuam no kuv tseem uv nyob nrog txoj kev mob o kuv xav paub koj thiab nrog koj tham o vim koj zoo li kuv thiab o niam phauj aw ... Cas thaum kawg e ntshe kuv yuav zoo li koj thb o tej niam tej txiv los hai tias mi nyuam kwv tij thiab mab suav tsi zoo cuag li mi nyuam niam yaus no cas yuav hais rau yu tsi muaj ib txoj hauv kev yuav ua tau li xwb cas yuav mob yu lub siab ua luaj li o yog koj pom kuv cov lu no e kom koj xav tias tias koj tseem muaj tug ntxhais lub neej tu2 siab li koj lub thiab o mog
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Self love and don’t go back to him
Lady- You need to move on. Do not talk to him anymore. Please do not go back to him and take care of his kids.
Me niam hluas aw...mloog koj zaj neej neeg no ma tu siab kawg li os kuv los twb tsis muaj minyuam ib yam thiab es kuv thiaj raug nrauj lawm tab sis kuv lub siab tsis zoo npaum koj es yuav mus saib lawv sib hlub os kuv li ces kuv xuj mus ua ntej vim kuv yeej paub tias yuav mob kuv nyiaj tsis taus tej kev ntawd os txhob tu siab os mog tsis yog koj ib leeg xwb tseem muaj peb cov tsis muaj minyuam coob coob kawg li thiab os
Hmoob men are cruel like that. You are right! Hmoob men would not let us have a 2nd man.
My heart hurts for you so much. I have no words to say to you. I'm just so sorry you have to go through this.
Nrog koj tu siab tsaj os sister... kuv tus txiv niaj hnub seev txog niam yau thiab, txhua sij hawm kuv xav txog nws cov lus ces tu tu kuv siab ib yam nkaus thiab... tabsi kuv siab tsis Loj li koj es yauv Cia kuv tus txiv yauv niam yau os sister... hnub twg yog nws yauv kiag rau kuv ntsia ces ntshe kawg tuag kiag rau nws pav xwb. Zoo siab koj dim txoj kev lwj siab os nawb.... hlub hlub koj tus kheej os. Ib tug neeg hlub yus tiag yeej tsis yauv lwm tus li os.
Oh sh*t, the minute he wanted to go to Laos to marry a 2nd wife, that would've ended for me. No need to go through all the heartaches and waste all that $$$$. I would've spent that time and money looking for my happiness and finding someone who will love me for who I am. I guess you needed to witnessed your husband climbing unto another woman for you to have closure, if that's the case, what you did was right and I don't blame you. But life is too short for someone who says they love you to push you aside for someone else. I hope you find your happiness and someone who cherish you.
Exactly!
I dont get some people....we live in america....nothing wrong with living by yourself and be happy...
Agreeeeee!!!!!
I know polygamy in Hmong culture is still commonplace and no matter the reason, there will always be pain and jealousy. But being able to have kids, a bond as deep as blood, makes a woman worth more than one who can't. And the things Hmong say about having children not your blood is painful.
My heart goes out for you. Love yourself. With or without children, if there is always some love in your heart, there will always be a place for you.
Tu siab tshaj plaws li os, thov Vajtswv hlub koj os tus me niam hluas. Koj niag txiv ces npam nws lawm nws tseem yuav raug tsim mob tshaj no ntxiv, txhob quav ntsej nws kav tsij ua koj lub neej kom kaj siab lug
If he love you, you two can adopt like many American couples. I guess he dont love you. Did you two even discuss adoption or surrogacy? I'm sure many women would be ok to be a surrogate mother for you two if you go that route.
Amen!!!…Money is Power!!…God don’t love us!!
Mob siab heev o
Me vivncaus, tamsim lub neej no peb cov pojniam taug tib txojkev mob rau peb tej txiv uas mus yuav niam mos ab os. Peb nyias muaj nyias ib txojkev mob, los tib Co kev mob hlub xwb mas. Ua siab loj mog. Time will heal. Kuv tseem tabtaom npo tus mob no mas tsi yoojyim tiv kiag. Leejtwg raug mas thiaj to taub.
May God give you and all of the sisters a healing heart. Nothing can cure our hurtings, but I pray that those whom still are going through this situation right now will overcome through our Lord Jesus Christ.
I CAN DO ALL THINGS GS THROUGH JESUS CHRIST WHO STRENGTHEN ME
Phillipians 4:13
Nrog koj tu siab thiab zoo siab thiabos tu me niam tsev. Yus tsis muaj los yog tus txiv hlub yus ces yeej tsis mus ib tug li os..peb hmoob ces thaum tsis muaj me nyuam ces yeej yog Tim tus poj niam xwb. Twb tsis paub qhov tseeb los nim ua tug paub paub li. Ntawm no yog Tim koj los yog nws hlub koj tiag ces leej twg hais li cas los yeej yuav nrog koj nyob. Niam no nws tau kev ti lawm ces xav kom koj los ua nws qhev tab sis ua siab loj loj es txhob muas nrog nws tu nws cov me nyuam nawb. Ua li koj niam pog hais uas tsis yog yus yug ces txhob hlub tsam muaj ib hnub lawv tsis hlub koj ces koj haj yam tu siab nawj
I can feel your pain sister. I hope you’ll find someone better than your ex.
Everything is just the evil of man’s heart…!
Here's another story where it makes your blood boil... come on ladies lets do better for us!
ฟังแล้วเจ็บใจแทบมากกกก
ua cas yuav ruam ua luaj es yuav coj yus tus txiv mus yuav niam yau nas...viv ncaus aw....
When a person thinks so low of herself to the point of stepping herself, that she goes to marries her husband his 2nd wife while she hangs around.
Yuag yuav ua li cas yuav nrog koj tu siab ua luaj li os. Kuv ua tsaug rau kuv tus niam pog wb tsi muaj menyuam los koj hais rau kuv tus txiv tsev tias yog wb ob leeg txoj hmoo no os. Kuv hlub koj thiab all cov kwv tij sawv daws os nej hlub2 kuv kawg li vim kuv los nrog nej tus tub wb ua neej nyob tau 42 ob lub xyoo lawm os. Thank you very much again💞
You have a good family you are very lucky not too many is that lucky
Sorry Sis, I hope you find happiness. You deserve better than that man.
Don’t be sorry too much Dear sister, when we don’t have kids we thought that kids is meaningful so much, but after you have kids and when the kids grow up or when they have their get married and their have their own life then they don’t care you and they don’t love and care you anymore then you will felt so sad, so guilty, so much pain but you can not do anything to your children’s only the hurt left over for you so don’t regret ok because I had been through everything thank you for sharing.
Txhob tu siab os muab xav tias cov muaj me nyuam coob kawg los tus txiv yeej tseem yuav niam yau thiab mog sim neej no peb cov poj niam poob peev txhua yam li os
Niam laug aw ua cag kv mloog kj haig eg kv quaj2 kua muag teev yee li o kv lub neej zoo li kj zaj lug no tiag o kj laug aw
Yog lawm o niam laus koj hais yog kawg lio
Niam laus koj hais yog txhua yam li os.txiv neej yeej siab phem.niam pog lo siab phem ib yas thaib.
cas es nev tej neej neeg hos zoo li peb tej thiab os lawm awww, tu siab dhau os...mloog kua muag los tsi tus li os lawv aww.....
Ca koj zaj dab neeg yuav ua tau tu siab ua luaj o tu nim lau aw, tu siab ua luaj os
Sister i pray that you will find someone to love you for who you are.
If you choose legacy over love, you live with your consequence, no worries no regret.
Mob siab heev lios mloog g tau lios,
Yus txojj hmoob los lí no lawm ces yeej từ Siab heev os viv ncaus aw
Niam laus aw cas tu siab ua luaj li eb tshais tsam yus ua neej zoo li koj zaj neej neeg no xwb os
Niam laus aw cas yus txoj moo yus los tsi muaj me nyuam cas yuav tu siab tsi muaj ib yam piv tau li os 😭
Mloog tag eg Cas hnov tau tiag tu tu siab og 😭 niam laus aw .tib neeg txojj kev hlub eg zoo li cas . Tiam sig thaum mob eg yuav mob tsi pom qab piav li og
Nrog koj tu siab thiab khib siab tshsj os tus sister.
Hahaha Kam kawg go vim lub neej 2 tug txiv koom 1 tug poj niam mas txaus siab thiab ua peb cov txiv neej Haj yam muaj zog xwb
Tsuas yog nkauj hmoob nplog thiaj ua tau li ko xwb vim lawv yog meb cab xwb.
I think you need to move on and love yourself. He didnt do anything to you. You allowed yourself to be hurt. You need to move on and marry someone who have kids and love you. You dont need to love a man like that. He does not love you but you’re too blinded to be in this relationship when it’s already failed.
You’re so right sister! There is so many other ways to have a baby these days. He just made it an excuse to be unfaithful. Glad you left!
Yah u right. U right u right
Don’t know how long ago this story happened but there’s other options too. For those struggling to have children or couldn’t have any, infertility issue, know that there’s surrogacy. You can still have your happy ending.
Love yourself, there were so many other options that both of you could have chooses but it’s good you left to meet others who truly love you for who you are. Some mother n law just need to stop supporting with second wife.
Don't give up and don't be sad sister, even though doctors said that but if you change partners you could have kids too. I had see that happened before.
Yep, true. I have a nyab kwj tij , they'd been married for so many years and couldn't have any kids. The Dr. Said it's bc her ovaries are to far and his sperm couldn't reach it. The husband did her wrong by cheating on her with his niam mos ab in Laos. She eventually divorced him and got remarried. Not even a year later , she was pregnant. She now has 3 kids. Her ex ....well things didn't turn out the way he wanted.
Me nyuam ntsuag tsis txim ntxub os. Yog cov neeg lub siab Xav li no thiab cov poj niam es rov qab tsim txom poj niam li no thiab li txim ntxub os.
yog li koj has lawm o niam laug
What kind of human are u that u can watch ur husband do the dirty in front of u and plz stop letting ur tears fall as guilt. He no longer loves u when he betrayed u so move on and have integrity.
Ow! Tu siab ua luaj li os……..my blood pressure over 200%
Damn sister idk how you can listen to your man sleep with someone esle, that's sad af. I wouldn't even go to Laos with him, smh. Tu siab kawg.
If you love someone, you wouldn't go looking for another person to give you children. You love that person for all that they are, wether they can give you children or not.
I'm glad you left him. You deserve better. I hope you find someone that loves you!!!
pojniam hmoob aw txhob ruam ruam os thaum nws los rov qab rau koj ces neeg tws kev lawm xwb yog nws hlub koj ces nws yeej tsis mus tham yuav lwm tus
Go live your best life? God has plans for every soul
Hlub2 koj kawg os me viv ncaus aw
Pab koj tu siab uas koj tsis muaj menyuam os yeej yog ib qhov mob siab tu siab kawg os es nrog koj zoo siab tias txawm neb tsis sib yuav los koj kuj muaj kev kaj siab vim tsis raug txoj kev mob siab ntxiv os..
Ngiam koj cov dab neeg txhua txoj li os niam laug❤❤❤
I’m happy for you that you didn’t stay for him to hurt your heart even more. Your ex and his family got what they most wanted but it there isn’t much rainbow and sunshine for them.
Txiv neej ces ua li cas los yeej tsi haum li os.
Don’t be sad os sister if you still have kids for them and they still cheating on you too 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Why would u lay there and watch your husband be intimate with another woman???? U need to have self-respect and boundaries.
Hais rau peb cov poj niam hmoob nawb. Yog khub niam twg tsis muaj me nyuam ces mus kuaj kiag Dr. Yog tus niam mas tus niam hlub tus tus txiv npaum li cas los nws yeej tsis hlub tsis k txog yus li lawm nawb. Yog Tim kiag nws ces muab nws lawb kiag thiab xwb. Peb poj niam txhob yuav nws txhob hlub kiag thiab yeej meem mus yuav tus tshiab xwb nawb mog. Peb ib tsoom poj niam hmoob cov txiv neej hmoob no siab phem heev.
Yog tim tus poj niam los lawb hos. Vim thaum kawg yeej kawg lawb los tau niam yau, tau ua qhev zov niam yau mi nyuam los sis li ua niam loj tu niam yau pab kas thaum niam yau tso tes plau.
1 tug ntawm 100,000 tus txiv neej hmoob thiaj tsis yuav tsis nrhiav tshiab nkaus xwb.
Tsis muaj taus mi nyuam ua ke ces lawb kiag xwb, ua ntej mob siab. Cov uas niag txiv yog tus tsis muaj noob los twb tseem khiav caum tus poj niam tshiab uas muaj ib pab mi nyuam qees.
This lady needs to throw the MIL’s words back to her ex-husband’s & ex-in-laws’ side of family. Glad this lady isn’t taking trash back.
Ca tu siab luaj li os tu niam lau aw
Hai tau tus siab luaj li os
Zaj dab neeg nos tus siab dhaus lawm o
Be strong sister. Glad you choose to leave.
Leej niam Pog siab tsis zoo
Zaj dab neeg tu siab kawg li os koj hais yog lawm os tu niam tsev peb hmoob mas too judgemental. Tsi yuav hmoob lawm los tau thiab os.
Yuav tsum tau hlub hlub yus tus kheej thiab...tej zaum ntshe twb tsis yog tim koj tsis muaj me nyuam thiab o...ntshe twb yog tim nws tsis roos thiab xwb o..muab nws tev hlo ...mus nrog lwm tus ntshe koj twb muaj me nyuam lawm thiab o poj hmoob e.
Cas tsis muaj kev ncaj ncees rau poj niam li yus yog poj niam ces yuav tau uv txhua yam los
txhob tu siab os tus me niam laus, kuv twb muaj 5 tug me nyuam tub los muaj ntxhais los muaj tab sis kuv tus txiv tseem niaj hnub tham hluas nkauj
Nrog koj tu siab kawg li os
This man claims to love his wife but he is just an idiot. True love does not need kids to love each other. True love is to love her no matter what come in the future. If he truly loves her as much as he claims to love her, he should have gotten a surrogate mother to carry their child. If all of that is exhausted and could still not have a child then love her more. Cherish the first wife for her love that she gave all to you. He is not a man...he does not know what LOVE is...
Why didn’t they just go through fertility treatment and have the SIL carry the baby? That way it’s your DNA and there’s no conflict. Because to give up your blood to your brother to raise as their own is not an easy decision at all.
me niam hluas nej cov tsi muaj me nyuam nej nim nshaw ntshaw os peb cov muaj ces nxhais ua nyab laj liab hos tub ua suab liab ua tsi muaj nub zoo os
Tus viv ncaus aw ua cas neb twb nyob meka es hos tsis mus doctor pab kom muaj os, doctor keej li keej xwb. Tus viv ncaus aw koj txhob tu siab rau koj tus niam pog os lub neej tsis muaj me nyuam ces lub neej tsis complete li nawb mog. koj niam pog yeej ua yog lawm, vim koj tsis nrhiav kev pab koj kom koj muaj me nyuam ne
I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope you do not go back to him. Find someone who would live you and go the surrogate route.
Me ntxhais txhob tu tu siab mog, koj li es niam yog muaj tsis tau me nyuam es tus txiv thiaj mus yuav ib tug os mog. Zoo li kuv es tub los muaj ntxhais los muaj vaj Tse muaj tsheb loj tsheb me los es luag twb tsis hlub os mog. Yus ib leeg xwb thiaj tsis khuam yus kev mog. Zoo li kuv ces yuav mus los tsis zoo yuav nyob los tsis zoo os. Tam Sim no ces kuv ua lub neej nyob nrog lub ntuj xwb. Nco qab ntsoov tias peb cov poj niam tsis txawj sib hlub es cov txiv neej thiaj tsis hlub peb cov poj niam mog.
I’m actually crying for you. I’m so sad because I’m so scared of this. 😔
Kv nkag siab kj os me niam lau tsi yog leej twg ces leej twg tsi paub os tus siab kawg tab siv zoo lawm ua kj tau nyob lub neej kaj siab lawm
Txhob tu siab os mog mi niam laus cov muaj me nyuam kiag xwb twb nyob tsev laus yog cov coob xwb os mog ❤️❤️
It’s all about excuses!!
😢 so sad 😭 😢💔💔💔
Sister you are right men will never allow his wife to have a second husband because he couldn't give her children. I'm glad you love yourself enough to free yourself from the pain and heartaches. Now you're husband should be happy he have his kids because he didn't care for having a loving wife. He left a niam tsev for a niam dev so he got what he deserved.