UNFILTERED SESSION WITH AN EQUESTRIAN MINDSET COACH
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ต.ค. 2023
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❤such a great video Matt! Very grateful for your honesty. I suppose you have to decide which part of your audience you will be guided by...will it be people that act from a deep sense of care about you and the horses, or will it be by the insecure audience that push for unrealistically high standards that will inevitably lead to personal feelings of failure. You are at a point of crossroads in your life and need to choose now for personal sustainability. Sorry if this sounds weird😅 I just see the darkside of social media can push some people down the cliff, instead of offering you a hand of help .
Hope you and Jesse and the horses settle in to your new place and best wishes for finding a suitable property for the horses and you guys. ❤❤❤
I don't think it's arrogant at all to talk about the pressure of competing when there are lots of eyes on you. Especially when you have a big following. You seem to be a very reflected, humble human being. Thanks for sharing your journey with us!
Absolutely
Matt, You’re the most genuinely humble and gracious young man I know who also happens to be confident. There are WAY more people who appreciate everything you share than there are critics. It’s not worth allowing the critics to occupy any amount of brain cells in your mind. Keep it up. You’re doing great things!
We’ll said !!!!
Matt, anyone who has followed your VLOGs and saw what you did for Sureño, knows you go above and beyond that extra mile. I knew you cared for your horses but I garnered a lot of respect for you when I saw all you did for Sureño … and the time you took to ensure he went to an equally caring home. Actions speak louder than words! 🙏🙌
yes! ❤
T hats exactly what I think. You were so so great with Sureno. That's when I saw how much you care. I don'tseeyou as arrogant.
I agree. However I admit at first I was very upset when Matt decided to sell Sureno. However now knowing what a great person he sold him to and the life Sureno has I agree he did the right thing
In my life I never could sell a horse but Sureno now has a very good life and Matt did follow through with his commitment to Sureno. It is a risk when you put yourself out on social media. Guess it may help to have your people proof some of the comments that may be offensive. You and Jesse and both very handsome men and it appears both of you respect each other even when you don't always agree and this is normal. Personally I am a very passionate person and my attitude is I give everything I have to care for my animals.
I respect both Matt and Jesse. I wish more people were as dedicated to their animals as you
I literally love Matt’s personality. He is a good human and fantastic to his horses . I was inspired by this video. Keep being you Matt ! You have a lot of people on your side . 🙂
I've been watching Matt for some time and I am continually impressed by his emotional maturity, especially given his age. Clearly sensitive, self-reflective, and highly compassionate, he is also fun, hard-working, and open. What an amazing and wonderful combination! (Yes, I'm using a lot of adjectives, but hey, they apply.) Matt is a terrific person, always a delight to watch. I'm sad that he gets online haters.
Matt I don‘t even know if you realise how much wisdom and maturity you have, the way you view things and the conclusions you draw have so much depth, your personality really is inspiring - you‘re really one of a kind in the best sense 😊
You will never please everyone, Matt. Anyone who has followed you for any length of time knows how you care for and treat your horses. I cannot understand why people are so quick to judge and criticize others, especially online. If we all put as much effort into kindness and support, the world would be a different place. Keep doing what you’re doing. It is so fun watching your horse journey!
There are a lot of bitter unhappy people in the world who like nothing better than to attack those who are happier and more successful people.. as someone else said try to remember that the haters are a very small percentage of your followers.. the rest of us see you as the incredible guy you are.. you've won Jesse's heart so you are definitely a very special guy..
Matt, as human beings we always tend to focus on the negative feedback . We can get 20 compliments and one negative response and we obsess over the one bad thing and overlook the 20 great comments provided. For the record- you are a great horse parent. Any horse would be lucky to have you in their life.
Matt. Sorry to hear people are mean, we know you always do the best for your horses. Really enjoyed the Mindset Coach. I could sure use her. 💙
Thank you for sharing Matt, I can’t understand why people wouldn’t like you sharing the process of learning and improving your skills. Keep posting exactly what you do. Much respect and support
Matt, here is my criticism .. You are your own worst enemy. I understand it all too well. You are humble, loved, and admired, and what you and Jesse do for your horses is above and beyond. We love what you share .. good and bad. By the way, a good horseman ALWAYS wonders if we are doing the right thing, and if there is more we can do. Your animals are very lucky to have you.
My fav vlogs include the horse readings. Now we have the “Matt” readings. Both are intriguing. I love the point she made about avoiding “have to” or “must do” or “never” or “always” judgements. Someone once told me to avoid creating my own dualisms and dichotomies. Black and white only scenarios are not accurate in most situations and just create more trouble, stress and anxiety.
I first started watching as i found you to be naturally funny and charming then i could see what a superb Horseman you were and my respect for you grew and continues to grow. Keep doing you Matt don't ever change! 👍🏻 All the very best from the UK.
You care about the criticism about your horses because that’s what’s important to you. You guys do everything for each other and your animals, keep walking your path because it’s the right one ❤❤❤
Matt and Jesse are wonderful, accomplished people and their horses are treated with love and deep caring. Criticism is coming from those who are not only very insecure but also jealous and hide behind anonymous user accounts. I hope good people like Matt will always find a way to not let the toxic people steal a minute of the happiness you deserve.
You're a very thoughtful empathic human being. I've never seen anyone as committed to horses, to his craft and the general well-being around. I'm not even a horse person but I am drawn to learning from your vlogs. 💜
As my dear Dad used to say, “Do your best, and let God do the rest.” You are never alone, Matt. We’re rooting for you! Be as good and kind to yourself as you are to the horses. Wishing you peace and joy always. 🕊
Matt, the only comments and opinions you should care about are from those people you care about and you know that care about you. Those of us, who are the masses of followers, don't KNOW you or your horses. We only get to see the tidbits you allow us to see when you post. Don't let follower comments affect you. You listen to Jesse, your family, your close friends...those whom you've allowed in your inner circle.
Wow! Mattia!
You have hit a nerve there!
Creative souls always have an opening for someone else who might feel that saying cruel words will make them feel big!
Think about that.
But their cruel words says more about THEM, than it says about YOU.
Mattia, it’s taken me years (I’m 68) to ‘get’ that!
❤ True words! Mat is also a sensitive person and likes to please people...he's a really Good kind person. I hope he will find a way to block out the negativity. He has to understand where these negative people are speaking from...they speak from fear, and insecurity and pain.
Great share that transcends riding - and Matt…you are simply in Papa Bear mode when it comes to your horses… which are your children….your love and care for your horses def shows! Continue to shine bright!
It's too bad some people have to be so critical all the time, but it probably stems from their own insecurities and I hope you don't take it too much to heart. I love watching your videos and your horses are absolutely gorgeous 🐎 🐴
SOMETHING to remember is 'just breathe'.Horses will keep you humble and honest.I watched you ride and out of 1000 riders I see clearly you are one with the horse.Too many never experience that connection as they themselves are focused only on themselves. To put it bluntly, they look like a sack of potatoes riding a horse. You my friend have a deep passion for the animal and it clearly shows.Don't sweat the small stuff and just enjoy what you do that comes naturally.
Really am impressed with how you see the importance of these deeper dives into what makes us tick Matt, to me it's all about balance. There are so many personality types out there in the world, you are brave deciding to share on social media, and you are also wise that you block those who are only there to see what kind of damage they can place onto you. Some of this intense growth, especially how and what others think of you gets better with age, and because you have such determination to go deeper than the average person, you will get there sooner. Your parents must be so proud of you Matt, I know if you were my child I certainly would be. Thanks for taking us along on your introspection of the world you live in.
Hear Hear, I could not agree more!👍👍👍👍👍
Loved this. We all make so many sacrifices for our horses and it cuts so deep when others say we are not doing right by them. I get it. I wish more horse people could just be supportive of one another!
Its really like parenting. Our horsemanship reflects our past. Our wishes for our horses. Our sensitivities about the world & the care we want to take.
It hurts me to think negative comments or unfounded criticism has even taken up space in your life. Its that opportunity that the "unsatisfied" take so easily...typing out an uncalled for post. Your joy & your beautiful life deserve only more joy & beauty. I'm a lifelong rider/trainer now equine bodyworker. I think my sensitivity leads to very high standards. And you & Jesse are one of the very few people I even watch on TH-cam!!! Because you are uniquely inspiring. Keep true to yourself...its all that matters.🦄✨️
Matt most people who criticize have nothing going on in there own lives ,It’s nobody’s JOB to Judge ,We should all focus more on Loving each other and being more Kind ❤Love all your and Jesse videos and how kind you guys are to all Animals 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you Matt for being honest and open with us. And for having an open mind on everything
Matt, Matt, Matt, it was so clear why when people commenting on how you care for your horses it disturbs you.Because it is so far from the truth. I will say one thing ‘Chase’ . .. people should watch the video when you were transporting him to the Netherlands. You documented all of it. Your biggest concern was Chase, and in the airplane , your only thought was if he was comfortable and ok. You and Jesse are polite, kind, thoughtful. You live and love your equine family members with integrity 👏👏👏
MATT YOU ARE FANOMANAL MY FRIEND! PEACE ✌️ ☮️ 🕊 AND PRAISE
Love how you were do open and transparent. ❤
Being kind to self and authentic is an imperative and an antidote to depression and perfectionist attitudes. Perfectionism is simply inhumane - striving for something that is not attainable and can create neurotic tendencies (never good enough). This was an important video and I appreciate your vulnerabilities - sharing raw and honestly.
🤗 It is wise to protect yourself, some people thrive on pushing buttons and vulnerable places. This is a very public platform you are living your life on. Just continue to do your best and be happy with Life. Thanks for all you share with us. 💕✨🙏
I love your honesty here! I will say that I love the equestrian community, but there are a TON of know it alls who won’t hesitate to tell you that you’re doing something “wrong.” And so many times they conflict with what other folks are telling you to do. I’ll just say that you are the only one in your shoes - you know yourself and your horses better than anyone, so only you can make the best decisions for your herd. Everyone else is operating from a different space where they don’t know the whole story, so their “advice” is inherently biased. It’s hard, but just listen to your own gut and know that you’ll find a way that’s right for you.
It’s natural to self doubt and I know myself that if I shared my life online I would struggle with any form of criticism, but it is so blatantly clear that you love and care for your horses! You are talented and kind and I personally (not that my opinion should matter much) think you are an incredible horse person and treat your horses so very well. I’m certain they would tell you the same if they were able to speak❤️ thank you for being brave enough to share your feelings, and keep doing you as you are doing an incredible job
Matt! Your sharing this session WILL HELP so many more people than you will ever know. I appreciate you so much for allowing us to be on this journey with you. Blessings.
Just love you Matt please don't ever change !! you are doing great ! For the Haters jealousy makes you nasty !!
As an equine professional and competitive dressage rider with a VERY small media following, only to help find new students, I can't imagine what it's like to have that many eyes on you. As if horses, training and competing - and fighting that little voice in your head - isn't hard enough, having that little bit of constant negative feedback (even if most of it is good) is exhausting! At the end of the day, you are so successful for a reason, so just trust you are doing the right things. The haters are just insecure and jealous and probably live a sad life, and I commend you for your courage to keep going because you are such an important ambassador for our sport. My only criticism is that this video is way too short lol : ))) I personally would love to see more content like this because it's super relatable and makes me feel better about my own struggles. Sending tons of love and support
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Feel for you a lot. Anonymity is an amazing thing, and until it is lost, we do not regard it high enough. Being known and knowing that many are hoping to see you fail must be so hard, they don't know you so why would they but I guess that is the nature if the beast. All I can offer is use the energy from all those watching, or you fear are watching, and use it as a stepping stone to each tiny move. Being at an event and it goes wrong, is still a win because millions are still not brave enough to do it. Keep your horses as you keep them. Rhey look really well, they look calm and confident. You have to walk your stride in your direction at your pace. Other people are static and noise. Learn to tune it out. Love and light to you all.
Your honesty is amazing.
Be true to yourself! I enjoy and learn from your videos! There is no doubt in my mind that you love your horses and will protect them and take good care of them, always! Jealousy is at the root of many negative comments!
Danke für dieses Video! Ich folge dir schon etwas länger und ich bin immer beeindruckt, wieviel Gedanken du dir machst. Meiner Meinung nach spiegeln unsere Pferde uns. Und da deine Pferde im Grunde sehr gechillt und harmonisch, ruhig und liebevoll sind, ist dein Character nicht anders. Ich sag immer, gucke dir die Pferde an und du weißt, meistens, wie die Besitzer sind. Ich drücke euch für eure Träume ein neues "Home" zu finden, alle Daumen. Macht weiter so!!
Loved this video Matt!! I’ve been in therapy for many yrs. And I could tell thru your moving posts that you were really trying to apply the tools of therapy. I also think it’s wise of you to BLOCK certain kinds of people… people that challenge FACTS IN AN UNHEALTHY WAY are almost always Narcissistic in my opinion… in my opinion you have some great boundaries in place just by this video!!!
Thanks so much for this Matt! I can totally relate to being criticized every day and your session helped me. good job putting yourself out there. ✌
Yes Matt more real videos like this. We love you.
Listen babe, what people think of us is non of our business, unless they make it our business. Pleasing everyone is an impossible task, so just please your self. Loving your channel 👌👏👏👏👏💜
Matt!! I really love you for sharing this.. I'm an 🐴 coach my self and in the equestrian world its still a huge taboo and your story plus the video will help a lot to open things up
I love the way you opened up about the therapy..i have had a lot of therapy and healing work done on my self and my body.. many people don't understand it or underestimate how hard it is to be on that journey... but in the end, its all worth it and i would love to guide and support more people in this journey... !!
Thank you so much! ❤
Matt, keep doing what you're doing. There will always be negative people. That speaks to them, not you. Love you and Jesser.
I just bought my daughter our 1st horse. What an amazing experience, so excited to learn and grow with him. Thanks for making these videos, very helpful.
I really appreciate this video. Being human is a beautiful thing, nothing to be ashamed of. People criticize others when they are unhappy with themselves. You and Jesse spread good, wholesome, vibes in all your videos. 🥰🥰🥰
Well Matt i think you are really down to earth. You know who you are, you know what influence you can have and jeah if you show the reality and raw you will be slammed for it. Sadly that is how social media works, i wished it was different.
What i see is a young man who has worked hard and smart to be where he is at this moment. You do what you feel is the best for your animals.
Keep being you, keep doing you ❤. The ones that understand that not everything is easy and beautiful in life, will learn a lot from you.
We are who we Surround ourselves with and Jesse is a Great friend and Partner for Matt. Always Stand Tall and believe in Yourself.
Anytime someone is doing good, there are the negative people that are so miserable they want to drag everyone down. There is not one person on Planet Earth that does everything perfect.. these individuals need to critic themselves and stop being internet trolls! Much love from America and keep doing what your doing and keep the video's coming!!! And yes, you are dropped dead gorgeous and so is Jesse!!!❤
Thank you Matt for being so vulnerable. As one who provides mental health services for those with trauma, setting boundaries is so important in taking care of our personal wellness.
Matt a huge challenge for all of us is focusing on the few naysayers instead of embracing the many supporters. Put them behind you and keep moving forward.
Matt. Do something for you!!! If you need a break take it. You are amazing and people can be cruel. Go on a relaxing vacation!!!
Stating an opinion about hair is a subjective opinion about a superficial characteristic, while opinions about how you treat your horses is more of a statement about a person's characteristic. Much deeper context
You are so well reflected Matt ❤️ I love your videos and I love your work with your horses! Keep your head up and trust yourself❤️ This video was very interesting and informative I wish you and Jesse had a podcast together!
Hi. I have just seen your blogs in the last few day. I think you and Jesse are brilliant horsemen, and your horse are great, beautiful, and extremely well looked after, please do not take to heart other people comments. I have had this attitude all my life, thanks for your blogs keep them coming. I am in my later years in my life. Look after yourselves. Alan.
Wonderful open video Matt. You are very self aware and a good communicator for someone your age.
Not finished watching,
You appear to have integrity. I feel this is genuine INTEGRITY. It’s something that I don’t feel is the norm.
Please know I appreciate and admire this. My heart goes out to you when comments are hurtful.
Thank you for being brave.
Matt that was so good, I could of kept listening for ages. You are honest which is refreshing, no words of advice, you've go this. Love from Australia xxx
Matt, you have nothing to prove - just have fun!
Matt with your horses follow what your heart tells you is right for them , it will never steer you wrong and you have the knowledge to back you up
I loved this video. I, unfortunately, put way too much pressure on myself…to the point I feel that I’m sabotaging myself (and my horse). I had a super good horse, I bought him as a yearling and had him with me until his untimely demise at the young age of 18. This horse made me compete in classes I never thought I could. I jumped 1 meter 40 classes. A lot of people judged me and criticized me out of jealousy…when my horse died, I was told that people kinda cheered and were ‘happy’ because for them it took me down from my ‘high horse’… Ever since, I had a young horse who had a stroke so he’s not rideable anymore and I bought another horse with whom I’m terrified of competing because I’m scared of judgment.
Im so sorry you've experienced the toxicity of the horse industry like that. All you can do is try to stay self focussed and not worry about them judging. They're only doing so as you're doing something right when they can't see how they're doing something wrong. And with people being glad your horse passed you have to just shut it out as I've felt similar over something far more mundane and it'll always hurt. They win if they get to you to the point you can't feel you can compete. So therefore compete again to spite them if nothing else. I'm very sensitive and I always have to frame doing something despite judgement as me "spiteing" them, otherwise I daren't take a step for my own betterment. Feel pride in what you've achieved with your past horse, with your younger disabled horse, and what you will achieve with this newer one!
@@poppymason-smith1051 Thank you so much for the kind words. 🙏
That was great! i got insight to myself watching!
That‘s such a wonderful video!❤️
Thank you for sharing Matt!
Thank you for being so open and sharing with us. Keep doing what you're doing and be happy. Love you and Jesse ❤❤
You stay strong wish more people could open up like you did your learning about your self and that makes us happy for you ❤❤❤🎉
I love that Matt is so honest and open about the good and the bad. He examines himself so deeply and gets to the heart of his issues. Great video.
Wow! So very brave of you. Being raw and honest is a very valuable feeling.
Thank you for sharing your life, please remember the majority of people are good and are cheering you on x
Thank you for putting this video out here, Matt. I think a lot of riders can relate to what you are saying. But, keep being you and remember you’re on your own journey! You’ve got this
Thankyou for putting this vlog out there people are cruel and some people don't think about how there words impact other people. You are amazing with your horses ❤
Love you Matt! Keep being you and dont worry about what others say about you. You have a beautiful bond with your horses!
Don't even think for a second you have to prove yourself. When people think/say "If you did this, or you did that it would be better." That's in THEIR minds. Other people's ignorance isn't a problem you should worry about. If you want to educate them or let them know, you can note why you do things, but yes you are correct when you said, "that's what they think." You're a smart cookie, Matt. Nice video, I will be subscribing to HorseWorldTV and catching up with Jesse's channel soon as well. ^-^ You are doing great, and remember, true fans don't care whether or not you're perfect. We want you to enjoy life to the fullest, which includes making mistakes and feeling vulnerable and imperfect at times, this is how we learn, bond, and grow. (: 👍 🧠🫂🌱 🐴💛🧑
This was an interesting conversation and interesting content...one thing that came up for me relative was Don Miquel Ruiz Second Agreement...Don't take things personally: "Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up…."
It is a long chapter but really worth reading for anyone especially for a social media personality.
Thank you for sharing. I have a just the prettiest 5 year old WB you ever did see, but I rarely post anything about her because I'm a little afraid of the toxicity online and I'm not even an influencer! The reality is that there is a huge difference between a learning curve and animal abuse, but that's why we have trainers to try and improve. It's all about the journey not the destination.
Very inspiring episode. Thank you
Hi, Matt. It was not a surprise to me that you are such a thoughtful and reflective person. You have always come across that way. Thank you for this video. Enjoyed it immensely!
You are so spot on! Ride and enjoy your horses and make sure they enjoy it too ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing and being open Matt , can relate on so many issues and I think she was right , both of you we are always questioning can we do more or better for our horses and that opens up insecurity nerve that people Can so easily touch that nerve and we feel the judgment so hard because we care that hard.
I work at a therapeutic riding facility for disabled people and also look after 3 wonderful retired show horses on the equestrian property I now live on and I’m so thankful for the experience of being around horses and the joy it brings along with the great responsibility!
Take care
Irina G
Matt, I love your honesty. I feel like you do in so many ways. I don't feel alone now. I have followed you since the beginning and you always give 110% to your horses. Continue to block those who don't know what they are talking about!!!!!
I think you are so great with your horses! I always totally enjoy your videos.😊
Love this so much! And although my life is so different then yours Matt, I related to what you said 100%. Thank you so much for sharing with us ❤️
Always enjoy your videos Matt, thank you 😊
Thanks for this video i needed this!! As a fan i hope everything is ok(with the horses and the new stable)
This was really sad! This coach seems amazing tho!! Love u sm guys keep workin♡♡
I loved this video and I really admire the boundaries you set for yourself. Those boundaries are so healthy and it’s not always easy to be strong about setting them and keeping them. You are an amazing person
Awww Matt. You’re so well raised & very humbly introspective ❤
You are just the BEST. Love your videos..
Matt, you do not have to prove yourself to ANYONE. As long as you are kind, caring and filling your passions in life, you are doing the right thing! As the saying goes, "what other people think/say about you is none of your business"!
Love your happy, upbeat personality.❤😊❤
I so enjoy the way you share your life. You are an authentic man who has the struggles and successes we all have. Listen to your heart. ❤
@mattharnacke Totally understand the necessity to cut off toxic energy - and there’s plenty of it in the equine world/ world in general. Love your mindset!
What a beautiful conversation! :)
Matt is being so helpful by talking about his insecurities because we all have those. My own helpful little tip for someone in the public eye is just to be real and genuine and, in all your successes and learning, you will be relatable to people. There are always the people who love to pull others down but they are not worth listening to. I’m rooting for Matt and Jesse - love them both and wishing them well.
Everyone has an opinion, many of them think they have the most important one. Keep up the good work 👏🏾
Love your channel loved the session it helped me to to reframe things in a different light…please do more so interesting❤
My advice just keep doing what you’re doing I love your videos and your connection with your horses 💯❤️🙌❤️🙌❤️