I sobbed!!!!! I have to say I really respect Anyang. He did not make excuses, he apologised. But we know his story is not different from Arik’s. He lost his family, he has witnessed so much and he himself as a victim of child exploitation but he didn’t not bring up those excuses once, he let the man he hurt do all the talking. What amazing people! Respect and prayers for both men!
The thing is I had no idea what the outcome of choosing to see this man would take, You never know that he isn't remorseful and the decision to do this on Ariks part was impressive as far as self healing can go, could he be prepared for someone to scold him or laugh at his pain is one of the questions he's got to have considered
Yeah I would have loved to hear more of his side too but seems Anyang became more conditioned to mask all the pain and suffering.. I'm glad Ayik forgave him and I think Ayik will also help Anyang heal by remaining his friend.
I am a grown man, and I bawled. I have no shame in admitting that. Outer strength is one thing. Inner strength is unparalleled. These people show inner strength unlike I’ve ever seen
That cold stare and lack of emotion is still there because he was a victim still in self preservation mode. Once they held eachother that wall came crumbling down. Ayik is teaching him to feel again. It's a bitter-sweet moment. I wish them both love and joy. ❤
DOSE AIK REALIZE THAT THEY ARE BOTH VICTIMS? DOES HE REALIZE THAT ANANG'S STORY IS THE SAME AS HIS? THAT ANANG TOO WAS A CHILD JUST A FEW SECONDS OLDER, THAT HE WENT THROUGH THE SAME TREATMENT AND WAS GIVEN THES ORDERS UNDER THREAT? AIK MUST KNOW HE MUST SEE THAT THEY BOTH LOST EQUAL FAMILY MEMBERS, THEIR BEAUTIFUL LAND THAT THEY ONCE BORN TOO WAS TAKEN AWAY FROM ALL. NOT ONLY AIK. IMAGNE BEING THE ONE WHO WAS ORDERED TO PUNISH PPL AT THESE DARK TIMES AND THEN LIVING WITH THIS BLAMING YOURSELF WHEN YOU FOLLOWING ORDERS WAS THE ONLY WAY YOU COULD SERVIVE. IMAGINE.
@@lovehildagrey Friend, Aik does understand as well as Anang. I understand you feel empathy for Anang and would not like him to receive any criticism from Aik for his past actions; but here is the thing: Anang torturing other child soldiers due to survival and fear. Aik going through abuse and torture from Anang. Both men are equally justified in regards to their anger, guilt, or regret due to their respective circumstances in the war. Aik is justified by confronting his trauma, pain, and abuser in order to truly heal. Just the same as Anang confronting himself and one of his victims to seek forgiveness so HE can also learn to forgive HIMSELF. This NEEDS to happen. Arguments. Confrontations. Honesty. Only then can there be healing once you acknowledge it. Do YOU understand that there is a process to things such as these? Trauma and real pain is not as easy as just telling yourself that you should forgive and you will be better forever.
That man has seen so much horror that he couldn’t even be read through his eyes. Very strange that it’s the man that was tortured as a boy, who is haunted by and experienced all that pain continues to feel. He keeps his emotions, his humanity. Ayik is an outstanding human being. He’s stronger than fear.
It is possible that he told truth when he mentioned he struggled with the memories when he slept , the other man ,too. God opened his eyes and heart , that was shut for probably so long in self protection to do what he did. I can't put myself in his shoes. Alone in Africa so young ,he saw that group of soldiers as only way and the victim who tried to escape 15 times , got tortured .. he probably would be too . I suspect it's so terrible, most of us can't put ourselves in their shoes and brain reaction. Worst would have been if no regret . I hope they can heal 🙏
@@lapis3834 100% he genuinely wanted forgiveness. He’s just seen a lot, and that’ll affect folks differently but they’re all gonna get some form of PTSD. They were all victims, some just victims of victims. Some folks can just seem emotionless, dead on the inside and some very may well be to an extent. They can still burn on the inside tho. That being said, Ayuk is still in tact. He’s the embodiment of what it’s like to be human. He wears his emotions on his sleeves, he obviously loves his boy with not just all his heart but it’s well within the marrow of his bones. No one would’ve blamed him had he not forgiven this man. But he did it anyways. I think universally no man that has a heart wants to see a woman or child cry, maybe it’s an evolutionary response…I haven’t a clue. But the man that hurt Aiyuk was visibly uncomfortable when Aiyuk starting crying and that’s genuinely what it’s like, anxiety/a want to fix. So when I saw him wipe Aiyuk’s tears and begged. That’s a man that needed relief, to be forgiven and couldn’t handle the thought of dealing out any more pain. Just an opinion though. I may be special but I’m no specialist... lol I hope they can finally sleep at night without any more stress, anxiety or nightmares as I hear sleep is God’s medicine.
Remember both Where child soldiers , so both of them have been through the same torture , only one got promoted to the more torture to the other. The older one had to bury his feelings so he did not get killed by the people who was above him. It's gonna take a lot more than this to help them unpack their hidden emotions
Ayik revived that man. He was a dead man walking. An empty, physical husk of what used to be a man. As soon as that hug connected, and the tears started flowing, life was breathed back into him.
@@Lvrry416 doesn't change much,,,, infact north sudan is responsible primari;y for what happened with the south so it is not a reach to mention that both of them need help
@@verawang5418Yeah due to Al-Bashir. And you know what's funny? Sudanese people beg for the time he was a leader before. They used to think he was bad, and he was, but when he left they truly learned how bad it could get.
A military commander at 16 just after watching 1000+ of his fellow children die, surviving 2 bullet wounds. That was just another day in a teenager's life in a war zone. The pain was deep and he took it out on his victims. The very real fear numbed him.
@@helium5912 may Peace ne upon you . I was abducted from my parent at 8years and was in the jungle for 2 years that's 1998 to 2000. I never kill anyone but saw many horrible things like people's head legs and hand be chopped off , pregnant woman being cut apart and many other horrible things . It's still in my brain till this day ,I can still remember all of their faces
I think that they are both victims of war and I can tell that Anang had his own trauma and has to deal with his own healing and I pray that God will bring complete healing to them both. So happy for the married couple...
Daniel likes to be on Tv he always wanted to be famous he auditioned for Big Brother they were racist as every tv show you have in Australia, Daniel is a drug dealer he made all his money and fame from drugs ask around him in Brisbane he likes man who cross dress.
@@nigelsenchezhe was a child soldier himself, he saw thousands of people die by sixteen. It's not a good environment and people are products of theirs
I have a friend from Sudan who lost his entire family when he was going to church in a massacre, you could see the relief in his movements and actions when he came to Australia.
@@tabernaclejones6115 He told me his story and I sponsored him through citizenship, and you don’t need to know what someone is relieving from to be able to identify relief, how do you know if someone is smiling without knowing why ?. And what is your problem
@@LemonHead-sq5ws Moved with confidence that he doesn't have to be used as a prop for war or treated as anything but human. Wake up to yourself you lemon.
A modern African man's perspective. This was in a few words, a true healing session. The pain of men from very different backgrounds, Gary represents men who even in 2024 are left when they thought all was well. Tough decisions and tall walls are built and thankfully did not resort to the bottle. Kudos to Sue for the apology. Glad to see them back together working things out. As for the child soldiers, that was deep and raw. Anyang's sigh of relief when he was forgiven and the burst of tears when hugged. The rising of true manhood in Ayik, facing your fears and tormentor and forgiving him. The reconciliation was the icing on the cake. Awesome documentary.
Sounds as if Gary wasn't appreciating his wife or showing he loved her for a long long time. He had never looked outside the bubble of 'well I'm fine' , that was why it was such a shock, the trap of many men 'Im happy and she is an extension of me really so she's happy'.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@@Who-cu9euI’m so so sorry you had to experience this but by the history of your forefathers do you think that in a past life you could have contributed to the exact pain on Africans ? This is not an attack please don’t see it that way but as a healed victim myself I understand that life brings balance ! And sometimes you’re being hurt because you could have hurt others in times you cannot remember . Just food for thought . Please do not feel hurt by this
im crying like a baby with Ayik....i think by talking to eachother of their childhood experiences they can bith heal...it was so sweet to see them meet up with his son after two months.
God knows how the Palestinians will ever heal and the Israelis seems like they will never heal from the trauma of their relations who perished in ww 2 but I cannot accept that they are doing the same and worse than death is the treatment IOF give to Palestinians, and while that is happening in Sudan the same thing is happening today as What Ayik experienced in the South Sudan war.
@@cosmopolitanwonder9675 Palestine literally has child soldiers. Palestine also bombed children, including their own, numb nuts. I really hope you talk to an active vet who fights in both sides, you'll understand the horrendous and atrocious things people do in battle -- unless you can't take it. I hope you're a bot because you're incredibly idiotic. Palestine literally STRAPS their children AND BABIES with bombs. Not *ALL* the time, but its documented. Its not just Palestine, but i'm giving you an example of your biasness... and apparently ignorance on the subject at-hand.
Those child soldiers were horribly mistreated and they witnessed and participated in some of the worst atrocities a human being could ever imagine. He is so brave to confront his tormentor who really was just a kid too. I don’t think I could’ve done it.
I was injected with the power of forgiveness towards the drunk driver who put my sister in a coma. When we met face to face, I had nothing but compassion and love for him. It’s how I know God is real, because I’m a naturally vindictive person that wanted retribution. Praise God because that forgiveness set me free from mental torment.
I think it was easier because his tormenter was a kid and a victim just like him. It would be harder to meet a more senior commander that was 30 at the time and forgive that person.... that could be a genuine war criminal that perhaps deserves no pity....
@@TruthIsTheNewH8 'He's not doing it on his own. When you walk with Christ you have the strength to get through anything. You could do the same with Christ by your side." Christ put him in that spot in the first place, you defective animal.
That was so emotional between Ayik and Anya. I was crying so much and couldn't see their faces. Forgiveness is a powerful strength and can mend so many things. Im glad that they are trying to build a friendship. Im not forgetting that when they were both soldiers in Sudan, they were both frightened children.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@@Who-cu9eu As a Black man, I just want to say I'm sorry for the pain you've experienced. I encourage you to consider giving your life over to Jesus Christ ; He can bring you peace and healing, just like He did for Ayik and Anang. Seeking therapy is a strong step, but combining that with faith can really help you find hope and connection. You're not alone in this-we're all in this together, and there’s support available for you. God Bless you Brother
So grateful to be born in Australia and not have experienced war like countries. It's heartbreaking that kids and people in general have to go through such atrocities. Pray For Sudan.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
I love how he has the Australian accent but when talking about his soldier days, he has an African accent! ❤❤❤ God is Good ❤❤❤ I'm praying for you both x Forgiveness is Freedom ❤❤❤
Him having the aussie accent is him trying to escape his past. When his other accent kicked in, that's him reliving his trauma. There's nothing to love about it in this instance.
@@kingjulien2999 Oh stop it! Who said they loved him having truama!!! Maybe he just picked up the Aus accent from living there! Are u a doctor? Get a life u negative POS
They literally sat there and just started sweating..... Thats how intense it was.... Ayik went through phases of emotion, looking, anger, sadness and then some more searching.
it's not. i wish people would stop forcing forgiveness and positivity down people's throats. grieving and healing is most important in my opinion. and you can't do that when you are just expected to forgive.
@@TheBontekraaiyou are allowed to grieve and heal but at the end of the day nothing truly heals you and sets you free like forgiving and letting go. And no better friend to help you than Jesus Christ. I hope you one day understand this dear stranger
@@chemaringo885 I believe forgiveness happens when you heal naturally. But when you force it it will make you more sick. Forgiveness shouldn't even be the end goal. Being in the moment with your pain should be the focus.
@@TheBontekraai as much as I agree some people spend their whole lives “in the moment with your pain”. They dwell on it instead of finding a way out. There’s a fine line between dwelling on pain with the goal of healing and moving on vs dwelling on it as it cripples you. I’m not saying people shouldn’t spend time in their valid emotions. I’m saying that at the end of the day, what can we do to make you not miss out of the great rest of your life.
Don't know if you could hear it, but Ayik swapped back to his home dialect as he started to break down. I just dont even have words. This one hits home.
This is Kwnny This made me cry many tears.I love all South Sudanese people. My best friend Nyandwel is gone. May Gid bless tge Dinkas and Nuers and all the other groups in South Sudan.. l miss you Anok and Miyom and Bolis and Santino. I will visit South Sudan one day if God wills it.
As a survivor of abuse, I can only say that the courage and control this man displayed in front of his abuser is absolutely out of this world. God Bless you Aik, may the rest of your life be one of peace and happiness. And Anang, I hope your road to healing is full.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
I felt it through the bone... Glad you forgave each other brothers.... You both will heal from this. You were both kids...😢 Now being adults and became friends, Amazing❤❤
That reconciliation between Ayik and Anang had me in tears. That was extremely powerful and deep. Brought a grown man to tears, me. Forgiveness is everything. I pray they find peace, and I wish them both a long, happy and rewarding life. Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. It’s what you do now that counts.
My Lord, it was so touching with the soldiers. It just broke my heart. I’m so glad he told him everything and let it out and not just swept it up under the rug. They were both victims.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@@Toxx.Oniiii the problem with staying busy as coping mechanism it only helps in the moment. I could go gym 7 days a week and then after 10 years if I stop going all of it is still just there still stained in my mind and soul. I’m 25 now so I’ve been there done that it only helps you cope in the moment.
That guy has been abused so much that he doesn’t know how to show his emotions. I pray that God shows them light and they find peace and stop hurting. 🙏
@@applemaniac8796 I think that is district possibility people assume that everyone gets the same response to trauma but that simply not the case. Some people will develop antisocial/sadistic traits, and PTSD is only one possibility outside of this there are many other things that can happen.
So heartbreaking what they do to these kids , imagine he saw his parents and 2 brothers killed forced to join the army no wonder he doesn't show emotion ,what a traumatic thing for kids to go through, I hope they cam heal and mend all those broken fences
Wow I knew anang I was actually very close with him. I stayed with him in a backpackers resort in brisbane he told me stories of the war in sudan and how he had killed men before. I could see the pain in his eyes though and he is a very kind genuine soul. Before I left brisbane he gave me some money and said a prayer for me. I hope he is well and he is back with his family🙏
this is an incredible story. it shows that he really regretted what he was forced to do. it doesnt sound like he felt he had a choice. i feel horrible for him but im so happy he was given forgiveness and can moved forward
I started to cry immediately for Ayik when started to cry talking about the pain he endured and how he never had a childhood and didnt grow up knowing his family. To be all alone at such and early age. So traumatic so scary it must've been. I want the best for him. Im so glad he married and hus strength to teach his aon better lm
I was so extremely happy the husband and wife of 33 yrs were able to forgive and on work on the relationship again. God Bless them and keep love alive by helping and doing things together.🌹🌹💖🙏
If you have watched blood diamond, you would have a bit of understanding on how the children are trained to be able to do anything without remorse. I hope they keep on healing
He was made of steel and still cried , I respect both men cause they lived lives a lot of us couldn’t imagine god bless the less fortunate world peace ☮️
You can really see that Anang has much deeper trauma, long unresolved. His expression and how he composes himself shows someone who has bottled up for a long time, what has happened to them. The things he's done and seen, and his reconciliation with Ayik is a small part of coming to terms with his past. Ayik on the other hand is a man who has resolved most of his past, his experiences and has began life again, this being the one painful memory he has that was unresolved - "Why did this person do so many terrible things to me? Did he enjoy it? Is he even sorry for what he's done? The pain he's caused?" I think for Ayik, Anang is the last part of his trauma to he healed, and for Anang, Ayik is the first part of healing his.
OMG THIS HAD ME IN TEARS “ I never saw this show before and I feel theirs a lesson in all of the stories that benefits everyone “ such as forgiveness and face our abuser and have peace within ourselves 😢 GOD BLESS 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾
Forgiveness and reconciliation have such a profound impact on both parties. Ayik went seeking to find closure and healing but he ended up bringing healing to his tomentor. Also, love always wins...Sue and Gary still found the spark that brought them together and that is just beautiful!🥺
Pfff the symbolism of Ayik first with his head down, and at the end of this standing tall. I see a lot of walls in the eyes of his agressor, but im sure if they are broken down there is also a little hurt child.
When Arik said (at about 52 minutes in), "I forgive you," Anyang exhaled. It was like this wall of pain, fear, guilt etc, broke in him. What a great moment! The power of forgiveness! Praying that these two men continue to heal and grow forward under Christ. Anyang too was a victim of war. By the time the 10year old Arik met him, he'd been a boy soldier for at least 5 years, going through unimaginable horrors. He had already shut down. It looks like Arik's forgiveness has started to open him up again. God bless these two who afterall, were both fearfully and wonderfully made by their creator.
Ayik is beyond traumatised!!! He still needs a lot to heal, if he ever does.... but most importantly he needs support and love, he needs time, he needs closure. I hope he finds freedom, true freedom!! Mentally and spiritually.
Ayik is a really brave man. So glad that they were able to talk and some about it even if it was many years later. I really hope and pray that they can heal and all the other children affected by this practice.
Bless you beautiful soul, I am so pleased you are free here in Australia. The brutality of war, oh the pain and suffering some people go through it breaks my heart❤ what a true human being, the healing you have achieved is a tribute to you!
“But now I’ve stopped running!” Such powerful words ❤. Blessings and God’s strength and love to you and your family. Letting go is important to move on.
When ayik was staring at him you could see the hurt child in his eyes. He all of a sudden looked like a child to me, and the understanding of the gravity of his actions on the side of the offender. Both were children Ina war torn situation, both abused but one turned into an abuser to save himself. Such a tragic story and it really was so powerful to watch. This took braveness on both sides. Confronting your abuser, and being man enough to sit there knowing your wrongdoing.
I did however find it so beyond hurtful for ayik that his offender came there thinking about forgiveness for himself. Not because he felt the urge to apologize and let him know why he was doing what he did and that he was hurt and affected by what he's done. I can't imagine the wound that recreates for ayik 😢
Ppl have different ways to cope but both are trying to move on he needed peace from ayik to know he was trying to be better both were young both were mistreated by warlords tryna control there country why else are they both free in Australia because the u.n understands that they both were used, beaten, and mistaken of doing a good cause when actually it was bad
That was incredible. Incredible forgiveness. I saw the emotion in both their eyes. I have harbored terrible anger and resentment in my life. I think this video has given me the power to forgive. Thank you.
You're both an inspiration to mankind. The fact that this happened between two broken men that were brought hijacked and taught what to do, and yet they resolved their differences. As soon as they made contact in hugging, they were both connected. Something really powerful in a hug.
Man when ayik was crying explaining everything i was so emotional but when they finally hugged and anang started to cry i immediately started bawling this was one of the most powerful things i have ever watched thank you so much for sharing this
Believe it or not that man was sorry, I hope they both truly forgive each other cause they were both robbed, so sad😭😭 him saying he is living his childhood through his child😫…May God heal both their scars.
Just discovered this channel through this video. I don’t think i’ve ever cried at a YT vid before, but i’m sobbing like a baby. Ayik is such an outstanding human being, I don’t even have the words.
This is the most powerful thing I have ever seen. Ayik is lucky to have this moment to help him conclude this. I wish I could face my childhood tormentor too, but she died
This documentary was moving. So glad Ayik has opened up to confront his past traumas. As South Sudanese most of us do not talk about our past traumas and it’s has destroyed us & our communities🥲
I am so proud of both men! Anyang came equipt , translator and all, he wasready! So ready to admit his faults because when he sits with himself he has a pain he recognizes in Ayik! And he feels bad because he knows how the pain affects him!!!! My heart is just changed after this sigh
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I sobbed!!!!! I have to say I really respect Anyang. He did not make excuses, he apologised. But we know his story is not different from Arik’s. He lost his family, he has witnessed so much and he himself as a victim of child exploitation but he didn’t not bring up those excuses once, he let the man he hurt do all the talking. What amazing people! Respect and prayers for both men!
The thing is I had no idea what the outcome of choosing to see this man would take,
You never know that he isn't remorseful and the decision to do this on Ariks part was impressive as far as self healing can go, could he be prepared for someone to scold him or laugh at his pain is one of the questions he's got to have considered
Yeah I would have loved to hear more of his side too but seems Anyang became more conditioned to mask all the pain and suffering.. I'm glad Ayik forgave him and I think Ayik will also help Anyang heal by remaining his friend.
Amen
But he did say "Mistake that happened, part of it because I was young". 46:09
I am a grown man, and I bawled. I have no shame in admitting that. Outer strength is one thing. Inner strength is unparalleled. These people show inner strength unlike I’ve ever seen
That cold stare and lack of emotion is still there because he was a victim still in self preservation mode. Once they held eachother that wall came crumbling down. Ayik is teaching him to feel again.
It's a bitter-sweet moment.
I wish them both love and joy. ❤
DOSE AIK REALIZE THAT THEY ARE BOTH VICTIMS? DOES HE REALIZE THAT ANANG'S STORY IS THE SAME AS HIS? THAT ANANG TOO WAS A CHILD JUST A FEW SECONDS OLDER, THAT HE WENT THROUGH THE SAME TREATMENT AND WAS GIVEN THES ORDERS UNDER THREAT? AIK MUST KNOW HE MUST SEE THAT THEY BOTH LOST EQUAL FAMILY MEMBERS, THEIR BEAUTIFUL LAND THAT THEY ONCE BORN TOO WAS TAKEN AWAY FROM ALL. NOT ONLY AIK. IMAGNE BEING THE ONE WHO WAS ORDERED TO PUNISH PPL AT THESE DARK TIMES AND THEN LIVING WITH THIS BLAMING YOURSELF WHEN YOU FOLLOWING ORDERS WAS THE ONLY WAY YOU COULD SERVIVE. IMAGINE.
@@lovehildagrey Friend, Aik does understand as well as Anang.
I understand you feel empathy for Anang and would not like him to receive any criticism from Aik for his past actions;
but here is the thing:
Anang torturing other child soldiers due to survival and fear.
Aik going through abuse and torture from Anang.
Both men are equally justified in regards to their anger, guilt, or regret due to their respective circumstances in the war.
Aik is justified by confronting his trauma, pain, and abuser in order to truly heal.
Just the same as Anang confronting himself and one of his victims to seek forgiveness so HE can also learn to forgive HIMSELF.
This NEEDS to happen.
Arguments. Confrontations. Honesty.
Only then can there be healing once you acknowledge it.
Do YOU understand that there is a process to things such as these?
Trauma and real pain is not as easy as just telling yourself that you should forgive and you will be better forever.
That man has seen so much horror that he couldn’t even be read through his eyes. Very strange that it’s the man that was tortured as a boy, who is haunted by and experienced all that pain continues to feel. He keeps his emotions, his humanity. Ayik is an outstanding human being. He’s stronger than fear.
Very true , his eyes were dead as if his emotions is buried inside a place where no one could touch 😮
It is possible that he told truth when he mentioned he struggled with the memories when he slept , the other man ,too. God opened his eyes and heart , that was shut for probably so long in self protection to do what he did. I can't put myself in his shoes. Alone in Africa so young ,he saw that group of soldiers as only way and the victim who tried to escape 15 times , got tortured .. he probably would be too . I suspect it's so terrible, most of us can't put ourselves in their shoes and brain reaction. Worst would have been if no regret . I hope they can heal 🙏
@@lapis3834 100% he genuinely wanted forgiveness. He’s just seen a lot, and that’ll affect folks differently but they’re all gonna get some form of PTSD. They were all victims, some just victims of victims. Some folks can just seem emotionless, dead on the inside and some very may well be to an extent. They can still burn on the inside tho. That being said, Ayuk is still in tact. He’s the embodiment of what it’s like to be human. He wears his emotions on his sleeves, he obviously loves his boy with not just all his heart but it’s well within the marrow of his bones. No one would’ve blamed him had he not forgiven this man. But he did it anyways. I think universally no man that has a heart wants to see a woman or child cry, maybe it’s an evolutionary response…I haven’t a clue. But the man that hurt Aiyuk was visibly uncomfortable when Aiyuk starting crying and that’s genuinely what it’s like, anxiety/a want to fix. So when I saw him wipe Aiyuk’s tears and begged. That’s a man that needed relief, to be forgiven and couldn’t handle the thought of dealing out any more pain. Just an opinion though. I may be special but I’m no specialist... lol I hope they can finally sleep at night without any more stress, anxiety or nightmares as I hear sleep is God’s medicine.
Remember both Where child soldiers , so both of them have been through the same torture , only one got promoted to the more torture to the other.
The older one had to bury his feelings so he did not get killed by the people who was above him.
It's gonna take a lot more than this to help them unpack their hidden emotions
@@lov5334this is a great comment they were victims of a cruel war
When Ayik started crying he just looked like a small child in pain. Poor child, even as an adult he’s still suffering 😢
tf
@@AidenKimRagtime whats wrong with what he said?
@@AidenKimRagtime Shut up.
@@satisfactiongamer7385 The frick did I say
@@AidenKimRagtimeare you slow?😢
The fact that he named his child "Freeman" says a whole lot more than we think...
Damn… I’m crying… it’s sad but also amazing to see him living life
i grew up with a guy he was freeman the 8th
@@ThePyroTecNick freemasonry is evil bro they worship demons and satan, don't you know the royal secret of sodomy and transyugothic magic
"doctor freeman"
Because he's black? and Morgan Freeman is black. It's what i would have to do. But im white so i have to name mine Adolf :(
Ayik revived that man. He was a dead man walking. An empty, physical husk of what used to be a man. As soon as that hug connected, and the tears started flowing, life was breathed back into him.
Please pray for Sudan man. This country and it’s people have been trough so much and they still are ❤
Theyre south sudanese not sudanese
@@Lvrry416Even Sudan is in despair now. Horrific civil war is going on. Prayers for both Sudan and South Sudan.😢
@@Lvrry416 doesn't change much,,,, infact north sudan is responsible primari;y for what happened with the south so it is not a reach to mention that both of them need help
@@verawang5418Yeah due to Al-Bashir. And you know what's funny? Sudanese people beg for the time he was a leader before. They used to think he was bad, and he was, but when he left they truly learned how bad it could get.
@@Vordredosama well the comparision between starving to death and being brutally suppressed isn't much of a competition
A military commander at 16 just after watching 1000+ of his fellow children die, surviving 2 bullet wounds. That was just another day in a teenager's life in a war zone. The pain was deep and he took it out on his victims. The very real fear numbed him.
Thank you so much for saying that!
Us in the West can only imagine the fear and pain of a brutal civil war like that. We are very lucky.
Maybe non of them would be alive today had he been soft. poor man blamed for obeying the rules
@@thabotouch1405 I thought of that too.
The guy in the black was forced to do that by fear himself.
Imagine the pain he has gone through, God help you both heal brothers. Forgiveness is powerful.
Sure is powerful both painful n beautiful
Both
So sad god didnt help them all these years ago, right?
God isn’t helping. He was tortured! You forgot that part ?
@@Skladak_Killer_98No, God never makes mistakes
when anang started crying it reminded me that both of them are victims of war. Made me start crying
Sierra leone war I used to be child soldier
@@sampaigeworldwidenews lie.
@@sampaigeworldwidenewsI hope you’re okay
@@helium5912 may Peace ne upon you . I was abducted from my parent at 8years and was in the jungle for 2 years that's 1998 to 2000. I never kill anyone but saw many horrible things like people's head legs and hand be chopped off , pregnant woman being cut apart and many other horrible things . It's still in my brain till this day ,I can still remember all of their faces
@@sampaigeworldwidenewsHave you ever considered sharing your story?
I think that they are both victims of war and I can tell that Anang had his own trauma and has to deal with his own healing and I pray that God will bring complete healing to them both. So happy for the married couple...
Daniel likes to be on Tv he always wanted to be famous he auditioned for Big Brother they were racist as every tv show you have in Australia, Daniel is a drug dealer he made all his money and fame from drugs ask around him in Brisbane he likes man who cross dress.
You're correct. I think for adults to corrupt children to THAT level, is such an abysmal EVIL! God help us!😓💔
well they can both do it from prison.
@@FjjtGjt For being beaten and forced to be in an army as children?
@@FjjtGjt you know nothing of war
They ran into each other in church. Gods house. The journey of forgiveness is beautiful and powerful
I ran into an old school mate from botswana all the way in Canada in church.
God makes it a small world.
The bad guys gang failed. If it wasn't for that he would still be tormenting people.
Praise God!
@@nigelsenchezhe was a child soldier himself, he saw thousands of people die by sixteen. It's not a good environment and people are products of theirs
I don't believe it
I have a friend from Sudan who lost his entire family when he was going to church in a massacre, you could see the relief in his movements and actions when he came to Australia.
How do you know if you didn’t meet him until he got to Australia? Like how do u know how he moved before ? It’s a good story though.
@@tabernaclejones6115 He told me his story and I sponsored him through citizenship, and you don’t need to know what someone is relieving from to be able to identify relief, how do you know if someone is smiling without knowing why ?. And what is your problem
@@speccwolfsome people go out their way to think negatively . I feel sorry for them. Miserable lives
He moved with relief wtf lol weird thing to say
@@LemonHead-sq5ws Moved with confidence that he doesn't have to be used as a prop for war or treated as anything but human. Wake up to yourself you lemon.
"I'm living my own childhood, thru MY child." thats what got me. He remembered the golden rule and made the change.
A modern African man's perspective.
This was in a few words, a true healing session. The pain of men from very different backgrounds, Gary represents men who even in 2024 are left when they thought all was well. Tough decisions and tall walls are built and thankfully did not resort to the bottle. Kudos to Sue for the apology. Glad to see them back together working things out.
As for the child soldiers, that was deep and raw. Anyang's sigh of relief when he was forgiven and the burst of tears when hugged. The rising of true manhood in Ayik, facing your fears and tormentor and forgiving him. The reconciliation was the icing on the cake.
Awesome documentary.
The juxtaposition of first world problems vs real problems
@@alexred1038So true! 😔
Sounds as if Gary wasn't appreciating his wife or showing he loved her for a long long time. He had never looked outside the bubble of 'well I'm fine' , that was why it was such a shock, the trap of many men 'Im happy and she is an extension of me really so she's happy'.
The forgiveness between Ayik and Anyang was simply beautiful...and real.
Bless them both. 💙🩵
Some people simply do not deserve forgiveness
The Ayik segment had me in tears the most. It literally touched my spirit in a way i cant put into words.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
Yeah damn, this really made me tear up but it was cathartic and made me hopeful for how kind people can be sometimes.
@@Who-cu9euI’m so so sorry you had to experience this but by the history of your forefathers do you think that in a past life you could have contributed to the exact pain on Africans ? This is not an attack please don’t see it that way but as a healed victim myself I understand that life brings balance ! And sometimes you’re being hurt because you could have hurt others in times you cannot remember . Just food for thought . Please do not feel hurt by this
im crying like a baby with Ayik....i think by talking to eachother of their childhood experiences they can bith heal...it was so sweet to see them meet up with his son after two months.
Wow the scars of war
When he said he is now living his childhood through his own child 😢
Glad he took the step to forgive
So happy that he broke that generational curse by not taking it out on his own son , so his son won't take those scars to another generation 😢😢
God knows how the Palestinians will ever heal and the Israelis seems like they will never heal from the trauma of their relations who perished in ww 2 but I cannot accept that they are doing the same and worse than death is the treatment IOF give to Palestinians, and while that is happening in Sudan the same thing is happening today as What Ayik experienced in the South Sudan war.
@@cosmopolitanwonder9675 Palestine literally has child soldiers. Palestine also bombed children, including their own, numb nuts. I really hope you talk to an active vet who fights in both sides, you'll understand the horrendous and atrocious things people do in battle -- unless you can't take it. I hope you're a bot because you're incredibly idiotic. Palestine literally STRAPS their children AND BABIES with bombs. Not *ALL* the time, but its documented. Its not just Palestine, but i'm giving you an example of your biasness... and apparently ignorance on the subject at-hand.
Those child soldiers were horribly mistreated and they witnessed and participated in some of the worst atrocities a human being could ever imagine. He is so brave to confront his tormentor who really was just a kid too. I don’t think I could’ve done it.
He's not doing it on his own. When you walk with Christ you have the strength to get through anything. You could do the same with Christ by your side.
I was injected with the power of forgiveness towards the drunk driver who put my sister in a coma. When we met face to face, I had nothing but compassion and love for him. It’s how I know God is real, because I’m a naturally vindictive person that wanted retribution. Praise God because that forgiveness set me free from mental torment.
I think it was easier because his tormenter was a kid and a victim just like him. It would be harder to meet a more senior commander that was 30 at the time and forgive that person.... that could be a genuine war criminal that perhaps deserves no pity....
@@TruthIsTheNewH8 'He's not doing it on his own. When you walk with Christ you have the strength to get through anything. You could do the same with Christ by your side."
Christ put him in that spot in the first place, you defective animal.
@@dekippiesip exactly.
This is heartbreaking...
The eyes are the window of the soul...
Amen 🙏🏽
Amen
And anang looked like his soul had been sold ! Dead eyes
That was so emotional between Ayik and Anya. I was crying so much and couldn't see their faces. Forgiveness is a powerful strength and can mend so many things. Im glad that they are trying to build a friendship. Im not forgetting that when they were both soldiers in Sudan, they were both frightened children.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@@Who-cu9eu As a Black man, I just want to say I'm sorry for the pain you've experienced. I encourage you to consider giving your life over to Jesus Christ ; He can bring you peace and healing, just like He did for Ayik and Anang. Seeking therapy is a strong step, but combining that with faith can really help you find hope and connection. You're not alone in this-we're all in this together, and there’s support available for you. God Bless you Brother
@@thatlightskinkid793 Using religion to heal from trauma doesn't work for some people. Good for you if it worked for you but please recognise that.
@@Isaac-ho8gh Jesus heals all wounds my friend no matter how many times u don’t wanna hear it it’s the truth!!!
@@thatlightskinkid793 that's pretty arrogant to say because many people aren't Christians. It also has colonialist vibes.
So grateful to be born in Australia and not have experienced war like countries. It's heartbreaking that kids and people in general have to go through such atrocities. Pray For Sudan.
While you are at it do not by any means ignore the plight of the aboriginals who to this day are still reliving the consequences of your background
Born in australia doesnt necessarily mean "ethnically australian" @@nyakwarObat
Both men went through trauma.
May they both find healing and God Bless them!
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@Who-cu9eu hope you heal by the power of God
@@Who-cu9eu Revenge is a never ending cycle.
@@Who-cu9eu 'I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before"
Repressed emotions don't make a man. Being able to face your emotions do.
I'm black and i am disgusted with how you were treated. I pray you are healed🙏🏽
Forgiveness is powerful. I am so glad Ayik and Anang' are forming a friendship. I really cried with them! 😢
Me too🥲
Absolutely. Forgiveness is what has caused Rwanda to come forward
it was unexplainable! how couldnt I cry with them
When they hug, so powerful . You can see the weight come off both of these shoulders . Brilliant. Hopefully they can help other boy soldiers. Real men
This is what is called..."The casualties of war". Wish them all the best that life has to offer.
Stop it will ya Daniel is a criminal a drug dealer from the Gold Coast and Brisbane what you going on about mate he sells weed to underage and pills.
I love how he has the Australian accent but when talking about his soldier days, he has an African accent! ❤❤❤ God is Good ❤❤❤ I'm praying for you both x Forgiveness is Freedom ❤❤❤
Him having the aussie accent is him trying to escape his past. When his other accent kicked in, that's him reliving his trauma. There's nothing to love about it in this instance.
@@kingjulien2999 Oh stop it! Who said they loved him having truama!!! Maybe he just picked up the Aus accent from living there! Are u a doctor? Get a life u negative POS
They literally sat there and just started sweating..... Thats how intense it was.... Ayik went through phases of emotion, looking, anger, sadness and then some more searching.
I mean it's most likely the studio lights. Those are hot.
@@Un1234l shou go away
Both men were robbed of their childhood due to the war. Forgiveness is the key.
Amen
it's not.
i wish people would stop forcing forgiveness and positivity down people's throats.
grieving and healing is most important in my opinion.
and you can't do that when you are just expected to forgive.
@@TheBontekraaiyou are allowed to grieve and heal but at the end of the day nothing truly heals you and sets you free like forgiving and letting go. And no better friend to help you than Jesus Christ. I hope you one day understand this dear stranger
@@chemaringo885 I believe forgiveness happens when you heal naturally. But when you force it it will make you more sick.
Forgiveness shouldn't even be the end goal. Being in the moment with your pain should be the focus.
@@TheBontekraai as much as I agree some people spend their whole lives “in the moment with your pain”. They dwell on it instead of finding a way out. There’s a fine line between dwelling on pain with the goal of healing and moving on vs dwelling on it as it cripples you. I’m not saying people shouldn’t spend time in their valid emotions. I’m saying that at the end of the day, what can we do to make you not miss out of the great rest of your life.
The world Is indeed small!look where these men met again far away from Africa.i felt that guy's pain I couldn't hold my tears💔
Yeah , far away from Africa. This world is so small. Let it be a lesson to others
There was a reason for them to meet again.
@@MAGAISKLAN For sure
I'm bawling, when Ayik's tears fell, I saw a child hurt, beaten, crushed, lost, and suffering.
I dont think I ve ever seen a man express his brokenness like this former child soldier. this is heavy
The child soldier segment reduced me to absolute messy tears. so sad for both of them but glad amends were made
Both beautiful souls victims of our world in crisis
But forgiveness is beautiful
Very inspiring
My respect to both
What he did to ayik haunted him the most you see it leave when he started to cry, god bless both of these guys especially ayik
Ayik may you and your family be
blessed abundantly. You are a brave and courageous man.
Don't know if you could hear it, but Ayik swapped back to his home dialect as he started to break down. I just dont even have words. This one hits home.
This is Kwnny This made me cry many tears.I love all South Sudanese people. My best friend Nyandwel is gone. May Gid bless tge Dinkas and Nuers and all the other groups in South Sudan.. l miss you Anok and Miyom and Bolis and Santino. I will visit South Sudan one day if God wills it.
I'm sorry about your friend
As a survivor of abuse, I can only say that the courage and control this man displayed in front of his abuser is absolutely out of this world.
God Bless you Aik, may the rest of your life be one of peace and happiness.
And Anang, I hope your road to healing is full.
Amen!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
Amen ❤❤❤
@@Who-cu9euI'm sorry those things happened to you. I hope you find peace and relief soon.
@@Who-cu9euplease try and get some help. Don’t struggle alone with your pain.
Ayik is an amazing strong man. If only I had that strength. *Tears*
Honestly one of the most powerful pieces of television I have seen in my life. Well done
I felt it through the bone...
Glad you forgave each other brothers....
You both will heal from this.
You were both kids...😢
Now being adults and became friends, Amazing❤❤
Psalms 24 mankind think this planet belong to them it will end there is no sleep for the wicked the good book say
That reconciliation between Ayik and Anang had me in tears. That was extremely powerful and deep. Brought a grown man to tears, me. Forgiveness is everything. I pray they find peace, and I wish them both a long, happy and rewarding life. Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. It’s what you do now that counts.
My Lord, it was so touching with the soldiers. It just broke my heart. I’m so glad he told him everything and let it out and not just swept it up under the rug. They were both victims.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
Imagine the pain with him that he’s been carrying😢 STRONGGG man right there I prob would’ve been in jail
He probably would have too if he didn't have a son, different situation now.
I’m a man I’ve literally never cried before but I have a similar pain with childhood scars and I relate to him in a way because my mental scars never leave me and it effects my ability to be a people person today so because of trauma I still struggle to laugh and smile around people so I’m still stuck alone in my painful thoughts and can’t make friends and I’m 25. My story is a bit odd though because I’m white and went to a black community school I was the only white person there but I was treated so badly by others and I’m not allowed to speak out in public because it’s not politically correct for me to do so! And there’s people that have numbed me so much that if I put them in a coma it would feel justifiable and it would help me move on. I think I need to see a therapist because I’ve had mental scars since leaving high school and I find no way to remove the anger, anxiety and mental distress unless I get up and take revenge.
@@Who-cu9eu same here I have really really horrible childhood trauma but my coping skill is drawing maybe your talent might be your coping skill
@@Toxx.Oniiii the problem with staying busy as coping mechanism it only helps in the moment. I could go gym 7 days a week and then after 10 years if I stop going all of it is still just there still stained in my mind and soul. I’m 25 now so I’ve been there done that it only helps you cope in the moment.
@@Who-cu9eu and your ABSOLUTELY right about that
Both of them were robbed of their childhood he was 16 he started the war at 10 very wrong God give you peace
That guy has been abused so much that he doesn’t know how to show his emotions. I pray that God shows them light and they find peace and stop hurting. 🙏
Sometimes your the forgiver sometimes your asking for forgiveness
@@applemaniac8796 The effects of war.
@@applemaniac8796 I think that is district possibility people assume that everyone gets the same response to trauma but that simply not the case. Some people will develop antisocial/sadistic traits, and PTSD is only one possibility outside of this there are many other things that can happen.
God robbed it from them. What a great God right?
That was the most heart tugging thing I’ve ever watched in my life
So heartbreaking what they do to these kids , imagine he saw his parents and 2 brothers killed forced to join the army no wonder he doesn't show emotion ,what a traumatic thing for kids to go through, I hope they cam heal and mend all those broken fences
Wow I knew anang I was actually very close with him. I stayed with him in a backpackers resort in brisbane he told me stories of the war in sudan and how he had killed men before. I could see the pain in his eyes though and he is a very kind genuine soul. Before I left brisbane he gave me some money and said a prayer for me. I hope he is well and he is back with his family🙏
this is an incredible story. it shows that he really regretted what he was forced to do. it doesnt sound like he felt he had a choice. i feel horrible for him but im so happy he was given forgiveness and can moved forward
He was also a victim of the war and a child. I also hope he’s living a happy life and healing from his awful childhood.
Ayik is role modeling what it is to act like a real man in this... Absolutely heart wrenching and beautiful. X
I started to cry immediately for Ayik when started to cry talking about the pain he endured and how he never had a childhood and didnt grow up knowing his family. To be all alone at such and early age. So traumatic so scary it must've been. I want the best for him. Im so glad he married and hus strength to teach his aon better lm
Stop Daniel, likes to be on TV 📺 that's all he will say and do anything where was his hurt when he was beating up my friend Lona
I was so extremely happy the husband and wife of 33 yrs were able to forgive and on work on the relationship again. God Bless them and keep love alive by helping and doing things together.🌹🌹💖🙏
😢😮 you must be a woman... I was thinking run 🏃♂️ gary run
The bravery from these two men to do this is incredible. I fully support what you guys are doing here and hope these two can find peace.
If you have watched blood diamond, you would have a bit of understanding on how the children are trained to be able to do anything without remorse. I hope they keep on healing
He was made of steel and still cried , I respect both men cause they lived lives a lot of us couldn’t imagine god bless the less fortunate world peace ☮️
One of the best documentaries of the century actually.
You can really see that Anang has much deeper trauma, long unresolved. His expression and how he composes himself shows someone who has bottled up for a long time, what has happened to them. The things he's done and seen, and his reconciliation with Ayik is a small part of coming to terms with his past. Ayik on the other hand is a man who has resolved most of his past, his experiences and has began life again, this being the one painful memory he has that was unresolved - "Why did this person do so many terrible things to me? Did he enjoy it? Is he even sorry for what he's done? The pain he's caused?" I think for Ayik, Anang is the last part of his trauma to he healed, and for Anang, Ayik is the first part of healing his.
OMG THIS HAD ME IN TEARS “ I never saw this show before and I feel theirs a lesson in all of the stories that benefits everyone “ such as forgiveness and face our abuser and have peace within ourselves 😢 GOD BLESS 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾
Forgiveness and reconciliation have such a profound impact on both parties. Ayik went seeking to find closure and healing but he ended up bringing healing to his tomentor.
Also, love always wins...Sue and Gary still found the spark that brought them together and that is just beautiful!🥺
Pfff the symbolism of Ayik first with his head down, and at the end of this standing tall.
I see a lot of walls in the eyes of his agressor, but im sure if they are broken down there is also a little hurt child.
u have to remember they both went through the same thing but for the agressor it was a lot longer. so they both process it different;y
When Arik said (at about 52 minutes in), "I forgive you," Anyang exhaled. It was like this wall of pain, fear, guilt etc, broke in him. What a great moment! The power of forgiveness! Praying that these two men continue to heal and grow forward under Christ. Anyang too was a victim of war. By the time the 10year old Arik met him, he'd been a boy soldier for at least 5 years, going through unimaginable horrors. He had already shut down. It looks like Arik's forgiveness has started to open him up again. God bless these two who afterall, were both fearfully and wonderfully made by their creator.
Amen😢
Ayik is beyond traumatised!!! He still needs a lot to heal, if he ever does.... but most importantly he needs support and love, he needs time, he needs closure.
I hope he finds freedom, true freedom!! Mentally and spiritually.
Ayik is a really brave man. So glad that they were able to talk and some about it even if it was many years later. I really hope and pray that they can heal and all the other children affected by this practice.
Beautiful so happy the two men had this opportunity 🙏🏻
Bless you beautiful soul, I am so pleased you are free here in Australia. The brutality of war, oh the pain and suffering some people go through it breaks my heart❤ what a true human being, the healing you have achieved is a tribute to you!
That was so powerful😥 forgiveness is so difficult, but if you can get there it is very freeing.🙏❣
“But now I’ve stopped running!” Such powerful words ❤. Blessings and God’s strength and love to you and your family. Letting go is important to move on.
Powerful story of the black brothers....I was crying ....still crying and moved
Yes indeed😭😭
I believe that I cried the entire show. Good tears. God Bless You Always, Each And Every one of you.
when he finally showed emotions and cried when he hugged ayik i can’t stop crying now
This had me tearing up the whole time. Love is deadly, love is beautiful.
This episode is phenomenal
what a touching story, there is healing through forgiveness, never thought i would cry seeing two men cry.
Both young men were innocent and taken advantage of may God heal them
I'm praying that both brothers get the peace they deserve
Omg I’m always crying for strangers. This melted my heart. My husband from Africa and experienced similarl🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Africa is a whole continent.
this video really has restored my faith in humanity!! It's rare to find good and wholesome videos like these!
My goodness! How powerful is Ayik and Anang's story?
Agreed!
Ikr God have his arms around both of them beautiful start
When ayik was staring at him you could see the hurt child in his eyes. He all of a sudden looked like a child to me, and the understanding of the gravity of his actions on the side of the offender. Both were children Ina war torn situation, both abused but one turned into an abuser to save himself. Such a tragic story and it really was so powerful to watch. This took braveness on both sides. Confronting your abuser, and being man enough to sit there knowing your wrongdoing.
I did however find it so beyond hurtful for ayik that his offender came there thinking about forgiveness for himself. Not because he felt the urge to apologize and let him know why he was doing what he did and that he was hurt and affected by what he's done. I can't imagine the wound that recreates for ayik 😢
Ppl have different ways to cope but both are trying to move on he needed peace from ayik to know he was trying to be better both were young both were mistreated by warlords tryna control there country why else are they both free in Australia because the u.n understands that they both were used, beaten, and mistaken of doing a good cause when actually it was bad
This video had me crying like a baby. God bless you both. You’re both victims of war and deserve happiness in your futures. ❤️🙏🏻
That was incredible. Incredible forgiveness. I saw the emotion in both their eyes. I have harbored terrible anger and resentment in my life. I think this video has given me the power to forgive. Thank you.
“Be good to everyone” Very wise words Ayik ❤️
Aik, described living with child trauma whilst looking after children you love so perfectly
Heartbreaking theres no winners in war💔
true
You're both an inspiration to mankind. The fact that this happened between two broken men that were brought hijacked and taught what to do, and yet they resolved their differences. As soon as they made contact in hugging, they were both connected. Something really powerful in a hug.
Wow forgiveness is the key to life
So very very true
Absolutely heart breaking. We are really so privileged to live in Australia.
I wish there was more than one episode of this program.
Man when ayik was crying explaining everything i was so emotional but when they finally hugged and anang started to cry i immediately started bawling this was one of the most powerful things i have ever watched thank you so much for sharing this
Believe it or not that man was sorry, I hope they both truly forgive each other cause they were both robbed, so sad😭😭 him saying he is living his childhood through his child😫…May God heal both their scars.
Just discovered this channel through this video. I don’t think i’ve ever cried at a YT vid before, but i’m sobbing like a baby. Ayik is such an outstanding human being, I don’t even have the words.
This is the most powerful thing I have ever seen.
Ayik is lucky to have this moment to help him conclude this.
I wish I could face my childhood tormentor too, but she died
Ayik, what a beautiful human being. Very powerful stuff, so glad both men can move on with life. Wish them both best
Ayik I'm so sorry for what you went through...may God give you healing.May he vindicate justice for you and restore your peace❤❤❤hugs brother
I cried all the way through 😭. So moving to see people bravely confronting things and overcoming.
This documentary was moving. So glad Ayik has opened up to confront his past traumas. As South Sudanese most of us do not talk about our past traumas and it’s has destroyed us & our communities🥲
I am so proud of both men! Anyang came equipt , translator and all, he wasready! So ready to admit his faults because when he sits with himself he has a pain he recognizes in Ayik! And he feels bad because he knows how the pain affects him!!!! My heart is just changed after this sigh
What a great reunion for both parties.
May God continue to intervene...🙏
Forgiveness really hit both side tremendously. It's crazy beautiful and emotional and satisfying