THIS IS 25 | Omeleto
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- A woman prepares to turn 25.
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On the eve of her 25th birthday, Becky readies for her big birthday, taking the prerequisite time to prepare herself not just for the festivities, but for its documentation on social media. She spends endless amounts of time and energy on Instagram, tracking her likes and followers as well as the pictures of others, which portray all the milestones she seems to lack: weddings, vacations, job success.
But as she sails into her party -- much of which is taken up with creating perfect pictures for Instagram -- she's concealing a deeper sorrow under the carefree smiles: she recently had an argument with her friend, an earth-shattering conversation that revealed just how toxic her self-absorption has become and just what her Instagram obsession is costing her.
Writer-director David Mandell's short drama aims to be a generational statement from its title, but it gets its resonance by creating a well-observed, deeply empathetic character portrait of one beautiful, troubled girl and her relationship with social media.
Like a Mobius strip, we see Becky's pains to be "that girl" on social media, as she preens for the camera and contorts herself to create just the right selfie for Instagram. We also see just how saturated her life and her social circle is with social media awareness, with talk of followers and likes. But we also see the insecurity and need for attention that drives her behavior.
Like the glossy, glamorous most-liked pictures on Instagram, the film has the polished, sun-soaked look peculiar to films set in California, filled with a brightness and luminosity that seems to cover everything with a sheen of blithe, carefree prosperity.
Actress Isabel Pakzad does a terrific job balancing the essential divided selves of her role. She plays the persona of the popular, beautiful and successful social media "It girl" with aplomb, but when the story goes deeper, she also hints at Becky's despair and possible depression, flickering between hurt, self-awareness, self-loathing and vulnerability.
When her friend Chelsea confronts her about her self-absorption in a well-balanced, emotionally complex scene that forms the emotional heart of the film, we understand exactly where Chelsea is coming from, but Pakzad also plays just enough of her character's core of emptiness and isolation that we can see it's not just a character flaw of selfishness, but something deeper and sadder at work. The realization drives her to the brink of the unthinkable, but then she gets a small reminder of what really matters -- enough to put on a smile and a happy face once again for the pictures.
THIS IS 25 begins with a breezy glossiness that resembles the persona of its central character, and functions also as a portrayal of what it means to come of age and into adulthood with an anonymous, distant yet all-powerful audience. It also asks questions of what role social media plays in mental health and possibly illness. As it proceeds, though, its storytelling goes underneath the pretty but brittle surface and into deeper, more resonant territory.
We may not all be social media stars, but there is enough exploration of the divide between public and private selves to reflect many people's experiences, not just the social media generation. Most of us have faces that we spackle on to cover our deep-seated insecurities and inadequacies, in order to get through life. But what happens when the mask we put on becomes the self? With the relentless documentation of today, the lines can become perilously blurred.
This is why I isolate myself when I'm depressed so I wont seem self centered. It's a vicious cycle. I'm only social when I'm feeling happy. I dont think any of my immediate family or close friends recognize that I'm going through anything. It's very lonely.
@ Taylor : very recognisable. Especially now, it's Christmas, but i don't want to see anyone, for seeing the happiness and joy of others will make me feel even more lonely and depressed when I'm alone afterwards...
I feel for you and send you all my love! 💖
@@noddy176 That was so sweet ❤❤❤ Thank you much love to you as well. Two family members asked me to come out. I dont want to do it either, I'm staying home as well. You are not alone. I'm about to put on a movie lol and not a Christmas one. 🧘🏾♀️ 🎄
I tend to always isolate myself when I'm depressed as well because I don't think people will understand, but I don't think it's a healthy way to process our feelings. It's important to talk to someone about it, whether it's on online support forums or through professional help. Please don't suffer alone.
Same hun. It's very, very common. But it's also a very common character trait of addicts. So just make sure you're not using when you isolate. Otherwise you can get down a slippery slope. Trust me. I know. But it makes perfect sense that you want to isolate when you feel down. Thank you for your honesty!
I'm generally avoidant by default, but I will isolate from friends when I am in a specific sector of my depressive episodes... the kind where I am afraid I will say something wrong to said friends, something that I would regret later. It's rare I end up in that place, but it does happen, and I think it's more a safety thing for my friendships than anything else. It's the one exception I make to a statement I otherwise agree with: you should open up to your trusted friends about your depression. But yeah, when I know the darkness and potential anger are on a chemical level that might turn into a lash-out against someone I care about, it's time to bolt down and ride it out until I'm a little more with it.
That was the longest walk to get to the front door... Imagine doing that everyday
It really helps if you are now owning a big ass house at the age of 24. Gets you to the door faster. Luckily only a few percent of people have that issue.
That was the longest walk to answer a doorbell I've ever seen!
The greeting at the door was pretty sucky. Ew...(high pitched hhiiiii!) Ugggh!
Sneaky Coll lol 😂
Sneaky Coll that is facts
This one hit home. This is very common in 2019. People masking depression with false happiness on social media in pictures and captions.
And then came 2020…
Get off social media kids. It will instantly improve your life.
PREACH!!!
Ok, Bommer
Its true... My life improved greatly almost right away.
People who aren't addicted with it are lucky
Your on it too
Sometimes I wish cellphones had not been invented.
Why don't you rather wish that people were compulsorily trained into good parenting practices and positivity just like people train for their profession? Why blame an inanimate stuff that was made for mere facilitation.
@@tula__ I wish that social media was never invented cuz cellphones are a great tool
@@AB-oy2dy You are correct. it's not the phone, it's the social media which is specifically designed to addict human psychology. That's what didn't need to be invented but inevitably would have been.
Never ignore a cry for help, and never push your feelings down.
I kinda lost empathy on both sides because the one who’s birthday is coming up said ‘your mom is sick or whatever’ being rude and not caring about other peoples problems.
But also on the fact that the one with the sick mom said ‘there are bigger problems out there’ because from personal experience ive had friends tell me that when i listen to their problems and it hurts, at this point for myself i dont tell people my problems anymore because i know theyre going to act like its not important to me at all.
Same.
I sympathize more with the friend because at least she was still trying to be understanding meanwhile her mother is sick and the depressed girl doesn't seem to care. Yet in the end both of them were rude to each other, severe depression is no different from physically life threatening sickness.
I don't think she realized her friend was depressed. cut her some slack . . .
you dont have to sympathize with the one thats "right". In real life like in gthis movie, often often so, both parties are wrong. You can sympathize with both
She was not well herself, she was depressed. She couldn’t grasp what her friend was going through.
"I'm tired of listening to your problems!" is the reason why we isolate ourselves and keep our mental health issues to ourselves. Cause what if people sick listening to us? I can't afford to lose a friend.
Absolutely not sweetheart. Her friend has supported her for MONTHS.
The issue is not that she’s depressed. Depression is awful and I sympathize with those who suffer from it. What this girl was doing was, to put it crudely and to quote Chelsea, “sitting on the couch and crying because she doesn’t have the life she wants”. It’s just self-loathing, and THAT gets tiring for everyone. Depression needs support; self-loathing and throwing a pity party is not depression.
Sooo true
Sad. I turned age 56 a few weeks ago. I honestly believe that social media makes people feel more isolated than ever...comparing "life event notes" with others and feeling like they come up short. I'm happy I turned 25 in 1990...no cell phones,no Facebook. Just a walk in the park with a friend and dreams of what the baby would be like I was carrying. Btw,that baby turned 30 this year and is a nurse with a baby of her own now. ❤
Time flies. Enjoy 17. And 25. And 50. And ...........
Her: lokking Like a model
Also her: not liking the way she looks
Me:🥔. Before u hate and call me an idiot like everyone Else. The point of this comment was to say that everyone have insecurities. I do not in any way mean that pretty people dont,
She's gorgeous
Expi Doe i know, but i just said she is pretty. And if she can tell us hers i should be avle to tell u mine..?
Lischa so? Even i think in ugly. It doesnt matter if you think i am or not. If i dont think of myself like that, than your opinions dont count, its AS simple as that idiot....
You: looking like a model
Also you: not liking the way you look
Some other girl: is also thinking she’s a potato in comparison to you
We’re never truly okay with what we look like. Let’s change that.
@@miabreivik6902 I read where a well-known fashion model said one time that their features were not the norm, that in-person they looked more like freaks of nature!
Guys, I've taken a break from social media and its done wonders for my mental health.
Omg it totally hit home with the girl 6:40 min in! 😔 I took care of my mom and she was sick. She pasted away last year. I don't care what anyone struggling with! Seeing your parent lose their mind and have to take care of them was one of the hardest things for me. I did try! I tried to keep her healthy but she died but she also lives within me. She will never be forgotten she is my Angel. R.I.P Mama
Don't know how to feel about this one. Especially since I just hit 25 Monday and I suffer from severe depression. 🤔
Just hang on and stay strong! You're really doing great! Go slow and steady 💪 you'll reach there. :)
I'm sorry about that, Cheyenne (beautiful name btw). Like Nikita said, you got this!
She HAS everything (beauty, health, a damn house) and at the same time she IS nothing (proud of herself, happy,).
I feel the friend. No one likes being a dumping ground for your friend’s negative feelings all the time, even if you want to be a good friend and be there for them, and she was probably willing to put up with it until the main character dismissed what she was going through.
That said, the friends clap back about “more going on in the world” wasn’t a good response, either. Just because other people have it worse doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to be sad or stressed out about your personal life. I mean, at the end of the day, it’s still your life that you’re living and that doesn’t stop just because you acknowledged that little Jimmy hasn’t eaten a real meal in days because his parents can’t afford groceries.
I was depressed when I turned 25 too. I think you expect to have your life to be together at 25, and if is not then the truth of this fact can be very depressing. My boyfriend bought me a pink nightie for my birthday present, and I really thought this sucked too, literally. It did not seem like a present for me, but for him. I did not ask for a pink nightie. He did not bother to ask me what I wanted. That was a bad birthday.
@tacococo.nl I don't know what HBD means. Husband, I was not married. I think you are just trying to make some cheap punch at me. Haven't got better things to do? There are so many people like that. That need to take cheap shots. Sad world.
these days we're so trying to prove to everyone our lives way better than theirs
She 25 and got a job and a house
I’m still in college wehew
I have been saying “im okay” for so long when I’m not saying okay
At 25, I was pregnant and getting married. And also trying to figure out myself, get my career in order as well as finances. Social media contributed to and amplified my depression. I had a lot of reasons to be depressed but now at 28, I'm realizing there are alot of reasons to not be, and that you have to fight for the life you want. So wipe your tears, get that anger out and screw the rest of them over there and what they're doing. Logging out of social media helps, too. Just run your race and be kind. And seek the therapy and treatment you need to better your life and the life of your loved ones. I did, and I'm not regretful. Life is full of ups and downs. And everyone hits a low for varying reasons. And things like death, accidents and illnesses are unavoidable and unpredictable. So that's why to me, I felt I was wasting my life away wishing I could die or hating my life and being so sad, yet I knew I couldn't get out of it alone. To all of those suffering from depression, you're not alone, and you're not over reacting. Life is sad and hard, but there's hope.
Dang, I guess I'm supposed to watch this. Tonight is the eve of my 25th birthday and I'm thoroughly depressed.
People who've disliked this video are the ones who have no idea what depression is and think its just in your control
I remember when the world was like this before the Covid-19.... acceptance and to much social media truly divides us. Beauty is with........
why is everything in this so realistic!!! really, such a realistic representation. bravo to the team and actors.
Just in case someone else hasn't already posted this to point to the parallels.
Mother Mother
Song by Tracy Bonham:
Mother, mother, how's the family?
I'm just calling to say hello
How's the weather? How's my father?
Am I lonely? Heavens know
Mother, mother, are you listening?
Just a phone call to ease your mind
Life is perfect, never better
Distance making the heart grow fond
When you sent me off to see the world
Were you scared that I might get hurt?
Would I try a little tobacco?
Would I keep on hiking up my skirt?
I'm hungry, I'm dirty
I'm losing my mind, everything's fine
I'm freezing, I'm starving
I'm bleeding to death, everything's fine
Yeah, I'm working, making money
I'm just starting to build a name
I can feel it, around the corner
I could make it any day
Mother, mother, can you hear me?
Sure I'm sober, sure I'm sane
Life is perfect, never better
Still your daughter, still the same
If I tell you what you want to hear
Will it help you to sleep well at night?
Are you sure that I'm your perfect dear?
Now just cuddle up and sleep tight
I'm hungry, I'm dirty
I'm losing my mind, everything's fine
I'm freezing, I'm starving
I'm bleeding to death, everything's fine
I miss you, I love you
The best way to survive depression is to stay away from the things that hurt you. They'll only make the negativity stronger. Do the things that make you happy and be with people that make you happy or accept you for who you are.
I 100% agree with what the black girl said
On the surface what she said is true but as someone with depression, anxiety disorder and etc. It's not that simple. These aren't actions that we want to take, they are an unovoidable state of mind that require a lot to overcome. It's portrayed so perfectly by how she trys to convince herself she's happy in the end and fails over and over again and how when she talks to someone she does the same. She isn't being entirely selfish as she doesn't want to bring down those around her and fights her own mind to do so. It takes a lot out of us to do that. However, we try and find that one person we trust and we find happiness in and we inadvertently use them to supply ourselves with happiness. Once it becomes too much for them, like it did the black lady, they retaliate and we get thrown deeper because now the one person we felt closest to doesn't feel the same and is hurt by our actions and we punish ourselves deeply for it. It's a very ugly and nasty way of life that takes so much to change and some people never get that chance because they commit suicide because they are so convinced they are worthless to everyone around them and that no matter what people say and do to convince them otherwise, they are just lying to make them feel better.
Mental disorders aren't a joke and depression is one of the toughest because you're stuck in it. If you have true, diagnosed, depression; life can be hell. You lose all motivation, love for people, hobbies, and yourself, and think everything you do is the wrong thing. It really hurts and I really hope people out there who understand push through it. It WILL get better and I believe in you all.
Maybe such problem was an everyday thing for the black girl and, she learned to handle it but, the white girl haven't.
@@thangamuthur7097 Maybe so. But that's like telling someone, "I had a broken leg once. Just, ya know, stop having a broken leg, you're bringing everyone down."
@@saccade7718 Actually dude, I tried to say they failed each other. Both were thinking their problem was bigger than the other's. It's not a shirt size; both problems were bigger in its own way.
only a person suffering from depression can understand how much right that black girl was and at the same time how much wrong....
It’s my birthday today. Thanks for the film.
Depression a set back to achieving your goal of happiness. A feeling that washes over you like waves in the ocean. At each tide you have to work ten times harder to avoid drowning. There are moments when you feel like there is no one to throw you a raft. So you sink further into thoughts about how you're not worth it. Being a person that experiences this, I'm learning to float above and let go of the things that try to hold me. It's not easy but I'm trying. I'm building my boat filled with all my hope. I only allow people that won't hurt me. It's hard to trust in others because they seem like sharks coming to eat you. So I watch cautiously. Avoiding thoughts that might harm me. I want to stay dry and no longer drown myself in tears of my own agony. The pain that I put myself through. And if I sink again, it's time to learn to swim. I AM HERE FOR YOU!! WE ALL WILL MAKE IT THROUGH!!! TO AN ISLAND OF OUR YOUTH AND TRUTH.
Written so well! Exactly what I am going through and went through every day of my life for 6years. I'm 23 now and I feel I've done nothing in life to succeed which gives me sleepless nights and restless days. It's truly truly horrible. I used to think it happens to everybody...everyone copes with it ...why not me...what's wrong with me...if I tell someone they'll laugh at me. But I did end up telling my parents and they still think I'm just a attention seeker. But I'm fighting through it and always remind myself what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
@@nikitatomar1620 You are more than successful. That fact that you have the ability to wake up everyday makes you a warrior. Another achievement is that you've identified the problem and opened up to your family. Whether they believe you or not, you've released some of that stress. You will get better. You're still young, so just take it one day at time. It's November. NO toxic people. You come first in your life and no body else. Stand strong and keep fighting because there is a light waiting for you at the end of the tunnel.😊
@@nikitatomar1620 you honestly need to stop putting so much internal pressure on yourself. Who told you that you had a deadline to achieve success. Success can come at anytime. So chill out and enjoy your life.
11:47
Just look at how many expressions her eyebrow movements show in just a moment's time...
Really good acting and control there...
How social media facilitates depression.
I feel this all way, sometimes I feel if I want to talk about my feelings it would be selfish of me to do so. I was even told that I was being selfish by my own dad cause I wanted to do a couple of things for myself. Its really hard to tell any one what's going on with me these days.
As someone who's battled with depression myself, I couldn't relate to her character at all. She's basically a very high functioning "depressed" narcissist who seems very shallow and has the ideal life (not saying that people who don't have rough lives can't be depressed). I didn't get sense of real hopelessness from her nor does this show depression in a realistic manner. Btw, the way she replied other friend's mother being sick was extremely rude..
Her friend had the right idea by telling her to stop. You can’t be expected to nurture someone else’s garden if yours is dying. You have to set boundaries. Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.
So good. So true. Freaking amazing long shot at the party!
Basically this girl is living her digital self in such a toxic way that it eats her.
We need to identify ourself in our real self, ideal self, and digital self. Proper identification can maintain our sanity and we can have a better grip of our life.
💯
Ican soo feel it.... the depression... the sadness... the emptiness... the not being you...
She has such a nice body like wtf!!! I wish people could see themselves the way other people do. Everybody would be far less sad if they knew how other people looked up to them. 😭
Tova Holen she’s just skinny
Leaving social media is the best thing I did for my mental health lately
The best moments of our lives were never posted online.
I literally JUST had this fight with my "friend"
Were you the one always focusing on yourself or the one tired of being neglected?
i'm gonna turn 25 in less than two months too
The main woman has a very Amy Jo Johnson/Jennifer Garner-like look to her.
WoW!!! That was SO good! I never expected that ending and she did such a good job in that role. Really deep.
10:24 Gawd, this reminds me of every time I take a crap and the phone is just out of reach when it rings...
I guess what I'm trying to say is...
I feel her pain.
This is a tragic epidemic occurring amongst young women today. It isnt a chemical imbalance it's a spiritual problem. They are lost souls. Our future mothers...the women who will be responsible for keeping the human race going naturally and yet most of them frown upon children, cooking, cleaning and being financially aware...all things that are a part of raising a family...which most of them no longer want anyway because their natural biological purpose has been presented to them like a jail sentence. Very sad. It is anything but that if done correctly and with the right man.
This was very weak tbh, no real depth or substance to the story/message. Beginning had potential... but meh
mom:hello
me:i am fine
mom:here we go again
2:20 legit thought she was gonna fall down the stairs
Does anyone else get depressed as it gets closer to your birthday? No? Just me . Ok
Being young, beautiful, worrying family & having friends. bUt sHe hAs fEeliNg pRobLems. Try having no clean water. Stop whining.
Rui Busto Got a job, her own place...that all sure sucks.
It's the brain. The brain isn't well. It's a complete distortion of reality.
That friend with "only 40 followers" is her friend who's mom is sick- the only true friend she had. I would rather have that 1 friend at my party rather than the rest that went.
SAAAAAAAME
You’re right. I’m in my late 30’s now. My friend group is small, devoted and tight. I feel like in my 20’s I had SOOOOO many “friends”, but as you grow older you become so much more aware of the qualities you need in friendship. The people who check in just to say hi when they instinctively know you’re having a hard time. We’ve been through parental and grandparent and other close family deaths. Divorces and breakups. Some of us have chronic illnesses that cause us to rearrange and cancel plans. We’ve been through fertility issues. Adoption. All of the things. And we’ve grown into friends who are more than just posts on IG with random hashtags. The friends you’re too busy making memories with to worry about posing for photos are the ones that are you’re real tribe. The ones that will take a phone call at 3am Bc you’re in so much pain from heartbreak or depression or literally (and I speak from excruciating experience) literally sitting on the bathroom floor as I await my 5th miscarriage. So yes. 1 amazing friend or just a small tight group is so much better than a room full of people who are looking you up and down, and talking about you behind your back. The ones who show up for photo ops and free booze. Those aren’t friends. Daily “likes” don’t mean anything.
The only true friend she had and the one she didn’t deserve. After all, she’s self-absorbed and only cares about her own problems, which is why she lost her.
Everything seems so artificial today, so inauthentic. It feels like we are starved for real, honest personal interaction while at the same time, we can't stand each other. We are so depersonalized. Trapped, almost. Anyway. This film is upsetting. I am sure many people can relate to all the characters. The performances are fine. A modern tragedy.
@Animiki Pineshi Nagamowin Is this statement made in reply to my comment?
The worst part is we live in a society.
Animiki Pineshi Nagamowin what are these signs?
@@da4127 they are made of oak and you have to destroy them to edit them!!!!!
Its really not as bad as people say, look at the 1950s, back then too much TV was the thing. Movie stars were sexual icons, today its the same thing different medium. Back then it was tv, now its social media.
"i know your mom is sick or whatever"
she is actually very rude there
What do you expect? So little opportunity these days to speak face to face with people that most of us have an awkward social streak...or two...
She’s an introvert with depression. Did you she would have social skills
mae same thoughts. She needs to go live with her mother or someone else who can correct her wrong actions.. she can’t do it by herself.. she needs someone.. and she clearly doesnt give a damn about the mother.. i mean.. once in those 3 months she must’ve thought about that right? She needs serious help in this video.
i don't get it xD what was rude about that lol
Fauna Bauna so someone needs to teach her right? I mean u can learn.. right?
A few weeks ago I drove myself to the park to play on the swings
This sentence is art.
Hope you doing well now. Truly.
That's deep...
I feel
I'm doing alright now. I went roller skating the other day. It's winter where I live so now I have to put on extra layers if I want to go to the beach. Sending my power of love to cely, ghosteriz, mr. sharma, jack
Her friend is trying to talk to her, and she can't even put her phone down. And her friend at the party is doing the same thing.
BusLady
Uh, yeh, we get it, the fact that she is self-absorbed is the point of the whole video.
@@lovingmayberry307 I think the point of the video was that she was suffering from depression and the social media was how she dealt with it. She needed to learn to build self esteem based on something besides her superficial online persona and phony friends.
Well then again it seems like she had work related stuff she had to finish. At least SHE made an effort to put it down and succeeded.
@@buslady6695 For me it looked like the social media was causing it because she kept comparing her life with others
@@lovingmayberry307 Thanks Karen👍🏼. 🤣
That’s because you think 25 is old. So you expected everything to be different by now. You’re really just an old 15 year old at 25 and that’s the heavenly truth
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Amen
Exactly.
You’re actually right
At least she got her own place..
Jiraiyaaaa
Notice me,Jiraiya senpai
I spent my 25th birthday in jail as a result of striking a parked police cruiser at a dui checkpoint. That woke me up real fast.
@@grandmastergyorogyoro532 do you know what I like?
@@vanessabaum8888 can you help me with my research?
Are people... actually like this?
Edit: i meant at the party. The ladies. How superficial it all is.
Definitely
Annoying af. Vocal fry is cancer
definitely these days
Yeah man. It's on point. You should get out more though
@@dq890 actually it´s a really great tool for aggressive singing and relaxing your voice. Also yea they're actyually like this. Young girls are even worse. As in more blatant. Somehow. Maybe I should say young kids in general nowadays.
Depression is such a wicked illness.
First it takes too long to even understand that you are sick.
The actual scope of your illness.
Then you need to accept that you are ill.
That being ill is okay.
And that it is not your fault.
And then getting better, how pointless, what a bother.
What a tough fight, especially in a weakened state :(
Lots of respect goes out to all the fighters out there!
Such a manipulative and vile opponent you have to face!
I am sorry :(
Caroline Witteler FINALLY A SENSIBLE COMMENT
depression is a lack of goal, procrastination are bad habits
get a goal, change habits (even of thinking), be real
That might apply to some of your experiences, however, I would be quite careful with such generalizations.
Relating to causes and symptoms alike.
Also close attention is needed to distinguish the two in the first place, yet alone their relation to one another.
It is also advisable to stop spiking your approach to recovery with implications of blame, such as "procrastination, no real goals" etc. A lot of depressed people are incredibly susceptible, hungry even for more self-blame.
In my experience, it can hit pretty much every one.
Just thinking of my law school, so many passionate, smart and driven students.
I don't think they even know how to spell procrastination. And a good amount of them cares deeply for their studies and loves being involved...
Or think of mothers that love their child and the purposeful direction their life seems to have taken and still...
Everything starts feeling empty.
Some of them in fact continue functioning like clockwork. It's bizarre, if they didn't tell you, you wouldn't dream of how casually they consider ending themselves.
Scary as it is, loving families, fulfilling careers, goals and impeccable to-do lists can't prevent depression.
Implying otherwise, will only validate people's perception of themselves as a failure, with dangerous consequences.
It's a complex disease, what helps one won't help another.
If you know people well enough for a tough love approach, that approach should still be considered closely. Ideally by a professional.
To all afflicted I d always suggest opening up to people.
You are not alone.
People care, whether you think yourself deserving or not.
@@baguettelauncher8839 That's not how it works
you need to be educated on how the brain works, depression comes from impotency, that you lose control over things, in your life, the thing is .. the way you think, the kind of "material" aka food you give to your brain, define your mood, every human on this planet have to question what he likes, what he dislikes, what he'd like to do/make, if you don't improve, you regress, either one or another.
When depressed you cannot think about good things and feel good right away, you have to improve your feelings ,step by step, feeling angry is better than depressed, because you gain some control and feel better then... and I suggest you start by that, be angry.
About implication of blame, telling someone nothing is his fault means that he has control on nothing. That doesn't help. You are depressed because you thought the wrong way, "i have no luck" "i'm poor" "I dont deserve it or that" "Im ugly" "Im incompetent" .... you focus on bad elements only, slowly but surely, led you in this state.
change thoughts -> gain control -> energy -> do what you like -> goal -> faith
if you are really depressed, go watch Bob Proctor videos, Kevin Trudeau, Goddard Neville etc etc
I love the irony of getting a skinny, good looking, working actress to portray a fictional person jealous of others living that same life she herself lives offset.
It’s sad
I can see that side of it, but perhaps using an attractive actress it highlights it more? If someone who seems like they have it all can struggle and suffer then with the rest of us....
Me too! I totally agree!
Dave Conlan they suffer but with a perfect body, and face, a lot money and countless people wanting to date them.... I don’t think it’s the same thing.
Good looking? She’s gorgeous.
And she buries it all inside. That is when the sadness start to take root.
@Anton Boludo except the only people who I talk to listen for about 5 minutes and then undermind my point of view and say the same things that everyone else does.. So instead i Cry pondering depression. Pondering everything. When... the sad thing is... I know there are others with worse lives than mine.. yet I don't like mine.. There is only 1 person i 100% care to live for.. and that's a complicated mess that i cannot get into here..
I didn't choose to be born.(obviously noones does..)
I will choose to live.. for her. Aside from her.. I.. just don't care much anymore.. I have an OK family.. and a few good friends, but I only care to live for her... and i'm glad she knows how much i care about her.
So overall.. I will bury it inside.. work my job as everyone else does.. and cry myself to sleep thinking of all of the things that have.. and will go wrong in the near future.
and i simply refuse to smile. -_- the past 3 years Customers don't care. So.. I will keep on..
Waiting for Forever. // and the inevitable end.
@@qwaszxcvbnm7 Hey man. Yes, im sorry, and I feel you. We realize that the world doesn't care. And there are worse cases than the one we go through right now. And we feel small, unimportant. Like we can die and the world would not notice. And since no one is listening, we start to think it all for ourselves. Understanding things but at the same time getting more sadder, because we realize the truth of our unimportance. I don't know what to say to ease your pain or suffering. But know that we feel you. We are sad for no reason. Together let's be sad alone.
@@Listener970 There's a quote from a previous Omeleto video.. (not sure if it was Original or not) it went something like "We're not One in a Million anymore.. We're One in a Billion... ... ..." Which.. sadly is true. I'm not a bad person.. but.. I don't ever see myself being relevant at any point in ...my life time.. Sure that goes for a lot of people.. which.. routes us back to .. "..we all feel small, unimportant. ..." for the longest time.. i denied having depression.. but theres nothing else i can call it.
I over think/analyze just about everything(proper grammer excluded..) but that leads to my ...err so called.. relationship being highly complicated.. I have thought about every scenario good and bad.. cried over the POTENTIAL ... outcomes.. and fear the worst as always.. .. as of currently Theres a Wall-like force preventing us from being together... sadly means we have to wait. It could be worse.. it could be .... a lot worse.. but things are OK... right now.. i am.... Content... or at least as close to conent as i will until we can truly be together again.
"I don't know what to say to ease your pain or suffering" Thats fine.. just saying anything not rude.. is a start.. even if this conversation is meaningless and will likely be forgotten in less than a week... or so. I enjoy ranting... and i don't usually make depressing comments like this..
Of course! But who you can talk to? None really cares! If you try to talk about your problems, they would start talking their problems. So who would suport you? I tell you, none! You have to go thru this all by yourself! All by yourself you would be just fine. Think pozitive and disconect from Instagram, Facebook etc. Those things always would bring you down, no metter what. Do something creative, enjoy being alone and yourself!
@@otilialefey8514 Thank you for pointing that out, you're right ... you can't easily find someone who is simply willing to listen, and most people will start talking about their problems.. or at least compare theirs to yours.. I myself am guilty of doing this.. but sometimes you make friends comparing your problems... some of my best friends were made like that.. but yea.. sometimes you just need someone to listen, and help you without mentioning someting theyre going through.. but friendship like that.. is impossible to find.
I will say, everytime someone has told me their problems I have always cared and listened appropriately, I usually wait and talk through their problem before i even bring up my comparison.. I've been told im an excellent listener..and i have good eye contact..
I'm sure you will find someone you can talk to. Patience.. although tedious.. is what it takes. :l
The incessant chatter inside her head is an accurate portrayal of depression.
I am little bit younger but I can feel her feelings. I lost so many friends because it was always about me. All I needed was their attention. Sadness took the real ones from my life. Now it is too late... I am trying to get it all together again. Pray for me Stranger.
Service to others is service to God
I never knew people liked Thomas the train that much
@@ZLanup it always has to be the first time
It's never too late. It's good that you learn this lesson now - some never do. Forgive yourself, learn and move on
@@juliaconnell thank you Julia
Take a shot everytime you hear hashtag.
Do you want someone to die?
That's enough alcohol to last 7days
*dies
Are there many? I only hear a few in the beginning
@@manamemajeff6283 you must be underage.
This “birthday girl” VS “girl with the sick mother” is kinda bittersweet.
On one hand, you have the birthday girl who appears to be rude by not caring/ paying attention to what the other girl says and being selfish, but in reality she’s trapped on her own thoughts because she’s depressed. The only thing she can think about is how she hates her life situation at the moment.
On the other hand, the girl with the sick mother tries to minimize her friend’s problems by saying that there are worst things in the world to worry about, that’s true but I don’t think that’s the best way to comfort someone who’s depressed. But at the same time she’s right, she hears her complaints and everything, doesn’t say a thing and her friend doesn’t seem as preoccupied as her
It can help to get some proportion. But not so much by reminding you that others have it worse than you. More by giving you purpose.
Best way out of depression is to go help others.
Half of these comments are missing the point. Some are criticizing her behavior and saying it in a way as if her depression isn’t valid, and others are using her depression as an excuse for her awful behavior THIS ISNT THE POINT OF THE VIDEO. This is a story that is almost 100% real to someone out there. There are people out there who have a glamorous life like hers with glamorous bodies and glamorous friends, but depression doesn’t pick and choose who it affects. Does it excuse any behavior? No. But it does show a reality to things not seen to the naked eye. No one is immune to emotions, and the film just shows that. It isn’t excusing her behavior or validating it 🤦🏽♀️ just enjoy the film for what it is.
Yes!!! Love this comment. people are missing the nuance. She's not completely bad, but her depression doesn't necessarily make her innocent and the only victim in this short.
YESSS...JUST YESSS!
Ikr!!!
Exactly.
Yeah exactly. We can call her "bad" for being selfish and making things about her, or we could also focus on her friend's complete dismissal of the fact that she's trying hard to communicate something she's feeling. Both of their feelings are valid and perspective is everything, that's all this film is showing us. Someone's duality and daily struggle.
So how is she 25 and own such a big house? Does she work for the evil guys? That would explain her depression
You’re missing the point. They gave her a big house on purpose. She lives and works in LA, she’s young, she’s rich, she’s beautiful, and outwardly she appears very popular. But she still has depression because depression can affect anyone. It doesn’t need a ‘reason’ as such. In fact it may even be harder for people like her because (as her friend said) “what do you have to be depressed about?!”
@@Adam657 perhaps you're missing the joke...
Dovahkiin Septim 😂😂
@@Adam657 yep. missed the joke big time
@@Adam657 Being that it's LA, I'm pretty sure that the rent she's paying, even if she's "lucky" enough to afford it is contributing to her depression. And her "great" job is probably one where she's forced to compromise her principles on a daily basis because it's either that or go back to waitressing.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday!
Not to who someone else is today!
Dont compare your behind-the-scenes with other's highlight reel!
Thank you, Jordan Peterson!
@@KGBos Yep =D
Wonderful advice!
Seth No. There are people better than you & I. We must compare ourselves to them in order to become what we aspire to be.
kooky croon and keep ignoring your evolution? It’s not about being motivational, it’s about smarts. Keep not acknowledging your own faults and you won’t even get close to the big ones.
If you really want to be happy.. Don't ever expect from anything from anyone.....
I do not expect your advice to work.
self sufficiency is key to true happiness people cant find true happiness for you most the time
I hope you get over whoever hurt you and find true love and care.
It's only yourself that truly bring you happiness and desire :)
That's a horrible mindset. You should have relationships with some kind of expectations. You sound a bit jaded, if I'm being honest
3:22 scene is a perfect representation of our current culture. Goes to an event to only ignore the event. “Haven’t seen you in so long.” Proceeds to take a photo to post of her. The world is what you give. You strive for momentary joy through likes and acceptance of everyone, then you’re left with sadness and loneliness. You give real effort to yourself and those who earned it, like her friend that was helping set up, then you will have confidence in yourself and real connections.
I smiled at the "Its not like you're 50!" comment. As a just-turned- 50 year old, I'm glad I made it now, rather than when these girls get to 50...!
How quick did the 25 years go by though?
@@rajiv8k went by very slowly, but when you look back at those 25 years it seems like they went by quickly.
Goes by fast..to fast!! I'm 47 and only wish I was 25..my mind is young but my body pains are in the 60s..lol
@@rajiv8k I was raising a family, working, and living life face to face, so I didn't really notice whether it was quick or slow. It's just life and it is good and interesting. I didn't have internet then, so that helped, ha!
@@scribbleartie Nice to read about the varying experiences. So I guess it really varies from person to person... it remains to be seen how I'll be feeling if and when I get to 50.
This is why i took a brake from social media ...the fakeness.
Me too
I should do that. Starting tomorrow I’m gonna stay off for a week
_Was it a _*_handbrake_*_ by any chance?_
Break*
@@Baqsam drake
Her black friend is absolutely beautiful 😍
And is a cow
No she isn't I mean com e on her mum is sick and her friend is s just telling her whatever
Yeah, she's too absorbed by her depression to give her friend the appropriate and needed attention. Her friend on the other hand doesn't understand her depression. She's been there for her, but not on the deep emotional level she would have needed.
idk why it's important that she's black.
@@sansadrake4133 why would you say that..?
Behind every Instagram posts lol
I feel this is the modern tragedy filled with jealousy, insecurity, artificial technical life, where your posts and status is more important than keeping a real close friends. Everything is lies and faking
Great movie.
Namphu Gangmei all these things are true but it isn’t new. The phrase “keeping up with the Joneses” pre-dates our modern social media era. It’s a common saying for a reason. Have you ever read the book Vanity Fair? The Rebecca Sharp archetype wouldn’t be out of place in today’s world. We’ve been artificial, jealous, status obsessed, and insecure for a long time. Facebook, Instagram, etc. are just the new vehicles of delivery.
@@tonyastovall7173 agreed🤗
No doubt.
@@tonyastovall7173 Well said.
When you are feeling down, do not ever look through your eyes in the mirror. It will makes you more sad then ever.
I wonder why that is
So true I've done that and everytime made me more sad
Omg that's interesting.. I never realized it.
Interesting! That always made me break into a sob, now I know.
Na, I like that. Brings me back to Earth.
When her eyebrows said ↔️↕️⬅️🔁↗️➡️⤴️↘️🔄
*I felt that.*
In all seriousness, this film was well-done and an accurate portrayal of depression and suicidal ideation, as well as the superficiality of social media. I've had to deactivate my social media on more than one occasion because I was obsessing over other people's lives and comparing where everyone else was in their lives to where I was in mine at the time. It drove me insane. I don't use social media much anymore.
Anyway, well done.
This is why I don’t social media. Left it 2 years ago and feel 60 percent better, working with a therapist too. I just use youtube for informative things or movies sometimes. I don’t even listen to songs, they are so extreme these days so just living a normal life. No glamour, no keeping up with anything. Just me living life and I often feel blessed not using social media anymore. Express your emotions to a therapist or a journal not social media. Thats the worst thing you could do to yourself.
Exactly what I'm trying to do!
Exactly what I'm trying to do! It would be great if you could help me through how you did it!
Awesome!!
The other stuff sounds healthy, but no music? It's one thing if you don't want to listen to new stuff, but I couldn't imagine either total silence or listening to people talk for the rest of my life.
I've quitted for 2 and a half year. I think I used it for 1 or 2 months. I don't see why people get addicted with I'm just addicted with you tube lol ( don't know if that counts as a social media ¯\(°_o)/¯
moral of the story
"cellphone is a great killer"
your insecurity, perfectionism, jealousy, because of that, we are blinded how blessed we are.
Yeah, everyone has to know that people only share the perfect things
Perfectly said
Well said
Why r u watching this video on TH-cam then bruh. TH-cam is a social media platform
@@junn805 for movies & anime bruh 🤣👏 and yeah it's the moral lesson in that vid.. (atleast) it's just my own opinion..
I don't know man, this information age where we are connected to each other more than ever might be the age where we are the loneliest. Living in Seoul South Korea, I can feel the pressure upon the people living here. The social pressure pushes people to social "perfection". As a result they are indirectly forced to do plastic surgery at a very young age etc. People are heavily addicted to their smartphones. You can regularly see people bumping in eachother and some even fall. I'm afraid that the future does not look as optimistic as we imagined during our childhood..
They will end up destroying themselves. Screw what society says. Look what happened to Dorothy Stratten. Her husband blew her brains out at age 20
Such a painful reality
Solace Creat I would say its worse in more developed countries where everything needs to be more and more perfect, perhaps in the west you dont work as much but they are still extremely artificial and constantly forcing themselves to unhealthy levels of inhuman perfection. In less developed countries however, people usually live a more laid back life with more connection to nature and their humanity.
I see the problems, but look at the other side, information is so easy to get, some high schoolers are on par with ancient scholars, maybe societies are supposed to advance this way, individualism, hell 1st world countries usually have low birth rates, is it evolution, survival of the mentally fittest at this point since we have no real daily threats?
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7:02 is one of the main reasons I don't want to talk about my feelings
I don't want to seem 'selfish'
Hippity Hoppity it’s not selfish, and only those who have never experienced depression will say it is
I feel that way too but I don’t think it’s selfish to talk about your problems to people who care. The selfish part is not listening to and caring about your friends problems.
But the fact is that she is selfish and her friend was right. It's not her friend's job to diagnose her and to be her therapist. At some point you need to be a grown up and go check yourself out. Especially if you are never available for the friend who is always available for you. Seems to me that her friend is also a tad bit depressed but makes a conscious decision to keep it moving every day, because life is not going to wait on you. And while she would also need someone to talk to, her selfish friend is never there for her 🙄
How can u be there so much for others when u are drowning..
@@differentworld2822 Valid point!
Why do they talk like that
to look perfect and happy through other people eyes
Baguette Launcher it’s very annoying :/
@@JC-to5dj yee
It's also how famous youtubers talk as well. It's annoying
So many people talk like this now it’s crazy
When I was 25, I went back to live with my parents 'cause we were all having money problems. At the same time, that was the time I came the closest of killing myself. In any case, I guess this one hit me a bit close. Don't know if it's 'cause of the actual number or for some other reason.
In any case, great short! I find it hard to understand how people rely so much in social media, but the lead's motivation's pretty spot on.
Being in your 20s can be very difficult, I remember all the insecurities and anxiety. I'm 50 now and life gets better with age.
Going to be 50 this year. At least I'm rich :lol:
It was my birthday yesterday. This is exactly what I felt. Great short film 👏
Happy late birthday stranger stay strong :)
U can do this keep going💓💓💓
Bianca Navarro do you have someone who listens to you?
1:01 girl, you talk about these? You should see my tummy tires. I'm 44 pounds more than what I should be... wooow Chelsea's words were really something. It effected me too
I think the point is that it doesn't matter how other people view you. When you are depressed you only find things to dislike about yourself.
@@RamboCrab yeah. I didn't watch it full; just first few minutes. Then my tutor showed up.
@@hirrafa the girl is perfect, there are rly skinny people thinking they are fat, all of it is mental ...
Dude you missed the point if you don't get how she could be affected too.
I have suffered from depression for 3-4 yrs now.
The things shown in this film are so real. For example not being able to tell your parents cz you don't want them to worry about you. And crying on this side of the call while making them hear your laugh and normal talk on their side....so relatable.
Fortunately I am making progress and getting out of it now.
Key to this problem- trust your friends. They can help you get out of it. But ultimately you will have to do the efforts.
If you have loving parents who sincerely support you, go to them instead of your friends. They love you SO much more. If my son hid depression from me and I found out later, it would crush me. I'm his mom. The ONE person who is supposed to always be there NO MATTER WHAT.
"Hi mom, I'm fine." I felt that so deep. 😔
I am a mother to a 25 year old, and it terrifies me to think that maybe, this is how she feels 😥
"You can't sit on the couch and cry everyday because you don't have the life you want." That's such a great quote.
Ikr
Meanwhile, your friend ends up dead because so many don't seem to grasp the concept of depression.
@@RealEstateInsider247 meanwhile about more than a million of us are homeless
@@Akshit.vats. I was referring to her unsympathetic friend not recognizing her plight and cries for help. You are right. Obviously many other issues, including homelessness, result from the consequences of depression.
Yes..
Too real. Just heard of guy 30 something died by suicide. Supposed perfect everything. It’s always with the social media, though. I’m old, so don’t get it but if I was in that age range, could I .... would I not use it? I don’t have any concept of this social pressure. Must be overwhelming.
She’s so pretty she makes me sad ab myself tf
qwerty uiop she got rlly pretty eyes tho !
Just because she's pretty doesn't mean you aren't. Maybe you're beautiful in another way.
She is pretty for some, not so much for others. I prefer Arabian/Latin traits over European ones...
Beauty is all a point of view.
I turn 25 in a couple of months and I've really been down on myself feeling like I've already pissed away my future. I'll only be 25 with more life ahead of me than up to this point so I fail to understand why I carry this mentality around with me. I finally took the plunge and deleted all of my social media - I told the girl I was seeing that I needed space right now and that this isn't a good time for me to be putting time into someone else when I desperately needed to work on me first.
It sucked at first but after a few weeks of only focusing on myself and not stressing out about keeping up on the lives of others while comparing myself to everyone else I started to notice a huge change from within. I love myself more. I look in the mirror and feel better about me because I'm not comparing myself to everyone elses best everyday. It's easier to see the best things about yourself when you aren't exposed to the picture perfect moments of everyone else while they hide away the bad moments. No one is perfect but social media allows for everyone to share only those moments. You won't see someone take a picture of themselves crying in a bath tub with a pill bottle in your hand. You'll only see them after they get dressed up and put on a smile. It creates a negative stigma that is very damaging to the mental health of everyone involved.
Stop living your life for others and live it for yourself. Do things for you and focus on self care. Don't do things just because you might get attention on the internet. You won't be happy.
This just made me want to throw my smartphone
I started getting depressed around this age and there was no faking it.
Wish we explored the best friend's story.
This is why I stopped using social media, the beginning sums it up perfectly.
4 years of social media, best decision I've ever made!
TH-cam is beesstt
Damn.... This was hard to watch. This is how I spent my 25 this year. It felt a little too real. 🥺
Me too
@@nakisakarymbai5574 I'll trade places with both of you. Looking at 50 and single this year. At least I'm rich. Life goes by very fast, make the most of it. By now you are already a year older than you were when you made the comment!
This is the second show in two days that I've seen address mental illness. It's about time a light is shown into our world...a small glimpse of what we deal with daily...the struggle to just survive from yourself.
I come from a poor family. My body is literally mutilated with stretch marks. I have 0 money. I live in a 3rd world country. I'm 24 and never been in a relationship.
Depressed is an understatement
I understand u. My depression began when i was 17.. i am 22 and i have neveer been in a relationship too
I can relate to everything she’s going through, because I’m going through the same... hiding everything inside, crying when I’m alone because no one can understand my pain
Aren't you so special. When you reach a point, you will realize what you think no one understands, everyone understands
Speak out...there are ppl who will listen
Maybe no one that you're hanging out with. But trust me, someone out there CAN and DOES understand your pain. You're not alone.
@@karaa7595 You need to open up, just like that...
Sit down with someone you trust, like your mom or a close friend.
Even a therapist.
Trust me, it's the best medicine.
I'm sorry to hear. I hope you speak to someone about it or seek professional help. I'm saying as a person who's been keeping everything inside. It will start weighing down on you to the point you can't get up, so please seek help. You don't have to suffer alone