@@silverlining9120 IF THEY SOMEONE IS DABBLING WITH MEN AND THEY ARE A MAN THAT SHOULD BE DISCLOSED BECAUSE NO ONE SHOULD BE PUT IN THAT POSITION TO DISCOVER THAT...I WOULD LEAVE SORRY THE ARE A FEW THINGS I AIN'T GONE DO.
Nothing like building a relationship on the foundation of truth Here’s a better idea- if marriage and commitment is something you want from a man- CLOSE YOUR DAMN LEGS No man wants ti pay for the town bike everyone else got to ride for free
@D Y this isn't about sex but about sharing past information. Some men will share about their past, but can't handle everything that a woman may have done, even if it isn't to the same degree as his
It’s really such an immature concept. Less than 10 ppl okay who is to say that that is too much or too little? In the grand scheme of things you could get disease from the 1st one and from a biblical standpoint any premarital sex is forbidden so what is the point of trying for less ppl? It means nothing.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who noticed. I’m happy that Adrienne can count her partners using her 5 fingers but I’m tired of hearing about it. 🤦🏾♀️ it’s the 100th time for me! Share another story.
I love me some Tami but let’s not start those 5th co host comments. She has her own show. The real doesn’t need more people. If it’s not broke don’t fix it. The 4 ladies are fine as they are. Look how much y’all vouched for Amanda and look how that turned out …
I think people vouched for Amanda because of the way she presented herself as a guest host versus as a host ! She felt comfortable having uncomfortable conversations in a way that wasn’t conducive… there was a tension that people made it about the hosts and the pinions ! Tami is a person who has not stepped one foot on this show til now… and as u see her on social media is how u see her on this show… freeing , relatable , respectable and genuine ! Amanda had more of a bot hostile approach but it would take a lot for her to put walls down… for Tami it was easy for her
That’s sad that Adrienne would say tell me if she was whack and hype me up… So you’re literally asking him to talk down on the mother of his children so you can feel better about yourself? What if y’all ain’t together one day, would you expect him to trash talk you to the next woman? And yet she be sitting up there saying she’s a “girls girl.”
@@Lin-sz7hc The men make them believe that 😂😂😂 What they don’t know is that as the predecessor, you helped mould that man into what they bragging about today. 😒😒😒
I’m not feeling the way Adrienne be referencing Israel’s past relationship as if that wasn’t his wife of 20+ years and the mother of his children… like girl you think you’re an upgrade we get it. She’s been so civil and quiet after that man cheated and had a baby on her so she deserves respect.
Yesss! He married Adrienne the same year he got divorced... 20 years and their was no mourning time for that relationship to end. And now israel and Adrienne br doing worship songs together? And israel says oh I am forgiven and happy and moved on... how about your wife? You did her wrong
@@lunaForever2020 do you even know what happen? His ex wife loves Adrienne and defended her. Why do people feel the need to put themselves in other peoples situations? Especially when you’re saying stuff that’s not even accurate. 🙄
Not everything, some things you do need to keep to yourself. Especially if it has no place or value to your present/current situation. Here's the thing, everyone has a past, everyone comes with their baggage and mistakes. People should understand everybody has their things with them. You're not going to find any human pure as the driven snow.
I think most People dont want to know but the conversation will be there So its best to be honest about it but short Just the amount, who they were and thats it No need for details
I know about ALL of my husband's history, and he knows EVERYTHING about my history. I think being OPEN and CLEAR is important for a long term relationship.
@@alanaterrel9914 well, some people are honest about everything at the start of a relationship and can only hope the other is that too thats a risk worth taking Besides that, why lie about that? You would like a person to love you for you, the bad and the good If you lie about one thing it will catch up to you
Lonnie has been very open with her many many sexual partners and being very loose because she’s not married so when they start talking about they can name their partners I want to hand she got to be quiet
keeping secrets from the past will be prone to keeping secrets in the future. i wouldnt trust what my partner is keeping from me if he doesnt tell me about his past.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
I mean why hide your sexual past? Are you embarrassed? 😂 I think it’s important to talk about who you used to be and who you are now and your sexual history can definitely help reflect that. Own up to all versions of yourself
Respectfully disagree. You feel free to ask but don't get upset if ohter person doesn't want to share it. I don't ask questions and i don't aswer these questions
This topic reminds me of an old episode on Rosanne when Jackie was with Fred, the man she had a baby with. Jackie’s character was extremely promiscuous. Fred didn’t know about her past and asked how many men she dated. Jackie said not that many. Fred said he was happy to know she didn’t sleep with a lot of guys. Jackie said, “you said dated, not who I slept with. That’s different. I slept with about 3 guys a year for about 20 years, I guess 60 guys”. Fred was like, “ I only slept with 3” he also said “Wow! I dnt even know 60 people”….I believe it really changed their relationship for the worst, but the episode was HILARIOUS!!!
I know the exact scene you're referring too . . when they were having dinner . . it was the look on her face when she realized how many men she slept w/
Nooo. If guys ask you about your sexual past, do not tell him. Not because you are afraid or something. Even if there is nothing to hide. They have no business in asking that. That question never brings anything good.
I agree with you 5000%. If you tell him more than 3 people. He is looking at you sideway. Chris Rock said in one of special. She slept with a few men hmm. I guess that’s how she was raised. Trust in believe I doubt he will tell the correct number.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
I like her personality for the show but I'm concerned about her.....she admitted she wasn't seeing a doc or therapist and she admitted to having body dysmorphophia..if I'm spelling it right..she said the thinner she is the better 😮 and she's not seeking help
If we're going to be sexually active then I need to know. It seems like the people who gets uncomfortable when asked this question are the ones who have a high body count. I'm not asking to judge I simply want to protect myself. 🤷🏾♀️
To each their own i say, pass secrets might catch up with you in your future. Somethings can change a persons mind about you or settling with you, so always tell it, and let them choose to settle or not to settle.
@@NorthPhilly-zr7xc if you love her, you should give her a chance tho, she is honest, she could keep it a secret, means she wants someone to choose her with all her flaws and past mistakes. But if you really know, you wont be able to live with it, you should move on, when it comes to feelings and emotions, men are different than us women, so i understand, so goodluck and take some time to think about it.
@@fakeaccount704 I think age differences may cause a bit of a weird issue not because of the age but because of the idea that if u add an younger woman… the idea that former youngest host now has someone in their 20s besides them that can be a bit odd ! Like something about younger talent being included pure a possibility of being replaced up and we don’t need that that’s why having someone older like Tami is ok cuz she’s still hip and fun and cool and funny !
I think the finger trick is great. I'm the type that like to have a deep emotional connection before I physically commit. No hate to those who are promiscuous. Do you boo and I'll do me boo.
My mother always told me and my sisters..... Never sit up and tell a man your business. NEVER. Even if he's trying to kill you to get the info....there are some whom will use it against you for the rest of your life. Like Adrienne said there are even things you don't recall or remember. There are also things that are so insignificant that it not important. But if you have medical or health issues thats an important thing to discuss.
You’re so right. A friend told me that her husband was mad and spilled her darkest secrets to her mom. Secrets she was only trusting him with. I’m not saying nothing when I get married
Or you can just tell him the truth and be an honest person. As a man I dont have any issue disclosing the sexual past and whatever she wants to know about it,mainly because it is not highly promiscuous and most people would not really reject me after it. Lets be honest here,you are insecure about it. For example if he asks you your weight and you tell him the number,it means that you dont care about it. If you hide it with "Its none of your business" or lie about it,it just shows a huge insecurity of feeling rejected if you tell them. Poor guys,will marry women who have been promiscuous without them even knowing because they were too afraid to tell him the truth 😂.
@@washurhands5079 Feel bad for your future possible husband. We have nothing against promiscuous women,they are fun tbh but whenever they pull the "Oh yes I will sleep around and when I want to marry I will lie to the man so he can accept me" Absolutely disgusting. The girls that own their sexual past and dont lie to their boyfriends about it are NOT whores. The ones that do what you do which envolves deceiving their partners definitely are the WHORES.
@@G2rtTr YOU MUST BE BOTHERED YOU WROTE A BOOK.... I don't ask YOU so don't ask ME no lies are told. First off I am married very married and for a long time so I have no reason to be insure about shit0 .Second....its not ones business what YOU did before YOU met them...and none of mine what they were doing before THEY met me. THATs CALLED SECURE. Someone only needs to disclose medical information if it might transmittable other than that. Keep your business to yourself. I ain't bothered like that.
Sexual partners doesn’t matter. Sexual health is what matters. We are grown. It doesn’t change anything for me. Would I walk away from the love of my life because of the past….hell no.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
Right only the important stuff matters, alot of the rhetoric that's being put out these days make it so much harder to date. There was a video posted about the stipulations put on dating verses sex, I did a reaction to it, and wanted to know what you all think about it. th-cam.com/video/9m1Xw3h7vqQ/w-d-xo.html
Oh hell naw. Don’t needa know his number, anything about past girlfriends…. Nada. It’s of no benefit to me and can only breed resentment down the line. Any health issues, std tests etc YES! But beyond that .. I don’t need to know anything about your sexual or romantic history.
I say tell only if it’s a person that your significant other knows or will cross paths with. Other than that, it’s not necessary to divulge every single detail!!!
It's the " Do you tithe?" for me😂 Criminal record yes and yes for the mental health triggers. Thanks Tami!!👍🏼 You'll never know everything about NO ONE
Lol I was told the finger trick too and I've lived by it. But I assumed they meant one hand so I'm 30 and can count how many people I've been with on one hand. What they say, if you double back that's still one finger.
I had 2 relationships in my past where I had such deep confidence and connection with the man where sharing my entire life story was easy. They loved me unconditionally and looking back I hate that it didn't work out. But now I'm in a current relationship where I don't feel confident sharing my true self or my past. He doesn't have the emotional Intelligence to withstand it, TRUST ME. So now I am noticing how miserable and unhappy I am because I don't have a Love that feels safe. It sucks. I'm 5 months pregnant with our child and I don't want to create a co-parenting situation. I pray that one day counseling will help switch this situation around. I just want to be happy and in love and at peace.
Things happens for a reason, maybe you're in his life to teach him about being in tune with his emotions and maybe you'll find out why he is the way he is.... And one thing i've learned is, don't underestimate people, you can always learn about life from talking and being around them. Give it some time , and in the meantime try to do everything with love and good intensions, God has a plan for you, trust him. You'll be fine girl and congratulation for the baby!
Hey love, if you don’t feel safe, please leave. Your tribe will help you with your baby and someone will come along that will be worth building with. You don’t want your child to see you struggling to be loved by someone who doesn’t love you, as that will affect his/her outlook on relationships. For the sake of that child, please leave. God will surround you with love and send helpers your way.
you are carrying a baby.. Dont even think negatively for your partner.Its ok of he dont connect emotionally . He is your present .Try to look the positive side of his. And dont even think of the past two men it is going to give you nothing. Love you partner and in return you will also get love. Be happy
@@gothere30 Lol Here's an update for you when I was 8 month pregnant he physically abused me. I had to call police and flee the state. Life has exponentially bloomed for me since I left! My daughter is a year old now and he has been MIA since her birth. I'm currently in the best relationship I have ever witnessed in my life. I dont believe in looking at someone's "good side" and ignoring their bad. If a person cares for you, and loves you. It will show naturally and automatically.
Miserable and unhappy your new man won’t accept the fact you were a h03 😂 Now you’re unhappy and thinking fo break up or divorce bc of YOUR OWN DAMN ACTIONS that is women logic if I’ve ever seen it
I believe your partner doesn't need to know everything something are irrelevant and should remain private. The whole body count question is stupid we are grown 99% of ppl have had sex with multiple ppl that should be a given. What we should be asking our partners their STD results, their debt, and where they see themselves in the next 5 years.
Irrelevant to you. It's not necessarily your place to determine what is or isn't valuable to another person though. Someone might want to know how sexually compatible you are to them. It can be a window into how you have viewed sex. For someone who often had one night stands, sex might be viewed as physical maintenance to maintain happiness irregardless of needing an emotional attachment to the person. For someone else who had very little sex they might desire a deeper emotional connection to be stimulated more than someone who is highly promiscuous. So again it might not matter to you, but your opinion isn't absolute.
Honesty in relationships really helps and build trust. It is important to know important facts from the beginning of dating. You need to know someone especially before engagement you should know many things talk about serious topics. What is your faith life look like? Would you want children? Do you believe in saving yourself for marriage? Do you have any addiction?, etc. There are many deep topics to cover over time but by 6 months you should know enough to know if that is the right person for you. Your time is valuable. Keep the high standards Definitely need to tell your husband or wife, vows to death until you part. That is the one person that you should know the best. I'm waiting for the one God sends me. All you single people out there you are worth waiting for and loving someone in marriage. 🥂 to that. I love these ladies. God Bless them 🙏❤
Does anybody know what happened to Israel ex wife? Why is it men cheat and have children outside marriage... than move on with their lifes? He made a mess out of his ex wife. Hope she finds someone. She deserves better
Hi. Hope you're doing well. You see, my partner suffers from Retroactive Jealousy since the beginning of our relationship and he used to doubt me alot of having a promiscuous past. I always denied it because I thought it's better if he never finds out. I stayed loyal with him and cut off everybody else. But eventually, he dug into my past and found out everything. He was furious and left me. I gave him time and space and finally he came back because he said that he loves me too much and that he knows I'm a different person now I don't run after every other guy to get physical with him. Even though our relationship wasn't healthy, but it was getting better day by day. His trust was building. There was just one thing I never told him that when we became friends and he was developing feelings for me, I was with someone else and I not only had a make out with him, but also with his friend on the same day. After that, I left that guy and my current relationship started and I devoted myself to him and him only. I forgave myself for the mistakes I made and started becoming a better person for him. Now recently, I don't know how but he found out about this one time with two guys. And his feelings completely shattered. He says that I cheated on him and that he had forgiven and forgotten my past but this is unbearable that I was with two other guys at the same time we were getting involved. He probably hates me now. I honestly hate myself too for being such a person who never stayed with a single man until I met him and he made me become a better person. I really don't want to lose him. I've been having panic attacks, I can't stop crying and I honestly don't know what am I supposed to do now. I can't let him go. Please help me. 😔
It’s not “retroactive” jealousy- ITS HOW EVERY MAN FEELS Don’t remove yourself from accountability- you had a h03 past and now a man doesn’t want to commit to you Instead of trying to remove yourself from any accountability and nasty behavior- try taking personal responsibility without making this seem like it is the man’s issue- like no hun, this is a YOU issue and 99.9% of men would react the same Why not trying to warn women about how being a h03 leads to men not wanting you long term instead of giving every woman the “you go girl” speech and trying to make them feel good 🗑
Don't worry about the numbers. You should hook up with whoever you want and as often as you want. That whole number thing is from before the internet where people barely had access to more than 5 potential suitors. I'm not into the subtext of slut shaming with the "numbers" system. Nobody should feel ashamed for wanting sex... It's the most human urge in the planet.
Adrienne is such a devout Christian but shordy did the deed with 5+ people 😂 she really be picking and choosing. It aint even like she slept with her first every boyfriend believing she’d marry him and it just didn’t work out. In fact she admitted to cheating multiple times on her first boyfriend. Girl bye
Ladies, don’t hide / lie about your past. I did, and it bit me in the ass. If you regret your past, just express that, but give your partner a chance to know you IN FULL before deciding to proceed in a relationship with you.
@@norapeace6526she was a h03, her man found out about her past, didn’t want to look like the fool paying full price for what a lot other men got for free- so he left her I know her story and don’t even know her ! Crazy how that works
Comfortable lies or uncomfortable truths…does the sexual past matter? YES!! People are unable to pair bond and that destroys the possibility of a long term relationship…
Almost 20 years of marriage and we still don't know everything. It takes a lifetime and beyond and its exciting to learn as you go. The important relevant stuff yes but no i don't need to know about u and ur ex and what yall did in the bed etc but to each its own.
I don’t care to know about his past exes! If he wants to share it with me, that’s on him, but me willingly ask him ? Nah! He’s with me NOW! No need to question him on what happen with someone that’s irrelevant.
I dont miss Jeanie, i dont dislike her or anything. But she's very 'on' and i connect/prefer to watch people be authentic....its a breath of fresh air to see presenters be that way. Garcel is that way and i'm pleasantly surprised by Tami
here we go. She’s not going anywhere though. Jeannie at one point was one of the most authentic host. She’s just a good story teller. I don’t think she puts on I think that’s really her.
Adrienne... you are ‘whack’ @4:01 why do u need to know if you are better than his ex? That screams insecurity, jealously and shade. And don’t come at me i said what I said. She’s childish
@@nnajiugochukwu3810 There’s a difference between having a lover vs vd’d or worse. Most ppl dont want to know about the sex life with an ex. People are entitled to privacy. Its not about having something to hide unless your hiding something.
I think it’s important to share who you are regardless because if the person walks away then that’s how you know it’s not the person for you. But also…. Plus you can transmit stds based on your sexual partners and THEIR sexual partners. With that being said even if you DONT have an std, your current person deserves the option to make the decision to share their body and maybe get tested for a peace of mind. I had a partner that I ended up serious with during COVID due to layoff and housing issues, we were awesome until they refused to tell me, at first I respected their privacy until their cousin made a remark of their promiscuous nature. I then found out they never tested themselves which made me so upset because I felt jeopardized and learned my lesson real quick to check before I fall in love. If you don’t tell them you rob yourself of knowing if you’re compatible and them of having that peace of mind.
Your past is noones business and people who want to know are simply manipulators and insecure which is a massive red flag. They are the people you want to ditch at all costs.
Yes I need to know criminal and medical records, that can be detrimental to my life. Idc who he slept with unless I know the person or for some reason I have to be around them.
I don’t need to know who was wack. What I come to notice is if a dude is willing to talk bad about another female he’s going to be willing to talk bad about me.
If were talking about a married couple here, then the other partner definitely has a right to know. There should be no secrets when it comes to that. Plus why even be embarrassed to tell your partner those things unless something is wrong.
Me and my fiancee knows all of the things. It can be hard but if you're nature it shouldn't matter I don't like secrets and neither does she. I like her feeling safe abd like she can trust me so whatever she wants to know. You're always learning and that's the way it should be
Im just gonna start out by saying that I’m a Christian and I know sex is created for marriage im celibate definitely waiting but I don’t know if you necessarily need to tell someone everyone you’ve been with but they should know that you don’t have any STDs or STIs I don’t judge anyone because I am human but definitely be safe your body is a temple that goes for both men and women
I think you can discuss it, if you both really care to know or if something from your past sexual history is going to affect your current relationship such as sexual traumas/STDs, etc. Personally, I never cared who my man was with or how many before me and he didn’t care either. I just don’t think certain things are really important or relevant; we would never judge each other so we never cared to know anyways. People who are hell-bent on knowing usually are the ones judging or will base their self esteem off of their partners past. 🤷🏽♀️
Lol I can still count on my fingers but let’s be clear laying it low and spreading it wide still applies to the amount of times you spreading, and not only necessarily how many you have spreading it with
U share wat u feel comfortable sharing. However when it comes to stds ... criminal history...this is important to know...cuz it will impact the relationship later on... especially STDS ... FATAL!!!
If you need to hide things, that is only on you. How can I trust a person not honest? You should put all your past on the table. And let the other person to choose if he/she continues or not.
I would never date a woman who has a high body count or has participated in casual sex, fwb, hookups. I’m a virgin man and I prefer a virgin woman. Women who’ve done casual hookups are not the kind of woman I want. I view sex differently as something you do with someone you love and trust in a relationship and marriage.
Not sexually active yet but I need to know if I'll be in the same room with one of them, clean bill of health or any past infections and how serious those relationships got if at all. Too many details would be hard to put in the back of my mind. I don't think it's a good sign for a partner to run their mouth about every little thing about their ex's story, life, family etc. Because one day, God forbid, I would be an ex and no one should share my business if I wouldn't tell the listener all that myself.
I think a ex should be a ex and you leave it behind. There is no need for you to tell your current partner anything about this ex unless the ex is still in the picture. Somethings are better not to know
Is withholding a part of his medical history a deal breaker in a marriage? For instance, if he/she knew they were not able to conceive and intentionally did not disclose this information. Is this worth ending the marriage? Asking for a friend.
It might not end the marriage. However you should explain exactly what going on with you. I get it sometimes we don’t want share things. The moment you tell it you can’t take it back.
This is worth it of ending a marriage. Nobody should be keeping this type of information. Some people want to be a parent so bad you have to given them the opportunity to have that in their life.
I dont think your partner needs to know everything. What if you break up then he knows everything about you. Let's face it women are much more talkative than men
Absolutely. Why even ask about someone's sexual past.? It's not your business how many women he or she had and they did. All matters is how he treats you right now
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I definitely agree with Loni. If it's going affect the future then it's necessary to know
Same.
IF THEY HAVE A TRANSMITTABLE DISEASE THATS A REASON TO DISCLOSE
@@silverlining9120 IF THEY SOMEONE IS DABBLING WITH MEN AND THEY ARE A MAN THAT SHOULD BE DISCLOSED BECAUSE NO ONE SHOULD BE PUT IN THAT POSITION TO DISCOVER THAT...I WOULD LEAVE SORRY THE ARE A FEW THINGS I AIN'T GONE DO.
Garcelle said “ I have some toes too” 😂😂😂😂 P.S tami is that little edge the show need
Everything isn't for everyone. Share what your partner can handle & if it's relevant or necessary
Yes build a relationship on omissions. What could possibly go wrong?
Most people with a shady and whorish past usually has a response like this…🤨
@@notsure1350 a lie of omission is still a lie. As soon as people understand this, the better off people will be
Nothing like building a relationship on the foundation of truth
Here’s a better idea- if marriage and commitment is something you want from a man- CLOSE YOUR DAMN LEGS
No man wants ti pay for the town bike everyone else got to ride for free
@D Y this isn't about sex but about sharing past information. Some men will share about their past, but can't handle everything that a woman may have done, even if it isn't to the same degree as his
adrienne loves that finger story omg that’s like the 3rd time we’ve heard it
That and the Air BnB analogy. We've heard those stories enough 😂
It’s really such an immature concept. Less than 10 ppl okay who is to say that that is too much or too little? In the grand scheme of things you could get disease from the 1st one and from a biblical standpoint any premarital sex is forbidden so what is the point of trying for less ppl? It means nothing.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who noticed. I’m happy that Adrienne can count her partners using her 5 fingers but I’m tired of hearing about it. 🤦🏾♀️ it’s the 100th time for me! Share another story.
Girl more like 10 times lol.
That's her actual truth/life so whenever the subject will come up she'll tell the same stories if that is the subject at hand 🤷🏽♀️
"Am I not supposed to say pineapples " Tami is a mess 🤣🤣🤣 I love her so much
😂😂😂
Crying because of that rn!!
I love me some Tami but let’s not start those 5th co host comments. She has her own show. The real doesn’t need more people. If it’s not broke don’t fix it. The 4 ladies are fine as they are. Look how much y’all vouched for Amanda and look how that turned out …
Loll exactly
I agree but would love so see a guest host who is of South Asian descent to represent people like me
I think people vouched for Amanda because of the way she presented herself as a guest host versus as a host ! She felt comfortable having uncomfortable conversations in a way that wasn’t conducive… there was a tension that people made it about the hosts and the pinions ! Tami is a person who has not stepped one foot on this show til now… and as u see her on social media is how u see her on this show… freeing , relatable , respectable and genuine ! Amanda had more of a bot hostile approach but it would take a lot for her to put walls down… for Tami it was easy for her
It sounds silly, but I like Adrienne's finger thing. In the moment, you can look at the fingers and ask yourself if the person is worth it.
On a old episode she said it was j low who said it
@@saimafurdos5484 Yeah, I was like "a friend ? It wasn't a friend the last time..."
Same! So far I only have two but so this is DEFINITELY something I can use in the future
So basically everyone should stay a virgin…
I like that story too. But I thought it was like a teacher or someone who said it. I'm thinking I got it wrong or something.
Tami needs to be a permanent host. She is so transparent! Love her as part of the real!!!
I fell in love with her personality honestly
Nah
I like her a lot. Didn't expect to.
Totally agree. I think she’ll be a great guest host while Jeannie is on maternity. Maybe they’ll even consider her as a 5th host
Nooo😩 5 girls would be too much! 4 is perfect
That’s sad that Adrienne would say tell me if she was whack and hype me up… So you’re literally asking him to talk down on the mother of his children so you can feel better about yourself? What if y’all ain’t together one day, would you expect him to trash talk you to the next woman? And yet she be sitting up there saying she’s a “girls girl.”
Soo rude, I was hot for his ex wife 🙄
The new girlfriend or wife always thinks she better than you. News flash honey if he was worth keeping. I would still be with him.
@@Lin-sz7hc The men make them believe that 😂😂😂 What they don’t know is that as the predecessor, you helped mould that man into what they bragging about today. 😒😒😒
@@Jasmin94_ okayyyyy!!!
After the Ex refined them!
“laying it low and spreading it wide” lmao i instantly thought of tamar’s mom ms.evelyn
How many baby daddies u got lol
As a person who is virgin, I find it very important to know about the sexual past of my partner.
What do you wanna know exactly? At eyou not gonna marry him or her if she goes over your maximum sex partners amount?
@@kattodoggo3868 You don't think the amount of people you sleep with means much?
Who cares? It doesn’t affect how they should treat you?
@@97indianuk Are you ashamed of your number?
@@97indianuk It shouldn't affect how they treat you so why not just disclose the number?
be truthful. your past can come to haunt your spouse or partner. give them the choice to decide if they still want you or not.
This!!!!!! Everybody got a past/baggage but that doesn’t mean I’m entitled to anybody just cause I believe my past/baggage is irrelevant now.
I’m not feeling the way Adrienne be referencing Israel’s past relationship as if that wasn’t his wife of 20+ years and the mother of his children… like girl you think you’re an upgrade we get it. She’s been so civil and quiet after that man cheated and had a baby on her so she deserves respect.
Yesss! He married Adrienne the same year he got divorced... 20 years and their was no mourning time for that relationship to end. And now israel and Adrienne br doing worship songs together? And israel says oh I am forgiven and happy and moved on... how about your wife? You did her wrong
Adrienne is a lil shady
@@lunaForever2020 lies, he was divorced way before that the public just didn’t know
@@lunaForever2020 do you even know what happen? His ex wife loves Adrienne and defended her. Why do people feel the need to put themselves in other peoples situations? Especially when you’re saying stuff that’s not even accurate. 🙄
@@britbritnicole lies when did his wife defend her?
Not everything, some things you do need to keep to yourself. Especially if it has no place or value to your present/current situation. Here's the thing, everyone has a past, everyone comes with their baggage and mistakes. People should understand everybody has their things with them. You're not going to find any human pure as the driven snow.
Some people's past is worser than others
I think most People dont want to know but the conversation will be there
So its best to be honest about it but short
Just the amount, who they were and thats it
No need for details
Tami really should become a permanent host! She adds such a lovely feeling and relatability!
That would be great Tami, Garcelle, Loni, Jeannie, & Adrienne.
I know about ALL of my husband's history, and he knows EVERYTHING about my history. I think being OPEN and CLEAR is important for a long term relationship.
How do you know you know everything about him
@@alanaterrel9914 well, some people are honest about everything at the start of a relationship and can only hope the other is that too thats a risk worth taking
Besides that, why lie about that?
You would like a person to love you for you, the bad and the good
If you lie about one thing it will catch up to you
Loni, it’s ok for some people to be more reserved. This seems to be a sensitive subject for you.
@J H And one night stands. You’re a prude if you don’t partake.
Lonnie has been very open with her many many sexual partners and being very loose because she’s not married so when they start talking about they can name their partners I want to hand she got to be quiet
keeping secrets from the past will be prone to keeping secrets in the future. i wouldnt trust what my partner is keeping from me if he doesnt tell me about his past.
You don't know for sure if he told you everything thou. You only know yourself
@@chinenyeodozi7677 Some things come out no matter how long you try to hide it.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
Imagine yo fiancé found out u was getting trains ran on you in college 😂 CALL OFF THE WEDDING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@tatianadaniel3569 Absolutely
I mean why hide your sexual past? Are you embarrassed? 😂 I think it’s important to talk about who you used to be and who you are now and your sexual history can definitely help reflect that. Own up to all versions of yourself
Respectfully disagree. You feel free to ask but don't get upset if ohter person doesn't want to share it. I don't ask questions and i don't aswer these questions
I AGREE 100% I think people just be embarrassed.
This is nice in theory, be real men and women judge partners and use this info in arguments.
Yes but some people would judge you regardless because they can't put themselves in your shoes
Love this ☺️☺️
This topic reminds me of an old episode on Rosanne when Jackie was with Fred, the man she had a baby with. Jackie’s character was extremely promiscuous. Fred didn’t know about her past and asked how many men she dated. Jackie said not that many. Fred said he was happy to know she didn’t sleep with a lot of guys. Jackie said, “you said dated, not who I slept with. That’s different. I slept with about 3 guys a year for about 20 years, I guess 60 guys”. Fred was like, “ I only slept with 3” he also said “Wow! I dnt even know 60 people”….I believe it really changed their relationship for the worst, but the episode was HILARIOUS!!!
I know the exact scene you're referring too . . when they were having dinner . . it was the look on her face when she realized how many men she slept w/
I LOVE THAT SHOW
Nooo. If guys ask you about your sexual past, do not tell him. Not because you are afraid or something. Even if there is nothing to hide. They have no business in asking that. That question never brings anything good.
I agree with you 5000%. If you tell him more than 3 people. He is looking at you sideway. Chris Rock said in one of special. She slept with a few men hmm. I guess that’s how she was raised. Trust in believe I doubt he will tell the correct number.
I commented above.....but My mama always told me and my sisters that.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
@@BetterDeath I never busted for pookie & lil ray ray.........lol I had to say it........lol
Trust me I regret asking my girlfriend that now I look at her different
It’s interesting that they have Tami as a co host. She definitely would’ve been the best replacement for Tamar.
Yessss talk about spice things up
Uuuh NO!!
@@nai6474 tf are you talking about. She would’ve been great
I like her personality for the show but I'm concerned about her.....she admitted she wasn't seeing a doc or therapist and she admitted to having body dysmorphophia..if I'm spelling it right..she said the thinner she is the better 😮 and she's not seeking help
True
I loveeeee Adrienne with short hair
If we're going to be sexually active then I need to know. It seems like the people who gets uncomfortable when asked this question are the ones who have a high body count. I'm not asking to judge I simply want to protect myself. 🤷🏾♀️
We don't know enough about ourselves! I believe our true selves are exposed at our funerals!!!
Well damn
It depends whose invited to the funeral and allowed to speak.
To each their own i say, pass secrets might catch up with you in your future. Somethings can change a persons mind about you or settling with you, so always tell it, and let them choose to settle or not to settle.
My mistake was asking my girl about her I love her to death tho and she love me but thos last story's fucks with me
@@NorthPhilly-zr7xc but it's good that you know it now, knowing it after settling would be allot worse.
@@xachilytanie-finisie6643 yeah I guess you right I do lover.to death tho but if i can take it back i wouldn't have asked her that
@@NorthPhilly-zr7xc if you love her, you should give her a chance tho, she is honest, she could keep it a secret, means she wants someone to choose her with all her flaws and past mistakes. But if you really know, you wont be able to live with it, you should move on, when it comes to feelings and emotions, men are different than us women, so i understand, so goodluck and take some time to think about it.
@@xachilytanie-finisie6643 thank you sis we been together sense 2017 tho but it's hard to shake at times
Tami needs a permanent seat
@@fakeaccount704 I think age differences may cause a bit of a weird issue not because of the age but because of the idea that if u add an younger woman… the idea that former youngest host now has someone in their 20s besides them that can be a bit odd ! Like something about younger talent being included pure a possibility of being replaced up and we don’t need that that’s why having someone older like Tami is ok cuz she’s still hip and fun and cool and funny !
Adrienne I love this . That’s the advice I’m gona give to my daughters.
I think the finger trick is great. I'm the type that like to have a deep emotional connection before I physically commit. No hate to those who are promiscuous. Do you boo and I'll do me boo.
My mother always told me and my sisters..... Never sit up and tell a man your business. NEVER. Even if he's trying to kill you to get the info....there are some whom will use it against you for the rest of your life. Like Adrienne said there are even things you don't recall or remember. There are also things that are so insignificant that it not important. But if you have medical or health issues thats an important thing to discuss.
You’re so right. A friend told me that her husband was mad and spilled her darkest secrets to her mom. Secrets she was only trusting him with. I’m not saying nothing when I get married
I learned this lesson...
Or you can just tell him the truth and be an honest person.
As a man I dont have any issue disclosing the sexual past and whatever she wants to know about it,mainly because it is not highly promiscuous and most people would not really reject me after it.
Lets be honest here,you are insecure about it.
For example if he asks you your weight and you tell him the number,it means that you dont care about it.
If you hide it with "Its none of your business" or lie about it,it just shows a huge insecurity of feeling rejected if you tell them.
Poor guys,will marry women who have been promiscuous without them even knowing because they were too afraid to tell him the truth 😂.
@@washurhands5079 Feel bad for your future possible husband.
We have nothing against promiscuous women,they are fun tbh but whenever they pull the "Oh yes I will sleep around and when I want to marry I will lie to the man so he can accept me"
Absolutely disgusting.
The girls that own their sexual past and dont lie to their boyfriends about it are NOT whores.
The ones that do what you do which envolves deceiving their partners definitely are the WHORES.
@@G2rtTr YOU MUST BE BOTHERED YOU WROTE A BOOK.... I don't ask YOU so don't ask ME no lies are told. First off I am married very married and for a long time so I have no reason to be insure about shit0 .Second....its not ones business what YOU did before YOU met them...and none of mine what they were doing before THEY met me. THATs CALLED SECURE. Someone only needs to disclose medical information if it might transmittable other than that. Keep your business to yourself. I ain't bothered like that.
Sexual partners doesn’t matter. Sexual health is what matters. We are grown. It doesn’t change anything for me. Would I walk away from the love of my life because of the past….hell no.
Men today understand that most women are not virgins 😂 however they still wanna feel like they aren’t getting robbed when dealing with women. They want to know that the price (time, effort, money) is worth it and all the men you dealt in the past had that same price. They don’t want to know that you was busting it wide open for pookie & lil ray ray for free, and I’m over buying you flowers 😂
Right only the important stuff matters, alot of the rhetoric that's being put out these days make it so much harder to date. There was a video posted about the stipulations put on dating verses sex, I did a reaction to it, and wanted to know what you all think about it. th-cam.com/video/9m1Xw3h7vqQ/w-d-xo.html
Your damaged
@@madridista703usa3 The correct word is you’re with an apostrophe and an e. For example….”You’re unable to use proper grammar and spelling”.
Oh hell naw. Don’t needa know his number, anything about past girlfriends…. Nada. It’s of no benefit to me and can only breed resentment down the line. Any health issues, std tests etc YES! But beyond that .. I don’t need to know anything about your sexual or romantic history.
I say tell only if it’s a person that your significant other knows or will cross paths with. Other than that, it’s not necessary to divulge every single detail!!!
It's the " Do you tithe?" for me😂
Criminal record yes and yes for the mental health triggers.
Thanks Tami!!👍🏼
You'll never know everything about NO ONE
Lol I was told the finger trick too and I've lived by it. But I assumed they meant one hand so I'm 30 and can count how many people I've been with on one hand. What they say, if you double back that's still one finger.
I had 2 relationships in my past where I had such deep confidence and connection with the man where sharing my entire life story was easy. They loved me unconditionally and looking back I hate that it didn't work out. But now I'm in a current relationship where I don't feel confident sharing my true self or my past. He doesn't have the emotional Intelligence to withstand it, TRUST ME. So now I am noticing how miserable and unhappy I am because I don't have a Love that feels safe. It sucks. I'm 5 months pregnant with our child and I don't want to create a co-parenting situation. I pray that one day counseling will help switch this situation around. I just want to be happy and in love and at peace.
Things happens for a reason, maybe you're in his life to teach him about being in tune with his emotions and maybe you'll find out why he is the way he is.... And one thing i've learned is, don't underestimate people, you can always learn about life from talking and being around them. Give it some time , and in the meantime try to do everything with love and good intensions, God has a plan for you, trust him. You'll be fine girl and congratulation for the baby!
Hey love, if you don’t feel safe, please leave. Your tribe will help you with your baby and someone will come along that will be worth building with. You don’t want your child to see you struggling to be loved by someone who doesn’t love you, as that will affect his/her outlook on relationships. For the sake of that child, please leave. God will surround you with love and send helpers your way.
you are carrying a baby..
Dont even think negatively for your partner.Its ok of he dont connect emotionally . He is your present .Try to look the positive side of his.
And dont even think of the past two men it is going to give you nothing.
Love you partner and in return you will also get love.
Be happy
@@gothere30 Lol Here's an update for you when I was 8 month pregnant he physically abused me. I had to call police and flee the state. Life has exponentially bloomed for me since I left! My daughter is a year old now and he has been MIA since her birth. I'm currently in the best relationship I have ever witnessed in my life. I dont believe in looking at someone's "good side" and ignoring their bad. If a person cares for you, and loves you. It will show naturally and automatically.
Miserable and unhappy your new man won’t accept the fact you were a h03 😂
Now you’re unhappy and thinking fo break up or divorce bc of YOUR OWN DAMN ACTIONS
that is women logic if I’ve ever seen it
I believe your partner doesn't need to know everything something are irrelevant and should remain private. The whole body count question is stupid we are grown 99% of ppl have had sex with multiple ppl that should be a given. What we should be asking our partners their STD results, their debt, and where they see themselves in the next 5 years.
Relevancy is subjective so it depends
No man should be given it his all knowing a women slept with men for less 😂
@@ailynnmckae1130 yeah it definitely subjective
If you sleep around it’s because it’s convenient and easy for you
Irrelevant to you. It's not necessarily your place to determine what is or isn't valuable to another person though. Someone might want to know how sexually compatible you are to them. It can be a window into how you have viewed sex. For someone who often had one night stands, sex might be viewed as physical maintenance to maintain happiness irregardless of needing an emotional attachment to the person. For someone else who had very little sex they might desire a deeper emotional connection to be stimulated more than someone who is highly promiscuous. So again it might not matter to you, but your opinion isn't absolute.
I love Tami :) The Real are getting better at picking hosts tbh! Yassss Leshgo!
Honesty in relationships really helps and build trust. It is important to know important facts from the beginning of dating. You need to know someone especially before engagement you should know many things talk about serious topics. What is your faith life look like? Would you want children? Do you believe in saving yourself for marriage? Do you have any addiction?, etc. There are many deep topics to cover over time but by 6 months you should know enough to know if that is the right person for you. Your time is valuable. Keep the high standards
Definitely need to tell your husband or wife, vows to death until you part. That is the one person that you should know the best. I'm waiting for the one God sends me. All you single people out there you are worth waiting for and loving someone in marriage. 🥂 to that. I love these ladies. God Bless them 🙏❤
Adrianne said she married Israel for a reason 👀 what happened to no sex before Marriage 😂😂… minding my business 🍷
The truth always come out 😂😂
Does anybody know what happened to Israel ex wife? Why is it men cheat and have children outside marriage... than move on with their lifes? He made a mess out of his ex wife. Hope she finds someone. She deserves better
I agree Adrienne believes she’s the best one in the world. He married her right. He got involved with her as a married man.
The Ex is better off. Trust!
@@gaylehoward4210 She really is I agree ☝️
Hi. Hope you're doing well.
You see, my partner suffers from Retroactive Jealousy since the beginning of our relationship and he used to doubt me alot of having a promiscuous past. I always denied it because I thought it's better if he never finds out. I stayed loyal with him and cut off everybody else.
But eventually, he dug into my past and found out everything. He was furious and left me. I gave him time and space and finally he came back because he said that he loves me too much and that he knows I'm a different person now I don't run after every other guy to get physical with him.
Even though our relationship wasn't healthy, but it was getting better day by day. His trust was building. There was just one thing I never told him that when we became friends and he was developing feelings for me, I was with someone else and I not only had a make out with him, but also with his friend on the same day. After that, I left that guy and my current relationship started and I devoted myself to him and him only. I forgave myself for the mistakes I made and started becoming a better person for him.
Now recently, I don't know how but he found out about this one time with two guys. And his feelings completely shattered. He says that I cheated on him and that he had forgiven and forgotten my past but this is unbearable that I was with two other guys at the same time we were getting involved. He probably hates me now. I honestly hate myself too for being such a person who never stayed with a single man until I met him and he made me become a better person.
I really don't want to lose him. I've been having panic attacks, I can't stop crying and I honestly don't know what am I supposed to do now. I can't let him go. Please help me. 😔
It’s not “retroactive” jealousy- ITS HOW EVERY MAN FEELS
Don’t remove yourself from accountability- you had a h03 past and now a man doesn’t want to commit to you
Instead of trying to remove yourself from any accountability and nasty behavior- try taking personal responsibility without making this seem like it is the man’s issue- like no hun, this is a YOU issue and 99.9% of men would react the same
Why not trying to warn women about how being a h03 leads to men not wanting you long term instead of giving every woman the “you go girl” speech and trying to make them feel good 🗑
Don't worry about the numbers. You should hook up with whoever you want and as often as you want. That whole number thing is from before the internet where people barely had access to more than 5 potential suitors. I'm not into the subtext of slut shaming with the "numbers" system. Nobody should feel ashamed for wanting sex... It's the most human urge in the planet.
This is not it
"Don't have sex with more people than you can count on your fingers" I actually like that advice since the first time she said it.
If it’s a healthy circumstance you should be able to be honest and transparent.
Adrienne “I married him for a reason” did she just confess to that premarital sex 👀😂❤️
I caught that too but I don't think it's a secret
I don't think that she was talking about that premarital sex :)
Oooopppp☕️☕️☕️
She was definitely talking about why she'd stroke his ego😂 Y'all shady, tho👋🏾
@@taylorwalker7417 exactly lol
Adrienne is such a devout Christian but shordy did the deed with 5+ people 😂 she really be picking and choosing. It aint even like she slept with her first every boyfriend believing she’d marry him and it just didn’t work out. In fact she admitted to cheating multiple times on her first boyfriend. Girl bye
There’s no such thing as a perfect Christian
Ladies, don’t hide / lie about your past. I did, and it bit me in the ass.
If you regret your past, just express that, but give your partner a chance to know you IN FULL before deciding to proceed in a relationship with you.
What happened if you don’t mind sharing?
@@norapeace6526 she got dogged
@@ghost632 😆
What happened
@@norapeace6526she was a h03, her man found out about her past, didn’t want to look like the fool paying full price for what a lot other men got for free- so he left her
I know her story and don’t even know her ! Crazy how that works
Ade smh please grow up. She’s hatin On isreals ex. Jealous much
She's a preference who thinks she's a better women than his ex
Comfortable lies or uncomfortable truths…does the sexual past matter? YES!! People are unable to pair bond and that destroys the possibility of a long term relationship…
The fact that this is a heartfelt discussion and hearing some of these horror stories is evidence in and of itself that this stuff does indeed matter.
Almost 20 years of marriage and we still don't know everything. It takes a lifetime and beyond and its exciting to learn as you go. The important relevant stuff yes but no i don't need to know about u and ur ex and what yall did in the bed etc but to each its own.
Am I not supposed to say pineapples😂😂😂? Love her on here.
I don’t care to know about his past exes! If he wants to share it with me, that’s on him, but me willingly ask him ? Nah! He’s with me NOW! No need to question him on what happen with someone that’s irrelevant.
Adrianne, they will NOT tell you the other ones were wack and they will never tell you the other ones were better at it than you. Smh
Adrienne is so delusional wth 🤦🏽♀️
Lmao her spirit is so dark
@@missmack2328 how
I dont miss Jeanie, i dont dislike her or anything. But she's very 'on' and i connect/prefer to watch people be authentic....its a breath of fresh air to see presenters be that way. Garcel is that way and i'm pleasantly surprised by Tami
What?! Jeannie not authentic??
I never cared for her. I like these group of women!!
here we go. She’s not going anywhere though. Jeannie at one point was one of the most authentic host. She’s just a good story teller. I don’t think she puts on I think that’s really her.
If I ask, tell me because when I find out later, we're finished.
I agree. Even if it takes a little time (but not too long) tell me. Transparency is the best policy . No way around it.
Adrienne... you are ‘whack’ @4:01 why do u need to know if you are better than his ex? That screams insecurity, jealously and shade. And don’t come at me i said what I said. She’s childish
Exactly. Not very Christian like of her lmao
No your partner doesnt have to know your sexual history UNLESS its something that can effect them and their well being!
if he doesn't have to know its bcos you have something to hide, own your past lol
@@nnajiugochukwu3810 There’s a difference between having a lover vs vd’d or worse. Most ppl dont want to know about the sex life with an ex. People are entitled to privacy. Its not about having something to hide unless your hiding something.
@@badgurl5758 "I'm entitled to my privacy" looks like a line used by someone who has something to hide
@@nnajiugochukwu3810 You obviously dont understand the multiple points Ive made here so we can agree to disagree. Stay safe!
@@badgurl5758 ok hider✌
Garcelle’s “You did??!!” 😂😂😂 I’m dead
I don’t think anyone will ever know everything about a person, I don’t care what they tell you… sorry but that’s my opinion
“I dont want to end up on dateline; tell me what your triggers are” 😭
I do the finger rule too! Lmaooooo
I think it’s important to share who you are regardless because if the person walks away then that’s how you know it’s not the person for you.
But also…. Plus you can transmit stds based on your sexual partners and THEIR sexual partners. With that being said even if you DONT have an std, your current person deserves the option to make the decision to share their body and maybe get tested for a peace of mind.
I had a partner that I ended up serious with during COVID due to layoff and housing issues, we were awesome until they refused to tell me, at first I respected their privacy until their cousin made a remark of their promiscuous nature. I then found out they never tested themselves which made me so upset because I felt jeopardized and learned my lesson real quick to check before I fall in love.
If you don’t tell them you rob yourself of knowing if you’re compatible and them of having that peace of mind.
TAMI IS EVERYTHING
Adrienne…..Same! Finger trick and all. I want all the details and my husband and I have been together since I was 15 and we have went into it all.
My mom used to tell me that too. She said if you got start counting toes you had to many partners!
😄😄 im loving the vibe of these 4 ladies
Your past is noones business and people who want to know are simply manipulators and insecure which is a massive red flag. They are the people you want to ditch at all costs.
I can bet money hmm throw up in your face. If he or she gets mad at you.
Yes I need to know criminal and medical records, that can be detrimental to my life. Idc who he slept with unless I know the person or for some reason I have to be around them.
I had to shout when Tami said, do you tithe at church.
I don’t need to know who was wack. What I come to notice is if a dude is willing to talk bad about another female he’s going to be willing to talk bad about me.
You can never satisfy your man alone 😂
I love these extra clips for the tube. Please keep em coming! 🥰
If were talking about a married couple here, then the other partner definitely has a right to know. There should be no secrets when it comes to that. Plus why even be embarrassed to tell your partner those things unless something is wrong.
Am I the only one who doesnt Miss Tamera? dont get me wrong, I love her but, I dont miss her
Me tooo😭 she’s sweet though
@@krissysmiley4 yes but too one dimensional.. Everything was either her husband or her kids
@@Animj90 omgg🙄😂
I willingly let my husband know what was in my past but he doesn’t care that much to ask it’s more like I just blurt it out. Past is the past
Me and my fiancee knows all of the things.
It can be hard but if you're nature it shouldn't matter
I don't like secrets and neither does she. I like her feeling safe abd like she can trust me so whatever she wants to know.
You're always learning and that's the way it should be
Guys... I love Tami❤️
Im just gonna start out by saying that I’m a Christian and I know sex is created for marriage im celibate definitely waiting but I don’t know if you necessarily need to tell someone everyone you’ve been with but they should know that you don’t have any STDs or STIs I don’t judge anyone because I am human but definitely be safe your body is a temple that goes for both men and women
I think you can discuss it, if you both really care to know or if something from your past sexual history is going to affect your current relationship such as sexual traumas/STDs, etc. Personally, I never cared who my man was with or how many before me and he didn’t care either. I just don’t think certain things are really important or relevant; we would never judge each other so we never cared to know anyways. People who are hell-bent on knowing usually are the ones judging or will base their self esteem off of their partners past. 🤷🏽♀️
Of course we don't know EVERYTHING about each other. If it's not gonna bother us in the present or future, idc. I agree with loni
Lol I can still count on my fingers but let’s be clear laying it low and spreading it wide still applies to the amount of times you spreading, and not only necessarily how many you have spreading it with
U share wat u feel comfortable sharing. However when it comes to stds ... criminal history...this is important to know...cuz it will impact the relationship later on... especially STDS ... FATAL!!!
Sexual past is not that deep to hide
As a man, we care deeply about your past endeavours. Men don't want to own what someone else has owned.
Women are people and not objects to be owned 🤦
Nature doesn't think progressively @@watitduful
Lol I went by the same saying Adrienne did. I feel like it was a great idea
Not even a single hesitation: YES !!!
I'm liking Tami on the show. It's still like listening to some (very well dressed) friends talk about different topics.
I dont wanna know. I think I do, but I know it'd change my perspective
I needed the advice Adrienne said she got 😆
If you need to hide things, that is only on you.
How can I trust a person not honest?
You should put all your past on the table. And let the other person to choose if he/she continues or not.
i love that they have Garcelle on the show now.
I would never date a woman who has a high body count or has participated in casual sex, fwb, hookups. I’m a virgin man and I prefer a virgin woman. Women who’ve done casual hookups are not the kind of woman I want. I view sex differently as something you do with someone you love and trust in a relationship and marriage.
Who wants to know EVERYTHING? Ummmm not me. 🤣🤣
Not sexually active yet but I need to know if I'll be in the same room with one of them, clean bill of health or any past infections and how serious those relationships got if at all. Too many details would be hard to put in the back of my mind. I don't think it's a good sign for a partner to run their mouth about every little thing about their ex's story, life, family etc. Because one day, God forbid, I would be an ex and no one should share my business if I wouldn't tell the listener all that myself.
I find it hard to believe that knowing the industry goings on that theres not more "partners" here...they prob just dont "count" them
I think a ex should be a ex and you leave it behind. There is no need for you to tell your current partner anything about this ex unless the ex is still in the picture.
Somethings are better not to know
Facts I regret that
Is withholding a part of his medical history a deal breaker in a marriage? For instance, if he/she knew they were not able to conceive and intentionally did not disclose this information. Is this worth ending the marriage? Asking for a friend.
It might not end the marriage. However you should explain exactly what going on with you. I get it sometimes we don’t want share things. The moment you tell it you can’t take it back.
This is worth it of ending a marriage. Nobody should be keeping this type of information. Some people want to be a parent so bad you have to given them the opportunity to have that in their life.
I dont think your partner needs to know everything. What if you break up then he knows everything about you. Let's face it women are much more talkative than men
Absolutely. Why even ask about someone's sexual past.? It's not your business how many women he or she had and they did. All matters is how he treats you right now
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