This channel is a MUST - in this era of jealousy. Every single interaction you have with those in the world is leveraged on how people perceive you as a threat. Indeed, your own family members also turn against you too - in some cases. This video is a goldmine of information on how to protect yourself from the jealous individuals you meet on a daily basis & those you meet by chance. Listen to her words & take heed of her advice. Tgank you Dr Mona ❤
Yes, intimidating Others when we could just be going about our daily lives. We could only be operating on a human being level as Allah(SWT) wants us to be in our Character and also aligning with the teachings in our Quran.
Thank you dear sister for your amazing explanation. I noticed that, especially the envious family and friends are the ones who never leave you alone, they are the ones who chace you, who seek your advice, seek your financial, psychological, and social support. They know you are an empath and they take advantage of you in every possible way. İnterestingly while they are seeking your help and receiving your generosity in every level, they criticize you a lot. They tell your face how naive , even fool you are, make condescending jokes about you openly or indirectly at times, say things to doubt yourself. They belittle what you have from time to time and wish to see you ungrateful like themselves. You wonder why the way you think, the way you look, the way you live is under scrutiny and criticism. They gossip about you under the mask of caring loving sisters. " Everytime they shatter you with their indirect or direct words or behavior you doubt yourself "Maybe they are depressed, maybe because of their difficult past, maybe they are right that I am too naive to see the reality, maybe they didn't mean that, maybe I am too sensitive, maybe people are all bad and no one to trust as they repeatedly utter..... And one day Narcissistic rage hits you hard 😮 and Allah reveals to you that these people actually hate you to the guts and they were jealous of you all along. All they wanted was to destroy you. When they cannot control you or make you destroy yourself they start the smear campaign to control what other people think of you. They tell your friends and neighbors, colleagues despicable things about you. Suddenly, people stop talking to you, they give you strange looks, they say away from you... Allah is a witness that you unconditionally loved and supported these people for many many years. You were always there for them for Allah'a sake. Alhamdülillah Allah showed you their true colors. Alhamdülillah finally you found out that they were your secret enemies . Alhamdulillah Alhamdülillah Alhamdulillah
Wow you just shared my exact life experience. How difficult, no? I'm sorry for this. .May Allah protect you from them. These podcasts have been such eye openers mashallah. It's like the lights turned on. Mashallah
What an epic and amazing podcast Allahumma barik this was SO NEEDED 😢 you covered every point perfectly and clearly and your unique honest approach inspires people to self reflect. Jazaki Allahu khair for your great love for this ummah and the effort it took to record this long podcast for us. I didn’t want it to end. It really blew my mind (as usual!!) ❤
Jazakallahu khairan Dr. Mona for another extraordinaire talk. I once over shared with someone who is very envious of me. They unloaded and I did too. Once I did, I could see the joy in their eyes that am not perfect either. They have more money, a husband and many things that I don’t have. But I think they hate my stability, peace of mind and state of contentment I always profess.
Another point you mention and which she did to me twice is introduce me to crappy potential partners as I am single. One I discovered was liar and big con artist very dishonest guy, always making shady deals. The coupling did not go through because we were from different cast system. I later found out this guy was nothing, he was always running away from debtors and people he robbed blind by his shady deals. The other guy was a huge player. I myself noticed his wondering eye and loads of female back burner friends. One of my biggest fears in life is to catch an STD so I dropped that loser also. All these bad encounters are courtesy of this so called friend. Even when I try to distance myself, she is always trying to come to me. This, like many of your talks kept me up at night and all the memories pouring in, all the dots connecting, am so mad ! People can be hateful and cunning. Why would you pretend to be friends with someone you don't like? All this covert competition and sabotage. All the dots connect Dr. Mona! I consume your content so much now that I repeat your lingo like crazy now. Back burner and man child. :) Jazakillahu Khairan katheeran Dr. Mona.
Took me a couple of days to get through this one. Really liked the breakdown between jealousy and envy. May Allah save our society. I think the most painful stress in our lives as a planet is narcissism. People acting in self interest and manipulating everyone through their circles to comply and drain those who are vulnerable
just finished listening to your podcast and as always it was a great one. Jealousy and envy from family and Friends we consider family is the hardest thing to heal from 💔
Both malignant Narcissistic Parents. It was never a relationship but just a competition. The game had to never end because they could never compete then triggering a Narcissistic Injury followed by a Narcissistic Rage. Aside, from using my energy and resources to make their 6 bedroom house and catapult themselves. They have to stay higher than me otherwise they start burning for that reason too.
This podcast really resonated with me , Malignant narcissistic mothers have a deep rooted jealousy and envy towards their own children. They are constantly seeking out ways to sabotage them and cause immense pain and suffering by doing so. They have a evil demonic presence which is constantly monitoring, gossiping,backbiting , slandering; creating chaos and drama everywhere they go. Their children’s happiness and autonomy is a threat to the Narc Mothers fragile ego. The points you mentioned about betrayal is spot on . There is a sense of pleasure and entertainment they gain by being deceitful. Thank you Dr Mona for addressing the topic of envy and jealousy and please keep me in your prayers so I can be free from Narcissistic abuse.❤
Thus topic the muslim narcissist mother, with their daughters really needs to be spoken about. It's one of the hardest things to live with, a real test and battle. A lot of tears, pain and confusion. It's against nature. And it's hard to speak or seek help for this because it is just so unbelievable, but it's so real. So very painful. So very confusing and they manipulate and or know you're fear Allah and you try and try and try and pray and hope okay this time around maybe my mother will change. Or she does briefly and fooling you only to use you, and offend again. Forget about when the disease has passed onto your siblings and it's a gang up. The gaslighting, smear campaigns, constant back biting, constant envy. It's the darkest stuff I've seen and felt. You can be strong, and still its tough. Finding this book and podcast though has been able to explain a lot to me and confirm all that I have seen, and been through.
It's also helped my imam and deen. Because for years all that behavior narcissistic mom, narcissistic marriage your mother pushed you into, btw. So yeah unfortunately I did loose my way for a while. Hearing all of this brought me back to my worship, turned on so many light bulbs. And I feel so blessed, so blessed hamdulilah. Mashallah aleek, may Allah bless you as this is really needed. Changed my life, willah.
Your covert enemies also never support you in public to avoid people they were gossiping you to seeing their support. They don’t wanna support you and they don’t want the people they gossip you with seeing their two faced hypocrisy but they wanna hang around you to know what’s going on with you. They keep tabs on you. Some might criticize you publicly in the name of “advising” you but it’s meant to humble you and expose your weaknesses. Never Ever ever post anything about your personal life on social media. Don’t even upload pictures or post anything. Be mysterious, quiet about your goals and successes. Avoid their events, go too early or too late after they’re gone if it’s a family event you can’t miss. Also get rid of flying monkeys, your enemies agents feeding them information Dr. Mona hit the nail on the head, trust me I lived this life she’s right!
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sister Mona, soebhanAllah every time I face a problem. My dear sister with knowledge drops a podcast that can help me with the problems I deal with. May Allah Almighty grant you so much hassanaat for your efforts. And may we meet in jannat ul firdaus. Greetings from the Netherlands ❤
Subhanallah I feel exactly the same sister Mona . I haven’t been able to listen to your podcasts for a while but managed to catch up alhamdullilah. Every since I’ve started listening you your podcast was always what I was dealing with and going through at that moment 🥰🤲. Ma
Masha allah thank you so much!!! I really needed to hear this! I also cut a lot of toxic friends but sometimes I was doubting about it, now I know it was a right decision. May allah protect you Mona❤
The bit about intuition vs. waswas is very helpful. There were times where I felt a big sense of doom after talking to someone, even though I liked them and couldn't pinpoint any clear red flags. I listened to my intuition in those moments, but I always wondered if I was being too paranoid. Really amazing episode mashAllah! I will have to listen to it a second time to fully absorb it inshallah
Allahuma barik Dr Mona another amazing podcast. Your podcasts have helped me really in learning from an Islamic perspective. It’s like you were send by Allah swt for me to start listening to you at the time of need and learn Alhamdullilah 🤲🥰
Sister Mona, JazakAllahu Khairan for sharing this valuable information for free on TH-cam. It's truly amazing! I'm only three-quarters of the way through the video, but I've already decided to purchase your book on Amazon. In today's era of narcissism, your content is really a breath of fresh air. - it's clear you're incredibly knowledgeable mashaAllah. I can't wait to dive deeper into your book and content!
@3.01 I'm going thru most of the signs you've mentioned. I'm feeling blockers in my mind to do anything. insha'Allah catch up on our next counselling session. You've been super supportive in my transition. appreciate the PDF May Allah protect you from evil and harm and grant you afiyah
2:35:40 one thing I'd add, and I don't know if you said it already (apologies if you did!!) that narcissists also feel energised and happy around "empaths". Their nafs/qareen feeds off of your good energy...
@@user-nf79 yes they do and that’s why I said when you feel energized by someone but you get bad thoughts about them, it’s from the evil Qareen who doesn’t want you around empaths and when you feel drained by someone and get bad thoughts it’s your intuition working for you, telling you to avoid them. If you feel drained around someone but force yourself to think well of them, that’s from your good character and upbringing, but also your Qareen is working hard on your thoughts to confuse you and keep you around toxic people.
@@themuslimnarcissistbook so both the empath and narc are being controlled by their Qareen? In the former, it makes the bad seem good, and in the latter, it makes the good seem bad? Oh my... Astaghfirullah. May Allah grant us VICTORY over these wrong thoughts that destroy what would otherwise be a beautiful life filled with nourishing beautiful friendships.... Astaghfirullah al-azheem.
2:54:20 - Hands Up. Who else fell for it the first time around? I had to return to the podcast to double-check some of the details and this time I was prepared. The first time I was frantically checking my other opened tabs in the browser to see where the switch in voice had come from. I really fell for it, D'oh! In reality, it was just a very nice light hearted switch on such an intense topic. The lighting of the mood was definitely required just before listening to a Mother in Law joining a couple on their honeymoon, Jeez!
Wow at hour 3 - the list of issues one has if they’re evil eyed… painfully that is a lot of things I’m facing. Please make dua for me everyone. May Allah help me
Walaikum Assalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh ❤❤❤, Jazakumullah khaiyr ..i had extreme body aches and fatigue i started the ruqya and Alhamdulillah it is curing me,may Allah reward you × 1000 for every second i stay pain-free.💝
I see why there was a trigger warning to this episode. Such a nasty spiritual disease. May Allah not test us to have it and not test us to become victims of it. 🤲🏼
Salaam Dr Mona Alyedreessy veen a long time and hope you have been keeping very well. I would like more information if possibleto get a better understanding about generational curses how what why if you understand my question
@@themuslimnarcissistbook 😊 shukran for asking in return I am well Alhamdulillah and glad you are well too. For protection and privacy purposes of the individual I will email you directly to give you context In Shaa Allah
No one is born a narc, but children can copy the toxic behaviour of others and what they see in cartoons etc and it makes them hard to deal with. They also develop anger issues and behaviour problems when they are put through traumas, neglect and incorrect discipline that is harsh and unfair.
Having been a Victim of Narcissistic abuse over the past 30 years from 2 malignant parents it was a special kind of hell. Also, using 4 siblings as flying monkey's and then all their enablers. I don't even have 1 relative on my side from around 20 but I am now more stronger and wiser than I have ever been. They still come here and can't even greet me but I no longer cry about it. Above all else, seek Allah(SWT). He will direct you, comfort you, love you, guide you and so much more. As Yakub AS, complain about your anguish and sorrow to Allah(SWT) only when he is the one who has the solutions. In the meantime, we have to do all on our side too. I had to do so much Education, and Self-Care over decades now. I can advise also as: 1. Moving your body with exercise. 2. Practicing mindfulness. 3. Minimizing stress. 4. Getting plenty of rest. 5. Eating nutritious foods We have to do the inner work as Dr Mona often refers so in many of her podcasts. The result is you can become your best version. I never thought I would become my best version as I now have by myself and Others and in my relationship with Allah(SWT). But keep striving for even more. I really have to pinch myself. Furthermore, we have a beautiful hereafter awaiting us. You can be in the same situation as me and other Victims i.e. the reward which can await you and so much so we would want to come back to this world all over again to go through even more betrayals, pain, suffering, harm, neglect, abuse and so much more. I have had huge tests which has tested my patience. We are the fortunate ones and to engage in a great act of worship i.e. patience. As per the teaching in our Quran, the reward is without limit. So we potentially would not even have to go through the scales on the Day of Judgement. Rather, if anyone's life has been running smoothly, they should be worrying on where are their opportunities to engage in this particular great act of patience. I was to then notice how patient I became in my character so much so I don't even know how to start shouting etc. I have been enjoying my own solitude for such a long time but it allowed me to keep growing as a person. When we can have Allah(SWT) on our side then you have everything. Allah(SWT) is always with the Oppressed person and when we raise our hands in Dua to Allah(SWT) there is no barrier between us. I shall keep you in my Dua's. All the very best.
I have a question. I have been listening to your podcast for a long time. I'm grateful to Allah he guided me to your TH-cam channel. I came to know from your podcast that our Qareens have the daily duty of reporting to the head of Shayateen or Iblees. Is there any authentic hadith which mentions that something like this happens on a daily basis? And I also understood from your podcast that the Qareen is not evil by nature. We have the ability to overpower the qareen by elevating our nafs. If the Qareens are not evil by nature and that they can be overpowered by us in a way they don't command us anything evil, A) Do they still report to the Iblees every single day even after we overpower them and elevate our nafs? B) If the Qareens are not inherently evil (or if they are not created by Allah with a sole purpose of commanding evil things to the human beings), then why do they have the duty of reporting about us to the iblees? I mean why do they associate themselves with iblees by reporting to him if they are not inherently evil? These are the doubts I have. In no way this is to question you arrogantly. I'm seeking knowledge from you as someone who has learnt so much from you. Thank you.❤
Alslaam alaikom, no problem. The same way the angels report to Allah daily about us, is the same way all of Iblis’s soldiers report to him too, because he is in competition with Allah, so he wants daily reports on his progress to corrupt the believing humans and jinn. Abu Musa (ra) reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When Satan (Iblis) awakens in the morning, he dispatches his troops, saying: Whoever misguides a Muslim today, I will dress him with a crown. This one will go out and say: I did not leave him alone until he divorced his wife. Satan will say: A Muslim is about to get married. This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he disrespected his parents. Satan will say: A Muslim is about to be good to his parents. This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he committed idolatry. Satan will say: You, you! Another will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he committed adultery. Satan will say: You, you! This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he killed someone. Satan will say: You, you! Then he will dress him with a crown.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 6189 Grade: Sahih (authentic) So, when does this happen with the qareen? In accordance to the research of Ibn Al Qayyim Al Jawzeyah on the soul, I believe it to be in the 1st 3rd of the night when we are asleep and they have no influence over us or our dreams, as Allah descends to our Dunya in that time and the soul travels to the spirit world, so all dreams will be divinely influenced. There is no creature created by Allah who is evil by nature, no humans or jinn. Even the predatory nature in animals is for their own survival and Allah created prey animals as food for them. In regards to the qareen not reporting to Iblis if we overpower them, if they continue to obey Iblis and challenge us then they will still have to produce a progress report, because they have a leader. Iblis will either belittle, punish, dismiss or send extra help if they don’t do well. What’s the support? Sending other evil jinns to take you away from the right path like the ashig jinn, possessed humans and other problematic individuals like covert narcissists and malignant narcissists who do black magic. Is there a possibility the qareen can become a believer and stop obeying Iblis if they are too weak to continue the job and actually start to like you and your way of life? Yes, because they have free will, no one can say that this isn’t possible, due to Allah’s mercy for all His creation. He gives every human and jinn the chance to repent before death and the jinn actually have more of an advantage than humans, as they can live for much longer. However, the only qareen who was a believer to begin with, by the help of Allah, was the one assigned to The Prophet (saw) because of the weight and scale of his dawah mission. Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (ra) reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Each one of you has a devil-companion from the jinn over him.” They said, “Even you, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet said, “Even me, yet Allah helped me against him until he embraced Islam. He does not order me to do anything but good.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2814 Grade: Sahih (authentic) Allah did this for The Prophet (saw), because Iblis works the hardest to corrupt the righteous people in dawah and those who are scholars, to kill the correct message of Islam and people’s love for Allah. Iblis, on the other hand, rewards and supports the corrupt dawah people and scholars, who spread an incorrect, harsh and disturbing understanding of Islam that can push people away from it and cause them to view Allah as a tyrant. Sa’id ibn Dawud reported: Makhlad ibn al-Husyan, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Allah never tells something to His servants but that Satan interferes with it in one of two ways. He does not care which of them succeeds. Either he makes them exaggerate in it (extremism), or he makes them belittle it (liberalism).” Abu Nu’aym reported: Ibrahim ibn Adham, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “It is said that nothing is harder upon Iblis than a wise and patient scholar. If he speaks, he speaks with correct knowledge. If he is silent, he is silent with forbearance (wisdom and patience).” In regards to your second question, they associate themselves with Iblis, because they have chosen to follow his leadership, the same way some humans have chosen to be evil, instead of good and rebel against the laws of Allah. The qareen who is assigned to you, is assigned by Iblis and not Allah. Allah allows Iblis to do this, but as protection from his soldiers, Allah sends us 4 angels who accompany us everyday. If we read the athkars, the angels can do their job well. If we don’t, then we are at the mercy of Allah and sometimes, we have to face the consequences of not reading the athkars (i.e., the jinn get access to us via heavy waswas and temptations to sin, which is the human being’s greatest issue - like it was with Adam (as). It is the issue Allah warns us about in Surat Falaq). At the end of the day, nothing will happen except by Allah’s will and angels can protect you from other dangers too, such as being hit by a car or not dying from choking. Hope that answers your question. I wrote a detailed response in case anyone else has the same question or doubts. I have already answered this in a previous podcast, but can’t remember which one now. Please know that I wouldn’t give islamic information to people that I’m unsure of or isn’t authentic. It is a responsibility I carry with honour, great care and integrity.
I used to show off my ex husband because i was in awe of him and how i even deserved someone like that (Codependency in me). But i also wanted others to have what I have.. i didnt want haters but i couldnt stop showing him off. Was i subconsciously wanting haters? Also what if i hid him, would i not have dealt with a narc manchild? Alot of people in my family do say there was hasad but i just feel terrible if i did all this
Unfortunately, even if your intention would have been good, you can attract Others in whom jealousy and envy could have been triggered. Not everyone has a good intention and a clean heart. Thus, Dr Mona in this podcast refers specially how even at Weddings so many different photos are taken to be shared with Others Thus, from the learning gained from this podcast I would say to share several photos as more intimate too i.e. cutting a wedding cake together can even trigger a yearn from Others. Some could have the intention of rubbing it into Others. If a couple are getting married for each Other why do those not even related to the couple need to see any of the photos and why provide them too. In today's world of social media, how photos can be forwarded on or rather even taken without us aware for the sole purpose of sharing with Others. We don't want to be in a scenario of where we are the topic of discussion behind our backs and on our blessings. In my opinion, such gatherings can trigger the yearning even more thus then releasing jealousy and envy. It reminds me of a person in India who had to ask on a talk show because she was struggling to shake off Neighbours who would be peeping onto them. She was told to just tell them today, all sorts of drama happened and something on the lines of it was all horrible. It puts to bed evil which could have been become even bigger and ruining the actual happy and loving environment they had in their home. I hope the details I provide help.
Can you make a podcast about toxic family members? For example toxic grandparents and you want to protect your children from them? Or another expample they Will use your children to hurt you…😢
There is already a podcast which can be adapted to the issue you raise. A particular emphasis on setting Boundaries. I had found this podcast to be very informative. 12 | Understanding Narcissistic Siblings and Navigating Life with them at Home th-cam.com/video/NydAhTUNlKo/w-d-xo.html All the Best.
Please do not add non Islamic concepts and add innovated principles and terminology that Allah and his prophet did not use in delineating core Islamic principles of our religion. If you wish to write about pop psychology please feel free to do so, without linking it to our beautiful religion.
Please try to understand the details in the context provided. How I am doing so as I have started going through the podcast kindly provided. We are moving towards becoming a society where the context is misconstrued more and more. Thank you.
@fatherandson1_____ my comment from this morning was directed at you. I am just now finishing the podcast, Superb, Superb and Superb. One of the best life lessons to instill in us.
I absolutely LOVE that we have someone like you who is speaking about these things from an Islamic perspective. Thank you so much.😊
You're welcome my dear thank you for your kind comment :)
Dr Mona I feel blessed to follow ur channel, as if Allah sent you to open the knots of my mind and heart
I was thinking of people who watch your stories but never utter a word and Alhamdulillah you posted this gem 💎
This channel is a MUST - in this era of jealousy. Every single interaction you have with those in the world is leveraged on how people perceive you as a threat. Indeed, your own family members also turn against you too - in some cases. This video is a goldmine of information on how to protect yourself from the jealous individuals you meet on a daily basis & those you meet by chance. Listen to her words & take heed of her advice. Tgank you Dr Mona ❤
Yes, intimidating Others when we could just be going about our daily lives.
We could only be operating on a human being level as Allah(SWT) wants us to be in our Character and also aligning with the teachings in our Quran.
How could everyone word be so spot on 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 mashallah! People need to own up and take notes
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Thank you dear sister for your amazing explanation.
I noticed that, especially the envious family and friends are the ones who never leave you alone, they are the ones who chace you, who seek your advice, seek your financial, psychological, and social support.
They know you are an empath and they take advantage of you in every possible way.
İnterestingly while they are seeking your help and receiving your generosity in every level, they criticize you a lot. They tell your face how naive , even fool you are, make condescending jokes about you openly or indirectly at times, say things to doubt yourself. They belittle what you have from time to time and wish to see you ungrateful like themselves.
You wonder why the way you think, the way you look, the way you live is under scrutiny and criticism.
They gossip about you under the mask of caring loving sisters. "
Everytime they shatter you with their indirect or direct words or behavior you doubt yourself "Maybe they are depressed, maybe because of their difficult past, maybe they are right that I am too naive to see the reality, maybe they didn't mean that, maybe I am too sensitive, maybe people are all bad and no one to trust as they repeatedly utter.....
And one day Narcissistic rage hits you hard 😮 and Allah reveals to you that these people actually hate you to the guts and they were jealous of you all along. All they wanted was to destroy you.
When they cannot control you or make you destroy yourself they start the smear campaign to control what other people think of you. They tell your friends and neighbors, colleagues despicable things about you. Suddenly, people stop talking to you, they give you strange looks, they say away from you...
Allah is a witness that you unconditionally loved and supported these people for many many years. You were always there for them for Allah'a sake.
Alhamdülillah Allah showed you their true colors.
Alhamdülillah finally you found out that they were your secret enemies .
Alhamdulillah Alhamdülillah Alhamdulillah
Wow you just shared my exact life experience. How difficult, no? I'm sorry for this. .May Allah protect you from them. These podcasts have been such eye openers mashallah. It's like the lights turned on. Mashallah
What an epic and amazing podcast Allahumma barik this was SO NEEDED 😢 you covered every point perfectly and clearly and your unique honest approach inspires people to self reflect.
Jazaki Allahu khair for your great love for this ummah and the effort it took to record this long podcast for us. I didn’t want it to end. It really blew my mind (as usual!!) ❤
@@Rana-Abbas79 you’re welcome ♥️
Jazakallahu khairan Dr. Mona for another extraordinaire talk. I once over shared with someone who is very envious of me. They unloaded and I did too. Once I did, I could see the joy in their eyes that am not perfect either. They have more money, a husband and many things that I don’t have. But I think they hate my stability, peace of mind and state of contentment I always profess.
Another point you mention and which she did to me twice is introduce me to crappy potential partners as I am single. One I discovered was liar and big con artist very dishonest guy, always making shady deals. The coupling did not go through because we were from different cast system. I later found out this guy was nothing, he was always running away from debtors and people he robbed blind by his shady deals. The other guy was a huge player. I myself noticed his wondering eye and loads of female back burner friends. One of my biggest fears in life is to catch an STD so I dropped that loser also. All these bad encounters are courtesy of this so called friend. Even when I try to distance myself, she is always trying to come to me. This, like many of your talks kept me up at night and all the memories pouring in, all the dots connecting, am so mad ! People can be hateful and cunning. Why would you pretend to be friends with someone you don't like? All this covert competition and sabotage. All the dots connect Dr. Mona! I consume your content so much now that I repeat your lingo like crazy now. Back burner and man child. :) Jazakillahu Khairan katheeran Dr. Mona.
Belal Assad is simply the best ❤
Mashallah! Thanks for that needed episode! Will surely listen in parts ...alhamdulillah for the Hikmah you got from god
Took me a couple of days to get through this one. Really liked the breakdown between jealousy and envy. May Allah save our society. I think the most painful stress in our lives as a planet is narcissism. People acting in self interest and manipulating everyone through their circles to comply and drain those who are vulnerable
just finished listening to your podcast and as always it was a great one. Jealousy and envy from family and Friends we consider family is the hardest thing to heal from 💔
Both malignant Narcissistic Parents. It was never a relationship but just a competition. The game had to never end because they could never compete then triggering a Narcissistic Injury followed by a Narcissistic Rage. Aside, from using my energy and resources to make their 6 bedroom house and catapult themselves. They have to stay higher than me otherwise they start burning for that reason too.
This podcast really resonated with me , Malignant narcissistic mothers have a deep rooted jealousy and envy towards their own children. They are constantly seeking out ways to sabotage them and cause immense pain and suffering by doing so. They have a evil demonic presence which is constantly monitoring, gossiping,backbiting , slandering; creating chaos and drama everywhere they go. Their children’s happiness and autonomy is a threat to the Narc Mothers fragile ego.
The points you mentioned about betrayal is spot on . There is a sense of pleasure and entertainment they gain by being deceitful.
Thank you Dr Mona for addressing the topic of envy and jealousy and please keep me in your prayers so I can be free from Narcissistic abuse.❤
Thus topic the muslim narcissist mother, with their daughters really needs to be spoken about. It's one of the hardest things to live with, a real test and battle. A lot of tears, pain and confusion. It's against nature. And it's hard to speak or seek help for this because it is just so unbelievable, but it's so real. So very painful. So very confusing and they manipulate and or know you're fear Allah and you try and try and try and pray and hope okay this time around maybe my mother will change. Or she does briefly and fooling you only to use you, and offend again. Forget about when the disease has passed onto your siblings and it's a gang up. The gaslighting, smear campaigns, constant back biting, constant envy. It's the darkest stuff I've seen and felt. You can be strong, and still its tough.
Finding this book and podcast though has been able to explain a lot to me and confirm all that I have seen, and been through.
It's also helped my imam and deen. Because for years all that behavior narcissistic mom, narcissistic marriage your mother pushed you into, btw. So yeah unfortunately I did loose my way for a while.
Hearing all of this brought me back to my worship, turned on so many light bulbs. And I feel so blessed, so blessed hamdulilah.
Mashallah aleek, may Allah bless you as this is really needed. Changed my life, willah.
Liked it even before watching 💗
Yay new podcast!
Thank you sister may Allah reward you
Jazzak Allah khair for sharing your beautiful knowledge. May Allah bless you and keep you safe from all harm. Ameen ❤
Ameen my dear may Allah bless you I'm glad you enjoy it :)
Your covert enemies also never support you in public to avoid people they were gossiping you to seeing their support.
They don’t wanna support you and they don’t want the people they gossip you with seeing their two faced hypocrisy but they wanna hang around you to know what’s going on with you.
They keep tabs on you.
Some might criticize you publicly in the name of “advising” you but it’s meant to humble you and expose your weaknesses.
Never Ever ever post anything about your personal life on social media. Don’t even upload pictures or post anything. Be mysterious, quiet about your goals and successes.
Avoid their events, go too early or too late after they’re gone if it’s a family event you can’t miss.
Also get rid of flying monkeys, your enemies agents feeding them information
Dr. Mona hit the nail on the head, trust me I lived this life she’s right!
This post 🤌🏾
100% to every point. Thank you for sharing ❤
Subhan Allah - this is really one to listen to - I resonated with so many parts of this! May Allah SWT protect you SiS ❤
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As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sister Mona, soebhanAllah every time I face a problem. My dear sister with knowledge drops a podcast that can help me with the problems I deal with. May Allah Almighty grant you so much hassanaat for your efforts. And may we meet in jannat ul firdaus. Greetings from the Netherlands ❤
@@Hajarlovesislam alhamdulilah ♥️
Subhanallah I feel exactly the same sister Mona . I haven’t been able to listen to your podcasts for a while but managed to catch up alhamdullilah. Every since I’ve started listening you your podcast was always what I was dealing with and going through at that moment 🥰🤲. Ma
Masha allah thank you so much!!! I really needed to hear this! I also cut a lot of toxic friends but sometimes I was doubting about it, now I know it was a right decision. May allah protect you Mona❤
Alhamdulilah I"m glad it helped, may Allah bless you :)
The bit about intuition vs. waswas is very helpful. There were times where I felt a big sense of doom after talking to someone, even though I liked them and couldn't pinpoint any clear red flags. I listened to my intuition in those moments, but I always wondered if I was being too paranoid.
Really amazing episode mashAllah! I will have to listen to it a second time to fully absorb it inshallah
Allahuma barik Dr Mona another amazing podcast. Your podcasts have helped me really in learning from an Islamic perspective. It’s like you were send by Allah swt for me to start listening to you at the time of need and learn Alhamdullilah 🤲🥰
@@munamohamud8622 alhamdulilah ♥️
Sister Mona, JazakAllahu Khairan for sharing this valuable information for free on TH-cam. It's truly amazing! I'm only three-quarters of the way through the video, but I've already decided to purchase your book on Amazon. In today's era of narcissism, your content is really a breath of fresh air. - it's clear you're incredibly knowledgeable mashaAllah. I can't wait to dive deeper into your book and content!
you're welcome my brother I'm glad you enjoy it and find it helpful alhamdulilah
@3.01 I'm going thru most of the signs you've mentioned. I'm feeling blockers in my mind to do anything.
insha'Allah catch up on our next counselling session.
You've been super supportive in my transition. appreciate the PDF
May Allah protect you from evil and harm and grant you afiyah
May Allah reward you immensely for all the good you are doing by putting out videos about these absolutely vital topics.
@@zarifa8865 Ameen jazaki Allah khair I’m glad you enjoy them :)
2:35:40 one thing I'd add, and I don't know if you said it already (apologies if you did!!) that narcissists also feel energised and happy around "empaths". Their nafs/qareen feeds off of your good energy...
@@user-nf79 yes they do and that’s why I said when you feel energized by someone but you get bad thoughts about them, it’s from the evil Qareen who doesn’t want you around empaths and when you feel drained by someone and get bad thoughts it’s your intuition working for you, telling you to avoid them. If you feel drained around someone but force yourself to think well of them, that’s from your good character and upbringing, but also your Qareen is working hard on your thoughts to confuse you and keep you around toxic people.
@@themuslimnarcissistbook so both the empath and narc are being controlled by their Qareen? In the former, it makes the bad seem good, and in the latter, it makes the good seem bad? Oh my... Astaghfirullah. May Allah grant us VICTORY over these wrong thoughts that destroy what would otherwise be a beautiful life filled with nourishing beautiful friendships.... Astaghfirullah al-azheem.
JAK Dr Mona. Excellent talk and it was timely for me. Thank you for the athkar pdf.
You're welcome Moe :)
2:54:20 - Hands Up. Who else fell for it the first time around? I had to return to the podcast to double-check some of the details and this time I was prepared. The first time I was frantically checking my other opened tabs in the browser to see where the switch in voice had come from. I really fell for it, D'oh!
In reality, it was just a very nice light hearted switch on such an intense topic. The lighting of the mood was definitely required just before listening to a Mother in Law joining a couple on their honeymoon, Jeez!
@@suhailmohmed661 😂😂😂
I enjoyed this podcast it was really helpful
Wow at hour 3 - the list of issues one has if they’re evil eyed… painfully that is a lot of things I’m facing. Please make dua for me everyone. May Allah help me
Thanks! It was very helpful!
Walaikum Assalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh ❤❤❤, Jazakumullah khaiyr ..i had extreme body aches and fatigue i started the ruqya and Alhamdulillah it is curing me,may Allah reward you × 1000 for every second i stay pain-free.💝
I see why there was a trigger warning to this episode. Such a nasty spiritual disease. May Allah not test us to have it and not test us to become victims of it. 🤲🏼
i love your voice sister😘
😂 as you mentions Omar Suleman scolar ya he is charming scolar. I only have respect for these types of mens. He wins many womens hearts and minds.
Salaam Dr Mona Alyedreessy veen a long time and hope you have been keeping very well. I would like more information if possibleto get a better understanding about generational curses how what why if you understand my question
@@STYLOtest wsalaam all good thanks hope you’re well too. What do you mean by generational curse?
@@themuslimnarcissistbook 😊 shukran for asking in return I am well Alhamdulillah and glad you are well too. For protection and privacy purposes of the individual I will email you directly to give you context In Shaa Allah
Can you make a video on little narcs, children, is there such a thing as born narcs?
No one is born a narc, but children can copy the toxic behaviour of others and what they see in cartoons etc and it makes them hard to deal with. They also develop anger issues and behaviour problems when they are put through traumas, neglect and incorrect discipline that is harsh and unfair.
As we wb JZK sister. How do I get my emotions back after narc abuse I can’t feel anything anymore or cry.? Help!!
Having been a Victim of Narcissistic abuse over the past 30 years from 2 malignant parents it was a special kind of hell. Also, using 4 siblings as flying monkey's and then all their enablers. I don't even have 1 relative on my side from around 20 but I am now more stronger and wiser than I have ever been. They still come here and can't even greet me but I no longer cry about it.
Above all else, seek Allah(SWT). He will direct you, comfort you, love you, guide you and so much more. As Yakub AS, complain about your anguish and sorrow to Allah(SWT) only when he is the one who has the solutions.
In the meantime, we have to do all on our side too. I had to do so much Education, and Self-Care over decades now. I can advise also as:
1. Moving your body with exercise.
2. Practicing mindfulness.
3. Minimizing stress.
4. Getting plenty of rest.
5. Eating nutritious foods
We have to do the inner work as Dr Mona often refers so in many of her podcasts. The result is you can become your best version. I never thought I would become my best version as I now have by myself and Others and in my relationship with Allah(SWT). But keep striving for even more. I really have to pinch myself.
Furthermore, we have a beautiful hereafter awaiting us. You can be in the same situation as me and other Victims i.e. the reward which can await you and so much so we would want to come back to this world all over again to go through even more betrayals, pain, suffering, harm, neglect, abuse and so much more. I have had huge tests which has tested my patience. We are the fortunate ones and to engage in a great act of worship i.e. patience. As per the teaching in our Quran, the reward is without limit. So we potentially would not even have to go through the scales on the Day of Judgement. Rather, if anyone's life has been running smoothly, they should be worrying on where are their opportunities to engage in this particular great act of patience. I was to then notice how patient I became in my character so much so I don't even know how to start shouting etc.
I have been enjoying my own solitude for such a long time but it allowed me to keep growing as a person. When we can have Allah(SWT) on our side then you have everything. Allah(SWT) is always with the Oppressed person and when we raise our hands in Dua to Allah(SWT) there is no barrier between us.
I shall keep you in my Dua's.
All the very best.
I have a question. I have been listening to your podcast for a long time. I'm grateful to Allah he guided me to your TH-cam channel.
I came to know from your podcast that our Qareens have the daily duty of reporting to the head of Shayateen or Iblees. Is there any authentic hadith which mentions that something like this happens on a daily basis?
And I also understood from your podcast that the Qareen is not evil by nature. We have the ability to overpower the qareen by elevating our nafs. If the Qareens are not evil by nature and that they can be overpowered by us in a way they don't command us anything evil,
A) Do they still report to the Iblees every single day even after we overpower them and elevate our nafs?
B) If the Qareens are not inherently evil (or if they are not created by Allah with a sole purpose of commanding evil things to the human beings), then why do they have the duty of reporting about us to the iblees? I mean why do they associate themselves with iblees by reporting to him if they are not inherently evil?
These are the doubts I have. In no way this is to question you arrogantly. I'm seeking knowledge from you as someone who has learnt so much from you. Thank you.❤
Alslaam alaikom, no problem.
The same way the angels report to Allah daily about us, is the same way all of Iblis’s soldiers report to him too, because he is in competition with Allah, so he wants daily reports on his progress to corrupt the believing humans and jinn.
Abu Musa (ra) reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When Satan (Iblis) awakens in the morning, he dispatches his troops, saying: Whoever misguides a Muslim today, I will dress him with a crown. This one will go out and say: I did not leave him alone until he divorced his wife. Satan will say: A Muslim is about to get married. This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he disrespected his parents. Satan will say: A Muslim is about to be good to his parents. This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he committed idolatry. Satan will say: You, you! Another will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he committed adultery. Satan will say: You, you! This one will come and say: I did not leave him alone until he killed someone. Satan will say: You, you! Then he will dress him with a crown.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 6189
Grade: Sahih (authentic)
So, when does this happen with the qareen? In accordance to the research of Ibn Al Qayyim Al Jawzeyah on the soul, I believe it to be in the 1st 3rd of the night when we are asleep and they have no influence over us or our dreams, as Allah descends to our Dunya in that time and the soul travels to the spirit world, so all dreams will be divinely influenced.
There is no creature created by Allah who is evil by nature, no humans or jinn. Even the predatory nature in animals is for their own survival and Allah created prey animals as food for them.
In regards to the qareen not reporting to Iblis if we overpower them, if they continue to obey Iblis and challenge us then they will still have to produce a progress report, because they have a leader. Iblis will either belittle, punish, dismiss or send extra help if they don’t do well. What’s the support? Sending other evil jinns to take you away from the right path like the ashig jinn, possessed humans and other problematic individuals like covert narcissists and malignant narcissists who do black magic. Is there a possibility the qareen can become a believer and stop obeying Iblis if they are too weak to continue the job and actually start to like you and your way of life? Yes, because they have free will, no one can say that this isn’t possible, due to Allah’s mercy for all His creation. He gives every human and jinn the chance to repent before death and the jinn actually have more of an advantage than humans, as they can live for much longer. However, the only qareen who was a believer to begin with, by the help of Allah, was the one assigned to The Prophet (saw) because of the weight and scale of his dawah mission.
Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (ra) reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Each one of you has a devil-companion from the jinn over him.” They said, “Even you, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet said, “Even me, yet Allah helped me against him until he embraced Islam. He does not order me to do anything but good.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2814
Grade: Sahih (authentic)
Allah did this for The Prophet (saw), because Iblis works the hardest to corrupt the righteous people in dawah and those who are scholars, to kill the correct message of Islam and people’s love for Allah. Iblis, on the other hand, rewards and supports the corrupt dawah people and scholars, who spread an incorrect, harsh and disturbing understanding of Islam that can push people away from it and cause them to view Allah as a tyrant.
Sa’id ibn Dawud reported: Makhlad ibn al-Husyan, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Allah never tells something to His servants but that Satan interferes with it in one of two ways. He does not care which of them succeeds. Either he makes them exaggerate in it (extremism), or he makes them belittle it (liberalism).”
Abu Nu’aym reported: Ibrahim ibn Adham, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “It is said that nothing is harder upon Iblis than a wise and patient scholar. If he speaks, he speaks with correct knowledge. If he is silent, he is silent with forbearance (wisdom and patience).”
In regards to your second question, they associate themselves with Iblis, because they have chosen to follow his leadership, the same way some humans have chosen to be evil, instead of good and rebel against the laws of Allah. The qareen who is assigned to you, is assigned by Iblis and not Allah. Allah allows Iblis to do this, but as protection from his soldiers, Allah sends us 4 angels who accompany us everyday. If we read the athkars, the angels can do their job well. If we don’t, then we are at the mercy of Allah and sometimes, we have to face the consequences of not reading the athkars (i.e., the jinn get access to us via heavy waswas and temptations to sin, which is the human being’s greatest issue - like it was with Adam (as). It is the issue Allah warns us about in Surat Falaq).
At the end of the day, nothing will happen except by Allah’s will and angels can protect you from other dangers too, such as being hit by a car or not dying from choking.
Hope that answers your question. I wrote a detailed response in case anyone else has the same question or doubts. I have already answered this in a previous podcast, but can’t remember which one now.
Please know that I wouldn’t give islamic information to people that I’m unsure of or isn’t authentic. It is a responsibility I carry with honour, great care and integrity.
I used to show off my ex husband because i was in awe of him and how i even deserved someone like that (Codependency in me). But i also wanted others to have what I have.. i didnt want haters but i couldnt stop showing him off. Was i subconsciously wanting haters?
Also what if i hid him, would i not have dealt with a narc manchild? Alot of people in my family do say there was hasad but i just feel terrible if i did all this
Unfortunately, even if your intention would have been good, you can attract Others in whom jealousy and envy could have been triggered. Not everyone has a good intention and a clean heart. Thus, Dr Mona in this podcast refers specially how even at Weddings so many different photos are taken to be shared with Others Thus, from the learning gained from this podcast I would say to share several photos as more intimate too i.e. cutting a wedding cake together can even trigger a yearn from Others. Some could have the intention of rubbing it into Others. If a couple are getting married for each Other why do those not even related to the couple need to see any of the photos and why provide them too.
In today's world of social media, how photos can be forwarded on or rather even taken without us aware for the sole purpose of sharing with Others. We don't want to be in a scenario of where we are the topic of discussion behind our backs and on our blessings. In my opinion, such gatherings can trigger the yearning even more thus then releasing jealousy and envy.
It reminds me of a person in India who had to ask on a talk show because she was struggling to shake off Neighbours who would be peeping onto them. She was told to just tell them today, all sorts of drama happened and something on the lines of it was all horrible. It puts to bed evil which could have been become even bigger and ruining the actual happy and loving environment they had in their home.
I hope the details I provide help.
Can you make a podcast about toxic family members? For example toxic grandparents and you want to protect your children from them? Or another expample they Will use your children to hurt you…😢
There is already a podcast which can be adapted to the issue you raise. A particular emphasis on setting Boundaries. I had found this podcast to be very informative.
12 | Understanding Narcissistic Siblings and Navigating Life with them at Home
th-cam.com/video/NydAhTUNlKo/w-d-xo.html
All the Best.
@@suhailmohmed661 barak allahu fiek
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He or she who likes envy like the troubles
Please do not add non Islamic concepts and add innovated principles and terminology that Allah and his prophet did not use in delineating core Islamic principles of our religion. If you wish to write about pop psychology please feel free to do so, without linking it to our beautiful religion.
@@fatherandson1_____ I think you’re missing the whole point of the work I do.
Please try to understand the details in the context provided. How I am doing so as I have started going through the podcast kindly provided. We are moving towards becoming a society where the context is misconstrued more and more. Thank you.
@fatherandson1_____ my comment from this morning was directed at you. I am just now finishing the podcast, Superb, Superb and Superb. One of the best life lessons to instill in us.
MashAllah, Dr Mona has sound Islamic and psychological knowledge. She knows her stuff.