Be A Man - What does this mean and is it a good thing? (Titanfall Gameplay Commentary)
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Did you parents ever tell you to "be a man" about something while growing up? Or that you should "man up?" Or that "men don't cry?" This video talks about the pressures of being a man and what that means for out society. Gameplay is some good old Call of Duty Ghosts Gameplay.
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Driftor, I subscribed to you because I needed some weapon reviews that was 2 years ago. Nowadays I don't even play call of duty but your philosophical videos and your most epic dream videos just keep me subscribed, Great job
Same :)
Same.
more people like me :)
jesus, 2.5 years ago or so
Pookie I'm exactly the same lol
Men: In depth
If you don't cry when your dog dies you are no man. You are a cold emotionless robot.
being a man
you most be swift as a coursing river
with all the force of a great typhoon
with all the strength of a raging fire
and mysterious as the dark side of the moon
Comment of the year
thank you
+Goldenkosher saxybacon lol I'm 14 and I get it
Mulan?
It isn't about the macho thing, that's just ego of other's talking and what people set as a normalcy. My dad used to tell me this all of the time, and now he isn't even in my life anymore. He wasn't "being a man" just because he weight lifted and could hold a job when he couldn't even be there for my family. He was being an asshole who was incredibly insecure of himself and couldn't put his dreams ahead of us.
Anybody who needs that "escape" from reality by using or smoking any sort of drug, no matter if it's legal or not, going out to taverns and getting hammered or rampantly going on sex escapades aren't men either. They tell themselves it's "fun" but only because they can't look at themselves in the mirror and cope with who they are. They aren't men, they are shell of a man.
All people want is to be respected. If a man respects his body, respects others, and helps people out, they're more likely to be seen as a good man. That won't always mean they are seen as socially competent, but they will be seen as having more responsibility and is a reliable part of society.
I learned not to care what society thinks a man should be. Life is too short to worry about that nonsense.
Exactly my thoughts.
Living is the longest thing you ever do....
Sorry everytime somebody says lifes too short i need to say this
***** I must disagree. What you do for the majority of time is not existing.
***** They are not talking about time, they are talking about life time. You don't count the years before your born or after your dead. The time in between those to point can be long or short depending on who you ask.
Ahmed Mustafa Well I guess , Thats a bold phrase you're saying there
*CSI maimi music plays*
A man does what he wants, unless it damages others
A man can be trusted
A man is not ashamed of anything that is not wrong
A man takes care of his own
+Dionisie Tarlev (Silver) So basically, most of the people on the internet are not men.
***** lol
I love when people use the "be a man" to try to get them to do stuff for them.
I just reply with "I am being a man, by sitting here and ignoring you, and doing what I want!"
Well said !!
Being a man isn't always being strong, mentally or physically. Being a 'man' is doing what is right when it's required. Yes, this may be pulling out the knife and stabbing whomever stabbed you, but it's not being a robot. When a man stops being human, he ceases to be man. A man is someone who will care for his family,his friends,and anyone who needs it. It's being the light when somebody's life is dark. I would consider myself a man, but I wouldn't consider myself a man in the eyes of the general public.
I thought being a man was having male genaltalia... that is probably the only way to be a man
Tyler Hayman-Harrison zuck
My father died when I was 12. I'm now 21. Learning and deciding what makes a man over the last 9 grueling years has been, hands down, the hardest thing I've ever done.
Hi Drift0r,
I'm a 16 year old boy and today is my birthday.
And a week ago I broke up with my girlfriend because she cheated on me. And afterwards I cried three hours because I just loved her so much. And I am proud of crying about her.
LG
Leon (16), Germany
Happy Birthday
Rough times, buddy. If you are crying for her and she cheated on you she didn't deserve you. That's what I try to think of when such things happen, even though most times it doesn't work. Love is such a strong feeling man...
Happy bday :-)
Happy BDay Bud :D
Happy B-day sucks about your girlfriend though :-/
This is what sets you apart from the other CoD TH-camrs Drift0r. You're honest, sincere and always talk about the stuff that truly matters; issues in life, problems etc, other than just CoD/Gaming.
I hope one day TED talks invites you to share your views with the rest of the world.
Cheers
to be a man you must be swift as the coursing river, with all the force of a great typhoon, with all the strength of a raging fire, and as mysterious as the dark side of the moon.
What about Mulan?
You're my hero😂
Did you guys know that the suicide rates for men is almost four times that of the women in the United States? Do you think that societal pressures that Drifor described above contributes to this type of behavior? Being too preoccupied with the expectations of others should be the least of your worries. I'm proud to admit that I don't adhere to these foolish social constructs. I think that i'm more stronger when I have the strength to ignore the judgement of others. We can't simply tell other men to suck it up. The rise of depression, anxiety, and plethora of other social factors will not simply disappear if we just agree with these social standards.
Well more men are tormented by others than women are, you can be rude to a man as a man but being rude to a woman is going to be told to every woman they know.
Men being "rude" to eachother is usually just playing around and talking shit (as i have seen) it may be different other places but here if a man says something along the lines of "man up" its a joke and is not to be taken serieously
The suicide rates for men are 4 times that of women, yet women still attempt suicide more. To quote George Carlin: "Men are better at it".
I bet that you do adhere to some foolish social constructs, but you just don't know it. That's a big topic in psychology. Advertising does affect you, you just don't want to believe it does. Things do affect you, but you try to block them off as much as possible. Everyone thinks that they are immune to society's pressures, but in reality nobody is immune. The whole entire world is based off of societal constructions. You are doing things that you don't even realize that you have been conditioned to do by society. Things that you would not have done if society was different.
I used to pretend that other people's thoughts and actions didn't affect me. But I know it's not true. And it's healthier in my opinion to realize the truth instead of hiding from it.
Matt McConaha You shouldn't twist people's words to suit you. I never did say that I was immune to all of society's pressures nor did I not adhere to certain societal constructs. My exact words were " I'm proud to admit that I don't adhere to these foolish social constructs." These social structures in this context would be the expectations of what it means to be "masculine." Trust me, I have failed numerous test from other men because I don't meet their meaningless expectations of masculinity. When that occurs, I don't change my actions to meet their requirements.
All of our characteristics are acquired through nature vs nurture. Also, we do learn a lot about societal standards through acculturation or enculturation. It would be a plain lie if I said that nothing in society such as advertisements had no affect on me. So I do comprehend these truths and I don't need anyone such as yourself telling me this.
Turning 22 later this year, I notice the drastic change in my personality from when I was in high school. This boring, "mature" self I am feels as if I screw up moments, behave like a clown, people will look down on me +OMGitsMoose is absolutely correct, I feel like I have a responsibility to carry and if I don't act like this typical arrogant, cold person, people won't respect me and they'll push me around... being "mature" at the expense of my sense of humor? I don't know...it feels a bit off.
When I was little others told me a man doesnt cry, my father told me crying shows you are strong enough to show your weakness and stand above it, he told me that true honour, true courage, is not walking into the arena emotionless or acting curageous just because you are forced to do it, it is walking in, knowing that you will die and still keeping your head up in the sight of the lion, no matter how much your knees shake, how many tears run down your face, it is not not to cry about a broken leg, but to keep going while crying...
I lived by that, now I'm in my late teens and whatever gets me down I just keep going! and recently I smiled and felt so great when I heard something, "A real man doesn't die, even if he is killed" it is up to you how you interpret this but I love to think that who thought of this had the same ideas as my dad :)
the quote above is from an anime called Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann, it's an awesome show about manliness and friendship and giant robots and is surprisingly wise in some aspects :P including this (changed) When you feel down, remember to believe in yourself, not the you who believes in others, or the others who believe in you, you have to believe in the you who believes in himself!
is this the ghosts invasion dlc?
Driftor you are the voice of this generation, your enlightened views are making me want you and need you.
If I could only watch one TH-camr it would be you Drift0r. The variety in his channel is extraordinary and even with daily uploads the quality is top-notch. I love you Drift0r
Love these introspective commentaries by drift0r. Even though doing gameplay commentary isn't popular on YT he still does them and they're amazing!
It says ghosts gameplay In title
I wish it was the video that needed the correcting :P
LOL'd irl.
Louey7777 lol no, titanfall is so much better then ghosts.
volt
If more boring to play and watch is "so much better," then I agree (:
***** at least Titanfall is new and fresh
Drift0r should replace Dr. Phil.
there's a disturbing lack of Mulan jokes....
LOL
I'm done being a racist.....I was taught that a real man treats everyone with respect and I lost my way.
I really appreciate how you appeal to the intellectual 'side' of TH-cam. I really suck at call of duty for some reason so I really rely on the detailed knowledge you provide to at least make the game playable to me! Your channel is more intelligent then most science and education channels out there. Great job.
I find these commentaries really interesting, and most subjects driftor talks about are interesting too. This is why I like this channel.
I like how you tackle these difficult themes with a sense of respect for everyone involved. A thumbs up for that.
I think times are already changing in respect to this aspect of being a man. I for one have been through many hardships as I'm sure everyone else has, and knowing when to express these feelings and when to hold them in has allowed me to get much closer with my friends and girls that I am interested in. There definitely isn't anything wrong with showing what is bothering you/what things you would like to change, just be yourself.
Ah the classic commentary. Too few of these now, thanks for keeping it alive Drift.
"There will come a day in which men no longer cheat each other. And on that day we will see what mankind is truly capable of."
-Giovanni Auditore (1436-1476)
AMEN driftor! There is a HUGE difference between showing no emotion and having emotional strength. My woman needs me to be emotionally strong for her but also nurturing, protective, sensitive, and open to her. I am gentle with her and respect and cherish her and she respects me as the leader of our (soon to be) marriage but I also keep my head when her emotions make her freak out. Emotional support is true manliness.
I don't even watch these videos anymore. I just start it and listen to the audio while I surf around. Keep up the excellent topics and commentaries Drift0r. Eat some more weird foods.
Talks like this are why i subscribed to you! Cause you arent afraid to talk about things like this that most people will shy away from. Good job and keep up the good content Driftor!
I love your critical views of social problems like these. Finally a person I can relate and can take knowledge a way from his opinions and beliefs.
"Hey, kid. Crying never solved anything! You gotta struggle; you gotta keep fightin' the good fight! And, once you've given it your all, if your best wasn't good enough, then you can cry--not before! A man's gotta earn his tears..."-Big Boss(Girls Bravo)
oh man, ghost got a lot better.
HA! XD
They were right, infinity ward really does copy titanfall *tsk tsk tsk*
"What happened? Your balls drop off?"- Joker
I live in WNY and nobody cares if you cry at a funeral, love your family, or are afraid of dangerous situations here, but at movies and things like that it is still weird to cry.
I'd rather be a human being than a hardened tough guy. But as you said, there's that "man switch" that turns on in a time of need.
Drift0r, you are my inspiration. You inspire me so much I cant even explain it, I've watched all of your videos and I've agreed with every single one of them. Thank you so much for this video.
I think a true man is someone who has a moral code and sticks by it, I really beat myself up only when I break my moral code once in awhile.
I grew up with my father telling me to be a man you are self efficient and capable of doing things on your own. Support a family, be able to repair and build vehicles/homes, taking charge. I've always been taught that emotions aren't something you should hide but never to let them affect others and the control them.
I grew up in a small town in British Columbia Canada, my family hunts, farms, works on trucks, repairs equipment, and helps and loves one another. Maybe it's an old fashion way of looking at manhood but I believe it's a healthy lifestyle to live.
Men are strong, responsible, accountable, and take care of their family, They will sacrifice what they have and hide any fear or doubt for the benefit of those they care about. As far as being loving and caring, I feel a man can show as much love and affection they want to, I have a wife and daughter and I would never hold back how much I love them to appear "manly".
I show my emotions a lot,and I don't feel like any less of a man. I have had some incredibly hard times in my life, in the past year actually, and they messed me up, I cried over things and i'm not ashamed to say I did. My best friends have been there when I have fallen apart, they don't think any less of me for doing it. Emotion is something you need to have in your life, keeping all of that inside is never a good thing. It's ok to cry and express love towards somebody, if anybody tries to make you feel bad bout yourself for doing it I think they are the ones who need to take a long hard look at themselves, not you.
Man Drift0r; really loving your more serious commentaries.
I believe in these old ways of thinking, I am the strongest person I know and I train to stay that way because its fun. I have only cried twice in my life, I have grown to be bitter and hateful but if you embrace the hate it becomes a motivator. By hating people and either whom they are or what they have or what they stand for... it drives you to become better than them. As a kid I hated the kids around me because of how they would treat me so I studied and worked out to be smarter and stronger
I think that being a man requires that you show virtuous behavior, like patience, being able to take responsibility for one's actions, and being able to not let your emotions cloud your judgement or affect others.
That was AWESOME. Finally someone understands. A lot of people see women as the victims of society and at times they are, but guys get hurt by it just as much. Just because it isn't the same, doesn't mean it isn't real. Guys still feel emotion. We still hurt. I was told it was impossible to have an eating disorder because that was a "girl's disease". Then I almost died. But people still look at me and laugh when I say that where as if a girl comes in, it's a tragedy. What about me? Just going to leave me to rot?
Men shouldn't cry or have emotions....that's bullcrap. The only thing that needs to grow a pair and man up is society
i started watching your COD videos a while ago, but now i watch all of what you post.
you're one of the good ones, sir. i'd like to think that we would have gotten along quite well in real life. we share a few of the same sensibilities... and a few of the odder penchants, as well (i.e. the fearless experimentation of bacon soda and the like).
If your a real man... You wont cry when you step on a lego.. :'
Well said.
I am a 12 year old growing up in Texas, and you see these things in school. I am also in pre ap classes, which are harder than normal classes. Before I was in this program, masculinity was the measurement of how cool you were. How fast you ran, how many bases you could steal, how many kids you pushed down. Now that I am in a classroom with other intellectuals, it is less so but still exists. I cry. All men should cry at one point or another. What I am trying to say here is that kids at a young age are taught that being mean or angry is cool.
I stopped watching you for 3 months but now I'm back!
I love your videos when you go super deep!
Drift0r you are one wise man and i love all these topics you talk about theyre situations and other scenarios ive been in/witness keep up the good work man :)
My father was a manly guy but he taught me early on that is alright to cry...a real man can cry, anyone who says anything else is the one who is insecure about themselves
In my personal opinion you are the person who you act and who are you are to others . Just like the person behind a gun, The gun doesn't kill people. Its the person behind the gun that kills someone.
There are so many standards and double-standards nowadays that it's basically turning into a massive mindfuck. But to be honest, I really don't care what people think of me. I'm the one that decides how I want to show my emotions, not this thing called "society".
I actually think showing your emotions is a sign of strength, trust and of humanity. Emotion will not make you less manly, because daring to show your emotions -in the current social situation- is a sign of (innate) courage. I have experienced certain strong, negative emotions, would I not have dared show them, I would most likely be dead now.
Awesome video by the way.
A man that is strong is the man that is not afraid to show emotions that our "society" might consider strange or unmanly. The men that show no emotion aren't human as emotions are what makes us human beings.
I cried when my grandad died.
I cried when my uncle died.
It's okay to cry in some situations.
In London we see dad wearing their children's bracelets and stuff and carry their kids on their shoulders. Dads love but most men don't reach that stage until they have a family of their own.
Drift0r, your vids are awesome! I like that you aren't afraid to talk about topics like this one, and express your opinion. Keep up the good work!
Great Commentary!!! I so agree with everything you say! A man should be able to express his feelings and not be hated on for doing so. Great job Driftor!!!
Haven't watched the video yet but in my opinion being a man is being able to protect the ones you love, and respect them
I always enjoy these commentating videos more than the in depth videos
Everyone feels fear, but an individual needs to know how to control that fear.
Something similarly heard is honor. "Don't you have any honor?"
"Have some honor!"
"Are you a coward? Where's your honor?!"
I'd like to hear a commentary on your thoughts and perception of honor, Drift0r :)
I totally agree with you. I consider myself an emotional person...I feel my feelings when appropriate. But I am a man because like I said I feel things when appropriate. When I need to be strong I am, when I need to be brave I am, and when I need to cry I do. I also feel like taking care of your responsibilities is a HUGE qualification to being a man. I have a family to houses and feed and they are well taken care of. So I feel my emotions yes and I am a Man
I agree with this 100%, I don't like the status quo of men being shut off and tough. At the same time when something emotionally challenging happens I do my best to be just that. I find it very strange and almost instinctual.
I also love titanfall gameplay, keep up the good work Drift0r! You are awesome!
One of the best videos you've done about life.
Shutting off emotions is an evolutionary milestone.
Good stuff, your videos never disappoint and your outro is the best, most concise ones I have witnessed.
Most of the people subbed to Drift0r appear to be too smart to care about manliness, I am happy to be a part of this community.
Being in the Army(not speaking for anyone just my experience) You really just learn there is a points in time you can't give up, you have to keep going and no matter what is going on you keep moving. The deal is though you do not need to be that 24/7 you just need to know when it matters and when being Solder or Man matters and when its not necessary.
Dritior, when will you have a bad commentary, all of your commentaries are awesome and though full. Keep up the great work. Btw I agreed with everything you said in the video.
I am very, happily surprised by the feedback here! Drift0r, you have one hell of an awesome group of subs, and I am very proud to be one of them :)
Being a man to means respecting everyone regardless of what they do or believe in.
A man to me, means showing compassion, leadership and that is also responsible.
lmfao are you high? grow a pair kthx its not like a FKIN MACHO has to suck up with anybody. This aint Mass Effect bro
I can ensure you than I am not high. I despise such drugs. How can I grow a pair if I am a female?
Great commentary... Ron Swanson said there's only two events that a man is allowed to cry: during funerals and while the national anthem is being played.
I havent played an fps in months and im still subbed to u, good job drift0r
"I'm not going to touch on their issues because not being not a woman I don't understand them well enough to speak on them."
Well said, Dirft0r, well said!
You basically described the call of duty community through this video. We always get pissed at one another because one person is too good or too big of a camper or something. I believe that we need to put an end to that in particular because as you said it's not necessary. Anyone who reads this can we all just get along? Can we all just say good game let's go again? I wish there was a world out there in the video game community that has better sportsmanship.
A man is suppose to be the protector of the family. That said, that does Not mean a man can't cry, love or be sad. But when the situation calls for it, he's there. A man will putt his family first and himself second, in all things.
Frankly Drift0r, I don't even know why I subscribed to you. But I've never had a day watching any of your vids that makes me question why I did. Your content is always good, your videos are always inspiring and you are always here to keep us entertained and thinking. No matter what other people say, know there are so many like me who are loyal to you for every reason we don't know why. Stay awesome.
Been a subscriber of yours for quite some time now Drift0r. And guess what? It's staying that way for a longggggggggg time! Please keep these great and powerful vid's up bro.
P.s. I'm that man that you were describing, and I to need to allow myself to feel more, and to know that it's okay for me not to challenge the world all the time and bottle my emotions out of fear that it makes me seem weak and vulnerable. Thanks man.
I totally agree with you! I love all of these videos you make and all of the points you make! I'm glad you've been making them and I hope you keep making more!!! Definitely my favorite TH-camr
You all have it wrong
To be a man, you must be:
Swift as a coursing river
With all the force of a great typhoon
With all the strength of a raging fire
Mysterious as the dark side of the moon
I think in middle school my tear ducts shriveled up and disappeared one day, because after sixth grade I might have seen the fear go away one day with the everyone. I didn't back down to a single person unless they showed me they were the bigger and badder person. Only few solely out of respect.
In recent times I haven't had many problems with not being a stereotypical man but growing up was hard, I hated sports, I didn't follow football, hurling, gaa whatever, I didn't enjoy playing them and because of that I always felt I didn't fit in with "normal" guys but I've since come to terms with that and found others who enjoy the stuff I do and thats great
This vid is one of your best videos so far. I never thought of that :)
In my opinion beeing a man can help sometimes. Because if you stay strong and you are trying to move on somebody believes you and can start to feel better.
I think some people have started mixing up courage, with not feeling, courage is acting in spite of your fears or sadness.
I have loved the new style your bring to the table of different subjects other than games lately keep it up bro and good gameplay
Hey Man Say What You Want Dude. You're Talking About Stuff Others Wouldn't. That's Sick Man. Great Video Dude.
tough, dependable, responsible, wisdom, and make other person feel safe and comfortable around him
I suggest for anyone to give "No More Mr Nice Guy" a read. This doesn't mean to become a super jerk and stop caring, it has an in-depth study on the "nice guy" syndrome and it has definitely helped me see tons of flaws within myself. You can find a PDF version online. 155 pages that will definitely teach you at least a thing or two.
"He who makes a beast out of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man."
my dad always told me that being a man meant trying to be better that you are.
not to be Mean to those how are weaker or jealous of those how are stronger and to try and do what has to be done when it needs to be done
Drift0r man i think you are a kind man what shows your a man is not how strong you are or how big your muscles are but how big your heart is and how understanding you are i think you are a strong guy in your own way Everyones strong in there own way and so far you are as well man also sorry for the bamd Grammer
i like these vids driftor.
its down to earth,makes me think, and im able to relate to them.
keep them up!
Always good to hear your thoughts and opinions Drift