Thank you for sharing Bindi. I have a similar situation. My mother has always been a hardworking black woman. She taught me to do the same. I've always been praised for my academic excellence. I am expected to "dominate the corporate ladder". Everyone who meets me says I am Mrs. President. However, when I was a child (2nd or 3rd grade) there was a girl in my class. She had an accident and she called her mother to come get her. The mom came bearing snacks. She was warm and friendly. This mom also went on school trips and volunteered often. I asked the girl the following day how her mother was able to leave work to come and get her. She told me that her mom did not work. She stayed home with her little brother. This had a great impact on me. Before this I never knew that mothers had the option of staying home. From that day on I had in my heart that I would like to stay home and nurture my children. If that woman had such a profound effect on me and I didn't even know her. I can only imagine the impact I can make in my children's lives. I am not yet married and do not have children. But I pray that the Lord will bless me to be able to be a homemaker.
I admire your wisdom! I am also in the corporate world with immense promise to keep on promoting but after becoming a mother I realized that I DESIRE to be a stay at home mom. I took a year off but unfortunately my husband doesn’t agree with my desires.
My husband left after 15 yrs of marriage. I didn't see it coming. I was very ill at the time and physically disabled. He spent all of the savings in our shared account over a 1 month period to fix up our house for another woman to move in, and removed me from his work insurance immediately I lost my physicians. I thought I was going to die at that point. Some ppl want to die in that situation, but I thought I would physically die. It's incredible what the Lord did. There were so many miracles.... I didn't know that my Disability Medicare was about to kick in. My medications had enough refills to carry me over until then. He didn't let me miss one day of my medications-- but it came close! Tested my faith, but He was always right on time. The new doctors I ended up with were better and sweeter than the ones I had prior, and have even helped to heal a lot of medical trauma around doctors I had developed over the yrs. Staying with my parents wasn't healthy at first bc there's some difficult history there. But over the next couple years, God would heal our relationship and send spiritual healing over our whole family. I was so broken though... I was like a child and He cradled me. I would wake up angry in pain, cry through the day, and go to bed asking God why I was even alive just to suffer. I was Job. One moring, He taught me how to praise Him in the morning with only my mouth. In time, He would teach me how to give thanks for the small things I could do like brush my teeth- learning to worship with my excruciatingly painful body turned inward to worship with my numb nonexistent heart. I had no heart anymore, and only bc of Him do I now feel. He regrew my heart from broken ashes so I am His and His alone. This is a love story. As my spirit began to heal, my body became stronger. He placed new dreams in me. I prayed to be well enough to see ppl in person (outside of my immediate family), and in time, He answered that prayer. I prayed for in-person friends, and ppl started asking my family members if they could meet me... He brought them right to my door. I prayed for an inperson Bible study, even in the dark quiet room, and my family laughed. But sure enough, a woman ran into my mother and asked if she knew of a Bible study. My mom took her to one from church and she hated it, and said nevermind... so my mom had one more suggestion- me. This woman and I have been doing weekly Bible studies for the last 4 years- now one of my best friends. God brought her right through my door. Then I had a dream to move into my own place. It would need so many adaptations, so specific to my needs, and how would I live on my own with my physical conditions? Everyone I knew tried to talk me out of it, but I knew if He supplied it, then He would supply the ability. So I prayed and waited... And God did it again. He supplied a place more perfect than I could have ever invented in my mind- already set up for me years prior. God had it waiting for me. And the Landlord is a Christian whose wife is disabled, and they both are wonderfully supportive. God has grown me more spiritually and physically in the last 5 years than I could have ever imagined. I'm a different person and He has built me- is still building me. And it's difficult daily, but these are challenges that I praise God for. He has financially provided, provided for my living, provided for my specific health circumstances, and Has added much more than that. Those who see me, see a mostly bedbound, completely homebound wheelchair user living in pain & with multiple illnesses, whose husband abandoned her for another. They see a woman who lost everything at age 34. But what I KNOW is that God has made a miracle out of my life, He has grown a new heart in me, and He is the best husband and provider I could ever know. "I will not be afraid, what can man do to me?"
I am not Christian, but I appreciate content like this. I hope you give us some more housekeeping and housewife videos. Even the spiritual stuff. The representation does matter. I enjoy videos and stories like this.
Being at home with my 4 kids is the most natural thing ever for me. I do receive criticism from my family. It's usually women though and I feel they are jealous.
Unfortunately that may be it. A lot of women especially today with the financial crisis cannot afford to stay home, or they have chosen to climb the ladder thus forfeiting the gift of homemaking. So when they see their female peers doing the opposite, there's criticism and envy. It's really sad when we can't celebrate each other's choices.
I’m a Christian housewife as well and as a woman who’s classified as being part of a marginalized group🙄 I’m so glad to see content like this. God bless you in Yeshua’s name.
I am also. Many look down while being low key envious of being a stay at home. We are where God calls us to be. Stay highly favored,stay at home blessed Queens.
I hope to be marrying a very high value, hardworking, attractive brother. Heaven sent. God told me that people would put me down and also be jealous. My own bio sisters are jealous that we are courting. They hate me for it! Hate him. It's crazy but God warned us in His word. We have to be so immersed in Christ that we are impervious to the haters. We pray for them.but we don't allow it to affect us. We carry on...in the Lord. They are miserable. We are overcomers.
Come on with it!!!!!!❤️🙌🏽 Sis, this entire video was a WORD!!! I resonated with this soooooo much! I agree, it’s such an honor and privilege to be protected at home ❤️. I went through the same thing with the remarks, suggestions and “instructions” for many years. You are so right, as Black homemakers, we face criticism on a much harsher level. Not just from family and friends, but also society. I have been labeled “unemployed” in social settings while my white counterpart will be labeled a “homemaker.” Representation certainly matters. I thoroughly enjoyed this video, and you articulated everything so elegantly. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to more homemaking videos from you 🥰.
Hey!! Good to see you! This video resonated with me so much! I was raised by a single mom in a female dominant environment. Most of the women were scorn, so the rhetoric was "don't depend on no man", "men ain't no good" etc... I was raised to have my own job and my own money and not to depend on a man. I got married in 1985, had children in 1987, 1989, 1991. Through scripture, I felt the tug from the Lord to be a homemaker after having a job from age 13 to 25 years old. My mom went ballistic!!! It was so hard to stick to my convictions when mom was saying, you've lost your mind to depend completely on your husband. As a black woman attending a black church, I found solace and support in a community of strong black christian homemakers. We supported each other and had so much fun raising our kids together and fellowshipping as couples. We had homemakers get aways, we built a system of yearly spring cleaning each others homes to planting a community garden, praying together, encouraging each other to be our best selves! It was epic and amazing! I loved every moment of being a homemaker, even the tough times because I had a community of support! And you know a strong black woman will tell you about yourself, hug you, feed you and tell you to get it together all at the same time! Lol!! My daughter who is now 32 years old says, those years were so good because she got a chance to see a lot of black couples raising their kids, loving each other and living well. When she got to college, she realized that was not always the case. She even took a poll of all the kids she was raised with and what they were doing now. 98% of them are exceptionally successful!! Not saying that's a guarantee, but we wanted our kids to have life tools to successfully navigate this world. The time I had to pour into them was priceless!! Even when I don't see them act like the deposits we made, they all said, trust the deposits you made in us... Sadly, that community did not continue on..but I give back by pouring into young moms all that was poured into me. Love this topic, could talk all day about the importance, benefits and great fruit that will come from being a homemaker!
Thank you so much for sharing this. Its encouraging to see our 'spiritual mothers' share how they went through similar seasons and how God was faithful. I was so encouraged by reading this. Thank you!
Oh man… I just posted a live about what I pack my husband for lunch: fresh baked goods, buffalo chicken salad, tons of fruit and snacks and drinks (he is out for 13+ hours). My sister starts sending me ( after viewing my story) videos on self love, being ambitious and not “settling”, how to be a bad B. ????? She really thinks I don’t get whats shes doing. She is a feminist and although shes been in college has her degrees shes no working in the field she studied for. Shes always complains about her boyfriend husband not giving her enough money and how she never has enough. They have no kids and don’t own anything?? Women have to check in with reality before trying to put us hard working stay at home mothers.
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
@@incognito3599 never forget about this not even for a man. We as women forget we are the ones to choose Hod gave us that power. But we forget. Choose the right man and be clear to him about what you want in life and if he wants the same thing thats him for you. Do NOT let anyone in your family tell you raising a family is not important because again that was a job given to us specifically by God himself. We thrive in that environment! We are happiest at home. You can have the best carrier and not be happy. My sister is in severe depression and anxiety since her 20’s and during the good times kids birthdays holidays even vacation she tries to sneak in… like no ma’am this is the life I chose and worked hard for. All the dishes the meals the grocery shopping the kids catching fevers… ALl that is my work! And God has been there all those times reminding me why this is so worth it. Happiness is not a career. Happiness is knowing you never let your children in sight of people who shouldn’t be around kids. I wish you the best and choose it now choose that life when it gets hard, choose it when they judge you.
@arwen Rosalie I really needed this message at this time, Arwen. I have fallen into severe depression and anxiety and i am only 22. Because my family keeps forcing me to go back to College, after i dropped out, because i was depressed and always hungry, because we didnt have enough money...My relationship has taken a strain with my family...especially with my mom and sister, for private reasons. But mostly involving me wanting to travel and work as an au pair temporarily until i find my feet in life or get a better job in Europe, or get married. I haven't made the best decisions in the past, because i was young and wanting my freedom from them. And they keep reminding me of my past. To keep me from not wanting to be a career woman or a feminist that hates marriage or men. I dont want to be that anymore...I want to live a soft life🌺
@@incognito3599 I am glad this helps at least a bit. Just remember that you can work in anything that makes you creative anything that gives you pleasure like helping people. You do not need a career of 6 figures as income. Definitely travel and see the world alone. Build yourself try the food get yourself ready to find the perfect man who you dint have to hide from. If food gives you pleasure try it all in small quantities to keep looking your best. Ask youself what makes you happy and what gives you small pleasur in life and when you meet your future husband he will see all that and will want to give you those things himself. Never feel like you ask for too much and you have to settle. I have lived doing the opposite. My mother hated me and loved my older sister. She always told me I should work and help her with money. She said who would want to marry me that my own kids would hate me. I moved away and stopped listening. I created the family I always wanted. I cook and bake and decorate and homeschool and pack lunches. With my husband I always took the least possible to save him money. That was the biggest mistake! Now he gets mad if I spend any money at all or for even needing personal things. He had thousands sent to his mother and sister who were very feminine and always stroked his ego just right to get their luxuries bu him. So I stopped that. However if you believe you are worth millions if not think that now. You already know you are a good woman with a good heart but now you need to believe you are worth the best husband the best home the best family. Do it now before you meet him. And you will attract the right man.
I’m a housewife!❤️🤟🏾 No one makes me happy than my husband & our son, being at home with my husband and our son is the most fulfilling feeling ever.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Wow! I am so emotional right now. You remind me of my mother. She had a beautiful smile and teeth just like you. She seldom wore make-up, just a natural beauty. My mother was a homemaker and I am sooooo thankful that she was. My dad was the head of the household and my mom stayed home to dedicate her life to her children. I never came home from school and my mom was not home, never. I never had to fix my own meals. I did have chores but never to fix my own meals. She was there to do exactly what you said, to shield me from life's issues. Most of my friends' parents were in two person working families. I enjoyed having my mom at home. I would not change it for the world. I felt special that she CHOSE to be there for us at all times. What a blessing I received. Even as an adult, she was still at home for me to talk to, go visit, whenever I wanted. My mother was a fantastic mom. Your children will thank you for it and your husband too.
Hi..Caribbean Christian mom here. I have been dodging your videos, because I was led to look at them and I really didn't want to cause I knew I would have to change. Thank you for the honesty and openness regarding your decision and journey to being a housewife. I am on that journey and I feel so confused and shaky..ahhhh! I was great at my job and I had confidence there, but this God, hm! Different instructions came from Him and I jumped to follow; now I realise the weight of what i was called to do in my own home and I am scared and overwhelmed. I am praying, gathering information but my points of reference are limited. I am trusting His hand for guidance and to regain my confidence and use my skills to benefit my own house. 🙏🏾
As a wife and mother...years ago I worked a full-time job. When I made the choice to go to part-time, my fellow co-workers would constantly say, "Living the dream!" within my earshot. Of course, they were envious. Now I work part-time as a caregiver for a friend of the family. This enables me to make a little money to supplement my husband's income, but still have time to take care of my own family. Totally get what you are saying about this being a gift from the Father; shielding us from all of the hustle and bustle and nastiness of the "rat race." He is so good to us! Love your channel, keep up the good work.
A black wife/homeschooling mom here, and you’re so right! I think every day that it’s an absolute blessing to do what I’m afforded to do. I’m so grateful! Thanks for making this video ❤️
Same here!!! Even though sometimes I feel guilty when my husband is sooooo tired from working to provide for us, he doesn't complain but I still feel guilty at times. I know I'm blessed to be able to stay home with our kids and homeschool but I miss getting a weekly check on my own.....lol🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️but being at home has shielded me from having to deal with the craziness out there and I'm able to spend more time with God , prayer, studying the word so I'm definitely happy for that as well.
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
I’ve been a SAHM for a minute now and still I get little comments. For example, my mother FaceTimed me this morning and asked if I fed my children breakfast since I was still in bed, I told her no my husband did and her face said it all so I snapped and let her know I was up until 5am unpacking boxes and fixing up our home. Like years later and I still have to snap on people about my decision(s) to be more present?!? I needed this video
All is fun and games them talking about us but when they crave something… we are the person they call, when they need favors who do they call? When they randomly come to your house uninvited because they know you always have home cooked meals. Mu sister always outs me down for having kids and staying home, but when she birth her first and ONLY child who is she going to try and rely on ????
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
I quit my almost 6 figure job as a nurse 2 yrs ago when I was born again to be a stay at home wife/mom and my family thought I was crazy. It was hard because I knew that’s what God wanted for me. Still struggle with it for sure. Family telling me I could be making so much money. Then it makes me question my decision. Working at home is hard work. Started working for a month again but feel so guilty. Going back to what God called me to stay home. But I know that’s what The Lord wants for my family.
You need to not give your family so much power & time. Clearly they aren't serving Christ. You can love them, pray for them at a distance. When they start their mess..pull away.
Perhaps you could just work part-time to keep your license from expiring, especially if you like being a nurse, but then also have more time at home than if you were working full 40 hours. If you don’t like your job and like just being at home, then don’t feel guilty and just live a fulfilling life as a full-time homemaker. Do you have loans from nursing school? If so, maybe at least do a little more nursing to pay it off, unless your husband’s salary can pay it off. Otherwise, moms are often nurses. ;)
Gissel, you'll never regret staying home. My kids are now between 16-20 yrs old. I'm so glad I quit working and did not go back. I have degrees in OT & RN. I did not maintain either one of my licenses. My husband does make more money than me though so we're doing good on his salary alone. But even if you have to make financial sacrifices, you do NOT get this time back! They're not little again. If you want to be home and can afford it at all, it's so worth it.
Peoples opinions, ideas, thoughts n even saying oh you should be doing this does not matter when God Himself tells you to be a stay at home wife n mother. Let go of the guilt because when you follow God's way you should never feel guilty. I'm happy you're at home with yours blessings n listening but also obeying God n not people.
My brother said something similar and it was so disappointing to know that he couldn't see any value in a woman staying home. The interesting part is he didn't see it as criticism. I shared with him my desire to stay home and take care of my husband, home and children. He looked at me with a disappointing look and said you are so talented and you have so much to offer the world. Why would you want to waste it? I was more sad than hurt or offended. It's sad that most men and women today can't see any value in a woman being a homemaker.
@Andreea J And why would your brother, want you to offer up your talent to a world, that doesnt even care about you or us, for that matter of fact. The people that truly care is Family, if it isnt your family of origin, maybe the family you create, be it, close friends or your husband and children🌺 I dont want to offer up my talent to the world , that will just burn me out...and chew me up and spit me out, when they done with me...
Wow. Thank you for sharing. I am a Christian housewife and honestly, most of the criticism comes from myself because I don’t believe I am doing enough. So, I appreciate you sharing this. Really.
I understand this. We can be hard on ourselves. Especially if we compare ourselves to others. We may have our struggles but trust in the LORD and ask him to strengthen you in those areas. Pro 16:3.
Bindi you are such an inspiration to me. The workforce,doesnt even respect working mothers anyway. They dont even pay them for taking leave most of the time. It's so disgusting honestly🤰🏽😢
I guess because I left a caregiving (healthcare) profession...I felt like I was going to care for other people's family members (I did elderly not kids), or I was going to care for my own family. Paying someonr to care for my family while I went to work to get paid caring for other people's family members....it just didn't make sense to me. Also, if I died tomorrow, my employer would replace me with another nurse. The patients' care would be unbroken. My kids, however, would be devastated and affected for a lifetime. So where do I have more worth? -- from a housewife of 20 yrs
Been there. Well done. My son got married in June. At that wedding the fruit of obedience made me cry. I continue to marvel at God's ability to do more with my yes than I could ever have imagined.
I cannot like this video enough. Omg it made me cry! I am also Black American and my family is mostly women. I tried working when my daughter was first born and it caused so much stress on my household and I missed so much of my daughter’s life in the beginning. I’ve been home for the past two years and I homeschool. My household has benefited so much! It was the right choice for my family and I feel so blessed to be able to stay home and nourish my family. I’m still asked when am I going back to work and I now have the strength to say that I am not.
I'm a guy ,but I love your videos.I even ended up watching the whole video .It is not a disgrace or disappointment to take care of a family or be a housewife .It rather serves a fulfilling purpose in the sense that you are nurturing good children and a husband as well .God bless you .
I agree 100% about the comments. I’m also a housewife who once worked as a medical professional in the health care industry for years. However due to work opportunities presented to my husband, I was able to stay at home. After about a year of being a housewife the comments started to roll in. As years went on I noticed that some of the comments started to come from a place of envy…wishing that they could stay home and not work as well (which is what they would sometimes say….as your stated) I do believe that this is the plan God has for me. However, if that plan change and It’s HIS will for me to return back to work. Im ok with that as well. As for now, this is my life and I enjoy taking care of me & my family in this manner everyday….and yes it is a BLESSING.
Thank you for sharing this, you’re living my “career” goals. God has opened my eyes to the beauty of fulfilling the role that He has designed for women from accounts like yours.
I'm so blessed to hear that He has opened your eyes. It really is miracle to be able to see things as He sees them. It just is not in our nature, so it is quite literally a work of the Spirit, a miracle, if you will when it happens. Just know I'm rejoicing with you. 💖
I’m so happy you’re doing this series! It comes as a comfort for the decision my husband and I made for me to leave my last job to stay home with our son. I’ll be chiming in very much. Keep doing this, it’s going to help so many! ❤️
I got my BS, a fantastic job, then went to law school.... and then I finally gave in and became a sahm. I wish I would have done it sooner!!! It is very hard to deal with the judgment, but it's so worth it.
I loved this! African American Christian homemaker here. For so long I wanted to be a homemaker and this past year I finally am able to do that by the grace of God. I grew up in a semi matriarchal family. Men present but women take the lead and some no men present. Most people in my family or friends have been supportive of me staying home. There were some who did say I was lazy and wanted my husband to do everything when I would take an extended maternity leave. I've been hard on myself leaving a career. But my career in this season is caring for my family and house. It's been a truly educational process. Especially homeschooling but I'm loving the patience that is being worked in me. I started with you for the locs and looking forward to more content like this. I'm considering a podcast or a personal channel myself just so nervous.
Beautiful message. I just became an official house wife/home maker after our 3rd baby this year in July. I felt the calling while pregnant with my son and my husband agreed. It has truly been a blessing so far even with the hardships of adjusting. Thank you for mentioning how protected we are from this world as house wives. I was climbing the corporate ladder and experienced the political back stabbing. So grateful my work ethic and energy can be used to focus on my home and not a job. I found your channel through Angel at Habits of a Homemaker. I love this content as it encourages me and empowers me as a Black homemaker led by Scripture as well. I don’t know any homemakers personally especially around my age (29). Thank you again. And all praises to the Most High Yah for speaking through you to deliver this message!
I was so excited to come across this video. I'm quitting my job to be a stay at home wife. I love seeing black women restore the family, it's beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I resigned from work in 2019 to be a stay home mother, something I vowed never to be. It was a step of faith, and obedience to what I believed the Lord wanted me to do. I was afraid, but I did it anyway. I thought it was a sacrifies, at the time, but I was wrong, it is a huge blessing. It was lonely at first because I lost all my friends, but I am okay with it now. My relationship with my Father is much deeper and I cannot thank God enough for loving me so much that He saved me from missing out on this grace. God bless you. I hear you.
I really enjoyed hearing you speak about your experience. Thank you for sharing. I have gotten a small amount of criticism since becoming a homemaker a year and a half ago from some family members. In my experience, it’s always petty comments made behind mine or my husbands back. No one ever has the courage to say anything to us. We have been debt free since getting married and do well on one income. He makes an average salary, but we are frugal and stick to a budget. There really is no reason at all for people to be concerned with me staying at home (now, with my first child), so I have wondered if maybe it’s just envy. I look forward to more videos from you! God bless!
Envy and jealousy will lead many people a stray. I'm glad you didn't take it to heart. I love that this is a privilege that so few women get to embrace and I'm glad that you are. Although I have no desire to be a stay at home wife, I commend the people who do.
Hey Bindi👋🏼…I’m not Christian, but as a African American/black Muslim housewife/homemaker we have similar value; and so I totally appreciate wholesome content like yours…. I experienced a lot of the same criticism when I married my husband when I was 16yrs old. I felt bad about not taking the advice of my parents and waiting until after I got a colleg degree/career to get married and have children but I had this overwhelming feeling of this is what I have to do to save myself. Myself nor my husband were religious but we both knew we had to be married and here we are 22 wild yrs later😆, lol…. I have had a few part time positions but 95% of the time I’ve been wholly a housewife and now I won’t even consider work unless it can be done from home, I’m spoiled😆…and it’s not easy being a homemaker but the rewards are endless, it truly has lead to the preservation of my family. And now my parents admire the family structure we’ve chosen.
I had to learn to not listen to my mother. My mom once told me, "you KNOW this is the wrong decision". I got mad. I told her that no I didn't know that, in fact I know I am to do this. I had to tell her to stop telling me what is spiritually right because she didn't know what God was telling me. I eventually lost the relationship with my mother. I eventually found out she is mentally ill and her instructions would have run me way in the wrong direction. Sometimes we have to stand our ground even against our parents. My mom had a power over me. If she had that same power over me now, my marriage would likely be destroyed. I think it is very important that women stay with their children at home, sheltered from the stress of the world so that you can bring peace to your children.
This was legit my story God called me out. Black homemaker here! Best decision of my life I can relate regarding the comments from family members. It literally does feel like a amazing protection bubble that God has me in it’s one of my favorite parts of the journey ❤️
This resonated with me. I am currently working as a nurse and am unmarried, but my parents definitely see me as becoming the first doctor in the family. I hope to stay home when I have children.
My mom was a homemaker and I loved it! I’m 27, married, black and Christian. I have three other young black married friends who are homemakers (and one of them doesn’t even have kids, she’s still a homemaker) and I love us. God is leading his children in the same direction. Amen 🙏🏽
Good evening, I'm a stay-at-home housewife and a christian as well. I must say. It has been challenging coming from the medical field and now taking care of family. But in all things, God has blessed my husband in such a way so that I can stay home. It has not been easy. But our children loved that I'm home. To be able to talk to them, share life experiences, it's those moments you cannot get back. New subbie here!!!
The sad part is I’m not even married yet and many ppl are criticizing my want to be a homemaker. But, as I’m getting closer to God, the more I do not care about the opinions. It’s more so I care about the future I want to foster and the care I want to give to my family. You made the right choice and you motivate so many of us to stand firm in what God has put on our hearts
This content is everything! I am not a Christian, however I am realizing that restoring the nuclear family will save our community…these practices of the traditional family structure are of such a higher calling than many realize. I believe that being a homemaker is one of the highest spiritual callings. When you and your spouse have the same family vision, and you have a heart for each other, your shared purpose, and your shared mission; the “submission” thing has nothing to do with “being a slave to your husband”. My upbringing is exactly like yours. I’m single, but I would like to transition into to full wifehood and motherhood one day. Thank you for this new content. I definitely came for the locs but got something better.
I loved this so much!! I have been a homemaker for a little over a year now, and it's been a journey, but one I know God has led our family to! This video encouraged me to share my story. Thank you for your boldness in this!
This video is so on time in so many ways. I can 100% relate. The ability to be a stay at home mother is a blessing. I am currently working part-time but i refuse to work full time because for my personal experience it did more harm than good. Now I can dedicate more time , energy and mental clarity to my husband and kids. It helps all of us.
thank you for this encouragement! i am a housewife, homemaker and mother. my husband has always encouraged me to stay home which i am thankful for but some friends and family have alway had other opinions. I have felt guilty as if i needed to explain myself and i found myself feeling shamed for it, the mentality has been if you can “work” than you should… this channel/video makes me feel blessed, free and thankful for this gift from God. and my prayer is that i can encourage others. Blessing, Tonyisha
“In no means is it meant to be a shaming of my parents.” I love the way that you communicate. You speak to me. I’m learning so much from you. My heart is full and I’m crying. You show me what sin looks like. You show me how to love the Lord and want to make Him happy. You have blessed me more that you’ll ever know. Thank you. May God’s bless you over and over again.
I tripped, I stumbled and fell into this video thank you so much for talk about this life choice. Yes black housewives get a bad connotation because of society and how they view black educated women. I am a Christian and a black housewife and I am proud of it. Thank you again for sharing. I would love to see the other like us out there on TH-cam.
God really answers prayers, I've been praying for God to teach me how to be a wife and in the last 5 years I've been asking God for this exact lifestyle, I really believe and want to raise my children and not have the burden of providing and to marry a man of God with this exact principles. My family and extended family dynamic are exactly like yours, many women in my family were and are single parents, some were married some weren't and I don't want that, because I see the effects it has on the children, I myself am a product of such a household. I've always wanted something different. God brought me to you. You've helped me understand that God can teach me even if there are no examples around me. You've taught me not to look at my past but concentrate on a new future/vision. I love how you bring everything back to scripture, it really cements it for me. I can't thank you enough for this ministry, please keep going you are changing lives, generational curses and teachings. May God bless you and your household
As a housewife who has never worked outside of the home, not even when I was single, mainly because I was in Mexico most of my life up until I got married. My parents were missionaries and were afraid to let me work outside the home as a young American woman in Mexico. I think I take it for granted the immense blessing and privilege it is to be able to take care of the home, without all the intense pressures of the corporate world. Thanks for the reminder.
I was a housewife while homeschooling my teen daughter and caring for my toddler and infant. That time was such a blessing in my life. Most importantly, I was granted the opportunity to pour GOD's WORD and guidance into my girls' lives. They are now 33, 22 and 19. The oldest now raises her children with many of the same precepts of her childhood. I have two college graduates with one who is finishing her studies now. Thank you for sharing your journey. The joy of THE LORD is our strength. Amen
This was amazing!! So relatable! I went to a top 20 college, graduated and got a high paying job and lived in a beautiful high rise luxury apartment. The whole time i was dreaming of finding my husband and becoming a homemaker. Once i finally found my husband, we talked about me staying home and he was totally on board. I dont have kids yet but being a homemaker is amazing regardless. My whole family gave me so much pushback on this decision. They kept giving all of the “what if” financial situations. But tbh, most americans are living paycheck to paycheck with no savings and poor spending habits, but my family never has words for relatives in that situation because they are working. Meanwhile my husband makes an abundance of money and we are extremely responsible but somehow theyre worried about me 😂😂 it just goes to show that while people think theyre concerned about your well being, they’re just uncomfortable seeing black women in this role because we have more than enough money just on his income.
I have been struggling to tune out the opinions of my family and in laws for a few years now. I wish people could be more supportive of this calling to stay home. This video was very helpful and I can completely relate
I am a Christian homemaker. I love your channel. I really appreciate this message. I retired early from corporate America and your honesty refreshed my heart. I can totally understand what you mean and it has been so discouraging to experience this. I still struggle inside but my fortitude has grown in the last couple of years. I went back to work a few times over the years after God called me to be at home and it was a disaster. The stress I felt from those wicked workplaces took a toll on my health. I write poetry books now and started a TH-cam channel to share my faith in the Lord. So glad to connect with your channel!!! I am @ Madra Bell. Thanks for the encouragement ❤️🙏🏾
Shalom sis. After understanding that this lifestyle that our Father in heaven has actually required us as wives and mothers to do, I had to repent to Him. I say that because I was one of those relatives who spoke badly about an aunt who stayed home to care for her family. I never called her to question her decisions but I recall speaking badly about her with other family members. Now that I’m in the Word and realize our roles that we are called to be, I’m see she and my uncle had a great understanding whether from God or not but that worked great for their marriage. She never allowed the judgements from the family to deter her from her call. I truly enjoy your videos. Shalom.
You doing an important work Bindi! I am a house wife and mom, a year a ago I got a little job. Even though my husband recommend that I didn’t. Now I am realizing I’d rather be able to give all my time to my family. It’s such a blessing to not have too, an act of love that my husband deals with all the stress from his job. It’s not fun to take on kids and a job! At my church we have a saying that says “No success can compensate for failure in the home” and I know I would rather be number one with my boys than have extra money. I think what your doing is SO important!
I have been a sahm mom for almost 20 years now. I love that quote from your church. I was working for a while after having our first child. I eventually had a clinical nervous breakdown. That is when we decided that the money was not a replacement for my health. over the years there were times we struggled badly with money. My husband was not the best $ manager (he has improved greatly). I would try to work at something that I could bring my kids with me to (babysitting, housekeeping, elder care). There were times that my husband would pressure me to do it & other times that I got sick of never having any $. It never worked longterm. We would start fighting, things would start slipping at home, or he would get critical and I would have to cut corners at what ever job. I can remember one time, while doing housekeeping/elder care, that I mentioned having to miss an upcoming event at our kids' school because I would be at this lady's house that day. He told me point blank that my 1st duty that day was our kids and that I would reschedule that cleaning. He also would get peeved if I did not get home in time to have lunch ready. I was often making excuses & angry with him. That was the tipping point and I soon scaled down outside work until I had no more clients. I thought that by bringing my girls with me or doing things while they were occupied in school was 'good enough', but really I paid no attention to the idea that I was not at HOME taking care of my husband FIRST. His coworkers are often jealous of the awesome lunches & the knowledge that I get up super early some mornings to make him coffee, lunch, etc.. & that I see him off to work everyday.
@@pattyhansen7563 thanks for your reply. It so hard to juggle both. I wish it was more clear which lane we need to be in. But everyday I feel more and more I need to be more present with my children. And not getting in his lane but being supportive of him instead. That’s awesome that you get up so early to take care of your family, that’s my big struggle but I luv sleep! My husband definitely gets annoyed by the time I give my job, when I have other things to do. It’s less than 10 hrs a week though. So I’ll probably quit soon, my husband and I are trying to build a business together.
Wow! What a beautifully articulated testimony! I have watched this 4 times in a row because I can 100% relate as my family, especially my father, were the same when I got married 7 years ago. The pull between wanting their approval and wanting to follow God's biblical instruction has been exhausting and harmed my self esteem - only because I thought I had to please to both. The comments I would receive as I've been a home keeper are things like, "you've done nothing with your life. Your just using your husband so you don't have to work...." I've had to heal from so much condemnation. Your testimony has brough strength and encouragement to my spirit, I thank the Lord for hearing it and pray it reaches and is able to lift up many who are struggling with this. Peace and blessings to you and your family 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much for this video. I became a homemaker & SAHM 17 years ago when I was expecting my second child. My kids are young adults now and they have benefited so much from our choice for me to be at home with them. We get compliments on their behavior and how they choose to live their lives. My father-in-law could not stand me being at home with them and not working outside the home. It got really bad and he would criticize me to my children and my husband. It finally got so bad that my husband had a huge blow-up with him and now they don't speak. That was 4 years ago. This video did me a world of good. It was a message that I needed to hear. Thank you! Also, my daughter got a part-time job in daycare while she's in college. After her first day working there, she came home & told me thank you for being home with her.
I, too, had criticism from in laws. My MIL would go get me job applications, remind me of the civil service test dates, and tell me of openings at her work,. They would belittle me, call me uptight (cuz i didn't leave my kids with daycare), say I expected too much of their son, all while It was his idea that I stay home. ( I never heard them criticize their daughter for staying home and having kids with this one & that.) It has benefited us in innumerable ways over the past 20 yRS. Eventually the abuse from his family was too much. My husband cut them out of our lives 12 years ago. His father died & they never had talked again. His mother always HAD to work, because their father abused alcohol & I think she was just jealous. She never would understand that it was her son that encouraged me to stay home & not me 'begging to be taken care of'. If she actually ever paid attention to what I did all day, she would see that it isn't a bed of roses.
@pattyhansen7563 hi Patty. We have had some many similarities in our lives. My father in law passed away last September, and he & my husband weren't on speaking terms. They also acted like I was free loading , all the while my husband was happy with me being a homemaker. I have vowed to be a good mother in law when my kids are married. I don't want to repeat the past.
@@bluebellecharm4 Yes, on the mother in law comment. I won't have daughters in law, but I want to be a more supportive in law than what I experienced. My husband has done a lot of work on himself to break the chains of the past. I am amazed every day at how different he is from his family unit. I can definitely see the hand of God in it. He has NEVEr treated me like I was too heavy to 'carry'. On the contrary, I am harder on myself than he is & often self deny when I have no reason to. My in laws always acted like i was asking for too much or that I was financially demanding. But in reality, He is the free spender & I am a total TIGHT WAD! They never really cared enough about me as a person to find out why it worked for me to be home & that is their loss. I was just always confused, because they didn't have an issue with their daughter being a sahm (altho she was never home & rarely mommed LOL) and ofter their other son was unemployed & and stayed home with the kids. I guess it was because we seemed happy & they were jealous & we didn't need them pulling our irons out of the fire like the other 2. You know what they say - misery loves company.
I am so proud of you. You are my sister in Christ and friend, even though you don’t know me. In a perfect world, we would be best friends and disciple each other! Stay strong and in the word, dear heart. The word of God is our only truly defensive weapon. I watch your videos often, and will pray for you when I do.
I have just found you recently in past couple of days and am listening to it all. I am not a black woman but I am a Christian woman who’s heart is at home. I have worked and work some now but I’ve always had a disconnect in the world because I want to be home. When I hear these messages it makes me love and appreciate my husband, my home and what God says about our roles. I have also been told that I need to go work harder, go make something better for us, that I need to “get in to SOMETHING”… all from family. Anyways…. I appreciate what all you are teaching. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing. Where you been all my life? Lol. This is REAL! Younger me needed you and my current self do to.I am a homemaker myself. Married 16 years going on 17 years in September to my high school sweet❤ and we share 6 children together. Being married at 18 and my husband being 19 at the time, I truly suffered with the criticisms of family, classmates, and those around me in general. Through the word of God I found comfort in being a keeper of my home as Christ has instructed. Thank you for sharing again.
When my kids were younger 11months, 3 and 7. My dad kept calling me asking when i was going back to college when was i enrolling. My grandmother even a Christian woman would ask me am i working. I spent so many years of my homemaker life feeling undervalued and criticized for my choice by my family, his family and other women. In the beginning of our marriage, My husband and i prayed to God for me to be able to stay home and we were blessed so much so that my husband mom called and told me i was makin her son suffer. That i was putting too much on him by not working. At that time we had 2 rental properties and lived in a nice sized home in California. I wish had channel like this to encourage me back then. Im in my 40s now, still a homemaker almost 20 years in.
Wow that sounds so tough. Thank you for sharing. In an odd way it was encouraging to me to hear it reiterated that my experience was not so different. I'm glad you were able to stick with your convictions. Be blessed!
The Holy Spirit told me that I was going to marry my husband upon first meeting him. And when I say I rebuked that thing! 😂 Of course though God's will prevailed and I'm a happy housewife to the best love I ever knew.
Thank you! Recently I have been struggling with my own decision to become a full-time homemaker. This helped me to put my God given role into the correct perspective. I worked for 14 years, became born again and eventually left my position. Unfortunately I have been on the giving and receiving end of this equation. I can attest that when I was the one giving the “advice,” it was rooted in jealousy and depression over my own situation. I struggled with mom guilt, extreme fatigue, and my home life suffered. I love being a homemaker, but lately I have been dealing with feelings of inadequacy. I have also received a lot of questions about my choice to be home. I know I made the right decision. It has been such a blessing to my family. Thank you for encouraging words.
All women have this criticism no matter who we are. My stay at home mother was the one who pushed me to have a career. Stay at home women have a tougher as they do not leave their work at the office. Your experience are the similar to mine. God bless!
Thanks so much for your video it really motivated me. I became a house wife back in 2019 when I was pregnant with my daughter. Some family and friends had alot of negative things to say about it. I received some of the same comments that you did. It made me feel so bad but I felt honored to be a stay at home wife and your video just boosted my confidence so thank you so so so much.
This video has help me in so many ways. I did get the criticism from family. One aunt said “oh it must be nice” under her breath. I felt super lazy and my family viewed me as not wanting to work. I wanted to work but God always Redirected me back home.. lol ever time. I knew the Holy Spirit was directing me and speaking to me saying these are the plans I have for you. Jeremiah 29:11
In my opinion this woman is truly a woman of God (Proverbs 31 woman). The gentleness by which she speaks is beautiful, the wisdom she utters is moving. She is so encouraging and reaffirming. I know that this is supposed to be for the women however the information she’s sharing is actually universal. So many Christian principles for both the male and female. May she and her family be blessed in their coming in and going out.
Oh wow. I can so relate. My moms side of family is definitely like yours. And They put a huge a emphasis on education and working (and I don’t blame them, as their childhoods kind of required them to due to lack) however I’ve been kind of wanting to stay home and I almost feel ashamed to say that cause I know it won’t be approved.
You’re describing my family to a T! I did see more marriage but me were just like you described, and I saw my Grandmother being a homemaker but she would do part time work as kids were older. I am a Biblical based SAHM. I absolutely love it! It’s beautiful under submission to God and it surely works!!!!
Thank you for this. I too am at home. But I definitely had bipolar moments during the process. I knew God was pushing me to be home but that was not the plan I had for my life. I have a masters degree and I expected to be climbing the corporate ladder. Even though my mind and heart were leaning towards being home, I couldn't submit to that. I felt like I was turning my back on my culture, expectations from my family, and that I should be hustling like everyone else. It's so crazy looking back on it now. And I still get questions and comments especially from family. But I LOVE being home and I know that I am investing in my child and family in ways I couldn't otherwise. And that is not a judgement on those who choose to work. To each their own. I would say though that those who are home, consider ways to continue to build your career somehow so if you reenter the work force, you don't have to start from entry-level. You can do a part time virtual position, start a small business, or volunteer in order to keep your resume and skills growing and current.
That pressure is real and so strong. It's like someone should have warned us, right? Whewwwwww. Congratulations on deciding for you, yourself, and your own family as opposed to living for others and their opinions. That's a milestone in and of itself.
Hi, I just found your videos recently and am enjoying them so much. My daughter who is 17 also watches and is inspired. I just want to say that I have also felt the criticism from my community and some family members for being a homemaker and homeschooler. I am Scandinavian on both sides so.....white on white, but we get hit hard too. I think it's a culture things as well with the feminist movement still going strong. My biggest critic has been my mother-in-law who has been embarrassed by our homeschooling and my lack of outside work. I just respectfully say, " You chose your life, now I am choosing mine". Thank you for this content. I am a Christian and feel the leading of the Lord in this pursuit of life as well. 💗
Thank you for your transparency. I would have never known your background if you didn't share it. You seem like a professional housewife. Lol. I came from a traditional household and I married a woman that was from a household similar to yours. She was very independent, domineering and controlling (I thought I could show her a different way and soften her up). Long story short, she ended up divorcing me. But seeing how you have handled it, and reformed your character, it is very inspiring and I am so happy for you and your husband. You seem like you are about getting to the truth and the heart of a matter. I am the same way. I had grown up as a Christian all of my life. Around 47, I started questioning why things I had been taught about the bible, never made sense, like why no one I knew, (including myself), who had given tithes, seemed to be blessed to the point where they didn't have room to receive it. Why black people, who seemed to always have a connection to God, were ALWAYS at the bottom of society, no matter where in the world they were. Why we celebrated holidays that originated in Pagan cultures and none of the ones in the bible were celebrated. I came to find out that Christianity is not what it says it is. Not a single person in the bible claimed to be one and it is only mentioned 3 times, while Baal is mentioned a whole lot more, yet, no one calls the bible a Canaanite book. Then I looked at how we got Christianity. For black people, it was through slavery, where it was either choose it, or be maimed or killed. For the rest of the world, it was through wars and conquests by the Roman army and Catholic Church. So if the bible isn't Christian, then what is it? From beginning to end it is Israel's covenant with their Mighty One, and examples of how they lived it out through different ages. So who is Israel? Israel is described throughout the bible as being downtrodden, rejected, imprisoned, needing a savior, etc. They were never at the top of the world, running the banks, movie industry, radio, television, news etc. So if the people in the land of Israel aren't the descendants of the children of Israel, then who are? One thing I can tell you is that they are the only people who's history lines up with how they're described in the bible. And why is it important? Because all of the history and prophecies of the bible revolve around one group of people, and to place them on the wrong people means that you won't be able to understand how things will go in the last days. You'll be looking in the wrong place. I know this is a long post, and I don't mean to offend you, but I just wanted to share my experience with you, in hopes that it will resonate with something inside of you.
First, I can relate in many areas of what you’re speaking on. Although I was raised by my father( absent mother), my husband found me via social media while I was working as a elementary teacher. Immediately after marriage we had a plan to have a 2 income based home and kids later. God does have a strong way of redirecting our paths! Fast forward I am currently a homemaker with 3 girls under the age of 3. I can’t tell you how many people asked me why I don’t work and or when am I going to be happy and go back to work and be the backbone support “if” something happens. This is ultimately calling I heard from God during my period of fighting his will for my life! Thank you so much for this video dear! 🥰 Definitely looking forward to more videos from you on your journey, tips, etc.
Why do people feel the need to give their opinion about YOUR household?! The cattiness is of the devil. It's a blessing when women support other women.
Hi, I’m a Christian woman and I throughly enjoyed this. I’m a Homemaker and have been for over 8 years and it hasn’t always been easy but definitely worth it. It took some adjusting, but I can honestly say I love it! Criticized? Whew! I’m certain people in my family blood/extended have had their opinions, (you hear bits and pieces) but the ONLY opinion that mattered to me was the two men that was taking care of me. My Heavenly Father and husband. I could not allow my life/decisions to be based on the opinion of outsiders because people will talk regardless. I also had to stop being critical of MYSELF too because it was a BIG adjustment for me especially coming from working outside the home. I have always worked so being home even though I enjoyed it was out of my comfort zone honestly. It changes you. You’re entire role as a WOMAN changes because your priorities are channeled into this one place which is your HOME. There were many times I felt like I wasn’t doing enough, but the Lord had to constantly remind me as well as others that I was right where he placed me and that THIS IS MY JOB so get on it. 😆 Hence, I embraced it and counted myself privileged. During this time, the Lord allowed me to face what I had ran from all my life…Ministry. This gift of being a Homemaker birthed out other gifts and opportunities. I was ordained, started Ministering, and also started an Online Ministry. 🙌🏾 www.heartsofchristministries.com Never saw that part coming, but God knew. We have plans and then there’s God’s plans. We must obey the will of God whether it be outside or inside work. It took years, but I’m finally content with the gift of being a Homemaker. I realize many women love outside work, (I did) but there are also many women who would love to be a Homemaker. Both are worthy and valuable. By the grace of God and a great support system, (my parents were actually very supportive of me being a Homemaker) To date; I’m still standing in my gift as a Homemaker. It has its moments too as any position, but definitely a blessing and I’m forever grateful. I don’t look down on or criticize women who work outside the home because I have been there also. We all have something to bring to the table. Sometimes, our tables are just in different places. As you stated, I think we’re all doing the best we can in life. Personally, from my experiences Homemakers do get more criticized than women who work outside the home. It’s been portrayed as if we’re lazy, sorry, and basically don’t do anything oh but honey a TRUE Homemaker’s job NEVER ends. Some of us value our position and appreciate the opportunity because that’s just what it is…an opportunity and God-given privilege. I too sis have been “ cocooned.” 😆 I like that and blessings to you, my fellow Homemakers, and all the working women! 💕
Such a blessing 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️ I have been a housewife since Nov after resigning from my job and it has been a whirlwind of emotions because of been so concerned with people’s opinions. The problem is caring too much about what friends and family have to say. My darling husband has been super supportive and being home personally has been so refreshing. I get to spend lots of time on myself, my kids and when my husband is done from work he finds a more relaxed and happy wife. God has been so good to us❤️🙏🏾. Thank you for such a relatable video and may our good Lord God bless you always.
Thank you for watching and commenting. My hope is that the Lord gives you a reprieve from the 'whirlwind of emotions.' The feelings themselves can be so exhausting. Here's to settling in the gift that is rest that He offers us.
I'm as single as they come but I have a deep desire to be a stay at home wife + mama when I'm married. it's not the popular thing to do, especially for Black women, but I know this desire is bigger than me. I hope to be an entrepreneur as well but with my primary focus always being on my home. thank you for this video. God bless you, sis.
I love this journey for you, sis. Lord willing, when I become a wife, I desire to be a homemaker. I am also a black woman so I understand how big of a game changer the decision is.
I’m a single 27 year old Christian woman. Deep down I wish I can be a homemaker but I can’t verbalize this desire to even friends not to talk of a potential partner. I know they’ll view me as “lazy” for wanting this.
You definitely need to tell potential partners, if you want to find the right one… Finding a husband is not about appealing to a maximum number of men. It’s about finding the one. My feelings anyway 😀
Thank you so much for this! I am a 23 year old girl waiting the the man God wants for me. I want a man who can provide and take care of me and my children so I can stay home or at most work part time so I can take care of myself, my children and my husband to the fullest
I'm already blessed by this video. I had to pause and I'm only 3 mins in. I am also an African American Christian women who is a house wife who left Corporate America 2 1/2 years ago. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made... not to mention the judgement I received from family about this decision. I don't have children yet so I felt ridiculed by everyone. Some suggesting I should do this or that instead of "just being a stay at home wife". Anywho, it's been a blessing for me emotionally, mentally and has aided in me going through the process of healing as my husband and I prepare for our children..... Let me go back to the video☺️
We praise Him for the rest He's given you and how your well-being has been blessed because of it. If I know one thing, its that Im going to be diligent to not let the enemy steal any of the gifts the Lord chooses to offer me. Not even the peace and quiet that comes from being a homemaker. Thank you for commenting!
Same...after my third child my dad was still calling asking when I was going back to school..my grandmother kept asking if I was working yet. Other woman (unmarried) criticize me asking me what i did all day and saying that cant be all i do or am. I didn't realize in some situations it WAS jealousy. It was. I let it cause me so much grief and depression. I'm still a stay home wife and God blessed us so much still they (especially his mother) was wondering how we had so much. Uh duh obedience to God. Now hindsight looking back I was double minded I wanted to be happy as housewife but also a people pleaser. I should of leaned on God more. I still at home. I'm in my 40s, my youngest 2 are still in school.
Wow, I am so blessed by this video. I have been made to feel like a failure because I have chosen to be a house wife and a homeschooling mum. I left a management job because God called me to be a housewife. Being black and in South Africa, being a housewife is treating is something that's very strange . I find comfort in this video. God bless you sis...
Hey Fam, I know my audio is a hot, trash, mess. I'm working on improvements. Thanks for bearing with me.
It's fine. TRUST!
Girl I didn't even notice. Loved hearing your perspective.
didn't notice.
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Thank you for sharing Bindi.
I have a similar situation. My mother has always been a hardworking black woman. She taught me to do the same. I've always been praised for my academic excellence. I am expected to "dominate the corporate ladder". Everyone who meets me says I am Mrs. President. However, when I was a child (2nd or 3rd grade) there was a girl in my class. She had an accident and she called her mother to come get her. The mom came bearing snacks. She was warm and friendly. This mom also went on school trips and volunteered often. I asked the girl the following day how her mother was able to leave work to come and get her. She told me that her mom did not work. She stayed home with her little brother. This had a great impact on me. Before this I never knew that mothers had the option of staying home. From that day on I had in my heart that I would like to stay home and nurture my children. If that woman had such a profound effect on me and I didn't even know her. I can only imagine the impact I can make in my children's lives. I am not yet married and do not have children. But I pray that the Lord will bless me to be able to be a homemaker.
I admire your wisdom! I am also in the corporate world with immense promise to keep on promoting but after becoming a mother I realized that I DESIRE to be a stay at home mom. I took a year off but unfortunately my husband doesn’t agree with my desires.
My husband left after 15 yrs of marriage. I didn't see it coming. I was very ill at the time and physically disabled.
He spent all of the savings in our shared account over a 1 month period to fix up our house for another woman to move in, and removed me from his work insurance immediately I lost my physicians.
I thought I was going to die at that point.
Some ppl want to die in that situation, but I thought I would physically die.
It's incredible what the Lord did.
There were so many miracles....
I didn't know that my Disability Medicare was about to kick in.
My medications had enough refills to carry me over until then. He didn't let me miss one day of my medications-- but it came close! Tested my faith, but He was always right on time.
The new doctors I ended up with were better and sweeter than the ones I had prior, and have even helped to heal a lot of medical trauma around doctors I had developed over the yrs.
Staying with my parents wasn't healthy at first bc there's some difficult history there. But over the next couple years, God would heal our relationship and send spiritual healing over our whole family.
I was so broken though... I was like a child and He cradled me.
I would wake up angry in pain, cry through the day, and go to bed asking God why I was even alive just to suffer. I was Job.
One moring, He taught me how to praise Him in the morning with only my mouth. In time, He would teach me how to give thanks for the small things I could do like brush my teeth- learning to worship with my excruciatingly painful body turned inward to worship with my numb nonexistent heart.
I had no heart anymore, and only bc of Him do I now feel. He regrew my heart from broken ashes so I am His and His alone. This is a love story.
As my spirit began to heal, my body became stronger. He placed new dreams in me.
I prayed to be well enough to see ppl in person (outside of my immediate family), and in time, He answered that prayer.
I prayed for in-person friends, and ppl started asking my family members if they could meet me... He brought them right to my door.
I prayed for an inperson Bible study, even in the dark quiet room, and my family laughed. But sure enough, a woman ran into my mother and asked if she knew of a Bible study. My mom took her to one from church and she hated it, and said nevermind... so my mom had one more suggestion- me.
This woman and I have been doing weekly Bible studies for the last 4 years- now one of my best friends.
God brought her right through my door.
Then I had a dream to move into my own place. It would need so many adaptations, so specific to my needs, and how would I live on my own with my physical conditions?
Everyone I knew tried to talk me out of it, but I knew if He supplied it, then He would supply the ability.
So I prayed and waited...
And God did it again. He supplied a place more perfect than I could have ever invented in my mind- already set up for me years prior. God had it waiting for me. And the Landlord is a Christian whose wife is disabled, and they both are wonderfully supportive.
God has grown me more spiritually and physically in the last 5 years than I could have ever imagined. I'm a different person and He has built me- is still building me. And it's difficult daily, but these are challenges that I praise God for.
He has financially provided, provided for my living, provided for my specific health circumstances, and Has added much more than that.
Those who see me, see a mostly bedbound, completely homebound wheelchair user living in pain & with multiple illnesses, whose husband abandoned her for another. They see a woman who lost everything at age 34.
But what I KNOW is that God has made a miracle out of my life, He has grown a new heart in me, and He is the best husband and provider I could ever know.
"I will not be afraid, what can man do to me?"
Wonderful testimony! Won't GOD do it! What the enemy has stolen, GOD will multiply it right back to you! Prayers 🙏🏽
Amen ❤ May the Lord continue to bless you❕
I am not Christian, but I appreciate content like this. I hope you give us some more housekeeping and housewife videos. Even the spiritual stuff. The representation does matter. I enjoy videos and stories like this.
Being at home with my 4 kids is the most natural thing ever for me. I do receive criticism from my family. It's usually women though and I feel they are jealous.
Yes!
Unfortunately that may be it. A lot of women especially today with the financial crisis cannot afford to stay home, or they have chosen to climb the ladder thus forfeiting the gift of homemaking. So when they see their female peers doing the opposite, there's criticism and envy. It's really sad when we can't celebrate each other's choices.
I’m a Christian housewife as well and as a woman who’s classified as being part of a marginalized group🙄 I’m so glad to see content like this. God bless you in Yeshua’s name.
I am also. Many look down while being low key envious of being a stay at home. We are where God calls us to be. Stay highly favored,stay at home blessed Queens.
I hope to be marrying a very high value, hardworking, attractive brother. Heaven sent. God told me that people would put me down and also be jealous. My own bio sisters are jealous that we are courting. They hate me for it! Hate him. It's crazy but God warned us in His word. We have to be so immersed in Christ that we are impervious to the haters. We pray for them.but we don't allow it to affect us. We carry on...in the Lord. They are miserable. We are overcomers.
@@danilaroche1156 amen!
Come on with it!!!!!!❤️🙌🏽 Sis, this entire video was a WORD!!! I resonated with this soooooo much! I agree, it’s such an honor and privilege to be protected at home ❤️.
I went through the same thing with the remarks, suggestions and “instructions” for many years. You are so right, as Black homemakers, we face criticism on a much harsher level. Not just from family and friends, but also society. I have been labeled “unemployed” in social settings while my white counterpart will be labeled a “homemaker.” Representation certainly matters. I thoroughly enjoyed this video, and you articulated everything so elegantly. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to more homemaking videos from you 🥰.
Hey!! Good to see you! This video resonated with me so much! I was raised by a single mom in a female dominant environment. Most of the women were scorn, so the rhetoric was "don't depend on no man", "men ain't no good" etc... I was raised to have my own job and my own money and not to depend on a man. I got married in 1985, had children in 1987, 1989, 1991. Through scripture, I felt the tug from the Lord to be a homemaker after having a job from age 13 to 25 years old. My mom went ballistic!!! It was so hard to stick to my convictions when mom was saying, you've lost your mind to depend completely on your husband. As a black woman attending a black church, I found solace and support in a community of strong black christian homemakers. We supported each other and had so much fun raising our kids together and fellowshipping as couples. We had homemakers get aways, we built a system of yearly spring cleaning each others homes to planting a community garden, praying together, encouraging each other to be our best selves! It was epic and amazing! I loved every moment of being a homemaker, even the tough times because I had a community of support! And you know a strong black woman will tell you about yourself, hug you, feed you and tell you to get it together all at the same time! Lol!! My daughter who is now 32 years old says, those years were so good because she got a chance to see a lot of black couples raising their kids, loving each other and living well. When she got to college, she realized that was not always the case. She even took a poll of all the kids she was raised with and what they were doing now. 98% of them are exceptionally successful!! Not saying that's a guarantee, but we wanted our kids to have life tools to successfully navigate this world. The time I had to pour into them was priceless!! Even when I don't see them act like the deposits we made, they all said, trust the deposits you made in us... Sadly, that community did not continue on..but I give back by pouring into young moms all that was poured into me. Love this topic, could talk all day about the importance, benefits and great fruit that will come from being a homemaker!
Thank you so much for sharing this. Its encouraging to see our 'spiritual mothers' share how they went through similar seasons and how God was faithful. I was so encouraged by reading this. Thank you!
@@Bindi_Marc you’re welcome! It’s an honor to always try to pay it forward!🙏🏽💛🙌🏽
Oh man… I just posted a live about what I pack my husband for lunch: fresh baked goods, buffalo chicken salad, tons of fruit and snacks and drinks (he is out for 13+ hours). My sister starts sending me ( after viewing my story) videos on self love, being ambitious and not “settling”, how to be a bad B. ????? She really thinks I don’t get whats shes doing. She is a feminist and although shes been in college has her degrees shes no working in the field she studied for. Shes always complains about her boyfriend husband not giving her enough money and how she never has enough. They have no kids and don’t own anything?? Women have to check in with reality before trying to put us hard working stay at home mothers.
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
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@@incognito3599 never forget about this not even for a man. We as women forget we are the ones to choose Hod gave us that power. But we forget. Choose the right man and be clear to him about what you want in life and if he wants the same thing thats him for you. Do NOT let anyone in your family tell you raising a family is not important because again that was a job given to us specifically by God himself. We thrive in that environment! We are happiest at home. You can have the best carrier and not be happy. My sister is in severe depression and anxiety since her 20’s and during the good times kids birthdays holidays even vacation she tries to sneak in… like no ma’am this is the life I chose and worked hard for. All the dishes the meals the grocery shopping the kids catching fevers… ALl that is my work! And God has been there all those times reminding me why this is so worth it. Happiness is not a career. Happiness is knowing you never let your children in sight of people who shouldn’t be around kids. I wish you the best and choose it now choose that life when it gets hard, choose it when they judge you.
@arwen Rosalie
I really needed this message at this time, Arwen. I have fallen into severe depression and anxiety and i am only 22. Because my family keeps forcing me to go back to College, after i dropped out, because i was depressed and always hungry, because we didnt have enough money...My relationship has taken a strain with my family...especially with my mom and sister, for private reasons. But mostly involving me wanting to travel and work as an au pair temporarily until i find my feet in life or get a better job in Europe, or get married. I haven't made the best decisions in the past, because i was young and wanting my freedom from them. And they keep reminding me of my past. To keep me from not wanting to be a career woman or a feminist that hates marriage or men. I dont want to be that anymore...I want to live a soft life🌺
@@incognito3599 I am glad this helps at least a bit. Just remember that you can work in anything that makes you creative anything that gives you pleasure like helping people. You do not need a career of 6 figures as income. Definitely travel and see the world alone. Build yourself try the food get yourself ready to find the perfect man who you dint have to hide from. If food gives you pleasure try it all in small quantities to keep looking your best. Ask youself what makes you happy and what gives you small pleasur in life and when you meet your future husband he will see all that and will want to give you those things himself. Never feel like you ask for too much and you have to settle. I have lived doing the opposite. My mother hated me and loved my older sister. She always told me I should work and help her with money. She said who would want to marry me that my own kids would hate me. I moved away and stopped listening. I created the family I always wanted. I cook and bake and decorate and homeschool and pack lunches. With my husband I always took the least possible to save him money. That was the biggest mistake! Now he gets mad if I spend any money at all or for even needing personal things. He had thousands sent to his mother and sister who were very feminine and always stroked his ego just right to get their luxuries bu him. So I stopped that. However if you believe you are worth millions if not think that now. You already know you are a good woman with a good heart but now you need to believe you are worth the best husband the best home the best family. Do it now before you meet him. And you will attract the right man.
I’m a housewife!❤️🤟🏾 No one makes me happy than my husband & our son, being at home with my husband and our son is the most fulfilling feeling ever.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Wow! I am so emotional right now. You remind me of my mother. She had a beautiful smile and teeth just like you. She seldom wore make-up, just a natural beauty. My mother was a homemaker and I am sooooo thankful that she was. My dad was the head of the household and my mom stayed home to dedicate her life to her children. I never came home from school and my mom was not home, never. I never had to fix my own meals. I did have chores but never to fix my own meals. She was there to do exactly what you said, to shield me from life's issues. Most of my friends' parents were in two person working families. I enjoyed having my mom at home. I would not change it for the world. I felt special that she CHOSE to be there for us at all times. What a blessing I received. Even as an adult, she was still at home for me to talk to, go visit, whenever I wanted. My mother was a fantastic mom. Your children will thank you for it and your husband too.
Hi..Caribbean Christian mom here. I have been dodging your videos, because I was led to look at them and I really didn't want to cause I knew I would have to change.
Thank you for the honesty and openness regarding your decision and journey to being a housewife. I am on that journey and I feel so confused and shaky..ahhhh!
I was great at my job and I had confidence there, but this God, hm! Different instructions came from Him and I jumped to follow; now I realise the weight of what i was called to do in my own home and I am scared and overwhelmed.
I am praying, gathering information but my points of reference are limited.
I am trusting His hand for guidance and to regain my confidence and use my skills to benefit my own house. 🙏🏾
As a wife and mother...years ago I worked a full-time job. When I made the choice to go to part-time, my fellow co-workers would constantly say, "Living the dream!" within my earshot. Of course, they were envious. Now I work part-time as a caregiver for a friend of the family. This enables me to make a little money to supplement my husband's income, but still have time to take care of my own family. Totally get what you are saying about this being a gift from the Father; shielding us from all of the hustle and bustle and nastiness of the "rat race." He is so good to us! Love your channel, keep up the good work.
You live my same life! I do a lil caregiving on the side rarely but I stay at home 99%
A black wife/homeschooling mom here, and you’re so right! I think every day that it’s an absolute blessing to do what I’m afforded to do. I’m so grateful! Thanks for making this video ❤️
Same here!!! Even though sometimes I feel guilty when my husband is sooooo tired from working to provide for us, he doesn't complain but I still feel guilty at times. I know I'm blessed to be able to stay home with our kids and homeschool but I miss getting a weekly check on my own.....lol🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️but being at home has shielded me from having to deal with the craziness out there and I'm able to spend more time with God , prayer, studying the word so I'm definitely happy for that as well.
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
I’ve been a SAHM for a minute now and still I get little comments. For example, my mother FaceTimed me this morning and asked if I fed my children breakfast since I was still in bed, I told her no my husband did and her face said it all so I snapped and let her know I was up until 5am unpacking boxes and fixing up our home. Like years later and I still have to snap on people about my decision(s) to be more present?!? I needed this video
All is fun and games them talking about us but when they crave something… we are the person they call, when they need favors who do they call? When they randomly come to your house uninvited because they know you always have home cooked meals. Mu sister always outs me down for having kids and staying home, but when she birth her first and ONLY child who is she going to try and rely on ????
I want to be a housewife or a part time working one. I am done with modern society and my family forcing misery and suffering on me as a black woman. Im only 22, and ive already dealt with racism, sexism and colorism at college going into the workforce. Busting my butt off, only for my ideas that i worked so hard for,to be taken by other groups of people(non-black women and men of any race) and they get the credit or they get picked over me. Even when i was more talented than them or was more hard working. Im not doing it anymore.I am done muling and slaving away for YT people and black men in the workforce👏🏽.And i dont want to be around worldly people anyway i want to connect with God and rest in my femininity and grow my own food and use organic or raw foods to eat or to use as cosmetics💅🏽
@@incognito3599 i feel all of this, I hope you get to live your best life 💕
@@incognito3599Go ahead and travel. And take care of yourself. Do what God has called us to do.
I quit my almost 6 figure job as a nurse 2 yrs ago when I was born again to be a stay at home wife/mom and my family thought I was crazy. It was hard because I knew that’s what God wanted for me. Still struggle with it for sure. Family telling me I could be making so much money. Then it makes me question my decision. Working at home is hard work. Started working for a month again but feel so guilty. Going back to what God called me to stay home. But I know that’s what The Lord wants for my family.
Love your comment. I quit my job but started a business. I control my schedule but looking to automate so that I can stay home more.
You need to not give your family so much power & time. Clearly they aren't serving Christ. You can love them, pray for them at a distance. When they start their mess..pull away.
Perhaps you could just work part-time to keep your license from expiring, especially if you like being a nurse, but then also have more time at home than if you were working full 40 hours. If you don’t like your job and like just being at home, then don’t feel guilty and just live a fulfilling life as a full-time homemaker. Do you have loans from nursing school? If so, maybe at least do a little more nursing to pay it off, unless your husband’s salary can pay it off. Otherwise, moms are often nurses. ;)
Gissel, you'll never regret staying home. My kids are now between 16-20 yrs old. I'm so glad I quit working and did not go back. I have degrees in OT & RN. I did not maintain either one of my licenses. My husband does make more money than me though so we're doing good on his salary alone. But even if you have to make financial sacrifices, you do NOT get this time back! They're not little again. If you want to be home and can afford it at all, it's so worth it.
Peoples opinions, ideas, thoughts n even saying oh you should be doing this does not matter when God Himself tells you to be a stay at home wife n mother. Let go of the guilt because when you follow God's way you should never feel guilty. I'm happy you're at home with yours blessings n listening but also obeying God n not people.
My brother said something similar and it was so disappointing to know that he couldn't see any value in a woman staying home. The interesting part is he didn't see it as criticism. I shared with him my desire to stay home and take care of my husband, home and children. He looked at me with a disappointing look and said you are so talented and you have so much to offer the world. Why would you want to waste it? I was more sad than hurt or offended. It's sad that most men and women today can't see any value in a woman being a homemaker.
Don't follow the world follow Jesus Christ.
@Andreea J
And why would your brother, want you to offer up your talent to a world, that doesnt even care about you or us, for that matter of fact. The people that truly care is Family, if it isnt your family of origin, maybe the family you create, be it, close friends or your husband and children🌺 I dont want to offer up my talent to the world , that will just burn me out...and chew me up and spit me out, when they done with me...
Wow. Thank you for sharing. I am a Christian housewife and honestly, most of the criticism comes from myself because I don’t believe I am doing enough. So, I appreciate you sharing this. Really.
I understand this. We can be hard on ourselves. Especially if we compare ourselves to others. We may have our struggles but trust in the LORD and ask him to strengthen you in those areas. Pro 16:3.
That was me too in the very beginning. I felt like I was wasting my life. He has changed me and my thoughts about it all.
Bindi you are such an inspiration to me. The workforce,doesnt even respect working mothers anyway. They dont even pay them for taking leave most of the time. It's so disgusting honestly🤰🏽😢
I guess because I left a caregiving (healthcare) profession...I felt like I was going to care for other people's family members (I did elderly not kids), or I was going to care for my own family. Paying someonr to care for my family while I went to work to get paid caring for other people's family members....it just didn't make sense to me.
Also, if I died tomorrow, my employer would replace me with another nurse. The patients' care would be unbroken. My kids, however, would be devastated and affected for a lifetime. So where do I have more worth?
-- from a housewife of 20 yrs
Been there. Well done. My son got married in June. At that wedding the fruit of obedience made me cry. I continue to marvel at God's ability to do more with my yes than I could ever have imagined.
I cannot like this video enough. Omg it made me cry! I am also Black American and my family is mostly women. I tried working when my daughter was first born and it caused so much stress on my household and I missed so much of my daughter’s life in the beginning. I’ve been home for the past two years and I homeschool. My household has benefited so much! It was the right choice for my family and I feel so blessed to be able to stay home and nourish my family. I’m still asked when am I going back to work and I now have the strength to say that I am not.
Wawo! Me too. Am confident now.
I'm a guy ,but I love your videos.I even ended up watching the whole video .It is not a disgrace or disappointment to take care of a family or be a housewife .It rather serves a fulfilling purpose in the sense that you are nurturing good children and a husband as well .God bless you .
being a homemaker is thriving 💗🦋
I agree 100% about the comments. I’m also a housewife who once worked as a medical professional in the health care industry for years. However due to work opportunities presented to my husband, I was able to stay at home. After about a year of being a housewife the comments started to roll in. As years went on I noticed that some of the comments started to come from a place of envy…wishing that they could stay home and not work as well (which is what they would sometimes say….as your stated)
I do believe that this is the plan God has for me. However, if that plan change and It’s HIS will for me to return back to work. Im ok with that as well. As for now, this is my life and I enjoy taking care of me & my family in this manner everyday….and yes it is a BLESSING.
Amen to resting in His will. It's cozy here, right? lol
Thank you for sharing this, you’re living my “career” goals. God has opened my eyes to the beauty of fulfilling the role that He has designed for women from accounts like yours.
I'm so blessed to hear that He has opened your eyes. It really is miracle to be able to see things as He sees them. It just is not in our nature, so it is quite literally a work of the Spirit, a miracle, if you will when it happens. Just know I'm rejoicing with you. 💖
I’m so happy you’re doing this series! It comes as a comfort for the decision my husband and I made for me to leave my last job to stay home with our son. I’ll be chiming in very much. Keep doing this, it’s going to help so many! ❤️
It makes me so happy to know the series is helpful!
I got my BS, a fantastic job, then went to law school.... and then I finally gave in and became a sahm. I wish I would have done it sooner!!! It is very hard to deal with the judgment, but it's so worth it.
Who cares what people say. They criticized Christ. Once you know who you are in the Lord, others opinions won't matter.
@@danilaroche1156 I so agree. I was only saved after I became a sahm, so all I had was the world at first. Now, I don't question it at all.
I almost folded and went back but God!! Thank you for sharing Bindi. I love the cocoon analogy
I love the point of God shielding you and cocooning you from the world *I feel that!*
I loved this! African American Christian homemaker here. For so long I wanted to be a homemaker and this past year I finally am able to do that by the grace of God. I grew up in a semi matriarchal family. Men present but women take the lead and some no men present. Most people in my family or friends have been supportive of me staying home. There were some who did say I was lazy and wanted my husband to do everything when I would take an extended maternity leave. I've been hard on myself leaving a career. But my career in this season is caring for my family and house. It's been a truly educational process. Especially homeschooling but I'm loving the patience that is being worked in me. I started with you for the locs and looking forward to more content like this. I'm considering a podcast or a personal channel myself just so nervous.
podcast or a personal channel? Go for it! Thank you for commenting.
Do it sis! I'm starting a channel. I published 3 books. I was nervous. Scared. God gave me courage. Now I'm on a book tour!
Beautiful message. I just became an official house wife/home maker after our 3rd baby this year in July. I felt the calling while pregnant with my son and my husband agreed. It has truly been a blessing so far even with the hardships of adjusting. Thank you for mentioning how protected we are from this world as house wives. I was climbing the corporate ladder and experienced the political back stabbing. So grateful my work ethic and energy can be used to focus on my home and not a job. I found your channel through Angel at Habits of a Homemaker. I love this content as it encourages me and empowers me as a Black homemaker led by Scripture as well. I don’t know any homemakers personally especially around my age (29). Thank you again. And all praises to the Most High Yah for speaking through you to deliver this message!
I was so excited to come across this video. I'm quitting my job to be a stay at home wife. I love seeing black women restore the family, it's beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I resigned from work in 2019 to be a stay home mother, something I vowed never to be.
It was a step of faith, and obedience to what I believed the Lord wanted me to do. I was afraid, but I did it anyway. I thought it was a sacrifies, at the time, but I was wrong, it is a huge blessing. It was lonely at first because I lost all my friends, but I am okay with it now. My relationship with my Father is much deeper and I cannot thank God enough for loving me so much that He saved me from missing out on this grace.
God bless you. I hear you.
I really enjoyed hearing you speak about your experience. Thank you for sharing. I have gotten a small amount of criticism since becoming a homemaker a year and a half ago from some family members. In my experience, it’s always petty comments made behind mine or my husbands back. No one ever has the courage to say anything to us. We have been debt free since getting married and do well on one income. He makes an average salary, but we are frugal and stick to a budget. There really is no reason at all for people to be concerned with me staying at home (now, with my first child), so I have wondered if maybe it’s just envy. I look forward to more videos from you! God bless!
They are deluded is why and they are not in Christ. Love them but maintain some distance. Be wise.
Envy and jealousy will lead many people a stray. I'm glad you didn't take it to heart. I love that this is a privilege that so few women get to embrace and I'm glad that you are. Although I have no desire to be a stay at home wife, I commend the people who do.
Hey Bindi👋🏼…I’m not Christian, but as a African American/black Muslim housewife/homemaker we have similar value; and so I totally appreciate wholesome content like yours….
I experienced a lot of the same criticism when I married my husband when I was 16yrs old. I felt bad about not taking the advice of my parents and waiting until after I got a colleg degree/career to get married and have children but I had this overwhelming feeling of this is what I have to do to save myself. Myself nor my husband were religious but we both knew we had to be married and here we are 22 wild yrs later😆, lol….
I have had a few part time positions but 95% of the time I’ve been wholly a housewife and now I won’t even consider work unless it can be done from home, I’m spoiled😆…and it’s not easy being a homemaker but the rewards are endless, it truly has lead to the preservation of my family. And now my parents admire the family structure we’ve chosen.
I had to learn to not listen to my mother. My mom once told me, "you KNOW this is the wrong decision". I got mad. I told her that no I didn't know that, in fact I know I am to do this. I had to tell her to stop telling me what is spiritually right because she didn't know what God was telling me. I eventually lost the relationship with my mother. I eventually found out she is mentally ill and her instructions would have run me way in the wrong direction. Sometimes we have to stand our ground even against our parents. My mom had a power over me. If she had that same power over me now, my marriage would likely be destroyed. I think it is very important that women stay with their children at home, sheltered from the stress of the world so that you can bring peace to your children.
This was legit my story God called me out. Black homemaker here! Best decision of my life I can relate regarding the comments from family members. It literally does feel like a amazing protection bubble that God has me in it’s one of my favorite parts of the journey ❤️
This resonated with me. I am currently working as a nurse and am unmarried, but my parents definitely see me as becoming the first doctor in the family. I hope to stay home when I have children.
My mom was a homemaker and I loved it! I’m 27, married, black and Christian. I have three other young black married friends who are homemakers (and one of them doesn’t even have kids, she’s still a homemaker) and I love us. God is leading his children in the same direction. Amen 🙏🏽
I’m also a black housewife. I really appreciate this video.
Same. Matriarchal upbringing by three generations of women. I lived with aunt, grandma and great grandmother 😱
Good evening, I'm a stay-at-home housewife and a christian as well. I must say. It has been challenging coming from the medical field and now taking care of family. But in all things, God has blessed my husband in such a way so that I can stay home. It has not been easy. But our children loved that I'm home. To be able to talk to them, share life experiences, it's those moments you cannot get back. New subbie here!!!
The sad part is I’m not even married yet and many ppl are criticizing my want to be a homemaker. But, as I’m getting closer to God, the more I do not care about the opinions. It’s more so I care about the future I want to foster and the care I want to give to my family. You made the right choice and you motivate so many of us to stand firm in what God has put on our hearts
This content is everything! I am not a Christian, however I am realizing that restoring the nuclear family will save our community…these practices of the traditional family structure are of such a higher calling than many realize. I believe that being a homemaker is one of the highest spiritual callings. When you and your spouse have the same family vision, and you have a heart for each other, your shared purpose, and your shared mission; the “submission” thing has nothing to do with “being a slave to your husband”. My upbringing is exactly like yours. I’m single, but I would like to transition into to full wifehood and motherhood one day. Thank you for this new content. I definitely came for the locs but got something better.
I loved this so much!!
I have been a homemaker for a little over a year now, and it's been a journey, but one I know God has led our family to! This video encouraged me to share my story.
Thank you for your boldness in this!
This video is so on time in so many ways. I can 100% relate. The ability to be a stay at home mother is a blessing. I am currently working part-time but i refuse to work full time because for my personal experience it did more harm than good. Now I can dedicate more time , energy and mental clarity to my husband and kids. It helps all of us.
thank you for this encouragement! i am a housewife, homemaker and mother. my husband has always encouraged me to stay home which i am thankful for but some friends and family have alway had other opinions. I have felt guilty as if i needed to explain myself and i found myself feeling shamed for it, the mentality has been if you can “work” than you should… this channel/video makes me feel blessed, free and thankful for this gift from God. and my prayer is that i can encourage others.
Blessing, Tonyisha
“In no means is it meant to be a shaming of my parents.” I love the way that you communicate. You speak to me. I’m learning so much from you. My heart is full and I’m crying. You show me what sin looks like. You show me how to love the Lord and want to make Him happy. You have blessed me more that you’ll ever know. Thank you. May God’s bless you over and over again.
I tripped, I stumbled and fell into this video thank you so much for talk about this life choice. Yes black housewives get a bad connotation because of society and how they view black educated women. I am a Christian and a black housewife and I am proud of it. Thank you again for sharing. I would love to see the other like us out there on TH-cam.
God really answers prayers, I've been praying for God to teach me how to be a wife and in the last 5 years I've been asking God for this exact lifestyle, I really believe and want to raise my children and not have the burden of providing and to marry a man of God with this exact principles.
My family and extended family dynamic are exactly like yours, many women in my family were and are single parents, some were married some weren't and I don't want that, because I see the effects it has on the children, I myself am a product of such a household. I've always wanted something different. God brought me to you. You've helped me understand that God can teach me even if there are no examples around me.
You've taught me not to look at my past but concentrate on a new future/vision. I love how you bring everything back to scripture, it really cements it for me. I can't thank you enough for this ministry, please keep going you are changing lives, generational curses and teachings. May God bless you and your household
As a housewife who has never worked outside of the home, not even when I was single, mainly because I was in Mexico most of my life up until I got married. My parents were missionaries and were afraid to let me work outside the home as a young American woman in Mexico. I think I take it for granted the immense blessing and privilege it is to be able to take care of the home, without all the intense pressures of the corporate world. Thanks for the reminder.
Powerful I want to cry what a revelation from the holy spirit. Thank you sis for the message from heaven amen
I was a housewife while homeschooling my teen daughter and caring for my toddler and infant. That time was such a blessing in my life. Most importantly, I was granted the opportunity to pour GOD's WORD and guidance into my girls' lives. They are now 33, 22 and 19. The oldest now raises her children with many of the same precepts of her childhood. I have two college graduates with one who is finishing her studies now. Thank you for sharing your journey. The joy of THE LORD is our strength. Amen
This was amazing!! So relatable!
I went to a top 20 college, graduated and got a high paying job and lived in a beautiful high rise luxury apartment. The whole time i was dreaming of finding my husband and becoming a homemaker. Once i finally found my husband, we talked about me staying home and he was totally on board. I dont have kids yet but being a homemaker is amazing regardless. My whole family gave me so much pushback on this decision. They kept giving all of the “what if” financial situations. But tbh, most americans are living paycheck to paycheck with no savings and poor spending habits, but my family never has words for relatives in that situation because they are working. Meanwhile my husband makes an abundance of money and we are extremely responsible but somehow theyre worried about me 😂😂 it just goes to show that while people think theyre concerned about your well being, they’re just uncomfortable seeing black women in this role because we have more than enough money just on his income.
Loved what you said about God cocooning you from all that hustle and bustle! So true!
I have been struggling to tune out the opinions of my family and in laws for a few years now. I wish people could be more supportive of this calling to stay home. This video was very helpful and I can completely relate
I am a Christian homemaker. I love your channel. I really appreciate this message. I retired early from corporate America and your honesty refreshed my heart. I can totally understand what you mean and it has been so discouraging to experience this. I still struggle inside but my fortitude has grown in the last couple of years. I went back to work a few times over the years after God called me to be at home and it was a disaster. The stress I felt from those wicked workplaces took a toll on my health. I write poetry books now and started a TH-cam channel to share my faith in the Lord. So glad to connect with your channel!!! I am @ Madra Bell. Thanks for the encouragement ❤️🙏🏾
I’m a stay-at-home mom of 3.5 and I can fully relate to much that was said in this video
3.5???
@@quelquun2018 she’s pregnant I think
Shalom sis. After understanding that this lifestyle that our Father in heaven has actually required us as wives and mothers to do, I had to repent to Him. I say that because I was one of those relatives who spoke badly about an aunt who stayed home to care for her family. I never called her to question her decisions but I recall speaking badly about her with other family members. Now that I’m in the Word and realize our roles that we are called to be, I’m see she and my uncle had a great understanding whether from God or not but that worked great for their marriage. She never allowed the judgements from the family to deter her from her call. I truly enjoy your videos. Shalom.
You doing an important work Bindi! I am a house wife and mom, a year a ago I got a little job. Even though my husband recommend that I didn’t. Now I am realizing I’d rather be able to give all my time to my family. It’s such a blessing to not have too, an act of love that my husband deals with all the stress from his job. It’s not fun to take on kids and a job! At my church we have a saying that says “No success can compensate for failure in the home” and I know I would rather be number one with my boys than have extra money. I think what your doing is SO important!
I have been a sahm mom for almost 20 years now. I love that quote from your church. I was working for a while after having our first child. I eventually had a clinical nervous breakdown. That is when we decided that the money was not a replacement for my health. over the years there were times we struggled badly with money. My husband was not the best $ manager (he has improved greatly). I would try to work at something that I could bring my kids with me to (babysitting, housekeeping, elder care). There were times that my husband would pressure me to do it & other times that I got sick of never having any $. It never worked longterm. We would start fighting, things would start slipping at home, or he would get critical and I would have to cut corners at what ever job. I can remember one time, while doing housekeeping/elder care, that I mentioned having to miss an upcoming event at our kids' school because I would be at this lady's house that day. He told me point blank that my 1st duty that day was our kids and that I would reschedule that cleaning. He also would get peeved if I did not get home in time to have lunch ready. I was often making excuses & angry with him. That was the tipping point and I soon scaled down outside work until I had no more clients. I thought that by bringing my girls with me or doing things while they were occupied in school was 'good enough', but really I paid no attention to the idea that I was not at HOME taking care of my husband FIRST. His coworkers are often jealous of the awesome lunches & the knowledge that I get up super early some mornings to make him coffee, lunch, etc.. & that I see him off to work everyday.
@@pattyhansen7563 thanks for your reply. It so hard to juggle both. I wish it was more clear which lane we need to be in. But everyday I feel more and more I need to be more present with my children. And not getting in his lane but being supportive of him instead. That’s awesome that you get up so early to take care of your family, that’s my big struggle but I luv sleep! My husband definitely gets annoyed by the time I give my job, when I have other things to do. It’s less than 10 hrs a week though. So I’ll probably quit soon, my husband and I are trying to build a business together.
This video was definitely needed. I had my 3rd son a few months ago and have finally decided I needed to do the same. Thank you for this encouragement
It’s been 5 months? How’s the baby?! How is mom doing?
Wow! What a beautifully articulated testimony! I have watched this 4 times in a row because I can 100% relate as my family, especially my father, were the same when I got married 7 years ago. The pull between wanting their approval and wanting to follow God's biblical instruction has been exhausting and harmed my self esteem - only because I thought I had to please to both. The comments I would receive as I've been a home keeper are things like, "you've done nothing with your life. Your just using your husband so you don't have to work...." I've had to heal from so much condemnation.
Your testimony has brough strength and encouragement to my spirit, I thank the Lord for hearing it and pray it reaches and is able to lift up many who are struggling with this.
Peace and blessings to you and your family 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much for this video. I became a homemaker & SAHM 17 years ago when I was expecting my second child. My kids are young adults now and they have benefited so much from our choice for me to be at home with them. We get compliments on their behavior and how they choose to live their lives. My father-in-law could not stand me being at home with them and not working outside the home. It got really bad and he would criticize me to my children and my husband. It finally got so bad that my husband had a huge blow-up with him and now they don't speak. That was 4 years ago. This video did me a world of good. It was a message that I needed to hear. Thank you! Also, my daughter got a part-time job in daycare while she's in college. After her first day working there, she came home & told me thank you for being home with her.
I, too, had criticism from in laws. My MIL would go get me job applications, remind me of the civil service test dates, and tell me of openings at her work,. They would belittle me, call me uptight (cuz i didn't leave my kids with daycare), say I expected too much of their son, all while It was his idea that I stay home. ( I never heard them criticize their daughter for staying home and having kids with this one & that.) It has benefited us in innumerable ways over the past 20 yRS. Eventually the abuse from his family was too much. My husband cut them out of our lives 12 years ago. His father died & they never had talked again. His mother always HAD to work, because their father abused alcohol & I think she was just jealous. She never would understand that it was her son that encouraged me to stay home & not me 'begging to be taken care of'. If she actually ever paid attention to what I did all day, she would see that it isn't a bed of roses.
@pattyhansen7563 hi Patty. We have had some many similarities in our lives. My father in law passed away last September, and he & my husband weren't on speaking terms. They also acted like I was free loading , all the while my husband was happy with me being a homemaker. I have vowed to be a good mother in law when my kids are married. I don't want to repeat the past.
@@bluebellecharm4 Yes, on the mother in law comment. I won't have daughters in law, but I want to be a more supportive in law than what I experienced. My husband has done a lot of work on himself to break the chains of the past. I am amazed every day at how different he is from his family unit. I can definitely see the hand of God in it. He has NEVEr treated me like I was too heavy to 'carry'. On the contrary, I am harder on myself than he is & often self deny when I have no reason to. My in laws always acted like i was asking for too much or that I was financially demanding. But in reality, He is the free spender & I am a total TIGHT WAD! They never really cared enough about me as a person to find out why it worked for me to be home & that is their loss. I was just always confused, because they didn't have an issue with their daughter being a sahm (altho she was never home & rarely mommed LOL) and ofter their other son was unemployed & and stayed home with the kids. I guess it was because we seemed happy & they were jealous & we didn't need them pulling our irons out of the fire like the other 2. You know what they say - misery loves company.
I am so proud of you. You are my sister in Christ and friend, even though you don’t know me. In a perfect world, we would be best friends and disciple each other! Stay strong and in the word, dear heart. The word of God is our only truly defensive weapon. I watch your videos often, and will pray for you when I do.
I have just found you recently in past couple of days and am listening to it all. I am not a black woman but I am a Christian woman who’s heart is at home. I have worked and work some now but I’ve always had a disconnect in the world because I want to be home. When I hear these messages it makes me love and appreciate my husband, my home and what God says about our roles. I have also been told that I need to go work harder, go make something better for us, that I need to “get in to SOMETHING”… all from family. Anyways…. I appreciate what all you are teaching. Thank you.
I was told similar things. Somehow I knew that it was veiled in jealously.
Thank you so much for sharing. Where you been all my life? Lol. This is REAL! Younger me needed you and my current self do to.I am a homemaker myself. Married 16 years going on 17 years in September to my high school sweet❤ and we share 6 children together. Being married at 18 and my husband being 19 at the time, I truly suffered with the criticisms of family, classmates, and those around me in general. Through the word of God I found comfort in being a keeper of my home as Christ has instructed. Thank you for sharing again.
When my kids were younger 11months, 3 and 7. My dad kept calling me asking when i was going back to college when was i enrolling. My grandmother even a Christian woman would ask me am i working. I spent so many years of my homemaker life feeling undervalued and criticized for my choice by my family, his family and other women. In the beginning of our marriage, My husband and i prayed to God for me to be able to stay home and we were blessed so much so that my husband mom called and told me i was makin her son suffer. That i was putting too much on him by not working. At that time we had 2 rental properties and lived in a nice sized home in California. I wish had channel like this to encourage me back then. Im in my 40s now, still a homemaker almost 20 years in.
Wow that sounds so tough. Thank you for sharing. In an odd way it was encouraging to me to hear it reiterated that my experience was not so different. I'm glad you were able to stick with your convictions. Be blessed!
The Holy Spirit told me that I was going to marry my husband upon first meeting him. And when I say I rebuked that thing! 😂 Of course though God's will prevailed and I'm a happy housewife to the best love I ever knew.
Thank you! Recently I have been struggling with my own decision to become a full-time homemaker. This helped me to put my God given role into the correct perspective. I worked for 14 years, became born again and eventually left my position. Unfortunately I have been on the giving and receiving end of this equation. I can attest that when I was the one giving the “advice,” it was rooted in jealousy and depression over my own situation. I struggled with mom guilt, extreme fatigue, and my home life suffered. I love being a homemaker, but lately I have been dealing with feelings of inadequacy. I have also received a lot of questions about my choice to be home. I know I made the right decision. It has been such a blessing to my family. Thank you for encouraging words.
The Femine Fancy is a young Black You Tuber. She has great content on femininity and homemaking.
Such a powerful testimony!💕
People who criticize women who stay home raising their children… man that is just crazy to me.
All women have this criticism no matter who we are. My stay at home mother was the one who pushed me to have a career. Stay at home women have a tougher as they do not leave their work at the office. Your experience are the similar to mine. God bless!
Girlllll! I can relate to this! Thank God for helping me to recognise the importance of my role.
Thanks so much for your video it really motivated me. I became a house wife back in 2019 when I was pregnant with my daughter. Some family and friends had alot of negative things to say about it. I received some of the same comments that you did. It made me feel so bad but I felt honored to be a stay at home wife and your video just boosted my confidence so thank you so so so much.
Your Message is for All Women, my dear ❤. It's Precious!
This video has help me in so many ways. I did get the criticism from family. One aunt said “oh it must be nice” under her breath. I felt super lazy and my family viewed me as not wanting to work. I wanted to work but God always Redirected me back home.. lol ever time. I knew the Holy Spirit was directing me and speaking to me saying these are the plans I have for you. Jeremiah 29:11
In my opinion this woman is truly a woman of God (Proverbs 31 woman). The gentleness by which she speaks is beautiful, the wisdom she utters is moving. She is so encouraging and reaffirming. I know that this is supposed to be for the women however the information she’s sharing is actually universal. So many Christian principles for both the male and female. May she and her family be blessed in their coming in and going out.
Oh wow. I can so relate. My moms side of family is definitely like yours. And They put a huge a emphasis on education and working (and I don’t blame them, as their childhoods kind of required them to due to lack) however I’ve been kind of wanting to stay home and I almost feel ashamed to say that cause I know it won’t be approved.
You’re describing my family to a T! I did see more marriage but me were just like you described, and I saw my Grandmother being a homemaker but she would do part time work as kids were older. I am a Biblical based SAHM. I absolutely love it! It’s beautiful under submission to God and it surely works!!!!
This was a powerful message! Thanks for sharing!
This teaching is vital to challenge and shift mindsets of young & black Christian women, and wives to be. Amen!
Thank you for this. I too am at home. But I definitely had bipolar moments during the process. I knew God was pushing me to be home but that was not the plan I had for my life. I have a masters degree and I expected to be climbing the corporate ladder. Even though my mind and heart were leaning towards being home, I couldn't submit to that. I felt like I was turning my back on my culture, expectations from my family, and that I should be hustling like everyone else. It's so crazy looking back on it now. And I still get questions and comments especially from family. But I LOVE being home and I know that I am investing in my child and family in ways I couldn't otherwise. And that is not a judgement on those who choose to work. To each their own.
I would say though that those who are home, consider ways to continue to build your career somehow so if you reenter the work force, you don't have to start from entry-level. You can do a part time virtual position, start a small business, or volunteer in order to keep your resume and skills growing and current.
That pressure is real and so strong. It's like someone should have warned us, right? Whewwwwww. Congratulations on deciding for you, yourself, and your own family as opposed to living for others and their opinions. That's a milestone in and of itself.
Hi, I just found your videos recently and am enjoying them so much. My daughter who is 17 also watches and is inspired.
I just want to say that I have also felt the criticism from my community and some family members for being a homemaker and homeschooler. I am Scandinavian on both sides so.....white on white, but we get hit hard too. I think it's a culture things as well with the feminist movement still going strong.
My biggest critic has been my mother-in-law who has been embarrassed by our homeschooling and my lack of outside work.
I just respectfully say, " You chose your life, now I am choosing mine".
Thank you for this content. I am a Christian and feel the leading of the Lord in this pursuit of life as well. 💗
It really is a blessing God's way in our lives is the best way 💗
Thank you for your transparency. I would have never known your background if you didn't share it. You seem like a professional housewife. Lol. I came from a traditional household and I married a woman that was from a household similar to yours. She was very independent, domineering and controlling (I thought I could show her a different way and soften her up). Long story short, she ended up divorcing me. But seeing how you have handled it, and reformed your character, it is very inspiring and I am so happy for you and your husband. You seem like you are about getting to the truth and the heart of a matter. I am the same way. I had grown up as a Christian all of my life. Around 47, I started questioning why things I had been taught about the bible, never made sense, like why no one I knew, (including myself), who had given tithes, seemed to be blessed to the point where they didn't have room to receive it. Why black people, who seemed to always have a connection to God, were ALWAYS at the bottom of society, no matter where in the world they were. Why we celebrated holidays that originated in Pagan cultures and none of the ones in the bible were celebrated. I came to find out that Christianity is not what it says it is. Not a single person in the bible claimed to be one and it is only mentioned 3 times, while Baal is mentioned a whole lot more, yet, no one calls the bible a Canaanite book. Then I looked at how we got Christianity. For black people, it was through slavery, where it was either choose it, or be maimed or killed. For the rest of the world, it was through wars and conquests by the Roman army and Catholic Church.
So if the bible isn't Christian, then what is it? From beginning to end it is Israel's covenant with their Mighty One, and examples of how they lived it out through different ages.
So who is Israel? Israel is described throughout the bible as being downtrodden, rejected, imprisoned, needing a savior, etc. They were never at the top of the world, running the banks, movie industry, radio, television, news etc. So if the people in the land of Israel aren't the descendants of the children of Israel, then who are? One thing I can tell you is that they are the only people who's history lines up with how they're described in the bible. And why is it important? Because all of the history and prophecies of the bible revolve around one group of people, and to place them on the wrong people means that you won't be able to understand how things will go in the last days. You'll be looking in the wrong place.
I know this is a long post, and I don't mean to offend you, but I just wanted to share my experience with you, in hopes that it will resonate with something inside of you.
First, I can relate in many areas of what you’re speaking on. Although I was raised by my father( absent mother), my husband found me via social media while I was working as a elementary teacher. Immediately after marriage we had a plan to have a 2 income based home and kids later. God does have a strong way of redirecting our paths! Fast forward I am currently a homemaker with 3 girls under the age of 3. I can’t tell you how many people asked me why I don’t work and or when am I going to be happy and go back to work and be the backbone support “if” something happens. This is ultimately calling I heard from God during my period of fighting his will for my life! Thank you so much for this video dear! 🥰 Definitely looking forward to more videos from you on your journey, tips, etc.
Why do people feel the need to give their opinion about YOUR household?! The cattiness is of the devil. It's a blessing when women support other women.
Let them be angry. Let them be jealous. Focus on your family, and enjoy your life.
Hi, I’m a Christian woman and I throughly enjoyed this. I’m a Homemaker and have been for over 8 years and it hasn’t always been easy but definitely worth it. It took some adjusting, but I can honestly say I love it!
Criticized? Whew! I’m certain people in my family blood/extended have had their opinions, (you hear bits and pieces) but the ONLY opinion that mattered to me was the two men that was taking care of me. My Heavenly Father and husband. I could not allow my life/decisions to be based on the opinion of outsiders because people will talk regardless. I also had to stop being critical of MYSELF too because it was a BIG adjustment for me especially coming from working outside the home. I have always worked so being home even though I enjoyed it was out of my comfort zone honestly. It changes you. You’re entire role as a WOMAN changes because your priorities are channeled into this one place which is your HOME. There were many times I felt like I wasn’t doing enough, but the Lord had to constantly remind me as well as others that I was right where he placed me and that THIS IS MY JOB so get on it. 😆 Hence, I embraced it and counted myself privileged. During this time, the Lord allowed me to face what I had ran from all my life…Ministry. This gift of being a Homemaker birthed out other gifts and opportunities. I was ordained, started Ministering, and also started an Online Ministry. 🙌🏾
www.heartsofchristministries.com
Never saw that part coming, but God knew. We have plans and then there’s God’s plans. We must obey the will of God whether it be outside or inside work. It took years, but I’m finally content with the gift of being a Homemaker. I realize many women love outside work, (I did) but there are also many women who would love to be a Homemaker. Both are worthy and valuable. By the grace of God and a great support system, (my parents were actually very supportive of me being a Homemaker) To date; I’m still standing in my gift as a Homemaker. It has its moments too as any position, but definitely a blessing and I’m forever grateful. I don’t look down on or criticize women who work outside the home because I have been there also. We all have something to bring to the table. Sometimes, our tables are just in different places. As you stated, I think we’re all doing the best we can in life. Personally, from my experiences Homemakers do get more criticized than women who work outside the home. It’s been portrayed as if we’re lazy, sorry, and basically don’t do anything oh but honey a TRUE Homemaker’s job NEVER ends. Some of us value our position and appreciate the opportunity because that’s just what it is…an opportunity and God-given privilege. I too sis have been “ cocooned.” 😆 I like that and blessings to you, my fellow Homemakers, and all the working women! 💕
Such a blessing 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️ I have been a housewife since Nov after resigning from my job and it has been a whirlwind of emotions because of been so concerned with people’s opinions. The problem is caring too much about what friends and family have to say. My darling husband has been super supportive and being home personally has been so refreshing. I get to spend lots of time on myself, my kids and when my husband is done from work he finds a more relaxed and happy wife. God has been so good to us❤️🙏🏾.
Thank you for such a relatable video and may our good Lord God bless you always.
Thank you for watching and commenting. My hope is that the Lord gives you a reprieve from the 'whirlwind of emotions.' The feelings themselves can be so exhausting. Here's to settling in the gift that is rest that He offers us.
@@Bindi_Marc thank you and God bless❤️🙏🏾
I'm as single as they come but I have a deep desire to be a stay at home wife + mama when I'm married. it's not the popular thing to do, especially for Black women, but I know this desire is bigger than me. I hope to be an entrepreneur as well but with my primary focus always being on my home. thank you for this video. God bless you, sis.
I love this journey for you, sis. Lord willing, when I become a wife, I desire to be a homemaker. I am also a black woman so I understand how big of a game changer the decision is.
Beautiful message. I love this
I’m a single 27 year old Christian woman. Deep down I wish I can be a homemaker but I can’t verbalize this desire to even friends not to talk of a potential partner. I know they’ll view me as “lazy” for wanting this.
You definitely need to tell potential partners, if you want to find the right one… Finding a husband is not about appealing to a maximum number of men. It’s about finding the one. My feelings anyway 😀
Thank you so much for this! I am a 23 year old girl waiting the the man God wants for me. I want a man who can provide and take care of me and my children so I can stay home or at most work part time so I can take care of myself, my children and my husband to the fullest
Amen. Wait on the Lord 😊 His choice of man for you will be far better than anyone you could choose for yourself.
@@Bindi_Marc Ameen!thank you
I'm already blessed by this video. I had to pause and I'm only 3 mins in.
I am also an African American Christian women who is a house wife who left Corporate America 2 1/2 years ago. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made... not to mention the judgement I received from family about this decision. I don't have children yet so I felt ridiculed by everyone. Some suggesting I should do this or that instead of "just being a stay at home wife". Anywho, it's been a blessing for me emotionally, mentally and has aided in me going through the process of healing as my husband and I prepare for our children.....
Let me go back to the video☺️
We praise Him for the rest He's given you and how your well-being has been blessed because of it. If I know one thing, its that Im going to be diligent to not let the enemy steal any of the gifts the Lord chooses to offer me. Not even the peace and quiet that comes from being a homemaker. Thank you for commenting!
It is a divine design. You have to understand what that is to appreciate the beauty in it. God bless your journey!!!
Same...after my third child my dad was still calling asking when I was going back to school..my grandmother kept asking if I was working yet. Other woman (unmarried) criticize me asking me what i did all day and saying that cant be all i do or am. I didn't realize in some situations it WAS jealousy. It was. I let it cause me so much grief and depression. I'm still a stay home wife and God blessed us so much still they (especially his mother) was wondering how we had so much. Uh duh obedience to God. Now hindsight looking back I was double minded I wanted to be happy as housewife but also a people pleaser. I should of leaned on God more. I still at home. I'm in my 40s, my youngest 2 are still in school.
Not bad at all for 40!!❤ but that's the beauty of staying home
Wow, I am so blessed by this video. I have been made to feel like a failure because I have chosen to be a house wife and a homeschooling mum. I left a management job because God called me to be a housewife. Being black and in South Africa, being a housewife is treating is something that's very strange . I find comfort in this video. God bless you sis...