Here’s the thing I will add: smile. My husband and children are affected by how I feel about what I am doing. They are put at ease if I’m smiling and content… they are stressed out if I am cranky or frustrated … this is something I continue to have to work on even almost 20 years into marriage/ home making/ parenting.
I am constantly working on this as well. I once read/heard something that has stuck with me for years: The wife is not a thermometer, reading and broadcasting the temperature of her home. She is the thermostat, guaging the temperature and MAKING NEEDED ADJUSTMENTS. She is the driving force behind a comfortable “temperature” and she IS the attitude of the home.
This channel is a hidden gem! I am almost 26. I've always wanted to get married, but in my mind, it was always a distant thought. Something that's far ahead in my future. Because of that, my thoughts about marriage have been very shallow. I think about the wedding, what I'm going to wear, the venue, food, etc. The honey mood. What house would we live in. How will I lose my virginity and my overall sex life. What my husband would look like and how romantic he would be What it would be like to announce that I'm pregnant with my first child etc. How many kids I want and if I want a girl or boy first etc. I never think about the day-to-day life of being a wife and how to be SUCCESSFULLY married. For the first time in my life, I'm truly looking beyond the wedding and thinking of the realities of marriage. I am thinking about what it means to be a wife. What type of relationship dynamic I should have with my husband. What will I give to my husband and children? How will my daily life go? Who takes priority in the household (husband or kids). How do we avoid/handle conflict? What would I expect from my husband and what would my husband expect from me., etc. I've answered a lot of things for myself, but I still have so much to learn. I feel myself maturing and I feel like I am finally taking marriage seriously, but I'm not truly ready to take on the responsibility of being a good wife and mother. This is where your channel comes in! You are a true blessing. I prayed to find a good husband and the lord showed me your channel. I could feel him in my soul speaking "to have a good husband, you must be a good wife." I don't know who my lord is planning me for, but he must be amazing!
I pray that you may continue to grow in understanding of what marriage is , as God designed it to be. more direction you will find it in the word of God as Christian map in this world. @the Bible. I really like your expression and the change in you. Grace of God be with you
12:18 - Just WOW. I love how you brought this up. Our culture has brainwashed us to put our careers, the corporations and the economy before THINGS THAT ACTUALLY MATTER. We have replaced our men and our families with the pursuit of money and it’s really sickening. I mean it’s literally making our societies sick by breaking up the families that make them up. Also, how could anyone say it is not Christ-like to beautify yourself?? Have they looked at the earth that God has made?! The Lord loves beauty and spent time beautifying everything around us. If we are to be like Him, why wouldn’t we do the same?
If you are making yourself well groomed and dressed for the job of homemaking, you are giving the job the dignity it deserves. Of course, you wouldn't dress up in office attire, but something comfortable and suitable for your daily tasks.
I love the comments about personnel appearance! I’m an older woman now and your comments reminded me of my mother. She kept a home under difficult circumstances as the house was hundreds of years old, with no labor saving appliances that we take for granted today. Yet, she was always clean, smelled good, neatly dressed and wearing makeup. Also, she always refreshed herself before serving a delicious meal by washing her face and redoing her makeup, so that when we all sat down to eat she looked as called it” presentable.” She and my father were married for 48 years.
I'm ploughing through all of your videos and LOVING THEM and something I've noticed to the point of commenting on this one is your grace and humility in not avoiding things you disagree with. Reading and learning and teaching from a book that has aspects you disagree with is the ultimate lesson in respect and spiritual maturity. We cannot avoid rhe uncomfortable conversations or people of other faiths or how can we ever expect (as humanity and also followers of Jesus) to grow?! So blessed to share this with you 🤍
Homemaking has become so much more enjoyable since I’ve implemented a system called FLY lady for my Homemaking and a toy system based on Montessori and rotatinf
You've been blessed with physical beauty and wisdom. You were spot on when you said how women get fixed up for their jobs/bosses but not their families. Thanks for all the good insights and advice!!
Love the vids I am currently divorced and disqualified from remarry, which is OK but I love to hearing finally somebody putting out good biblical context for wives
I agree with the wifes appearance being important. You don't have to be donning fancy clothes but just keeping yourself presentable is good for your mental health.
Oh my word! Just thank you so much for this channel. I have been so blessed and encouraged by your speaking hard truths. As a mom of 8 with 2 already graduated, I wish I had lived this out years ago. You are wise beyond your years. Thank you for your work on this channel. You are renewing passion in me to rise to this high calling with joy🥰
:) I have tears in eyes, when I read you are mum of 8. I am mum of 4, and it has been really really hard and taff. I have no sleep, many times no time or energy to eat, kids were almost all the time sick, than disableness in teaching when they start go to school (it was mentaly exhausting). so I am so so so happy to hear what you are saying, grounded in God, in his word. I really want to make hard work and reset everything, my look at myself, at my husband, ger sit and planed work in household, get rid of many many things that cause me crazy and I really wont give them away. And I am thank you for tips how to start. And it is a big portion of healing for me too. because i have heard only realy ugly things from my mum about being a women and married. it is filling my gap of positive things about being women, mum, married. i have just testyfied tommy family during our evening prayer about this. I am praying that God of universe will change me more and more to his glorious image, and fill me with his revelation, truth and loving kindnes. and oracticaly guide me steo by step.
It’s so refreshing to hear someone else despise clutter as much as I do. Things that serve no purpose definitely take up physical space but also mental space and impact my mood. Great point.
I agree that some chores require a lot of mental concentration. I was just telling someone how I need to go to the grocery store but before I do that I have to make a list and before I do that I have to plan meals for the next few days and before that I need to check what we already have and what's on sale at the store. And trying to do all this with 4 kids is tough! So now it's 1pm and my littlest is napping. I'm going to make my list (and all those other things) and take all the kids to the store when he wakes up. Dinner tonight is Mac and cheese with garlic croutons and roasted broccoli!
Do you utilize Instacart? It saves me so much time and you can schedule the deliveries days in advance. You can even pick them up if you want to get out the house.
Simple and healthy is best. You have four children. Doing big meals 3 x a day could get really old. Have a protein a carb and a vegetable or fruit. They’ll be healthy. Don’t wash dishes except maybe supper. Use paper plates for breakfast and lunch and real dishes for supper. It’s not about perfection. It’s about doing our best and using time saved to do something enjoyable like play with our kids. Have hotdogs outside. No clean up of crumbs and no wiping down counters/washing dishes.
So I initially came for the loc content. But as a Woman who is about to be married in a little over a month, this is the content that I didn’t know I needed! I am loving the content!!! I also can’t wait for the dresses to drop. Keep up the amazing work Joyce ❤️
I associate clutter with ANXIETY! I cannot stress the impact of DECLUTTERING your home amd having a place for EVERYTHING. My husband said it best....what's the point of having a well decorated home (which I love) if its covered in junk! And ladies we can FIND excuses....my FAVORITE...."its lived in"...sometimes this is code for "Im lazy and procrastinating"..... I'm preaching to myself. PURGE regularly and have an HONEST conversation with yourself about excess and/or Hoarding. Less TRULY is more! I'm not minimalist but.... restraint is what I practice. A SIMPLE life with a sprinkle of cozy😊
I became a wife to a man for the first time at age 47 after being saved at age 39 while in a same sex marriage! Over the past 10 years the Lord has shown me what a wife is for and gave me the desire to be a wife and keeper of my home. Godbless you!! Thank you for your support and valuable information that is such an encouragement for living this way! ❤
I’m so glad you mentioned the point at the end that it’s wrong to use the fear of your husband leaving you as a means to get you to obey the Bible. The Bible clearly states that we should care for our family out of a fear and reverence to God, not our husbands.
You made such a GREAT point about our appearance for the workplace vs home. Being casual at home doesn't have to equal hot mess express 🤣 I've been making efforts of getting lounge clothes that allow me to be comfortable and put together, so if someone unexpected came over or I need to go outdoors, I don't have to be rushing to change or cover up. Same for bedtime. My Grandmother married 60 years, and 7 children always said it's important how you go to bed. Dress well, take your shower/bath and smell good - whether or not you expect to be intimate with your spouse. It makes you feel better about yourself overall. And it's so true. I sleep better, I feel better, and I look better 😊
Thank you so much for this!! I especially love the “clap back” you gave to the push back of you putting appearance 1st. Such a great point.. the energy people put in for someone who’s just paying you, but may not even care about you. Our families should get the best of us!! ❤️ Ooh the part about nagging the hubby about where he left this or that. Definitely taking heed.
Absolutely! I’m a stay at home, homeschooling mom of 4 and everyday I wake up and dress as though I’m going somewhere. I hadn’t thought anything of it. I just always want to be ready if something comes up and I have to run an errand. But my husband recently complimented me saying he appreciates that after 18yrs, I haven’t “let myself go” and that I always look so feminine. I had no idea he even cared! Lol
Wow... I've been married 2 yrs now and you have just helped me with this video. I have been so stressed out about my husband messing up while I've just cleaned. Now I know that the house is for him not the other way round. Thank you so much Bindi❤
I can't tell you how much your content and insight have been helping me. My biggest issue is I burn out on the trivial stuff like vacuuming crumbs and dry mud from 3 little boys, wiping down counters. Simply put...THANK YOU P.s. please could you discuss your personal daily/weekly/monthly schedule for maintaining your home and family?
as a Jesus follower and wife of a Godly man for 44 yrs...what you're sharing is certainly Wisdom and can easily be affirmed by the Peace and Love that fills our home and as I see my 4 daughters thriving by living similarily...I thank the Lord for your channel ♥️
I am a better homemaker and wife because of your content! I feel more joyful, grateful, and purposeful doing household chores instead of seeing them as a burden. These are things the Lord finds favor in when I do them with love and a grateful heart. Thank you for sharing such valuable insight and encouragement through God’s truth ❤️
So thankful for these videos you put out. As child of a single parent house hold with no examples of what a nuclear family looks like from the inside I have had trouble knowing that I want to be a homemaker but not really understanding what that means or how to make it work. I am still working on myself as it’s a huge mindset change but I’m appreciative of your videos and others like them that help me navigate it all.
This women’s content is 🔥! I can attest that what she is saying is true! I’m 36. I’ve been with my husband since I was 15 ( which I understand wasn’t the right way to do it but it’s what we knew.) I can tell you that we went through too MANY heartaches until we got married 14 years ago and really started yielding to the word of God. It takes a lot of effort and selflessness, it takes obedience even when you don’t understand ( this was especially true for me growing up in a household where I didn’t have my father and the man who was there was abusive to those that weren’t his children.) Really surrendering my life to God has changed my life in a way that when it’s explained it’s almost not believable in this day and age we live in. It’s not to say that struggles and disagreements won’t come but you are equipped with truth to fight whatever comes. By His grace I’ve been happily married 14 years 6 children deep 😝 and loving my life which I never imagined would have turned out this way. The word of God is where it’s at! It yields results like it’s supposed to.
I love this series, I really felt that sock thing! Those socks just get on my nerves, but I just imagine myself as if I were doing all these things for Christ and I pick up those crusty socks with pure joy 🤣
I LOVE your videos! I have been binge watching your channel the last few days while doing laundry or washing dishes. I’ve been a SAHM for 7 years and sometimes I have the feeling of ‘missing out’ or that I should bring in an income too. But all my sisters and mother keep reminding me to enjoy this time, that the kids grow up so fast. You’re such an intelligent lady and you’re amazing in explaining things/put it into words. The love for the lord and the pride you put into your homemaking- it is so inspiring to me! Thank you 🥰
I love how you called it a domestic goddess. And prioritize appearance. I wear dresses a ton now, and recently I wear aprons to keep my dresses clean and dry. My husband mentioned how a coworker suggested we do a double date to an event so the ladies can dress nice, and he bragged that his wife wears dresses almost everyday. It made me really proud:) your videos help me so much with improving myself and my morals.
Amen! Your videos are a breath of fresh air to me. I love my job as homemaker and wife and mom. I agree with all of these points and am encouraged to know I'm not alone in my beliefs 🙌
I want you to know, your homemaking series has helped me so much. Especially with my thinking toward homemaking. I am a married woman of nearly 20 years with 11 children. My life has gotten covered up with stuff to the point of barely being able to function. I have just gotten so overwhelmed with my whole life. Your videos have been a God send,literally. God bless.
Joyce this is definitely your calling 🙏! You are a blessing to your husband and to your home and to many of us who are late bloomers and are trying to figure out the adventure and blessing of being a homemaker 💗
I knew Helena. She was such a beautiful person to be around. I looked up to her and she always found some way to turn a negative into a positive situation.
Love your take on appearances. Your insight of the hypocrisy of taking bathing, dressing nicely, perfuming and brushing your teeth for a job are seen as respectable for an employer but dismissal for a housewife is refreshing.
12:07 - Sis! The pushback is real because of the normality of comfortability. Regardless if the garments are raggedy too. Comfort can honestly be an idol to us and I believe that's why many struggle with Spirit-led counsel to elevate and refine our characters and lives. Your points on this particular topic reminded me of a paragraph I read from this book awhile back that always rings in my ear. The paragraph is specifically speaking to mothers because it's a section of the book entitled "Mother-Queen of the Household" but the sentiments are fitting to wives and woman overall. "If mothers allow themselves to wear untidy garments at home, they are teaching their children to follow in the same slovenly way. Many mothers think that anything is good enough for home wear, be it ever so soiled and shabby. But they soon lose their influence in the family. The children draw comparisons between their mother's dress and that of others who dress neatly, and their respect for her is weakened." AH 253.4 May we as Christian woman see our duty to be neat and tasty for our Lord, ourselves and those in our sphere of influence. Blessings always :)
lol, my husband likes it so much less when I dress up/fix up. He loves when I look comfortable and don't wear makeup. I listen to the flylady and it's been good to get dressed to shoes every day.
I recently started watching your videos and love the content. So much truth and practical advice for women. Please make more homemaking/marriage videos, it’s blessed me so much!
I’m so glad I found this! You are a rare gem 💎 Especially in black culture, traditional women are looked down on more so than white women (I’m mixed but passing 🤷🏻♀️ I’m white to everyone lol). It’s an uncomfortable subject, really. With boss babe and hustle culture so so prevalent nowadays, it’s actually a SUBCULTURE to be traditional! It’s unbelievable. Much love!
Hah! I’m not even two minutes in and I’m being called out on watching this video while making lunch. Someone here needs to work on concentration and focus 😂😂😂 Thanks Joyce for this series. I’m learning soooo much more than I thought possible!
I absolutely love listening to you. A trip for the folks new to homemaking. All the lists that you're mentioning, daily cleaning, weekly, monthly and yearly. The flylady Marla Cilley has them all set up on an app. So you just download the flylady app and the just check off all the boxes. I wish you and Marla could do a collaboration together.
My kids are all teens and young adults now (5 of them :) I read this book in my early 30's and it changed my world. I was just thinking of rereading and stumbled on your channel! I wanted to comment on the very end of the video- YES! Good on you for recognizing that undertone of your "husband's behavior is your responsibility"- ie if you don't do xyz he'll find someone who will. Yes that is sin! And recognizing there's so much good in the book but sometimes some lies that you need to recognize will help it be a joy not a burden on you.
The one thing that affects me the most is the look on people's faces when I walk into a room. Within reason, of course. If no one smiles at me, if the people I love don't smile at me and look happy to see me, I start to consider whether I need to change my life and attentions.
LOL, that is not the part I thought you would be objecting to (I hadn't really noticed in the book until you pointed it out) but the "maintain a childlike behavior" is the one I struggled with. I can tell you from experience though, my husband does actually respond more positively to my vulnerability than when I am Large and In Charge.
I have been watching many of your videos and I absolutely love them all. I want to be a better woman, wife, mom, homemaker and these videos have helped extremely. I also feel like in a weird way, it has helped my mental health. I used to feel shame and guilt for being home and watching my friends and family work but now I feel so blessed to be able to stay home. I feel like my family needs me home and they show me how grateful they are. Since focusing more on femininity, I've noticed my husband being more loving and affectionate and my kids more well behaved and more loving. They have always been like this but it feels like it's been amplified, I set the tone for our home.
This is awesome that your covering fascinating womanhood because the original author’s daughter Dixie did a more updated one and now Dixie and her daughter have a channel on TH-cam called fascinating womanhood with Dixie and (her daughter I apologize but her name escapes me) where they give advice and things like that. You should check that out :)
As a single woman, with homemaker/housewife aspirations, this is so helpful for me as someone who works from home. I am a little scattered BUT being able to recreate my schedule and getting myself and my family ready before I start the day has been such a fresh breath of air. It’s also been a lovely influence for them as well
Thank you so much for this, I was wondering if you've made a video on how to create a schedule for keeping house and other obligations. Then I saw this video on your channel list! This was awesome! I took notes, I greatly appreciate this!
I have no idea how I came upon your videos. It must be divine intervention. I am so grateful that they showed up in my YT feed. I kook forward to them and love all your advice especially since it all glorifies God.
I'm so sorry it took my so long to use these keywords. What a wealth of videos I can't wait to watch now. I like to play things like this while I cook and bake. Right now I'm making playdough for my toddler😊
Hi! I just found your channel and I love it! I’m a 22 year old mom with a 2 year old and a 5 month old. My husband and I have been married 3 years. I am really trying to work on organization and homemaking. My biggest obstacle is my toddler. I feel guilty if I am not entertaining him constantly. I want to get things done and keep a neat home but he is always demanding me to play or go outside. When I try and work on housework he goes right behind me and undoes everything I just cleaned. I don’t want him sitting in front of the the tv all day to distract him but I also can’t entertain him constantly. Should I just require him to find ways to entertain himself? I am trying to focus more on my husband and not only my kids but I think the new trend of “gentle parenting” and validating every emotion of a child has effected me.
I would suggest try getting him to be mommy's little helper, teach him to put away everything he moves out of place and affirm him when he does , teach him how to help you clean or do small tasks
Children learn via our example not what you verbally demand/instruct alone..so yes get dressed up with the appropriate dignity for your family as a man appearance does matter. That's the Christian thing to do please remember that we are not working for " the man" but we(both roles) prioritize all our efforts for the Most High.
Thank you for the study Bindi. I’m planning on reading that book this year and also the author’s daughter wrote a revised version that includes a workbook. Dixie Andelin Forsyth. She is also on TH-cam. Have a wonderful day 🌷🏡♥️
I love kitchen gadgets 🤣 but to make up for this I told my fiancé we will only have 1 cup, 1 plate, 1 fork & spoon per person to alleviate excess dishes. We have no choice but to wash it out so that it can be used for the next feeding leaving no room to "get it later" & most likely a cleaner kitchen. Might be excessive but it'll help me lol It's only us 2 for now & when kids come in the picture they'll have one of each likewise 🤣🤣🤣 Working smarter not harder. We'll have a few extra untouchables for when we actually do have guests.
As far as decluttering goes, the way Dana K White of "A Slob Comes Clean" has such a good framework and perspective that just connects with the way I think. So helpful. Your points in this video were great - loved the section about taking care of self as a priority.
This is a great and authentic teaching on not only a view but it applies to ALL women biblical and I was cracking up when you broke down the "foolishness" of the mindset of some women to not "honor" their husband children, and family by taking care of themselves.
This is so hard for me. We are a family of 8. Mom, Dad, and 6 kids. We have SO much stuff. I also can't keep up with anything house wise. I only work 1 day a week, and we homeschooled the last 2 years. I'm hoping that when the kids go back to school this next year, I will be able to get everything in order.
every time i feel sluggish in the morning, I pray and ask God for strength & motivation to keep me going… then i turn on this (or one of your other) video(s). And let me just say, the job gets done every time lol. Thank you Heavenly Father for using Bindi to reach others ❤.
Out of curiosity, do you homeschool your children? Wondering because I have 5 young children and we homeschool & farm/homestead so we are very busy in many areas. I love a clean and organized home and take great satisfaction in having an orderly home that my husband can come home to and I can relax in at the end of the day. I have many jobs outside of just keeping a tidy home though: tending our very large garden, taking care of farm animals, homeschooling, mowing/landscaping on our 10 acres, preserving/canning garden produce, etc. Our 5 children are hard workers and I try to involve them in many of my jobs to help train them further. BUT they are all still young (oldest just turned 8 all the way down to one year old) and there is is more mess that they make than help that they are at this point in time. I guess it’s hard to look at homes that are tidy and clean, almost to perfection, when the mother/wife doesn’t have the children at home most of the day (or they are very young like a baby) and she has time to dedicate to deep cleaning the shower weekly or washing windows to sparkling all the time. I clean and organize DAILY but there are days that it looks like nothing has taken place cleaning wise because I’ve had to work in the garden all day or we’ve spent the day working on homeschooling projects that the house looks very lived in. It doesn’t look perfect if someone were to drop by. I guess I struggle with that. I suppose I want to just shed a light to women like me who have large families and other jobs like homeschooling and farm life to tackle as well, that you can glory God and honor your husband WITHOUT having to aim for perfection or run yourself ragged trying to make your home “just so” or spend an hour making a fancy meal. Our lives look very different and God wants us to glorify Him by how we take care of what He’s given us. If you are a homeschooling mom, or run a home business, or run a homestead….then do that to the best of your ability to glorify God and honor your husband! If your home is always immaculate but the garden is untended, or your children unschooled, then that isn’t glorifying either. Do your best, strive to honor God and your husband, and thrive in where God has placed you.
I homeschool (but don’t homestead - that’s incredible that you do!). Personally what has helped me is decluttering. If we don’t have the stuff to make a big mess then there’s just naturally less of a mess for us. I had to purge a LOT of our curricula that I just really wasn’t using but it was making for lots of clutter. I have also really built it lots of routine (this is not something that comes naturally to me). But I’ve given myself “rules” like breakfast isn’t done until it’s cleaned up. Or just making my bed as I get up in the morning. I imagine it also comes to what your husband is okay with. My husband has told me so many times that he doesn’t want things perfect like a showroom. He has certain things he’d like (like a clear sofa to sit on when he gets home… and the living room to not be this crazy mess - he seriously doesn’t even care if the clutter is pushed off to the corner if he knows it’s been a rough day like with sick kids).
Sounds like my life but with less kids. I think it goes back to the husband. My husband does NOT care if the house looks like a Good Housekeeping magazine page. He wants to be comfy. he wants our home to reflect our lifestyle & hobbies/jobs. We do a lot of weird stuff - tanning hides, making ammo, spinning wool, sewing, making sausage, raising livestock, homeschool, etc... I grow & preserve almost ALL of our own food. Your house will NOT look neat all the time. But we do inspire folks who come to our house to ask, "what are you doing? How do you do that?" I keep the house relatively tidy & do all the basic tasks daily, But my hubby does not ride me if there are dishes in the sink. Sometimes there is more than one person, or even 2-3, can keep up with. Clean underwear. Thats what my hubby really draws the line at! He just wants clean clothes & something good to eat. Ha Ha. So I feel like I am honoring the Lord & my hubby by all of the pursuits that I help him with. I am to be his helpmeet. If it doesn't 'help' your husband to have a perfect, clean house then you are just being a nag (in my own opinion).
@@pattyhansen7563 Aww sounds like a wonderful and fulfilling life! 💜 Honoring our husbands isn’t a one size fits all formula, our husbands were created uniquely and so were we. There is more to life and running a God glorifying household than just how our homes look. In fact, our homes should be industrious in many ways, they aren’t just the place we lay our heads at night and park our cars. …and I think that’s really cool that you tan hides and spin wool!!!
What's wrong with unschooling? I don't think people really understand what it is and think kids just run wild. Unschooling works wonders for us because my kids learn FARRRRR more reading and learning on their terms aka interest over any carbon copy curriculum ever will. My kiddos are light-years ahead because I don't box them.
@@yom12345 I don't think the original comment was talking about unschooling as a method of homeschooling. I think she explaining that if you are a "home" maker and your house is messy or a home schooler & your children are uneducated; as in, you are not managing your affairs well, or not putting the work in. Unschooled as in not doing their schoolwork as you are laying it out or checking up on to make sure everyone is on track. Unschooling as a method is a tricky one if you are not a disciplined parent. I know I could never 'unschool' although I do well at homeschooling. We would end up with too many blind spots. This was not a criticism comment, just I think that people will get confused about 'unschooling' as opposed what I think the comment was trying to drive home - being uneducated in general.
I agree, i love watching the romantic homemaking videos they are fun to watch but cleaning my garage is not pretty 😆 im sweaty and there is car oil all over the place lol
I don't know your reason for doing so, but I really want to donate all my things! My husband has not quite been on board but every box that goes out is like a sigh of relief 😄
I totally agree with keeping your appearance nice 👍 it makes a difference in how you feel . I’ve always said we look as good as we feel . And when you look good , you feel good ❤vice versa
This channel was recommended to me by a friend and as you speak I’m thinking of what a great friend I have! Love the channel keep it up. P.s I know this is not intended to be humorous but I’m laughing at some parts of “raw delivery” I like your perspective on things
Can you PLEASE do a video about being a homemaker while working full time.... I am engaged, to be wed in September.... And I love you're videos I think I am lucky to have a hold of this information and perspective early before having children and being a wife so I have a step ahead when I start. I work 10 hours a day though. And will continue to do so until children come into the picture so that I can homeschool our children. My fiance and I both work full time and are totally exhausted when we come home. I stand all day and my legs hurt when I come home and he does very physical work at his job. I would love some sort of arrangement of tips for keeping a good home and environment when physical exhaustion is at play so heavily.
Touché!!!!! I am a black housewife and stand in with you on #5 and I have other moms ask me all the time why am I always dressed up…what is a good response for this
Case with the socks - it matters to me WHO eventually is going to put them in appropriate place and we when. If my husband would hesitate and I would have to do it, then I wouldn't like it. The other thing - kids follow dad's example. I came imagine them saying - Dad does it, so do I 😶
Planting a seed here, but maybe you should write a book. I’m reading Created to be his Helpmeet by Debi Pearl as it was recommended by another TH-camr who speaks on homemaking. I have struggled to get through the book (and find it mostly repulsive) because of the fear mongering undertones. The best parts of the book are the exerts from the Bible (her interpretation are questionable in my opinion). I like your perspective and intentionality on your words… on how they are honest and truthful yet respectful to all parties involved and how each role has a responsibility and purpose.
Your videos inspire me, thank you! God bless you! Also, in regard to our appearance, the bible does mention the beauty of women in the bible, not just inner beauty, but physical beauty.
I have two babies under two… This makes it extremely difficult for me to take care of myself, look, presentable, even do basic hygiene most mornings. Do you have a video about this? I hate to let my babies cry. I also have other responsibilities in the morning, such as older children, getting ready for school, I have let a lot of things go such as I no longer pack my husband or children’s lunches… I just feel so overwhelmed and overworked. But I want to do better!
Thank you so much for this. I am that person with my husbands sock shoes nagging and it was like vinegar to him instead of honey. It is a work for me to change my tone. My parents are still together but my mom is dominating and aggressive so I stem from that background and I see how my dad pulls away. But I thank you for breaking this down and making it feasible.
Here’s the thing I will add: smile. My husband and children are affected by how I feel about what I am doing. They are put at ease if I’m smiling and content… they are stressed out if I am cranky or frustrated … this is something I continue to have to work on even almost 20 years into marriage/ home making/ parenting.
Love this. Thank you.
I needed to hear that! Thank you!
I am constantly working on this as well. I once read/heard something that has stuck with me for years: The wife is not a thermometer, reading and broadcasting the temperature of her home. She is the thermostat, guaging the temperature and MAKING NEEDED ADJUSTMENTS. She is the driving force behind a comfortable “temperature” and she IS the attitude of the home.
Yes!!
Love this!
This channel is a hidden gem! I am almost 26. I've always wanted to get married, but in my mind, it was always a distant thought. Something that's far ahead in my future. Because of that, my thoughts about marriage have been very shallow. I think about the wedding, what I'm going to wear, the venue, food, etc. The honey mood. What house would we live in. How will I lose my virginity and my overall sex life. What my husband would look like and how romantic he would be What it would be like to announce that I'm pregnant with my first child etc. How many kids I want and if I want a girl or boy first etc. I never think about the day-to-day life of being a wife and how to be SUCCESSFULLY married.
For the first time in my life, I'm truly looking beyond the wedding and thinking of the realities of marriage. I am thinking about what it means to be a wife. What type of relationship dynamic I should have with my husband. What will I give to my husband and children? How will my daily life go? Who takes priority in the household (husband or kids). How do we avoid/handle conflict? What would I expect from my husband and what would my husband expect from me., etc. I've answered a lot of things for myself, but I still have so much to learn.
I feel myself maturing and I feel like I am finally taking marriage seriously, but I'm not truly ready to take on the responsibility of being a good wife and mother. This is where your channel comes in! You are a true blessing. I prayed to find a good husband and the lord showed me your channel. I could feel him in my soul speaking "to have a good husband, you must be a good wife." I don't know who my lord is planning me for, but he must be amazing!
I pray that you may continue to grow in understanding of what marriage is , as God designed it to be. more direction you will find it in the word of God as Christian map in this world. @the Bible.
I really like your expression and the change in you. Grace of God be with you
@MB-iv4mq Nope! He doesn't have to, but I just started dating an AMAZING guy who happens to fall into all three.
12:18 - Just WOW. I love how you brought this up. Our culture has brainwashed us to put our careers, the corporations and the economy before THINGS THAT ACTUALLY MATTER. We have replaced our men and our families with the pursuit of money and it’s really sickening. I mean it’s literally making our societies sick by breaking up the families that make them up.
Also, how could anyone say it is not Christ-like to beautify yourself?? Have they looked at the earth that God has made?! The Lord loves beauty and spent time beautifying everything around us. If we are to be like Him, why wouldn’t we do the same?
If only l could like this more than once 🤲🥰🥰🥰, l struggled with this pressure a lot.
Agree🎯
If you are making yourself well groomed and dressed for the job of homemaking, you are giving the job the dignity it deserves. Of course, you wouldn't dress up in office attire, but something comfortable and suitable for your daily tasks.
Beauty in the privacy of your home for your spouse, sure. Not beautifying yourself outside in public for strangers to gawk at you.
I love the comments about personnel appearance! I’m an older woman now and your comments reminded me of my mother. She kept a home under difficult circumstances as the house was hundreds of years old, with no labor saving appliances that we take for granted today. Yet, she was always clean, smelled good, neatly dressed and wearing makeup. Also, she always refreshed herself before serving a delicious meal by washing her face and redoing her makeup, so that when we all sat down to eat she looked as called it” presentable.” She and my father were married for 48 years.
I'm ploughing through all of your videos and LOVING THEM and something I've noticed to the point of commenting on this one is your grace and humility in not avoiding things you disagree with. Reading and learning and teaching from a book that has aspects you disagree with is the ultimate lesson in respect and spiritual maturity. We cannot avoid rhe uncomfortable conversations or people of other faiths or how can we ever expect (as humanity and also followers of Jesus) to grow?! So blessed to share this with you 🤍
Homemaking has become so much more enjoyable since I’ve implemented a system called FLY lady for my Homemaking and a toy system based on Montessori and rotatinf
Oh wow I love your homemaking content too!
Fly Lady is great and works on the same principles as set out in this video. Keeping up is easier than catching up.
You've been blessed with physical beauty and wisdom. You were spot on when you said how women get fixed up for their jobs/bosses but not their families. Thanks for all the good insights and advice!!
Love the vids
I am currently divorced and disqualified from remarry, which is OK but I love to hearing finally somebody putting out good biblical context for wives
I agree with the wifes appearance being important. You don't have to be donning fancy clothes but just keeping yourself presentable is good for your mental health.
Oh my word! Just thank you so much for this channel. I have been so blessed and encouraged by your speaking hard truths. As a mom of 8 with 2 already graduated, I wish I had lived this out years ago. You are wise beyond your years. Thank you for your work on this channel. You are renewing passion in me to rise to this high calling with joy🥰
:) I have tears in eyes, when I read you are mum of 8. I am mum of 4, and it has been really really hard and taff. I have no sleep, many times no time or energy to eat, kids were almost all the time sick, than disableness in teaching when they start go to school (it was mentaly exhausting). so I am so so so happy to hear what you are saying, grounded in God, in his word. I really want to make hard work and reset everything, my look at myself, at my husband, ger sit and planed work in household, get rid of many many things that cause me crazy and I really wont give them away. And I am thank you for tips how to start. And it is a big portion of healing for me too. because i have heard only realy ugly things from my mum about being a women and married. it is filling my gap of positive things about being women, mum, married. i have just testyfied tommy family during our evening prayer about this. I am praying that God of universe will change me more and more to his glorious image, and fill me with his revelation, truth and loving kindnes. and oracticaly guide me steo by step.
It’s so refreshing to hear someone else despise clutter as much as I do. Things that serve no purpose definitely take up physical space but also mental space and impact my mood. Great point.
I agree that some chores require a lot of mental concentration. I was just telling someone how I need to go to the grocery store but before I do that I have to make a list and before I do that I have to plan meals for the next few days and before that I need to check what we already have and what's on sale at the store. And trying to do all this with 4 kids is tough! So now it's 1pm and my littlest is napping. I'm going to make my list (and all those other things) and take all the kids to the store when he wakes up. Dinner tonight is Mac and cheese with garlic croutons and roasted broccoli!
good job
Do you utilize Instacart? It saves me so much time and you can schedule the deliveries days in advance. You can even pick them up if you want to get out the house.
I’ve used it in emergencies but since it costs more money, I try not to use it. 🙃
can you make me some too 😀
Simple and healthy is best. You have four children. Doing big meals 3 x a day could get really old. Have a protein a carb and a vegetable or fruit. They’ll be healthy. Don’t wash dishes except maybe supper. Use paper plates for breakfast and lunch and real dishes for supper. It’s not about perfection. It’s about doing our best and using time saved to do something enjoyable like play with our kids. Have hotdogs outside. No clean up of crumbs and no wiping down counters/washing dishes.
So I initially came for the loc content. But as a Woman who is about to be married in a little over a month, this is the content that I didn’t know I needed! I am loving the content!!! I also can’t wait for the dresses to drop. Keep up the amazing work Joyce ❤️
Congratulations! Marriage (done right) is a blessing from God. Best wishes to you and your husband!
I associate clutter with ANXIETY! I cannot stress the impact of DECLUTTERING your home amd having a place for EVERYTHING. My husband said it best....what's the point of having a well decorated home (which I love) if its covered in junk! And ladies we can FIND excuses....my FAVORITE...."its lived in"...sometimes this is code for "Im lazy and procrastinating"..... I'm preaching to myself. PURGE regularly and have an HONEST conversation with yourself about excess and/or Hoarding. Less TRULY is more! I'm not minimalist but.... restraint is what I practice. A SIMPLE life with a sprinkle of cozy😊
I became a wife to a man for the first time at age 47 after being saved at age 39 while in a same sex marriage! Over the past 10 years the Lord has shown me what a wife is for and gave me the desire to be a wife and keeper of my home. Godbless you!! Thank you for your support and valuable information that is such an encouragement for living this way! ❤
I’m so glad you mentioned the point at the end that it’s wrong to use the fear of your husband leaving you as a means to get you to obey the Bible. The Bible clearly states that we should care for our family out of a fear and reverence to God, not our husbands.
You made such a GREAT point about our appearance for the workplace vs home. Being casual at home doesn't have to equal hot mess express 🤣 I've been making efforts of getting lounge clothes that allow me to be comfortable and put together, so if someone unexpected came over or I need to go outdoors, I don't have to be rushing to change or cover up. Same for bedtime. My Grandmother married 60 years, and 7 children always said it's important how you go to bed. Dress well, take your shower/bath and smell good - whether or not you expect to be intimate with your spouse. It makes you feel better about yourself overall. And it's so true. I sleep better, I feel better, and I look better 😊
Thank you so much for this!! I especially love the “clap back” you gave to the push back of you putting appearance 1st. Such a great point.. the energy people put in for someone who’s just paying you, but may not even care about you. Our families should get the best of us!! ❤️
Ooh the part about nagging the hubby about where he left this or that. Definitely taking heed.
Absolutely! I’m a stay at home, homeschooling mom of 4 and everyday I wake up and dress as though I’m going somewhere. I hadn’t thought anything of it. I just always want to be ready if something comes up and I have to run an errand. But my husband recently complimented me saying he appreciates that after 18yrs, I haven’t “let myself go” and that I always look so feminine. I had no idea he even cared! Lol
Wow... I've been married 2 yrs now and you have just helped me with this video. I have been so stressed out about my husband messing up while I've just cleaned. Now I know that the house is for him not the other way round. Thank you so much Bindi❤
I can't tell you how much your content and insight have been helping me. My biggest issue is I burn out on the trivial stuff like vacuuming crumbs and dry mud from 3 little boys, wiping down counters.
Simply put...THANK YOU
P.s. please could you discuss your personal daily/weekly/monthly schedule for maintaining your home and family?
as a Jesus follower and wife of a Godly man for 44 yrs...what you're sharing is certainly Wisdom and can easily be affirmed by the Peace and Love that fills our home and as I see my 4 daughters thriving by living similarily...I thank the Lord for your channel ♥️
I am a better homemaker and wife because of your content! I feel more joyful, grateful, and purposeful doing household chores instead of seeing them as a burden. These are things the Lord finds favor in when I do them with love and a grateful heart. Thank you for sharing such valuable insight and encouragement through God’s truth ❤️
So thankful for these videos you put out. As child of a single parent house hold with no examples of what a nuclear family looks like from the inside I have had trouble knowing that I want to be a homemaker but not really understanding what that means or how to make it work. I am still working on myself as it’s a huge mindset change but I’m appreciative of your videos and others like them that help me navigate it all.
This channel is wow! Real life being discussed here, this is like, my second church. I learn a new thing or two every time. Stay blessed.
Finally! A Christian woman that isn’t afraid to say the truth! Amen!
This women’s content is 🔥! I can attest that what she is saying is true!
I’m 36. I’ve been with my husband since I was 15 ( which I understand wasn’t the right way to do it but it’s what we knew.) I can tell you that we went through too MANY heartaches until we got married 14 years ago and really started yielding to the word of God. It takes a lot of effort and selflessness, it takes obedience even when you don’t understand ( this was especially true for me growing up in a household where I didn’t have my father and the man who was there was abusive to those that weren’t his children.) Really surrendering my life to God has changed my life in a way that when it’s explained it’s almost not believable in this day and age we live in. It’s not to say that struggles and disagreements won’t come but you are equipped with truth to fight whatever comes. By His grace I’ve been happily married 14 years 6 children deep 😝 and loving my life which I never imagined would have turned out this way. The word of God is where it’s at! It yields results like it’s supposed to.
I love this series, I really felt that sock thing! Those socks just get on my nerves, but I just imagine myself as if I were doing all these things for Christ and I pick up those crusty socks with pure joy 🤣
😂 I love this, thank you for sharing
Your channel changed my life. God bless you. 29, second marriage, 3 children and newly appointed happy home maker. Thank you
I LOVE your videos! I have been binge watching your channel the last few days while doing laundry or washing dishes. I’ve been a SAHM for 7 years and sometimes I have the feeling of ‘missing out’ or that I should bring in an income too. But all my sisters and mother keep reminding me to enjoy this time, that the kids grow up so fast.
You’re such an intelligent lady and you’re amazing in explaining things/put it into words. The love for the lord and the pride you put into your homemaking- it is so inspiring to me!
Thank you 🥰
I love how you called it a domestic goddess. And prioritize appearance. I wear dresses a ton now, and recently I wear aprons to keep my dresses clean and dry. My husband mentioned how a coworker suggested we do a double date to an event so the ladies can dress nice, and he bragged that his wife wears dresses almost everyday. It made me really proud:) your videos help me so much with improving myself and my morals.
Growing a garden, even a small one. (To provide fresh nutritious foods but also to teach the children.)
Amen! Your videos are a breath of fresh air to me. I love my job as homemaker and wife and mom. I agree with all of these points and am encouraged to know I'm not alone in my beliefs 🙌
I want you to know, your homemaking series has helped me so much. Especially with my thinking toward homemaking. I am a married woman of nearly 20 years with 11 children. My life has gotten covered up with stuff to the point of barely being able to function. I have just gotten so overwhelmed with my whole life. Your videos have been a God send,literally. God bless.
Joyce this is definitely your calling 🙏! You are a blessing to your husband and to your home and to many of us who are late bloomers and are trying to figure out the adventure and blessing of being a homemaker 💗
I knew Helena. She was such a beautiful person to be around. I looked up to her and she always found some way to turn a negative into a positive situation.
Love your take on appearances. Your insight of the hypocrisy of taking bathing, dressing nicely, perfuming and brushing your teeth for a job are seen as respectable for an employer but dismissal for a housewife is refreshing.
12:07 - Sis! The pushback is real because of the normality of comfortability. Regardless if the garments are raggedy too. Comfort can honestly be an idol to us and I believe that's why many struggle with Spirit-led counsel to elevate and refine our characters and lives. Your points on this particular topic reminded me of a paragraph I read from this book awhile back that always rings in my ear. The paragraph is specifically speaking to mothers because it's a section of the book entitled "Mother-Queen of the Household" but the sentiments are fitting to wives and woman overall.
"If mothers allow themselves to wear untidy garments at home, they are teaching their children to follow in the same slovenly way. Many mothers think that anything is good enough for home wear, be it ever so soiled and shabby. But they soon lose their influence in the family. The children draw comparisons between their mother's dress and that of others who dress neatly, and their respect for her is weakened." AH 253.4
May we as Christian woman see our duty to be neat and tasty for our Lord, ourselves and those in our sphere of influence. Blessings always :)
lol, my husband likes it so much less when I dress up/fix up. He loves when I look comfortable and don't wear makeup.
I listen to the flylady and it's been good to get dressed to shoes every day.
I recently started watching your videos and love the content. So much truth and practical advice for women. Please make more homemaking/marriage videos, it’s blessed me so much!
I’m so glad I found this! You are a rare gem 💎
Especially in black culture, traditional women are looked down on more so than white women (I’m mixed but passing 🤷🏻♀️ I’m white to everyone lol). It’s an uncomfortable subject, really. With boss babe and hustle culture so so prevalent nowadays, it’s actually a SUBCULTURE to be traditional! It’s unbelievable.
Much love!
Hah! I’m not even two minutes in and I’m being called out on watching this video while making lunch. Someone here needs to work on concentration and focus 😂😂😂
Thanks Joyce for this series. I’m learning soooo much more than I thought possible!
I absolutely love listening to you. A trip for the folks new to homemaking. All the lists that you're mentioning, daily cleaning, weekly, monthly and yearly. The flylady Marla Cilley has them all set up on an app. So you just download the flylady app and the just check off all the boxes. I wish you and Marla could do a collaboration together.
My kids are all teens and young adults now (5 of them :) I read this book in my early 30's and it changed my world. I was just thinking of rereading and stumbled on your channel! I wanted to comment on the very end of the video- YES! Good on you for recognizing that undertone of your "husband's behavior is your responsibility"- ie if you don't do xyz he'll find someone who will. Yes that is sin! And recognizing there's so much good in the book but sometimes some lies that you need to recognize will help it be a joy not a burden on you.
The one thing that affects me the most is the look on people's faces when I walk into a room. Within reason, of course. If no one smiles at me, if the people I love don't smile at me and look happy to see me, I start to consider whether I need to change my life and attentions.
Thank you for talking about concentration when being a homemaker.
Oh my goodness……the nagging…..yes Lord….I need to leave my husband alone…..I hear you!!!!!!
LOL, that is not the part I thought you would be objecting to (I hadn't really noticed in the book until you pointed it out) but the "maintain a childlike behavior" is the one I struggled with. I can tell you from experience though, my husband does actually respond more positively to my vulnerability than when I am Large and In Charge.
I have been watching many of your videos and I absolutely love them all. I want to be a better woman, wife, mom, homemaker and these videos have helped extremely. I also feel like in a weird way, it has helped my mental health. I used to feel shame and guilt for being home and watching my friends and family work but now I feel so blessed to be able to stay home. I feel like my family needs me home and they show me how grateful they are. Since focusing more on femininity, I've noticed my husband being more loving and affectionate and my kids more well behaved and more loving. They have always been like this but it feels like it's been amplified, I set the tone for our home.
I'm so grateful to have found your channel. Us "oldsters" need to hear all of this too; still learning and growing:-) God Bless you (isabella)
Enjoyed your video! I’ve been married 23 years and really appreciate the points you made here. :)
This is awesome that your covering fascinating womanhood because the original author’s daughter Dixie did a more updated one and now Dixie and her daughter have a channel on TH-cam called fascinating womanhood with Dixie and (her daughter I apologize but her name escapes me) where they give advice and things like that. You should check that out :)
As a single woman, with homemaker/housewife aspirations, this is so helpful for me as someone who works from home. I am a little scattered BUT being able to recreate my schedule and getting myself and my family ready before I start the day has been such a fresh breath of air. It’s also been a lovely influence for them as well
Thank you so much for this, I was wondering if you've made a video on how to create a schedule for keeping house and other obligations. Then I saw this video on your channel list! This was awesome! I took notes, I greatly appreciate this!
I have no idea how I came upon your videos. It must be divine intervention. I am so grateful that they showed up in my YT feed. I kook forward to them and love all your advice especially since it all glorifies God.
Your content is inspiring! Have you ever addressed homemaking for new mothers/moms with babies? It's a tough season!
I'm so sorry it took my so long to use these keywords. What a wealth of videos I can't wait to watch now. I like to play things like this while I cook and bake. Right now I'm making playdough for my toddler😊
Hi! I just found your channel and I love it! I’m a 22 year old mom with a 2 year old and a 5 month old. My husband and I have been married 3 years. I am really trying to work on organization and homemaking. My biggest obstacle is my toddler. I feel guilty if I am not entertaining him constantly. I want to get things done and keep a neat home but he is always demanding me to play or go outside. When I try and work on housework he goes right behind me and undoes everything I just cleaned. I don’t want him sitting in front of the the tv all day to distract him but I also can’t entertain him constantly. Should I just require him to find ways to entertain himself? I am trying to focus more on my husband and not only my kids but I think the new trend of “gentle parenting” and validating every emotion of a child has effected me.
I would suggest try getting him to be mommy's little helper, teach him to put away everything he moves out of place and affirm him when he does , teach him how to help you clean or do small tasks
Same here 😂☹️
Children learn via our example not what you verbally demand/instruct alone..so yes get dressed up with the appropriate dignity for your family as a man appearance does matter. That's the Christian thing to do please remember that we are not working for " the man" but we(both roles) prioritize all our efforts for the Most High.
Thank you for the study Bindi. I’m planning on reading that book this year and also the author’s daughter wrote a revised version that includes a workbook. Dixie Andelin Forsyth. She is also on TH-cam. Have a wonderful day 🌷🏡♥️
I love kitchen gadgets 🤣 but to make up for this I told my fiancé we will only have 1 cup, 1 plate, 1 fork & spoon per person to alleviate excess dishes.
We have no choice but to wash it out so that it can be used for the next feeding leaving no room to "get it later" & most likely a cleaner kitchen.
Might be excessive but it'll help me lol
It's only us 2 for now & when kids come in the picture they'll have one of each likewise 🤣🤣🤣
Working smarter not harder.
We'll have a few extra untouchables for when we actually do have guests.
As far as decluttering goes, the way Dana K White of "A Slob Comes Clean" has such a good framework and perspective that just connects with the way I think. So helpful.
Your points in this video were great - loved the section about taking care of self as a priority.
Your videos on these topics is exactly the mirror I need
This is a great and authentic teaching on not only a view but it applies to ALL women biblical and I was cracking up when you broke down the "foolishness" of the mindset of some women to not "honor" their husband
children, and family by taking care of themselves.
Sis, thank you so much for sharing this video. You’re an answer to my prayers on how to build my home. 🤗❤️
These are great points, Joyce. I need to re-watch the video to let it sink in!!
I love your daughters baby shark room! The rug matches so well for this theme
Love your videos Bindi! ❤ I can feel the spirit of God speaking through you. Keep them coming. Hopefully you can share homeschooling soon. ❤
I do enjoy having everything organized, clean and enjoy my accomplishment
This is so hard for me. We are a family of 8. Mom, Dad, and 6 kids. We have SO much stuff. I also can't keep up with anything house wise. I only work 1 day a week, and we homeschooled the last 2 years. I'm hoping that when the kids go back to school this next year, I will be able to get everything in order.
I started homeschooling my kids this year and I have lost control of my house keeping. I'm trying to figure out how to balance both those ministries.
Can't get enough of your videos. I've been convicted and encouraged! Good combo!
every time i feel sluggish in the morning, I pray and ask God for strength & motivation to keep me going… then i turn on this (or one of your other) video(s). And let me just say, the job gets done every time lol. Thank you Heavenly Father for using Bindi to reach others ❤.
Yea I’ve been waiting for this!! Love it !!
This is such good advice!! I love the master schedule/ Google calendar idea. 🌻💛
Your channel is very refreshing. Thank you
Out of curiosity, do you homeschool your children?
Wondering because I have 5 young children and we homeschool & farm/homestead so we are very busy in many areas. I love a clean and organized home and take great satisfaction in having an orderly home that my husband can come home to and I can relax in at the end of the day. I have many jobs outside of just keeping a tidy home though: tending our very large garden, taking care of farm animals, homeschooling, mowing/landscaping on our 10 acres, preserving/canning garden produce, etc.
Our 5 children are hard workers and I try to involve them in many of my jobs to help train them further. BUT they are all still young (oldest just turned 8 all the way down to one year old) and there is is more mess that they make than help that they are at this point in time.
I guess it’s hard to look at homes that are tidy and clean, almost to perfection, when the mother/wife doesn’t have the children at home most of the day (or they are very young like a baby) and she has time to dedicate to deep cleaning the shower weekly or washing windows to sparkling all the time. I clean and organize DAILY but there are days that it looks like nothing has taken place cleaning wise because I’ve had to work in the garden all day or we’ve spent the day working on homeschooling projects that the house looks very lived in. It doesn’t look perfect if someone were to drop by. I guess I struggle with that.
I suppose I want to just shed a light to women like me who have large families and other jobs like homeschooling and farm life to tackle as well, that you can glory God and honor your husband WITHOUT having to aim for perfection or run yourself ragged trying to make your home “just so” or spend an hour making a fancy meal.
Our lives look very different and God wants us to glorify Him by how we take care of what He’s given us.
If you are a homeschooling mom, or run a home business, or run a homestead….then do that to the best of your ability to glorify God and honor your husband! If your home is always immaculate but the garden is untended, or your children unschooled, then that isn’t glorifying either.
Do your best, strive to honor God and your husband, and thrive in where God has placed you.
I homeschool (but don’t homestead - that’s incredible that you do!). Personally what has helped me is decluttering. If we don’t have the stuff to make a big mess then there’s just naturally less of a mess for us. I had to purge a LOT of our curricula that I just really wasn’t using but it was making for lots of clutter.
I have also really built it lots of routine (this is not something that comes naturally to me). But I’ve given myself “rules” like breakfast isn’t done until it’s cleaned up. Or just making my bed as I get up in the morning.
I imagine it also comes to what your husband is okay with. My husband has told me so many times that he doesn’t want things perfect like a showroom. He has certain things he’d like (like a clear sofa to sit on when he gets home… and the living room to not be this crazy mess - he seriously doesn’t even care if the clutter is pushed off to the corner if he knows it’s been a rough day like with sick kids).
Sounds like my life but with less kids. I think it goes back to the husband. My husband does NOT care if the house looks like a Good Housekeeping magazine page. He wants to be comfy. he wants our home to reflect our lifestyle & hobbies/jobs. We do a lot of weird stuff - tanning hides, making ammo, spinning wool, sewing, making sausage, raising livestock, homeschool, etc... I grow & preserve almost ALL of our own food. Your house will NOT look neat all the time. But we do inspire folks who come to our house to ask, "what are you doing? How do you do that?" I keep the house relatively tidy & do all the basic tasks daily, But my hubby does not ride me if there are dishes in the sink. Sometimes there is more than one person, or even 2-3, can keep up with. Clean underwear. Thats what my hubby really draws the line at! He just wants clean clothes & something good to eat. Ha Ha. So I feel like I am honoring the Lord & my hubby by all of the pursuits that I help him with. I am to be his helpmeet. If it doesn't 'help' your husband to have a perfect, clean house then you are just being a nag (in my own opinion).
@@pattyhansen7563 Aww sounds like a wonderful and fulfilling life! 💜 Honoring our husbands isn’t a one size fits all formula, our husbands were created uniquely and so were we. There is more to life and running a God glorifying household than just how our homes look. In fact, our homes should be industrious in many ways, they aren’t just the place we lay our heads at night and park our cars.
…and I think that’s really cool that you tan hides and spin wool!!!
What's wrong with unschooling? I don't think people really understand what it is and think kids just run wild. Unschooling works wonders for us because my kids learn FARRRRR more reading and learning on their terms aka interest over any carbon copy curriculum ever will. My kiddos are light-years ahead because I don't box them.
@@yom12345 I don't think the original comment was talking about unschooling as a method of homeschooling. I think she explaining that if you are a "home" maker and your house is messy or a home schooler & your children are uneducated; as in, you are not managing your affairs well, or not putting the work in. Unschooled as in not doing their schoolwork as you are laying it out or checking up on to make sure everyone is on track. Unschooling as a method is a tricky one if you are not a disciplined parent. I know I could never 'unschool' although I do well at homeschooling. We would end up with too many blind spots. This was not a criticism comment, just I think that people will get confused about 'unschooling' as opposed what I think the comment was trying to drive home - being uneducated in general.
Excellent video, great pointers. Can you show us on a list what your scheduling looks like to help us as an example mock-up? Thanks
I agree, i love watching the romantic homemaking videos they are fun to watch but cleaning my garage is not pretty 😆 im sweaty and there is car oil all over the place lol
ahh, yes, helen b andelin. i recently donated everything that i own, and FW was one of the few things that survived. her wisdom is timeless.
I don't know your reason for doing so, but I really want to donate all my things! My husband has not quite been on board but every box that goes out is like a sigh of relief 😄
I totally agree with keeping your appearance nice 👍 it makes a difference in how you feel . I’ve always said we look as good as we feel . And when you look good , you feel good ❤vice versa
This channel was recommended to me by a friend and as you speak I’m thinking of what a great friend I have! Love the channel keep it up.
P.s I know this is not intended to be humorous but I’m laughing at some parts of “raw delivery” I like your perspective on things
Not married but I love the pointers. Much love from Kenya 🇰🇪
One of the best TH-cam videos ever. Well done
Absolutely cannot wait for your clothing line to drop!
Can you PLEASE do a video about being a homemaker while working full time.... I am engaged, to be wed in September.... And I love you're videos I think I am lucky to have a hold of this information and perspective early before having children and being a wife so I have a step ahead when I start. I work 10 hours a day though. And will continue to do so until children come into the picture so that I can homeschool our children. My fiance and I both work full time and are totally exhausted when we come home. I stand all day and my legs hurt when I come home and he does very physical work at his job. I would love some sort of arrangement of tips for keeping a good home and environment when physical exhaustion is at play so heavily.
Touché!!!!! I am a black housewife and stand in with you on #5 and I have other moms ask me all the time why am I always dressed up…what is a good response for this
Well, it's none of their business really. But you could just smile and say, "this is just how I like to dress."
The way they dress up for work. So are you
Excellent video. Thank you!
I love that blue dress, wish I had one.
Case with the socks - it matters to me WHO eventually is going to put them in appropriate place and we when. If my husband would hesitate and I would have to do it, then I wouldn't like it. The other thing - kids follow dad's example. I came imagine them saying - Dad does it, so do I 😶
Wow. So much insight and wisdom here. Thank you.
I wish I could give this more thumbs up!
Thank you for sharing this advice, this is very helpful! Hard to come across channels like this, new subscriber :).
God bless. ❤️
Planting a seed here, but maybe you should write a book. I’m reading Created to be his Helpmeet by Debi Pearl as it was recommended by another TH-camr who speaks on homemaking. I have struggled to get through the book (and find it mostly repulsive) because of the fear mongering undertones. The best parts of the book are the exerts from the Bible (her interpretation are questionable in my opinion). I like your perspective and intentionality on your words… on how they are honest and truthful yet respectful to all parties involved and how each role has a responsibility and purpose.
Your videos inspire me, thank you! God bless you! Also, in regard to our appearance, the bible does mention the beauty of women in the bible, not just inner beauty, but physical beauty.
Thank you Lord. This is the content I been looking for.💕 wonderful!!
This is helpful thank you
LOVED THIS SO MUCH
I have two babies under two… This makes it extremely difficult for me to take care of myself, look, presentable, even do basic hygiene most mornings. Do you have a video about this? I hate to let my babies cry. I also have other responsibilities in the morning, such as older children, getting ready for school, I have let a lot of things go such as I no longer pack my husband or children’s lunches… I just feel so overwhelmed and overworked. But I want to do better!
Thank you so much for this. I am that person with my husbands sock shoes nagging and it was like vinegar to him instead of honey. It is a work for me to change my tone. My parents are still together but my mom is dominating and aggressive so I stem from that background and I see how my dad pulls away. But I thank you for breaking this down and making it feasible.
Ur amazing! U said everything completely right! I appreciate this and keep it coming! Ur texting me something new at 45 lol!
This is really well balanced!! Thank you! ❤️