WHY YOUR MOM HATES YOU SO MUCH(WITHCRAFT & SPELLS!)

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  • @TrenGenius
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    • @1conqueror.651
      @1conqueror.651 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      .

    • @2Turntytt
      @2Turntytt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This so true fam thank u

    • @Ladyduchess313
      @Ladyduchess313 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tren.... How about 80's!😳

    • @DEMONDRAE
      @DEMONDRAE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Crazy went through big spiritual battle with my mom 3 days ago

    • @tia853
      @tia853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Speaking big facts🗣‼️

  • @mikelindellspillow2609
    @mikelindellspillow2609 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    Most abusive mothers are mentally ill. And it gets worse with age. It took me many many years to realize my mom has a screw loose.

    • @syretaboothe4543
      @syretaboothe4543 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      lol like the way you phrased that!!

    • @TrueBeautyD
      @TrueBeautyD 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yes, the older my mom gets, the more the look of “not being all there” is evident. When she made her younger sister mad, my aunt said, “Her elevator don’t go all the way to the top!”🫢😱

    • @closer71
      @closer71 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Same here. I was nearly 42 years old when I realized what a sick maniac my mother is....and always was. She had normalized her pathological misandry to the point that even I believed it, until I dated a woman who showed me what a normal, healthy family unit acts like and how they treat each other.

    • @lasirenas1
      @lasirenas1 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Truth, watching the dissension along with what you thought what was is tragic ….deceptivecons

  • @brandonmitchell6655
    @brandonmitchell6655 2 ปีที่แล้ว +182

    My mom tells me that I'm secretive. But I have to be secretive, to protect myself, and my life's goals.

    • @dorothyhodges2542
      @dorothyhodges2542 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Amen!

    • @jackiejackson2012
      @jackiejackson2012 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Very well said👌🏽👏🏽👍🏽

    • @borishudej691
      @borishudej691 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      With narcissistic parents this means "I can't control you and it is starting to make me angry.."

    • @AFractal
      @AFractal หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Making you wrong for keeping your boundaries.

    • @ToniWilson-c4q
      @ToniWilson-c4q 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Agree

  • @lovelystarchild
    @lovelystarchild 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    Its not just in the black culture. I am a white woman & my mother has hated me since birth. My mother has been absolutely HATEFUL and abusive to me my entire life. I cut ties with her years ago. In addition, I too have dealt with other people hating on me as well & all I do is mind my own business. I stay to myself 99% of the time because I dont trust or feel safe around others.

    • @jupiterrain8563
      @jupiterrain8563 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🎯‼️

    • @kellypawspa
      @kellypawspa 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Same here, I had to drop my mom because she kept calling the police after she drank too much and telling them I beat her up, even if I hadn't been to visit her. Most of the time, the knew she was lying g, beat up people usually look like they were beat up. Haha! They still had to take me to jail , though. I've got a heck of a record, for someone that literally is too paranoid to break any laws. When the whole Karen thing came out, I was like, holy crap!!! My mom is a Karen! LOL No contact is the only thing I can do to protect myself.

    • @RenataYeshua
      @RenataYeshua 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@kellypawspaI would love to interview TH-cam my new TH-cam podcast and you get the money from the video and it's gonna be high traffic

    • @justinjackson4073
      @justinjackson4073 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      My mom told me she hated me cause I look and act to much like my dad!
      Had a really bad bicycle wreck at age 11 and also got hit my a car in the same accident. Visibly my front teeth were knocked out and my right hand was clearly broke and it was kinda hard to breath but it was Saturday and Children's hospital was 45 minutes away from us.
      She told me to go play and she would take me to the dr Monday and that I was gonna live, unfortunately, she added...
      Sunday I was in bad shape throwing up white frothy stuff, passing out, in a lot of pain and one of the very few times I dared cry in front of her.
      I begged her to take me to the hospital cause I don't think I've hurt like this before! She was pissed and on the way she told me if I wasn't really hurt then I would be before we left. Then she told me to dry it up before she really gives me somethin to cry for.
      I prayed to God for real to please let me be hurt so I don't get hurt worse.
      My skull was fractured needing pressure relieved with a tube in a hole in my skull.
      My kidneys bruised bad enough they were bleeding, live had a tear, ruptured spleen, left lung completely collapsed and right one on its way to fully collapse.
      Dr's told her they didn't think I was gonna make it thru the night and that I was bleeding out internally from multiple locations.
      When they found out the accident was the morning before they were not happy at all and called child services on her. We lived in Ontario, Canada at that time.
      She was bawling and saying my poor baby gonna die then wailed away putting on a show before i was rushed to the operating room and I had to sit and watch her be so fake thinking maybe I won't wake up and just be done with her. I guess i was crying and asked the nurse at my head that I know she hates me don't remember nothin else for a few days. I had 4 surgeries in 2 days!
      From that moment till today at 47 yrs old I've had a deep disgust and despised her with a passion! I was able to petition the court and was granted full emancipation at age 15 and from a judge who had only granted a few in over 20 yrs and all were 17! I was told I should expect to be denied and consider letting my grandparents adopt me.
      My dad's parents, and they were pretty much my mom and dad and I was referred to as son by them.
      We were really close until they passed away. My dad and uncle's resent me for it till this day...
      I cut all them off years and years ago and still realizing what all they have actually done and why...
      My sister isn't far behind her!

    • @Xane_Dragon
      @Xane_Dragon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same. I've been reclusive for almost 3 decades due to abuse from almost everyone especially my mother. She excepts me to sleep on the floor if I visit her because she doesn't want any beds in the house other than hers.
      I don't ever visit her because I'm not sleeping on the floor like a dog. Also I never call her.
      She lives only a few miles from me...I stay away. She's 80 now and karma is hitting her health.
      My sister lives with her and she can take care of her and my mother's evil husband because I never will. My sister is just as messed up too.

  • @Tootie929
    @Tootie929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +562

    For all the people who dealt with this from their mom, please know that YOU WERE NOT THE PROBLEM! Walk in freedom. I love each and every one of you

    • @nataliepope8643
      @nataliepope8643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you love you too I'm free I left home at age 15 I went through a lot today I have to say it was worth while I went through a lot of awful things nothing is awful as her

    • @Tootie929
      @Tootie929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@nataliepope8643 you are awesome and the best is yet to come!

    • @istharp771
      @istharp771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ((ASE/AMEN))

    • @spiritthegod
      @spiritthegod 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      LOVE YOU TOO CC THANK YOU

    • @Hadiza_Caser
      @Hadiza_Caser ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I could imagine what I went through 😭

  • @Angel.bb1111
    @Angel.bb1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +783

    Envy and jealousy is real even from family. It’s wrong because if you’re chosen you want the best for everybody…

    • @dwaynereynolds5004
      @dwaynereynolds5004 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      So...so true

    • @DEMONDRAE
      @DEMONDRAE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Blessings the most high is with you 🙏

    • @NusoWorld
      @NusoWorld 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This is me literally this day, hour, and second. I promise you guys, I’m scared to death.

    • @kerrywilliams8540
      @kerrywilliams8540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      So right my own mom n sis be doing witchcraft to kill me as write but they ain't winning

    • @valentinagilkinson7659
      @valentinagilkinson7659 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Witchcraft is messed up. My own husband like this. Sick. Twisted shayt.

  • @wonderboimah2788
    @wonderboimah2788 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    If you ain't failing you get hated on, if you fail it's some kind of relief for them

  • @sweetierobinson5321
    @sweetierobinson5321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +349

    He not lying, Ladies forgive your mother but love them from a far if they are mentally draining you. You must break from their abuse ladies. Accept what it is and move forward to peace ✌🏾

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      “Forgiveness” is for pussys . No such thing . Y’all kill me with this good Samar bullshit . Constantly giving people passes for bullshit especially for parents

    • @shhtha
      @shhtha 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And guys

    • @RosasResources
      @RosasResources 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Mindful.Movement.01 you have to forgive so you can be forgiving for your sins. Don't harden your heart.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@RosasResources spare me the Good Samaritan bullshit. I don’t forgive nor do I believe in it

    • @RosasResources
      @RosasResources 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mindful.Movement.01 on u

  • @armedanddangerous711
    @armedanddangerous711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +374

    I'm 56 years old and I can honestly say that this brother speaks truth. I moved to another state just to escape all of this and dysfunctional spirits on my family.

    • @isaacmonson4403
      @isaacmonson4403 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Im about to do the same... Shits so harf

    • @armedanddangerous711
      @armedanddangerous711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@isaacmonson4403 God bless your new journey.

    • @istharp771
      @istharp771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Indeed. I believe Bro T. As starseeds/empaths, we see their shit and they know it. The best thing to do is to get far away from these sick people. We are not "cut from the same cloth" or the same cycle of hate, jealousy, etc.

    • @SpiritualTarotbyYvonne
      @SpiritualTarotbyYvonne 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      And I thought it was just my mom, that I had to move miles away. Yes just jealous because you are an individual and free...

    • @sonyareyes9596
      @sonyareyes9596 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yes And a wedding they did not invite me and 2 kids. we've been through he'll as chosen ones so they with anyone harming us can go f themselves

  • @rbellishere88
    @rbellishere88 2 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    I am glad someone is finally exposing those old hateful, negative, mammie Black women. My mother is the blueprint for hating her own kids. Found out at 16 that she had a lump of my hair in the Bible with a note to destroy everything I do in life...and she was praying on it. You are absolutely correct. Witchcraft and spells were practiced daily. The Rose🌹

    • @daniellefoster8974
      @daniellefoster8974 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      We have Christ on our side sister. There day is closer than they think. God bless you ❤️❤️

    • @Freckles5
      @Freckles5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      OMG!!! That is heartbreaking 😢

    • @shegood7004
      @shegood7004 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can write a book on the bs my wicked ass mother and her evil mother did. Witches.

    • @pm7095
      @pm7095 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Baby, it isn't just the black mamas.... It's the white ones, too, and any other culture and color alive ... It's a spiritual and heart problem with these women...

    • @optimisticmindz2545
      @optimisticmindz2545 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It’s not none of our faults we didn’t get to choose what kind of parents we would get….

  • @mikayagent5939
    @mikayagent5939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +308

    THATS HOW MY MOM TREATS ME ALL THE TIME. I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry because someone finally believes me! THIS IS CRAZY 👏🏽 thank you allowing me to see clearly

    • @audhumbla6927
      @audhumbla6927 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yea it really makes you lonely thinking your the only one with such a mother.... and no one to talk to.... Stay strong 💪🏻👑💪🏻👑

    • @ryandunson5387
      @ryandunson5387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I feel that same way. Years of trying to figure it out has had devastating effects on me .

    • @southernbawselady7092
      @southernbawselady7092 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@ryandunson5387
      Matthew 10:36..."Your worst enemies will be members of your own family "
      So sad, but true!
      Stay strong! 🙏

    • @dorothyhodges2542
      @dorothyhodges2542 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My moms deceased but I choose not to make the same mistakes my mom made. I think that’s why she resented me. She put me down to make herself believe that she was a better woman.

    • @diamondgadofficial933
      @diamondgadofficial933 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your not alone I go through it every single day every hour

  • @badnews12431
    @badnews12431 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    My Mom definitely have s STRONG dislike for me. She tries to ruin my business and all. I've given her THOUSANDS of dollars and I use to try and spend time with her but, I can't stand the negative vibe. THANK GOD for my dad

    • @destinypatterson9591
      @destinypatterson9591 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      These are the parents who feel intitled ...NOTHING YOU DO IS ENOUGH... and if they help start you off in life YOU MUST REPAY THEM FOR LIFE...SMH.

    • @ThatGalDina
      @ThatGalDina 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I can soo relate to this..my mom is the same with me....& she tries to ruin everything in my life & tries to turn everyone against me..

    • @leathalittlejohn8029
      @leathalittlejohn8029 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn. I really hope if ya have a child they don't see this. Children are not supposed to hear bad shit about an absent parent from the parent who is raising them... I've noticed this mainly in fathers who were NEVER, by choice there in the child's life, and the second tables turn for them to step up and do they part the Mother now no good and the dad ruins the bond that's not meant to be broken!!! Part of being a parent I believe is to NEVER allow bad things to be spoken about the other parent with the child being present.. Just my opinion

    • @marchangel7462
      @marchangel7462 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@destinypatterson9591 narcissist?

    • @sheenahammond1442
      @sheenahammond1442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish i had a dad to run to but i see y he left 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @k.msamuel2821
    @k.msamuel2821 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I'm tired of crying...the whole story resonates...

  • @fitveggiemama
    @fitveggiemama 2 ปีที่แล้ว +389

    Children of narcissistic parents you could literally go your whole life and not know that your parent is narcissistic until it's really late in the game and then you realize how just how incredibly evil and cruel they are in it so it's a wake up call

    • @bakharitrowery4089
      @bakharitrowery4089 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Amen

    • @justinpeepee8454
      @justinpeepee8454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      I'm finding it out with mother and closest brother, it is insane. Never in my life would I think what I KNOW now. And I feel so much more is going to be revealed.
      Good vibes to you.

    • @gangstablak08
      @gangstablak08 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Amen! Mines was and I never realized it! I just wish I knew sooner!

    • @cv6176
      @cv6176 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I found out at 47, shell shock like., living back at home, it's draining me , it is what it is now

    • @gangstablak08
      @gangstablak08 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @C V that don’t make no sense I’m sorry and I’ll pray for you that god removes the obstacles of staying at home

  • @BoujieeBehavior
    @BoujieeBehavior 2 ปีที่แล้ว +470

    Parents have a huge influence on their kids. I don’t understand why anyone would go through the trouble to get pregnant or get somebody pregnant…just to hate their child. It’s giving mental illness and I’m so sorry anyone has to go through that. Sending my love and positive energy to you all 💕 Stay strong

    • @Ladyduchess313
      @Ladyduchess313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @Tiana Thank you! I'm so strong and God watched out for this Starseed! He protected me & raised me up. He blessed me & still blessing in these Times! 👍🙏💗🌹💰💴💸💵😀

    • @444theworld
      @444theworld 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you

    • @moonsummersong
      @moonsummersong 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      This always baffled me too. You would think they would want their children to be the greatest they can be, not only for their child, but because if someone in the family is doing great, it lifts everyone up. It's like this weird self hatred they want to spread on to us or something. Well I sure as H ain't having it any longer. Burn bright Chosen Ones!! 💙🔥

    • @tracylthomas9463
      @tracylthomas9463 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you

    • @BostonGrant444
      @BostonGrant444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ik it’s stupid and thank you

  • @leilaniadams8121
    @leilaniadams8121 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    At about 15:30 you started talking about how the devil gets to you through your mom. I felt that. I have just had a breakthrough thanks to you. God and Jesus wanted me to see this video. Everything makes sense now...Thank you so much. Words cannot express my gratitude!

    • @Nopal432
      @Nopal432 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Im here because today I lerned this lesson ., it snapped

  • @dixanna27
    @dixanna27 2 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    Me and my mom don’t have a relationship to this day. It’s always been on and off.. never helped me, never been a grandmother to my children, she’s never applauded me in my accomplishments, always tried to destroy my relationships.... and I see everyone else getting help, love and compassion from their parents. One of the hardest things to get over in life

    • @MsEbonyBill
      @MsEbonyBill ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Me too. You are not alone Bae

    • @luckyduckydaisyflower2344
      @luckyduckydaisyflower2344 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Mines the same but will show up here and there but then hold it like I took points off her life..sonetimes I beg her to stop hating me and she will just hang up. Sonetimes I think its good for me. Idk. Might as well. Only jesus can lead you..pray in secret.

    • @incognito3599
      @incognito3599 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Hidden Treasure
      How about when she wants you to only focus on accomplishments and material things but destroys your relationships and keeps you isolated.....

    • @dixanna27
      @dixanna27 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@incognito3599 that’s deep. All forms of narcissism.. Staying away keeps me in my respectful manner.

    • @halalinvestment8639
      @halalinvestment8639 ปีที่แล้ว

      Seriously is happening to me but In my religious if you parents accept the way the want u are bad parson I don't know how to explain I'm going alot of things going on my mind 🙃 🙂 😅 😌 🤔

  • @chiquis_xo
    @chiquis_xo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +289

    You described my Mother!!! That’s exactly who she is🤯 She always looked at me like her competition.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Mine too

    • @antoniocastillo3078
      @antoniocastillo3078 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Holaaa estamos iguales😂😂

    • @SI-kr1sf
      @SI-kr1sf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same

    • @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown
      @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yes my mother sees me a competition too. It is very sad

    • @chiquis_xo
      @chiquis_xo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@PainToPurposewithNickieBrown It’s very sad. I’m breaking generational curses and she can’t stand it. She doesn’t speak to me but I’m okay with it.

  • @Kehli_so_bad
    @Kehli_so_bad 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    It's TRUE it's a psychological disorder. My mother has hated me from birth and subjected me to abuse at her hands and offered me up to abusers. I've distanced myself from her to protect myself and my daughter. Sad but neccessary 💖🙏👁

  • @anneagena8236
    @anneagena8236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +155

    My mom and that’s why she’s alone & no one wants to be near her. She’s envious , negative , abusive , and controlling. I thrive when I’m away from her and Ile stay away from her. Tren spoke it all everything he said that’s exactly how my mother is. This is why I have a problem keeping a man also because her & the family wanted to control everything. God loves me & that’s all I need.

    • @Aliciaw867
      @Aliciaw867 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you

    • @sherriball4262
      @sherriball4262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Let your hope come from God, let him be your refuge! He is the only one you need , he is here for you to make sure you get it right, he is your witness!!!!!

    • @sunkissedsugarcookie-5187
      @sunkissedsugarcookie-5187 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Deequeenstar Nope. She doesn't.

    • @janinemccartha1811
      @janinemccartha1811 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Tren. Both parents were always putting work & friends above us kids. When I do work all my entire family did was criticize the type of work I did. Love your channel, will watch again. Peace & joyful times to you, love, Janine Smiley🙂😀😍🤩😎☕🍩☕🎂☕🍪🦓🐅🐅👞👠👟👡👑👒💍💎☕🍪☕😍☕🍩🍨🍧🍫🖤❣

    • @focusedoneternaltings8714
      @focusedoneternaltings8714 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Purely demonic.

  • @Gods_child_127
    @Gods_child_127 2 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    This is the time of exposure. Exposing hidden enemies. God is separating the wheat from the tares.

  • @TheDearAmy
    @TheDearAmy ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Nothing is more draining than having a mother who hates you and goes out of her way to hurt and destroy your soul.
    Everything you have said here is 100% real, but must be lived to be believed or understood!

    • @highlovevibration
      @highlovevibration ปีที่แล้ว +5

      True words!!!! If you haven't lived this, ain't no way you can relate..it's the worse.

    • @knowledge_knowsblake7396
      @knowledge_knowsblake7396 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bam.

    • @brandi9728
      @brandi9728 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Help me Jesus😢 40 here and still even though I am at the point of forgiveness and just want to love her. All I get is blaming me for her rheumatoid arthritis and when I handled that convo too well most likely she calls back to rub every mistake in my face. No, I was trying to navigate a life of shit for choices and consequences i could not have forseen but had to deal with and work through sometimes really not knowing how to manage the emotions and hurt. I was dealing with a lifetime of domino effect from her pushing me out hurting me. Dumping me etc. Lord help me get strength to rise and shine like I know I am meant to do. Please, God, I feel Like I am so weak. At my weakest. But I know the rope is right there. Let me grab it. Let me climb. Slow fast min by min hour by hour. Lord lift me up. Please pray for me. I will pray for you. Love

    • @Xane_Dragon
      @Xane_Dragon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@brandi9728
      I'm Atheist. I found my power when I abandoned religion because my grandmother and mother always used it against me.
      There was nothing Christian about them....totally fake and uncaring about anyone but themselves

  • @KristenNichole
    @KristenNichole 2 ปีที่แล้ว +201

    I literally used to think I was by myself in all this. This is crazy to see so many going through the same BS. Stay free y’all.

    • @Kehli_so_bad
      @Kehli_so_bad 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too finding this channel is a part of saving my self💯

    • @sherika1977
      @sherika1977 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me to STAY STRONG MY SISTERS!!!

    • @cameronwhite5961
      @cameronwhite5961 ปีที่แล้ว

      for real… i hope y’all staying strong

    • @shegood7004
      @shegood7004 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Honey I noticed all these female haters in my family so it’s not hard to be hated by others.

    • @Lesah_
      @Lesah_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      GIRRRRRRRL

  • @deborahwarren8587
    @deborahwarren8587 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    Tren you are right ....You wouldn't believe how many mothers , and siblings who are very hateful ..jealous....envious of their own .....it is ridiculous and sad but it is very much true.. ..🤔😖

    • @fendibondie2545
      @fendibondie2545 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Preach my whole family drop outs, street people and narcissist. They swear the genuine good people are the trouble makers..

    • @nycg801
      @nycg801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lots of mothers see our fathers in us. There bitter hateful feelings towards ur dad are now projected onto you.

    • @audhumbla6927
      @audhumbla6927 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yes. i accepted it with my mom, shes old, but ill never forgive her for brainwashing my brother.....

    • @amankaur4471
      @amankaur4471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I don’t like my mum I avoid her as much as I can she always treated me really badly and now I just don’t even like her anymore

  • @godsgym777
    @godsgym777 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I'm a man and I have just realized how much my mom had tried to do witchcraft on me, cast spells, manipulate and everything else, this video really helped. I appreciate it. Y'all need to go to your real parent, that's God. Don't sweat your earthly parents. This way you can do what YOU are meant to do in life, not what they want.

    • @sunnybright8206
      @sunnybright8206 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes amen to God being the true parent

  • @user-iy4xx8kv1h
    @user-iy4xx8kv1h 2 ปีที่แล้ว +239

    My dreams are becoming my reality and there's NOTHING they can do to stop it. ✨🖤🙌🏻

    • @jasonsilverberg3170
      @jasonsilverberg3170 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My nightmares, became mine

    • @abbasownblackman2762
      @abbasownblackman2762 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Keep going don't stop.

    • @jasonsilverberg3170
      @jasonsilverberg3170 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@abbasownblackman2762 do you mean in the nightmares or leveling up?

    • @one-mancrew7630
      @one-mancrew7630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Keep that Grind going I'm in the same situation

    • @kristy1659
      @kristy1659 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yesssssssssss!!!!🥰💛💛💛 Same here!😍

  • @PamelaKay23
    @PamelaKay23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    My mom is VERY NEGATIVE about everything. You’re so right about everything you said…exactly how she acts. My daughter excelled past me and I couldn’t be more proud of her. There is no jealousy in my heart for her I’m happy she’s done well for herself. But my mom does act like when good things happen for me she hates me more. My Dad is so miserable with her. She also acts manly too. She’s stubborn as hell and nothing is ever her fault. Right on point.

    • @taraarrington2285
      @taraarrington2285 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ❤️

    • @optimisticmindz2545
      @optimisticmindz2545 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wow sounds almost like a carbon copy of mine I wonder what makes them behave this way

    • @taraarrington2285
      @taraarrington2285 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@optimisticmindz2545 I've been trying to figure that out for many years

    • @SwinkMediaHouse
      @SwinkMediaHouse ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Do we have the same mom? No seriously…

    • @fascinatinglist9654
      @fascinatinglist9654 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      II'm sorry for your pain sis. hope you heal and have a beautiful loving family of your own.

  • @rabiahawes3918
    @rabiahawes3918 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It wasn’t nothing but god that allowed this video to play for me !! 💯 I’m at work with no Wi-Fi n all the other videos I’ve tried to watch today wasn’t working but I said “lord if this video is meant for me like I felt it was when I clicked on it .. u will let this play” and when I tell u that it played str8 thru with no problems 😮🙌🏾
    N it resonated with me so much I started clapping and praying at work!! I’ve been brainwashed by my mom for long enough! 😢 the problem wasn’t and ISNT me thank u Jesus for big brother TREN 🙏🏾 ur message reach out n touched me today and I pray that u continue to speak the TRUTH !! ❤

  • @Mattiejaned
    @Mattiejaned 2 ปีที่แล้ว +347

    My mom has lowkey hated me since birth. It's all good though.

    • @roselinejeremie2912
      @roselinejeremie2912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      because you are way prettier than her am going through the same thing. just continue to be you ti ful

    • @valeriepowell4203
      @valeriepowell4203 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Right me too all because Dad left her and I look like him

    • @eastsidedee1053
      @eastsidedee1053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      💯

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@valeriepowell4203 same

    • @joharilarosa6230
      @joharilarosa6230 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Our job was to keep dad around but it didn't work. What man would stay??

  • @ojahnibobb7154
    @ojahnibobb7154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Your own blood relatives is the worst❗
    Keep an eye on them folks.👁

  • @rachanddennis06
    @rachanddennis06 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    You hit the nail on the head. My mom is just pure EVIL. My family moved away to Florida to get away from her controlling nature. She’s as negative as they come. My family is struggling after our grandparents passed away. She’s destroyed our entire family. I’m almost 40 and have decided I’ve taken all I can from her. This beaten and bruised dog is done. No more. Radio silence from here on out. I’m just struggling with it, obviously why I’m here trying to understand how to move on.

  • @Cescab3ll
    @Cescab3ll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    Wow you are really God sent because everything you are talking about, I’m currently going through. Unfortunately I had to cut off my mum, it’s sad because my children won’t be able to see their grandmother but my mental health comes first.

    • @harryheath9928
      @harryheath9928 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This man knows what he is talking about.your own mother will sell out to a tramp of a women just cause she had a baby by ya!

    • @cxcmfrt4275
      @cxcmfrt4275 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Shit happens ....even now my mom just cooked for herself n refused me to eat (that happens most of the time) but I'm just a lil kid of 17 years ,I had to sell my own favorite shoes in order to eat for a living .......still hustling in life but at the same time schooling in Highschool n it's my final year in school

    • @thepheonix6501
      @thepheonix6501 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@cxcmfrt4275 because of what iam going through I would say you are very lucky you discovered what she is at such a young age now you have a better chance of making it big in life get a part time job study hard find out what your passion is and work towards that whilst you working on your exit plan GL

    • @inama2amani
      @inama2amani 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are helping your children as well
      I am grateful that you are seeing.

    • @quesmith6753
      @quesmith6753 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You have a beautiful name Mami

  • @jonathanlaguerre3739
    @jonathanlaguerre3739 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    It also come from sibling favoritism. Some parents would do anything for a favorite child to do better, to be the head. Wishing the one favorite be like the one that is hated. And it's about control.

    • @daonecarter532
      @daonecarter532 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Glooooorrrryyyy To Yah you hit the nail on the head fam, truly confirmation that's what it is they rather favor the one that ain't about nothin instead of the chosen one that shows favor from Yah🙏🏾💪🏾

    • @ashland6630
      @ashland6630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Facts

    • @tonieamannministries
      @tonieamannministries 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      That how it is with my mom and siblings. I am the chosen one and so they try so hard to make my life miserable. They don't want me to prosper.

    • @independenthoney1
      @independenthoney1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true!!

    • @fah232
      @fah232 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      OMG, that's my situation and it shows on my mom and she can't hide it.

  • @ReggieYBIJR
    @ReggieYBIJR ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sad TRUTH BUT AS A CHOSEN ONE I WISH HER THE BEST FROM A DISTANCE

  • @johnastor6960
    @johnastor6960 2 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    I was 37 years old when I realized that my mom had been actively working against me since the day I was born. My life was pretty dark back in the beggining I often thought I wouldn't survive my childhood.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Same here . Sending you so much love and hugs

    • @johnastor6960
      @johnastor6960 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Mindful.Movement.01
      Much love ❤️ thank you...

    • @humanengineer812
      @humanengineer812 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same John, now that we know; NOTHING stopping us

    • @loridean.5986
      @loridean.5986 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This was some very real shit for me! I praise you for speaking the truth and putting it out there. Though I know very few, I love people that tell it and say it like it is. I remember the first time That I was told to watch out, because there are parents out there that don’t want you to succeed and do better than them. I was sitting a college philosophy class at the age of 21. I could not even fathom what the professor was saying at the time, it was just so evil and unfamiliar to me, that my mind did not want to accept what he was saying, I’m 56 now, and although it has been a hard pill to swallow. I have come to the realization that most all of the females in my family do not have my back the way that loving family members should. It hurts so much, but It is a sad reality. It has been this way most all of my life, and I didn’t even know that subconsciously my mind had found a way to deal w it. I have been using cognitive dissonance all of my life to excuse the hurt and pain that I have experienced. The mind is an unbelievable organ,it is our protector, our survival mechanism kicks in and takes over, and we do t even realize it. But my eyes have been opened, my mind is free and clear. I’ve been clean and sober for a year now on May 23rd. It is the best gift I’ve ever given myself, I feel better than ever, family can be your best friend and your worst enemy. It gives me chills to speak of these things, but the things you have said, and the way that you speak the truth cannot be denied. Thank you Brother. I am just finding you now, and a new subscriber you have…♥️

    • @coffeecup369
      @coffeecup369 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      BUT YOU DID SURVIVE SHE LACKS BIG TIME IN WHAT SO IMPORTANT AND THATS LOVE BECAUSE IT COME FROM GOD POOR HER

  • @bilqiscampbell219
    @bilqiscampbell219 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Thank u for this. Its so taboo to say this within the black community but alot of mamas simply despise their children and try to sabotage them and its sad.

  • @daughterofyah80
    @daughterofyah80 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is my mother. And everyone loves her because she’s so good at being fake. She tuned everyone, including my daughter, against me. Hides behind church and the Bible but does NOT behave like a Christian. It’s so sick to watch from afar. I cut ties with her but I’m having a hard time seeing my child go through what I did. My daughter will not believe me. I never had a relationship with my father because of her and now he’s passed away. I’m afraid that will be me with my child. I had so much love for my mother I wouldn’t go against her and talk to my dad when he was alive. That’s going to be my daughter 😞

  • @CHSN-1
    @CHSN-1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    A lot of times, the psychology behind this has to do with our mothers childhood. They wish we were their parent, somebody with strong boundries, solid, honest, with strength, etc. I know my moms crazy ass acted like my daughter it was insane...

    • @asiachestnut4210
      @asiachestnut4210 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I feel like I don’t have a real mother’s she so damn child like I feel you

    • @MindBodyStorm
      @MindBodyStorm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Parentification 101

    • @c111-y9n
      @c111-y9n 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Deadass! My mom even said im the mom and shes the daughter, thang is crazy out here

    • @KROWNCHAKRATV
      @KROWNCHAKRATV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Bingo

    • @shavonda4447
      @shavonda4447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes, and sometimes the whole line.... mom, grandma, great grandma, great great and so on.... generational curse has to be broken.

  • @one-mancrew7630
    @one-mancrew7630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    Even though the carrier (my so called mother) don't want to tell me how she truly feels about me her actions does. I can now proudly say I've always been the black sheep, her family members always be making excuses for her, taking her side, but when it comes to me defending myself and expressing how I feel I'm in the wrong. It's all good though cause it made me mentally stronger & she can't stop what God has for me.

    • @fah232
      @fah232 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen...

    • @newestbarbee3250
      @newestbarbee3250 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Girl this has been my life

    • @ryandunson5387
      @ryandunson5387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So true...been through all that all my life.

    • @solomzimiya6090
      @solomzimiya6090 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙏🏾

  • @CiamaraOneoftheChosen
    @CiamaraOneoftheChosen ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You’re speaking the truth. I just cut my “mom” off almost 2yrs ago. She always had something negative to say or critiquing how I dress. Had said I wasn’t a good mother. And she only does this with me. I have 2 other sisters. It’s true she was jealous and they do try to compete. I broke the generational curse. My mom has never had a backbone when it came to these losing ass men she chose. Plays victim and she’s petty, and selfish. I’m the opposite I beat the brakes off my exs ass for putting his hands on me. She’s always put men before me and my sisters. Since I stopped talking to her she hasn’t even bothered to see how I am. She doesn’t love me, a hard pill to swallow but true. But she’s never been there. I raised myself and my sisters. All she was concerned about was what man was next to be up in her… I was raped, she never nurtured me to get through it. Never did anything not even apologize. Just swept it under the rug and kept going. I had to heal myself. I was told even after I was raped she still wanted to be with that pos.

  • @Melanated_Elegance
    @Melanated_Elegance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    Man breaking these negative curses are hard. When we start bringing light to these types of demons we gain power. My mom has been the biggest crab in my bucket. I'm deacthing from negativity, in school to become a chemist, and maintain a small skincare business. Yet, my mom has dissed me every step of the way. I appreciate this topic Tren, well needed.

    • @audhumbla6927
      @audhumbla6927 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      💕💕💕💕💪🏻

    • @shoniswinning4056
      @shoniswinning4056 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Keep going…

    • @Melanated_Elegance
      @Melanated_Elegance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you 😊 I decided to take the high road and forgive. I graduated last week and I would have never made it if I didn't forgive and pray. Light will trump dark we have to stand strong and still show love. I know it's not easy but it's worth it.

  • @kingoqueenstv7355
    @kingoqueenstv7355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    You speaking to my soul once again 😪😥 I recently came to the conclusion that my mother never loved me. I’ve never known a true mothers love. But I feel better accepting that fact & moving forward on my own. Best revenge is success. Much love ❤️

    • @anneagena8236
      @anneagena8236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m going through the same thing God loves you that’s why he brought you this far.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      One thing about them tables … they ALWAYS turn

    • @nataliepope8643
      @nataliepope8643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wrote the same message earlier there's nothing looks going to burn worse than success you know every roadblock I had still did it better than her inadequate

  • @lisalopes3844
    @lisalopes3844 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Straight up facts! It's a sad reality that some of us have to teach ourselves, then make sure we don't pass down all the toxicity down to our children (relationships) with the power of God, we must break these cycles so that our children don't go through the same struggles. Thanks so much for this!

  • @Azizajewelry
    @Azizajewelry 2 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Beginning from when I got my first job at age 14 my mom started charging me rent to "teach me responsibility" because thats how her parents raised her. Once she even stole money from me, and acted like it wasnt a big deal. I fought against her charging me rent the whole time while she repeatedly threatened to kick me out if I didn't comply. Really she just wanted me to suffer the way her parents made her suffer. Took me years of healing work to recover from this. Moved out many years ago and have never looked back.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      O wow

    • @tonieamannministries
      @tonieamannministries 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      My mom was like that but I didn't live with her after the age of 14. Her parents took over parenting for me and my older four siblings. She moved in with her mom and her jealousy of me started showing. She would steal my car keys and take my car or let my sister's drive my car. She stole money from me, used my children on her taxes (years later). When I was pregnant with my first child she said, "I wish it was a tumor in your stomach". She is a real witch.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tonieamannministries o wow

    • @tonieamannministries
      @tonieamannministries 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@Mindful.Movement.01 It's crazy to phantom that a biological mother can hate a being that she birthed. It seems to be daughter's who are hated by their moms the most. When I would see healthy families, I would always ask, "Why didn't I get that?". Now, I am just so thankful because it made me so wise and strong. I wrote all about it in a book. I will publish it in one week.

    • @unklekurlu
      @unklekurlu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      i experienced this also, working after school from 14 to 17 i was charged rent off the money i earnt. i saved up once i left school for full time work and got out, that was a long time ago now

  • @WrathOfGOD_Ruach7-
    @WrathOfGOD_Ruach7- 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    It’s one of the most evilest ways to grow up. I trust absolutely no one & can see through every soul I come across and discern if they have sincere love, or if they have demonic hatred hidden inside. Great part about it, it made my relationship with The Most High GOD Unbreakable+Forever growing 🙏🏾❤️🔥

  • @ilovegod9008
    @ilovegod9008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am in awe at the people who have successfully went "No contact" from a narcissist family member! You are amazingly strong!! It's not easy to do

  • @WarriorGoddess888
    @WarriorGoddess888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    This video broke me down to the very pit of my soul, you were speaking directly to me and the situation with my parents, wow so spot on, can’t stop crying because the truth hurts, gonna watch this again 💛☮️❤️

    • @ThePheonixRising420
      @ThePheonixRising420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      right...

    • @kingoqueenstv7355
      @kingoqueenstv7355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I co-sign! Same here. Thank God for our brother Tren

    • @angelface889
      @angelface889 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Remember though they was your motivation too so thank them for making you a warrior ❤

    • @debbiestorm3751
      @debbiestorm3751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same

    • @kynite9149
      @kynite9149 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely broke me into tears. And the sad thing is I haven't even mad it yet Big Bro

  • @Shatoyaskitchen
    @Shatoyaskitchen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    😢 Saddest shit ive ever felt.... Right on time I really needed this...

    • @queniaknight4586
      @queniaknight4586 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      No more tears love may God keep you covered and be blessed from this day forward

    • @eastsidedee1053
      @eastsidedee1053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💯

  • @sunshinem5420
    @sunshinem5420 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My mother had me at 14 and I am 59 today. She tried every demonic attack & then some against me from the day I was born.
    I used to always be the one who brought the family together, she was always the one to keep the family apart. She would scandalize my name to my husband, kids, other family members, and even my employer. Best believe whenever she was in need who did she call? I would always help her with drug debts, food, clothing, medical, housing, transportation, and financial needs! That's the only time " I was a success in her eyes." It did take some time, but years ago, I chose to forgive her and cut ties. I really hope your video reaches hurting sons and daughters around the world who need to hear & heal from your message.

  • @tooakki
    @tooakki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    I can't believe this popped up, the Universe knows.

  • @juggeli4684
    @juggeli4684 2 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    crazy timing brother , this situation has been going on with me since forever and i knew i wasn’t trippin , thank you god for the video

  • @anna-nicolemarie2518
    @anna-nicolemarie2518 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So well said. Thank you so much for validating the pain I feel from my mother. It's not mothering, it's... control. It's ownership. To say they want the best for you while mad at you for any signals of success. Happy when you're down. Down when you're up. I don't know what to do. I want to love her, but her very existence causes me pain. The guilt is debilitating.

    • @coffeecup369
      @coffeecup369 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      KEEP HER AT A DISTANCE THAT BETTER FOR YOU SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST MISERABLE JEALOUS AND MAYBE THEIR HEALTH AINT SO GOOD SO THEIR IN BAD SPRITUAL SHAPE PEACE BE WITH YOU

    • @STEEZ-A-LEE
      @STEEZ-A-LEE 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Happy when your down. Down when your up.. Wow enough said STAY STRONG move in silence

  • @LudmillaMuse
    @LudmillaMuse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    🙊Growing up Haitian! With a narcissist, emotional abusive mother…& still to this day! I just didn’t understand this until recently. & i cut people offffff! Idc who it is! Maaaannn you are hitting points!! 🔩🔨🔨🔨 🗣🔊🔊🔊 realizing that your own mother hates you is something! I’ve been doing well with a new creation after yeeeaaaarrrrssss of having it hard…my mother won’t congratulate me. I told her exciting news recently & she was making a sandwich with her back turned…she continued making the sandwich then told me I get “too excited” smh 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 keep strong sistas & brothas that deal with this!

  • @bright497
    @bright497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Same for us Puerto Ricans. Family be living off talking shi. It's like an addiction for them. I personally get sick with migraines once I hear bs.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn foreal?

    • @bright497
      @bright497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mindful.Movement.01 that's just the way they are.

  • @paulaismael6549
    @paulaismael6549 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I was 53 when I realized what was going on. Dealing with narcissistic parents and sister. A nightmare that can only be over when you realize that there is only one way out- no contact.

  • @Nauticaj
    @Nauticaj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I resonate so heavily with this video. The best thing I did was go no contact! 🙌🏾 Liberate yourselves ladies 💕🦋✨
    You are beautiful. You are strong. You are powerful. Continue to push forward, focus on loving yourself, and living your best life! 💫

    • @nataliepope8643
      @nataliepope8643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The rest of my life going to be the the best liberated I don't know if I beautiful I know I'm strong I'm pushing Back

  • @thelight2379
    @thelight2379 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Yes and the older generation are the hardest to wake up I appreciate you for speaking on that🙏🏾

  • @abubakarrbangura3088
    @abubakarrbangura3088 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    90% of your videos resonate with me but watching this one today together with the comments. Its makes me feel better and confident because the vibration is 100%

  • @blaqabundance4461
    @blaqabundance4461 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I can feel the shit in my soul… something ain’t right!!!

  • @juliet1122
    @juliet1122 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Truth! They hate you because you did what they could not. They hate you because you are everything they are not and wish they were. It sounds extreme, I understand. It took me 37 years essentially to figure out my mother is and always was my worst enemy. The pure hatred and toxicity that she oozes with every word she speaks, is scary. I watched the movie Matilda the other day, and was triggered, to say the least. I feel like that movies main character would resonate with a lot of chosen ones.

  • @itsjustme.109
    @itsjustme.109 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My mom literally told me not to pursue my career and goals as an artist, writer and visionary and to just get a job. She told me not to do it, she said I can't be successful like others. I even had an opportunity to be a part of writer's workshop for some famous individuals and she told me not to do it because you can't trust people. I was 100% grown at the time but I let her negative talk keep me from doing it. She doesn't respect me as an adult and never supported anything I ever wanted to do in life and none of the things I wanted to pursue was bad at all. She's always speaking down and negatively on my situations but I'm taking that power from her and she will never stop me from reaching my destiny and no one else will either.

    • @mindfulmoments426
      @mindfulmoments426 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ohh my goodness 😢 this is my life story. After I graduated I wanted to continue doing writing opposed to getting hired in an office. She fought me all the way and I evwlost my spark. Its such a long story, but I totally relate. I am busy picking the pieces with her still in my life. I eventually faced her and told her to stop belittling my achievements, she slips from time to time. But I am glad I started my journey of healing.

  • @kammchicago
    @kammchicago 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    🗣The truth is being told! It’s a bitter reality and sad fact🙏 Stay strong 💪🏼 much luv Tren

  • @Letmypeoplego933
    @Letmypeoplego933 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I never could let my mom go .... Then one night I had an intense dream from God " My mom and I were at a fast food restaurant ordering food at the counter I'm paying and she got pissed off at me for no reason 🙄 and she started betraying me and was yelling the most evil things out about and at the same time I was scared running around using the Holy Spirit to show people God uses me but mom's betraying me at same time and people were looking at me like why would she say that." And then I woke up and prayed in the spirit 🙏and the Lord gave me an interpretation and he told me "to let her go because he can't take her where he's taking me " sometimes you do have to let even your mom go... Abraham left his family ... How can you use your full potential if you don't let certain people go!

    • @Letmypeoplego933
      @Letmypeoplego933 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I thought i mention I was struggling thinking about my mom n stuff when you posted this.

    • @anneagena8236
      @anneagena8236 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I felt this

    • @Letmypeoplego933
      @Letmypeoplego933 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @V A 👍

  • @mrsseedoftheday
    @mrsseedoftheday ปีที่แล้ว +9

    “People want you to live in their cycle of failure” this HIT DIFFERENT

  • @ceeceejlightworker8208
    @ceeceejlightworker8208 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    My narcissistic mother definitely treats me like this on a daily basis, basically since I came out the womb. I’m 37 and she feels like we’re in competition. She just basically copying my style. I’ve had my nose pierced for 7 yrs now , last month she goes to get hers done. I get a closure with body wave hair, she does the same. I’m just tired of her we got into a nasty argument a few days ago and I was soo mad I told her I hated her. There’s no relationship, no connection with her. I have no feelings at all. I need her out my life. Smh and she be swearing i be talking about her to my friends.😂 I have 000000 friends . What friends??? I definitely feel like I’m cursed by her. Witchcraft is something real.

    • @lpalmeri600
      @lpalmeri600 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I feel you!! Same thing with me. I broke the spell and felt so free after that!! Sending you love!!!

    • @uniquelove1322
      @uniquelove1322 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Stay 🙏🏾 up she feel guilty

    • @ceeceejlightworker8208
      @ceeceejlightworker8208 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@uniquelove1322 I really don’t care I’ve been holding that in for a long time telling her I hated her. It actually felt good to say it to be honest. I don’t even remember the last time she told me she loved me or gave me a hug. And I honestly don’t care. I use to cry for my moms love now I just have cold feelings towards her. There’s no love there. Her mom , my grandmother whose deceased treated me like i came out of her. I miss my grandmother. That’s where everything came tumbling down the day I lost my granny.

    • @uniquelove1322
      @uniquelove1322 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ceeceejlightworker8208 this resonates with me bigtime I've never got hugs. Never been told I love you either by her ,so I always wanted her approval ,I feel you but I sayless and protect my energy, she bed madd talking crazy to me but idgaf

    • @roselinejeremie2912
      @roselinejeremie2912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you, she treats you the same as she treats her dirty heart....😇

  • @shaneedavis7286
    @shaneedavis7286 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    My mom actually told me this. She told me she was never half the woman/mom I am and then tried to destroy in any way she could. Even stole my identity and tried to destroy my credit. I just met my dad this year at 28 and I was always told he didn't want anything to do with me to find out she didn't allow him to have any relationship with me. It hurt me so bad I don't know how to feel

    • @shavonda4447
      @shavonda4447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's sad something similar occured to me.

    • @shavonda4447
      @shavonda4447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No matter how happy I seem, I really don't know how I feel.

    • @chefjonathan4018
      @chefjonathan4018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Shanee Davis: Keep your head up and I am sorry that happened but the important thing is that your father did want to be around. I hope you continue to heal. Peace

  • @mistymccoi5514
    @mistymccoi5514 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ahhhhh man✌🏽
    Big Bro Trent, you told my experience and yes she recruited the whole family to help her do it. Thank youuuuuu for speaking out. We rarely hear from the men about this. Thank you🤍💜. And I am not AFRAID TO SPEAK OUT . I been doing it for years before social media but no one believed me.

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Never stress over what you can't control.

  • @doolittleranch8302
    @doolittleranch8302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Can’t hate this man when he’s preaching from the heart which is his truth…

  • @coloradopadilla4223
    @coloradopadilla4223 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You said everything to the T…. Thank you for speaking the truth I’ve been fighting my own trauma dealing with my abusive manipulating narcissistic mom. And she hates the fact that I shows unconditional love to my two daughters I give them the world and I am loving tell them how beautiful they are and how great they are going to become when they get older.

  • @valeriealexander1098
    @valeriealexander1098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Man it hurts so bad didn’t know other people had this going on never knew a mom could hate they own daughter... but it made me the mom I am today and new boundaries... Remember love is the highest frequency i am divinely Guided away from that foolishness ❤️

  • @Ladyduchess313
    @Ladyduchess313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    😂😂😂Why MY MOM hate me? 1. I'm light skin 😳 2. I'm creative!!! 💪 3. I get attention when I walk in a room!!! 😳 Heads still turn!!! All my life I have been hated on because I am cute!!!! Beauty is a curse!
    My best & good friends that I can count on are men!!!! 👍😳🌹

    • @roselinejeremie2912
      @roselinejeremie2912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      No hun beauty rebukes the devil, they mad!!!

    • @EmauniSimone
      @EmauniSimone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same!!! It’s so sad these people are CRAZY

    • @Ladyduchess313
      @Ladyduchess313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@EmauniSimone Yes... I finally look at them as crazy! Something went very wrong somewhere!😳 (religion) all they did was beat the skin off our backs until they drew blood. Taught us to work & Keep a clean 🏠 house. 😳

    • @Ladyduchess313
      @Ladyduchess313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@roselinejeremie2912 Thank you. I finally learned to love myself! No thanks to family! 😳 Eating right... Fasting... Affirmations... Visualization...
      Writing Poetic Affirmations/Askffirmations. 😇🙏💗🌹and playing my keyboard!!! Yes... They mad cause I can understand music when men that play music be talking music with me...😳

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Ladyduchess313 whew 😥 girl u all up and down this thread with truth especially “beat us until we drew blood”

  • @vangothengirl
    @vangothengirl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It's true. All of it. My parents used to be my friends, but as time went on and I look back, there was a lot of red flags. I can't talk to any of my relatives because I can't trust any of them and they usually have to bring up my mom or my dad as if I'm not my own person 🤦 Yikes. And yes, they hate me even more especially my mom for improving my life, for healing, minding my own business, not having her in my life at all for almost a year. I couldn't take it anymore.

  • @jowanacyrus9066
    @jowanacyrus9066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Omg, you've told my story verbatim. Down to the daddy part. I'm 38 years old and just awakened to the fact that I have to remove her from my life PERMANENTLY. Thank God for not allowing me to waste another year in confusion and dysfunction!

    • @DanielleMM-ct8ip
      @DanielleMM-ct8ip 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This comment made me reblock my Mom. I go no contact and then talk to her every few months. Each time I talk to her- she makes me feel like shit.
      Thanks for being here. Needed this
      I do wish I had a Mom tho- I really could’ve used one.

    • @coffeecup369
      @coffeecup369 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      HOLY MOTHER MARY LOVES US ALL PEACE B WITH YOU@@DanielleMM-ct8ip

  • @ruby2411
    @ruby2411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    To me, if you hate your children, you hate yourself. So sad but their relationship with their parents has been traumatic too. One that was fully toxic. Yes this shit is real. I have a totally different lifestyle to my mom, hence we are poles apart and she has always gone against me. . I get hated on not only by my mom, but the entire family especially now when I am focusing on myself. We just have to live our true self. Yes, the devil always know who to use to go against us. Thanks Tren

  • @southernbawselady7092
    @southernbawselady7092 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    @3:05...
    Matthew 10:36..."Your worst enemies will be members of your own family "
    So sad, but true!
    Stay strong! 🙏👠👜👒

    • @Wendy-LeeRattenbury
      @Wendy-LeeRattenbury ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish I knew that before my son died , even family are vultures - my friend identified my Mother as the petty tyrant. I raised my sons on my own , but the jealousy from my youngest son spoke volumes - he didn't even join me in spreading his big brothers ashes. I am deeply ashamed. I now just don't communicate - though for the sake of my grandchildren I try to be nice. They all turned their backs on me when I needed them the most. Now I live in my birth country, trying to be me - the triggers are awful. But I know my sons' spirit in with me. I had him for 31 years - we had so many good times and my Mother says awful things like if I had doe this or that my son would still be alive. It was Covid showing peoples true colours , and it speaks volumes. I have weathered many storms. By the Grace of God I am still here.

    • @southernbawselady7092
      @southernbawselady7092 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Wendy-LeeRattenbury
      Sending prayers your way! 🙏🌻

  • @ANEE5AH
    @ANEE5AH 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Tren went in on the mommas lol! Thank God we aren’t around Mother’s Day because we be forgetting. I had to heal so much from the mother wombs. It took many years of healing and lots of money on holistic practices to heal my entire body and ughh the subconscious mind and all the horrible programs being raised by narcissist parents. My heart goes to those who are going through it now ❤️💜🙏🏽 light & love!

    • @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown
      @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      LOL I am still healing so congratulations to you. Wow thanks for sharing. Sometimes it seems like it will never end but you are giving me hope. I'm seeing a life coach and have regular reiki sessions when possible. If you have any other suggestions please share them.

    • @GalaxyGyrl8888
      @GalaxyGyrl8888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙏👍💫

    • @ANEE5AH
      @ANEE5AH 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@PainToPurposewithNickieBrown work on opening the hips, hypnotherapy, hot yoga if you can find it’s called Yoga 26 or Bikram, and a strong meditation practice. Hypnotherapy is highly recommended, will take many sessions & can be $$$ Find a school where they are looking for participants to practice on so you skip the$$$ bc it’s expensive. 🙏🏽 many blessings 💜

    • @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown
      @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ANEE5AH oh okay thanks my life coach is a hypnotherapist thank goodness lol I do yoga but never tried hot yoga

  • @niyahgad2094
    @niyahgad2094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Facts big bro my narcissistic mother hates taking accountability for her actions so I’m on my 3rd time cutting her off but I think this it till she grows up 💯 I called her out on these patterns & she hates my guts &
    Slanders me or calls me disrespectful for trying to have a healing conversation with her . I’m aware of the generational curse started with my grandma cuz my grandma is a narcissist as well so she enabled her into one. I feel so bad for my step dad cuz he unconsciously enabled her as well man he’s such a good guy but now he’s aware of her manipulative/ controlling ways so he’s going through it too .

    • @tooakki
      @tooakki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same sentiment, spot on.

    • @niyahgad2094
      @niyahgad2094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She also gets between me & my brothers relationship to turn them against me out of spite man life been rough but imma break this curse💯@@decemberlotus

    • @keshawn888
      @keshawn888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I permanently cut off the egg donor in 2016. Narcs don't deserve 2nd chances. Especially not 3rd or 4th chances.

    • @keshawn888
      @keshawn888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Heyoka. You are quite welcome. I've reached chapter "37" of my experience here in this realm as of 2021 but I don't feel a day over 17! Why, because I refuse to tolerate bs from anyone! When you let people("family" or not) take advantage of you, you will age prematurely. I've seen it with others. It's definitely not a good luck, nor is it good for your overall health. Save yourself.

    • @MzCuteTee.
      @MzCuteTee. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same 🙋🏽‍♀️

  • @Berinala
    @Berinala 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is one of the BEST videos I've seen on narcissism.
    I've only realized my mother was a narcissist in the last 2 years ......
    I thought she was just an alcoholic...
    WOW ......
    YOU ARE SO SO CORRECT
    I never thought anything had to do with colour......
    But I relate to all this 100%
    (I always said my mother was a DEVIL)
    I will keep listening to you.....
    I subscribed to you.
    ❤ you for this INCREDIBLE
    AMAZING INFORMATION.

  • @louloutownsend1311
    @louloutownsend1311 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    This is my story Tren and I didn’t fully acknowledge the hate from my mom until I became awakened. It’s so sad, I want my kids to be successful and definitely have a better life than me. I’m just setting the foundation for them.

  • @Supabadd100
    @Supabadd100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Yesss! To know I’m not the only one who has been through this my whole life is so uplifting. Thank you for breaking this down Tren!

    • @Supabadd100
      @Supabadd100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ps I’m from KC but live in Cali love the hat!

  • @theSakredGodis
    @theSakredGodis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Man TALK THAT SHIT. On the brink of healing and releasing the past, releasing expectations, needs and desires of who I want my mom to be. Seeing her as the sad little girl that still lives within her, that helps vs seeing her as my mom. Soon breaking the tie between us to go my separate way with no haste or animosity. Gonna kill her with kindness. She’s been feeding off my energy, but no longer. Gaslit for YEARS. Physically and emotionally abused. So much. My sister 2 years older got a diff version of her. I’ve always been the purple unicorn amongst my relative. Finally accepting who I am and my power. Excited to ascend

  • @ojahnibobb7154
    @ojahnibobb7154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Man it's REAL out here, I have been through alot of shit where family is concerned.

    • @ojahnibobb7154
      @ojahnibobb7154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Kim Lewter Yeah sweet heart❤, it's not easy out here but just stay strong💪, stay safe💯 and stay focus👁.

  • @vanitarodde5288
    @vanitarodde5288 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Our parents will be the most difficult to understand the new world. Because they can't comprehend what they don't understand. Sadly envy, jealousy, fear, and negativity are low vibration emotions. As an awaken person we know that these emotions are toxic and produce lack of abundance and happiness. We have to understand most parents, friends or your family members can't support you because they are sleep. They are ruled by their ego, the ego always wants to be right. They're driven by their limiting beliefs of what they think things should be. Sadly this is just the beginning its going to get worst before it gets better. 😕 All we can do is continue to walk in your truth continue on your path.

  • @daysiporto2877
    @daysiporto2877 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Just received this video, and my birth giver she’s horrible, she’s all negative, she never taught me anything, and I know letting her go is what’s best. I’m so thankful for my daughters and I know I’m so excited for when they grow up and pray they receive everything and all the good things life has for them. My birth giver took me away from my daddy and ran to another country because he wanted to be in my life 🤦🏻‍♀️ she ripped me away and placed a disgusting man in my life, and deprived me of any human interaction, belittled and mocked me, neglected and abused me until I left for good at 16, and she was not happy about that either. I’m free now.

  • @AscendedDreamz
    @AscendedDreamz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Man you really are a G for speaking on the things that people refuse to acknowledge. I speak for many when I see you put a lot of people on your back but speaking the truth unapologetically! That being said I just want to thank thank YOU brother Tren for giving the youth a voice. You inspire me to continue to speak mine ✊🏽 Love

    • @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown
      @PainToPurposewithNickieBrown 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So true most of us don't speak about it. I haven't done a TH-cam video about it but I have posted articles on Facebook about mothers and grandmothers

  • @eternallyglowing
    @eternallyglowing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Wow! Every single word you spoke is the pure truth! Thank you 💯

  • @essentialtalk7069
    @essentialtalk7069 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I literally cried the whole video. This hit too hard 😢

  • @destinypatterson9591
    @destinypatterson9591 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    ACCOUNTABILITY AND LOSEING CONTROL IS SOMETHING THEY CANT STAND.

    • @Mindful.Movement.01
      @Mindful.Movement.01 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Whew 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 ain’t this the truth

  • @simisworld1979
    @simisworld1979 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I slept on this video a while - I thought it was too out there. I just had a big-ass argument with both my parents. both of them were being childish, bringing up irrelevant shit from the past, and acting like children. This pandemic is insane - these decepticons are straight up cracking and showing their true colours. they're not even being smart about it anymore! they're just behaving like children. thanks for being you Tren - you real and you showing up for those of us that really need family. love and light family

  • @simonelovelyfit
    @simonelovelyfit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    YESSSSSSSSS I’M GOING THROUGH THESE NOW-FINALLY NOW UNDERSTAND WHY SHE TREATED ME SO BAD.. My mother now has divided me, my youngest daughter against my oldest daughter!!!
    She wants to live with me but I’m praying and asking GOD what do!! My mother is Narcissist!! My youngest daughter doesn’t want to be around my mother!! Everything your saying is soooooo true!!!!

    • @daniellefoster8974
      @daniellefoster8974 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't do it she will wreak havoc. I'm still having the Lord fight my battles from what this wicked witch did when she secretly moved down to a town where I've lived far away for over thirteen years . All hell broke loose once she assaulted me and I whipped her ass. I pray that u don't have to go through that. She wouldn't not stop bothering me. You have children and so do in. She's trying to start shit in your home. Stay far away. Let her wickedness go elsewhere m believe me

  • @noeljosee
    @noeljosee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    It's TRULY an experience to watch your videos.. I'm between laughing and crying because you speak my LIFE every time. My mom has always treated me this way and my sister and brother have never experienced this type of treatment and it makes me feel so ALONE. Thank you for having the courage to speak the TRUTH, Tren.

  • @rojoamunra5845
    @rojoamunra5845 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Facts tren me and my mom doesn't get along. She favors my brother and sister over me. I've always been the black sheep of the family. Just pure evil I completely resonate with this video.

  • @moonsummersong
    @moonsummersong ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So grateful for you, Tren. It is so painful when our own mother continuously tries to abuse us and tries to drive us into the ground. I don't even know why they have kids other than to have someone to try to belittle. They mix some good with bad, so we learn to trauma bound and take sh!t from others in life. It's awful.

    • @syretaboothe4543
      @syretaboothe4543 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      EXACTLY!! We learn to take it from others!! Thank you for posting that...was saying that to a friend and they tried to tell me I was wrong....smdh..Thank you for the confirmation

  • @officialLariahG
    @officialLariahG 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    My mom always made me feel singled out since a child .. she treats my brother and younger sister different tho

  • @whaticantseetaughtmeeveryt9939
    @whaticantseetaughtmeeveryt9939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My mom be narcissistic fr she ain't want me to be independent

  • @chareejones9573
    @chareejones9573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This year was my breakthrough year I’ve never realized why my mom never spoke up when my narcissist father put me down every chance he got and yes everything you are saying is true never spoke up for me in times of crisis always thought it was weird she had no friends as well. Used silence to drain my energy and always questioned my character and what I do to get by without zero help but either parent but with God all things are possible. 🙏🏾

  • @Yomamas824
    @Yomamas824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My grandma has to be looking down and in complete tears--she was truly an Angel…I know she can’t believe how my mom has turned on me--JUST ME

  • @Sistah_Sayless
    @Sistah_Sayless 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Everything you said is the story of my life. Thank you for shedding light on this subject because it’s sometimes hard to put this experience into words especially without ppl thinking you’re disrespecting toxic mothers and relatives.

  • @jeanclaude8120
    @jeanclaude8120 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You're telling the truth. I had to watch this 2 times. Keep up the good work. You put into words, what I've experienced. Many thanks. The world needs to hear this.