How Can My Ex Throw Me Away?

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  • @kevinchen8234
    @kevinchen8234 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Craig is the best. He really cares and it's always so calming to talk to him. I had coaching with him twice, about a year apart and he remember every detail on the relationship issues with the first ex even a year later!

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thanks Kevin! Hope ur doing well. I’m gunna need to try some of that Boba tea 😉

  • @paige8361
    @paige8361 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    In my experience, this ALWAYS has EVERYTHING and I do mean EVERYTHING to do with them and not with you (if you believe in your heart you did a "fair" job at being a partner). It is a mirror and a direct reflection of what is going on in their heart and their mind. My ex did this, little did I know he was struggling very heavily with substance abuse and depression/anxiety due to the pressure of his career. He was in a dark place and not in good shape behind closed doors. Some can hide this like a magician even if you spend every day and night with them. Do NOT allow yourself to be treated like crap, but at the same time please have compassion and view it from a different lens before you tear them and yourself apart. Move on with grace and if you must state your point of view to them with class. Still hurts like hell and sucks on our end as emotionally stable people. You deserve to be treated better. I truly believe God, source, or the Universe put these people in our path so our soul can learn the tough lesson of empathy. Sending so much love, peace, and healing to you all! ❤

    • @paige8361
      @paige8361 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      P.S. - He circled back around and reached out after a few months of NC with an explanation. I had already semi moved on, but if they are a decent person they will usually apologize once they get out of the "fog."

    • @jennysatera7389
      @jennysatera7389 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@paige8361 what was the explanation? It hurts so badly

    • @paige8361
      @paige8361 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jennysatera7389 Hi Jenny! He was extremely raw and honest about his major substance abuse issues and his struggle with anxiety/depression that I was not aware of. He hid it very well and I had no clue even though I spent a lot of time with him. I am pretty observant and did not see any signs whatsoever. He apologized for cutting me off with no warning and got emotional. We agreed to be friends and supportive of one another. I am sending you good vibes, healing, and love in your situation! Might not make sense right now, but you will gain wisdom one day and heal! 💕

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah, mine was in a bad place too. Men especially are brought up to externalize pain so they tend to blame the girl & run. He's still a beautiful man. I hope so much he's doing well. 🙏 ❤

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@paige8361 Hmm. Mine won't face me. I wonder sometimes if he's ashamed. Poor dude. 💔 I just wish him healing & love. 🥀

  • @MrFingerz14
    @MrFingerz14 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Anyone who’s had a relationship with a partner with bpd can probably relate to the feeling of being thrown away.. 😢

    • @alishaclarke43
      @alishaclarke43 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have BPD and it feels like my partners always leave me like trash , so don’t blame the personality disorder. People can be shitty with or without BPD.

  • @GwenMotoGirl
    @GwenMotoGirl ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I felt thrown away because of the way he did it, not because he did it. He went on a business trip, texted the breakup to me in the middle of the night (“let’s split” - that is all he sent) and quit communicating. We were engaged for 3 years and lived together, and from my point of view, the breakup was a blindside. I was almost completely moved out 3 days later at the time he got back from his trip.

    • @Thisistheradicant
      @Thisistheradicant ปีที่แล้ว +8

      The way you feel is completely understandable, indeed more than valid! Some things should never happen this way. I'm so sorry 😞

    • @GwenMotoGirl
      @GwenMotoGirl ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Thisistheradicant thank you! With Craig, Margaret and Victoria’s videos, I’m good now. I appreciate your kind words.

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Engaged for 3 years? Why no wedding in that time?

    • @GwenMotoGirl
      @GwenMotoGirl ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Miswhitness0520 we had a date set and plans in motion, but my daughter’s wedding and all the planning that went with that was first by mutual agreement. Three days before the text, I was the love of his life, his beloved. I don’t know why he left, he couldn’t even tell me why he ended it 10 months later when he showed up at my front door, but I do believe in God, and I believe that God closed this door for me.

    • @Pschool1
      @Pschool1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      this is terrible and traumatic. i hope you have healed or are on your healing journey x

  • @caroldavis9289
    @caroldavis9289 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Ghosted, just disappeared without an explanation.

  • @joshuaMtrent
    @joshuaMtrent ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @CharlesS.Buzzell
      @CharlesS.Buzzell ปีที่แล้ว +1

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @joshuaMtrent
      @joshuaMtrent ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CharlesS.Buzzell Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @CharlesS.Buzzell
      @CharlesS.Buzzell ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@joshuaMtrent Her name is Sylvia Regina White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @joshuaMtrent
      @joshuaMtrent ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CharlesS.Buzzell Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @gj9747
    @gj9747 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    No one can be prepared for a loss of a sister . It’s been 3 years and it’s the worst pain . Thank you coaches .
    Try being told you’re too emotional

  • @MrChristian
    @MrChristian ปีที่แล้ว +15

    The text the ex sent is what anyone of us would “love” (for lack of a better word) to have received from our Ex-partners. It is totally sincere, honest and would have helped us with closure. I feel bad for the man, I understand his disbelief, but she did “not” “throw” him away. Now, getting ghosted overnight, suddenly, with no closure, after 13 years together, that’s being thrown away. EDIT + CONTEXT: In all fairness to my Ex, our relationship had many ups and downs. We broke up and got back together several times over the years. But usually communication lines were left open. The final break did come from nowhere but of course, the many incidents over the years had worn us both down. Regardless, I thought that at the very minimum, we had a deep friendship and losing that, not the sex or the companionship or the ongoing communications, is what truly hurts the most.

    • @Pschool1
      @Pschool1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      i agree, their ex was kind and communicated openly even in the depths of their own loss and grief of their sister.
      A lot of ex's experience less than this and still don't have the skills or decency to give their partner the closure they deserve. Cruel.

    • @MrChristian
      @MrChristian ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Pschool1 Totally cruel, I agree. Although, perversely, us seeing their cruelty should make us feel relieved to have lost them. Of course, the brain - and the heart - doesn’t work that simplistically. But it’s important to recognize this.

  • @keinenkrishna4468
    @keinenkrishna4468 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I had similar situation happen to me. I fully empathise with pain the guy I feeling. It’s heartbreaking to feel like coldness and distance from somone after you give all of you. You’ll get through this brother

  • @lorip4087
    @lorip4087 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My ex had an affair and dumped me while my mother was dying. I would never have left. I needed support and got nothing.

  • @brandonf24
    @brandonf24 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    She doesn't realize that she is currently trading a life for the loss of another life. She's so consumed by grief that nothing else matters...not even the prospect of something that could change and enhance her world with greater meaning. Relax dude...give her space and time...she'll eventually come around over the years. Unfortunately, neither of you are getting any younger. She's setting you free while she contends with it all.

    • @Pschool1
      @Pschool1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It makes me wonder how she would have been able to handle the situation had they been married before her dear sister passed away. Would she have requested a divorce or would she had stayed and worked through it with her husband?

    • @brandonf24
      @brandonf24 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Pschool1 she wouldn't have...self-absorbed avoidance couldn't handle the responsibility in addition to that hardship.

  • @CoachCraigKenneth
    @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +6

    If you’d like to get one on one coaching, sign up on my website AskCraig.net

  • @PaulBudd-ju5ue
    @PaulBudd-ju5ue ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Nice to see you live! You’ve helped me so much in the last 4 weeks after a 11 year relationship

  • @Minx666
    @Minx666 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When you experience that kind of loss, you go into survival mode and you don’t have the energy to be kind to others. But this too shall pass ❤

  • @christopherbullens5494
    @christopherbullens5494 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    If would be nice if. They tell you why they leave

  • @LonelyRider87
    @LonelyRider87 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Craig omg got me spitting out my coffee ☕️ laughing. This is a little silly of me, cause I genuinely wish my ex complete happiness & success & love. When I saw only once how hard he was trying to ignore me and boast online about his endeavors (which were impressive!!) I did twitch a tiny smile! Ahaa!! Gotcha! I wasn't worthless...you know it too, or you wouldn't be trying so hard, you big beautiful boy, you. ❤
    And as usual Craig is right; they don't have to stay with us. We don't have to like, agree with or understand their choice (though I went out of my way to) we just have to radically accept it, when we are ready to. Shine on, kings & queens 👑

  • @upupandaway5646
    @upupandaway5646 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes .she did throw me away.she said I'm sorry your hurt but I'm not changing my mind . What frustrating me is I treated her like a queen.a terrible time.thank you for the lovely videos .your a LIFESAVER❤

    • @CountOfMonteCristo_
      @CountOfMonteCristo_ ปีที่แล้ว

      People can be very selfish, you don’t need a child like you that, you will find a real women trust me.

  • @adventureawaits9034
    @adventureawaits9034 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She is broken from what has happened, I think she has pushed every one away. She just needs time, I think she still loves the guy. At some point I think her heart will open again, it just going to take a long time. But her keeping contact in a small way shows this. But he has to let her reach out and come to him. Like the old saying "if you love someone set them free.. and if they come back, they are yours for ever" just give her time and space, but if he pushes things it will make matters worse. Coach Kenneth is right.

  • @LonelyRider87
    @LonelyRider87 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Also my condolences to this poor couple. It helped me be more sympathetic of my friend who drives me nuts with her flaky behavior; her mom died of pancreatic cancer. This clearly had nothing to do with this dude & I'm so sorry to everyone involved, tragic. 😓💔

  • @SheerMagnetismDarling007
    @SheerMagnetismDarling007 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    OMG this was sooo emotional 😭 God bless you all. God be with you Jorge. Hey bro I think she will be back 😉

  • @Startpixie12
    @Startpixie12 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Isn’t this such a common occurrence with people with BPD?

  • @NorseLagertha
    @NorseLagertha ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He actually threw me away... Within 3weeks he's dating and are in that relationship right now, and it's nearly a year ago. He ignored me, no communication at all, no explanation. After 2 months I got breast Cancer stage 3 TNBC,and I reached out... And nothing. I got nothing from him after +20 years together and a daughter. I went through my Cancer alone, living alone in our city, he know I'm alone here, and still nothing. Even his family reached out, but him? No. I can't comprehend how and why he could do this, I only wanted him as a friend, help me to the hospital or a text... But he actually threw me away.

  • @michaelmorgan6012
    @michaelmorgan6012 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is what it felt like to me, we only had a 6 week relationship and she really was so much into me and me her, until she ended it out the blue, I at the time thought she had just thrown us away when it was getting so good, I now know it was because of her past bad relationships for which I know she is a avoidant and couldn't deal with a relationship at the time, it really was about her and how she felt and not me,and now I can see she did it to avoid hurting me further down the line.

  • @SS-in1ts
    @SS-in1ts ปีที่แล้ว

    It took me a year and a half to two years to recover my mind and life after my dad died. This poor woman. My heart breaks for her.
    Nothing mattered to me for the first 6-8 months other than being with my kids. I’m still working on finding purpose again because all I really care about is being with my loved ones and their health and that’s all. I didn’t go in my room for six months and slept on my couch. Gained forty lbs. a family death changes a person for life. It’s hard on everyone around them.

  • @pascalhollaender2605
    @pascalhollaender2605 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you 🙏 coach Craig, you are absolutely right and you are both amazing, I am studying Grief and it’s physical and mental repercussions and learning to place myself into the situation of the grieving person as you mentioned in your video today
    Sometimes loves and selflessness is not enough and thanks to both of you for your inspiring and thoughtful work for many persons out there caught up in life hard lessons
    Both be blessed with all the success you can get
    Best regards , Jose 😂

  • @camellia8625
    @camellia8625 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It would be great to have update videos on some of these individuals.

  • @TielerBYadon
    @TielerBYadon ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I want to have a coaching session with Craig. I really need his help.

  • @flat4wankel
    @flat4wankel ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not an excuse to monkey branched me. She just find any excuse to do this

  • @TheRelaxRoom
    @TheRelaxRoom ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What it means when ex after 2 weeks of no contact(only seeing her when picking up our 2 kids) start sending pictures of our kids everyday for one week and asking me when picking up them how I feel after destroying family? What you guys think? She is asking for random favours which I politely decline saying sorry but Im really busy at the moment... now she stops sending pictures looks like some mind game and I think she is waiting for me to ask why she stopped sending them..

  • @Coccolinodc
    @Coccolinodc ปีที่แล้ว +3

    May I purchase the workbook series from a country in Europe? It’s not clear from the website whether they can be delivered outside North America.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They are digital as there are videos that go along with the questions. You can write directly on them or do them on the go!

    • @Coccolinodc
      @Coccolinodc ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@CoachCraigKenneth thanks for clarifying this. I am undergoing pro therapy but feel your series can be of added value when focusing especially on relationships. I have a long shipwreck history of failed relationships 😭

  • @dem676speaks5
    @dem676speaks5 ปีที่แล้ว

    My ex done me wrong so many times and I took her back every time, but it caused us to argue all the time, because my trust for her was gone, I should of walked away but I still loved her and still tried to make it work, on top of that I’m trying to be there for her because of her problems outside the relationship same time trying to fix us, it got to me in the end and I ended up walking away because I was drained, only to give in and go back to her (stupid me) she never gave me a chance lol, I feel like she was waiting for me to slip up. What gets me though is all the chances I gave her and not one chance for me, I look back though, she was selfish in her ways, but my dumb ass was blind as hell lmao 🤣 good luck to all of you guys who are going through it, just look after yourself, there’s some really toxic people out here that really don’t see what they’re doing to people who just want to do right and be happy with that special someone.

  • @mitchell844fd
    @mitchell844fd ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had a similar experience with my ex-wife but it was her dad that had cancer

  • @mayweatherk7478
    @mayweatherk7478 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Serious question, Are there any psychiatric medications that can relieve the hurt from thinking of an ex? Idon't know if I can endure the heartbreak of not being able to contact her and also feeling like she has moved on and I deeply liked her. Please, I can't stop thinking of the way it ended and how it continues to end. I need a way to forget her or ease the hurt somehow. Anyone?

  • @giuliana5111
    @giuliana5111 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    So they break up with you, go straight to bed with other people and I should be understanding? Hahahaha Spare me!

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Did you listen to the story before you made this comment?

    • @giuliana5111
      @giuliana5111 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes and I'm talking about my own personal experience. As much as I like your content I do not agree with been nice and understanding with your ex in every case. Some people DO NOT deserve to be taken back.

    • @giuliana5111
      @giuliana5111 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If my ex ever comes chasing me after what he did he will get a straight and very big NO. Deal with your choices, that's life.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Have you never see me get mad at people being mistreated? Cause I do it all the time…

    • @giuliana5111
      @giuliana5111 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@CoachCraigKenneth I know you do, was more like venting than anything else!

  • @tracisyhong
    @tracisyhong ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I just lost my favorite sister to stage 4 colon cancer and lost both parents to Covid/ renal failure) recently too. Felt so frustrated that my partner couldn’t support me emotionally cus he was struggling himself ( financially)… I would have loved to receive support like that!

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sorry about ur losses

    • @Coccolinodc
      @Coccolinodc ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I feel sad reading your experience of loss. You have all my sympathy Traci. That must have been a horrible time to go through

    • @rwentfordable
      @rwentfordable ปีที่แล้ว

      Would you have appreciated it though? Even say thank you? I protected my ex fiancée and her family when the ukrainian russian war started, accused me of doing nothing to help after all this to time and money to give them a home and asked for nothing.

  • @francoostolaza618
    @francoostolaza618 ปีที่แล้ว

    My ex had a group of friends in her new job...they were in their mid 30s and both of us have 28. So yeah, im so sure that they influence on her cause she started to party with them after office, go for drinks with his girlfriends and she introduce me all of them, they were sad people who doesnt had found a true love like we had. We had 9 years together and we had our discussions, disagreements but they told her that is better for her to end things with me cause she is young...and we cant force things if its "toxic". We werent in our best stage at our relationship but it wasn't exhausting. We ve been together since we had 19 our lvoe story was good but the routine and stuff like that turn her off I guess. We had split work times and barely could plain some dates cause i woke up 5 am even saturdays so she got so bored. These kind of single excentrics oldfcks ruin my relationship. My ex girl was so insecure about her social skills. She was so shy, i always encourage her to show her essence to get more friends. I love her but shes gone 3 months ago. I guess shes over me cause she already blocked me everywhere and in her job was full of gays and single/divorced late 30s ladies

  • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
    @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nope! We were building and he just cut the strings! And went back on his word!

  • @tandyarmstrong946
    @tandyarmstrong946 ปีที่แล้ว

    At least he got closure i never got yet but iam glad he healing

  • @misterhenchmen
    @misterhenchmen ปีที่แล้ว

    I watched the whole video.. but I can't help thinking there is more to the story. especially if she is still doing indirect interactions with him.. I def understand this level of her grieving but.... I feel there was another factor she didn't go into regarding why she pulled away like that. anyone else get that feeling too?

  • @excessivemedia9295
    @excessivemedia9295 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Damn if coach Victoria picked me up after being thrown away like trash ,it wouldn’t hurt as much 😢

  • @Miswhitness0520
    @Miswhitness0520 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Accountability is huge. Usually people throw us away because we manifested it. But people aren’t ready for that conversation

    • @sandrahernandez569
      @sandrahernandez569 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, Self Worth.. "Everyone is you pushed out"

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sandrahernandez569 yup, we can’t expect people to love the unlovable version of us!

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I did NOT manifest my last break up, how would I?! I loved him and really wanted to make things work!

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Goodwillwinoverevil1984 nah. People respond to your energy. If someone breaks up with you it’s because subconsciously you presented as someone worth breaking up with. If you don’t understand what I’m sayin look up “everyone is you pushed out”. You are still in blaming mode. We are responsible for our destiny

  • @zeldsfan
    @zeldsfan 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Got cheated on and thrown away. Breakup was 2.5 months ago what to do

  • @BruceJC75
    @BruceJC75 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tragedy begets tragedy.

  • @kaellarosenberg421
    @kaellarosenberg421 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry Craig but I could not stop staring at that little peace of lint on your up write arm on your suit. Love you guys videos.😇😇😇😇

  • @Lostandtobefound
    @Lostandtobefound ปีที่แล้ว

    Yea I get it. Just hard.

  • @lesleysole6427
    @lesleysole6427 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How about them making changes ?

  • @WOLF-py5sr
    @WOLF-py5sr ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤❤