So many heterosexual people out here trying to prove that creep right. If you compare your partner to a parent or treat them like a parent, you need therapy, not a partner.
@@commandercorl1544 I'd argue it's all good if it's talked through, healthy and consented by all people included. If it's just mindlessly repeating old, stereotypical patterns tho.. then it doesn't sound healthy to me.
Like I love my partner they have helped me through tough times by being there and I am there for him to. I could never say I hate him he is one of the best people in my life.
The word spouse has always been strange to me, it reminds me of a wet spider that's kinda just gone limp with emberessment from being knocked down the water spout before getting back up again.
@@HeckingHampter Straight men are very homoerotic at times (I'll expand on that if you wish) but I don't think the mlm community or I want to accept them as gay men.
The baby clothes are disgusting, but the thing that’s frustrating me most having a 3 month old niece? She’s got more pockets on her clothes than her mum.
Oh my gosh 😂 the jealousy is real why does everyone have pockets but not grown women who I’m pretty sure NEED those dang pockets 😂 we got so much stuff to carry around
Of all the clothing demographics one would want to have pockets for, a young child of the age that half chewed vanilla wafers and Lego blocks are equally treasured and delicious is near the peak.
As the father of a four-year-old I must inform you that “Little Miss believe in traditional marriage”is in fact “Little Miss helpful“ who is characterised by sticking her nose in where it’s not wanted, interfering in situations that she’s not qualified to have an opinion on and generally making the world around her worse.
@@squeaktheswan2007 when Mr tall shoelaces come undone she ends up giving him a concussion and sealing his mouth closed with stickingplaster. When Mr happy has the measles and she pops round to do the housework for him his kitchen ends up destroyed and he ends up waist deep in a lake
My cousin just got married, and his wedding included: sermons about marriage being the greatest importance and between a man and a woman; vows for his wife to submit, serve, and obey him; and her father's speech about her purity as a prize for her husband. Oh and the wedding was their first kiss. Can't believe this shi still happens... 😰🤢
That was exactly how my sister's wedding was. I had always tried to explain to my non-religious husband how weird growing up in a very conservative religion was. He really understood only when he attended my sister's wedding. My sister and her husband are now brainwashing my little niece to believe the most precious thing about her is her virginity.
@@ShilgenVens I find it ironic you call what there doing brainwashing but you would be happy for her to have your beliefs shoved down her throat as you try to do to everyone. The lack of self awareness is hilarious
I'd say it is more like Crusader Kings 3. Huge part of the game is arranging marriages for political gain, as you play as a dynasty of rulers. The game can be a bit weird, not going to lie.
One of the biggest lgbq rights defendor I met, was a granny that spent all her time and money at church. For her, love is love and she would defend it. A lovely and kind lady.
The whole "I hate my spouse" thing makes me want to gag, but it simultaneously makes me wonder if some of these people in straight marriages are unaware/closeted non-cishet people. Perhaps they were victims of hetero/amatonormativity themselves, thinking they had to/being forced to marry someone of the opposite sex, but they don't actually love the person they're with. My dad thinks this could have happened to his mom, who he suspects was aro/ace despite getting married to his dad, because they fought a lot and she didn't seem very happy in her life or her relationship. Food for thought I guess.
I don't think that this is the case. My mom and dad hate each others even to this day. They were "lucky" because when they got together, divorce or separation was not stigmatized anymore so they did not have to live the rest of their lives together. I don't think that my mom is aro/ace or lesbian (I rather suspect that she might be bi, though I never asked her clearly and I don't want to "force her" into an identity). In the case of my father, it's harder to tell since I never saw him in a relationship. So, TL;DR : I think that the "I hate my spouse" trope has more to do with the mental state of a generation that lived when divorce and/or separation was illegal.
@@GThe-su9kl And in some conservative communities, there is still a lot of stigma around divorce. I imagine there being quite a few people stuck in unhappy marriages who only stay together because they fear being completely rejected by everyone they know, and that breeds resentment. On the other hand, I bet there's lots of people who are happily married who repeat these jokes simply because they've heard them so often, like they don't even think about it.
@@GThe-su9kl Perhaps both are true. Straight (or "straight") people forced to get into relationships when they're not ready ("settle down") but feeling like they can't get out of it later (because divorce was/is stigmatized). Or (queer) people encouraged to get into relationships they don't want to avoid family/community issues and feeling trapped because divorce would complicate their social atmosphere. The latter could apply to straight people too I'm sure.
The one with the babies who are apparently going to be married one day just reminds me of all the times growing up that the adults in my life gushed about how I was definitely going to end up with either one of my two best friends who I've known since we were about 3. Now we're all in our late 20s and it turns out Friend #1 is very happily married to my cousin and they have a baby together, Friend #2 is aro/ace, I'm bi/ace (and transmasc) with no current interest in being in a relationship with anyone and the one time me and Friend #2 actually brought up the possibility of dating each other when we were teenagers, we both immediately agreed it would be much too weird because it felt like we were more like siblings. Moral of the story: shipping babies/infants is weird as hell and it almost certainly won't work out so just...don't.
Fun Fact: It's actually very unlikely that you are going to fall in love with your Sandbox friends. (it's a saying in German, I don't know if it's also a thing in English. It just means that you know each other since you were playing in the sandbox together as toddlers) Like you said, you were like siblings because you were growing up like siblings. It's to make sure that you don't fall in love with a relative and do incest. So yeah, it would be against mother nature to marry your best sandbox friend.
@@schokoloko2092 Not sure if that's a term in English, but it's an excellent phrase! We should keep up our tradition of the English language and steal more things from German. We probably won't just straight up use "SandkastenFreund" though.
I've been shipped with a few people in my life, and none of them were guys. I'm very gay. I think the first was when I was in preschool or kindergarten by older people, and the rest was more recently by my classmates.
I wasn't shipped infant-to-infant, thankfully, but the mother of a guy I knew in high school was sure he and I would tie the knot eventually. We didn't really get along, but we were two of the most intellectually curious people in our class so we talked sometimes for the exercise. He was as dubious as I was about the marriage thing. I dodged the whole thing by moving cross-country. Been married for over 34 years to a man who is far more my kind of human. My classmate and I reconnected briefly over the Classmates website. He tried marriage. Failed spectacularly. And still a politically right-wing and atheist piece of work. I went from Catholic to Pagan with a couple of stops along the way and from MA Democrat to leftist. I dodged a hail of bullets, and so did he.
My 3yo daughter was proposed by her friend (also a girl). They began dacing "like on Cinderella" and said they were getting married. We thought it was cute, they obviously don't know what a marriage is and were just imitating the movie. But we had 2 really upset grandparents in the room. I kept wandering if they would be equally upset if it was a boy and a girl.
10:05 My mom had a take that flipped this idea on its head: The women can wear the men's shoes in an emergency. The reverse cannot be said. Which, if you think about it, could be used as a metaphor, at least for how society treats men. While it's getting better, not enough men are taught the stereotypically "feminine" homemaking skills, like cooking, cleaning, basic sewing for clothing repair, etc. Edit: Said talking instead of taught somehow
One time in Iceland, all the women had an organized strike and everything quickly descended into chaos because the men didn't know how to cook, clean, take care of kids etc. It's now one of the most gender-equal countries in the world. Maybe if other countries tried that, things would improve?
One one hand you are expected to be the provider, the protector, the leader and the teacher, on the other you are considered weak if you talk about trauma or mental health because you have to be STRONG. And if you're """"feminine""" like having makeup or nail art or even long hair or wear too slim of a jean or idk what other bs, then you're either gay and submissive and you do the dishes and you cook and so on because that's considered feminine. It's mind-blowing how deep these stereotypes are implanted into our brains. Just look at the way people react to dads picking up their kids at school vs mums. It should be just a normal thing but it's always "so great" and "your wife must be glad you have enough time" and so on. It's really depressing for everyone.
Unless they're a chef, or a clothing designer, and have taken on some formerly menial, ''female'' role and elevated it miraculously into an artform using the power of their genitalia. Which is not something I want to think about in connection with hot stoves or scissors. I like your mum's take on it too, too many men still struggle to fulfil the more traditional ''female'' role of cooking, cleaning and caring, for themselves in some cases, much less a family.
My feet are so fucking tiny, my boyfriend couldn't even leave the house without falling, with my shoes on. But so would most other women. So am I a loser now to them, because I have small feet, and most of the shoes are way too big for me?
My father was the one who taught me how to sew a button back on and to hem my own pants. And I learned how to cook from helping out both of my parents, as well as from watching my grandparents. And my mom made me and my brothers vacuum our rooms and clean the bathroom as part of our chores. Yes, that included cleaning the toilet. Taught us to be self-sufficient, as well as teaching us how to clean up after ourselves.
Some people may only want romantic relationships, and being an asexual lesbian would be not wanting sex, but still wanting romatic relationships with women
"Being religious doesn't mean that you can't be LGBT+ accepting" I mean, yeah, I'm a Christian, and I'm also proudly bisexual, demisexual and genderfae. When I first came out as bi, this channel really helped me to embrace that part of myself. It was a hard journey, especially with friends in high school that forced me further into the closet. It's always nice to look back and remember how far I've come. Thank you, Jamie, as always.
Hello fellow queer Christian! Still figuring myself out, but for now I’ve figured out I am pansexual, demisexual, and maybe genderfluid? I go by she/they. 😊 What is genderfae?
@@Ann963 Hey, that's really cool, nice to meet you! Genderfae is an identity under the genderfluid umbrella which means your gender is fluid between feminine and non-binary genders.
Honestly wish that I could have just stayed Christian like you guys, but the church me and my parents were in was basically a cult and ruined religion completely for me. I could have avoided an extistential crisis if they weren’t bigoted, conservative assholes. Glad you guys are in a better situation and can still find meaning in religion. (Leaving was necessary though, current me would never have existed without that church. Once you’re athiest, it’s basically optimistic nihilism or bust, pretty much.)
@@unapologeticallylizzy you honestly just sound very confused. This gender identity stuff is not supported in the Bible. Not sure who your pastor is or where you're getting your teaching, but I strongly recommend you go somewhere else.
That one about the baby’s was literally me with a child hood boy friend. My mom was so happy that I “liked him” but when I told her I had a girlfriend she was like well your too young
Ok, let me get this straight: she imagined you and your childhood boy friend getting married one day, and years later you got into a relationship with a girl and then she said you were too young? 🤯🤯🤯😂
I want an adult sized version of that future hooters girl shirt... just to clarify i am a 30 YO burly hairy man... just love making straights cringe xD
You could find a large pink t-shirt and either get it custom printed or use fabric paint to reproduce the design. Because if you wore it and met a transphobic, fundamentalist type who took it literally their self-righteous brain would short circuit.
1:59 A lot of the okay straights marriage t-shirts were stuff along the lines of "Another player has joined the server" "Now playing Team Mode" "Achievement Unlocked: Marriage" cute stuff like that. I always hated the game over ones, they were just ridiculous.
As an autistic person, I find comfort in the trans community. The feeling of society being intolerant of the fact that people can experience life differently really resonates with my own experiences. I too feel like what I looked like at birth does not accurately portray how I feel inside, and I’ve faced intolerance when “coming out” about my autism to new people, so I’m able to have a great amount of empathy for this community. It’s always fascinated me how the autism and lgbt+ communities are such natural allies. Also, my autism makes my communication style a bit blunt, so apologies if I phrased anything insensitivity. I’m posting this comment with the intent of being supportive and positive ❤
This explains a lot about my experience. I'm autistic and have ADHD among other things. I'm not straight, and I lean towards androgyny, but I think I feel more solidarity with the LGBTQ community through lived experience than shared alternative sexuality/alternative gender to sex presentation.
Honestly the lgbtq+ community has taken what everyone else would just consider "rejects" and gave them a chance for a happy life. For example furrys (and no, not the furrys from "THAT" side of the fandom.. we dont support them) and autistic individuals all somehow end up in this community, and I'm not mad about it. I'm glad they have this community as a safe space.
Totaly get you, autistic peolle and trans people face a lot of the same struggles like being patanoid about how we present ouraelfs to not get misunderstood, to pass, not getting rejected, we get hate for sonething we cant change, just for who we are...... I just made the experience, that trans people tend to be not very judgmental, as long as you do not go after them, its a positive interaction for them, which is sad, but takes of pressure to preforme being perfectly normal to a t. In adition, there is a massiv overlap between autists and lgbt+ especially when it comes to ace and genderqueer. It is a match made in heaven
@@Weird_One_ If a youtuber says a “you won (blank)! Contact me on (blank)!” Or something like that it will pretty much never be the actual creator it’s really a scam
the way he smiled while talking abt having just been married is absolutely phenomenal, best of luck in yet everything to come within your marriage jamie and shaaba
I'm a woman, and most of the men I've dated have been quicker on the relationship timeline than I have. The "men don't want committment and women want to get married immediately" thing is so dumb. I've seen the Bible study/shoes one before, and that's literally what young Christian girls are taught to think, that the man will always be the head of the household and you have to support and accept his decisions subserviently and pamper him because of it, basically. It's gross. If that's your choice, fine, but don't tell others how to have a marriage. Equality or bust, I say!
As a happily married person, I have to say having separate blankets in bed has been wonderful for us! We don’t find sharing blankets romantic, it’s just irritating when one of us wants a thick blanket, one wants a thin blanket, or worse when we both want to cocoon in it! Now we enjoy snuggling up in our own appropriately comfy blankets and happily share a bed 😊 It’s always disheartening when these subreddits are done, but they are interesting.
Nice that it works for you, and it makes you happy! My boyfriend and I always had one blanket, but then I wanted a heavy one, filled with glass pearls (don't know if you heard of them), and he didn't. So I bought a small blanket for me. One week later he was really tired of it and wanted to have a big blanket again, so we bought a big heavy one. 😂 Now we are both happily cuddling under one big heavy blanket 😊 Everybody should just try what suits them best, and don't let anybody say otherwise!
My boyfriend and I almost immediately after moving in together decided that we could not share a blanket. He sleeps very very warm, and I can't fall asleep with too much physical contact/if it gets too hot under the blanket. So we each have our own matching (but different colors so we can tell them apart) blankets that we use and if we want to cuddle before we sleep, we do, but scoot apart a bit when we get ready to fall asleep. We also have a very needy 70 lb dog who insists on sleeping between us so we don't have much choice lol I second the other comment, don't let anyone say you can't do something just because it doesn't work for their relationship. If you wanna cuddle at night, go for it. If you can't/don't want to, then don't. What matters is what works in your own life and with your partner.
YES!!! I will never understand why partners (of any number and orientation) seem to sometimes feel obligated to share all personal spaces no matter how different their needs or preferences are. I know happily partnered folks who keep their own bedrooms, and if I ever lost my mind and decided to live with another human again that would be an absolute requirement for me. Bravo on figuring out what works for you guys and just doing it!
Where I live shared blankets is not really a thing, i got one friend that has like the biggest blanket ever who shares that and that is cozy and wonderful... But no one else
the fairytale "farted whenever he wanted" bit has me laughing cause my bf and I have conditioned each other to both say "i love you" after one of us farts and then laugh about it together like a bunch of school children.
As the queer pastor of a queer-affirming church, thank you for acknowledging our existence. The hateful churches give us such a bad rap. Now we just need more churches proclaiming the beautiful beloved-ness of all people to drown out the hate ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
4:46 I mean, I'm a lesbian but my girlfriend gets me to make most big decisions because I've been looking after myself since I was 15, 13 years ago, and she's still getting ready to leave her mum's house (smart, honestly) so I have a lot more experience than her, while I get her to make smaller decisions because I get choice paralysis if it's something relatively inconsequential. It can take me 4 hours or more to decide between one dish and another for dinner any given night. Relationships work well when you fit strengths to weaknesses. If she's the better book keeper, let her do the finances, if you're the one home in the hour or two before dinner, make dinner, if you discuss the things you are and aren't good at then you can create a well functioning relationship where each person gets to play to their strengths- making everything better.
The one about the dating timeline just cracks me up. At a year into our relationship, my now-fiance and I were still frantically telling our friends that _no,_ we weren't a couple! We're just friends...who happen to spend almost every day together, and cuddle, and sometimes kiss...but it's totally platonic, seriously! This pretty much went on until the point where I went away to university, and he decided to go to the same uni the next year, so that we'd graduate together. It's now 17 years later, and we're only just now beginning to talk seriously about marriage!
Do you happen to be lesbians? (That's a common joke on some lesbian subreddits, lol.) Congrats tho, I hope you guys get to continue your wonderful time together however you wish!
@@muttthingy9908 the (I'm assuming) bridesmaids were dressed like handmaids from the recent show (red dress/cloak and white bonnet. The book (& tv show) was supposed to be a warning about people using religious grounds to reorder society in a very patriarchal way, to the detriment of (mostly) women and their right over their own bodies and a say in their own lives. Side note: I didn't make it past the 1st season of the recent tv show for the way it seemed to mirror real world efforts of the religious right and I didn't want that in the fiction I was consuming.
5:50 “Nobody actually wants a blanket this big.” I BEG TO DIFFER! I would love a blanket that big to have a picnic on without the fear of itchy grass! Or to be able to cover me and 3 of my friends chilling on the couch! Or to lay on one end and roll myself up in the ultimate blanket burrito! I would love a blanket that big! … They should advertise it in a way other than using this meme, though.
Agree! Friend of mine has one of those and it is great too cuddle up under as 3 people or when her kid still comes to her bed or just to make a nest out of it, she gifted me one just for myself at home too and I do jot even have a bed, but I love that blanket
I walked into my University Queer Student Union, turned on my phone and saw that Jamie posted 🥰 amazing 🌈 UPDATE: SOMEONE ELSE IN THE ROOM IS ALREADY WATCHING THIS VIDEO!! 🥰 community bonding activity
The sending pictures of her husband leaving garbage around reminds me of my mom and her friend. My dad sadly passed away just under a year ago, and though my moms friends husband is verbally abusive, so valid to need to talk about that, she complained without wondering about how my mom was feeling, as someone who doesn't even have the chance to complain about the one she loves anymore.
@@Weird_One_ the "dm on telegram" thing is a spambot looking to steal your payment info, so just report it and then ignore it! sometimes they also use instagram i think eta: sorry for your loss, op (sorry, not sure what else to say)
@@Zenflower54 I've started going to the "about" tab of scammer's channel and reporting them for impersonation. THEN coming back to report the individual post for either spam or misinformation.
Just wanted to share that I'm sitting here recovering from my top surgery. Your videos were a big help with me feeling ok with transitioning at a bit of a later age (mid- thirties)
As a lot of folks know, from experience or child development classes or whatever, babies can't focus past their noses. I've seen people lay down actual newborns with their heads tilted toward each other, cooing about how they're in love and bound to get together. I've never been comfortable with this, but it feels worse as I learn more of the wide world. I also take issue with the straight culture ideas of marriage, or even relationships as a terrible fate, and the merchandising that's sprouted from that idea. I know a lot of couples who should've never dated - let alone married - and it's usually their members yelling at me to chill when I point out how messed up something is...
I once read a book on wattpad. About two boys falling in love. Their families were super religious and they were so scared to come out. But when they did, it turned out that their mothers had fantasized about how it would be if their kids got married, and they never really stopped even when both turned out to be boys. It was kinda wholesome (their dads where rude af tho)
As a Chrisitan, it really upsets me when I see and hear other Christians being transphobic and homophobic; how are we showing God's love to everyone and discriminating and hating others for somethings not under their control. It just doesn't make sense to me, especially as I have many close friends that are LGBTQIA+, and am part of the community myself, it just baffles me how people who claim to do things in Jesus' name, can be so stubbornly ignorant and scorn and exclude others just for something that doesn't impact them
My husband's shoes don't fit me, but I slip on his boots to step outside all the time, and though I'm not the most coordinated person, I have no problem walking in them. Those women must just be dumb and not know how to walk.
Controversial opinion 2: Even when sharing a bed, I prefer my own blankets because I like to burrito, and because I sleep better without being disturbed by the inevitable tug-o-war of sharing.
I never even thought that could be controversial. I rarely share blankets with my husband. We prefer different stuff anyway. He likes a heavier plush blanket, and i prefer a flat sheet and a lightweight fleece to layer if I get chilly. Even with our own blanket he's managed to tug mine away. He moves a lot when he sleep, and he sleeps super heavy, so no getting my blanket back if it gets under him. Much better to have separate blankets.
Why do I feel like the father who bought the "future hooters girl" onesie /the guy who gifts it to his friend(s) is gonna be the same individual that posts a photo on Facebook with his rifle and his teen daughter threatening to destroy whoever comes near his precious princess.
7:48 This is so true! I hate how when men say they could ''steal your girl'' like it's an object that mindlessly follows the strongest alpha male energy in the room.. smh
That whole "shoes" thing is: 1, pure BS. Never happened. 2, profoundly stupid and insulting. Women telling other women they're not and can't be good enough, makes my blood boil. Love you, Jamie!
Nope, the straights continually go out of their way to show how very not OK they remain. I'm SO glad Jamie is here to help us laugh our way through the muck and mire! Yay Jamie. Nice new ring addition, Jamie! Congrats again on your wedding
@kshamwhizzle The question, "Are The Straights™ Ok?" is basically asking The Straights™, collectively, "Are you okay? You seem miserable, like something is wrong, even though you like members of the opposite sex and have no laws or politicians or religions attacking you for that. So why do you treat your relationships like hostage-situations? Are you okay? Is everything alright?" It's not about, "Teh Str8 Are Awful!", or even, "Str8 People Doing Awful Things." It's more, "The way you are broadcasting to the world what it means to be cis-heterosexual does not model healthy behavior."
The town I live in held its first ever pride event last month. The local cathedral were there in support of the event, with representatives including clergy. It gives me hope for the future.
I personally find the hundred foot blanket an amazing idea because then you can both completely cocoon like a burrito in the same blanket and still be touching to watch movies together on the couch and no one will have to have their toes be cold
"Anything you do to him I'll do to you" takes on a different meaning when you think about it for too long... To me, it sounds like whoever wrote that might be a little bi and into her daughter-in-law; lashing out from inside the closet. Maybe I'm over-thinking this lol
@@mookthemoose520 I've seen that post months before & said nothing. It stuck in my brain so hard that it was still there & needed to be said when I watched this lmao
So... my husband and I have the black version of that blanket (the one that you said looked like lettuce). It's amazing. We cuddle up with our son on the couch to watch My Neighbor Totoro together.
The funny thing about the emoji movie image in that one “meme” is that it wasn’t a picture of an actual canonical couple it way the protagonist and the antagonist
Hi Jammi. Congratulations on getting married recently. As a cis-het male who, in 2 weeks, will have been happily married for 10 years, I hope you both have many wonderful years together ahead!
Cis, het, midwestern U.S., middle aged stay at home mom here. Thank you for your “The Straights Are Not Alright” videos. I use them as conversation starters for our children (13 and 9,) about healthy vs. toxic gender attitudes and healthy vs. toxic relationship attitudes. Thank you. (Also, my feet are very small for my height. Most shoes are too big for me, so I could not even wear the shoes of my best woman friend, let alone my husband’s. What I learned early in life is that, with properly fitting shoes, I can do pretty much anything I need to do and be completely independent…They even make steel toed work boots in my size, go figure.)
I put on the shoes of my friend that was the same gender as me and they were too big. I could never carry the responsibility they have in life, because the bigger your feet are, the more responsibilities you have.
I've actually seen ads for that blanket company, some of them are neat because they just show like a million people sharing a single blanket on a sofa or whatever. I also see ads for the blanket talking about blanket hoarders and blanket forts. Made me tempted to buy one except they're expensive and I'm fairly sure I'd get sick of it really quickly.
7:16 I had an ex-BOYFRIEND who was like the 'women' side, we were barely 15/16 and had only been dating for about 2-ish months and he was already going on about 'when we have kids and how many'. Sooo not just women, anyone of any gender can be too clingy too quick in a relationship
I always find the church group trying to wear hunny's shoes/boots hilarious. That tells me most are short and don't have to hunt for shoes. I'm 5'11" and wear size 12½ women's/11 men's (43 Eur), which unfortunately is also the same size as a majority of the men in my area. 😂 I abhore clothes shopping, straight to the men's section every time!
O, yes! Me too! Shoes are an absolute nightmare (Aus size 11/Euro 43) and also 5'11" - currently with more 'curves' than I'm happy with, so too 'hippy' for the fellas section. But being 'busty' as well, the men's large size sections are a joy for cheaper cotton t-shirts! A pity when you like clothes, but we don't fit within the 'standard' for 'nice' women's clothes 🙄 Physically, I take after my father, and HE, takes after his GRANDMOTHER! So, for the not-tiny, not-size-8, women out there? You really aren't alone! 💜💜💜
Thank you so much for saying that just because you are religious doesn’t mean you are against the lgbtq (obviously I understand why people think that) I’m a Christian but I’m also Bi ✝️🏳️🌈
While I was watching this, I got a call from the hospital to scheduel my top surgery. Finally! I've waited for years. I can wait another 4.5 months, as long as I know it's happening.
Comparing a romantic relationship with a parent-child relationship has always been one of the things I never really understood. Funny thing is, where i live, people seem to have long accepted it as a fact or sth, it's even weirder when they literally have an old saying about the whole thing.
My late husband enjoyed our marriage, because he *liked* me. I really enoyed our marriage, because I *liked* him. He made me laugh. I always made more than my dear straight husband and neither of us gave a fig.
The whole like marriage is actually like bad stuff makes me wonder if the people that make those ACTUALLY love each other 😂 The answer is always no, no they don't
3:35 it's not great parenting either. Kids are people you should be nice to not only because you like them, but also because it's literally in your job description as a parent. Your child deserves a loving & fun birthday regardless of whether they were convenient to you over the past year.
10:55 the first gay couple I met (I had met individual people that I knew about and probably many I didn't) was at church. One of them was a vestry member and the other lead some of the regular activities.
CONGRATS to you and the lovely Shaaba on your wedding! I saw the pictures and you two looked so adorable and happy and it made me so happy to see. I wish you two a long and happy marriage.
Minister to women wearing their husbands shoes "See how they are too big and make you uncomfortable when you wear them!" Women: Pulls a couple of pairs of socks from their bags, "Na, this is a problem I can fix without him 😉"
This is so concerning. I feel like, from what I am seeing, is that some relationships are becoming more toxic. It's sad to see that a couple can hate each other so much.
May I ask what it means? Or what to look up to find out information about it? Not trying to sound weird or hurtful just dont understand and am interested! Ive never heard of “The Handmaids Tale” and even to search that up i dont want to just search the title and “hooded people at weddings” or something as such that could come of as disrespectful. Sorry about the ramble just was trying to understand! Hope you are doing well!
@@Toasted_Salad The Handmaid's Tale is a speculative work by Margaret Atwood in which the US (or a large part of it) bcomes the Nation of Gilead, a conservative hellscape where fertile women are essentially enslaved and forced to become "handmaids" (hence the hooded figures) if they're deemed to have "lost their innocence".
If my husband's mother had a sign like that in her house I would have read it, looked right at her and said, Right, then. I'm leaving, you can keep him. Lol
The assumption that your MIL will be an enemy is so sad (though i know it’s all too often true). My MIL was wonderful & i miss her every day. Stupid cancer
2:00 Id not heard lvl up, but theres a similar one "Welcome player two" which ofc leads into a common theme of many marriages; "Player three has entered the fight!" (which usually means a baby but can also mean a polycule lol)
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Every time someone compares a romantic/sexual partner to a parent, Freud's ghost becomes more powerful
So many heterosexual people out here trying to prove that creep right. If you compare your partner to a parent or treat them like a parent, you need therapy, not a partner.
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I was always curious about that. Doesn't the same happen with the terms "mommy" and "daddy"?
@@commandercorl1544 I'd argue it's all good if it's talked through, healthy and consented by all people included.
If it's just mindlessly repeating old, stereotypical patterns tho.. then it doesn't sound healthy to me.
@@Lea-im3wr Agreed.
Jamie has raised a brilliant point: Why is hating one’s partner or spouse a personality trait?
Like I love my partner they have helped me through tough times by being there and I am there for him to. I could never say I hate him he is one of the best people in my life.
I forget who said this, but a lot of these people, if they were not born in an era with such heavy social pressure to marry, would have been incells.
The word spouse has always been strange to me, it reminds me of a wet spider that's kinda just gone limp with emberessment from being knocked down the water spout before getting back up again.
Fr, aren't straight men supposed to *love* women?
@@HeckingHampter Straight men are very homoerotic at times (I'll expand on that if you wish) but I don't think the mlm community or I want to accept them as gay men.
The baby clothes are disgusting, but the thing that’s frustrating me most having a 3 month old niece? She’s got more pockets on her clothes than her mum.
Oh my gosh 😂 the jealousy is real why does everyone have pockets but not grown women who I’m pretty sure NEED those dang pockets 😂 we got so much stuff to carry around
And my dad wonders why I take his clothes.
I once complimented my niece on her dress and she said, 'Thanks, it has pockets!' I was actually jealous.
Hashtag stop fake pockets!
Of all the clothing demographics one would want to have pockets for, a young child of the age that half chewed vanilla wafers and Lego blocks are equally treasured and delicious is near the peak.
As the father of a four-year-old I must inform you that “Little Miss believe in traditional marriage”is in fact “Little Miss helpful“ who is characterised by sticking her nose in where it’s not wanted, interfering in situations that she’s not qualified to have an opinion on and generally making the world around her worse.
So she's not helpful at all?
Kind of sounds like me and I'm 32 😜
I can't help but find that very fitting.
Pahahaha, that _is_ fitting!
Almost accidental ally material!
@@squeaktheswan2007 when Mr tall shoelaces come undone she ends up giving him a concussion and sealing his mouth closed with stickingplaster. When Mr happy has the measles and she pops round to do the housework for him his kitchen ends up destroyed and he ends up waist deep in a lake
It's always "Are the straights okay", never "Are the gays okay?" like bitch, of course I'm not, I fell up a flight of stairs
I’m sorry, you fell UP them?
a whole flight of stairs?
@@todd203 don't underestimate my idiocy
@@typicalmango5323 there were like two of them, and I fell up both lmao
@@YourLocalNirvanaFan Or your gravity, it would seem.
I would unironically get my trans masc friend the man birthday card
No because as a trans man I would actually love that and find it hilarious (you should do it)
@@YeehawRockerr I might actually like that too lol 😂 ( But without the beer Lol)
It could be fun for a T-versary as well!!
Yeah I would want that card if it didn't have beer.
If one of my friends gave me that card on the anniversary of me coming out, I'd be so happy
My cousin just got married, and his wedding included: sermons about marriage being the greatest importance and between a man and a woman; vows for his wife to submit, serve, and obey him; and her father's speech about her purity as a prize for her husband. Oh and the wedding was their first kiss. Can't believe this shi still happens... 😰🤢
i just puked in my mouth
Sorry for your cousin, but I feel this mariage won't last that long.
That was exactly how my sister's wedding was. I had always tried to explain to my non-religious husband how weird growing up in a very conservative religion was. He really understood only when he attended my sister's wedding. My sister and her husband are now brainwashing my little niece to believe the most precious thing about her is her virginity.
@@ShilgenVens I find it ironic you call what there doing brainwashing but you would be happy for her to have your beliefs shoved down her throat as you try to do to everyone. The lack of self awareness is hilarious
@@ShilgenVens God I'm so sorry - I always wished I could 'protect' my cousins from the bs their parents taught them (they were ALSO homeschooled) :(
"These babies will marry each other one day!" What is this, the Sims 4? (Great video as always, commentary is top-tier!)
I'd say it is more like Crusader Kings 3. Huge part of the game is arranging marriages for political gain, as you play as a dynasty of rulers. The game can be a bit weird, not going to lie.
I'm a straight simmer and I would nevah. 😆
Sims 4 be like, "these babies will marry each other TODAY."
I mean if they were medieval nobility or very conservative Indians, it would make sense ...
Yes, I'm talking about arranged marriage.
I am using this video as my background noise while playing the Sims 4 so you aren't wrong lol
One of the biggest lgbq rights defendor I met, was a granny that spent all her time and money at church. For her, love is love and she would defend it. A lovely and kind lady.
She sounds like someone wholesome af
This is the woman I aspire to be
You mean LGBTQ
@@katphish30 well, I don't know her stand on the T so I didn't mention it.
@@melh7909 If she doesn't support all the letters she's not an ally
The whole "I hate my spouse" thing makes me want to gag, but it simultaneously makes me wonder if some of these people in straight marriages are unaware/closeted non-cishet people. Perhaps they were victims of hetero/amatonormativity themselves, thinking they had to/being forced to marry someone of the opposite sex, but they don't actually love the person they're with. My dad thinks this could have happened to his mom, who he suspects was aro/ace despite getting married to his dad, because they fought a lot and she didn't seem very happy in her life or her relationship. Food for thought I guess.
I don't think that this is the case. My mom and dad hate each others even to this day. They were "lucky" because when they got together, divorce or separation was not stigmatized anymore so they did not have to live the rest of their lives together. I don't think that my mom is aro/ace or lesbian (I rather suspect that she might be bi, though I never asked her clearly and I don't want to "force her" into an identity). In the case of my father, it's harder to tell since I never saw him in a relationship.
So, TL;DR : I think that the "I hate my spouse" trope has more to do with the mental state of a generation that lived when divorce and/or separation was illegal.
@@GThe-su9kl And in some conservative communities, there is still a lot of stigma around divorce. I imagine there being quite a few people stuck in unhappy marriages who only stay together because they fear being completely rejected by everyone they know, and that breeds resentment.
On the other hand, I bet there's lots of people who are happily married who repeat these jokes simply because they've heard them so often, like they don't even think about it.
@@GThe-su9kl Perhaps both are true. Straight (or "straight") people forced to get into relationships when they're not ready ("settle down") but feeling like they can't get out of it later (because divorce was/is stigmatized). Or (queer) people encouraged to get into relationships they don't want to avoid family/community issues and feeling trapped because divorce would complicate their social atmosphere. The latter could apply to straight people too I'm sure.
@@therinlucas1931 Perhaps.
Commenting cuz this was such a well rounded thread, and I loved all sides of the spectrum
The one with the babies who are apparently going to be married one day just reminds me of all the times growing up that the adults in my life gushed about how I was definitely going to end up with either one of my two best friends who I've known since we were about 3. Now we're all in our late 20s and it turns out Friend #1 is very happily married to my cousin and they have a baby together, Friend #2 is aro/ace, I'm bi/ace (and transmasc) with no current interest in being in a relationship with anyone and the one time me and Friend #2 actually brought up the possibility of dating each other when we were teenagers, we both immediately agreed it would be much too weird because it felt like we were more like siblings.
Moral of the story: shipping babies/infants is weird as hell and it almost certainly won't work out so just...don't.
Fun Fact:
It's actually very unlikely that you are going to fall in love with your Sandbox friends. (it's a saying in German, I don't know if it's also a thing in English. It just means that you know each other since you were playing in the sandbox together as toddlers)
Like you said, you were like siblings because you were growing up like siblings.
It's to make sure that you don't fall in love with a relative and do incest.
So yeah, it would be against mother nature to marry your best sandbox friend.
@@schokoloko2092 Not sure if that's a term in English, but it's an excellent phrase! We should keep up our tradition of the English language and steal more things from German. We probably won't just straight up use "SandkastenFreund" though.
I've been shipped with a few people in my life, and none of them were guys. I'm very gay. I think the first was when I was in preschool or kindergarten by older people, and the rest was more recently by my classmates.
I wasn't shipped infant-to-infant, thankfully, but the mother of a guy I knew in high school was sure he and I would tie the knot eventually. We didn't really get along, but we were two of the most intellectually curious people in our class so we talked sometimes for the exercise. He was as dubious as I was about the marriage thing. I dodged the whole thing by moving cross-country. Been married for over 34 years to a man who is far more my kind of human. My classmate and I reconnected briefly over the Classmates website. He tried marriage. Failed spectacularly. And still a politically right-wing and atheist piece of work. I went from Catholic to Pagan with a couple of stops along the way and from MA Democrat to leftist. I dodged a hail of bullets, and so did he.
Hello fellow bi ace friend! 🍰 have this cake :)
My 3yo daughter was proposed by her friend (also a girl). They began dacing "like on Cinderella" and said they were getting married. We thought it was cute, they
obviously don't know what a marriage is and were just imitating the movie.
But we had 2 really upset grandparents in the room. I kept wandering if they would be equally upset if it was a boy and a girl.
10:05 My mom had a take that flipped this idea on its head: The women can wear the men's shoes in an emergency. The reverse cannot be said. Which, if you think about it, could be used as a metaphor, at least for how society treats men. While it's getting better, not enough men are taught the stereotypically "feminine" homemaking skills, like cooking, cleaning, basic sewing for clothing repair, etc.
Edit: Said talking instead of taught somehow
One time in Iceland, all the women had an organized strike and everything quickly descended into chaos because the men didn't know how to cook, clean, take care of kids etc. It's now one of the most gender-equal countries in the world. Maybe if other countries tried that, things would improve?
One one hand you are expected to be the provider, the protector, the leader and the teacher, on the other you are considered weak if you talk about trauma or mental health because you have to be STRONG.
And if you're """"feminine""" like having makeup or nail art or even long hair or wear too slim of a jean or idk what other bs, then you're either gay and submissive and you do the dishes and you cook and so on because that's considered feminine.
It's mind-blowing how deep these stereotypes are implanted into our brains. Just look at the way people react to dads picking up their kids at school vs mums. It should be just a normal thing but it's always "so great" and "your wife must be glad you have enough time" and so on. It's really depressing for everyone.
Unless they're a chef, or a clothing designer, and have taken on some formerly menial, ''female'' role and elevated it miraculously into an artform using the power of their genitalia. Which is not something I want to think about in connection with hot stoves or scissors. I like your mum's take on it too, too many men still struggle to fulfil the more traditional ''female'' role of cooking, cleaning and caring, for themselves in some cases, much less a family.
My feet are so fucking tiny, my boyfriend couldn't even leave the house without falling, with my shoes on. But so would most other women.
So am I a loser now to them, because I have small feet, and most of the shoes are way too big for me?
My father was the one who taught me how to sew a button back on and to hem my own pants. And I learned how to cook from helping out both of my parents, as well as from watching my grandparents. And my mom made me and my brothers vacuum our rooms and clean the bathroom as part of our chores. Yes, that included cleaning the toilet. Taught us to be self-sufficient, as well as teaching us how to clean up after ourselves.
Every day I am so tremendously grateful to be an asexual lesbian
How would that even work?
Some people may only want romantic relationships, and being an asexual lesbian would be not wanting sex, but still wanting romatic relationships with women
@@dogf4ngzy Asexual means you're not attracted to anyone. If you want a relationship without sex that's fine but that doesn't mean you're asexual
@@soposh5673 No it doesn't, that's aromantic
@@tidepodpadthai2633 They keep changing the words. This is so confusing
"Being religious doesn't mean that you can't be LGBT+ accepting" I mean, yeah, I'm a Christian, and I'm also proudly bisexual, demisexual and genderfae.
When I first came out as bi, this channel really helped me to embrace that part of myself. It was a hard journey, especially with friends in high school that forced me further into the closet. It's always nice to look back and remember how far I've come.
Thank you, Jamie, as always.
Hello fellow queer Christian! Still figuring myself out, but for now I’ve figured out I am pansexual, demisexual, and maybe genderfluid? I go by she/they. 😊 What is genderfae?
@@Ann963 Hey, that's really cool, nice to meet you! Genderfae is an identity under the genderfluid umbrella which means your gender is fluid between feminine and non-binary genders.
Honestly wish that I could have just stayed Christian like you guys, but the church me and my parents were in was basically a cult and ruined religion completely for me. I could have avoided an extistential crisis if they weren’t bigoted, conservative assholes. Glad you guys are in a better situation and can still find meaning in religion. (Leaving was necessary though, current me would never have existed without that church. Once you’re athiest, it’s basically optimistic nihilism or bust, pretty much.)
@@unapologeticallylizzy you honestly just sound very confused. This gender identity stuff is not supported in the Bible. Not sure who your pastor is or where you're getting your teaching, but I strongly recommend you go somewhere else.
@@zoesolanki961 if your religion is about spreading love, why do you choose to spread hate?
That one about the baby’s was literally me with a child hood boy friend. My mom was so happy that I “liked him” but when I told her I had a girlfriend she was like well your too young
Ok, let me get this straight: she imagined you and your childhood boy friend getting married one day, and years later you got into a relationship with a girl and then she said you were too young?
🤯🤯🤯😂
a true r/insaneparents moment
I want an adult sized version of that future hooters girl shirt... just to clarify i am a 30 YO burly hairy man... just love making straights cringe xD
You could find a large pink t-shirt and either get it custom printed or use fabric paint to reproduce the design.
Because if you wore it and met a transphobic, fundamentalist type who took it literally their self-righteous brain would short circuit.
Respect 👍🏻
@@samarnadra ahh dam you're right! better make sure my bear belly is on show!
@@TheAngelChaz I'd fucking pay to see the homophobes' reactions xp
I’m 2 months late but still wanted to say I AM SO HERE FOR THIS 🥰
"Yogurt from a bull would taste very strange."
I'm glad I wasn't drinking anything at that moment
especially milk right?!
OH MY GOD
1:59 A lot of the okay straights marriage t-shirts were stuff along the lines of "Another player has joined the server" "Now playing Team Mode" "Achievement Unlocked: Marriage" cute stuff like that. I always hated the game over ones, they were just ridiculous.
There's a spambot in here, report and ignore.
Okay, my favourite out of those has to be "Now playing Team Mode".
@@SilverAceOfSpades Loving your pfp!
As an autistic person, I find comfort in the trans community. The feeling of society being intolerant of the fact that people can experience life differently really resonates with my own experiences. I too feel like what I looked like at birth does not accurately portray how I feel inside, and I’ve faced intolerance when “coming out” about my autism to new people, so I’m able to have a great amount of empathy for this community. It’s always fascinated me how the autism and lgbt+ communities are such natural allies. Also, my autism makes my communication style a bit blunt, so apologies if I phrased anything insensitivity. I’m posting this comment with the intent of being supportive and positive ❤
And you did well, imo.😁
This explains a lot about my experience. I'm autistic and have ADHD among other things. I'm not straight, and I lean towards androgyny, but I think I feel more solidarity with the LGBTQ community through lived experience than shared alternative sexuality/alternative gender to sex presentation.
There is some research to say there is a huge overlap between autistic people and gender diversity
Honestly the lgbtq+ community has taken what everyone else would just consider "rejects" and gave them a chance for a happy life. For example furrys (and no, not the furrys from "THAT" side of the fandom.. we dont support them) and autistic individuals all somehow end up in this community, and I'm not mad about it. I'm glad they have this community as a safe space.
Totaly get you, autistic peolle and trans people face a lot of the same struggles like being patanoid about how we present ouraelfs to not get misunderstood, to pass, not getting rejected, we get hate for sonething we cant change, just for who we are...... I just made the experience, that trans people tend to be not very judgmental, as long as you do not go after them, its a positive interaction for them, which is sad, but takes of pressure to preforme being perfectly normal to a t. In adition, there is a massiv overlap between autists and lgbt+ especially when it comes to ace and genderqueer. It is a match made in heaven
And they accuse us of sexualising children.
Who's "they"?
@@grantwilliams2571 homophobes
@@grantwilliams2571 Cishets.
by merely existing to be exact :')
@@TrollDecker NOT ALL CISHETS DO THAT!
Guys this is a 2 year old comment, and it doesn't reflect my opinions anymore.
The "I'm a boob man" baby onesie is so funny to me because "boob man" sounds like something funny a trans guy would call himself as a joke😭😭. 11:48
No because i have called myself that💀
Okay but also consider an actual man made out of actual boobs.
Dang.....
Sounds like something my friend would call himself, I'm too dysforic to ever call myself that though
@@EdelweissConfederacy :(
@@argoxnautilus what's the sad face for? Sorry if I said something wrong
I feel like having a "man birthday" could be a wholesome trans thing
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
@@Weird_One_ yep, any message that says "contact me on telegram" is spam. Report them as spam and eventually TH-cam will catch on. 👍
@@Weird_One_ If a youtuber says a “you won (blank)! Contact me on (blank)!” Or something like that it will pretty much never be the actual creator it’s really a scam
Yeah, that'd be fun
@@Weird_One_ "almost" positive? lmao are you guys fucking stupid?
the way he smiled while talking abt having just been married is absolutely phenomenal, best of luck in yet everything to come within your marriage jamie and shaaba
Jamie telling us in every video "I just got married :) :) :)" is my favourite thing right now tbh
"A man in love acts like a child. A woman in love acts like a parent." How utterly Sigmund Freud of you
I'm a woman, and most of the men I've dated have been quicker on the relationship timeline than I have. The "men don't want committment and women want to get married immediately" thing is so dumb. I've seen the Bible study/shoes one before, and that's literally what young Christian girls are taught to think, that the man will always be the head of the household and you have to support and accept his decisions subserviently and pamper him because of it, basically. It's gross. If that's your choice, fine, but don't tell others how to have a marriage. Equality or bust, I say!
The "not wanting his job" if hilarious to us because I met my now partner at work, where we were literally doing the same job.
As a happily married person, I have to say having separate blankets in bed has been wonderful for us!
We don’t find sharing blankets romantic, it’s just irritating when one of us wants a thick blanket, one wants a thin blanket, or worse when we both want to cocoon in it! Now we enjoy snuggling up in our own appropriately comfy blankets and happily share a bed 😊
It’s always disheartening when these subreddits are done, but they are interesting.
Nice that it works for you, and it makes you happy!
My boyfriend and I always had one blanket, but then I wanted a heavy one, filled with glass pearls (don't know if you heard of them), and he didn't. So I bought a small blanket for me. One week later he was really tired of it and wanted to have a big blanket again, so we bought a big heavy one. 😂
Now we are both happily cuddling under one big heavy blanket 😊
Everybody should just try what suits them best, and don't let anybody say otherwise!
My boyfriend and I almost immediately after moving in together decided that we could not share a blanket. He sleeps very very warm, and I can't fall asleep with too much physical contact/if it gets too hot under the blanket. So we each have our own matching (but different colors so we can tell them apart) blankets that we use and if we want to cuddle before we sleep, we do, but scoot apart a bit when we get ready to fall asleep. We also have a very needy 70 lb dog who insists on sleeping between us so we don't have much choice lol
I second the other comment, don't let anyone say you can't do something just because it doesn't work for their relationship. If you wanna cuddle at night, go for it. If you can't/don't want to, then don't. What matters is what works in your own life and with your partner.
YES!!! I will never understand why partners (of any number and orientation) seem to sometimes feel obligated to share all personal spaces no matter how different their needs or preferences are. I know happily partnered folks who keep their own bedrooms, and if I ever lost my mind and decided to live with another human again that would be an absolute requirement for me. Bravo on figuring out what works for you guys and just doing it!
Where I live shared blankets is not really a thing, i got one friend that has like the biggest blanket ever who shares that and that is cozy and wonderful... But no one else
the fairytale "farted whenever he wanted" bit has me laughing cause my bf and I have conditioned each other to both say "i love you" after one of us farts and then laugh about it together like a bunch of school children.
As the queer pastor of a queer-affirming church, thank you for acknowledging our existence. The hateful churches give us such a bad rap. Now we just need more churches proclaiming the beautiful beloved-ness of all people to drown out the hate ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
As a queer person, I thank you and your church for existing and being a safe space for religious LGBTQ+ people!
people like you are amazing
4:46 I mean, I'm a lesbian but my girlfriend gets me to make most big decisions because I've been looking after myself since I was 15, 13 years ago, and she's still getting ready to leave her mum's house (smart, honestly) so I have a lot more experience than her, while I get her to make smaller decisions because I get choice paralysis if it's something relatively inconsequential. It can take me 4 hours or more to decide between one dish and another for dinner any given night.
Relationships work well when you fit strengths to weaknesses. If she's the better book keeper, let her do the finances, if you're the one home in the hour or two before dinner, make dinner, if you discuss the things you are and aren't good at then you can create a well functioning relationship where each person gets to play to their strengths- making everything better.
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
@@Weird_One_ yea it is, rule one of the internet should basically be "don't trust anything" lol
The one about the dating timeline just cracks me up. At a year into our relationship, my now-fiance and I were still frantically telling our friends that _no,_ we weren't a couple! We're just friends...who happen to spend almost every day together, and cuddle, and sometimes kiss...but it's totally platonic, seriously! This pretty much went on until the point where I went away to university, and he decided to go to the same uni the next year, so that we'd graduate together. It's now 17 years later, and we're only just now beginning to talk seriously about marriage!
Do you happen to be lesbians? (That's a common joke on some lesbian subreddits, lol.)
Congrats tho, I hope you guys get to continue your wonderful time together however you wish!
Congrats on you and Shaaba's wedding!!!
Oh ya I Almont forgot!!! Congrats to them 👏👏👏
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
I love it every time Jamie uploads.Makes me feel more gay
Same
I started laughing at the more gay part
IN THE MIDDLE OF CLASS
🤣
I'm straight but now I'm worried Jamie is secretly converting me a little bit each upload 😱
I'm still as cishet as before I watched the video, but more ashamed to be so. lol
Same, and I'm bi lmao
the Handmaid's tale pic: I'm genuinely convinced a certain portion of the population took that book as a goal instead of a warning.
Between that and transphobes claiming that trans rights would lead to settings like Gilead (wut) I'm not sure what's worse. 😬
i haven't watched the handmaidens tale so i didn't get the reference. would u mind explaining it to me?
@@muttthingy9908 the (I'm assuming) bridesmaids were dressed like handmaids from the recent show (red dress/cloak and white bonnet. The book (& tv show) was supposed to be a warning about people using religious grounds to reorder society in a very patriarchal way, to the detriment of (mostly) women and their right over their own bodies and a say in their own lives.
Side note: I didn't make it past the 1st season of the recent tv show for the way it seemed to mirror real world efforts of the religious right and I didn't want that in the fiction I was consuming.
@@jaquellae There is also a book by the same name written by Margaret Atwood.
@@jamesphillips2285 I'm aware. There was also a tv movie in the 90s that was my 1st intro to it.
Idk I think the man birthday card could be really nice to celebrate a trans man's transition anniversary
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
5:50 “Nobody actually wants a blanket this big.” I BEG TO DIFFER! I would love a blanket that big to have a picnic on without the fear of itchy grass! Or to be able to cover me and 3 of my friends chilling on the couch! Or to lay on one end and roll myself up in the ultimate blanket burrito! I would love a blanket that big!
… They should advertise it in a way other than using this meme, though.
don't forget pillow/blanket forts
My husband loves his giant blanket because he’s sasquatch-sized and it keeps his feet from sticking out
Agree! Friend of mine has one of those and it is great too cuddle up under as 3 people or when her kid still comes to her bed or just to make a nest out of it, she gifted me one just for myself at home too and I do jot even have a bed, but I love that blanket
I walked into my University Queer Student Union, turned on my phone and saw that Jamie posted 🥰 amazing 🌈
UPDATE: SOMEONE ELSE IN THE ROOM IS ALREADY WATCHING THIS VIDEO!! 🥰 community bonding activity
Thats so cool!!
poggers queer people are epic
Queer people watch the exact same content, it's hilarious.
What’s a queer student union? (I’m not homophobic just stupid)
@@commandercorl1544 ikr i mean jamiedodger is a pretty good trans bi content creator
Some are but some are dangerously scary
Yes
Yes
Agreed
Yeah
Yup.
The sending pictures of her husband leaving garbage around reminds me of my mom and her friend. My dad sadly passed away just under a year ago, and though my moms friends husband is verbally abusive, so valid to need to talk about that, she complained without wondering about how my mom was feeling, as someone who doesn't even have the chance to complain about the one she loves anymore.
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
@@Weird_One_ the "dm on telegram" thing is a spambot looking to steal your payment info, so just report it and then ignore it! sometimes they also use instagram i think
eta: sorry for your loss, op (sorry, not sure what else to say)
@@Weird_One_ yep I was able to report them so hopefully they stop
@@Zenflower54 I've started going to the "about" tab of scammer's channel and reporting them for impersonation.
THEN coming back to report the individual post for either spam or misinformation.
Just wanted to share that I'm sitting here recovering from my top surgery. Your videos were a big help with me feeling ok with transitioning at a bit of a later age (mid- thirties)
Congratulations on your transition!
💚💙💜
As a lot of folks know, from experience or child development classes or whatever, babies can't focus past their noses. I've seen people lay down actual newborns with their heads tilted toward each other, cooing about how they're in love and bound to get together. I've never been comfortable with this, but it feels worse as I learn more of the wide world. I also take issue with the straight culture ideas of marriage, or even relationships as a terrible fate, and the merchandising that's sprouted from that idea. I know a lot of couples who should've never dated - let alone married - and it's usually their members yelling at me to chill when I point out how messed up something is...
I once read a book on wattpad. About two boys falling in love. Their families were super religious and they were so scared to come out.
But when they did, it turned out that their mothers had fantasized about how it would be if their kids got married, and they never really stopped even when both turned out to be boys.
It was kinda wholesome (their dads where rude af tho)
As a Chrisitan, it really upsets me when I see and hear other Christians being transphobic and homophobic; how are we showing God's love to everyone and discriminating and hating others for somethings not under their control. It just doesn't make sense to me, especially as I have many close friends that are LGBTQIA+, and am part of the community myself, it just baffles me how people who claim to do things in Jesus' name, can be so stubbornly ignorant and scorn and exclude others just for something that doesn't impact them
exactly!
It is a disgrace when people abuse religion to hurt others actively going against everuyhing their religion should stand for
That awkward moment when you're trying to prove that women are unfit to do men's work and his work shoes fit you perfectly.
A female friend of mine has bigger feet than my boyfriend. I guess I should better marry her instead...
My husband's shoes don't fit me, but I slip on his boots to step outside all the time, and though I'm not the most coordinated person, I have no problem walking in them. Those women must just be dumb and not know how to walk.
@@schokoloko2092 lmfao
I'm a woman, and I was tickled to find out that I wear the same size tap shoes as Gene Kelly.
I'm a boob man. Like, I really have no choice, since I can't seem to lose any weight and so I'm stuck with them.
Also a boob man. Also without choice, as I am too poor to get rid of them. :) *cries in too expensice SRS
Thank you Jamie for being such a good role model and for being here as a safe place for lgbtq+ people! Love from one trans guy to another! 💙💗🤍💗💙
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
@@Weird_One_ don’t worry, I don’t :)
@@Weird_One_ I got one from a different youtuber one too so it’s probably bots or something
Love this, so heart warming :)
@@matriarchetype thank you :)
Controversial opinion 2: Even when sharing a bed, I prefer my own blankets because I like to burrito, and because I sleep better without being disturbed by the inevitable tug-o-war of sharing.
9.5/10 opinion, .5 revoked because if my partner did that I would have no cuddles.
I never even thought that could be controversial. I rarely share blankets with my husband. We prefer different stuff anyway. He likes a heavier plush blanket, and i prefer a flat sheet and a lightweight fleece to layer if I get chilly. Even with our own blanket he's managed to tug mine away. He moves a lot when he sleep, and he sleeps super heavy, so no getting my blanket back if it gets under him. Much better to have separate blankets.
@@commandercorl1544 Cuddles are totally allowed, just not while I'm actively sleeping.
Why do I feel like the father who bought the "future hooters girl" onesie /the guy who gifts it to his friend(s) is gonna be the same individual that posts a photo on Facebook with his rifle and his teen daughter threatening to destroy whoever comes near his precious princess.
7:48 This is so true! I hate how when men say they could ''steal your girl'' like it's an object that mindlessly follows the strongest alpha male energy in the room.. smh
That whole "shoes" thing is: 1, pure BS. Never happened. 2, profoundly stupid and insulting. Women telling other women they're not and can't be good enough, makes my blood boil.
Love you, Jamie!
@@samarnadra The number of churches that aren't aware of the Christian allegory in the Chronicles of Narnia blows my mind.
One of my million pet peeves was school having the ‘Boys vs Girls’ Divide.
Nope, the straights continually go out of their way to show how very not OK they remain. I'm SO glad Jamie is here to help us laugh our way through the muck and mire! Yay Jamie. Nice new ring addition, Jamie! Congrats again on your wedding
@kshamwhizzle The question, "Are The Straights™ Ok?" is basically asking The Straights™, collectively, "Are you okay? You seem miserable, like something is wrong, even though you like members of the opposite sex and have no laws or politicians or religions attacking you for that. So why do you treat your relationships like hostage-situations? Are you okay? Is everything alright?"
It's not about, "Teh Str8 Are Awful!", or even, "Str8 People Doing Awful Things." It's more, "The way you are broadcasting to the world what it means to be cis-heterosexual does not model healthy behavior."
Daily reminder!
❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You are valid and amazing just the way you are!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Thank you💖💙🤍💙💖
Thank you! Earlier I felt really bad about everything and this is just wholesome and thoughtful. Thank you for spreading love! 💙💗🤍💗💙
Thank you❤🧡💗🤍
Thanks! 💗💜💙
@@dustygania2425 not you again.
I say this as respectful as I can; stop tainting Jamie's channel with your ignorance!
I have a bunch of straight friends and can confirm, they are not okay. But to be fair, none of my friends are okay. Or me.
Stay safe buddy
I’m almost positive that that’s a scam. I got one too. Please don’t trust it.
are any of us really ok?
@@jasperjazzie probably not lol
The town I live in held its first ever pride event last month. The local cathedral were there in support of the event, with representatives including clergy. It gives me hope for the future.
I personally find the hundred foot blanket an amazing idea because then you can both completely cocoon like a burrito in the same blanket and still be touching to watch movies together on the couch and no one will have to have their toes be cold
"Anything you do to him I'll do to you" takes on a different meaning when you think about it for too long... To me, it sounds like whoever wrote that might be a little bi and into her daughter-in-law; lashing out from inside the closet.
Maybe I'm over-thinking this lol
Definitely picked up on that one too 😂
hum. 😂😂😂
So I'm not the only one who thought that, good to know 😂
@@mookthemoose520 I've seen that post months before & said nothing. It stuck in my brain so hard that it was still there & needed to be said when I watched this lmao
my first thought was "kinky"
So... my husband and I have the black version of that blanket (the one that you said looked like lettuce). It's amazing. We cuddle up with our son on the couch to watch My Neighbor Totoro together.
The funny thing about the emoji movie image in that one “meme” is that it wasn’t a picture of an actual canonical couple it way the protagonist and the antagonist
Hi Jammi. Congratulations on getting married recently. As a cis-het male who, in 2 weeks, will have been happily married for 10 years, I hope you both have many wonderful years together ahead!
They seem to think everything different is a direct attack on how they live their lives.
If I had a guess your pronouns are refrigerator and deodorant stick
@@FishyFlishy ?????
Oh sorry that’s my little brother! He’s an idiot.
Cis, het, midwestern U.S., middle aged stay at home mom here. Thank you for your “The Straights Are Not Alright” videos. I use them as conversation starters for our children (13 and 9,) about healthy vs. toxic gender attitudes and healthy vs. toxic relationship attitudes. Thank you.
(Also, my feet are very small for my height. Most shoes are too big for me, so I could not even wear the shoes of my best woman friend, let alone my husband’s. What I learned early in life is that, with properly fitting shoes, I can do pretty much anything I need to do and be completely independent…They even make steel toed work boots in my size, go figure.)
I put on the shoes of my friend that was the same gender as me and they were too big. I could never carry the responsibility they have in life, because the bigger your feet are, the more responsibilities you have.
That’s just science 🧬
I laughed when you said the yard sale at least was a trans ally 😂😂 I always love your videos Jamie! (Also congrats on your marriage!)
@ 9:20 Weird that these people are unaware that work boots come in literally every size.
What if the man has feet/boots smaller than his wife?
I've actually seen ads for that blanket company, some of them are neat because they just show like a million people sharing a single blanket on a sofa or whatever. I also see ads for the blanket talking about blanket hoarders and blanket forts. Made me tempted to buy one except they're expensive and I'm fairly sure I'd get sick of it really quickly.
Washing it is probably a nightmare.
ok but I think the "happy man-birthday" one would be funny to give to a trans guy on the anniversary of his coming out or starting t or something
The "yogurt from a bull would taste funny" line took me out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I guess some guys think that woman in love is like a mother cuz they are such AH that only their mothers loves them.
🤣👍
That dead end one reminded me of a wedding cake I saw that was a *goth* design and it had
7:16 I had an ex-BOYFRIEND who was like the 'women' side, we were barely 15/16 and had only been dating for about 2-ish months and he was already going on about 'when we have kids and how many'. Sooo not just women, anyone of any gender can be too clingy too quick in a relationship
I always find the church group trying to wear hunny's shoes/boots hilarious. That tells me most are short and don't have to hunt for shoes. I'm 5'11" and wear size 12½ women's/11 men's (43 Eur), which unfortunately is also the same size as a majority of the men in my area. 😂 I abhore clothes shopping, straight to the men's section every time!
O, yes! Me too! Shoes are an absolute nightmare (Aus size 11/Euro 43) and also 5'11" - currently with more 'curves' than I'm happy with, so too 'hippy' for the fellas section.
But being 'busty' as well, the men's large size sections are a joy for cheaper cotton t-shirts!
A pity when you like clothes, but we don't fit within the 'standard' for 'nice' women's clothes 🙄
Physically, I take after my father, and HE, takes after his GRANDMOTHER! So, for the not-tiny, not-size-8, women out there?
You really aren't alone! 💜💜💜
Congratulations on your marriage I wish you both happiness and joy.
Thank you so much for saying that just because you are religious doesn’t mean you are against the lgbtq (obviously I understand why people think that) I’m a Christian but I’m also Bi ✝️🏳️🌈
While I was watching this, I got a call from the hospital to scheduel my top surgery. Finally! I've waited for years. I can wait another 4.5 months, as long as I know it's happening.
Comparing a romantic relationship with a parent-child relationship has always been one of the things I never really understood. Funny thing is, where i live, people seem to have long accepted it as a fact or sth, it's even weirder when they literally have an old saying about the whole thing.
Somehow, it’s like the ‘Henpecked Husband’ and ‘Bored Husband’ Trope is never held accountable whether it’s Media or IRL.
My late husband enjoyed our marriage, because he *liked* me. I really enoyed our marriage, because I *liked* him. He made me laugh. I always made more than my dear straight husband and neither of us gave a fig.
The whole like marriage is actually like bad stuff makes me wonder if the people that make those ACTUALLY love each other 😂 The answer is always no, no they don't
My partner, who is straight: "No, The Straights are not okay."
Me, bi-romantic aesthetically attracted ace: *Blinks in confusion at The Straights*
I am straight and I feel their aren't okay.
Yeah it’s not straight people, it’s “The Straights”
Who the hell thinks "future hooters girl" is appropriate for a baby? That's not even funny as a joke. That's so gross.
This may have already been said somewhere, but to answer Jamie's question, the last line of the shirt at 8:08 is "Yes, he bought me this."
3:35 it's not great parenting either. Kids are people you should be nice to not only because you like them, but also because it's literally in your job description as a parent. Your child deserves a loving & fun birthday regardless of whether they were convenient to you over the past year.
10:55 the first gay couple I met (I had met individual people that I knew about and probably many I didn't) was at church. One of them was a vestry member and the other lead some of the regular activities.
Jamie, dude, congrats on your wedding with Shaaba!
I hope that it's a wonderful wedding that you and Shaaba will never forget /pos /well wishing /gen
CONGRATS to you and the lovely Shaaba on your wedding! I saw the pictures and you two looked so adorable and happy and it made me so happy to see. I wish you two a long and happy marriage.
Minister to women wearing their husbands shoes "See how they are too big and make you uncomfortable when you wear them!"
Women: Pulls a couple of pairs of socks from their bags, "Na, this is a problem I can fix without him 😉"
This is so concerning. I feel like, from what I am seeing, is that some relationships are becoming more toxic. It's sad to see that a couple can hate each other so much.
8:58 I’ve seen some pretty cringe signs but “whatever you do to him I will do to you” has to be the worst
1:41 The lack of self-awareness is encyclopaedic.
May I ask what it means? Or what to look up to find out information about it? Not trying to sound weird or hurtful just dont understand and am interested! Ive never heard of “The Handmaids Tale” and even to search that up i dont want to just search the title and “hooded people at weddings” or something as such that could come of as disrespectful. Sorry about the ramble just was trying to understand! Hope you are doing well!
@@Toasted_Salad The Handmaid's Tale is a speculative work by Margaret Atwood in which the US (or a large part of it) bcomes the Nation of Gilead, a conservative hellscape where fertile women are essentially enslaved and forced to become "handmaids" (hence the hooded figures) if they're deemed to have "lost their innocence".
You can probably guess as to where becoming a handmaid goes from there. 😬
Don’t worry straights, I’m not okay either 💀
Too real haha
youre so real for that bestie
My husband and I literally wear the same size shoes (although they're numbered differently because mine are "women's" and his are "men's." *eyeroll*
Same - Also womens ones are heaps narrower so I keep threatening to make him swap with me!
Tired: Man Birthday
Wired: Mirthday
i want a blanket that big, can you imagine the blanket forts?!
5:05 has the potential to be kinda cute if it's a loving running gag that both find funny. Not if used passive-aggressively tho!
Congrats on the wedding! You and shaaba are very beautiful together! 💛
If my husband's mother had a sign like that in her house I would have read it, looked right at her and said,
Right, then. I'm leaving, you can keep him. Lol
The assumption that your MIL will be an enemy is so sad (though i know it’s all too often true). My MIL was wonderful & i miss her every day. Stupid cancer
2:00 Id not heard lvl up, but theres a similar one "Welcome player two" which ofc leads into a common theme of many marriages; "Player three has entered the fight!" (which usually means a baby but can also mean a polycule lol)
Everyone knows that how much stress and responsibility a person can take is determined by how big their feet are...
your videos make me feel safe when i’m scared at night