@@jetpark3743 That just shows it’s cause of the guy trying to make a move on her. There’s way more guys out there that are friends with girls cause the girls would set a boundary & the guy would like to be more than friends but just settles to be there friend hoping on day it can be more than friends or he just maybe wanna smash only & have a friends with benefits
@@dghvdhfhhb6405 nah it’s an irrational fear man lol. Men can’t be out here just lying like they can’t just be friends with a woman. It’s hundreds of millions of dudes out here friends with women they don’t have an attraction to sexually
The whole notion that men can't be friends with attractive women and women can't be friends with attracted men and can only be friends with older people is bull crap. Having that attitude speaks volumes on how insecure the restrictive person is; they clearly have trust issues.
CtGod changed in an annoying way. Dude acts like Derrick Jaxn aka "holy art thou" & "Im saved" type of guy. He use to be really honest and raw but now hes corporate he puts this Liberal SJW cap on for every group
@@evofan6812 he’s scared b/c the majority of his audience is women. Plus it ain’t worth it. If he started telling the truth people on the internet wouldn’t have his back anyway
100% correct. My girl be asking me these damn “trick questions” and I answer it accordingly lol 😂 because if she asked me something like “would you sleep with her?” I’m gonna reply with a “NO!” Lol when you know damn well I’d at least give it one round lol 😂
I bet if you asked CTG about the women he cheated with the vast majority of them were women he knew already and was “friends” with lol. It’s rare for cheating or affairs to happen with strangers.
To be fair that is likely the women he’s referring to that he shouldn’t have slept with, because you can hear in his voice he really wish he can still talk to one or more of them.
Right that’s the irony.. you know most of those women were “sisters” or “friends” of his. There’s no way they were all strangers he happened to meet at the hotel bar..
Lowkey true but how imma know what girl is worth the commitment without being friends with her first. If u go into a relationship without being friends with the girl first it’s likely not gonna last for long.
@@GgCashh451 Perhaps, but the point can work both ways. If you don't find your female friends attractive, the one waiting for the 'opportunity' is probably them.
@@dec2567 tell that to everyone who’s codependent on lust, u would have to be a vulnerable man to wait like that which is why those kinds of guys are prone to manipulation
Now I understand charlamagne , he calls these women ,sisters and nieces so he can friendzone them forever in his mind. Basically turns a woman he would smash into a family member to prevent temptation
@Arwyn bruh every races has cases of fucking their cousins. Now I like that is a funny joke against Alabama or down south whites. But every race does a bit of that.
Steve is absolutely right! I was always the girl who had more male friends than female friends. I can guarantee that if I gave the „vibe“ that I would want more than friendship they would pounce! The moment my so called friend got me alone, he tried something on me and the guy has a girlfriend! I don’t trust any man as a „friend“, single, married or in a relationship because that doesn’t mean anything to them.
I wouldn’t stop being friends with my straight male friends but I would limit our interactions out of respect for my relationship. I would expect my partner to do the same. If that simple concept is hard to understand then they’re too immature to be friends with you in the first place.
If your married there’s zero chance either one of you is spending time alone with the opposite sex, not if you want to stay married that is,,,innocent or not.
@@MiracleMadkins it’s real life, I’ve been married years, I don’t know any adults in relationships with friends of the opposite sex, if it does happen it’s extremely rare and I don’t know anyone who does. * that’s not to say you can’t have friendly relations, but no man or woman is going to spend a night out or a day out with the opposite sex and the other partner be ok about it.
Depends how close of a friendship were talking. Being best friends with a girl or hanging out with a girl alone is only gonna happen if im married to her or dating her. But as far as more casual friends or someone you hang out with with other people, of course a guy can have a “girl friend”
If you're friends but don't find each other attractive... a few alcoholic drinks will change that real quick. If you love someone's personality, their heart and soul.... a couple of shots and you'll be looking at them differently.
The level of contradictions in this conversation is hilarious. “But that’s different tho..” lmaooo Steve Harvey is 100% right and it’s also the healthiest thing to do when you’re in a relationship. It cuts out any and all doubts either partner can ever have.
@@Awkward_Inc3l when your actions are not in yo control after drinking then alcohol is an excuss. Case study can be made that if you cant control then dont drink but still
@@chokichocat3083 is it still rape if the woman wants to drink alcohol and is the one pushing to fuck? Lol I think you forget some women like to push sex when they drink not just men
It’s weird to see the lack of emotional maturity a lot of y’all have. Of course men and women can be friends. I’m a married man and I have plenty of female friends. Yes there are always many exceptions where one person is attracted to the other, but there’s plenty of situations where both the guy and girl are just cool being homies.
Yeah but me I just don't see any benefit to a woman I don't like doing female things and I don't like holding my tongue. Only women I talk to is my wife and mother lol
@@johnnychandler325 So what I’d want to know are what are “female things?” I’m not gonna go get my nails done with my guy friend, but we can go get food or see a movie though...I’m legitimately asking because I’m one of the few believes you can be friends lol
Harvey is on the money with this one. I'm not comfortable with my wife having alone time with a male friend of hers, just as she isn't comfortable with the inverse of that. Char is really showing just how little he understands how a relationship works. Its not just about being a male and wanting to sleep with everything that moves, its mainly about establishing trust with your spouse. Having no female friends is very wise.
Steve's been wise here. He undrestands his nature, & he has adopted his behaviour accordingly with it & with regard to his priority which is his family. Romantic feelings can arise in an already platonic relationship with a friend of opposite sex. If he understands his nature as an adult male with family, he does not want to risk his priority (family) just because there's likelihood for him of developing romantic feelings for a female friend. & who wants the headache of being married & having romatic feelings for a friend? He has a strategy to not risk having an affair &, thus, destroying his family.
But that’s HIS life & HIS situation. He’s not even saying “What’s best for me in my household is THIS but see what works for YOU.”. If he said that, it would be fine. But instead, he’s spreading bullspit like it’s LAW. He’s an irresponsible, out of touch liar.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat No he isn’t. Did you also know that the majority of rape reported by women happens in their homes by men they once considered a friend? Or that over 70% of married couples reported as starting out as friends? Don’t take my word for it look it up women who were sexually assaulted or raped by a friend or even ask any female friends you have and I bet you they will start popping off Gordy stories about how some guy thought they were more than friends or at least heading that way. Go ahead. Your intentions may be good but don’t think everyone is like you.
It’s kinda true, cause there’s always that significant other that ends up feeling jealous or suspicious that there’s something more happening. Harvey is pretty spot on..
Is he wrong? But overall why are people complaining about things he said years ago?? Like the Kevin hart thing with the oscars, they bring it up let him go as the host then try to get him back and he declines it, what’s the point of these people making a big thing out of this?
@@anthonyvasquez3016 Because it’s causing people to have unhealthy social habits. And it’s just dumb. How can you even be married if you don’t form a friendship first? It’s IMPOSSIBLE.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat true that, I been saying men and women should form friendships, you gain a lot of information about the other ‘mysterious’ gender that way. Plus not everything is about sex, I mean sure that’s maybe an initial feeling a man might feel when he sees a woman, and vice versa, but afterwards you choose what you wanna do with that ‘emotion’. Acting like we are GD savages out here lol
My female friends are gay or married to my homies or I don't find them attractive or my business partners or we grew up like siblings but you can have female friends it is hard though
I had a Male friend I knew from childhood and stayed in touch for many years until one day I texted him and he told me his girl was uncomfortable with it so we couldn't talk anymore. Apparently he had feelings for me in the past and told her that, so she wasn't having it. We never spoke again even after they split up... so I agree it's difficult to navigate this type of relationship. It's possible but not likely.
Steve is right, especially when you are in a committed monogamous relationship. Boundaries are important otherwise this "just friends" thing becomes a slippery slope of what's allowed and what's not allowed, where do we draw the line
Well from women’s perspective, sometimes ur man’s “friend” doesn’t really vibe with u and u sense she low key flirts with ur man even tho ur man is completely friendly with her. It can be the same for men too. U can feel and see the intentions of the friend of ur significant other imo
He's generalizing. Men and women can truly be friends only if the man has ZERO interest in having sex with her. Otherwise it's just situational and if the circumstances change you'll either try to sleep with them or stop talking to them completely which means you weren't really friends, you were just being friendly at the time.
What are you talking about? Being friends only with zero interest implies that men (nor women) have no self control. Why would you say something so obviously false?
@@memorama66 Yes, I have. Plenty in fact. Why do you think we have preferences? You mean to tell me that you’ve never met a woman who: 1 Was ugly (to you) 2 Didn’t have a pleasing personality 3 Didn’t possess qualities that you wanted in a woman 4 Who you didn’t find appealing in any way You’ve never met a woman who fit any of those criteria?
I’ve been dating the same man for 3 years now and we have an extremely trusting relationship. He has friends that are girls and I have friends that are guys. I don’t try to control him and say who he can/ can’t hang out with!! Because I TRUST HIM! And he TRUSTS ME! That’s so valuable!! I have never ever had a thought to step out on him. His faith in me makes me love and respect him to the fullest extent. It has nothing to do with the friends. It’s where you are in your relationship!
I am neutral about this but Steve has a point. A lot of my male "friends" from high school have admitted to either having a crush on me or wanting to sleep with me. Granted, it's high school and hormones are fucked up but if young teenagers/adults already know what to do to keep a girl around long enough to be with them, that same logic probably carries on to adulthood. Once again though, everybody is different :)
That's honestly very fucked up, that you were only around men that couldn't keep their dick in check. I could honestly say that I have a lot of pretty female friends that I have never wanted to fuck, because I know the type of girls that I actually want to fuck or date, and I also know there's more to life than just sex, so why ruin whole friendships over something that I can do with a girl that I'm not friends with.
Definitely not 100% correct I’ve had women friends that were obese I don’t find obese women attractive at all yet we hit it off because they were hilarious
The proper question is if you can be friends with someone you're attracted to and HARVEY is 100% correct that's why Charla CHEATED his ass off on his wife because they gave you a chance so your point of view is BASELESS on this one Charla... Nice try
That point is null & void considering....... HE’S NO LONGER CHEATING!!!! He has women friends now & he’s faithful. You’re so busy focusing on his past while ignoring the fact that he’s a changed man.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeatHe admits to having friends NOW because he's not cheating but DID NOT ADMIT to having friends he was attracted to before because he would smash anything that walks just FACTS... He's not your relative so FOCUS on the facts and not his past EINSTEIN nice try though
I’m married. I have friends that are married. I got cousins who are married. We all have friends that are women that we absolutely have no hopes/intentions of being romantically involved with. Anyone saying “all men or all women” is automatically wrong because you can’t speak for everyone.
Ok cool you’re an outlier. Most men can’t be JUST friends with women they’re sexually attracted to and marriage means nothing. Look at how many people cheat in the exact scenario you claim to make it legit lol.
He’s talking about the majority. There’s a difference between friends and associates. Associates are people you may talk to once or twice a month, don’t see often. Friends are people you talk to way more frequently and see very often. Of course we all have women associates, but friends? As in talking and hanging out FREQUENTLY? Someone is 99% gonna develop attraction, that’s just human nature.
@@eski_truv Not really, my closest friend is a girl I talk to 24/7 and I met her 2 years ago. She's beautiful so obviously I wanted to have sex with her at the beginning but when that didn't happen I became super close with her. never remotely had an intention to have sex with her ever after the first 2,3 time we met. shit even the thought of it feels super weird now
That’s the weird part, though. You can totally call your guy friends in the middle of the night and just say hi. The friendship would be the same. It’s def a complicated, nuanced topic which is why Steve is right but he’s also projecting his own experiences onto everyone else.
@@NilahMonai sad truth of society at this point, as of yesterday I been happily married 12 yrs never cheated or even thought of cheating on my wife! It's never worth cheating even for an hour of fun and put in jeopardy everything you worked so hard for especially when you have children I took my vowels seriously to honor my wife and more importantly God!
CTG is just trying to keep his wife happy by ignoring his true nature that he's a man and wants multiple women which is his ultimate happiness clearly. Doesn't make him a hero. It just declares he's willing to be unhappy for her sake.
There's two ways to feel about someone, brotherly love, or romantic love. My best friends are male, but for me, friendship isn't sex specific. Those who see it differently, are different people, and that's fine.
I never think about my girl cheating on me. It’s a waste of time. I might as well be single. If it happens then it’s just over, why would I spend my time thinking about keeping it from happening?
@@FazeParticles Nah I’m cool on that I’ll just be single for a while smash an additional 20 or 30 chicks then probably settle down in the future. I’m not one of them guys who always gotta be in a relationship. I’m a loner by nature and my uncles on my momma side were pimps, it’s in my blood. I can be cold.
It’s not cute it’s controlling and a double standard that he can have girl friends and she can’t. I can understand not making guy friends after you’re in a relationship but if you had guy friends before you started dating your significant other then there’s no reason to cut them off.
I’m on the fence on this I have straight friends that are guys who I would never date or fuck, but I have some I would A lot of people tend to approach people they find attractive and some people find out they are more compatible as friends than anything else But I also tend to stick to making guy friends who are already in relationships cause I either already knew their gf or I give benefit of the doubt that they’re a faithful partner and that’s the furtherest thing from their mind One of best friends was a older man who had no interest whatsoever in me and I became beat friends with his gf more than him I think it depends on how people feel about blurring that friendship line into intimacy if the opportunity presents itself Some people are not willing to mess up a good friendship just to smash
I rarely agree with Steve, but on this one thing, he's spitting facts. Big Jah in one of his vids brilliantly demonstrates this thing. We all need acquaintances of the opposite sex not friends.
I personally have no female friends. Not because I don't value women, but because I don't have many friends period. I have less than 3. Also, the term "friend" is overused
This is weird like some men seriously disappoint me. Like why are women only sexual objects to you unless they marry you and even then your respect for her is circumstantial.
Because it's human nature with the opposite sex. If there is an ounce of physical attraction a guy wants a female as a mate, not a friend. They are acquaintances for business or small talk. But there is no friendship when one or the other is attracted to each other,
They're all talking about it from an already in a relationship status, it's a whole different game when you're single. It's possible to be friends because sex usually ruins a friendship, and sometimes there's not always enough attraction and it's not worth the risk.
DUDE WHY is it that nobody ever points this out: you might know a girl that is kinda ugly, and it’s definitely mean to say but still: you’re sure you can be friends with that person. Not sure i’m making sense, but it feels obvious to me
I agree, it takes maturity to not see people as objects to be used for selfish gain. I think it’s hard to trust a man or woman who doesn’t care for you as a great friend while expressing your emotions of love.
This topic always blows my mind lmao, we are still having this conversation? I find it extremely hard to believe that guys find every girl they get along with smashable 🥴 I do believe that you can find any of your friends to be 'attractive' (I am including *all* genders so this includes men and their guy friends too). It would be strange if they weren't appealing in some way. But, I don't think that attraction is strictly limited to the physical, so that's why this topic makes me confused. I think this just boils down to societal conditioning telling us that men somehow have no self-control and that they all must have ulterior motives. They "don't have self-control" because society allows guys to get away with the most. So now, everyone makes these generalizing statements saying 'MEN CANNOT DO XYZ'! 🤔 It's just very strange... choose your friends wisely I guess 😂
I’ve been friendly with many women before but they’ve never really been my “friend”, you feel me? My boys, those are my real friends. If I’m attracted to a woman, I don’t want to just be her friend. Not even on some sexist or misogynistic stuff, that’s just how it is.
It's only in certain cases that men and women can be friends. 1. She has to be extremely unattractive to the guy, but the right amount of drinks might change that IDK 2. She's related to him, she's either a cousin, aunt, sister, etc. 3. She's a childhood friend, they grew up together or she's one of his bros sisters or cousins Anything outside of those 3 scenarios, men and women 100% can't be friends, if a man has a female friend and she's even halfway decent, a 5 and up, the first chance he gets he's gonna smash, if he says he wouldn't, he's lying his ass off
Anyone can be friends...but if they’re romantically involved with someone there’s no need to spend time with those friends without you’re significant other there. This goes for both sides, men n women.
That’s so true. Before I was married, guys would ask how i knew so many women whenever I would throw birthday parties. Not only do women gravitate toward you more when they don’t feel like they’re being hounded on like a dog... but more importantly, women bring around even more women. It’s an amazing psychological cycle. All it takes is not being a douche
Men and women can be friends as long as they don't like each other. It's a tough subject because you have to look at the reason why a man and woman became friends in the first place.
Steve spoke to 99% Charlemagne must be the 1%. Charlemagne knows more men like wax not like himself and those men would 100% sleep with a female friend if the opportunity presented itself.
Funny thing is Charla probably isn't in that that 1%. He cheated for the majority of his relationship and there's no way that every single one of them was a stranger. I rock w him but he's acting high and mighty now when most likely he's done exactly what Steve talked about
I always thought of Charlemagne Tha God as a rap/hip-hop radio host. I didn’t realize he was a comedian or funny as a comedian until i started listening to this podcast. I listen to a lot of podcast on my phone and this podcast is the funniest. It helps that Andrew Schulz is one of my favourite comedians. Charlemagne and Schulz make the perfect connection for a comedy/headline podcast.
They just proved Steve Harvey’s point by saying how they don’t want their girlfriends to have guy friends
No they can't trust they ladies ( not the men)
@@jetpark3743 That just shows it’s cause of the guy trying to make a move on her. There’s way more guys out there that are friends with girls cause the girls would set a boundary & the guy would like to be more than friends but just settles to be there friend hoping on day it can be more than friends or he just maybe wanna smash only & have a friends with benefits
I think it’s a joke
No NEW guy friends
@@dghvdhfhhb6405 nah it’s an irrational fear man lol. Men can’t be out here just lying like they can’t just be friends with a woman. It’s hundreds of millions of dudes out here friends with women they don’t have an attraction to sexually
Lemme remix what Harvey was saying...
*”men cannot be friends with ATTRACTIVE women”*
Nice versa women cannot be friends with an attractive men
@Arwyn most women are what now????! 😭
I think saying that they cannot be friends w a female they feel attractive to makes more sense
@@jhonram2496 facts
The whole notion that men can't be friends with attractive women and women can't be friends with attracted men and can only be friends with older people is bull crap. Having that attitude speaks volumes on how insecure the restrictive person is; they clearly have trust issues.
charlamange acts so righteous when he literally said he's slept with girls he's friends with. when he new he wanted to smash but had to wait.....
CtGod changed in an annoying way. Dude acts like Derrick Jaxn aka "holy art thou" & "Im saved" type of guy. He use to be really honest and raw but now hes corporate he puts this Liberal SJW cap on for every group
@@evofan6812 that's what comes with money and main stream attention
@@evofan6812 he’s scared b/c the majority of his audience is women. Plus it ain’t worth it. If he started telling the truth people on the internet wouldn’t have his back anyway
@@evofan6812 couldnt have said it better
@@ZYaKnoe249 what? Being fake of thats the casé u dont want it
it's gonna be hard getting honest answers from both of these guys since they are both in committed relationships.
100% correct. My girl be asking me these damn “trick questions” and I answer it accordingly lol 😂 because if she asked me something like “would you sleep with her?” I’m gonna reply with a “NO!” Lol when you know damn well I’d at least give it one round lol 😂
Facts. You know he clapping Taylor on the low
Only recently committed
Facts
@@nodaysoff2005 facts you know they would if they could
I bet if you asked CTG about the women he cheated with the vast majority of them were women he knew already and was “friends” with lol. It’s rare for cheating or affairs to happen with strangers.
💯
CTG be cappin now that hes corporate. Hes super liberal and no longer raw
He is a hypocrite
To be fair that is likely the women he’s referring to that he shouldn’t have slept with, because you can hear in his voice he really wish he can still talk to one or more of them.
@@philiplutin5638 huh? To be a hypocrite means you engage in actions that you publicly condemn and point out as wrong.
"Black men don't cheat" Charlemagne staying in character 😂
Patrice O'Neal would call this fool a fraud
LMAO! 😭
how can charlamagne disagree when he cheated on his wife lol
Because he has self control now
Right that’s the irony.. you know most of those women were “sisters” or “friends” of his. There’s no way they were all strangers he happened to meet at the hotel bar..
Exactly
if you listened, he explained that he has female friends that he never slept with
@Stephanie Belyavskaya you’re not with guys on his level so it’s never gonna be you anyways
Charlamagne’s female friend are girls he couldn’t smash but hopes that someday he will
Like Patrice O’Neal said... you’ll be living in HOPE
🎯
Exactly
🙏 amen
whose turning down eboni
Charlemagne I disagree with Steve
Also Charlemagne I got home girls I slept with that I shouldn't have
Lmao 🤣
He disagrees because he also has homegirls that hasn't slept with
@@alexanderjackson8389 also Charlemagne I've been with my girl since 98 I've only been faithful since 2015
@@alexanderjackson8389 yet
@@emmanuelheights2506 rofl... Damn hope he read this 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I listened to this whole conversation, and ended up being more convinced with what Steve Harvey said.
Steve is right....guys who say he wrong just use friendship as there game
The lame guys do that 😆
Patrice O'Neal would call CTG a loser
Right, because their game is so weak that they have to hold out and play the beta role. Guys need to up their game. Way to many weak men nowadays.
Lowkey true but how imma know what girl is worth the commitment without being friends with her first. If u go into a relationship without being friends with the girl first it’s likely not gonna last for long.
@@InADarkTavern not true
they all proved harveys point without even realizing
He’s right but he’s also wrong there are obese women I’m friends with but I don’t find obese women attractive at all
@@GgCashh451 Perhaps, but the point can work both ways. If you don't find your female friends attractive, the one waiting for the 'opportunity' is probably them.
@@TwoMinds2 it works more often than it doesn’t I’m just saying it’s not something you can generalize as a complete fact
@@GgCashh451 if they lose weight you gon wanna blow some backs out
This is one of the most honest things I ever heard Steve Harvey say lol
naw he’s subconsciously trapping vulnerable men into losing faith in close relationships - wether he means to or not
@@natesvibin3937 how does that change the fact that he's honest?
@@natesvibin3937 if you waiting for a girl to take you out of the friend zone you should move on. It's plenty of women out here.
@@hegeliandianetik2009 sharing an ignorant opinion is sharing an ignorant opinion it only makes it worse that he’s being honest
@@dec2567 tell that to everyone who’s codependent on lust, u would have to be a vulnerable man to wait like that which is why those kinds of guys are prone to manipulation
Now I understand charlamagne , he calls these women ,sisters and nieces so he can friendzone them forever in his mind. Basically turns a woman he would smash into a family member to prevent temptation
It's like when a guy is burping/farting around a girl. The fact that he isn't on his best behavior shows he don't want to smash.
I mean yeah but I’ve heard many guys fuck their “sis” lmao . They can all it all they want but they know they aren’t related
But in my travels "cousins" are fair game 🤣
@Arwyn lots of chicks will try to say thier side dude is just thier "cousin"
@Arwyn bruh every races has cases of fucking their cousins. Now I like that is a funny joke against Alabama or down south whites. But every race does a bit of that.
Steve is absolutely right! I was always the girl who had more male friends than female friends. I can guarantee that if I gave the „vibe“ that I would want more than friendship they would pounce! The moment my so called friend got me alone, he tried something on me and the guy has a girlfriend! I don’t trust any man as a „friend“, single, married or in a relationship because that doesn’t mean anything to them.
I wouldn’t stop being friends with my straight male friends but I would limit our interactions out of respect for my relationship. I would expect my partner to do the same. If that simple concept is hard to understand then they’re too immature to be friends with you in the first place.
sounds like a prison
If your married there’s zero chance either one of you is spending time alone with the opposite sex, not if you want to stay married that is,,,innocent or not.
@@scottw3780 idk what you experienced but that depends on how much trust is in the relationship
@@MiracleMadkins it’s real life, I’ve been married years, I don’t know any adults in relationships with friends of the opposite sex, if it does happen it’s extremely rare and I don’t know anyone who does.
* that’s not to say you can’t have friendly relations, but no man or woman is going to spend a night out or a day out with the opposite sex and the other partner be ok about it.
@@scottw3780 damn how are you still married when ya'll have trust issues
That girl was mad annoyed when Alex said he didn't wanna hit LMAO
In her mind she was certain that he wanted to hit lmao
women can not stand being rejected by a guy.
@@flyingwombatazazz6736 especially a guy most girls think is ugly
Love your profile pic
@@D3ViiNG which pic?
Depends how close of a friendship were talking. Being best friends with a girl or hanging out with a girl alone is only gonna happen if im married to her or dating her. But as far as more casual friends or someone you hang out with with other people, of course a guy can have a “girl friend”
Andrew has been working his ass off man. Respect
This is the only conversation where Andrew looks like he 100% disagrees with CTG but doesn't wanna put him out too much
If you're friends but don't find each other attractive... a few alcoholic drinks will change that real quick. If you love someone's personality, their heart and soul.... a couple of shots and you'll be looking at them differently.
Not true, I have a male friend that I find physically repulsive & I’ve been faded around him many times & it didn’t change that lol
@@hollyroxy25 😂😂😂 poor guy!
@@hollyroxy25 I bet he would agree especially being the repulsive one lmao!
@@hollyroxy25 you can't call someone repulsive. You just can't 😂
@@Afrodude94 well not to their face 🤣
The level of contradictions in this conversation is hilarious. “But that’s different tho..” lmaooo Steve Harvey is 100% right and it’s also the healthiest thing to do when you’re in a relationship. It cuts out any and all doubts either partner can ever have.
Everything's all good with your homegirl until alcohol gets involved.
that sounds rapey
I’m sick of alcohol being used as a crutch to do dumb shet
@@Awkward_Inc3l when your actions are not in yo control after drinking then alcohol is an excuss. Case study can be made that if you cant control then dont drink but still
@@chokichocat3083 is it still rape if the woman wants to drink alcohol and is the one pushing to fuck? Lol I think you forget some women like to push sex when they drink not just men
Charla been faithful for 20 minutes and is trying to give relationship advice
The 1 time in Harvey’s career where he aint say some shit that panders to women. He definitely wasn’t lying.
It’s weird to see the lack of emotional maturity a lot of y’all have. Of course men and women can be friends. I’m a married man and I have plenty of female friends. Yes there are always many exceptions where one person is attracted to the other, but there’s plenty of situations where both the guy and girl are just cool being homies.
Yeah but me I just don't see any benefit to a woman I don't like doing female things and I don't like holding my tongue. Only women I talk to is my wife and mother lol
@@johnnychandler325 So what I’d want to know are what are “female things?” I’m not gonna go get my nails done with my guy friend, but we can go get food or see a movie though...I’m legitimately asking because I’m one of the few believes you can be friends lol
I don’t see why you can’t find your friend sexually attractive. It’s natural. That doesn’t mean you have to act on it.
That’s called an acquaintance
@@nicoleanderson9728 going to get food or a movie with the other sex while you're in a relationship just kind of seems like open dating lol
Hahaha the guys saying that women can’t have men friends are literally proving Steve’s point
Harvey is on the money with this one. I'm not comfortable with my wife having alone time with a male friend of hers, just as she isn't comfortable with the inverse of that. Char is really showing just how little he understands how a relationship works. Its not just about being a male and wanting to sleep with everything that moves, its mainly about establishing trust with your spouse. Having no female friends is very wise.
Honestly, you're one of the very few who understand this.
Insecure
Steve's been wise here.
He undrestands his nature, & he has adopted his behaviour accordingly with it & with regard to his priority which is his family.
Romantic feelings can arise in an already platonic relationship with a friend of opposite sex. If he understands his nature as an adult male with family, he does not want to risk his priority (family) just because there's likelihood for him of developing romantic feelings for a female friend. & who wants the headache of being married & having romatic feelings for a friend?
He has a strategy to not risk having an affair &, thus, destroying his family.
But that’s HIS life & HIS situation. He’s not even saying “What’s best for me in my household is THIS but see what works for YOU.”. If he said that, it would be fine. But instead, he’s spreading bullspit like it’s LAW. He’s an irresponsible, out of touch liar.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat No he isn’t. Did you also know that the majority of rape reported by women happens in their homes by men they once considered a friend? Or that over 70% of married couples reported as starting out as friends? Don’t take my word for it look it up women who were sexually assaulted or raped by a friend or even ask any female friends you have and I bet you they will start popping off Gordy stories about how some guy thought they were more than friends or at least heading that way. Go ahead. Your intentions may be good but don’t think everyone is like you.
Guys can be friends with two types of women, ones we have done and ones we want to do.
Negative. I’m was a female firefighter and I have a lot of close guy friends. I have not slept with them and they know I would never.
@@angfirefighter if given the opportunity they would
@@Kirbystare1992 baseless assumption tbh. For all we know they can be with women who look way better than her with fire pussy
@@pandabear1576 All she needs to do is tell them that she wants to smash. I’m sure a good majority will fold
It’s kinda true, cause there’s always that significant other that ends up feeling jealous or suspicious that there’s something more happening. Harvey is pretty spot on..
Steve’s statement implies that men and women have no self control. Its a foolish & irresponsible statement.
Is he wrong? But overall why are people complaining about things he said years ago?? Like the Kevin hart thing with the oscars, they bring it up let him go as the host then try to get him back and he declines it, what’s the point of these people making a big thing out of this?
@@anthonyvasquez3016 Because it’s causing people to have unhealthy social habits. And it’s just dumb. How can you even be married if you don’t form a friendship first? It’s IMPOSSIBLE.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat true that, I been saying men and women should form friendships, you gain a lot of information about the other ‘mysterious’ gender that way. Plus not everything is about sex, I mean sure that’s maybe an initial feeling a man might feel when he sees a woman, and vice versa, but afterwards you choose what you wanna do with that ‘emotion’. Acting like we are GD savages out here lol
My female friends are gay or married to my homies or I don't find them attractive or my business partners or we grew up like siblings but you can have female friends it is hard though
Yep!
Yup
you afraid of commas
It ain't hard man
People talking about having male friends
Female friends meanwhile I Have 0 friends
Bruh
I feel ur pain
Your LUCKY if you have 1💯
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♾👈 "friend" is a special title.
I feel ya...
Wanna be friends?!?
Lunch with Todd is two opportunities away from Todd blowing their backs out!!
"Blows her what?!" that shit got me wheezing LMAO
HAHAHAHAHAHA
LMFAOOO
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I had a Male friend I knew from childhood and stayed in touch for many years until one day I texted him and he told me his girl was uncomfortable with it so we couldn't talk anymore. Apparently he had feelings for me in the past and told her that, so she wasn't having it. We never spoke again even after they split up... so I agree it's difficult to navigate this type of relationship. It's possible but not likely.
Girl, he was in love with you when he was a kid lol he would've been a good one 🤣
So he was a friend trying to smash lol
"Its possible but not likely."
Typical female mental gymnastics.
Steve is right, especially when you are in a committed monogamous relationship. Boundaries are important otherwise this "just friends" thing becomes a slippery slope of what's allowed and what's not allowed, where do we draw the line
We draw the line when you start looking at their pants with the intent/curosity of removing them.
Well from women’s perspective, sometimes ur man’s “friend” doesn’t really vibe with u and u sense she low key flirts with ur man even tho ur man is completely friendly with her. It can be the same for men too. U can feel and see the intentions of the friend of ur significant other imo
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He's generalizing. Men and women can truly be friends only if the man has ZERO interest in having sex with her. Otherwise it's just situational and if the circumstances change you'll either try to sleep with them or stop talking to them completely which means you weren't really friends, you were just being friendly at the time.
What are you talking about? Being friends only with zero interest implies that men (nor women) have no self control. Why would you say something so obviously false?
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat you're gonna tell me you've never met a woman you wouldn't sleep with?
@@memorama66 Yes, I have. Plenty in fact. Why do you think we have preferences? You mean to tell me that you’ve never met a woman who:
1 Was ugly (to you)
2 Didn’t have a pleasing personality
3 Didn’t possess qualities that you wanted in a woman
4 Who you didn’t find appealing in any way
You’ve never met a woman who fit any of those criteria?
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat I can guarantee he wouldn't be friends with her either which proves his point.
I’ve been dating the same man for 3 years now and we have an extremely trusting relationship. He has friends that are girls and I have friends that are guys. I don’t try to control him and say who he can/ can’t hang out with!! Because I TRUST HIM! And he TRUSTS ME! That’s so valuable!! I have never ever had a thought to step out on him. His faith in me makes me love and respect him to the fullest extent. It has nothing to do with the friends. It’s where you are in your relationship!
exactly.
what derrick jxn gotta say about this 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol damn 🤣😂
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Something dumb 😆
dude if he starts up again fuck camo his girl gonna have to come out in a ghillie suit talking about shes ready for war
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Wait, Andrew can have lady friends but his fiancee can't have guy friends? Usually the insecure partner is the first to fall.
He’s just trying to make a point he doesn’t actually think that
This is too advanced in my dating life. I'm just trying to get a text back 🙃
Facts lol
Same
With a face like you know demn well you getting tons of text back probably got paragraphs text
andrew's demeanor and overall vibe suggests that he been through this debate a few times with his girl, this topic livin in his mind rent-free
I am neutral about this but Steve has a point. A lot of my male "friends" from high school have admitted to either having a crush on me or wanting to sleep with me.
Granted, it's high school and hormones are fucked up but if young teenagers/adults already know what to do to keep a girl around long enough to be with them, that same logic probably carries on to adulthood.
Once again though, everybody is different :)
I agree 100% with Steve. I’ve tried to have male friends throughout my life, it never works. Just not how we as men and women are made
That's honestly very fucked up, that you were only around men that couldn't keep their dick in check. I could honestly say that I have a lot of pretty female friends that I have never wanted to fuck, because I know the type of girls that I actually want to fuck or date, and I also know there's more to life than just sex, so why ruin whole friendships over something that I can do with a girl that I'm not friends with.
Definitely not 100% correct I’ve had women friends that were obese I don’t find obese women attractive at all yet we hit it off because they were hilarious
Nahhh you can’t do that lol. Just say that
He’s right. If you are married, you can’t have female friends that’s for damn sure. At least that’s what my wife says 😞
Hey bro. Do you need a hug?
Steve Harvey is 95% correct on this one.
agree. there's those rare situations
Only if she busted AF can they be friends, even then he still might hit it
Funny but true. 😂
Yuck. No ugly girls around my circle. That lowers my value
But then it works the opposite way, she probably likes u.
@@mrhussain9008 very true
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The proper question is if you can be friends with someone you're attracted to and HARVEY is 100% correct that's why Charla CHEATED his ass off on his wife because they gave you a chance so your point of view is BASELESS on this one Charla... Nice try
That point is null & void considering.......
HE’S NO LONGER CHEATING!!!!
He has women friends now & he’s faithful. You’re so busy focusing on his past while ignoring the fact that he’s a changed man.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeatHe admits to having friends NOW because he's not cheating but DID NOT ADMIT to having friends he was attracted to before because he would smash anything that walks just FACTS... He's not your relative so FOCUS on the facts and not his past EINSTEIN nice try though
You CAN be friends with people that you’re attracted to. To say otherwise is to say that men & women have ZERO self control- which is OBVIOUSLY FALSE.
I’m married. I have friends that are married. I got cousins who are married. We all have friends that are women that we absolutely have no hopes/intentions of being romantically involved with. Anyone saying “all men or all women” is automatically wrong because you can’t speak for everyone.
Exactly..
Ok cool you’re an outlier. Most men can’t be JUST friends with women they’re sexually attracted to and marriage means nothing. Look at how many people cheat in the exact scenario you claim to make it legit lol.
He’s talking about the majority. There’s a difference between friends and associates. Associates are people you may talk to once or twice a month, don’t see often. Friends are people you talk to way more frequently and see very often. Of course we all have women associates, but friends? As in talking and hanging out FREQUENTLY? Someone is 99% gonna develop attraction, that’s just human nature.
@@eski_truv Not really, my closest friend is a girl I talk to 24/7 and I met her 2 years ago. She's beautiful so obviously I wanted to have sex with her at the beginning but when that didn't happen I became super close with her. never remotely had an intention to have sex with her ever after the first 2,3 time we met. shit even the thought of it feels super weird now
@@payamb5039 so you basically just proved the point with your second sentence
You need to define friendship guys,because you cant call a girl in the middle of the night and just say hi when both of you are in a relationship
That’s the weird part, though. You can totally call your guy friends in the middle of the night and just say hi. The friendship would be the same.
It’s def a complicated, nuanced topic which is why Steve is right but he’s also projecting his own experiences onto everyone else.
@@Yodoggy9 so then a female and male friendship is possible, but it comes with its boundaries.
Andrew had a point. My girl isn’t hanging out with some guy friends without me because I know how we think
So you shouldn’t be friends with females either.
lol Andrew just validated Steve Harvey’s comment
I agree with schulz..but its not for everyone.. u just have to find a partner with the same beliefs..
The question got answered as soon as the chick got all offended that Alex wouldn’t sleep with her if she asked him. That’s why.
All i have to say on this topic is: “A wise man avoids what a clever man can get out of”.
Steve Harvey with this old ass clip from 2009 and he’s right!
"You're not about to say 'No I'm busy, I'm going to brunch with Todd'" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m with Andrew 100%
No more opposite sex friends and no new opposite sex friends. Period.
Steve just doesn't have self control and doesn't want to put himself in a position to cheat on his wife maybe most men think like that but not all.
I’m thinking that too
@@NilahMonai sad truth of society at this point, as of yesterday I been happily married 12 yrs never cheated or even thought of cheating on my wife! It's never worth cheating even for an hour of fun and put in jeopardy everything you worked so hard for especially when you have children I took my vowels seriously to honor my wife and more importantly God!
Steve is semi famous. He'd have hotties lining up to be his friend. 99% wouldn't have this issue.
I love charla but I believe his way off in this conversation. A lot of us men out here are guilty of this don’t act like it’s not the truth
He dont want to have to empty his roster lol
CTG is just trying to keep his wife happy by ignoring his true nature that he's a man and wants multiple women which is his ultimate happiness clearly. Doesn't make him a hero. It just declares he's willing to be unhappy for her sake.
BROO Wax's Commentary has me crying!! lmao
Wax so good at sincerely arguing both sides of the issue in the same breath
Also, your significant other doesn't need to be fathered...sooo trust your significant other or don't be with them.
Trust only goes so far in 2021!! Best bet just be single and have your fun.
Charlemagne really saying Steve Harvey’s way of thinking was the “young” way of thinking. yeah right 🙄
“There’s girls that I’ve slept with and I shouldn’t have. I fucked the “friendship” up”
Bruh you just proved Steve’s point…🤣
There's two ways to feel about someone, brotherly love, or romantic love. My best friends are male, but for me, friendship isn't sex specific. Those who see it differently, are different people, and that's fine.
U must be gay
@@straightwhiteman7524 big gay. You better start running.
I will say, it's alot easier to be just friends with a female after you've already slept with them.
I agree with Harvey, at first I wanted to argue against it but having self analyzed I realised theres always an undertone of a kind of tension
Lol CDG loves to have women friends cuz they bring around other women friends that I can smash. Steve H was talking about being faithful
It's so cute how "protective" Shulzie is over his girl.
But if your girl does cheat on you then good riddance. She wasn't for you.
I never think about my girl cheating on me. It’s a waste of time. I might as well be single. If it happens then it’s just over, why would I spend my time thinking about keeping it from happening?
@@chairmanoftheboard11 or adapt and become swingers and do it voluntarily.
@@FazeParticles Nah I’m cool on that I’ll just be single for a while smash an additional 20 or 30 chicks then probably settle down in the future. I’m not one of them guys who always gotta be in a relationship. I’m a loner by nature and my uncles on my momma side were pimps, it’s in my blood. I can be cold.
@@chairmanoftheboard11 pimpin since been pimpin since been pimpin since been pimpin!
It’s not cute it’s controlling and a double standard that he can have girl friends and she can’t. I can understand not making guy friends after you’re in a relationship but if you had guy friends before you started dating your significant other then there’s no reason to cut them off.
I’m on the fence on this
I have straight friends that are guys who I would never date or fuck, but I have some I would
A lot of people tend to approach people they find attractive and some people find out they are more compatible as friends than anything else
But I also tend to stick to making guy friends who are already in relationships cause I either already knew their gf or I give benefit of the doubt that they’re a faithful partner and that’s the furtherest thing from their mind
One of best friends was a older man who had no interest whatsoever in me and I became beat friends with his gf more than him
I think it depends on how people feel about blurring that friendship line into intimacy if the opportunity presents itself
Some people are not willing to mess up a good friendship just to smash
I rarely agree with Steve, but on this one thing, he's spitting facts. Big Jah in one of his vids brilliantly demonstrates this thing. We all need acquaintances of the opposite sex not friends.
I think you can have female friends it’s just playing with fire if they are attractive, especially if you’re young.
Totally agree
I think what steve ment was friends you go hang out with like to a bar, club, or to just chill out with.
I personally have no female friends. Not because I don't value women, but because I don't have many friends period. I have less than 3.
Also, the term "friend" is overused
Moral of the story is don’t put yourself in a position to destroy your relationship.
Andrew the only person keeping real on this podcast now a days
This is weird like some men seriously disappoint me. Like why are women only sexual objects to you unless they marry you and even then your respect for her is circumstantial.
Because it's human nature with the opposite sex. If there is an ounce of physical attraction a guy wants a female as a mate, not a friend. They are acquaintances for business or small talk. But there is no friendship when one or the other is attracted to each other,
@@mazengwe28 it is not human nature to see women as sexual objects
@@juanitamace7733 Being attracted to a female is not objectifying her
@@mazengwe28 I never said that....
@@juanitamace7733 Then what do you mean by sexual objects then?
They're all talking about it from an already in a relationship status, it's a whole different game when you're single. It's possible to be friends because sex usually ruins a friendship, and sometimes there's not always enough attraction and it's not worth the risk.
Steve being real with himself he can't trust himself. He don't speak for everyone not to mention he's been married 3x
You can tell the lady on the show doesn't understand relationships, it's not insecurity...it's facts lol
DUDE WHY is it that nobody ever points this out:
you might know a girl that is kinda ugly, and it’s definitely mean to say but still:
you’re sure you can be friends with that person.
Not sure i’m making sense, but it feels obvious to me
If you know how to set boundaries and have an adult level of emotional maturity, it's really not an issue.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 amen
Facts
I agree, it takes maturity to not see people as objects to be used for selfish gain. I think it’s hard to trust a man or woman who doesn’t care for you as a great friend while expressing your emotions of love.
Also you can't be attracted to that person
@@mantrell502 you’re right. You shouldn’t be faking a friendship, while you only see her as a vagina.
That stop now right answer 👏🏿👏🏿
This topic always blows my mind lmao, we are still having this conversation? I find it extremely hard to believe that guys find every girl they get along with smashable 🥴 I do believe that you can find any of your friends to be 'attractive' (I am including *all* genders so this includes men and their guy friends too). It would be strange if they weren't appealing in some way. But, I don't think that attraction is strictly limited to the physical, so that's why this topic makes me confused. I think this just boils down to societal conditioning telling us that men somehow have no self-control and that they all must have ulterior motives. They "don't have self-control" because society allows guys to get away with the most. So now, everyone makes these generalizing statements saying 'MEN CANNOT DO XYZ'! 🤔 It's just very strange... choose your friends wisely I guess 😂
I’ve been friendly with many women before but they’ve never really been my “friend”, you feel me? My boys, those are my real friends. If I’m attracted to a woman, I don’t want to just be her friend. Not even on some sexist or misogynistic stuff, that’s just how it is.
When I feel like I don't have a connection with a girl, or I feel like I've been friend zoned, then she becomes a friend.
Uncle Steve is 100% right.
It's only in certain cases that men and women can be friends.
1. She has to be extremely unattractive to the guy, but the right amount of drinks might change that IDK
2. She's related to him, she's either a cousin, aunt, sister, etc.
3. She's a childhood friend, they grew up together or she's one of his bros sisters or cousins
Anything outside of those 3 scenarios, men and women 100% can't be friends, if a man has a female friend and she's even halfway decent, a 5 and up, the first chance he gets he's gonna smash, if he says he wouldn't, he's lying his ass off
Anyone can be friends...but if they’re romantically involved with someone there’s no need to spend time with those friends without you’re significant other there. This goes for both sides, men n women.
The argument started pretty good then Andrew bringing up double standard to poison the whole thing LMAO
100% accurate thought, there is allways one part that want the other.
I'm with steve harvey on this one... men dont wanna hear or talk to women unless he smashing her. Ain't nobody got time for that
That’s so true. Before I was married, guys would ask how i knew so many women whenever I would throw birthday parties. Not only do women gravitate toward you more when they don’t feel like they’re being hounded on like a dog... but more importantly, women bring around even more women. It’s an amazing psychological cycle. All it takes is not being a douche
Men and women can be friends as long as they don't like each other. It's a tough subject because you have to look at the reason why a man and woman became friends in the first place.
I've smashed girls I wasn't attracted to before... Men don't have to like a woman to smash.
It’s really not that hard to have female friends just have self control
That's the point. Most people lack that self control when presented with temptation.
If you have to have “self control” to be friend with someone, it’s not that easy. Lmao.
Steve spoke to 99% Charlemagne must be the 1%. Charlemagne knows more men like wax not like himself and those men would 100% sleep with a female friend if the opportunity presented itself.
Funny thing is Charla probably isn't in that that 1%. He cheated for the majority of his relationship and there's no way that every single one of them was a stranger. I rock w him but he's acting high and mighty now when most likely he's done exactly what Steve talked about
I always thought of Charlemagne Tha God as a rap/hip-hop radio host. I didn’t realize he was a comedian or funny as a comedian until i started listening to this podcast. I listen to a lot of podcast on my phone and this podcast is the funniest. It helps that Andrew Schulz is one of my favourite comedians. Charlemagne and Schulz make the perfect connection for a comedy/headline podcast.