I don't drink alcohol, I don't play football and I don't like to go out to parties. I don't go to parties because I don't like social situations, It's so stressful. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us, You're very wise and You have great intelligence.
@@CoralReefkid Try hang gliding, it's *really* cool, it's awesome! It's also dangerous as all holy huckin' Hades and you can really bust your ass. Ask me how I know :) hehehe Of course if you like dirt bikes then you already know what I'm getting at :)
@Onetakelifestyle3323 I do hit the gym 3-4 times a week in the a.m before work. Earbuds in and lift for an hour. Once I'm home from work, I don't see another soul until the following morning
Never liked crowds or large gatherings but went along in my youth because i thought that’s how you got along. Embracing my introversion now and just refusing to enter those situations. It sucks a bit because I used to enjoy the cinema and concerts, but 99/100 other people ruin it for me for the reasons you mentioned here. Happy to be a boring introvert these days, I don’t care anymore.
I decided I wanted to go to the cinema recently. Then I realised the last time I was in a cinema was 7 years ago and it was spoilt by people talking on phones,who I nearly got into fights with when I told them to be quiet and they got aggressive. So swiftly decided to abandon that plan and just save the aggro and cash and wait until I could stream it online.
@ Yep. Last film I went to see was Dune 2 and a drug dealer had based himself there for the night, was on the phone during first half of the movie, had ppl coming in & out to meet him & buy their shit etc. He left about halfway through. Unreal. It’s either a dealer or people talking, making noise with snacks, getting up every 5 mins to go out for snacks or to take a piss 😂 I’m done.
I never liked being around crowds to begin with. Ever since I can remember, I was always most content quietly sitting somewhere in the corner, doing my own thing, minding my own business, much to my parents' displeasure. They fumed with anger and aggression because of it. According to them, such behavior is not "normal". They never provided any objective reasoning behind it, just screamed at me like animals.
Which is already a red flag. If you can't explain what 'normal' is meant to be and provide tips on how to become 'normal', then HOW can you expect others to do the same? Expecting them to automatically get it is slacking, and an issue that many need to wake up from. Being 'normal' is overrated and it's best to let people do their own thing because if they're forced into doing stuff they don't want? That's asking for a lot of issues later down the line. To me, if I ever had a kid and they didn't wanna hang out with crowds? That's fine, I would just wanna make sure they were alright, nothing was bothering them, and make sure they were safe. Because in the end? If they can find a way to survive in the world and be content with their own life? Then that should be the major end goal for a parent.
im disabled and cannot be in loud spaces anymore, the quietness is unbeatable, i feel like my mind and thoughts can breathe. its also really nice to learn about yourself when you're alone, be critical and understand your own weaknesses so they dont pop up as much. id personally have at least one friend, but life isnt perfect, i just cannot handle the drama and loudness, physically and mentally. sometimes im thankful for my hearing damage because ive learned from it
Well it doesn't help that the masses have become seriously sketchy too on top of being rude, annoying and entitled. My days off I don't leave my apartment
To avoid crowds: - I only go to restaurants on week days, if they serve barbecue on weekends I´m the first to step into the restaurant. I´m the first to leave as well. - I never ever go to the gym at peak time. Only on afternoons before 3 P.M. - I shop online (shoes, sneakers, trousers, shirts). - At supermarkets, I use self-checkout, few people use them here, they like cashiers. I go on week days as well.
I went to Covent Garden at Christmas......it was horrible trying to get through the crowds and watching quite a few women flinch as they assumed that I was going to snatch their hand bags (I'm black born south London)....I just got back on the train back to Kent...Never again!!!!!
I don’t trust my own people, let alone strangers. You experienced what we call ”pattern recognition”. You can’t keep cats and dogs in the same enclosure. Same goes with people. Until we all get back to our own native places, this will get worse and worse. Mixed societies are a nightmare and à recipe for disaster. I so’wish I was wrong, but I’m not, unfortunately. We are not wise nor benevolent enough for such things to be viable.
Completely agree.... In Brussels, they burn car's every New-Year to celebrate, and then fire-workers want to intervene and fights break out... what's wrong with society???
Society has heaped responsibility and accountability onto men, all the while stripping them of any authority. Men have simply stopped being a part of society because not playing the game is the only way to keep your sanity.
there are few more dangerous places you can find yourself than in a crowded space. Humans sense of social responsibility vanishes and no one will help you or get involved if there is a problem. They turn and walk away, "not my issue someone else will help"
If I have to be with people I prefer to be a one to one, at a push I can handle a small group of three, but any more than that it becomes a uncomfortable crowd. I feel the conversation becomes more superficial with each growing number to the group. And that's fine if that's what most people want, but its not for me. I find having one to one interactions facilitates a deeper more meaningful exchange, the more people that are added to the conversation I find the lesser the quality of interaction. In groups usually there will be one that will start dictating the pace, dominating the narrative, in groups invariably everybody starts talking over each other and interrupting, nobody is really interested in what others have got to say. The shy or introverted becomes invisible and nobody is interested in asking them anything.. There becomes no space or no pause in the constant nattering which I think can become trivial noise. You wont be heard in group settings unless you join the flock by interrupting or shouting louder. I don't want to be in a situation where I have to fight to be heard. I am confident and can be assertive as the next person, but I ask myself what am I trying to do if I find myself in that situation competing with others just to have my say in a group setting. I would feel I was loosing the will to live and crave some solitude. I no longer let myself fall into those situations and take active steps in order tom avoid groups, for me now in my mature years the last place I want to be is in a crowd.
The last couple of parties I've attended over the last decade or so, have all turned into left-wing political rallies at some point or just non-stop whining about this and that. I don't need the negative energy.
I have the opposite problem in my town. It's mostly loud drunk hicks and tweakers. If I'm not at work I'm at home doing jays while hanging out in a bathrobe.
I don't mind crowds per se, because I live in a civilized part of the world. I'm not writing this to be cheeky, just providing another perspective from another city: I'm in a small Black Sea city called Batumi, Georgia. People are everywhere. Georgians, Russians, Belarusians, Ukrainians living in peace. I've never seen an incident of any kind. I have seen some anti-Russian grafitti, but that's about it. Russians basically have invested a lot here in the past few decades and this place benefits hugely from Russian tourism. According to Numbeo, Batumi is perceived as safer than Tokyo. I would be inclined to agree, based on my experiences in Tokyo. Anyway, the UK needs at least 40 years to fully recover if it ever does, so it's probably better to live in the countryside -- or come to Georgia and pay 1% income tax on most kinds of online income. It's not that I enjoy crowds, but shady people are generally not a concern here. I do however always keep my keys+wallet in a zipped pocket, same as everywhere else. I'm a Norwegian citizen living over here and I don't bother visiting my home country anymore, because the family gatherings are completely predictable and have no tangible value. If someone wants to call me, send me a message, or send me an e-mail, they can feel free to do so at any time. But of course, very few do. I wouldn't mind living in a place with fewer people than here, however I don't drive, and I would lose my access to occasional food delivery and large supermarkets.
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Honestly I usually avoid these videos, because I feel as though it is a self reinforcing concept that inhibits growth, but I am now 38 years old, and have been used and thrown out by literally everyone I've met in life. Crowds are not a problem for me, I can be get charismatic and confident, and at 38 I still have young 20 somethings who date me, but I learned long ago that most of the reason to go into crowds was to feel enthusiasm of the crowd, and to treat oneself to luxuries that honestly are not that great. It is nice to eat a meal soemone else made, but I've also had my own farm and garden for over 15 years, so I can taste the low quality in food when I eat anywhere except my kitchen and the elite restaurants that I sell to. The majority of people travel just so they can take a picture, or have something to talk about to impress their friends because they otherwise lack a purpose and personality. I'm a workaholic too, even if I could keep a girl, she would know that my only interest is in bettering my environment. There is no room for frivilous behaviors, everything has to be accounted for and minimized in expense for most efficiency. Crowds prove how sick our society is based on the waste and disregard of their environment. Plus where I live, near seattle, there are countless homeless everywhere, and that is why I live far away from the city, and avoid going there for "fun" because it's almost a hazard to walk through the city these days, especially at night. Doing what other people do is for morons, unless you have a financial incentive or promotional audience to please I don't see crowds as a meaningful experience, crowds and current society's standards are soul crushing luxuries that should be avoided, especially as personal rewards, because a lot of people live for the weekend, to escape, to do what they see everyone else doing, and those are the people I avoid the most.
I agree with you but I don't know why you make it a "men issue". You don't know how much unwanted, rude attention a woman by herself can experience. It's like walking with a target 🎯 on your back. I think empaths get burned out after decades of dealing with narcissists regardless of genders and that good manners have become a thing of the past thanks to social media and politicians too. I used to enjoy concerts and I remember Van Morrison threatening the audience to leave the stage if people couldn't shut up 😂
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I rather stay in my lane than interacting with the masses
Amen to that
Feels like it only serves as a hindering thing
"Do you hate people? I do not hate them. I just feel better when they aren't around."
~Charles Bukowski
Your clearly a loser my guy 😂
People in groups are untrustworthy liabilities, too many variables.
I don't drink alcohol, I don't play football and I don't like to go out to parties. I don't go to parties because I don't like social situations, It's so stressful. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us, You're very wise and You have great intelligence.
This is why I ride dirt bikes. Its all about you and your mind
I jump rope love it soo much fun that or lifting weights I try to go early in the morning to avoid folks
@@MajesticLawnGnomejust come bk from gym same mindset 😂
@@CoralReefkid Try hang gliding, it's *really* cool, it's awesome! It's also dangerous as all holy huckin' Hades and you can really bust your ass. Ask me how I know :) hehehe
Of course if you like dirt bikes then you already know what I'm getting at :)
I'm just tired of everyone's bullshit. I want to be left alone. That is all
Bro., that’s exactly my thought., once you get screwed over enough you get that way 🫡
@Onetakelifestyle3323 that's every day, I don't wanna deal with really anyone. Work my 8, come home and repeat.
@@Conflict1922 same minus the gym
@Onetakelifestyle3323 I do hit the gym 3-4 times a week in the a.m before work. Earbuds in and lift for an hour. Once I'm home from work, I don't see another soul until the following morning
@@Conflict1922 I’m pretty much the same. And I like it that way
Never liked crowds or large gatherings but went along in my youth because i thought that’s how you got along. Embracing my introversion now and just refusing to enter those situations.
It sucks a bit because I used to enjoy the cinema and concerts, but 99/100 other people ruin it for me for the reasons you mentioned here.
Happy to be a boring introvert these days, I don’t care anymore.
I decided I wanted to go to the cinema recently. Then I realised the last time I was in a cinema was 7 years ago and it was spoilt by people talking on phones,who I nearly got into fights with when I told them to be quiet and they got aggressive. So swiftly decided to abandon that plan and just save the aggro and cash and wait until I could stream it online.
@ Yep. Last film I went to see was Dune 2 and a drug dealer had based himself there for the night, was on the phone during first half of the movie, had ppl coming in & out to meet him & buy their shit etc. He left about halfway through. Unreal. It’s either a dealer or people talking, making noise with snacks, getting up every 5 mins to go out for snacks or to take a piss 😂 I’m done.
I never liked being around crowds to begin with. Ever since I can remember, I was always most content quietly sitting somewhere in the corner, doing my own thing, minding my own business, much to my parents' displeasure. They fumed with anger and aggression because of it. According to them, such behavior is not "normal". They never provided any objective reasoning behind it, just screamed at me like animals.
Which is already a red flag. If you can't explain what 'normal' is meant to be and provide tips on how to become 'normal', then HOW can you expect others to do the same? Expecting them to automatically get it is slacking, and an issue that many need to wake up from. Being 'normal' is overrated and it's best to let people do their own thing because if they're forced into doing stuff they don't want? That's asking for a lot of issues later down the line. To me, if I ever had a kid and they didn't wanna hang out with crowds? That's fine, I would just wanna make sure they were alright, nothing was bothering them, and make sure they were safe. Because in the end? If they can find a way to survive in the world and be content with their own life? Then that should be the major end goal for a parent.
@@theshipper5797 Hear hear! 👏
im disabled and cannot be in loud spaces anymore, the quietness is unbeatable, i feel like my mind and thoughts can breathe. its also really nice to learn about yourself when you're alone, be critical and understand your own weaknesses so they dont pop up as much. id personally have at least one friend, but life isnt perfect, i just cannot handle the drama and loudness, physically and mentally. sometimes im thankful for my hearing damage because ive learned from it
I agree with everything you said. Society is just obnoxious now.
No it’s not. You are a loser my guy 😂
I only want one thing from people; don't bother me, and stay out of my business!
Well it doesn't help that the masses have become seriously sketchy too on top of being rude, annoying and entitled. My days off I don't leave my apartment
To avoid crowds:
- I only go to restaurants on week days, if they serve barbecue on weekends I´m the first to step into the restaurant. I´m the first to leave as well.
- I never ever go to the gym at peak time. Only on afternoons before 3 P.M.
- I shop online (shoes, sneakers, trousers, shirts).
- At supermarkets, I use self-checkout, few people use them here, they like cashiers. I go on week days as well.
Ilu ty
If only extraverts knew how methodical us introverts are at avoiding them lol. They really are taxing.
I do this too
Crowds are a liability and most people honestly annoy me.
A good proverb. To be well adjusted to a sick society is not well adjusted
I went to Covent Garden at Christmas......it was horrible trying to get through the crowds and watching quite a few women flinch as they assumed that I was going to snatch their hand bags (I'm black born south London)....I just got back on the train back to Kent...Never again!!!!!
As long as you know you're a good person and wouldn't do such a thing, that's all that matters.....fellow person of colour here
I don’t trust my own people, let alone strangers. You experienced what we call ”pattern recognition”.
You can’t keep cats and dogs in the same enclosure. Same goes with people. Until we all get back to our own native places, this will get worse and worse.
Mixed societies are a nightmare and à recipe for disaster. I so’wish I was wrong, but I’m not, unfortunately. We are not wise nor benevolent enough for such things to be viable.
Every sensible person comes to that crossroads ;-)
It's super comfy alone in my apartment with a video game. 😊
It really is!
I’m 49 now I ain’t got much time for people anymore. People lost character went robo
"Shiny happy people holding hands"🤣
Same reasons why I hate driving on the road in the daytime.
I hated crowds my whole life. For 52 years now.
The world's a beautiful place, it's the people in it that fuck it up.
Completely agree.... In Brussels, they burn car's every New-Year to celebrate, and then fire-workers want to intervene and fights break out... what's wrong with society???
Society has heaped responsibility and accountability onto men, all the while stripping them of any authority. Men have simply stopped being a part of society because not playing the game is the only way to keep your sanity.
Thanks!
Thanks so much 💙🙏🏻
Luckily I’m not popular and never get invited anywhere 😊
there are few more dangerous places you can find yourself than in a crowded space. Humans sense of social responsibility vanishes and no one will help you or get involved if there is a problem. They turn and walk away, "not my issue someone else will help"
I wish they had an outlet for everyone. If you live near the beach you usually can just realize for cheap, but inland the cities don't offer much.
So true 💯
😂😂😂😂😂
I've turn down many affairs. parties been invited to.
If I have to be with people I prefer to be a one to one, at a push I can handle a small group of three, but any more than that it becomes a uncomfortable crowd. I feel the conversation becomes more superficial with each growing number to the group. And that's fine if that's what most people want, but its not for me.
I find having one to one interactions facilitates a deeper more meaningful exchange, the more people that are added to the conversation I find the lesser the quality of interaction. In groups usually there will be one that will start dictating the pace, dominating the narrative, in groups invariably everybody starts talking over each other and interrupting, nobody is really interested in what others have got to say. The shy or introverted becomes invisible and nobody is interested in asking them anything.. There becomes no space or no pause in the constant nattering which I think can become trivial noise.
You wont be heard in group settings unless you join the flock by interrupting or shouting louder. I don't want to be in a situation where I have to fight to be heard. I am confident and can be assertive as the next person, but I ask myself what am I trying to do if I find myself in that situation competing with others just to have my say in a group setting. I would feel I was loosing the will to live and crave some solitude.
I no longer let myself fall into those situations and take active steps in order tom avoid groups, for me now in my mature years the last place I want to be is in a crowd.
Quality is better than quantity
The last couple of parties I've attended over the last decade or so, have all turned into left-wing political rallies at some point or just non-stop whining about this and that. I don't need the negative energy.
I bet a lot of these people were middle and upper middle class hipsters living in North London!
I have the opposite problem in my town. It's mostly loud drunk hicks and tweakers. If I'm not at work I'm at home doing jays while hanging out in a bathrobe.
Live in the countryside, it's amazing! Cities are shite, especially in the UK.
Everything is just to much now I don't like busy places with crowds like cities your only asking for trouble in today's society
I live in Stockholm sweden this summer i will move up north to a smaller town
I discovered after I'd retired. 😮
Ive avoided crowds since 1990.
An Austin, Texas thing!😅
I finish my work get supplies and go home, I'm happier 😂
Well done .
Yeah it’s shallow. “So what do you do?” 🤯
Don't forget the obligatory "How much do you make?" and "How much do you have in the bank?" from people you don't know.
Certainly not a friendly atmosphere in London anymore 😢
I don't mind crowds per se, because I live in a civilized part of the world.
I'm not writing this to be cheeky, just providing another perspective from another city:
I'm in a small Black Sea city called Batumi, Georgia. People are everywhere.
Georgians, Russians, Belarusians, Ukrainians living in peace.
I've never seen an incident of any kind. I have seen some anti-Russian grafitti, but that's about it.
Russians basically have invested a lot here in the past few decades and this place benefits hugely
from Russian tourism.
According to Numbeo, Batumi is perceived as safer than Tokyo.
I would be inclined to agree, based on my experiences in Tokyo.
Anyway, the UK needs at least 40 years to fully recover if it ever does,
so it's probably better to live in the countryside -- or come to Georgia and pay
1% income tax on most kinds of online income.
It's not that I enjoy crowds, but shady people are generally not a concern here.
I do however always keep my keys+wallet in a zipped pocket, same as everywhere else.
I'm a Norwegian citizen living over here and I don't bother visiting my home country anymore,
because the family gatherings are completely predictable and have no tangible value.
If someone wants to call me, send me a message, or send me an e-mail, they can feel free to do so at any time.
But of course, very few do.
I wouldn't mind living in a place with fewer people than here, however I don't drive, and I would lose my access to occasional food delivery and large supermarkets.
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Don't forget yellow jacket wasps, those things are nasty when they sting you, it hurts like all hell
i dislike the fake laughing and interest. All they wanna do is have their nose in a cell phone.
Every time you say the word "crowd," replace it with "mob." That's why. 'Nuff said.
YEP
Now I understand why brock Lesnar don't like big groups people. Lone wolf here!
Lions not Sheep !
Masses are absolutely cooked rn
I'm just too weird
Honestly I usually avoid these videos, because I feel as though it is a self reinforcing concept that inhibits growth, but I am now 38 years old, and have been used and thrown out by literally everyone I've met in life. Crowds are not a problem for me, I can be get charismatic and confident, and at 38 I still have young 20 somethings who date me, but I learned long ago that most of the reason to go into crowds was to feel enthusiasm of the crowd, and to treat oneself to luxuries that honestly are not that great. It is nice to eat a meal soemone else made, but I've also had my own farm and garden for over 15 years, so I can taste the low quality in food when I eat anywhere except my kitchen and the elite restaurants that I sell to. The majority of people travel just so they can take a picture, or have something to talk about to impress their friends because they otherwise lack a purpose and personality.
I'm a workaholic too, even if I could keep a girl, she would know that my only interest is in bettering my environment. There is no room for frivilous behaviors, everything has to be accounted for and minimized in expense for most efficiency. Crowds prove how sick our society is based on the waste and disregard of their environment. Plus where I live, near seattle, there are countless homeless everywhere, and that is why I live far away from the city, and avoid going there for "fun" because it's almost a hazard to walk through the city these days, especially at night.
Doing what other people do is for morons, unless you have a financial incentive or promotional audience to please I don't see crowds as a meaningful experience, crowds and current society's standards are soul crushing luxuries that should be avoided, especially as personal rewards, because a lot of people live for the weekend, to escape, to do what they see everyone else doing, and those are the people I avoid the most.
I find them boring. Watching others associating with other ppl I laugh knowing it s all a joke. The most i stay if I go is 1 1/2 hr. And I go
I don’t like the subtitles. They’re distracting.
L O U I S I A N A.....what a dump.
Kinda sounds like todays modern women.
I agree with you but I don't know why you make it a "men issue". You don't know how much unwanted, rude attention a woman by herself can experience. It's like walking with a target 🎯 on your back.
I think empaths get burned out after decades of dealing with narcissists regardless of genders and that good manners have become a thing of the past thanks to social media and politicians too.
I used to enjoy concerts and I remember Van Morrison threatening the audience to leave the stage if people couldn't shut up 😂
Speak for yourself. I dig crowds. All those cuties to flirt with.
To many shootings an terrorist attacks especially in America
Rat City universe 25 Mickey Mouse Mind Engine set on over drive
Me me me
I I I
Eye eye eye
Main character syndrome