Words that my Filipina wife told me. With me, she is sleeping in a bed and not on the floor. This really opened my eyes to why the girls, women, and ladies in my area always smile and wave when they see me. You will learn a lot if you just listen.
@@rgtunderworldrgt7773 Not sure why you are attacking someone else's comments ? He is in no way is being disrespectful to anyone . He simply made a statement about his personal situation.
Calvin, you are so correct. I have met many, (lots of many) Filipinas on a couple of dating sites. Here's my advice to any man who is seriously looking. Do this: Be as kind, considerate, and as absolutely honest as you can be. Do that and don't be surprised if the Filipina you're chatting with spills her guts to you. She is PRAYING to find a good man. Find someone you like. Never send money. Use WhatsApp and "see" her everyday. Love her. No bullshit love. Love her!!! And you will be blessed.
@@ToddieM My personal rule: Never send money to anyone I have never met. My plan is to be with my online girlfriend as soon as possible. Im just waiting for tourism to open. How many millions of desperate people are there that i have never met? Once im in a "in presence" relationship that i am certain is worthy of committment then ill be happy to share.
"Two side from the same coin" excellent observation. We all make choices based on our own situation. Wanting a better life is not a sin for either people. Men don't like to hear that the security you bring to a relationship is what gets you into the game. It doesn't mean that they will never love you but that may only come later if you are a good man and she is a good women. Merry Christmas Calvin!
Very touching, and moving subject that you're speaking on. Sometimes here in the U.S. we forget or lose sight of just how difficult life is for many people daily in the Philippines. Actually for most of us, it's something that we can't wrap our brains around without seeing and experiencing it up close. Mr Calvin, I sincerely appreciate the compassion and sympathy that you always display for the Filipino people. Hopefully through some of your vlogs, possibly some foreign expats will think twice before hurting and carelessly breaking a loving hearted filipina that is only seeking for a better quality in life in a serious relationship.
Through two deaths (funerals), three serious hospital stays in a system where if you can’t pay you die, I told my girlfriend I don’t know what her and her family would have done had she not met me. But here’s the thing: God has a way of bringing the right people together at the right time. My girlfriend and her family are good honest people that would have inspired me to help them even if we were not involved. What are the odds of her meeting someone who could handle something like this and willingly do so?
Don't marry a bar girl. I've known that since the 80's and it still holds true. Bar girls are for fun. Good girls for marriage. Now I have first hand knowledge of this from friends to family including attempted murder of my son by a bar girls Filipino boyfriend but plain logic will tell you. Every bar girl has been raped, sexually abused even turned out by their own family to prostitute. Now what kind of mental problems do you think these girls carry behind those sweet smiles? A boat load and they will come out and show themselves sooner or later and the damage to you, your bank account even your children will be catastrophic. Prostitution is no joke in the destruction of these many times under age girls.
Calvin no one can dispute what you said about desperation from all perspectives. That is likely the case in a great majority of cases. Hell yes, I am desperate, sexually frustrated, lonely, all that bad shit. I think though, that even with that desperation, I would have a guilty conscience about chatting with Filipinas on these sites because I think it would be deceptive and creating false hope on either side. Especially in the case of a foreigner who cannot even travel to the country in the near future.
If you do a proper vetting of the girl and the family you won't have any surprises. Take your time. Look for sick family members, poor family, hidden children, hidden marriages, her own medical issues, her mental issues, etc. I decided that if I couldn't find a good girl then I would change my plans. I would look for a friend with benefits or maybe a discrete professional. Fortunately I found a good one, after a long search. Don't give up and don't settle for less than your expectations. You are in control. You are the prize.
Bro this is exactly what my filipina went through, she worked soooo hard as an overseas foreign worker, providing for her parents back in the Philippines, she worked in Singapore 🇸🇬 and worked 30 days straight with one day of each month, did this for years, until she had enough and came home, and turned to online in desperation mode like you said , never to work abroad again, then this is when I came in, sooooo true Calvin.
Why else would a beautiful young Filipina partner with some old guy who's 40 or 50 years older than her. I know some of those guys are doing what they can to put their girlfriend on her feet so that when they pass on she won;t be in such bad shape. They're the angels. There are others who prey on their girlfriends desperate situation.
Two sides to the same coin but what about the story in the middle. The story that you've written is found not only in the Philippines but in any "developing country". Calvin let us not forget that the USA is a welfare state and if it wasn't it would be no different than the Philippines. We do have young women who live in desperation and will also sell their soul to the guy you have described, the pervert. Calvin, the picture painted is true but lets remember this happens throughout the world. I do understand what you see being "boots on the ground" and one can appreciate the facts......job well done. In closing, 🍺🍺🍺🍺its still open, congratulations on your new home and how your lover appreciates what you've done for her, her elevation.....
Man you knocked this one out of the park! In American women desperation kicks in around 30-40. When they hit that wall or want kids or a ring and running out of time. And that’s just biological that’s not financial. They can take care of themselves if they have to. But we get a small glimpse of what desperation looks like when the impossible high standards girl suddenly marries the first average guy she can find after 30. How much more desperate is a broke filipina wanting a better life. It blows our minds that a young beautiful woman 22-25 might be desperate already. We can’t even imagine it. But she knows 25 isn’t that far away from 30. And while 30 year old Filipinas are great she knows her odds go down tremendously with age.
Only thing I'll piggyback on, both sides are products of a violent inhumane system that exploited both side and both side went through hell and high water. However, both sides were still optimistic to find something to get their life better and meaning, which results in crossing their paths. All of us deserves that clarity, acceptance and honesty so we don't get bug down on our daily.
YOU ALWAYS TALKING REALITY ABOUT EVERYTHING ABOUT THE LIFE THE OF YOURSELF, TO YOUR BELOVED FAMILY AND ALL THE THINGS AROUND YOU... YOU ARE VERY INSPIRED BECAUSE OF YOUR BELOVED FAMILY THAT REALLY ALWAYS MAKES YOU HAPPINESS, FOREVER...
Wow Calvin so informative, however, I don't want to get stepped on when I get there. I am at the end of my rope . So tired being caught in the destructive mode of American society.coming to Philippines is my hope that there's more to life than getting shot and killed by some idiot in America trying to take what little I have.being in the wild, wild west
Yeah, she might be driven by desperation, might be, but also driven by ambition and OPPORTUNITY. I f she can find that one foreigner -blind, crippled or crazy- who can take her away to a better life, she will seize that chance. Protect yourself at all times fellas until you get to know and trust her.
A poor person, no matter on what countries they are, they can do things beyond imaginable to a person who has not experience to be poor. Being poor in the US is different to be being poor in the Phils. For example, A poor person in the US has food stamp, free food for school children. In Phils, there is none.
Love all your video content, but this is by far the most inspiration message put out by you thus far that touch me on the true nature of a filipina behind the screen online.
Ohhhh yeah! True. In general, women, most places, will do everything to present a happy front on social media, but at home their sink has dirty plates and clothes wherever. Don't fall for it ya'll... in Philippines btw, 'hitting the wall' happens much earlier - age 25, should already be married and on the way to having kids.
This is one of your best vlogs. People will do whatever they need to do in order to survive. Maybe you reached some dude and gave him food for thought. Malagayan pasko brotherman.
Calvin, Great vlog and so very informative. I can definitely used this information. Appreciate you a lot my brother. Stay safe over there and good to see the Filipinos so resilient during these most difficult times. Marc
Mr Calvin that’s some real real nitty gritty. I don’t blame any woman who embarks on prostitution to feed themselves/survive. They aren’t stealing from anyone. There are a lot of desperate women in the Philippines who will smile and laugh with you and have you believe they are ok.
The role of us western men is to provide money, provision and support. That's what we're valued for. We're walking ATM's. The attractive Filipinas that make it to the western world against all the odds that I have seen and know personally have all ended up with high earning and/or wealthy men. The more attractive the woman the higher earning man she has been able to command. Wont give the below average to average guy a chance then which is why such a man having seen her behavior in the western world travels to her home country to find the abundance that she is able to find in his home country. Only difference is she is EARNING money by coming to the west and the man is SPENDING money by doing so. Not only can she earn more money herself coming to the western world but she then also has a mans money as well vs us men that travel to her country only having our own money which we then have to halve in order to support her, her family, her kids etc. No wonder we are treated so well in Thailand and The Philippines! Last time I checked no Filipina here in Australia is taking me out, paying for me, providing me with provision, support etc. Never happened despite me hanging out in the community for years now. Wont ever happen. These young women's phones are blowing up with incoming messages from men offering them money, support, everything. When I went to Thailand instead of hooking up with wealthy older people I hooked up with young and attractive people that I wouldn't and never had a chance with back home in the western world. It's all just so obvious now how each gender values the other. Men go for youth and beauty. Women go for money, resources, status and wealth. These relationships are a trade. The woman is trading her youth and beauty and the man is trading his wealth and resources. Notice how we never see young, attractive women trading their resources for older men? We never see women paying for men. We never see a Filipina travel to the western world, buy a house on land for a western man then get kicked to the curb and end up back in her home country with nothing. Never happens. When you see the world and each gender for how they are, by the actions they take and not what they say you can detach yourself from the whole thing. That's true freedom. If I travel to the Philippines and get into a relationship it will be about me providing wealth, resources and support. Same thing as in my home country unless I say no and refuse to deal on those terms. That leaves only 1 real option - paid sex. That's much cheaper in the long run I might add and much less risky as well.
@The Pretender Thailand "If I travel to the Philippines and get into a relationship it will be about me providing wealth, resources and support".. Yes well said in addition to that you are viewed as a bridge or a step stone to the dream world of opportunities in the West for her and possibly her entire family
Brother. I’ve been watching your videos all day. You have wisdom. You make it plain and don’t pull no punches. And I can tell you have a tender heart. Keep on keeping on.
The truth can be a hard pill to swallow, better have a tall glass of water. A very sad situation that will always be present. Those who have much will be held accountable for how they handle their resources. I hope many will see your channel and take your boots on the ground experience. God Bless you Calvin and your family. Merry Christmas brother
Thank you for answering my questions keep making your videos watching them God bless you thank you for taking time out to answer my question I will keep watching videos God bless you and your family
Merry Christmas! To Calvin and all the families. I want to thank you for speaking the truth and getting this video out there. These young girls are not looking for a older man, they are hoping for a better life from someone who can provide it and it has nothing to do with sex. The man is lusting, the young women hoping for security and a person who cares, no matter the age. To the men who wants a woman, just image if suddenly none to be found? Wouldn't you say, women are priceless?!
Calvin, there are other of our foreigner colleagues in Philippines with TH-cam channels that I sometimes watch but I always check yours when you upload because yours is different. Yours are insightful, inspiring and source of livelihood nitty gritty. Peace and respect to you
Ive been following you and love your channel even more. Helping the people if you can, is the key. many youtubers take the first boat out to the nearest spot and just say adoios, TH-camrs can help and have the power of influece to help. I appreciate your sensitivity to jamming a camera in peoples broken and ruined livelyhoods. Some youtubers use that to gain likes and views for moneytizing... keep it up Calvin. im in fights with other groups on this topic.
Congrats on 25k subs! I watched MANY of your vids 18 months ago.. and cool to see the growth of your channel. Curtis in Las Vegas (headed to Mazatlan Mexico next month), a young 55, recently retired Navy, a world explorer, who lived in the Phils 2015 to 2017 but 12 short vacations during my Navy career, and also lived in Thailand 2018. Good info for the Newbies and uninitiated. *Side note.. many many many educated Filipina's from good families, over 25 with college degrees who never had anything to do with BAR gil life, just sayin'. My ex gf makes more than me, works for Microsoft in Makati Manila.
Salamat for another nitty gritty message…i bet you never dreamed of your life now…neither did i and hopefully i finally found a good woman there…when i can get back time will tell…Maayong Pasko my friend from Derby City
Not all filipina are bar girls, Calvin. Mine is RN OFW in Kuwait and raising 3 boys and 1 girl in Cebu City. They have a Sari x2 store 2 blocks from their home, and three of the kids work the store while fourth kid is in Merchant Marine Academy. All are honor students and have scholarships
What video did you watch? That's not what I'm saying. Desperation forces a lot of Filipinas into online relationships, bar girls were an example of desperation in the country. Thanks
Merry Christmas sir. Would would please share, where you recorded this video? I have been in an on again, off again relationship with a wonderful Pilipino for 15 years. I have traveled to Cebu and Leyte. I can not see myself living in either of those places. It is my goal to finally make the move there in the next 4 months. I would like to try the Dumaguete area. How ever when I search the area on Google earth I see the same depressed neighborhoods. The area in this video seams to show houses that look to be in a nice area. Any help is appreciated.
Great Topic. Generally speaking the women tend to have a better understanding of "The Order" in Asia as a whole than the Americas. You are in a good place in terms of relationships✊
That was some good wisdom and perspective Calvin. Sometimes it helps to see things through her eyes. She wants the same thing we all want, a better life. Maybe by working together we can get there, we can all have that "better life" Call me crazy but I really believe that. If we hang to each other, and not give up,, we can all make it. We can all have our day in the sun. Thanks for showing is that the sun really does come out after the rain, it's a beautiful day to be alive.
@@muchit3629 who am I to say didn't want to sound judgmental. People do what they have to survive and it's sad all the way around for both party sides involved.
@@journeytheworld8848 your right being a foreigner is not the answer. But being a caring human being is. We in the west have not always had it so good, there was a lot of tragedy and failure, triumph and innovation along the way. Lots of "foreigners" (France, Mexico, Canada) reached out to help us get where we are today. So if we want to reach back to help those still struggling to climb into the light, I think that's ok. Interpersonaly, I don't believe either party has to sale their soul. There can be risk, but most worthwhile things involve risk. If two people want the same things, and are mutually beneficial to one another, I think that's beautiful. I haven't found that yet, but I still have hope. Maybe (if you don't already have it) you too will find that special spark. The girl next door, or maybe on the other side of the world.
@@johnsonjohan7 I've got a Filipino wife and we started years ago with the long distance writing letters before the internet. Now 31 years later still is a spark and sometimes fire... 🤣🤣🤣. Did the fun single thing but you can definitely see the real nature of some. I don't think it's the job of the US to come and help their country out economically or socially. The older generation Filipinos mindset is hard to overcome especially with the patriarchal society. The new generation there is hope but still there are so many problems that it seems when you come from a more industrialized or forward-thinking country you have to go back 10 or 15 years in thinking and that's probably just based on cultural differences but I don't know if I will plan to keep roots there as much as my wife would like. Very open-minded to explore other countries but if I experience the same I will remain in the good ole US of A.
Man this is a powerful eye opening post. That is the real nitty gritty boots on the ground Sunshine Shoulders as we know you Brother. It is the reason I am your fan since you started your channel. I used different Id then.
I have to disagree with Sunshine Shoulders on this one. It's not desperation that puts a Filipina into a bar. It's her hypergamy. She chooses to use sex as trade a natural currency to do an upgrade. Very different reasons. Most girls chose NOT to sell sex even if they are poor. That's a fact! Look, it's OK to have bargirls to be your companion to have fun but do not excuse them like he does or you will get disappointed down the road. Character and personal accountability maters at all level of society. From the poorest to the richest when it comes to marriage.
You're partially correct - "Most girls chose NOT to sell sex even if they are poor." But you're incorrect in thinking that it's hypergamy. It's poverty and desperation in many cases and not a lot of options, sometimes even the family encourages them into prostitution to get money. I agree that character and personal accountability matter and that's why you have to be careful about bargirls. Unfortunately, they're ruined and they know it.
@@pauls4742 It's hypergamy. By our western standards most Filipinos are born into and live in poverty. That's how they lived for centuries and millennia. They perfectly adopted to the lifestyle and can cope with it. They are skilled survivalist and also relying on resources from the community , friends and relatives. They do have a choice and do not have to do prostitution and most of them chose not to. There are exceptions ofc and forced prostitution by family but will not change the reality. I'm not judging them I'm just saying that in most cases it is hypergamy to upgrade her life using sex and companion as a bargirl to trade for resources and possible commitment and provisioning from men.
What about Filipina who is not online for these dating sites please said some about them even if they are on Facebook they still want tell you the truth about themselves so as to keep you in the dark. So tell that side of the story for us foreigners.
...you always keep it 💯. Sometimes it's hard for people to be vulnerable. I don't know about the Philippines yet but some of the ladies I have talked to seemed sincere. I'm probably only scratching the surface. I'll keep this in mind moving forward. I remember a girl asking me once could I sleep on a mattress on the floor? I told her I was in the army, I slept in a tent with six guys for over a year. I knew that was temporary. But I definitely can gain more perspective. She told me it's not like the internet.
Calvin I'll just say thanks for the information. I dabbled in the online sites for a time about 3 years ago. Turned off by it and chose to leave them alone. And even more so now based on what you have had on your channel discouraging men from that scene.
@@joehouston2833 Christian Filipina 😁😁😁 recommended from a guy who found his wife on their now not all em are genuine, but their are a few diamonds in the haystack from my past experiences with women I finally found a needle in the stack😐 after I get my passport which is in processing right now follow the BS travel guidelines I'll be there around April her area took a direct hit from Odette but luckily they survived 🙏 I'm 38 but financially sound she is 28 so age gap not too bad vs 50 or 40 something with early 20something or 18😳
Again, thank you Bro. Calvin for the nitty-gritty. Keep getting these "truths" out there so that new man or woman to the Philippines can learn what many of us learned, the hard way. Your platform is revolutionary in changing mens thinking about these relationships. It isn't necessary for us to leave a trail of broken hearts in our wake. Thank you for encouraging us to be better men.
1st great video and you are speaking the truth. I lived there for 2 years. I know you never said this but even the bar girls are still human. I never understood it until I started dating a girl in Singapore back in 2008. She was 18 and I was 32 but her Mom sent her to prostitute herself to keep her 7 siblings from starving. It really opened my eyes. She never prostituted herself and got a job in a local shop there. Most western men and women will never understand the true meaning of poverty and desperation and they never will until they go to a 3rd world country. I have a few more years before I will be back but if you have any morals or dignity at all you have to be careful who you jump in bed with, In America, I am a 47-year-old divorced bald-headed man. In the Philippines, I am an endangered species that can provide a new lifestyle for people. Now many will take advantage of that but I want to be careful that I find the right one.
Really enjoying your videos..you seem incredibly genuine authentic and insightful. There is no bitter toxicity or pettiness that I often see in other tubers. I think I have found the right one but, until I meet her in person, she will never be truly real. Thank you.
Merry Christmas to you too thank you for making you videos do you think mature that I can make it in just curious I got a little but do you think that I can live there very comfortable just curious
There have been Filipina bargirls for decades upon decades. It’s not the dirty old man’s fault, it’s the lifestyle of sink or swim with no safety net (ie: social programs) there in that poor country that causes the desperation and hopelessness. I’ve been a dirty old man since I was 20, first time there, but I don’t look at it like that because the money I shelled out did untold good for the girls that you call desperate.
You also said that we do more harm than good. If that be the case then what is left for those women? Selling gum and Hope cigarettes from a wooden tray on the sidewalk. We didn’t create their hopelessness and their Government doesn’t seem to care either. So what’s the answer? You saved a family by marrying one and sharing your money with them. That’s it bottom line
I think he means from a relationship point of view. Not banging bar girls and getting drunk buying cigarettes and gum from them walking down the street. Not like a port visit when the ship pulls in but and actual committed relationship.
@@scottsimpkins2200 you guys brought up good points. Some are into arrange marriages, some marry for love, others prioritize responsible spouses who can provide / support a family... etc. I guess it's all good as long as both parties get what they want and happy
Calvin. ... this is an eye opener to a lot of guys here in the United States...We get use to ladies here in the U.S. and I cannot count the times I have heard them say ( I didn't need a man ) ... And they brag about their Masters or PhD degree and are looking forward to their ( Hot girl summer ).We never think about the ladies in countries like the Philippines that has given up hope...There is something to the old saying ( out of sight- out of mind ).. Thanks for bringing it back to mind ....
Words that my Filipina wife told me. With me, she is sleeping in a bed and not on the floor. This really opened my eyes to why the girls, women, and ladies in my area always smile and wave when they see me. You will learn a lot if you just listen.
@@rgtunderworldrgt7773 Not sure why you are attacking someone else's comments ? He is in no way is being disrespectful to anyone . He simply made a statement about his personal situation.
@@rgtunderworldrgt7773 He is agreeing with Calvin .
@@rgtunderworldrgt7773 Thanks Karen
i just cant see supporting her family, support each other if married only.....
Calvin, you really know how to get the Deep issues behind our action. Thank you again for your work.
Thank you I'm glad you enjoyed the video.
Calvin, you are so correct. I have met many, (lots of many) Filipinas on a couple of dating sites. Here's my advice to any man who is seriously looking. Do this: Be as kind, considerate, and as absolutely honest as you can be. Do that and don't be surprised if the Filipina you're chatting with spills her guts to you. She is PRAYING to find a good man. Find someone you like. Never send money. Use WhatsApp and "see" her everyday. Love her. No bullshit love. Love her!!! And you will be blessed.
Why never send money if she truly needs it ?
@@ToddieM My personal rule: Never send money to anyone I have never met.
My plan is to be with my online girlfriend as soon as possible. Im just waiting for tourism to open. How many millions of desperate people are there that i have never met? Once im in a "in presence" relationship that i am certain is worthy of committment then ill be happy to share.
"Two side from the same coin" excellent observation. We all make choices based on our own situation. Wanting a better life is not a sin for either people. Men don't like to hear that the security you bring to a relationship is what gets you into the game. It doesn't mean that they will never love you but that may only come later if you are a good man and she is a good women. Merry Christmas Calvin!
I totally agree with everything you said
Very touching, and moving subject that you're speaking on. Sometimes here in the U.S. we forget or lose sight of just how difficult life is for many people daily in the Philippines. Actually for most of us, it's something that we can't wrap our brains around without seeing and experiencing it up close. Mr Calvin, I sincerely appreciate the compassion and sympathy that you always display for the Filipino people. Hopefully through some of your vlogs, possibly some foreign expats will think twice before hurting and carelessly breaking a loving hearted filipina that is only seeking for a better quality in life in a serious relationship.
Don....it happens in the USA...
Yeah, I know a women in Cebu and after the typhoon, life has been harder on her and family.
Of course, for a Filipina to desire a better life for a westerner, she has passed up countless local Filipino guys.
They dont want you to know that they are chatting to other males on line.
You are probably chatting with other women online too, don’t lie!
Through two deaths (funerals), three serious hospital stays in a system where if you can’t pay you die, I told my girlfriend I don’t know what her and her family would have done had she not met me. But here’s the thing: God has a way of bringing the right people together at the right time. My girlfriend and her family are good honest people that would have inspired me to help them even if we were not involved. What are the odds of her meeting someone who could handle something like this and willingly do so?
Don't marry a bar girl. I've known that since the 80's and it still holds true. Bar girls are for fun. Good girls for marriage.
Now I have first hand knowledge of this from friends to family including attempted murder of my son by a bar girls Filipino boyfriend but plain logic will tell you. Every bar girl has been raped, sexually abused even turned out by their own family to prostitute. Now what kind of mental problems do you think these girls carry behind those sweet smiles? A boat load and they will come out and show themselves sooner or later and the damage to you, your bank account even your children will be catastrophic.
Prostitution is no joke in the destruction of these many times under age girls.
Calvin no one can dispute what you said about desperation from all perspectives. That is likely the case in a great majority of cases. Hell yes, I am desperate, sexually frustrated, lonely, all that bad shit. I think though, that even with that desperation, I would have a guilty conscience about chatting with Filipinas on these sites because I think it would be deceptive and creating false hope on either side. Especially in the case of a foreigner who cannot even travel to the country in the near future.
But you might have a friend that may be interested in one of those ladies.
I agree strongly. Why play with their emotions? They love easy and they love hard.
@KinteDynasty Very well said!!!
"Hurt more than we help even if good intention"
That really made sense
If you do a proper vetting of the girl and the family you won't have any surprises. Take your time.
Look for sick family members, poor family, hidden children, hidden marriages, her own medical issues, her mental issues, etc.
I decided that if I couldn't find a good girl then I would change my plans. I would look for a friend with benefits or maybe a discrete professional.
Fortunately I found a good one, after a long search.
Don't give up and don't settle for less than your expectations. You are in control. You are the prize.
You have the best advice bro!
Bro this is exactly what my filipina went through, she worked soooo hard as an overseas foreign worker, providing for her parents back in the Philippines, she worked in Singapore 🇸🇬 and worked 30 days straight with one day of each month, did this for years, until she had enough and came home, and turned to online in desperation mode like you said , never to work abroad again, then this is when I came in, sooooo true Calvin.
Hello from Texas! Thanks Calvin! Great video
Why else would a beautiful young Filipina partner with some old guy who's 40 or 50 years older than her. I know some of those guys are doing what they can to put their girlfriend on her feet so that when they pass on she won;t be in such bad shape. They're the angels. There are others who prey on their girlfriends desperate situation.
Two sides to the same coin but what about the story in the middle. The story that you've written is found not only in the Philippines but in any "developing country". Calvin let us not forget that the USA is a welfare state and if it wasn't it would be no different than the Philippines. We do have young women who live in desperation and will also sell their soul to the guy you have described, the pervert. Calvin, the picture painted is true but lets remember this happens throughout the world. I do understand what you see being "boots on the ground" and one can appreciate the facts......job well done. In closing, 🍺🍺🍺🍺its still open, congratulations on your new home and how your lover appreciates what you've done for her, her elevation.....
You are correct and I live in the Philippines so my vlogs are specific to the country.
Man you knocked this one out of the park! In American women desperation kicks in around 30-40. When they hit that wall or want kids or a ring and running out of time. And that’s just biological that’s not financial. They can take care of themselves if they have to. But we get a small glimpse of what desperation looks like when the impossible high standards girl suddenly marries the first average guy she can find after 30. How much more desperate is a broke filipina wanting a better life.
It blows our minds that a young beautiful woman 22-25 might be desperate already. We can’t even imagine it. But she knows 25 isn’t that far away from 30. And while 30 year old Filipinas are great she knows her odds go down tremendously with age.
Only thing I'll piggyback on, both sides are products of a violent inhumane system that exploited both side and both side went through hell and high water. However, both sides were still optimistic to find something to get their life better and meaning, which results in crossing their paths. All of us deserves that clarity, acceptance and honesty so we don't get bug down on our daily.
YOU ALWAYS TALKING REALITY ABOUT EVERYTHING ABOUT THE LIFE THE OF YOURSELF, TO YOUR BELOVED FAMILY AND ALL THE THINGS AROUND YOU... YOU ARE VERY INSPIRED BECAUSE OF YOUR BELOVED FAMILY THAT REALLY ALWAYS MAKES YOU HAPPINESS, FOREVER...
Thanks so much you are correct. I told my gf the same thing last night. Merry Christmas
Wow Calvin so informative, however, I don't want to get stepped on when I get there.
I am at the end of my rope . So tired being caught in the destructive mode of American society.coming to Philippines is my hope that there's more to life than getting shot and killed by some idiot in America trying to take what little I have.being in the wild, wild west
Good Job Sunshine...... Thank You.....
Yeah, she might be driven by desperation, might be, but also driven by ambition and OPPORTUNITY. I f she can find that one foreigner -blind, crippled or crazy- who can take her away to a better life, she will seize that chance.
Protect yourself at all times fellas until you get to know and trust her.
I respect the Bar girl more than the Scammer that's for damn sure.
A poor person, no matter on what countries they are, they can do things beyond imaginable to a person who has not experience to be poor. Being poor in the US is different to be being poor in the Phils. For example, A poor person in the US has food stamp, free food for school children. In Phils, there is none.
So tragic.
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I really appreciate your honesty not holding anything back is what we really need the adulterated truth too old to make any more mistakes 🌄🦍
Love all your video content, but this is by far the most inspiration message put out by you thus far that touch me on the true nature of a filipina behind the screen online.
Ohhhh yeah! True. In general, women, most places, will do everything to present a happy front on social media, but at home their sink has dirty plates and clothes wherever. Don't fall for it ya'll... in Philippines btw, 'hitting the wall' happens much earlier - age 25, should already be married and on the way to having kids.
This is one of your best vlogs. People will do whatever they need to do in order to survive. Maybe you reached some dude and gave him food for thought. Malagayan pasko brotherman.
Calvin,
Great vlog and so very informative. I can definitely used this information. Appreciate you a lot my brother. Stay safe over there and good to see the Filipinos so resilient during these most difficult times.
Marc
Happy holidays, Calvin! And thank you for hitting us with the nitty-gritty and some reality! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas!😎🙏
Mr Calvin that’s some real real nitty gritty.
I don’t blame any woman who embarks on prostitution to feed themselves/survive. They aren’t stealing from anyone.
There are a lot of desperate women in the Philippines who will smile and laugh with you and have you believe they are ok.
I know that politics is not allowed.
The role of us western men is to provide money, provision and support. That's what we're valued for. We're walking ATM's. The attractive Filipinas that make it to the western world against all the odds that I have seen and know personally have all ended up with high earning and/or wealthy men. The more attractive the woman the higher earning man she has been able to command. Wont give the below average to average guy a chance then which is why such a man having seen her behavior in the western world travels to her home country to find the abundance that she is able to find in his home country. Only difference is she is EARNING money by coming to the west and the man is SPENDING money by doing so. Not only can she earn more money herself coming to the western world but she then also has a mans money as well vs us men that travel to her country only having our own money which we then have to halve in order to support her, her family, her kids etc. No wonder we are treated so well in Thailand and The Philippines! Last time I checked no Filipina here in Australia is taking me out, paying for me, providing me with provision, support etc. Never happened despite me hanging out in the community for years now. Wont ever happen. These young women's phones are blowing up with incoming messages from men offering them money, support, everything.
When I went to Thailand instead of hooking up with wealthy older people I hooked up with young and attractive people that I wouldn't and never had a chance with back home in the western world. It's all just so obvious now how each gender values the other. Men go for youth and beauty. Women go for money, resources, status and wealth. These relationships are a trade. The woman is trading her youth and beauty and the man is trading his wealth and resources.
Notice how we never see young, attractive women trading their resources for older men?
We never see women paying for men.
We never see a Filipina travel to the western world, buy a house on land for a western man then get kicked to the curb and end up back in her home country with nothing. Never happens.
When you see the world and each gender for how they are, by the actions they take and not what they say you can detach yourself from the whole thing. That's true freedom.
If I travel to the Philippines and get into a relationship it will be about me providing wealth, resources and support. Same thing as in my home country unless I say no and refuse to deal on those terms. That leaves only 1 real option - paid sex. That's much cheaper in the long run I might add and much less risky as well.
@The Pretender Thailand "If I travel to the Philippines and get into a relationship it will be about me providing wealth, resources and support".. Yes well said in addition to that you are viewed as a bridge or a step stone to the dream world of opportunities in the West for her and possibly her entire family
You are a sage
Brother. I’ve been watching your videos all day. You have wisdom. You make it plain and don’t pull no punches. And I can tell you have a tender heart. Keep on keeping on.
Thanks for your support
Damn. This talk was DEEP Calvin. Thanks! 😑
Merry Christmas to you and your family 🎄🎄🙏
Merry Xmas from ny Little snow shower here 0430am. Love ur videos Thanks
Merry Christmas Kevin
The truth can be a hard pill to swallow, better have a tall glass of water. A very sad situation that will always be present. Those who have much will be held accountable for how they handle their resources. I hope many will see your channel and take your boots on the ground experience. God Bless you Calvin and your family. Merry Christmas brother
"Those who have much will be held accountable for how they handle their resources."
Thanks for sharing valuable content Brother Calvin !
Merry Christmas
Thank you for answering my questions keep making your videos watching them God bless you thank you for taking time out to answer my question I will keep watching videos God bless you and your family
Merry Christmas! To Calvin and all the families. I want to thank you for speaking the truth and getting this video out there. These young girls are not looking for a older man, they are hoping for a better life from someone who can provide it and it has nothing to do with sex. The man is lusting, the young women hoping for security and a person who cares, no matter the age. To the men who wants a woman, just image if suddenly none to be found? Wouldn't you say, women are priceless?!
Sounds like both are using each other though. False pretenses.
Word
And so because of their desperation one has to ask does she really love me or simply love that I’ll play captain save a chick?
Absolutely. It's not love initially but it does develop in a lot of cases.
If you don't realize that then you must be slow
You would be surprised how little people know about the Philippines Einstein
Merry Christmas to you and your Family Calvin.
Calvin, there are other of our foreigner colleagues in Philippines with TH-cam channels that I sometimes watch but I always check yours when you upload because yours is different. Yours are insightful, inspiring and source of livelihood nitty gritty.
Peace and respect to you
Ive been following you and love your channel even more. Helping the people if you can, is the key. many youtubers take the first boat out to the nearest spot and just say adoios, TH-camrs can help and have the power of influece to help. I appreciate your sensitivity to jamming a camera in peoples broken and ruined livelyhoods. Some youtubers use that to gain likes and views for moneytizing... keep it up Calvin. im in fights with other groups on this topic.
Hi MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family and a happy new year
Which website do you go on. Blessings 🙌
Cebuanas.com, Filipina Cupid
Congrats on 25k subs! I watched MANY of your vids 18 months ago.. and cool to see the growth of your channel.
Curtis in Las Vegas (headed to Mazatlan Mexico next month), a young 55, recently retired Navy, a world explorer, who lived in the Phils 2015 to 2017 but 12 short vacations during my Navy career, and also lived in Thailand 2018.
Good info for the Newbies and uninitiated.
*Side note.. many many many educated Filipina's from good families, over 25 with college degrees who never had anything to do with BAR gil life, just sayin'. My ex gf makes more than me, works for Microsoft in Makati Manila.
Salamat for another nitty gritty message…i bet you never dreamed of your life now…neither did i and hopefully i finally found a good woman there…when i can get back time will tell…Maayong Pasko my friend from Derby City
Merry Christmas!
One thingI can tell honesty is the best policy.
Don't pretend who you are and bee true to yourself.that's what my husband feel inlove with me lol.
Merry Christmas to you and Frank!
Likewise Calvin.
I beleive you. Guys need to go slow, both physically and emotionally.
You are so right...thank you for sharing your thoughts..always kind & respectful to all folk..Respect Brother!!
Not all filipina are bar girls, Calvin. Mine is RN OFW in Kuwait and raising 3 boys and 1 girl in Cebu City. They have a Sari x2 store 2 blocks from their home, and three of the kids work the store while fourth kid is in Merchant Marine Academy. All are honor students and have scholarships
What video did you watch? That's not what I'm saying. Desperation forces a lot of Filipinas into online relationships, bar girls were an example of desperation in the country. Thanks
Thank you Calvin for the insight.
Merry Christmas sir. Would would please share, where you recorded this video? I have been in an on again, off again relationship with a wonderful Pilipino for 15 years. I have traveled to Cebu and Leyte. I can not see myself living in either of those places. It is my goal to finally make the move there in the next 4 months. I would like to try the Dumaguete area. How ever when I search the area on Google earth I see the same depressed neighborhoods. The area in this video seams to show houses that look to be in a nice area. Any help is appreciated.
San Carlos City, Negros Occidental
Great Topic. Generally speaking the women tend to have a better understanding of "The Order" in Asia as a whole than the Americas. You are in a good place in terms of relationships✊
That was some good wisdom and perspective Calvin. Sometimes it helps to see things through her eyes. She wants the same thing we all want, a better life.
Maybe by working together we can get there, we can all have that "better life"
Call me crazy but I really believe that.
If we hang to each other, and not give up,, we can all make it. We can all have our day in the sun.
Thanks for showing is that the sun really does come out after the rain, it's a beautiful day to be alive.
Great video
Foreigners can't be the answer to solving these people's problems. There is no easy answer but selling their soul is not one of them
@@muchit3629 who am I to say didn't want to sound judgmental. People do what they have to survive and it's sad all the way around for both party sides involved.
@@journeytheworld8848 your right being a foreigner is not the answer. But being a caring human being is. We in the west have not always had it so good, there was a lot of tragedy and failure, triumph and innovation along the way. Lots of "foreigners" (France, Mexico, Canada) reached out to help us get where we are today. So if we want to reach back to help those still struggling to climb into the light, I think that's ok. Interpersonaly, I don't believe either party has to sale their soul. There can be risk, but most worthwhile things involve risk. If two people want the same things, and are mutually beneficial to one another, I think that's beautiful. I haven't found that yet, but I still have hope. Maybe (if you don't already have it) you too will find that special spark. The girl next door, or maybe on the other side of the world.
@@johnsonjohan7 I've got a Filipino wife and we started years ago with the long distance writing letters before the internet. Now 31 years later still is a spark and sometimes fire... 🤣🤣🤣. Did the fun single thing but you can definitely see the real nature of some. I don't think it's the job of the US to come and help their country out economically or socially. The older generation Filipinos mindset is hard to overcome especially with the patriarchal society. The new generation there is hope but still there are so many problems that it seems when you come from a more industrialized or forward-thinking country you have to go back 10 or 15 years in thinking and that's probably just based on cultural differences but I don't know if I will plan to keep roots there as much as my wife would like. Very open-minded to explore other countries but if I experience the same I will remain in the good ole US of A.
This was deep. Excellent video
Man this is a powerful eye opening post. That is the real nitty gritty boots on the ground Sunshine Shoulders as we know you Brother. It is the reason I am your fan since you started your channel. I used different Id then.
Thanks for your support I'm glad you enjoyed the video.
I have to disagree with Sunshine Shoulders on this one. It's not desperation that puts a Filipina into a bar. It's her hypergamy. She chooses to use sex as trade a natural currency to do an upgrade. Very different reasons. Most girls chose NOT to sell sex even if they are poor. That's a fact! Look, it's OK to have bargirls to be your companion to have fun but do not excuse them like he does or you will get disappointed down the road. Character and personal accountability maters at all level of society. From the poorest to the richest when it comes to marriage.
Thanks for watching
You're partially correct - "Most girls chose NOT to sell sex even if they are poor." But you're incorrect in thinking that it's hypergamy. It's poverty and desperation in many cases and not a lot of options, sometimes even the family encourages them into prostitution to get money. I agree that character and personal accountability matter and that's why you have to be careful about bargirls. Unfortunately, they're ruined and they know it.
@@pauls4742 It's hypergamy. By our western standards most Filipinos are born into and live in poverty. That's how they lived for centuries and millennia. They perfectly adopted to the lifestyle and can cope with it. They are skilled survivalist and also relying on resources from the community , friends and relatives. They do have a choice and do not have to do prostitution and most of them chose not to. There are exceptions ofc and forced prostitution by family but will not change the reality. I'm not judging them I'm just saying that in most cases it is hypergamy to upgrade her life using sex and companion as a bargirl to trade for resources and possible commitment and provisioning from men.
Thats why I want to figure out how to get papers for them! Do you have any tips about getting one papers so i can marry them here?
One of the requirements for getting a visa is face to face in the last 2 years. You can help them apply for a tourist visa also.
@@calroach1 yeah I was thinking visa tourist and see if they can lock it down here some type of way but not sure.
Merry Holy days to you bro! Peace to all and love to all!
Wow, Calvin I love these beautiful morning walks in San Carlos! Ohh and of course your morning words of wisdom 👍. Merry Christmas 🎄 my friend!
What about Filipina who is not online for these dating sites please said some about them even if they are on Facebook they still want tell you the truth about themselves so as to keep you in the dark. So tell that side of the story for us foreigners.
❤ Love each other back to life. I like that Brother Calvin. Stay strong, Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 to you, your family and the Philippines.
Truth spoken right here
Preach it!
Hungry horse beautiful views
...you always keep it 💯. Sometimes it's hard for people to be vulnerable. I don't know about the Philippines yet but some of the ladies I have talked to seemed sincere. I'm probably only scratching the surface. I'll keep this in mind moving forward. I remember a girl asking me once could I sleep on a mattress on the floor? I told her I was in the army, I slept in a tent with six guys for over a year. I knew that was temporary. But I definitely can gain more perspective. She told me it's not like the internet.
Calvin I'll just say thanks for the information. I dabbled in the online sites for a time about 3 years ago. Turned off by it and chose to leave them alone. And even more so now based on what you have had on your channel discouraging men from that scene.
my Filipina was honest with me about her situation and I love her so much for it!
@@joehouston2833 Christian Filipina 😁😁😁 recommended from a guy who found his wife on their now not all em are genuine, but their are a few diamonds in the haystack from my past experiences with women I finally found a needle in the stack😐 after I get my passport which is in processing right now follow the BS travel guidelines I'll be there around April her area took a direct hit from Odette but luckily they survived 🙏 I'm 38 but financially sound she is 28 so age gap not too bad vs 50 or 40 something with early 20something or 18😳
Merry Christmas to you Calvin....good blessings to you from your friends on here
Again, thank you Bro. Calvin for the nitty-gritty. Keep getting these "truths" out there so that new man or woman to the Philippines can learn what many of us learned, the hard way. Your platform is revolutionary in changing mens thinking about these relationships. It isn't necessary for us to leave a trail of broken hearts in our wake. Thank you for encouraging us to be better men.
Calvin you are spitting 100% facts!
1st great video and you are speaking the truth. I lived there for 2 years. I know you never said this but even the bar girls are still human. I never understood it until I started dating a girl in Singapore back in 2008. She was 18 and I was 32 but her Mom sent her to prostitute herself to keep her 7 siblings from starving. It really opened my eyes. She never prostituted herself and got a job in a local shop there. Most western men and women will never understand the true meaning of poverty and desperation and they never will until they go to a 3rd world country. I have a few more years before I will be back but if you have any morals or dignity at all you have to be careful who you jump in bed with, In America, I am a 47-year-old divorced bald-headed man. In the Philippines, I am an endangered species that can provide a new lifestyle for people. Now many will take advantage of that but I want to be careful that I find the right one.
Have a Merry Christmas 🎅 👍🏽
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
See you soon
Merry Christmas to u and family and too all
Hello Calvin and Merry Christmas. My Filipina works seven days a week so she can care for her Parents and her younger Brother. Take care.
Really enjoying your videos..you seem incredibly genuine authentic and insightful. There is no bitter toxicity or pettiness that I often see in other tubers. I think I have found the right one but, until I meet her in person, she will never be truly real.
Thank you.
Good video Merry Christmas Calvin!
Merry Christmas to you too thank you for making you videos do you think mature that I can make it in just curious I got a little but do you think that I can live there very comfortable just curious
There have been Filipina bargirls for decades upon decades. It’s not the dirty old man’s fault, it’s the lifestyle of sink or swim with no safety net (ie: social programs) there in that poor country that causes the desperation and hopelessness. I’ve been a dirty old man since I was 20, first time there, but I don’t look at it like that because the money I shelled out did untold good for the girls that you call desperate.
I said it's desperation not dirty old men who push her into the bar. Thanks
@@calroach1 Ken coming?
You also said that we do more harm than good. If that be the case then what is left for those women? Selling gum and Hope cigarettes from a wooden tray on the sidewalk. We didn’t create their hopelessness and their Government doesn’t seem to care either. So what’s the answer? You saved a family by marrying one and sharing your money with them. That’s it bottom line
I think he means from a relationship point of view. Not banging bar girls and getting drunk buying cigarettes and gum from them walking down the street. Not like a port visit when the ship pulls in but and actual committed relationship.
@@scottsimpkins2200 you guys brought up good points. Some are into arrange marriages, some marry for love, others prioritize responsible spouses who can provide / support a family... etc. I guess it's all good as long as both parties get what they want and happy
Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas
Calvin you are a force to be reckoned with!! Thanks for taking the time to share your wisdom.
Merry Christmas Calvin
If you want trouble....Date a bargirl!
merry Christmas man .... I appreciate your wisdom of life and thank you for that
Thank you Calvin! So right 👍
Calvin. ... this is an eye opener to a lot of guys here in the United States...We get use to ladies here in the U.S. and I cannot count the times I have heard them say ( I didn't need a man ) ... And they brag about their Masters or PhD degree and are looking forward to their ( Hot girl summer ).We never think about the ladies in countries like the Philippines that has given up hope...There is something to the old saying ( out of sight- out of mind ).. Thanks for bringing it back to mind ....
We call these relationships everything but what they are “ a cry for help”. Dude this was HILARIOUS
I think you really hit it on the head, very honest and touching.
what a sweet message. one of a kind
Very real and honest vlog subject. Thanks for the "Nitty Gritty" Bro. Calvin!
Calvin this is by far your best video. I have seen almost all of them. Well done.
Thanks I'm glad you enjoyed it.
De-nile not just a river in Egypt
Really eye opening