Summary of the session (please do watch the video it is packed with benefits! Allahumma barik) Things that destroy communication: 1. Speaking too much (forcing it and not natural) 2. Hugging and taking the conversation (not giving others the opportunity to talk and loves his own voice) 3. Talking about yourself (praises himself as it belittles the others) 4. Heedless about the outcome of the speech. 5. Not taking peoples feelings into consideration. 6. Generalising criticism (Example: I’ve never seen you…) 7. Asking too many questions so you can catch them contradicting themselves. 8. Answering too quickly. 9. Giving your opinion on everything. 10. Having communication with certain people who you shouldn’t be having communication with. 11. Not considering the right time and environment when speaking. 12. Talking even if the person doesn’t want to listen. 13. Having repetition in your talk. 14. Belittling the person you are talking to. 15. Not ‘listening’ to the person speaking (there is a difference in hearing and listening, listening is when you have attention too) 16. Belittling the conversation itself. 17. Finishing off the conversation (the person doesn’t feel respected) 18. Leaving the conversation before the person has finished. 19. Hastening to jump to conclusions. 20. Not talking to youngsters as it teaches communication skills. 21. Talking about peoples honour. 22. Talking about non verified information and hastening to spread it. 23. Lying. 24. Taking information and criticism at face value without thinking about it. 25. Raising your voice (It doesn’t help getting the point across better) 26. Harshness in speech. 27. Harshness when criticising. 28. Not being able to distinguish between talking over phone and face to face. (Emotions and body language is not present over a text or call, so don’t talk about tough things over message) 29. Not knowing the manners of dialogue. Some of the manners listed below: a. Be sincere (should not have a hidden agenda) b. Don’t speak about their intentions (Saying: I know you meant this..) c. Don’t get angry d. Don’t boycott the conversation (Saying: I prefer not to hear..) e. Understand the emotions (Example: Give a tissue if crying) f. Be Fair (Accept your mistakes if you did one and don’t try to justify) g. Don’t challenge the person h. Not addressing the person by his name i. Don’t know the topic of the conversation. 30. Getting a point across to the person in presence of others. 31. Loving to oppose the person all the time. (Ustadh mentioned there are about 80 points and because time did not permit he could only cover 31 points)
What a lecture Shiekh, every point you made hit me straight into the heart and I am guilty of failing on all these points. My marriage failed because we did not implement all these points
جزاك الله خيرا My brother this Ummah, we have many illness and by Allahs tawfeeq and rahma, you are tackling them for our benefit and clarifying our mistakes. Teach the book, the Disease and the Cure by ibn Al Qayyim, rahim Allah, and now this series of classes are a huge benefit for thise seeking to rectify themselves. May Allah help us to be better Allahuma Ameen and may Allah grant you a long, beneficial, healthy life that you may benefit yourself and us with that which Allah blesses you with of knowledge of this beautiful deen. May Allah reward you with jannatul firdous and make it and easy journey for me and you and all the muslims...and send the salah and salam upon our Rasul. Allahuma Ameen
Allahumma barik shaykh’s enthusiasm when communicating with the crowd is also a lesson for us
Just love him
Summary of the session (please do watch the video it is packed with benefits! Allahumma barik)
Things that destroy communication:
1. Speaking too much (forcing it and not natural)
2. Hugging and taking the conversation (not giving others the opportunity to talk and loves his own voice)
3. Talking about yourself (praises himself as it belittles the others)
4. Heedless about the outcome of the speech.
5. Not taking peoples feelings into consideration.
6. Generalising criticism (Example: I’ve never seen you…)
7. Asking too many questions so you can catch them contradicting themselves.
8. Answering too quickly.
9. Giving your opinion on everything.
10. Having communication with certain people who you shouldn’t be having communication with.
11. Not considering the right time and environment when speaking.
12. Talking even if the person doesn’t want to listen.
13. Having repetition in your talk.
14. Belittling the person you are talking to.
15. Not ‘listening’ to the person speaking (there is a difference in hearing and listening, listening is when you have attention too)
16. Belittling the conversation itself.
17. Finishing off the conversation (the person doesn’t feel respected)
18. Leaving the conversation before the person has finished.
19. Hastening to jump to conclusions.
20. Not talking to youngsters as it teaches communication skills.
21. Talking about peoples honour.
22. Talking about non verified information and hastening to spread it.
23. Lying.
24. Taking information and criticism at face value without thinking about it.
25. Raising your voice (It doesn’t help getting the point across better)
26. Harshness in speech.
27. Harshness when criticising.
28. Not being able to distinguish between talking over phone and face to face. (Emotions and body language is not present over a text or call, so don’t talk about tough things over message)
29. Not knowing the manners of dialogue. Some of the manners listed below:
a. Be sincere (should not have a hidden agenda)
b. Don’t speak about their intentions (Saying: I know you meant this..)
c. Don’t get angry
d. Don’t boycott the conversation (Saying: I prefer not to hear..)
e. Understand the emotions (Example: Give a tissue if crying)
f. Be Fair (Accept your mistakes if you did one and don’t try to justify)
g. Don’t challenge the person
h. Not addressing the person by his name
i. Don’t know the topic of the conversation.
30. Getting a point across to the person in presence of others.
31. Loving to oppose the person all the time.
(Ustadh mentioned there are about 80 points and because time did not permit he could only cover 31 points)
JazaakiAllahu khayran for this very nice summary.
May Allah reward you for this, thank you :)
JazaakiAllahu khayran
BarakAllahu feeki!
Jazakallah khairan !! May Allah ease your affairs !
What a lecture Shiekh, every point you made hit me straight into the heart and I am guilty of failing on all these points. My marriage failed because we did not implement all these points
جزاك الله خيرا
My brother this Ummah, we have many illness and by Allahs tawfeeq and rahma, you are tackling them for our benefit and clarifying our mistakes. Teach the book, the Disease and the Cure by ibn Al Qayyim, rahim Allah, and now this series of classes are a huge benefit for thise seeking to rectify themselves. May Allah help us to be better Allahuma Ameen and may Allah grant you a long, beneficial, healthy life that you may benefit yourself and us with that which Allah blesses you with of knowledge of this beautiful deen. May Allah reward you with jannatul firdous and make it and easy journey for me and you and all the muslims...and send the salah and salam upon our Rasul. Allahuma Ameen
Al hamdulillah that islam teach us to watch our tongs.
Allaahumma baarik, we need more vidoes like this
Beautiful,
"wa hua yahdis sabeeeeel" ❤
Allahumma barik
Subhanallah 👍👍👍
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video starts 7:23
JazakAllaahu Khair
Um..no. You'd missed some benefits, hadith..
Want part 2 ...also
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30:30
Which shaders pack is this
بارك الله فيكم
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48:00
Is there sound ?
Starts after 7 mins
Sah☺️🤲👌❤️🤍💚☪️🐝🕊️