One of the most important lessons I ever learned is to not put more effort into a relationship than the other person is willing to give. Once I understood this, everything became clear.
That is real and golden. Lots of times we want to make others happy by doing things for them even going out of our way to do so, but it always backfired because they see it backwards. They see it as you trying to earn their approval they miss that it was done out of your love 4 them and your wanting to share that light. You want to give the gift of your love but it's not seen nor reciprocated properly. This has been my experience mostly with women. I guess people only cherish what they earn not what is given freely: they believe it has little to no value so it's discarded. That is why kindness is taken for weakness. Especially in this society where mostly power is respected and love is not seen correctly. It's sad and twisted but true. That is why it's hard to find true love. If you show you care to much people get so afraid they think your trying 2 get ownership of them. All this in a fleeting world. Instead of opening their hearts and leaving nothing behind unloved people rather be miserly.
@@emind0881 how would you like to be reciprocated? I am trying to become a better perso n and need attention and love but am not used to living in such an environment. I realize I need practice and hope people will give me a chance and not give up on me. I know it is a lot to ask but at least I am trying to be better.
@@dumalun8388 are you bad person? If you need attention it means you are compensating something. You need to ask yourself what? Love exists within you. Love is internal. That's something you need to discover on your own but of course it is easier if you are in love with someone, because then it's easy tk realise that love as feeling emanates from you. Blessings
"Because you are a constant reminder of what they hate the most about themselves." That is the most frequent source of conflict between two people. Similarly, when we want to flee a person or situation, that's an important moment to consider if they represent something we dislike about ourselves.
I find that letting go of the egotistical idea that others need you is the key. Walking away is really no longer playing into your ego. Freeing them as much as freeing yourself. They will survive and so too you.
Unless say, you brought a child into this world and they really do need the nurture and support that you can uniquely provide as their parent. That perception of being needed would not be egotistical.
Well tell that to my baby daddy who think he is the 2nd coming for going on almost 3 years now. He thinks he’s God. Oh and he think I’m mary Magdalena. He thinks he’s going to save humanity but he can’t even take care of his son. He has said on multiple occasions that if he doesn’t become what God said he would by a certain date then he will drop it but then he makes up another date, and another excuse, and says he cannot walk away or make promises to me anymore. Apparently eden will be restored in 20 years. I’m all for wanting to help others, and peace, and love but this situation has really made me dislike the idea of Jesus, and Christianity or religions like that. Why is there so much destruction in the name of God ? So many wars based off of someone saying they KNOW GOD and THIS IS THE WAY. Thanks for letting me vent TH-cam.
@@afriend621 Sure🥰 For the most part of my life I’ve lived in denial. I grew up hating my life, my parents and siblings. I was always the odd one out of any bunch. My dad was very critical of all of us, especially me. I could never do anything right and so I started to believe that. People called me weird just for being myself. I started to hate myself. Looking back I realize that I was and still am a sensitive and sensual person. Quite emotional and intuitive. It’s what makes me so creative and attentive. Qualities that make certain people nervous because it reminds them of what they’re missing out of in a way. Hating myself to the brink of wanting to end it all was very painful. Somehow I never really could kill myself and I felt guilty of even thinking of doing so. This life of mine wasn’t really mine I figured, and I knew that I would hurt the people I would’ve left behind very deeply. I became so depressed. Not wanting to take care of myself. Letting bills pile up, leaving my loved ones in the dark and feeling ever so worthless. Not being able to dream at night was the worst part of it. I would wake up and all I could feel was darkness. That was when I had decided i wanted my life back. I could not go on like this.. Being brought up with the Christian faith and abandoning it, made that dark hole in me even larger. My life spiraling out of orbit actually gave me a chance to be alone. Just me. I had to face me. I searched in the dark only to find out that the outer space had become my inner space. After a long time of self-pity I decided enough was enough. It took my almost 10 years to get back on my feet. Yet I started facing things head on. At first it was so intimidating but I knew that this was the only way for to really be the me I had always been. And so I became very honest, first with myself and then with others. Some people hated it and others loved it. The rejections I feared actually happened but didn’t feel so bad after all. Of course people left me only for others to return or meet me as I was. I stopped my successful cake business last year and started writing. People told me not to and I could see how money had a hold over them. The, according to my father, dumb lucrative business idea actually started open doors. I became freer with every step into my own direction. And now life is so beautiful. People still find me odd yet can’t help to love me just as much as I love them. When I walk the streets I see people looking at me as I greet them with a smile. They know I now have the magic and it reminds them of their own. And with that my friend I can say thank you for your curiosity! It gave me a chance to see more deeply into my journey and the path I’m on. Love for you and your loved ones, to all who have read this ❤️
When you have toxic parents who have ever used you as a dumping ground for all their fear and self loathing, then the only sensible thing to do is walk away. A toxic relationship is only ever going to stop you moving forward into enlightenment.
@@UmmattiMuhammadan bullshit. That karmic crap gets thrown around without any care of how it lands. People show up and get shit on others for a million reasons. We all must forgive but reconciliation is never mandatory!!
I am watching two girls six and twelve being abused...not physically They can't walk away. I want to say or do something..... We live in the same house... It's stressful.... I can't let it go!!!!!!
@@vincentanguoni8938 the only thing you can do is notify the authorities I think.... But then one gets worried about backlash. You can ask their guardian angels to protect them & archangel Michael to protect them.
Yes any toxic situation should not be tolerated and aren't we here to thrive not just suffer others to grow? Surely we feed our souls with positive energy and I am not suggesting that life is always Rosey, obviously we will come upon challenging situations but must feel when to walk away when not supporting empowerment and souls growth X seems blurred sometimes as to how much you stick it out to learn and when it becomes toxic and you become a doormat or punchbag X such a balancing act 💚🙏☯️
Phenomenal. Every situation does serve our growth. Tough message for those going through abuse, but when I was abused as a child I was to later learn that I am valuable simply for breathing (no need to people please for example).
When we use others just to not be alone, then we can expect to be hurt. Try to change no one ever. Not in any way. If you feel you must change them, or have a list of improvements you demand they make, then you didnt chose well. That is your own problem.
I have been traumatized literally all day after having to walk out of an interview early this morning. I still can't make sense out of how they figuratively attached me like they were pitbulls. They also argued with every answer I gave to every question they asked and greatly criiticized, shot down, and challenged literally everything I said, never satisfied nor pleased with anything I said, and twisted everything around on purpose to make snap, negative inferences about everything which were inaccurate and unfair! At that point, there was no way to correct them point by point, get them to do right by me, and apologize, so I felt forced to leave, and that's what I did due to how abusive, wrong, negative, attacking, and sharply painful they were to me! I came across this video In search of how to cope from this morning's trauma which still makes me wonder why this scenario was ever allowed to play out like it did in front of me this morning, so thank you!
I have acknowledged the reason why certain people came into my life, whether good or not, was for my own growth. One truly never walks away from those who we love. This is where true unconditional love for the other person plays a very important roll. I have learned to honor and respect other’s journeys, is not up to me to understand nor judge their behavior. However, I believe in having compassion for our selves is very important. We must honour our selves. You can’t give unconditional love, pour into someone else’s cup unless our cups are full.
Why do people always say " if they love us they will never leave" bro i can love my girl and still leave her if she doesn't treat me well. Because there's one more person whom i love and that's me i would always keep myself first because at the end of the day it's me who's gonna look up for myself not my girl. If i can't love myself i won't be able to love the other person as well. It always has to be you first and then the other person.
I find every situation /r.ship whether +ve or -ve gave me valuable exp & taught me qualities like humility, patience,forbearance, equanimity,compassion gratitude, understanding. All of which r essential for my spir growth. Although it is a steep learning curve I realise it is making me a better human being. Tx v v much for this valuable reminder🙏🙏
We revisit any situation to learn about ourselves and continually do so until we give ourselves love rather than Blame the situation for " making" us feel unloved.
I completely relate to what you are expressing 💫 I have seen people walk away from a beautiful relationship over the most minor things .. it's very sad to see people treat each other so immediately disposable . I was in a very physically / verbally abusive situation that I was lucky to crawl away from it alive - I'm so grateful I did 🤸 I wish I did not experience that kind of abuse because it's really messed me up for a couple of years , but I did learn a lot from it ... Some things I wish I didn't know, but I'm glad I'm aware of them . Thank you so much , your vids help me back to me and God 💐✨💐✨💐
In your last sentence, you expressed exactly how I experience it. In the last 6 years, I walked away from several long term "entanglements" and every time it was absolutely clear that this was what needed to happen. No doubts before, no second guessing afterwards, no negatieve feelings towards people or situations left, just a feeling that it happened at the exact right moment.
I'm a slow learner , or, at least have been over the past 59 years. Both patents now passed away, one elder sister mirrors her( our) father in superiority. She is (was) the remaining blockage to my life path, my freedom future, my move forward my confidence!!! Constantly belittling and patronising. The end result of my 'had enough ' came just 15minths ago . I'm now taking help and inner guidance to free my soul of ALL the toxic verbal abusers in my heart has suffered . I also found myself in a mainly toxic relationship which held me captivated for Seven years on and off . I've just started a rapid transformation therapy course . My ego must learn to allow the new people to help and heal me ..and attracting NEW people , love, companionships and friends. Thank you . I've LET what did not serve me go !!
I've a sad tale to tell about the time I spent all my energy criticizing someone else, and how there was no energy left to love the ignorant child screaming at itself in that mirror. "This no longer serves me", I said at the end, and my stubborn pride walked away from a miraculously orchestrated chance to be the wise example of forgiveness and understanding. "I don't care who you were, what I care about is who you are becoming" ...I NEED this understanding perspective from others, but I'll be worthy of it only when I can walk away from my pride and shine with a responsible light that runs towards my own wiser potential. All paths lead to what we need, and as far as I can see, we are the ignorant pawns of our weakness for a very just and loving reason.
Many years ago, there were people in my life that were allowed to use, and control me. The day the decision was made to leave those people behind, regardless of whether they were family or friends, was one of the best decisions I've ever made. It was like getting clean from chemical dependancy after decades of suffering. All of those people around that were so-called friends were nothing more than those that wanted something from me that I was not able to give. Loneliness is difficult on this journey, and there are times of dispair, but listening to someone else who has experienced this too, is heat warming. Shalom
Yes. I learned so much from not walking away. Flaws and weaknesses I had surfaced from facing conflict, and I was finally able to address them. Intuition can often be confused with desire from the ego. You are always in the right place
When the powers that control us, also create the dis-ease and then they create the cure, that's the time to use your own intuition and walk away from it. Peace and much love to everyone 💕
i put the whole culture in the trash and moved on. Creating my own reality from here on out. Sure they are out there doing that stuff . . . but my contact point to the entire universe from my point of view, my point of influence is my hands and feet. If I put them to good use, I have a good day. I've never understood how to enjoy myself by being useful to those around me as clear as I do now.
Most definitely a perspective. I’ve felt something was so negative for so long but kept ending up right back here, only when I started to get the lessons did I realize I’d only been running from myself. We have to be willing to have conversations and also knowing if something is seriously happening or if you just lack boundaries and are creating a negative scenario. It’s much easier to blame others and overlook the part you play in your own suffering.
For me I walked away from drug addiction and insanity into spiritually and inner peace. Sounds like a simple option but took many year's of pain and misery. Thank you for your enlightening videos, liked and subscribed! 😊
Yeah I can't remember exactly how it is worded in the Bible but Jesus mentions something about this wherever you go if they do not receive you walkaway kick the dust from your feet
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Thank you! What a blessing this channel is! Yesterday my mother mirrored me my own fears, insecurities etc. I started to cry and I wanted to cut off the contact because the situation made me feel so uncomfortable. Then this morning, your video "spiritual bypassing" popped up. I watched it and I cried again because it resonated so much. I love the mindfulness of your words.
Wow! This is beautiful. I'm a discard, ditch it, walk off enthusiast. Its been a good go-to method, but now hmmm. It's worth stopping to think. This video popped up at quite a moment.
Everything we encounter, every situation and every person, is serving us. Discernment comes from HOW this is serving me. Other people are our mirrors and yes, it is easier to walk away than to be triggered. But the triggering is for a purpose; to show us a deeper reality about ourselves. Learn what it is trying to teach you and then detach in peace and love when the lesson is over.
Serving others has always brought me great peace and comfort, lately, it's cousins me angst. When that happens, I don't serve that group or person. Being alone to think about what my motivation is makes a big difference then I start over
lol, you really put a financial spin on it....no, you can't look at it like that...so often we take the easier road....and it's not the best road. Get up soldier and move out...make the necessary changes to your life. You is you ..money is money...they are separate. Turning down the easy life, easy money is difficult to step into...but you have to have a comfort in God and the Divine to provide. God will never abandoned you.
@@kahlodiego5299 "basic resources" is material and is financial...which means money. i laughed cause you don't need "basic resources" to walk away..you're probably fairly young and just think you do.
I didn't know you for beans, but you popped up on my home page at just the right moment...I'm going through this crap right now and am now facing my own arrogance and need to be affirmed. And who wants to admit that stuff? Not me! But it now has become necessary to do so, so I"m going into the ring, to rassle with it. Ugh. I truly thank you for what you've been putting out, it resonates so strongly. ..oh, and TH-cam, lol, for the timing of this.
It's wonderful that you're owning up to it. It takes a lot of courage and humility, which many people do not have.. and so I admire you for that. Wishing you well, always and in all ways!
I totally agree. Nothing wants to be served more than our ego and if the ego says that things are getting too difficult most people just walk away or quit a relationship. But this is not the right solution. We should take ourselves time to understand and to deal with problems whenever they arise. Every situation serves your growth. Just give attention to any challenge you have in life or in your relationship and you will grow and be happy with your loved ones.
I've learned the most valuable lessons from rising to the occasion with dignity and grace and I'm so grateful because I don't know how I would have learned some of the monstrously difficult lessons otherwise.
I think a better and simpler way of putting it would be " walk away form things/people/circumstances , when you find other things/people/circumstances that serve you MORE " So if you find yourself in an abusive relationship, ask yourself is it better to be here or to not be in a relationship at all. If you are underpaid, is it better to settle for less or go find a job where I'm paid what I'm worth.
I am in a challenging situation concerning a loved one who is seriously ill. Sometimes I wonder if it is my ego or my spiritual self is being tested. I feel the ego controls us although it is not a reality. What does not serve me is the ego, it never did. Once I remove the fallacy of the ego then I can grow spiritually. That's the lesson to learn.
I guess the pattern that keeps showing up in my life is that I am surrounded by family members who do not support my personal spiritual path. My ideas are disrespected and undermined. I try to come from a place of patience, but I always end up being completely wiped out emotionally, financially strapped, and sometimes even homeless. I feel guilty because I believe it is my spiritual responsibility to save them somehow...not sure where that "programming" came from.
You are so right, everything new and everything challenging serves us growth. I love your insight. I have learned to separate ego and me - but it still manages to get in the way sometimes. Though less and less every time.
The facade of spirituality. That’s it. I met a guy and things were going great. Talked about our favorite things in common and one day he said that he still isn’t healed from past trauma. He was a spiritual guy and I almost walked away from spirituality all together because I associated it with him.
I agree, before we came we chose our parents our basics because we knew it would produce the maximum expansion experience for our best interests in our growth. We can't blame anyone but ourselves. We need to take full responsibility for our own actions and not blame others! Thank you for this message, blessings blessings blessings!
Oh and if we do things expecting reciprocation then that is a conditional love if we give without expectation or a return then that is unconditional. If we do kind actions expecting some kind of recognition or an expectation of reciprocation then that is ego, not true and honest love blessings blessings blessings!
Thank You Nada for the good advice. Yes, I agree there are very bad situations where that comes into play. However, I agree it should be used as a last resort, not casually dropped at every bump in the road. Yes it can be an excuse to get out of every uncomfortable situation. Then the lessons in life would be avoided and our ability to grow would be stunted. A friend once said to me, "Your not going to go forward or learn anything in life, playing it safe." Also, Thank You, for calling attention to the ego. I'd like to learn more about the ego, good & bad, does the ego play a roll in self confidence? Where does self confidence come into play? I've always equated the ego to pride. Thank You for the education, and food for thought. You're part of my Book of Shadows. Rusty.
I stayed around because I wanted to understand what kept me repeating the patterns of falling for a narcissist with a spiritual ego. I nearly had a complete mental breakdown and that's when I realised that the pain of walking away from it will serve me and my purpose better in the long run.
Thank you so much for your video's , there is so much truth in them. like letting go, and wasting my energy with people places and things in my life, its what i really needed to her at this point in my life. A character defect that I battle with is what people think of me, and I'm always people pleasing and trying to control, and I waste so much time and energy worrying what others think of me. I really like what you had to say about letting go. Stop trying, but just let go.
With all due respect, I feel this is a bit over simplified. Playing with fire and getting burned is a learning experience, as is being around toxic people and it can indeed lead to spiritual soul evolution , however, Is it not still better to stay away fromthese types of friends and relationships? Walking away can also be more conducive to ones spiritual growth.
I agree, cutting myself off from toxic people has helped me gain greater perspective. I realise that there's something in me that seems to trigger toxic people's worst behaviour, and whilst that is the case it's best for me to stay away from them.
The judgement and criticism you feel about them is in you, not them. It is not who you are as the toxicity is not who they are. Freedom comes in seeing this. I find it very joyful to be with someone who is demonstrating egoic behavior. Of course this is not the truth of us. When you are present this way, it is the greatest gift. Then it is just funny and fun. Let the celebration begin.
@@polyglotta1 Get to know your own beautiful Presence. It is what is aware of your thoughts and feelings and body. As you begin to feel your Presence in your body you will see how transformative it is. When abuse appears in yourself or another and is met by your own Presence it cannot sustain itself. It will change into light-heartedness, joy and fun. Try it out.
True that. A lot of spiritual teaching is super shallow and is preached by random social butterflies. They never grow towards depth and they seem to not grasp even a part of the spectrum. So I just keep to myself and face whatever comes. If I encounter abuse, finding out the reason why I wound up in the situation is typically the lesson there - acknowledge it, get out ASAP and resolve the issue.
Thank you. I have wondered if the phrase was being used as an excuse to not learn lessons. By others and myself. Gentle release... Wonderful setting and calm delivery. Thank you.
I agree with you, that “ME” stuff is just egotistical, and has no place in one’s Spiritual aspirations, it doesn’t even sound right....Peace/Blessings 👏🏾
I think when you are in co-creation with your divine aspect you dont see this as a concept but as taking responsibility for your mastery, and the word “ serve” than is being replace by “ relfect”. So “how does this reflect what I am” meaning the I am energy. Does this reflect the love that I am? The divine being that I am? Learning how to see how we create our reality is also learning to choose what it is you want to see reflected back from a souls perspective. Sometimes you have to walk away from a situation or a person with the intention not to give energy to something you dont want to expand even bigger. Discernment about where to put your attention from a divine perspective eventually serves all.. and than it becomes how may I serve all by making loving choices for myself in every now moment. ( so without a concept or an agenda driving you)
It’s about your happiness and having balance in your life. You can spend time together but know when to get up from the table when love is not being served…
i'm 17 and cant wait to become 18 because there are many negative people I cant just walk away from so acceptance is the best thing for me in my situation
Samantics are no problem here at all that was very clear. 1 What part of you does it serve and can you get anything out of this period Any benefit for yourself or others out of this
I have never used that phrase once only listened to other new age people say it, but definitely I have avoided conflict, or even difficult things, but it does seem inevitably things go full circle.
Understand, its not all about what serves you,, & what serves 'your' spritual growth?,, its the other way round, in giving, in doing in serving you grow,, its in serving, that you grow, you cant walk away from yourself, you have to learn to rather ' surrender' to 'self' , you are part of nature,,a flow,, not a separate god, saving your precious self for some seperate corner of universe,,,, & get over your self thats in the way, & youll find happyness in surrender,service & letting that (me me me self go), ashes we come from, ashes we return, youll never escape that, let the sprit within move & serve & strive & do,, dont save up love like your going to retire on it? spend it like your made of it,! in the giving you recieve, in dying every day you truely live, peace, x
Love this! I often finding my ego throwing a temper tantrum because it wants to be experiencing something different but if I am experiencing it in the present moment it is serving my soul or I wouldn't be experiencing it... ❤️ And when it no longer serves me it will fall away and I will know when to walk away. Thank you! Love the shift to how does this serve me, what might I be learning, how might I grow from this.. peace in the present
One of the most important lessons I ever learned is to not put more effort into a relationship than the other person is willing to give. Once I understood this, everything became clear.
That is real and golden. Lots of times we want to make others happy by doing things for them even going out of our way to do so, but it always backfired because they see it backwards. They see it as you trying to earn their approval they miss that it was done out of your love 4 them and your wanting to share that light. You want to give the gift of your love but it's not seen nor reciprocated properly. This has been my experience mostly with women. I guess people only cherish what they earn not what is given freely: they believe it has little to no value so it's discarded. That is why kindness is taken for weakness. Especially in this society where mostly power is respected and love is not seen correctly. It's sad and twisted but true. That is why it's hard to find true love. If you show you care to much people get so afraid they think your trying 2 get ownership of them. All this in a fleeting world. Instead of opening their hearts and leaving nothing behind unloved people rather be miserly.
@@emind0881 you are very introspective.
@@emind0881 how would you like to be reciprocated? I am trying to become a better perso n and need attention and love but am not used to living in such an environment. I realize I need practice and hope people will give me a chance and not give up on me. I know it is a lot to ask but at least I am trying to be better.
@@dumalun8388 are you bad person?
If you need attention it means you are compensating something. You need to ask yourself what?
Love exists within you. Love is internal. That's something you need to discover on your own but of course it is easier if you are in love with someone, because then it's easy tk realise that love as feeling emanates from you.
Blessings
I've only just learned this, the hard way
You have to know when to hold them, know when to fold them! Know when to walk away, know when to run!
love this song!
@@elenasafargalieva1820 One of my favourite songs, such an important message.
Kenny Rogers - classic song 🎵
♣️ ♠️ ❤️ ♦️
Exactly !
I like that .
when something is never reciprocated then it's time to "walk away" or probably RUN.
I love It!!!!! RUN
Run to where? No money, job, prospects, friends, etc. Nobody likes me, everyone hates me, think I'll eat some worms.
@@janey0513 serve the needy and feed the soul for growth and self respect . It pleases God aka the soul
@@janey0513 sometimes l feel the same way. I try not to give way to it, but it's not easy when you are poor.
Absolutely! It's sometimes easier to stay in situations in order to avoid change or confrontation. Sometimes you have to do what's right for the soul.
Sadly, it can be family, who can’t love you. Because you are a constant reminder of what they hate the most about themselves.
"Because you are a constant reminder of what they hate the most about themselves." That is the most frequent source of conflict between two people. Similarly, when we want to flee a person or situation, that's an important moment to consider if they represent something we dislike about ourselves.
@Kinny * !!!
True . It’s the most hurtful to accept.
A mirror /yep im a mirror too!
Scapegoat
I find that letting go of the egotistical idea that others need you is the key. Walking away is really no longer playing into your ego. Freeing them as much as freeing yourself. They will survive and so too you.
Unless say, you brought a child into this world and they really do need the nurture and support that you can uniquely provide as their parent. That perception of being needed would not be egotistical.
Well tell that to my baby daddy who think he is the 2nd coming for going on almost 3 years now. He thinks he’s God. Oh and he think I’m mary Magdalena. He thinks he’s going to save humanity but he can’t even take care of his son. He has said on multiple occasions that if he doesn’t become what God said he would by a certain date then he will drop it but then he makes up another date, and another excuse, and says he cannot walk away or make promises to me anymore. Apparently eden will be restored in 20 years. I’m all for wanting to help others, and peace, and love but this situation has really made me dislike the idea of Jesus, and Christianity or religions like that. Why is there so much destruction in the name of God ? So many wars based off of someone saying they KNOW GOD and THIS IS THE WAY. Thanks for letting me vent TH-cam.
Thank you for this!
Thank you 🙏🏼 This really helped me
I never thought of it this way!
I’m happy to free myself and “the other”!
Blessings!❤️
I ran into what hurt the most and realized that the death of those parts of my life brought me a new and improved life
Please say more.
@@afriend621 Sure🥰 For the most part of my life I’ve lived in denial. I grew up hating my life, my parents and siblings. I was always the odd one out of any bunch.
My dad was very critical of all of us, especially me. I could never do anything right and so I started to believe that. People called me weird just for being myself. I started to hate myself. Looking back I realize that I was and still am a sensitive and sensual person. Quite emotional and intuitive. It’s what makes me so creative and attentive. Qualities that make certain people nervous because it reminds them of what they’re missing out of in a way. Hating myself to the brink of wanting to end it all was very painful. Somehow I never really could kill myself and I felt guilty of even thinking of doing so. This life of mine wasn’t really mine I figured, and I knew that I would hurt the people I would’ve left behind very deeply.
I became so depressed. Not wanting to take care of myself. Letting bills pile up, leaving my loved ones in the dark and feeling ever so worthless. Not being able to dream at night was the worst part of it.
I would wake up and all I could feel was darkness. That was when I had decided i wanted my life back. I could not go on like this..
Being brought up with the Christian faith and abandoning it, made that dark hole in me even larger. My life spiraling out of orbit actually gave me a chance to be alone. Just me. I had to face me. I searched in the dark only to find out that the outer space had become my inner space. After a long time of self-pity I decided enough was enough. It took my almost 10 years to get back on my feet. Yet I started facing things head on. At first it was so intimidating but I knew that this was the only way for to really be the me I had always been. And so I became very honest, first with myself and then with others. Some people hated it and others loved it.
The rejections I feared actually happened but didn’t feel so bad after all. Of course people left me only for others to return or meet me as I was. I stopped my successful cake business last year and started writing. People told me not to and I could see how money had a hold over them. The, according to my father, dumb lucrative business idea actually started open doors. I became freer with every step into my own direction. And now life is so beautiful. People still find me odd yet can’t help to love me just as much as I love them. When I walk the streets I see people looking at me as I greet them with a smile. They know I now have the magic and it reminds them of their own.
And with that my friend I can say thank you for your curiosity! It gave me a chance to see more deeply into my journey and the path I’m on. Love for you and your loved ones, to all who have read this ❤️
@Narciso Duran you’re always welcome 😘
@@browniebun "they know I now have the magic and it reminds them of their own.".i love that part..that describes me as well. Thank you for sharing.🙏✨👊
@@LisaLywulf Beautiful! Keep on keeping on ❤️
When you have toxic parents who have ever used you as a dumping ground for all their fear and self loathing, then the only sensible thing to do is walk away. A toxic relationship is only ever going to stop you moving forward into enlightenment.
@@UmmattiMuhammadan bullshit. That karmic crap gets thrown around without any care of how it lands. People show up and get shit on others for a million reasons.
We all must forgive but reconciliation is never mandatory!!
@@glockgrandma2517 you're right. Thank you ❤️👍🏾 that's quite liberating ☺️
I am watching two girls six and twelve being abused...not physically They can't walk away.
I want to say or do something..... We live in the same house... It's stressful.... I can't let it go!!!!!!
@@vincentanguoni8938 the only thing you can do is notify the authorities I think.... But then one gets worried about backlash. You can ask their guardian angels to protect them & archangel Michael to protect them.
Yes any toxic situation should not be tolerated and aren't we here to thrive not just suffer others to grow? Surely we feed our souls with positive energy and I am not suggesting that life is always Rosey, obviously we will come upon challenging situations but must feel when to walk away when not supporting empowerment and souls growth X seems blurred sometimes as to how much you stick it out to learn and when it becomes toxic and you become a doormat or punchbag X such a balancing act 💚🙏☯️
You are a very wise, gentle soul...... Thank u for your take on issues.
Chris
Totally agree to avoid difficult people…
Phenomenal. Every situation does serve our growth. Tough message for those going through abuse, but when I was abused as a child I was to later learn that I am valuable simply for breathing (no need to people please for example).
When we use others just to not be alone, then we can expect to be hurt. Try to change no one ever. Not in any way. If you feel you must change them, or have a list of improvements you demand they make, then you didnt chose well. That is your own problem.
Needed to read this . Thankyou
Now live by that advice, please.
Just watching and listening to your videos is meditation.... Thank you....
I have been traumatized literally all day after having to walk out of an interview early this morning. I still can't make sense out of how they figuratively attached me like they were pitbulls. They also argued with every answer I gave to every question they asked and greatly criiticized, shot down, and challenged literally everything I said, never satisfied nor pleased with anything I said, and twisted everything around on purpose to make snap, negative inferences about everything which were inaccurate and unfair! At that point, there was no way to correct them point by point, get them to do right by me, and apologize, so I felt forced to leave, and that's what I did due to how abusive, wrong, negative, attacking, and sharply painful they were to me! I came across this video In search of how to cope from this morning's trauma which still makes me wonder why this scenario was ever allowed to play out like it did in front of me this morning, so thank you!
I have acknowledged the reason why certain people came into my life, whether good or not, was for my own growth. One truly never walks away from those who we love. This is where true unconditional love for the other person plays a very important roll. I have learned to honor and respect other’s journeys, is not up to me to understand nor judge their behavior. However, I believe in having compassion for our selves is very important. We must honour our selves. You can’t give unconditional love, pour into someone else’s cup unless our cups are full.
Well said unconditional love is the ultimate expression of spiritual maturity you are wiser then you may possibly know
nicely put 👍🌈😊
Why do people always say " if they love us they will never leave" bro i can love my girl and still leave her if she doesn't treat me well. Because there's one more person whom i love and that's me i would always keep myself first because at the end of the day it's me who's gonna look up for myself not my girl. If i can't love myself i won't be able to love the other person as well. It always has to be you first and then the other person.
I find every situation /r.ship whether +ve or -ve gave me valuable exp & taught me qualities like humility, patience,forbearance, equanimity,compassion gratitude, understanding. All of which r essential for my spir growth. Although it is a steep learning curve I realise it is making me a better human being. Tx v v much for this valuable reminder🙏🙏
We revisit any situation to learn about ourselves and continually do so until we give ourselves love rather than Blame the situation for " making" us feel unloved.
There is love and there is learning. Learning is often painful. Live in nothing but love until you fall off a cliff.
I completely relate to what you are expressing 💫 I have seen people walk away from a beautiful relationship over the most minor things .. it's very sad to see people treat each other so immediately disposable . I was in a very physically / verbally abusive situation that I was lucky to crawl away from it alive - I'm so grateful I did 🤸 I wish I did not experience that kind of abuse because it's really messed me up for a couple of years , but I did learn a lot from it ... Some things I wish I didn't know, but I'm glad I'm aware of them . Thank you so much , your vids help me back to me and God 💐✨💐✨💐
Love each other truely.
Never embrace evil, never to killing, stealing and destroying. 🙏
Earlier today I thanked what no longer serves for the growth it brought me, released it and stepped forward 🏄🙏🌱🌱🌱❤️
Dealing with toxic ppl does not serve us. Moving forward is the best. Misunderstanding with ppl we care can be resolved, but not toxic ppl
In your last sentence, you expressed exactly how I experience it. In the last 6 years, I walked away from several long term "entanglements" and every time it was absolutely clear that this was what needed to happen. No doubts before, no second guessing afterwards, no negatieve feelings towards people or situations left, just a feeling that it happened at the exact right moment.
I'm a slow learner , or, at least have been over the past 59 years. Both patents now passed away, one elder sister mirrors her( our) father in superiority. She is (was) the remaining blockage to my life path, my freedom future, my move forward my confidence!!! Constantly belittling and patronising. The end result of my 'had enough ' came just 15minths ago . I'm now taking help and inner guidance to free my soul of ALL the toxic verbal abusers in my heart has suffered . I also found myself in a mainly toxic relationship which held me captivated for Seven years on and off .
I've just started a rapid transformation therapy course . My ego must learn to allow the new people to help and heal me ..and attracting NEW people , love, companionships and friends. Thank you . I've LET what did not serve me go !!
I feel like I am cursed when it comes to friends. Try to be alone in your 70's. It's not a lot of fun and quite nerve wracking.
I've a sad tale to tell about the time I spent all my energy criticizing someone else, and how there was no energy left to love the ignorant child screaming at itself in that mirror.
"This no longer serves me", I said at the end, and my stubborn pride walked away from a miraculously orchestrated chance to be the wise example of forgiveness and understanding.
"I don't care who you were, what I care about is who you are becoming" ...I NEED this understanding perspective from others, but I'll be worthy of it only when I can walk away from my pride and shine with a responsible light that runs towards my own wiser potential.
All paths lead to what we need, and as far as I can see, we are the ignorant pawns of our weakness for a very just and loving reason.
Many years ago, there were people in my life that were allowed to use, and control me. The day the decision was made to leave those people behind, regardless of whether they were family or friends, was one of the best decisions I've ever made. It was like getting clean from chemical dependancy after decades of suffering. All of those people around that were so-called friends were nothing more than those that wanted something from me that I was not able to give. Loneliness is difficult on this journey, and there are times of dispair, but listening to someone else who has experienced this too, is heat warming. Shalom
Yes. I learned so much from not walking away. Flaws and weaknesses I had surfaced from facing conflict, and I was finally able to address them. Intuition can often be confused with desire from the ego. You are always in the right place
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. That is some insane synchronicity. Thank you !
When the powers that control us, also create the dis-ease and then they create the cure, that's the time to use your own intuition and walk away from it. Peace and much love to everyone 💕
Problem reaction solution... 😉
i put the whole culture in the trash and moved on. Creating my own reality from here on out. Sure they are out there doing that stuff . . . but my contact point to the entire universe from my point of view, my point of influence is my hands and feet. If I put them to good use, I have a good day. I've never understood how to enjoy myself by being useful to those around me as clear as I do now.
Walking away from alot of the Most stupidity of ALL drinking and smoking and low vibes has been going on this year for me.
Best thing ever 💚
Thank you for articulating this. Too often we use this idea as a smokescreen to avoid taking responsibility and accountability. 🙏
It all comes down to choices. Who do we let in and who needs to go - with love + blessings. 🙏🏻
Spiritual Narcissm or Spiritual Bypassing are 2 things I see coming about very strong these days.
Yes and it's a sign the world is a sorry & sad place to be living for the most part.
Most definitely a perspective. I’ve felt something was so negative for so long but kept ending up right back here, only when I started to get the lessons did I realize I’d only been running from myself. We have to be willing to have conversations and also knowing if something is seriously happening or if you just lack boundaries and are creating a negative scenario. It’s much easier to blame others and overlook the part you play in your own suffering.
For me I walked away from drug addiction and insanity into spiritually and inner peace. Sounds like a simple option but took many year's of pain and misery. Thank you for your enlightening videos, liked and subscribed! 😊
It’s THE absolute hardest thing to do! Many if not most cannot do it!! I’m so very happy for you and proud of you!!!
9/19/18 🤍
@@LosAngelesLaura Thanks for this reply lovely, I am 06/06/20
@@zene452 🤍🤍🤍
You seem like a beautiful soul. May the force be with you ❤️
Yeah I can't remember exactly how it is worded in the Bible but Jesus mentions something about this wherever you go if they do not receive you walkaway kick the dust from your feet
@Person without a mask thank you for the reply Happy Thanksgiving Merry Christmas New Year say a prayer for the Native American Indians and all those who have died from covid-19
Does this serve my soul? No, not all of us really know when to walk away...esp if we are attached to something due to great loss or trauma or both.
Thank you! What a blessing this channel is! Yesterday my mother mirrored me my own fears, insecurities etc. I started to cry and I wanted to cut off the contact because the situation made me feel so uncomfortable. Then this morning, your video "spiritual bypassing" popped up. I watched it and I cried again because it resonated so much.
I love the mindfulness of your words.
Wow! This is beautiful. I'm a discard, ditch it, walk off enthusiast. Its been a good go-to method, but now hmmm. It's worth stopping to think. This video popped up at quite a moment.
I understand this much more clearly now. Thank you for this video!
Everything we encounter, every situation and every person, is serving us. Discernment comes from HOW this is serving me. Other people are our mirrors and yes, it is easier to walk away than to be triggered. But the triggering is for a purpose; to show us a deeper reality about ourselves. Learn what it is trying to teach you and then detach in peace and love when the lesson is over.
how do you know when the lesson is over?
@@KnowBody360 when you are no longer triggered by the situation, or at least the trigger it isn't as emotionally charged as it used to be.
@@leopardchicken thanks for responding love! I wanna be free of this
@@KnowBody360 I feel you...I am being triggered in a particular area of life now so I get it. It is helping me erect firm boundaries.
Serving others has always brought me great peace and comfort, lately, it's cousins me angst. When that happens, I don't serve that group or person. Being alone to think about what my motivation is makes a big difference then I start over
"Walking away" does require some basic resources. So often, that seems to be overlooked.
lol, you really put a financial spin on it....no, you can't look at it like that...so often we take the easier road....and it's not the best road. Get up soldier and move out...make the necessary changes to your life. You is you ..money is money...they are separate. Turning down the easy life, easy money is difficult to step into...but you have to have a comfort in God and the Divine to provide. God will never abandoned you.
@@LarsonFamilyFarm-LLC I don't get the "lol"or "financial spin". I really dont.
@@kahlodiego5299 "basic resources" is material and is financial...which means money. i laughed cause you don't need "basic resources" to walk away..you're probably fairly young and just think you do.
@@LarsonFamilyFarm-LLC I'm 61. I live on disability. I have no friends or family. I'm stalked and harassed. Keep your "lol" to yourself.
@@LarsonFamilyFarm-LLC and no car either. You're not the elder of the internet - F off.
I didn't know you for beans, but you popped up on my home page at just the right moment...I'm going through this crap right now and am now facing my own arrogance and need to be affirmed. And who wants to admit that stuff? Not me! But it now has become necessary to do so, so I"m going into the ring, to rassle with it. Ugh. I truly thank you for what you've been putting out, it resonates so strongly. ..oh, and TH-cam, lol, for the timing of this.
It's wonderful that you're owning up to it. It takes a lot of courage and humility, which many people do not have.. and so I admire you for that. Wishing you well, always and in all ways!
The way I handle it is like you said, utilizing the situation and then walking away when needed.
I totally agree. Nothing wants to be served more than our ego and if the ego says that things are getting too difficult most people just walk away or quit a relationship. But this is not the right solution. We should take ourselves time to understand and to deal with problems whenever they arise. Every situation serves your growth. Just give attention to any challenge you have in life or in your relationship and you will grow and be happy with your loved ones.
I've learned the most valuable lessons from rising to the occasion with dignity and grace and I'm so grateful because I don't know how I would have learned some of the monstrously difficult lessons otherwise.
You are an amazing Life coach,,,, thanks for sharing ,,, very positive energy!!!
I agree ,your speech is so true but i have suffered a lot ,but we need this talk of your to help us..
I think a better and simpler way of putting it would be " walk away form things/people/circumstances , when you find other things/people/circumstances that serve you MORE "
So if you find yourself in an abusive relationship, ask yourself is it better to be here or to not be in a relationship at all. If you are underpaid, is it better to settle for less or go find a job where I'm paid what I'm worth.
I am in a challenging situation concerning a loved one who is seriously ill. Sometimes I wonder if it is my ego or my spiritual self is being tested. I feel the ego controls us although it is not a reality. What does not serve me is the ego, it never did. Once I remove the fallacy of the ego then I can grow spiritually. That's the lesson to learn.
I guess the pattern that keeps showing up in my life is that I am surrounded by family members who do not support my personal spiritual path. My ideas are disrespected and undermined. I try to come from a place of patience, but I always end up being completely wiped out emotionally, financially strapped, and sometimes even homeless. I feel guilty because I believe it is my spiritual responsibility to save them somehow...not sure where that "programming" came from.
🙏 thank you 🧘♀️ knowing when to stand and fight and when to walk away is a difficult lesson.
Wow, did this ever resonate with me today. I know your video was brought to my attention for a reason. Thank you for sharing your insight!
You are so right, everything new and everything challenging serves us growth. I love your insight. I have learned to separate ego and me - but it still manages to get in the way sometimes. Though less and less every time.
As always, timing from your words is impeccable. You reiterate my knowing, very reassuring to hear authenticity. Thank you xx
Excellent explanation and clarification! I enjoy all of your videos. Thank you very much for your work and help.
Great wisdom, thanks
The facade of spirituality. That’s it. I met a guy and things were going great. Talked about our favorite things in common and one day he said that he still isn’t healed from past trauma. He was a spiritual guy and I almost walked away from spirituality all together because I associated it with him.
I agree, before we came we chose our parents our basics because we knew it would produce the maximum expansion experience for our best interests in our growth.
We can't blame anyone but ourselves.
We need to take full responsibility for our own actions and not blame others!
Thank you for this message, blessings blessings blessings!
Oh and if we do things expecting reciprocation then that is a conditional love if we give without expectation or a return then that is unconditional. If we do kind actions expecting some kind of recognition or an expectation of reciprocation then that is ego, not true and honest love blessings blessings blessings!
Finally somebody said this! Thank you!
Thank You Nada for the good advice. Yes, I agree there are very bad situations where that comes into play. However, I agree it should be used as a last resort, not casually dropped at every bump in the road. Yes it can be an excuse to get out of every uncomfortable situation. Then the lessons in life would be avoided and our ability to grow would be stunted. A friend once said to me, "Your not going to go forward or learn anything in life, playing it safe." Also, Thank You, for calling attention to the ego. I'd like to learn more about the ego, good & bad, does the ego play a roll in self confidence? Where does self confidence come into play? I've always equated the ego to pride. Thank You for the education, and food for thought. You're part of my Book of Shadows. Rusty.
This is deep.. Everytime i listen to this i learn something new ✨🙏
Beautifully and clearly done. Thank-you. ☮️
I stayed around because I wanted to understand what kept me repeating the patterns of falling for a narcissist with a spiritual ego. I nearly had a complete mental breakdown and that's when I realised that the pain of walking away from it will serve me and my purpose better in the long run.
Thank you. Divine Blessings for myself and you always.🙏
Wow this is so on point. I needed to hear this. Thank You
Thank you so much for your video's , there is so much truth in them. like letting go, and wasting my energy with people places and things in my life, its what i really needed to her at this point in my life. A character defect that I battle with is what people think of me, and I'm always people pleasing and trying to control, and I waste so much time and energy worrying what others think of me. I really like what you had to say about letting go. Stop trying, but just let go.
Wise words, however, sometimes there may be grief or regret that has to be honoured.
Beautiful energy ♡ love it
Wonderful words of wisdom
I agree with what was said. Just walking away can be irresponsibility.
Brilliant young man. Bless u & thank u for ur wisdom..🙏🙏🧚💓💓
This channel deserve more than 5 star🌌
Extremely valuable content.Thank-you🙏
With all due respect, I feel this is a bit over simplified. Playing with fire and getting burned is a learning experience, as is being around toxic people and it can indeed lead to spiritual soul evolution , however, Is it not still better to stay away fromthese types of friends and relationships? Walking away can also be more conducive to ones spiritual growth.
I agree, cutting myself off from toxic people has helped me gain greater perspective. I realise that there's something in me that seems to trigger toxic people's worst behaviour, and whilst that is the case it's best for me to stay away from them.
Might get boring after a while, you never know.
The judgement and criticism you feel about them is in you, not them. It is not who you are as the toxicity is not who they are. Freedom comes in seeing this. I find it very joyful to be with someone who is demonstrating egoic behavior. Of course this is not the truth of us. When you are present this way, it is the greatest gift. Then it is just funny and fun. Let the celebration begin.
@@afriend621 Whichever way I look at it, I've never been able to see abuse as funny or fun 😕
@@polyglotta1 Get to know your own beautiful Presence. It is what is aware of your thoughts and feelings and body. As you begin to feel your Presence in your body you will see how transformative it is. When abuse appears in yourself or another and is met by your own Presence it cannot sustain itself. It will change into light-heartedness, joy and fun. Try it out.
True that. A lot of spiritual teaching is super shallow and is preached by random social butterflies. They never grow towards depth and they seem to not grasp even a part of the spectrum. So I just keep to myself and face whatever comes. If I encounter abuse, finding out the reason why I wound up in the situation is typically the lesson there - acknowledge it, get out ASAP and resolve the issue.
Thank you. I have wondered if the phrase was being used as an excuse to not learn lessons. By others and myself. Gentle release... Wonderful setting and calm delivery. Thank you.
This guy is so lovely and helpful. I'm THANKFUL 🤗
confusing the me (soul or ego me) super powerful!
So true we confuse the soul with the ego. Must understand that
Very important Lesson !!!
A valuable distinction being made; thank you for clarifying 🙏🏽 💓
I agree with you, that “ME” stuff is just egotistical, and has no place in one’s Spiritual aspirations, it doesn’t even sound right....Peace/Blessings 👏🏾
I think when you are in co-creation with your divine aspect you dont see this as a concept but as taking responsibility for your mastery, and the word “ serve” than is being replace by “ relfect”.
So “how does this reflect what I am” meaning the I am energy. Does this reflect the love that I am? The divine being that I am?
Learning how to see how we create our reality is also learning to choose what it is you want to see reflected back from a souls perspective. Sometimes you have to walk away from a situation or a person with the intention not to give energy to something you dont want to expand even bigger. Discernment about where to put your attention from a divine perspective eventually serves all.. and than it becomes how may I serve all by making loving choices for myself in every now moment. ( so without a concept or an agenda driving you)
thank you my friend, your words are always at the right moment
It’s about your happiness and having balance in your life. You can spend time together but know when to get up from the table when love is not being served…
Thank you, l now know what l must do. Listening to you has brought me to my senses. X
i'm 17 and cant wait to become 18 because there are many negative people I cant just walk away from so acceptance is the best thing for me in my situation
Samantics are no problem here at all that was very clear. 1 What part of you does it serve and can you get anything out of this period Any benefit for yourself or others out of this
Gratitude!
Thank YOU for All your Blessings and All you do for US. Merry Christmas and Happy healthy holidays
Spirituality is awareness 🥰😇
Straight to the point and simply beautiful
On point great message
This video really called me out, but in a very good way. Thank you so much!
I have never used that phrase once only listened to other new age people say it, but definitely I have avoided conflict, or even difficult things, but it does seem inevitably things go full circle.
Understand, its not all about what serves you,, & what serves 'your' spritual growth?,, its the other way round, in giving, in doing in serving you grow,, its in serving, that you grow, you cant walk away from yourself, you have to learn to rather ' surrender' to 'self' , you are part of nature,,a flow,, not a separate god, saving your precious self for some seperate corner of universe,,,, & get over your self thats in the way, & youll find happyness in surrender,service & letting that (me me me self go), ashes we come from, ashes we return, youll never escape that, let the sprit within move & serve & strive & do,, dont save up love like your going to retire on it? spend it like your made of it,! in the giving you recieve, in dying every day you truely live, peace, x
Very concise message, thank you. everything has a potential purpose, just need to be willing to look at it.
Love this! I often finding my ego throwing a temper tantrum because it wants to be experiencing something different but if I am experiencing it in the present moment it is serving my soul or I wouldn't be experiencing it... ❤️ And when it no longer serves me it will fall away and I will know when to walk away. Thank you! Love the shift to how does this serve me, what might I be learning, how might I grow from this.. peace in the present