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  • @lauragraf1306
    @lauragraf1306 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +374

    It’s ok to not be ok! Everyone grieves in their own way. Maybe buy a tree for your garden in honor of his memory and talk to it when you wanna talk to him so you have something physical to talk to.

    • @reesepatron2320
      @reesepatron2320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Great post!

    • @noireknight3013
      @noireknight3013 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Awesome idea

    • @RRBorn
      @RRBorn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      My mom wanted a bench in a park and a tree. Luckily they do that here in Houston. She said people don't visit the cemetery like they used to, but anyone could come sit with her and talk or not in the park. So that's what we're doing for her next month.

    • @RicardoChase
      @RicardoChase 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I love this idea

    • @biteofdog
      @biteofdog 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@RRBorn That's so sweet.

  • @JuJuBean-sc5nm
    @JuJuBean-sc5nm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +205

    Lost my dad when he was only 54. Grief comes in stages. I was so angry with him at first, but even though it doesn't get better, it most definitely becomes bareable. Just let your emotions flow, better out than in. Cry when you want, smile when you remember the little things...sending you love and strength ❤

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      😢❤

    • @enjaysings6173
      @enjaysings6173 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Today's my dad posthumous birthday,lost him two years ago,the pain is indescribable,it becomes part of you,you think you have gotten over the grief,then boom!!! something reminds you of him or a memory and there you are stricken,anyways God had been my help ,just sailing through,never knew it was gonna be like this😢

    • @jeffc1736
      @jeffc1736 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@SundaiLove Sorry to hear. How old was Douglas, and how did he pass away?

  • @niahuey4282
    @niahuey4282 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    “I’ll meet you at the top boo.”✨
    See you there Sundai! I’m praying for you too, much love🤍

  • @cottoncandyhairchannel
    @cottoncandyhairchannel 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Go through the motions. Feel what you feel when you feel it

  • @juycedream
    @juycedream 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    3:11 my dad passed yr 21 I lived in Hawaii my dad was in Cali, my mom in yr 22. Feel like orphan as a adult. But no one is prepared for a loss. My parents wouldn't want the family to be sad forever, celebrate their lives, but to live in peace, love, positivity and respect those that respect you. 🙏🏽💜 Sundai

    • @ruthrodriguez5173
      @ruthrodriguez5173 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Sending hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗 I was 32 and pregnant when my mom passed but I didn't or we didn't have time to cry she left 4 underage kids.

    • @juycedream
      @juycedream 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@jessiericej 🙏🏽💜

    • @juycedream
      @juycedream 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ruthrodriguez5173 🙏🏽💜

  • @luisgonzalez9352
    @luisgonzalez9352 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    The only thing that can turn a frown upside down. Sunday with Sundai!! 😊

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

  • @msdetra
    @msdetra 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    I would love to read about productive things. Cooking, gardening, starting a business, how to figure out what business to start.

    • @mommamia9948
      @mommamia9948 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I said the same!

  • @ashleyblair452
    @ashleyblair452 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I lost my dad literally 2 weeks before the covid shut down and to go from losing my dad to being stuck in the house for MONTHS my anxiety and depression was putting me through the ringer! But a few things that completely helped was Journaling and reading. I read 116 books during the covid shutdown. I also found joy in podcasting my emotions in a virtual diary.

  • @knyoung210
    @knyoung210 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I lost my dad in 2022 and I am a HUGE daddy's girl. I grew up with being the source of inspiration and positivity in my life. It is ok to cry, it is okay to process your feelings at your pace. It is okay to hold on to something he gave you as you think about him. I learned that no one will be able to fill HIS space in my heart and it is more than fine to miss him. Thinking of the good times and fond memories makes a big difference. I am now just at the point where I can watch daddy/daughter moments on the TV, lol. Go at your pace to grieve.

  • @ByOddNature
    @ByOddNature 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    SUNDAIII! Not you consistently being a beacon of light and optimism- even in grief 😖!!?!?!
    Something about this week’s video hits deep and has left me feeling elated and excited to just be outside experiencing life.
    You must be made of something different than the rest of us for you to be working your way through grief and still pulling the purest hope out of your viewers.
    Thank you for everything you share with us babe. You’re healing so many things in so many people just by sharing bits of your life with us.
    May your blessings keep up with the trajectory of the joy your spreading 💕

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      That is so sweet thank u love ❤

    • @girlonfire2.076
      @girlonfire2.076 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I honestly don't like working so nowhere 😂😭

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@girlonfire2.076 the realest response 😭

  • @bevegriffith9858
    @bevegriffith9858 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Grief never ends, but it changes, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. It is the price of love. ❤

  • @shanellaj
    @shanellaj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    My mom passed last October, and it don't matter how much you time has passed it will feel like it was yesterday.
    Take your time to grieve, you're going to have random moments of tears and sorrow. Take your time on your own time. My deepest condolences to you and your family Sunday. Love you always❤❤❤

    • @mommamia9948
      @mommamia9948 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m sorry for your loss 💜 My dad passed when I was 13 and I was very close with him. It took me 10 years to be able to talk about him without crying. It was so hard cause it always felt like it had just happened. It does get easier with time, but I ALWAYS get sad around the time of year he passed. Whether I realize it’s that time or not. The body remembers and that is something that I would look out for. Try to do things that make you happy and be patient with yourself

  • @thereignofhoe
    @thereignofhoe 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "Alexa... play "Who's That Girl" by Eve" Sundai, you ARE That Girl. You have been killin' them with the looks lately and you are as gorgeous as ever. Love how about your business you are, about your friends, and about having fun when you do decide to do it! COMMITMENT!
    Thank you for sharing what you have been going through with us. It is really nice to hear someone be human and vulnerable, no filter. It really makes one feel like they are not alone. We love you for being you and you inspire us to live our dreams.
    Thank you Sundai!

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank u for the kind words

  • @JohnLumagui
    @JohnLumagui 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    "Meet you at the top, Boo!" Yeah, that's why I subscribe! I lost my Dad at 20 and my Mom at 30. Take heart that it will get better, but only at your own pace. Don't let anyone tell you to move on until you're ready.

  • @dancemt1573
    @dancemt1573 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Lost my father last year and I’m still growing from the broken person I became. I lost all my sense of purpose and was ruining my life. Until I woke up and began to live for and with my father in my heart. Focus on your health and well being. Know he’s very proud of you and spoke life over your future!❤️

    • @ruthrodriguez5173
      @ruthrodriguez5173 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It's hard to loose a parent I'm glad you work life out 🤗🤗

  • @ih458
    @ih458 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    That's the only thing I order at shake shack... its not too heavy... super cheesy... crunchy, no greasy... so delicious 😋

  • @meganrose2831
    @meganrose2831 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I’m very very sorry for your loss. I recently lost my baby. Jesus has been the only reason for me being able to get up in the morning. “Cast your anxieties onto him because he cares” he really does and he loves you more than anyone else. God is very good and my comforter. I was never religious and he called me back to him. It’s really hard everyday but you’re not alone. He will wipe every tear from your eyes you are precious and honored in his sight. His daughter who he sacrificed his own life for, what else wouldn’t he do for you while you are in pain. I love you and pray you and your family heal and feel the presence of God loving you at this time. Amen we love you sis ❤

    • @dday3322
      @dday3322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My condolences on your loss. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜

  • @LeleputMaster13
    @LeleputMaster13 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Lost my dad 2 years ago, the best advice I can give is don't fight the tears, let it out. Even in those random times. Let it out. And yes talking as thou they can still hear helps. And pray. They are looking over us.🙏 have a blessed day

  • @fruitfullspirit
    @fruitfullspirit 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I like videos that focus on safe places (i.e., cities, hotels, clubs, social forums, etc) for single black traveling females. I personally love learning about social community events of interest, especially places a travel person may not think of - the hidden gem. Also, since being a traveling digital nomad is on the rise, you could definitely highlight cities that are great for their digital and what tech systems are fluent in that area.

  • @ilhamlakhal3067
    @ilhamlakhal3067 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I lost my dad when I was 16. What I have found to ring most true is the analogy of the ball inside the jar: the ball (grief and loss) never truly shrinks - but the jar (your life) continuously grows around it 💕. You're a bright light Sundai! ✨

  • @levette284
    @levette284 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I lost my mother at 19 years old ( now 47) she told me this when I was small : " No matter what happens, we will meet again." I have added to the saying towards my own daughter : " No matter what happens, we will meet again. It's not goodbye, but I will see you later. Until then, you keep going..you've got this baby." I have learned to cope by remembering all that she has taught me, telling my daughter and others about her. I still honor her memory every chance that I get. I share her blood, so to me, she walks with me daily in my heart. There are times the gloomy days come, but over time I have more smiling days. Continue to process the feelings and coping in the way that helps you. : sends big hugs your way: You will be okay, it will take time and you've got this too.

  • @solsofresh4632
    @solsofresh4632 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I lost my mom when I was 22 (5yrs ago) she was truly the love of my life. When she past I wanted to go with her and thought of many things to do so….but I thought what would my mom want for me? She carried me for 9 months and raised me Till her last day, for me to just think that way, NO. I learned to live with the pain, her passing opened my eyes about everything. I live everyday like It’s my last, I talk to her everyday and write to her about my days. I cry the same amount as that day. It’s ok to be sad, cry and talk about it with whoever your comfortable (or yourself)Your heart,soul and mind are processing something you can’t explain why it happened to you so be patient with yourself. 🩷 love your videos and your strength! Sending you all my positive vibes 🩷

  • @PB_XoXo
    @PB_XoXo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I think you being in Japan helps a lot with healing because when you’re not in an environment that makes you happy,or grow,or be surrounded by interesting things it makes you wanna be dwindle into a pit of darkness , You’re already in the light you just got to open your eyes and see that. You’re so beautiful inside and out you’ll be okay I promise ❤
    P.S I say this all with confidence because I was in Japan for a short period of time but even my worse day there couldn’t compare to my worst day in the US because of the environment and energy of the country being better I wish to go back and hopefully bump into you and have pleasant conversations and go out and have fun :)

  • @mijaumiaumiao
    @mijaumiaumiao 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Hi Sundai. I've lost my mom when I was 15 years old and now my dad at 31 y.o just this January. Let me tell you it gets easier but you will have your days or your moments when you're just so overwhelmed with sadness and life seems meaningless. What has been helping me is the distractions and living your life. Rely on your family and friends. Going out and trying new experiences. I started therapy for the first time and just talking about my family grief has been so enlightening. Its allowed me the space to just talk and when my hour is over it really feels like a weight is lifted. I also just started a new job in April and that has been such an amazing distraction that I simply don't have the time to be in my thoughts. Talking about your dad and sharing stories also helps with the grief. For me personally, it took me years before I felt comfortable enough to start talking about my mom with my friends and its the way with my dad now too. People grieve differently so its been difficult for me to talk about my dad without just breaking down. Eventually it will get easier, be kind to yourself. I want to recommend a movie to you called Voices in the Wind. The full movie is uploaded on YT. I think its a beautiful film for those of you who are really struggling with grief.

  • @1991clarinet
    @1991clarinet 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I lost my dad suddenly and it helps journaling when you feel over come with emotions/ memories. It's been 7 years and it still hits me. When it does I allow myself to truly feel the moment then do a selfcare, it helps talking about him too

  • @PigeonCarriere
    @PigeonCarriere 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Lost my Dad at 30 traumatically and honestly sharing memories, hanging out with people and being with your closest humans is 100% what I did. Also it's 100% okay to not be okay! Cry when you feel like crying and grief is not linear as i still get the sads years later for random things ❤

  • @MedCareAgency
    @MedCareAgency 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It hits so hard. Take your time to grieve. Its a up to down. After two years I got really used to it, still painful. I put a candle on from time to time, especially on his birthdays, on christmas & whenever I miss him so much, then I listen to his music.

  • @chiccityvibes
    @chiccityvibes 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m so sorry for your loss Sundai,😢 As someone who loss both parents; being around good friends and lots of laughter helps a lot.

  • @YurrahAlHadi
    @YurrahAlHadi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dang babe hugs. I lost my father last yr in Dec. I wasn't close to him at all, but his passing did make me a bit sad. He had been sick and in the hospital from a brain tumor. I see you. Thank you for still sharing your life with us. I don't have any advice except for remembering the good times and allow that to fill you with joy instead of sadness. No cap, this world is horrible most of the time, so perhaps you can hope he's in a better place that's not here. I am ready to move to Pluto at this point.

  • @sofiac7170
    @sofiac7170 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    The good news is: Your still beautiful inside and out. After rain storms, rain🌈appears to let you know everything will be alright. You will get through the grief process of the loss of loved ones. Take as much time as you need. We will stand by and spread ☀️ for you along the way 🙏🏾

  • @GinaGeeILuvu
    @GinaGeeILuvu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I lost my father when I was 13 years-old and I still miss him! It does help to talk about him to other people who knew how kind and giving he was b/c he helped a lot of people. My family and I really had a difficult time dealing with life after he passed but we made it through thanks to all the love and life lessons he gave us. He and Mom (whom we lost in 2013) were the best parents and thinking about them makes me smile! Mom never remarried after he died b/c she said there was no one else like my dad...she was right! So what helps me when I miss my parents is talking and reminiscing about the good times with them and knowing, in my heart, I will be with them again someday!💖💖

  • @juk0915
    @juk0915 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i lost my mom just over a year ago (very long battle with cancer). and i still get choked up if i think about her too long. but it helps when i talk about funny stories or wearing her clothes or going to the places i frequented with her. it all becomes things that help soothe the grief. but also its okay to ride it out when it hits suddenly, because i think burying it makes it harder to endure later.

  • @TheInfamousDope
    @TheInfamousDope 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    There is nothing you can really do to ease the pain.Time will heal you. Talk to him, celebrate him…he is def super proud of you!

  • @unapologeticallyhuman
    @unapologeticallyhuman 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    When my mom died and we were tight and she died unexpectedly it actually brought me closer to God. It also helped me not get into “lowkey” worshipping her because I’d find myself wanting to talk to her and ask her for guidance or protection but focusing on the Lord more made me feel even closer to her and to see her with grace and understanding rather than with resentment or idolizing her love and role in my life. So when you’re in a better space take this time to center God. I still cry about her in public though but I don’t want to get to a point where I don’t miss her. It’s been a year and half

  • @LeslieBays-w9s
    @LeslieBays-w9s 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Hi Sundai, I'm a new subscriber, I lost my mother about two weeks ago and I'm
    still hurting I miss her badly so
    I know what you are feeling
    I like your videos , and the way
    you 👄 keep glowing and growing ❤ you!

  • @canata377
    @canata377 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just want to give you a big ole hug 🫂 youre so kind! Everyone grieves in their own way, do what you know is the right thing for you to process it all

  • @mspiperp
    @mspiperp 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    After the loss of my father, the best thing I could do to live with the grief better is to feel my feelings... All of them. The immense sadness, the anger, the joy, etc and eventually... The waves aren't so frequent and you slowly get to a point where it doesn't hurt as bad. I am also thankful for the people who have been gracious enough to make time/hold space for me. Whether it's a small check in, an outing or a shoulder to cry on. Sending you love and light as your navigate this space. 🌞❤

  • @SSadijo
    @SSadijo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s okay not to be okay, take it one day at the time. Remembering the good times with the person or pet who passes away, also helped me with my losses. I just had my first visit to Japan in March & I love it, please make a vlog for accommodations in Japan. I also love to stay at a hotel that’s fancier than my own place, good food in the area & coffee places are a must.

  • @sedie94
    @sedie94 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I lost my mother in 2020 and I agree with the talk to people who knew them advice. I don't know why but hearing other people's memories with her really lifts me up and kinda let me feel like I could breathe again. I'm not a super emotional person myself but the grief really just comes in waves and it appears when it wants. Hang in there and always always always remember the good times and the positives.

  • @martharivera8064
    @martharivera8064 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I have lost both my parents, and it is OK not to be ok. The pain never fully goes away, but it numbs to a dull ache. Everyone heals and grieves differently so don't think you are doing it wrong. Remembering happy times, eat their favorite foods, doing things you enjoyed together might help keep the memories alive without too much pain right now. Sorry for your loss

  • @HopefullyErin
    @HopefullyErin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your friends are so caring. I love that for you!

  • @marcusmosher-sv8kf
    @marcusmosher-sv8kf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just keep being the bright, strong and outgoing person you are and your father will always look down on you from heaven proudly! ❤

  • @robyn3232
    @robyn3232 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The thing that helped me with my father's death (he passed away when I was 24) was that when he was alive he told his philosophy on the afterlife, which was simply that you live on through your children. So, now he lives on through me ☺️

  • @fayemaka3037
    @fayemaka3037 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my dad who I loved but had a complicated relationship with also. My advice is to just let yourself feel your emotions, whatever they are, even the unpretty ones. They are all valid and facing every complex feeling head on is the only way to accept and heal from it. Process whatever you've been ignoring and give yourself closure. Don't run away from the feelings forever because they will catch up you can distract but never ignore trust me I've tried. Time really will cushion the blow so take it easy cuz you will get through it.

  • @carolwine-bucklew2692
    @carolwine-bucklew2692 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My husband’s Pet Scan came out clear . No cancer seen in lymph nodes. Thank God ! As for missing your father, I believe that staying busy helps and time will heal . I lost my father two years ago and I still miss him terribly. Keep the faith.❤️

  • @Writerdane
    @Writerdane 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Deep condolences, Sundai. Its never easy when you lose someone you love, especially family. Grief hits everybody differently so you have to take your time. Yes on the hotels. All the price values for options. As well as best areas to stay.

  • @alic7277
    @alic7277 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The lemon slices glistening in the sun.....divine

  • @GeekMyMind
    @GeekMyMind 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Any reactions you have are always appropriate when you lose a parent you loved, don’t fight them. Just let them come out and run their course. I balled like a baby in the theater at the end of watching The Iron Claw.

  • @littlemissday992
    @littlemissday992 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I absolutly agree. I always thought it was a given that one is happy for others successes and opportunities. Especially if it is a dream that enriches their life and/or others and they worked really hard for it. Rather than letting negative feelings like envy and jealousy take over, it's better to be inspired by others. Honestly, it is sad to see how others sabotage themselves and other people only because they are at different points in life. In the end one can only be as happy as content they are with what they have. I wish whoever reads this success in any form in which will come.

  • @mblatch
    @mblatch 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hi Sundai 💕 my Name is Mel, I’m from Perth Western Australia. I just wanted to reach out to you, I lost my dad 30th of May last year. The piece of advice I wanted to share with you is something someone told me and I’m so grateful they did, try to always remember their voice. It’s been nearly a year and I can close my eyes and still hear him. 💕 Also just know the way you’re feeling is completely normal for the size loss you have experienced, I cried more when I lost my dad than I have in my entire life, just let yourself feel what you’re feeling ❤ sending you all the love in the world at this time xxxxx

  • @roamiblu1833
    @roamiblu1833 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I do know what it's like to lose a parent and it freaking sucks! Phew (this was for me). My, not advice but a suggestion: *breathe* just *breathe* and let your feelings/emotions happen. As someone on here said, it is in stages. However, I think what some of us forget about is, not the crying, not wanting be alone with our thoughts, 4:07 - being busy with people, but the depression that comes with it. To a degree, we do suffer from depression when losing a loved one. I don't know about the others but when my mom died, I was depressed. And it took some time for me to be just okay. If you're sleeping a lot, it *might* be depression. And believe it or not, that's okay. Let the emotions run it's course. Don't shut them down or even stiffle them. Let them run their course. I'm still learning this part. My mom died in 2011 and there are time when I still have a hard time talking about her. But as Christians we know there will be a time when "death will be no more" (Rev 21:4).
    Now I don't know when you'll get this. Right now TH-cam and I don't see eye to eye and my comment are getting blocked or removed. But I wish nothing but for you to have peace. (And oh, the boob tape. yeeeaaah... that's not for us boobilicious girls. but you *STILL* look fire!)

  • @nonok.6727
    @nonok.6727 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m incredibly sorry for your loss Sundai!! I’ve been watching for a few years and I love how hard you work and how far you’ve come! Spend time with your loved ones. It’s okay to be distracted and not okay right now, please understand you are not on a time frame for your grief. Feel what you feel, cry, pray, and journal. It will never go away, it will just stop hurting less eventually. We love you girl allow yourself grace at this time if you’re feeling off

  • @goodjudygirlfriend
    @goodjudygirlfriend 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m so very very sorry for the loss of your father and Douglas. I lost my father in 2013, everything will def remind you of him. I see it as a sign they’re still with us. You don’t get over it but I learned that I carry him in my heart and I cherish the sights, sounds, smells, music, quotes that people say that he used to say. It makes me feel like he’s with me all the time. I’m giving cyber hugs to you and your family and praying for you all during this difficult time.

  • @samanthaepps6365
    @samanthaepps6365 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sorry about your dad. My mom passed this past September. Keeping busy is a great distraction but it's also good to let yourself just cry if you feel it coming. I've cried at the most awkward times since. Keep those positive memories ❤

  • @JazzifiDIY
    @JazzifiDIY 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my dad this March..6 days before his 58th birthday. I was taking care of him for the 2 and a half years he was sick and was by his side everyday til the end. It’s a process, it sucks. Most days I’m laughing and using dark humor to cope, staying busy, and most nights I cry as much as I need to. When I start to spiral in my head I go out far from my house and just walk around. I don’t have a lot of advice for grieving since I’m still in the middle of it but it is def ok to not be ok. Grief is weird, I still leave the tv on and clear off the couch for him when General Hospital comes on or try to find a tv show for “him to watch” when I go to sleep. And I still yell “I have returned” when I come back home. Cause it helps. It might be weird but it helps. So surround yourself around loved ones, go outside and get some sun, talk about the good times that made you smile and eventually even if we may not be ok, we’ll learn how to deal.

  • @shantegause5067
    @shantegause5067 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm sorry about your loss ❤ of your dad.

  • @jadev3197
    @jadev3197 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Sundai! 👋🏾 I lost my dad some years ago, but everything that you said is what you're supposed to do. Need to cry in public? Do it. Need to be around friends? Do it. Just know that the grief process doesn't follow any particular order. Different feelings will come and go in waves. But you WILL get through it. Someone once told me that it can feel almost like "phantomly" losing a limb...you don't ever quite move the same, but over time you learn to adjust. ❤

  • @jayyjaee
    @jayyjaee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stay Strong Sundai! We love you

  • @peacensimplicity1811
    @peacensimplicity1811 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lost both parents a couple years apart and felt like an orphan even though I'm adult. Let yourself feel what you feel, definitely journal and definitely an important time for some inner child work❤

  • @faith6575
    @faith6575 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh jeez Sundai! 😢 My condolences to you and your family on your father’s passing. Even though you’re not okay, you’re holding up beautifully, like the rose that you are. ❤

  • @Thestarrwashington
    @Thestarrwashington 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Praying for you! The outfit is GIVING!

  • @PassportGeek
    @PassportGeek 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I so understand about the passing of a father. My dad died 15 years ago. It gets better. So sorry about the passing of your dad. RiP

  • @MajjicxCupcakii
    @MajjicxCupcakii 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you always putting out positive energy, even during the hard times how you make living in Japan/abroad work logistically (like were there any programs you used to first be able to make the move?)
    > gardening always🌱
    > productively
    > book recommendations (maybe about "self-help" or finance or anything really)

  • @annetteambriz
    @annetteambriz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would love to read about your experience starting businesses, especially in Japan! Productivity tips are always welcomed!
    Sending you positive healing thoughts and vibes.❤

  • @awilson4718
    @awilson4718 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lost my mom in 2015(she was 66). There’s not a day that goes by without thinking about her. First of all there is NO expiration date on grief, you just learn to live with your loss. Don’t ever let anyone tell you how you should grieve, just allow yourself to heal. You WILL get through this, prayers to you and your family.🙏🏽

  • @adriannorton-tt2xn
    @adriannorton-tt2xn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so sorry for your loss. Grief can be a life long process. My father passed away over 20 years ago it feels like yesterday. Just remember to feel what you feel don't try to suppress it. Much love to you.❤

  • @renaldofountain1724
    @renaldofountain1724 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My Condolences! It's a process. Take care!

  • @colormeglucose
    @colormeglucose 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Prayers for you and the family 🙏🙏 We're here for you and take your time , you're right my mom passed away in 2020 and i just had to take time, remember the fun times we had with her, speak to some friends of hers and share their stories too! It's not something that you will ever get over but just take time to meditate, share stories and heal! Things will gradually get easier but he is always with you and watching over you!!

  • @atc35012
    @atc35012 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I did experience a loss. The most valuable piece of advice I received was to grieve as much and as long as needed.

  • @justaname999
    @justaname999 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grief is so unpredictable and comes in waves, sometimes when you least expect it. I really understand how being surrounded by friends can make you feel better. It was definitely the case for me and I'm usually a person who needs lots of alone time.
    On a more mundane note:
    I always wondered why I cannot make a wig work. The part space length thing is super useful! Thanks!
    plus, yeah, you also style it and sew a band into it like you're a ballerina taking care of pointe shoes :) Maybe I'll try it again. I've only worn wigs on stage where they were custom made for each one of us and looked really cool because a capable person put them on. Whenever I try myself it just doesn't work.

  • @hiiiari
    @hiiiari 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    my good news is that im flying back home to my family and friends after living somewhere i really don't like. i've got a place to live lined up and even got my old job back. im so happy :) sending you peace and love sundai!! 💕

  • @PinkAphroditeDoll
    @PinkAphroditeDoll 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My good news!! After 2 years, I am finally reuniting with my close friends who live overseas. I have to work so I can’t stay long but I thank God for the blessings no matter what!

  • @ellamartin5183
    @ellamartin5183 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’ve been on the deans list for 4 semesters now

  • @biguwu863
    @biguwu863 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I literally lost my father last summer and I agree, it definitely is something that you live with and not something you can get over. I totally understand!
    This might not be the most helpful advice, but what has been helping me the most is making future plans to look forward to. Like bucket list activities that I can save up the time and energy to go while counting down the days until it’s time for me to do it. And also indulging in my hobbies a lot more than I used to do. My dad was very supportive of my hobbies and hyperfixations, and I kind of put my hobbies and bucket list items on the back burner until later. Since I’m also disabled, it makes it harder for me to do certain things. But I kind of figured that having a major positive life event to look forward to makes living through the grief a little easier if that makes sense! It’s like saving really tasty leftovers for dinner the next day, and being excited until it’s time to indulge in them again.

  • @Papi_Churr0
    @Papi_Churr0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    4:24 one thing someone told me was pay attention to the signs, they're always with you ❤️ I know this must be an impossible time, and things may not go back to normal, but you'll find a new normal, I'll pray for you 🙏🏻

  • @Lindaoo
    @Lindaoo 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So soooo sorry for your loss. Lost my mother out of nowhere in 2022 , and still feels like yesterday....so I dont think the pain ever goes away. My only advice would be to CRY A LOT whenever you feel like it and not hold it back. FEEL your feelings. It will just add up if you keep the sadness in...Hope it helps! Love ya , stay strong! 🌅

  • @scottmintz7493
    @scottmintz7493 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Take it at your own time. Both of my parents have passed. I sense them from time to time. The pain never goes away, but you find ways to accept the loss. I chose a large glass jar where I put notes to them. You will know when you are coming to terms when you can share stories and not immediately tear up. I find that when I hear about other people's loss, I tear up knowing their pain. I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • @lwendybarrios
    @lwendybarrios 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lost my mummy and this is my advice to you. You will have goooooood days and you will have bad days and always share your story with someone as I find that is therapy. Also surrounded yourself with people as it helps, I ate only when I had company.

  • @kostak8175
    @kostak8175 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It took me a long time to figure out that I can smile knowing that my mom was not just in my pass but she is also in my feuter. We are all on a treat towards where our loved ones went.

  • @sunamethyst283
    @sunamethyst283 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lost my mom 3 yrs ago. When u have a moment. Just let it happen. It’s those times when u are alone. A song comes on the radio. Embrace that moment cry it out. If u simply cannot at all go home play that song. Embrace that moment.. I is a form of healing. Celebrate thier birthdays. Pray for healing 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Aly.68
    @Aly.68 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well my dad hasn’t died but I don’t talk to him or see him for the past 5 years and he’s basically just disappeared from my life.. it’s honestly something you’ll never forget but as long as you constantly keep good people around you and focus on what you want in your life you’ll start to be okay with just being on your own.. life has many struggles but we cannot live in regret or dwell too much on the past as we have to keep moving. It’s okay to cry and be emotional it’s proven to be better if u just let it out than to build it up ❤

  • @joooused
    @joooused 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sending you all the love in my heart and the warmest, most uplifting energy, Sundai! I'm wrapping you in a heartfelt, spiritual embrace. I hope you're doing wonderfully, and no matter the challenges you're facing, I have faith you'll overcome them. You're destined to thrive, deserving of all the love and positive vibes you so generously spread! ❤

    • @SundaiLove
      @SundaiLove  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So sweet thanx love

  • @AmbiNerd
    @AmbiNerd 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lost my mother in 2022 and honesty it was/is the biggest blow in my life, it destroyed me. I deffo agree that its something you live with not get over. But the most comforting thought i have is that she lives on through me, and she would quite literally come down from heaven and choke me if she saw me living depressed and sad because shes gone...not trying to catch a spiritual fade. I still miss her and love her, and i'm sure she knows xx

  • @sumayah7908
    @sumayah7908 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sending you so much love and light sundai x
    My dad died in nov 2021, and I lost my best friend when I was 20 a few years before that so I like to think I know a bit about grief. The main thing I can say is, we as humans instinctively do what feels right in the moment a lot of the time. Grief is something that I feel like happens to you, so just let it be, let it wash over you, feel the emotions as they come. You don't have to do much, just don't try to supress them too much.
    The other thing I would say is, communicate with your loved ones about what you need. Sometimes you just want to vent and reminisce, and others you want company but don't want to talk about your grief, you actually want a break from it. Others, you don't want company at all and actually need a minute to yourself. Knowing what you need in that moment will help your loved ones help you.
    Lastly, prayer. Prayer that God gives you the strength to live with your grief and celebrate the life of your loved one, and prayer that you will be reunited with them in a better place.
    I'm keeping you, and everyone in the fam (here on youtube as well cuz we a family over here!) in my heart and prayers. Its cliche, but time really does heal.

  • @buttercupp0897
    @buttercupp0897 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my mom unexpectedly in Jauary 2022 and I literally dissociated so badly I have no recollection of anything that happened that year. We all grieve differently, just feel what you have to feel and give yourself ALL the grace.
    Eventually you will wake up and not feel so terrible, and that is when the challenge of learning who you are now will begin. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make the pain you are feeling away, but know you are not alone.

  • @Katara0403
    @Katara0403 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just lost my dad as well, literally the day you posted this video and I’m still coping. Our relationship was complicated but it still hurts to know he’s gone. I’ve also been trying to distract myself. I’m really sorry for your loss and I truly hope you start to feel better soon. I now really understand how hard it is.

  • @janeesako359
    @janeesako359 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Found your channel yesterday, love it straight away as I love Japan so much, you're so straight up, genuine and funny. Gonna catch up on all your videos since 5 years ago. Keep your videos coming girl, my 12 yr old daughter enjoys your video too. Cheers from Australia

  • @amyallen4459
    @amyallen4459 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My dad passed in '21 and it was rough! Tears all the time, seeing people who looked like him on the bus broke me.
    Therapy and friends REALLY helped. Had 1 friend who would text me jokes or baby pics, another would listen cuz she lost a father too.
    Really community, a routine and talking is the best.
    And when the numbness passes it may hurt fresh but it's your mind saying, I can handle this pain now.
    And if nothing else helps, throw some inexpensive plates with a mat underneath for easy cleanup.

  • @ghenrique366
    @ghenrique366 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My condolences 2 u & family. U will be great. Remember the 5 stages of grief. U will rise U are phenomenal

  • @citakindle2669
    @citakindle2669 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    so happy to see you looking like your old self❤️❤️ I hope that means your health is improving as well

  • @dday3322
    @dday3322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My condolences on your loss! 🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜

  • @BananaMilkCottage
    @BananaMilkCottage 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My good news.. I’ll share it, my PNGtuber models are doing well in my little art shop, Ive been working 9+ hours each day on my designs and I feel like its going well for me after years of trying to have my own business while also being able to care for my very young daughter ⭐️

  • @Jeanniewhatnow
    @Jeanniewhatnow 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I am sorry for your loss, and I know this time is tough. I lost my father and my best friend within months of each other. You are doing all of the right things, stay around people and stay busy. You have such a beautiful spirit, and although I am old enough to be your mother, I have found you so motivating and inspiring. It was because of you that I felt free to pick up a move to another country. By watching you, I’m learning how to be free and to enjoy simple things. And the body is bodying!!

  • @JessAnonymous
    @JessAnonymous 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love you girly! Watching you for over 4 years now and AINT LETTING UP!! I’m the exact same way. Love hearing about people succeeding. Sorry for your losses again. You looked tf good though in your outfits

  • @Jess911able
    @Jess911able 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm sorry for your loss Sundai. Idk what it's like to physically lose a parent but my dad has been gone from my life for 10yrs. I don't think it really gets easier. You just miss them and wish you could update them on the good things happening but have to keep going with your own life.
    My good news is I bought a house and started gardening. I really look up to you and take inspiration from you and your goals. Definitely motivates me to just get started on the live I envision for myself one step at a time..

  • @MsKa004
    @MsKa004 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My dad passed when I was 9. Journaling, praying, making sure to let it out healthily is what has helped me. I didn't have the understanding I do now, but it does get better. Process, process, but processing takes time. Do not *please, I beg* rush yourself. It's okay, being in pain, being sad, it all makes sense. Rushing through ACL therapy is just as stupid as rushing through heartache.
    You're on the right track with being surrounded by community. Be careful not to bury yourself/emotions tho.
    I'm looking forward to renting your space for my bday trip to Japan 💕 I'm more interested in Kyoto & Osaka than Tokyo.
    Spicy Tuna Riceball ftw 💪🏾🍙
    *I apologize for the long comment 🙏🏾* You're blessed and highly favored 💕😚

  • @Unseen.contentt
    @Unseen.contentt 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am just now seeing this and I am so sorry for your father. I can say that what helped me when I just freshly lost my father was to talk it out with my family. and staying close to one another. Reminding me that my father always wanted me to be happy so I needed to push through and THERAPY. I hope this helps but I pray for your heart to heal and I'm sure your father is SO PROUD of you.

  • @tmardrey895
    @tmardrey895 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sandai first condolences. I lost my father when I was 12 but caveat is he and my mom separated right after my birth. However, I was still a daddy's girl AND I look just like him. All I can say to deal with that is first I was so young that I really didn't know how to process it until I got much older. But once I was ready to deal with it I just had to take moments and truly concentrate on the times we were together -- to 'Feel' the happiness, joy, the fear [yes, my dad was an alcoholic so did not always take us places that were safe] and finally the sadness of not having time to have a real relationship with him, But allowing myself to feel that, All of it really helped me to eventually heal and accept. Anyway, love ya and All your content Boss Babe!! Peace and Blessings to you and your family.

  • @oftenunsaid2175
    @oftenunsaid2175 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loosing a parent is hard and I understand how you feel. I lost my mother in 2006. I was only 12 when my mother passed and now I’m 29 and even though time has passed I still get sad at times but everything will be ok. Take your time grieving, your dad is watching over you now. What I did was spend lots of time with friends and family. Pray a lot and keep God close. Continue to strive and remember it’s ok if you feel down from time to time, let those feelings flow.

  • @denisesrazzledazzlenails9606
    @denisesrazzledazzlenails9606 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so very sorry! Sending prayers and love. 🙏❤️🙏