I am 35 and have never had a serious relationship. I don't know that I ever will. I am most comfortable on my own, my own time, my own schedule, my own rules. I love the thought of love and there are days where I am like oh someone to vent to or share my feelings with besides my parents would be great, but then all the other stuff surrounding relationships seems like too much. I will say, a dual income would make life easier. I still live with my parents because a single teacher's income does not cover it anymore. So I KNOW this feeling.
I’m 30 this year and I thought I’d have a crisis the moment I turned it. I honestly didn’t even care, I’m putting in hope my 30’s will be my best decade so far. So far…nothing has changed but I got hope for the other 9 years 🥲✌️
I didn't get into a relationship until I was 31. I'm autistic so people often babied me so I never really had anxiety abt getting older because it always felt like waiting for the point where I would feel like I could do things on my own. And it did happen, so I guess I just mean to say you're doing things at your own pace and you can only measure yourself against previous versions of yourself. So you're always growing even if it may not seem that way. Hopefully that makes sense! I haven't finished the video I just wanted to say you're doing your best! You should always be proud of yourself.
Whitney this is Heather, long long long time viewer idk if you'll remember me. Just letting you know I'm always here supporting you and I'm so very very proud of you! Don't worry about your love life, the universe hasn't found someone worthy of your love yet, but they will. I just turned 40 and found the love of my life and believe me, it was worth the wait! We love you Whitney ❤
its okay i never dated either - oh wait i came out of closet as asexual - ive been asked out 60 times and I always found myself saying no and then i realized i dont feel anything in that way and i LOVE being single.
@@Proto-Martyr word and people are always amazed that i love friendship - because apparently friendly is the new flirting - no flirting is when people use adjectives to describe peoples bodies or start saying things i like u more than friends blah blah - i have never asked out anyone - people have asked me out - there's a difference
The Third Gilmore Girl was phenomenal. Kelly Bishop is so iconic, funny, warm, and strong. Her life in the industry was wild. I'm a massive lifelong Gilmore fan and it was such a joy learning more about her. I highly rec the audiobook, hearing her voice just gave me the comforting feelings Gilmore does.
I was looking at the emily wilde books today and thought they sound fun but now that i know they have bonnie's stamp of approval I will add them to my tbr 🫡
Maybe what you need to do is rest and allow yourself to process and recoup from the really big things you've done recently! Like going back to your high school and two presentations! Those can be heavy moments and we all need a little recharge time! Maybe that's what your body is telling you? Maybe you need comfort after all of that vulnerability. Be kind to yourself! You got this
The only way I’m ever going to get into a relationship is if it somehow happens effortlessly. I am never going to seek that shit out when I’m happy being single. The anxiety is not worth it. I’m with you on that.
I'm also a BIGGGG procrastinator on literally everything. Sometimes I don't even care to take my antidepressants even if I know I will feel horrible if i don't take them. They could be right next to me but I still won't reach out for them. What helps me is to count to 3, and then without thinking about it, just do the task. 1,2,3 go! I think the hardest part is just starting to do the thing rather than the thing itself.
lol the year i was 29, I was SO preoccupied with being 30. I kept thinking "I'm almost 30, I'm pretty much 30." Then my 30th bday rolled around and i thought i was 31!!! I lived my last year of my twenties as a 30 year old. But now that i'm 32....let me tell you. it's the same as being in your 20s but you have more confidence in who you are and your brain is fully developed. I'd never go back to my 20s. shit is more chill.
I'm so happy you're doing vlogmas, Whitney! I watch your videos like every day, and if you haven't posted I rewatch old ones haha also, Stepheeen King my beloved
Not even halfway through the video but you going "I'm 28" had me paused for a sec cause I went "I thought we're the same age! Wait.... Am I 28 too??" Like girl you got me doing maths 5 minutes in😂
Ohhh I find most of my recipes through instagram reels, which sounds oddly as unreliable as pintrest? But the visual of making the recipe helps a lot, cos I dislike cooking. It's like having video instructions. Most of what I've tried making has turned out pretty good so props to insta! Also got to add, not only do I adore watching your vlogmas but I also love reading the lovely comments as well. Everyone is incredibly sweet, supportive and caring and it's truly a wonderful community you're fostering!
So happy for vlogmas❤ Fyi for abby jimenez, you can read the last three without the others, they aren't connected. And the connections are pretty mild. They are all amazing!
I’m right there with you, girly. Full well knowing I need to be more active and just notttt having the energy or motivation 😅 BUT, I will say, two things that have helped me have been 1) doing something I enjoy while doing the walking to make the time go by faster so I’ll listen to an audiobook, or watch some reality tv or just call my bestfriend to spill tea lol! And 2) having an accountability partner that gets it (the bestie I just mentioned lol), we will literally send each other a little pic of whatever activity we did that day and cheer each other on, we don’t get into specifics about how long or how much was done bc the focus is just getting our bodies moving, and she and I are both plus size so it’s extra nice that we can understand each other in this journey. Anyway, all that to say, sometimes we also need a little bed rot moment! 😋 so don’t be too hard on yourself!! Also, hiiii to Bonnie! It’s been so nice seeing her in your vlogs!!
Get a basic cookbook and start cooking your way through it for recipes. I got an old copy of the America’s Test Kitchen cookbook and have loved everything I tried. Plus it tells you why certain ingredients work better than others. It really helped me learn the basics.
For recipes I love Hetty McKinnon and her cookbook. It's organized by veggie which is super helpful bc I can find recipes that work with the vegetables I have in my fridge and just throw on a protein. I also love sohlae she's on TH-cam and on Instagram. The enchanted broccoli forest is a super good cookbook with a ton of staple recipes for like different dressings and marinades and salads and ways to cook protein.
For meal prepping I think it can sometimes be harder to make a ton of seperate meals, personally I prep "elements" to a meal. Like I roast veggies, I cook my protein, I make sauces,I make rice ir potato's or quinoa to use as a base, I prep veggies for salads. That way 1) I don't get bored of eating the same foods and 2) it usually holds up better I think
i was watching that eras tour stream literally walking around flinders st station and when i crossed the street into hungry jacks it was over. wild. then i went to a concert and they played the same song twice so strange.
I really enjoyed the Weddings People. Its a character study with darker themes but a good dose of humor. The characters aren't particularly likeable, but thay makes them more real IMO. Martyr was really good too. Dark, but good.
I got married at 21. We have been married for 16 years. I have friends that are the same age and have never been in a serious relationship and some that don’t want to. What I’ve learned in my oh so old age. We all struggle, we all have good times, we all wonder “what if?”, what if we chose differently? But you know what? None of us have a better or more important life than another. Your path is yours and you are rocking it.
Bestie I was 28 going on 29 when I got into my first relationship (I'm plus size as well). My first make out session, first date, first sexy time. When I tell you it's absolutely not worth it. I wasted 8 months of my life for someone who at the end told me that 'either you act the same as at the begging of the relationship or this is the end' (I chose option numer two) and all I got in exchange was pregnancy scares and crying myself to sleep every night. So when I tell you men ain't shit, they are really not. I honestly wish I never got into a relationship with him and stayed an untouched virgin forever.
I looooved Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar, so I will be seated!! when you read it 😍 Also, an Emily Henry vlog would be fab. I’ve only read Happy Place that I borrowed from the library and I was honestly surprised how much I enjoyed it. But I don’t want to read all of them tbh. I do want to read Beach Read and Funny Story though but she’s not an auto-read author so I only go for whatever plot sounds interesting. But hey, maybe I’m gonna want more once I’ve read those two, lol. - I love that you share how you feel with us btw. And I completely relate to how intense that feeling of wanting to go home for the holidays can be, especially when we know it’s coming up, so we just want the days in between to hurry tf up and pass… But we can’t wish our lives away, deep I know, lol, so doing small things to at least get through the days with a bit of joy is sth to pay attention to, I’d say (easier said than done obv). Happy vlogmas though ! 🫶🎄☃️
Honestly as a plus size person that didn't get into my first relationship until my 20s I'll say being single is so nice. I definitely used to beat myself up for being single before I dated, but now after the fact, I enjoy my own company. The emotional and time requirements of dating is a lot and is not always worth it. Like knowing that it's harder for me to want to date now bc I understand how much I love being by myself. So don't feel bad!
You're relief at being 27 made me laugh as someone who turned 28 last month 😂😂 I get it though! I felt pretty chill at 27 but now it does feel different!
I get my recipes from the tv, cookbooks I borrow from the library, youtube channels (some are channels of the tv cooking shows so I can watch it whenever I want) and sometimes I try Pinterest or Instagram recipes (but some have been flops, like the lavender earl grey ice cream I tried from Pinterest). Idk if in USA nutritionists do the same, but in Argentina some nutritionists share recipes on Instagram for healthier recipes. I follow them because my mum has diabetes so I try to cook stuff that is better for her. It's really interesting to see the different kind of flours that are out there.
I read Bury Your Gays by Chuck Tingle because the premise sounded great and I really enjoyed the book. It was so aware of genre conventions and really meta which I enjoyed and it was definitely more serious than the Tingle erotica stories. (It's hard to not be more serious than those.) I also find it so interesting how big the book community is. I usually only spend time in spaces that talk about adult Science Fiction and Fantasy because that's what I read and after resigning from my job at the bookstore, I have no clue about other genres anymore. I've also been trying to read more German fiction and nonfiction from the library and obviously, those books aren't talked about that much online. P.S. I'm 26 and only today I was asked my age and couldn't remember. Unimaginable when I was younger, so I can relate to what you were saying.
“Thumbs up” has been my thing when I have nothing to do too…but in REAL LIFE! Like with people around me. how embarrassing. So stupid 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t even know I’m doing it, and then it’s done.
I've been doing that with my age too!! And if it makes you feel any better, I was well into adulthood before I had a partner and I was almost 30 before I hit other milestones (if you know what I mean)... There is really not a "correct" way to do life, and it's okay to rest when you need to! I have learned that "forcing" myself to do small things does help (it has to do with rebuilding your dopamine) but you can't live on willpower alone. I hope that doesn't sound preachy, it's just what I've learned. Enjoy the rest of your day!
I’ve been watching these daily (obvi) so my husband has grown accustomed to your presence and he cracked up when you made that remark about shitting in your hands and clapping 😂 anyway I also have stickers on my hydro flask! How do you wash it bc I’m scared I’m going to ruin all my stickers
Omg the other day I CONFIDENTLY told my co-worker that I was 28 and then 10 minutes after the conversation I stood there like “girl I JUST turned 27” 🤣🤣 So needless to say I understand hahaha
The Ministry of Time is one of my fav books this year and I wouldn't call it scifi, I honestly can't stand that genre and would never willingly read it... it's more litfic/romance. It has time travel which I also usually hate lmao but the prose was so lovely. I loveddd Emily Wilde and want to read Martyr too :)
I don't know if you've tried watching "what's for dinner" moms on youtube, but my sister has found a lot of recipes and meal-planning ideas through them!!
Sharpie looks similar to my Chester kitty. (He lived to be 20 human years old.) Sharpie seems to demand attention when you are at the computer. (In a previous video) Chester kitty did the same thing.😂😂
girl get rukmini iyer's cookbooks, the whole concept is : chop, put in a roasting dish in the oven and wait. as a ~~mentally ill lazy person those recipes save me daily because they're pretty healthy, make minimal mess, involve minimal effort and it's sooooooooo easy to make double the recipes to meal prep. and the cherry on top is that it introduced me to so many new vegetables and ways to cook them !!! all the recipes i tried are from the green roasting tin cause i'm vegan but i'd trust any of her books cause the recipes are so good and easy
I get my recipes from TH-cam! Julia Pacheco is one of my favorite creators for this. She has super simple ones for lazy weeknights and more involved recipes for when you're feeling fancier and have more energy, and budget recipes, slow cooker recipes, etc. I recommend watching a few of her videos and seeing if anything catches your eye!
I am 29 and I am in the same boat in that way. My friends are all married, have kids and everything and I have two dogs :D I have moments of missing and being sad that I don't have a partner and other times I am fine and don't think about it at all. SO I feel you! 🐸
Maybe you could do your 10 minute walk before work instead of after it? I never make it to the gym when I plan to go after work because I am always so tired and worn out already so I feel you on that 😂
honestly that’d be ideal because it’s already dark by the time i get home and there’s some more sunshine in the morning but i woke up today at 8:20 for my 9:00 meeting 😬 so i need to practice waking up hahaha
I had my first relationship at 28 and it wasn’t great. My second relationship was way better but I think it’s because it was with a girl and I’m very gay. That relationship just ended and now I’m trying to recover. I realize that relationships are so difficult and I’m gonna enjoy being single for a while. It’s nice to enjoy your own company and to treat yourself to the things you like and want to do. I love all your cats, but Sharpie is the cutest. I adore black cats! I have one named Berri, but I call her Strawberri.
Honestly, aside from reading them in order it’s not gonna hurt if you don’t pay attention to who pops up in which book for Abby Jimenez you’ll still enjoy them. Her works are very modern Nicholas sparks formula of romance but there’s some Sad™️ up in there. I’m a slut for that shit and her dog videos are funnyyyyyyyy
🚨 unsolicited advice warning 🚨 I learned this and have been practicing it this past year... Can you trust yourself? For example, do you tell yourself, "I am going to do xyz today" and then follow through and do it? Can you trust yourself to keep your word to *yourself*? I used to promise myself that the next day I would do "xyz", not do it, and feel bad about myself. Then I learned it was because I couldn’t trust my promises to myself. I have been working hard all year to improve this. (I am not saying you can't trust yourself! Realistically, I do not now you. You may trust yourself 100%!! But possibly this could be helpful. ❤)
@BonnieAyn No, The Good Girls Guide to Murder trilogy is not worth continuing (from someone who read the entire thing, loved book 1 and gave the last one 1 star 😬). But also - maybe, if you want to see the entire dumpster fire it ended up being 😅😂
I'm in my 30s and I forget my age all the time! As soon as you leave school it just doesn't really matter anymore. And I want to say it's fine to be single and don't feel so bad, but I'm ace so I'm not looking for a relationship and I know it's different if it's something you want.
I'm almost 27 and feel like there's something wrong with me because i never got a proper job. I'm changing careers, but I sometimes think to myself that I might never get anything and die with nothing, like I'm getting old and with nothing accomplished. Whatever...
27 is SO young still though! everyone achieves greatness, the only thing that differs is the size of your audience. don’t compare yourself to others, there’s nothing wrong with you ♥️
I turned 30 on the 8th and I thought it'd be worse. it's only been 3 days, but so far it's not as awful as I thought. it's just coming to terms with my 20s being over ✌🏼👍🏻 also, I'm reading A Thousand Boy Kisses and it's not that bad, but I have so much highlighted so far and I'm barely half way through so that's fun.
I'm 30 and haven't had a serious relationship in years... sometimes I desperately wish I had a partner but the effort of putting myself out there doesn't sound appealing and I hear everyone always griping about their relationship qualms and I'm like.... maybe not (signed someone who came straight home from work, ate dinner, and flopped down in bed to watch a youtube video instead of going to the gym or wrapping presents or reading books or doing literally ANYTHING else)
not only do I forget my age, I'm out here forgetting my birthday 🤦🏻♀️ I bought cold medicine the other week, and the cashier asked for my date of birth, and I completely blanked. embarrassing, silly goose behavior. you could do a video reading and ranking emily henry's books when her new one comes out in april. that way, you're caught up and ✨️content✨️. the sjm win reaction was hilarious. I still haven't read that one because I don't love the first two, and I've heard such terrible things... and acotar is my baby, and I don't want her ruined. I miss bonnie's vlogs so much, she doesn't hold back when she doesn't like a book, but will bully me when she loves them, like a true sagittarius queen, and I need that kind of encouragement.
hey Whitney, I´m sorry if this is too personal or intimate or whatever, but where are you in your menstrual cycle? I only ask because the changes in hormones can effect how well certain medications work on women, and that might explain why you're feeling such a dip emotionally. I also want to say that I really love all your content and I get super exited when I see you posted.
Feeling really seen in the comments so I'll join in. I'm 33 and I've never had a relationship either. And this used to bother me a lot more until I learned that I am in fact not the only person like this. And now I figure if it happens, it happens. What a lot of people don't want to admit is it's about luck. Sure you can up the odds by going out and seeing new people but it's still luck if you meet the right person at the right time. I just am not cut out for the dating life I don't think - I have limited free time I don't want to spend it playing the lottery with meeting new people. The only things now that bother me are how society shows me it's not set up for me as a single person, whether that's how much more I struggle to pay for my life (single income paying for an apartment, utilities, travel, etc) or how people can bring a significant other to events but I'm not allowed to bring anyone, that kind of thing.
im 23 and been on like half a date, and my friend who has been dating the same guy from 8th grade tries to give me dating advice. shes been with the same guy for a decade and no ring, no house, dont even rent together when he knows she hates living with her family, cant even trust him with finances. home girl is not qualified.
ohh bonnie didnt like immortal dark :o i recently bought..bc vampires. not me sayin red queen at same time as whitney xD i recently binged read red queen series.. in part bc whitney did and liked it!! ive powerless to read but if its similar to red queen then might be better if i wait to read it bc i just read red queen.. im still reading the novella book of shorts stories, broken throne but lowkey i havent really been reading, ive just been reading other books.. im just not that invested in the short stories.. i had to skip evangelines short story bc im just kinda not invested and bored
I'm 40 and I dated someone for 16 years. All my 20's and most my 30's. Had 2 kids. We broke up and being single was amazing. All I want to do when I'm not working or being a mom is want to lounge and read! I am with someone for 6 months now but legit our first date was dinner st his house bc he's a single dad as well. It doesn't feel like during bc we sre older now and don't care about doing all the fancy dating stuff. We go out and get dinner and went to a comedy show but we are so busy with kids and work it's like we are already a married couple and I love it! We are going to the Virgin Islands this spring break with our kids and we joke that will be our first big dates we never did! Haha! But if I had to get all dressed up and go out all the time, I'd never do dating again! I also won't ever put up with stress again. This guy doesn't add any stress to my life so it's so easy too. We are so on the same page but I don't javw time.tp deal eith a relationship where there's fighting or stress or I doubt things. I'm happier single! If it doesn't work out with this guy i.wont date again! Too much effort and work (and that's why this guy works so well bc he is laid back like me and we just get along so well!)
I am 35 and have never had a serious relationship. I don't know that I ever will. I am most comfortable on my own, my own time, my own schedule, my own rules. I love the thought of love and there are days where I am like oh someone to vent to or share my feelings with besides my parents would be great, but then all the other stuff surrounding relationships seems like too much. I will say, a dual income would make life easier. I still live with my parents because a single teacher's income does not cover it anymore. So I KNOW this feeling.
I’m 30 this year and I thought I’d have a crisis the moment I turned it. I honestly didn’t even care, I’m putting in hope my 30’s will be my best decade so far. So far…nothing has changed but I got hope for the other 9 years 🥲✌️
Having my morning coffee while watching Whitney vlogmas is my favorite part of December!
Sharpie is such a cute name for a black cat 🥹♥️ and he is super handsome
I didn't get into a relationship until I was 31. I'm autistic so people often babied me so I never really had anxiety abt getting older because it always felt like waiting for the point where I would feel like I could do things on my own. And it did happen, so I guess I just mean to say you're doing things at your own pace and you can only measure yourself against previous versions of yourself. So you're always growing even if it may not seem that way. Hopefully that makes sense! I haven't finished the video I just wanted to say you're doing your best! You should always be proud of yourself.
I really like checking out cookbooks from the library. I think it's easier to flip through tested recipes than googling/reading online random things
I felt that "and it's only MONDAY" in my bones.
omg bonnie is making me CACKLE the "i might give it a listen"🤣🤣
Whitney this is Heather, long long long time viewer idk if you'll remember me. Just letting you know I'm always here supporting you and I'm so very very proud of you! Don't worry about your love life, the universe hasn't found someone worthy of your love yet, but they will. I just turned 40 and found the love of my life and believe me, it was worth the wait! We love you Whitney ❤
its okay i never dated either - oh wait i came out of closet as asexual - ive been asked out 60 times and I always found myself saying no and then i realized i dont feel anything in that way and i LOVE being single.
Same here. I'm 24 and I have not even held hands with anyone. Asexual gang rise up!
@@Proto-Martyr word and people are always amazed that i love friendship - because apparently friendly is the new flirting - no flirting is when people use adjectives to describe peoples bodies or start saying things i like u more than friends blah blah - i have never asked out anyone - people have asked me out - there's a difference
Same
Bonnie’s personality is top tier ✨
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Bonnie’s hilarious 😂 “they saw bookshop and were like we like book” 😂 because YEAS
The Third Gilmore Girl was phenomenal. Kelly Bishop is so iconic, funny, warm, and strong. Her life in the industry was wild. I'm a massive lifelong Gilmore fan and it was such a joy learning more about her. I highly rec the audiobook, hearing her voice just gave me the comforting feelings Gilmore does.
I'm obsessed with Martyr! Definitely in the top five books of the year for me.
I’ve been watching you for years and I’m 31 & I have to say this is one of your most reliable vlogs ever
“I would rather shit in my hands and clap” damn
I was looking at the emily wilde books today and thought they sound fun but now that i know they have bonnie's stamp of approval I will add them to my tbr 🫡
Maybe what you need to do is rest and allow yourself to process and recoup from the really big things you've done recently! Like going back to your high school and two presentations! Those can be heavy moments and we all need a little recharge time! Maybe that's what your body is telling you? Maybe you need comfort after all of that vulnerability. Be kind to yourself! You got this
the immediate final surprise song was an attack
The only way I’m ever going to get into a relationship is if it somehow happens effortlessly. I am never going to seek that shit out when I’m happy being single. The anxiety is not worth it. I’m with you on that.
I'm also a BIGGGG procrastinator on literally everything. Sometimes I don't even care to take my antidepressants even if I know I will feel horrible if i don't take them. They could be right next to me but I still won't reach out for them. What helps me is to count to 3, and then without thinking about it, just do the task. 1,2,3 go! I think the hardest part is just starting to do the thing rather than the thing itself.
lol the year i was 29, I was SO preoccupied with being 30. I kept thinking "I'm almost 30, I'm pretty much 30." Then my 30th bday rolled around and i thought i was 31!!! I lived my last year of my twenties as a 30 year old. But now that i'm 32....let me tell you. it's the same as being in your 20s but you have more confidence in who you are and your brain is fully developed. I'd never go back to my 20s. shit is more chill.
Idk why but "Every night you're out of water" got me 😂😂😂
she got me there ngl
I remember the vlogs with the kittens! I didn't know Sharpie was a litter mate.
i loved the wedding people!! it’s got some great dark humor in the beginning, was a big fan of it
I'm so happy you're doing vlogmas, Whitney! I watch your videos like every day, and if you haven't posted I rewatch old ones haha
also, Stepheeen King my beloved
Not even halfway through the video but you going "I'm 28" had me paused for a sec cause I went "I thought we're the same age! Wait.... Am I 28 too??" Like girl you got me doing maths 5 minutes in😂
The Women was honestly a great book! I have 0 interest in historical fiction but this book was 10/10 for me
These vlogs seriously make my day ❤ thank you ❤
Ohhh I find most of my recipes through instagram reels, which sounds oddly as unreliable as pintrest? But the visual of making the recipe helps a lot, cos I dislike cooking. It's like having video instructions. Most of what I've tried making has turned out pretty good so props to insta!
Also got to add, not only do I adore watching your vlogmas but I also love reading the lovely comments as well. Everyone is incredibly sweet, supportive and caring and it's truly a wonderful community you're fostering!
Emily Wilde and Emily Henry supremacy Bonnie has TASTE
So happy for vlogmas❤
Fyi for abby jimenez, you can read the last three without the others, they aren't connected. And the connections are pretty mild. They are all amazing!
Really appreciated the big sister chat about being single in your 20's.
I’m right there with you, girly. Full well knowing I need to be more active and just notttt having the energy or motivation 😅 BUT, I will say, two things that have helped me have been 1) doing something I enjoy while doing the walking to make the time go by faster so I’ll listen to an audiobook, or watch some reality tv or just call my bestfriend to spill tea lol! And 2) having an accountability partner that gets it (the bestie I just mentioned lol), we will literally send each other a little pic of whatever activity we did that day and cheer each other on, we don’t get into specifics about how long or how much was done bc the focus is just getting our bodies moving, and she and I are both plus size so it’s extra nice that we can understand each other in this journey. Anyway, all that to say, sometimes we also need a little bed rot moment! 😋 so don’t be too hard on yourself!! Also, hiiii to Bonnie! It’s been so nice seeing her in your vlogs!!
Get a basic cookbook and start cooking your way through it for recipes. I got an old copy of the America’s Test Kitchen cookbook and have loved everything I tried. Plus it tells you why certain ingredients work better than others. It really helped me learn the basics.
Random question: what kind of camera do you use?
canon g7x! very basic but love her
@ thank you! I love all your videos girl! ❤️
The Women was the best book I've read this year.. yes, give it a read!!
For recipes I love Hetty McKinnon and her cookbook. It's organized by veggie which is super helpful bc I can find recipes that work with the vegetables I have in my fridge and just throw on a protein. I also love sohlae she's on TH-cam and on Instagram. The enchanted broccoli forest is a super good cookbook with a ton of staple recipes for like different dressings and marinades and salads and ways to cook protein.
For meal prepping I think it can sometimes be harder to make a ton of seperate meals, personally I prep "elements" to a meal. Like I roast veggies, I cook my protein, I make sauces,I make rice ir potato's or quinoa to use as a base, I prep veggies for salads. That way 1) I don't get bored of eating the same foods and 2) it usually holds up better I think
I think you'd both like Phantasma! It was my first "romantasy" so I have nothing to compare it too 😂 but it was fun
i was watching that eras tour stream literally walking around flinders st station and when i crossed the street into hungry jacks it was over. wild. then i went to a concert and they played the same song twice so strange.
I really enjoyed the Weddings People. Its a character study with darker themes but a good dose of humor. The characters aren't particularly likeable, but thay makes them more real IMO.
Martyr was really good too. Dark, but good.
I got married at 21. We have been married for 16 years. I have friends that are the same age and have never been in a serious relationship and some that don’t want to. What I’ve learned in my oh so old age. We all struggle, we all have good times, we all wonder “what if?”, what if we chose differently? But you know what? None of us have a better or more important life than another. Your path is yours and you are rocking it.
tell sharpie i said pspspsps
he said 👁️🗨️👄👁️🗨️
Yayyyy ty for the Sharpie intro
girl i felt the exact same way as you about dating, i wanted a relationship so bad but the ANXIETY
Extra early good morning for me. This is a good way to start my day. Almost did a spit take.
I loved the third Gilmore girl book
Bestie I was 28 going on 29 when I got into my first relationship (I'm plus size as well). My first make out session, first date, first sexy time. When I tell you it's absolutely not worth it. I wasted 8 months of my life for someone who at the end told me that 'either you act the same as at the begging of the relationship or this is the end' (I chose option numer two) and all I got in exchange was pregnancy scares and crying myself to sleep every night. So when I tell you men ain't shit, they are really not. I honestly wish I never got into a relationship with him and stayed an untouched virgin forever.
I looooved Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar, so I will be seated!! when you read it 😍
Also, an Emily Henry vlog would be fab. I’ve only read Happy Place that I borrowed from the library and I was honestly surprised how much I enjoyed it. But I don’t want to read all of them tbh. I do want to read Beach Read and Funny Story though but she’s not an auto-read author so I only go for whatever plot sounds interesting. But hey, maybe I’m gonna want more once I’ve read those two, lol.
- I love that you share how you feel with us btw. And I completely relate to how intense that feeling of wanting to go home for the holidays can be, especially when we know it’s coming up, so we just want the days in between to hurry tf up and pass… But we can’t wish our lives away, deep I know, lol, so doing small things to at least get through the days with a bit of joy is sth to pay attention to, I’d say (easier said than done obv). Happy vlogmas though ! 🫶🎄☃️
Gosh, agree with Emily Henry and Bride. Knew why you were sympathetic to me haha
Honestly as a plus size person that didn't get into my first relationship until my 20s I'll say being single is so nice. I definitely used to beat myself up for being single before I dated, but now after the fact, I enjoy my own company. The emotional and time requirements of dating is a lot and is not always worth it. Like knowing that it's harder for me to want to date now bc I understand how much I love being by myself. So don't feel bad!
Question! How did you and Bonnie meet? I’ve been watching you for so long but I don’t remember lol
she would always join my instagram livestreams and i loved how funny she was! so we started talking on snapchat
should i be asleep? yes. but i get a little vlogmas treat before sleep! yeey! 🥹
You're relief at being 27 made me laugh as someone who turned 28 last month 😂😂 I get it though! I felt pretty chill at 27 but now it does feel different!
I get my recipes from the tv, cookbooks I borrow from the library, youtube channels (some are channels of the tv cooking shows so I can watch it whenever I want) and sometimes I try Pinterest or Instagram recipes (but some have been flops, like the lavender earl grey ice cream I tried from Pinterest).
Idk if in USA nutritionists do the same, but in Argentina some nutritionists share recipes on Instagram for healthier recipes. I follow them because my mum has diabetes so I try to cook stuff that is better for her. It's really interesting to see the different kind of flours that are out there.
I get almost all of my meal ideas from Nagi (Recipe Tin Eats), but she’s Australian so they’re mostly written in our measurements 😬
you got games on your phone
goods sorting was there for me when no one else was
Tbh I get a lot of recipes from TikTok lol, especially when I’m trying to find more plant-based type things, the girlies on there do not let me down
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I read Bury Your Gays by Chuck Tingle because the premise sounded great and I really enjoyed the book. It was so aware of genre conventions and really meta which I enjoyed and it was definitely more serious than the Tingle erotica stories. (It's hard to not be more serious than those.)
I also find it so interesting how big the book community is. I usually only spend time in spaces that talk about adult Science Fiction and Fantasy because that's what I read and after resigning from my job at the bookstore, I have no clue about other genres anymore. I've also been trying to read more German fiction and nonfiction from the library and obviously, those books aren't talked about that much online.
P.S. I'm 26 and only today I was asked my age and couldn't remember. Unimaginable when I was younger, so I can relate to what you were saying.
me at any given moment: 👹 YEAAAAAAAAHHHH 👹
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“Thumbs up” has been my thing when I have nothing to do too…but in REAL LIFE! Like with people around me. how embarrassing. So stupid 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t even know I’m doing it, and then it’s done.
I've been doing that with my age too!! And if it makes you feel any better, I was well into adulthood before I had a partner and I was almost 30 before I hit other milestones (if you know what I mean)... There is really not a "correct" way to do life, and it's okay to rest when you need to! I have learned that "forcing" myself to do small things does help (it has to do with rebuilding your dopamine) but you can't live on willpower alone. I hope that doesn't sound preachy, it's just what I've learned. Enjoy the rest of your day!
I’ve been watching these daily (obvi) so my husband has grown accustomed to your presence and he cracked up when you made that remark about shitting in your hands and clapping 😂 anyway I also have stickers on my hydro flask! How do you wash it bc I’m scared I’m going to ruin all my stickers
Omg the other day I CONFIDENTLY told my co-worker that I was 28 and then 10 minutes after the conversation I stood there like “girl I JUST turned 27” 🤣🤣
So needless to say I understand hahaha
I was in my 30s and someone asked how old I was. I didn’t realize until two days later that I’d gotten wrong. 🤷🏾♀️ And I aged myself up. 🤦🏾♀️
I think it’s so silly for a ninth book to be nominated 😂😂
Last year, I would tell people I was 30 when I was still 29 so I could ease into acceptance myself lol
The Ministry of Time is one of my fav books this year and I wouldn't call it scifi, I honestly can't stand that genre and would never willingly read it... it's more litfic/romance. It has time travel which I also usually hate lmao but the prose was so lovely. I loveddd Emily Wilde and want to read Martyr too :)
I don't know if you've tried watching "what's for dinner" moms on youtube, but my sister has found a lot of recipes and meal-planning ideas through them!!
I didn't like ppl we meet on vacation as much as beach read and I haven't read anymore yet. I'm hoping the other ones will be more like beach read
Sharpie looks similar to my Chester kitty. (He lived to be 20 human years old.) Sharpie seems to demand attention when you are at the computer. (In a previous video) Chester kitty did the same thing.😂😂
Tasty has a very easy and simple recipes on their app!
girl get rukmini iyer's cookbooks, the whole concept is : chop, put in a roasting dish in the oven and wait. as a ~~mentally ill lazy person those recipes save me daily because they're pretty healthy, make minimal mess, involve minimal effort and it's sooooooooo easy to make double the recipes to meal prep. and the cherry on top is that it introduced me to so many new vegetables and ways to cook them !!! all the recipes i tried are from the green roasting tin cause i'm vegan but i'd trust any of her books cause the recipes are so good and easy
Could we get a Bindi cameo during Bonnie updates? 🥹
I get my recipes from TH-cam! Julia Pacheco is one of my favorite creators for this. She has super simple ones for lazy weeknights and more involved recipes for when you're feeling fancier and have more energy, and budget recipes, slow cooker recipes, etc. I recommend watching a few of her videos and seeing if anything catches your eye!
I am 29 and I am in the same boat in that way. My friends are all married, have kids and everything and I have two dogs :D I have moments of missing and being sad that I don't have a partner and other times I am fine and don't think about it at all. SO I feel you! 🐸
Maybe you could do your 10 minute walk before work instead of after it? I never make it to the gym when I plan to go after work because I am always so tired and worn out already so I feel you on that 😂
Btw Bonnie you need to continue the AGGTM series, the third one is soooo good!
honestly that’d be ideal because it’s already dark by the time i get home and there’s some more sunshine in the morning but i woke up today at 8:20 for my 9:00 meeting 😬 so i need to practice waking up hahaha
I had my first relationship at 28 and it wasn’t great. My second relationship was way better but I think it’s because it was with a girl and I’m very gay. That relationship just ended and now I’m trying to recover. I realize that relationships are so difficult and I’m gonna enjoy being single for a while. It’s nice to enjoy your own company and to treat yourself to the things you like and want to do. I love all your cats, but Sharpie is the cutest. I adore black cats! I have one named Berri, but I call her Strawberri.
Honestly, aside from reading them in order it’s not gonna hurt if you don’t pay attention to who pops up in which book for Abby Jimenez you’ll still enjoy them. Her works are very modern Nicholas sparks formula of romance but there’s some Sad™️ up in there. I’m a slut for that shit and her dog videos are funnyyyyyyyy
Dude can you make like a google form or something where we can submit recipes for you??!!
🚨 unsolicited advice warning 🚨
I learned this and have been practicing it this past year...
Can you trust yourself?
For example, do you tell yourself, "I am going to do xyz today" and then follow through and do it? Can you trust yourself to keep your word to *yourself*?
I used to promise myself that the next day I would do "xyz", not do it, and feel bad about myself. Then I learned it was because I couldn’t trust my promises to myself. I have been working hard all year to improve this.
(I am not saying you can't trust yourself! Realistically, I do not now you. You may trust yourself 100%!! But possibly this could be helpful. ❤)
@BonnieAyn No, The Good Girls Guide to Murder trilogy is not worth continuing (from someone who read the entire thing, loved book 1 and gave the last one 1 star 😬). But also - maybe, if you want to see the entire dumpster fire it ended up being 😅😂
OOP good to know ty!!
should i message the hinge guy that ghosted me in august to let him know he looks like luigi? my friend said no.
I'm in my 30s and I forget my age all the time! As soon as you leave school it just doesn't really matter anymore. And I want to say it's fine to be single and don't feel so bad, but I'm ace so I'm not looking for a relationship and I know it's different if it's something you want.
Hey Whitney! Really enjoying your content - I’ve been binging it the last couple of days and find you incredibly relatable and kind
People We Meet on Vacation is the only Emily Henry book that I haven’t loved!
I'm almost 27 and feel like there's something wrong with me because i never got a proper job. I'm changing careers, but I sometimes think to myself that I might never get anything and die with nothing, like I'm getting old and with nothing accomplished. Whatever...
27 is SO young still though! everyone achieves greatness, the only thing that differs is the size of your audience. don’t compare yourself to others, there’s nothing wrong with you ♥️
I turned 30 on the 8th and I thought it'd be worse. it's only been 3 days, but so far it's not as awful as I thought. it's just coming to terms with my 20s being over ✌🏼👍🏻
also, I'm reading A Thousand Boy Kisses and it's not that bad, but I have so much highlighted so far and I'm barely half way through so that's fun.
I'm 30 and haven't had a serious relationship in years... sometimes I desperately wish I had a partner but the effort of putting myself out there doesn't sound appealing and I hear everyone always griping about their relationship qualms and I'm like.... maybe not (signed someone who came straight home from work, ate dinner, and flopped down in bed to watch a youtube video instead of going to the gym or wrapping presents or reading books or doing literally ANYTHING else)
Sci-fi nominees were absolutely atrocious this year. Most of them were actually literary 🤡💀
dude I’m exactly the same, for some reason I believe that I’m 25 even though I’m 24. and it should be easy to memorise bc I was born in 2000 lol
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not only do I forget my age, I'm out here forgetting my birthday 🤦🏻♀️ I bought cold medicine the other week, and the cashier asked for my date of birth, and I completely blanked. embarrassing, silly goose behavior.
you could do a video reading and ranking emily henry's books when her new one comes out in april. that way, you're caught up and ✨️content✨️.
the sjm win reaction was hilarious. I still haven't read that one because I don't love the first two, and I've heard such terrible things... and acotar is my baby, and I don't want her ruined.
I miss bonnie's vlogs so much, she doesn't hold back when she doesn't like a book, but will bully me when she loves them, like a true sagittarius queen, and I need that kind of encouragement.
hey Whitney, I´m sorry if this is too personal or intimate or whatever, but where are you in your menstrual cycle? I only ask because the changes in hormones can effect how well certain medications work on women, and that might explain why you're feeling such a dip emotionally. I also want to say that I really love all your content and I get super exited when I see you posted.
Feeling really seen in the comments so I'll join in. I'm 33 and I've never had a relationship either. And this used to bother me a lot more until I learned that I am in fact not the only person like this. And now I figure if it happens, it happens. What a lot of people don't want to admit is it's about luck. Sure you can up the odds by going out and seeing new people but it's still luck if you meet the right person at the right time. I just am not cut out for the dating life I don't think - I have limited free time I don't want to spend it playing the lottery with meeting new people. The only things now that bother me are how society shows me it's not set up for me as a single person, whether that's how much more I struggle to pay for my life (single income paying for an apartment, utilities, travel, etc) or how people can bring a significant other to events but I'm not allowed to bring anyone, that kind of thing.
Me, a 28 year old, watching this: 😀
jk I no longer stress about my age but I do agree that 27 sounded better than 28 lol
im 23 and been on like half a date, and my friend who has been dating the same guy from 8th grade tries to give me dating advice. shes been with the same guy for a decade and no ring, no house, dont even rent together when he knows she hates living with her family, cant even trust him with finances. home girl is not qualified.
ohh bonnie didnt like immortal dark :o i recently bought..bc vampires. not me sayin red queen at same time as whitney xD i recently binged read red queen series.. in part bc whitney did and liked it!! ive powerless to read but if its similar to red queen then might be better if i wait to read it bc i just read red queen.. im still reading the novella book of shorts stories, broken throne but lowkey i havent really been reading, ive just been reading other books.. im just not that invested in the short stories.. i had to skip evangelines short story bc im just kinda not invested and bored
I'm 40 and I dated someone for 16 years. All my 20's and most my 30's. Had 2 kids. We broke up and being single was amazing. All I want to do when I'm not working or being a mom is want to lounge and read! I am with someone for 6 months now but legit our first date was dinner st his house bc he's a single dad as well. It doesn't feel like during bc we sre older now and don't care about doing all the fancy dating stuff. We go out and get dinner and went to a comedy show but we are so busy with kids and work it's like we are already a married couple and I love it! We are going to the Virgin Islands this spring break with our kids and we joke that will be our first big dates we never did! Haha!
But if I had to get all dressed up and go out all the time, I'd never do dating again! I also won't ever put up with stress again. This guy doesn't add any stress to my life so it's so easy too. We are so on the same page but I don't javw time.tp deal eith a relationship where there's fighting or stress or I doubt things. I'm happier single! If it doesn't work out with this guy i.wont date again! Too much effort and work (and that's why this guy works so well bc he is laid back like me and we just get along so well!)