The Duality of humans and emotions is fascinating and I particularly find solace in much of John's insights on life. I am still a young adult but hearing how John and Hank have overcome difficulty and found solace in one way or another has been comforting. Thank you for sharing your time, effort, and stories with us all. No matter how long the timer of my mortal life goes, if my memory serves me true, I'll remember that I shouldn't forget to be awesome. Thank you - Daf
If you haven't gotten your hands on the book the anthropocene reviewed, or the podcast reading of it by John, you should check it out. This is one of the chapters and it's just beautiful and funny and personal and will make you feel like maybe everyone actually does understand your brain. Or maybe just John does. Either way, those pages leave you a little less alone than you were before.
I usually don't make a habit of re-listening to podcast episodes, but this one is certainly an exception. Aside from this time, I've listened to it when my friend and I were drifting apart, when I felt like my life completely lacked direction, when my boyfriend's mom was in the hospital for months, and just last week, when my boyfriend's mom passed. And I still remember the very first time I listened to it. I was cleaning the bathroom, and when I heard the line about the seas between you and the past, I just sat on the ground and cried. There is so much to be gained from the honesty and the wisdom here. I'm 19. The world is so big and I am so scared. We're here because we're here because we're here.
At 39 I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but that would be a lie. But you get stronger and you keep going. Maybe it doesn't get easier. But you get stronger. You're here because you're here. But you're still *here*.
i’ve not listened to this before, although i’ve heard the story at a previous book tour, and i just got to the bit you mentioned in your comment. had to pause it because it immediately made me start crying in the middle of an ikea
Heading into my 53rd year soon, I remember I wasn't supposed to last one year after birth. I should be dead. I know I should be thankful, but I am so very tired. Tired of being strong. Tired of fighting for everyone to be ok. Tired of fighting my own loneliness, anxiety, and fear. Tired of hoping things will be better. And yet... I'm still here. Even when I don't want to be. I'm here because my mother needs me. I'm here because my kids need me. I'm here because my husband and friends and students and siblings, nieces, and nephews need me. As much as I'd like to quit, I will keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm here, because I'm here, because I'm here. Thank you, John, for the reminder.
This video is like going to the dentist for me, I dread it because I know it will hurt (emotionally) but I need to in order to clear out the plaque of nihilism that builds up in my soul as a byproduct of the modern age. But unlike the dentists, I feel better after watching it, like a weight that I didn’t notice was pulled off my shoulders, and I realize that I can stand straight again.
Just a helpful tip for your health: if you actually feel bad after going to the dentist, this is a sign that you may need to up your dental hygiene. It's not supposed to hurt (･o･;)
“‘Cause here’s the thing: To know how it ends And still begin to sing it again As if it might turn out this time- I learned that from a friend of mine.” - _Hadestown_
As soon as I got two seconds into this video, I paused it, put on my snow suit, and marched out into the upstate New York outdoors to go on a walk with you, John. I forged through the nature walk right down from my house and walked through three feet of snow. Now I am at the overlook that sits out over the frozen lake and by god, it’s a beautiful place to be here because we’re here because we’re here. My sentimental tears are freezing to my face, so I’m going to head back. But thank you, John, for the walk and the talk.
I have, by almost any metric, had the best year of my life. After years of self hatred, I finally accepted myself, clued in my family about who I am, and found that actually, I love who I am. I'm here because I'm here, and I'll give that 5 stars.
That's fantastic. I wouldn't say I love myself, but I've at least excised much of the poisonous self-loathing that I'd been carrying around for almost a decade. The friends to whom I could talk about it all have been generally amazing. Hope you keep doing well, and keep loving your true self.
My unknown friend, we are both here because of the core of us never completely lost the will to hope; despite all evidence to the contrary. You are welcome here. I am glad to have had this moment with you.
Thank you John. I had no idea what a journey watching that video would be but I treasured every bitter sweet moment, culminating in singing along with you in Australia with tears in my eyes and my children in the back seats of the car on the way home from the hardware store. Life is made up of these tiny moments that give you a glimpse of both your insignificance, and your significance, at least to each other. Thank you for sharing that moment with us, and with me.
I tried to sing along, but it came out as a low whisper because like John, it doesn’t take much to make me cry. Also I know he jokes a lot about not being able to sing but John actually has a pleasant, very nice singing voice!! And to the Green bros, nerdfighteria, and anyone else who reads this: Thank YOU ALL for being here.
My sister made me drinking glasses with “were here because” etched into them and I love to sit around my table and share a drink with my friends and family
Does the etched phrase extend around the entire circumference of the glass such that there is a (approximately single character width of) space between the ending 'e' of "because" and the 'w' of "we're"? So that the phrase appears to repeat like the chorus of the song?
@@jacejunk no, but that sounds like an awesome design that you should do! Each glass had different drawings of places I love, space, my local cemetery, my neighborhood, my library (with my cat)
When the episode released Auld Lang Syne was the most intimate moment I ever had with an audio recording. It was so raw and powerful. I lack the words to describe it. I didn‘t expect to cry listening to one of my favorite podcasts and I didn‘t expect to sing a song I previously didn‘t know. But I did. And I‘m glad I did. Thank you, John. To old times, and better times yet ❤️
I shared in this experience of this audio. It's one of my most favorite things to listen to. I'm so thankful it and the people that sparked it existed. We are all here.
I too had that experience. I looked up into the middle distance and closed my eyes and savored John's words, and Robbie Burns', and the music playing behind them, and was just *here*, with every fibre of my being. Tears didn't fall, but they were there. They're always there when I listen to this, which I suspect will happen every Christmas season & New Years'. Thank you, John. A thousand thank yous.
The scenery is so pretty and goes wonderfully with the words. I also love how the sound of the footsteps were not edited out. Also, we Bengalies have a song similar to this tune and it is about old friendships and how all of the friends in said song had moved on and were mourning their past friendships. It was written by Rabindranath Tagore and is one of my favourite songs. Everytime I hear it now I think about The Anthropocene Reviewed😊
Just linking it here for people to refer! - th-cam.com/video/Q2aPJT1Ex0k/w-d-xo.html p.s. I am an Indian and had also heard this song somewhere so found a hindi translation of Tagore's version! - th-cam.com/video/ufkdNwMmg8g/w-d-xo.html This video and comment truly made me realise just how universal this song is.
I can’t help feeling in absolute awe when I experience moments of synchronicity like this… especially when considering that everything comprised by the universe originated in purely random chaos… My reason for even mentioning this, is because I was just diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia today. I turned 23 just over a week ago, & I am a father to two little girls; a 2.5 year-old (not blood-related, but I love as if she were my own), and a 4 month old (the happiest, most precious baby I’ve ever laid eyes on). I don’t even know why I’m sharing any of this, but I just want to say that this video found me at the right time. Thanks, John.
The general store my family has owned for the last 12 years burned down early this morning. I've worked there every summer since I was nine and it was my saving grace early in the pandemic. It was a community center in our small island town. I needed this moment of peace and rememberance so badly.
Amy Krouse Rosenthal is how I found you guys and I'm so grateful for that. A while back, I taught an author study on her in my preschool class, and a parent in the class knew her, but said we probably couldn't connect to her because she wasn't well. The children loved the books. Fast forward a few years and I found her book Textbook in a bargain bin at an Office Depot, not sure why it was there, but I'm glad it was. I bought it and held onto it for a while. I finally read it during the early lockdown times of the panaroma and it was such a lovely uplifting thing to read. It lead me to her videos of the gatherings of lovely, and therefore to John and then to watching every single vlogbrothers video. So much serendipity, and joy, and thoughtfulness from Amy to you. Thank you.
John, this is actually the first comment I've ever made on youtube, but I felt the need to reach out and thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. My mother died on Christmas morning after a year and a half battle with cancer, and I just watched this on the morning before her funeral. I hadn't been able to cry yet. I drove across the country and three different mountain passes through snow and ice so I could be by her side, and fell straight into trying to help with arrangements, family support, and all the other things involved. Thank you, John, for giving me the opportunity to feel the things I really needed to feel before I had to go be strong for others that are suffering. I wish I could plagiarize this entire video for the eulogy, but I think the parts about being a successful writer might cause some confusion. What I end up saying will probably be just as monumentally stupid as your yoga statement, but wish me luck. Once again, thank you for everything that you are and everything that you do, and know that on this day you deeply helped a person on one of the darkest days of his life. I'd say don't forget to be awesome, but you never do.
I'm sorry for your loss, and wish you the strength to get through this. On the topic of the eulogy, you comment on being a successful writer: You made me both cry and laugh with what you wrote, so it's not as bad as you made it out to be.
Sending you and your loved ones light on this dark day. I wish you peace and some sweet moments reflecting on the good things you cherish that are part of what makes losing them so hard.
I’m sorry for your loss. Wishing you the strength to get through these difficult times. Good luck with the eulogy; I’m sure it’ll be great, but if it isn’t perfect, don’t worry about it. Sometimes we don’t always say the exact right thing and that’s okay. I hope all will be well with time, and that you can take your time to grieve while continuing to move forward. Again, sorry for your loss.
This year was meant to be a next big step for me, and many exciting changes happened. However in April my Dad died, and we're going through the firsts without him now. I don't even know if this was the worst year of my life or one of the best, because both sides have happened. This video is reminder that no matter, it will all be the old days soon enough and I'll be carrying on regardless
It was very similar for me this year, too. My mother and last grandparent both died this year, but I also married my wife and got my first full-time teaching job. The year has held many joys and I couldn’t share them with two very dear family members, but knowing the bleakness of that grief and the luminance of positive change, I share in the spirit of those depths and heights with you and wish you solace in the former and delight for the latter. I sing it with you and the rest of us here in the VB community: indeed, we are here because we’re here because we’re here.
I'm 2 years into the dead dad life, and it's my new normal. But sometimes even now the grief will hit me like a wall and it's all I can do to breathe even though even that feels rather impossible. But 99% of the time, I'm happy. Dad is at rest. The struggle of the end of his life is now the past. And that's a blessing.
My dad died the year I got married, 2020. I still can’t figure out how I could be so joyous and then feel completely devastated within a couple of months. My heart goes out to you and everyone else going through something similar
I can never get enough of this episode. It saved my life when I was drowning. I have “We’re here because” engraved in my class ring, embroidered on my coat, and written all over my room. Thank you for helping me see that “hope is, for lack of a better word, true”. Signed, an internet stranger
Today I am starting my 29th revolution around the sun. I have been searching for words - anywhere and everywhere on my little metal box screen I held in my hands every day for the past 2 years in a deeply depressed state while enduring some big life changes- that would bring me comfort, peace, hope, and the confidence to be ok with being here and not knowing why. Thank you so much. Thank you a million times. This is something I’ll share and take with me for the rest of my life ❤
Sang this at the turtles all the way down book event a few years ago. Such a magical moment shared with fellow Nerd Fighters and book lovers alike. Thank you John.
That year was a rough and lonely year for me, and going alone to to that book tour was one of those moments that highlighted my loneliness. But singing along with both "Were Here" and "This Year" helped me feel so connected to everyone there. It was exactly what I needed.
I told my mom something 2 days ago and her response has changed the way I think I will look at her for forever. I have been a nerdfighter since middle school. You have been here with me through finding friends in high school and loosing them in college. Starting a degree and not being able to finish it. A worldwide pandemic I wasn’t convinced wouldn’t end us all. This year has been one of the worst for me. My brother died this year. I have hopes for next year but the best way to get flowers is to plant them yourself. I’ve got a lot of good coming my way. I will make it so, to anyone else out there reading this. We’re here because we’re here because we’re here
I too lost my brother last year. I’m sending you feelings of acceptance and healing. Sometimes I think the hurt may never diminish. My heart goes out to you.
As emotional as the ending has made me, I probably shouldn't have listened to this at work. With how the past few years have gone it's quite cathartic, for me at least. Thank you for this
I have loved my boyfriend through chemo and lost him, not in death but in a break-up. It hurts so bad to have been through his treatment together and then still know the relationship doesn't work. I'm so glad he's still around for others to enjoy. My thing with feathers sings to the tune of Auld Lang Syne. It sings without the words, so sometimes I hear it as an ode to the good old days and sometimes as a reminder that we're here because we're here. But whichever it is, it never stops at all. Thank you, John.
John, this is one of my favourite chapters in The Anthropocene Reviewed and it never fails to make me cry. Thank you for the book. Thank you for this video. Thank you.
Johh, you were there, with her, in her time of need. You didn't fail anybody. You said something that's actually funny in a dark sort of way but I bet the person who engraved MM on your moneyclip would love that sort of thing. ❤
Thank you for this piece of serenity. I’m having trouble finding these bits of slow, gentle beauty for myself as of late. It’s lovely to know that they do indeed still exist and sometimes one just needs a new perspective. Thank you for treating Nerdfighteria gently.
I remember hearing John tell the story of "We're Here Because We're Here" on the Turtles All the Way Down tour in Nashville, and everyone singing the words softly together...it was so powerful. I cried--not a lot, but a little--and haven't ever forgotten that experience. Thank you, John, for bringing Amy Krouse Rosenthal into all of our lives. Though we may never have met her, we feel that connection with her and you even years later.
I'm willing to bet that most of the people who sing with you do so quietly, gently, and mostly to themselves. But even so, throughout time, those voices build and build until we are a thunderous choir of people. And we - all of us - were here. Thank you
I have heard versions of the Amy Krause Rosenthal/Auld Lang Syne story several times (I think my first was on the Turtles All the Way Down book tour), but I never tire of it. And the version from Anthropocene Reviewed is always so beautiful and full of hope. Based on the title I knew exactly what to expect clicking on today's video. What I didn't know was how badly I needed that dose of hope today, as well as the tears that escaped while singing along to "We're Here Because We're Here." Thank You John.
I finally managed to come back to this episode after my mum died three weeks ago. I couldn't sing the whole tune without crying, but who was I kidding, I broke down in sobs twice before that as well. I miss her so much. Seeing the comments of other grieving nerdfighters here has made me feel less alone, but the pain is huge.
I needed to hear this. This is my first time going through the end of a year as an orphan (although I am 28, orphan is the word that resonates most). Your words pierced through the wall I built between me and my feelings.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I wish I had adequate words of comfort to offer but all I have is this verse. We're here because we're here because we're here, because we're here ❤️
There are a few pieces of literature or film I’ve revisited as often as this podcast, and I agree. I first listened to this on the day it was released, my 26th birthday. I’m now 29 and it’s been a WILD ride and I’m so in love with this.
As someone who I know nothing about, will never meet, and only know of because of their impact on one of my favorite authors Amy Krouse Rosenthal has had such a profound impact on my life simply by reminding me that "we're here, because we're here, because we're here."
My grandmother passed away on Christmas Day. We knew it was coming, but it's been hard. We've spent the last week thinking about the good old days. Not just our good old days, but hers as well. She saved everything. She was 90 years old, we had just celebrated her birthday a month prior. It was a surprise tea party on her mother's crystal.
John, thank you for this. This is my favorite review in your book, and one that truly changed my life, without hearing you say this, I wouldn’t be alive today. Thank you so much.
Every time I hear this I cry. And that's a good thing. It's like a emotional thermometer. Did I cry? Did I feel more hopeful afterwards? Then I must be doing okay. Thank you John.
I’m currently booking flights to leave my holiday to go say my final goodbyes to my grandmother, she read the Anthropocene reviewed before she was hospitalised, and she loved it. I’m so glad I got to share that with her before now. Thank you Update: she passed this morning
I listen to this episode of the Anthropocene Reviewed on New Years Eve every year since it came out, and this episode always makes me sob like a baby, and I’m so grateful for it Thanks for being here John and Hank. Thanks for being here Nerdfighters. Happy New Year, I hope we all have a wonderful 2023 🖤
I was watching Turtles All the Way Down and when Aza's mom started singing, I started sobbing. This 'we're here, because we're here' just started it. Thank you John. We're here because we're here.
John, I don’t think I can fully express how much that chapter of TAR has changed my life. I was first introduced to TAR at my camp, where my counselor read us a chapter each night. She saved Auld Lang Syne for the last night and we spent 20 minutes on floor sobbing as we held onto one another, knowing that we would never be together like this again. I have since read the chapter during the hardest nights of my young life so far. The day my grandfather died, I lay in bed sobbing and reading your words. You taught me how to say goodbye. We have also started a new family tradition of reading the chapter aloud during the final minutes of each year and singing together. So, thank you John for giving me this text and this book that has brought me so much closer to the people I love. You have taught me how to say goodbye to people who I never see again, and to a year that has brought so my light into my life.
John, the way you write feels like a hug from an extended family member on a holiday you can look forward to seeing them at. I can-and do-look forward to reading your words because they bring me a profound sense of humanity, unlike any other literature I’ve ever read or listened to.
As a sensory person, thank you for making videos that I can get housework done while watching. Your poignant reflections and audio that gets me thinking allow my brain to chew on something, learn something, and engage my emotions, while the simple visuals (with the corresponding and unobtrusive audio in the background) give just the right level of satisfaction but not distraction for my eyes that I can keep focused on other things and this at the same time. I love this one and your other videos just walking in the woods and talking. Much love!
My Ma and I sang Auld Lang Syne for hours when putting up the Christmas tree this year. I told her about this podcast episode and I can't wait to send her this link (she doesn't have Spotify so this is now accessible to her). Thank you John for this cup of kindness.
I just re-read TATWD yesterday. Immediate tears in my eyes when I read the part about Auld Lang Syne, immediate welling when this notification came through! Thanks John ❤️
When my boyfriend passed in 2020 my friend likened death to a quienceañera, something that happens to everyone. Of course quienceañeras are not a universal experience, let alone an experience my friend or I had had. It was silly and cheered me up, much like your yoga comment that made me giggle listening to your book as I approached the one year anniversary of losing Sam. Thank you John, Hank and nerdfighteria for being here because you’re here. Happy new year!
My friends and I call goosebumps “getting puffed.” Our human skin seems to function the way a threatened cat’s does, puffing up to look larger as an emotional response. I find it really funny that us humans ‘puff up’ when we encounter intense artistic beauty, rather than as a defensive measure against danger the way other mammals do. Whenever I want to get my puff on, this is one of my favorite bits of prose to come visit. It’s a “guaranteed puff” as my friends and I would say
I think a breakup can hurt even worse than death. With death, it's not their fault that we're no longer together, but with a breakup, it was a choice not to be together and that can be so painful. Especially if it's a long-term relationship. Sending you hugs, wherever you may be!
It is a grief and a loss. I wish you the time and space and energy to fully feel and process all that brought you to this moment and find your path forward.
I know I have some pent up emotions when I hear Johns review voice and I immediately break out in tears. Thank you for bringing peace in my life John. Thank you for a pause.
John, thank you for sharing this with us again! I'm 54 but sometimes we just need a friend to walk in the snow with us and talk to us while we listen to their amazing words! My Mom passed away on Dec 4 2020, she had dementia and was in a nursing home. Because of C19 the last time we saw my Mom was Christmas 2019 and New Years Day 2020. Her birthday was Feb 28, but the nursing home was already not allowing visitors, so we lost the entire last year of my Mom's life, didn't get to see her at all. And I'll never hear her sweet voice and loving words ever again. But she was here! Love you Mom!
Thank you, John. My wife's youngest brother died a week ago. Besides the absolute beauty of this 20 min video, you have helped me grieve his death. Though you don't know me, you are one of the BEST people that I KNOW! Thank you for being the human being that you are.
I always look forward to an introspective video from you, John. Over the last 10 years, it's wonderful to think about how much you and Hank and the Nerfighters have helped show me, then a scared, lost college kid, how to be a thoughtful, enthusiastic, silly adult. Now, looking back over those 10 years, it's clear how much it meant to be shown that path, and I'm so glad that I walked down it. Here's to a new year, Nerdfightaria, may we continue to be inspired by those around us, and strive to show others that path.
This community and Hank and John have really helped me with the thoughtful silly adult part as well. I love being a literal Nerd Fighter unashamedly enjoying stuff, and doing my best to decrease suck and increase awesome. And I love that I get to use such silly words to describe it!
this hospice chaplain loved this video very much. and can attest to the difficulty of standing there, not just doing something. especially when it's someone you love.
Thank you for reminding us once again this year. I cried when i listened to this chapter for the first time, when i read it again in your book, and when i watched your narration in 2020. when i thought i wouldn’t this time, i was wrong. I guess that’s just how it is.
"I'll never speak again to many of the people who loved me into this moment as you will never speak to many of the people who loved you into your now and so we raise a glass to them and hope that perhaps somewhere they are raising a glass to us" it is okay to question why we are here, what we are supposed to do, that do we matter, but in the end we are here and we will always be here, and nothing is gonna change that.
This year we sang Auld lang syne for our Nordic Lucia Celebration here at Kings Chapel in Aberdeen, Scotland. We were a mix of nordic strangers from different countries, brought together by our common tradition, in a country which was not ours by birth, but ours by choice. Singing this song at such an event brought something wonderful to this year. It made a lovely echo and tribute of the song which helped me and nerdfighteria feel connected in covid times
John, this video will never not break my heart in the most beautiful way. My mom passed away over 5 years ago now from colon cancer. We have a video of her singing “we’re here because we’re here because we’re here.” I don’t know if she knew this history of this version of the song, but I know I am so grateful to have her voice in my head singing it. Thank you forever for reminding me of it every year.
It's almost June. I watched this on accident - I was just, you know... I was curious. And now I'm heartbroken, and weeping, because I always think of my grandmother on New Year's. I miss her desperately, and this put some serious words to all of the emotions that ... we feel, at a base level. The experience of being here. Sobbing openly. Thank you?
I’m not that given to commenting, especially months on, but this one needed a response. Today I live abroad, for the first time in my life, and it has been an incredible experience. I moved here 8 months ago, to the other side of the world from my home, to a country where I didn’t know a single person and where I couldn’t speak or read the language. I have a life here now, one that I will be again leaving in 2 months, and it has made me acutely aware of how precious every moment is. I don’t have an infinite amount of time to see the trees- I have a flight that will take me away from them again soon, and while I can’t wait to be home again, this too has become a home to me. Every new year I sing Auld Lang Syne with my family, apart from this year where I sang it 9 hours early and with a group of friends and strangers. The line about the ‘roaring seas’ that separate us is quite literally true for me, and it will be true again for the rest of the years of my life. The people who make up my existence will never again be in the same place, never mind the same country, and so I can only hope that we can continue to remember each other fondly as we continue on our separate paths. I appreciate this video more than I can say (although I’ve said a lot!)
You didn’t fail her, John. And what a beautiful tribute this essay is to her. I had no idea you were friends with Amy. I’m a preschool teacher and reading her books to my students is always a treat- they adore her sweet little stories. Happy New Year.
i don’t have words to express how close this excerpt is to my heart. i hope that you know that you’ve done exceptionally beautiful and meaningful work.
I needed this today. My grandmother passed away on Christmas morning. My sister and I had spent the past two weeks caring for her. We need that reminder of hope and that we are, in fact, here. Thanks, John.
The part about the people who loved you into your current moment really struck me this time. I think it’s because i started college this year and finally got out of high school. I’ve been in the same school since kindergarten and have had many many experiences of people who came by past my life and loved me into the person I currently am. I think about my teachers a lot in particular. I don’t think people acknowledge how much teachers who teach kids over a longer period of time become a sort of a parent. So, this year, I’m really grateful for my teachers through the years who believed in me when not only my parents, but I myself didn’t. They saw that I could actually become the person I currently am. And for that I’m grateful. Thank you.
It has been a rough year, but y'all's content, and Dear Hank & John especially, have helped how I think about hope. Nothing like this (like us, like TH-cam, like the internet) has ever happened before, and you have been instrumental in the story I tell myself to make sense of it. Thank you. Happy New Year!
"How can this be happening, You do so much yoga?" Is my new favorite phrase. . It encapsulates the longing, searching, and hoping that humans do when facing need.
I just re-listened to the podcast episode just yesterday, it’s such a beautiful piece of writing, thank you for writing it and sharing it with us, we’re here because we’re here.
I usually watch new Vlogbrothers as soon as they come out, but I'm not emotionally ready to handle the Auld Lang Syne review on this cold, gray Tuesday morning. I'll come back later when the time is right for me. Happy Holidays all.
I have a simple prayer at the beginning of this year, and every year: May this year justify our hope. -John
Thank you John
That’s a wonderful prayer, Happy New Year John 🖤
So much of this is beautiful- thank you 🙏
I personally may not believe in god, but that's a wonderful wish to have. I hope it comes true.
Amen.
This video is going to stand in VERY stark contrast to the one I have planned for Friday and I think that's for the best...
The Duality of humans and emotions is fascinating and I particularly find solace in much of John's insights on life. I am still a young adult but hearing how John and Hank have overcome difficulty and found solace in one way or another has been comforting. Thank you for sharing your time, effort, and stories with us all. No matter how long the timer of my mortal life goes, if my memory serves me true, I'll remember that I shouldn't forget to be awesome.
Thank you
- Daf
And he said last week would be his last video of 2022, come on Hank, you can take NYE off.
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@@nickinpie He could find comfort in making it though so I just hope John does what makes him happy. Hope you have a good 2023 btw
I give Auld Lang Syne 5 stars.
i was waiting for him to say it and when the video ended i immediately went to look for this comment
I give this comment 5 stars.
I guess this explains why Hank said in the trombone champ that John was a big fan of Auld Lang Syne.
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John- a 20 minute musing on the nature of life and death that made me openly weep
Hank- THIS BOBA LID LIED TO ME!!
I love this sibling dynamic
If you haven't gotten your hands on the book the anthropocene reviewed, or the podcast reading of it by John, you should check it out. This is one of the chapters and it's just beautiful and funny and personal and will make you feel like maybe everyone actually does understand your brain. Or maybe just John does. Either way, those pages leave you a little less alone than you were before.
im a baby rn. I'll be an adult again tomorrow.
I usually don't make a habit of re-listening to podcast episodes, but this one is certainly an exception. Aside from this time, I've listened to it when my friend and I were drifting apart, when I felt like my life completely lacked direction, when my boyfriend's mom was in the hospital for months, and just last week, when my boyfriend's mom passed. And I still remember the very first time I listened to it. I was cleaning the bathroom, and when I heard the line about the seas between you and the past, I just sat on the ground and cried. There is so much to be gained from the honesty and the wisdom here. I'm 19. The world is so big and I am so scared. We're here because we're here because we're here.
I listen to it every year at New Years, It causes/allows me to reflect on what I’ve gained and lost in the past year
At 39 I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but that would be a lie. But you get stronger and you keep going. Maybe it doesn't get easier. But you get stronger. You're here because you're here. But you're still *here*.
When I read the end of your comment I cried. I'm 37. The world is so big and I am so scared but we're here because we're here ❤️
i’ve not listened to this before, although i’ve heard the story at a previous book tour, and i just got to the bit you mentioned in your comment. had to pause it because it immediately made me start crying in the middle of an ikea
I'm 32. The world is so big and I am so scared. We're here because we're here because we're here.
I cannot express how it felt to see those seemingly perfectly timed birds fly past at the end. The thing with feathers.
If I saw it on a cinematograph film, I would swear it was faked.
The birds were actually paid actors
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I am at my grandmothers house as she passes today. I needed this moment of peace and forethought today. Thank you for being here, John. ❤️
Sending you love and light through the ether. -John
@@vlogbrothers we love you john. happy new years, hopefully a year where more hope could be found!
I am so sorry, I hope you get through this and get to the other side❤️
The love your grandmother poured into your family lives on. My condolences.
May her passing be with ease and her memory a blessing.
“Walk in the forest with John and soft background music” is exactly the kind of content i was hoping for this time of year
Honestly, it's such a good idea to have someone walk around and give out compliments.
I do it every day but no one pays me. ):
@@TyphoonJohnny turn that frown upside down! Here I am to pay you fake internet money ( $ ) ( $ ) ( $ )
I LIKE YOUR USERNAME!
@@geekgroupie42 ohmygosh u are so right that is an incredible name “shadowofthecandle”
I do this every time I leave the house habitually. It’s so important to put goodness into the world.
Heading into my 53rd year soon, I remember I wasn't supposed to last one year after birth. I should be dead. I know I should be thankful, but I am so very tired. Tired of being strong. Tired of fighting for everyone to be ok. Tired of fighting my own loneliness, anxiety, and fear. Tired of hoping things will be better. And yet... I'm still here. Even when I don't want to be. I'm here because my mother needs me. I'm here because my kids need me. I'm here because my husband and friends and students and siblings, nieces, and nephews need me. As much as I'd like to quit, I will keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm here, because I'm here, because I'm here. Thank you, John, for the reminder.
This video is like going to the dentist for me, I dread it because I know it will hurt (emotionally) but I need to in order to clear out the plaque of nihilism that builds up in my soul as a byproduct of the modern age. But unlike the dentists, I feel better after watching it, like a weight that I didn’t notice was pulled off my shoulders, and I realize that I can stand straight again.
i love this comment
Just a helpful tip for your health: if you actually feel bad after going to the dentist, this is a sign that you may need to up your dental hygiene. It's not supposed to hurt (･o･;)
@@NinaDmytraczenko lol thanks for your concern. I don’t feel bad afterwards, I just don’t feel good. Mostly I feel relived haha.
I agree wholeheartedly
How interesting...I feel the exact opposite :( like the weight is crushing me...
“‘Cause here’s the thing:
To know how it ends
And still begin to sing it again
As if it might turn out this time-
I learned that from a friend of mine.”
- _Hadestown_
I love this quote. I’ve thought about getting a tattoo of it!
"Can you hear it?
Can you see it??
Can you feel it???
Like a train.
Is it coming? Is it coming this way?"
GOD not the hadestown quotes. i already cry every time i hear this podcast episode. i don’t need to also cry reading the comments
As soon as I got two seconds into this video, I paused it, put on my snow suit, and marched out into the upstate New York outdoors to go on a walk with you, John. I forged through the nature walk right down from my house and walked through three feet of snow. Now I am at the overlook that sits out over the frozen lake and by god, it’s a beautiful place to be here because we’re here because we’re here. My sentimental tears are freezing to my face, so I’m going to head back. But thank you, John, for the walk and the talk.
I love that almost every step he took on this walk was on top of other footprints or hoof prints…little symbols of “we’re here” ❤
I have, by almost any metric, had the best year of my life. After years of self hatred, I finally accepted myself, clued in my family about who I am, and found that actually, I love who I am. I'm here because I'm here, and I'll give that 5 stars.
Interminable congratulations from a random person you'll never meet who resonated with this. The world is happy you're here.
Cheers! I'm still on that journey, as young as I am, and I hope to find myself in a place that mirrors yours. Be proud!
I give you 5 start too! ; )
That's fantastic. I wouldn't say I love myself, but I've at least excised much of the poisonous self-loathing that I'd been carrying around for almost a decade. The friends to whom I could talk about it all have been generally amazing. Hope you keep doing well, and keep loving your true self.
My unknown friend, we are both here because of the core of us never completely lost the will to hope; despite all evidence to the contrary.
You are welcome here.
I am glad to have had this moment with you.
Thank you John. I had no idea what a journey watching that video would be but I treasured every bitter sweet moment, culminating in singing along with you in Australia with tears in my eyes and my children in the back seats of the car on the way home from the hardware store. Life is made up of these tiny moments that give you a glimpse of both your insignificance, and your significance, at least to each other. Thank you for sharing that moment with us, and with me.
seeing my favourite creators interacting with each other makes me so unreasonably happy. i couldn’t agree more w your comment, too!
Your hair looks gorgeous! 🍋 🍓
Nice to see you here Jazza
Hey Jazza! I just want to say it's really cool to see artists reactions to eachother's pieces.
@@allyson-- thanks so much! 🥰
On the version of this video from 2020 I wrote the comment "Every time I rewatch this I cry", still true
Yes. So true. Every time.
Same. Like a big baby. Hits me right in the feels, in a good and bad way (sort of like ripping off a bandaid).
Every. Damn. Time.
“Because love lives on, even though we do not.” Bless you, John.
Also - This monologue breaks me open EVERY. DAMN. TIME. 😢
I tried to sing along, but it came out as a low whisper because like John, it doesn’t take much to make me cry. Also I know he jokes a lot about not being able to sing but John actually has a pleasant, very nice singing voice!! And to the Green bros, nerdfighteria, and anyone else who reads this:
Thank YOU ALL for being here.
My sister made me drinking glasses with “were here because” etched into them and I love to sit around my table and share a drink with my friends and family
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Does the etched phrase extend around the entire circumference of the glass such that there is a (approximately single character width of) space between the ending 'e' of "because" and the 'w' of "we're"? So that the phrase appears to repeat like the chorus of the song?
this made me tear up
@@jacejunk no, but that sounds like an awesome design that you should do! Each glass had different drawings of places I love, space, my local cemetery, my neighborhood, my library (with my cat)
Beautiful. Thank you John for sharing my favourite Anthropocene Reviewed alongside a relaxing walk. Wishing all Nerdfighteria a great 2023 🧡
When the episode released Auld Lang Syne was the most intimate moment I ever had with an audio recording. It was so raw and powerful. I lack the words to describe it. I didn‘t expect to cry listening to one of my favorite podcasts and I didn‘t expect to sing a song I previously didn‘t know. But I did. And I‘m glad I did.
Thank you, John.
To old times, and better times yet ❤️
You and I had the exact same experience. This is one of the most profound moments of my life, honest.
I didn't cry, but We're here because we're here hit my husband and I shared a look and shuddered
I shared in this experience of this audio. It's one of my most favorite things to listen to. I'm so thankful it and the people that sparked it existed. We are all here.
I too had that experience.
I looked up into the middle distance and closed my eyes and savored John's words, and Robbie Burns', and the music playing behind them, and was just *here*, with every fibre of my being. Tears didn't fall, but they were there.
They're always there when I listen to this, which I suspect will happen every Christmas season & New Years'. Thank you, John. A thousand thank yous.
The scenery is so pretty and goes wonderfully with the words. I also love how the sound of the footsteps were not edited out. Also, we Bengalies have a song similar to this tune and it is about old friendships and how all of the friends in said song had moved on and were mourning their past friendships. It was written by Rabindranath Tagore and is one of my favourite songs. Everytime I hear it now I think about The Anthropocene Reviewed😊
Just linking it here for people to refer! - th-cam.com/video/Q2aPJT1Ex0k/w-d-xo.html
p.s. I am an Indian and had also heard this song somewhere so found a hindi translation of Tagore's version! - th-cam.com/video/ufkdNwMmg8g/w-d-xo.html
This video and comment truly made me realise just how universal this song is.
I can’t help feeling in absolute awe when I experience moments of synchronicity like this… especially when considering that everything comprised by the universe originated in purely random chaos…
My reason for even mentioning this, is because I was just diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia today.
I turned 23 just over a week ago, & I am a father to two little girls; a 2.5 year-old (not blood-related, but I love as if she were my own), and a 4 month old (the happiest, most precious baby I’ve ever laid eyes on).
I don’t even know why I’m sharing any of this, but I just want to say that this video found me at the right time.
Thanks, John.
As I've read comments and given likes, they feel like I'm giving hugs. This hug is for you, your partner and beautiful girls. ❤
Terribly glad to have this with you today, John. Thank you.
My yearly new year's cry is here already?! The melancholic joy this essay brings me is transcendent, genuinely. Thanks.
Right? Wasn’t expecting it so early.
This is such a good description of how this essay makes me feel.
The general store my family has owned for the last 12 years burned down early this morning. I've worked there every summer since I was nine and it was my saving grace early in the pandemic. It was a community center in our small island town. I needed this moment of peace and rememberance so badly.
Oh man, I'm so so sorry. I hope you're ok, friend. Hugs from me (if you want them, of course)
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I hope your community will come together and help build itself and maybe even your life a new center.
This is our New Years eve tradition.
We are here.
Amy Krouse Rosenthal is how I found you guys and I'm so grateful for that. A while back, I taught an author study on her in my preschool class, and a parent in the class knew her, but said we probably couldn't connect to her because she wasn't well. The children loved the books. Fast forward a few years and I found her book Textbook in a bargain bin at an Office Depot, not sure why it was there, but I'm glad it was. I bought it and held onto it for a while. I finally read it during the early lockdown times of the panaroma and it was such a lovely uplifting thing to read. It lead me to her videos of the gatherings of lovely, and therefore to John and then to watching every single vlogbrothers video. So much serendipity, and joy, and thoughtfulness from Amy to you. Thank you.
I kind of like that “pandemic” was auto-corrected to “panorama”.
Ok I'm crying now 😭😭
I-. I have no words.
Needed this reminder today.
We're here because
John, this is actually the first comment I've ever made on youtube, but I felt the need to reach out and thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. My mother died on Christmas morning after a year and a half battle with cancer, and I just watched this on the morning before her funeral. I hadn't been able to cry yet. I drove across the country and three different mountain passes through snow and ice so I could be by her side, and fell straight into trying to help with arrangements, family support, and all the other things involved.
Thank you, John, for giving me the opportunity to feel the things I really needed to feel before I had to go be strong for others that are suffering. I wish I could plagiarize this entire video for the eulogy, but I think the parts about being a successful writer might cause some confusion. What I end up saying will probably be just as monumentally stupid as your yoga statement, but wish me luck.
Once again, thank you for everything that you are and everything that you do, and know that on this day you deeply helped a person on one of the darkest days of his life. I'd say don't forget to be awesome, but you never do.
I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words for this kind of pain. You will get through this, in your own way and in your own time.
I'm sorry for your loss, and wish you the strength to get through this.
On the topic of the eulogy, you comment on being a successful writer: You made me both cry and laugh with what you wrote, so it's not as bad as you made it out to be.
Sending you and your loved ones light on this dark day. I wish you peace and some sweet moments reflecting on the good things you cherish that are part of what makes losing them so hard.
I’m sorry for your loss. Wishing you the strength to get through these difficult times. Good luck with the eulogy; I’m sure it’ll be great, but if it isn’t perfect, don’t worry about it. Sometimes we don’t always say the exact right thing and that’s okay. I hope all will be well with time, and that you can take your time to grieve while continuing to move forward. Again, sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Whatever you say in the eulogy, I’m sure she’d be happy just to know that you are here thinking of her.
This year was meant to be a next big step for me, and many exciting changes happened. However in April my Dad died, and we're going through the firsts without him now. I don't even know if this was the worst year of my life or one of the best, because both sides have happened. This video is reminder that no matter, it will all be the old days soon enough and I'll be carrying on regardless
Sending love your way 💜
It was very similar for me this year, too. My mother and last grandparent both died this year, but I also married my wife and got my first full-time teaching job. The year has held many joys and I couldn’t share them with two very dear family members, but knowing the bleakness of that grief and the luminance of positive change, I share in the spirit of those depths and heights with you and wish you solace in the former and delight for the latter. I sing it with you and the rest of us here in the VB community: indeed, we are here because we’re here because we’re here.
I'm 2 years into the dead dad life, and it's my new normal. But sometimes even now the grief will hit me like a wall and it's all I can do to breathe even though even that feels rather impossible. But 99% of the time, I'm happy. Dad is at rest. The struggle of the end of his life is now the past. And that's a blessing.
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My dad died the year I got married, 2020. I still can’t figure out how I could be so joyous and then feel completely devastated within a couple of months. My heart goes out to you and everyone else going through something similar
I can never get enough of this episode. It saved my life when I was drowning. I have “We’re here because” engraved in my class ring, embroidered on my coat, and written all over my room. Thank you for helping me see that “hope is, for lack of a better word, true”.
Signed, an internet stranger
Today I am starting my 29th revolution around the sun. I have been searching for words - anywhere and everywhere on my little metal box screen I held in my hands every day for the past 2 years in a deeply depressed state while enduring some big life changes- that would bring me comfort, peace, hope, and the confidence to be ok with being here and not knowing why. Thank you so much. Thank you a million times. This is something I’ll share and take with me for the rest of my life ❤
Sang this at the turtles all the way down book event a few years ago. Such a magical moment shared with fellow Nerd Fighters and book lovers alike. Thank you John.
Same. And now it makes me cry every time I hear it!
@@erinncg735 same I was in tears by the end of this video
Yeah, me too. Crying rn and only half way through this video. That was my first and only book tour event and I went alone and felt so connected. ❤️
That year was a rough and lonely year for me, and going alone to to that book tour was one of those moments that highlighted my loneliness. But singing along with both "Were Here" and "This Year" helped me feel so connected to everyone there. It was exactly what I needed.
Yes, I did too. It's a memory I'll treasure for the rest of my life.
I told my mom something 2 days ago and her response has changed the way I think I will look at her for forever. I have been a nerdfighter since middle school. You have been here with me through finding friends in high school and loosing them in college. Starting a degree and not being able to finish it. A worldwide pandemic I wasn’t convinced wouldn’t end us all. This year has been one of the worst for me. My brother died this year. I have hopes for next year but the best way to get flowers is to plant them yourself. I’ve got a lot of good coming my way. I will make it so, to anyone else out there reading this. We’re here because we’re here because we’re here
I too lost my brother last year. I’m sending you feelings of acceptance and healing. Sometimes I think the hurt may never diminish. My heart goes out to you.
As emotional as the ending has made me, I probably shouldn't have listened to this at work. With how the past few years have gone it's quite cathartic, for me at least. Thank you for this
I come back to this a year with fresh tears in my eyes for old times sake! We’re here because we’re here
I have loved my boyfriend through chemo and lost him, not in death but in a break-up. It hurts so bad to have been through his treatment together and then still know the relationship doesn't work. I'm so glad he's still around for others to enjoy. My thing with feathers sings to the tune of Auld Lang Syne. It sings without the words, so sometimes I hear it as an ode to the good old days and sometimes as a reminder that we're here because we're here. But whichever it is, it never stops at all. Thank you, John.
John, this is one of my favourite chapters in The Anthropocene Reviewed and it never fails to make me cry. Thank you for the book. Thank you for this video. Thank you.
Mine as well! Listening to the audiobook and singing with John was emotional. I still sing "we're here because we're here" :')
Johh, you were there, with her, in her time of need. You didn't fail anybody. You said something that's actually funny in a dark sort of way but I bet the person who engraved MM on your moneyclip would love that sort of thing. ❤
Yes, absolutely. Beautifully said.
That’s true! And didn’t occur to Mr.
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I’ve listened to this episode maybe 5 times. I learn something new each time.
Thank you for this piece of serenity. I’m having trouble finding these bits of slow, gentle beauty for myself as of late. It’s lovely to know that they do indeed still exist and sometimes one just needs a new perspective. Thank you for treating Nerdfighteria gently.
This is a light for when I feel like I may have gotten to the end of the path and can't see more. I come back to it a lot. Thank you.
I remember hearing John tell the story of "We're Here Because We're Here" on the Turtles All the Way Down tour in Nashville, and everyone singing the words softly together...it was so powerful. I cried--not a lot, but a little--and haven't ever forgotten that experience. Thank you, John, for bringing Amy Krouse Rosenthal into all of our lives. Though we may never have met her, we feel that connection with her and you even years later.
This whole monologue always, *always* makes me cry. I will start crying at the first word, just because I know I'll be crying by the end. I love it.
The gritty persistence in John's voice when he's reading something he knows will make you cry.
I'm willing to bet that most of the people who sing with you do so quietly, gently, and mostly to themselves. But even so, throughout time, those voices build and build until we are a thunderous choir of people. And we - all of us - were here.
Thank you
I have heard versions of the Amy Krause Rosenthal/Auld Lang Syne story several times (I think my first was on the Turtles All the Way Down book tour), but I never tire of it. And the version from Anthropocene Reviewed is always so beautiful and full of hope.
Based on the title I knew exactly what to expect clicking on today's video. What I didn't know was how badly I needed that dose of hope today, as well as the tears that escaped while singing along to "We're Here Because We're Here."
Thank You John.
Couldn’t have said it better myself! The tears escaped me as they needed to 💓
I finally managed to come back to this episode after my mum died three weeks ago. I couldn't sing the whole tune without crying, but who was I kidding, I broke down in sobs twice before that as well. I miss her so much. Seeing the comments of other grieving nerdfighters here has made me feel less alone, but the pain is huge.
I needed to hear this. This is my first time going through the end of a year as an orphan (although I am 28, orphan is the word that resonates most). Your words pierced through the wall I built between me and my feelings.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I wish I had adequate words of comfort to offer but all I have is this verse. We're here because we're here because we're here, because we're here ❤️
we’re here because we’re here
Very glad you posted this again. It’s amazing how the same writing can mean something so different listening to it a little further down the line.
Couldn’t agree more, every year I listen to this around New Years and every year it has a different significance to me
There are a few pieces of literature or film I’ve revisited as often as this podcast, and I agree. I first listened to this on the day it was released, my 26th birthday. I’m now 29 and it’s been a WILD ride and I’m so in love with this.
It just hits DIFFERENT and also like exactly the same
As someone who I know nothing about, will never meet, and only know of because of their impact on one of my favorite authors Amy Krouse Rosenthal has had such a profound impact on my life simply by reminding me that "we're here, because we're here, because we're here."
This particular essay never fails to make me cry. Damn it, John, I'm trying to cook dinner.
My grandmother passed away on Christmas Day. We knew it was coming, but it's been hard. We've spent the last week thinking about the good old days. Not just our good old days, but hers as well. She saved everything. She was 90 years old, we had just celebrated her birthday a month prior. It was a surprise tea party on her mother's crystal.
So sorry for your loss. May you find comfort and peace in this new year.
John, thank you for this. This is my favorite review in your book, and one that truly changed my life, without hearing you say this, I wouldn’t be alive today. Thank you so much.
Always been my favorite Anthropocene Reviewed. This and Googling Strangers. Makes me cry every time.
Literally just read both of those. Little late to the party, but loving it all the same
Wow.
I regret nothing now, everything has led me here, and i’m glad.
I've heard John tell this story at least ten times in various formats, including in person at an event, and it still makes me cry EVERY TIME.
Every time I hear this I cry. And that's a good thing. It's like a emotional thermometer. Did I cry? Did I feel more hopeful afterwards? Then I must be doing okay. Thank you John.
I’m currently booking flights to leave my holiday to go say my final goodbyes to my grandmother, she read the Anthropocene reviewed before she was hospitalised, and she loved it. I’m so glad I got to share that with her before now. Thank you
Update: she passed this morning
I don't have a terribly great reason for this but I want you to know that someone saw your update.
@@DCsk8rgoelz thank you.
I listen to this episode of the Anthropocene Reviewed on New Years Eve every year since it came out, and this episode always makes me sob like a baby, and I’m so grateful for it
Thanks for being here John and Hank. Thanks for being here Nerdfighters. Happy New Year, I hope we all have a wonderful 2023 🖤
I was watching Turtles All the Way Down and when Aza's mom started singing, I started sobbing. This 'we're here, because we're here' just started it. Thank you John.
We're here because we're here.
John, I don’t think I can fully express how much that chapter of TAR has changed my life. I was first introduced to TAR at my camp, where my counselor read us a chapter each night. She saved Auld Lang Syne for the last night and we spent 20 minutes on floor sobbing as we held onto one another, knowing that we would never be together like this again.
I have since read the chapter during the hardest nights of my young life so far. The day my grandfather died, I lay in bed sobbing and reading your words. You taught me how to say goodbye. We have also started a new family tradition of reading the chapter aloud during the final minutes of each year and singing together.
So, thank you John for giving me this text and this book that has brought me so much closer to the people I love. You have taught me how to say goodbye to people who I never see again, and to a year that has brought so my light into my life.
John, the way you write feels like a hug from an extended family member on a holiday you can look forward to seeing them at. I can-and do-look forward to reading your words because they bring me a profound sense of humanity, unlike any other literature I’ve ever read or listened to.
As a sensory person, thank you for making videos that I can get housework done while watching. Your poignant reflections and audio that gets me thinking allow my brain to chew on something, learn something, and engage my emotions, while the simple visuals (with the corresponding and unobtrusive audio in the background) give just the right level of satisfaction but not distraction for my eyes that I can keep focused on other things and this at the same time. I love this one and your other videos just walking in the woods and talking. Much love!
Absolutely same
Thanks John. I don't know why I needed this again today, but I did. So thanks.
My Ma and I sang Auld Lang Syne for hours when putting up the Christmas tree this year. I told her about this podcast episode and I can't wait to send her this link (she doesn't have Spotify so this is now accessible to her). Thank you John for this cup of kindness.
I listen to this every New Year's Eve. Happy New Year. I'll be back next year.
I just re-read TATWD yesterday. Immediate tears in my eyes when I read the part about Auld Lang Syne, immediate welling when this notification came through! Thanks John ❤️
Thank you for putting this here so we can easily come back to it. Needed it today (even though I'm a month early). I appreciate you.
When my boyfriend passed in 2020 my friend likened death to a quienceañera, something that happens to everyone. Of course quienceañeras are not a universal experience, let alone an experience my friend or I had had. It was silly and cheered me up, much like your yoga comment that made me giggle listening to your book as I approached the one year anniversary of losing Sam. Thank you John, Hank and nerdfighteria for being here because you’re here. Happy new year!
My friends and I call goosebumps “getting puffed.” Our human skin seems to function the way a threatened cat’s does, puffing up to look larger as an emotional response. I find it really funny that us humans ‘puff up’ when we encounter intense artistic beauty, rather than as a defensive measure against danger the way other mammals do. Whenever I want to get my puff on, this is one of my favorite bits of prose to come visit. It’s a “guaranteed puff” as my friends and I would say
I am currently going through a break up with someone I loved for over a decade. I know it’s not a death but it sure feels like it.
Well, it is a death of sorts. It's a death of your relationship and of who you used to be. It's alright to mourn it
Thank you
I think a breakup can hurt even worse than death. With death, it's not their fault that we're no longer together, but with a breakup, it was a choice not to be together and that can be so painful. Especially if it's a long-term relationship. Sending you hugs, wherever you may be!
Yes I completely agree. Thank you so much 💛💛
It is a grief and a loss. I wish you the time and space and energy to fully feel and process all that brought you to this moment and find your path forward.
I know I have some pent up emotions when I hear Johns review voice and I immediately break out in tears.
Thank you for bringing peace in my life John. Thank you for a pause.
John, thank you for sharing this with us again! I'm 54 but sometimes we just need a friend to walk in the snow with us and talk to us while we listen to their amazing words! My Mom passed away on Dec 4 2020, she had dementia and was in a nursing home. Because of C19 the last time we saw my Mom was Christmas 2019 and New Years Day 2020. Her birthday was Feb 28, but the nursing home was already not allowing visitors, so we lost the entire last year of my Mom's life, didn't get to see her at all. And I'll never hear her sweet voice and loving words ever again. But she was here! Love you Mom!
I'm so sorry. Sending love your way💜
Thank you, John.
My wife's youngest brother died a week ago.
Besides the absolute beauty of this 20 min video, you have helped me grieve his death.
Though you don't know me, you are one of the BEST people that I KNOW!
Thank you for being the human being that you are.
I always look forward to an introspective video from you, John. Over the last 10 years, it's wonderful to think about how much you and Hank and the Nerfighters have helped show me, then a scared, lost college kid, how to be a thoughtful, enthusiastic, silly adult. Now, looking back over those 10 years, it's clear how much it meant to be shown that path, and I'm so glad that I walked down it. Here's to a new year, Nerdfightaria, may we continue to be inspired by those around us, and strive to show others that path.
This community and Hank and John have really helped me with the thoughtful silly adult part as well. I love being a literal Nerd Fighter unashamedly enjoying stuff, and doing my best to decrease suck and increase awesome. And I love that I get to use such silly words to describe it!
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this hospice chaplain loved this video very much. and can attest to the difficulty of standing there, not just doing something. especially when it's someone you love.
Thank you for reminding us once again this year. I cried when i listened to this chapter for the first time, when i read it again in your book, and when i watched your narration in 2020. when i thought i wouldn’t this time, i was wrong. I guess that’s just how it is.
"I'll never speak again to many of the people who loved me into this moment as you will never speak to many of the people who loved you into your now and so we raise a glass to them and hope that perhaps somewhere they are raising a glass to us"
it is okay to question why we are here, what we are supposed to do, that do we matter, but in the end we are here and we will always be here, and nothing is gonna change that.
"we will always be here" will we?
This year we sang Auld lang syne for our Nordic Lucia Celebration here at Kings Chapel in Aberdeen, Scotland.
We were a mix of nordic strangers from different countries, brought together by our common tradition, in a country which was not ours by birth, but ours by choice. Singing this song at such an event brought something wonderful to this year. It made a lovely echo and tribute of the song which helped me and nerdfighteria feel connected in covid times
One of the best things, and I still enjoy re-watching this because I'm here.
John, this video will never not break my heart in the most beautiful way. My mom passed away over 5 years ago now from colon cancer. We have a video of her singing “we’re here because we’re here because we’re here.” I don’t know if she knew this history of this version of the song, but I know I am so grateful to have her voice in my head singing it. Thank you forever for reminding me of it every year.
It's almost June. I watched this on accident - I was just, you know... I was curious. And now I'm heartbroken, and weeping, because I always think of my grandmother on New Year's. I miss her desperately, and this put some serious words to all of the emotions that ... we feel, at a base level. The experience of being here. Sobbing openly. Thank you?
I didn't realize I wouldn't be able to get through the singing without crying when I started, but it was lovely. Thank you.
I’m not that given to commenting, especially months on, but this one needed a response. Today I live abroad, for the first time in my life, and it has been an incredible experience. I moved here 8 months ago, to the other side of the world from my home, to a country where I didn’t know a single person and where I couldn’t speak or read the language. I have a life here now, one that I will be again leaving in 2 months, and it has made me acutely aware of how precious every moment is. I don’t have an infinite amount of time to see the trees- I have a flight that will take me away from them again soon, and while I can’t wait to be home again, this too has become a home to me. Every new year I sing Auld Lang Syne with my family, apart from this year where I sang it 9 hours early and with a group of friends and strangers. The line about the ‘roaring seas’ that separate us is quite literally true for me, and it will be true again for the rest of the years of my life. The people who make up my existence will never again be in the same place, never mind the same country, and so I can only hope that we can continue to remember each other fondly as we continue on our separate paths. I appreciate this video more than I can say (although I’ve said a lot!)
You didn’t fail her, John. And what a beautiful tribute this essay is to her. I had no idea you were friends with Amy. I’m a preschool teacher and reading her books to my students is always a treat- they adore her sweet little stories.
Happy New Year.
i don’t have words to express how close this excerpt is to my heart. i hope that you know that you’ve done exceptionally beautiful and meaningful work.
I needed this today. My grandmother passed away on Christmas morning. My sister and I had spent the past two weeks caring for her. We need that reminder of hope and that we are, in fact, here. Thanks, John.
I'm sorry for your loss. Take care
The part about the people who loved you into your current moment really struck me this time. I think it’s because i started college this year and finally got out of high school. I’ve been in the same school since kindergarten and have had many many experiences of people who came by past my life and loved me into the person I currently am. I think about my teachers a lot in particular. I don’t think people acknowledge how much teachers who teach kids over a longer period of time become a sort of a parent. So, this year, I’m really grateful for my teachers through the years who believed in me when not only my parents, but I myself didn’t. They saw that I could actually become the person I currently am. And for that I’m grateful. Thank you.
It has been a rough year, but y'all's content, and Dear Hank & John especially, have helped how I think about hope. Nothing like this (like us, like TH-cam, like the internet) has ever happened before, and you have been instrumental in the story I tell myself to make sense of it. Thank you. Happy New Year!
"How can this be happening, You do so much yoga?" Is my new favorite phrase. .
It encapsulates the longing, searching, and hoping that humans do when facing need.
I just re-listened to the podcast episode just yesterday, it’s such a beautiful piece of writing, thank you for writing it and sharing it with us, we’re here because we’re here.
I ended up back here after watching 'Turtles All the Way Down.'
Happy birthday John!
Why does singing "we're here" make me tear up? Make my chest well, and words emtpy out of my mouth.
I'm in tears. That is all.
I usually watch new Vlogbrothers as soon as they come out, but I'm not emotionally ready to handle the Auld Lang Syne review on this cold, gray Tuesday morning. I'll come back later when the time is right for me. Happy Holidays all.
Happy Holidays!
I wish everyone more long walks in the woods this year. Or failing that, short ones.