Deborah has amazing decrement! As Christians we all have some level of discernment but this lady can lay it out decipher it take it apart dissect it within a nanosecond and come back with an answer that will split and divide any kind of rebuttal this woman's discernment is a true gift she's amazing and I continue to pray for her and her ministry keep marching on soldier!
You couldn’t possibly know how much I needed this message right now, and of course “just so happened” to stumble across it today ❤️ Thank you for this encouragement.
Wow. She is so correct. I was a pleaser and a doormat for decades. My toxic person? My own mother. A long time ago, she started criticizing me, literally wagging her finger in my face, I think your eyebrows look fake - even though she died her hair, wore wigs for decades, had an affair on our bio father and her 2nd husband. Then he and she committed a Felon against me a few years ago by stealing my SUV right after my 1st of 7 full and partial toe amputations. I was recovering in a SNF, a Skilled Nursing Facility. She grabbed my keys and started walking away. I yelled, MOTHER, DON'T DO THIS! down the hall, disturbing every one in the hallwa, but she proceeded to steal my SUV, which was running on just water in the radiator, the heater core was dead, and the engine could have own up in transport, almost an hour away to their place. She is a bull in a China closet for dictating, running all over people, she knows best, wagging her finger at me - when I was 55 years old? Huh??!?? It had occurred to me that "she's not healthy for me", in 1997. Toxic might be a better word, in summation. It's sad... she'll be 82 this year. She has alienated my 4 sibs and many others against me because I call her on things, gracefully, from my heart to hers. She's right, you're/we are wrong. It's sad, but I am a much happier person just staying away from her/them. Tragic.
Thank you for sharing, Deborah. Relationships with those closest to us can be the hardest of all, and we know there are others who can relate. Dr. Henry Cloud has a great book called Changes that Heal for those who need healing from painful relationships (bit.ly/2Rmk0hI), and our counselors are here to give one-on-one encouragement (800-A-FAMILY). God bless you, Deborah. Thanks again for sharing.
My mother is the same way. Toxic an yet I know she doesn’t have long on this earth. Each time I leave I plead the blood of Christ to heal my heart of pain.
I have had my own share of a narcissistic mom throughout my life. You end up having to love this person / or family members from a distance. Very sad that it has to be this way. You are right;. you have to distance yourself from them. It's the only way to be set free and to escape toxic personality issues.
The Western world’s cultural values in general are justice and guilt, The Middle East and parts of Asia are honor and shame and the African countries are fear and power. The Bible has all of these cultural values in them so depending on your context we can change the terminology. This is vital when we share the Gospel.
This is the kind of theology and behavior that will set a person free. Awesome broadcast. I'd love to find a mentor like hers!
ME TOO
Wow! What a blessing Deborah Pegues is. I love watching her. I am always blessed by her interviews. Thank you!
We’re glad you enjoyed it, Thais!
Deborah has amazing decrement! As Christians we all have some level of discernment but this lady can lay it out decipher it take it apart dissect it within a nanosecond and come back with an answer that will split and divide any kind of rebuttal this woman's discernment is a true gift she's amazing and I continue to pray for her and her ministry keep marching on soldier!
Luke, this warmed my heart. I'm very encouraged by your remarks. Thanks for weighing in!
I have a lot of respect for this woman! A lot of wisdom!
False accusations from family members is one of the worst pains. Thankfully we have God to help us forgive.
I love WE gotta do it GOD'S WAY
This is the most uplifting lesson yet! Thank you!
Wisdom is a spiritual gift and you have it Debbie. Thank you FOTG
I totally agree. Sometimes the church is no different from the world. Great guidance Deborah I was beginning to think I was wrong on this. Thank you.
Powerful tips on forgiving. Thank you Deborah; it’s always a blessing to hear your inspiring words!
What a beautiful lady. ❤
This is a learning experience for single relationships.
Do it God's Way...you always win
Thank you.I have held unforgiveness since childhood and am 61.Pray for me.
We'll keep you in our prayers, Betty. Please contact us at 1-800-232-6459 if a counselor would be helpful.
You couldn’t possibly know how much I needed this message right now, and of course “just so happened” to stumble across it today ❤️ Thank you for this encouragement.
We are so glad to hear that.
I need to be quick to forgive, it easy for certain people but for others it's hard for me to forgive.
I just LOVE her!! I need her in my life or someone like her! ☺️🙏
I love all your books, Mrs. PEGUES!
Thank you for the encouraging message I was blessed
Simple biblical truths that bring healing results! Fantastic counsel! Thank you 😊❤️
So glad you found it helpful, Lisa!
@@focusonthefamily Oh please have her back on soon! She's a delight to learn from!
Wow, Jim, you are truly a great interviewer !
I love her!!!!
Thank you
Thanks sooooo much for this uplifting message.
I get stuck in wanting justice for those who don't have voices!
This channel is gold!
Such a blessing to me, as I am learning to be obedient and forgive those who have wronged me. Thank you
Beautiful! Thank you so much!!
I cant believe this channel only has 102k subscribers, thought more people knew about focus on the fam.
Wow..I really like her advice..Thank you so much for being open and determined in this process
Thank you. It’s a year later an this is being heard right on time!
I truly needed this reminder esp. today! Thank you Deborah and Focus on the Family. Yah bless!
Thank you, auntie for keeping it real.
Love you, sweet niece. You are such an example of a servant hearted woman.
Love
Loved this so much! Thank you! Both guests and Deborah, I feel so energized and optimistic listening to you
In a culture where “trauma” recognition is heightened, forgiving and letting go is appropriate!
We are liberated through Christ! Loved this--my channel has an aim simple biblical truths and why I enjoyed this vid.
Amen!
Can you invite her more often?
Agreed!!! pls
You forgive for yourself and your health, NOT for that other person or persons who are VERY TOXIC!!
Does Deborah have a TH-cam channel? I don't have FB or any other social media but I'd love to hear more from her 🙏🏼
Wow. She is so correct. I was a pleaser and a doormat for decades. My toxic person? My own mother.
A long time ago, she started criticizing me, literally wagging her finger in my face, I think your eyebrows look fake - even though she died her hair, wore wigs for decades, had an affair on our bio father and her 2nd husband.
Then he and she committed a Felon against me a few years ago by stealing my SUV right after my 1st of 7 full and partial toe amputations.
I was recovering in a SNF, a Skilled Nursing Facility. She grabbed my keys and started walking away. I yelled, MOTHER, DON'T DO THIS! down the hall, disturbing every one in the hallwa, but she proceeded to steal my SUV, which was running on just water in the radiator, the heater core was dead, and the engine could have own up in transport, almost an hour away to their place. She is a bull in a China closet for dictating, running all over people, she knows best, wagging her finger at me - when I was 55 years old? Huh??!??
It had occurred to me that "she's not healthy for me", in 1997. Toxic might be a better word, in summation.
It's sad... she'll be 82 this year. She has alienated my 4 sibs and many others against me because I call her on things, gracefully, from my heart to hers.
She's right, you're/we are wrong.
It's sad, but I am a much happier person just staying away from her/them. Tragic.
Thank you for sharing, Deborah. Relationships with those closest to us can be the hardest of all, and we know there are others who can relate. Dr. Henry Cloud has a great book called Changes that Heal for those who need healing from painful relationships (bit.ly/2Rmk0hI), and our counselors are here to give one-on-one encouragement (800-A-FAMILY). God bless you, Deborah. Thanks again for sharing.
My mother is the same way. Toxic an yet I know she doesn’t have long on this earth. Each time I leave I plead the blood of Christ to heal my heart of pain.
I have had my own share of a narcissistic mom throughout my life. You end up having to love this person / or family members from a distance. Very sad that it has to be this way. You are right;. you have to distance yourself from them. It's the only way to be set free and to escape toxic personality issues.
The Western world’s cultural values in general are justice and guilt, The Middle East and parts of Asia are honor and shame and the African countries are fear and power. The Bible has all of these cultural values in them so depending on your context we can change the terminology. This is vital when we share the Gospel.
And when you live with a spouse that can't or doesn't know how to forgive?
What happens if this is your hubby. The last part of message .toxic people