Lost my dad when I was 4. All my life i've had these feelings of inadequacy, low self esteem. No relationship has lasted. I leave before they can leave me. Never said 'i love you' to anyone. difficulty holding on to jobs. looking for father figure in guys/bosses. It never ends.
Loving not being loved seems interesting. I believe it makes us more intelligent and we reach a healthy relationship to admiration. But I want to believe in functional love. But then again. I am delusional 😅
Aww sorry that's pretty horrible. I lost my mom just before my 4th birthday, it's an unbearable pain. I understand what you mean about relationship s. 😥🤷♀️
@@theelfchannel I feel subconsciously we all want love but sometimes when you've grown up believing you're unworthy you don't believe the love that you're getting is genuine or is going to last. It's difficult to trust it. To trust it would mean you somehow believe you are worthy which is unfathomable so it's best to leave.
@@Muchjoy.. Hey! I'm sorry our parents didn't get to live their lives. I somehow feel strange that I've outlived my father. It sometimes makes me think maybe we can do more to be happy. They would want that for us. Sending you hugs.
I lost by my parents by the time I was 30. At age 16, the day after I got my driver's license, I went to go ask permission to use the car. We lived in a rural area on acreage. My mom told me to go ask my dad. He was usually working in the yard. I went outside calling him but he didn't answer. His van was there. The tractor was there but he was not. I went in to tell my mom I couldn't find him. She asked me to wait for her but I didn't. I went back out and this time I walked right up to the van and I screamed no and fell to the ground. He was leaned over in the driver's seat, blue from the blood pooling. It was extremely surreal and painful. During that time, I shut down. I began drinking. I stopped functioning. I flunked that year of school. He was the one person who listened to me and talked with me and he was just gone. In my mind, I built a story "if I had only been able to say goodbye, it would have been easier...it would have been less traumatic". Then at age 30, my mother had many diagnosis - COPD, diabetes, thyroid disease and lung cancer. We never had a great relationship. On her deathbed, there were things I would have liked to have said to her, loving things but I did not for fear of what she would say back. After she passed, the grief was worse than what I had experienced with my dad. I felt betrayed by my own story. I got to say goodbye to her and it was not easier: it was just different.
Rebecca - thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry that you lost both of your parents and had to see your dad when he died. I imagine it's been tough to get that visual out of your mind... - Kiera
Same thing happened to me but with my Dad. My best friend, my world. My entire life changed overnight, no warning. My life would be totally different now if we hadn't lost him. He couldn't say it better. Drugs, closed myself off. Still to this day I cry with a thought of him... now I have kids and I try my best for them everyday so they are strong incase they lose me. God bless all those that have lost a parent at a young age. Anyone needs to talk I'm always here
Thank you for your honesty. It's so wonderful to hear your thoughts on this. I had the same loss of my mum at 16. From illness. My dad had already died 5yrs earlier. Losing them both has made me so much more empathic and also almost forced me to live fully. I'll be 40 soon and I can say I have lived my years to their fullest extent. I am blessed to be able to help others with their loss too. From my grief I have found strength.
@@MedCircle Your video really made me reflect a lot and made me quite emotional. It also made think about how happy I am now and how much I truly love time with my son. I can say I have taken no moments forgranted in my life and that is the blessing I got from loss early on... Thank you for creating this channel. I don't comment much but I love your posts.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Kyle. The pain of losing both my parents and two of my four brothers, at different times of my life left me feeling that life had no meaning at all. When I was expecting my first child, my eldest brother died unexpectedly from a heart attack. There were complications with the birth of my son, and we almost lost him. Three years later when I was six months pregnant with my daughter, my mom died unexpectedly from a burst ulcer. Our daughter was born two months premature. The doctors said that she had to be in the bedroom for six months with the humidifier going, or she would not survive as her lungs were too weak. My dad passed in 2010, and my other brother in 2018, aged 53. Grief is a part of life for me, but there is a great deal of gratitude for my children and grand children and my life partner., and I love them all dearly.
Well done Kyle!!! This was a very brave video to make! I wish so much that this type of advice and sensitive understanding had been available 50 years ago when I lost my dad when I was 11. You are right the grieving never ends, even all these decades later…but as the layers get dealt with bit by bit, the grief somehow softens a bit. I still shed tears over losing my favorite parent so young…but a bit less often. That loss has caused me to become the very deeply understanding empath that I am today. My mother’s been gone now for 31 years. Her death was a different kind of loss to me. So many complex emotions with her death. I’ve found that writing to myself in a journal has helped me to process a lot of this loss. It’s interesting to go back to older journals and read what I had written back then…helps me to see all the subtle and significant ways that I am growing because of all this. Thank you for being so forthright and honest. You are such a beautiful example of a generous human being. You have a very special spirit…which comes from, “having been through it.” Much gratitude!!!
Thank you! Yes we have to keep dealing with the layers so we can experience more and more healing. Even though it's super difficult. Thank you for sharing your story with me.
Thank you for sharing this. You've eloquently explained what I've been feeling this year. In a way, it has reminded that I'm not going nuts and my feelings and thoughts are somewhat normal. And hopefully one day, I'll be okay like you are now. Thank you.
My neighbor/good friend from school lost his mom from cancer when he was just 15. I wasted no time comforting him and he always remembered that. He keeps his hair long in honor of her, never cutting it short 💜.. Cancer is a b!tch!! When i had long hair too, I cut off the ponytail and donated it to Locks Of Love.
Thank you for your story. My husband died from glioblastoma less than two years ago. My four kids age 28 to 18 have had a rough time. He was likely Comorbid with NPD and bpd traits. He raged a lot. Losing him was a mixture of, deep sadness and relief. It was like a train wreck you saw coming, but also a loss of Hope and dreams.
I just lost my mum, and I'm 60 , such a profound loss , I'm grieving severely. Like you , I can't look at pictures of mum it's so upsetting it cuts deep. I have all the same feelings like you ,only I will never get past this , and honestly, I really don't want to , I just want her home 🥀🙏💖sorry for your loss xx
Thanks i shared this with my 19 year son who lost his mother to ALS Jun 23 and has many mental health issues to face. Grief sure is individual. Thanks for the candid video.
Lost my Mom two years ago. I was abroad. In my mind I'm still heading to the airport, I'm still desperately trying to reach her, I'm still getting to the door hoping to find her sitting up in her bed, instead i was presented with her just resting there eternally. Silence and tears.
i can relate a lot, i lost my Mom last Saturday i was abroad for a month . when i saw her resting i couldn't even cry felt like my life was over i still cant come to terms with it feels like i am waiting for her call. She was everything for me i am trying to stay strong for my brother but i jut feel empty sometimes but she is constantly in my mind everything i do reminds me of her
I lost my mom when I was 16 as well. She had a brain aneurysm rupture. Never really thought about it, but I also don’t have pictures of her anywhere I can see them. It really is because I don’t want to be reminded of the trauma of her death and absence in my life. Never really thought of it. Every loss I’ve had since, especially break ups, I think are made worse because I’m greiving her again.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
Kyle, it’s Brian. I watched the Ketamine episode. Thank you for that gift, it kept me going and gave me hope. You’re doing important work, my friend. Thank you!
Your story is a lot like mine. I lost both of my parents when I was 17. It's been 23 years and I'm still struggling with it. I feel like I've never really grieved properly. I hate that I can't talk about it without crying. I have never sat with these feeling but I need too. I also was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis when I was 25. I sometimes wonder if it's all connected. You have given some amazing advice and I will take that with me today. Reminding me I'm a warrior and a survivor. Thank you. ❤
Looking forward to this information. I want to learn more about this kind of grief & how it could have effected my father. It must have had an impact on my childhood & life as a whole. He was very quiet & reserved his whole life. I could never get a straight answer from him on anything.
I lost my dad at 16 when he was 52. I had only 3 months to process and deal with his death of lung cancer. It was shocking, he had been sick before that point but I hadn’t realized it. I always thought of my dad as my stronger parent. What has been difficult was how little I knew him. I was his younger child and my parents got separated when I was about 2, and he never really bothered to get to know me. When my cousins (male) talked about going out fishing with him 1 on 1 I was shocked and hurt as my dad had never did that with me. I don’t know if it was because he didn’t have any sons, or he just was younger and had more time, the cousin was older by a few years, but it just shocked me that he spent this time with my cousin and never with me. Even at 16 I realized I never really knew this man. To this day I have very little remembrances of his, and his ashes are with my step mother who I am estranged from, so it’s almost like he never existed, and that is very sad but in a lot of ways, true. Even as a child I reached out to him to get to know him but he didn’t try and reach out to me, which is really sad. In the end though there’s nothing one can do with a parent who is absent physically or mentally, they just have chosen not to participate in their child’s life, and that’s a loss to them as well as the child. Much love to all the people who have lost a parent as a kid, regardless how close or not you were, it always hurts.
Man... thank you for sharing. You're right - there really is nothing we can do to earn our parents' attention or love, which sucks that we can't be in control and just have to accept the situation. Thank you for sharing your story
I was 7 when my dad was murdered. He was my safe place and I’ve struggle for 36 years with feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, anxiety and self worth. I’m so afraid to lose people
Here I am, ignorantly thinking there can't be another guy who went through exactly my sad youth because of their most precious person in the whole world (that is the person who gave birth to them and most dependable person for practically EVERYTHING at that age) just suddenly disappearing from their life at the age of 13 for cancer 23 years ago. Then I see this video! There is so much sadness and relatability to this video I can't do justice to with words typed as a comment. So not trying to do that in vain is better. All unfortunate souls who went through this are sadly damaged for life. However, we shall carry that emptiness forward trying our best to not get this grief get the best of us..
Thankyou Kyle for sharing your Story of Grief and I can Understand how it feels like losing someone Special and Close to you none other than one's Mommy. Synonyms of resilience 1: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress 2: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change Resilience Outside of Physics In physics, resilience is the ability of an elastic material or tissue to absorb energy (such as from a blow) and release that energy as it springs back to its original shape. The recovery that occurs in this phenomenon can be viewed as analogous to a person's ability to bounce back after a jarring setback. The word resilience derives from the present participle of the Latin verb resilire, meaning "to jump back" or "to recoil." The base of resilire is salire, a verb meaning "to leap" that also pops up in the etymologies of such sprightly words as sally and somersault. It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment. -Bram Stoker, Dracula, 1897 The rescue workers showed remarkable by resilience in dealing with the difficult conditions. Cold temperatures caused the material to lose resilience As mentioned above Resilience mode is Good and helps to gain back the Energy after Sudden Grief, but not necessarily might last long, because as per me being Harsh on your mind, on your brain on your heart during this Resilience mode can make a Human lose on Resilience, Cracking down a person into Depression, causing a long lasting serious Mental Disorder. I went into Depression after experiencing 5 years of Resilience mode to overcome the Grief of my mother's sudden death in the year 2008 however later I experienced, Cracking down the Flexibility due to too much of Cold and Stiffness in mind, brain and Heart. It may be something similar to the A. Theory of Synchronicity, where the Theory of Synchronicity says that There is No Co-Incidence.In psychology, Synchronicity is defined as the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause; that is, the coincidences are acausal. The underlying idea is that there is unity in diversity. In psychology, Carl Jung introduced the concept in his later works (1950s). B. Similar to the Theory of Alchemist, An Alchemist is Someone Who Transforms Things for the Better.... I personally believe in above two Theories...So I lost my Beloved Mom on Christmas Eve, a decade ago. And even I received a Call on my Cellphone,that I have lost my Mom due to Heart Failure, while I was in Office....and to add on to this Grief I was Laid Off exactly 6 month's after my Mom's sudden Death. I can understand the Pain 😢 of losing a Mom. It was very very Tough to overcome and handle relationship with those who were much more Matured and had lived much more Experienced Life than me. My Father transformed drastically into a Narcissistic Abuser and I had to undergo lot of Abuse from my Father along with my Psychotic Depression, painful PTSD for 9 yrs after my Mom's Death. In the year 2018, I lost my Father, but believe me it's a Painful 😖😖 Experience after losing either of the parent,.especially if it's Mom. In the year 2021, It was very very very painful 😖😣 for me to Accept the Fact that I have a Mental Disorder which I have to live with probably Lifelong. So Time does Heal, accepting the New Normal Life.😊
i lost my own mother back in May while caring for her in Mexico, i hated to be bearer of bad news to my brothers and sisters knowing they couldn’t say goodbye to her , i wanted to scream so badly that it would of took three people to pull me away from her, i don’t know how i haven’t lost my mind after many sleepless nights and the pain of losing her
I was 14 when my father died. I had the same guilt. I didn’t think I was allowed to laugh during a time when most of the time I felt like crying. If I was morning, how dare I laugh?. How dare I feel joy?
in wars today and yesterday and tomorrow, people lose their children and their parents . and cant even grieve. and worse than that, they endure profound lasting wounds. when you say dear "lean in", you were an boy in your home and had the opportunity to grieve. many cant...complicated . unfairness. injustice. indifference more than everthing. everywhere.
My father was a former professional boxer and taxi driver, I lost him when I was 18 back in 2020. He never got to see me graduate university, or get my own place, to see my get my driver license, never got to take him out for dinner, never got to drive him anywhere, never got the chance to see me fight, will never see me get married or have kids or have a say in what I do in my life. I’m his only son. I’m not saying this because I want sympathy but to comfort someone else that they aren’t the only one that has gone through this and for others to cherish their loved ones and to pray for us 💯 🙏🏾
I don't know where you are, but I send you a hug from this part of the world (Israel). May we all see the day of the resurrection of our loved ones in an era of world peace. 🌎
My mom just passed away on the 8th, im 21 and i feel like nothing makes sense, she was ny best friend and i didnt even realise it all the time. This is the most heartbreaking experience ive ever went through, and i dint know if i can get through this, i really don't
That was heartfelt sharing, thank you. I guess I’m the minority because I’m older, but I do wish that there wasn’t mood music while we were listening. it didn’t decrease the quality of the message, but it did decrease my ability to pay attention.
I was 19 blamed myself held on top that for 20 years before finally grieving. Some being diagnosed BPD, ASD and ADHD. I can have empathy though. I’ve learned how to appear neurotypical in common areas though.
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Lost my dad when I was 4. All my life i've had these feelings of inadequacy, low self esteem. No relationship has lasted. I leave before they can leave me. Never said 'i love you' to anyone. difficulty holding on to jobs. looking for father figure in guys/bosses. It never ends.
The will of the heart is to be open.
Loving not being loved seems interesting. I believe it makes us more intelligent and we reach a healthy relationship to admiration. But I want to believe in functional love. But then again. I am delusional 😅
Aww sorry that's pretty horrible.
I lost my mom just before my 4th birthday, it's an unbearable pain. I understand what you mean about relationship s. 😥🤷♀️
@@theelfchannel I feel subconsciously we all want love but sometimes when you've grown up believing you're unworthy you don't believe the love that you're getting is genuine or is going to last. It's difficult to trust it. To trust it would mean you somehow believe you are worthy which is unfathomable so it's best to leave.
@@Muchjoy.. Hey! I'm sorry our parents didn't get to live their lives. I somehow feel strange that I've outlived my father. It sometimes makes me think maybe we can do more to be happy. They would want that for us. Sending you hugs.
I lost by my parents by the time I was 30. At age 16, the day after I got my driver's license, I went to go ask permission to use the car. We lived in a rural area on acreage. My mom told me to go ask my dad. He was usually working in the yard. I went outside calling him but he didn't answer. His van was there. The tractor was there but he was not. I went in to tell my mom I couldn't find him. She asked me to wait for her but I didn't. I went back out and this time I walked right up to the van and I screamed no and fell to the ground. He was leaned over in the driver's seat, blue from the blood pooling. It was extremely surreal and painful. During that time, I shut down. I began drinking. I stopped functioning. I flunked that year of school. He was the one person who listened to me and talked with me and he was just gone. In my mind, I built a story "if I had only been able to say goodbye, it would have been easier...it would have been less traumatic". Then at age 30, my mother had many diagnosis - COPD, diabetes, thyroid disease and lung cancer. We never had a great relationship. On her deathbed, there were things I would have liked to have said to her, loving things but I did not for fear of what she would say back. After she passed, the grief was worse than what I had experienced with my dad. I felt betrayed by my own story. I got to say goodbye to her and it was not easier: it was just different.
Rebecca - thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry that you lost both of your parents and had to see your dad when he died. I imagine it's been tough to get that visual out of your mind... - Kiera
Same thing happened to me but with my Dad. My best friend, my world. My entire life changed overnight, no warning. My life would be totally different now if we hadn't lost him.
He couldn't say it better. Drugs, closed myself off.
Still to this day I cry with a thought of him... now I have kids and I try my best for them everyday so they are strong incase they lose me.
God bless all those that have lost a parent at a young age. Anyone needs to talk I'm always here
Thank you for your honesty. It's so wonderful to hear your thoughts on this. I had the same loss of my mum at 16. From illness. My dad had already died 5yrs earlier. Losing them both has made me so much more empathic and also almost forced me to live fully. I'll be 40 soon and I can say I have lived my years to their fullest extent. I am blessed to be able to help others with their loss too. From my grief I have found strength.
I'm sorry that you had to lose both parents so early on, Heidi. But I am glad that you've been able to keep finding strength. I know it's not easy ❤🩹
@@MedCircle Your video really made me reflect a lot and made me quite emotional. It also made think about how happy I am now and how much I truly love time with my son. I can say I have taken no moments forgranted in my life and that is the blessing I got from loss early on... Thank you for creating this channel. I don't comment much but I love your posts.
You poor sweetheart. Thank you for sharing your life and feelings with us. I found it very helpful.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Kyle. The pain of losing both my parents and two of my four brothers, at different times of my life left me feeling that life had no meaning at all. When I was expecting my first child, my eldest brother died unexpectedly from a heart attack. There were complications with the birth of my son, and we almost lost him. Three years later when I was six months pregnant with my daughter, my mom died unexpectedly from a burst ulcer. Our daughter was born two months premature. The doctors said that she had to be in the bedroom for six months with the humidifier going, or she would not survive as her lungs were too weak. My dad passed in 2010, and my other brother in 2018, aged 53. Grief is a part of life for me, but there is a great deal of gratitude for my children and grand children and my life partner., and I love them all dearly.
Wow Liza... thank you for sharing. And thank you for being such a warrior - please keep fighting, even when you don't feel like it. - Kiera
@@MedCircle Thank you for the encouragement Kiera. We all need strength to carry on, especially when our power fails us at times.
Well done Kyle!!! This was a very brave video to make! I wish so much that this type of advice and sensitive understanding had been available 50 years ago when I lost my dad when I was 11. You are right the grieving never ends, even all these decades later…but as the layers get dealt with bit by bit, the grief somehow softens a bit. I still shed tears over losing my favorite parent so young…but a bit less often. That loss has caused me to become the very deeply understanding empath that I am today. My mother’s been gone now for 31 years. Her death was a different kind of loss to me. So many complex emotions with her death. I’ve found that writing to myself in a journal has helped me to process a lot of this loss. It’s interesting to go back to older journals and read what I had written back then…helps me to see all the subtle and significant ways that I am growing because of all this. Thank you for being so forthright and honest. You are such a beautiful example of a generous human being. You have a very special spirit…which comes from, “having been through it.” Much gratitude!!!
Thank you! Yes we have to keep dealing with the layers so we can experience more and more healing. Even though it's super difficult. Thank you for sharing your story with me.
Thank you for sharing this. You've eloquently explained what I've been feeling this year. In a way, it has reminded that I'm not going nuts and my feelings and thoughts are somewhat normal. And hopefully one day, I'll be okay like you are now. Thank you.
My neighbor/good friend from school lost his mom from cancer when he was just 15. I wasted no time comforting him and he always remembered that.
He keeps his hair long in honor of her, never cutting it short 💜.. Cancer is a b!tch!! When i had long hair too, I cut off the ponytail and donated it to Locks Of Love.
I love that he keeps it long to remember her!
Thank you for your story. My husband died from glioblastoma less than two years ago. My four kids age 28 to 18 have had a rough time. He was likely Comorbid with NPD and bpd traits. He raged a lot. Losing him was a mixture of, deep sadness and relief. It was like a train wreck you saw coming, but also a loss of Hope and dreams.
I just lost my mum, and I'm 60 , such a profound loss , I'm grieving severely. Like you , I can't look at pictures of mum it's so upsetting it cuts deep. I have all the same feelings like you ,only I will never get past this , and honestly, I really don't want to , I just want her home 🥀🙏💖sorry for your loss xx
My mom and my brother died 1987. A single bullet killed both of them, 13 May I was 9 and it still with stick with me. My dad died when I was 26.
Stacy, I'm so sorry :( thank you for sharing this.
January 1986 I was 14yo I lost both my mother and father to murder suicide. Your comment resonated with me. 🙏❤️
Thanks i shared this with my 19 year son who lost his mother to ALS Jun 23 and has many mental health issues to face. Grief sure is individual. Thanks for the candid video.
Lost my Mom two years ago. I was abroad. In my mind I'm still heading to the airport, I'm still desperately trying to reach her, I'm still getting to the door hoping to find her sitting up in her bed, instead i was presented with her just resting there eternally. Silence and tears.
i can relate a lot, i lost my Mom last Saturday i was abroad for a month . when i saw her resting i couldn't even cry felt like my life was over i still cant come to terms with it feels like i am waiting for her call. She was everything for me i am trying to stay strong for my brother but i jut feel empty sometimes but she is constantly in my mind everything i do reminds me of her
Thank you for this. I’m a fellow warrior. ❤
I lost my mom when I was 16 as well. She had a brain aneurysm rupture. Never really thought about it, but I also don’t have pictures of her anywhere I can see them. It really is because I don’t want to be reminded of the trauma of her death and absence in my life. Never really thought of it. Every loss I’ve had since, especially break ups, I think are made worse because I’m greiving her again.
That makes a ton of sense. And I can relate to everything you just said.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
I lost my did in a fire when i was 16. Im now 54 and for some reason really struggling. Look forward to this
Understandable though. It can hit us hard at different points in our lives.
The loss is right in front of me. Not the first time either. Still, I need all the prep I can get. Thank you Kyle
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Kyle, it’s Brian. I watched the Ketamine episode. Thank you for that gift, it kept me going and gave me hope. You’re doing important work, my friend. Thank you!
Your story is a lot like mine. I lost both of my parents when I was 17. It's been 23 years and I'm still struggling with it. I feel like I've never really grieved properly. I hate that I can't talk about it without crying. I have never sat with these feeling but I need too. I also was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis when I was 25. I sometimes wonder if it's all connected. You have given some amazing advice and I will take that with me today. Reminding me I'm a warrior and a survivor. Thank you. ❤
Looking forward to this information. I want to learn more about this kind of grief & how it could have effected my father. It must have had an impact on my childhood & life as a whole. He was very quiet & reserved his whole life. I could never get a straight answer from him on anything.
I lost my dad at 16 when he was 52. I had only 3 months to process and deal with his death of lung cancer. It was shocking, he had been sick before that point but I hadn’t realized it. I always thought of my dad as my stronger parent. What has been difficult was how little I knew him. I was his younger child and my parents got separated when I was about 2, and he never really bothered to get to know me. When my cousins (male) talked about going out fishing with him 1 on 1 I was shocked and hurt as my dad had never did that with me. I don’t know if it was because he didn’t have any sons, or he just was younger and had more time, the cousin was older by a few years, but it just shocked me that he spent this time with my cousin and never with me. Even at 16 I realized I never really knew this man. To this day I have very little remembrances of his, and his ashes are with my step mother who I am estranged from, so it’s almost like he never existed, and that is very sad but in a lot of ways, true. Even as a child I reached out to him to get to know him but he didn’t try and reach out to me, which is really sad. In the end though there’s nothing one can do with a parent who is absent physically or mentally, they just have chosen not to participate in their child’s life, and that’s a loss to them as well as the child. Much love to all the people who have lost a parent as a kid, regardless how close or not you were, it always hurts.
Man... thank you for sharing. You're right - there really is nothing we can do to earn our parents' attention or love, which sucks that we can't be in control and just have to accept the situation. Thank you for sharing your story
@@MedCircle thanks! 💜
THANK YOU SO MUCH 😢!❤❤❤
I was 7 when my dad was murdered. He was my safe place and I’ve struggle for 36 years with feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, anxiety and self worth. I’m so afraid to lose people
Here I am, ignorantly thinking there can't be another guy who went through exactly my sad youth because of their most precious person in the whole world (that is the person who gave birth to them and most dependable person for practically EVERYTHING at that age) just suddenly disappearing from their life at the age of 13 for cancer 23 years ago. Then I see this video!
There is so much sadness and relatability to this video I can't do justice to with words typed as a comment. So not trying to do that in vain is better.
All unfortunate souls who went through this are sadly damaged for life. However, we shall carry that emptiness forward trying our best to not get this grief get the best of us..
Everyone says to Grieve, but no one tells you how...i dont think i know how.
Good point. Dr. Judy will definitely walk us through how to grieve in the Beyond Bereavement course we're releasing at the end of this month.
Thankyou Kyle for sharing your Story of Grief and I can Understand how it feels like losing someone Special and Close to you none other than one's Mommy.
Synonyms of resilience
1: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress
2: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change
Resilience Outside of Physics
In physics, resilience is the ability of an elastic material or tissue to absorb energy (such as from a blow) and release that energy as it springs back to its original shape. The recovery that occurs in this phenomenon can be viewed as analogous to a person's ability to bounce back after a jarring setback. The word resilience derives from the present participle of the Latin verb resilire, meaning "to jump back" or "to recoil." The base of resilire is salire, a verb meaning "to leap" that also pops up in the etymologies of such sprightly words as sally and somersault.
It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment.
-Bram Stoker, Dracula, 1897
The rescue workers showed remarkable by resilience in dealing with the difficult conditions.
Cold temperatures caused the material to lose resilience
As mentioned above Resilience mode is Good and helps to gain back the Energy after Sudden Grief, but not necessarily might last long, because as per me being Harsh on your mind, on your brain on your heart during this Resilience mode can make a Human lose on Resilience, Cracking down a person into Depression, causing a long lasting serious Mental Disorder.
I went into Depression after experiencing 5 years of Resilience mode to overcome the Grief of my mother's sudden death in the year 2008 however later I experienced, Cracking down the Flexibility due to too much of Cold and Stiffness in mind, brain and Heart.
It may be something similar to the
A. Theory of Synchronicity, where the Theory of Synchronicity says that There is No Co-Incidence.In psychology, Synchronicity is defined as the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause; that is, the coincidences are acausal. The underlying idea is that there is unity in diversity. In psychology, Carl Jung introduced the concept in his later works (1950s).
B. Similar to the Theory of Alchemist, An Alchemist is Someone Who Transforms Things for the Better....
I personally believe in above two Theories...So I lost my Beloved Mom on Christmas Eve, a decade ago. And even I received a Call on my Cellphone,that I have lost my Mom due to Heart Failure, while I was in Office....and to add on to this Grief I was Laid Off exactly 6 month's after my Mom's sudden Death.
I can understand the Pain 😢 of losing a Mom.
It was very very Tough to overcome and handle relationship with those who were much more Matured and had lived much more Experienced Life than me. My Father transformed drastically into a Narcissistic Abuser and I had to undergo lot of Abuse from my Father along with my Psychotic Depression, painful PTSD for 9 yrs after my Mom's Death.
In the year 2018, I lost my Father, but believe me it's a Painful 😖😖 Experience after losing either of the parent,.especially if it's Mom.
In the year 2021, It was very very very painful 😖😣 for me to Accept the Fact that I have a Mental Disorder which I have to live with probably Lifelong.
So Time does Heal, accepting the New Normal Life.😊
i lost my own mother back in May while caring for her in Mexico, i hated to be bearer of bad news to my brothers and sisters knowing they couldn’t say goodbye to her , i wanted to scream so badly that it would of took three people to pull me away from her, i don’t know how i haven’t lost my mind after many sleepless nights and the pain of losing her
I was 14 when my father died. I had the same guilt. I didn’t think I was allowed to laugh during a time when most of the time I felt like crying. If I was morning, how dare I laugh?. How dare I feel joy?
in wars today and yesterday and tomorrow, people lose their children and their parents . and cant even grieve. and worse than that, they endure profound lasting wounds. when you say dear "lean in", you were an boy in your home and had the opportunity to grieve. many cant...complicated . unfairness. injustice. indifference more than everthing. everywhere.
My father was a former professional boxer and taxi driver, I lost him when I was 18 back in 2020. He never got to see me graduate university, or get my own place, to see my get my driver license, never got to take him out for dinner, never got to drive him anywhere, never got the chance to see me fight, will never see me get married or have kids or have a say in what I do in my life. I’m his only son. I’m not saying this because I want sympathy but to comfort someone else that they aren’t the only one that has gone through this and for others to cherish their loved ones and to pray for us 💯 🙏🏾
I don't know where you are, but I send you a hug from this part of the world (Israel). May we all see the day of the resurrection of our loved ones in an era of world peace. 🌎
My sister passed yesterday morning, my heart hurts.😢
Can we just get a pod with u and dr ramani pls u guys are so good together and you ask great questions to her. Great mesh.
My mom just passed away on the 8th, im 21 and i feel like nothing makes sense, she was ny best friend and i didnt even realise it all the time. This is the most heartbreaking experience ive ever went through, and i dint know if i can get through this, i really don't
Now it makes sense why my son hasn’t got his dads ashes in his bedroom they are in the spare room ❤
Can you make video on shy bladder treatment and the thought processes how to deal with them.
lost my dad at 5 he’s alive but chose addiction over family 😢❤
My dad lost his mom at 8.
So young
That was heartfelt sharing, thank you.
I guess I’m the minority because I’m older, but I do wish that there wasn’t mood music while we were listening. it didn’t decrease the quality of the message, but it did decrease my ability to pay attention.
My dad recently passed unexpectedly. I'm now without both parents.
I was 19 blamed myself held on top that for 20 years before finally grieving. Some being diagnosed BPD, ASD and ADHD. I can have empathy though. I’ve learned how to appear neurotypical in common areas though.
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i'm 16 and my mom just passed today, i don't know what to do.
Could cut the music.
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now imagine what paIestlne kids being going through. loosing everything
Lost my mom when i was 13 years🥲