When it comes to her ex-husband’s family, OP needs to keep some sort of distance between them b/c they have shown that they will easily cut her off when another woman comes into their sons life. At the end of the day, they’re not OP’s family they’re Cynthia’s family (i.e. her daughter’s family). OP needs to adapt the, “if it has nothing to do with the child, then we have no need to talk,” motto b/c her desperation to be accepted by her daughter’s family is clown behavior.
Exactly. She doesn't have to go to every Sunday dinner as if she is actually part of the family. There is a level of dependency she has on them that,honestly, she shouldn't expect to have because they aren't her family.
She needs to maintain the distance with the ex in-laws. Those people will throw them under the bus with the next girlfriend. They don't care about OP and not even about their granddaughter, and that is very concerning.
OP's daughter will remember how Dad and the GPs turned their back on her. OP might as well get ready now. The next GF that the ex gets, her daughter will be asking if Dad is going in to stop seeing her again. Just like he did before. She'll be asking about the GPs also.
DO NOT trust the grandparents. Make sure you put up boundaries and distance your child from this immature family. They abandoned their granddaughter for a GF. What will happened when the next GF comes along. They even justified the diary incident. They should not be trusted.
After the custody hearing, I would have pushed for full custody, child support. Then after that phone call from the grandparents, I would have informed them that going forward, they will no longer be seeing their granddaughter. I would have sold up and moved so far away they and their son would never see her again. I would have told my daughter how they had shown they don't want me around anymore and want to take her away from me. That we need to move so we can be safe together. If my daughter expressed a desire to still see them, I would allow her to talk to her grandparents on the phone, same with the dad, but we would have no physical contact. They have shown how little they cared for OP and Cynthia in their actions, all in favour of a woman they knew for a couple months.
Men like this ex who "move on" and think OP is using their child as "a weapon for sympathy" are trash. This man basically gave up his family and especially his daughter for "his new happiness". He doesn't get to act like such a trash human and then beg forgiveness and reconciliation when his "new happiness" is actually just ashes. Amanda was basically manipulating him (and his parents) to push "his old family" away. And this woman violated a child's privacy?! That's the biggest insult of all!! Honestly, OP should have been documenting everything from the start (for all parties) because they ruined Cynthia's confidence and sense of safety. I hope they aren't shocked when Cynthia decides never to have contact with any of them again (either in the future or from her young age into the future). But a question I have is where was OP's bio family in all this?? We know her in-laws are trash but where's her bio family??
She said at some point “it was like losing my parents all over again” so I assume either they have passed, she cut contact for reasons, or they disowned her. 😅
It’s literally not your family anymore and yes she is on your place now but there is no place for you. YES step back. And don’t come to their family dinner. Step back and deal with the reality
im going to be honest, i dont trust Pamela and Nick with what they said in the third update. i dont see why you would only show support to one side and expect the other side to just be fine with it.
When it comes to her ex's family, OP really should maintain some distance because they've proven they'll easily cut ties when another woman enters their son's life. Ultimately, they aren't OP's family; they're Cynthia's family (her daughter's family). OP should adopt the mindset , "If it doesn't involve the child, there's no need for us to communicate, as her eagerness to be accepted by her daughter's family comes across as desperate.
Rachel, you stood your ground and never back down in doing what is right for your daughter Cynthia,at least Jeffrey has come around and so has your in laws Nick and Pamela, but in the end Amanda is out of the picture for good measure and things can be civil once again, good to go for everyone.
You've shown incredible strength and resilience, Rachel Your dedication to Cynthia is truly inspiring Keep being the amazing mom you are and know that you have a community here rooting for you and Cynthia through every step of this journey Stay strong.
I'm glad things are working out, but I would be wary because what if he meets someone new and he and his family do the same thing again. You shouldn't not get as close to them as you were before. Keep them at a slight distance. Let your daughter enjoy her time with with your ex and his family. Just be careful so you don't get hurt again.
This entire saga, from start to finish, is only six months. To be frank, Cynthia should not have even MET Amanda in that time frame. Much too soon to introduce your romantic partner to your child.
How did OP think this was going to work? She'd have Sunday dinner at her ex's parents' house forever? Even after he remarried? And how what potential new BF or husband of hers was going to look forward to that? Sorry not sorry, but they're NOT her family anymore. The occasional invite to a gathering, sure. But she did herself and her daughter a disservice not moving on from expecting to forever be a permanent fixture at their weekly dinner. This was always a blueprint for hurt feelings and disaster, even if the new girlfriend was Mother Teresa.
The ex-husbands side of the family has already replaced Op, so don't count on support from them, and the fact they don't see a problem with the social posts from their son's new girl means they have decided together on that narrative in to present in court.
Document everything is the way to go from the divorce forward. There is nothing complicated : the ex in-laws raised the ex to be unreliable and neglectful therefore take your distance from them.
Ai formula: Intro: Overly lengthy context which has nothing to do with the video. “Everything was perfect UNTIL IT WASN’T 😮 Event: Thing happened, feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings. Update: “Thank you for your support, it is appreciated in these tumultuous, dark, uncertain, difficult, uneasy, unexpected, big oops uh oh times”. Event: Feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings past events feelings feelings. Resolution: “I’m looking forward to the future, blah blah blah, everything will be okay now, blah blah blah, it’s time to look forward to the future, blah blah blah.
@@aquaria13 “I suggested therapy, it was shot down, feelings feelings feelings. So now I, the dog, the cat, the hamster, my 7th cousin thrice removed, and the kitchen sink are in therapy and I can now say that we are all doing better and looking forward to the future”.
Op needs to grow Lil bit spine too n bit detachment from ex and ex in law too .. she is expecting too much from these two relationships... Like she is still married.... Give them Lil space.... Op is not their family now .... That kid is but under kids name op is attaching herself to them ... Give them some space ... Move urself too
Keep ur top priority ur daughter. U don't care about anything else. Keep it that way. Ur the one involved u have to care when she sick dry her tears when he and his family hurt her. Ur the one that goes to her recidle and plays. So ur doing everything right eff them just keep proof of everything and make sure it's what ur daughter wants
She needs to be LC with the ex and his family. They will never chose her and her daughter over their son. It doesn't matter if it is their granddaughter. She needs to only talk about her child with them.
I know that this story was generated by an AI. The protagonist of the story, is too clingy about her Ex's family. She wants to win her family back (Bish that is not your family and why the eff are you fighting against Amanda and the family, which gives an eff to you). Cynthia is an effing 14 yr old teenager, and describing her as if she is a toddler is effing irritating. This is a doormat and rage bait story.
Things are changing for both of you. Try to explain this gently to your daughter. Someday you will find someone yourself. Hopefully a nice thoughtful person who will treat both of you well. If nothing improves, go no contact with the former in-laws. Be civil to the ex and his heifer. Check the law to see when your child can tell the court who she wants to live with fulltime. She can always go no contact with daddy when she turns 18.😮
Get the lawyer to get Amanda to take the pictures down and to stop posting them. Cynthia is not Amanda's daughter so Amanda does not have the right to post Cynthia's pictures
The day you divorced your husband, you stopped being a part of that family. Your ex has a new family now. Cut ties now. Stop torturing yourself. Good luck
Op is reaaaally stupid. Those are HIS parents and she have to accept that their loyalty will be with their son. And the fact that she took that much time to do something only hurt her daughter more.
Stories like this rub me the wrong way in the same camp as "Golden Child" siblings. It's the constant second guessing and being an effin' doormat for me. No you are never being too harsh with people who are going about their life as if they have no responsibility to your child. YOU as the ex wife have no claim over the "former family" you just need to chalk that up as a loss, and just be grateful that the inlaws were as nice to you as they were for as long as they were. But Ol Boy is going to move on with another GF eventually, and as other people have said, this may repeat. They don't need to have a relationship with you, but they damn sure need to have one with the child. And it's either all in or not at all. If you aren't going to do your due diligence as the father then sign away your parental rights altogether, and then you can explain to your parents why they don't get to see their grandbaby anymore. Also, I wouldn't have given in so soon to them wanting to see the child. No you don't get to push my baby away for months while their father is getting his D wet with someone else and treating her horribly because you think you're being good parents, and then I'm supposed to just drop everything and bring her to you. No you can sack up and prove to me that you want to be in her life and that this dippin' out behavior won't happen again. The child needs stability and if you aren't willing to give it to her then you don't get to see her again. As for Ex Husbando, nah he got off scott free with some "long emotional conversation" nah you better finish every single one of those court appointed classes and be consistence with your show ups for a least 6 months before you even look me in my face and ask for forgiveness or try to apologize. /end rant. These stories are not good for my blood pressure, whether they're true or not. lol
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When it comes to her ex-husband’s family, OP needs to keep some sort of distance between them b/c they have shown that they will easily cut her off when another woman comes into their sons life. At the end of the day, they’re not OP’s family they’re Cynthia’s family (i.e. her daughter’s family). OP needs to adapt the, “if it has nothing to do with the child, then we have no need to talk,” motto b/c her desperation to be accepted by her daughter’s family is clown behavior.
All of that is fair. Just sad the grandparents clearly are treating Cynthia different and taking stuff out on her.
Exactly. She doesn't have to go to every Sunday dinner as if she is actually part of the family. There is a level of dependency she has on them that,honestly, she shouldn't expect to have because they aren't her family.
She needs to maintain the distance with the ex in-laws. Those people will throw them under the bus with the next girlfriend. They don't care about OP and not even about their granddaughter, and that is very concerning.
OP's daughter will remember how Dad and the GPs turned their back on her. OP might as well get ready now. The next GF that the ex gets, her daughter will be asking if Dad is going in to stop seeing her again. Just like he did before. She'll be asking about the GPs also.
DO NOT trust the grandparents. Make sure you put up boundaries and distance your child from this immature family. They abandoned their granddaughter for a GF. What will happened when the next GF comes along. They even justified the diary incident.
They should not be trusted.
After the custody hearing, I would have pushed for full custody, child support. Then after that phone call from the grandparents, I would have informed them that going forward, they will no longer be seeing their granddaughter. I would have sold up and moved so far away they and their son would never see her again. I would have told my daughter how they had shown they don't want me around anymore and want to take her away from me. That we need to move so we can be safe together. If my daughter expressed a desire to still see them, I would allow her to talk to her grandparents on the phone, same with the dad, but we would have no physical contact. They have shown how little they cared for OP and Cynthia in their actions, all in favour of a woman they knew for a couple months.
Men like this ex who "move on" and think OP is using their child as "a weapon for sympathy" are trash. This man basically gave up his family and especially his daughter for "his new happiness". He doesn't get to act like such a trash human and then beg forgiveness and reconciliation when his "new happiness" is actually just ashes. Amanda was basically manipulating him (and his parents) to push "his old family" away. And this woman violated a child's privacy?! That's the biggest insult of all!! Honestly, OP should have been documenting everything from the start (for all parties) because they ruined Cynthia's confidence and sense of safety. I hope they aren't shocked when Cynthia decides never to have contact with any of them again (either in the future or from her young age into the future). But a question I have is where was OP's bio family in all this?? We know her in-laws are trash but where's her bio family??
She said at some point “it was like losing my parents all over again” so I assume either they have passed, she cut contact for reasons, or they disowned her. 😅
Ops should be done with the ex in-laws. They will drop her again
Sue the school they released your daughter to someone who is not legally allowed to pick her up
Jeffrey probably added her on there
It’s literally not your family anymore and yes she is on your place now but there is no place for you. YES step back. And don’t come to their family dinner. Step back and deal with the reality
im going to be honest, i dont trust Pamela and Nick with what they said in the third update. i dont see why you would only show support to one side and expect the other side to just be fine with it.
F them. They missed out in their GRANDDAUGHTERS recital to support her father!
Maybe Amanda was dangling some monetary gains for them, and that's why they were like that? That's my suspicions.
When it comes to her ex's family, OP really should maintain some distance because they've proven they'll easily cut ties when another woman enters their son's life. Ultimately, they aren't OP's family; they're Cynthia's family (her daughter's family). OP should adopt the mindset , "If it doesn't involve the child, there's no need for us to communicate, as her eagerness to be accepted by her daughter's family comes across as desperate.
Rachel, you stood your ground and never back down in doing what is right for your daughter Cynthia,at least Jeffrey has come around and so has your in laws Nick and Pamela, but in the end Amanda is out of the picture for good measure and things can be civil once again, good to go for everyone.
You've shown incredible strength and resilience, Rachel Your dedication to Cynthia is truly inspiring Keep being the amazing mom you are and know that you have a community here rooting for you and Cynthia through every step of this journey Stay strong.
yeah becouse i surly would have been so calm bout it
I'm glad things are working out, but I would be wary because what if he meets someone new and he and his family do the same thing again. You shouldn't not get as close to them as you were before. Keep them at a slight distance. Let your daughter enjoy her time with with your ex and his family. Just be careful so you don't get hurt again.
And… when the dad gets a new girlfriend, he will slow up on the visits and the grandparents will be distant again.
This entire saga, from start to finish, is only six months. To be frank, Cynthia should not have even MET Amanda in that time frame. Much too soon to introduce your romantic partner to your child.
OP is doing the absolute most.
She needs to move on! The man has to make a life with himself. That doesn't mean that he should not be there for his child.
How did OP think this was going to work? She'd have Sunday dinner at her ex's parents' house forever? Even after he remarried? And how what potential new BF or husband of hers was going to look forward to that? Sorry not sorry, but they're NOT her family anymore. The occasional invite to a gathering, sure. But she did herself and her daughter a disservice not moving on from expecting to forever be a permanent fixture at their weekly dinner. This was always a blueprint for hurt feelings and disaster, even if the new girlfriend was Mother Teresa.
Thank you. How come nobody sees this? Op needs to move on with her life.
The daughter’s school would not release her to an authorized person. That’s a big no no.
The ex in-laws need to stay far away. None of them can be trusted.
The ex-husbands side of the family has already replaced Op, so don't count on support from them, and the fact they don't see a problem with the social posts from their son's new girl means they have decided together on that narrative in to present in court.
Document everything is the way to go from the divorce forward. There is nothing complicated : the ex in-laws raised the ex to be unreliable and neglectful therefore take your distance from them.
Ai formula:
Intro:
Overly lengthy context which has nothing to do with the video.
“Everything was perfect UNTIL IT WASN’T 😮
Event:
Thing happened, feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings.
Update:
“Thank you for your support, it is appreciated in these tumultuous, dark, uncertain, difficult, uneasy, unexpected, big oops uh oh times”.
Event:
Feelings feelings feelings feelings feelings past events feelings feelings.
Resolution:
“I’m looking forward to the future, blah blah blah, everything will be okay now, blah blah blah, it’s time to look forward to the future, blah blah blah.
Don't forget, therapy, therapy, the future is bright, I'm taking up old hobbies, do a circle of the story 3 more times. looooool
@@aquaria13
And tumultuous!
The word tumultuous!
Never really heard anyone say it but it's in 90% of ai stories
😅🤣😂😅🤣😂
@@aquaria13 “I suggested therapy, it was shot down, feelings feelings feelings. So now I, the dog, the cat, the hamster, my 7th cousin thrice removed, and the kitchen sink are in therapy and I can now say that we are all doing better and looking forward to the future”.
@@SetBlastersForStun but not to mention being hopeful but CAUTIOUSLY OPTIMISTIC
I still don't trust the in laws and the ex... keep them at a distance... and go on a date ffs girl...
Op needs to grow Lil bit spine too n bit detachment from ex and ex in law too .. she is expecting too much from these two relationships... Like she is still married.... Give them Lil space.... Op is not their family now .... That kid is but under kids name op is attaching herself to them ... Give them some space ... Move urself too
Please don’t fall back in with the ex in laws. They are vile. Even worse than Nick.
They only came back because the skeezer left.
ill read amanda diary so to get to know her better too
Keep ur top priority ur daughter. U don't care about anything else. Keep it that way. Ur the one involved u have to care when she sick dry her tears when he and his family hurt her. Ur the one that goes to her recidle and plays. So ur doing everything right eff them just keep proof of everything and make sure it's what ur daughter wants
She needs to be LC with the ex and his family. They will never chose her and her daughter over their son. It doesn't matter if it is their granddaughter.
She needs to only talk about her child with them.
I know that this story was generated by an AI.
The protagonist of the story, is too clingy about her Ex's family. She wants to win her family back (Bish that is not your family and why the eff are you fighting against Amanda and the family, which gives an eff to you). Cynthia is an effing 14 yr old teenager, and describing her as if she is a toddler is effing irritating.
This is a doormat and rage bait story.
You act like that you're happy for Cynthia. but they want to distroy you completely
Things are changing for both of you. Try to explain this gently to your daughter. Someday you will find someone yourself. Hopefully a nice thoughtful person who will treat both of you well. If nothing improves, go no contact with the former in-laws. Be civil to the ex and his heifer. Check the law to see when your child can tell the court who she wants to live with fulltime. She can always go no contact with daddy when she turns 18.😮
I love these stories!
It always more painful to the kid when forcing a relationship with a dad that doesn't care
Nick and Pam should've been more concern about their granddaughter than their son, but whatever.
Get the lawyer to get Amanda to take the pictures down and to stop posting them. Cynthia is not Amanda's daughter so Amanda does not have the right to post Cynthia's pictures
The day you divorced your husband, you stopped being a part of that family. Your ex has a new family now. Cut ties now. Stop torturing yourself. Good luck
Wow
I hope this op don't Fall for nick and panels be when push comes to shove they will stand by their son.not what's best for than grandchild
Op is reaaaally stupid. Those are HIS parents and she have to accept that their loyalty will be with their son. And the fact that she took that much time to do something only hurt her daughter more.
You should have moved on from his family when they first started acting differently towards you.
I like how you can tell it's ai by its word usage.
Stories like this rub me the wrong way in the same camp as "Golden Child" siblings. It's the constant second guessing and being an effin' doormat for me. No you are never being too harsh with people who are going about their life as if they have no responsibility to your child. YOU as the ex wife have no claim over the "former family" you just need to chalk that up as a loss, and just be grateful that the inlaws were as nice to you as they were for as long as they were. But Ol Boy is going to move on with another GF eventually, and as other people have said, this may repeat. They don't need to have a relationship with you, but they damn sure need to have one with the child. And it's either all in or not at all. If you aren't going to do your due diligence as the father then sign away your parental rights altogether, and then you can explain to your parents why they don't get to see their grandbaby anymore.
Also, I wouldn't have given in so soon to them wanting to see the child. No you don't get to push my baby away for months while their father is getting his D wet with someone else and treating her horribly because you think you're being good parents, and then I'm supposed to just drop everything and bring her to you. No you can sack up and prove to me that you want to be in her life and that this dippin' out behavior won't happen again. The child needs stability and if you aren't willing to give it to her then you don't get to see her again. As for Ex Husbando, nah he got off scott free with some "long emotional conversation" nah you better finish every single one of those court appointed classes and be consistence with your show ups for a least 6 months before you even look me in my face and ask for forgiveness or try to apologize. /end rant. These stories are not good for my blood pressure, whether they're true or not. lol
So much yapping on and on