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The woman who couldn’t afford a headstone for her mom really hit home for me. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. Her mom would understand. But still, I can completely understand how bad that would feel.
Could cut release her Venmo or something, maybe we could crowd source that. Is that something she could get her now?
It’s sad how extortionist the funeral industry can feel. So many prices put on things that “don’t matter in the grand scheme” as you say, but people tell you that it matters and that you’re a less loving person if you don’t make those purchases for your loved one who has passed
Kinda the same happened with my familiy my father died in 2019 we didn't had much money and had to organize a cheap funeral and my dads "gravestone" was literally a wooden cross for like a few months until we were able to buy a real gravestone it was so emberrassing for us because he deserved better but we weren't able with our resources to actually get a nice grave
I know the feeling. I am working up to that for my Mom. Her grave was the worst in my father’s family plot. It was raining a lot during her funeral so the grave wasn’t done properly and it looked like crap. I was able to get it fixed. Next is to get a headstone on it. Sending you some love fam.
Someone lmk if a Venmo or something goes up
It takes a lot of courage to talk about it. Really proud of all of them.
Real
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I agree
I have a lot of skeletons in my closet, and I could never be as brave as any of these people . Kudos .
The woman talking about not being able to provide for her kids broke my heart. She so obviously cares about her children and wants to do good for them! I know so many parents who barely care about their children at all.
Literally so true and how she said “got to do better” like being accountable instead of blaming other factors
It touched me so much bruh😔
Agree it sucks that poor people tend to have Moore kids
As a small, idiotic child, I snuck into my parents' room and was snooping until I found a gold watch. I started fiddling with it and it started making loud ticking, which scared me so I panicked to make it stop and not be found out for sneaking and smashed it. Turned out it was the only thing my father had left from his father. Hearing him cry through the wall broke me like nothing else has.
He knew you didn’t know better, but it still must hurt so much for you and him. I’m sorry
This one hit to the core. Dang man I'm so sorry.
i cried reading this
this one made me bawl. i hope u don’t hold guilt anymlre
Oof my mouth dropped 😳☹️
It’s how cut asks the most revealing questions and people still answer. Takes a lot of courage on their part.
They get paid fam
@@nakulkarwa6311 it still takes courage lmao they are personal things
@@nakulkarwa6311 oh, really?
“It’s Chili’s 2 for twenty, it was worth GTA” 💀
If you've been sexually abused, I want to drive the message home: it was absolutely not your fault. Talk to someone you trust.
Very true. Glad the last girl realized her parents do love her and will help her. the assault victims I know were never able to tell their parents because of that same reason.
But even so, it is often a source of shame. Shame that you failed to protect yourself better, it may be completely irrational, especially if you were still a child. But it is still an emotion that needs to be processed. For most ppl, I would advice against telling this to anyone outside of a court case, or therapy sessions. Otherwise it is not a matter of if, but when it will be used against you. Some people have exactly no boundaries, better not find it out the hard way.
That poor girl having to bring up shitting herself at the Krispy Kreme in two separate videos. 😭😂
omg yhhhh i knew that story sounded familiar
that was clearly a pivotal moment in her life, haha
The recurring legend of the Cut cinematic universe 🤣🤣🤣
What was the other video? Lol
@@paolav2112 Have you ever pooped yourself.
The woman who said her mother was telling people her business and it made her feel shame, I completely relate and it is what I would have said.
I just found out how my mom really feels about me through my sister. I feel really ashamed. So I can relate too... :)
Happens to everyone where I am from
I had some family members like this, an I decided I can only tell them things I’m okay with everyone knowing
Legit one day my neighbor asked me something very personal and wondered how she even knew this, turns out it was my mom😑
I went to the bank with my mom and she told the dude at the front desk that I had Gastro intestinal issues. Hella unnecessary and embarrassing
Can someone hug the women who couldn’t afford a headstone for her mother
Those companies are the absolute scum of the earth.
these people are so strong and mature for owning and processing their past, then telling the internet. it’s very admirable
i have definitely a lot of shameful moments that i still can’t talk about because i do get triggers and some moments shouldn’t be spoken about again. so proud of these guys. thanks cut
ye i can definitely understand that
I feel this
I completely understand
I really wanted to thank cut and everyone who participated in this video. It really allows me to realize that its not just me who feels these negative shameful moments and we all make mistakes.
Same. I've had a really shameful moment in life but it WOULD NEVER compare to all these wonderful people👏👏👏Props to them
This makes me feel a bit more human. Like everyone is going through their human experience - everyone is going through it in their own way
Duh 😅 I'm guessing you and other people that keep writing this live in a dark room, and yall never have conversations with anybody. Because if you talk to people, you'd have figured this out way before a video.😅😅😅😅wayyyyyy
"I live a pretty clean life besides...fighting and gambling" idk how I expected that sentence to end but that was not it
the guy that got caught wearing his mother's skirt seems like a deeply personal and important moment in both their lives. hope she was accepting.
I told my parents I was molested by my cousin and well… they just said they were glad it wasn’t rape. It’s hurtful and it made me feel embarrassed for even saying anything
You try therapy ? It’ll probably be better venting to them ?
I feel shame for not having a shameful moment. My social anxiety is debilitating and I am constantly terrified about how people are perceiving me. So I have done absolutely nothing to have caused shame, which seems good, but it also means I’ve never done anything to create potentially memorable stories. Ive done nothing memorable in my life because I’m too scared. And that causes me shame.
The best way to beat anxiety is to force yourself to do the things ur afraid of, if u don’t your choosing a life of an anxiety and from experience that ain’t fun. But take small steps, or a big one whichever floats ur boat.
Aw man, I know that loop, it’s not fun :(
@@lilysalmon3900 I agree. This is how I live through some of my social tasks… as long as it’s not harmful to you or anyone else, just make yourself do it, otherwise you’ll get too comfortable protecting yourself from fear.. and sometimes it’s really debilitating, shaking uncontrollably, but afterwards, it won’t even matter! That’s how I see it :-)
I feel really seen by this. I'm getting to the point where I don't even go outside because of how much anxiety I feel just being percieved. Something that's helped is listening to other people, watching them make mistakes, or sometimes be rude to others. I like to treat them with kindness in my head I try to understand why they're just having a moment of weakness or made an innocent mistake that anyone could. It helps me think that there could always be someone supporting me from a distance and treating me with the same patience, and in turn I start to be able to reassure myself in anxious situations
I have general anxiety and i am ashamed of letting my disoders affect my life and not live it like a normal human being my age.
I completely broke down at the end when the girl mentioned coming to terms with being SA it’s such a hard thing to realize it’s not easy I’m still battling with mines it’s been 4 months I’ve tried to minimize it because it was coercion but the feeling of disgust and regret takes over I will never forget the discomfort and fear I felt in the moment sending my love to any survivors of SA 🖤💕
Praying for your healing. You're a very strong person. ❤️
sending love, peace, and healing to you💕
Same. That last one broke me a bit too. When I was a teenager I tried to finally tell my mother that I had been sexually abused as a young child. She said she couldn't listen to it/deal with it. But, I was very fortunate to have mental health professionals through my high-school that would listen and help me understand what happened to me wasn't my fault. I know not everyone is that fortunate-to have someone tell them they didn't deserve it, and aren't responsible for being abused. Hopefully anyone reading the comments can really hear and feel that. You shouldn't have to carry that shame.
This happened to me too when I was extremely young and it actually happened to my sister and younger cousin as well (by the same person), and I thank God that it hasnt influenced the lives of my sister and I. But unfortunately my younger cousin went through it worse and she just recently figured out what actually happened to her and I just pray that she gets to heal from it.nThank you for sharing your story and for helping me share mine too
@@AiregynI just hope all 3 of yall Either put that person under the jail or put them 6 feet under because they don't never stop, they just find new victims. And of course, it's not your fault, and you're not to blame. But you're gonna feel guilt until you do something about it. Like at least to make the person suffer.
Mine would probably be not being around or caring when my grandma was dying in our family home. I was 17 and had just started dating my first love so I was super happy and excited about that and didn’t want to see her waste away. I specifically remember one time complaining and saying how gross it was when she asked me to help empty her bedside commode. Now that over a decade has passed, I wish I would have spent more time with her and shown her more respect. 🖤
Man... I don't specifically relate to this but of all the comments sharing their stories this one really hit me. I know you probably know this, and it's easier said than done, but please don't feel guilty. That's a lot for a 17 year old to handle, and I'm positive your grandmother understood this, and knew you loved her 💜
This is it for me as well. When my grandma was diagnosed with dementia I wasn’t aware of it and she started acting differently because of it. At the time I remember feeling a lot of anger and disgust towards her because of her behavior. I was so caught up with my own mental health issues at the time that I basically ignored her the last few years of her life. When the gravity of her situation started to hit me I realized I should’ve been there for her to help her through her moments of fear and panic. Not being there for my grandma is my biggest regret in life and the thing I am most ashamed of
i’m so sorry
I'm so, so sorry. I was in a similar situation. I was told my Gran had dementia when I was 10 and I made the choice to avoid her for the next 9 years until she died. I knew I couldn't handle seeing that so I made a conscious decision to avoid the issue. My Mum and Dad tried to guilt trip me over this despite what I said and would ambush me with her and tell me to sit and talk to her. It was crushing seeing her like that, but I'm glad my last memory of her is in the Chapel of Rest at ease. You're not alone, and you weren't selfish. You're only human.
Mine was when i had an assignment for English class at uni, where we all have to sing a song, so i was really super excited, i loved singing. When my turn came, i began singing and suddenly everyone was laughing at me. Even the teacher. I tried to hold back my tears but then after a few minutes i burst into tears and ran to the bathrooms. To this day, i still can't sing in front of anyone and even in my own room i just sing as quietly as i can. It's really painful to me.
These people just suck. I know it isn't easy but you got to understand that if you enjoy doing it then do it. Don't feel shame because others didn't realize your talent.
@@mohamedahmedelrouie446 Thank you for your encouraging words, recently i've been trying to sing again, gaining more confidence 💕
@@Average3DWaifu you are welcome and it's really amazing to know that you are getting your confidence back.
@@Average3DWaifu sing if you like it because people are gonna laugh at you, its just their nature, we just have to learn how to not let those people get to us. I myself love singing along songs and i am tone deaf so i am well aware that my singing isn't all great but i still sing!
Sing outloud!!! Be proud no matter what anyone thinks!!
Sleeping with my 16 year old stepbrother when I was 13. It was my first sexual experience, and once I left for college, I allowed myself to believe and actually communicate to other people that it was rape. 25 years later and the shame (of not only the actual event but the lies I allowed myself to tell for so long) is so deeply rooted that it's become the bedrock of my psyche. 20 years of therapy haven't even begun to unravel or rewire that trauma. It's influenced my self-image and self-esteem, my interpersonal relationships, my expectations for the future, even my relationship with my mom up to and after her death...literally everything about me is colored by the lens of shame.
I'm so proud of you. It was never your fault. I wish you all the best. ✨❤️
Well, I never slept with my brother but it did happen that we were young and playing and it kinda got sexual.
( obviously after we grew up there was none of that stuff)
At that time nobody saw, and we both kept our relationship as always.
I think what's done it's over already. We are all stupid and we do bad things all the time.
What matters now is, how is your relationship now with everyone involved.
If it's good you should see that there's no need to not enjoy it now, no need to keep bringing the bad stuff back to your head.
Now, if the relationship isn't so well, you need to accept that things happen, and the same way it went downhill in the past, it could change its course in the future.
Getting stuck on guilt, on what's behind, is like a prison, where you don't allow not only yourself, but the others to move on, towards brighter days.
Thank you for sharing your real shame. And I can relate on certain things. I hope you find that doorway out, even if it's a way you weren't expecting or not the way people/culture tells you. I believe we can become something new.
I recently watched a movie called "Shades of her" (2022) it's about how a woman dissociates after being SA'd, triggered by a past rape experience by her teacher in high school. This comment was new knowledge to me, but I understand now that SA completely rewires your entire brain chemistry. It can be the foundation for the way someone views the world, the foundation for all romantic and sexual relationships years later before they've formed their own definition. Her SA explained why the woman was cold even to her partner, why she was quiet and emotionless, all those years later. And in her dissociation she imagined her parents, brother, boyfriend etc. all fought for her and tried to get justice. But in reality no one supported her and her rapist is still alive, it's devastating and saddening. SA hangs over like a heavy, downpouring weight. This is to say you are not alone, it is not your problem nor your fault, and you do not deserve to live like that.
He was still dead wrong close to graduating high school while seducing his naive just became a teen lil sister! He was wrong rather u wanted it or not it's still ( statutory) I bet if you were younger he would have still did it.a Predator is a predator they don't have an age limit.
I feel sorry for the cross dresser, doll you’re not hurting anyone never be ashamed of you
Right?? My bosses are a separated couple who the ex-husband cross dresses. Thats the whole reason they split up. She refused to allow him to be himself and be happy by self expression through clothing, nail polish, makeup.. He apparently already crossdressed when they first met and he told her early on. She is super hateful towards the lgbtq+ community and ultra-religious. It’s hard to understand how people can be so upset and affected over something as minuscule as how someone decides to dress. You should want to see the people you love be happy. Even if they didn’t stay together, she shouldn’t try to constantly make him feel like shit or a sinful abomination and freak of nature…
@@Dolly_junkie I’m sorry to hear that many people are small minded and being against someone’s happiness is a huge red flag bc they’re not hurting you or anyone I hope your boss is at peace and happy w/ someone w/ a good heart
@@georgiaolivia91 you are 100% correct about that. It sucks for me that I have to hear them argue over stupid stuff and talk crap about eachother. And I’m supposed to keep secrets and choose sides and stuff, it’s not fair.
I gotta stop doing it dawg fr fr
@@MariBills nah you do you bro
The sexual assault ones really hit me because it must suck that someone feel guilty and shame because someone decided to go aganist their will and do something like that. I hope each day things get a bit easier for them!!
Currently battling through sexual trauma in my therapy sessions, it’s so hard because even years after the fact It completely fucks your self worth and ability to respect yourself and your boundaries. One of the first things my mother said to me when she found out about my abuse was “I can’t believe you would do something like that. Your father and I didn’t raise you to be like this, so disappointing” and that has stayed with me for 7 years now and will for the foreseeable future. There’s so much other hurtful stuff that was said by my family and peers at school, and it’s currently affected my relationship with my boyfriend. The trauma led to a lot of things being wired wrong in my brain, and for a long time I felt my value to a partner was in what I could provide for them, not in how they helped me grow and love myself.
@@nevadag606 I understand. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's clear your parents have no reasonable sense nor know the definition of abuse or non consensual. You didn't ask for this, and for them to be their parents. They should understand how this visibly traumatize you and not say stupid shit that can further the tramua. I hope you are at least in a better space than before, and cut off your parents. You are such a beautiful strong girl, and I hope the best for you💖💖.
The woman who talked about being homeless with her kids... 💙😭 I went through the same thing twice. And she's rt, I couldn't look my daughters in the face for a long time. So much love and respect to everyone who opened up and talked about their shit 💙
I was a homeless kid with my mom, we don’t hate you for it so please don’t feel any shame.
The headstone one broke my heart
right thats really sad
"It sucks that me not being clear on what I wanted has impacted and affected so many people."
I felt that.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about your not proudest moments of life out loud....i wouldn't be able to do it. Big respect for these people.
Me too. There are many things I am not proud of at all.
❤️💓🧡💕
Mine would be, not standing up for myself when I was sexually assaulted.
Me too. Remember that you are not to blame and you can freeze in situations like that
As someone who was sexually abused for months by a high school “boyfriend”, I too struggle with this. It’s so hard not to feel like I’m not ever going to be enough, and find myself placing my self worth in the wrong places.
@@bronwynisabel8417 I froze and felt out of my body
@@nevadag606 I’m so sorry, I hope you can talk to a therapist.
That was my experience as well I’m so sorry🤍 you are not to blame for your body’s natural response
Mine happened when I was about 12. Periods and menstruation were considered extremely hush-hush and shameful. When I got mine for the first time mom wouldn't ask the staff for a pad, so I bled all the way home on paper towels she called all of our female relatives to tell them, and it made me feel awful and ashamed and so for the longest time, I hid my periods and wouldn't say a single word about them. I finally realized they are natural and nothing to be ashamed of, but I still deal with that sometimes.
I had my period at nine and at school we were taught that periods start at 12 so i thought there was something wrong with me so i hid it for months.
It's interesting that a lot of people's most shameful moments don't seem like that big of a deal to me but I know that to each person that moment was really difficult and shameful to them. I have learned that shame grows in hiding and it's best to not hold it in alone and to share it with someone you trust because it really does help. I applaud everyone for sharing because it's tough talking about these moments for fear that you'll be judged or your experience with be trivialised.
Mine would be getting hammered and telling my in-laws about my trauma (twice). It brings up so much anxiety every time I think about it. It’s kind of helpful to admit it here. Thanks for creating this space Cut!
Bro the hammer and dump combo? I true mentally ill classic
"It's a Chili's 2 for $20, it's worth GTA!" ended me lmao 😂
my most shameful moment is around the time my father was sick with covid, I was scared to go into the same car as him to the hospital for I was afraid of catching the disease so I remained at home whilst he was en route, about a week later he went on to pass during his admission. I regret the decision I made to this day
I'm sorry abt that 😔 😞 😪 🫂💞
He went on to pass? What does that mean?
I've been avoiding one of my grandmas since covid started. Her health is very poor now and I fully understand what you're saying. I feel guilty over just expecting something bad to happen and I panic over each call I get from my parents, wondering if this is the one.
Whoever it is that didn't get to see you in a while, I'm sure they'd understand. Whatever your reasons.
Don't let that weigh on you for the rest of your life.
They surely wouldn't want that for you.
@@DA-js7xz passed away
As a child I was sexually assaulted. That is my greatest shamefulness. Now that I have a daughter I will teach her to always trust me. By showing not twlling
You were ashamed for being SA?
@@zevsarachan9949its very common
The vulnerability in this video so humanistic. I really appreciate everything that shared their stories ❤️
Every single person who spoke deserves props being able to admit their faults
Not everyone is at fault here...
Mad respect to people who can talk about their difficulties in life, past or present. We all have them, but it feels like we forget that sometimes when talking with others.
The opening statement is very true. I can not recover a special toy my daughter lost that she covets, it was from her childhood friend who suffered brain damage from drowning. We lost EVERYTHING.
My daughter is 22 this year and that sits very heavy with me.
Can we get together and find a way to pay for a headstone for her mom? Is there anyway I can get in touch with her? It’s been 13 years today that my mom died and that really just struck me.
"I can't just pick one."
Same girl same...
Its really helpful seeing people talk about topics like shame. It was relatable and made me feel like i am not alone in this. Somehow that also made me feel better about those moments. Great work!
Mine is letting someone get away with tearing me down.
Not standing up for myself.
Doing hard drugs to mentally escape a relationship.
It's crazy how we all have these moments at once, and watching the video makes you see that everyone has shameful moments and we shouldn't let this moment define us.
I resonate deeply with the gentleman who talked about being institutionalized for mental health reasons.
There's a heavy amount of shame you feel while you're there, even if you're there in order to get help. I hope he's doing better these days; I hope everyone is.
I LOVE this!! I think more people need to talk about situations that hurt them because it's not always your fault and you need to be told that. Talking through the issue with a trusted someone is so important and a lot of people don't think they have that. I been there...TRUST ME! We are all loved, NEVER FORGET THAT!
I love the courage some these people have sharing the moments the things they would like to forget.
One of the most admirable things is talking about your shame.
For me, it’s being groomed by my grandfather at a young age. I know it’s not my fault, but I still feel like I should have been smarter, and I should have known better…
It’s not ur fault. These disgusting men will see their day.
plz don't blame yourself none of that is your fault hope you're doing well stay positive ❤️❤️❤️
That's fucking awful. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. Hopefully he is dead now so you don't have to see his wretched face.
@@faithl4886 'stay positive' is almost insulting to say to someone who's sharing a traumatic moment.
@@DA-js7xz oh I'm sorry I had no intentions to insult someone
Stole a robot? ….I need the backstory 😂
There is no shame, when there is acceptance. ✨
Stay strong you amazing human!
oh, I kind of relate a lot to the girl saying that her mom would go around talking about her businesses.... I love my mom to death, but there is certain things I just stopped telling her, not because I want to hide them from HER, specifically, but just because I know she is telling other people that I don't feel comfortable knowing my shit
I can relate, my moms the only parent I have and I can’t tell her anything.
same here… there’s certain things about your child that you just don’t tell anyone. And hearing them tell others is just not something that’ll leave your mind ever
This video and all of the keep it 100’s are so human. They make me feel seen and shows me just how different yet similar people are. Always good feels.
I wanna hug all of these strong people. I can relate to some of this, and I hope they can all learn to forgive themselves.💗
The woman who said she threw a milkshake at her ex's car looks like someone who would throw milkshakes at someone's car.
Shameful of being a virgin at almost 25 and yet I refuse to do hookups.. would rather wait until I’m in a relationship but dating in this generation is a nightmare
I feel that. I’m 23 and I haven’t lost my virginity or been in a long term relationship. My piece of advice is to just be patient and someday, you and the right person will find each other.
Just came back from the gym, I was on my last set of benchpress and on my 7th rep I gave it everything I had but I just couldn't push all the way up. I hit complete muscle failure, lost my composure and next thing you know the bar was on my neck.. I didn't really scream or anything but hopefully a fellow gym member came to my rescue. He kept asking if I was alright but I was still in shock and felt a mix of emotions, mostly embarrassement (I'm already pretty self-conscious and now of all people I make a scene). This happened 2 hours ago and I'm still having trouble forgiving myself for my lack of judgement, Also I feel like was so shocked I forgot to properly thank the gym member. Anyways, I just felt like sharing this somewhere, peace ✌️
Almost every single person who goes to the gym, even professionals, have had that happen to them during a workout. I had that happen. No shame, but I felt sad that now im a statistic under the category of stupid things happening at a gym lol. Im big on showing gratitude, so next time at the gym, seek that employee out and thank them.
@@crewboy23 thanks, I needed that lol
Don’t worry it happens!! Just shows that you were going hard at the gym! Bet the person who helped you felt really good that they saved you lol. So don’t be embarrassed!
EVERY single person in this video is so fucking valid, and beautiful, and courageous, and strong. Thank you all, we see you and we hear you ❤️
The relationship ones hit home so badly, letting other people pretty much ruin u, ur personality, beliefs, mental health is something I truly regret. Pls never believe ur self worth is from the person your with and let this happen to you
I'm so happy I've gotten the opportunity to be vulnerable in these videos. I absolutely love the Keep It 100 series. 🖤
This one hit home because my whole body is built on shame
When did you start feeling like this.
I always feel a lot of shame around how cruel I was in middle school to one girl. I was mean to others but I guess it sits with me because she’s the only one I haven’t apologized to. I’m actually just going to go message her on Facebook right now because she deserves to hear an apology 😫
how did it go?
@@eelimuy4440 she said that it was very sweet and that it’s all good 🥺 I’m glad I did it
@@carendestiny I'm glad you did too! even if it was years ago, reaching out with an apology can definitely make a big impact on that person's healing depending on how hurt they were, because some people do carry those kinds of things for years
Mines more of a phase in my life than a moment and knowing the friends I lost and family members I no longer tall to witnessed me going through that.. But worse that i was a solo dad and my daughter witnessed it all
I just freaking love these videos where I can see SO many different people and perspectives. I come from small town Utah and the people in my town all look and act the same. It is hard to find unique people. However, my town is growing and more diverse people are moving in and it’s so exciting 💕
I think my most shameful moments were when I let someone else tell me how much I was worth or how worthy or good I am. Cause that's when you end up making the most mistakes, you start doubting yourself and what you can accomplish.
What a journey of emotions this was! Almost cried at the end
Whenever I feel ashamed about something I've done, it's so easy to berate myself and it feels almost impossible to find my innocence (I'm able to now though because of inner work I've done). But, I find it so interesting that as I watch these people be open and vulnerable, it's like I see their humanity and I want to care for them... like sometimes shame is warranted, but I still want to hug them and tell them they were just being human. Idk if that makes sense lol
Not being able to provide for my mother emotionally nor financially while watching her loose herself to her sickness had opened up a whole other can of shame in me. I just had to accept that I couldn't have prepared for something like that, and I can barely save money now, yet it still weighs heavy on me. She is safe now, in a senior home. I just wish I could have been there to help, and I blame myself often. I'm 25.
what i'm about to write cannot compare to most of the things that have been said in this video, but it's something that happened yesterday and i wanna use this comment section to kinda exorcise the feeling of shame and embarrassment i have in me. so, yesterday i got scammed by someone on the internet. i wanted to buy tickets for a concert and i trusted this person by sending them the money before getting the tickets. i only lost €50 which isn't a lot a of money, but i feel deeply ashamed and embarrassed with myself. I had never done something like this, but i was so excited about getting those tickets that i ignored all the red flags this person was sending me. i feel very dumb right now and i'm also having trouble talking about this with my loved ones bc i know it was my fault and they cannot tell me otherwise.
i trust people way too easily and this experience is making me doubt everyone around me. i just hope that this person who scammed me really needed those €50 and that they didn't do this out of boredom.
thank you cut for uploading this video exactly when i needed it the most. everyone makes mistakes and we gotta learn to go easy on ourselves when shit like this happens.
I would really like to see one of these videos uncut. I bet they said a lot more and I'm curious to hear the rest of their stories
8:56 i see you. i feel you. sending you a huge hug from a survivor of csa myself.
TW: grooming, and drug use/OD
I related to so many of these. I have a lot of shame around the fact I was groomed as a teen. The abuse from that relationship completely ruined any self esteem or self love I had. I ended up really depressed and turned to drugs I was prescribed. I accidentally overdosed on opioids I was prescribed and went into cardiac arrest. I know in the end it’s not my fault; I was the victim in that relationship. But I still feel so ashamed, and everything that happened because of the relationship doesn’t help any.
i feel bad for the guy who felt ashamed for crossdressing 🙁 nothing wrong with that
great vid. this channel makes quality videos, and it takes courage to do something like this.
The unmarked grave one gave me chills and made me have to pause the video
Friends let go of your shame, learn and move forward. Also a mental breakdown isn't a shameful thing, the human spirit has its limits and people break. Brave of all of you to share. Much love.
I 100% relate to the person who talked about their mom getting into their business/talking abt their business with others bc my mom does the literal same thing with me like everything she knows about me, her friends know it too
Whenever I’m laying down to go to sleep and close my eyes, all my shameful moments rush into my head and then I’m cringing of embarrassment until I finally fall asleep.
7:28 If you are reading this, I would like you to know how much I wish to simply hug you for all the things that you have went through.
You've exposed many snippets of your life in these videos and I think that you're a very strong person to have analysed them all in such detail and to have done something about them.
I wish you only the best in your journey and know that you're appreciated for who are.
I seriously can’t explain how much I love keep it 100
The mother who talked about not being able to support her kids really got to me. I think obviously a lot of people have gone through hard times as a kid, but I can’t imagine what it’s like as a parent. Praying that she finds more stability and wealth for herself and her kids
“i don’t really feel shame” 😭
Shame/ guilt,in my humble opinion,is hands down,the most uncomfortable emotion I have felt thus far. Crippling. It's,kinda like ,you did something you wish you didn't,it hurt people you care about,..and now,there's nothing you can do about it and it's forever hurtful to think about..and rightfully so,that's your punishment and you better LEARN from it and carry that lesson into the future so that you don't hurt yourself/others again.
It seemed some people were sharing embarrassing moments vs shameful but none the less great video and more power to those who shared their sensitive private matters
8:34 this hit close to home. :( all my love out to her.
Me personally, when I was like 11-12 and started self harming I was at swim practice and walked past someone I remember putting my hand over my cuts they didn’t say anything but I still remember the utter shame and how worthless I felt as I hurried past hiding, hanging my head.
I know the feeling. I used to self harm by burning myself. I was at college one day and one of the lads in my class spotted the area I'd burnt and asked what it was and I just panicked and said it was a birthmark. I was mortified.
I've now had my forearm covered in tattoos of things that make me happy to cover the scars which has helped get rid of the shame!
I hope you're doing ok. I hope you're in a better place mentally than you were when you started to self harm. ❤
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Thank you for beginning this video with the trigger warning, and for doing it correctly (trigger warning, _______ whatever could be triggering). People don't know how important that is for trauma survivors. I hope more places adopt trauma informed practices, I think it's a part of accessibility.
The woman @8:34 ... I wish you wouldn't have to be so hardened to choke on your tears. I respect you and admire you, you courageously beautiful woman. Thank you for your honesty.
When I was in eighth grade I was the lead in a play and my directed at one point started yelling at us and I had a mic on and started crying and everyone could hear it through the mic and I had to go on stage in rehearsal and preform while crying and I had makeup all over my face and i couldn’t get it off… I’ll never forget that day
I have so many shameful moments from my past (and probably my future, too lol). I’ve learned that you just have to learn to let that shit go. You’re only hurting yourself by dwelling on it. Just always do the best you can. We’re constantly evolving as people and gaining new perspectives. Everyone looks back on times in their lives that, knowing what they know now, they wish they would have handled things differently. It’s just a part of life.
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My shameful moments....stealing, lying, bullying, staying with a toxic friendship (not friends with that person anymore), being too generous for my friends when it came to money. Not learning to say no as fast as I should have, etc. Those things haunt me and I mean haunt me, cause it destroys relationships. Especially when it came to the stealing and the lying, that was a hard lesson to learn. It took a LONG time to rebuild those relationships, with my friends and family. It took a lot of proving and showing that I can be trusted. I still feel bad to this day, even though all of that took place in the past. Oh! Another one that I just remembered. Is the statement my great grandma told me before she passed away. She was in the hospital for many medical issues, she was only 82. Her statement was, "Keep riding those horses for me." I loved horses ever since I was a kid, she always had a smile on her face. When I talked about them, however ever since her passing. I never rode a horse, because I cry thinking over the idea of doing so. Miss you lots grandma ☹️💜
for me it was the moments i tried to make people see my self harm scars while pretending i was unaware, to get them to ask me how i was doing. i'm sure all i did was disturb people and hurt them. i deserved the social shunning i received and i'll never, ever, forgive myself
I low-key led on my best friend because he just made me feel so great about myself. He just looks at me like I’m the most beautiful person in the world and I didn’t stop him or make it %100 clear that I didn’t have romantic feelings for him. I love him more than anything and I’ve tried so hard to like him like that but I just can’t. But he still looks at me like that. I feel so bad also bc I talk about other guys/girls I like to him since he is my best friend. And I have liked multiple of our mutual friends. I would say I’ve been pretty kind but I feel so much guilt from seeing and putting him through the pain of liking me. I am not worth him but am trying to be. I love him so so so much. Again, just can’t like him like that.
Regret and shame are honestly such big emotions and they suck. These people are brave for sharing.
funny how alot of them described shame as them being embarrassed and not hurting others, fits this current mentality many have in society though
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0:37 I can't tell you how often I've blocked out a bad memory, only to remember it, almost like opening an old wound.
In sixth grade i started bullying my best friend of seven years because other girls around me convinced me that she wasn’t a good friend to me anymore. We’ve since repaired our friendship and put that stuff in the past, but even though it was ages ago and I’m about to go to college, I still kick myself for what i did. I can’t imagine how much that must have impacted her as a kid.
for me,
when a contemporary issues teacher had his class write a paper about texting and driving, he used a family friend/church friend as an example. she had died in a car accident a year prior to that and it will be 2 years this coming november. the cause of the accident was unknown but she slammed into the back of a log truck going up the mountain. he had no right to say that, but what hurts the most is that i let it go and didnt stand up for my dead friend. its so shameful cause im suppose to be strong and stand up for anyone, but for some reason i didnt. even tho we werent close when she died it still hurts to know that others run her name in the dirt sometimes, and when a TEACHER said something, i still didnt stand up for her. i know shes probably disappointed in me and hurts that she is.
im sorry G dawg.