Stop Caring What Your Parents Think | Jordan Peterson
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ส.ค. 2019
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I needed to listen to this today. Seek advice. Not approval.
My mother got angry when I told her she was not God. Only God is my source of validation, no human being. I learned the hard way not to worship your parents. God must come first above parents.
When I was in university and wanted to live on campus my mom said, "Well, if you live on campus, then your aunts and uncles will say you're a libertine for leaving home before been married". Then when I graduated the least supportive person for me to move out of state was my mom. At this point I absolutely don't care what anyone has to say about me if I can get a better job by moving out of state. Are you paying my bills for the rest of my life? No! My brothers did whatever they wanted. Geeze. Sometimes I hate been a woman!
My mistake was relying on my mom for everything. Now when I try to have independence, she goes fully insane. It's scary when you allow your parents to control you and they begin to grow an ego.
I have a family therapy session with my parents today. Watching this to help prepare mentally. This is it; if they don’t acknowledge my concerns and take responsibility for their actions now then I’m done. Wish me luck
American culture fascinates me. In my culture, you are under your parents rule till the day you die because there is a hierarchy in place. My boyfriend is American and I'm shocked how he tells his mom to back off and stay out of his life. If I said that to my mom I'll be underground lmao but I do see the mental toll it takes on me and how despite being fkn 25, not 12, I'm still treated like a child and I have a hard time making decisions I WANT because I'm always doing what will make my parents happy and keep the peace. It doesn't help I'm the only girl in the family...
I once asked "am I making a mistake caring what Mom thinks?" and I never got an answer. I got the usual banter of "we love you and we want you to be happy," which didn't answer my question. Most of the time when I ask a direct question, I get no real answer. The videos of JP here finally give me an answer of some kind and a sense of certainty.
it's not as easy to just stop caring what your parents think. It's much easier to just ignore them by not talking to them. There has to be a sacrifice. Either you spend more time with them or you distance them. You just cannot control your reactions when you interact with them
The issue with the parent child dynamic is the manipulative nature of it all since they often remind you that questioning parents is a sign of disrespect. This baseless and emotionally fueled tactic can easily be counteracted by replying that manipulating people with the parent -family argument is the real indicator of disrespect.
Needed this, my Mum verbally abuses me every day.
"You might still have got your parents confused with God"
"Being a monster is the right thing"
Be your own person . Pursue your goals as long as their realistic. Caring too much about what others think , will keep you complacent, and happiness won’t be achieved
“Sometimes it turns out being a monster is the right thing” this applies to us people who chronically feel the need to people please. Whether it’s my parents or strangers I worry about inconveniencing others and end up screwing myself all the time. Maybe I need a villain era to sort myself out 😅
The first step is not needing them, get financially free of them, then everything else can fall into place.
29 yrs old and just realised i can nvr make her happy 🤦🏻♀️👌
Parents motivation:
I felt so unhappy when I tried to live the way my parents wanted me to. I still respect them, and I don’t hurt them. But sometimes their opinions on my life doesn’t fit with the way I want my life to be. Whenever I try to decide, my mom doesn’t speak, or listen to me, she ignores me until I change my mind. Which rarely happens
My condition worst than you
If any parents are reading the comments - take this as a warning of how your children can grow up to resent you if you tyrannise their life.