'Your Twenties is for Firing Dudes Who Don't Act Right' -Divorce Court
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.ค. 2016
- "Your twenties is for firing dudes, says Judge Lynn in her encouragement to this young woman today to not settle for her job and this unworthy man.
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"Get a large life, so even if a dude doesn't end up in it, you still enjoy it." 1:08 I love this line!
Genesis Barrow yes my favorite one!
Eww
A.......MEN. my life is was and always will be set with or without my boyfriend. I was happy when he wasn't in the picture and if he ever leaves ill still be happy without. I have my money my car my house so if anything happens I'll be alright 👍
This is true for men too....
Every human really...
Do the same thing apply to men or would you call that self-involved
Okay, I feel like every girl in their twenties needs to see this.
every girl in her teens. By 20 look what happens.
By 20 they are goochie mama's these days, make it 15 now
Too late for me
Im 17 and im like YUP👏🏼👏🏼☝🏽 Amen!😂😂
I M WATCHING IT RIGHT NOW!!🤩🤩
Your WHOLE LIFE is for firing dudes who don't act right. Your 20s is for learning, sharpening and polishing that skill.
rayhend100 Amen.
I'm in my 30s, still firing dudes LOL! And happy to still be unmarried. Meanwhile half the people my age are divorcing.
I love that! U are absolutely right....shit I'm 38 and if I don't like what u saying off the first convo it's a HELL NO in my book.....lmao....don't got time for fake ones trust!!
@courtesy55 First off, you should live up to your name. And second, men approach me and I fire them if uninteresting. It's not that I'm against marriage it's that I'm against obsessing over the title. If the title matters more than the person's qualifications then it's ridiculous cause you're bound to fail. So I'd rather be unmarried than married to a loser or divorced before 40. That was my point ;)
@courtesy55 You don't need to curse to be obnoxious. You're just an instigator. I was just agreeing with OP about the fact that firing is a lifetime thing unless you find a good soul. Nothing to do with bragging just logic. You asked a stupid question just to start something. I explained _my_ perspective you're just trolling at this point lol. Have a good day arguing with yourself. 😚
“You’re 20!
If I had 20 back oh, what a mess I’d make.
20 is for you. 20 is for growth. 20 is for the pursuit of a tomorrow that is better than today. 20 is for options. 20 is for passion and knowledge and enjoyment. It is not for continuous compromise. It is not a time to say this is the guy that I gotta make it with, because this is the guy that I have. And no matter what compromises, no matter what I don’t like, no matter what he does, I have to put up with it, because he’s my man.
20 is for firing dudes when they don’t act right. 20 is for figuring out what you like in certain men. 20 is for finding what kind of men are out there and which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to discard. It’s not for picking up other people’s clothes, it’s not for sticking it out when you’re not enjoying it anymore.
20 is opportunity to move onward, upward, forward. Get a large life so that even if a dude doesn’t end up in it, you still enjoy it. 20 is for creating all of that potential, not just compromising your way into the corner of a closet somewhere, wondering what the heck happened?
You don’t have any children, you’re beautiful. You’re working, working at a gas station. Nothing wrong with it. But at your time off, don’t be looking to spend time with him. Go look to spend time with some books and your brain, to get a new degree. So that you could put the gas station in your rear view mirror as you step forward into some other kind of existence, that won’t include him!"
Thanks! Now I can save this to my computer :)
omg! thanks! i love u!!!!
Red thank you. I actually downloaded this video to write it down. thanks for making my life easier.
Great
Thank you !!!!!!!!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤❤❤
This made me leave my toxic relationship and I can never thank her enough
👍👍👍👍👍👍
Way to go!!!!!
@@holmesc.2456 thank you so much!
@@CherieRose14 💛
proud of u❤️❤️❤️
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After putting up with a 29yr old with four kids, I am 19 about to be 20 in two months and man did I waste my 2 years of teenage life over a man who constantly broke me. This time I’m done. I’m living my twenties.
You go girl😎💪
When you're young and don't have kids, don't date a person with kids. Learned this the hard way. Thank God you got out early too. Try watching Tony Gaskins videos, he's really helped me to build self confidence after that horrid mess of a relationship.
That's right baby. Listen to the judge. When the world is allowed to freely travel again, remember that your life can be more than where you live. Live it safely and freely.
Girrrrrrllllllllll RUN!!!!!!! 💕💕💕💕💕 He is not any good nor does he mean any good for you! 😞 Oh, my heat aches for his children. The lifestyle they will watch him run in circles around with women. 😡🙄
Watch the video on sidechicks by the same judge
They getting fired still in my 30s!!! And any other dudes who think I am gonna put up with bs!! They get fired at 40 and 50 too!!
I've just turned 49 in January and I didn't tolerate foolishness in my teens and twenties...now, that I'm on the cusp of 50, I still don't take any crap, because I know my worth. I'm educated, single and don't have any children. A lot of folks have such a distorted mindset thinking that you suppose to tolerate or get what you can when you become older....NOT!!! I have a 32 year old that's smitten with me and he know that I'm sweet, but don't tolerate disrespect, lying, cheating....period! Life is too short for unnecessary drama!
@@sufundasamuels2313 they men try to push the idea that we will grow old with cats and alone. Because they know we can walk away. Good for you!!! You deserve happiness!!
Preach lady! I love that LOGIC she give. I could sit at her feet and take notes all day.
you and me both
Me too
Thank you I need to hear this. Just kicked someone to the curve. No children and not married. I’m ready to finish this degree and live life
Yes..please enjoy your twenties..Im 51 an I didn't cause i had 3 kids but wouldn't trade thrm for nothing..my daughter is 23 an she doesn't take crap from anyone not even her dad..
Now, that's what I'm talking about! Girl, go get it, go get it! Go get your blessing! Good luck on your journey and your endeavors.
Straight clowned we his ass in his face like he wasn't even in the room! So classy!! I love it!!
As a 20 year old I really needed to hear this after a rough divorce
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My now husband and I had a baby and were shackin up right out of High School & I love him dearly!! But I don’t tell our story like a fairytale, we had great times although neither of us were ready for the seriousness of all that a real adult committed relationship took.
We fought and made it through 13 years and to marriage but I do not recommend it to anyone I heard a lady say “don’t look at my ending as your beginning” that’s so true! I tell my sons, nieces, nephews and younger cousins to take their time and don’t rush into a relationship especially when you’re young! What you like in your teens won’t be the same when you’re in your 20s..& what you like in your 20s won’t be the same when you’re in your 30s!
LIVE!! Have fun and get to know yourself and most importantly LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY that way you will not allow anyone to love you conditionally! 💜💙💚
Mrs. Jones Camillia Jones
I love this
unleashed her inner pastor
Her black girl magic...👑♥️
I was 19 when this dropped, and this was gold then and gold now
This is not the first time I'm watching this video, but right now watching it almost a year and half later, it really spoke to me, and I really needed to hear this.
I'm from the future lol. I watch this every time I feel sad. It keeps me on my toes.
THE absolute BEST advice my parents never gave me. I wish I'd gotten advice like this in my early 20's because boy what a mess I'd make!
I’m gay and I was in a very toxic relationship from ages 21-23 years old. I can say after being in that relationship I could never go back to anything like that. I just wish more ppl would realize how much better off they are being alone than being w someone toxic. I can say it’s much easier to fire guys now lol
Man im 21 an I’m happy to hear this from another person.💯 spending time with my books working on my 3rd degree . 🖕🏾compromising for any man
3rd degree at 21? howww
Larissa Ngwe lol guessing a triple major or got her life together and finished her associates while in high school so all she has to do it take the core classes for her major
Imani Plummer Yesss‼️‼️‼️
Sylmar28Back
Bachelor Degree 3years
Honours Degree 1year
Masters Degree 1 year
If you finished high school at 17, then you could be getting your 3rd degree at 21
That was smart than lynn
Can we please spread this all over the world?Knowledge needs to be dropped ASAP
I need to meet Judge Lynn.
She hit the nail on the head.
I remember the first time I watched this video.
I was like 'yes, Amen' at everything she said.
Same advice could apply to any age not just 20. Love you Judge Lynn
OH I wish I had someone to talk to me like that when I was back in my twenties. smh
I am glad I am 20 and watching this
But make sure you really absorb it
I don’t know you and I’m glad you did too. She is 100% right.
In less than 2 minutes, you changed my life Judge!!! Forever grateful for you.
Ladies I am gonna be 29 soon. If you’re in your early twenties save this to your phone and put this on your wall. This is the truest goddamn thing I have ever seen. I was with someone from 14 to 24. If somethings wrong, SPLIT. Live your life.
"That won't include him" OH I felt that👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
YES!!👏👏Wish a wise woman would've taught me.
Oh yes when I was in my early twenties, If you said or did one thing I didn't like you were fire! I was very mature and independent. And I wasn't taking no one's mess!
lol I’m mid thirties...and still don’t feel the need to compromise nothing. Just enjoy life and build the life you want, be happy while doing it! Honestly, you won’t have to “compromise” or selling yourself short if that’s the right man for you. The right person don’t even want you to take BS and sell yourself short because they love you! Do you and be happy.
Judge Lynn you always have that knowledge! Thanks I needed this.
Oh how I WISH I had someone in my file, telling me these things 20 years ago🤦🏾♀️! Making sure my teenage daughter gets this life-changing knowledge on a consistent basis! I just pray she listens🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾...
I’m 21 and this resonates with me a hella lot. I have my Associates degree in Arts and now attending a university for my Batchelor’s degree of Science in Psychology in Summer 2020 with the help of Jesus lol can’t leave him out the picture. Just been focusing on myself and not focusing on nonsense from other people.
Great job and keep winning. Enjoy your terrific 20s. 🖤🖤🖤
Legit the spirit of God was on her... Goosebumps.
Ugh! I need Mrs. Toler to be my life coach. I needed to hear this.
omg his face when she said that
I love Judge Lynn. This woman knows what she says, she's like a source of wisdom or kind of.
Well in my early 20s I didnt really have a boyfriend till I hit 26. But man during my early 20s it was just me, my family my good paying job and my bed haha life was good single not that I don't enjoy and love my bf but I was single all my life so its an adjustment
I love this lady! I love you! Judge Lynn I admired you because in some ways, you remind me, of me only with more wit, wisdom, experience, accomplishments, and spirit. I hope I can come of age gracefully as you and be filled with the understanding of heart like you. Thank you for the inspiration you gave this young lady. I really pray she will get every word, you said, to make the changes that will transform her life into exactly everything it ought to be.
For every girl who never realized, your 20 is for you. Enjoy it. Enjoy it your way 😘😘💕💕.
she tells it like it is. . .
AMEN JUDGE LYNN TOLER YOU ARE A SAGE WOMAN AND YOU TELL IT LIKE IT IS YOU ARE POETIC I LOVE YOUR BOOKS AND YOUR PERSONA THANK YOU FOR CONTINUING TO DISPERSE YOUR WISDOM
This video inspired me a little over a year. That’s how it all started.
Gonna be 20 this year. This is so inspiring!
Actually it's not just an advice for only women. Also for men
This can flipped for men also
20 is for finding yourself and what you love and want. Maybe finding love but also for setting boundaries and standards.
She does not look 20... At all
No she does not. I guess being with a tired man, and men that stress you out, causes you to look older. I thought she was in her 30s.
I'm crying LMAO
I think it's the haircut. Bad fashion can age you
Mont Blanc haircut and outfit. It ages her.
I thought they were both 40!
Go spend some time with your books🤗😍
That dude got that SHITTY grin😏 on his face at 0:49-0:51 while Judge Lynn giving that lady the 20's speech...
I watched this video at the same time after i broke up with my boyfriend it was the best day in my life am not depressed anymore i love mylife and am working hard to pursuit my dreams this lady made me stronge in 2 minutes she doesn't eve know me but thank you so much
We should give a golden award for the Judge!!!!
Thank you Judge Lynn Toler. Settin that record straight.
I just turned 20 yesterday and saw this video. such a powerful speech! Yes ma'am!
You are on point every time.
I really like these Judge shows and I thought Judge Judy would be my favorite but I've gotta say, Judge Lynn does what Judy doesn't. Judy's way of acting is to tear people down, usually with good reason but Lynn can d that, lord can she, but she can also build people back up if they've been broken before. I really respect that and wish there were more role models like her while I was growing up.
I'm 20 and I NEEDED this. Thank u!
Lord I wish I had someone telling me this at that age
After going through 2020 enduring 3 surgeries with no partner by my side, I will fire a fool in a nano second.
They are rarely there when you need them but always there to use you for what they want.
I'm not already in my 20s but i watch this video i realize that you need to enjoy your young life and don't rush with everything because the right time will come to you just go with the flow whatever happens happens just keep growing.
Damn I thought she was 35
Her words are poem to my ears
I'm 18 now. I'll need this in my life 😂😂😂❤❤❤
Same honey, same here. I'm just making sure I won't fall into traps like these.... Precautions are always better than cure they say...
@@varshaphal best of luck for your future dear❤
beautiful words
I always love hearing this video
Amen Praise !! for a moment i though i was in church.
I’m watching this at 18...
Very inspirational :)
Nice words 🥺♥️
Exactly I’m wildin in my 20s tf I’ll calm down when im like 30 🤷🏽♀️
teach Sis
My 20's were runied by being in an abusive relationship. DAMMIT
The guy is clenching his jaws. He just want to choke the judge. Lol
Is there a link for the whole ep ? Thanks 😘
When y'all uploading new full episodes??
The men on this show are just 😂😂
I wish I had seen this in my twenty s
Judge Lynn Toler got a way with words- like Blake Shelton's song.
I'm in MY twenties, but I'm not seeing anyone. 😌
Amen!
I always come back to video when I feel lost. And need some relationship guidance. Self and other
Absolutely
Yes agree
I wish I’d have seen this 13 years ago. Ugh! You live and learn.
Preach
Message.
I NEEDED THIS
Doing that living it and what she is saying speaks volumes!!
Amen.
I’m 23 and just left a guy who seemed perfect but he told me that he broke up with his ex 6 months ago(they dated years), he wasn’t planning on liking me as much as he did and wanted me wait and to give him time because of emotional unavailability….cut him off immediately why would I compromise, it’s stupid I’m literally 23 and I could be waiting years for someone to get themselves together. If something is not beneficial to me in the now I will not be letting it stay dormant in my life.
This made me feel better for leaving my last relationship which was clearly not right for me
#WISDOM!
PREACH!!!!!
all the gen z kids staying home from school sick are learning some valuable life lessons 👏👏👏👏
i was going to say i wish someone would’ve told me this at 18 but i feel like i knew, to a certain extent. i should’ve heard this isn’t the guy i need to make it work with just because it’s the guy that i have. i knew it deep down but wasn’t listening to my gut.
Where the full Episode at?
hey judge lynn i have been dealing with this problem i have been married for 41 years but all he does is call me out my name and put me down i am so unhappy and i have a low self a steam about myself
Yes Judge👏🏾🙈👍🏾
Thank you😎😎🤠🤠
How did she end up with that guy?!
im 24 and been a 5 year relationship and she just made conformation
LOVE IT!
Amen