This was such a shocking realization for me. He mirrored my personality from the very start and I thought we were the same. He pretended to have my values and to be as altruistic, spiritual, driven and selfreflecting as I am, but at the same time he diminished me and made me feel so worthless and undervalued. He wanted to be me and despised me at the same time. It took me 14 years to realize he was nothing like me and that he doesn't even have an identity. That's why he tried to steal mine. The most crazy-making experience of my life. Gratitude and blessings from Sweden! 🙏
@@SannaNovaEmilia , The former young n dumb me had actually said to myself "he's like a piece of paper, there's nothing to him". Then I stupidly went ahead and married him at age 19 because didn't want to hurt his feelings. Took decades before realizing what I was actually dealing with..only stress, unhappiness & regrets almost 45 chaotic and miserable years later.
Yes I believe thats correct. They actually do that kind of stuff. I have so much disgust for people like this. Because they’re Fake. Yeah, makes me very authentic automatically. In some way… But before that said, yes… very authentic. But i def have some struggles lately. Which sometimes thought of as narcicism but its quite a bit different. I have in my weakest moments of retardation sometimes thought that maybe I was a narc. Only because i have been misbehaving to certain people who destroyed my thrust and feeling very guilty and sad about this, and that they did. So that had me little bit insecure for some times. I am very very confident - really, know my challenges and you are likely to have Respect- anyway not important 😅 I was normally very very sweet type of Person. Without being anything of a Pussy. Got both qualities strong. But I knew a guy who act this way and did so much verbally Punish him. To help him correct himself. He had lot of Respect for me and really seemed to improve.
He even been crying like a baby for a few times My energy very good Plus i got support. So things got out, but in process i got very much affected because i wass very aware energy very big and sensitive I became more like him and he so blessed to become more real like me This was SUCH A BURDEN it feels like im STILL recovering from this!
@gsnail8189 I have the exact same experience of feeling as we became each other. He became more like me and I became more like him. I couldn't recognize myself at all in the end so I told him that "This is not me. When I interact with you I become a person I don't like so I will have to leave you to save myself." Counterwise he told me (in an attempt to hoover me back) that I made him a better man and I know I did in some sense but it was all fake.
They have the worst drama queen traits: gossiping, jealousy, insecurity, accusing, nagging, won’t take “no,” two-faced, using you for money, false promises, acting coy and innocent, flirting, collapsing, raging, picking fights over nothing, pouting, ruining your events for attention and fishing for compliments. Never want to be with the guys, just girls. I told him he’d make a great Playboy bunny. Always “posing,” showing up at girls night, (in a suit), buying them all dinner. Me? not so much.
@babylonisfallen5142 YES! You are 100% Accurate. They are confused sexually & have been given over to a rebrobate mind which is basically everything you described & more. Nothing they do is Genuine or make sense.
I do think you are so right about this.....A Narc man flat out refuses to respect that men and women are different. They can't deal with that at all. The one I divorced behaved more like a woman than a man.
This is so true; I would tell people, and they would look at me like I was off my rocker. It is so nice to hear someone who can understand this phenomenon. Thank you, it means a lot not to be alone.
They are so good at portraying their false persona that it makes the victim look like they are crazy. My ex could be quite charming and that's all that some people see. Just remember that you know the truth about them. They are miserable people.
Over the DECADES i've actually told my narc husband - admittedly during his never ending childish corkscrew argument meltdowns - that he's jealous because I'm a DNA certified female but he isn't and can never be one. I do think there's also a layer in there where narc males try forcing their wives/partners to be their mothers, while also treating us like we're their sisters instead of wives/partners with intimate/marital relationship & co-parenting partner expectations.
He has always treated me like I am his mother. He copies everything about me. He even says the exact same remark I made directly after I say it. I'll say, "I just said that." He will reply, "I said that." He acts as if I never said it. He wants my shoes and jewelry. I treat him like one of my kids and he doesn't get it.
Prof Sam Vaknin has a big list of these videos . My X yes it was a baby sitting service.. all of his life. He has kept all of my belonging ??? It's very strange coming up 4 yrs there all OS
Yup! I have been made into a mom for him. We have no children. He has children with the first 2 wives. I never wanted kids or to be anyone's mom! We have no intimacy for 3 years of a 10 year marriage . He lies, steals, cheats on me. Acts like a child. I hate him. Desperately looking for my exit.😢
I wonder about Harry Styles .. 🤔 He has called himself a narcissist a few times jokingly, and he goes through phases of wearing very feminine clothing. Right now he us dressing like a very conservative male exec. Wonder why he changes his hair and clothing style so often.
Thank you Danish for posting such controversial truth that many therapists are afraid to touch upon. You have a talent. And that talent is the ability to see beyond the text book informations. You combined your intuition, spirituality, and technical knowledge like no one else. Congratulations for nearly reaching half a million subscribers and helping all those in narcissistic environment to get out. I have a feeling you will become a legend in your field eventually.
This was nothing more than an overblown way of describing the standard narc practice of “Character Trait Aquisition”. HG Tudor has a lot of in depth information about this.
This is so accurate! He mocked me when I told him I wanted to be creative and start a TH-cam channel. Now he has his own TH-cam channel. Then he mocked me for uploading on rumble too and guess who is uploading on rumble too??
Almost the same, he HAD a studio and knew how much I wanted to become an ASMRist and caster. He got all the equipment and put it in a corner. He caught me checking out the equipment and admiring it one night and hollered at me asking what I was doing.
@@santanawilliams6542 oh man! Do I know that feeling. I hope you do get to have your asmr channel and I hope you succeed! I love asmr, it’s so relaxing!
You are an expert Darnish in this field. You know these people very well. I am blown away. I know everything you say is true, cause everything you say alligns with my narcistic abusers behaviour. You deserve an award. You are a real blessing to us. Keep up the good work.
This is so true. My narcissist ex bf, who browbeat my entire 250k inhertiance out of me in under 10 montsh, on paper looks like a red blooded and masculine man. But he wants to be a woman inside and also likes men secretly. He spend over 10k on skin and hair treatments on himself wiht my inheritance. I used to be a pretty lady who would get compliments on the street. From men and women, young and old. It would drive him nuts. He would even tell me i had wrinkles at 24 an dhe was so much better looking! So years of this and im beaten and broken down and no longer fele feminine inside or out. Meanwhile people tell him how he looks 20 years younger than his age. Tells him he is a young Elvis Presely but with muscle. Your videos help but it is so hard to deal with when he is here all the time! Makes xxx,xxx in his job from home. Lawyering is actual not a hard a job if you;re a trademark attorney!
It sounds like you are both narcissistic. You envy eachother and are in constant competition with eachother over who gets most validation. Im sure you are both the same.
The only ones who know the truth about their personalities are the people who are closest to them. They put on an act to everyone else. Many of them are quite good at portraying this false persona. What matters is that we know the truth and don't allow them to abuse us.
💖Absolutely correct. I had a friend like that. Fortunately I "can see", so I left him. I wanted to help him, but it was impossible. These people do not want help. They are representatives of low-frequency energy on earth.🙏
I keep saying he acts like the woman - the entitlements of women in relationship - . The saying of if the wife ain't happy ain't no one happy ? That applies to my husband
Omg yes ! Yes! I thought I was crazy . He really wants to be a woman..... I feel sometimes I'm in a lesbian relationship. I know it's crazy but true . He copies me so much . 100% jealous and I know he hates me . Not human to me . Reminds me of that movie "The Body Snatchers ".
Ladies please... If you can, get away from them. It only gets worse with time. Ironically, the longer you stay with them.. The more they feel validated in their insanity and the worse their abuse becomes.
I had the same the X did the same on a holiday, jumped behind me for the same shot. And when showing his parents the photos they said he should have been a photographer LOL..
@@caribbeanladyz7965 I fought to save my soul for more than a decade in a long drawn divorce case in a legal system that doesn't understand or recognise narcissistic abusers ... I got divorced and went no contact... It's been nearly 10 years ... I am still healing... So I can laugh 😃 I have earned my laughter.. I rebuild my life from a scratch, lost my friends, my career derailed ... But I still wake up some days feeling happy and relieved... I have new hobbies and I know no matter what life brings me...I will deal with it... I have people and family who love me... And my God protects me... I wish all who are abused by narcissistic monsters manage to find happiness and peace with the help of their God and family. And life will be nice again! Ps. Sorry for the long reply! May you be happy wherever you are.
Good way to look at it. My husband is definitely being use to attack I can see it but he can’t. And the worst part is I’m Christian and he’s Muslim 🤦🏻♀️. We argue about things that don’t make any sense just about everyday he’s so sensitive to everything it’s like I married my home girl. 🥹🤦🏻♀️🙏😵💫😭
Everything you say is so spot on!! Even the slightest things I find to be questionable about them, you have solid reasoning behind it. You are doing the Lord’s work and I appreciate you for it! 🙏🏽
I am gobsmacked and can echo most comments herein. Wow. Of all the veils to be ripped away shedding light on these creatures, this one is an epiphany! Thank you! It is sickening.
Ive been watching this man speak about this for years now and without him i would've never survived this far thinking something was wrong with me or in a mental home....i have 3 babies and married to one and he is EXACTLY like you're speaking...it has happened to me, he took EVERYTHING from me and I'm just scared on how to get out.....he acts like he is the mother and dad of of kids he even acts as if he has breasts with my baby i used to breastfeed...he breaks the bond i had with my babies by taking them before they're weaned... took my car....home... etc.....and makes me be silent all day without any communication or affection and will yell at me if i try to ask for attention if he didn't offer it, wont acknowledge me as his wife because i caught him cheating with a girl he met on markplace Facebook pretending he was interested in a pair of shoes for our kids just so he could pick up new supply. He says were only together when he wants...im just trying to figure out how to get myself back...
@@dominiqueb148 , You either have to give up on dreams of ever having a real relationship and normal happy family, or accept wasting your life and end up old with nothing but sadness & regrets. Years are gonna pass anyway so leave now.. make the sacrifices to have a better future for yourself and the kids. ❤️
The hardest thing to do is get out. It starts with your mindset, you can do it. Start thinking of ways to leave... Make a plan but don't tell him. It might take a while.. But don't give up. Also don't be ashamed to ask for help. You'll be surprised that people will show up to help you. Above all... Don't give up on yourself or your children. God bless you.
I’m so glad you’re talking about this topic! Nobody want to talk about this, I’ve dealt with this with my last 2 relationships..they were DL. It’s a real thing.
Thank you so much for doing this video. I have been saying for years how he mimic me in every way possible even when he talks to his colleagues at work, his tone the verbiage I can’t explain how validated I feel right now after years and years of him, being jealous of me, and I truly believe that he wants to be a woman and I’ll take that as a compliment right now because he wants to be me. I must be pretty darn good if he chose to mimic me all these years the worst part is being married because they don’t perform like a man ever like for years they will never ever do it and I hope you understand where I’m coming with that
He wanted to run the whole household and I refused to let that be.That caused me to doubt his manhood especially when I looked at some of his friends. Tanx so much for these videos Danish,they mean a lot to us
I am really shocked by my experience with this covert narc husband. After 20 years together, he came out of the closet telling me he cheated with transgenders in all our marriage. Then, he applied his gaslithing technique and said that I shouldn't feel inconsolable about that because that cheating wasn't with women. Also said: " I never lied to you, that was only an ommission." On his diary he wrote: " I know that people will always admire her instead of me". 😢😵😵💫🤮
He keeps a diary? So we can safely assume he has the emotional maturity of of a 5th grade girl. (narc men are so bizarre. personal experience talking here.)
This is so true and never heard anyone talk about it before! My ex boyfriend dresses up as a woman and started talking like me even, copying me. Said he's jealous and wishes he could be allowed to express his emotions etc like women can. He was so weird.
Everything I did he copied and insulted eveeything I tried He stole my clothes or tore them up He stole my personality Eveeything you say he did I feel you are speaking for me Thank you with all my heart I will try salvage what's left of myself ❤
Aha …that explains why he could knit, and darn socks! He told me he learned during his time in the Navy. He also often chose feminine details in his clothing for special events … like pastel coloured frilled front shirts with his tuxedos or evening suits. Other men thought it odd. I just thought he was eccentric, on top of being cruel, cold, and a pathological liar. After I left him I learned about sociopaths, and thought that he was one, but I now know he was a raging narcissist.
@@CairoManolo😂😂 I'm sorry I just had to laugh it's one of those things that is not funny but it's funny at the same time ....these narcissistic people will suck the life out you without an ounce of regret
@@caribbeanladyz7965 Ain't even the half of it I found trans p*rn on his laptop deleted it thinking the pawn shop just didn't clear it didn't say anything to him about it then I found it again Smfh
He regularly complains, quite bitterly, that gay men flirt with him. He insists that he is disgusted by it and says things like, "Why can't they leave me alone?" But he has this mincing walk that emphasizes his tight butt, which he is obviously tensing, and treats women as if he can't stand to be around them - including me. He even sometimes wears blue jeans with a big rip in the seat that allows a glimpse of his underwear.
Both jealous of us wanting to be us talk like us act like us everything about us they want to mimic and then they don’t have sex with us so I’ve always thought closet gay been married for years
This made me laugh, cuz it's true; so many behaviours point to this. Many are jealous of financial/ career success that ladies close to them have. Some of them would complain about 'masculine females', yet they are portraying feminist energy. Explains some of what I felt back then, that I cdnt oralise.
The exhusband turned into his mom. It was nuts. Then he went to court and lied and got custody of our child. And, now he won’t talk to me and won’t give our kid the things I give to our child.
Narcissists are demonic. If they can't control you. They'll steal your personal belongings, discard you, leave you for new supply, and ultimately take your kids. The coward will stress you to hell.
Same here. Except his mum liked me alot and was worried he wasn't taking proper care of me and the children. She told me this before she passed. Now he copies everything about me.
I made friends with the young woman living across the street. So he started going to her house and sitting on the front porch with her while still giving me the silent treatment. I am convinced that he did it to take away my new friend and talk to her about me so i would be afraid. Her attitude tiwards me changed. Once he had achieved his purpose, he stopped talking to her.
I see him being just like his mom & sis. I'm not sure he hates them because you can't even say anything about them without him taking it offensive. Hes always wished he was like me. I can feel it .
Your videos are all so interesting. They capture the subtle creepiness of narcissists in a way that no one else does. I used to wonder if my ex was secretly gay because he would sometimes act feminine but he was also disrespectful and dismissive of women as well.
👋Hi Danish. This is so true. They always want to be their Moms or wives, girlfriends, etc. This is a scary & cringey situation I'm never going to be in!!!!! I've realized from past experiences not to "go there" again. Thanks for another awesome & inspiring show. ✌️ Peace, love, Miss Janine🎄🎁👍✨️
I have a person in my life who has all the traits of narcissism and who does this - dresses like a woman, pretends to be a woman, takes on stereotypical female gestures. The trouble is this person also has lots of appealing character traits (& I don't mean just superficial charm that they use to attract others although they have that too) & I'm torn between wanting to run away from them when they do these narcissistic things & wanting to stay and hoping there is some way for a person to cure or at least lessen their narcissistic traits. I've heard some people say narcissism might be a spectrum so perhaps some people are just mildly that way.
You need to leave & stay away. There is no cure for narcs. They are in bondage spiritually & must repent if they want deliverance. Nothing they can do on their own. Especially if they don't see anything wrong with what they do
Erm, no. You can't change someone else. Change has to come from within. If they want to stay like that.. Then they will. I know because I wasted 20 years of my life trying to help heal a high level narc. It totally backfired on me.. Because the longer I dealt with them.. The worse the abuse got. They literally tried to ruin and end my life. Don't make this mistake. Save yourself.. You were not put on earth to endure a demon in human form.
My X and the mother in law from hell where married they had a bank account together. This was her control over him $$$$$$ it's sick . I'll never know how much was in it . He parasites off me 20 yrs. And stole a huge amount when l left.
This is just describing a standard narc behaviour called “Character Trait Acquisition”. They mirror all their targets in the beginning, but because they have so little sense of self, they take a bit of the personalities of all they get close to. It’s not that they necessarily want to be women 🙄 But they will take on some of your mannerisms, speech style, hell they’ll take your best stories & anecdotes and retell them as their own!! They are nothing more than empty vessels, and it’s why they almost date people who are better than them, punching above their weight, so as to suck them dry of their best qualities (and money & possessions) and “better themselves”.
No you're wrong they actually do want to be Women Been with too many narcissists to know not They do This is what they copy You can hear every sound in the world the woman because they see they want to be women sick😮
I have wondered if transitioning could, indeed, be the best cure. Only one of my ex's crossdressed, but it was so strange that he hid it from me, because I had transgender friends.
Yep.. I had a male narc get angry at me because 'all I had to do was dress nice.. Then I would get attention and free stuff'. He was furious with me... Because I am a woman. 😂
So incredibly true. Mine wore more feminine scents, my sandlewood oil and grew his hair out long. Painted his nails with a clear nail polish and made his nails sharp. I have a goth type esthetic so it made sense. Now thinking back it was odd. Eventually it was for a new supply, also co-workers, men, women and inbetween. While with me he joined a vampiric cult. Eventually he gave a lot of my tee shirts and dresses to the new supply as I was leaving. Ugh.. Everything Danish is saying is 💯 true.
This is completely true and my 🤡 narcopath ex was a gossip, nosey, jealous, envious, in competition with me ( I didn't know), thought he was humbling and tried to control me, and was such an @-- that I'm GRATEFUL that I slayed that demonic, leech meatsuit permanently. The Hoovers haven't worked either😂. Keep your NO contact NO communication my fellow beautiful/handsome empath warriors🔑🙏🏽💪🏽😎. Blessings ALL
I had to tell somebody let me be the Queen You want to be king and Queen. I don't know if he caught on to what i said to him. WOW ! And you just Consign what i noticed in him . Thanks
They can only MIMIC and can never be genuine.
This was such a shocking realization for me. He mirrored my personality from the very start and I thought we were the same. He pretended to have my values and to be as altruistic, spiritual, driven and selfreflecting as I am, but at the same time he diminished me and made me feel so worthless and undervalued. He wanted to be me and despised me at the same time. It took me 14 years to realize he was nothing like me and that he doesn't even have an identity. That's why he tried to steal mine. The most crazy-making experience of my life.
Gratitude and blessings from Sweden! 🙏
@@SannaNovaEmilia , The former young n dumb me had actually said to myself "he's like a piece of paper, there's nothing to him". Then I stupidly went ahead and married him at age 19 because didn't want to hurt his feelings. Took decades before realizing what I was actually dealing with..only stress, unhappiness & regrets almost 45 chaotic and miserable years later.
Same ❤
Yes I believe thats correct.
They actually do that kind of stuff.
I have so much disgust for people like this. Because they’re Fake.
Yeah, makes me very authentic automatically. In some way…
But before that said, yes… very authentic.
But i def have some struggles lately. Which sometimes thought of as narcicism but its quite a bit different.
I have in my weakest moments of retardation sometimes thought that maybe I was a narc.
Only because i have been misbehaving to certain people who destroyed my thrust and feeling very guilty and sad about this, and that they did.
So that had me little bit insecure for some times. I am very very confident - really, know my challenges and you are likely to have Respect- anyway not important 😅
I was normally very very sweet type of Person. Without being anything of a Pussy. Got both qualities strong.
But I knew a guy who act this way and did so much verbally Punish him.
To help him correct himself. He had lot of Respect for me and really seemed to improve.
He even been crying like a baby for a few times
My energy very good
Plus i got support.
So things got out, but in process i got very much affected because i wass very aware energy very big and sensitive
I became more like him and he so blessed to become more real like me
This was SUCH A BURDEN it feels like im STILL recovering from this!
@gsnail8189 I have the exact same experience of feeling as we became each other. He became more like me and I became more like him. I couldn't recognize myself at all in the end so I told him that "This is not me. When I interact with you I become a person I don't like so I will have to leave you to save myself." Counterwise he told me (in an attempt to hoover me back) that I made him a better man and I know I did in some sense but it was all fake.
They have the worst drama queen traits: gossiping, jealousy, insecurity, accusing, nagging, won’t take “no,” two-faced, using you for money, false promises, acting coy and innocent, flirting, collapsing, raging, picking fights over nothing, pouting, ruining your events for attention and fishing for compliments. Never want to be with the guys, just girls. I told him he’d make a great Playboy bunny. Always “posing,” showing up at girls night, (in a suit), buying them all dinner. Me? not so much.
Wow, so true
@babylonisfallen5142 YES! You are 100% Accurate. They are confused sexually & have been given over to a rebrobate mind which is basically everything you described & more. Nothing they do is Genuine or make sense.
You nailed my narcissistic/bpd ex perfectly! Thank God I had enough strength left after two years to get a PFA Order and a Divorce!🙏
I know someone just like that right there!!!!!
You described my dad
OMG.... u r exposing every bit of their personality so correctly
Yep
Yes!
After years of living with a Narc. , everythings about him completely disgusted me .
I’m starting to feel discussed with my husband as well I’m starting to see thing I didn’t notice at first,I don’t even like he touching me anymore
I do think you are so right about this.....A Narc man flat out refuses to respect that men and women are different. They can't deal with that at all. The one I divorced behaved more like a woman than a man.
@jacquelinefroehle5868 You Dodged a Bullet!
This is so true; I would tell people, and they would look at me like I was off my rocker. It is so nice to hear someone who can understand this phenomenon. Thank you, it means a lot not to be alone.
They are so good at portraying their false persona that it makes the victim look like they are crazy. My ex could be quite charming and that's all that some people see. Just remember that you know the truth about them. They are miserable people.
This is all scarily accurate
Riight
Yes it is
Yep
Gang gang I guess
Over the DECADES i've actually told my narc husband - admittedly during his never ending childish corkscrew argument meltdowns - that he's jealous because I'm a DNA certified female but he isn't and can never be one. I do think there's also a layer in there where narc males try forcing their wives/partners to be their mothers, while also treating us like we're their sisters instead of wives/partners with intimate/marital relationship & co-parenting partner expectations.
Or they want you to act like their mother while they treat you like a daughter instead of partner.
He has always treated me like I am his mother. He copies everything about me. He even says the exact same remark I made directly after I say it. I'll say, "I just said that." He will reply, "I said that." He acts as if I never said it. He wants my shoes and jewelry. I treat him like one of my kids and he doesn't get it.
Prof Sam Vaknin has a big list of these videos .
My X yes it was a baby sitting service.. all of his life.
He has kept all of my belonging ???
It's very strange coming up 4 yrs there all OS
Yup! I have been made into a mom for him. We have no children. He has children with the first 2 wives. I never wanted kids or to be anyone's mom! We have no intimacy for 3 years of a 10 year marriage . He lies, steals, cheats on me. Acts like a child. I hate him. Desperately looking for my exit.😢
Just do it like Nike.... what you waiting on? You deserve better, turn the page
Mine too! I thought he was so much like me! And although he was a very tall, well built, handsome and masculine man, he was surprisingly feminine.
My ex knew how to twerk his buttcheek! I knew something wasn't right LMAO
He was more than likely on the dl
@@habbaticchio2468 , Narcs always have a sneaky secret life.
Mine spoke with a high and female voice. It was disgusting
I wonder about Harry Styles .. 🤔
He has called himself a narcissist a few times jokingly, and he goes through phases of wearing very feminine clothing.
Right now he us dressing like a very conservative male exec.
Wonder why he changes his hair and clothing style so often.
Thank you Danish for posting such controversial truth that many therapists are afraid to touch upon. You have a talent. And that talent is the ability to see beyond the text book informations. You combined your intuition, spirituality, and technical knowledge like no one else. Congratulations for nearly reaching half a million subscribers and helping all those in narcissistic environment to get out. I have a feeling you will become a legend in your field eventually.
This was nothing more than an overblown way of describing the standard narc practice of “Character Trait Aquisition”. HG Tudor has a lot of in depth information about this.
This guy is good, I listen to everyone on the subject and this is the first time this is mentioned.
Sam Vaknin is also great..
This is so accurate! He mocked me when I told him I wanted to be creative and start a TH-cam channel. Now he has his own TH-cam channel. Then he mocked me for uploading on rumble too and guess who is uploading on rumble too??
These people are exactly like this.
Almost the same, he HAD a studio and knew how much I wanted to become an ASMRist and caster. He got all the equipment and put it in a corner. He caught me checking out the equipment and admiring it one night and hollered at me asking what I was doing.
@@santanawilliams6542 oh man! Do I know that feeling. I hope you do get to have your asmr channel and I hope you succeed! I love asmr, it’s so relaxing!
Stop telling him stuff. Silence is the best.
You are an expert Darnish in this field. You know these people very well. I am blown away. I know everything you say is true, cause everything you say alligns with my narcistic abusers behaviour. You deserve an award. You are a real blessing to us. Keep up the good work.
This is so true. My narcissist ex bf, who browbeat my entire 250k inhertiance out of me in under 10 montsh, on paper looks like a red blooded and masculine man. But he wants to be a woman inside and also likes men secretly. He spend over 10k on skin and hair treatments on himself wiht my inheritance. I used to be a pretty lady who would get compliments on the street. From men and women, young and old. It would drive him nuts. He would even tell me i had wrinkles at 24 an dhe was so much better looking! So years of this and im beaten and broken down and no longer fele feminine inside or out. Meanwhile people tell him how he looks 20 years younger than his age. Tells him he is a young Elvis Presely but with muscle. Your videos help but it is so hard to deal with when he is here all the time! Makes xxx,xxx in his job from home. Lawyering is actual not a hard a job if you;re a trademark attorney!
Take accountability for your desperation and do better next time. 250k is your fault definitely, but you'll be alright though
It sounds like you are both narcissistic. You envy eachother and are in constant competition with eachother over who gets most validation. Im sure you are both the same.
The only ones who know the truth about their personalities are the people who are closest to them. They put on an act to everyone else. Many of them are quite good at portraying this false persona. What matters is that we know the truth and don't allow them to abuse us.
My family sees me as small and nice and would never do anything, am I a raging narcissist? Check out the covert narcissistic short for more!
Self hate makes people do some messed up things
This angers me, I am not your blueprint. This is the reason why I left.
Thank you for confirmation.
💖Absolutely correct. I had a friend like that. Fortunately I "can see", so I left him. I wanted to help him, but it was impossible. These people do not want help. They are representatives of low-frequency energy on earth.🙏
YES! Hit the nail on the head AGAIN! I agree 100%!
I keep saying he acts like the woman - the entitlements of women in relationship - . The saying of if the wife ain't happy ain't no one happy ? That applies to my husband
Omg yes ! Yes! I thought I was crazy . He really wants to be a woman..... I feel sometimes I'm in a lesbian relationship. I know it's crazy but true . He copies me so much . 100% jealous and I know he hates me . Not human to me . Reminds me of that movie "The Body Snatchers ".
That is exactly how I feel with this covert narc husband. It's like to be married in a lesbian relationship and an hysterical one! OMG! 😮😢
Yep that is my baby daddy he feels like he can be a better women than me. I can feel it in the way he looks at me. He painted my nails one time to
Ladies please... If you can, get away from them. It only gets worse with time. Ironically, the longer you stay with them.. The more they feel validated in their insanity and the worse their abuse becomes.
So true...
Personality theft...
I liked photography,
He made photography his new hobby and started going everywhere with a camera 😂
I had the same the X did the same on a holiday, jumped behind me for the same shot.
And when showing his parents the photos they said he should have been a photographer LOL..
😂
I'm so glad that you can laugh about it 😂
@@caribbeanladyz7965 I fought to save my soul for more than a decade in a long drawn divorce case in a legal system that doesn't understand or recognise narcissistic abusers ... I got divorced and went no contact...
It's been nearly 10 years ...
I am still healing...
So I can laugh 😃
I have earned my laughter..
I rebuild my life from a scratch, lost my friends, my career derailed ...
But I still wake up some days feeling happy and relieved...
I have new hobbies and I know no matter what life brings me...I will deal with it...
I have people and family who love me...
And my God protects me...
I wish all who are abused by narcissistic monsters manage to find happiness and peace with the help of their God and family.
And life will be nice again!
Ps. Sorry for the long reply!
May you be happy wherever you are.
Satan presents himself as an angel of light and mimicks God. So does the narc who is led by Satan.
Good way to look at it. My husband is definitely being use to attack I can see it but he can’t. And the worst part is I’m Christian and he’s Muslim 🤦🏻♀️. We argue about things that don’t make any sense just about everyday he’s so sensitive to everything it’s like I married my home girl. 🥹🤦🏻♀️🙏😵💫😭
He took on the mannerisms, laughs, the tone of speaking and hobbies of many people he came in contact with. Truly creepy!
Light bulb!!! Thank you. Brilliant
There was no one whom I could tell, and now I listened about it. It is surreal, and true. Thank you.
OMG! Yes! How couldn’t I see it!
Everything you say is so spot on!! Even the slightest things I find to be questionable about them, you have solid reasoning behind it. You are doing the Lord’s work and I appreciate you for it! 🙏🏽
Truth! They're like that science fiction character monster that can turn itself into other people so they don't know they're going to eat them.
I am gobsmacked and can echo most comments herein. Wow. Of all the veils to be ripped away shedding light on these creatures, this one is an epiphany! Thank you! It is sickening.
He was jealous of me as a SAHM and wanted me to be the provider and him the SAHM. It makes more sense now.
Ive been watching this man speak about this for years now and without him i would've never survived this far thinking something was wrong with me or in a mental home....i have 3 babies and married to one and he is EXACTLY like you're speaking...it has happened to me, he took EVERYTHING from me and I'm just scared on how to get out.....he acts like he is the mother and dad of of kids he even acts as if he has breasts with my baby i used to breastfeed...he breaks the bond i had with my babies by taking them before they're weaned... took my car....home... etc.....and makes me be silent all day without any communication or affection and will yell at me if i try to ask for attention if he didn't offer it, wont acknowledge me as his wife because i caught him cheating with a girl he met on markplace Facebook pretending he was interested in a pair of shoes for our kids just so he could pick up new supply. He says were only together when he wants...im just trying to figure out how to get myself back...
@@dominiqueb148 , You either have to give up on dreams of ever having a real relationship and normal happy family, or accept wasting your life and end up old with nothing but sadness & regrets. Years are gonna pass anyway so leave now.. make the sacrifices to have a better future for yourself and the kids. ❤️
You Need to leave this person & not be around other toxic people too. Unless you want to be miserable.
The hardest thing to do is get out. It starts with your mindset, you can do it. Start thinking of ways to leave... Make a plan but don't tell him. It might take a while.. But don't give up. Also don't be ashamed to ask for help. You'll be surprised that people will show up to help you. Above all... Don't give up on yourself or your children. God bless you.
Jealous bitter greedy and selfish
100% !!!!!
I’m so glad you’re talking about this topic! Nobody want to talk about this, I’ve dealt with this with my last 2 relationships..they were DL. It’s a real thing.
Thank you so much for doing this video. I have been saying for years how he mimic me in every way possible even when he talks to his colleagues at work, his tone the verbiage I can’t explain how validated I feel right now after years and years of him, being jealous of me, and I truly believe that he wants to be a woman and I’ll take that as a compliment right now because he wants to be me. I must be pretty darn good if he chose to mimic me all these years the worst part is being married because they don’t perform like a man ever like for years they will never ever do it and I hope you understand where I’m coming with that
He wanted to run the whole household and I refused to let that be.That caused me to doubt his manhood especially when I looked at some of his friends.
Tanx so much for these videos Danish,they mean a lot to us
I am really shocked by my experience with this covert narc husband. After 20 years together, he came out of the closet telling me he cheated with transgenders in all our marriage. Then, he applied his gaslithing technique and said that I shouldn't feel inconsolable about that because that cheating wasn't with women. Also said: " I never lied to you, that was only an ommission."
On his diary he wrote: " I know that people will always admire her instead of me". 😢😵😵💫🤮
Wow he gay😢😮😮
He keeps a diary? So we can safely assume he has the emotional maturity of of a 5th grade girl. (narc men are so bizarre. personal experience talking here.)
This is so true and never heard anyone talk about it before! My ex boyfriend dresses up as a woman and started talking like me even, copying me. Said he's jealous and wishes he could be allowed to express his emotions etc like women can. He was so weird.
He's probably lgbt+ as well.
On point and explains so much of what I’m currently witnessing
Everything I did he copied and insulted eveeything I tried He stole my clothes or tore them up He stole my personality Eveeything you say he did I feel you are speaking for me Thank you with all my heart I will try salvage what's left of myself ❤
Aha …that explains why he could knit, and darn socks! He told me he learned during his time in the Navy.
He also often chose feminine details in his clothing for special events … like pastel coloured frilled front shirts with his tuxedos or evening suits. Other men thought it odd. I just thought he was eccentric, on top of being cruel, cold, and a pathological liar.
After I left him I learned about sociopaths, and thought that he was one, but I now know he was a raging narcissist.
Mine was always a woman character in video games
@@CairoManolo😂😂 I'm sorry I just had to laugh it's one of those things that is not funny but it's funny at the same time ....these narcissistic people will suck the life out you without an ounce of regret
@@caribbeanladyz7965
Ain't even the half of it I found trans p*rn on his laptop deleted it thinking the pawn shop just didn't clear it didn't say anything to him about it then I found it again
Smfh
Or secretly gay
100%
Yesssss found out gay😢
He regularly complains, quite bitterly, that gay men flirt with him. He insists that he is disgusted by it and says things like, "Why can't they leave me alone?" But he has this mincing walk that emphasizes his tight butt, which he is obviously tensing, and treats women as if he can't stand to be around them - including me. He even sometimes wears blue jeans with a big rip in the seat that allows a glimpse of his underwear.
Both jealous of us wanting to be us talk like us act like us everything about us they want to mimic and then they don’t have sex with us so I’ve always thought closet gay been married for years
This made me laugh, cuz it's true; so many behaviours point to this.
Many are jealous of financial/ career success that ladies close to them have.
Some of them would complain about 'masculine females', yet they are portraying feminist energy.
Explains some of what I felt back then, that I cdnt oralise.
The exhusband turned into his mom. It was nuts. Then he went to court and lied and got custody of our child. And, now he won’t talk to me and won’t give our kid the things I give to our child.
So sorry about this evil. 🙏 God sees all. Never give up.
Narcissists are demonic. If they can't control you. They'll steal your personal belongings, discard you, leave you for new supply, and ultimately take your kids. The coward will stress you to hell.
That is a trend in some men lately.
Same here. Except his mum liked me alot and was worried he wasn't taking proper care of me and the children. She told me this before she passed. Now he copies everything about me.
Countless videos out there to type out just a negative toxic person. If someone is being toxic, leave them, period.
I made friends with the young woman living across the street. So he started going to her house and sitting on the front porch with her while still giving me the silent treatment. I am convinced that he did it to take away my new friend and talk to her about me so i would be afraid. Her attitude tiwards me changed. Once he had achieved his purpose, he stopped talking to her.
I see him being just like his mom & sis. I'm not sure he hates them because you can't even say anything about them without him taking it offensive. Hes always wished he was like me. I can feel it .
ThankYou 4Sharing Danish!!! ❤ 🕊 ⚜♦️🕯 MuchLove
It's happening right now, laying on the bed like I lay. Smh . Keep speaking the truth. I have to laugh b4 I cry..
Your videos are all so interesting. They capture the subtle creepiness of narcissists in a way that no one else does. I used to wonder if my ex was secretly gay because he would sometimes act feminine but he was also disrespectful and dismissive of women as well.
Concur. I also experienced this and found this to be painfully true.
In spiritual terms, destiny swapping.
This part 🎯
👋Hi Danish. This is so true. They always want to be their Moms or wives, girlfriends, etc. This is a scary & cringey situation I'm never going to be in!!!!! I've realized from past experiences not to "go there" again. Thanks for another awesome & inspiring show. ✌️ Peace, love, Miss Janine🎄🎁👍✨️
This was very insightful
I have a person in my life who has all the traits of narcissism and who does this - dresses like a woman, pretends to be a woman, takes on stereotypical female gestures. The trouble is this person also has lots of appealing character traits (& I don't mean just superficial charm that they use to attract others although they have that too) & I'm torn between wanting to run away from them when they do these narcissistic things & wanting to stay and hoping there is some way for a person to cure or at least lessen their narcissistic traits. I've heard some people say narcissism might be a spectrum so perhaps some people are just mildly that way.
You need to leave & stay away. There is no cure for narcs. They are in bondage spiritually & must repent if they want deliverance. Nothing they can do on their own. Especially if they don't see anything wrong with what they do
Erm, no. You can't change someone else. Change has to come from within. If they want to stay like that.. Then they will. I know because I wasted 20 years of my life trying to help heal a high level narc. It totally backfired on me.. Because the longer I dealt with them.. The worse the abuse got. They literally tried to ruin and end my life. Don't make this mistake. Save yourself.. You were not put on earth to endure a demon in human form.
OMG. He definitely does this. I went back to get my masters and he put University of Houston on his profile. He has never been to college. 😂
Danish you are the number one
lol the picture in the thumbnail 🤣👌❤️🔥✨
Brilliant. I honestly think this is your best video ever. (and you’ve done some great videos)
to be Mommy Dearest 0:53
My X and the mother in law from hell where married they had a bank account together. This was her control over him $$$$$$ it's sick . I'll never know how much was in it .
He parasites off me 20 yrs. And stole a huge amount when l left.
Yes very true 💯
This is just describing a standard narc behaviour called “Character Trait Acquisition”. They mirror all their targets in the beginning, but because they have so little sense of self, they take a bit of the personalities of all they get close to. It’s not that they necessarily want to be women 🙄 But they will take on some of your mannerisms, speech style, hell they’ll take your best stories & anecdotes and retell them as their own!! They are nothing more than empty vessels, and it’s why they almost date people who are better than them, punching above their weight, so as to suck them dry of their best qualities (and money & possessions) and “better themselves”.
No you're wrong they actually do want to be Women Been with too many narcissists to know not They do This is what they copy You can hear every sound in the world the woman because they see they want to be women sick😮
This is some silence of the lambs revelation. Everything makes sense now. He covets.
I have wondered if transitioning could, indeed, be the best cure.
Only one of my ex's crossdressed, but it was so strange that he hid it from me, because I had transgender friends.
Thanks, Danish.
Excellent!
I knew I wasn’t crazy!! Woooow
I appreciate you speaking on this. I have tried to explain this, and people seemed to not understand. I knew it wasn't just "in my head" Thank you ❤
It's true I felt yh same way but yes they want to be women
My last narc said he can be jealous of women, because men will buy women drinks, hold the door open for them, etc.
Yep.. I had a male narc get angry at me because 'all I had to do was dress nice.. Then I would get attention and free stuff'. He was furious with me... Because I am a woman. 😂
So incredibly true. Mine wore more feminine scents, my sandlewood oil and grew his hair out long. Painted his nails with a clear nail polish and made his nails sharp. I have a goth type esthetic so it made sense. Now thinking back it was odd. Eventually it was for a new supply, also co-workers, men, women and inbetween. While with me he joined a vampiric cult. Eventually he gave a lot of my tee shirts and dresses to the new supply as I was leaving. Ugh.. Everything Danish is saying is 💯 true.
This answers so many of my questions and now I understand the behavior of always copying me in everything.
U are absolutely right
I totally believe this is a component - sometimes.
Mine did
Absolutely brilliant! Thank you for this revelation.
Yes and horrible to think how narcissists as a parents copy their kids to become better narcissists😢
God bless you.sir.
The truth in your videos often makes me giggle 😂 thank you for all you do and getting this important information out there
This was a huge shocking revelation
Well said 👏 👌 👍
Norman Bates
This is completely true and my 🤡 narcopath ex was a gossip, nosey, jealous, envious, in competition with me ( I didn't know), thought he was humbling and tried to control me, and was such an @-- that I'm GRATEFUL that I slayed that demonic, leech meatsuit permanently. The Hoovers haven't worked either😂. Keep your NO contact NO communication my fellow beautiful/handsome empath warriors🔑🙏🏽💪🏽😎. Blessings ALL
This is true! The narcissist male I dealt with talk so badly about women but acted just like a woman!! He had no male characteristics
There is nothing wrong in learning something or adapting some habits from others..but yes some of the things you said made sense
This is facts!!!
Absolutely true talk 👍💯
My ex is like that.
Yes right
An envious narcissistic man is very dengerous.
Wow ,your of narcissistic and human behaviour is outstanding.
Yes yes yes.
Exactly my father...😢
OMG I believe it LOL boy them NARCS don't bargain😢❤❤
I've subscribed tysm! You speak so much truth! Pls do more if not a live session! GOD Bless all you do and those you reach Amen ✝️💞🕊️🙌🏼🦁🔥💐💐💐🕊️🐑🎶
I had to tell somebody let me be the Queen You want to be king and Queen. I don't know if he caught on to what i said to him. WOW ! And you just Consign what i noticed in him . Thanks
👍So true
This is exactly true for my mil coz she is in her masculine energy
True they have a feminine energy of reception i noticed it
He would pick up women’s words behavior s music, it’s how I knew he was cheating
Wait this is a bit scary. Wow.
Yes you right 👍
Because I had deal this type person
I believe this