What I Wish Someone Told Me About Having Sex
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"Your body is a temple. So don't let a man in who doesn't take the proper time to worship you because you are goddess worth sacrificing for." So many young men AND women need to learn this lesson.
+Anneliese Targaryen I got goosebumps and tears filled my eyes when Daysha said that.
Same thing for me Atykifobia I know so many men and women who end up hurt because they're not careful. I'm by no means a wait til marriage girl but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take caution haha
i know my favorite line
+Anneliese Targaryen and for the other perspective, it goes for men as well. Their bodies are temples and they need to respect themselves as well.. all these people moving quickly from one relationship to another with no respect of commitment whatsoever is honesty disgusting. Too much stupid pain is going on with all of it.
✌
Damn Daysha, you need to write lyrics for Drake.
+Lily8909 LMAOOOOOOOO
Smh
yesssss !!! 😂👏
With drake mabye?
😂😂😂
3 years later and I’m still watching this to keep me sane about my worth
Same here
Same
Same
Same
Same
"My sister always told me that my body is a temple, so never let a man in that doesn't take the time to worship you, because you are a Goddess that is truly worth sacrifising for."
This line tho.
Le-Mieke Potgiete I think each and every girl today should think over this..
"Your body is a temple, and you should never be willing to let a man in who's not willing to worship you."
+Snowpatch I hate this. This is the type of thing a fake feminist who in reality thinks all men should die would say. No one is a temple. We are people. Everyone needs to be treated the same. I'm not worshiping anyone
+Jordan Wells I don't think they meant it in a literal sense, more that if someone can't be arsed to respect you then they are not worth your time
+Jordan Wells it was figurative bud... 🙃
+Jordan Wells it's figurative language a form a writing ,not that she is a temple to be worshiped ,it has a deeper meaning.
All of this should be addressed to women too. Because women can use and then dump men just as you say men do!! Don't show it as men are always the "bad ones", and women are victims.
damn daysha who hurt you 😔😔😔
Buzzfeed
yeah she's always doing the sad ones.
she's the female drake
+Jok3rstein lol XD
+Scarlet Rose and she is good at it
How do you even cope with someone committing the most intimate human act with you and then just ignoring you...
Matthew Burton you just carry on, no matter how much its destroying you
Matthew Burton Right.....I can't even imagine!!!!!
This is why am single. I can't take these emotional roller coasters. Being in a relationship is too much for my mental health.
The metaphor of your emotions to unplanned pregnancy was absolutely stunning
I THOUGHT NO ONE WOULD SAY IT !!!! thank you!!!!!
"Your body is a temple so never let a man in that doesn't take the proper time to worship you because you are a goddess that is truly worth sacrificing for"
+Erykah Patton are mens bodies temples too or no?
so men are just people that want to use you, is that what you're trying to generalize us as? orrr...
my shits 10 feet minim
+Erykah Patton .....but I wasn't talking about the poem I was responding to someone
+Code Jaruis thats stereotypical
That was beautiful. She's beautiful and talented and strong. No one ever talks about when you're manipulated into being "the other woman". I'm so glad she did.
Three years ago when I watched this never having a boyfriend I felt for her, this time I was her.
This is beautiful YES GIRL YOU SPEAK
omg yes. WHY CAN'T GUYS JUST UNDER STAND THAT WE ARE BUTIFUL AND WANT TO BE RESPECTED AND LOVED.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
+Chloe Gagne and men don't?
Yeah true, I just think they don't under stand the same situation yanow?
she didn't didn't she just say she didn't want to be that girl? Atleast thats how I heard it
I am 22
If there was ever a video that deserves 100% respect and 0 dislikes, this would be it.
+BrandyBoy Well said :b
+BrandyBoy Seriously, HOW can someone dislike this? smh
+BrandyBoy Just letting you know, I'm subscribed to you and love your videos
I disliked it
+alex hithersay f u
Whenever I'm this close to foolishly losing my virginity with a guy, I watch this video and I feel better
me to
don't loose it to just anyone, it's not worth it believe me. i wished i saved myne for a special moment and person
Angel Blanding Just looked at your page and you look to be 7-12. You probably don’t even understand what the word virginity is.
This made me mad at the boyfriend I don't have
DoReMi same......the boyfriend I️ probably won’t ever have either.
You don’t want a boyfriend like this anyway
DoReMi same
😂😂😂😂 me too
I can't wait for the version of this video from a man's point of view...
why always this man-woman thing? she's just a person? she wrote this? so it's focused on her?
Too bad it's never gonna happen
SHE wrote this. It's from HER point of view personally. This video wasn't made because she's a woman, it was made because she's an incredible writer.
This can be from any perspective. Guy, girl, gay, lesbian. They just chose to visually tell it from a straight female
man smh, its kool.
I literally was 5 minutes away from this. I was 13 then, I thankfully years later lost my Virginity to someone who truly loves me.
I remember when I first watched this and I broke down crying. I come back here and now just to hear it because it reminds me how much I’ve grown
Same girl
You've done a good job
so many people need to hear this before losing their virginity. this is so important
I'm only thirteen but I already know people who have lost there virginity and I haven't even ever thought about that, and when I saw this video it just made me completely positive I don't want to lose it to just anyone. so yes. this was important because as I wasn't thinking about it, it just made me more positive that I should really wait.
i lost it and was so in love and then he droped off my life
on the other hand, virginity isn't the be all and end all. marking it as very important can repress women. virginity is a made up condition. but it should be with someone who treats you well and who you like.
Too late for me 😔
Whenever I'm home alone I fill my bath tub with BBQ sauce and pretend I'm a chicken wing.
lmaooo!
my uncle takes me to his secret lair and tickles my hiney hole
+watdaNOSTRIL thats nothing, my uncles gonna take me into van tomorrow to share some candy!
Same
I like how your name is Botanist but your picture is a bird.
5 years later and the poem still rings in my head
Heads up girl!!! I love this since I was 15 now I'm 20❤️
I found this about 8 years ago after having my heart broken and watched it on repeat for months. I’m now happily married but this still brings up so many things. A sadness that was never acknowledged, an apology never received, and now such gratitude and adoration for my amazing husband. Beautiful poem by an incredible poet
Karma always come back to those who are A holes.
And the ones who put it in the A hole...
+Antivorg😂
+Antivorg XD
+Antivorg Bruh
A nice thought, but sadly not true :(
I waited until marriage. I know that's not for everyone, but there is no denying that it does save you a lot of mental anguish in your youth.
diversity =/= good. quantity =/= quality
I'm wating for the right guy
I waited till marriage too
"I am a person." That in itself was so powerful and applies to everyone in every interaction we have as we play our silly little societal roles.
Nobody believes when someone says rejection is one of the worst pains you can feel....until they experience it. It's a combination of feeling used, betrayel, low self esteem, confusion and the list goes on. It can also happen to anyone.
absolutely. it digs so much deeper than just 'the other person said no to me'. it claws at your insecurities and often leaves you questioning and confused.
amen
pretty much. then some of us resort to stupid short term cures like alcohol, drugs etc. to temporarily get rid of the pain that still lingers on.
I'm a Virgin.
+Iceburgg Slimm ok
same
Lol same
Same
same
I've never found a video that's ever really talked about this. MAN, this is so important and delivered beautifully!
"Guard your heart", the bible says. Best message ever.
Daysha can express her feelings in such a beautiful way, her voice is so powerful. Love her so much.
_gwynbleidd What's her name?
I literally wrote that, it's Daysha, idk about her last name
This short occasionally pops up in my mind, and I always come back because I just need it.
Me too
Me three
I'm 19, my ex boyfriend told we can wait but always kept pressuring me, the relationship ended when I asked him if he really loved me. I'm thankful I never did let him in. It's a lesson I learnt, and I will keep my virginity it's a gift so special to me.
May God protect you hun.....I was doing the same thing til I was sexual abuse by a family member and all crushed.
Just pray for a good heart that will love u cuz virginity doesn't prove anything
@@ad-ye7ob True words indeed.....lost mine in a hard way but God blessed me with a caring that loves me the way i am. Good heart yes you right
@@mdzimbabwe734 God truly blessed you and thank you for the kind words
@@ad-ye7ob yeah that's true honestly, I'm just not ready to be intimate with anyone its scary concept to me, and I guess whoever can't respect that isn't worth it
Men who disrespect women absolutely disgust me... As a dude
same
💗
from a girl, that's a really desirable trait that not guys need, thanks for being awesome x
What about the women who disrespect men?
Same thing
"But my mama says patience is a virtue, and you said baby id never wanna hurt you... but you did" Still gets me 4 years later f*ck
This hit home for me. This guy had been leading me on for quite sometime acting like he liked me but really just wanted to get in my pants. I grew so attached to him. he now has a gf and still.... tries to get with me and is ok with cheating on her. I look back at all the time I waisted on him and I feel like an idiot. Thanks to him my self confidence was shot and I now have trust issues... And he is totally unaware of how much he has impacted my life. My advice... Think How your actions effect other people.
+Julie Diana I sympathize with you as a guy. I think about people who are affected by such people. I do hope it is real so I know that I am not just sympathizing with a fake story, though I also wished it was fake
medrict No it is fully true sadly. I just try to learn lessons from it and be the better person in that situation.
Hope you find a great man, all the best in your future endeavors
medrict thank you!
I can relate myself to you 😢
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ForMiDaBLe lol same
ForMiDaBLe lol same though
ForMiDaBLe am too
ForMiDaBLe same
ForMiDaBLe yep
“You left me with mental babies called memories.”
19 and haven't even kissed😭. I wish I had dated less books.
its awesome to be alone....
enjoy your loneliness cause you are gunna miss it
Gryffindor Always naw,girl. Date those books. Perfect and perfectly flawed guys only exist in books.
Grubbs Grady Noooo!! I'm 21 I wish I never kissed! For real, you're not missing out on anything!! You still have time to date your books. The boys are still there, they can wait!! And when you find the right one you guys will have plenty of time to do all this stuff
That's ok because now days people are giving them self's away and it's ok if you haven't because you should save yourself for someone YOU KNOW loves you!
daysha is incredibly beautiful, I would love to get to know her
+gazathug83 I was JUST thinking the same thing! I've always kinda liked her, but this REALLY made me say, "WOW!"
Agree
+gazathug53 The Cult of Peake knows no bounds
ikr? she's so pretty!
This video is so deep and so true. Your body is your temple !
+Jasmine Simone oh god 😂
U go gurl
Yes, it is. The part that's left out is God. The body is the temple of God. Not the temple onto ourselves.
TheMAMAB123 god doesnt exist
+TheMAMAB123 Not everyone believes in God.
This is so accurate and I feel like everyone has had a similiar experience. The person who is doing it doesn't think it's that big of a deal...but using someone as a filler because you want company or comfort is wrong and cruel. I have done it and then it happened to me and I vowed never again. Don't lead people on, be clear about your intentions because someone will get the wrong idea if you don't. Feeling used and thrown away is awful and ignoring someone after you were intimate is something no one should do. Props to this woman for talking about something that a lot of people think is trivial.
Every single girl in the world needs to watch this... So glad I saw it... Speechless!
I will never understand how someone can say they care so much about you and even show it!! Then leave like you're nothing
those are called Fuckboys and bitches
+Brink Mila Idk why, but this had me rooooolliiiiiing lmao 😂😂😂😂😂
+Brink Mila or maybe you're just stupid
+Andrea “Drea” Long I'm a guy actually 😂
+elliot wallace And no haha
6 years later & I still know word for word 🤞🏾
This video helped me survive a very difficult time in my life. I remember repeating myself over and over : "I am a person. I have feelings and emotions that have the right to be protected"
Just because I kept forgetting that and putting his necessities over mine...
Thank god Im at a better place now.
Ana Laura Almonte same
Couldn’t forget the line “patience is a virtue, baby I would never hurt you, but you did”. I wish they still made videos like this. Couldn’t even find it by googling the words
I was like that. Almost a year of unknown state of relationship which in the end broke me. Then a year of forgetting, drowning in alcohol I have never liked and drunk, suffocating in smoke of cigarettes, running away from problems.
And still I've got no answer on questions I had. But he never cared that's for sure.
Emotion Duck I had the exact same situation
When you hear that music you know Buzzfeed's getting serious.😥
DONT EVER TAKE THIS OFF !!! SO GOOOD !! Who else has this memorized??
I’ve had it memorized since when it first came out.
Taylor - same
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Oh yes! Inside and out I know this monologue.
This video should be shown in every school...most definitely the high schools?
Every girl out there should listen to this
Esther Luduba and do what, be celibate? Lol, it's the concrete jungle
I have been that guy and now that Im older I can apologize for those actions. I did a lot of things, selfish things for what I felt were the right reasons and never took in account the other person. I have cheated on women I really like so that I could be seen as the gentleman in their eyes while I was using women for my selfish needs and that was wrong. So my advice to young women is if you really like a guy take your time and really really get to know him. He can only put on the image for so long. We all choose who we want but women you set the pace for how fast the relationship goes. The more you like a guy the more time you should take to get to know him. Many guys will leave but sooner or later the one who is suppose to stay will stay. Just have patience
Rayman Johan facts on top of facts
I love how you have owned up to what you did and knew that what you did was wrong. Most men dont like to own up to their mistakes and push them away. You are a good person for opening up about that I hope now you have found that special someone ❤
Took me three years to get over the hurt I felt every day the shame I carried with me for trusting a boy. But now I see him and I just feel angry at myself for losing my way due to a sweet smile my way.
This is dope. I'm a guy and I feel it. My heart goes out to you females. Namaste
Now this... This isn't favourite buzz feed video. So much true emotion and passion, it gives me chills
You do you, girl!
+Aleksandra Jovanovic have you ever asked yourself why they don't have these types of videos for men
+Rashard Randall it shouldn't be about who gets what and why doesn't this group get this video
It's about a person expressing their feelings and emotions on behalf of all people who have suffered harsh heart ache
I believe this video is genderless, it's just the way you view it.. It can be for the perspective of a male or any female because all people experience abandonment. Just because the narrator is a female, doesn't mean the video is just for all women who suffered heart break.
Never be close minded, be more broad and look at it from every perspective because love and heart break is for everyone
There are very gender specific words in this poetry that single out one type of gender though
+Rashard Randall it can easily be changed, I don't think the point of the video was to victimise any gender
Well at least that's the way I look at it because I hope any type of person could relate to it, you just need to change the pronouns
+Aleksandra Jovanovic we're the bad guys in this video, we're always the bad guys.
am I the only one who thinks that the guy in this video looks like Stephan Curry
hahahaha me too
Theirs a guy in my hometown that looks like him also lol!
same
Yeah steph curry with a receding hair line
This is sooo sad. And also the reason why I never let a guy have that part of my body. #Virgintillmarriage
Nora Peace please do
Nora Peace same
well this made me cry
Maria Salinas her voice is what made me cry
Am I too early for the good comments yet again?
first
I think you were the first good comment😂
I love her poems. There needs to be more videos like this. It's beautiful.
***** This is slam poetry.
Jack Skellington Thank you because this idiot obviously can't tell, smh he said beautiful said word's
***** You serious? ?
I have a feeling deep down that tells me that if I ever dare to let a guy in before marriage, I'll be broken into pieces that I can't pick up and fix! Girls need this!
Nathalya Nana you are beautifuland and i like you just bcoz of your comment
@@blamemenotreligion2225 aww...thank you so much for that! 💕
Nathalya Nana Don't give it up believe Me we really appreciate the wait wayyy More believe Me stay precious
@@jonesfredrick94 thank you so much! The guys I've met so far dumped or left me because they said that nobody can put up with that...but I guess the wait is better than rush
I love how vulnerable this woman is, the message here is very powerful and beautiful, everyone should see this video.
There is so much power in your words Daysha.... The truth about being a woman going through emotional problems is often silent suffering..... The truth is bitter but Im glad such issues are being brought to the forefront.
4 years later and this still gets me 😭😭😭❤️❤️
2017 and I'm still listening to this.
Daysha's voice is so powerful and inspiring (and she has such a cute laugh)
This video had me in tears because I am going through everything that she's been through. It sucks when you can't be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, when the feelings aren't mutual or when someone doesn't care about you as much as you care about them. Thank you for this video, I really needed to see this.
It's emotional torture. It feels like you're trapped in your own house but can't get out. Guys it's real.
All of these videos of Daisha being an inspirational speaker kills me.
I LIVE for Daysha's videos like this. She is so inspirational and I can't explain how good of a role model she is. So many teens struggle with not feeling good enough. I struggle with that too. And you see girls in the media that are beautiful and seem to have the perfect lives, and you think, why can't I be like them. But when I see Daysha, that is what girls should be striving for. To have self worth, to be comfortable in your own skin, to love yourself and your body. That is true beauty- not your size or your shape. She has totally changed the way I see myself and how I value myself. Anytime I feel like I'm not good enough, I watch her videos, and I don't see myself as a list of imperfections, but as a person who deserves to be loved for who I am.
had chills watching this video, this should be shown to all young girls. we are special and we deserve someone who treats us like were special!
+Tyler Clarke Exactly. It's a 2 way street. Women shouldn't get "Special Treatment" because they're women, nor should men. Everyone needs to be treated equally in a relationship.
Young girls AND young men!
i agree!
I have 0 respect for men who leaves their girlfriend when he finds out they're pregnant.
I feel all girls and women need to hear this...so powerful
Loving someone who didn’t love you back is the worst, I hate that I allowed myself to think that he care because of physical closeness
asian with blue eyes
Did she write that? Cause DAMN. Her voice, her emotional conviction. I am filled with awe at the way she commanded respect and owned the space in this. Just. Damn.
This really hit home for me. This guy I was seeing just cut me off, no heads up, common curticy or nothing. The women he's with now we both know, we all work in the same job. I couldn't agree with you more, "if this is what you choose, then do what's best". Listening to to my sister/mother/aunt about living for loving me, living for respecting my body and investing my time more wisely. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video.
can we take a moment to appreciate how well written these buzzfeed poems are?
I'm legit crying through every of these stuff 😷😷
I'm p sure daysha wrote them. buzzfeed just hosts the videos and takes the money.
I'm struggling with saving myself for marriage and this video could not be any better! This is so encouraging and warning and I'm more than slapped in the face
Me too
@@jupiterian5831 we can do it!
Nathalya Nana be encouraged. You’re on the right track. I’ve been there.
@@trueheart8739 thank you so much for the encouragement!
Nathalya Nana you’re welcome... be strong and know that you’re definitely not alone.
Wow. What a beautiful video and such disgusting people in these comments
+Xander Fishy like you?
you Just got pooped on.
yall are ignorant ^^
+Jessie Hemmings I like ur last name
That was *deep*... (No pun intended... okay, maybe a little intended XD)
Yas.
Katrin Sternenstaub Bad puns are my speciality I think, lol :)
why do I see you
E-V-E-R-Y-W-H-E-R-E
Katrin Sternenstaub Well there are at least 42 people and counting that like bad puns it seems :)
Katy Thomson It's funny because I see that comment everywhere :)
This video got me through a breakup a few years back. It helped me realize I deserved better. And now I have better :) thank god ❤️
*Shes so beautiful and inspirational i love her*
Literally one of the best worded, heartfelt, relatable, sincere and on point explanation of exactly what goes on in our mind.....Daysha, you are AMAZING.....👏👏👏
YOUR SISTER IS VERY SMART
Way to go Daysha!! . I love your work, I can always find a refugee in the words you say. This is soothing and somehow relieving for people who, in one way or another, have been in a related (or even the same) situation. Keep it going, thanks being a voice of understanding, of comfort, a voice that can speak up for those whose voices are as broken as their hearts, thank you; because honestly there are so many people who need them. God bless you ♡
Daysha's a very strong woman. Her sister's words are words that I will now live by
she's like one of my favorite people ever.
I still come to this video after years. Still powerful like the First time I watched it
Yeah this is why I’m saving myself for marriage. I don’t need to loose my virginity to a baby daddy, or someone who doesn’t care for me emotionally. Saving yourself really saves you from all this drama.
LaurenSimøne Amen Girl! I wish I had to do all over again! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Wait until marriage
Your virginity is first lost in your mind. Don't lose it, thinking you're stronger than what you are. You're intentions may be one thing, but you really can't be sure about another persons. So like the old saying goes "If you play with fire...." You go girl! And take the Lord with you.
Ladies, I recommend you stop watching romantic films,or reading romance novel,it damages your sense of reasoning a long way,those things are pure work of arts and imagination (fictional).... Then you begin to fill your mind fantasies,and start looking for a guy that will give or do things that are out of this world to you.You wish to feel the same intensity of emotions in the fake movies you watched but reverse is the case...Then you start having unnecessary headaches!!!The point is.. Be reasonable,self conscious,discipline (with what you see,hear or watch),most importantly be God fearing!!!!This will help
LOL. My parents always say "If you die being a virgin, you'll still die being loved." LOLOLOL XD
Her writing is the best
"was I not good enough for him?"
I always feel like this
+Moni adonaa Me too!
This woman is so powerful with her words and the way she speaks. I love it.
this is why having a bf or gf is a big risk
I trutly pray that this video will be awarded with some type of acknowledgement because it trutly deserves to be recognized
I wish Daysha did more of these spoken word videos.
+Noah Howard me too
she dose
The fact that I have gone through this makes me cry cause then I always asked myself why it wasnt me it was them they used me as a toy which i didn't realize but it wasnt me.
don't worry. If they picked you. you have to know, it's because your beautiful. Your beautiful physically and mentally. Don't let someone pull you down because of it. Life is like a coin, my friend told me, you can use it on ANYTHING YOU WANT, but you can only use it once. Let that be a lesson for you to never let someone drag u down. Don't stop dreaming, don't let someone depress you. 😉
Love ALL of Daysha's poems. She is Beautiful and Breathtaking inside and out.
Faith Jones....???????
ive been watching this at least 3 times a day for the past 3 weeks and i love it and never will get over it
andrea wancho me too
As a woman, I really and to hear the man's point of view.
Idk kind of hard to know a different point of view without knowing the rest of the variables like how they were as a couple outside of the bedroom, and how they treated each other
+Kylorfo113 She says how he was treating her before he left her.
BuzzFeed are feminazis, it will never happen.
+Ryan P haha forreals