Learn From My Mistakes! DON'T Neglect Your Fish!
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- I don't hide anything from you, in todays video I share the story of the worst fish keeping catastrophe that I CAUSED!! Learn from my mistakes!!
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On your plants, do you treat for snails & amphipods? I don’t mind the snails, but I bought plants from an online-source a few years ago and thus introduced amphipods to my shrimp tank. I didn’t know to quarantine/pre-treat plants…esp. that I’d need to from the vendor that sold me the shrimp.
This has probably happened to everyone if you have many years into the hobby. That is why I never take a chance, a powerhead, a streamer, an airstone or 2 filters is my rule. That way, they would survive even if a heavily stocked tank with a huge cannister filter stops. That is my rule... Unless it is a betta tank, because they can breath air. Or a shrimp Neocaridina tank, because they can syrvive in a bucket for a months, not caridinas but Neocaridinas. So I am a little bit sursprised that you did not talked about that. 3 days they would have easily survived if they were in good condition, with just an airstone. Only problem is that I hate the look of an airstone 😄. But if I already have an filter that can handle a 150 gallon on a 50 gallon, it makes no sense to have another filter. This is not criticism. But your videos are mostly for beginner tips. So if you never want this to happen. Read all this and pick what you prefer. AND if you want to be even more safe, like I am on 2 of my airstone tanks and a filter. You have one that lasts on battery. Than you are even safe if your power goes off when you are away for 72 hours. And yes beginners, if you have fish that are healthy and well fed, do not put in an "vacation food tablett" 1-7 days depending on fish. No food is safer. And if I have aggressive fish or heavily stocked africa cichlids, I would have a autofeeder. Just so they do not turn on eachother. Longest comment ever written probably, but I would have liked to know this, if I started just 1-2 years ago. Trust me, 1-2 years is still a beginner. That is the beauty of it. I learn something new everyday. And I have kept fish since I could walk... And like I said, not criticism to John about for not addressing this, it is just going to reach a bigger crowd than I could on my channel. Great video John, I did show my favourite pet of all time die, but not for the views, I wanted to show them because like you said. "It was my fault that she passed away" It has been 4 years and I can still not watch that video without crying... Plus it was my channel mascot.
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I couldn’t agree more that being able to accept responsibility and admitting our errors is very wise and therapeutic! I have family and friends who try to convince me I’m not in the wrong when I say I screwed up with something… they have good intentions but I say “No! It WAS my fault and I am OK with that because now I KNOW BETTER!!” Live and learn are three very wise words. Thanks for sharing! 😌
With us being homeless for the past 7 months (been staying in hotels), we unfortunately have lost a good portion of our fish we have collected over the past 4+ years. We feel horrible for having to put our fish through so much stress and causing their deaths. Unfortunately we have no choice at this time. We have definitely gotten better and have loss far less recently, but the damage has been done. We are determined to stay in the hobby, and the fish we have left are hanging in there. We pray soon we will be back in a house so our fish family members can finally have a permanent home. Appreciate the video John! On a positive note we seem to have figured out how to move fish efficiently and keep them somewhat happy in a hotel situation, possibly something we will share so others can learn from our mistakes. ❤❤❤
This story, while tragic is the reason why I love this channel. Real life real stories…no fluff and coverup. It helps us grow and get better. I really appreciate you sharing this John. I’ve made mistakes also…overdosed algae fix and nearly killed my bonded pair of Convicts (CONVICTS!)? In the process. I had to break down the tank and moved them into a temp tank. I saved them and they ended up giving me three broods after that. I’ve also learned to follow direction on a chemical bottle. I’m a much better fish keeper as a result.
Oh man. I would have died. My convicts were my favorite fish I've ever had.
You can't improve if it's someone else's fault. It takes the power from you and puts it in someone else's hands. Accepting the blame, the fault, etc. is absolutely empowering.
I’m in my 50s and up until about 3 years ago I’d had at least one aquarium from age 12.
Around 3 years ago I came down for breakfast one morning and caught a bit of that smell.
At the time I had a 5 foot community tropical tank and the heater had failed. Every fish bar a couple of zebra danios had been cooked.
I still feel dreadful about it and haven’t kept fish since.
I don’t feel that I’d neglected them but I do feel awful that it ever happened.
The reason that I follow your channel is that I’m just starting to come round to the idea of setting up a tank again and am considering Mbuna.
I appreciate your video and the sentiment behind it - keep up the good work Lloyd 🇬🇧
Look up the Kaveman Aquatics channel and watch his videos about heaters and Temp controllers, then you can set your new tank up knowing it will never happen again :)
Oh man. I have a kinda similarly heartbreaking "lost a whole tank" story. I was out of town for the weekend and my parents said they'd check on my fish (75 gallon mixed African cichlid tank in my room). Heater must have gone haywire within hours of my leaving on that Friday (I'd been putting off replacing it for about 3 months because it was old) and it basically cooked my fish because my parents never did more than a quick stick their heads into my room (not that they would have bothered to take the heater out anyways). Lost my 14 year old Red Empress and a beautiful little breeding group of Lab Ceruleus plus a bunch of pseudotropheus I'd had since they were tiny fry. It killed me because I knew that if I had replaced the heater when I first noticed that it needed it instead of being cheap and trying to wait for a sale so I could get a "better" brand my fish probably would have been fine.
You are so right to check on our aquariums daily. Terrible, you lost so many beautiful fish. It is a lesson we all need to hear, so thank you.
THANK YOU, JOHN! Accepting that we make mistakes means you are a responsible adult. Funny how many older people don't realize this. Life is easier when you recognize your limits. And... LOVE the Bichirs!
It is such a burden to realize these little lives in your glass box of water are 100% dependent on you to stay alive. Nothing makes you feel worse than losing most of your tank only to realize it was a problem with the environment and not a pre-condition problem with the fish themselves. The reason I am so good at maintaining a tank is from making mistakes.
Gotta own it and that’s when we learn and grow. I’ve been at that “I’m done!” moment and it was when I opened up to my role in the disaster that allowed me to crawl out of the dark hole I had fallen in. Thanks!
Accepting responsibility is critical, not just with our fish, but with all those mistakes we make in life. Great video, and great reminder to all of us to double check everything every day. Great story, outstanding lesson!
I feed every other day. I did a water change December 31st. I feed them fishroom early because we were going out. New Years day was not a feed day and truth be told, I celebrated the new year pretty hard. I didn't go check until Monday morning, basically two full days since my last visit, and it was then that I discovered I had failed to turn my filtration system back on after the waterchange. My 27" arowana had suffocated and died, and yes, it was 110% my fault. Devastating. Gut wrenching. The idea that she was in there struggling for her life while I was upstairs having a good time. There was no feeling better about that.
I try not to neglect my aquariums. They are in my basement and have 6. It is easy to neglect them. If i am too tired or don't have energy to go downstairs and put in the effort. I know how you feel John!
Feel you brother. We've all messed up at some point in this hobby because of life. I lost an entire fish room once because I procrastinated on installing a generator and then lost power at the same time our furnace died in freezing winter. I lost a rack once because the power socket burnt out mid-week and I didn't realize until the weekend when I came down to do weekly maintenance, because 'I just had time to feed' during the week. Just last week I didn't realize the fish I have been planning to separate and breed had in fact bred and I lost all the babies not paying attention. I didn't even notice that they were in there until there were only like a dozen tiny fry left in a cichlid community tank. Those first two incidents led me to break down a lot of tanks and all but quit. I hate feeling like a terrible fish keeper, but eventually I slowly come back to the hobby full-time each time. You live and learn and recognize how much prep, diligence and back up plans matter.
Absolutely agree on checking tanks. I call my walk the death check. First thing I do when I wake up is check all 12 tanks. Then come home for work i redo the walk. Throughout the day and before bed it’s the walk again. Call it obsessive but it the way to make sure all is well in the fishes homes
Thanks for your honesty John. Owning up to when we fail is a relief to our spirit, that's why you feel better. You and Lisa are wonderful people and your videos have been helpful to so many over the years!! So glad you didn't quit TH-cam, I always look forward to seeing your videos. BTW you are an awesome Fish Dad!!
Thank you for sharing your vulnerable time. I recently lost a whole 75 gallon tank of Lepomis megalotis that I raised from fry to adults, that were some of my favorite fish ever. I bought some pet fish from a pet store, and I only quarantined them for a week instead of the proper 6-8 weeks. And not two days after did they break out in severe diseases, mostly Ich. I quarantined then, but it was too late. The damage was done. And over the next couple of weeks, one by one, my fish, my little friends, passed. It was entirely my fault. I own it. So to memorialize them, they are now preserved and on display in my Ichthyology department at work, where students will be able to learn to identify them through a dichotomous key for the next century or more. And after letting that tank fallow for several months... I think it's time to get back into things.
Years ago I was working 12+-hours a day, had dozens of reptiles & arachnids, & a disabled, drug-addicted husband. I’d come home to clean the enclosures, take care of my infant, clean the house…but I could never keep up. I still wake up in a cold-sweat, having had nightmares I’ve forgotten to get downstairs for YEARS to take care of the animals. 😢 In my dreams, some are dead, some starving…. Reality for them was worse though; there was a fire when I & my son were away & most of them (what he hadn’t sold-off) died.
Trauma…. It takes time to come back, but I’m careful now not to get overwhelmed now.
wow my friend, I admire you for not crying while you were talking. Although I noticed that your voice broke on some occasions. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us that help us so much.
Been watching you for YEARS and appreciate that you are being vulnerable AND taking responsibility. Sorry it happened, must have been terrible, but respect.
I'm this way as well. I was raised to accept blame and have zero excuses. Because in reality, we usually come to a point where something could have been done to prevent what happened, thats how we learn lessons. I agree with everything you say here EXCEPT one thing; the city water. One thing I do shift blame to, was the one time I did a water change and 30mins later my husband called me saying "did you hear the news? The city water is contaminated with blue-green algae!". And within a day I saw it start in my tank, fought it for over 6 months and eventually won. But it was one of those "who would've thought" kind of things, at least to me. If anyone can find a way to blame me, please do, because if there was anyway to prevent that I'd love to know, I wouldn't wish a tank of cyanobacteria water on my worst enemy 😅
I love that you guys are honest with you channel. I’m new to the hobby and was recently disheartened when I lost half of my fish after adding them to my tank. I was a little impatient with my acclimation and shocked my little guys too much. It was 110% my fault and I can tell you that I’ll never ever make that mistake again
my depression has gotten bad recently n im struggling to maintain my tank. it has an in tank filter that i clean weekly so ive just ordered a canister so i dont have to stress as much. my tank is in a main room right next to my favourite chair that i sit in daily so my tank always gets fed n checked on but ive just been struggling cleaning my filter enough so im trying to hopefully ease my mind alittle n keep my fish healthy n happy.
Thanks for sharing Jon! Love how transparent you are with us all the time!
I had a tank where the battery in my thermometer died and I never got around to replacing it. Fast forward a month and I came home from work to 25 dead fish (only survivor was my pleco). I go to test the water and realize the water is HOT. I grabbed a kitchen thermometer and the water was 115 degrees. My heater malfunctioned and never turned off... I felt terrible that I basically let my fish boil alive and if I noticed how hot the water was in the morning when the fish were alive I could have done something about it. But we learn from our mistakes, and I'm a better fishkeeper because of it. Thanks for sharing and showing us it's okay to be human and make mistakes!
I think most of us has had a similar experience and it really makes you sick. I'm sorry you had to go through that and I hope you never have to deal with that again.
Completely agree with the video. Thanks John for caring enough to share your mistake and the leaning experience. Lisa’s Discus aquarium looks amazing in the background towards the end of the video. 😊
That took extreme courage, John. Thank you. You've got guys. I have a dumpster of a ham radio channel, and I did the same- only worse. Involving my ham radio license and a felony conviction from a time when life crashed 20 years ago. I call it 'answering Y to the F question'. I posted it for the same reason as you. Be well :)
We're all human, mistakes that we could have prevented, pain us the most. So sorry to hear of your mistake. Fish are 'family', anyone who thinks "they're just fish" just doesn't get it. Thank you for sharing the good in this hobby, as well as the not so good.
10:16 Four words we don't hear in this day and age "It was my fault".
I think in this time of "perceived perfection" it's important for new fish keepers to know this can happen. When I say new fish keepers I include anyone keeping fish for less than 5 years or hobbyists with only knowledge of a few types of easy to keep fish. People are quick to criticize but it can happen and a crisis is a learning opportunity.
Thank you for sharing! I’m still fairly new to the hobby, September will be 2 years and you both have helped me so much with my aquariums. ♥️ I had my first pump malfunction a couple weeks ago in my 29gal and I wouldn’t have noticed if my cat hadn’t tripped me. I know that sounds funny but I had just gotten home from work. It was late and I was in a hurry. I went into my room to grab something, not even glancing at the tank by my desk. My fish usually fast on Friday because I get home after their lights turn off. I had gotten home a little earlier so they hadn’t yet. As I was leaving, my cat darted in and to avoid stepping on him I fell onto the end of the bed (bad knee, couldn’t catch myself). After sitting there scolding my cat, I happened to look up at the fish which had scattered during the commotion. That’s when I noticed the bubbles weren’t coming out of my sponge filter. The pump was on and I could hear it rattling my wall but it wasn’t producing any air in the tank. Thankfully I had a back up air pump and I switched them out. Two days later I sat in front of my 15gal like I do everyday and noticed again that no air bubbles were coming out of the sponge filter. In less than a week I learned this lesson on both of my tanks. Thankfully no fish casualties but my betta was mad at me for days. 😂
On the positive side, you learned from your mistake and because of that your current fish have a better life and hopefully by sharing this other hobbyists will also learn and avoid making that mistake. So don't beat yourself up so much over it after 6 years. It was a tragedy, it happened, its over, lesson learned.
Thanks, John. I appreciate this video. As someone who has a small business. And last summer I admittedly neglected tanks. It's a tough wake up call to answer for sure!!
I love people who can own their own 💩 and not blame others...it's a rare trait this day and age ...
KGT YOU SIR ARE A GOOD PERSON NOT EVERYONE TALKS ABOUT THE TRUTHS AND FAILS … I SEE MOST OF THE TH-cam YOU ALL POST BUT I WONT MISS ONE ANYMORE.. keep up the awesome job
Decided to set up an African cichlid tank and two weeks in (today) the heater went rogue overnight and tank was 93 this AM. I knew the heater was questionable and was going to replace soon… hard lesson learned. Lost 4 of my baby umbuna so far. I immediately removed a pitcher of the hot water out and traded a cold water pitcher in. Poured into my hand so it didn’t blast anyone with the shock of cold water. Over 2 hours brought the temp down to 80. Hope I saved the rest! Sad day.
Thank you for your story! Feeling like the worst and Appreciate it.
Sorry to hear about your loss but great information thanks for sharing 💯✌️👍💗
I have 10 fish tanks and 6 stock tank ponds and even when I’m so tired from work I still check every tank and pond before turning off all the lights for the night.
the daily grind has taken most of my hobbies away from me concerning living things. I have also overwhelmed myself by always adding animals. more isnt always better and you do not need to have all the things. i keep a 40 breeder in storage for just in case but my reality has not changed significantly. Took a few lessons to learn to over filter and understock over the years too. I do not want to fail a living animal, so my plants are enough. Sometimes more than enough.
This story hit home really hard. Was down and out a month with heavy depression. Once I dealt with the tank, all I could do is cry and hate myself even more. One of the worst feelings in all my life. I still feel I should be beat for it. My heart goes out and thank you for sharing.
Fish keeping is a part of my physiotherapy I have to move every day if I’m in pain or not. It keeps me mobile and that’s critical to me and my fish friends.
I know life can be hard at times & can make you forget about routine maintenance for your tanks. Although I tend to do my best to make my 125 black widow frontosa community tank the best it can be. They depend on me to make sure they are happy & that makes me happy even though life throws me curve balls at times. My fish mean the world to me & I know they love me as well. In conclusion just keep on pushing in life & show the love & respect to your aquarium. 🐠❤😇😎🇺🇸
Thank you for your honesty. Reminds me of the day I lost all my neons. Had a tank with Corys and neons. I fed sinking pellets to the Corys and flakes to the neons. One day I fed them as usual and noticed the neons circling where the pellets were with the Corys after eating their food. Thought nothing of it, walked away, came back maybe an hour later and all my neons were belly up. I didn’t see it but know they ate on the pellets. I had the neons for several months and knew they weren’t sick. The only explanation for all of them dying at once was they over ate. I had watched these neons grow to full size and was attached. They no longer ran and hid when I approached the tank. Almost broke me where I wanted to give up. But it taught me a lesson that I will never forget. I have another tank with otos and skirt tetras. The tetras are really greedy. when I feed my otos I make sure their wafer falls where they hide and the tetras can’t get to it in the plants.
Neons are massive scavengers! From my experience most tetras are! Rainbow fish too! My rasboras stay in their own lane and don’t mess with the shrimp food but tetras always do. I find it hard to keep corys with them because of exactly what happened to yours.
Love your down to Earth honesty and story. Have really been loving your content lately! Thanks so much!
Damn. 50 friends gone. I think this could be one of the most powerful and important videos you have ever made. And most probably of of the most difficult for you. 🙏
When my depression acts up really bad or when work was bad, there were days where days feeding my fish was hard, but I always at least looked at them. When life is going crazy I notice that's when my tanks act up.
Yeah I know what your saying. Although when my depression & anxiety acts up. I go into my garage & just look at my fish. They bring me peace of mind & gives me a chance to take a deep breath & a step back and make a plan for my life. I’ll pray for you. Depression sucks & I know exactly how you feel some days. 😇☺️
There's a principle in psychology called the "locus of control". Some people have an "internal" locus of control, and some people have an "external" locus of control. People with an external locus of control have a tendency to blame forces outside of themselves with things go wrong, and credit forces outside of themselves when things go right. People with an internal locus of control tend to blame/credit themselves. (Note that this is descriptive not diagnostic; people behave differently in different situations, change over time, and many don't fit nicely into these boxes, for instance, some people usually blame others and credit themselves, or the reverse.)
Neither extreme is particularly healthy.
People with an extreme external locus of control never take responsibility for their mistakes, and therefore never learn from them. They also don't feel good about their successes, and have a tendency to suffer from imposter syndrome.
People with an extreme internal locus of control take responsibility for every mistake, which can be depressing in a world where so much is legitimately outside any individual's control. They'd blame themselves for being on a plane that's about to crash. They'll also take credit for other people's work, and claim to have succeeded "on their own" without taking into account being born into privileged classes (wealth, race, gender, etc.).
It's important for all of us to cultivate a realistic view of the world in ourselves. To adapt a classic prayer, "Grant me the serenity to endure the errors that are not mine, the courage to take responsibility for my errors, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Really good you learned from and admit your mistakes. The circumstance sounds like it was halfway out of your control just due to how overwhelmed you were and needing to work that much. You seem to have genuine remorse and have permanently learned from it, that in itself is admirable and not something to be shamed for. But I think many people are a lot less responsible than that.
In general, nobody should have more pets than what they can and will manage to care for even in the times they are the most exhausted, that needs to be taken in account before even getting the pets and increase the number so slowly one is not just suddenly overwhelmed. At least that's the advice that should apply for most people. I know it can be really tempting to get a whole bunch of pets, have definitely felt that but people need to put reason and compassion for the pet over temptation. And sometimes you need to pull yourself together and do whats needed that you're not in the mood for, but I understand sometimes one is genuinely unable. There is always a chance some circumstances can come up that makes on genuinely unable to care for the pets, or even children, one has already got. Serious sickness or injury can be one of them. But anything that's actually likely to happen at some point, needs to be planned for in advance. And ask for outside help when it becomes really necessary. Neglect is still cruel and you were the one to make another (maybe many) sentient being fully dependent on your care and essentially helpless on their own.
I recently had a filter off/ fish suffocating scare when I was doing a 50% water change about 3 weeks ago. As I was doing the water change I noticed that my fish were not being as active so I looked down in the tank and they were all gasping at the top of the water and some were even jumping out of the water looking for a better place to go. I felt so bad I rush-filled the tank up to the HOB minimum level as fast as I could. I was so stressed that I almost killed the fish that I was trying to save by doing the water change (there was a high nitrite spike and multiple fish deaths within a couple days so I treated the tank and had to a water change afterwards). Once I knew the filter was running and aerating the water and the fish were safe, I went out to petsmart, bought the biggest air pump they had, a two air stones (because I wasn't sure if the biggest would fit in my tank (it didn't, returned the big one kept the medium)) and bought the biggest sponge filter they had. I now have redundant systems in place in case one thing fails. I do not want to risk losing the fish that I love.
John! I feel ya! I have been there and it sucks! A piece of of advise for anyone that is busy and can't always be there for their fish is to setup indoor cameras looking at your tank and filtration system. I've done this with my ring system for a few years and it's awesome! My 180 has a ring indoor cam looking down the long side of the tank and I have another same camera looking at the sump filtration. It has night vision so I can see if something is wrong. Ring works good but there are a ton of others out there and I would consider it cheap insurance! Just my $.02
Great lesson to apply to life. Not just for fish keeping. No matter how crazy life gets.. don’t neglect your responsibilities!
Thanks John for getting my off my backside to do some well needed filter maintenance on one of my FX6’s. Much appreciated but sorry to hear of your loss.
I feel you. I lost 3 featherfin squeakers a few years ago because I was working too much, got burnt out, depressed, didn't do water changes for a few weeks, and the nitrates built up and killed them. I'm not proud of it, but I've since forgiven myself. I've gotten better and the only fish deaths I've had lately were from old age.
Best wishes for success to JJ - what a nice store! I'd go there if I wasn't 3000 miles away!
This is the best advice. I am teaching the very same to my 11 yr old aquarist… the animals we keep are 100% dependent on us. We MUST take the total of 1 minute to check the filter, heater and happiness, plus feed them. I agree with you that feeding isn’t an everyday thing necessarily, BUT, filter, heat and light (for turtles) must be checked.. PS sorry for your loss 😢
You admitted to viewers your mistake and we thank you for being true to your words, you learned and forget about your experiences, don't let it eat you up. When I'm ready for my fish buying, I'll look you up. What tiny fish do you sale and which state's do you ship to. A nice hello to all.
I love your honesty great video, many people will learn from this!
Really genuine & I think it makes a lot of us feel better when we accidentally f*** up, which is never intentional, but of course, it’s our fault. You’re only human and sounds like you were having an awful time :( Thankyou for sharing so honestly and genuinely
I'm 43 as of January 2023. I grew up with a 10 gallon tank in my bedroom, a large jar to grow brine shrimp in my closet & a 100 gallon tank in our living room. We rarely did anything to the jar of brine shrimp. I grew up with the responsibility of maintaning my 10 gallon tank, my father, brother or I were responsible for our living room tank. More than one tank feels overwhelming to me. I would purposely have just a main communal tank & maybe a small isolation tank for sick fish.
I love watching your videos. You and your wife. Great helpful information. I have a beautiful 75 gallon. And because of Lisa I got my first female Beta lol. And she's beautiful.
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This story makes me very happy that all four of my tanks are in my bedroom where I see them all the time. Granted, they are 29 gallon tanks with Platys in one and two Mollys in the other. That makes it possible:)
Great video, John!! A good reminder for us ALL!
Accepting responsibility and determining never to do that again does feel good - and that guilt is healthy too, it's what spurs me on to do better - Thanks John💕👍
Well said John owning your mistakes and learning from them makes us the people we are. No one is perfect we are all human and things happen good or bad . Bravo for owning your mistake and being big anough to tell everyone.
Heya, so about the psychology of assuming responsibility; You have the power over the situation. Once you acknowledge the fault you have the power to make the changes necessary to let it never happen again. And that's the difference. Pushing blame on someone or something else takes that control away from us and robs us of the ability to better ourselves through mistakes. Brave video my friend, good on you for being honest. Alot of folks need to hear these things.
Thank you John! So refreshing to here someone owning up to mistakes we all have been either guilty of or a reminder to stop blaming others and accept that we are grown ups.
Yup. Been there. Done that. Life gets in the way. But because I only keep heavily planted tanks they tend to mitigate disasters like the one you described.
Thanks for sharing!!!! Love yours guys' content!!
When you know better you do better. Thanks for being transparent with us !
Your so strong for owning up for this i have depression and cant even brush my own Hair sometimes but i always try to do my best for my pets
I've been making mistakes since I first won my carnival win a goldfish in a small bowl if you get a ping pong in one of them back in 1966. I'm still making mistakes and learning from them. To err is human and our finned fishy friends are in our hands ✋️! BTW, I overfed my very first fish with kindness! LOL
👍 for personal responsibility!
I love this video. The fishies can be a part of your family im sorry for your lost. Im glad you didnt give up and gave many more fishies a happy life
Sorry that happened to you! I have experienced that in my Mbuna tank in one short night. My air pump went out and just over night 18 Mbuna died from lack of O2. It happens, unfortunately. I own my mistakes but I don't believe this was a mistake.
Veteran fish keeper here specifically african cichlids I came home from work this saterday to find 30 peacocks and haps dead. No equipment failure. No power outage. My water is always perfect. I think someone dumped a boat load of food in my tank and it poisoned them
Thanks for sharing this. I had a similar situation many years ago. Taking responsibility and promising to do better is all you can do.
That was my story about a month ago, except for the dead fish. The HOB on two of my tanks stopped working. It had been two days and had I not caught it then I’m sure the fish would have died. Now I make a habit of checking the tanks twice a day.
I'm always looking at my tanks. I like my setups and I enjoy watching my fish swim around. At times I find my fish more enjoyable to watch rather than watching tv. My tanks are kept in my bedroom.
Last year I Lost all my fish in my 38 gallon bow front I fixed the problem added new fish Bolivian Rams and everything is fine now in 2023 I have the fluval planted 3.0 and the fluval 407 canister filter
I hurried during a water change for my betta once & the new water temp was a little to cold & shocked my betta & he died right in front of me. It was horrible & soo sad & totally my fault. I knew better. This was a couple yrs ago & I still feel absolutely awful about it.
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You tell a story almost every single one of us in the hobby has felt over a stretch of time. We are the caretakers of our fish, we have to check on them. Cats and dogs are harder to ignore, but we have all been beat down by life and stopped working with our hobby.
I had a broken heater that killed off 80% of my corals. It was my fault for not paying attention to the temperatures every so often. Two days went by before I looked and the temp read 96 degrees. I was shocked. I was horrified. I created this small scale apocalyptic disaster in that tank.
After seeing this video, it really feels like I made the right decision when I decided to put my aquarium in the hallway, where I go multiple times every day. As soon as I'm going out with my dogs or going to my bedroom, I see the aquarium. Of course I have it because I like it and want to see it, but this way I can't miss out one single day, no matter how I feel or how busy I am.
This is very very important and critical point John. Thanks
So true I have to blame myself in order to realise I have learned from my mistakes. If not I can not move forward positively
Jumping in early! Great video to hopegully help people out!!
The mistakes is how you learn - if someone claims they’ve never made a mistake they are lying and have issues with personal accountability, being able to take responsibility and not only admit to making a mistake but learning and changing = what I means to be a functional healthy human, no one is perfect.
Wonderful inspiring video, thank you!
were all human and make mistakes and that's what makes us human all we can do is learn from it and grow I know you didn't purposely hurt your fish
Wow that was a powerful message...thanks for sharing. I'm new to the hobby and trying to soak up all the information I can and love your videos
Great info and video John! Thanks
Thanks for sharing. Really shows your honesty with us and your courage to take accountability and responsibility for this.
😰So sorry! It's so heartbreaking when we lose our fish, and it was for a reason we could have prevented! I lost my favorite little BNP because I didn't notice an uptake sponge came out, and she wedged herself in it and couldn't get out. It just hurts!!! So sorry!
I feel better too when I accept my faults - Maybe, it's because I know I'm largely on charge of my own life, and if I take responsibility for what I can do with it, it anyway is much better than pointing to the others and eventually feeling powerless.
The marine tank is beautiful - I'm starting considering also setting up a brackish one to then transition it to "fully marine". It's not the colors, after all there's a ton of it even in freshwater, but I'd like to take a new challenge. For the moment by, I'm too busy for any other tanks than my 50 gal.s "softwater", but as soon as I'll have a bit more time I'd like trying saltwater.
When i first set up my 125 gallon tank with my own cichlids, i thought i had everything i needed and perfect. Next morning almost all of them dead, all my big guys i grew out in my 55 gallon. Here i didn't have enough oxygen, felt gutted that i was rhe cause they didnt have enough oxygen. Thank god i had extra pumps and stones. But it didnt take my guilt away. Not they have fx6, sponge filter and multiple air stones and a wave maker. Everyone is more than happy! Leaning from mistakes makes you better, and i made sure no one was going to suffer again from my mistakes!
I’m sorry to hear about that experience. Same here I recently set up my 125 gallon with my black widow frontosas. Although it was a 4 year planning. That 125 I bought was back in 2019 & was sitting in my father in laws garage. So 1st had to get our new house. Then had to find rocks from my local parks to make custom caves. That took a lot of searching because I had to find big enough rocks but not to heavy because I didn’t add sand. I like bare bottom tanks. Then I bought a 500 watt heater. Then a paw fly bubbler with a 125 filter sponge along with a wake maker. My final purchase today will be a Fx4 as my birthday present to myself because I love to make my fish happy. 😇😎🇺🇸
So much truth. Thank you for sharing!
Love from Michigan brother, real is real,and unless we own it,we never move forward, love what you and lisa are doing with the channel, keep up the great work and stay real. ✌
Hi Lisa. You always do such a great job on the videos. You and John make a great team I love watching you both. Thanks 😊😊