You're spot on. I introduced a previous girlfriend to salsa. After a couple of months she wouldn't let me dance with any of my lady friends whom I'd been dancing with for years. I was so unhappy not being able to dance with my friends I had to call it a day with her! She was soooo angry but I was happy again!
I firmly believe (and I know I could be wrong) that everyone loves dance and some just don't know it. Perhaps introducing your significant other to the community by taking them to a social and showing them what its all about would ease their concerns and even bring them in.
I just wanted to get on her to express my feelings. I’ve been married to a man for 11 years. I’m puertorican but live in a small town with no culture. There is one salsa band here that plays a couple times and I go every once in a great while. He get so mad if I go and he has no interest in going with me. I miss my culture and I used to go dancing several times a week when he met me. Music has been a part of my life. His insecurities are killing my joy.
Well OK, but there's all kinds of people who all sorts of rules. Some people do not tolerate things that are perfectly acceptable for others. I had a girlfriend who didn't understand the friendship I had with a certain girl because, in her book, only the fact that I was alone with her having a coffee was an offense to her dignity. A humiliation, pretty much like kissing her. For me, my girlfriend could have as many friends as she wanted, as the red line for me was way beyond meeting another man for a coffee or cinema. There was nothing I could do about it because in her world, that was an offence in itself. A infringement of the rules of monogamy. Probably this guy knew everything about this world and still couldn't tolerate it, because in his book, she dancing with another man is breaking the rules of monogamy.
It’s not insecurity or lack of self-confidence, it’s about respect. If you are in a committed relationship do you get the chance to sample around other relationship partners? No. You stay with your partner and live life with them doing what we’ve your life together entails. Same way you don’t go dance with other men or women if you have your partner to dance with. I respect my gf by not dancing with other women and if I was better than her I’d still dance with her or teach her. Same way she isn’t allowed to dance with other men because of respect not insecurity. A desire to dance with someone else is a desire to experience something as intimate as a dance with another person and that is in all essence not correct. It’s the same as saying I desire this other woman and want to meet her and experience some time with her because she’s prettier, No, I can enjoy my own gf.
Its a choice both of you made and thats ok;) It all depends how you perceive dancing with someone… i see it as a good conversation;) I think also dance can be experienced at different level of ‘intimacy’ or proximity… as long as both partners are honest with each other about their limits i dont see any issue with all possible scenarios;)
I started Salsa as a thing for my gf and I to do (she could already basic step) and because I wanted to not dance like an elderly white hippy at outdoor events. I kept with it and she isn't interested in it. It took a few years to have the full understanding that it is just dancing for me. I don't dance sensually. It would probably make her uncomfortable to see. I did do quite a lot at first, but have tempered it a bit. I had to get past my severe FOMO issue.
Jalousie is typically a lack of self confidence. If you partner is insecure, it will show when you are dancing with somebody else. But this will not be exclusive to the dance only, it will sprinkle itself all over your life with them. What you do from that point on is up to you, but be aware, that it will be present whatever you do.
Interesting conversation about an obvious subject! There's no doubt that in the world of partner dancing there are potential perilous pitfalls. But as Amanda says, it's a question of balance. Going out dancing every night of the week is probably a bit excessive 😂There is no doubt that guys like to dance with attractive women. My view is that the few minutes spent dancing on the dancefloor is a little story, a poem, an imaginary romantic encounter, portrayed by the movement of arms and feet in time to the music. That's it, it's a little fantasy , a story brought to life by actors as if in a film. It sounds as if Bachata is the bad boy danger area. It is a bit more close up and raunchy than salsa!😂 But there you are, it's an awkward subject and a slightly uncomfortable conversation, but we've done it. Nine minutes is however probably better spent talking about and explaining dance moves and techniques!😂
Lack of self confidence or insecurity is something I most certainly do not have but having other guys touch my partner in a way I only want to be touching her is a simple as respect. I trust my partner but how the FUK do i trust every other guy partner that she has , thats impossible. Especially if they’re single . What does every single male have on there mind? thinking it fine , but thinking and touching is just morally wrong , inappropriate & disrespectful . Great video btw guys I hear the dancers mind but struggle so much to respect it. It’s so tricky to navigate. What style , sensual from who’s perspective, what location , what moves, for how long, does sexual orientation change things, the list doesn’t end 🥲
I feel you Tony… my wife and I are in this business for 20 years now… the solution for us to do it healthy is communication and clear boundaries that we both respect;) A women like a man can control the distance of dance;)
You're spot on. I introduced a previous girlfriend to salsa. After a couple of months she wouldn't let me dance with any of my lady friends whom I'd been dancing with for years. I was so unhappy not being able to dance with my friends I had to call it a day with her! She was soooo angry but I was happy again!
Well said! A few words to add here: respect, trust, and support.
I firmly believe (and I know I could be wrong) that everyone loves dance and some just don't know it. Perhaps introducing your significant other to the community by taking them to a social and showing them what its all about would ease their concerns and even bring them in.
and I would add anyone can learn to dance... I proved it during our 20 years in the business;).... thanks for sharing your thoughts
I just wanted to get on her to express my feelings. I’ve been married to a man for 11 years. I’m puertorican but live in a small town with no culture. There is one salsa band here that plays a couple times and I go every once in a great while. He get so mad if I go and he has no interest in going with me. I miss my culture and I used to go dancing several times a week when he met me. Music has been a part of my life. His insecurities are killing my joy.
I hear you ;)
Well OK, but there's all kinds of people who all sorts of rules. Some people do not tolerate things that are perfectly acceptable for others.
I had a girlfriend who didn't understand the friendship I had with a certain girl because, in her book, only the fact that I was alone with her having a coffee was an offense to her dignity. A humiliation, pretty much like kissing her.
For me, my girlfriend could have as many friends as she wanted, as the red line for me was way beyond meeting another man for a coffee or cinema.
There was nothing I could do about it because in her world, that was an offence in itself. A infringement of the rules of monogamy.
Probably this guy knew everything about this world and still couldn't tolerate it, because in his book, she dancing with another man is breaking the rules of monogamy.
Thanks for sharing... I guess the limit of what someone interprets as being disloyal is quite fluid.
@@SalsaBailaProductions indeed!
great video!!
It’s not insecurity or lack of self-confidence, it’s about respect. If you are in a committed relationship do you get the chance to sample around other relationship partners? No. You stay with your partner and live life with them doing what we’ve your life together entails. Same way you don’t go dance with other men or women if you have your partner to dance with. I respect my gf by not dancing with other women and if I was better than her I’d still dance with her or teach her. Same way she isn’t allowed to dance with other men because of respect not insecurity. A desire to dance with someone else is a desire to experience something as intimate as a dance with another person and that is in all essence not correct. It’s the same as saying I desire this other woman and want to meet her and experience some time with her because she’s prettier, No, I can enjoy my own gf.
Its a choice both of you made and thats ok;) It all depends how you perceive dancing with someone… i see it as a good conversation;) I think also dance can be experienced at different level of ‘intimacy’ or proximity… as long as both partners are honest with each other about their limits i dont see any issue with all possible scenarios;)
I started Salsa as a thing for my gf and I to do (she could already basic step) and because I wanted to not dance like an elderly white hippy at outdoor events. I kept with it and she isn't interested in it. It took a few years to have the full understanding that it is just dancing for me. I don't dance sensually. It would probably make her uncomfortable to see. I did do quite a lot at first, but have tempered it a bit.
I had to get past my severe FOMO issue.
Dump the insecure control freak.!!!
Jalousie is typically a lack of self confidence. If you partner is insecure, it will show when you are dancing with somebody else.
But this will not be exclusive to the dance only, it will sprinkle itself all over your life with them.
What you do from that point on is up to you, but be aware, that it will be present whatever you do.
Interesting conversation about an obvious subject! There's no doubt that in the world of partner dancing there are potential perilous pitfalls. But as Amanda says, it's a question of balance. Going out dancing every night of the week is probably a bit excessive 😂There is no doubt that guys like to dance with attractive women. My view is that the few minutes spent dancing on the dancefloor is a little story, a poem, an imaginary romantic encounter, portrayed by the movement of arms and feet in time to the music. That's it, it's a little fantasy , a story brought to life by actors as if in a film. It sounds as if Bachata is the bad boy danger area. It is a bit more close up and raunchy than salsa!😂 But there you are, it's an awkward subject and a slightly uncomfortable conversation, but we've done it. Nine minutes is however probably better spent talking about and explaining dance moves and techniques!😂
Lack of self confidence or insecurity is something I most certainly do not have but having other guys touch my partner in a way I only want to be touching her is a simple as respect. I trust my partner but how the FUK do i trust every other guy partner that she has , thats impossible. Especially if they’re single . What does every single male have on there mind? thinking it fine , but thinking and touching is just morally wrong , inappropriate & disrespectful . Great video btw guys I hear the dancers mind but struggle so much to respect it. It’s so tricky to navigate. What style , sensual from who’s perspective, what location , what moves, for how long, does sexual orientation change things, the list doesn’t end 🥲
I feel you Tony… my wife and I are in this business for 20 years now… the solution for us to do it healthy is communication and clear boundaries that we both respect;) A women like a man can control the distance of dance;)