FATHER WOUNDS, RELATIONSHIPS + HEALING with Odilakachi (Ep. 80) | Express Yourself Black Man Podcast

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  • In XYBM 80, I talk with Odilakachi who is a Master Life Coach, Therapist, and content creator. We talk about father wounds, how they show up in relationships, raising children, vulnerability, toxic masculinity, how to heal and more.
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  • @Svga0006
    @Svga0006 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    EVERYBODY WANNA BE MUFASA, but don’t NOBODY wanna be responsible of everything the light touches🗣️

    • @kjsmith9043
      @kjsmith9043 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bars 🔥💯

    • @KalanMiller
      @KalanMiller หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I like that. Powerful

  • @artsy21
    @artsy21 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This episode was exceptional, layered, insightful with plenty conversation starters for all sexes. I definitely benefitted from seeing this and was compelled to self reflect how the topics discussed show up in my life and relationships.

    • @ExpressYourselfBlackMan
      @ExpressYourselfBlackMan  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much for watching. I'm really glad you gained value from it!

  • @barakfuller6508
    @barakfuller6508 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I’m a young man 17 yrs of age trying to find comfort in my masculine and feminine energy’s nd just would like to say I appreciate Wht y’all are doing for the community
    Love nd peace my brothas 🙏🏾

    • @Daizy10231023
      @Daizy10231023 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We are proud of you young brutha!

    • @SunseedStarchild
      @SunseedStarchild ปีที่แล้ว

      Keep growing, young brother ❤❤❤

  • @Dvideowatcher4646
    @Dvideowatcher4646 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great topic as my therapist told me that most of the small issues I would bring up to him are based in the love I want from my father

  • @Svga0006
    @Svga0006 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This rlly is helping me accept who my father is too.. time to move forward

  • @backboytman8290
    @backboytman8290 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey I'm doing a podcast as well brother thanks keep grinding

  • @isiah8804
    @isiah8804 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Man I needed to hear all this. The segments that truly touched me was the unwillingness to admit what I’m struggling with off the basis of hyper masculinity, emotionally abusive women and talking so harsh to myself dehumanizing myself

  • @leonvinson7107
    @leonvinson7107 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you so much for being authentic

  • @acmikell6765
    @acmikell6765 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hearing you brothers talk about repeating lines to learn things is SO IMPORTANT, and THAT'S WHY we black man have to watch what we listen to!!
    How many songs PROMOTE hyper- masculinity and are misogynist!?

  • @Tazamisha
    @Tazamisha ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I haven’t had something so layered to unpack. As a mother who has a son… this was a beautiful truth and reality

  • @bryantcoleman4731
    @bryantcoleman4731 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Trucking was considered a man industry, but women are coming ing to this industry at a fast rate, Everything he's saying is the truth how we view muscalinity as men we are making muscalinity toxic.

  • @HeyItsBri
    @HeyItsBri ปีที่แล้ว +2

    @36:04 you made WAY too much sense !!

  • @TheDean6101
    @TheDean6101 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great episode!!!! Lots of Gems 💎

  • @demetriuswilliams3965
    @demetriuswilliams3965 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    being a black man this podcast really opened my eyes to a lot of different perspectives. thank you so much.

  • @michaelwilson9197
    @michaelwilson9197 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This episode will be on repeat because it a lot to process. Too many things are hitting home for me

  • @dopediscussionslive6418
    @dopediscussionslive6418 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This was so good! Being able to admit to yourself that you were hurt by your father's actions or lack thereof is so difficult for a lot of men because they feel like they're betraying masculinity. That's deep.

  • @dr.noaveyarlee
    @dr.noaveyarlee ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I ❤ that you are unapologetically addressing the needs of Black men and their mental health. 🖤That IN 👏🏾IT 🙄SELF 👏🏾is revolutionary!!! So many gems.

  • @jasonrwhitingjr
    @jasonrwhitingjr ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow... by far one of THEE most crtical episodes everyone needs to listen to!

  • @jefradrianstafford1230
    @jefradrianstafford1230 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tic Tok brought me here, I’m truly grateful for the podcast. Thank you so much!

  • @SoundsbyIvory
    @SoundsbyIvory ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m probably going to be running this interview back for the rest of the month because there were so many jewels back to back to back.

  • @_Mochaaxx
    @_Mochaaxx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Not gonna lie me and my pops fell out today. Recently got hooked into the podcast for about a month now. But this episode popped up at just the right time. Really needed that. On my self healing journey. Love the cause and will engage in any way possible

  • @ericanicole81
    @ericanicole81 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm only 25 minutes in and wow! Very deep and insightful conversation for both men and women to be able to self-reflect on. Thank you for this episode 👏🏾

  • @sallyhemings2295
    @sallyhemings2295 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I found your channel via IG…THESE are the conversations that need to be had 🙌🏽If I hear one more black male centric pod cast asking a BW what she brings to the table I think I’ll scream 😂

  • @JEFE310
    @JEFE310 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm a 41 year old man. This episode touched my spirit. I've made some many connections. I ty you brothas

  • @Chef.Darryl
    @Chef.Darryl 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Top notch 👌

  • @lmkeys4success
    @lmkeys4success วันที่ผ่านมา

    Off the rip ! 🔥The conversation is next level, much needed and necessary. We as black men are in a state of emergency ! Time to lean forward.

  • @9inety6ix18
    @9inety6ix18 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Needed this as a young black man. Who knows our mentality and ways are not the best I’m highly invested.

  • @jojo1234587
    @jojo1234587 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brothers you guys are helping a lot of guys like myself heal from wounds of not having a father and dealing with the lack of male guidance now

  • @sheraudj
    @sheraudj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Gents.. this was much needed. I appreciate y’all peeling back the layers, especially with Father wounds. I couldn’t stop sharing this video🙏🏽

  • @mom-and-son
    @mom-and-son ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have NO WORDS for this episode!!! I can’t put enough 💯 and 🔥 emojis on this!!! When he was talking about anime!!!! DONE!!!! 🤯

  • @ETx03
    @ETx03 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was my first listen and I’m walking around mind blown and realizing how much I related to this and how I view not only myself but my relationships past & future wise

  • @MichaelBrown-xk7pc
    @MichaelBrown-xk7pc 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It is a must to have every black man to listen and learn. I’ve went through a lot of what was discussed but really didn’t understand why I was going through it. Lift up every black man. Love my brothers!!!

  • @rhyland1178
    @rhyland1178 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm only 28 mins in and already there have been so, so, so many jewels dropped. This is definitely what I needed. "Life is kicking my ass!"

  • @rib_bear2492
    @rib_bear2492 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i shed actual tears watching this episode thankyou..

  • @SauceBelfort
    @SauceBelfort 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had to come back to this video before spinning the block 😂😂😂 blessing to brotha Odi

  • @mrich7363
    @mrich7363 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this tremendously i share to all my brothers and black friends, because I know a lot of them don’t speak out . But I love this . I have seen so many of me and what I hold back in my life . I AM GOOD , no I am not always good when I say . But I know now why I say . Love it . Bless you guys

  • @briasutopia
    @briasutopia หลายเดือนก่อน

    Definitely coming back to tune into this‼️

  • @shomoboyce3711
    @shomoboyce3711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    38:55 the way you put this my guy, Jesus it really be that simple sometimes, it was funny how you delivered it but the impact of the message hit like a meteor.

  • @alexcruzdrums
    @alexcruzdrums ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Powerful conversation. I'm glad I came across yall today 🙏🏽 thank you 🧠🫡

  • @rickywilliams9176
    @rickywilliams9176 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This episode got me. This hit so hard right here im damn near 😢 maaaan!!!!!!

  • @jgalore345
    @jgalore345 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve already shared the video six times! Gems Gems 💎

  • @acmikell6765
    @acmikell6765 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    57:17 = TH-cam short video!!!!!

  • @Awe_InMyHead24
    @Awe_InMyHead24 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s sad because we treat men like they not even human and they treat themselves the same way.

  • @blazerstimul8
    @blazerstimul8 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is the softness masculine posturing man I ever seen

  • @EDubb91
    @EDubb91 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    30:12 - 30:41 thats a deep realization there!

  • @RodrecasDavis
    @RodrecasDavis 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    👏🏾

  • @1youngmarvelous
    @1youngmarvelous หลายเดือนก่อน

    🔥

  • @itoshii12345
    @itoshii12345 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I believe in spirital self and lesrning about healing for sure. As a women i want to really feel more close to my husband and try my best to give him peace too and for my kids. 😢😢

    • @acmikell6765
      @acmikell6765 ปีที่แล้ว

      So glad to see a woman say that about her husband and children! Props to you!🙏🏽

  • @KOFIO4E
    @KOFIO4E 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @isaiahector3375
    @isaiahector3375 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I appreciate this video right on time

  • @dominiqueward1059
    @dominiqueward1059 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent episode!!

  • @IamLevi144
    @IamLevi144 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Definitely a solid interview. Taught me that my girl be trying to emotionally manipulate me when I bring issues to her. I’ll feel some way about something, and she’ll start talking about how it made her feel. Appreciate you brothers.

    • @munix9351
      @munix9351 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's not a bad thing. But she needs to acknowledge what you said and navigate your thoughts. But then it's okay that you are aware of how your words impact her.

  • @holidaystate7092
    @holidaystate7092 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ngl professor odi is extremely smart I learned a lot just from listening 💪

  • @blieuprintcatvonbee
    @blieuprintcatvonbee 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving this content!!!

  • @joshuamatthew523
    @joshuamatthew523 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautifully executed talk

  • @EDubb91
    @EDubb91 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    13:46 - 14:04 MMM!

  • @ChristophRo95
    @ChristophRo95 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mans was Hip Hopping though the conversation with all the BARS he was dropping! 👏🏾

  • @jujubeatz3006
    @jujubeatz3006 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This episode has changed my life and It definitely made me want finally do the work to heal thank you 🙏🏽 I just discovered this podcast a few days ago and I’m sold

  • @randymelendeznbbb1543
    @randymelendeznbbb1543 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think y'all confusing Pride, Ego, and Denial with so called "Toxic Masculinity"😂😂....feminism & LGBTQ coined the phrase "Toxic Masculinity" to shame & gaslight men.

  • @Amberxclusive
    @Amberxclusive ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @LIFEOFHOLLI
    @LIFEOFHOLLI ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @Svga0006
    @Svga0006 ปีที่แล้ว

    #leaveher

  • @bostic3
    @bostic3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I could come on your show an talk about these father truma wounds

  • @KemeticVisuals
    @KemeticVisuals ปีที่แล้ว

    LOVE THIS!!!

  • @lovelay1660
    @lovelay1660 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this episode a lot of things y’all touched on I see in black men around me

  • @michaelwilson9197
    @michaelwilson9197 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    20 mins in and this podcast is golden

  • @Douglasvideos25
    @Douglasvideos25 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video was right on time for me. i seen that it was posted weeks ago but didnt listen. Just went through a repeating situation with my father and these words came right when i needed them. Ihave to learn how to allow him to be him and not try and find the healing through him.

  • @kdrickSportzHustLE
    @kdrickSportzHustLE ปีที่แล้ว

    A powerful 01:14:00 segment that my brother sent to me. So many jewels were dropped in this segment and so much I can relate to. You bruthas are appreciated and thank you for this segment. A new subscriber gained. Peace and Blessings to you bruthas. 🙏🏿🙏🏿👊🏿👊🏿

  • @SekondSun
    @SekondSun ปีที่แล้ว

    POWERFUL session 💪🏾 PEACE Love and Light GodBody☝🏾

  • @ekelly120
    @ekelly120 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love Odi and Love the platform bro! Definitely inspires me and helps me be intentional along my journey. Messing with EYBM, my emotional toolkit is getting deep! 😂
    Seriously though, this is the episode I was the most excited for and it definitely exceeded every expectation 🖤

  • @patrickmalanda5717
    @patrickmalanda5717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have never heard toxic masculinity be explained this way, most of what we here is how masculinity in itself is bad.
    thanks for this Proff really appreciate it

  • @introverted_pickle00
    @introverted_pickle00 ปีที่แล้ว

    My new favorite podcast. Love the brotha Odi and the wisdom he dropped!!

  • @acmikell6765
    @acmikell6765 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    11:45 in this video so many gems dropped!!

  • @terrellwilliams8712
    @terrellwilliams8712 ปีที่แล้ว

    Powerful conversation!!!

  • @TywanBell
    @TywanBell 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This episode is refreshing to see other black men in the community openly expressing their emotions without being judged and showing emotional intelligence on many levels. And the best part is knowing the intentions behind it. Keep and continue helping the black community Brotherman💯

  • @jayremy7567
    @jayremy7567 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mind blowing stuff. Phenomenal.

  • @histakes12
    @histakes12 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful. Thank you. 🤝🏾

  • @anthonyreeves5248
    @anthonyreeves5248 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bro this is the shit man this is fire. man this is so true. compassion is the key for ourselves and then it will ripple out into all relationships

  • @bakaribradford
    @bakaribradford ปีที่แล้ว

    Man how can I have a mentors like him in my life I’m damn near brought to tears 😢

  • @BoxersDelite
    @BoxersDelite ปีที่แล้ว

    great pod. heavy heavy shit. here from tiktok

  • @jaedenwoods8710
    @jaedenwoods8710 ปีที่แล้ว

    Prolly my favorite podcast out rn bro

  • @904DuvalRaised
    @904DuvalRaised ปีที่แล้ว

    Love brothers ! Good video y’all boys !

  • @LD-cj4on
    @LD-cj4on 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I hope that we as black men enter a space to be able to receive this.

  • @antoniojenkins7352
    @antoniojenkins7352 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is powerful💪🏾

  • @jasonedmead4594
    @jasonedmead4594 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing conversation!

  • @DaKidKueso
    @DaKidKueso ปีที่แล้ว

    ✊🏾❤️

  • @Prxfetx
    @Prxfetx ปีที่แล้ว

    Had to pause this a couple times sheesh

  • @bendndj2845
    @bendndj2845 ปีที่แล้ว

    DR UMAR SON

  • @k.nobody
    @k.nobody ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely love it

  • @stetsonhonaker20
    @stetsonhonaker20 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful work

  • @TyroneBerry95
    @TyroneBerry95 ปีที่แล้ว

    YALL HAVE TO STOP WITH THE IN-VIDEO ADS!!! PPL LIKE MYSELF PAY NOT TO HAVE ADS. AUTOMATIC NEGATIVE OPINION ABOUT YOUR CONTENT