I HAD TO GET THIS OFF MY CHEST (emotional)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.ย. 2024
- I needed to get this off my chest. This being a little dive into what I've been navigating this year and what is to come. Thank you to those of you who have reached out asking for videos and encouraging me to get to creating content. You all have been the fuel to my come back fire. Thank you for being here.
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Jannelle, every time someone who is viewed as "together" brings their story of abuse or disfunction public, it helps educate the public of how far-reaching these issues are and how they can affect anyone. I so applaud your honesty and willingness to reveal who you are, and how far you have come! You keep doing what you're doing!!
I cut contact with my mother a decade ago and I started CGM a week ago. I used to think that people who care about their hair are shallow and superficial, now I see that learning about your hair is learning about your body and it also forms community. I LOVE your videos - you've taught me so much, you've made me laugh, and you've made me believe that I can enjoy my hair as a kind of self-care. THANK YOU! You keep being awesome and have a wonderful New Year!
K K really good points about hair care being self-care and also self-love, i agree
KK My mother used my hair as a weapon against me. Its awful. She was intentionally abusive, not just did what was modeled. Shes awful. We all need to realise percwption is evertyhing and a little room granted to others costs nothing.
Oh Jannelle. Those adverse childhood events change everything. I’m a survivor also of similar. I’m glad you are addressing this at your age instead of waiting until you are of retirement age. I’m glad you are taking up space in this world. Love you and your curly hair, Girlfriend, and I know you don’t know me but I’m totally on your side.
Wow so glad I found you today , I have CPTSD , I've felt w this trauma my entire life it is a huge part of who we are your absolutely right thank you for being so transparent and open 💜
Girl we are behind you 100%. You bring so much to us and we can’t wait for all you new content. Stay strong and keep being the special person you are.
Thank you for sharing I know it wasn’t easy. You are a strong woman, and I know you will get thru this. I do hope you and your mom will be able to work through this together. If I was in jersey I would give you a big hug.
You are brave, you are smart, you are amazing! You GO GIRL!
Your expertise with curls made me interested, and your vulnerability and authenticity made me subscribe. I'm disabled from CPTSD; thank you so much for making this video.
This resonated with me so damn much. This year revolved around the same growth for myself as well. How childhood trauma has effects me, what triggers me, how has it held me back, how can I change it. I’ll be 34 on Saturday and it took this damn LONG to unpack that box
I was wondering where & how you were. Keep on keeping on, you're not alone in your journey! It's definitely worth it on the other side! Go Jannelle!!
Thank you for sharing. It helps to know that others are experiencing a lot of internal angst which may not seem apparent on the outside. Going through some tough times myself and this is a reminder that I've got to work on it daily as much as hiding away is first instinct. Hugs to you, you rock!!
Thank you for your raw honesty, Janelle. If more people shared these traumas, others would see that they are not alone. Thank you for everything you do for us curly girls, but also thank you for just being you. We love you! P xxxx
Taking personal time is so important. Glad you have found some healing and excited to see the content you put out next!
You are beautiful inside and out. I discovered you when I was researching how to do an apple cider vinegar rinse during my quarantine, and then discovered you did video tutorials on curly hair. I enjoyed and have watched some over and over as I try to wear my natural curly hair (have been straightening it for decades). I'm a long way from getting it to look as beautiful as yours, but I appreciate you so much. I have thought " I wish I could know Janelle in a personal friend way ".. Thank you for letting us get to know you... You have helped me so much! You've got 2020!!
I'm so happy that you're working on overcoming this heaviness. Thank you for sharing this. Wishing you a wonderful, empowering 2020!
Congratulations Jannelle for finding your worth, I find this video very inspiring and hope you find all your happiness that you are sooo deserving of...please take care of yourself...air hugs and prayers!
I hope you know how beautiful this is???? we may never meet ... But I love you!!! I see you sister and I feel you...and I love you for making me feel less alone by opening yourself up.
I am so glad to see you back. I have really missed your videos. Even these deep ones. I love you because you are so real. I know where you are coming from with your past. I grew up in a home where I was physically and mentally abused as a child and after watching this video It made me realize that even though I am now a few months from 50, I am still living life as that little girl which is not healthy. Thank you for helping me to realize that I need to address this and begin a mentally healthier life. Can't wait for your next video.
So happy for you that all your extremely hard emotional and spiritual work is now reaping dividends. I can't wait to see what the future brings for you, Daniel and your family xxx
Hi Jannelle!! I just wanted to tell you how wonderful you are! You are the very first curly hair video that I watched and subscribed too. Truth!! Your videos are so fun and I learned so much! Just this evening I was driving to work thinking about my hair and how many years I had fought against it and not appreciated it. From there I realized how much I tear myself down whether it be with my looks, my weight, my intelligence, etc. Realizing I have always been super hard on myself...all that from thinking about my hair! Lol! Now that I know how it works I love my hair...next onto learning to love more of the rest of myself! Thank you for opening up about what you are going through. Girl I love your videos can’t wait for more! Hugs from Abbi ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm a curly girl too. I recently had to put all family in the past. It was freeing, for the first time I had no saddness for the Christmas or in general. All the expectations of family have been put to rest. I applaud your bravery!
I just adore you❤️ I have loved watching your self love journey and it has helped me so much with my own. You are truly one of a kind
So proud of you Jannelle!! Here’s to 2020 being the start of your new beginning! I look forward to watching you grow in your truth and your spirit become free. Happy New Year! 🎆🎊✌🏻😘
I am enjoying your videos. I came to your channel about a week ago. Your soft spoken voice is welcome. Looks like you're pretty new to TH-cam and you two are doing great.
I struggle with very very similar issues. Domestic violence at a young age caused alot of mental things for me as well especially being 21 now. Stay positive girl I'm praying for you 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I love that you're sharing this truth that so many struggle with and learn to put on a shelf to "move on" with their lives. Though you can never just "move on". As you spoke of, it impacts you're life going forward... until you're able to do the deep healing necessary. I'm so glad you decided to connect back to the deeper healing you need and deserve. I am a childhood trauma therapist and survivor with some videos here on youtube you (or some of your viewers may find helpful). Thank you again for your courage in sharing your truth.
Janelle, I'm so happy for you that you sorted this out for yourself at a young age. Despite knowing something was very wrong with my upbringing and seeking help for decades, I was 55 when the curtain parted for me and I finally understood the damage I'd survived. Be gentle with yourself and keep your chin up as you continue your healing. Be well!
Thank you for sharing this, Jannelle! Here’s to the new decade! 💕
I have not finished this video yet because we’re getting ready to bring in the new year. I am aware of your childhood and stand behind you 100%. You are strong and courageous and deserve only the best. Will catch the rest in a bit...I love you, Jannelle
Sharing your story to the world shows how much you have grown and have started the healing process. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story that is helping so manny others that have gone, if not going through the same situation! Your act is so selfless and so healing for others. Thank you!
We love you Janelle. Thank you for sharing, and know that by doing this you’re empowering others. You’re empowering me. ♥️
Literally here diffusing these curls. Head upside down. I just followed u on IG the other day. I haven't even watched this yet. But i never knew you had experienced so much until i saw your IG posts. I think its great that you are finally making videos about it!! I too saw my dad deal with alcohol and he beat my mom when drinking!!! I had SEVERE anxiety to where i didn't want to go to sleep in fear of the devil coming to get me!! This is at age 7!! My mom finally left when i was in 7th grade. She took to drugs! There is so much more but this video is about you and i just want to thank you for sharing!! I am 33 and still having to heal from sooo much! I am distancing myself from all negativity i believe we have been through enough. You can love from afar. 2020 we can do this!! Jannelle you are amazing
Happy to see your face. Your videos helped me on my personal hair journey but your personality and your overall life has kept me part of your channel. So glad you took a little time to get everything together. Your childhood was very similar to mine so your story seriously resonated with me. I totally get it all and long story short, i'm SO happy you and your mom are having your time. Its never too late. Bad or good, it needs to come out. It took 4 years after a massive fight and of non contact with my mom and my husband literally coaching us back together for us to find our way. Anyway, I cant wait to see what 2020 brings for you!
As I'm watching I'm crying with you! Such an awful feeling! Your perception IS your reality! Your feelings are soooo valid and matter. I really hope all of these things come to a beautiful place for you.
You are so beautiful inside and out. I am so glad that I have found your channel! Thank you for being so open and so raw with your emotions. You are such a light in this world!
As a survivor myself, I applaud you. It is not easy to own our own truth, sometimes. I'm still learning. It has such far reaching tentacles into all aspects of life. I applaud you for sharing and hope that you continue to share. This will help so many. May God bless you on this journey.
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I have been struggling with self doubt, self hate, lack of self compassion. I can't tell you how much of a gift this is for me; this video confession. I admire you so much and I may be thinking "i wish i was as pretty as her" or "I wish i had a boyfriend as supportive as her's" or "i wish i was as together as her". This video makes me feel less alone / less of a bad person. My heart is with you when you talk about the downward spiral and getting cut up by internet trolls. The internet can be hateful and hate hurts. Thank you so much for this. I have *really been struggling and this give me some strength
I’m proud of you, take care of you and be the change agent in your own life. I’ve been going through this same journey this year and can’t wait to see you grow!
I love that you shared this. I witnessed a lot of domestic violence as a child as well and it has greatly effected my relationship with my mother. I completely understand where you are coming from.
I'm really enjoying your channel. Thank you for sharing this and being vulnerable to your audience, I appreciate your bravery.
But WOW watching this now at the end of October in 2020...you were so optimistic for this year and who knew there would be a global pandemic to deal with! I hope this year has brought you more healing and self love, despite the state of the world right now.
Been wondering where you've been! It takes balls to put yr real self & struggles out here, glad you've made it this far. I spent much of my 30's recovering from some of the same- plus some, as u always say. Now at 62, I don't sweat much of what I used to. I went from 30 to 60 way too fast, do inly what brings you joy, let the rest go. Life is short. Have a great New Year & new start, Janelle. I was so happy to see your name pop up!
Thank you for sharing! Don't let the trolls get you down. Your videos have been excellent and your willingness to share personal and very emotional struggles is truly inspiring. You are enough and don't let anyone convince you otherwise!!!
Just have to comment and say that I also come from a home with domestic violence, and I too have been trying my very best to do the inner work to heal these wounds so that I can move forward with my life in a healthier way, and holy shit is it difficult. The deeper I go, the scarier it all seems. It’s so reassuring to see that someone else is doing the hard work too. I’m so looking forward to your future content, it’s exactly what I need right now. Thanks for being vulnerable, I see you and I hear you and I relate.
We (people who choose to heal themselves and better their lives to be at peace) blame ourselves when families are in denial
I applaud you for working on yourself. Sometimes it’s very hard to let go of the family of origin baggage. I’m still trying to do this. Happy New Year 🎊
Jannelle, as I am reading through these comments I realized how many of us have experienced trauma and how many of us think we are alone or are ashamed of how it affects us. The fact that most of us decide to hide is heartbreaking. I am so happy that you are taking control of your life and bringing light to this topic. I love watching you and I cannot wait to see what 2020 has in store for you and the rest of your curly girls!
Oh, Jannelle. I'm crying right along with you (been there, too). I see you. Holding space and sending love.
hey janelle, thank you for sharing! same story here. the pain is on the one side individual with different forms and shapes but on the other side we all feel the same pain:) i'm currently also processing my narcisstic abuse in the past. the topic "narcisstic abuse", "cluster b type" really helped me to understand what happened and moreover, to protect myself now. i highly recommend to watch some (youtube)videos on that topic. the ground base for every kind of violence is a narcisstic disorder. this information really saved my life (literally). everybody suffering any kind of violence should know about that, so we can escape this horrible, vicious circle. thank you so much for all curly and non curly videos and feel huged from germany :)
Janelle, you have given me goosebumps. You are a brave soul and I applaud your courage. Shine on.
You are an amazing beautiful wonderful person! Praying for your peace. It’s hard to find when you grew up like that. I think it’s a never ending journey of growth. Thank you for helping me with my curls. 💗
On a day where I'm questioning everything again and again and I'm all in my head I am glad I've watched ur video! I get excited for ur journey and I am looking forward to this content❤️
It is so important to process, understand and come to terms with the past. Once that journey it's left where it belongs, life takes a completely different path. It becomes about you, it becomes about what you want, need and deserve. It opens a new chapter that only you get to write. I wish you insight and the happiness that comes with the gift of forgiveness 💕🙏
You are So brave sharing this!!
You are so brave, Janelle! Best wishes to you for 2020 💕
Dont ever ever ever let someone elses choice in the past define you in the presens. Live your life to the fullest, dont juse your life thinking about the past or worrying about the future. LIFE IS NOW💕💕💕not knowing you at all, you seem like a very sweet person😘😘
Thank you, Jannelle for sharing your truth. I've missed you but also believe that people deserve personal space and breaks. I'd check your page occasionally in case I failed to get notification of a new video. I believe you are smart, thoughtful, beautiful, caring and generous with your expertise and humor, You are not only good enough, you're better than. Stay on your path to healing and happiness and know we're here for you.
You really have a great energy about you. I just watched one of your curly styling vids..the Denman brush one, where you tried it for the first time, and I felt a real light coming from you.
Wonderful compliment to receive, thank you ❤️ 🥰
thank you for sharing. I love your channel because you can tell you are such a gunuine person. Thank you for letting us get to know you better
You are so worthy and brave! 💖
Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal video. I think everyone struggles with their issues and well done to you for working through them. It's certainly not the easy choice but I know you can do this and get to where you want and need to be. I wish you could see yourself the way I and the rest of your followers see you! YOU are the reason I have stuck with my curly hair routine. I was ready to give it up and go get it straightened again and then I saw one of your videos and then I watched another and another, etc. Now, although I still have a loooong way to go before my hair will ever look as good as yours, I'm getting there and you are my inspiration! Not only because of how great your hair looks but because of you.
You take all the time you need and when you are ready, we'll be here waiting for those amazing videos! Be kind to yourself. I wish you a new year filled with happiness, love and fulfillment!
thank you so much for your brave and vulnerable share, jannelle. what a year this has been for you! i can relate to a lot of what you've been thru, and i think you're amazing. i look forward to your 2020 videos, both the curly ones, and the personal journey ones. you are worthy, you are doing great things, and you're making a positive difference in the world.
2019 was my year in the trenches too. Unravelling years of abuse is one thing, but unravelling years of survival tactics is quite another. Trying to create healthy relationships with people who abused you or were deeply codependant is so challenging, especially when you know you'd be well within your rights to just leave.
This video helped me a lot. I was already in awe of your good vibes, this just makes me respect you more.
I needed to hear this so much! Thank you for sharing. I have a similar backstory of abuse and fear and survival. It's so very hard to thrive and prosper w so much weighing down my mind. Your story gives me hope.
Happy New Year. We are all imperfect beings who have our own struggles. You are confronting your demons and gaining strength over them. You can be proud of that. I wish you strength, I wish you peace, I wish you joy.
This SO hit home. Thank you for sharing. You are loved.
You are the daughter of The King who is not moved by the world, for your God is with you and goes before you. You do not fear because you are HIS.
Jannelle, you are the daughter of The King. It's 2020 and it's time to put on your crown. ❤👑
You cannot know how much I relate. God bless you and your journey.
Sending you positivity and boy do I hear you about so much of what you shared with your struggles. Here's to a new year and new decade!
Dear Jannelle! Best of luck on your healing journey!🙂
I just found you today, and I relate so much to this video. Life is hard and family struggles are the absolute hardest.
I'm excited for your 2020, Jannelle. Thank you for sharing your truth with us. I have your curly tutorials spinning around in my head every time I give my curls any attention. You are giving so much of yourself, and some people feed on that vulnerability like vampires feed on blood. Keep on keeping on, and always have your garlic and stake at the ready! Cheers! 🥂👏👏👏
Jannelle,
I’m so glad you have focused on self care and that you are healing. You truly are inspiring.
Selfishly I’m also glad you are ready for your future because I’ve missed your presence on social media
You are such a lovely girl. I feel for you. I just wanted to give you a big hug! You are doing the right thing dealing with it now while you are young. Stay strong love from the UK x
Oh wow, I had no idea your journey was so very similar to mine! Not just the domestic violence during your childhood, but the self discovery and hard work to process and complete all the different threads of trauma. You'll probably never see this message, but I'm so lifted that there's someone else out there on a so similar journey to me. I never give up and I continue to work hard on myself, but it's really hard. Therapy and EMDR has helped me process the traumatic events, but like you say, unravelling the way it's impacted my thinking, relationships, fears etc etc, that's where I'm at and it's maybe the hardest part. The traumas were across years,.. So the way I think and feel about myself is entrenched. Anyway, wishing you a Happy 2020✨
We're proud of you! Don't give up! You deserve happiness sweety! ❤
Loved this video, I watched you for the hair content but I can't wait to see what else you're planning. It's inspiring to see someone be themselves. Keep up the good work!
I have been following you on TH-cam and Instagram, and I can see your progress. Thank you for sharing and opening up about trauma because it helped me see my own.
I don't think I grew up in a domestic violent household but my parents did have blowups where my dad would throw things and the ones in the last 5 years got physical (by then I was a young adult). My relationship with my mother is similar to yours (living close by but no contact). I'm learning to live a normal life and it is awkward between us. I found that if I do not contact her she will not contact to me even though deep down she wanted to. I wish our journeys all the best as we work on improving, loving, and accepting ourselves.
I can relate to domestic violence I grew up in that environment and then later married and experienced domestic violence myself. I isolated myself from family and friends and struggle with mentally not letting go of it all. I wish you healing and moving forward into 2020.
Thank you for sharing. I LOVE watching your videos and am excited to hear there’ll be more. But, I’m even happier to hear you’re taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do to get and stay healthy.
Thank you. You are so brave! Sending encouragement and prayers to you ❤
Thank you for sharing. I think I'm not alone when I say I'm proud of you! Happy New Year!
Thank you. Just know that you’re beautiful, oh-so-knowledgeable, and powerful. I learn so much from you. And I’m looking forward to what comes next.
I enjoy you as well as your content. I look forward to getting to know you and not just your hair!
I love this and you !! I loved when you said you're ready to step into your power. So many amazing things are coming your way!
I LOVE the connection of your soul and your hair! Keep working on yourself! I am doing that too!
I’m so glad you made a video
frenchie girl in the usa thank you!!! Me too!!
Thank you for bravely sharing your story with us. 💗
Hello Jannelle, I hope you're doing well. My name is Angela. I am new to your channel. Thank you so much for sharing. Happy New Year !
Thank you for being an inspiration to move forward. I also want to leave some things behind in 2019 and move forward into 2020. God bless you!
Love you sweetheart. Hoping that 2020 brings you immense peace, joy, and happiness. We.ve got your back curl-friend.
Also i have 2 children. I wish i would have healed before having them. You never know how much children pick up on your own flaws. Like social anxiety!! My daughter was just diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Exactly what i have always experienced. Its like, " Ok i can deal with this but not my children!" Then i went on to say maybe if i would have healed myself earlier she wouldn't have seen me struggle with certain things! It's like you can't just move on without healing. I never knew until this last year that it affects every single aspect of your life 😥😥
Tough stuff, dealing with domestic abuse through family relationships. Especially with our mamas in the aftermath. We tend to place them on a pedestal to both elevate them and to protect them, but when they fall off, they tend to break most of the bones in their body. Hang tight Jannelle.
The funny thing about Irish families:
We are either silent and keeping secrets or we are as loud as fuck.
I hope you find out (realize) how strong your legs are...and I hope you feel supported by people who love you on the days when they feel weak. Thank you for talking, for being vulnerable, for being brave, and for being Jannelle!
Beautiful share!! I am so happy for you and proud of you!! Sending you a big hug 🤗♥️👏👏👏
I don’t have many favorite people but I think you are kind of starting to be one of them XOXO
I'm honored. 💜
Thanks for sharing, God bless ya' & you're precious!
You're such an inspiration!!! 🥰
Boundaries are hard.
....yet necessary.. And *so* freeing when you find that balance! :D
Thank you this has helped me 🙏
So sorry to hear about your past.. I have a very similar story myself and its one I've only just realised affects me now..
However, it sounds like you have experienced maybe a kundalini moment?.. Look it up see what you think..
Here's to moving forward positively 💕
Wow! I'm now going through the same thing with my sister that you went through with your mom!
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I am working on this stuff w therapy also.. but how did you get to the place where you felt worthy?? Im so stuck in that.
I still struggle with imposter syndrome sometimes... It just takes time and a lot of self validation. Validating my feelings, validating my experiences, validating my talents, who i am etc.