Divorce Helped Me, I Won't Marry Again. My Ex-Husband Was Deported, I Brought Him To The UK, But...
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I was telling someone this, most African/ Ghanaian women are not in-love with their spouse. they are only in a relationship because the man can take care of them financially. So ones they start making money on their own, they start realizing the don’t love the men. Women everywhere should financially independent first and marry someone you love. Your husband is not your bank.
I always tell people that, the western world system is built for couples. Life will be so much easier if You get a partner who is hard working, focused and a team player. Once You found a good partner, stick with the person and build the life together.
the secret they fail to comprehend… and all for a bit of selfish gains hmm
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@kwesi I totally agree with you
At least she was honest except the part she said western women don't like money😂😂. Even if she makes money she would still want her husband to make more and pay all bills, otherwise that husband will be in hell and later thrown into trash. The woman will regret it when she gets older and can't do all that work she is doing now. That passing through will end at around 50 going. She would be lonely and depressed. Unless she relocates or have businesses that can fetch her enough money
He was 25 and dating a 16 year old. That was child sexual abuse, that is not a light matter and can make a mother unsupportive. I believe you will not let your 16 year old date a 25 year old, culture aside.
Yes, 9years intervals.
Especially when the man is older than you, is a big problem
She is speaking the truth papa. The system here will destroy your relationship cause some men think they don’t have to take care of the kids because the system does.. n some women feel they can be disrespectful because they don’t need men. but I’m happy this sis choose her peace over anything, that’s very important.
The most brilliant woman I’ve seen on this internet so far . Very positive fr
That’s the behaviour of Ghanaian man 👨you are not allowed to say anything when they are marry to them is killing us,
She's very pretty. Life throws a lot of things at you but depends on how you deal with it.
This woman is lovely she always smile in her difficulties.God will help you look after your children and achieve your aims.
She try and speak good twi even though she is netherland born
Some of our Ghanaian men are threatened by their partner’s education or success. She is telling the truth cos the same thing happened to my sister. They become so insecure.
At least she was honest except the part she said western women don't like money😂😂. Even if she makes money she would still want her husband to make more and pay all bills, otherwise that husband will be in hell and later thrown into trash. Her husband wasn't threatened. He saw changes in how she treated him after she had higher education. The woman will regret it when she gets older and can't do all that work she is doing now. That passing through will end at around 50 going. She would be lonely and depressed. Unless she relocates or have businesses that can fetch her enough money
This lady is very intelligent. I have taken a few points of advice from her especially the aspect of the kids' relationship with their father, I am quite guilty of that. Thanks
Always they try to play victim when things doesn't go on well, every story has two sides.
Yeah bro untill we hear the guys side of the story we can’t judge
She is beautiful and I think this woman is very good in person. She is simple paaa. Where can we find such a lady la !!!
My sister, I am also from kwahu, Atibie and mpreaso I come from. Kumasi people and kwahu marriages never succeed. Myself is a witness and I ve seen many, many, more. We are like ghana and Nigeria, kumasi people never appreciate us they always want to use us to succeed bcos if our kindness and dump us, yr parents should ve told this history.
What a stupid and archaic analogy is that? Only illiterates with no class have such crude mentality...
She is very kind and polite
DJ Nyame you're just funny "passing through". This lady is real and she has spoken very well.
That guy was just in for the papers, this is a good lesson for everybody. its only 1 in 99 cases where different worlds work especially when one party has no advanced educational background
Women also do same, stop blaming the man.
even if it was for the papers, i will say he did well for being with her for 18 years and having kids together. some people leave as soon as the paper drops.
@@elijahtk3893stop it. She was a child. 16 years... the guy is lucky the lady mom didn't call police on him. I'm from Amsterdam too and he could have been in big trouble. Why can't we condemn what is wrong. A 16 year old and someone 9 years older
It wasn't papers biaa. Once you leave they want to use ridiculous reasons to gain sympathy. It wasn't insecurity too. He was setting boundaries of how her character start changing after she went to school. At least she was honest except the part she said western women don't like money😂😂. Even if she makes money she would still want her husband to make more and pay all bills, otherwise that husband will be in hell and later thrown into trash. Her husband wasn't threatened. He saw changes in how she treated him after she had higher education, so he had to stamp his authority or leave. If a married woman start to wear clothes that will attract men it means she wanted attention from other men for confidence, and she had left the marriage in her head. The woman will regret it when she gets older and can't do all that work she is doing now. That passing through will end at around 50 going. She would be lonely and depressed. Unless she relocates or have businesses that can fetch her enough money.
If he was in for papers he will have made her to get Holland papers...
She is just down to earth and I love her for being happy having her children with a man and being a hard working mum for her kids
Stay blessed and happy,much love
One thing I like about foreigners
Dey mention thier age with ease kraa
But bibini 😂😂😂
@@ralph_elikemis she not bibiniii😅
@@user-yv5eh6bt3v
I didn’t say she’s white oo
“Foreigner” she grew with their system
Not de bibini system
My dear i am proud of you 🎉
He became insecure about her levelling up and couldn't handle the new her.
Hi achiaa hope u doing great
I wonder why it's always a problem when a woman starts levelling up. No matter how she still respects her man, some will still have an issue with it.
@@maraaba6734 because most Ghanaian men have nothing to offer in marriages except money,so when a woman makes her own money and can look after herself,there's no use for him in his eyes,this creates insecurities within them,they struggle to come to terms with it and start trying to sabotage the woman or the relationship, because they feel "useless" and want control to boost their male ego.
In all things, I cannot judge the matter until we hear the man's side of the story.
The upbringing does play in as much as communication and money issues.
This woman is so beautiful just look at her having 4 kids but Charlie beautiful
I can't judge unless I hear from the man side too, but all the same divorced with 4 children is sad.
You very clever, you don’t judge like that
But still its OK to speak the truth... a 16 year old girl how. He knew what he was doing and looking for. Why not wait our her to be 18 to date her... he was 9 years older than her... and she was 16
Komot for there
Simple issue of submission is now blamed on communication. What communication do. It always good to listent to both sides
I want to make a point
1. A woman who was born in the western world or grow up in the western world they culture are totally different
2. Any man who is leaving in Ghana 🇬🇭 who wants to marry Any type search woman 👩 know that it’s not gonna easy for you
3, don’t just jump inn because you want to travel 🧳 and don’t think she’s a Ghanaian the culture it’s different all together
Keep playing. A Ghanaian woman will change that same day she steps here
Right, cultural clash is a problem, but communication and respect would solve most of the problems.
Have you not met any woman born is Ghana but portrays herself as a westerner before? These western shows and music videos being shown on Ghana TV has make a very big impacts on Ghanaian women than those living in the western world. Girls in Ghana especially educated ones has adapted to western cultures before they even travel abroad. So yeah, upbringing can play a part but it’s all about individual preferences. Most mothers do their best to train the girls very well as cultures demands but education is training them differently.
It's the system that can easily change any traditional woman or man...
Hmm yeah you are right my sister I don't usually hear most people born here get divorce much.God will help you and take of you and your children. That's a lot of love and sacrifice.
I think the lady is sending a message that you have left but we have survived and we are surviving and we can live without you.
In short we are better off without you
marriages dont last with or without papers. people just get tired and want to explore.
You just spoke the hard truth
Ahhh how can be staying with someone for good 16 years and still thinking he won’t help you because he got no nkrataa
She dated under 16 years base on statistics giving on her children's age.
The UK systems gives freedom to everybody. If you want to be great you can be great. In think in her case, the man was insecure the woman is moving in a better class and he probably felt he can’t improve himself to match up to her.
This is one of the reasons why those brought up in higher class, better financial situation and wealth don’t want to marry lower grade (financial, social, mental and beliefs) individuals.
Another problem in her marriage was he 25 (9+16) year old man be with an underage lady. Most of such guys want to weave her from family so that they can control her mind and make her servant. It was right for her family not to allow their relationship on the onset. A full blown adult of 25 years should not be allowed to have relations with an underage girl. It’s simply illegal.
If she had gone to university to develop herself I’m pretty sure her choice of man would be someone with better education and career prospects.
One last advice, if you migrate from Ghana, please try your best to adjust mentality and UNLEARN and LEARN. If not please move back home to Ghana.
Example, women abroad do not succumb to abuse (emotional, financial, verbal). In a developed world women are empowered (financially) so when a man talks, the woman would also talk.
The best way to live in a successful marriage is to live in truthfulness, honesty, transparency and love. If you can’t love and respect a woman please don’t marry in a developed world. Marriage is partnership. No woman would submit to a man who doesn’t respect and love her.
PS, if you disagree, please express yourself politely and type your opinion below.
God bless you 🙏 ❤️ 🙌
Well said but you have not heard the man's side of the story so don't rush to judgment tagging him as insecure.
@@billyboss6465Ikr! The rush to judgement by some people with respect to marriage issues is mind boggling. The principle of natural law allow both sides to be heard. That's why there is a statement that: " Getting to court first doesn't guarantee win"
You nailed it on your last paragraph
Onua piawww
God bless you
Marrying older men is a big red flag. They treat you like a kid
One major thing about the show is,we don't know the other side of the story ooo. Women always have a way of telling their stories to suit them. I am not saying people have been making up issues but hear the other side kf fur stories could help a lot.
Insecurity on the part of the man destroyed their marriage.
DJ you asked fantastic questions, keep it up
We understand the Ghana system, we are able to live according to our means, the real people who visit here respect us ooooo, they always wonder how we are able to cope.
She is very beautiful and she talks very well
Passing through that’s the part that kills me😂😂😂
What this lady is saying about marriage breakdowns in UK is 101 %true….
And ghana too cos ghana has copy dem
Yes , she is right he was struggling with insecurity. Especially where he has no intention also to study. He was struggling to please her family and regain his dignity. Documents affects a lot of marriages .. He felt her university might push he on the side of educated guys also studying with her !
It wasn't insecurity. He was setting boundaries of how her character start changing. At least she was honest except the part she said western women don't like money😂😂. Even if she makes money she would still want her husband to make more and pay all bills, otherwise that husband will be in hell and later thrown into trash. Her husband wasn't threatened. He saw changes in how she treated him after she had higher education. The woman will regret it when she gets older and can't do all that work she is doing now. That passing through will end at around 50 going. She would be lonely and depressed. Unless she relocates or have businesses that can fetch her enough money
i think this woman had a superiority complex over the man, listening to her choice of words....
Most of our Ghanaian men have such issue they will not support if try to bounce back they will not comply.
DJ the upbringing is very true,my ex girlfriend is Ghanaian but was born in holland ..the hell i went through I just had to eventually leave her even tho I loved her till death.it’s not easy.she talks back at me the least opportunity she gets .the stress alone Herr u go run
Lol question if she was white Dutch and like that would you find the same? I'm just curious , because you know her being born in Holland she is not like a gh in ghana.
Pls marry again your brain and beauty can not be wasted.
The system doesn't favor women. It actually looks at both genders as equal, whereas most Ghanaian men prefer to control their spouses and see them as less than.
It's a cultural clash.
Where did she learn this perfect twi language when she was born overseas and never lived in Ghana. My kids cannot speak like her😢
True, I don't know why another person should be less in order for someone to feel good about themselves. It shows who you are
she is so outspoken, intelligent and beautiful. the man was childish n archaic mind. its unfortunate for the man he got.
How did u measure her intelligence? Smh
It's all about cultural differences...
It’s very difficult for Africans to live in harmony with each other, ever since I have been in the uk I have never heard of divorce of Indian couples but it’s mostly Ghanaians n Nigerians
It is because Asian women do not desert their culture and religion for western culture and religion. That is the African problem. Unfortunately for us, our forefathers did not develop us an indigenous religion, it was all about separate cultures. One huge African religion, would have united us as one people under one distinct culture like the inseparable/united Indians and Chinese.
it’s simple understanding life and upholding your culture and heritage… beats my mind bout this stuff 😂 funny enough tis cancerous ppl go round to come back and infect happy homes when life is bout draining from them lol
@@nanaadoma3141 I wager that this inquiry is rhetorical. If not, it would be a wild craic to argue about how superior our marriages are to those of Indians and perhaps some other Asian nations out here. However, that doesn't mean that we aren't making an effort… 😀
Indian woman would have money like what, she's still very submissive to her husband no matter how poor or low class he may be. But it's a different case for Ghanaians and Nigerians, always excuses to divorce especially in the case of women.
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Beautiful and lovely pearl. He lost a great lady.
She is very lovely. That guy has lost a good wife because of his bush mentality
Change your mentality. Always learn to listen to both sides before you judge.
@@henryallotey9389agreed with you, if @kwakuakonto8942 was this lady husband like he will behave the worst of all.
Beatiful woman with a good heart
She was born in Holland how come she speak good twi
😂 she is lying. She thought the man was low class after going to University. You have to respect your husband despite where you were born or his educational background especially if he was paying all the bills in the house
How do you know she is lying were you there in her marriage.
@@moduanaorleans2326 that is how all of you are. Why didn’t she complain when he was the sole provider in the house? Now that it’s her turn to help him save up he is having inferiority complex . I’m sad for you ladies who do that and think God will bless you
What’s university? He became low class yet my student loan would go to the debts he created by taking out loans without telling me. Am sure you’re just as narcissistic
Don’t use hungryness talk bullshit he. You don’t live in abroad so keep quiet
@@JaniceVijent lol Ok. Did you find out what he did with the loan? Perhaps he used it in supporting the same home thinking he could pay back before it gets out of hand?
I know her from The Netherlands with her friend Ama.
When a woman starts making money she don't feel like summiting to her husband because she can take care of yourself, women don't marry because of love they marry because they need someone to take care of them 😢
bitter truth
It takes only women that fear God but the question is where are they?, better spend ur money on urself
You see why no Ghanaian woman deserve to be sacrificed for, help them but don't sacrifice for them, the welfare n happiness of the kids not their priority
This one if what she is saying is true, she was the one who sacrificed, 16 years is was a child, bringing him to UK and paying his loans the only think the man did was having kids. So women stop sacrificing for men. They become resentful when you build them up
She’s so beautiful 😍😍😍😍
She is very nice and also interligent
God will bless you
He was insecure and jealous but this UK he can also get an education
Nine years age gap between two consenting adults is normal, nine years age gap between a minor and a fully developed adult is not normal
good job always bro
Her story is too sweet for my hear. Your ex husband thanks you a lot.
Nice interview. Hi Girl you are beautiful, please don’t give up on love, give yourself a chance to meet the right guy.
I love her interview ❤️
Your ex your not matured for marriage full stop.. not because he was brought up in GH. Close your legs and choose well people
SHE VERY GOOD LADY
Me Krom Ni🥰🥰🥰🥰Proud Kwahu
WE NEED TO LISTEN TO DE OTHER SIDE! SHE SOUNDS UNCLEAR
You are on the right path, girl. Move on with your life and take care of the kids. You shouldn't have jumped into a relationship at age 16 years, though, but it had already happened. Move on. You're a very beautiful lady. 😊
She is mad beautiful
The ex husband had insecurities issues he thought people who come around you would advise you to stop all the good things you were doing for him
We should not throw away our culture because of the system. Asians, regardless of whether they born here in the uk or not will always preserve their culture.
The “I was born here” is killing them. Even whites are able to marry Ghanaians who are brought up in Ghana. Lol
There's lot of suicide and depression in the Asian culture because of this. Is just not public.
@@abigailadu9978 well a lot people are depressed in the uk however when it comes to divorce and dragging partners to court u don’t hear much from the Asians. But all am saying is we should not throw our culture away because of the system
@@dondee3503 absolutely halfwit submission. No one is saying people should be dictators. I hope u have a happy marriage.
@@dondee3503you ain't better than the Thailands, chinese, Philippinas and Indian women yet the same system...
Awww my sis J
Hi Jen how are you?
Good Quentin dj how can we stop all this
Culture is the problem. The women born in UK are confident.
🚨Sounds like you encountered an insecure man !
She is very good girl
The institution of marriage is one difficult thing. Without total submission “gimigimi” it’s difficult to marry some Ghanaian men because of our culture, everything is respect.
Dj Nyame you very wise, your questions exposed her.
Some of Kumasi guys are always like that greedy.
Some Ghanaian men are kraasifuo
God bless you my dear your dream will come true
It’s simple. You know what you want so keep on waiting for what you want. You just may never know. If what you want doesn’t come too. No problem at all, it’s called life.
I love this comment 😊
She look East African
Very pretty and beautiful lady also humble why ll a man leave such beauty.abroad for u
The lady is telling the truth i divorce my ex husband more than 5 months in my mind before it's comes reality
We are listening to a single story.
Let listen to the man.
But I pity the kids anytime there's is a divorce
She is beautiful
Insecurity! Exactly
Dj at 16 she was interested in Timber Ekumjeke😅
got to explore and the exploration journey kicked in again @ 20 when me bruv was serious on the marriage ship 😂
❤amen
One sided story don’t judge
DJ , u looking fresh
Dada Bs interview…….Goddez was here
I can see .. she is a good woman
The woman is not telling the truth if a woman gets a better education than a man alot of things change about her she not telling all the truth
In Ghana, it not entirely true dear. Most all women marry because of money, No. It the mentality and marriage isn't for anybody. Maybe you've not met the right partner.
Very heartbroken, because she was of a good heart,but wrong choice. Am sorry for you women. But just keep on with your good heart.
God bless you.
If what she is saying is exactly true then the man was bossy and insecure, where you've found yourself, the system is good so take care of yourself, your kids and be with someone who will understand you.