This is the best lesson on self-concept that I have ever heard in my life and I have been interested in personal growth in many, many years. You have brought all the pieces together in a very clear way. I am so grateful that you have shared this knowledge.
I'm completely impressed with your video and the and super impressed with the knowledge shared about NLP. I had a dream last night or a professor said I should look into NLP. I must've heard it somewhere through the last couple podcasts and I found your video which has helped me understand about self-love and the separation based thinking belief when it is us as the source, I'm gonna share this with a lot of my friends and family and work on learning more about my scopes and categories and get to the bottom of things and choose my thoughts and be what I wanna be versus blindly being led by negative programs and comparisons about things that define myself in a negative way. Thank you, Canadian guy 50-year-old man grateful ❤
Damon, I’m an NLP trainer and I just want to say that your way of teaching is awesome and I am learning and lot. Topics that weren’t explained well to me from my previous trainers totally make sense this way you explained it. Salute from an eternal student. Thank you and keep it up brother. God bless you. 👍🤜🤛🙂🙏🏽
I have watched about 10 videos and finally understand the significance of not using the concept of “self-.” By changing the…(not sure of right word) idea of love to include self by default, the unconscious automatically begins to apply love to the self. It’s not something that has to be done, but a framework that can be updated so the function of “loving onesself” becomes natural.
actually its little bit more focus needed to understand the vedio. subtitle are greatly helpful . after understanding its kind of helping me alot in regular life like "allow your self and not comparing yourself to any other and clear understanding of self worth" is the key for self confidence Thank you soo much bruh so much grateful to you and brother i would humbly request you to put content specially on the inner child wound and other traumas & solutions from nlp
@@abdulsuban-rq1ne glad it's helping you. Thank you for the kind words. Watch my videos on ReImprinting. That's the closest I come to what you might refer to as inner child work. I don't call it that, but you might find what you're looking for there.
What I have learned based on some of your channels demonestration . 1.we can start by grouping a Sure and positive quality about ourselves that we like and get its Structure and submodalities. 2.we can remember the experiences counter examples of this sure qualitirs when we didn't show that sure and positive quality despite being that quality. 3.choose a quality that we want to have and create in ourselves or choose a quality that we want to change its opposite and remind overselves as many experiences as we can that we had that good qualities in those moments 4.Regroup or rename the counter examples of this good quality that we want to create in ourselves (infact this quality could be opposite of the quality we don't like) and find its possitive purpose and imaginge that we have the resources to fullfill this good intention so that we can convince ourselves that this negative quality was not negative on its own and it was shown because of inner positive intention because we were not having the resources and now that we have it we don't need to show this quality anymore 5.We try to transform this quality like we do in swish pattern 6. and try to sellect and collect as many examples as possible from our experiences and even from other people's or future experiences that show we have that good quality, and try to send it and give it the structure of sure and positive quality we possess already ...
This is amazing, this information is definitely what I can call self understanding and my perception of self on a visual map gave me more clarity of my values at the core and who I can really become in connection to my eternal source again at its core. So now my identity can be changed because of this inner understanding and I am very excited to be living from this truth of self and to have that power to be who I always wanted to be. I'm remapping my core beliefs and realigning my values now....Thank you for the insight.
It took me a day and a night to really take notes and listen. This information is 💯 transformative.... literally life changing. Thank you for sharing. New Sub ❤
@@DamonCart Because of this, and sampling a few of your other videos, I signed up for your training earlier today. Thanks for putting these out there for people to find.
It’s still unclear to me how to change a self concept/belief permanently/. Just because one can have a conscious epiphany and a new understanding or belief about themselves in one moment, the way Paul did, doesn’t seem to guarantee its permanence…perhaps especially if they have a history of uncertainty, inconsistency or instability, like being raised in a cult for example. I have new awareness all the time but it doesn’t mean the old default isn’t going to kick in again and take over. Not trying to be a smartass, I’m really trying to understand what’s so revolutionary about this, I would love to find something that works!
I understand where you're coming from. We conduct an entire 18 month training for people who not only want to learn the model, it's for people who want to program it in so they're effective at using it. I can't squeeze 18 months into a 1 hour video. This tutorial is about giving you a piece of what it's about as well as some healthy mindsets.
@@DamonCart I understand, where can I find further information on the 18 month program? …and are there free or affordable resources available to learn and master this?
@@IrresistableGoddess in the descriptions of most of my videos you can find free resources. You can also find some at selfconcept.com. If you would like to speak to someone about our coaching program, email henning@selfconcept.com
This is a side question but I’m training in bjj as well and want to get better. Do you train when you are still sore in order to mentally drive yourself? I know this seems unrelated but for me self love/hard work gets very confusing
I'm sore almost all of the time (at this age with my level of activity). If I didn't train when I'm sore, I wouldn't train very much. To answer your question, I don't use soreness to mentally drive me. If I need drive, it's just an indication that I'm not connecting with my values. I'll revisit what I want out of BJJ training. Am I getting it? So far every time I've asked that question, it's a yes. As long as it's a yes, I'll keep training. Don't use pain to drive you. Acknowledge pain. Accept pain. Use your values to drive you.
The creation of patterns starts at the beginning of life, but they are processes rather than things. This means they can be changed. Rather than break them, we focus on restructuring them to draw your conscious and unconscious attention to internal representations that serve you. I use Steve Andreas' Self-Concept Model to do this. You can learn the model and apply it to yourself or you can do one-on-one coaching with me or one of my coaches.
Self concemt seems to be the key… BUT… I didn’t find any coach to really help me to change these patterns… is it a problem that comes from the client or I didn’t founw the right coach yet ?
I can't answer that because I wasn't your coach. Always take full responsibility for the changes you want. You'll encounter some coaches who are a good fit and some who are not.
Thanks for your answer. And yes, for sure, the changes come from the client. I realise that my question was not a good one 😅 and I already had the answer.
It's only low for the first three minutes and then it gets louder. Even when it's low though, if you turn your computer or phone volume all the way up, you should be able to hear it just fine.
We're going to use words to accurately describe what we mean. In that case it makes sense to put self in front of some words. However, when you're pursuing a value, words and all of their implications matter. Self-concept is not a value to be pursued. Love is.
It's in the description box just below the video screen. I'll give it to you here as well. Make sure you still check the description box for some free tools as well. 🎥 Here's the video with Paul's transformation: th-cam.com/video/fLtlytDz0Zs/w-d-xo.html
Do you know that you are the opposite of the vanguard of NLP? I got into NLP because Tony Robbins made me think, "If he can make me want to buy this book, maybe he'll make me improve my life." But I think it's possible that you underhype this. Not that I can blame you, as if you gave half of what it could do you'd be tuned out.
If you're saying that Tony is a better salesman than me, I agree. However, Tony's NLP, as far as I can tell, hasn't been updated since the 1980s. He demonstrates mastery over the classic style. His NLP is not new nor is it even close to being on the forefront (vanguard) of NLP. Running around on a stage beating my chest and screaming is not my style and even if it was it wouldn't attract the right students to what I teach.
@@DamonCart I think, a little more subtle in my assessment. It just seems that you understate, I think, almost as much as that kind of NLP guy hypes. I was thinking, "This can do ten times as much as Damon's suggesting," and I'm thinking, "That cannot be an accident."
@@jamesross4319 no I don't intentionally understate the power of what I'm teaching. I know it can absolutely transform people and transform lives. I've spent the last 8 years communicating that message. I've tried a variety of ways within and outside of my comfort zone to get it across to people. If you want to make some suggestions, I'm listening.
I saw a video the other day of someone whose belief system apparently changed before our eyes. HOW do you KNOW it did? Hiw can you tell someone isn't just having a conscious level 'epiphany' and not a full blown subconscious INSTANTANEOUS belief change? (Which I don't believe is possible - bot for me anyway.)
Ok, well, it goes like this: 1st. Don't even bother changing beliefs that have little to no emotional impact or FEELING on you. Typically they won't deliver much generative change anyway, but they can still be fun to witness the coincidences. 2. A Core belief will have a connected feeling sufficient that it is problem-enough for you to take action to clear it/dissolve it /change it. This is a key factor! Run your change processes on these. 3. When _YOU_ can convince your coach that _you_ can no longer even _FIND_ the emotion/feeling that was once the issue for you, _THEN_ you _know_ you have changed! - and then, what others think or believe won't even factor to you coz you have nothing to bother proving to them in your new-felt contentment.
The best way to test if someone's belief has changed is by observing behavioral change. It is possible though that you can change beliefs and just feel better about yourself and the world, etc. without seeing direct behavioral change.
It's a feeling of certainty, of trust that you're competent or know what you're doing in a particular area. If it's self-confidence, it's a trust in yourself that you know yourself well and you know what you're capable of.
Thank you, Damon! I have a very important question: If I used 3 different languages in different periods of life, Does it mean that to change my reality map of first period, I have to use that first language?
Not necessarily. Experiment with changes in different languages to know for sure. Most likely whatever your native language is will probably work best.
The sound is low for the first three minutes. If you turn the volume up on your phone or computer, you should be able to hear me just fine.
turn on the CC for the first three minutes, it works 🙂
Damon, you have the best NLP channel on TH-cam.
Thank you.
This is the best lesson on self-concept that I have ever heard in my life and I have been interested in personal growth in many, many years. You have brought all the pieces together in a very clear way. I am so grateful that you have shared this knowledge.
You're very welcome.
I'm completely impressed with your video and the and super impressed with the knowledge shared about NLP. I had a dream last night or a professor said I should look into NLP. I must've heard it somewhere through the last couple podcasts and I found your video which has helped me understand about self-love and the separation based thinking belief when it is us as the source, I'm gonna share this with a lot of my friends and family and work on learning more about my scopes and categories and get to the bottom of things and choose my thoughts and be what I wanna be versus blindly being led by negative programs and comparisons about things that define myself in a negative way. Thank you, Canadian guy 50-year-old man grateful ❤
Thank you for your comment. Glad you got so much out of this video.
Damon, I’m an NLP trainer and I just want to say that your way of teaching is awesome and I am learning and lot. Topics that weren’t explained well to me from my previous trainers totally make sense this way you explained it. Salute from an eternal student. Thank you and keep it up brother. God bless you. 👍🤜🤛🙂🙏🏽
Thank you. Really appreciate your comment.
This is a mind blowing class that no nlp trainer has taught except you! Thank you
You're welcome. Thank you.
I have watched about 10 videos and finally understand the significance of not using the concept of “self-.” By changing the…(not sure of right word) idea of love to include self by default, the unconscious automatically begins to apply love to the self. It’s not something that has to be done, but a framework that can be updated so the function of “loving onesself” becomes natural.
You've got it!
actually its little bit more focus needed to understand the vedio. subtitle are greatly helpful . after understanding its kind of helping me alot in regular life like "allow your self and not comparing yourself to any other and clear understanding of self worth" is the key for self confidence Thank you soo much bruh so much grateful to you and brother i would humbly request you to put content specially on the inner child wound and other traumas & solutions from nlp
@@abdulsuban-rq1ne glad it's helping you. Thank you for the kind words. Watch my videos on ReImprinting. That's the closest I come to what you might refer to as inner child work. I don't call it that, but you might find what you're looking for there.
What I have learned based on some of your channels demonestration .
1.we can start by grouping a Sure and positive quality about ourselves that we like and get its Structure and submodalities.
2.we can remember the experiences counter examples of this sure qualitirs when we didn't show that sure and positive quality despite being that quality.
3.choose a quality that we want to have and create in ourselves or choose a quality that we want to change its opposite and remind overselves as many experiences as we can that we had that good qualities in those moments
4.Regroup or rename the counter examples of this good quality that we want to create in ourselves (infact this quality could be opposite of the quality we don't like) and find its possitive purpose and imaginge that we have the resources to fullfill this good intention so that we can convince ourselves that this negative quality was not negative on its own and it was shown because of inner positive intention because we were not having the resources and now that we have it we don't need to show this quality anymore
5.We try to transform this quality like we do in swish pattern
6. and try to sellect and collect as many examples as possible from our experiences and even from other people's or future experiences that show we have that good quality, and try to send it and give it the structure of sure and positive quality we possess already ...
Follow the book. It doesn't get more precise than that.
Follow the book. It doesn't get more precise than that.
@@DamonCartwhat book? The Steve Andreas book?
@@cemiliordz3852 yes.
Damon you’re truly incredible, thank you for this brother.
Thank you. My pleasure.
I completely agree brother. ❤
Wow! Seems like the more I seek to unlock myself the more I come across amazing information. Thank you so much!!
You're welcome.
This is amazing, this information is definitely what I can call self understanding and my perception of self on a visual map gave me more clarity of my values at the core and who I can really become in connection to my eternal source again at its core. So now my identity can be changed because of this inner understanding and I am very excited to be living from this truth of self and to have that power to be who I always wanted to be. I'm remapping my core beliefs and realigning my values now....Thank you for the insight.
You're welcome.
It took me a day and a night to really take notes and listen. This information is 💯 transformative.... literally life changing. Thank you for sharing. New Sub ❤
You're welcome. Glad it was helpful.
watching it from india 🥰
Always wanted to learn about NLP👋🏽 Mahalo mahalo MAHALO for this. Will be definitely coming back to this video many times over 😉
I've only made around a thousand videos about NLP. Dive in and ask questions ; )
Absolutely phenomenal. Thank you.
@@DonnaRigsby you’re welcome.
@@DamonCart Because of this, and sampling a few of your other videos, I signed up for your training earlier today. Thanks for putting these out there for people to find.
@@DonnaRigsby my pleasure.
Your videos are priceless.
Thank you. Glad you think so.
It is super valuable training!
Thank you.
So so thankful for this video ❤
I'm thankful for your comment.
Tremendous value. Thank you for sharing
My pleasure
Thank you Damon. This is really amazing.
You're welcome. Thank you for the kind words.
Outstanding
Thank you.
Thanks Damon!
You're welcome.
This is AWESOME !!! Thanks 🙂
You are so welcome!
Thank you.
You're welcome.
It’s still unclear to me how to change a self concept/belief permanently/. Just because one can have a conscious epiphany and a new understanding or belief about themselves in one moment, the way Paul did, doesn’t seem to guarantee its permanence…perhaps especially if they have a history of uncertainty, inconsistency or instability, like being raised in a cult for example. I have new awareness all the time but it doesn’t mean the old default isn’t going to kick in again and take over. Not trying to be a smartass, I’m really trying to understand what’s so revolutionary about this, I would love to find something that works!
I understand where you're coming from. We conduct an entire 18 month training for people who not only want to learn the model, it's for people who want to program it in so they're effective at using it. I can't squeeze 18 months into a 1 hour video. This tutorial is about giving you a piece of what it's about as well as some healthy mindsets.
@@DamonCart
I understand, where can I find further information on the 18 month program? …and are there free or affordable resources available to learn and master this?
@@IrresistableGoddess in the descriptions of most of my videos you can find free resources. You can also find some at selfconcept.com. If you would like to speak to someone about our coaching program, email henning@selfconcept.com
What the "structure"mean and how to changing it? Where i can findvideo talk about structure?
th-cam.com/video/dYrO1a6Gxoo/w-d-xo.htmlsi=PmCrIJ-JG8JiaQkg
@@DamonCart thank you
This is a side question but I’m training in bjj as well and want to get better. Do you train when you are still sore in order to mentally drive yourself? I know this seems unrelated but for me self love/hard work gets very confusing
I'm sore almost all of the time (at this age with my level of activity). If I didn't train when I'm sore, I wouldn't train very much.
To answer your question, I don't use soreness to mentally drive me. If I need drive, it's just an indication that I'm not connecting with my values. I'll revisit what I want out of BJJ training. Am I getting it? So far every time I've asked that question, it's a yes. As long as it's a yes, I'll keep training. Don't use pain to drive you. Acknowledge pain. Accept pain. Use your values to drive you.
How can you break the patterns that are stucked in from the beginning of your life ?
The creation of patterns starts at the beginning of life, but they are processes rather than things. This means they can be changed. Rather than break them, we focus on restructuring them to draw your conscious and unconscious attention to internal representations that serve you. I use Steve Andreas' Self-Concept Model to do this. You can learn the model and apply it to yourself or you can do one-on-one coaching with me or one of my coaches.
Self concemt seems to be the key… BUT… I didn’t find any coach to really help me to change these patterns… is it a problem that comes from the client or I didn’t founw the right coach yet ?
I can't answer that because I wasn't your coach. Always take full responsibility for the changes you want. You'll encounter some coaches who are a good fit and some who are not.
Thanks for your answer. And yes, for sure, the changes come from the client. I realise that my question was not a good one 😅 and I already had the answer.
It’s low with sound.May have to get headphones
It's only low for the first three minutes and then it gets louder. Even when it's low though, if you turn your computer or phone volume all the way up, you should be able to hear it just fine.
@@DamonCarthaha on my phone it didn’t work , however I’m try on the pc🙏
If you remove the "self" from self love, should you not also apply equally to "self" concept?
Oh no, im just a concept 😅
We're going to use words to accurately describe what we mean. In that case it makes sense to put self in front of some words. However, when you're pursuing a value, words and all of their implications matter. Self-concept is not a value to be pursued. Love is.
Sorry I can't seem to find the link to Paul's video, can someone point me in the right direction please.
It's in the description box just below the video screen. I'll give it to you here as well. Make sure you still check the description box for some free tools as well.
🎥 Here's the video with Paul's transformation:
th-cam.com/video/fLtlytDz0Zs/w-d-xo.html
Replay 🙏
Do you know that you are the opposite of the vanguard of NLP? I got into NLP because Tony Robbins made me think, "If he can make me want to buy this book, maybe he'll make me improve my life."
But I think it's possible that you underhype this. Not that I can blame you, as if you gave half of what it could do you'd be tuned out.
If you're saying that Tony is a better salesman than me, I agree. However, Tony's NLP, as far as I can tell, hasn't been updated since the 1980s. He demonstrates mastery over the classic style. His NLP is not new nor is it even close to being on the forefront (vanguard) of NLP.
Running around on a stage beating my chest and screaming is not my style and even if it was it wouldn't attract the right students to what I teach.
@@DamonCart
I think, a little more subtle in my assessment. It just seems that you understate, I think, almost as much as that kind of NLP guy hypes. I was thinking, "This can do ten times as much as Damon's suggesting," and I'm thinking, "That cannot be an accident."
@@jamesross4319 no I don't intentionally understate the power of what I'm teaching. I know it can absolutely transform people and transform lives. I've spent the last 8 years communicating that message. I've tried a variety of ways within and outside of my comfort zone to get it across to people. If you want to make some suggestions, I'm listening.
Sound is 10%
It gets better after the first 3 minutes.
I saw a video the other day of someone whose belief system apparently changed before our eyes. HOW do you KNOW it did? Hiw can you tell someone isn't just having a conscious level 'epiphany' and not a full blown subconscious INSTANTANEOUS belief change? (Which I don't believe is possible - bot for me anyway.)
Ok, well, it goes like this:
1st. Don't even bother changing beliefs that have little to no emotional impact or FEELING on you. Typically they won't deliver much generative change anyway, but they can still be fun to witness the coincidences.
2. A Core belief will have a connected feeling sufficient that it is problem-enough for you to take action to clear it/dissolve it /change it. This is a key factor! Run your change processes on these.
3. When _YOU_ can convince your coach that _you_ can no longer even _FIND_ the emotion/feeling that was once the issue for you, _THEN_ you _know_ you have changed! - and then, what others think or believe won't even factor to you coz you have nothing to bother proving to them in your new-felt contentment.
The best way to test if someone's belief has changed is by observing behavioral change. It is possible though that you can change beliefs and just feel better about yourself and the world, etc. without seeing direct behavioral change.
You mention confidence several times. How do YOU define confidence?
It's a feeling of certainty, of trust that you're competent or know what you're doing in a particular area. If it's self-confidence, it's a trust in yourself that you know yourself well and you know what you're capable of.
Thank you, Damon!
I have a very important question:
If I used 3 different languages in different periods of life,
Does it mean that to change my reality map of first period, I have to use that first language?
Not necessarily. Experiment with changes in different languages to know for sure. Most likely whatever your native language is will probably work best.
Can barely hear you
It gets better after the first three minutes.
I can't hear you
After the first three minutes it gets louder.
your voice is hard to hear
After the first three minutes it gets louder.