Exactly, that's the first thing that popped into my head when she said u have a favorite sister, OP should have told them if u can have a favorite child then I can have a favorite sister, imagine treating your sister like crap all your life then expecting her to pay for your venue, the freakin audacity of some people, I would tell them to kiss my a$$.
NTA OP, going by her employment record, your youngest sister believes that the world owes her a living and is prepared to be abusive and demanding to get what she wants. This does not bode well for a successful marriage. You were quite right in what you said.
I could throw up my lunch with the whole “ you’re older and more mature comment” I’m so sick of folks using this damn excuse to pretty much let the younger sibling get away with everything.
Yeah especially since all three of them were ADULTS at the time and all three of them should be mature. That’s something you’d say if one was a pre-teen or something.
Yep. Denise is too coddled and spoiled and reminds me of my eldest sister (sis grew out of it and is now an agreeable person). Even if I considered paying, I'd immediately refuse once the family tried to force/threaten/guilt trip me to pay for her. If it were me, I wouldn't give Denise Sh!t!
Well, parents, YOU pay for the spoiled brat's wedding. Sister has already been raised as a brat, she was mean to her sisters all thru childhood. She is permanently ruined. If op paid, no doubt Brat would come after her in the future, for money. Parents can just buzz off.
How dare you suggest that the parents should pay ..it's their duty to force OTHERS to pay ..their money is their money ..other ppl's money is theirs too /s 🤣🤣🤣
I'd have looked my parents in the eyes and said, 'it's tradition that the PARENTS pay for the wedding". I'd then walk away and ignore everyone who nagged me.
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'You cant have a favorite sister' But you can have a favorite daughter? You can spoil rot one of you children and neglect the others? Gimme a break. Those parents have some severe growing up to do and OP will do just Fine without them
Or when they get old and have no one to support them, because if they think their 'golden child' will to that, then they are even more delusional than I thought!
In 10 years or less they will be begging op and her sister when their favourite makes them bankrupt or dumps them when they have nothing to offer them I see her dumping her kids on them and running off
Those stories of entitlement are nearly always the same: OP is supposed to forgive and forget otherwise he/she is shunned / unfair etc. There is no need for anyone to tolerate abusive and entitled behaviour so just don’t .
In this situation I agree that OP is entitled; she's entitled to decide where and how she spends the money she earned. The real entitlement here comes from others who feel they have the right to choose what OP does with it instead.
Denise: "But you helped pay for Michelle's wedding!" OP: "I like Michelle. You are only apologizing to me so that I will pay for your wedding. Not gonna happen." Also OP: "Mom & Dad, paying for Denise's wedding is your responsibility, not mine. You two have a favorite daughter. I have a favorite sister. They are _not_ the same person."
Give it a couple of years when OP moves up in their career making more money and/or when OP and the other sister start having children of their own those parents will be back plowing up the phones and trying to get the opinion of the family on their side cause “we’re family and you can’t cut off family for a small mistake/misunderstanding”
One thing that really makes these stories a bit hard to deal with is that I'm always wanting to tell OP "For pete's sake just hang up on them when they call. If you don't go past "Hello" they can't really dig in and become quite so annoyingly toxic. Don't listen to their poison. OP just HANG UP." The quick hang up was a trick I learned from a guy in college. He's broken off with his folks. His phone would ring, he'd say "Hello" and hear a voice to which he responded with "Bye" and then drop the hand-set down in the phone's cradle cradle. I quickly learned that was how he handled his parent's calls. He didn't get upset. It was just, Hello. Bye and CLICK.
OP - NTA If she wants a nice venue she or your parents can foot the bill! Very entitled attitude so obnoxious to even ask for you to pay for anything. Your parents are horrid!
Block them, but save the text which said: "We only have one daughter!" Just to make sure that any future cost, aka care home, etc. go straight to the favorite daughter, who'll put them in the crappiest of places just to cut down on money....
Another reason OP could mention to Denise for not paying for the venue could be that OP doesn't want to help pay for a wedding that she has no intention of attending. There's no reason for OP to bother with Denise's wedding after being treated so badly by Denise and the folks for years.
I’m so tired of others telling you what others should be doing with their own money. Finances change and while in this case she could have afforded it that’s not always the case.
Id have told them i couldn't afford it, end of story. Id have also gone on holidays or a really fancy dinner with my husband and sister on the day of the wedding and posted all over social media how much fun we were having.
Op should expect that they'll want to make amends the next time they need money or a favor. As soon as sis spawns she'll want gifts and a free babysitter.
Sounds like Hank has married a monster. She loses every job because she's so impossible. Her co-workers hate her. She has hardly any friends, becuase she's so awful. If she does this to her sisters, she'll do it to her husband too!!
No one is safe around Denise. She is spoiled brat pretending to be an adult. She has a lot in common with a 2 and half year old toddler. (That is when the Terrible Twos hit--mid year.)
I actually love how OP pointed out that the marriage would it last long because of how crazy the sister is and how the sisters fiancé would soon leave her because he wouldn’t be able to put up with a crazy BS. From the moment she said she was engaged after only a few months I was over here they could add once he gets to know your crazy BS he’s gone. So when she actually said that out loud, I was laughing so hard and I was like exactly there’s only so long she can mask that craziness that she has before it seeps out and her fiancé/husband finally sees it. I can’t imagine expecting your sibling to pay for your wedding because they did it for the other sibling that they’re closer to and you know that you’re not close to that sibling. Is that like you grew up thinking you guys were close and everything was good and then someone was like no never mind, these three knew where they said with each other as just one of them is entitled. My sisters are both financially well off my brother is too, and I would never in 1 million years ask them to pay for anything for me. I might if it was like a medical emergency be like hey I need some help you know I have this medical thing I need to pay for it I can’t afford it but that’s different, this is a wedding you don’t have to have a wedding you go to the courthouse. It’s not as romantic but if you really love somebody you want to be with them you’re not gonna let a wedding stand in your way. Also, you don’t need to have a big fancy wedding to get married I like how some people are doing now where they’re opting to have a smalldownscale wedding and then put more money into the honeymoon because the honeymoon is gonna last longer and you can make so many more memories with the honeymoon. Somebody has been married before weddings, or not life or death. It’s not that serious.
Tell your parents it is their obligation to pay for the wedding. You have a right to say No. Matthew 5:37. You and Michelle should go on a vacation the day of the Wedding Have fun!!
So the real reason the parents wanted Op to pay for the venue is that they could not afford ANY venue other than their own backyard. And rather than admit that and maybe ask for a loan from Op to pay for a venue, they disown her instead. Got news for the parents- Op and Michelle won't inherit anything financial from you because you don't have anything financial to inherit, lol, and as for the parent-child relationship, there isn't one anyway.
I get your drift but you used a double negative: "...never have nothing..." Better wording would be "I would never have anything to do with Denise. Not a damn thing."
The moment my parents Tell me I have a favorite I would tell him absolutely just like them have a favorite and start to point out every single time they favor her and spoiled her and wait to hear the crickets 😎
For the parents, "Make any sacrifices for family = always be Denise's slave". Doesn't matter to them that OP and Michelle have their own families to take care of. Those parents are one of the worst!
Just because OP is the eldest, doesn’t mean anything. Because of Denise’s behavior at the party, she owes the apology, not OP. Being adults, that means that Denise should start being treated like an adult and be held accountable.
Opie’s parents failed all of their kids. They can pay for the venue they have a favorite child. She’s allowed to have a favorite sister and Denise is not it.
Your parents can pay for the golden childs wedding you as a sibling owe her nothing and I would not pay on principle she not a real sister she wants your money and she just wants a ATM
Op had good reasons to pay for Michelles Venue and she had not the same reasons for Denise. It Parents treet her with ignoring it is a good idea oh yes please ignore me Al the time they called her to repeat theier demanding she should remind them didn`t you wanted to ignore me? Block them and enjoy your live with your other sister and husband as your importent family.
when the time comes to decide on care for the last living parent, will the "only" daughter even care to show up, if not then the discarded ones have final say on pulling the plug !
Opie’s parents want it the sister she got along with to cut her off that was the only way she was going to get an invite to the wedding🤬 that is disgusting OP and Michelle are right. Her parents are the worst parents in the world.
Who else see's a future where A. The golden child gives the parents massive debt, B. She immediately puts them into a retirement home as soon as able, or C. All the above!
Oh she wants to apologize now that she's getting married? How conveeeeeeeenient! What a clown show. OP you and MIchelle are MUCH better off being cut off from your toxic manipulative parents and their golden child. Of course be ready for them to want to come back into your lives when either or both of you have children, but you'll have to decide if you want to allow your children to be exposed to that toxicity because it will not magically go away. I'd just cut contact and keep it with you other relatives who don't play that drama. And when your parents are older and need assistance, let them see how well their golden child gives it.
OP has a me? Blame him then! "Sorry I can't give you any money because my husband said I'm not allowed to." BTW, sister's husband to be can pay for the wedding. Or Ops parents. My mother made my father pay for my wedding. She said it like it was a fact and t obediently did it even though they had been divorced since I was a baby. Stepmother paid for the grog as well. And that was my husband's job. He sent her a check and she ripped it up. I could never understand why he hadn't paid but he had.
Imagine parents behavin like minion are callin OP's other sister minion. They r behavin more like a brat than their spoilt brat of a daughter m these r the parent who train their kids to b a failure in life with that kind of attitude
What Countries are these people in? I’m in my 60’s. Was military so I lived all over and knew a lot of people. I’ve never heard of these idiotic things! I’ve gone hungry I’ve had my electricity cut off IVE NEVER ASKED MY FAMILY FOR ANYTHING! EVER! And none of them would gang up and go after one of us. I don’t get involved in others business lol What about you? I’m in the U.S.
The worst thing you can do to a child is spoil them. It turns them into nasty people. My brother, the middle child, was the favourite because he was the most violent and my mother loved siccing him on losers (like me). She was absolutely enraged when "zero tolerance" came into schools. He is such an asshat. I once told him something atrocious Hitler did and his response? "You are worse than Hitler because at least Hitler wasn't useless." I'm disabled. He has hated me since I was hit by the truck that disabled me because my mother brainwashed us to believe that being disabled is "selfish" because you are a "just a burden to family and society." I felt enormously guilty and ashamed of being disabled but somewhere deep down I knew they were wrong. I went NC with my family for a few years. Then my mom died so I decided to get in touch with my dad. He was the only one who was ever nice to me even though he didn't protect me. My dad basically implied that I am selfish for not wanting my brothers in my life and refuses to believe they bullied me. I will admit, he was always very blind to what was going on in the family. He was unaware my mother was cheating. Unaware of her real opinions. Whatever. He can believe what he wants.
Just because of the title I guess they lost little sis fund by cutting op off , the thinking these people do is insane I even wonder how they made it so long
You need to start respecting yourself first! When you start doing that then you'll never allow anyone to use you as a doormat. Respect in a relationship comes both ways.
They tried to have a relationship with her but she was too entitled, and mean the reason they don’t have a relationship is because of Denise Opie’s parents are only gonna have one daughter soon the way they’re acting
Oh piece family cares more about image of a perfect family, then actually having a family who has ups and downs. Denise was cruel to her her whole life. What do they expect her to do this say oh I forgive you I’ll pay for your venue, No it doesn’t work that way.
I would of been like "OK, I'll pay for the venue after youngest sister meets the same criteria as middle sister: Repair our relationship, date fiancee for 7+ years and I befriend and become close friends with said fiancee." and see how that goes. I'd bet money the relationship wouldn't even last that long, marriage or not.
I wonder if Denise was expecting a fabulous and expensive wedding. I knew i never wanted to get married but i knew there was a wedding fund for my much younger sister and i, when my sister was getting married she insisted that she should get all of the money because i was never going to find anyone to marry me. she is right but it’s more i don’t see the point. she tried so hard to get that money. after her divorce and second engagement i was invited to dinner to my sister excited that as the wedding fund still had money she will still get all of it and this way it would just pay for her second wedding. through confusion at my laughter she pouted. i explained that the account was put in my name after she used more than her half (she was sneaky stealing a few extra thousand) and i had opted to gift part to pay for our nana’s funeral and everything else in a trust for my son for university or education. oh i felt great they are still saving
This whole thing was caused by her parents. Her parents are the ones who spoke to Denise about OP paying for the wedding venue. Her parents are ridiculous and yes you can have a favourite sibling. It's not the same as parents having a favourite kid. They're just as entitled as Denise.
Denise and particularly the parents are mostly to blame here. However, I think OP could have handled the situation better. She was in her full right to not pay for Denise's wedding venue since they weren't very close. However, OP said she and Denise were about to reconcile and find back to each other. Then it's hurtful when OP told Denise she didn't get the venue paid for because OP didn't like her and that her fiancee wasn't a guy she thought would be in the marriage for long. The words she described Denise with showed OP surely didn't have much care for her. Granted, Denise was a brat when she was younger, but OP tried to reconcile. So obviously they had some care for each other. Now, that chance is ruined for a long time. Denise said she felt like the outsider sister and how OP worded the relationship I think that was true. OP liked to use we when she spoke hinting that Michelle always agreed with her. It seems to me Michelle was the one trying to keep the peace in the family and not being against anyone. OP took her consent for granted. OP seems to generally be nice and it was a great thing supporting Michelle's wedding. I just think she could have chosen her words better when she refused to help Denise. She could have said that she at some time would love to support her if their relationship continued to improve, but it was too early to do it now. Then you give the signal you appreciate the change process she's going through. Instead OP lost the chance to rescue Denise from the horrible parents. OP said Denise was spoiled by her parents. Her desire to reconcile with OP was a sign she wanted some independence. Instead she got back into her bad ways and the parents got full control over her again. One day OP will regret this missed opportunity. The next time Denise comes to her apologizing she should give her a chance. At least if she sees Denise has managed to free herself from the clutches of their parents. It can't be easy being Michelle stuck between a confident and independent OP and Denise tainted by bad parents feeling unloved by her sisters. Michelle loves both and tries to mediate hoping for a miracle.
Parents: you have a favorite sister boo hoo boo
OP: yeah, and you have a favorite daughter so stfu
^ this is how the whole thing SHOULD have gone
Exactly, that's the first thing that popped into my head when she said u have a favorite sister, OP should have told them if u can have a favorite child then I can have a favorite sister, imagine treating your sister like crap all your life then expecting her to pay for your venue, the freakin audacity of some people, I would tell them to kiss my a$$.
Your family who are supporting your sister should support her financially. 😊
Yup! The answer to "You need to pay for XYZ for OtherPerson!" Is "OK. Great. I'll let them know you volunteered to cover the expense!"
NTA OP, going by her employment record, your youngest sister believes that the world owes her a living and is prepared to be abusive and demanding to get what she wants. This does not bode well for a successful marriage. You were quite right in what you said.
I could throw up my lunch with the whole “ you’re older and more mature comment” I’m so sick of folks using this damn excuse to pretty much let the younger sibling get away with everything.
Yeah especially since all three of them were ADULTS at the time and all three of them should be mature. That’s something you’d say if one was a pre-teen or something.
OP parents should pay for their entitled brat not OP.
"I want a fresh start" in many of these stories really means, "give me free shit!"
Exactly...smh
Yep. Denise is too coddled and spoiled and reminds me of my eldest sister (sis grew out of it and is now an agreeable person). Even if I considered paying, I'd immediately refuse once the family tried to force/threaten/guilt trip me to pay for her. If it were me, I wouldn't give Denise Sh!t!
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(for asians) most are AI NARRATED...
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Family: "Give us money or we wont talk you ever again'
Me: "So nice when trash takes out itself"
“Lol don’t threaten me with a good time.”
Parents will regret it someday I promise you.
@@Ravenproctor2966 Oh, I am totally sure that parents like those sooner or later end bitterly regreting their choices
Well, parents, YOU pay for the spoiled brat's wedding. Sister has already been raised as a brat, she was mean to her sisters all thru childhood. She is permanently ruined. If op paid, no doubt Brat would come after her in the future, for money. Parents can just buzz off.
How dare you suggest that the parents should pay ..it's their duty to force OTHERS to pay ..their money is their money ..other ppl's money is theirs too /s 🤣🤣🤣
Youngest sister is a total brat.
I'd have looked my parents in the eyes and said, 'it's tradition that the PARENTS pay for the wedding". I'd then walk away and ignore everyone who nagged me.
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'You cant have a favorite sister' But you can have a favorite daughter? You can spoil rot one of you children and neglect the others? Gimme a break. Those parents have some severe growing up to do and OP will do just Fine without them
what part of "you are cut off" are the parents confused about?
and will golden child care for her parents later ? or leave them to live under a bridge ?
All of it, I suspect. Parents need to pull their heads out of Denise's a$$.
I’m SO grateful my daughter went to the Courthouse 😂❤
Op should expect them to invite her back in their lives in a few years once the kids are involved.
Or when they get old and have no one to support them, because if they think their 'golden child' will to that, then they are even more delusional than I thought!
@@robertx8020 Usually the golden child is the one who steals the parents' retirement money. Because they have no moral values.
In 10 years or less they will be begging op and her sister when their favourite makes them bankrupt or dumps them when they have nothing to offer them I see her dumping her kids on them and running off
Those stories of entitlement are nearly always the same: OP is supposed to forgive and forget otherwise he/she is shunned / unfair etc.
There is no need for anyone to tolerate abusive and entitled behaviour so just don’t .
Entitled brats have no right to ask for favors of siblings who they've treated badly.
In this situation I agree that OP is entitled; she's entitled to decide where and how she spends the money she earned.
The real entitlement here comes from others who feel they have the right to choose what OP does with it instead.
There is nothing worse than a family full of bullies.
Denise: "But you helped pay for Michelle's wedding!"
OP: "I like Michelle. You are only apologizing to me so that I will pay for your wedding. Not gonna happen."
Also OP: "Mom & Dad, paying for Denise's wedding is your responsibility, not mine. You two have a favorite daughter. I have a favorite sister. They are _not_ the same person."
Give it a couple of years when OP moves up in their career making more money and/or when OP and the other sister start having children of their own those parents will be back plowing up the phones and trying to get the opinion of the family on their side cause “we’re family and you can’t cut off family for a small mistake/misunderstanding”
Another story that shows why you never "reconcile" with toxic people.
Block your toxic family.
Might be a good idea.
One thing that really makes these stories a bit hard to deal with is that I'm always wanting to tell OP "For pete's sake just hang up on them when they call. If you don't go past "Hello" they can't really dig in and become quite so annoyingly toxic. Don't listen to their poison. OP just HANG UP." The quick hang up was a trick I learned from a guy in college. He's broken off with his folks. His phone would ring, he'd say "Hello" and hear a voice to which he responded with "Bye" and then drop the hand-set down in the phone's cradle cradle. I quickly learned that was how he handled his parent's calls. He didn't get upset. It was just, Hello. Bye and CLICK.
Yup. It took me literally decades to realize I could just hang up on calls from people I did not want to talk to and to start doing it!
S1, NTI, don’t pay, don’t be pressured, if necessary, go NC with her AND your parents, it’s nothing short of blackmail
Sounds like she is the entitled one and I would not pay
OP - NTA If she wants a nice venue she or your parents can foot the bill! Very entitled attitude so obnoxious to even ask for you to pay for anything. Your parents are horrid!
Block them, but save the text which said: "We only have one daughter!" Just to make sure that any future cost, aka care home, etc. go straight to the favorite daughter, who'll put them in the crappiest of places just to cut down on money....
As a guy, I can only imagine what a nightmare being married to this entitled brat would be. 😱
Another reason OP could mention to Denise for not paying for the venue could be that OP doesn't want to help pay for a wedding that she has no intention of attending. There's no reason for OP to bother with Denise's wedding after being treated so badly by Denise and the folks for years.
The petty me would announce my pregnancy on facebook the day of the wedding.
"You pay for your favorite child."
I really like your narration of these stories. You do a phenomenal job and this is one of my favorite channels. ❤️
Glad you like them!
I’m so tired of others telling you what others should be doing with their own money. Finances change and while in this case she could have afforded it that’s not always the case.
Id have told them i couldn't afford it, end of story. Id have also gone on holidays or a really fancy dinner with my husband and sister on the day of the wedding and posted all over social media how much fun we were having.
Yes!!!
Op should expect that they'll want to make amends the next time they need money or a favor. As soon as sis spawns she'll want gifts and a free babysitter.
When the grandkids show up. They gonna be at your door.
Sounds like Hank has married a monster. She loses every job because she's so impossible. Her co-workers hate her. She has hardly any friends, becuase she's so awful. If she does this to her sisters, she'll do it to her husband too!!
No one is safe around Denise. She is spoiled brat pretending to be an adult. She has a lot in common with a 2 and half year old toddler. (That is when the Terrible Twos hit--mid year.)
I actually love how OP pointed out that the marriage would it last long because of how crazy the sister is and how the sisters fiancé would soon leave her because he wouldn’t be able to put up with a crazy BS. From the moment she said she was engaged after only a few months I was over here they could add once he gets to know your crazy BS he’s gone. So when she actually said that out loud, I was laughing so hard and I was like exactly there’s only so long she can mask that craziness that she has before it seeps out and her fiancé/husband finally sees it. I can’t imagine expecting your sibling to pay for your wedding because they did it for the other sibling that they’re closer to and you know that you’re not close to that sibling. Is that like you grew up thinking you guys were close and everything was good and then someone was like no never mind, these three knew where they said with each other as just one of them is entitled. My sisters are both financially well off my brother is too, and I would never in 1 million years ask them to pay for anything for me. I might if it was like a medical emergency be like hey I need some help you know I have this medical thing I need to pay for it I can’t afford it but that’s different, this is a wedding you don’t have to have a wedding you go to the courthouse. It’s not as romantic but if you really love somebody you want to be with them you’re not gonna let a wedding stand in your way. Also, you don’t need to have a big fancy wedding to get married I like how some people are doing now where they’re opting to have a smalldownscale wedding and then put more money into the honeymoon because the honeymoon is gonna last longer and you can make so many more memories with the honeymoon. Somebody has been married before weddings, or not life or death. It’s not that serious.
Tell your parents it is their obligation to pay for the wedding.
You have a right to say No.
Matthew 5:37.
You and Michelle should go on a vacation the day of the Wedding
Have fun!!
Denise is a real real user like ur Parents
Why aren't the parents paying then?
I can’t believe they made. Michelle have Denise at her wedding, but Michelle is not invited to Denises wedding.😡
They're statistically bad parents given that they lost 2/3 relationships with their daughters.
She is hurting because she knows it’s true that her fiancé will leave her
So the real reason the parents wanted Op to pay for the venue is that they could not afford ANY venue other than their own backyard. And rather than admit that and maybe ask for a loan from Op to pay for a venue, they disown her instead. Got news for the parents- Op and Michelle won't inherit anything financial from you because you don't have anything financial to inherit, lol, and as for the parent-child relationship, there isn't one anyway.
"Pay for your sister's wedding venue"
How dare you tell me how to spend my own money!
Not everybody gets along when you’re a sibling parents need to realize that and force them to try to get along
Especially when the parents didn't bother raising all of them equally or atleast with equity and just favouring one over the others for no damn reason
I would never have nothing to do with Denise a Dam thing
I get your drift but you used a double negative: "...never have nothing..."
Better wording would be "I would never have anything to do with Denise. Not a damn thing."
The moment my parents Tell me I have a favorite I would tell him absolutely just like them have a favorite and start to point out every single time they favor her and spoiled her and wait to hear the crickets 😎
I would have told them that they played favorites!!!!
And they lied to the family and said OP promised to pay for the venue, and then back out🤬. I’m glad the family believed you. 0P.
All I hear is the parents bullying their daughter to pay…so they don’t have to! 🤦🏼♀️
I am sure the parents took the credit for paying for Michelle's wedding.
OP: what’s more important? Me or my money?
Parents: your money.
For the parents, "Make any sacrifices for family = always be Denise's slave". Doesn't matter to them that OP and Michelle have their own families to take care of. Those parents are one of the worst!
Just because OP is the eldest, doesn’t mean anything. Because of Denise’s behavior at the party, she owes the apology, not OP. Being adults, that means that Denise should start being treated like an adult and be held accountable.
parents and Denise are really good at building walls 🤣
Opie’s parents failed all of their kids. They can pay for the venue they have a favorite child. She’s allowed to have a favorite sister and Denise is not it.
Denise is not my favorite sister. I don't know her but she sounds just completely awful. Her fiancé should run for the hills and never come back.
Karma is coming for the parents when they need elder care from the entitled sister.
Your parents can pay for the golden childs wedding you as a sibling owe her nothing and I would not pay on principle she not a real sister she wants your money and she just wants a ATM
Op had good reasons to pay for Michelles Venue and she had not the same reasons for Denise.
It Parents treet her with ignoring it is a good idea oh yes please ignore me
Al the time they called her to repeat theier demanding she should remind them didn`t you wanted to ignore me? Block them and enjoy your live with your other sister and husband as your importent family.
when the time comes to decide on care for the last living parent, will the "only" daughter even care to show up, if not then the discarded ones have final say on pulling the plug !
Opie’s parents want it the sister she got along with to cut her off that was the only way she was going to get an invite to the wedding🤬 that is disgusting OP and Michelle are right. Her parents are the worst parents in the world.
If you have to ask someone if something said about them is true, you probably have a strong feeling it’s not!
They said "all is fair in the war" that's why all is fair said in the fight.
Parents should be fair. Siblings don't have to be.
I expect to hear a continuation of this silly saga.
It's a blessing your crazy family have nothing to do with you now. Celebrate and block toxic people from your lives. Why put up with them?!
Who else see's a future where A. The golden child gives the parents massive debt, B. She immediately puts them into a retirement home as soon as able, or C. All the above!
only spoiled people expect gifts
Outsider here I would absolutely be a judging and asking questions. Hey, where are the other two sisters?
Oh she wants to apologize now that she's getting married? How conveeeeeeeenient! What a clown show. OP you and MIchelle are MUCH better off being cut off from your toxic manipulative parents and their golden child. Of course be ready for them to want to come back into your lives when either or both of you have children, but you'll have to decide if you want to allow your children to be exposed to that toxicity because it will not magically go away. I'd just cut contact and keep it with you other relatives who don't play that drama. And when your parents are older and need assistance, let them see how well their golden child gives it.
Denise sounds insufferable
OP has a me? Blame him then! "Sorry I can't give you any money because my husband said I'm not allowed to."
BTW, sister's husband to be can pay for the wedding. Or Ops parents. My mother made my father pay for my wedding. She said it like it was a fact and t obediently did it even though they had been divorced since I was a baby. Stepmother paid for the grog as well. And that was my husband's job. He sent her a check and she ripped it up. I could never understand why he hadn't paid but he had.
I never understand how you are entitled for not spending your hard earned $$ on other people. The fact that they are estranged should be enough…
Imagine parents behavin like minion are callin OP's other sister minion. They r behavin more like a brat than their spoilt brat of a daughter m these r the parent who train their kids to b a failure in life with that kind of attitude
There’s no such thing as enough attention for an attention seeker.
What Countries are these people in? I’m in my 60’s. Was military so I lived all over and knew a lot of people. I’ve never heard of these idiotic things! I’ve gone hungry I’ve had my electricity cut off IVE NEVER ASKED MY FAMILY FOR ANYTHING! EVER! And none of them would gang up and go after one of us. I don’t get involved in others business lol
What about you? I’m in the U.S.
People are allowed to have a favorite sibling. PARENTS are not allowed to have a favorite child.
When parents are old and needing help …
Denise: oh! Sorry, but I don’t want to!
The worst thing you can do to a child is spoil them. It turns them into nasty people. My brother, the middle child, was the favourite because he was the most violent and my mother loved siccing him on losers (like me). She was absolutely enraged when "zero tolerance" came into schools. He is such an asshat. I once told him something atrocious Hitler did and his response? "You are worse than Hitler because at least Hitler wasn't useless." I'm disabled. He has hated me since I was hit by the truck that disabled me because my mother brainwashed us to believe that being disabled is "selfish" because you are a "just a burden to family and society." I felt enormously guilty and ashamed of being disabled but somewhere deep down I knew they were wrong. I went NC with my family for a few years. Then my mom died so I decided to get in touch with my dad. He was the only one who was ever nice to me even though he didn't protect me. My dad basically implied that I am selfish for not wanting my brothers in my life and refuses to believe they bullied me. I will admit, he was always very blind to what was going on in the family. He was unaware my mother was cheating. Unaware of her real opinions. Whatever. He can believe what he wants.
Just because of the title I guess they lost little sis fund by cutting op off , the thinking these people do is insane I even wonder how they made it so long
You need to start respecting yourself first! When you start doing that then you'll never allow anyone to use you as a doormat. Respect in a relationship comes both ways.
They tried to have a relationship with her but she was too entitled, and mean the reason they don’t have a relationship is because of Denise Opie’s parents are only gonna have one daughter soon the way they’re acting
U don’t owe ur selfish sister a Dam thing
Oh piece family cares more about image of a perfect family, then actually having a family who has ups and downs. Denise was cruel to her her whole life. What do they expect her to do this say oh I forgive you I’ll pay for your venue, No it doesn’t work that way.
I would of been like "OK, I'll pay for the venue after youngest sister meets the same criteria as middle sister: Repair our relationship, date fiancee for 7+ years and I befriend and become close friends with said fiancee." and see how that goes. I'd bet money the relationship wouldn't even last that long, marriage or not.
I wonder if Denise was expecting a fabulous and expensive wedding.
I knew i never wanted to get married but i knew there was a wedding fund for my much younger sister and i, when my sister was getting married she insisted that she should get all of the money because i was never going to find anyone to marry me. she is right but it’s more i don’t see the point. she tried so hard to get that money. after her divorce and second engagement i was invited to dinner to my sister excited that as the wedding fund still had money she will still get all of it and this way it would just pay for her second wedding. through confusion at my laughter she pouted. i explained that the account was put in my name after she used more than her half (she was sneaky stealing a few extra thousand)
and i had opted to gift part to pay for our nana’s funeral and everything else in a trust for my son for university or education. oh i felt great they are still saving
This whole thing was caused by her parents. Her parents are the ones who spoke to Denise about OP paying for the wedding venue. Her parents are ridiculous and yes you can have a favourite sibling. It's not the same as parents having a favourite kid. They're just as entitled as Denise.
Denise and particularly the parents are mostly to blame here. However, I think OP could have handled the situation better. She was in her full right to not pay for Denise's wedding venue since they weren't very close.
However, OP said she and Denise were about to reconcile and find back to each other. Then it's hurtful when OP told Denise she didn't get the venue paid for because OP didn't like her and that her fiancee wasn't a guy she thought would be in the marriage for long. The words she described Denise with showed OP surely didn't have much care for her.
Granted, Denise was a brat when she was younger, but OP tried to reconcile. So obviously they had some care for each other. Now, that chance is ruined for a long time.
Denise said she felt like the outsider sister and how OP worded the relationship I think that was true. OP liked to use we when she spoke hinting that Michelle always agreed with her. It seems to me Michelle was the one trying to keep the peace in the family and not being against anyone. OP took her consent for granted.
OP seems to generally be nice and it was a great thing supporting Michelle's wedding. I just think she could have chosen her words better when she refused to help Denise.
She could have said that she at some time would love to support her if their relationship continued to improve, but it was too early to do it now. Then you give the signal you appreciate the change process she's going through. Instead OP lost the chance to rescue Denise from the horrible parents. OP said Denise was spoiled by her parents. Her desire to reconcile with OP was a sign she wanted some independence. Instead she got back into her bad ways and the parents got full control over her again.
One day OP will regret this missed opportunity. The next time Denise comes to her apologizing she should give her a chance. At least if she sees Denise has managed to free herself from the clutches of their parents.
It can't be easy being Michelle stuck between a confident and independent OP and Denise tainted by bad parents feeling unloved by her sisters. Michelle loves both and tries to mediate hoping for a miracle.
You sound like the guy from the eyewash commercial
1st OP your family is toxic. Your not responsible for her wedding and your parents should pay two cheap people
Yawn. That's a lot of characters in the original story for a 3,000 max character limit in the AITAH subreddit.
Just sayin'.