I had my daughter my freshman year in college. I refused to drop out and become a statistic. So many people tried to shame me and I resented being a mother for the first few years, especially because of my daughter's special needs. I had to grow. What the devil meant to destroy me, God turned into my biggest blessing. I finished undergrad. I have two masters degrees today❣️ But God 💯
Lack of relationship with God will have people looking for fulfillment in other things. My parents been married 30 years and my dad had the sex talk with me and my sister and even told us men will say anything to have sex yet I still had sex before marriage. I held out until I was 20 but I still had sex and was in Fornication for almost 9 years until I got pregnant. Me having my baby was a wake up call. I Rededicated my life back to God and became celibate. If it wasn’t for my relationship with God I’d still be sleeping around because sex is addicting once you have it. But thank God for the Holy Spirit because that gives me strength! Have not had sex in 2 years and won’t unless God leads me into marriage one day. I grew up in the church knowing God but wanted to live like the world. Shows like Gossip Girl, Sex In The City, etc made sex seem like so much fun, even made toxic relationships seem Intriguing. Relationship with God is the best fulfillment.
@Tracy G I kind of see what u are saying. That being said when I Rededicated my life back to God I decided to live for God and obey his word. So that is why I decided I will not have sex unless I’m married. Now does that mean I’ll get married? There is a possibility I won’t but I just have to trust that God will bring forfullment into my life in different ways. If I do things my way instead of Gods way then I’m not living in obedience. At the end of the day when I leave this earth I will have to give God a account for my decisions and I don’t want to tell him I did this and that because I felt like it or it was right in my eyes. Sex is something that is beautiful when shared with the right person and that also involves marriage. U can disagree with the marriage part but it’s true anything involving sex outside of marriage is sin. And I no longer want to willfully live in sin(I still struggle with thinking lustfully but the more I focus on God the less I think that way) when you know better you do better. Now do people get married and still have issues with lust and other drama? Yes! But that’s why we need to open that conversation up more so people can start to fix that problem and have Healthy Marriages. Dismissing marriage and doing this your own way isn’t the solution to that problem.
@Tracy G ok I totally get what u are saying and I agree that Christian women chase marriage without always understanding how to be in a marriage and that marriage isn’t some magic fix for all of there issues. But as a Christian it would be wrong of me to not tell people what I’ve learned about the consequences of Fornication and having soul ties and how that can cause people to have blind spots when it comes to entertaining the wrong person and like I said before it’s a sin to have sex before marriage so it would be wrong for me to just not say nothing about it as a follower of Christ now at the end of day people go do what they wanna do. I use to think the same way but once I stop having sex I was able to get in a better relationship with God because when u are in sin u are not in connection with God. That’s why we often sit up and look at other Christians and think that they actions should determine our actions when in actuality the word of God is what we should be paying attention to. We shouldn’t be looking at other people Christian or not Christian and saying well they this or that because no man is perfect but we also shouldn’t be spitting in Gods face if we are truly Christians and pretend like it’s ok to just do something because we our selfs like it. I’m not sure if u are a Christian or not but if u are hopefully u get what I mean. If not sorry if I sound crazy but I believe God to be real and his word to be truth so I’m going to try my best to listen to his commands. I also would like to say I agree everyone one who is in Fornication isn’t damaged from childhood lol. I think Tony just has talked to a lot of women who have been through things that he just goes to the worst case Scenario. Anyway I hope u kind of get where I’m coming from. Also congrats on your soon to be marriage 👰🏾🤵🏾♂️
You said it takes 2 to tango...problem is too many people are doing the horizontal mamba with too many different partners! Find you one partner to settle down and dance with for life. Your mind, body, and soul will be better off. Sit down sometimes and even slow dance in this dance of life. Let God be your partner. He will be your peaceful music of tranquility and splendor. Give him a try.
What if coparenting has no boundaries, and just goes any way that’s convenient for the father? What if the mother is fed up to the point of leaving him to take care of the kids?
I am myself a graduate student and I am about to finish in September. I feel that 80% of my life is already going into the right track and almost put together.I have so many hopes and dreams because it is the end of a long journey. I see the same pattern with my friends who are in the same situation.Some of them getting ready to apply for PhDs(myself for MD PhD), some of them ready to go for an internship in another part of the world before a PhD, some of them ready to work and some of them ready to have children and get married. It is the kind of hope that I never saw before during our studies. I would say he has the same feeling, full with hope because his life is getting put together.
Tony has a really point, how do you know it’s is, he probably has a hard time accepting it because he’s not sure if it’s his baby until he gets those results
That's true it hit me up!! ITherapy and understand when this comes from... just realised repeated scenatio in my life now and i will go see someone soon
Spiritually transmitted disease ‼️ If we don’t find healing we will just continue carrying that weight around for years. You will keep going through the same stuff until you learn the lesson.
I know it may seem like it is so important right now and having to face the fact your child may not have a father....but it’s not. All a baby needs is the essentials for the first several years. That is what’s important so just take a breather and focus on being a good provider for your baby.
I strongly, respectfully disagree. I do think from the womb a father's presence is needed and helps the child thrive. But obviously if that guy is not in the picture a child can still flourish. I definitely understand your opinion though.
@@pat4eva09 this was not a diminishing a man’s role post. No where was I saying that. A baby doesn’t know who is what for the first years. All a baby know is the basics. That’s all she needs to focus on and not whether or not her child will have a father in its life. That is wasted energy when she’ll need all her energy to provide for her baby what it needs from her. Some women will literally fall into depression or get stuck on their child’s father not being there.
Exactly. If I was her I would be back in college, working part-time, and staying at my parent's house til I'm on my feet. Her father is present, so she doesn't need the deadbeat as a masculine role model. She can move on with her life and create a family of her own. No need to dwell on and fret over someone who chooses not to be involved.
Right all she can do at this point is focus on herself as a Mother now and focus on her child that she has had by a man she had no real clue about other than he look good probably. She is probably embarrassed that she ended up in this situation, because not too many people willingly go for this. She has had a baby by a Man who changed his number so that she could not contact him. She had to chase him down on Instagram. I mean this is a hot mess, but it is what it is.
35:18 “ are you sleeping with someone you can’t marry “ TG ..if we ask ourselves that question before we get on our back things would be so different! 🙌🏾
This is a lesson to be careful and not take chances on things that could have serious consequences and to not consider them casual and having fun because the woman can end up most of the times with soul ties, wasted years, a baby or a disease. And if you do have a baby, his safety, tranquility and happiness becomes your priority so co-parent only if the other parent brings a positive difference, balance, support, care, knowledge into the child's life.
I would tell him to take me to court, you wanna be in your child life, go get a court order, I wouldn’t let him see the child until that court order and parenting agreement get into place.
Sis, you guys were a FWB situation. I don't understand why you thought he would act favorably to the news that you were pregnant, ESPECIALLY, if both of you were cheating on your respective partners. AFTER you've had a child with this man isn't the time to determine he's DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH.
They wasn’t cheating on “respective” partners they both was just messing around with different people. No telling how many women he had and how many men she had at that time.
Make God your best friend and kneeology your favourite subject, that is something I went through and I'm telling you it's going to be really really challenging, especially if you have a son. The child will ask questions about their father no matter how awesome of a parent you are. But let not your heart be troubled, it is going to be harder to raise your child to be a well-rounded individual, but once you do the work, everything will work out in Jesus name. Spend a lot of time with your child, and be a godly example that they can follow. I hope this helps. 😊
Sadly some dads can't be in there child life because of legal issues or other issues sadly. That's a problem to not intend to be with a guy who you have a child with because now you cant get away from them and are bonded to the father.. Definitely get this topic its not talked about .I wonder what advice for those who don't have the other person in the child life
I dunno...something seems off. I think this girl probably trapped ole boy. She was loose and on birth control. Only slept with him twice. Very interesting how that happened. But what's done is done, if he doesn't step up, then definitely continue the steps to child support. Really sad all the way around.
I can’t wait... “A Tony A Day, Keeps the Grown Boys Away!” God Bless you Tony and Tony’s family!
😂😂😂
😆 Fax, no printer!💯
Period!
Ohhhh yes! 👏
Lol love it!
I had my daughter my freshman year in college.
I refused to drop out and become a statistic.
So many people tried to shame me and I resented being a mother for the first few years, especially because of my daughter's special needs.
I had to grow. What the devil meant to destroy me, God turned into my biggest blessing.
I finished undergrad.
I have two masters degrees today❣️
But God 💯
Get Down👏👏👏
Okay !! 👏
HalleluYah
Amen!
So happy for your story! 💜💛❤
Lack of relationship with God will have people looking for fulfillment in other things. My parents been married 30 years and my dad had the sex talk with me and my sister and even told us men will say anything to have sex yet I still had sex before marriage. I held out until I was 20 but I still had sex and was in Fornication for almost 9 years until I got pregnant. Me having my baby was a wake up call. I Rededicated my life back to God and became celibate. If it wasn’t for my relationship with God I’d still be sleeping around because sex is addicting once you have it. But thank God for the Holy Spirit because that gives me strength! Have not had sex in 2 years and won’t unless God leads me into marriage one day. I grew up in the church knowing God but wanted to live like the world. Shows like Gossip Girl, Sex In The City, etc made sex seem like so much fun, even made toxic relationships seem Intriguing. Relationship with God is the best fulfillment.
Amen thank you for this truth
Thank you for sharing. You said, "even toxic relationships seem intriguing". Lord have mercy on us and help us.
@Tracy G
Like I said before...LORD have mercy on us and help us.
@Tracy G I kind of see what u are saying. That being said when I Rededicated my life back to God I decided to live for God and obey his word. So that is why I decided I will not have sex unless I’m married. Now does that mean I’ll get married? There is a possibility I won’t but I just have to trust that God will bring forfullment into my life in different ways. If I do things my way instead of Gods way then I’m not living in obedience. At the end of the day when I leave this earth I will have to give God a account for my decisions and I don’t want to tell him I did this and that because I felt like it or it was right in my eyes. Sex is something that is beautiful when shared with the right person and that also involves marriage. U can disagree with the marriage part but it’s true anything involving sex outside of marriage is sin. And I no longer want to willfully live in sin(I still struggle with thinking lustfully but the more I focus on God the less I think that way) when you know better you do better. Now do people get married and still have issues with lust and other drama? Yes! But that’s why we need to open that conversation up more so people can start to fix that problem and have Healthy Marriages. Dismissing marriage and doing this your own way isn’t the solution to that problem.
@Tracy G ok I totally get what u are saying and I agree that Christian women chase marriage without always understanding how to be in a marriage and that marriage isn’t some magic fix for all of there issues. But as a Christian it would be wrong of me to not tell people what I’ve learned about the consequences of Fornication and having soul ties and how that can cause people to have blind spots when it comes to entertaining the wrong person and like I said before it’s a sin to have sex before marriage so it would be wrong for me to just not say nothing about it as a follower of Christ now at the end of day people go do what they wanna do. I use to think the same way but once I stop having sex I was able to get in a better relationship with God because when u are in sin u are not in connection with God. That’s why we often sit up and look at other Christians and think that they actions should determine our actions when in actuality the word of God is what we should be paying attention to. We shouldn’t be looking at other people Christian or not Christian and saying well they this or that because no man is perfect but we also shouldn’t be spitting in Gods face if we are truly Christians and pretend like it’s ok to just do something because we our selfs like it. I’m not sure if u are a Christian or not but if u are hopefully u get what I mean. If not sorry if I sound crazy but I believe God to be real and his word to be truth so I’m going to try my best to listen to his commands. I also would like to say I agree everyone one who is in Fornication isn’t damaged from childhood lol. I think Tony just has talked to a lot of women who have been through things that he just goes to the worst case Scenario. Anyway I hope u kind of get where I’m coming from. Also congrats on your soon to be marriage 👰🏾🤵🏾♂️
“Get the lesson, and then prepare for your blessings.” TG
You said it takes 2 to tango...problem is too many people are doing the horizontal mamba with too many different partners! Find you one partner to settle down and dance with for life. Your mind, body, and soul will be better off. Sit down sometimes and even slow dance in this dance of life. Let God be your partner. He will be your peaceful music of tranquility and splendor. Give him a try.
Amen
CINDEE D
Is preaching for real.
Nicely put 👏
“Pleasure do not lead to happiness it leads to Pain” ion think they hearing you tho🗣🙌🏾
HEY HEY BLESS TRIBE!! ARE YOU READY FOR ANOTHER EPISODE WITH TONY !! I AM!! 💯❤🥳🥳🥳
If he’s healthy co-parenting will work. If he’s toxic it will hurt both you and the children.
What if coparenting has no boundaries, and just goes any way that’s convenient for the father? What if the mother is fed up to the point of leaving him to take care of the kids?
@@honeiir3816 At that point you need to do what’s best to protect your mental and emotional health.
You are so right
@@KrystleLaughter how can I get to that point?
Some parents are angry because you left them....so they be difficult to get revenge and make your life a living H...
Let's face it....you can't coparent with every dad....my safety is first.....bump that !
Tony, looking at her picture with that good eye! 👀
I crack up every time 🤣
I am myself a graduate student and I am about to finish in September. I feel that 80% of my life is already going into the right track and almost put together.I have so many hopes and dreams because it is the end of a long journey. I see the same pattern with my friends who are in the same situation.Some of them getting ready to apply for PhDs(myself for MD PhD), some of them ready to go for an internship in another part of the world before a PhD, some of them ready to work and some of them ready to have children and get married. It is the kind of hope that I never saw before during our studies. I would say he has the same feeling, full with hope because his life is getting put together.
I got so many stories to tell!!! I think I am ready to share some of them... especially about this co parenting thing...
Tony has a really point, how do you know it’s is, he probably has a hard time accepting it because he’s not sure if it’s his baby until he gets those results
Can't wait to hear what Tony has to say on this!
Even if you think the individual is your future spouse still stay off ya back! Learned that the hard way.
“He supposed to be over here gettin an education , but he over here plumbing, laying pipe “ Lmbo 😂Oh Lord Tony I’m in the floor
Reallocate your spine🤣🤣🤣🤣. Tony is hilarious
No lie detected. And baby girl was having a GOOD time you hear me. But those chickens came home and she wasn't ready.
This is going to be a good topic
Thanks for this notification, Tony 🥰
Yaaaza! The Most High, Total Celibacy and Loving on Your SELF!!!💯🥰
That's true it hit me up!! ITherapy and understand when this comes from... just realised repeated scenatio in my life now and i will go see someone soon
Lessons lead to blessings 💯💯
My situation was very similar 25 years ago. A toxic relationship turned into a toxic marriage.
Indeed ladies!
Pleasure lead to pain this is so true
Therapy is Key 🔑
His family in Africa probably doesn’t even know he has a child 🤷🏽♀️
RIGHT!!!
Most likely not...smh
Spiritually transmitted disease ‼️ If we don’t find healing we will just continue carrying that weight around for years. You will keep going through the same stuff until you learn the lesson.
I need this one
I know it may seem like it is so important right now and having to face the fact your child may not have a father....but it’s not. All a baby needs is the essentials for the first several years. That is what’s important so just take a breather and focus on being a good provider for your baby.
I strongly, respectfully disagree. I do think from the womb a father's presence is needed and helps the child thrive. But obviously if that guy is not in the picture a child can still flourish. I definitely understand your opinion though.
@@pat4eva09 this was not a diminishing a man’s role post. No where was I saying that. A baby doesn’t know who is what for the first years. All a baby know is the basics. That’s all she needs to focus on and not whether or not her child will have a father in its life. That is wasted energy when she’ll need all her energy to provide for her baby what it needs from her. Some women will literally fall into depression or get stuck on their child’s father not being there.
@@toriyt2714 Sure. Have a good one.
Exactly. If I was her I would be back in college, working part-time, and staying at my parent's house til I'm on my feet. Her father is present, so she doesn't need the deadbeat as a masculine role model. She can move on with her life and create a family of her own. No need to dwell on and fret over someone who chooses not to be involved.
Right all she can do at this point is focus on herself as a Mother now and focus on her child that she has had by a man she had no real clue about other than he look good probably. She is probably embarrassed that she ended up in this situation, because not too many people willingly go for this. She has had a baby by a Man who changed his number so that she could not contact him. She had to chase him down on Instagram. I mean this is a hot mess, but it is what it is.
35:18 “ are you sleeping with someone you can’t marry “ TG ..if we ask ourselves that question before we get on our back things would be so different! 🙌🏾
Love the t-shirt 🙌🏽
This is a lesson to be careful and not take chances on things that could have serious consequences and to not consider them casual and having fun because the woman can end up most of the times with soul ties, wasted years, a baby or a disease. And if you do have a baby, his safety, tranquility and happiness becomes your priority so co-parent only if the other parent brings a positive difference, balance, support, care, knowledge into the child's life.
Need that shirt now!
Thank you Tony 💕
Thank you
No kids....but please teach me what NOT TO DO and stay away from!!!
Tony, can you please make a video on a guy not wanting to deal with a woman's health issues?
When a man doesn't care about you....he doesn't care about your health
Some of this stuff should just be common sense.
Tell em !!!!!!!!! Yes sirrr
Be bless.
Wow I’ve never heard of “SPIRITUALLY Transmitted Disease” put that way! Made me cringe!!! Very eye opening!
Good evening Tony and Blessed Tribers
By the look on Tony face the answer is no 😄
Haha 😂😂
Yeah that’s what I can tell LOL
This guy is hilarious 😂 but I love his message
Hey Tony, I need to purchase that t shirt.
Yes moses
Need that shirt!
Tony said they got the tripe ready for him.....LOL
Its the funniest thing when you self-bleep the words lololol..
Listening
I pray God heal this mother with child.
I would tell him to take me to court, you wanna be in your child life, go get a court order, I wouldn’t let him see the child until that court order and parenting agreement get into place.
Sis, you guys were a FWB situation. I don't understand why you thought he would act favorably to the news that you were pregnant, ESPECIALLY, if both of you were cheating on your respective partners. AFTER you've had a child with this man isn't the time to determine he's DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH.
Exactly 💯
They wasn’t cheating on “respective” partners they both was just messing around with different people. No telling how many women he had and how many men she had at that time.
If your married with children you MUST watch Tony, prevention is better than cure.
"Those genes are pure...those genes are unadulterated!" Tony you are hilarious without even trying 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He was readdyyyyyy 😭😂.
What about if he tries to take the child and build with another woman
"Take" what the world
Oof, great question!
Certainly got a lesson from it.
I’m happy I’m in Therapy
What advice do you give to a newly single mom who decided not to give her child the fathers name and the father decided not be in the child’s life?
Make God your best friend and kneeology your favourite subject, that is something I went through and I'm telling you it's going to be really really challenging, especially if you have a son. The child will ask questions about their father no matter how awesome of a parent you are. But let not your heart be troubled, it is going to be harder to raise your child to be a well-rounded individual, but once you do the work, everything will work out in Jesus name. Spend a lot of time with your child, and be a godly example that they can follow. I hope this helps. 😊
Hey Fam💚
So she was sleeping with two dudes and she just assuming that he's the daddy? Get that test first. Alexa call Maury
Love this idea!
Sadly some dads can't be in there child life
because of legal issues or other issues sadly.
That's a problem to not intend to be with a guy who you have a child with because now you cant get away from them and are bonded to the father..
Definitely get this topic its not talked about .I wonder what advice for those who don't have the other person in the child life
Companionship ~ a feeling of fellowship or friendship.
It has nothing to do with s*x...
hi Blessed tribe
He might be a lot older than her. These African males will come here and lie about their age. He could be 30 with a family somewhere.
I live in Houston and see this ALL THE TIME.
You better believe it. She has a whole daddy at home and ran off to college as if her daddy did not warn her at all. Oh well. Next.
🤲🏼🌱
I dunno...something seems off. I think this girl probably trapped ole boy. She was loose and on birth control. Only slept with him twice. Very interesting how that happened.
But what's done is done, if he doesn't step up, then definitely continue the steps to child support. Really
sad all the way around.
Um not true happened to me definitely never wanted him
He may want to take that baby back to his country.