Im definitely not with you. Definitely not with a guy that tells other men to approach women. Approaching a woman is a big motherf*cking mistake. St*pidest thing any man can do, i mean, if the year is 2024. Also same for getting married.
I’m 30 but the problem is I have a lack of interest in everything. I don’t want to make a passion a career. I don’t really like people and I’m just unsatisfied with everything.
Yeah, well secularization and liberal democracy have done that. You plebeians wanted freedom from the traditional order? now enjoy the fruits of modernity.
@zacht2806 muh muh religion is bad. I can't be a degenerate. Again, do not complain. Enjoy your modernity. And no, if you lived past 20 people, even surfs lived well into their 60s and 70s
Exactly I'm in my 40s. If men don't have money and free time they don't have value to society or women. Everyone who denies that reality is delusional.
Yeah. Im over 40 and this society and world is just depressing asf I just want to be alone from this mad world and its clutter bs that doesn't make any sense anymore. 20 years ago it was different world.
Just turned 32 and after busting my ass in my 20s for basically nothing I find myself waking up every day to a pointless world with no room for me. Everything is overly sexualized, women don't want families or marriage anymore they want a photographer. The economy is so God damn bad I barely can afford to pay rent let alone anything remotely entertaining. Everyone is glued to their phones. You can go all day without even talking to anyone. This world has changed dramatically in the last ten years. I have zero hope for the future.
yeh its definately sad to see some women onine where you think damn, such a waste that you chose to follow the rest when, you would've made a decent wife/mother.
@@Edward-ti4kxand how is that working for both men and women. Women don’t know what they want, hence they need marriage to be a mother and then it’ll all makes sense for them. Worked for my wife. Used to be a feminist now she’s conservative.
It's not just a 25 - 35 thing. I'm 60 and my wife left me a year and a half ago after 32 years of marriage and raising 6 kids together. She started working remotely for an ex-boyfriend from college who is now a multimillionaire. Anyway, I now live alone in our home and she is gone. I talk to no one. I doordash to pay the bills. I'm suicidal. I'm seeing V.A. counseling. My kids are involved in their own lives and I rarely hear from any of them. I have no energy to do anything but work and then come home and sit in my chair. I feel like there is no purpose.
I agree it's not a 25-35 thing. The creator of the video may have an underlying motive to attract a certain demographic to build his money making TH-cam videos. It's almost like a pyramid scheme.
I’m so sorry man.. hang in there and take it a bit at a time.. when I’m really low, doing small random acts of kindness for others gives me a little bit of peace.
Brother, please hang on. Don't off yourself. Can you swing a gym membership? A Planet Fitness one is $10 a month. Anytime/Snap Fitness maybe $30-40. Just get in there and work. Find your anger from this situation and channel it into your workouts, not anything destructive. I swear to you, you will feel better. You will see results, and you'll keep going. You built that. Your ex-wife made a gigantic mistake. If he's a multi-millionaire, she isn't going to be the only one he's seeing, and most likely, not someone he wants to keep long term. She'll come back eventually, but by then, you won't want her.
Im 31 and have large amount of disposable income and also want a wife and kids. Money wont help, but makes it easier, and also more difficult, girls will use you.
Become a passport bro. Go to Latin America and learn Spanish. And never worry about the cost of children. Secondhand children's clothes are everywhere and they don't eat much lol
@@fearandloathingmedia2051 Makes it easier to live. I've never earned a enough to support myself in 20 years of working. I have an associate's degree and lots of experience but its all worthless. The government further screwed me making it illegal for me to work until 2026. Due to filial laws in the state I live in I work for free taking care of my childhood abuser instead now...
Work on yourself bro. Join some sort of group (e.g.running) and meet people. Lots of people in your boat but unwilling to get out there. As for money, either force your way up company or start a business. Learn how to buy and sell artifical turf, learn how to patch up old rotting wood and go round with business cards...work on content creation - think about ideas.... loads of ways to be an animal my friend
Hey man, do you have any advice for finding a job in sales. Where to start, what to look for. I'm 35 and looking for a career change/debating going back to school. Thanks!
@@ATRTAP History is half BS, stop believing the lies, Nikola Tesla was born in 1856, they had their own kind of technology to get things done conveniently back then, oil lamps, steam engines, etc. it was just not electricity, and before that they had slaves. Plenty of people lived great lives, way more then today in fact with way less population to feed and house they had a lot more space and freedom. There are probably more mine workers and poor around the world in the current day then there was back then ffs. Heck nothing has changed really except the loss of religion and the power that held keeping people and woman especially in check.
that so funny In a remarkable display of unity and vision, one million women came together to build a self-sustaining society over a period of 16 years by consolidating their funds monthly. Pooling their resources, they collaborated with visionary architects and dedicated construction companies to create a harmonious and efficient community. This society, named "Serenity Solis," featured state-of-the-art eco-friendly homes, renewable energy sources, and lush communal gardens that provided fresh produce year-round. Advanced water recycling systems and green infrastructure ensured minimal environmental impact, while shared spaces for education, healthcare, and social activities fostered a strong sense of community. Each woman contributed not just financially but also through their diverse skills and talents, transforming Serenity Solis into a beacon of sustainability and empowerment, demonstrating the incredible potential of women's collective effort. but you guys wont do this because you dont actually care about eachother you just want to get a big house and a wife by yourself and your own singular efforts because "im the man" boo hoo woe is me thats all i want in life is that so much to ask for, you guys sound so pathetic its crazy.
True. Simple fix: join the Catholic Church. 1.) A calander full of tradition, amassed over 2000 years. 2.) You still got to build the "village", sadly 3.) Catholicism is the common belief. You can knock two of three points out with a year long conversion process.
@@4bidden1 I would advise this: Think of a theological question, a simple one at first. Something baseline, like "what is hell," "what is grace," or "why pray to saints;" but any will do. Now, Google the question followed by "Catholic." Read the answer provided by Catholic Apologists. Follow the little rabbit holes; the Bible verses, the Church Father quotes, the Catacism quotes, and read those too. Do that until you have a basic understanding of the Catholic Church. Now, ask a harder question. Maybe something not "theological" in nature. For almost any legitimate question you have, the Catholic Church has a thought out answer for. Even if you disagree with the answers, read them, and at least entertain them for a moment. IF you find yourself start to intellectually agree with the Catholic worldview, find a loval Church and start a dialogue with the Priest there. I was a stark anti-Catholic for 27 yesrs before I converted; and this was my conversion process. The Catholic faith practice is highly intellectual, regardless of what you may currently believe. It's fascinating learning about it, one way or another.
I'll be 50 later this year, over-educated, no job, no wife, no kids, no car, no credit card, no phone. Nothing. I'm still waiting for this miraculous lightbulb moment. Days, nights, weeks, months, years all become the same. What's it supposed to be about? What is anything I keep asking myself and friends and family around me. What is what? What is is? Is is? And no, Viktor Frankl hasn't helped. lol
@@edwardbrock3807 Exactly. Trust me when I say this, I even do blind Pepsi taste challenges, I deliberately stuff things up to see if it's real, self-sabotaging to at least regain SOME semblance and control. It's a standing joke with me, not only have I been fired from more jobs than my babyboomer parents have had combined, I've fucked up more fucks than the times I've been fucked! LOL Im totally into paradoxical logic. Why when Im horny I can't get laid, but, if I jerk-off 3x before going to the bar, then women want me? What's to want? Im supposed to be rewarded for something Im not supposed to want? Why want!? etc. etc.
I'm 58 and feel the same way. We were taught how to be a working part of their system, be a slave, keep track of your finances, pay your taxes, nothing about saving money, buying a house, have a family.
@@joshmiller9783 and you think people are gonna fight for this garbage society? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂? maybe the desperate ones will but people with integrity aren't gonna do it.
Women are born at the top of the mountain; men are born in the valley. Man is judged on how hi he climbs; a woman is judged on how far she falls. Men have much to gain; women have much to lose. Masculinity is built; femininity is preserved.
Same here, bro... I keep thinking If was my father's job to teach me about them earlier, or if there was nothing he could do about what the wourld would become... I dont know...
Same age and feel the same, grow up in a family where my dad is so religious he never taught us anything but the “bible” and the “word of god” it affects me and my brothers to this day.
As a 26 year old man the hardest thing to hear is “your 20s are supposed to be the best time of your life.” If this is the best life gets why am I still trudging along?
20s is all about travelling the world supposedly but to do that you have to either already have the money to do so yourself or have a family that can afford it for you. Most people are born and die in the same town or country pretty much.
Lies man. Your 20s are super tough, lots to figure out, they are to find a direction. Find that and work towards goals, and you 30s, 40s, 50s and over can be even sweeter!
Im a veteran..... we vets stick together, civilian guys got to realize it aint gay to care about your fellow man....or makes you look weak...My buddy has PTSD bad so some nights he calls me and tells me he needs to drive...so we get in his truck like at 1am and just talk and drive......we at times run into homeless guys and end up they are vets. We pull up an just talk about the military and our past like 3am in the middle of nowhere...if we have cash we give it to them .....we need to end this macho Bs and just be like we were when we were young playing in our yards
@@asdfasdfasdfsfds I feel for you brother.....I wish I could solve your issue but Im not qualified...The best thing I can say is try to talk to your local county mental health administration...They are there for this issue they can put you in touch with finding another place....Your mental health counselor could help you they have avenues for such things. Try to create a plan to move on write it down and try to work on one thing after another I had a divorce after a long marriage where I was broke and lost everything..... I had to even sell my pets I couldn't afford to keep them.....I was almost homeless.......5 yrs later with the help of the Good Lord I have made it safely back to who I was prior to my marriage. You can do it man God has you here for a reason you woke up today for God gave you another day to succeed so many people didn't get that...
@@dojocho1894 Thank you so much for the really kind words. I will try what you mentioned. I'm glad you were able to make it back from that place after you divorce. I can only imagine how tough that must have been. May God continue to give you strength.
No vet here, no military or stuff at all, but I turned 29 today and if I have learned one thing from the last five'ish years, than that it's NEVER gay or what ever to care about Our fellow human beings, I try to be there for people like I would like smone to be there for me on grim and dark days. Always remember Guys: It's never gay to check if your Homies okay!
It's like you're on autopilot, you get up, go to work, come home, and don't even know what you're working for. Then one day it hits you, where has my life gone?
Exactly. Or 2 years ago I'm like "Alright I'm gonna budget my ass off. Pay off debt, save for a house". So I grind, 2 years later I've saved 20k.... but everything's gone up by that amount?! It feels like a losing battle. Like it's a trap. A cruel joke. Nothing makes sense anymore.
I’m an older Millennial/Gen Xer (mid 80’s) and what makes it most depressing is that I remember the old times before the Internet made all of human suffering available for everyone with a smartphone. The happiest people I know are one’s off social media and off the Internet. I think there is a strong correlation there.
I definitely think social media helped to screw us up socially and the comparison thing has become a major issue. I feel like people struggle to make and maintain friendships in person. Also, the only way we can make friends is by meeting up with and working on something with another person (sport, music, games etc.) and people need to do that at least 10 times regularly before they start to consider a person a mate. Social media makes it feel like we've been social when we haven't really, not in a meaningful way. Before social media, we only had our immediate circle to compare ourselves to and TV. You have to develop a really healthy and realistic view of social media to use it and remain sane and happy with what you have
You also remember the times when your car only cost 500 dollars and your entry level job paid you well enough to survive. GTFO of here, the internet is not the problem. The economy is.
i feel the same way, i was born in the 90's but was raised with values from earlier decades. I hate what social media and smart phones have done to everything.
Something extremely covert and sinister is happening here in a spiritual manner, guys. The trend is clear. Something is trying to wipe us out. Let's make sure we keep our support for ourselves and each other strong.
32, unemployed and an absolute burden to my wife. Fired because “my skill set was no longer needed” found out 2 months later they hired some kid straight out of school. Fired because he’s doing my job of 10yrs for less money.
@@AndreKing4 I think you’re missing the main point of the comment. I’m sitting with nearly 70k in my account. I could sit at home for 2 years and be better off than some people who slave away working for 35-40k a year. Finding a job that pays won’t be a problem. Finding a good employer in general is the issue.
In Australia what your employer did to you would be illegal. Being laid off because of no longer being needed is a redundancy, and legally that role can't be re-hired for at least 6 months (last time I checked). Of course employers may still find a loophole around this by creating a vacancy for a different job title, even if the duties will be essential the same as the previously made redundant position.
What about 40 year old men who've spent the last 15 years raising kids only to end up with a woman that no longer has a sex drive and refuses to touch you? Months pass by and the loneliness gets stronger while your wife expects you to still be the perfect husband and father....
How old are the kids? If they are old enough that you don’t have to pay child support or alimony why not just divorce her? But then again I’m against just giving up a good marriage, she isn’t cheating is she?
@@shanepatrick641 17, 16, 14, 8, 5 The four older ones are boys and the youngest is a girl. If we were to split the boys want to stay with me. We've had this talk before sadly.
@@DadStrength81 should join a gym and name drop a few "women" at work and srr what she says. Spray up a bit more when you go out and act disinterested. Not doing anything wrong at that point. But might gain momentum in the right direction at least.
I am 34, male, Indian. Feeling same here as well. My best friend unalived himself couple of years back due to extreme financial, psychological and emotional torture at the hands of his gf and his elder sisters. Since, then I really stopped actively caring for this world. I perform social duties, smile at people, make an earning, cook my food, clean my apartment, goto sleep, and repeat. But, I am not alive. I haven't really spoken to anyone in many years now.
36 here. Been full on having a crisis last 2 years. Family going through insane drama. I’m just going to work. No goals. No wife or kids. No close friends. Just feeling like what is this all about?
Totally. Every day I ask myself "What is anything?" Sex is an over-rated albeit, underwhelming social construct. Money isn't real. Numbers are nominal. Happiness is an illusion. Democracy is subjective and colours are the absence of light. Compound that with women who fuck to only kill babies (and/or, falsely accuse rich dudes 37 years later of "rape" ) , it all just becomes a Darwinian/ Dystopian nightmare in and of epic proportions. You're lucky, at least you have a job! I'm 49 with more education than any US president in world history - and Im labelled "over-qualified". OVER-QUALIFIED for life!! (PS: Im in Canada). If life is supposed to be about "learning", then what is there to learn? That life is just a scam, and we're only realizing it now? Language is suppressed. Feelings are repressed. Opportunities oppressed. Dreams vanquished, thinking prohibited, actualization muted. When's it going to be over? When's it going to begin? What is what!? :(
Create your own purpose if you have none. And commit to it, even though it gets hard! Find something to do to build on, on your own time! If you can, find smart people who want to learn and collaborate with! Those relationships are golden!
I just turned 28 last week. I feel this pressure you are talking about. This pressure to get rich. I have a son and a pregnant wife so I can’t afford to take any real risk anymore. I attempted starting a business and failed. I attempted day trading and lost a lot of money. I thought everything would be good once I got this job at the beginning of the year. A job that has been my dream job for 6 years. Now I sit in my office feeling the same as I always have. Feeling like I haven’t accomplished enough. Feeling like I’m failing my family because I can’t pay bills just on my income. I’ve moved due to the military ever few years for my entire 20s and now I’m in a position where I haven’t made quality friendships with anyone. At this point I find myself realizing that my monthly contribution to retirement and sitting in a job like this is all I got left. I’ve been focused on my career that I don’t even think I have any hobbies or ambitions. At this point I’m just here to put aside money over the next 25 years for my kids so hopefully they can live the life I wanted.
35, no job, coronary artery disease diagnosis, taking care of mom with dementia, no friends, stuck overseas… it’s all bad here - I run a channel based on strategy gaming to try and pass the time.
Same, 29, heart disease, general anxiety disorder, HS, insomnia, BPH, prostatitis, severe back injury that makes me cry in pain, and taking care of my family because I don't have a job yet. I'm trying to study as hard as I can so I can find a job and get some money to treat myself and move to live alone. Stay strong my friend you aren't alone if you want we can talk
When everything is monetised, when Governments overreach, when families break and when people lack the spiritual dimension, society shows us all the signs that we now see throughout the West.
Oh and when mass immigration derails your culture and undermines social cohesion. Yeah, quite the contextual list of fundamental dilemmas, which all impact the personal struggle of building one's life.
This is VERY accurate. Im 29, and all the guys I grew up with look completely lost, they follow the masses and just have problems creating their own path and sticking to it. Many of them are gym bros and sure they are fit, but their mental health is terribly broken. I have had a very tough path, luckily from hard work, Im an executive at a company. Nonetheless, I even still feel alone many times. I try to encourage my close buddies to hit me up when they are fucked up, nothing is better than a homie who has your back to help you get through some shit. Men, we are built to work together in groups and conqueror shit. Society is what brain washes us into staying alone, and getting married with a woman who doesn't give a shit about us.
You are not alone bro. You are surrounded by men exactly like you and you don't know it. Reading these words on a screen doesn't mean shit I know but there's men all around you who feel the same and can relate to your experience. I wish you the best.
I’m 29 as well man. I feel incredibly lost and lonely. I’m an electrician but I’m already burnt out and lost the passion for this trade. All I do is work and go home watch Netflix , eat then repeat. I have no close friend circle or girlfriend. I go on social media and see everyone with there friends at the cottage or getting married and it makes me feel completely worthless.
@@gahbalgoo2589 That's not what he's saying I don't think. He's just referring to them as 'gym bros' as slang - they're looking after themselves physically but he's saying that mentally they're not doing well
28 can’t afford a kid can’t afford a house. Don’t want to start over, life is stalled and grey. Society is a nightmare. Modern life is a meaningless existence where we chase cheap pleasures and pay expensive bills. Purpose has been commodified, people have been pacified. The end is near😢
@@EricSmith996-g6v I was going through a rough time when i posted this. Just coming to terms with the fact that we are in the end of the age. Jesus is coming back and all who put off the old self and follow him will be saved. Thank you for the prayers and continue to stand firm in the faith! 😇
Men are expected to keep fighting in life and not complain. For me its being lonely and bored all the time. I have a good job but no friends. Im 29. I just don't have any passion or excitement in life anymore. I just do the same things over and over every single day. Just waiting for the end.
I was there 3 mos ago. Literally walked out the hangar and quit 3 days l8r. I'm not on the streets but I'm not scared of them. Better to be free and poor that a jolly slxve.
Hunt, fish, build shit...get out in nature turn your damn phones off. Reconnect to the man inside. Unplug. Most definitely keep negative people out of your life. Just walk away. 💪😎.
Inflation is killing a lot of confidence in men when they make "good" money but still cannot afford a house, kids, and a car anymore. The only advice I would give young men who might not have many responsibilities is to take the leap and move to another state or even country.
The main issue is not “mental health.” It’s inflation. Literally just inflation and the main reason why not everyone is dating or settling down. How can you settle down when there is no certainty? Of course men are going to work more jobs/longer when there’s rampant inflation. Dating isn’t even a priority when you have inflation. Setting up a decent life without the worry of inflation takes A LOT of money to do that. Everyone wants the issues to be men vs women, modernity, mental health, climate change, blah blah it’s not. It’s inflation.
@@zetos4440 Everything is a distraction from inflation. If the money slowly becomes worthless, more people are going to believe value is scarce and hard to come by. Thus, causing everyone to compete more for high paying jobs. Pretty simple.
Internet has ruined the zeal for life...exploration is dead. Nothing new to get excited about....time to live off the grid. Dopamine overload is real. Unplug!!!
This is why I’m not afraid of “them” shutting down the internet, although I pray for it to happen. It’s their best weapon. I went a year without a smartphone, but had to get back on the grid for work. We live in a perpetual infomercial.
You can start feeling bad about living at home the moment the government stops lying about the state of the economy. Living with your parents is a wise financial move in these times.
90% of the people dislike their job, it doesn't matter what you want in a job until you're suffering in one, then you might realize and apply for what you think you want until then you're supposed to accept & excel at whatever you're working on.
If you enjoy it, then embrace it. If you don't enjoy it, then take an elimination approach, crossing off the things you have no interest in. Eventually you'll find yourself narrowing it down. Not interested in being an auto mechanic? Totally fine. How about finance? Medical field not your thing? Want to make food? Want to grow food? Essentially, I'm suggesting that if having too many options is giving you analysis paralysis, narrow your actual options so that you can figure out what you are truly deciding between.
I had the good fortune to be able to live with my folks, until I was 30. I’m in a much place, now. Don’t give up and don’t forget to thank your parents.
I hate that the answer is always “start a TH-cam channel”. It used to be that a job would earn you enough where after putting in a few good years, you could save enough to start your own thing, now the only way it seems you can do that is by trying to be a content creator, what a ridiculous world we live in.
The woman that I invested 4 years of my life with and have a beautiful child with (daughter) had a breakdown and got into smoking weed heavily, cheating on me with my sisters ex who was a douchebag and they broke up shortly after and then ran away with my child. Staying strong and loving myself, calling in a new better queen and I will have my daughter back in my life.
@@dephitaputrimawardi9503 thanks for your concern. My life is good but would be great if I had my daughter. I am doing my best to foster a healthy relationship with the mother of my child but I am afraid she is a legitimate narcissist so dealing with her is a challenge.
Bro I feel you. B took my too children. You don't need a woman or "queen" there aren't any left. They will play the part until they feel like they have you but the balls, then everything changes. You don't need a woman. Too many men think they need a woman. As Jesus said "there is no marriage in the kingdom of heaven" marriage is just a man made concept which is used to make money. It's all man made bullshit
Same here at 33. A main job and a side hustle did it for me. I was depressed with the main job only. When the side business kicked off I am now feeling better
Most people don't care about you, that is my honest thought. It makes sense, were mostly absorbed in our own lives and situations. You're lucky if anyone actually cares about you (meaning, they make an effort to be in your life and vice versa, check in, spend time together etc). I found out when I became homeless at one point in my life, who actually cared, and, it was few to none. I suffered for 6 years, and learned if I was going to remain alive, I alone had to care about myself because no one else was going to care or help me, only I was going to help myself. So, after battling whether I wanted to live or die, I chose to live and try and see if there's a possibility life can become better. At least I made it to 51 lol.
Don’t feel bad about that, most men alive today and most men that ever lived were lucky if they even had a mother that cared about them. Thats why we men and boys need brotherhood.
28. Been a rough few years personally. I have always struggled to make deep connections, especially with other guys. I grew up without a father but have many brothers. As you said I have been isolating myself and trying to improve before I let the world see me again. Its hard to shake that logic.
It's the fight of a lifetime for men. I'm 29, and I think this fight is the main struggle for men in general. Some may brush this topic away because they know life is a rat race and you need to keep going. From boys to men, your priorities change. You realize that you have to learn to become someone. The hardships of achieving value, is not easy. There is an invisible weight all men carry. It's important to know why they carry it, though.
I think it’s a mistake to make this a gender issue. There are many women out there that are struggling too . I mean, the data is clear when it comes to women being much more anxious and depressed than previous generations. Men do have it difficult in ways but the struggle isn’t exclusive to them. We have to try to steer guys away from victimhood
@brianmeen2158 agreed, but I'm only speaking from my own experience. Women do have their struggles. I don't mean to downplay any of the issues they have. Personally, I think we all grow up knowing we should be good. Guidance would have been nice as a kid to let us know why most of us feel like we are expendables.
32 here. It burns inside when you see a guy your own age on Facebook with a partner and kids and even worse when you see happy couples together in public. You think to yourself - mannn…I wish I was that guy….
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
Im a boomer, 65 yrs old and went the marriage route and even then, made mistakes in selecting my partner, married an attorney! That was in 1999, and things went to shit just as soon as I retired, she divorced me and turned the kids against me, so I feel the pain of all men out there that just want a peaceful and fulfilling family life only to get divorce raped like thousands of others. At least you can rest assured you have been fully warned and wont soon be walking the plank! (getting married) I for one after having lost the family the house the kids can at least warn you young guys to never fund the future of skanks with your homes with alimony and child support, I wish all of you the very best in life, without having to lose it all because you wanted a family!
If there is one good thing about the internet, it is that men like you can share your experiences and serve as a warning to young guys. I'm gen X and I never got any sort of male mentoring from any of the men in my family, including my father. I wish I had had all the info and mentoring available online for men these days, it would have saved me a lot of time, money, and heartbreak.
@@solinvictus39 Oh man, tell me you didnt get divorce raped? I can only hope to warn other guys about this going on, but I seem to have been too late to have helped you!
This is not the mistake, it is the consequences of the mistakes, mistakes like the sexual revolution, buy the world a Coke, etc. It was all intended as a soft genocide. No culture can survive the destruction of family. It is the end for us, and I could see it clearly all my life, but I've had to just sit and watch - mostly your generation - fly us straight into Hell. Why?
Be the friend you desire. Men learn to support men. It's not a woman's job to support you if you don't do the same for her. Give what you want to receive.
I think I represent the hated, a Boomer who lived outrageously, experienced a degree of personal freedom during adolescence that would land parents in jail today, courted disaster at every turn (motorcycles, girls/women, “substances”), treated high school as an annoyance but still ended up with degrees from elite universities, piled up money along the way. The world has changed since I did these things. The same cavalier approach to life would get me canceled or worse today.
Please reach out to your fellow boomers and confront them that their position is unreasonable. The government will do everything and anything to instill cracks within the population so that we can't discuss openly what's going wrong. We zoomers/X can't seem to make your generation understand how bad things are nowadays, maybe you can help us if you understand both the sincerity and severity.
@asdfasdf-dg2qx To add along with this gentleman: we are not asking, nor expecting, you or any Boomers to feel "shame" for being advantaged. "Boomer guilt" isn't necessary. We just want Boomers to acknowledge they had advantages we (and no one else in history) had, and maybe get off our backs a bit.
@@asdfasdf-dg2qx I could, I think, actually build a meaningful TH-cam channel devoted to this topic: educating/enlightening other Boomers who either don’t know or don’t care what’s going on in the lives of people ages 20 to 30. My daughter, 22 and son, 25, are really struggling to provide for themselves. Can’t afford health care, car insurance, even rent.
@@asdfasdf-dg2qx I appreciate your comments. I agree that the media tries to carve us all up into competing segments with irreconcilable differences. That architected disunity serves no one,
I'm 32. I was diagnosed with Autism when I was in 3rd grade. Socializing has felt like a mental obstacle course my entire life. I can function as an adult when I need to, but when it comes to people I REALLY struggle with making friends and trying to find a romantic partner. If I'm out talking about interesting things, social interactions feel like mountains and it has never gotten easier, it's always been hard. I would love to have a wife and children one day, but sometimes I walk into a room of people and I almost immediately disconnect from everything like it's clockwork the second I step in. Most of the time I try to think of ways to break ice and talk to someone, my mind goes to the stale, generic banter every time. I can't think of clever jokes when I want to, I struggle to find things in the environment or what is happening to start communication, I want to connect with people so bad but it's like there's an on-and-off switch in my mind that triggers on it's own. I've seen some concerning statistics about Autistic people and their issues, everything from dying 20 years earlier than the average person to suicide being one of the leading causes of death for people with the disorder. I want to live a normal life and experience wonderful things like mutual intimacy and a real relationship but every time I want to attempt to approach someone I feel like I'm "masking" myself to achieve it - and therefore, not bribg my authentic self. It really sucks.
I'm with you brother. I also have autism and my life experience is like yours. We always get overlooked by these guys giving advice. It seems like nobody knows how to help us and we are just left to suffer alone. Today guys were talking about their first experiences having sex and I have to stay quiet. Also have to deal with some people thinking I'm gay because I can't get women even though I'm attractive. People are emasculating me and there's nothing I can do because my brain doesn't work like others. Yet I look "normal" so nobody feels any empathy for me nor offers any help.
As a non autistic man, it's not much different over here. Idk wat to tell you tho, I've never done well with "normal" ppl like thst. The mundaniety, the hyperbolic and forced expressions. If u want it badly, get into something social and try making friends from there.
I am sorry for you brothers, i am a latín man in the states and it is so hard to feel like i am part of this society..we are men we can figure it out But we have to help each other, today is eassier to make a comunity or something like that as You can see my English is a problem writing you can imagine "talking"
I just turned 34 years old back in May. I am very familiar with existential crisis. I have been a personal trainer for nearly 16 years now. Pretty much right out of high school. I got into it. 3 years ago. I had a mental breakdown and was certain I was done with my career as a trainer. The 20/20 pandemic shut down gyms for over 6 months in my area. Therefore, heavily impacting my livelihood and income. This prompted me to get into online training. I planned on doing the online training as a side gig and to completely get out of in-person training. Today I am working out of a college gym just as a part-timer but it gives me access to work on my business. For me cutting alcohol out of my life has helped tremendously. It has given me clarity on my purpose and where I want to go in life. I will also say what help me find my purpose In life , a sense of fulfillment and that feeling of being a kid again was working on my mental health addressing this s*** I didn't want to work on, going to AA helped with that a lot. Fitness. Yeah guys. Spirituality is a real thing. I think a lot of dudes ignore these realms and it's eating them inside. For me, this helped me regain control of my emotions, thoughts and actions. I'm no millionaire or anything yet, but today I am content with what I am doing as an online coach and personal trainer out of this college. My goal is to eventually be fully online and to continue scaling. Life has gotten much better because I ultimately chose to make it better. It's not whose president or what your parents did or who did what to you. Especially as men, we have to hold ourselves accountable and be responsible for our own lives.
Your mother took Tylenol when she was pregnant or gave you Tylenol when you were a baby. It has been linked to high rates autism and you and millions of other Americans are autistic
Dude, I'm 59 and I've been alone for 18 years and I have so much baggage it's unreal , plus I have zero friends and no family I can count on. I woke up from the matrix 6 years ago and that just added more stress to an already tough existence.
Dude thats another big part of it all! I feel like cyper from the matrix. Its like just plug me back in because being so aware of the lies and scam of life makes it all so meaningless
I was always told that money can't buy happiness, but then i learned that they were lying. 100% all my problems would be solved if i had an extreme amount of money. My anxiety and depression all stem from not having enough of the green paper
Exactly dude, they always tried to tell us for years that money ruins you. But it's actually the cause of the problems for all these people. With heaps of it there's no more worries or uncertainty.
Hey, I don’t think so. If you are able to pay home and food, you are okay. Everything other is just psychical crisis. Lot of people live their lives, that are actually fine but they are depressed somehow. I think the cause is these social network comparisons with top 1% or even with lies. Quick dopamine like YT or IG shorts, p*rn… I’m from postcomunism Europe. I can see, how life of our parents sucks. We live the best life we ever had here, but everybody is depressed and unsatisfied. And that is the moment I start thinking why is that?
Work 5-6 days a week, commute, sleep, eat, rinse repeat. Run errands, workout, chores, pay bills etc. Rinse repeat, while living in poverty struggling 24/7. No retirement, all alone and one medical emergency away from the streets. Its quite meaningless indeed. What is the point of it all? To make the rich get richer, while getting paid peanuts. Spending most your life slaving away for people who have more money than they'll need for 10 lifetimes over already...
I’m 27 and have no wife, GF, or kids. Live alone. I already feel ya man. Where do I go? Who am I? What am I on this earth for?? I broke up with my girlfriend a few years ago and regret it. It’s my fault, I was too insecure, things were tough and we lived too far apart.. I’ll never forgive myself 😞
@@shanepatrick641Man, don't be so hard on yourself. Try changing the most easiest/accessible aspects of your life (like sleep, nutrition, sport or you could start doing martial arts, thats physical activity + socialization + great mood and self-esteem). I know it may be hard but don't overfocus over things you can't change (in the past or inaccessible to change/reach in the moment) and you will change for the good, i believe in you man
That was my issue. Graduated in 2019, right before Covid and I got a “good degree.” That being a bachelors in finance; or so I thought it was a good degree. My lack of experience never landed me my foot in the door. So I’ve been working at becoming a consistently profitable trader since 2019. Hoping it pays off. College to me was a massive mistake.
Try not putting your degree on a resume and look for something where you work with your hands. I'll tell you right now, in my company, if we see a recent college degree on a resum (within the past decade) we round file it. We got a real nice thing going. We don't want it ruined by a brainwashed, indoctrinated feeb. Not saying that's you, by the by. Not calling you that. It's just a trend we've seen and want no part of. Give it a try; what's the worst that could happen?
@wulftarot I got a BA in history, wanted to teach, and didn't get into debt doing it. I found out I essentially have to go into debt through a master's program to teach in my state. I recently applied to be a rural delivery driver for USPS.
I think the thing abt men having this problem is something men need to fix among themselves, which is why it’s great you’re making this video ! Many men think that women should be responsible for taking care of these issues in relationships or friendships, and it’s not our responsibility- and we’re done doing that shit, bc it’s EXHAUSTING. Plus, women are a privilege that most won’t attract if they have deep emotional issues, cus deep emotional issues radiate off you like crazy - we can always tell. I think y’all need genuine brotherhood w a group of good kind hearted men. Friendships are extremely important. Happy to see people trying to help other people, like you. Cheers
While I overall agree, I also think a lot of women these days have inflated standards and if they’re not dating the guys that are struggling, we have to wonder why they won’t as well as wondering why he doesn’t qualify. But also, one of the greatest motivators for men is the prospect of a relationship and sex in that relationship. It can be transformative when a man gets a girlfriend while he’s low.
Men in general are having a rough time. There's times no one else cares about us but, thankfully, more people are speaking up about this crisis and trying to help each other. I feel I got exploited in my career and at 36 it left me with nothing. Laid off, about to move back home, been single for over 10 years. No one cares to connect or let a potential friend or partner in. I've learned to survive solo. I feel despondent and lost. Sending good and resilient vibes to all the other men out there going through it.
I feel you. It's true men have it hard nowadays but I feel like this is more of a general phonomenon. There's a global pandemic of selfishness and self-centeredness. 'No one cares to connect' hits the bull's-eye. No deep connections are made anymore. Just superficial acquaintances that people keep for validation and occasional entertainment (if you're a funny guy). That's it.
I’m 28 and the anxiety is amplified by feeling I should be where my parents were at my age married and in a home but they grew up in a different world to today’s Canada and housing market. Seeing these comments and seeing how common these issues are for other young men helps me keep a clear head that it’s not just us as individuals we really do exist in a messed up time in history.
@@nickjohnson7857 hey I just turned 29 last week. i feel the exact same man. i feel like i should have my own house with kids and a wife but my reality is infact complete the opposite. No girlfriend , no dating life, no friends, not making enough money to live on my own so im stuck at my parents place. I feel like a complete failure.
All you can ask for is work life balance and to move to where you belong, somewhere you can have a life worth living for. Or you better really be making more money to the point you can ease up later on. Or what I plan on doing making my own money and then splitting time out of the USA, cheaper and better culture elsewhere screw it here.
Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 10 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life. Great piece!
she's a known advisor. I actually did look her up curiously and went through her credentials on her webbsite... Top-notch! I wrote her an email, hopefully she's accepting new intakes.
dude, it's not just 25 to 35. I felt the same way in my early years but I'm 51 now and still feel the same way - living to simply work to pay bills and buy things I don't really need to temporarily fill a void and sadness of not living a meaningful life. So many of us become trapped to live a life akin to a hamster on a wheel. Running and running and not going anywhere.
I hope you get this message, I’m sorry you are struggling but please don’t give up. Every day is an opportunity to turn it all around and make amazing things happen in your life. Just take it one day at a time.
@akuma319 I'm 30 in a few months and I feel the same way, how do you cope with life, having these feelings for so long, everyday. Granted I don't been blessed in some aspects of my life, but nothing ever seems to change. I'm perpetually broke. No friends. Romantic life dies just as fast as it begins, living with parents, car repossessed. No one ever to really talk to, and I struggle with depression. I've been miserable for so long and numb. I have little options, I don't have a career. Only guy in my family with no family of my own, and I'm Watchung myself slowly getting older and older. Idk what to do, and my parents are the only reason I'm still here. I just want to be beyond already. I just want to be happy
I feel robbed by circumstances beyond my control. First, inflation has eroded the value of money, leaving us with less purchasing power. Then COVID took away nearly four years of our lives, either through direct loss or by negatively affecting our well-being. Now, the future of jobs and the economy is uncertain, disrupted by AI and further undermined by a broken financial system. It's a constant battle to adapt while feeling like the foundations are slipping away.
I'm 23 now, and for 4 years I've been working at a carpentry workshop. For most of my teenage years I was a total shut in, doing nothing, hiding in my parents house. One day I got sick of hiding, so I went for a walk around town until I found a place that I liked the look of, I walked in and told them I'd be like to volunteer. It was my first job. I've enjoyed my time there: the old tradesmen have taught me a lot, and I like everyone there. But I've always had problems with self-confidence, particularly when it comes to making decisions that push me out of my comfort zone. although I'm also hard working: consistently doing 8-9 hour days Monday to Saturday. I don't mind working a lot, but I think the real reason why I throw myself into my work is as a means to avoid making scary decisions - my job has become my comfort zone. Putting myself out there, meeting friends, talking to girls - these things are uncertain, and scary. going to work everyday is certainty.
I totally relate brother, I hide from social situations because of fear of rejection or judgement. We could be friends tho, You're not alone in what you're experiencing and there is hope.
Since the beginning young men have been having an existential crisis. Whose making the great art, the important writers and humanitarian workers? Mostly young men in search of elusive answers to their questions, sometimes or often additionally tortured and tormented by anxiety, depression and doom.
@@mihailcirlig8187 yea me neither, but I believe those who wrote weren't either. Religion is believe me on faith, they wrote things that people could test and find the truth in it. The texts aren't religious, the religious just use the texts
don't get me started. Something changed in me this year before turning 30 and I just realized how sad my life is. I looked up people of my school years on facebook and it's depressing how many contacts they still have, and the happy memories they collected. My life has been miserable all this time. I had to fight to make my life work. And now I'm alone and getting old. It feels like the entire world is rejecting me while welcoming the people around me. And my struggle is only a nuisance to them.
Social media is a front my friend, it has been purposely constructed to attack your self-esteem. Check out the law suit and research fb did to implement it. No bs, so keep working on yourself and forget about left and right and only focus on what’s in front of you.
@@dissident112 of course they don't live permanently on parties and trips. That's obvious. But that they have all these good memories, and are still collecting them. I'm not saying I wish bad on them. It's just that, some people are just more welcomed than others.
35 - working in an industry I hate for the last 10 years feel stuck because I can’t think of anything else I’m qualified to do. When I entered this industry I was promised success, growth, promotions, etc but have only experienced extreme stress, low pay raises (even switch companies), and a lack of work life balance. Attempting to start my own business this fall and am going to document the journey on TH-cam just to keep myself accountable.
I'm 32 years old, still living with my family in Los Angeles, making a decent salary at the moment (before taxes) in the I.T. field but just still not quite enough to be out there in my own spot yet and feel so behind. Going on dates here and there, then getting rejected down the line, a lot of it is just very discouraging. Trying to get out of my own head and into my body by dieting and lifting while also focusing on my many hobbies but I can't shake this underlying fear of failure. Maybe it's because I had strict parents, being the eldest, not having an actually healthy romantic relationship yet (I've had a few years long toxic ones for sure), who knows. I've been watching you for a while though Denmo and have never left a comment but I'm leaving one this time for everyone else around my age and dealing with the same stuff to give them some encouragement that they aren't alone. Peace, brothers! Stay strong.
Honestly, a lot has changed in our society in the last years that is not mentioned enough. Many big companies have just become bigger, have dominating control of hiring processes, make record-high profits, but salaries have not at all increased the same way. When was the last time you received a promotion or a bonus for a well done job? Many are stuck just working barely scraping by only to get laid off despite showing loyalty for years. Then there is the ever-rising taxes and inflation. The next problem is simply that old-fashioned communities where you used to get support have started to disappear, and have been replaced by social media, hostile architecture etc.
Get your passport and for a vacation, travel to Eastern Europe, Asia, Mexico, or South America and see which culture you like best. We escaped California when I was a child. I can tell you that you are playing the game of life on one of the highest difficulty settings where you currently live
Single, heartbroken and sexless. I talk to lots of women and get ghosted by every single one. I love music but dedicating to it is scary and daunting. Can’t stop bad habits. Try to dedicate to healthier habits but repeatedly fail. I literally can’t find peace in my heart and mind.
Then have a moment of mental clarity and relax and ask yourself why that is. Only when you are fully honest with yourself will you get the clarity you need. You will succeed the day you are honest with yourself and only on that day!
Women nowadays are mostly interested in men they can extort. There's a reason u mostly see just the soy boys with them. But brother has anyone ever talked about revolution?
@@gkauto1959you can't understand why women aren't into you without a plethora of women telling you. Since thst last thing most ppl are is honest, good luck.
Get a gym membership start working out and get some basking time in the sauna,Find a new hobby, start a business focus on bettering yourself and get sex off your mind find something else to meditate on, save your money build a house in the woods go camping learn survival tactics pickup marshall arts, Seek Jesus Christ read the Bible meditate find some sort of mental clarity, Go on a vacation somewhere, Idk these are the things that help me stay sain maybe try some of them.
What is going on: the global economy and trade is fucked due to economic wars. We are on the brink of ww3 with several hot zones from Africa to the Pacific, the Middel-east, and Eastern Europe. Society is breaking down.
Currently I’m 23 and I’m simply learning how to have fun and love my life now. I’ve been someone hyper focused on grinding for the last few years of my life, studying to be a Psychologist but I’ve found I keep delaying my happiness to the future.
Yea maybe that's true. But we probably went to war, hunted a wooly a mammoth, had some kids. Not have a buck tooth Puertorican tell us we are privilege and destroyed the world.
Wrong, throughout history MAN has reasons to fight. Atleast if they were poor they had 3 kids a loyal wife who never showers. Now what is man's reason to fight. Like if Russia, China, Iran invade us. You really believe all us single males who been shamed by culture feminists, you think we will sign up, jump for joy to protect the women who descieved us all our lives lol ?
We were promised, damn near guaranteed, that the future was gonna be marginally better than the past. It’s the biggest scam they could’ve ever pulled, and I’m tired of pretending the house of cards has any value to it.
God knows that. Thats why God honored men as the hero gender. Sadly...Satan won and men have been given the boot. Despite the hypocrasy that men rule Hollywood.
Satans attacking men knowing they are Jesus symbol of Jesus. And Jesus was a very feminine man and very manly as he tore the churches sale of doves for sacrifice. Jesus was a real man. Not macho!!! But he isn't afraid to attack
I moved out of home 5 years ago with a bicycle and not much else. I then started a cleaning and gardening business. It's been a tough journey and I've faced hardship alone and conquered it. Now 36 and loving all aspects of my life. Learn, grow, evolve, thrive.
Thanks for your story brother. I’m starting a health consultation business and I’m terrified to take action. Last step for me is to build a website and attach a payment processor and client booking tool. Trying to break it down into smaller steps. I know I probably won’t make money the first year. But the second year I might make a little and if I can be 33(30 now) making 2-3k a month from my own business that’d be amazing! Trying to build a life is hard brother l, but it’s good to hear from people who’ve done it like yourself.
I'm 35, awful childhood, diagnosed asd, severely bullied, multiple schools changes, mentally unwell father, 8 younger siblings, construction site of a home, tried to study hard in school, directionless afterwards, I dont excel at anything, went into the wrong uni course, failed it, multiple jobs and long stints of unemployment, few brief dates, no relationships, balding since early 20s, addicted to porn since adolescents, suffered with depression and anxiety my whole life, still living at home, feel like there's no point trying. Probably left a few things out but thats the most of it.
Imagine if the average guy is struggling what life is like for those with ASD and other severe impairments. Honestly it seems like nobody cares and they're just mass dumping men out of the gene pool.
You gotta put the porn down man, if you don't have self discipline and no self control during the day and the night especially when no one else is watching then your life will feel out of control you gotta take back your power as a man start working out focus on your self start new hobbies cook home made meals stop eating out all the time learn survival tactics go camping these are the things that help me
@@TroyGrayson have you ever heard that the less someone looks at porn the lower their libido goes? I have ADHD and I can completely forget about sex for weeks if I'm too focused on something else.
I've suffered from anxiety for alot of years, and I can almost guarantee that masturbating is whats causing you the anxiety. You have to stop masturbating. Now i'm not saying porn is bad, just the masturbation. I personally think porn is amazing, its often a beautiful art. I follow different artists that make porn comics and porn animations thats related to the fetish I like, and their work is incredible. Looking at the porn or just imagining yourself being in it, and imagining yourself being there and experiencing the feeling of it, that way is fine and incredible, but once you start masturbating thats when all the psychological problems start. Releasing your fluids like that especially on a continual basis, it does something to your brain idk what, but it does induce anxiety and depression.
I’m 25 turning 26 in November. I look back when I was in high school and college and think wow my life was great. Good group of friends, good times, had a great girlfriend. Went through strut and long story short got mixed up with bad drugs and bad people. Flash forward and even though I’m sober now, I’ve pushed all my friends away, the relationship I was in is over, just feel like a loser. I have a good job and I’m in good shape, I just don’t have the guts to put myself out there anymore and am self conscious of even seeing people I used to know in public. It’s horrible. I’ve been praying recently and trying to improve, I really hope things get better. If anyone out there reads this just know you’re not alone brother.
I'm 26, recently having signs that I might have cancer, being jobless for 2 years and still living with my parents.... yep everything is going at me all at once.
Cancer survivor here myself. Getting a diagnosis really sucks but a lot of cancers are treatable if you catch it early and going through that process will make you much more resiliant badass in the long run. Dont beat yourself up too bad man. And as far as the job thing you may not find your dream job right away but just focus on having a steady income coming in for the time being, a better job will come later for sure.
I was going through this crisis in 2022 at the age of 25. I had the business, woman, job, house, kids even… you name it basically everything but still had a MASSIVE hole in my life. I’m now 27 years old and at the time prayed ‘god’ if you are real now is the time I need you please help me. God led me back to a sport I played as a youngster in which since I started working at 18 I stopped playing for 7 years. After god bringing me out of that time, Jesus Christ and the love of an old sport was what was missing the whole time. I don’t write this message to preach boys… I write this as someone who never truly believed or was even raised in a church. Quite the opposite being raised in a dysfunctional family in fact. So boys don’t feel you must go to a church. But start praying and grab a bible. It sure saved my life all praise to god 🙏❤️
No god, only survival and power. Religion is an evolved cope for the more intelligent creatures in an uncaring and cruel universe. Good for you though man, it helps!
I was very lonely in my 20s but I learned to deal with it and now I actually prefer being alone. I solo travel, work out, invest in stocks, learn new stuff, etc. I find most people don’t really match up with my personality and most of them are married and have no time
Man reading the comments on here really resonates with me. Im 30 and certainly feeling an existential crisis on my end. I was making good money during COVID and then got into a PhD program and had to sacrifice my income and move away from all my friends and family a couple years ago to a rural area where there isn't much to do. Now I am living below the poverty line. It's pretty isolating. Im worried i made a mistake by enrolling in this program. Also, My gf of 3 years broke up with me for the 2nd time a couple months ago after everything I tried to do for her. It was the most painful breakup. As a man I have this core belief that I can only be loved if I'm useful. And i guess i stopped being useful for her and she left. And I've tried to get back into the dating scene a little bit but it really sucks, not only because I'm dealing with social anxiety for many years but because the quality of women is really lacking. I used to be so motivated and optimistic and now I find myself going through the motions and cynical and just don't have the same energy I once did.
im 35 in 7 days and to say im having a crisis is an understatement. bottling my emotions drives me to the point of insanity and when i talk about it i get blown off i told my GF i was struggling she then broke up with me after an argument. no one gives a F**k about you so asking for help or talking about it is useless even people that now deppresion wont see it when youre down
Same thing happened to me man. Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me during an argument. Funny thing is I was there for her at her lowest points (e.g., when she was suicidal and depressed etc) and I have been struggling recently and she just leaves me because "the spark is gone." Just makes you feel like you can't rely on anyone else to be there for you like you are for them. Don't get me wrong. As a man, I want to provide for those I care about. But I have lost hope in relationships
Never tell women your problems. Women hate weak men. The only thing they hate more are weak men they choose. Doesn't matter if it's your girl. Find a dude you trust to open up to. Stoicism..
You absolutely cannot tell a girl you're struggling in 2024 lmao. Hell, it's been like that for a while now. I think certain issues you can confide in with your girlfriend like physical health/mental illness. The big no no is any struggles with self worth, money, career, ambitions, ect, ect. Once you tell them the potential of a money filled finacially free future of zero or next to zero work is off the table. They are fucking gone, bro. Whatever potential they were holding out for is confirmed dead or that its just not gonna happen. Onto the next man who can provide that for them with natural gifts that you don't have.
This is all so on-point. One part of me knows deep down, that we've just forgotten how much power we truly have. That human beings, as conscious, co-creating spiritual beings, have incredible power. To change things, to heal, to manifest, to create better and better lives for ourselves and others. That it's even our intrinsic nature. And yet, I also know that the people in control have done everything they can, on a global scale, to suppress that true nature, that spirit, that essence which makes us alive. And so, it's a difficult world to navigate. Knowing that in fact, we have the ability to change our lives, and to change the world. Knowing that the game is ours, and that we can change it. But at the same time, that it's rigged.
Im 23 I joined the military for 4 years when my parents showed me they didn't care about me I just wanted to get away...the military isn't the same military it was before. I was looking for meaning, patriotism, something noble to do beyond myself, brotherhood, it was nothing like that today. Today it's just a corporate job and they couldn't give two shits about you and I can see that. I can't wait to get out and I'll probably be sleeping in a car, I have the GI bill for free college which I'll probably use on some sort of training so I'm not totally fucked (probably gonna go into a trade I can't sit at a desk). I feel completely alone and like all my hard work means nothing. I refuel planes in the air like you see here on TH-cam. I personally refueled the F22s that shot down the chinese spy balloon over South Carolina a year ago, I was the boom operator that was there that Saturday morning. I didn't have a father to tell or anyone to show that I did that when the plane landed. I just went to sleep knowing I did some shit that was on the news all across the country. I didn't expect my life to go this way. I genuinely hope you all find happiness I don't wish suffering on any of you and I would certainly work to make this country better if I could.
I’m curious, do you guys have kids? I’m noticing more and more that the guys that are lost tend to not have any kids. I’m a firm believer that man is hard-wired to spread his seed and if he doesn’t - there will be numerous bad feelings that will plague him. That and a general feeling of not having purpose or drive. I can’t say that I’ve never wanted kids but I can’t imagine trying to find a somewhat attractive and compatible woman to have them with. Oh and things are so damn expensive so that isn’t helping
I think this is a thing in most of the western world. Family values went away, women became more independent and women have started demanding a lot more from men to go in to a relationship. Of course your can always look abroad to find a more feminine and woman that has Family values. But that isnt a solution for most of us.
Happiness is fleeting. Are they content, no, obviously not, women on average are even more social animals than men. But i dont think they see the disconnect, they are not gonna change their tune until ppl start talking. Because i sure wouldnt want to date a woman who demands a lot and gives very little to my life. We are practically dating women trained to be men. Women are men today. @@XAUCADTrader
whether you're rich with a yatch or poor digging through trash for a meal, the only that truly matters is joy in the present moment right now. The present is the only thing that matters. You can be rich and depressed, poor and happy, you can live the life of a drug addict, or a lifestyle of health. You can work out an become buff, or be unfit yet still the only thing that truly matters is if right now in this present moment you can feel joy. I've spent years obsessed with the future, and obsessed with the past. Now I feel free to focus on the NOW
Hey boys. Happy to see everyone talking about this stuff. 35 here and am finally almost out of my rut. I work 2 jobs - one as a wedding videographer and one as a personal trainer. I have found that being in service to others can carry you a long way and give you some purpose. I focus on eating well and exercising so I can be my best self for others. It doesn’t change the fact that things are tough right now - but we have to keep moving forward. Spirit mind and body. Good luck everyone.
37 Here and I've been having this for about 2 years now. It feels like I can't trust anything or anyone. Everything I'd hoped for as I was growing up has turned out to be a lie and our role models are child molesters in disguise. We can't afford to give our kids the lives we had, let alone a better life.
Y'know, what i think the ultimate issue is, is that people are so busy following other people thinking it will make them happy, that they neglect to chart their own course and end up lost. I'm 42 and I've gone thru this myself. I call it the "Fortress of Solitude" phase. It can get lonely and it can get dark at times for sure. But you need to really sit down and contemplate who you are and what you want out of life. This will take time and introspection. But, when it becomes clear, your sense of self and purpose will be restored. Then you will know what to do. You are lost because you live your life according to how external influences define you. When you realize that it is you who defines you-- and no one else or nothing else-- then your life will change. It sounds corny but you will feel it internally, you will know it. Because now you have become the author of your own life story instead of a character in someone else's... Keep moving forward and never give up. You'll find your way. Keep. Moving. Forward.
What you said is very true. I don't think it's primarily a dating issue, but a mental health issue. You can’t expect good dating results if you are fighting depression.
the main reason guys have depression is because they don't have good dating results good mental health doesn't compensate for being short or facially flawed in this online dating app/social media world we live in now where women can essentially shop for their ideal man
@@dallassegnoyou mean going to a place where they teach to to hate others and give 10% of what little money you have? It’s great for a community though which would be practically helpful
@@Moriningland western civilization was built by Christendom. You’d have to be an idiot to not realize that. You arrogant edge lords are the reason it’s falling apart.
Im 46 went through hell in the past 3 years. I purposefully went homeless. Sleeping on benches no showers, getting real and completely out of the comforts of modern life that really zistracts us from spiritual growth. It sucks bros but it grts you off the wheel. Hope to see you out there.
thatll be sorta what im doing but sleeping on benches i assume your still surround yourself by civilization because you didnt actually prepare to live off the land as a free creature again.
AI is about to break capitalism regardless of what anyone thinks. Tons of people who are working directly on these AI systems have all written letters basically saying the world is not ready for how rapidly it’s about to change.
Tried talking to my girl about a problem I had and her response was to shut me down and tell me that it upset her, and that it needs to stop and that I shouldn’t tell her again. Since then I’ve been guilty of just keeping emotions and concerns on the inside. There’s plenty of people that are willing to talk it out and have a 1on1 personally conversation, but I’ve found it easier to just push on and sort it out on my own
Man, find a way to get rid of her. If they aren't supportive now, they will never be during the toughest moments, and when something really bad happens to you, it's extremely likely that they'll leave you, making you even more miserable. I've been through it, a 5-year relationship , saw red flags like the one you're describing now, and out of convenience and cowardice, I stayed with her. Biggest mistake of my life.
Where people get it wrong is this. All of these girls/guys that trash talk average dudes are full of it. If you look around and your doing better then average, you should be more then happy. Yes continue to strive for more but be happy and grateful.
It’s this country. It’s the culture. It’s how we treat each other. We all know that something is very wrong here. And if you go abroad, you will see it too.
I was 23 years old when I was diagnosed with cancer, I was a full time mechanic, treatment and the surgeries Were hard!, lost everything, my new car moved back in with my dad, I cried every day because I thought my life was basically over, I was suicidal so instead of offing myself I joined an MMA gym and started getting my ass beat every day 5 days a week 3 hours a day, the chemotherapy damage my hart and lungs so a part me was hoping I’d die from a hart attack or something, I started a mobile detailing business with my brother and started buying and selling cars on the side, now I’m in shape and make double what I was making from being a mechanic, 27 now I’m probably not going to live long but at least I’ll live life my way from now on
Its not the quantity, but the quality of the life you've lived that matters. I'm sorry this happened to you, only in the USA are we all one medical emergency away from destitution.
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Im definitely not with you. Definitely not with a guy that tells other men to approach women. Approaching a woman is a big motherf*cking mistake. St*pidest thing any man can do, i mean, if the year is 2024. Also same for getting married.
It doesn’t get better after 35 lol
The problem is purpose....
Fook the Canadian government!!!!!
No we’re not lol it’s PvP and always will be.
I’m 30 but the problem is I have a lack of interest in everything. I don’t want to make a passion a career. I don’t really like people and I’m just unsatisfied with everything.
So true omg😂
My peer, I'm 31, I don't care about anything, but I care at the same time (if that makes sense)
This is what is eating away at me. I really dont want to be here...
Bro, you all might be low in vitamin D. Kinda weird to say, I know, but wouldn’t hurt to get checked by the doc…
@@Fredman5551 u just need vitamins bro🤣
What men are going through is a natural reaction to an unnatural world. We weren't meant to live this way.
and unnatural odds stacked against us
Yeah, well secularization and liberal democracy have done that. You plebeians wanted freedom from the traditional order? now enjoy the fruits of modernity.
@@nelsonr1467lol dude i guess you werent there for the middle ages when religion ran the world and feudal serfs died at 30
@@zacht2806it is not accurate that religion ran things, religion was weaponized by governments
@zacht2806 muh muh religion is bad. I can't be a degenerate. Again, do not complain. Enjoy your modernity. And no, if you lived past 20 people, even surfs lived well into their 60s and 70s
This isnt a 25 - 35 thing. It's a man thing
Exactly I'm in my 40s. If men don't have money and free time they don't have value to society or women. Everyone who denies that reality is delusional.
agreed
this
Almost every guy I've talked to jokes about suicide a lot.
Yeah. Im over 40 and this society and world is just depressing asf
I just want to be alone from this mad world and its clutter bs that doesn't make any sense anymore.
20 years ago it was different world.
Just turned 32 and after busting my ass in my 20s for basically nothing I find myself waking up every day to a pointless world with no room for me. Everything is overly sexualized, women don't want families or marriage anymore they want a photographer. The economy is so God damn bad I barely can afford to pay rent let alone anything remotely entertaining. Everyone is glued to their phones. You can go all day without even talking to anyone. This world has changed dramatically in the last ten years. I have zero hope for the future.
yeh its definately sad to see some women onine where you think damn, such a waste that you chose to follow the rest when, you would've made a decent wife/mother.
We are in the solipsistic, autistic and downright totalitarian technocracy. A call to humanism with the inclusion of God is the only remedy for this.
@@thvtsydneylyf3th077but u have to admit it just sounds weird when u say it like that. They are free to do what they want
The worst is yet to come. People have no idea what's about to happen. AI is a force to be reckoned with. There is no going back. Humanity is doomed.
@@Edward-ti4kxand how is that working for both men and women. Women don’t know what they want, hence they need marriage to be a mother and then it’ll all makes sense for them.
Worked for my wife. Used to be a feminist now she’s conservative.
It's not just a 25 - 35 thing. I'm 60 and my wife left me a year and a half ago after 32 years of marriage and raising 6 kids together. She started working remotely for an ex-boyfriend from college who is now a multimillionaire. Anyway, I now live alone in our home and she is gone. I talk to no one. I doordash to pay the bills. I'm suicidal. I'm seeing V.A. counseling. My kids are involved in their own lives and I rarely hear from any of them. I have no energy to do anything but work and then come home and sit in my chair. I feel like there is no purpose.
Keep going man. Call your kids.
I agree it's not a 25-35 thing.
The creator of the video may have an underlying motive to attract a certain demographic to build his money making TH-cam videos.
It's almost like a pyramid scheme.
I’m so sorry man.. hang in there and take it a bit at a time..
when I’m really low, doing small random acts of kindness for others gives me a little bit of peace.
Brother, please hang on. Don't off yourself. Can you swing a gym membership? A Planet Fitness one is $10 a month. Anytime/Snap Fitness maybe $30-40. Just get in there and work. Find your anger from this situation and channel it into your workouts, not anything destructive. I swear to you, you will feel better. You will see results, and you'll keep going. You built that. Your ex-wife made a gigantic mistake. If he's a multi-millionaire, she isn't going to be the only one he's seeing, and most likely, not someone he wants to keep long term. She'll come back eventually, but by then, you won't want her.
Damn bro
I'm 27 and desperately want to have a wife and children but can barely afford my own living expenses.
Im 31 and have large amount of disposable income and also want a wife and kids. Money wont help, but makes it easier, and also more difficult, girls will use you.
Careful what you wish for.
Become a passport bro. Go to Latin America and learn Spanish. And never worry about the cost of children. Secondhand children's clothes are everywhere and they don't eat much lol
@@fearandloathingmedia2051 Makes it easier to live. I've never earned a enough to support myself in 20 years of working. I have an associate's degree and lots of experience but its all worthless. The government further screwed me making it illegal for me to work until 2026. Due to filial laws in the state I live in I work for free taking care of my childhood abuser instead now...
Work on yourself bro. Join some sort of group (e.g.running) and meet people. Lots of people in your boat but unwilling to get out there. As for money, either force your way up company or start a business. Learn how to buy and sell artifical turf, learn how to patch up old rotting wood and go round with business cards...work on content creation - think about ideas.... loads of ways to be an animal my friend
Our war is a spiritual war. Our great depression is our lives.
We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t.
@@moneymakermike6189 compared with previous generations, especially pre-20th century-they’d think you’re all that.
Hey man, do you have any advice for finding a job in sales. Where to start, what to look for. I'm 35 and looking for a career change/debating going back to school. Thanks!
@@ATRTAP History is half BS, stop believing the lies, Nikola Tesla was born in 1856, they had their own kind of technology to get things done conveniently back then, oil lamps, steam engines, etc. it was just not electricity, and before that they had slaves.
Plenty of people lived great lives, way more then today in fact with way less population to feed and house they had a lot more space and freedom.
There are probably more mine workers and poor around the world in the current day then there was back then ffs. Heck nothing has changed really except the loss of religion and the power that held keeping people and woman especially in check.
@@migz_8894 Getting a job in sales is probably the easiest thing to do lol
Women in crisis get helped. Men in crisis get blamed.
Boo hoo
@@violenceandperfumeFemrat
It’s simple, we don’t have traditions, a village, and a common belief anymore.
Corporations have took over they ruined everting
that so funny
In a remarkable display of unity and vision, one million women came together to build a self-sustaining society over a period of 16 years by consolidating their funds monthly. Pooling their resources, they collaborated with visionary architects and dedicated construction companies to create a harmonious and efficient community. This society, named "Serenity Solis," featured state-of-the-art eco-friendly homes, renewable energy sources, and lush communal gardens that provided fresh produce year-round. Advanced water recycling systems and green infrastructure ensured minimal environmental impact, while shared spaces for education, healthcare, and social activities fostered a strong sense of community. Each woman contributed not just financially but also through their diverse skills and talents, transforming Serenity Solis into a beacon of sustainability and empowerment, demonstrating the incredible potential of women's collective effort.
but you guys wont do this because you dont actually care about eachother you just want to get a big house and a wife by yourself and your own singular efforts because "im the man" boo hoo woe is me thats all i want in life is that so much to ask for, you guys sound so pathetic its crazy.
True.
Simple fix: join the Catholic Church.
1.) A calander full of tradition, amassed over 2000 years.
2.) You still got to build the "village", sadly
3.) Catholicism is the common belief.
You can knock two of three points out with a year long conversion process.
@@WilliamMcAdams what if you don’t believe in the Catholic Church?
@@4bidden1 I would advise this:
Think of a theological question, a simple one at first. Something baseline, like "what is hell," "what is grace," or "why pray to saints;" but any will do.
Now, Google the question followed by "Catholic."
Read the answer provided by Catholic Apologists. Follow the little rabbit holes; the Bible verses, the Church Father quotes, the Catacism quotes, and read those too.
Do that until you have a basic understanding of the Catholic Church.
Now, ask a harder question. Maybe something not "theological" in nature.
For almost any legitimate question you have, the Catholic Church has a thought out answer for.
Even if you disagree with the answers, read them, and at least entertain them for a moment.
IF you find yourself start to intellectually agree with the Catholic worldview, find a loval Church and start a dialogue with the Priest there.
I was a stark anti-Catholic for 27 yesrs before I converted; and this was my conversion process.
The Catholic faith practice is highly intellectual, regardless of what you may currently believe. It's fascinating learning about it, one way or another.
It's not better at 50. There are two phases for men now: "where is my life going?" and "how did I fuck up my life so badly?"
Sorry
Im in the "what have i done" moment, that "what did i let pass me by?" mindset
I'll be 50 later this year, over-educated, no job, no wife, no kids, no car, no credit card, no phone. Nothing. I'm still waiting for this miraculous lightbulb moment. Days, nights, weeks, months, years all become the same. What's it supposed to be about? What is anything I keep asking myself and friends and family around me. What is what? What is is? Is is? And no, Viktor Frankl hasn't helped. lol
@@Bluzian74 i feel it man, damned if u do damned if u dont
@@edwardbrock3807 Exactly. Trust me when I say this, I even do blind Pepsi taste challenges, I deliberately stuff things up to see if it's real, self-sabotaging to at least regain SOME semblance and control.
It's a standing joke with me, not only have I been fired from more jobs than my babyboomer parents have had combined, I've fucked up more fucks than the times I've been fucked! LOL Im totally into paradoxical logic.
Why when Im horny I can't get laid, but, if I jerk-off 3x before going to the bar, then women want me? What's to want? Im supposed to be rewarded for something Im not supposed to want? Why want!? etc. etc.
Im 30. No GF, no prospects of being able to own anything anytime soon, i just simply exist.
I'm 58 and feel the same way. We were taught how to be a working part of their system, be a slave, keep track of your finances, pay your taxes, nothing about saving money, buying a house, have a family.
Women are overrated. Especially western women. Don’t focus on females.
Yup. Same.
Better start working out bro, cause wars a coming. Wars are quite frequent when men are without purpose.
@@joshmiller9783 and you think people are gonna fight for this garbage society? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂? maybe the desperate ones will but people with integrity aren't gonna do it.
Women are born at the top of the mountain; men are born in the valley.
Man is judged on how hi he climbs; a woman is judged on how far she falls.
Men have much to gain; women have much to lose. Masculinity is built; femininity is preserved.
I feel you're absolutely right.
I feel like 90% of the stuff I know now at 31 years old I should have known when I was 18.
what stuff do you mean by that? I'm 23yo woman want to learn more from people
Same here, bro... I keep thinking If was my father's job to teach me about them earlier, or if there was nothing he could do about what the wourld would become... I dont know...
True, I feel like people mature slower than we used to for whatever reason, maybe modern times just set us up that way
Same age and feel the same, grow up in a family where my dad is so religious he never taught us anything but the “bible” and the “word of god” it affects me and my brothers to this day.
Divorced mother?
As a 26 year old man the hardest thing to hear is “your 20s are supposed to be the best time of your life.” If this is the best life gets why am I still trudging along?
20s is all about travelling the world supposedly but to do that you have to either already have the money to do so yourself or have a family that can afford it for you. Most people are born and die in the same town or country pretty much.
I feel like a woman made that quote because men don't generally live good lives. Lucky ones yes but majority of us suffer.
word
Lies man. Your 20s are super tough, lots to figure out, they are to find a direction. Find that and work towards goals, and you 30s, 40s, 50s and over can be even sweeter!
That sounds familiar... ohhh I remember "high school is the best years of your life"
We clearly gotta stop hyping up a single time frame of life...😮
Im a veteran..... we vets stick together, civilian guys got to realize it aint gay to care about your fellow man....or makes you look weak...My buddy has PTSD bad so some nights he calls me and tells me he needs to drive...so we get in his truck like at 1am and just talk and drive......we at times run into homeless guys and end up they are vets. We pull up an just talk about the military and our past like 3am in the middle of nowhere...if we have cash we give it to them .....we need to end this macho Bs and just be like we were when we were young playing in our yards
That’s a very masculine grown up healthy thing to do. Caring about other fellows and people in general. ❤
Max respect, man!
@@asdfasdfasdfsfds I feel for you brother.....I wish I could solve your issue but Im not qualified...The best thing I can say is try to talk to your local county mental health administration...They are there for this issue they can put you in touch with finding another place....Your mental health counselor could help you they have avenues for such things. Try to create a plan to move on write it down and try to work on one thing after another I had a divorce after a long marriage where I was broke and lost everything..... I had to even sell my pets I couldn't afford to keep them.....I was almost homeless.......5 yrs later with the help of the Good Lord I have made it safely back to who I was prior to my marriage. You can do it man God has you here for a reason you woke up today for God gave you another day to succeed so many people didn't get that...
@@dojocho1894 Thank you so much for the really kind words. I will try what you mentioned. I'm glad you were able to make it back from that place after you divorce. I can only imagine how tough that must have been. May God continue to give you strength.
No vet here, no military or stuff at all, but I turned 29 today and if I have learned one thing from the last five'ish years, than that it's NEVER gay or what ever to care about Our fellow human beings, I try to be there for people like I would like smone to be there for me on grim and dark days.
Always remember Guys:
It's never gay to check if your Homies okay!
It's like you're on autopilot, you get up, go to work, come home, and don't even know what you're working for. Then one day it hits you, where has my life gone?
Non playable characters ... Buy $npc
literally feel like what the actual fuck am i doing here
Exactly. Or 2 years ago I'm like "Alright I'm gonna budget my ass off. Pay off debt, save for a house". So I grind, 2 years later I've saved 20k.... but everything's gone up by that amount?! It feels like a losing battle. Like it's a trap. A cruel joke. Nothing makes sense anymore.
@@Blue10AEMia no love for $npc.. just up 30 percent since I posted. NBD .
@@Blue10AEMia choices choices .
Why do we choose to do it ?
I’m an older Millennial/Gen Xer (mid 80’s) and what makes it most depressing is that I remember the old times before the Internet made all of human suffering available for everyone with a smartphone.
The happiest people I know are one’s off social media and off the Internet. I think there is a strong correlation there.
I definitely think social media helped to screw us up socially and the comparison thing has become a major issue. I feel like people struggle to make and maintain friendships in person.
Also, the only way we can make friends is by meeting up with and working on something with another person (sport, music, games etc.) and people need to do that at least 10 times regularly before they start to consider a person a mate.
Social media makes it feel like we've been social when we haven't really, not in a meaningful way.
Before social media, we only had our immediate circle to compare ourselves to and TV. You have to develop a really healthy and realistic view of social media to use it and remain sane and happy with what you have
No fucking way dude, I’m a millennial/zoomer. And I hate being on the internet and social media. I do my best to take time of social media.
You also remember the times when your car only cost 500 dollars and your entry level job paid you well enough to survive. GTFO of here, the internet is not the problem. The economy is.
But you have to have social media to talk to people now.
i feel the same way, i was born in the 90's but was raised with values from earlier decades.
I hate what social media and smart phones have done to everything.
Something extremely covert and sinister is happening here in a spiritual manner, guys. The trend is clear. Something is trying to wipe us out. Let's make sure we keep our support for ourselves and each other strong.
Amen
Amen brother.
Satan followers, globalist cabal
As a man let's band together on that front. The world has become very unnatural and we can feel it
The devil runs this country atm
As a man in that age bracket i can confirm everything is NOT ok.
Username of the year award ^ thanks for the laugh 😂🤣
yup I have nights where I truly worry about myself, my mind space is not all that great sometimes
32, unemployed and an absolute burden to my wife.
Fired because “my skill set was no longer needed” found out 2 months later they hired some kid straight out of school.
Fired because he’s doing my job of 10yrs for less money.
Get a new job or you’ll need a new job and a new wife . Stop sulking get on your feet
@@AndreKing4 I think you’re missing the main point of the comment.
I’m sitting with nearly 70k in my account. I could sit at home for 2 years and be better off than some people who slave away working for 35-40k a year.
Finding a job that pays won’t be a problem. Finding a good employer in general is the issue.
Sounds like the issue is capitalism.
In Australia what your employer did to you would be illegal. Being laid off because of no longer being needed is a redundancy, and legally that role can't be re-hired for at least 6 months (last time I checked).
Of course employers may still find a loophole around this by creating a vacancy for a different job title, even if the duties will be essential the same as the previously made redundant position.
What are your skills ?
What about 40 year old men who've spent the last 15 years raising kids only to end up with a woman that no longer has a sex drive and refuses to touch you?
Months pass by and the loneliness gets stronger while your wife expects you to still be the perfect husband and father....
How old are the kids? If they are old enough that you don’t have to pay child support or alimony why not just divorce her? But then again I’m against just giving up a good marriage, she isn’t cheating is she?
@@shanepatrick641 17, 16, 14, 8, 5
The four older ones are boys and the youngest is a girl. If we were to split the boys want to stay with me. We've had this talk before sadly.
@@DadStrength81 should join a gym and name drop a few "women" at work and srr what she says.
Spray up a bit more when you go out and act disinterested.
Not doing anything wrong at that point. But might gain momentum in the right direction at least.
You should be with someone that makes you happy or be by yourself! I would try counseling first
@@erinstorm7693 I agree and she won't try counseling. She's very stubborn...
I am 34, male, Indian.
Feeling same here as well.
My best friend unalived himself couple of years back due to extreme financial, psychological and emotional torture at the hands of his gf and his elder sisters.
Since, then I really stopped actively caring for this world.
I perform social duties, smile at people, make an earning, cook my food, clean my apartment, goto sleep, and repeat.
But, I am not alive.
I haven't really spoken to anyone in many years now.
Please stop using soft language. It's doesn't change what actually happened. See someone who wil talk to you.
Dude, my routine is the same as yours. The world seems so unstable now.
indian & 26, same
@@TheKingWhoWins I tried talking to my mother, she laughed at me and went back to watching television.
Does she always do this when you try and engage?
36 here. Been full on having a crisis last 2 years. Family going through insane drama. I’m just going to work. No goals. No wife or kids. No close friends. Just feeling like what is this all about?
38 right there with you bud
Totally. Every day I ask myself "What is anything?" Sex is an over-rated albeit, underwhelming social construct. Money isn't real. Numbers are nominal. Happiness is an illusion. Democracy is subjective and colours are the absence of light. Compound that with women who fuck to only kill babies (and/or, falsely accuse rich dudes 37 years later of "rape" ) , it all just becomes a Darwinian/ Dystopian nightmare in and of epic proportions.
You're lucky, at least you have a job! I'm 49 with more education than any US president in world history - and Im labelled "over-qualified". OVER-QUALIFIED for life!! (PS: Im in Canada). If life is supposed to be about "learning", then what is there to learn? That life is just a scam, and we're only realizing it now? Language is suppressed. Feelings are repressed. Opportunities oppressed. Dreams vanquished, thinking prohibited, actualization muted. When's it going to be over? When's it going to begin? What is what!? :(
Create your own purpose if you have none. And commit to it, even though it gets hard! Find something to do to build on, on your own time! If you can, find smart people who want to learn and collaborate with! Those relationships are golden!
Same 32...exactly the same...ive thought hard ab packing my truck up and just hitting the road to find peace
@@Gmny1MOA talk is cheap. Just do it.
I just turned 28 last week. I feel this pressure you are talking about. This pressure to get rich. I have a son and a pregnant wife so I can’t afford to take any real risk anymore. I attempted starting a business and failed. I attempted day trading and lost a lot of money. I thought everything would be good once I got this job at the beginning of the year. A job that has been my dream job for 6 years. Now I sit in my office feeling the same as I always have. Feeling like I haven’t accomplished enough. Feeling like I’m failing my family because I can’t pay bills just on my income. I’ve moved due to the military ever few years for my entire 20s and now I’m in a position where I haven’t made quality friendships with anyone. At this point I find myself realizing that my monthly contribution to retirement and sitting in a job like this is all I got left. I’ve been focused on my career that I don’t even think I have any hobbies or ambitions. At this point I’m just here to put aside money over the next 25 years for my kids so hopefully they can live the life I wanted.
35, no job, coronary artery disease diagnosis, taking care of mom with dementia, no friends, stuck overseas… it’s all bad here - I run a channel based on strategy gaming to try and pass the time.
Stay strong man👊🏼 that sounds rough, but you will find your way
sorry to hear that..im dealing with tachycardia from the shot. 30 yo here
Where are you overseas?
Buy seeds for a garden next year. It gives you a little bit of joy, which beats none.
Same, 29, heart disease, general anxiety disorder, HS, insomnia, BPH, prostatitis, severe back injury that makes me cry in pain, and taking care of my family because I don't have a job yet. I'm trying to study as hard as I can so I can find a job and get some money to treat myself and move to live alone. Stay strong my friend you aren't alone if you want we can talk
When everything is monetised, when Governments overreach, when families break and when people lack the spiritual dimension, society shows us all the signs that we now see throughout the West.
Oh and when mass immigration derails your culture and undermines social cohesion. Yeah, quite the contextual list of fundamental dilemmas, which all impact the personal struggle of building one's life.
it is a coordinated global phenomenon.
@@DislocatedDesignCompletely agree with all you said.
It’ll all come apart in November with the fix. Or it won’t, maybe no one will care.
Doesn't matter if you care, but nothing actually changes.
This is VERY accurate. Im 29, and all the guys I grew up with look completely lost, they follow the masses and just have problems creating their own path and sticking to it. Many of them are gym bros and sure they are fit, but their mental health is terribly broken. I have had a very tough path, luckily from hard work, Im an executive at a company. Nonetheless, I even still feel alone many times. I try to encourage my close buddies to hit me up when they are fucked up, nothing is better than a homie who has your back to help you get through some shit. Men, we are built to work together in groups and conqueror shit. Society is what brain washes us into staying alone, and getting married with a woman who doesn't give a shit about us.
You are not alone bro. You are surrounded by men exactly like you and you don't know it. Reading these words on a screen doesn't mean shit I know but there's men all around you who feel the same and can relate to your experience. I wish you the best.
What you said about following the masses true it’s bad because you can’t think for yourself
Damn... 😮😮😮😮
I’m 29 as well man. I feel incredibly lost and lonely. I’m an electrician but I’m already burnt out and lost the passion for this trade. All I do is work and go home watch Netflix , eat then repeat. I have no close friend circle or girlfriend. I go on social media and see everyone with there friends at the cottage or getting married and it makes me feel completely worthless.
@@gahbalgoo2589 That's not what he's saying I don't think. He's just referring to them as 'gym bros' as slang - they're looking after themselves physically but he's saying that mentally they're not doing well
a single flower on a hillside simply exists. it persists through weather and cold. it blooms, and it shrivels.
28 can’t afford a kid can’t afford a house. Don’t want to start over, life is stalled and grey. Society is a nightmare. Modern life is a meaningless existence where we chase cheap pleasures and pay expensive bills. Purpose has been commodified, people have been pacified. The end is near😢
Praying your situation changes 🙏🏾
@@EricSmith996-g6veven if it does it's replaced by a 100 other dudes. Sorry bud your prayers are a fart in the wind
Maybe start thinking outside the box more and live an unconventional lifestyle that's what I do
@@EricSmith996-g6v I was going through a rough time when i posted this. Just coming to terms with the fact that we are in the end of the age. Jesus is coming back and all who put off the old self and follow him will be saved. Thank you for the prayers and continue to stand firm in the faith! 😇
@@golf869I been saying the same, we're in the end chapter, it will get worse, then the return.
Men are expected to keep fighting in life and not complain. For me its being lonely and bored all the time. I have a good job but no friends. Im 29. I just don't have any passion or excitement in life anymore. I just do the same things over and over every single day. Just waiting for the end.
Join a darts club
Life is only boring if you’re boring
I was there 3 mos ago. Literally walked out the hangar and quit 3 days l8r.
I'm not on the streets but I'm not scared of them. Better to be free and poor that a jolly slxve.
Hunt, fish, build shit...get out in nature turn your damn phones off. Reconnect to the man inside. Unplug. Most definitely keep negative people out of your life. Just walk away. 💪😎.
Play Magic: The Gathering?
Inflation is killing a lot of confidence in men when they make "good" money but still cannot afford a house, kids, and a car anymore. The only advice I would give young men who might not have many responsibilities is to take the leap and move to another state or even country.
Good idea. This can be enhanced in conjunction with a remote job. Live somewhere with lower costs, and work for some organization that pays well.
Argentina is an amazing place to live, with a brilliant future.
I’ve been lost since 18 I’m now 32 figuring out what I want out of life
Same brotha
Not alone bro
The main issue is not “mental health.” It’s inflation. Literally just inflation and the main reason why not everyone is dating or settling down. How can you settle down when there is no certainty? Of course men are going to work more jobs/longer when there’s rampant inflation. Dating isn’t even a priority when you have inflation. Setting up a decent life without the worry of inflation takes A LOT of money to do that. Everyone wants the issues to be men vs women, modernity, mental health, climate change, blah blah it’s not. It’s inflation.
Everyones put against eachother as a distraction
@@zetos4440 Everything is a distraction from inflation. If the money slowly becomes worthless, more people are going to believe value is scarce and hard to come by. Thus, causing everyone to compete more for high paying jobs. Pretty simple.
This is absolutely correct. Dating is too expensive and I have no time working overtime at work.
1 million percent right
Internet has ruined the zeal for life...exploration is dead. Nothing new to get excited about....time to live off the grid. Dopamine overload is real. Unplug!!!
Welcome to night city 😂
The cure for this global existential crisis is found in a book called -- “Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity” --
This is why I’m not afraid of “them” shutting down the internet, although I pray for it to happen. It’s their best weapon. I went a year without a smartphone, but had to get back on the grid for work. We live in a perpetual infomercial.
Agreed.
When I get rich, I think I’m going to get a beeper phone.
Still living at home at the age of 27. Have no job and having no clue as to what I want to do with my life.
You can start feeling bad about living at home the moment the government stops lying about the state of the economy. Living with your parents is a wise financial move in these times.
what a loser
90% of the people dislike their job, it doesn't matter what you want in a job
until you're suffering in one, then you might realize and apply for what you think you want
until then you're supposed to accept & excel at whatever you're working on.
If you enjoy it, then embrace it. If you don't enjoy it, then take an elimination approach, crossing off the things you have no interest in. Eventually you'll find yourself narrowing it down. Not interested in being an auto mechanic? Totally fine. How about finance? Medical field not your thing? Want to make food? Want to grow food? Essentially, I'm suggesting that if having too many options is giving you analysis paralysis, narrow your actual options so that you can figure out what you are truly deciding between.
I had the good fortune to be able to live with my folks, until I was 30. I’m in a much place, now. Don’t give up and don’t forget to thank your parents.
I hate that the answer is always “start a TH-cam channel”. It used to be that a job would earn you enough where after putting in a few good years, you could save enough to start your own thing, now the only way it seems you can do that is by trying to be a content creator, what a ridiculous world we live in.
this pisses me off too- that is another saturated market.
Seriously.
The woman that I invested 4 years of my life with and have a beautiful child with (daughter) had a breakdown and got into smoking weed heavily, cheating on me with my sisters ex who was a douchebag and they broke up shortly after and then ran away with my child.
Staying strong and loving myself, calling in a new better queen and I will have my daughter back in my life.
Was your wife white?
as a 23yo, unmarried woman myself it just disheartening to read your story. how's life going for you now?
@@dephitaputrimawardi9503 thanks for your concern. My life is good but would be great if I had my daughter.
I am doing my best to foster a healthy relationship with the mother of my child but I am afraid she is a legitimate narcissist so dealing with her is a challenge.
@@dephitaputrimawardi9503unmarried too….this is scary. I am sorry you are dealing with this :/ women and men need to get along
Bro I feel you. B took my too children. You don't need a woman or "queen" there aren't any left. They will play the part until they feel like they have you but the balls, then everything changes. You don't need a woman. Too many men think they need a woman. As Jesus said "there is no marriage in the kingdom of heaven" marriage is just a man made concept which is used to make money. It's all man made bullshit
36 here, happier now than I was a year ago. There's hope guys
Advice plz? I can’t find a job in cyber and now I’m applying in retail again and still they aren’t hiring
Yes there is hope. I'm doing better than I was too. Looking to God I believe helped me more than anything!
@@itsoundzgood advice?
Same here at 33. A main job and a side hustle did it for me. I was depressed with the main job only. When the side business kicked off I am now feeling better
@@lyricz4224 what is your side hustle?
Most people don't care about you, that is my honest thought. It makes sense, were mostly absorbed in our own lives and situations. You're lucky if anyone actually cares about you (meaning, they make an effort to be in your life and vice versa, check in, spend time together etc). I found out when I became homeless at one point in my life, who actually cared, and, it was few to none. I suffered for 6 years, and learned if I was going to remain alive, I alone had to care about myself because no one else was going to care or help me, only I was going to help myself. So, after battling whether I wanted to live or die, I chose to live and try and see if there's a possibility life can become better. At least I made it to 51 lol.
I really want to quit my job, but I face the prospect of being homeless. I face this exact situation if I dare to step out of line
Don’t feel bad about that, most men alive today and most men that ever lived were lucky if they even had a mother that cared about them. Thats why we men and boys need brotherhood.
28. Been a rough few years personally.
I have always struggled to make deep connections, especially with other guys.
I grew up without a father but have many brothers.
As you said I have been isolating myself and trying to improve before I let the world see me again.
Its hard to shake that logic.
It's the fight of a lifetime for men. I'm 29, and I think this fight is the main struggle for men in general. Some may brush this topic away because they know life is a rat race and you need to keep going. From boys to men, your priorities change. You realize that you have to learn to become someone. The hardships of achieving value, is not easy. There is an invisible weight all men carry. It's important to know why they carry it, though.
I think it’s a mistake to make this a gender issue. There are many women out there that are struggling too . I mean, the data is clear when it comes to women being much more anxious and depressed than previous generations. Men do have it difficult in ways but the struggle isn’t exclusive to them. We have to try to steer guys away from victimhood
@brianmeen2158 agreed, but I'm only speaking from my own experience. Women do have their struggles. I don't mean to downplay any of the issues they have. Personally, I think we all grow up knowing we should be good. Guidance would have been nice as a kid to let us know why most of us feel like we are expendables.
The cure for this global existential crisis is found in a book called -- “Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity” --
32 here. It burns inside when you see a guy your own age on Facebook with a partner and kids and even worse when you see happy couples together in public. You think to yourself - mannn…I wish I was that guy….
Most of that happiness you see is a facade. After two years, the honeymoon period is over. And kids do not enhance marital happiness.
You need a wide circle of friends, then a girlfirend will appear. However, I am a loner and therefore it is very difficult to meet a girlfriend.
Turn to Christ Brother, He will bring you the right person for you to go through life with
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
Their not happy fam
Im a boomer, 65 yrs old and went the marriage route and even then, made mistakes in selecting my partner, married an attorney! That was in 1999, and things went to shit just as soon as I retired, she divorced me and turned the kids against me, so I feel the pain of all men out there that just want a peaceful and fulfilling family life only to get divorce raped like thousands of others. At least you can rest assured you have been fully warned and wont soon be walking the plank! (getting married) I for one after having lost the family the house the kids can at least warn you young guys to never fund the future of skanks with your homes with alimony and child support, I wish all of you the very best in life, without having to lose it all because you wanted a family!
s2h
If there is one good thing about the internet, it is that men like you can share your experiences and serve as a warning to young guys. I'm gen X and I never got any sort of male mentoring from any of the men in my family, including my father. I wish I had had all the info and mentoring available online for men these days, it would have saved me a lot of time, money, and heartbreak.
@@solinvictus39 Oh man, tell me you didnt get divorce raped? I can only hope to warn other guys about this going on, but I seem to have been too late to have helped you!
This is not the mistake, it is the consequences of the mistakes, mistakes like the sexual revolution, buy the world a Coke, etc. It was all intended as a soft genocide. No culture can survive the destruction of family. It is the end for us, and I could see it clearly all my life, but I've had to just sit and watch - mostly your generation - fly us straight into Hell. Why?
@@TheRealShaanSolo whats s2h mean?
Be the friend you desire. Men learn to support men. It's not a woman's job to support you if you don't do the same for her. Give what you want to receive.
I think I represent the hated, a Boomer who lived outrageously, experienced a degree of personal freedom during adolescence that would land parents in jail today, courted disaster at every turn (motorcycles, girls/women, “substances”), treated high school as an annoyance but still ended up with degrees from elite universities, piled up money along the way. The world has changed since I did these things. The same cavalier approach to life would get me canceled or worse today.
You're not "hated" if you acknowledge it, which you did.
Boomers are hated for not acknowledging their advantage.
Please reach out to your fellow boomers and confront them that their position is unreasonable. The government will do everything and anything to instill cracks within the population so that we can't discuss openly what's going wrong. We zoomers/X can't seem to make your generation understand how bad things are nowadays, maybe you can help us if you understand both the sincerity and severity.
@asdfasdf-dg2qx To add along with this gentleman: we are not asking, nor expecting, you or any Boomers to feel "shame" for being advantaged.
"Boomer guilt" isn't necessary.
We just want Boomers to acknowledge they had advantages we (and no one else in history) had, and maybe get off our backs a bit.
@@asdfasdf-dg2qx I could, I think, actually build a meaningful TH-cam channel devoted to this topic: educating/enlightening other Boomers who either don’t know or don’t care what’s going on in the lives of people ages 20 to 30. My daughter, 22 and son, 25, are really struggling to provide for themselves. Can’t afford health care, car insurance, even rent.
@@asdfasdf-dg2qx I appreciate your comments. I agree that the media tries to carve us all up into competing segments with irreconcilable differences. That architected disunity serves no one,
I'm 32. I was diagnosed with Autism when I was in 3rd grade. Socializing has felt like a mental obstacle course my entire life. I can function as an adult when I need to, but when it comes to people I REALLY struggle with making friends and trying to find a romantic partner.
If I'm out talking about interesting things, social interactions feel like mountains and it has never gotten easier, it's always been hard. I would love to have a wife and children one day, but sometimes I walk into a room of people and I almost immediately disconnect from everything like it's clockwork the second I step in. Most of the time I try to think of ways to break ice and talk to someone, my mind goes to the stale, generic banter every time. I can't think of clever jokes when I want to, I struggle to find things in the environment or what is happening to start communication, I want to connect with people so bad but it's like there's an on-and-off switch in my mind that triggers on it's own.
I've seen some concerning statistics about Autistic people and their issues, everything from dying 20 years earlier than the average person to suicide being one of the leading causes of death for people with the disorder.
I want to live a normal life and experience wonderful things like mutual intimacy and a real relationship but every time I want to attempt to approach someone I feel like I'm "masking" myself to achieve it - and therefore, not bribg my authentic self.
It really sucks.
I'm with you brother. I also have autism and my life experience is like yours. We always get overlooked by these guys giving advice. It seems like nobody knows how to help us and we are just left to suffer alone. Today guys were talking about their first experiences having sex and I have to stay quiet. Also have to deal with some people thinking I'm gay because I can't get women even though I'm attractive. People are emasculating me and there's nothing I can do because my brain doesn't work like others. Yet I look "normal" so nobody feels any empathy for me nor offers any help.
As a non autistic man, it's not much different over here.
Idk wat to tell you tho, I've never done well with "normal" ppl like thst. The mundaniety, the hyperbolic and forced expressions.
If u want it badly, get into something social and try making friends from there.
I am sorry for you brothers, i am a latín man in the states and it is so hard to feel like i am part of this society..we are men we can figure it out But we have to help each other, today is eassier to make a comunity or something like that as You can see my English is a problem writing you can imagine "talking"
I just turned 34 years old back in May.
I am very familiar with existential crisis. I have been a personal trainer for nearly 16 years now. Pretty much right out of high school. I got into it. 3 years ago. I had a mental breakdown and was certain I was done with my career as a trainer. The 20/20 pandemic shut down gyms for over 6 months in my area. Therefore, heavily impacting my livelihood and income. This prompted me to get into online training. I planned on doing the online training as a side gig and to completely get out of in-person training.
Today I am working out of a college gym just as a part-timer but it gives me access to work on my business. For me cutting alcohol out of my life has helped tremendously. It has given me clarity on my purpose and where I want to go in life. I will also say what help me find my purpose In life , a sense of fulfillment and that feeling of being a kid again was working on my mental health addressing this s*** I didn't want to work on, going to AA helped with that a lot. Fitness. Yeah guys. Spirituality is a real thing. I think a lot of dudes ignore these realms and it's eating them inside. For me, this helped me regain control of my emotions, thoughts and actions.
I'm no millionaire or anything yet, but today I am content with what I am doing as an online coach and personal trainer out of this college. My goal is to eventually be fully online and to continue scaling. Life has gotten much better because I ultimately chose to make it better. It's not whose president or what your parents did or who did what to you. Especially as men, we have to hold ourselves accountable and be responsible for our own lives.
Your mother took Tylenol when she was pregnant or gave you Tylenol when you were a baby. It has been linked to high rates autism and you and millions of other Americans are autistic
Dude, I'm 59 and I've been alone for 18 years and I have so much baggage it's unreal , plus I have zero friends and no family I can count on. I woke up from the matrix 6 years ago and that just added more stress to an already tough existence.
Do you have discord id like to add you to have someone to talk to I feel the same way
46 man. At least you can start to draw down 401k penalty free at 59 1/2 and live in a cheap area like se Asia
Dude thats another big part of it all! I feel like cyper from the matrix. Its like just plug me back in because being so aware of the lies and scam of life makes it all so meaningless
I recommend The Bible
if you have no friends that is your own fault and one you can change
I was always told that money can't buy happiness, but then i learned that they were lying. 100% all my problems would be solved if i had an extreme amount of money. My anxiety and depression all stem from not having enough of the green paper
Exactly dude, they always tried to tell us for years that money ruins you. But it's actually the cause of the problems for all these people. With heaps of it there's no more worries or uncertainty.
No, I don’t have money issues at all. Money solves some not all
Money solves your money issues.
That
Is
It!
There's still everything else.
Hey, I don’t think so. If you are able to pay home and food, you are okay. Everything other is just psychical crisis. Lot of people live their lives, that are actually fine but they are depressed somehow. I think the cause is these social network comparisons with top 1% or even with lies. Quick dopamine like YT or IG shorts, p*rn…
I’m from postcomunism Europe. I can see, how life of our parents sucks. We live the best life we ever had here, but everybody is depressed and unsatisfied. And that is the moment I start thinking why is that?
@@TheKingWhoWinsmoney literally solves everything, until you have everything solved then realize money is comfort not happiness
It's just people realizing how meaningless this existence is, I don't think it's any deeper than that...
look into the Bible it tells us our purpose and meaning of life. and what's to come. your deliverance is near.
@@lilpandanesegirlAMEN
@@lilpandanesegirlAll things are possible through Christ
Work 5-6 days a week, commute, sleep, eat, rinse repeat. Run errands, workout, chores, pay bills etc. Rinse repeat, while living in poverty struggling 24/7. No retirement, all alone and one medical emergency away from the streets. Its quite meaningless indeed. What is the point of it all? To make the rich get richer, while getting paid peanuts. Spending most your life slaving away for people who have more money than they'll need for 10 lifetimes over already...
@@lilpandanesegirl Nothing but cope. No evidence for a god, no evidence for an afterlife. We're apes floating in the Cosmic expanse, nothing more.
Try 40s no wife no gf and broke
I’m 27 and have no wife, GF, or kids. Live alone. I already feel ya man. Where do I go? Who am I? What am I on this earth for??
I broke up with my girlfriend a few years ago and regret it. It’s my fault, I was too insecure, things were tough and we lived too far apart.. I’ll never forgive myself 😞
@@shanepatrick641Man, don't be so hard on yourself. Try changing the most easiest/accessible aspects of your life (like sleep, nutrition, sport or you could start doing martial arts, thats physical activity + socialization + great mood and self-esteem). I know it may be hard but don't overfocus over things you can't change (in the past or inaccessible to change/reach in the moment) and you will change for the good, i believe in you man
I feel for you bro. I’m not in your position but I feel for you. I hope you find contentment.
@@clarkewegener9197 just focused on getting out of debt
Try 40's, divorced, two kids zero custody, and she took half your shit 😬
Got laid off at the end of 2022, went back to school to get my bachelors. Now with my degree and experience it feels nearly impossible to find a job.
That was my issue. Graduated in 2019, right before Covid and I got a “good degree.” That being a bachelors in finance; or so I thought it was a good degree. My lack of experience never landed me my foot in the door. So I’ve been working at becoming a consistently profitable trader since 2019. Hoping it pays off.
College to me was a massive mistake.
Try not putting your degree on a resume and look for something where you work with your hands.
I'll tell you right now, in my company, if we see a recent college degree on a resum (within the past decade) we round file it.
We got a real nice thing going. We don't want it ruined by a brainwashed, indoctrinated feeb.
Not saying that's you, by the by. Not calling you that. It's just a trend we've seen and want no part of. Give it a try; what's the worst that could happen?
Bro I’m right there with you. Literally BA degree here
Same here. I feel like I wasted my time getting a degree, because it's not even helping me find a job.
@wulftarot I got a BA in history, wanted to teach, and didn't get into debt doing it. I found out I essentially have to go into debt through a master's program to teach in my state. I recently applied to be a rural delivery driver for USPS.
I think the thing abt men having this problem is something men need to fix among themselves, which is why it’s great you’re making this video ! Many men think that women should be responsible for taking care of these issues in relationships or friendships, and it’s not our responsibility- and we’re done doing that shit, bc it’s EXHAUSTING. Plus, women are a privilege that most won’t attract if they have deep emotional issues, cus deep emotional issues radiate off you like crazy - we can always tell. I think y’all need genuine brotherhood w a group of good kind hearted men. Friendships are extremely important. Happy to see people trying to help other people, like you. Cheers
While I overall agree, I also think a lot of women these days have inflated standards and if they’re not dating the guys that are struggling, we have to wonder why they won’t as well as wondering why he doesn’t qualify.
But also, one of the greatest motivators for men is the prospect of a relationship and sex in that relationship. It can be transformative when a man gets a girlfriend while he’s low.
Men in general are having a rough time. There's times no one else cares about us but, thankfully, more people are speaking up about this crisis and trying to help each other. I feel I got exploited in my career and at 36 it left me with nothing. Laid off, about to move back home, been single for over 10 years. No one cares to connect or let a potential friend or partner in. I've learned to survive solo. I feel despondent and lost. Sending good and resilient vibes to all the other men out there going through it.
I feel you. It's true men have it hard nowadays but I feel like this is more of a general phonomenon. There's a global pandemic of selfishness and self-centeredness. 'No one cares to connect' hits the bull's-eye. No deep connections are made anymore. Just superficial acquaintances that people keep for validation and occasional entertainment (if you're a funny guy). That's it.
I’m 28 and the anxiety is amplified by feeling I should be where my parents were at my age married and in a home but they grew up in a different world to today’s Canada and housing market. Seeing these comments and seeing how common these issues are for other young men helps me keep a clear head that it’s not just us as individuals we really do exist in a messed up time in history.
yeah, its a completely different world now, some of these things are (and will be) unattainable for us, newer generations... we gotta help each other
Yea i'm in us and also have these anxieties and feeling of failure for not being married or having my own spot yet at 29
@@nickjohnson7857 hey I just turned 29 last week. i feel the exact same man. i feel like i should have my own house with kids and a wife but my reality is infact complete the opposite. No girlfriend , no dating life, no friends, not making enough money to live on my own so im stuck at my parents place. I feel like a complete failure.
All you can ask for is work life balance and to move to where you belong, somewhere you can have a life worth living for. Or you better really be making more money to the point you can ease up later on. Or what I plan on doing making my own money and then splitting time out of the USA, cheaper and better culture elsewhere screw it here.
The less men support this economy the more impossible it gets for this rotten underbelly to be ignored.
“25 to 35” man I’m pretty sure younger people feeling like this too
20 years old and in the same predicament
@@RichieDevine8 Depends on if you when to uni or college. At 20 you should not have any worries tbh. Its waaaaaaaay diff age then 25 for men
18yo here, about to go into the last year of high school and life after that seems like such a mystery
@@noodlez3492 it gets so much lonely if you dont plan on going to college , dude
@@noodlez3492 figure out what you want to do with your life. 9-5 sucks for most people
Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 10 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life. Great piece!
Do you mind sharing info on the adviser who
assisted you? I'm 39 now and would love to
grow my portfolio and plan my retirement
She's OLIVIA SULLIVAN FINANCIALS
she's a known advisor. I actually did look her up curiously and went through her credentials on her webbsite... Top-notch! I wrote her an email, hopefully she's accepting new intakes.
Olivia Sullivan is a very popular professional trader, I know a lot of people who have worked with her
I'm definitely gonna check her out. Do yo have any idea if she manages family fund?
36 here, and the crisis didn't end
dude, it's not just 25 to 35. I felt the same way in my early years but I'm 51 now and still feel the same way - living to simply work to pay bills and buy things I don't really need to temporarily fill a void and sadness of not living a meaningful life. So many of us become trapped to live a life akin to a hamster on a wheel. Running and running and not going anywhere.
31 with literally no reason to live and considering checking out.
I hope you get this message, I’m sorry you are struggling but please don’t give up. Every day is an opportunity to turn it all around and make amazing things happen in your life. Just take it one day at a time.
@TravellingAllen been doing that since I was a kid. I'm done with nothing getting better. Things only get worse.
@akuma319 I'm 30 in a few months and I feel the same way, how do you cope with life, having these feelings for so long, everyday. Granted I don't been blessed in some aspects of my life, but nothing ever seems to change. I'm perpetually broke. No friends. Romantic life dies just as fast as it begins, living with parents, car repossessed. No one ever to really talk to, and I struggle with depression. I've been miserable for so long and numb. I have little options, I don't have a career. Only guy in my family with no family of my own, and I'm Watchung myself slowly getting older and older. Idk what to do, and my parents are the only reason I'm still here. I just want to be beyond already. I just want to be happy
@@keanowhitmoregive something anything a meaning. Pray. Create, think. Love yourself. Appreciate your parents. Be as diverse as you possibly can.
@@vidviewer9727 why? Why keep going? Just to live a long life of misery? For literally no reason?
I feel robbed by circumstances beyond my control. First, inflation has eroded the value of money, leaving us with less purchasing power. Then COVID took away nearly four years of our lives, either through direct loss or by negatively affecting our well-being. Now, the future of jobs and the economy is uncertain, disrupted by AI and further undermined by a broken financial system. It's a constant battle to adapt while feeling like the foundations are slipping away.
I'm 23 now, and for 4 years I've been working at a carpentry workshop. For most of my teenage years I was a total shut in, doing nothing, hiding in my parents house. One day I got sick of hiding, so I went for a walk around town until I found a place that I liked the look of, I walked in and told them I'd be like to volunteer. It was my first job. I've enjoyed my time there: the old tradesmen have taught me a lot, and I like everyone there. But I've always had problems with self-confidence, particularly when it comes to making decisions that push me out of my comfort zone. although I'm also hard working: consistently doing 8-9 hour days Monday to Saturday. I don't mind working a lot, but I think the real reason why I throw myself into my work is as a means to avoid making scary decisions - my job has become my comfort zone. Putting myself out there, meeting friends, talking to girls - these things are uncertain, and scary. going to work everyday is certainty.
The scary decisions only get stronger. You have more time and energy left than most.
I wish I could tell ya how to get ahead but...
I totally relate brother,
I hide from social situations because of fear of rejection or judgement.
We could be friends tho,
You're not alone in what you're experiencing and there is hope.
Since the beginning young men have been having an existential crisis. Whose making the great art, the important writers and humanitarian workers? Mostly young men in search of elusive answers to their questions, sometimes or often additionally tortured and tormented by anxiety, depression and doom.
nearly every great piece of music was written by a man under the age of 29
Now they just waste time & life on Netflix & video games
Doesn't the Bible imply that basically woman brought sin into the world?
@@cronoscoin417I'm not religious but lol, older folks really knew what they were doing writing the bible
@@mihailcirlig8187 yea me neither, but I believe those who wrote weren't either. Religion is believe me on faith, they wrote things that people could test and find the truth in it. The texts aren't religious, the religious just use the texts
don't get me started. Something changed in me this year before turning 30 and I just realized how sad my life is.
I looked up people of my school years on facebook and it's depressing how many contacts they still have, and the happy memories they collected.
My life has been miserable all this time. I had to fight to make my life work. And now I'm alone and getting old.
It feels like the entire world is rejecting me while welcoming the people around me. And my struggle is only a nuisance to them.
Dont compare ursef to other
Social media is a front my friend, it has been purposely constructed to attack your self-esteem. Check out the law suit and research fb did to implement it. No bs, so keep working on yourself and forget about left and right and only focus on what’s in front of you.
@@dissident112 of course they don't live permanently on parties and trips. That's obvious. But that they have all these good memories, and are still collecting them. I'm not saying I wish bad on them. It's just that, some people are just more welcomed than others.
Stop watching anime
30 is not old... you still got time. Try searching up clubs and events. List things you enjoy. Start there 💯
35 - working in an industry I hate for the last 10 years feel stuck because I can’t think of anything else I’m qualified to do. When I entered this industry I was promised success, growth, promotions, etc but have only experienced extreme stress, low pay raises (even switch companies), and a lack of work life balance. Attempting to start my own business this fall and am going to document the journey on TH-cam just to keep myself accountable.
What industry?
@@TheKingWhoWins insurance claims
I'm 32 years old, still living with my family in Los Angeles, making a decent salary at the moment (before taxes) in the I.T. field but just still not quite enough to be out there in my own spot yet and feel so behind. Going on dates here and there, then getting rejected down the line, a lot of it is just very discouraging. Trying to get out of my own head and into my body by dieting and lifting while also focusing on my many hobbies but I can't shake this underlying fear of failure. Maybe it's because I had strict parents, being the eldest, not having an actually healthy romantic relationship yet (I've had a few years long toxic ones for sure), who knows. I've been watching you for a while though Denmo and have never left a comment but I'm leaving one this time for everyone else around my age and dealing with the same stuff to give them some encouragement that they aren't alone. Peace, brothers! Stay strong.
Honestly, a lot has changed in our society in the last years that is not mentioned enough. Many big companies have just become bigger, have dominating control of hiring processes, make record-high profits, but salaries have not at all increased the same way. When was the last time you received a promotion or a bonus for a well done job? Many are stuck just working barely scraping by only to get laid off despite showing loyalty for years. Then there is the ever-rising taxes and inflation. The next problem is simply that old-fashioned communities where you used to get support have started to disappear, and have been replaced by social media, hostile architecture etc.
I got laid off in cyber lol I am hanging on
Quit.
Get your passport and for a vacation, travel to Eastern Europe, Asia, Mexico, or South America and see which culture you like best. We escaped California when I was a child. I can tell you that you are playing the game of life on one of the highest difficulty settings where you currently live
That's fortunate you have a job and have parents who can support you. Keep up in the gym and keep your head up! I think you're doing well man
Single, heartbroken and sexless. I talk to lots of women and get ghosted by every single one. I love music but dedicating to it is scary and daunting. Can’t stop bad habits. Try to dedicate to healthier habits but repeatedly fail. I literally can’t find peace in my heart and mind.
Then have a moment of mental clarity and relax and ask yourself why that is. Only when you are fully honest with yourself will you get the clarity you need. You will succeed the day you are honest with yourself and only on that day!
Women nowadays are mostly interested in men they can extort. There's a reason u mostly see just the soy boys with them.
But brother has anyone ever talked about revolution?
@@gkauto1959you can't understand why women aren't into you without a plethora of women telling you.
Since thst last thing most ppl are is honest, good luck.
Pray and live with God.
Get a gym membership start working out and get some basking time in the sauna,Find a new hobby, start a business focus on bettering yourself and get sex off your mind find something else to meditate on, save your money build a house in the woods go camping learn survival tactics pickup marshall arts, Seek Jesus Christ read the Bible meditate find some sort of mental clarity, Go on a vacation somewhere, Idk these are the things that help me stay sain maybe try some of them.
What is going on: the global economy and trade is fucked due to economic wars. We are on the brink of ww3 with several hot zones from Africa to the Pacific, the Middel-east, and Eastern Europe. Society is breaking down.
Some people make a lot of money from wars
Currently I’m 23 and I’m simply learning how to have fun and love my life now. I’ve been someone hyper focused on grinding for the last few years of my life, studying to be a Psychologist but I’ve found I keep delaying my happiness to the future.
Most men have always had existential crises and died alone for all of history.
Yea maybe that's true. But we probably went to war, hunted a wooly a mammoth, had some kids. Not have a buck tooth Puertorican tell us we are privilege and destroyed the world.
Wrong, throughout history MAN has reasons to fight. Atleast if they were poor they had 3 kids a loyal wife who never showers.
Now what is man's reason to fight. Like if Russia, China, Iran invade us. You really believe all us single males who been shamed by culture feminists, you think we will sign up, jump for joy to protect the women who descieved us all our lives lol ?
We were promised, damn near guaranteed, that the future was gonna be marginally better than the past. It’s the biggest scam they could’ve ever pulled, and I’m tired of pretending the house of cards has any value to it.
God knows that. Thats why God honored men as the hero gender. Sadly...Satan won and men have been given the boot. Despite the hypocrasy that men rule Hollywood.
Satans attacking men knowing they are Jesus symbol of Jesus. And Jesus was a very feminine man and very manly as he tore the churches sale of doves for sacrifice. Jesus was a real man. Not macho!!! But he isn't afraid to attack
I moved out of home 5 years ago with a bicycle and not much else. I then started a cleaning and gardening business.
It's been a tough journey and I've faced hardship alone and conquered it. Now 36 and loving all aspects of my life.
Learn, grow, evolve, thrive.
Thanks for your story brother. I’m starting a health consultation business and I’m terrified to take action. Last step for me is to build a website and attach a payment processor and client booking tool.
Trying to break it down into smaller steps.
I know I probably won’t make money the first year. But the second year I might make a little and if I can be 33(30 now) making 2-3k a month from my own business that’d be amazing!
Trying to build a life is hard brother l, but it’s good to hear from people who’ve done it like yourself.
I'm 35, awful childhood, diagnosed asd, severely bullied, multiple schools changes, mentally unwell father, 8 younger siblings, construction site of a home, tried to study hard in school, directionless afterwards, I dont excel at anything, went into the wrong uni course, failed it, multiple jobs and long stints of unemployment, few brief dates, no relationships, balding since early 20s, addicted to porn since adolescents, suffered with depression and anxiety my whole life, still living at home, feel like there's no point trying. Probably left a few things out but thats the most of it.
Imagine if the average guy is struggling what life is like for those with ASD and other severe impairments.
Honestly it seems like nobody cares and they're just mass dumping men out of the gene pool.
You gotta put the porn down man, if you don't have self discipline and no self control during the day and the night especially when no one else is watching then your life will feel out of control you gotta take back your power as a man start working out focus on your self start new hobbies cook home made meals stop eating out all the time learn survival tactics go camping these are the things that help me
@@TroyGrayson have you ever heard that the less someone looks at porn the lower their libido goes? I have ADHD and I can completely forget about sex for weeks if I'm too focused on something else.
@@TroyGrayson ik u mean well g, but for some ppl it’s easier said than done especially when u don’t know there childhood/environment
I've suffered from anxiety for alot of years, and I can almost guarantee that masturbating is whats causing you the anxiety. You have to stop masturbating. Now i'm not saying porn is bad, just the masturbation. I personally think porn is amazing, its often a beautiful art. I follow different artists that make porn comics and porn animations thats related to the fetish I like, and their work is incredible. Looking at the porn or just imagining yourself being in it, and imagining yourself being there and experiencing the feeling of it, that way is fine and incredible, but once you start masturbating thats when all the psychological problems start. Releasing your fluids like that especially on a continual basis, it does something to your brain idk what, but it does induce anxiety and depression.
I’m 25 turning 26 in November. I look back when I was in high school and college and think wow my life was great. Good group of friends, good times, had a great girlfriend. Went through strut and long story short got mixed up with bad drugs and bad people. Flash forward and even though I’m sober now, I’ve pushed all my friends away, the relationship I was in is over, just feel like a loser. I have a good job and I’m in good shape, I just don’t have the guts to put myself out there anymore and am self conscious of even seeing people I used to know in public. It’s horrible. I’ve been praying recently and trying to improve, I really hope things get better. If anyone out there reads this just know you’re not alone brother.
I'm 26, recently having signs that I might have cancer, being jobless for 2 years and still living with my parents.... yep everything is going at me all at once.
May the Lord God and Jesus be with you and yours. Prayers, and hope things will improve for you always
Same lol
What kind of signs are those brother ?
Cancer survivor here myself. Getting a diagnosis really sucks but a lot of cancers are treatable if you catch it early and going through that process will make you much more resiliant badass in the long run. Dont beat yourself up too bad man. And as far as the job thing you may not find your dream job right away but just focus on having a steady income coming in for the time being, a better job will come later for sure.
I was going through this crisis in 2022 at the age of 25.
I had the business, woman, job, house, kids even… you name it basically everything but still had a MASSIVE hole in my life.
I’m now 27 years old and at the time prayed ‘god’ if you are real now is the time I need you please help me.
God led me back to a sport I played as a youngster in which since I started working at 18 I stopped playing for 7 years.
After god bringing me out of that time, Jesus Christ and the love of an old sport was what was missing the whole time.
I don’t write this message to preach boys… I write this as someone who never truly believed or was even raised in a church. Quite the opposite being raised in a dysfunctional family in fact.
So boys don’t feel you must go to a church. But start praying and grab a bible. It sure saved my life all praise to god 🙏❤️
Amen Christ is truly the only one who can give our lives lasting meaning and purpose.
God bless you brother 🙏
Amen! To denmo hbu?!
No god, only survival and power. Religion is an evolved cope for the more intelligent creatures in an uncaring and cruel universe. Good for you though man, it helps!
Amen Glory be to God
Indeed my Christian friend.
Quran 10:24
Quran 13:28 ❤
I was very lonely in my 20s but I learned to deal with it and now I actually prefer being alone. I solo travel, work out, invest in stocks, learn new stuff, etc. I find most people don’t really match up with my personality and most of them are married and have no time
Are you in your 30’s now?
Amen bro
This is exactly how I feel! I'm 25 and can relate.
Same here man
Uncle Iroh said: sometimes the best way to help yourself is to help others.
Every two years the world goes through some insane paradigm shift and I'm done trying to keep up
yeah, it's kinda tired to be a hamster in a wheel... it's tiring but not rewarding at all
Good point and not talked about enough.
💯
THE NEW NORMAL™
Man reading the comments on here really resonates with me. Im 30 and certainly feeling an existential crisis on my end. I was making good money during COVID and then got into a PhD program and had to sacrifice my income and move away from all my friends and family a couple years ago to a rural area where there isn't much to do. Now I am living below the poverty line. It's pretty isolating. Im worried i made a mistake by enrolling in this program. Also, My gf of 3 years broke up with me for the 2nd time a couple months ago after everything I tried to do for her. It was the most painful breakup. As a man I have this core belief that I can only be loved if I'm useful. And i guess i stopped being useful for her and she left. And I've tried to get back into the dating scene a little bit but it really sucks, not only because I'm dealing with social anxiety for many years but because the quality of women is really lacking. I used to be so motivated and optimistic and now I find myself going through the motions and cynical and just don't have the same energy I once did.
im 35 in 7 days and to say im having a crisis is an understatement. bottling my emotions drives me to the point of insanity and when i talk about it i get blown off i told my GF i was struggling she then broke up with me after an argument. no one gives a F**k about you so asking for help or talking about it is useless even people that now deppresion wont see it when youre down
Same thing happened to me man. Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me during an argument. Funny thing is I was there for her at her lowest points (e.g., when she was suicidal and depressed etc) and I have been struggling recently and she just leaves me because "the spark is gone." Just makes you feel like you can't rely on anyone else to be there for you like you are for them. Don't get me wrong. As a man, I want to provide for those I care about. But I have lost hope in relationships
Never tell women your problems. Women hate weak men. The only thing they hate more are weak men they choose. Doesn't matter if it's your girl. Find a dude you trust to open up to. Stoicism..
You absolutely cannot tell a girl you're struggling in 2024 lmao. Hell, it's been like that for a while now. I think certain issues you can confide in with your girlfriend like physical health/mental illness.
The big no no is any struggles with self worth, money, career, ambitions, ect, ect. Once you tell them the potential of a money filled finacially free future of zero or next to zero work is off the table. They are fucking gone, bro. Whatever potential they were holding out for is confirmed dead or that its just not gonna happen. Onto the next man who can provide that for them with natural gifts that you don't have.
Yea the women don't give a shit. It's only about what they can get from you, for the majority of women, the vast majority
There's no road for strong men in the world bruv. There's only so many options from here.
This is all so on-point. One part of me knows deep down, that we've just forgotten how much power we truly have. That human beings, as conscious, co-creating spiritual beings, have incredible power. To change things, to heal, to manifest, to create better and better lives for ourselves and others. That it's even our intrinsic nature. And yet, I also know that the people in control have done everything they can, on a global scale, to suppress that true nature, that spirit, that essence which makes us alive. And so, it's a difficult world to navigate. Knowing that in fact, we have the ability to change our lives, and to change the world. Knowing that the game is ours, and that we can change it. But at the same time, that it's rigged.
32 years old and feeling so lost.
same and same
Im 23 I joined the military for 4 years when my parents showed me they didn't care about me I just wanted to get away...the military isn't the same military it was before. I was looking for meaning, patriotism, something noble to do beyond myself, brotherhood, it was nothing like that today. Today it's just a corporate job and they couldn't give two shits about you and I can see that. I can't wait to get out and I'll probably be sleeping in a car, I have the GI bill for free college which I'll probably use on some sort of training so I'm not totally fucked (probably gonna go into a trade I can't sit at a desk). I feel completely alone and like all my hard work means nothing. I refuel planes in the air like you see here on TH-cam. I personally refueled the F22s that shot down the chinese spy balloon over South Carolina a year ago, I was the boom operator that was there that Saturday morning. I didn't have a father to tell or anyone to show that I did that when the plane landed. I just went to sleep knowing I did some shit that was on the news all across the country. I didn't expect my life to go this way. I genuinely hope you all find happiness I don't wish suffering on any of you and I would certainly work to make this country better if I could.
29 and right there with you
Go offgrid! Farmstead, learn joinery, ceramics, start a microbrewey, grow microgreens, lots of opportunity, just nothing in the matrix.
I’m curious, do you guys have kids? I’m noticing more and more that the guys that are lost tend to not have any kids. I’m a firm believer that man is hard-wired to spread his seed and if he doesn’t - there will be numerous bad feelings that will plague him. That and a general feeling of not having purpose or drive. I can’t say that I’ve never wanted kids but I can’t imagine trying to find a somewhat attractive and compatible woman to have them with. Oh and things are so damn expensive so that isn’t helping
I think this is a thing in most of the western world. Family values went away, women became more independent and women have started demanding a lot more from men to go in to a relationship. Of course your can always look abroad to find a more feminine and woman that has Family values. But that isnt a solution for most of us.
So it's a problem if a woman has a job?
Are the women happier doing this?
Happiness is fleeting. Are they content, no, obviously not, women on average are even more social animals than men. But i dont think they see the disconnect, they are not gonna change their tune until ppl start talking. Because i sure wouldnt want to date a woman who demands a lot and gives very little to my life. We are practically dating women trained to be men. Women are men today. @@XAUCADTrader
Lol no women’s satisfaction is at a record low
@@FalsePips They got everything they wanted though?
whether you're rich with a yatch or poor digging through trash for a meal, the only that truly matters is joy in the present moment right now. The present is the only thing that matters. You can be rich and depressed, poor and happy, you can live the life of a drug addict, or a lifestyle of health. You can work out an become buff, or be unfit yet still the only thing that truly matters is if right now in this present moment you can feel joy. I've spent years obsessed with the future, and obsessed with the past. Now I feel free to focus on the NOW
Mirthpilled
rather be depressed in a mansion than broke under a bridge
Hey boys. Happy to see everyone talking about this stuff. 35 here and am finally almost out of my rut. I work 2 jobs - one as a wedding videographer and one as a personal trainer. I have found that being in service to others can carry you a long way and give you some purpose. I focus on eating well and exercising so I can be my best self for others. It doesn’t change the fact that things are tough right now - but we have to keep moving forward. Spirit mind and body. Good luck everyone.
37 Here and I've been having this for about 2 years now. It feels like I can't trust anything or anyone. Everything I'd hoped for as I was growing up has turned out to be a lie and our role models are child molesters in disguise. We can't afford to give our kids the lives we had, let alone a better life.
Good times make weak men
Weak men make hard times
Hard times make good men
Good men make good times.
Y'know, what i think the ultimate issue is, is that people are so busy following other people thinking it will make them happy, that they neglect to chart their own course and end up lost. I'm 42 and I've gone thru this myself. I call it the "Fortress of Solitude" phase. It can get lonely and it can get dark at times for sure. But you need to really sit down and contemplate who you are and what you want out of life. This will take time and introspection. But, when it becomes clear, your sense of self and purpose will be restored. Then you will know what to do. You are lost because you live your life according to how external influences define you. When you realize that it is you who defines you-- and no one else or nothing else-- then your life will change. It sounds corny but you will feel it internally, you will know it. Because now you have become the author of your own life story instead of a character in someone else's... Keep moving forward and never give up. You'll find your way. Keep. Moving. Forward.
What you said is very true. I don't think it's primarily a dating issue, but a mental health issue. You can’t expect good dating results if you are fighting depression.
the main reason guys have depression is because they don't have good dating results
good mental health doesn't compensate for being short or facially flawed in this online dating app/social media world we live in now where women can essentially shop for their ideal man
mental health is obviously a symptom, not a cause
men need to fix their emotional baggage too before dating. women have enough issues and have their own baggage to deal with...
@@MikeG82It's the economy, social media, bad food, out of shape, no hobbies or career, and excessive amounts of politiks in every corner space.
33 Graphic Designer about to lose my place because I cant afford rent.
its rough out here guys stay up
This is such a low key Ad, took me a while to realize it
It gets worse. Wait till you're 55 and have no savings. Seen it 1000 times.
Have you tried CHURCH or VOLUNTEERING
@@dallassegno Church is a cult, volunteering doesn't pay the bills unfortunately.
@@dallassegnoyou mean going to a place where they teach to to hate others and give 10% of what little money you have?
It’s great for a community though which would be practically helpful
@@Morininglandsome of em always pop up talking church,religious or bible crap like it’s an ez fix. It’s just something to say not genuine advice
@@Moriningland western civilization was built by Christendom. You’d have to be an idiot to not realize that. You arrogant edge lords are the reason it’s falling apart.
The world has become so competitive, judge one, fake happiness. It was so simple before 2010. Atleast everone don't have phones.
boomers were the peak of our society. its all downhill from here.
Im 46 went through hell in the past 3 years. I purposefully went homeless. Sleeping on benches no showers, getting real and completely out of the comforts of modern life that really zistracts us from spiritual growth. It sucks bros but it grts you off the wheel. Hope to see you out there.
thatll be sorta what im doing but sleeping on benches i assume your still surround yourself by civilization because you didnt actually prepare to live off the land as a free creature again.
AI is about to break capitalism regardless of what anyone thinks. Tons of people who are working directly on these AI systems have all written letters basically saying the world is not ready for how rapidly it’s about to change.
110%
Thank God I'm 36 and my crisis ended a year ago
How did it end?
looool i know what u mean here. in fact im almost 40 and everything he said resonates.
Tried talking to my girl about a problem I had and her response was to shut me down and tell me that it upset her, and that it needs to stop and that I shouldn’t tell her again. Since then I’ve been guilty of just keeping emotions and concerns on the inside. There’s plenty of people that are willing to talk it out and have a 1on1 personally conversation, but I’ve found it easier to just push on and sort it out on my own
You need to leave her , if she’s not supportive now, she’ll be a leech to you when you do make progress in life
tf leave her dude, and if you’re not keep the same energy with her and see how she reacts
leave her homie.
Man, find a way to get rid of her. If they aren't supportive now, they will never be during the toughest moments, and when something really bad happens to you, it's extremely likely that they'll leave you, making you even more miserable. I've been through it, a 5-year relationship , saw red flags like the one you're describing now, and out of convenience and cowardice, I stayed with her. Biggest mistake of my life.
Where people get it wrong is this. All of these girls/guys that trash talk average dudes are full of it. If you look around and your doing better then average, you should be more then happy. Yes continue to strive for more but be happy and grateful.
Grateful for what exactly? - The existence none of us ever asked in the first place?
It’s this country. It’s the culture. It’s how we treat each other. We all know that something is very wrong here. And if you go abroad, you will see it too.
The world is cooked. We need a great reset. We need a big change
I was 23 years old when I was diagnosed with cancer, I was a full time mechanic, treatment and the surgeries
Were hard!, lost everything, my new car moved back in with my dad, I cried every day because I thought my life was basically over, I was suicidal so instead of offing myself I joined an MMA gym and started getting my ass beat every day 5 days a week 3 hours a day, the chemotherapy damage my hart and lungs so a part me was hoping I’d die from a hart attack or something, I started a mobile detailing business with my brother and started buying and selling cars on the side, now I’m in shape and make double what I was making from being a mechanic, 27 now I’m probably not going to live long but at least I’ll live life my way from now on
Its not the quantity, but the quality of the life you've lived that matters. I'm sorry this happened to you, only in the USA are we all one medical emergency away from destitution.