The confident guy is an arrogant guy who has learned to be smooth about it. Humility absolutely destroys self confidence and makes anything except the most menial work impossible.
So specializing and learning a particular skill that most people on the earth dont know or aren’t aware of is what brings confidence. At the same time you get wrecked by other specialists in your field, makes you humble.
accept your weaknesses and appreciate your blessings GRATITUDE is the grand shortcut allowing you to bypass pride-evil-destruction and go straight to humility from the height of success so the typical cycle doesnt keep dragging you down
Only if you have a (metaphorical, though still very,very real) shield/filter that is porous enough for you to take what is happening as a lesson and for your self esteem to still be intact but that same shield is not so porous as to allow the event or events that are happening to simply destroy you or make you a useless shell.
Nobody who has to live in the real world, or grew up on a slum, or who has had to do hard physical labor, or who has had to supervise other people has ever thought that gentleness is strength.
@@GeorgePenton-np9rh Maybe you should read the title and maybe rewatch the video and have some humility brother, by the way no one thinks someone who has a huge fucking ego as someone having strength either. What you thought you are the only fucking person in the comment thread that has lived through real life so you leave a fucking condescending comment. What I'm wondering is what has hurt you or what you're so insecure about that caused you to have this huge fucking ego
@@GeorgePenton-np9rh Only if you have a (metaphorical, though still very,very real) shield/filter that is porous enough for you to take what is happening as a lesson and for your self esteem to still be intact but that same shield is not so porous as to allow the event or events that are happening to simply destroy you or make you a useless shell.
I tell my daughter and my staff, my words aren’t humble but my actions are. Definitely lines up with the external/internal example given. I usually add why my words aren’t humble - it’s just more fun. We can have a good time while doing our work, as long as we are doing it right.
A person who is confident without being cocky is only a vocky guy who has learned smooth ways of hiding his cockiness. True humility utterly destroys any and all self confidence. Anyone who has actually tried to have humility will tell you this. Let's call a spade a spade. Let's quit pretending that humility is anything more than an 800 pound gorilla on our necks that keeps us from accomplishing anything in life.
@@sdotlondonkid yeah that's exactly what I thought of him at first. Then I heard he had a podcast, And I bust out laughing, imagining a militaristic military man having a podcast where he talks about anything. I had no intention of listening to the podcast cause I had never heard of it. Then a few of them were recommended by TH-cam, i got captured by the title, Listened to the podcast and realized that Jocko is alot smarter than I originally thought. Kept listening, and realized that he was a commander in the seals, impressive! Kept listening, and realized how balanced his mindset is and how knowledgeable he is about leadership and relationships. Much respect to him. Now my watch later list is filled with podcast episodes.
Trying to join the military I had confidence, motivation, and wasn’t shy. Having a collapsed lung and getting disqualified ruined me. 8 years later I’m trying to regain everything I lost.
Deixa ele se trocar o c* c****** eles Trocaram o bastante eu gosto de ver assim só troca de coco quando estiver trocando o antônimo de forças deixa ele trocar c* e se eles trocaram até não querer mais com as pontas dele deixa ele fazer essa troca de cor deles deixa ele dar as pontas dele para os outros eu não tô nem aí tô nem nas Forças eu tô nem aí tô formando um exército pode deixar ele latir em cadelas e p*** pode deixar de trocar como trocar de coco Eles continuam com a troca de cor e eu continuo formando um exército
Clear thought... Thank you. Once when a child asked 'Abdu'l-Bahá' of the Baha'i Faith why all the rivers of the earth flow into the ocean, He said, 'because it sets itself lower than them all and so draws them to itself’. ~ Bahá'í World, vol. IV
Is the balancing point between confidence and humility the mindset to show up and give your best effort? The confidence to take your best shot, and the humility to not worry about the outcome.
My problem with both of these was that I was too humble I would put people on a pedestal in my mind and bilittle myself but now in realize it’s like the Instagram effect I compared my self to their highlights but not them as a person even comparison I think should be done like I did it but I digress. I am or could be as good or greater than anyone
I feel there’s a fine line here with humility. Someone who doesn’t think or act as if there better than another person is a generalization of humility. What about when you see another person being arrogant and you think to yourself, yeah he’s a dbag I’m nothing like him, as in I’m better than that guy?
Echo: tells wife about guy he tapped* Wife: you know what would have really impressed me? If you had washed the dishes. Boom. Humility. Gotta watch out. Wife-jitsu.
BJJ is indeed a nice way to unleash energy positive or negative. Win some lose some. I once got my skinny knee semi snapped sideways. But you just pick yourself up and get at it again.
@@Eng_Simoes not sure about that mate for me he was an amazing person. He may have look arrogant but he was a champion and most Champions have this in common. We think the are arrogant but the reality is that they are just obssesed with winning and they hate loosing.
Well if I take away anything from this: Humility is knowing when to say, I don't know and learning from igornace, as opposed to having an ego and saying we got this with no idea what the hell you're doing. Am I correct or wrong?
Tao Te Ching: 💧 Water embodies Supreme Goodness; in dwelling, it stays grounded (does not defy nature and be more than it is); in governance, it does not control (it goes with the flow); Water stays true to its nature and thus cannot be faulted. this passage is about how humility is our true strength. Humility means staying true to our nature, and if we do, we cannot be faulted.
It goes back to your faith or the believe that you are full of weakness, confidence is even more tricky than humility, it's a state beyond bravery and very close to arrogance
Just love your videos Jocko, why because having watched a whole bunch of videos scrutinizing the minutiae of various aspects of life , health , science you name it , what do we need to do ? Get real . For me the only "man" who ever existed whose life still inspires the greatest souls, learn from him , this needs great humility to submit to the Divine Will , to that transcendent principle , to let go at some point of one's obsessions , one's small world stuff and see a much bigger picture come into view . This requires humility do which is "more mature" , otherwise blind spots and self justifications and all manner of delusional thinking remain , can we build a life from the bottom up ? Often we loose site that which is most humane , essential and actually most rewarding often preserving the relationship without being inauthentic . So when I get lost and that is invariably 90% of the time I remember His advice "Thyne Will be done ". Otherwise great , for me perhaps the greatest treatise on humility St Benedict of Clervaiux , "the twelve steps of humility" all most infinite depth , phd level stuff ,.the difference between haute cuisine and ...ine4dible fair , so the problem is in today's world though too many chefs .... Loved the humour , and why can't your'e daughter come on the podcast ? What is tapping out ?
I don't agree with you guy's always saying that you should do Jiu-Jitsu to build confidence. I personally and specifically trained Jiu-Jitsu to build confidence because I followed advice like this because I thought if I just showed up and was consistent I would develop authentic confidence and belief in myself when it comes to being able to defend myself. The reality was that for 2 years I trained as hard as I could and mostly just got my ass kicked and my main strength was getting injured and I got nicknamed Mr. Glass by a couple of the fighters at the gym. I might also end up having to get neck surgery because of herniated discs in my neck from Jiu-Jitsu. I stumbled my way to a blue belt but felt even less confident than when I entered the gym because instead of being humbled by the reality of not being able to defend myself and then overcoming that and being able to defend myself. I just got stuck in the phase of I don't know how to confidently defend myself because of my spine injuries. I learned the lesson that some people like myself are just injury-prone and have bad spine genetics, and if you have bad spine genetics the LAST thing you should do is grappling. The reason is is that although jiu-jitsu is a very effective martial art, it won't be for you because you won't be able to train enough to become effective at it. Moreover, some people are naturally very untalented at grappling and injury-prone and if you put a lot of effort into something and months and years go by and you still suck at it and are getting tapped out by everybody it's going to make you bitter, resentful, and less confident. I don't think you guys can understand that perspective because when you did jiu-jitsu you guys saw progress and didn't get injured and ridiculed. The better advice and more honest advice would be "hey try jiu-jitsu and if you see progress and feel more confident then stick with it." "If not you should quit sooner rather than later and find a different martial art that is effective for self-defense and that you see progress in that makes you more confident." If you have money I would advise you to take private one on one lessons with a black belt that way you won't into injury-riddled deathmatches with white belts who have a fragile ego. I personally found boxing to be the most effective and least damaging on my spine compared to the other more effective martial arts like Muay Thai, Wrestling, Judo, and Kickboxing. Just wanted to share that because I don't think a lot of people share that perspective and I want to make others feel less alone if they experienced something similar.
Weak people tell you that being humble is cope, but they keep stuck in life, because of their victim mindset. The demons control them and not the other way around. The optimistic and mindful people on the opposite know that there are humans outside who have to deal with war, hunger and cancer. They are thankful for their possibilities and power that other people lack and would be dissatisfied if they didn't make the best out of it.
i know that you dont live in permanent terror like i do. im way to educated to not be. i learned pain beyond your range. thats why you are lucky. and rich beyond whats fair. who sheltered you? noone ever sheltered me. the place i live is with my worst enemies on earth.
I know this may sound really stupid, but I got a new job and they wanna teach me how to use a forklift and get forklift certified. I'm watching this video because I don't have the confidence that I will do a good job and I fear messing up. I'm always doubting myself and putting myself down. I hate it
I have to ask, if this is life and life's far from perfect. Why then must everyone feel they can be the best? It's a lot of pressure to know you're never done and you can always be better. Sounds exhausting. How would you rest or sleep? How could there be 8 billion plus perfect people? And how are you expected to not burn out?
Humility may be one of those things that is good in moderation but very toxic in excess.. There has to be some kind of common sense limit to the I-am-a-worm-and-not-a-man mentality that books on humility present to us.
Jocko why world power when the natural world is powerful enough. If people want business as usual it’s business as usual they will get. If you don’t have a proper goal in life to achieve you will have a lot of rules that will be broken like it or not. Why search for all the complicated parts. Is it complicated to be hungry, thirsty, to love, to have friends to need a roof over your head is it more difficult? What are we searching for in life? To expect another planet to be waiting no wonder there is all this destruction!…
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The difference between arrogance and confidence is humility.
Wow, i've been trying to explain the difference but never really could and boom you explained it perfectly!
The confident guy is an arrogant guy who has learned to be smooth about it. Humility absolutely destroys self confidence and makes anything except the most menial work impossible.
I've also heard that the difference is "One is that you think you're above everyone else, the other is that you know that no one is above you"
That is nicely put@@abunchofiguanaswithinterne2186
Confidence comes through learning, and learning comes through humility.
"If there is one thing I am proud of, it is my HUMILITY"!
That's ironic lol
Pffff, I'm more humble than you, kid!
I’m so humble that I waited 11 months to just let you guys know that... I’m HUMBLE-R than you
Why are you showing off your humility? I have a really good humility but i am not showing this off
Dude I'm so humble they tried giving me an award for being humble and I was like nah I don't deserve it.......HUMBLE as f&%k
So specializing and learning a particular skill that most people on the earth dont know or aren’t aware of is what brings confidence. At the same time you get wrecked by other specialists in your field, makes you humble.
more or less
That makes a lot of sense.
accept your weaknesses
and appreciate your blessings
GRATITUDE is the grand shortcut
allowing you to bypass pride-evil-destruction
and go straight to humility from the height of success
so the typical cycle doesnt keep dragging you down
Real spill 💯
Trials of Life will definitely teach Humility. 💪
Only if you have a (metaphorical, though still very,very real) shield/filter that is porous enough for you to take what is happening as a lesson and for your self esteem to still be intact but that same shield is not so porous as to allow the event or events that are happening to simply destroy you or make you a useless shell.
“Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength.”
― Ralph W. Sockman
Nobody who has to live in the real world, or grew up on a slum, or who has had to do hard physical labor, or who has had to supervise other people has ever thought that gentleness is strength.
George Penton yeah you’re a real poet. Thanks for the input
@@GeorgePenton-np9rh Maybe you should read the title and maybe rewatch the video and have some humility brother, by the way no one thinks someone who has a huge fucking ego as someone having strength either. What you thought you are the only fucking person in the comment thread that has lived through real life so you leave a fucking condescending comment. What I'm wondering is what has hurt you or what you're so insecure about that caused you to have this huge fucking ego
@@GeorgePenton-np9rh Only if you have a (metaphorical, though still very,very real) shield/filter that is porous enough for you to take what is happening as a lesson and for your self esteem to still be intact but that same shield is not so porous as to allow the event or events that are happening to simply destroy you or make you a useless shell.
@@sophieche1411Doesnt your common sense tell you that going through life as a little pansy is not goodness or holiness?
There is a famous Japanese saying attributed to Bodhidharma - "7 times knocked down, 8 times get up."
Where does the extra get up come from?
He got up higher this time
I tell my daughter and my staff, my words aren’t humble but my actions are. Definitely lines up with the external/internal example given. I usually add why my words aren’t humble - it’s just more fun. We can have a good time while doing our work, as long as we are doing it right.
“Confident but not cocky!” I like that!
A person who is confident without being cocky is only a vocky guy who has learned smooth ways of hiding his cockiness.
True humility utterly destroys any and all self confidence. Anyone who has actually tried to have humility will tell you this.
Let's call a spade a spade. Let's quit pretending that humility is anything more than an 800 pound gorilla on our necks that keeps us from accomplishing anything in life.
Jocko “Dichotomy” Willink
The funny thing is, it takes time to see him as a man of nuance. First impression is usually just a hardcore, one dimensional man of force.
@@sdotlondonkid yeah that's exactly what I thought of him at first.
Then I heard he had a podcast,
And I bust out laughing, imagining a militaristic military man having a podcast where he talks about anything.
I had no intention of listening to the podcast cause I had never heard of it.
Then a few of them were recommended by TH-cam, i got captured by the title,
Listened to the podcast and realized that Jocko is alot smarter than I originally thought.
Kept listening, and realized that he was a commander in the seals, impressive!
Kept listening, and realized how balanced his mindset is and how knowledgeable he is about leadership and relationships.
Much respect to him. Now my watch later list is filled with podcast episodes.
Trying to join the military I had confidence, motivation, and wasn’t shy. Having a collapsed lung and getting disqualified ruined me. 8 years later I’m trying to regain everything I lost.
Humility and Confidence -two sides of the same coin of truth
I will start bbj next week for this reasons . Push ego on one side and develop self confidence.
Me: Hey Jocko “insert question “
Jocko: Jiujitsu ...
Just poking fun good stuff as always
Jocko = Jiujitsu
Rogan = DMT
"Once you see the way broadly, you see it in all things."
Lmao
Deixa ele se trocar o c* c****** eles Trocaram o bastante eu gosto de ver assim só troca de coco quando estiver trocando o antônimo de forças deixa ele trocar c* e se eles trocaram até não querer mais com as pontas dele deixa ele fazer essa troca de cor deles deixa ele dar as pontas dele para os outros eu não tô nem aí tô nem nas Forças eu tô nem aí tô formando um exército pode deixar ele latir em cadelas e p*** pode deixar de trocar como trocar de coco Eles continuam com a troca de cor e eu continuo formando um exército
Is Donald trump humble? Yet he is the president of the country
Clear thought... Thank you. Once when a child asked 'Abdu'l-Bahá' of the Baha'i Faith why all the rivers of the earth flow into the ocean, He said, 'because it sets itself lower than them all and so draws them to itself’. ~ Bahá'í World, vol. IV
Profound.so beautiful.
Is the balancing point between confidence and humility the mindset to show up and give your best effort? The confidence to take your best shot, and the humility to not worry about the outcome.
My problem with both of these was that I was too humble I would put people on a pedestal in my mind and bilittle myself but now in realize it’s like the Instagram effect I compared my self to their highlights but not them as a person even comparison I think should be done like I did it but I digress. I am or could be as good or greater than anyone
That's been my experience, too, Alex. Tge lower opinion I have of myself the less able I am to work with and relate with other people.
I really don't know how every single Jocko bit / podcast doesn't have 1 million views on them.
You can tell that echo looks up to Jocko as a role model.
I strive to have both external and internal humility!!! Not an easy task but you won't regret it.
I feel there’s a fine line here with humility. Someone who doesn’t think or act as if there better than another person is a generalization of humility. What about when you see another person being arrogant and you think to yourself, yeah he’s a dbag I’m nothing like him, as in I’m better than that guy?
Echo: tells wife about guy he tapped*
Wife: you know what would have really impressed me? If you had washed the dishes.
Boom. Humility.
Gotta watch out. Wife-jitsu.
Lmao
I bet. That line of thinking will take you strait to #deadbedrooms
I used to be that guy. Now I try to learn from everyone. 💯
Jocko "is a dichotomy" willink
Everyone needs to watch this
Thank You for both of your insight ! Very Helpful.
BJJ is indeed a nice way to unleash energy positive or negative. Win some lose some. I once got my skinny knee semi snapped sideways. But you just pick yourself up and get at it again.
Good to hear after about a year of no light.
The story about the guy passing his guard is deadly 😹😹
My new vocab word for the week is now dichotomy.
Waiter: the soup of the day is tomato Bisc with garlic butter on 9 grain whole wheat bread
Jocko:I will have jujitsu please
Ayrton Senna was a perfect exemple of this
Do we know if he used to train bbj? Could be!
How's that? Senna's arrogance ultimately killed him.
@@Eng_Simoes not sure about that mate for me he was an amazing person. He may have look arrogant but he was a champion and most Champions have this in common. We think the are arrogant but the reality is that they are just obssesed with winning and they hate loosing.
GOOD!
HOW CAN I GAIN SELF CONFIDENCE....
WHILE HAVING.....
SKINNY KNEES
start lifting weights
Tiger Teeh brah listen to deleted convo inbetween these two legends
Humility absolutely destroys any and all self confidence. This is a no brainer.
Humility and the best in the world can go together like bread and peanut butter ....
Well if I take away anything from this:
Humility is knowing when to say, I don't know and learning from igornace, as opposed to having an ego and saying we got this with no idea what the hell you're doing. Am I correct or wrong?
Tao Te Ching: 💧
Water embodies Supreme Goodness; in dwelling, it stays grounded (does not defy nature and be more than it is); in governance, it does not control (it goes with the flow);
Water stays true to its nature and thus cannot be faulted.
this passage is about how humility is our true strength. Humility means staying true to our nature, and if we do, we cannot be faulted.
It goes back to your faith or the believe that you are full of weakness, confidence is even more tricky than humility, it's a state beyond bravery and very close to arrogance
Just love your videos Jocko, why because having watched a whole bunch of videos scrutinizing the minutiae of various aspects of life , health , science you name it , what do we need to do ?
Get real .
For me the only "man" who ever existed whose life still inspires the greatest souls, learn from him , this needs great humility to submit to the Divine Will , to that transcendent principle , to let go at some point of one's obsessions , one's small world stuff and see a much bigger picture come into view .
This requires humility do which is "more mature" , otherwise blind spots and self justifications and all manner of delusional thinking remain , can we build a life from the bottom up ?
Often we loose site that which is most humane , essential and actually most rewarding often preserving the relationship without being inauthentic . So when I get lost and that is invariably 90% of the time I remember His advice "Thyne Will be done ".
Otherwise great , for me perhaps the greatest treatise on humility St Benedict of Clervaiux , "the twelve steps of humility" all most infinite depth , phd level stuff ,.the difference between haute cuisine and ...ine4dible fair , so the problem is in today's world though too many chefs ....
Loved the humour , and why can't your'e daughter come on the podcast ? What is tapping out ?
High Self esteem vs Over Confidence
The keys are ACTION and ACCEPTANCE
I would actually like to see his daughter on the show haha
Life is jujitsu. Jujitsu is life.
My Autism has made it where if I need to have some form of Ego, because it seems to me like Ego and Self-confidence are the same thing.
Thank you
"I am a very humble person" -LaDainian Tomlinson
I don't agree with you guy's always saying that you should do Jiu-Jitsu to build confidence. I personally and specifically trained Jiu-Jitsu to build confidence because I followed advice like this because I thought if I just showed up and was consistent I would develop authentic confidence and belief in myself when it comes to being able to defend myself. The reality was that for 2 years I trained as hard as I could and mostly just got my ass kicked and my main strength was getting injured and I got nicknamed Mr. Glass by a couple of the fighters at the gym. I might also end up having to get neck surgery because of herniated discs in my neck from Jiu-Jitsu. I stumbled my way to a blue belt but felt even less confident than when I entered the gym because instead of being humbled by the reality of not being able to defend myself and then overcoming that and being able to defend myself. I just got stuck in the phase of I don't know how to confidently defend myself because of my spine injuries. I learned the lesson that some people like myself are just injury-prone and have bad spine genetics, and if you have bad spine genetics the LAST thing you should do is grappling. The reason is is that although jiu-jitsu is a very effective martial art, it won't be for you because you won't be able to train enough to become effective at it. Moreover, some people are naturally very untalented at grappling and injury-prone and if you put a lot of effort into something and months and years go by and you still suck at it and are getting tapped out by everybody it's going to make you bitter, resentful, and less confident. I don't think you guys can understand that perspective because when you did jiu-jitsu you guys saw progress and didn't get injured and ridiculed. The better advice and more honest advice would be "hey try jiu-jitsu and if you see progress and feel more confident then stick with it." "If not you should quit sooner rather than later and find a different martial art that is effective for self-defense and that you see progress in that makes you more confident." If you have money I would advise you to take private one on one lessons with a black belt that way you won't into injury-riddled deathmatches with white belts who have a fragile ego. I personally found boxing to be the most effective and least damaging on my spine compared to the other more effective martial arts like Muay Thai, Wrestling, Judo, and Kickboxing. Just wanted to share that because I don't think a lot of people share that perspective and I want to make others feel less alone if they experienced something similar.
bro you used it literally you can use it as metaphor. try other thing that suits you.
Weak people tell you that being humble is cope, but they keep stuck in life, because of their victim mindset. The demons control them and not the other way around. The optimistic and mindful people on the opposite know that there are humans outside who have to deal with war, hunger and cancer. They are thankful for their possibilities and power that other people lack and would be dissatisfied if they didn't make the best out of it.
3:24 don't be abusive when you doodoo well hehe
i know that you dont live in permanent terror like i do. im way to educated to not be. i learned pain beyond your range. thats why you are lucky. and rich beyond whats fair. who sheltered you? noone ever sheltered me. the place i live is with my worst enemies on earth.
I know this may sound really stupid, but I got a new job and they wanna teach me how to use a forklift and get forklift certified. I'm watching this video because I don't have the confidence that I will do a good job and I fear messing up. I'm always doubting myself and putting myself down. I hate it
Is this an old video or did echo get his tattoos covered
Jocko obtained his humility through getting a tramp stamp
Jock how do I - “JUJITSU”
Jacko what do you do if you are disabled and can't do Jujitsu or much weight work?
I feel like their favourite word is "dichotomy" lmao
Real talk 🤔🤔🤔
Does humility kill the leader inside whoever?
The solution is simple . Just go eat some Humble Pie!
This is what JSP said too!
Thats why he refused to say he is the bes of all time or acknowledge anyone to be the GOAT
💯
that guy probably had that goal for months though...if I passed Jockos guard i'd throw a party :D
You can't really be humble until you have confidence in yourself. Otherwise is just fake.
Maybe true
How do you get a question to Jocko for him to answer?
Get a question
Boom
I have to ask, if this is life and life's far from perfect. Why then must everyone feel they can be the best? It's a lot of pressure to know you're never done and you can always be better. Sounds exhausting. How would you rest or sleep? How could there be 8 billion plus perfect people? And how are you expected to not burn out?
3:22 to 3:28 is magical out of context
Can you think of a more manly man name than Jocko?
Damn what a name
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It would be great if Jocko was holding the papers to avoid seeing the other guy fidgeting with his hands. (I fidget also. No judgement.)
How to have humility with that forearm?????????????
What’s the point of being humble if it only gets you killed?
Mctapper got inner humility that’s a joke
Dichotomy
Getting McDonald's ads on a Jocko clip is somehow inappropriate
Humility may be one of those things that is good in moderation but very toxic in excess..
There has to be some kind of common sense limit to the I-am-a-worm-and-not-a-man mentality that books on humility present to us.
🥰🙏❤
Echo needed to take a big chug of water in this segment lol. His mouth sounds really dry
Jocko why world power when the natural world is powerful enough. If people want business as usual it’s business as usual they will get. If you don’t have a proper goal in life to achieve you will have a lot of rules that will be broken like it or not. Why search for all the complicated parts. Is it complicated to be hungry, thirsty, to love, to have friends to need a roof over your head is it more difficult? What are we searching for in life? To expect another planet to be waiting no wonder there is all this destruction!…
Im a fucking asshole. How do I not be?
Ethical ego
Mhmm
Jocko's drinking vessel seriously lacks humility, that is a legit beverage container
Can boxing have the same effect cuz Jocko's just a damn ninja with this grappling junk. Bet he met his wife at jiu jitsu...lol