Bevisode with Mayim’s Mom! Anxiety, Sexuality & Mind-Body Connection
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- Oh boy, let’s see how this goes. Introducing the first of many to come, the Bevisode… where Mayim and her mother sit down to analyze previous episodes and how the topics within them relate to their shared and individual experience in life. This week Bev dissects a few core topics from some of our earliest releases. Namely, anxiety as it relates to Grace Helbig’s episode, honesty about depression shared by Leslie Jordan, the idea of holding and the mind body connection explored by Iliza Shlesinger, plus Bev's deep connection to the testimony shared by Cheyenne Jackson during his appearance.
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Jonathan really rescued this interview for Mayim. Bev had so many things to say, and they were more effectively filtered through Jonathan... just because of the mother-daughter dynamic.
I was just about to make the same comment! I absolutely agree. In fact, I feel this is every single Bevisode.
This one broke Mayim down! Her mother didn’t have to say much to get a completely wild reaction from Mayim.
Uncomfortable laughing, head down, nervousness, slightly dismissive, a little embarrassed and then pulling herself together to acknowledge her mother’s insights. Very interesting, that mother daughter thing that exists. I loved this interview!
You're very observant and right on.
@@PossumLover1111 😊
It made me a little embarrassed to realize I'll respond like this with my mom. I'm 60 years old and I can reclaim my inner adolescence in a flash.
@@Kakkydidit Isn’t that the truth!😊
AMEN!
Kudos and brava to Jonathan for being such an amazing buffer between those two wonderful ladies! That difficult mother-daughter conversation would not go as smoothly without him!
Okay....I’m just gonna say it....I LOVE BEV
Amanda- i do too! She made the show. !!!
Me too!
Ditto
Yes!!! Me too
"I do have quirks... but chemically I'm stable" She is awesome!
lol. love it.
I grew up in an abusive home. Sexually abused by a step father whome I adored until the abuse started. And a mother who is narcissistic, emotional & physically abusive. It was a mess. I'm FINALLY able to freely talk & share about it. I still have a long way to go but at 53 I have forgiven & moved away from the anger.
Im proud of you for getting away from that and forgiveing yourself thats the biggest step to healing
I went through a very similar scenario and feel your pain. Prayers for you
Hugs 😢sending you love and healing light ❤
"I was the one, I was holding on to old stuff... You don't even see it until you start to move away from it."
Your reaction to your mom on this episode was epic. It is what every daughter feels about their own mom! Thank you for making me feel normal!!!
I love that Jonathan got to talk more and let Mayim’s mother express in a different perspective..I know how difficult it’s to have an easy conversation with your own mother
100%. He came of as the needed objective person in the conversation and even the mediator.
@@jessicatiedeman1065 Easy! It was filmed in two different moments.
Yes!
FOR REALLLL
I'm gonna adopt Bev's new philosophy: "I assume everybody has some kind of mental illness, unless they prove otherwise." GOLD !!!
Beverly said it, "This feels like a world meditation" thank you Mayim for sharing your Mom with us.
I love that she said it, because that is how I have felt too
Your mum is so cool so interesting , I should not be surprised as you may I’m are very very brilliant and interesting I dint know much about you till I started to watch your pod casts , I must about I thought with you being a child star maybe for mum was a JAP I kind of stage mum a bit like Natalie woods mum , I was so completely wrong ,Beverly is amazing !
Cherish your Mother, her courage to grow and the compliments she's given you. It's obvious that she cherishes you💞.
You are very blessed to have a mother willing and able to have such an open and honest conversation with you. The fact that you both work so hard to have such a positive relationship (whether you always succeed or not), is a real testament to the strength of your love for one another.
Please have your Mom on the show again!!!!!!! Thank You Mayim 🙏😊🌷🤗🌻✌️🌺✨🌸🌟🌹🦋❤️🎷🌈☀️🎈💜🇨🇦
My mother passed away when I was 7 years old, throughout my childhood I would secretly adopt in my mind the mothers of my girlfriends. I watch this lovely, meaningful banter between the two of you & think of what could have been. 😌. I jumped ahead to this interview as I’m doing catch up because of school Mayim, this episode was so worth coming out of my methodical habits, & I’m more than OK with it 🤪. Thank you Bev 🥰
Mayim, I love your mother.
I DEMAND TO HAVE A REGULAR EPISODE-REACTION FROM BEVERLY!!! It’s refreshing and fascinating to hear from a parent about these things. I’m 50 and I’m continually fascinated by the family disfunction I learn from my parents! I have zero confusion about how my psyche took a sharp left turn! 😂 I see it clearly and yet they still live in their same narrative. Once in awhile I’ll get “uh, well, maybe so.” 🤯Like hello!?
Me toooooo
Agree
I listened to this episode twice already. Honestly this could be a 2 hour episode and I’m still gonna repeat it!
could not agree more!!!!
Same here!👏👍 She's so interesting and funny. I will say yes to more Bevisodes anytime!☺
Yes! I agree.
Fully agree!
This is priceless! I love "I assume everybody is neurotic until they prove otherwise."
In keeping with Jonathan's motto here that "Everyone has Mental Issues until proven otherwise", I think in an upcoming episode you should interview one of your loyal & die hard #BialikBreakdown followers. I volunteer myself! 🙋🏼♀️
Now for Jonathan’s mother !
I DEFINITELY AGREE
Jonathon, some of us hate being sociable. I have just had the most relaxed year of my life. I haven’t had to make excuses for why I don’t want to go to parties . It’s been lovely.
Ditto for me too.
Agree! Personally, being around other Humans can be exhausting. I used to come home from work just to detox from Humanity and get my sanity and calm back. Working from home has allowed me to enjoy an environment that is low-key, productive, and low drama.
me too!!
Smh. Sad.
I get this totally. But it wasn't until I had a covid scare my self and had to completely self isolate for 14 days, I now realised how everybody else was feeling. For me going to work, the shop, a walk and meeting imadate family was plenty of social interaction, but when that was taken from me, I was distraught. It breaks my heart to think this is what most people are feeling for last year.
"I use the term therapist, but it could've been the floor-washer for all I know." #Bevisms
I'm noticing how your mom preemptively acknowledges your "judgment" before anything has even been said and tries to explain herself, and that is something that I have struggled with. One day someone pointed it out to me and said that it has more to do with me judging myself and assuming everyone else is doing the same. That was so helpful and I've grown from that knowledge. ❤
You just keep surprising us with your guest and this is one episode we thought we didn't need. We need more Bevisodes. Is this the kind of conversations you have with her every day? I bet I'll never get bored if I talk to her. She has a lot of interesting insights, also it's fun to see Mayim's reactions to what Bev has to say 😂
Yes! I think Mama Beverly is a product of her era. I’m an Indian adoptee & let me tell you! Love you all!
Yes!
I hurt for her mom when Mayim skipped over her feelings of inadequacy! Even if M never said it, she might have empathized for a split second. But that's how they roll and I do love this podcast. I espcecially love seeing how mothers and daughters relate. I love my adult daughters, but they do hurt me sometimes. I guess that's normal.
I think part of the problem is we don't feel capable of hurting our parents, even as adults. I could probably be more mindful about this towards my own mother. It goes both ways though.
Sons can hurt their mothers also!
@@bkproz3 yes, they surely can!
I love that we got to hear from Jonathan more! Thank you for having your mom on Mayim!
I worked with her at WB Children's center. She is such a sweetie! Please tell her hi, and I remember her fondly, thanks!
Hi, Mayim! I am not Jewish, but boy could I relate to this episode. I also called my mother by "Ma". I unfortunately lost my mother four weeks ago when she suffered a massive stroke. We had lots of struggles between us when I was growing up. I always felt misunderstood by her since childhood and as your tagline for Call Me Kat, I also felt I was disappointing my mother since I was born. Having said that, I still miss her a lot and feel lost without her now.
I agree with Johnathon concerning us all being nuts during the pandemic. My doctor says, "We are all crazy! Some of us get help!"
What a brave, emotionally articulate mother you have, Mayim!!
As a middle aged woman myself, having gone through some stuff during my years, I’m going to need another episode with your mom (& perhaps her, or another qualified therapist). To get more info on this. I’m terribly interested. Man, how brave was your mom to even consider doing this!! Good for her. ❤️
Yep, that sounded frightening but well worth it, it's so strange how trauma resides in the body not just brain.
Jonathan needs to be a referee shirt for this episode. This episode is super important, having these conversations with our families, and friends and healing generational trauma is the only way we can stop it from damaging lives, and families.
Mayim and Bev great back and forth. Bev had her nail bitting, Mayim fiddling with a mouse ball and or paper clip or rubber band. Each had/had own way of coping with "something". 👏 ❤☮
anyone else fall in love with Bev! What a woman and what a survivor. This is the first episode i have seen and i love it. The answer to your question Bev about why you were so different lies in karma. We all have a soul journey and it is sometimes very different to the other siblings. I wish you all love and light and thank you so much for being brave enough to talk about all this stuff. Thank you Mayim and Jonathan too. xx
I loved this episode! Yes, please do another with your mother. My anxiety was ruling my life until my 50's and I am now 75. I got tired of letting everything affect me and making me feel awful. I read many books went to therapy and learned that I didn't have to live that way. I still have the anxiety, still have therapy at times, but I now have tools I didn't have. I did laugh at times, not at her struggles, but she is very fun.
I’m not Jewish, nor speak Yiddish, but in my Catalan native language, my son calls me “Ma” with the same tone and “A” as you call your mom, as I did to mine before. So delighful and funny but deep too episode! This is the TRUE GEM OF ALL! 💎💎💎💎💎💎💎OMG, I was raised with that “fear” to God and demons by ultra Catholic Franchoist priests who thought that being lefthanded was having a “sinister hand” needed to be tied & forcing kids to be righthanded, similar way as your mom was by Orthodox Jewish (my first battle was to free myself of all that shit & understand that He was a God of love, and my sinister hand was as perfect as my right one, and that thanks to be a forced righhanded since kid I’ve become a perfect ambidextrous now, an architect with great spacial view..LOL..Brain’s plasticity here!)Your mom is a fabulous woman! Hug her by me! As a mom myself but probably 5-10 years younger, I 💜her! By the way, Jonathan is not mostly at the studio? 🤔 Fearing to have two Bialiks at the same room? 😂 Diminishing #JonathanCorner !
I’ve done the same calling my Italian/Spanish (Benissa) Mom, MAAAAAAAA!
My daughter started calling me “MA” this past year... Spanish speakers here too. Interesting.
I love everything about this. I'm gonna go call my mom.
I absolutely adore Mayim's mom! The fact that she has been going to therapy and that this has improved their relationship is admirable. Going to therapy has improved my relationship with my mom and I couldn't be more grateful! I think it's the joint efforts of daughter and mother that allows this, so congrats to both! This has been one fantastic podcast! ❤️
I LOVE your mom! I think she needs to be on once every couple months to give her point of view.
My kids have done EMDR. They explain being able to rewrite their reactions to memories
I totally understood what Beverly was saying and what she meant at times when Mayim jumped on one word or feeling instead of allowing her Mom to just express herself. I think, like someone else commented, that Jonathan was a great buffer in the conversation. I loved this episode. This is my first hearing Beverly talk about her childhood experiences. She is an amazing woman to so courageously go into deep therapy at her stage of life. It sounds like she is learning so much. I adore her and look forward to seeing her on more episodes. I've only recently found this podcast, and I'm really enjoying going back through the old episodes. There are great nuggets in each episode, and Mayim and Jonathan balance each other so well. Thank you, guys, for one of the best podcasts out there and helping us see ourselves and grow through the discussions and interviews with your guests.
Thank you Mayim, your amazing mom showed me it's never too late to address our mental health
"It's a meditation for the world" - well said. Love your mother.
I love the Self Reflection and Work on Self that Mayim's Mom does. Mayim said it. It's Brave Courageous Work. Hard enough for anyone, and I think it's rare for person's of her mom's generation to attempt. Brava Bev!
I am also normal neurotic (also 1st generation American)!!! Please bring your mom back ASAP to go over the other episodes. This need to be a regular thing. 🙏🙏🙏
Did anyone else cry at the very end when Bev said, "I don't think about it a lot, but I'm here alone all of the time..." and she called Mayim an incredible daughter? Just me? Oh, okay.
I could watch a Bevisode a week!!
¡Genial el episodio de tu mamá! Es muy simpática y estaba muy abierta a compartir. Por favor, que vuelva y siga dando su opinión sobre los otros episodios. 🙂🙃
Stop laughing, M. Thank you for giving J the opportunity to speak without you interrupting him. Love B!!
My mother was a "functioning alcoholic". Bev is a GEM!!!!!
I can say that this is 100% my favorite podcast, Mayim invite me, please!!!
OMG I've been saying this for a year, that this pandemic-situation is like a Meditation for the world!! LOVE
#chemicallystable 🤣🤣🤣 dying with that. This conversation has brought up so many things in my childhood that I need to unpack. You’re so lucky to be able to have this type of conversation with your mom. I was never able to open up like this with her before she passed. ❤️
Jonathon’s contribution is valuable
Right on Bev!! We have all been sent to our rooms during this pandemic to think about what we’ve done. Brava! You are a very brave woman and a great example for Mayim . You are great for one another. Mutual love and respect in ma-daughter relationship. I miss mind sooo much but hold onto all it gave me.💖💖
All the other ones too, but this episode needed Jonathan especially.
Another great conversation, why am I not surprised :)
Johnathon shared SO MUCH in this episode... love this!!! Have always loved mayim since blossom & Big Bang... but gosh learning from her as her real self has been enlightening!!! BEV rocks by the way!❤️
As a mother, I think about Bev's age, I really connected with what your mother was saying! We were not Jewish, but there were many things that were not talked about! I recently read an article about child rearing in Germany in the mid 1800s. The parents would OVERREACT to a child's ("negative") behavior! So, discipline was expected to be punishment, instead of correction. The parents had to make the message TERRIBLY CLEAR to the child, by instilling fear. I don't think that this was only German. I am sure it bled into all societies.
The fear is still there, even though we are trying to soften ourselves as parents. Are we now trying to replace the fear with something we don't really FEEL sure about yet? Are we trying to find some sort of balance by overreacting to the other extreme? Ask Beverly to do her own podcasts!
I am a parent who had anxiety as a child, thinking I had none in early adulthood. At age 74 I am reading letters written to my daughter as she left home at 18 until she was about 23. ANXIETY POURS FROM THE PAGE!
Oh my gosh, I can only dream about my parents being half as open-minded and emotionally conscious as this Lady...
Your mom is gorgeous, a beautiful person.
Awwww, I love the "was that holding?" story about Bev's back and her question after the 3rd episode.
I love that Jonathan talks so much rather than just Mayim. He is very intelligent and does not make it all about him.
Mayim, I am watching this video on May 9th, Mother's Day. For me, this is the 12 Mother's day since my Mom died. One day these videos with Bev WILL BE your treasure. AND just think of your children viewing these Grandma Bev videos one day to have an inside understanding of you AND your Mother. Priceless. ❤️❤️❤️
My own mother is gone less than 2 years now....wow could I ever see us. Enlightening. Thank you to all three.
Love your Mom!!! Now I know why you’re so smart ❤️
I live in a society where Mayim Bialik's mom grew up in. Suffocating.
Love you Mayim. Watching you from the far corner of northeast India
I LOVE the Recap feeling of this episode and what a real honest and contextual space Bev creates with her perceptions. It gives me tons of hope that if/when someone from previous generations work on themselves that we can all have important conversations! Also HUGE shout out to Jonathan for being a great buffer/guide during the emotional moments!!
Your mom is amazerful!!! She speaks so openly and honestly, and it’s absolutely clear how, Mayim, you turned out just as amazerful as Mah Bev.
Thank you for your willingness to open up and share your lives with us!! I’m in such awe of you two!
Her mother is so fabulous! She’s fun and quirky, smart and honest too!
Great video. Anxiety is a big part of my life. I inherited it and unfortunately passed it on too 😢. So much of how I act and react is due to anxiety and also being an introvert.
I agree with her take on the anxiety and cuticle picking for the purpose of dealing with anxiety. Getting manicures is a great solution, kudos to Maryam's mom
Jonathan's microphone looks like it's trying to thwap him with a teeny tiny frying pan - I've seen it, I can't unsee it, and I love it!
Thank you for presenting this mother-daughter paradigm in such an entertaining way. And for giving all of us a chance to feel OK about our own families' idiosyncrasies in the process! Sending much love from the UK. These podcasts have been an absolute Godsend during the last months. They've kept me company through all of my physio rehab. And continuing to listen during my evening walks. God bless x
Ya know, I wish my mother was so enlightened and so on my side as yours Mayim. I think you’re amazing but I think your mom is even more amazing and I’m so happy that you have her on your side
44:15 *I misheard Mayim's mom say "bit*h is not like her father" and screamed at my screen*
I LOVE BEV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for your courage and wisdom BEV
and thank you Mayim for sharing your mother with us!
I noticed Bev sometimes shakes her head "no" when she's saying "yes"...were one or both of her parents from Belarus?
Bev, if you're reading this, thank you. I just fell in love with you, your mother-daughter dynamic. My Mom's from Bayridge, was born in 1949, is of Italian ancestry, very devout Roman Catholic, so you are *right* up my alley. Please keep the Bevisodes coming!
Mayim, your belly laughs to Bev’s responses made me chuckle, even when she was serious (sorry Bev). And we need Bev again to give us that teaser episode. This really was great and I am glad you decided to share your mom - and you guys’ real relationship - with us.
When Beverly mentions leaving your family behind and how its not a sybatical its a your dead to me. Thats the realest thing ever, i just hit two years of no contact and even though im almost thirty and ive recently started sleeping in my car from time to time. Ill never go back... Now im gonna go watch the Cheyenne jackson episode
Wow this was incredible. Please bring Bev back! I love that Jonathan was a big part of the episode. Mayim and her mom reminded me of myself and my dad. We could have used a third person during discussions!
Lucky you, having a mother that is so honest with herself and you...(has done a lot of her own self reflection/introspection)...
At 21:35 when Mayim puts her hands on her head...classic nervous tic. The higher your hands go on/above your head, the more out of control you're feeling.
This was amazing. I saw a lot of my relationship with my own mom reflected here and I started crying.
I will say what I got from this episode, is Johnathan's statement about anxiety. I am 44 and have said "I don't have anxiety and haven't felt anxious or had a nervous breakdown. " so I now have digested that and took a look at myself and realized that it's possible that my ailments have been the result of how I've been dealing with my anxiety.
And your moms comment about her thoughts on everyone having a mental illness was a great way to think in terms of that. Now matter how slight of an issue, everyone has a form of it.
Another thing I would like to say is...."I love your theme song 🎵😊" I recognize that voice. Love BNL. I went to college @ Fedonia State (SUNY) near Buffalo and have seen BNL in concert at least 3x. And....I have been your fan since Blossom. Am still. Loved Big Bang and was sad that it came to an end. Take care ❤
Bev had me at hello. Her candor & humor in describing painful experiences was refreshing as was her journey from breakdowns to breakthroughs. I see some of Bev in Mayim. :)
I love this episode, I’ve seriously loved getting to see Mayim talk to her mother about how telling her story made her mother feel. Growing up my home life was not great at all, and sometimes My siblings and I will reminisce about our childhood in front of my mother and sometimes she agrees and other times she disagrees or cannot remember because of drug use. When she doesn’t remember that is the hardest part for our family because it’s like she didn’t care that it was happening. So it’s pretty interesting to get to see someone talk about their story with someone who was part of the story!
Mayim, I just love your mama! And I love the relationship between you two!. Your mom is a gem to be cherished! I lost my mom 10 years ago and miss her every day. It's so delightful to listen to you two chat and value each other. I love that your mom has such a thirst for learning and a genuine curiosity!❤
LOVE your Mom. She is amazing....
I LOVED YOUR MOM
SHE'S AMAZING
SHE'S WILLING TO WORK THROUGH HER PAIN AND TRAUMA, OWN IT AND SWIM IN IT AND GET TO THE SURFACE ... COURAGEOUS
INSPIRATIONAL
ENCOURAGING FOR US ON THE SIDELINES OF THERAPY
GREAT
GREAT
EPISODE
BRAVO MOM
❤️❤️❤️
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I was unplanned, left handed and my mother died when I was 8. They sent me to therapy and all I wanted to do was play with the dollhouse. They thought it was not what I was there for. I remember being defiant and it made it worse over the years. Today I cried for that little girl.
My therapist and I are using Emdr to over come my childhood trauma and it is weirdly amazing. It is hard and the process is fascinating. I’ve been doing it for the past three months, I have a long way to go, but I can look back to some moments of my life without pain. It really affected the way that I see life now. Thank you for this wonderful podcast once again.
I am happy to see this episode, even 2 years later…. My mother and I are not on speaking terms at this moment due to my recent discovery (through an excellent therapist) that I am, as a human being on this planet, allowed to have boundaries. She doesn’t like my new boundaries because she’s not allowed to say hurtful things to me. We will get through this… but it will be painful!!
I need to first listen to every single episode once (or twice) more... and second, try and generate the subtitles in Spanish so my mom can listen to it. 😢 As a translator, I am thinking of doing it... ☺️
I love her!! I wish my mother was as open to self exploration and healing. Thanks for this ☺️
Bev is a brave gal, I loved this podcast. It might be my favorite so far. Good job everyone!
Thank you for sharing your mom with us. She is a rock star.
I have severe PTSD, clinical depression, anxiety, chronic OCD.
Love your mom - and I swear I've met her (in someone else) somewhere.
The personality’s are so similar!😂😂🤣 Loved this so much!