0:21 You need constant contact with little space 1:11 You don't truly want them to succeed 2:04 Your conversations are surface level 2:42 You give a lot of yourself 3:25 You have no long term goals Lol the third point punched me right in the face. Nowadays almost everything I care about is anything but surface level stuff (though this is a totally different story)
The 1st one was with my ex before I broke up, tho, I needed someone to pull me out of that situation and he did (he's an online friend of mine) The 2nd one? Oh lord, she has voices in her head, now friendly I guess, but she also kept being so negative and wouldn't even let me succeed in fully helping her and seriously, she was the most negative person ever and I've never felt so burnt out in my entire life before I met her The 3rd one? It's not that surface level, but she mostly talks about her problems like I'm her therapist 4th one? I give a lot of myself because she seems more sensitive like seriously, I can't even be funny or joke around at all without them taking it literally And as for the 5th one, she only talks about it once before taking it the other way (and also, she wasn't only seeing other girls, she literally dated one while we were dating without confirmation of anything and at first they said "I'm bi" then said "I'm poly" after I found out then they said "I'm ace" after we broke up and then saying that she likes another person that is nonbinary) She was also pretty toxic, I felt like I couldn't talk to her without making her feel upset at me, she probably has gotten over the obsession on me to another person (btw, she's trans which is why I got a little confused when typing this long reply and almost type he instead of she and dw, I no longer have any connections with her, trying to get myself together and maybe also try to get a therapist for my past trauma that I never felt like it got closure at all when I'm older cuz my mom doesn't believe me and my dad doesn't even want to pay for an actual therapist so went to his friend that helped me a bit before it hit me again and also, my online friend is nice, but I got trust issues so it's taking me time to trust him and we face timed so dw, he's not a creepy old man that's for sure lol)
I’m curious what it would look like if both partners were obsessed. It seems a bit unlikely but it’s an interesting thought to me that even though what two people might do may be a tad bit unhealthy, they do it together and to the same degree for each other. What a great video! Props to your artists for always making such cute imagery! Keep up the good work!
Unfortunately, it becomes way more toxic. I had been in one that because they are so obsessed, I think it's okay for me to do the same It's really a terrible situation to be in
This is one of the real reasons why I've been single for the 26 years I been on this earth: I'm not sure if I'm really in-love with that person or just simply obsessed with them just for the sake of obsessing.
How do you plan on figuring out how to be in a relationship or ever navigating a long term one if you never attempt to have a relationship? You cant just sit there and second guess yourself. Take some action and see where it goes instead of being scared of the outcome
@@jackmemphis777 you're probably right. I always try to make sure if I'm actually having feelings towards someone. I have to be certain because I'm scared I'll then be lying, and then it was all for nothing. I never been in a relationship before in my life either.
Weirdly enough, I experienced being obsessed and in love the same year but diff month. Thankfully I realized how toxic I was with my best friend. Before I thought I was just madly in love with her but overtime I got back to my senses and apologized to her and we started our relationship all over again. We've been best friends for the last six years and we have grown to have a much deeper and healthier bond. My story of experiencing being genuinely in love for the first time is another story but I can summarize it as: Full of warmth, changes, and green flags (and probably a lot of rollercoaster rides)
@@abcyes8887 From my experience with being the obsessed person and being obsessed over... Definitely get more friends so you stop depending on this 1 person so much.
@@ivannasilva6948 Green flags probably mean positive signs that a relationship is healthy. Red flags are signs that a relationship is doomed to failure because of unhealthiness.
The worst part about this is that the line between healthy love and obsession can be very thin sometimes that you don't know when you cross it. I am glad we now have videos like this one to guide people and help them know when they are going over.
I don't think it's thin at all. Of course at the beginning of the relarionship it is fine to obsess, but after some time it is very easy to notice if someone is too obsessive ( of course outside perspective can reveal this easily) and if the person can't really change you miggt have to just call it a day
Thank you! I literally just got out of an obsessive relationship with someone who I thought loved me, but was actually more obsessed with me. This person even flew a handful of states away to meet me, and.. well, at the end of the week I had to break it off. Guess we're both still learning about relationships and what we want. It hurt but it really was for the best. Y'all take care of yourselves first, ok?
Glad this video just came out. Based on this video, my former relationship was a mix of what is considered "love" and what is considered "obsession", I did some of each for both things in that relationship.
With you on that... My previous and only relationship definitely contained a lot of aspects of obsession on my part. On one hand, it feels bad to not be appreciated for any of your efforts and I'm still struggling with the trap of blaming myself for everything. On the other hand, I know how good it felt to be in a relationship even when it was so problematic and it makes me look forward with excitement towards the real deal.
Been there, buddy. These can also be signs of abuse/trauma from past relationships or even from childhood. I was clingy and fussy with my ex. We broke up, got together, then broke up again after I caught her cheating. That left me with trust issues I often manage but are easy to fall back into. You may even trust your current partner but feel insecure about you two, or skeptical of the people with whom they hang out. In that case, it's important to work on ourselves first. Good luck out there and stay safe!
@@Psych2go I guess I feel glad that I'm more self aware, going through that relationship did make me realize a lot about myself and I've become more self aware and in better control with my emotions and anxiety. I have hope I'll be better in my next relationship :)
i do feel obsessed, and i realized it more later on in the relationship. I'm trying to give them space they deserve, but im still.. "clingy" as some may say.
what moment? Were you sleeping through your relationship. Did you suddenly just pull your head from the sand. Why couldn't you sense aspects of your relationships gradually degrading. You went for pretty boy, you ignored the guys you didn't consider physically attractive and you paid the price. When you think you're too attractive for someone and are only open to your idea of guys who you think have a "god like" appearance, that's just poetic justice when you're turfed out for a younger prettier girl. You were obsessed with his appearance weren't you. For that I laugh
@@lazyishardwork oh wow it's really nice of you to assume the details of the entire situation and then judge the commentor based on just one sentence, i'm sure people will like that
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This is something a lot of people should be looking out for because people think that being obsessed with their partner will solve all the problems but in reality if you’re a believer in God like me, it’s actually having a person as an idol and that causes more problems instead of actually solving any of them. So really balance out whether you are obsessed or in love. This is a message for me too
well actually there is some philosophy out there that supports your statement. søren kierkegaard argues that in seeing God as an object/idol, there would be no reason to pursue belief in him since we are certain of his existence and everything about him, making him seem uninteresting, and giving no more reason to have faith. i guess the same would go for people- why would you want to be with them if there’s nothing more to discover? we need that sense of mystery in our lives to keep us going with them, and we need the space from them to keep this sense of mystery alive.
I was asking myself if what I am feeling is love or obsession and this video was released at the best time ...this did help me answer most of my questions. Thank you.
Our conversations were always just on a surface level. Whenever I try to open up, I could tell he's not taking it seriously. I never had a moment where I could feel that I could count on him. He likes talking to me, but only about his romantic plans and ideals. I had to say bye after trying to build that emotional connection that we don't have. It's for the both of us. Even if we do find ourselves being in a relationship, it will still not work. Not with an emotional person like me.
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This answered so many questions I've had in the past. As far as I know now, I've gone through 2 relationships that were very obsessive. Both times my partner was very obsessive over me and constantly wanted to be around me, even going as far as breaking my boundaries, such as: pulling me away from friends and family, guilt tripping me into being with them whether it be passive or direct, and always watching where I was. I always found it super creepy when my partner would text me "You never told me you'd be at (friends names) house??", signalling that they were watching me through Find My Friends on their phone... I had conversations with them about it and they always just sorta pushed it off... I don't get it... Why do some people want you all to themselves. It's not like the world is going to take me away, I'm still here. I wish I could sit down with one of my ex's and ask them this without them throwing a bunch of jargin in my face about me breaking up with them. Hell, I wish I could've sat down with them During the relationship and asked them about this and had them understand. Dating is hard... But, from past experiences comes a present mind for future events. We learn from everything
I saw you’re community post, i hope this comment helps a little i don’t always need the video’s you Guys make but i always find comfort in the animations and voice thank you very much. ❤
A must see for certain fandoms these days. These are all things I ask myself when I'm attracted to someone. I try to stay grounded when approaching a relationship... seen too many fail in my lifetime
I am finally convinced the last "crush" i had was just me liking to be in love with someone, while now i have a new one that made me realize what a crush is under different eyes and i am now shure this time is real
I used to think it was love, now I realize it was obsession. Now I set boundaries for myself, I try to be more genuine and I know the signs for when it isn't in the cards. I make a lot more great friends now, and I am not stressed about maintaining a facade every two seconds. I do love my most recent friend, but the timing wasn't right, and I need her more as a friend than a romantic interest. Life is pretty good so far.
0:20 - you need constant contact with little space 1:13 - you don't truly want them to succeed 2:04 - your conversations are surface level 2:46 - you give a lot of yourself 3:28 - you have no long term goals
Thank you so much, my first relationship was like this. I guess I learned from her that this is how you should be, always talking and never having time apart, but I was just unhappy. It became more a routine of doing what she wanted me to do than me actually enjoying it. I hope this isn't too personal but I appreciate this video!
It's nice when you click on one of these videos holding this as a fear, only to realise, yes, you do actually have love this person, even if you have wait.
I think I'm obsessed with my close friends but none of these signs match. A lot of your videos about crushes or relationships are somewhat relatable and I can understand how they can be similar in a friendship, but this one seemed a bit different, or at least for me. Could you make a video about being obsessed or clingy over friends? Or maybe how your parents, childhood or trauma can affect your relationships with other people?
So far, I'm only a minute in and I'm already glad that you made this. Now, I think I can safely say that I'm not obsessed. I can go a straight 48 or more hours with no contact of my friends.
thats great that you can ignore your friends for 48 hours, but this is more so talking about a romantic relationship. I live with my wife so its impossible to go more than a day without contact and thats just when we are both working and are hanging with our families separately. Even before we were married we still hung out with each other almost every day and when we didnt see eachother in person, we would video chat (the relationship started with video chatting every day and not seeing each other as much in person since we used to live an hour away, but then I decided to make that drive almost every day)
reee- I can't even survive one day without my sister O>O like- if she's in the country I'm fine- bc ik I can just get a bus and get to her but when she outta dis country, that's when I start to crumble O>O I'm still trying to cope with it by distracting my mind- (mainly by focusing on myself and working on my anxiety)
For the longest time I didn't know what real love was. Every relationship I had was an illusion because I had convinced myself that I loved them when in reality I was obsessive and constantly thinking about them for absurd reasons. It was only during my first mushroom trip when I felt real love and realized what it was, then afterward I've had a few more and my brain has been reset ever since. I am no longer obsessive and now I am just fine being single until I meet the right one.
One thing to note is that not all people are lively in a relationship but that doesn't mean they don't love their partner to the core. Some people don't like loud noises, areas, or situations that make them get overwhelmed. It's important to know that if you see this in your partner, have a talk in an environment where the other feels safe. The partner may meet the other things pointed out in the video except for the level of noise which may be from past, personality, stress, or something else. If it's changeable, help them. If it's their personality, don't help them unless they have a goal where they want to challenge themselves with being louder but needs a bit of help and courage. It's then your choice after the talk to break up or stay with them despite their quiet habits. Whichever you choose, don't be scared to let your partner know the changes. It's bad for them to know because it makes them sad but 10x as worse if you're hiding it from them. It's like a company. Tell, people may not be as mad. Hide then tell at a later date, extremely bad.
You have the perfect voice for this! You sound so calm and soothing like a caring mom. Love your videos, they have helped me not fall into toxic situations. Amazing work!
Ugh... not making any boundaries i na relationship and no matter if with a partner or a close friend can be destructive. I always thought, that if I won't give any limits to others they will be happy and do the same to me to be happy... but lets say it... It;s so not true ^^' If there are no boundaries people can go too far AND when we finally start to make some boundaries, they will dislike it and show their disapproval. I remember my old experiences. Too bad that I hadn't seen such smart animations years ago. Then things would go for me a lot better. Thank you a lot for another valuable episode psych2go!
I've dealt with 2 guys who showed signs of obsession towards me. It was very uncomfortable and scary for me. Thankfully I took initiative and cut all ties with them before it got any worse. And I knew they were not in love with me, just in love with the idea of it. They just mistook my kindness for me being interested in them.
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1. you need constant contact with little space (0:19) 2. you don't truly want them to succeed (1:11) 3. your conversations are surface level (2:03) 4. you give alot of yourself (2:43) 5. you have no long term goals (3:26)
Phew. I was worried I'd be obsessing over someone I currently like, but it seems that's not the case. Thanks for this vid, and all the other great ones!
*TO EVERYONE WHO FIND THIS EARLY* As Benjamin Franklin once said, “failing to prepare is preparing to fail.” Without clearly defined goals to work towards, we’re all just drifting in the ocean. I Love You. ❤️
I think the younger you are the more likely the love you’re feeling is obsession and I wish I knew the difference between the two when I was younger 😵💫
0:20 No 1-you need constant contact with little space. 1:13 No 2-You don't truly want them to succeed. 2:04 No 3- Your conversations are surface level. 2:45 No 4- You give a lot of yourself. 3:27 No 5 -You have no long term goals.
An obsession can easily be compared to an addiction. Personally, I remember when I had a huge obsession with this girl I used to be very close friends with years ago. Her name was Whitney. Whitney was in the same grade as me, and the 2 of us shared a few classes together in the 8th Grade during the 2004-2005 school year. Not only did she and I have a lot of mutual friends, but my family actually knew hers for years. Matter of fact, my late father was really good buddies with her father. It's like Whitney and I inherited our friendship from our fathers. However, shortly after High School started for me and Whitney, Whitney eventually found my attention towards her to be more than she bargained for. Even if I wanted to, I couldn't have backed off from her easily as a result of the obsession I had with her. In all honesty, Whitney was NEVER my girlfriend. Nobody ever was. It was just these obsession induced delusions going around in my head that had me thinking that she was my girlfriend. Eventually, much to my dismay, I wound up on the receiving end of a no-contact order from her. I soon backed off. Later on, in the 11th Grade, it seemed that Whitney and I were in the process of reconciling, but it didn't take long for Whitney to develop a habit of leading me on by acting nice to me in person only to go behind my back and tell the school staff that I was bothering her. Eventually, in April 2008, the police made the no-contact order more strict. Tragedy struck on June 10, 2008 when lunch break came around. I got to my usual table (not knowing that Whitney planned on sitting there). When Whitney saw me there, she made up a story about me stealing her seat while she got up to "get a bottle of water" and called the police to arrest me. I tried to explain myself about what really happened, but I was cut off mid-sentence and arrested as a result of the false accusation that Whitney made against me. I had to go to court every month. This was a very traumatizing experience for me. I remember it well like it was yesterday. As long as I live, I will NEVER forget it. Now that I'm free from the obsession I used to have with Whitney (as if 2012), as "atonement" for my past obsessive actions, I now have intentions of remaining single for the rest of my life to prevent myself from developing a romantic interest in ANYONE ever again. Now while I do realize that people are trying to help by telling me that they're sure that I might "find the right woman", I highly doubt it. The incidents that took place in High School took their toll on me, permanently scarring me for life. However, while I do realize that no-contact orders are to protect stalking victims from stalkers (which is what they SHOULD be used for instead of being hijacked for use as weapons of prejudice against people who have autism like me), I have a burning hatred for them because of my bad experience of being on the receiving end of such a thing for unfair reasoning. NOTE: If Whitney herself ever happens by even the slightest chance to find my comment here, "DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY!! If you didn't get me in trouble with the police, some other woman would've! The thing is, the incidents in High School involving the 2 of us could've happened with ANYONE I would've developed an infatuation with, and the consequences could've been a lot worse, especially if it were someone whose family never knew my family, as well as someone who never knew anyone I was ever friends with! I encourage you to at least be glad that I'm free now from the obsession I used to have with you. But hey, despite my single life preference, I am aware of the positive things about being married, so I do respect the marriages of others. I don't know if you're married or not Whitney, but if you are, congratulations on your marriage".
I honestly obsess over people but not in a necessarily bad way. Like I have attachment issues so when someone comes into my life I will do whatever I can to not lose them. I’m the type of person to buy my partner things all the time to make them happy, though I’ve never been in a relationship due to being young. Even with my mom, if she doesn’t get home when she says she will I will look at the map showing where she is. It’s not that I’m needy or one of those annoying girls who is basically glued to their boyfriend, I just hate the thought of them leaving so I will try making them as happy as possible. I’ve lost way to many people in my life due to loss and just drifting apart that especially with a significant other, I want to be with them forever. I get a bit creepy, I know. I watch my crushes go to each class to figure out their schedule and locker and when they go to lunch. To me its more of a comfort thing, knowing where they are or how close they are.
Hi there 👋🏻 You said you are young - have you ever been assessed for anxiety? If you’re open to suggestions, you could look into that. It seems like you live with a lot of fear of loss as your base level, and you don’t have to feel that way. 🫂❤️ Lots of love
I just got into a relationship with the most amazing person ever! And because they deserve the best relationship possible I always refresh myself with healthy relationship tricks as much as I can. Although I am always scared that in the process of loving him, ill also become obsessed, I've been with someone who was obsessed and it made me break up with them. So I'm very glad that this video exists so that I can be the best loving, supporting, and trustworthy boyfriend I can be for him! Because he is for me
2 of these apply for me right now; the ones about conversation and long term goals we both have past experiences that make opening up and being vulnerable difficult, but hopefully it can improve with time and effort
Timestamps 1) 0:19 You need constant contact 2) 1:13 You don't want them to succeed 3) 2:03 Conversations are surface level 4) 2:45 You give a lot of yourself 5) 3:27 You have no long term goals
First time I watched this I thought at first I'm obsessed Now second time, I realized I'm in a happy relationship and not (way too and unnecessarily)obsessed
Can we admire for a second just how cute was the narrator's voice in combination with the "few moments later" impression? Like the narrator's voice is always cute but this? Damn... 😍
Try to occupy your mind with other things, sort out your real priorities, and do your best to give them space. It is possible you are struggling with underlying mental health issues, such as depression, or anxiety. I highly suggest talking to your doctor to see if you can get any help. It's okay. You just need to be mindful of your thoughts and actions, and make sure no-one gets hurt. Take care of yourself mate
Reminder that YOU exist too! Maybe take some time to see your own self-worth. Ask yourself if you're giving more than your partner is. If this is true, then perhaps bring it up to them or even seek a mental health professional and talk to them about it.
Sounds like you got attachment trauma. I would say therapy or some type of anxiety medication to help calm the obsession thoughts and you may be dealing with separation anxiety.
Glorify Undefinable, The Answerer or The Harmonizer of Matter Controllers of Body, By eternal Existence hope to Undefinable alone, be Serene and judge by how Matter executes, the Identity can exist in every possibility! Ask guidance and what You can't get to The Answerer, THAT allowed You into this body, THAT gave truth for clean-minded in subconscious, and increase the way! All ways in their depth mentions Lord of Existence, don't take what's unknown, until You will understand it! Compose Your own makings, and You will be supported! Blessed is Controller of Man united with intuition and subtle joy! That relies to The Originator alone, That chooses by the best, That hears brainwaves and sees eye pixels! The life can be mastered, for rules were made simple to Observant! Don't be fearful of destiny, as We're parts of Possibilities, that have freewill with Serenity! With wonders of environment and fasting, be satisfied! Avoid high anti-nutrient, PUFA, synthetic food - allow wheatgrass, fruit seeds and fermented food! Experiencer of senses, Observer's ownership over alive structure. About gifts and goals for Tranquil based from pair Container's perform Stable systems serve nature and Matter has shape memory and dual likes, don't change perfected bodies! Simulation theory is insufficient, and lucid dreams are managed by nutritionally sufficient and aware! Challenging are the days of Dullness and a sad burden to anyone that didn't seek independence, no first-cause was miracle-free! Great are the days of Responsibility that nourish the Soul! We always existed! Every Position is possible, You are in this body! World is created for Spectator's favor! Multiverse is in balance for Purpose! Viewer's event record is forever! Any place is special! By Foundations: Praise The Harmonizer!
I could relate with number four. I had a girlfriend back then, I broke up with her cause I was giving too much of myself and she couldn't give it back. She still loved me but I ended up hurting me, both of us in the process. Sure it might just be obsession but right now, she's still special to me because she taught me some things i never knew before. So thanks Kam.
I am currently in my first ever relationship with my boyfriend, and I'm obsessing so much. Probably caused by my history of being left behind, and switching friends so much. I'm just happy he's patient and understanding, and we do talk about my obsessive tendencies. I do try my best not to obsess over him and give him space.
Thank you for posting this. I'm in the same situation except we've been together for 4 years and I still can't be normal about him. I try to curb my clingy tendencies but it's so hard that it causes me intense duress when causes me to feel so bad that I can't function lol just kinda vegatating in a spiral of self loathing
Im obbsessed with them because they give signs that they care about me. I can say that they gave me more hugs than anyone else and I don't want to lose them. I didn't get much love from my parents so I get sad when someone who gives me attention leaves
Wow. I definitely relate to number 4 a lot. I’ve always been the one to give so much, but receive little to nothing in return. I won’t be doing that anymore unless it’s 50/50.
I always thought I obsessed over my girlfriend. But as it turns out, the only "obsessive" thing I had with her was just the fact that I "need constant contact with little space". I wouldn't say constant contact even, its more like "Okay I'll be be your side until you have to go." type of thing. I always want to be by their side no matter what, but if they have to go do something, then I know to let them because I know they'll come back!
Question: Is it worth it? Does the support from the fans matter? I am considering sacrificing my dreams in music and computer science to begin psychology. I just want to help others. Seeing someone else happy gives me the greatest joy.
I have been obsessed with my last crush and they seemed uncomfortable at times and I tried to force myself away but it was so hard... Then I saw them get obsessed with someone else and it was not a great situation because the person they were obsessed with was a lot more uncomfortable but they didn't stop trying to follow her and even tried talking to her by talking to her siblings. Seeing that helped me to let go of them...
I usually avoid these kind of videos because I'm scared of what I'll find. The mere thought of my relationship with my partner being unhealthy terrifies me but at the same time I'm curious to know if any of these behavior patterns are present and which one of us is showing them
I wasn't obsessed with someone, in fact I think I was obsessed with the idea of love. It was practically too strange to discover what was happening to me, because I felt as if all I cared about was that person. I made a lot of mistakes, like ignoring her to get interested in me (which by the way doesn't work just in case you guys try to do it). or that just every time we talked she told me something and I said "well I think..." and that was all that I said for hours. the calls turned from being for hours to being for minutes. We didn't text each other very much and on top of that I think she wasn't even interested in me. this is something personal but after 3 months of being in love with her, and she knowing that I was. After 3 months without an answer I finally got the answer. It was not what I expected. In fact, she told me that we were "friends with benefits". I was destroyed, because when she told me that, the first thing I thought was that she never loved me back, that all she wanted was a companion who would face all her problems, but love is not like that. love is not protecting the lady of your dreams all the time, it is protecting each other and taking care of each other. but she didn't understand that and what she did was control me so that I was her knight of the kingdom and she was the queen that I had to protect. she did the same with all her lovers and all the people I have ever met. everyone became obsessed with her, everyone had the same future, that they ended up being obsessed with her. Luckily I escaped, but through my teeth. now thanks to everything that happened I no longer want to love. I don't feel like feeling love, and that terrifies me. Because if my ancestors have found the woman of their dreams, I am putting my bloodline at risk. But anyway, I don't care so much, I think that I'm an aromantic and that I will never feel love again. In fact, I started not seeing more things over 18. I started 9 days ago and I'm doing well. something that I do think happened to me after those 3 months was that I realized how stupid I was. I kept asking myself "what are you doing with your future". So she made me better, she made me change the way I see the world. I know she won't read this but if she is reading it, I thank you. You opened my mind in ways I'll never understand how you did it, and I'd become a better man. Who knows, maybe the woman of my dreams will come and I won't make the same mistake again. I hope you liked reading all this and I hope you have a good day.
dude it's scary how not only did I relate to every single one of these, but I've also been going through this like this month. but for real I'm actually ashamed that I related to all of these, especially the second one when, when I first heard it I was like "wth? who would think this?" and after thinking for a moment I did technically think like that for a second, I have a problem.
Yep.. I recognized those signs, who's ready for a story? I was with someone whose name I won't disclose for her privacy, and I constantly felt the need to be with her and just wanted to talk to her all the time. I mistook obsession for love, but now I've realized more the truth of what I was doing and feeling. I also gave a heck load of myself to her, throwing away aspects of my own life just to spend time with her whenever it was possible. In the end it turns out I was just getting too obsessed and had lost the actual love I felt in the beginning. She saw this and ended things with me...
I know that feel, when you are always thinking about that special person, and wanting him/her to send you message all day long. I was getting mad at a girlfriend I used to be in deep love with, because it took her many days to answer my messages. Frustrated, I talked about that with a coworker, that told me : *If they take a long time to answer you, it may be because they care about you, and they want to take time to give you a good answer* . It cooled me down a lot, I must say.
The 4th one is me in general. I've always done what I could to help, or protect people I care about. Even if it means helping them in a way that makes me uncomfortable or I probably shouldn't (say financially). It's wrong and I need to look out for myself more, but I've always had the mindset that I want them to be happy, even if I suffer or it stresses me out. I'm trying to change. It's hard when you don't hold yourself in high regards and think youre worthless.
When you realize you're not in love just in love with the idea of being loved😔💔
Yeah, fantasy seems more beautiful than the reality.
Apparently love can make you blind.
wow 😭
Damn fr😔
Damn that’s deep 😔
0:21 You need constant contact with little space
1:11 You don't truly want them to succeed
2:04 Your conversations are surface level
2:42 You give a lot of yourself
3:25 You have no long term goals
Lol the third point punched me right in the face. Nowadays almost everything I care about is anything but surface level stuff (though this is a totally different story)
Did you relate to this point?
@@Psych2go Personally, didn't. I think I am in a healthy relationship with my friends. I don't have a partner.
Thank you! 😊
Thank you
The 1st one was with my ex before I broke up, tho, I needed someone to pull me out of that situation and he did (he's an online friend of mine)
The 2nd one? Oh lord, she has voices in her head, now friendly I guess, but she also kept being so negative and wouldn't even let me succeed in fully helping her and seriously, she was the most negative person ever and I've never felt so burnt out in my entire life before I met her
The 3rd one? It's not that surface level, but she mostly talks about her problems like I'm her therapist
4th one? I give a lot of myself because she seems more sensitive like seriously, I can't even be funny or joke around at all without them taking it literally
And as for the 5th one, she only talks about it once before taking it the other way (and also, she wasn't only seeing other girls, she literally dated one while we were dating without confirmation of anything and at first they said "I'm bi" then said "I'm poly" after I found out then they said "I'm ace" after we broke up and then saying that she likes another person that is nonbinary)
She was also pretty toxic, I felt like I couldn't talk to her without making her feel upset at me, she probably has gotten over the obsession on me to another person (btw, she's trans which is why I got a little confused when typing this long reply and almost type he instead of she and dw, I no longer have any connections with her, trying to get myself together and maybe also try to get a therapist for my past trauma that I never felt like it got closure at all when I'm older cuz my mom doesn't believe me and my dad doesn't even want to pay for an actual therapist so went to his friend that helped me a bit before it hit me again and also, my online friend is nice, but I got trust issues so it's taking me time to trust him and we face timed so dw, he's not a creepy old man that's for sure lol)
I’m curious what it would look like if both partners were obsessed. It seems a bit unlikely but it’s an interesting thought to me that even though what two people might do may be a tad bit unhealthy, they do it together and to the same degree for each other.
What a great video! Props to your artists for always making such cute imagery! Keep up the good work!
I think if both partners were obsessed it would look like a nightmare
Bonnie and Clyde come to mind
It's called shared limerence
Yandere moment
Unfortunately, it becomes way more toxic. I had been in one that because they are so obsessed, I think it's okay for me to do the same
It's really a terrible situation to be in
This is one of the real reasons why I've been single for the 26 years I been on this earth: I'm not sure if I'm really in-love with that person or just simply obsessed with them just for the sake of obsessing.
I'm afraid that I'll be going into the same path as you, I can't tell whether I truly like someone or I just don't want to be alone
Is there a reason you haven't confessed or made initiatives to be with them?
@@AL_-si8cz its probably a bit of both
How do you plan on figuring out how to be in a relationship or ever navigating a long term one if you never attempt to have a relationship? You cant just sit there and second guess yourself. Take some action and see where it goes instead of being scared of the outcome
@@jackmemphis777 you're probably right. I always try to make sure if I'm actually having feelings towards someone. I have to be certain because I'm scared I'll then be lying, and then it was all for nothing. I never been in a relationship before in my life either.
Weirdly enough, I experienced being obsessed and in love the same year but diff month. Thankfully I realized how toxic I was with my best friend. Before I thought I was just madly in love with her but overtime I got back to my senses and apologized to her and we started our relationship all over again. We've been best friends for the last six years and we have grown to have a much deeper and healthier bond.
My story of experiencing being genuinely in love for the first time is another story but I can summarize it as: Full of warmth, changes, and green flags (and probably a lot of rollercoaster rides)
how can i stop being obsessed with my best friend? my mood depends on if she replys too me or not
Green flags? What is that?
@@abcyes8887 From my experience with being the obsessed person and being obsessed over... Definitely get more friends so you stop depending on this 1 person so much.
@@ivannasilva6948 Green flags probably mean positive signs that a relationship is healthy. Red flags are signs that a relationship is doomed to failure because of unhealthiness.
@@Unknownlng sometimes i end up obsessing over 2 people at the same time when this happens😭😭😭😭
The worst part about this is that the line between healthy love and obsession can be very thin sometimes that you don't know when you cross it.
I am glad we now have videos like this one to guide people and help them know when they are going over.
I don't think it's thin at all. Of course at the beginning of the relarionship it is fine to obsess, but after some time it is very easy to notice if someone is too obsessive ( of course outside perspective can reveal this easily) and if the person can't really change you miggt have to just call it a day
Well, it i think it might be thin for some people because they do not even know when they cross it.
Thank you! I literally just got out of an obsessive relationship with someone who I thought loved me, but was actually more obsessed with me. This person even flew a handful of states away to meet me, and.. well, at the end of the week I had to break it off. Guess we're both still learning about relationships and what we want. It hurt but it really was for the best. Y'all take care of yourselves first, ok?
You too!!
I feel bad for both of you dang
Thnx for sharing your opinion dude and take care you too
Glad this video just came out. Based on this video, my former relationship was a mix of what is considered "love" and what is considered "obsession", I did some of each for both things in that relationship.
Hope this video helped!! How do you feel about realizing this?
With you on that... My previous and only relationship definitely contained a lot of aspects of obsession on my part. On one hand, it feels bad to not be appreciated for any of your efforts and I'm still struggling with the trap of blaming myself for everything. On the other hand, I know how good it felt to be in a relationship even when it was so problematic and it makes me look forward with excitement towards the real deal.
Same actually…
Been there, buddy. These can also be signs of abuse/trauma from past relationships or even from childhood.
I was clingy and fussy with my ex. We broke up, got together, then broke up again after I caught her cheating. That left me with trust issues I often manage but are easy to fall back into.
You may even trust your current partner but feel insecure about you two, or skeptical of the people with whom they hang out. In that case, it's important to work on ourselves first.
Good luck out there and stay safe!
@@Psych2go I guess I feel glad that I'm more self aware, going through that relationship did make me realize a lot about myself and I've become more self aware and in better control with my emotions and anxiety. I have hope I'll be better in my next relationship :)
i do feel obsessed, and i realized it more later on in the relationship. I'm trying to give them space they deserve, but im still.. "clingy" as some may say.
Thanks for sharing. What do you plan to do next after this realization?
I know what you mean. I was apparently acting this way with the last guy I had feelings for. Once you realize it, you have the opportunity to fix it
That moment when you realize your entire relationship with your ex was an obsession.
What were the giveaway signs?
what moment? Were you sleeping through your relationship. Did you suddenly just pull your head from the sand. Why couldn't you sense aspects of your relationships gradually degrading. You went for pretty boy, you ignored the guys you didn't consider physically attractive and you paid the price. When you think you're too attractive for someone and are only open to your idea of guys who you think have a "god like" appearance, that's just poetic justice when you're turfed out for a younger prettier girl. You were obsessed with his appearance weren't you. For that I laugh
@@lazyishardwork oh wow it's really nice of you to assume the details of the entire situation and then judge the commentor based on just one sentence, i'm sure people will like that
@@lazyishardwork ... What makes you think that's the case here.
@@luigiboy72 thanks, it was nice of me. You made my day :)
Sometimes they don't love you they just love that they have you. It took me a few years to figure that out lol
Even if they DON'T have YOU... Some people just LOVE the WAY that YOU LOVED them!🙃
People nowadays will give you FAKE LOVE and CONDITIONAL LOVE but expect GENUINE and REAL LOVE in return!🙅🏽♀️ For those that's seeking relationships... Beware!🤣
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This is something a lot of people should be looking out for because people think that being obsessed with their partner will solve all the problems but in reality if you’re a believer in God like me, it’s actually having a person as an idol and that causes more problems instead of actually solving any of them. So really balance out whether you are obsessed or in love. This is a message for me too
I don’t get what god has to do w this but great message
True true.
@@cha_hoe I referred it with God because I wanted to get my point across.
@@minapaige2276 pretty unusual but you have a point 🤔
well actually there is some philosophy out there that supports your statement. søren kierkegaard argues that in seeing God as an object/idol, there would be no reason to pursue belief in him since we are certain of his existence and everything about him, making him seem uninteresting, and giving no more reason to have faith. i guess the same would go for people- why would you want to be with them if there’s nothing more to discover? we need that sense of mystery in our lives to keep us going with them, and we need the space from them to keep this sense of mystery alive.
I was asking myself if what I am feeling is love or obsession and this video was released at the best time
...this did help me answer most of my questions. Thank you.
Our conversations were always just on a surface level. Whenever I try to open up, I could tell he's not taking it seriously. I never had a moment where I could feel that I could count on him. He likes talking to me, but only about his romantic plans and ideals. I had to say bye after trying to build that emotional connection that we don't have. It's for the both of us. Even if we do find ourselves being in a relationship, it will still not work. Not with an emotional person like me.
Glorify Undefinable, The Answerer or The Harmonizer of Matter
Controllers of Body, By eternal Existence hope to Undefinable alone, be Serene and judge by how Matter executes, the Identity can exist in every possibility!
Ask guidance and what You can't get to The Answerer, THAT allowed You into this body, THAT gave truth for clean-minded in subconscious, and increase the way!
All ways in their depth mentions Lord of Existence, don't take what's unknown, until You will understand it! Compose Your own makings, and You will be supported!
Blessed is Controller of Man united with intuition and subtle joy! That relies to The Originator alone, That chooses by the best, That hears brainwaves and sees eye pixels!
The life can be mastered, for rules were made simple to Observant! Don't be fearful of destiny, as We're parts of Possibilities, that have freewill with Serenity!
With wonders of environment and fasting, be satisfied! Avoid high anti-nutrient, PUFA, synthetic food - allow wheatgrass, fruit seeds and fermented food!
Experiencer of senses, Observer's ownership over alive structure. About gifts and goals for Tranquil based from pair Container's perform
Stable systems serve nature and Matter has shape memory and dual likes, don't change perfected bodies!
Simulation theory is insufficient, and lucid dreams are managed by nutritionally sufficient and aware!
Challenging are the days of Dullness and a sad burden to anyone that didn't seek independence, no first-cause was miracle-free!
Great are the days of Responsibility that nourish the Soul! We always existed! Every Position is possible, You are in this body!
World is created for Spectator's favor! Multiverse is in balance for Purpose! Viewer's event record is forever! Any place is special! By Foundations: Praise The Harmonizer!
@@drivingengine5717 what in the fuckaroos
This answered so many questions I've had in the past. As far as I know now, I've gone through 2 relationships that were very obsessive. Both times my partner was very obsessive over me and constantly wanted to be around me, even going as far as breaking my boundaries, such as: pulling me away from friends and family, guilt tripping me into being with them whether it be passive or direct, and always watching where I was. I always found it super creepy when my partner would text me "You never told me you'd be at (friends names) house??", signalling that they were watching me through Find My Friends on their phone... I had conversations with them about it and they always just sorta pushed it off...
I don't get it... Why do some people want you all to themselves. It's not like the world is going to take me away, I'm still here. I wish I could sit down with one of my ex's and ask them this without them throwing a bunch of jargin in my face about me breaking up with them. Hell, I wish I could've sat down with them During the relationship and asked them about this and had them understand.
Dating is hard... But, from past experiences comes a present mind for future events. We learn from everything
Thank you. My last relationship I had was definitely obsession from her, but I'm hoping good things for the newest relationship I have.
Yeah! Wish you the best, stranger!
I saw you’re community post, i hope this comment helps a little i don’t always need the video’s you Guys make but i always find comfort in the animations and voice thank you very much. ❤
I'm glad to say that I'm actually in love and not obsessed. Although it was me diagnosing myself, so I might be biased.
A must see for certain fandoms these days. These are all things I ask myself when I'm attracted to someone. I try to stay grounded when approaching a relationship... seen too many fail in my lifetime
Don't allow the person who didn't love you, keep you from the one who will.
💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I am finally convinced the last "crush" i had was just me liking to be in love with someone, while now i have a new one that made me realize what a crush is under different eyes and i am now shure this time is real
I used to think it was love, now I realize it was obsession. Now I set boundaries for myself, I try to be more genuine and I know the signs for when it isn't in the cards. I make a lot more great friends now, and I am not stressed about maintaining a facade every two seconds. I do love my most recent friend, but the timing wasn't right, and I need her more as a friend than a romantic interest. Life is pretty good so far.
Her voice is very soothing
Thank you!!
0:20 - you need constant contact with little space
1:13 - you don't truly want them to succeed
2:04 - your conversations are surface level
2:46 - you give a lot of yourself
3:28 - you have no long term goals
Guilty of being obsessed when I was younger. Now I give my partner space and I am actually happy to because I feel secure and I know its healthy!
Clearly obsession is also a form
Of being in love but conditioned by a lot of fears and insecurities.
Thank you so much, my first relationship was like this. I guess I learned from her that this is how you should be, always talking and never having time apart, but I was just unhappy. It became more a routine of doing what she wanted me to do than me actually enjoying it. I hope this isn't too personal but I appreciate this video!
It's nice when you click on one of these videos holding this as a fear, only to realise, yes, you do actually have love this person, even if you have wait.
I think I'm obsessed with my close friends but none of these signs match. A lot of your videos about crushes or relationships are somewhat relatable and I can understand how they can be similar in a friendship, but this one seemed a bit different, or at least for me. Could you make a video about being obsessed or clingy over friends? Or maybe how your parents, childhood or trauma can affect your relationships with other people?
In my past relationships, I showed a mix of both the positive and negative aspects covered in this video.
So far, I'm only a minute in and I'm already glad that you made this. Now, I think I can safely say that I'm not obsessed. I can go a straight 48 or more hours with no contact of my friends.
thats great that you can ignore your friends for 48 hours, but this is more so talking about a romantic relationship. I live with my wife so its impossible to go more than a day without contact and thats just when we are both working and are hanging with our families separately. Even before we were married we still hung out with each other almost every day and when we didnt see eachother in person, we would video chat (the relationship started with video chatting every day and not seeing each other as much in person since we used to live an hour away, but then I decided to make that drive almost every day)
@@jackmemphis777 you have *also* missed the point the video was makin, but good for you! !
reee- I can't even survive one day without my sister O>O
like- if she's in the country I'm fine-
bc ik I can just get a bus and get to her
but when she outta dis country, that's when I start to crumble O>O
I'm still trying to cope with it by distracting my mind-
(mainly by focusing on myself and working on my anxiety)
@@_kokokola_6660 im wishing you the best!!
@@lol-sl6nc aw thx! :)
The voice acting in some parts are amazing!
Thank u for these amazing videos!!!♡
For the longest time I didn't know what real love was. Every relationship I had was an illusion because I had convinced myself that I loved them when in reality I was obsessive and constantly thinking about them for absurd reasons. It was only during my first mushroom trip when I felt real love and realized what it was, then afterward I've had a few more and my brain has been reset ever since. I am no longer obsessive and now I am just fine being single until I meet the right one.
Don't watch movies about 'love'. Usually they create drama for viewers. Better be alone than obsessed. 💟
Number 4 is the kicker for me.
I cant help but to give a lot of myself. I have a huge heart, giving comes as naturally to me as breathing does.
One thing to note is that not all people are lively in a relationship but that doesn't mean they don't love their partner to the core.
Some people don't like loud noises, areas, or situations that make them get overwhelmed. It's important to know that if you see this in your partner, have a talk in an environment where the other feels safe. The partner may meet the other things pointed out in the video except for the level of noise which may be from past, personality, stress, or something else. If it's changeable, help them. If it's their personality, don't help them unless they have a goal where they want to challenge themselves with being louder but needs a bit of help and courage.
It's then your choice after the talk to break up or stay with them despite their quiet habits.
Whichever you choose, don't be scared to let your partner know the changes. It's bad for them to know because it makes them sad but 10x as worse if you're hiding it from them. It's like a company. Tell, people may not be as mad. Hide then tell at a later date, extremely bad.
i love the 'a few moments later' voice the narrator put on. Loved the rest of the video, but that part was just funny.
You have the perfect voice for this! You sound so calm and soothing like a caring mom. Love your videos, they have helped me not fall into toxic situations. Amazing work!
Ugh... not making any boundaries i na relationship and no matter if with a partner or a close friend can be destructive. I always thought, that if I won't give any limits to others they will be happy and do the same to me to be happy... but lets say it... It;s so not true ^^' If there are no boundaries people can go too far AND when we finally start to make some boundaries, they will dislike it and show their disapproval. I remember my old experiences. Too bad that I hadn't seen such smart animations years ago. Then things would go for me a lot better. Thank you a lot for another valuable episode psych2go!
Glad me and my partner aren't going through this anymore. Thanks for making the video
This video helped me realize that I’m currently only after the idea of a relationship instead of having someone close in my life.
I've dealt with 2 guys who showed signs of obsession towards me. It was very uncomfortable and scary for me. Thankfully I took initiative and cut all ties with them before it got any worse. And I knew they were not in love with me, just in love with the idea of it. They just mistook my kindness for me being interested in them.
Any other signs you might’ve noticed? I’m curious as to what pointed it out for you!
Deep unease within your heart is definitely one of them
God this is exactly my life 😨
Just realised that I was becoming obsessed with my crush. Glad I decided to move on. And I feel better now.
THERE'S THE SAD 😭😭😭😭 PART OF....A PERSON'S SELFISHNESS, LIES, ETC... TAKE,TAKE,TAKE ....UNTIL...YOU ARE ALL USED UP..
AND THEY DON'T CARE...
SO , THANKS 👍💯🔥 FOR THE TRUE DIFFERENCE ANANDA
Loved him for 9 years since the fourth grade, now we've both graduated
1. you need constant contact with little space (0:19)
2. you don't truly want them to succeed (1:11)
3. your conversations are surface level (2:03)
4. you give alot of yourself (2:43)
5. you have no long term goals (3:26)
Phew. I was worried I'd be obsessing over someone I currently like, but it seems that's not the case. Thanks for this vid, and all the other great ones!
Wow I relate with every single point on this one
That explains why my last relationship ended terribly
how did you absolutely nail the "a few moments later"
*TO EVERYONE WHO FIND THIS EARLY*
As Benjamin Franklin once said, “failing to prepare is preparing to fail.” Without clearly defined goals to work towards, we’re all just drifting in the ocean.
I Love You. ❤️
I think the younger you are the more likely the love you’re feeling is obsession and I wish I knew the difference between the two when I was younger 😵💫
0:20 No 1-you need constant contact with little space.
1:13 No 2-You don't truly want them to succeed.
2:04 No 3- Your conversations are surface level.
2:45 No 4- You give a lot of yourself.
3:27 No 5 -You have no long term goals.
This channel always recommended me at a perfect time
ive always been an obsessive person and being in relationships amplifies it.. and thats probably the reason everyone leaves my side
U CHANGED UR ICON REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
An obsession can easily be compared to an addiction. Personally, I remember when I had a huge obsession with this girl I used to be very close friends with years ago. Her name was Whitney. Whitney was in the same grade as me, and the 2 of us shared a few classes together in the 8th Grade during the 2004-2005 school year. Not only did she and I have a lot of mutual friends, but my family actually knew hers for years. Matter of fact, my late father was really good buddies with her father. It's like Whitney and I inherited our friendship from our fathers. However, shortly after High School started for me and Whitney, Whitney eventually found my attention towards her to be more than she bargained for. Even if I wanted to, I couldn't have backed off from her easily as a result of the obsession I had with her. In all honesty, Whitney was NEVER my girlfriend. Nobody ever was. It was just these obsession induced delusions going around in my head that had me thinking that she was my girlfriend. Eventually, much to my dismay, I wound up on the receiving end of a no-contact order from her. I soon backed off. Later on, in the 11th Grade, it seemed that Whitney and I were in the process of reconciling, but it didn't take long for Whitney to develop a habit of leading me on by acting nice to me in person only to go behind my back and tell the school staff that I was bothering her. Eventually, in April 2008, the police made the no-contact order more strict. Tragedy struck on June 10, 2008 when lunch break came around. I got to my usual table (not knowing that Whitney planned on sitting there). When Whitney saw me there, she made up a story about me stealing her seat while she got up to "get a bottle of water" and called the police to arrest me. I tried to explain myself about what really happened, but I was cut off mid-sentence and arrested as a result of the false accusation that Whitney made against me. I had to go to court every month. This was a very traumatizing experience for me. I remember it well like it was yesterday. As long as I live, I will NEVER forget it. Now that I'm free from the obsession I used to have with Whitney (as if 2012), as "atonement" for my past obsessive actions, I now have intentions of remaining single for the rest of my life to prevent myself from developing a romantic interest in ANYONE ever again. Now while I do realize that people are trying to help by telling me that they're sure that I might "find the right woman", I highly doubt it. The incidents that took place in High School took their toll on me, permanently scarring me for life.
However, while I do realize that no-contact orders are to protect stalking victims from stalkers (which is what they SHOULD be used for instead of being hijacked for use as weapons of prejudice against people who have autism like me), I have a burning hatred for them because of my bad experience of being on the receiving end of such a thing for unfair reasoning.
NOTE: If Whitney herself ever happens by even the slightest chance to find my comment here, "DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY!! If you didn't get me in trouble with the police, some other woman would've! The thing is, the incidents in High School involving the 2 of us could've happened with ANYONE I would've developed an infatuation with, and the consequences could've been a lot worse, especially if it were someone whose family never knew my family, as well as someone who never knew anyone I was ever friends with! I encourage you to at least be glad that I'm free now from the obsession I used to have with you. But hey, despite my single life preference, I am aware of the positive things about being married, so I do respect the marriages of others. I don't know if you're married or not Whitney, but if you are, congratulations on your marriage".
There is power and facing trauma and healing from it. It sounds like you're already becoming a better person because of it
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I honestly obsess over people but not in a necessarily bad way. Like I have attachment issues so when someone comes into my life I will do whatever I can to not lose them. I’m the type of person to buy my partner things all the time to make them happy, though I’ve never been in a relationship due to being young. Even with my mom, if she doesn’t get home when she says she will I will look at the map showing where she is. It’s not that I’m needy or one of those annoying girls who is basically glued to their boyfriend, I just hate the thought of them leaving so I will try making them as happy as possible. I’ve lost way to many people in my life due to loss and just drifting apart that especially with a significant other, I want to be with them forever. I get a bit creepy, I know. I watch my crushes go to each class to figure out their schedule and locker and when they go to lunch. To me its more of a comfort thing, knowing where they are or how close they are.
Hi there 👋🏻 You said you are young - have you ever been assessed for anxiety? If you’re open to suggestions, you could look into that. It seems like you live with a lot of fear of loss as your base level, and you don’t have to feel that way. 🫂❤️ Lots of love
Sounds like separation anxiety, rather than obsession, but that's just a guess.
I just got into a relationship with the most amazing person ever! And because they deserve the best relationship possible I always refresh myself with healthy relationship tricks as much as I can. Although I am always scared that in the process of loving him, ill also become obsessed, I've been with someone who was obsessed and it made me break up with them. So I'm very glad that this video exists so that I can be the best loving, supporting, and trustworthy boyfriend I can be for him! Because he is for me
2 of these apply for me right now; the ones about conversation and long term goals
we both have past experiences that make opening up and being vulnerable difficult, but hopefully it can improve with time and effort
Timestamps
1) 0:19 You need constant contact
2) 1:13 You don't want them to succeed
3) 2:03 Conversations are surface level
4) 2:45 You give a lot of yourself
5) 3:27 You have no long term goals
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First time I watched this I thought at first I'm obsessed
Now second time, I realized I'm in a happy relationship and not (way too and unnecessarily)obsessed
Thank you for this. These are good things to keep tabs on!
Can we admire for a second just how cute was the narrator's voice in combination with the "few moments later" impression? Like the narrator's voice is always cute but this? Damn... 😍
Why it's best to keep the distance from the possibility... Obsession is scary... but so is love. ❤️🩹
Thank god for showing me this video. This was really useful and educational! Thank you!
I think its obsession when you dont know the person well...
The sad part is,I’m literally obsessed with a person and I can’t stop please help
Try to occupy your mind with other things, sort out your real priorities, and do your best to give them space. It is possible you are struggling with underlying mental health issues, such as depression, or anxiety. I highly suggest talking to your doctor to see if you can get any help.
It's okay. You just need to be mindful of your thoughts and actions, and make sure no-one gets hurt. Take care of yourself mate
No one is worth that amount of stress.
Reminder that YOU exist too! Maybe take some time to see your own self-worth. Ask yourself if you're giving more than your partner is. If this is true, then perhaps bring it up to them or even seek a mental health professional and talk to them about it.
Sounds like you got attachment trauma. I would say therapy or some type of anxiety medication to help calm the obsession thoughts and you may be dealing with separation anxiety.
Content idea: Why we get deeply connected with fictional characters but not with real people 🥺
Like reasons why we fall in love with fictional characters?
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I could relate with number four. I had a girlfriend back then, I broke up with her cause I was giving too much of myself and she couldn't give it back. She still loved me but I ended up hurting me, both of us in the process. Sure it might just be obsession but right now, she's still special to me because she taught me some things i never knew before. So thanks Kam.
I am currently in my first ever relationship with my boyfriend, and I'm obsessing so much. Probably caused by my history of being left behind, and switching friends so much. I'm just happy he's patient and understanding, and we do talk about my obsessive tendencies. I do try my best not to obsess over him and give him space.
Thank you for posting this. I'm in the same situation except we've been together for 4 years and I still can't be normal about him. I try to curb my clingy tendencies but it's so hard that it causes me intense duress when causes me to feel so bad that I can't function lol just kinda vegatating in a spiral of self loathing
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‘‘🎵No, no es amor
Lo que tú sientes
Se llama obsesión 🎶 ‘’
Im obbsessed with them because they give signs that they care about me. I can say that they gave me more hugs than anyone else and I don't want to lose them. I didn't get much love from my parents so I get sad when someone who gives me attention leaves
The timing on these topics when I needed it the most. Thank you
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Wow. I definitely relate to number 4 a lot. I’ve always been the one to give so much, but receive little to nothing in return. I won’t be doing that anymore unless it’s 50/50.
Love is patient and understanding. Great content thanks.
I’ll forget this information by tomorrow, but the animations are too good.
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I always thought I obsessed over my girlfriend. But as it turns out, the only "obsessive" thing I had with her was just the fact that I "need constant contact with little space". I wouldn't say constant contact even, its more like "Okay I'll be be your side until you have to go." type of thing. I always want to be by their side no matter what, but if they have to go do something, then I know to let them because I know they'll come back!
Thank god I’m only in obsession. Thanks! I’m fine now after seeing this. I already promised to myself that I will be single for the rest of my life.
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Is it worth it? Does the support from the fans matter? I am considering sacrificing my dreams in music and computer science to begin psychology. I just want to help others. Seeing someone else happy gives me the greatest joy.
I have been obsessed with my last crush and they seemed uncomfortable at times and I tried to force myself away but it was so hard... Then I saw them get obsessed with someone else and it was not a great situation because the person they were obsessed with was a lot more uncomfortable but they didn't stop trying to follow her and even tried talking to her by talking to her siblings. Seeing that helped me to let go of them...
hate when someone says they’re in love with me when they’re just obsessed… 😒
This is really interesting. Glad I learned about this
I usually avoid these kind of videos because I'm scared of what I'll find. The mere thought of my relationship with my partner being unhealthy terrifies me but at the same time I'm curious to know if any of these behavior patterns are present and which one of us is showing them
I seriously needed this video. Thank you!!! 💚
had to check with myself, I'm in love not obsessed. thanks for making this.
Nice video, have been in my first relationship for 2 months and it's nice to at least have a slight idea that I'm doing the right thing
Thank you so much for these content, it's really helpful, also thank you for the all hardwork you do, keep going✨💖💖💖💖✨
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I wasn't obsessed with someone, in fact I think I was obsessed with the idea of love.
It was practically too strange to discover what was happening to me, because I felt as if all I cared about was that person. I made a lot of mistakes, like ignoring her to get interested in me (which by the way doesn't work just in case you guys try to do it). or that just every time we talked she told me something and I said "well I think..." and that was all that I said for hours.
the calls turned from being for hours to being for minutes. We didn't text each other very much and on top of that I think she wasn't even interested in me. this is something personal but after 3 months of being in love with her, and she knowing that I was. After 3 months without an answer I finally got the answer. It was not what I expected. In fact, she told me that we were "friends with benefits". I was destroyed, because when she told me that, the first thing I thought was that she never loved me back, that all she wanted was a companion who would face all her problems, but love is not like that.
love is not protecting the lady of your dreams all the time, it is protecting each other and taking care of each other. but she didn't understand that and what she did was control me so that I was her knight of the kingdom and she was the queen that I had to protect. she did the same with all her lovers and all the people I have ever met. everyone became obsessed with her, everyone had the same future, that they ended up being obsessed with her.
Luckily I escaped, but through my teeth. now thanks to everything that happened I no longer want to love. I don't feel like feeling love, and that terrifies me. Because if my ancestors have found the woman of their dreams, I am putting my bloodline at risk. But anyway, I don't care so much, I think that I'm an aromantic and that I will never feel love again. In fact, I started not seeing more things over 18. I started 9 days ago and I'm doing well.
something that I do think happened to me after those 3 months was that I realized how stupid I was. I kept asking myself "what are you doing with your future". So she made me better, she made me change the way I see the world. I know she won't read this but if she is reading it, I thank you. You opened my mind in ways I'll never understand how you did it, and I'd become a better man. Who knows, maybe the woman of my dreams will come and I won't make the same mistake again.
I hope you liked reading all this and I hope you have a good day.
dude it's scary how not only did I relate to every single one of these, but I've also been going through this like this month.
but for real I'm actually ashamed that I related to all of these, especially the second one when, when I first heard it I was like "wth? who would think this?" and after thinking for a moment I did technically think like that for a second, I have a problem.
I tend to avoid having crushes because I know in the end it's never gonna work why try and hold any emotion for someone when I know it won't work
My school friend acts so strange around me and gets clingy.. Even hugging me all the time 😩💖
Another sign of being obsessed is that you wish they would only text you, and you don’t talk to nearly anyone else other then them.
Yep.. I recognized those signs, who's ready for a story?
I was with someone whose name I won't disclose for her privacy, and I constantly felt the need to be with her and just wanted to talk to her all the time. I mistook obsession for love, but now I've realized more the truth of what I was doing and feeling. I also gave a heck load of myself to her, throwing away aspects of my own life just to spend time with her whenever it was possible. In the end it turns out I was just getting too obsessed and had lost the actual love I felt in the beginning. She saw this and ended things with me...
I know that feel, when you are always thinking about that special person, and wanting him/her to send you message all day long. I was getting mad at a girlfriend I used to be in deep love with, because it took her many days to answer my messages. Frustrated, I talked about that with a coworker, that told me : *If they take a long time to answer you, it may be because they care about you, and they want to take time to give you a good answer* . It cooled me down a lot, I must say.
Love selflessly cultivates each other. Obsession greedily smothers one of you and blinds the other to the torment. ;o)
The 4th one is me in general. I've always done what I could to help, or protect people I care about. Even if it means helping them in a way that makes me uncomfortable or I probably shouldn't (say financially).
It's wrong and I need to look out for myself more, but I've always had the mindset that I want them to be happy, even if I suffer or it stresses me out.
I'm trying to change. It's hard when you don't hold yourself in high regards and think youre worthless.