That one statement, "You cannot waste the next hour." is what struck me the most. It removes the guilt of having wasted time and reassures me, "I can be intentional with my next hour."
Every person who says they don't have time for a hobby needs to realize they just spent at least twenty minutes on TH-cam for this video. You have time.
So I read the book with your recommendation. While it’s invaluable advice, I’ve gotta say, the part where he suggests to let your wife prepare morning tea on your bedside table was hilarious.
The only thing I miss at this point about my abusive ex is that he would make my coffee in the mornings and bring it to my bedside table… so tbf this man was right, if you have a partner who’s willing it really does make the morning a little nicer. 😂😂💀
@@Theveganlaowai yeah, fair enough. But the way he words it is so funny, like, the husband is at the mercy of his wife to do it or forget everything, he’ll sleep entire his life away 😀
I saw that in the preface. An example from someone who declared they couldn't live without their servants and breakfast in the morning. He says, "...you are not going to allow your highest welfare to depend upon the precarious immediate co-operation of a fellow creature!" Do your pre-prep so you can get up and go or have whoever does it for you pre-prep so you can get up and go.
Bullshit… no-one talks about how the 9-5 is actually 9-6 (1h lunch break), add to that getting ready and commute it’s 8-7 after that you are completely drained and you still have to shower, cook, do housework … truth is we need less working hours per day…we need time to live besides work…
Completely agree, I get she is trying help but this is was so unhelpful. Less working hours have also been proven to help productivity too but who cares about the little guy right??
Absolutely! My father in law talks about working 7 hours a day as full-time. Less commute too. Plus he made enough income to support his wife and 3 kids.... So dinner was made for him when he got home. His wife had time to relax at the end of the day too (probably when the kids were in school. There's no relaxing when they're young!) .... So, yeah, we've been robbed
All the very highest performers I personally know work very few hours because they have staff and have a wife who takes care of the home and kids for them. They just take the credit.
How can you use a book that was written by a man who had the wife take care of HIM, the home and children? I want to know if his wife had any free time and how she handled her schedule to include side hustles or hobbies.
A marriage relationship is supportive. She supported him and he supported her. Sheesh. I’m sure she had her own schedule and routine for her tasks and goals too
Stop simping so hard for capitalism. The 'margins' between work and sleep aren't free time that we're frittering away with resentment, they're the time we have to scramble to complete domestic tasks. Shop, cook, clean, childcare.
Yea this principle certiantly is a bit outdated. Trusting that there is another reliable person for a number of duties, chores and expectations. While I can see how itd help some; it feels like micromanaging hell when applied to real life.
This you tube clip is perfectly optional. Those of you who feel uncomfortable with the thought of taking responsibility for all the hours of your day, which by extension, is your life, need not work on time management.
Yes, the margins are. You might be suprised how many picked up resentment and live that mindset. I did and didn't realize how far down that mental tunnel I slid. I didn't feel Amy translated well, so I read the book, and it's helping negotiate my world back to who I use to be when work was just another thing and I celebrated and lived for life outside of work.
9-5 is only 7 hours, lunch is mandatory. i also know very few people in 9-5 jobs that do not commute to a larger city to do so so add commute of 30-60 minutes. now add grocery shopping, a doctors appt, vet, anything else you need to do after work. there's maybe 4-5 hours a FEW nights a week. and those are your rejuvenating hours so good luck putting those off
Don't high performers shower? Eat, cook? Those things easily take up another 2-3 hours of one's day. Add another hour of work (I work 9 to 6) and 30 minutes of overtime, there is like 1 or 2 hours left. Any emergencies or unexpected things you have to do in your day and you have no time left.
Who works 9-5? It’s mainly 8-5 now, lunch unpaid. Yes, it takes an hour to get ready before work, there’s a commute, then a commute home and then pets, kids, dinner, clean-up, etc. and I need 9 hours of sleep to feel OK. It’s ridiculous.
Yes. This is absolutely detached from reality. Only for people who work jobs the world could do without. Nurses, caretaker, construction workers, many more... all taxing jobs that are the essential glue to society, don't get to live this dreamy approach on life.
Ah, a perspective of the 9 to 5er Life doesn't just happen for you. There are so many workers already at work before you arrive and starting their day before you leave work. "Most" workers doing 9 to 5 is not accurate
Lol, those tiny blocks of time between work and sleep are meal prep, eat, clean, and driving the kids to their sports. I don't know who has time for a side hustle, or self care if your a mom 🤨
I am in the middle of watching the video and wondering if I should continue because of EXACTLY what you said. SOMETHING has to give.....sleep, less attentiveness toward children, less time with spouse, not as productive at work.
Yes those tiny blocks of time are still not enough even if you aren't a mom. You still have to do life admin. Only solution is to work less, sleep less or hire people to help you. Truth is the typical 9-5 workday is too long. The workday should be 6 hours max.
Totally agree! Not trying to be sexist but of course a man developed this philosophy and it worked for him. I simultaneously cook, clean, meal prep, do laundry, make a grocery list, keeping my 4 kids alive, all with a toddler glued to my hip. Put her down they say! Yeah right, cause the. She scream cry so loud the neighbors will call the cops, then I’ll have to worry about them too!
One hundred years ago, Arnold Bennett thought to ask the radical question of "Is it your fault you're stressed and anxious about work outside of work time?" And corporate culture thrives on.
Seeing the time block is so depressing lol. I do love this video because the reality is that we are FORCED into the 9-(6- my work hours) and it’s better to try and make the most of it in any way we can. But in reality, we all only have one life, and life shouldn’t look like this time block sheet. Getting ready for work, commuting, and doing basic necessities such as showering, cooking, tending to family and house take up a lot of time as well. Life should be more than this. The American way won’t last, but unfortunately it may in our lifetime for the majority of people. I still appreciate this video, because we have to work with what we have.
Does anybody else understand the "don't break it up by a meal"? I'm confused. It has to be in there. Ill pribably spend a hour or more cooking a healthy meal, eat it amd then at least another 30 minutes to clean the dining room and kitchen.
So you would maximize by setting that into your wind down time . I am an entrepreneur and set up my days similar to this it’s just abt not letting yourself think about the big picture of the next or last activity while your focusing on a current activity
Calling it food prep doesn't change the work load, just classifies it differently. Maybe we should all live on fast food, opens up a lot of time, and eliminates the need for a retirement plan too.
When do you prepare food and eat ? How about showering, do your make-up, go to the bathroom ? There are a lot of things that take time in a day. If you have kids, then you have to dress them, take them to school, or whatever you need to take them to. If you have a health problem, a chronic illness, then you hours of sleep will not be enough, and everything will be hard. But even for a person that is healthy, there are a lot of tiny things that take up a lot of time, you end up with a day that is work, going from a place to another, and make sure your kids are at least alive :))) . This video was useful only for the idea that, yes, people stress a lot about work, but that is it. The plan is so unrealistic, but maybe that's just me .
Not just for you. Brought up kids single handed, Did all my own housework, including pets, cooked from scratch, worked and commuted and saved and saved with maybe 3 vacations in the last 18 years. Optimising any further meant I'd have to euthanize the pets or my kids (JUST KIDDING!!!!!)
I know you tend to stay away from too much “mommy” content, but I would love suggestions on strategies to implement these ideals while mom-ing (especially a BFing mom). Thanks!!
It depends what sort of job you have! And if you are a sensitive person and process a lot. If you do something like cleaning houses or another job without people then you are actually blessed! You walk away and you can close off for the day. If hsve a highly responsible job and work with people then of course you will have things for your mind to debrief and then plan for!! Sending emails to get information off my mind helps me switch off.
This, some of these roles require so much, and I am sensitive so I meditate and take control over my emotions. So I don’t keep overthinking and processing everything
In bed by 9p, lights out by 10p (asleep 3-5 min later), up at 6a. This started when we let ourselves wake naturally and found that it was around 6a….worked 8 hours backwards…voila‼️Great sleep = better days🎉
Love this!! Especially his emphasis on “time cannot be taken from you” ❤ And it truly wasn’t until I watched this video that I realized how much I let work bleed into all day, 7 days per week. Needed this - thank you!!
Im a content creator, mom and I work full time BUT did this guy have help? Like, did he make lunches for the kids? Did he have a wife/cook/nanny/employees??? I’m just saying this because I burn out when I don’t have help. Time management is very important this information is great but go in to it with the right mind set. 😊👍🏻
Empty nester here who works 8-5 and wakes up at 6 every morning - sleep around 10:30-22. I'm also fortunate to have a short commute, but let's be real. Those free blocks of time cannot be spent on "enjoyable activities" as though we're in la la land, when there is more work to be done. Free time is spent taking care of a fur-baby, the house, groceries, checking in with the kids, and a thousand other things that are part of normal life. Before this, there were kids to raise and there are NO blocks of time available in a day for anything when you have kids. Things DO bleed into the next and some lecture by a man who would have probably collapsed at a regular person's daily To-Do list is not going to solve the fight for time.
Your video confirmed why I feel mentally exhausted. This new work scenario is the use of our knowledge, we are staring at multiple screens all day. Internet is fast and it is expected you can read, review, analyze and respond to large volume. You have to be very intentional to get anything else done because your wiped out. Forget Netflix you just dose off.
If you watched this and now feel terrible about yourself please know it’s not you. This video promotes ableist and exclusionary beliefs that are harmful to society and individuals. The premise for success presented automatically excludes anyone with neurodivergence, disability, health challenges, or even simply children, from the category of high performers. The idea that structuring one’s schedule intentionally is the only thing standing in the way of their greatness is demoralizing. Saying that it’s ‘just a decision’ is naive at best.
Babe I don’t know about you but I don’t have infinite energy. I agree on focusing on the present and scheduling hobbies and enjoyable things but after 8 hours at work + 2 hours commute + making dinner and showering I don’t have the energy to be doing anything rather than sleep or watch a show
I apologize but this is ridiculous. We are tired because we commute an hour and a half to get to work, we are tired because we have to get dinner ready. We are tired because we have responsabilities.
I think I'm a new fan just with this video, however, I have to push back a little. 1) It's good that your graph was 9-6. I don't know anyone who works 9-5. That went out in the 70's. 2) If you merely add meal prep/eat/cleanup/grocery shopping to that, you are talking about another 2 hours a day and that is if you are supremely efficient. Throw in laundry, house maintenance, and bills/paperwork and you've got another hour (being ridiculously conservative here). 3) Friends/family/barest social connections eat up at least another hour (again being stupidly conservative here). I'm leaving out a lot of other imperatives of life but I think this gets us at 21 hours and not giving us any buffers to work with and I'm leaving out that I'm on call for work 24 hours a day, non-negotiable and non-compensated. My insides are also screaming that I'm being way too generous for this argument and leaving out whole areas of life that need attending. For instance in order to keep my wage slave job I have to study outside of work just to remain competent to stay competitive and keep the job. Side hustle? Hobbies? Bwahahahahahahhahaha! The only thing that keeps me from losing my buttons completely is taking a deep breath and acknowledging that I am in an impossible situation, so, stop, center myself, how can I optimize? What is the best I can do at this moment in time? This is the only thing that keeps me from collapsing into overwhelm. And yet here I am stealing time from all of the above perseverating and gnawing on this bone feeling like there has to be a better way. The Eisenhower matrix is inadequate. Atomic Habits not enough, systems based productivity inadequate and not large enough in scope. My intuition is that there is a mental framing I'm missing and need. I'm expecting too much out of the scant moments available for the Deep Work and moving the needle forward. Can't wait to see your other content. I have a feeling you have some good perspectives. Thanks!
You have explained it so beautifully in a simple way. I have heard people say everyone gets 24 hours but what you do with that 24 hours determines how successful you will be? You have given us the roadmap to get the most out of it. Thank you so much. I'm grateful for it.
I'm just exhausted after work so everything is forced. There is no intention. I sleep fine but Im a kindergarten teacher so I have nothing left after wotk
You're on point in everything. Here is one thing high performer must do: Never ever take work home phisicaly(paperwork atec.) or mentaly(dont even think about work after working hours). Work on your self and make new habit: During work hours do as much as you can but avoid overworking yourself because when time is up if you have unifinished work so be it but make sure whatever is left unfinished is lowest possible priority.
Work-life balance and stressors were my research subjects for 3 years. Let me tell you this, blaming yourself for why you are not a "high achiever", not able to switch work mode to life mode like a robot, etc is stupid. If you have 8 hours of sleep, work takes up half your day. You need to prepare food, take care of your household, maybe family, take a shower, organize social events and all of it, IT IS TOO MUCH. Sure some people manage better than others, that doesn't mean the system isn't f*cked or we all should turn ourselves into robots. stay safe and protect your mental health, at. all. costs.
Love this! Going to buy the book! I struggle for sure, not passionate about my job and it puts a damper on my evenings and sundays, I try to live in the moment, but I feel overwhelmed with everything I have to do, I am for sure letting my thoughts consume me!
It's also called victim blaming. You get a shitty deal but maybe you can rise above it. Most high performers are people with a lot of privilege in their lives.
This only could work if one's job is not a total soul sucking nightmare. It doed not really work for introverts who have to endure thrir coworkers with gritted teeth...
The amount of victims in these comments is ridiculous. Take control of your life! Stop being the victim. That's what she's saying. How long do you sit and scroll on facebook, TikTok, Instagram, netflix?
9 to 5 is actually 8 to 7, because commute, food, showing up on time aka 10 minutes early to park and walk in, clock in. then lunch for an hour, which pushes your stop time until 6, then commute again for what 40-60 minutes in traffic. god forbid you have to grocery shop or have kids. you can tell this lady never had a real job because she doesnt mention traffic or lunch. she really though 9-5 was all you had to do. like people signing off at 4:59 and get home by 5:05 and don't need to shop, work a second job or take care of kids 🤣🤣🤣
4:00 “If a man makes two thirds of his experience…” I will counter and say if a man doesn’t make two thirds of his existence subservient to 1/3 he will be a broke ass. And cannot hope to live fully as society will call him homeless. “ -Me😂
I needed this. Thank you!!!! I work on this with my therapist (I have ADHD), but you and Bennet made it perfectly crystal clear. PS: I read Bennet and thought it was related to Pride and Prejudice, so I clicked on the video. LOL
I appreciate this video and I've ordered the book. I consider myself a high performer, but I have to say having a toddler completely obliterates all good use of time. I do slot time just for the kids and that helps them feel less needy when I'm productive, but I still get interrupted constantly. After each interruption I have to get back into the mindset of what I was doing. Toddler time feels like it bleeds over everything except for work.
About rigidity actually just being set intentions to aim for… I like this perspective as someone with ADHD. The thing that keeps me from making a rigid schedule for myself is that my failure to keep to it is (immediately) inevitable. BUT choosing to look at a schedule as intentions, ideals, feels a lot more fluid and forgiving to me. I’ll be nowhere near perfect but giving myself permission to NOT think about the things I dread when it’s NOT the time… is priceless. I can see how that creates less dread & instead more empowerment as you say. Thanks!
I so needed this video. My life is upside down with work and my mother just pasted away. My time blocker has not been working. But this makes since. I have not been controlling my mind and time,to enjoy my time.because I’m tired. But one day of reorganizing things feels so much better.A little more back on track.Thank you ❤,.
For those with kids I totally get the periodic overwhelm but without social media and TV etc generally we find more time and energy...furthermore teaching your kids to set and clear the table and chores means the mom isn't constantly losing time on repetitive tasks. I have 4 kids and work for myself. My husband travels 2 weeks per month so I know what it is to juggle but my kids and I tackle chores and cooking as a team. There are times especially when someone's sick that it feels too much but that's just life. I will however say the type of job changes everything - I personal train so my hours are that bit more flexible, actually that could be the key to finding the balance. I hope everyone finds some balance x
so interesting video! here in buenos aires most of people reach their homes at 8/ 9 pm, due to university, meeting friends or family, some people go to the gym or events, is normal to continue enjoying the day very late we nomally have dinner at 10, even during the week, I think that this fact culturally help us a lot to our happiness ( we get tired of course but is nice to enjoy the day as much as we can)
I understand the premise here but to say work takes up only 1/3 of our day is a little misleading when it it actually takes up more like the majority of our waking hours. I wouldn't consider a full 24 hours fair game for productivity because you do have to sleep so I would look at it from how many hours awake, I spending on work...the pre mise still stands...it just is more realistic
I AGREE....I also believe MANY of us have moreeeee responsibilities than others so the time between wake and work or work and sleep is VERY NARROW. I a productive seeking person at heart.....but homework, unpredictability of whining and illness (from the children, not me HA!) amongst other things, slows me down. When my children are at school I work as fast I can to get things done but I hardly ever finish. I have decide this school year I have to get comfortable with things carrying over to the next day so that I can begin to get more rest at night.
The day has 24 h. 1/3 should be for sleep. 1/3 is for work. The last 1/3 is spent on getting ready for work, getting to work, the break you have at work, coming back from work and then also cooking, eating, doing housework, running errands, taking care of others in case you have kids, getting ready for bed, etc. Yes, you could meal prep, but maybe you wanna eat something freshly cooked. You do not need to clean every single day but there is always some chore to do, maybe grocery shopping or running some errands. Maybe there is someone who is dependent on you. Maybe your job is so tremendously draining that you really have no energy for anything. Maybe you need a second job to survive. Shift work ruins a person's sleeping schedule and if you are not well rested, then well, the rest of the day might not be as good. I am not sure if this is the book I read about, but I think it was written for rich, white men. They can spend that 1/3 of their time doing whatever they want while the wife is the one doing everything else. Anyway, maybe people should be paid fair wages so they do not have to stress about the bare necessities. 5-6 h/day, 4 d/week are enough.
I so love this! I have been doing this for 2 years. I wanted to figure out how to get more done. I wanted to find more time in my day to start meditation and practicing mindfulness so I created a schedule. I was so strict at first, but now that these habits have become part of who I am now I can be a little less rigid.
I think the reason why people want to have 'more time' is because whatever they want to do next, they slowly dive into it intending to dive deep, but because they dive so slowly the time period for it ends when they have barely reached the wanted deeps. So the question is, how to dive deep fast? For example, school. You have 1,5 hours classes and the first minutes may it be 5, 10, 15 minutes you have to remember and connect new information to what you know and only after that you can 'join in' and learn something new.
I get this and seems nice however I work 6am to 6pm and hour commute to work each way. Going to bed at 10 and getting up at 4 I already do this and I’m tired as heck, get home at 7 and I have to cook dinner, walk dog, spent time with family before bed , the only time I get to relax is when I’m sleeping unless I remove those things and relax after work. We work too much , it’s not meant to be that way
Now people travel to and from work in trafic for about 4 hours a day and work the 9 to 5....so we really dont have enough time. Especially if you dont have a wife or family to do everything for you
Time cannot be taken away from you - if you're a middle class Edwardian man with a wife & zero responsibilities within your home & to your children. This was a piece of social hygiene propaganda written in the lead up to WWI. A time where women were literal property & men still benefited from the ownership of slaves. But also atime where social change was beginning to be thought about & men like this were concerned that their status was under threat - not just by women & black men but by the lower classes. & I think this is the point you've missed. While you still value the work of early 20th century men the rest of the world has moved on. It's your values that tell you your time is being wasted doing the things those you don't value do - a pretty short way of understanding social hygiene. You've not it seems thought for a moment why a book written for the Edwardian man was so attractive to you.
From over all every person is saying the same thing and I am a big stickler about the comments and opinions and beliefs that NO I DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME. When IN FACT - YOUR CHOICES brought YOU to this point. Are you going to keep making the same choices? For example 1. You decided to have kids before you had a sleep schedule under control. 2. You decided to have kids before you had the income to afford help for your chores. Are you doing the work to change or not? Life is not easy for anyone. But it’s all about what YOU CHOOSE.
Ahem, I'm not spending that time you call white space “thinking” about sleep or work I need to get ready in the morning and before bed, I spend that time changing my clothes and keeping up my hygiene. After commute I don't have 6 open hours, I have two
Arnold Bennett such an interesting character, writing for "Women" magazine, which promoted women's right to vote. Then following separation from his wife, he had a daughter with a mistress/girlfriend who continued her career as actor and producer. But based on some presumptuous comments you wouldn't know that about him. 🧐
I just read the book because of this video (it's on Audible and Libby). Even though it was written by a man 100 years ago, just take whatever is useful for you and your individual situation. For me (I don't have kids), I will start following his advice of 7.5 hours a week for "cultivating the mind." He proposes 30 minutes in the morning (while commuting) and 1.5 hours in the evening, three times a week. He said to start slowly but consistently and adjust as necessary. I guess that's what's missing in the video; he didn't propose to have this schedule all 7 days a week. You still have admin things to do (laundry, cooking, cleaning, friends, etc.).
24 hr day for a married woman with 2 children 8 hrs sleep 8 hours work + 2 hr commute 10 hrs total Get home cook for 1/30 hrs Do dishes clean up 30-45 mins 4 solid hours ( I didn’t get to hang out with my kids before I sent them to bed) mon-fri - But yeah if I don’t watch Netflix, you tube, tik tok I can either spend 4 hours on personal development, professional courses, working on a potential business/side hustle I.e you tube/etsy shop etc. hmmm notice how I didn’t take a shower or got ready in the morning for work and yeah I no longer have sex with my husband no time for that either. No dates, forget about that much needed intimacy. We are high achievers, all work no play for 9 to 5 workers. This makes sense I’m just lazy and full of excuses 😅
moral of the video: Don't let anxiety about life's burdens chain you to laziness and inaction. Otherwise, you'll waste your life with nothing to show for it but toil and despair.
I did not realize in what manner intentional I am alongside time until I stopped following the schedule I made myself - I was then lethargic, depressed, got naught done. When I went back toward following the blocked time I was productive, joyous and found myself enjoying everything in mine life more. I do mine hobbies more, I intentionally work on mine work more> I spend more loving time alongside mine family and enjoying mine life.
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I'm not thinking about work before work. I am getting ready for work, preparing my lunch for work, driving to work. So unless you work from home, you don't work '9 to 5'.
Haha. 8 hours of work is actually an average of 10 if you include pre time, commute, lunch hr, more commute time, and minimum prep for the next day. That is just if you are a peon. If you have any responsibilities above and beyond, your work day is even longer. No one I know only works 9 to 5.
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Assuming everyone has endless amounts of energy, which is almost impossible considering that we are bombarded with toxins everyday and our food has less nutrients than ever. That is why we are all fat and sick. But sure, productivity is the problem...
I don’t think about work after work, but I do feel like it’s hard to “get things done”, cause by the time I get back from work, I feel like my brain has turned to mush and I can’t focus or think straight or find the energy to be productive. ESPECIALLY if it’s winter and it was dark by the time I leave work
We aren’t all given the same opportunities and assets to make the same use of same 24 hours and I think the genuinely useful things that can be taken from this are kind of drowned out by a rather judgey attitude about what people should be doing.
Hi, love the video(s) as I’m feeling stuck myself… Where did you buy the pink binder notebook? I like how it’s blank pages. I need that. Please share. I’m following your methods to help me execute and stay on track. As old as I am I’m feeling stuck, taking all day to do nothing then feel bad cause I didn’t finish the 50 million things I wanted to attach… Anyways I’m rambling please share where you got notebook. I see that you have planners on your site, but I’m interested in blank journal as well. 😊
I've read Bennett's book, and I get his point - we do have some time that we could use to learn something to elevate ourselves, but we don't. And, we argue for the notion that we absolutely don't, rather than get curious about how we might. So yeah, I agree, for all of the reasons Bennett's ideas are revealing his gender and class and racial privilege, he (unlike all the other folks who shared those same privileges in that time), has some important insights for us in the current epoch ❤
Oir bodies need sleep to function for work and home life. Because sleep is manadatory for function it should be taken out of the time equation. 8 hrs of sleep and 16 hrs for the rest of the day means working for ONE THIRD of that 16 hours. It should NOT be one third of 24 hrs. The workday should be 5 hrs and 20 min. This amount of work time can easily equal the normal work day in productivity if people were actually getting adequate breaks and sleep. Pay should stay the same as a normal day especially if more productivity occurs. Work culture needs to change.
Well..... the time before and after work "wasted" is spent traveling to and from work, so itsnot 9 to 5, it's probably 7.30am to 6.30pm. No longer just a third
I really want to see how a person fares in the long run with a schedule like this. It maybe high-performing the first few weeks, but I truly wonder how optimising your time every hour of the day might impact you in the long run
Work is half my day literally 12-13 hours 😅 for half of the week but i still make time for other things i need to do that benefit me witch means if u block your week/ days u can do at least 1percent of the things that make u better and at the end of the year u will be 365% better than last year😊
I am a student, this is actually helpful.my schedule fits right in.ofcourse, I can have to cook clean ,buy grocery, but that i can make it work. Thank you so much.
Wow. This is great. I am good at being in work mode. Only think of work to do some research pre-job. It's the rest of the time that I bleed. Not having captured how to be as effective with my life as I am with work.
Basically this dude is telling us to revolt against the long hours. This video just proved they ain't giving enough time if you take into account commuting and household tasks
The one hour before setting out to work is purely focussed on getting ready for work, then the commuting both ways, and the hour on arrival back home should be subtracted from the “free 3rd”. Imagine also adding children and no help to the mix.
Makes me think kf not working hours but workout time. If I don't workout first thing in the morning, I'm thinking about it all day. If I ear, I have to wait an hour then I get distracted with other things but half-assed because I really need to get to my workout. If I do it too late, it keeps me up. So I need tk wake up earlier to workout and have a better overall day.
“A high performer is looking at every leverage they’ve got.” You’re right. By the way, I have a mug ☕️ in my shop now, thank you for the idea in the last video!
Thanks for the video. Im going to do this illistration and assign what i need to do when. Unfortunately, my husband works 80 hours a week, a lot of which he doesn't get home for. So, he just wants to eat, take a shower and go to bed. He does have weeks here and there he is off though and he does get a lot done in those times.
That one statement, "You cannot waste the next hour." is what struck me the most. It removes the guilt of having wasted time and reassures me, "I can be intentional with my next hour."
And this is what I wish for everyone!
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Exactly! Same here ✨️
Omg. Now I know I’m not a high performer. This is so hyper and overthought. Just let your mind run free and dream on!
I like your eye it like extremely blue waters 😮
Every person who says they don't have time for a hobby needs to realize they just spent at least twenty minutes on TH-cam for this video.
You have time.
Exactly
I listened to it during my commute 😂
Thank you. It’s all about priorities
There’s always enough time in the day for something we want or prioritize or is important to us!!!
@amyjordana635 I listened during my shower and morning routine lol multi tasking at its finest lol
So I read the book with your recommendation. While it’s invaluable advice, I’ve gotta say, the part where he suggests to let your wife prepare morning tea on your bedside table was hilarious.
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I mean he died like 100 years ago so that’s fair lol 😂
The only thing I miss at this point about my abusive ex is that he would make my coffee in the mornings and bring it to my bedside table… so tbf this man was right, if you have a partner who’s willing it really does make the morning a little nicer. 😂😂💀
@@Theveganlaowai yeah, fair enough. But the way he words it is so funny, like, the husband is at the mercy of his wife to do it or forget everything, he’ll sleep entire his life away 😀
I saw that in the preface. An example from someone who declared they couldn't live without their servants and breakfast in the morning. He says, "...you are not going to allow your highest welfare to depend upon the precarious immediate co-operation of a fellow creature!" Do your pre-prep so you can get up and go or have whoever does it for you pre-prep so you can get up and go.
Bullshit… no-one talks about how the 9-5 is actually 9-6 (1h lunch break), add to that getting ready and commute it’s 8-7 after that you are completely drained and you still have to shower, cook, do housework … truth is we need less working hours per day…we need time to live besides work…
Completely agree, I get she is trying help but this is was so unhelpful. Less working hours have also been proven to help productivity too but who cares about the little guy right??
Many workers have 12 hour shifts i.e. auto industry, truck drivers, etc. It’s criminal.
Absolutely! My father in law talks about working 7 hours a day as full-time. Less commute too. Plus he made enough income to support his wife and 3 kids.... So dinner was made for him when he got home. His wife had time to relax at the end of the day too (probably when the kids were in school. There's no relaxing when they're young!) .... So, yeah, we've been robbed
@@shenjen3665 exactly
@@shenjen3665 exactly
All the very highest performers I personally know work very few hours because they have staff and have a wife who takes care of the home and kids for them. They just take the credit.
Amen!
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I have also noticed this!
@@RikkiestAndTikkiest word!
Amen
How can you use a book that was written by a man who had the wife take care of HIM, the home and children? I want to know if his wife had any free time and how she handled her schedule to include side hustles or hobbies.
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In my next life, I'm only having children if I can come back as a DAD.
Excuses. Stop. Geeze this generation 🙄
The author of the book didn't have kids, but he sure spent a lot of time getting paid to write and travel. What a luxury compared to today.
A marriage relationship is supportive. She supported him and he supported her. Sheesh. I’m sure she had her own schedule and routine for her tasks and goals too
Stop simping so hard for capitalism. The 'margins' between work and sleep aren't free time that we're frittering away with resentment, they're the time we have to scramble to complete domestic tasks. Shop, cook, clean, childcare.
Yea this principle certiantly is a bit outdated. Trusting that there is another reliable person for a number of duties, chores and expectations. While I can see how itd help some; it feels like micromanaging hell when applied to real life.
The dude who wrote it had his wife bring him tea to his bedside table, domestic duties don't even seem to be a thought or consideration.
This you tube clip is perfectly optional. Those of you who feel uncomfortable with the thought of taking responsibility for all the hours of your day, which by extension, is your life, need not work on time management.
Yes, the margins are. You might be suprised how many picked up resentment and live that mindset. I did and didn't realize how far down that mental tunnel I slid. I didn't feel Amy translated well, so I read the book, and it's helping negotiate my world back to who I use to be when work was just another thing and I celebrated and lived for life outside of work.
9-5 is only 7 hours, lunch is mandatory. i also know very few people in 9-5 jobs that do not commute to a larger city to do so so add commute of 30-60 minutes. now add grocery shopping, a doctors appt, vet, anything else you need to do after work. there's maybe 4-5 hours a FEW nights a week. and those are your rejuvenating hours so good luck putting those off
Don't high performers shower? Eat, cook? Those things easily take up another 2-3 hours of one's day. Add another hour of work (I work 9 to 6) and 30 minutes of overtime, there is like 1 or 2 hours left. Any emergencies or unexpected things you have to do in your day and you have no time left.
So true, 9-5, what 9-5? Most people I know work 9-6 and if it's 9-5 it's the type of job where they give you a work phone that is essentially a pager.
Meal plan and it won't take up that much time.
Who works 9-5? It’s mainly 8-5 now, lunch unpaid. Yes, it takes an hour to get ready before work, there’s a commute, then a commute home and then pets, kids, dinner, clean-up, etc. and I need 9 hours of sleep to feel OK. It’s ridiculous.
8-5 is the norm. 9 hours.
Yes. This is absolutely detached from reality.
Only for people who work jobs the world could do without.
Nurses, caretaker, construction workers, many more... all taxing jobs that are the essential glue to society, don't get to live this dreamy approach on life.
Ah, a perspective of the 9 to 5er
Life doesn't just happen for you. There are so many workers already at work before you arrive and starting their day before you leave work. "Most" workers doing 9 to 5 is not accurate
you can tell she never worked a real job with commute and unpaid lunch 💀💀 sis really thought she ate
@@britt581 arguable 5-2 is the best schedule with a lunch in there. you get off in day light, can make dr's appts, pick up kids, shop, vet, errands.
Lol, those tiny blocks of time between work and sleep are meal prep, eat, clean, and driving the kids to their sports. I don't know who has time for a side hustle, or self care if your a mom 🤨
I am in the middle of watching the video and wondering if I should continue because of EXACTLY what you said. SOMETHING has to give.....sleep, less attentiveness toward children, less time with spouse, not as productive at work.
@JessicaSmith-ie7cm exactly! Unfortunately, it's not a realistic system at this point 😕
Yes, I think the same. During that 'free time' you have maybe max 1hour for 'hobby'
Yes those tiny blocks of time are still not enough even if you aren't a mom. You still have to do life admin. Only solution is to work less, sleep less or hire people to help you. Truth is the typical 9-5 workday is too long. The workday should be 6 hours max.
Totally agree! Not trying to be sexist but of course a man developed this philosophy and it worked for him. I simultaneously cook, clean, meal prep, do laundry, make a grocery list, keeping my 4 kids alive, all with a toddler glued to my hip. Put her down they say! Yeah right, cause the. She scream cry so loud the neighbors will call the cops, then I’ll have to worry about them too!
One hundred years ago, Arnold Bennett thought to ask the radical question of "Is it your fault you're stressed and anxious about work outside of work time?" And corporate culture thrives on.
Seeing the time block is so depressing lol. I do love this video because the reality is that we are FORCED into the 9-(6- my work hours) and it’s better to try and make the most of it in any way we can. But in reality, we all only have one life, and life shouldn’t look like this time block sheet. Getting ready for work, commuting, and doing basic necessities such as showering, cooking, tending to family and house take up a lot of time as well. Life should be more than this. The American way won’t last, but unfortunately it may in our lifetime for the majority of people. I still appreciate this video, because we have to work with what we have.
absolutely agree. well said!
I’m a shift nurse. I work 12.5 hours and have a 1 hour total commute. 😩 I am exhausted on my days off and small kids. I have no quality of life.
Does anybody else understand the "don't break it up by a meal"? I'm confused. It has to be in there. Ill pribably spend a hour or more cooking a healthy meal, eat it amd then at least another 30 minutes to clean the dining room and kitchen.
So you would maximize by setting that into your wind down time . I am an entrepreneur and set up my days similar to this it’s just abt not letting yourself think about the big picture of the next or last activity while your focusing on a current activity
Maybe try food prepping so your meals are ready to roll and then you have the rest of the evening
Calling it food prep doesn't change the work load, just classifies it differently. Maybe we should all live on fast food, opens up a lot of time, and eliminates the need for a retirement plan too.
When do you prepare food and eat ? How about showering, do your make-up, go to the bathroom ? There are a lot of things that take time in a day. If you have kids, then you have to dress them, take them to school, or whatever you need to take them to. If you have a health problem, a chronic illness, then you hours of sleep will not be enough, and everything will be hard. But even for a person that is healthy, there are a lot of tiny things that take up a lot of time, you end up with a day that is work, going from a place to another, and make sure your kids are at least alive :))) . This video was useful only for the idea that, yes, people stress a lot about work, but that is it. The plan is so unrealistic, but maybe that's just me .
You're right. I've tried implementing a lot of these things but since I have chronic fatigue syndrome, it's hard.
Not just for you. Brought up kids single handed, Did all my own housework, including pets, cooked from scratch, worked and commuted and saved and saved with maybe 3 vacations in the last 18 years. Optimising any further meant I'd have to euthanize the pets or my kids (JUST KIDDING!!!!!)
You make blocks for that.
I know you tend to stay away from too much “mommy” content, but I would love suggestions on strategies to implement these ideals while mom-ing (especially a BFing mom). Thanks!!
Yes please!
Following this comment because same!
I'd follow a second channel full of Mom Boss content from Amy!
Same
It depends what sort of job you have! And if you are a sensitive person and process a lot. If you do something like cleaning houses or another job without people then you are actually blessed! You walk away and you can close off for the day. If hsve a highly responsible job and work with people then of course you will have things for your mind to debrief and then plan for!! Sending emails to get information off my mind helps me switch off.
This, some of these roles require so much, and I am sensitive so I meditate and take control over my emotions. So I don’t keep overthinking and processing everything
“It’s all about choices” … and setting boundaries with myself and everyone else 😅😅😅
very important
In bed by 9p, lights out by 10p (asleep 3-5 min later), up at 6a. This started when we let ourselves wake naturally and found that it was around 6a….worked 8 hours backwards…voila‼️Great sleep = better days🎉
It’s giving “If you have depression, you’re entitled and ungrateful” energy.
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Guess this is for ppl without children 😭.
I know, right... And people who are nuerodiverse. I love this creator but these are definitely downsides
She has 2
Right let me get out of here
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Love this!! Especially his emphasis on “time cannot be taken from you” ❤ And it truly wasn’t until I watched this video that I realized how much I let work bleed into all day, 7 days per week. Needed this - thank you!!
Im a content creator, mom and I work full time BUT did this guy have help? Like, did he make lunches for the kids? Did he have a wife/cook/nanny/employees???
I’m just saying this because I burn out when I don’t have help. Time management is very important this information is great but go in to it with the right mind set. 😊👍🏻
Empty nester here who works 8-5 and wakes up at 6 every morning - sleep around 10:30-22. I'm also fortunate to have a short commute, but let's be real. Those free blocks of time cannot be spent on "enjoyable activities" as though we're in la la land, when there is more work to be done. Free time is spent taking care of a fur-baby, the house, groceries, checking in with the kids, and a thousand other things that are part of normal life. Before this, there were kids to raise and there are NO blocks of time available in a day for anything when you have kids. Things DO bleed into the next and some lecture by a man who would have probably collapsed at a regular person's daily To-Do list is not going to solve the fight for time.
Absolutely right!
Your video confirmed why I feel mentally exhausted. This new work scenario is the use of our knowledge, we are staring at multiple screens all day. Internet is fast and it is expected you can read, review, analyze and respond to large volume. You have to be very intentional to get anything else done because your wiped out. Forget Netflix you just dose off.
When you said; you don’t want to go to sleep because you don’t don’t want to rest and be excited for the next day, I knew you were talking to me
Good for men but women are parenting and housekeeping when not at work and sometimes while at work.
If you watched this and now feel terrible about yourself please know it’s not you. This video promotes ableist and exclusionary beliefs that are harmful to society and individuals. The premise for success presented automatically excludes anyone with neurodivergence, disability, health challenges, or even simply children, from the category of high performers. The idea that structuring one’s schedule intentionally is the only thing standing in the way of their greatness is demoralizing. Saying that it’s ‘just a decision’ is naive at best.
Babe I don’t know about you but I don’t have infinite energy. I agree on focusing on the present and scheduling hobbies and enjoyable things but after 8 hours at work + 2 hours commute + making dinner and showering I don’t have the energy to be doing anything rather than sleep or watch a show
😂😂😂 laughs in capitalism
I apologize but this is ridiculous.
We are tired because we commute an hour and a half to get to work, we are tired because we have to get dinner ready. We are tired because we have responsabilities.
I think I'm a new fan just with this video, however, I have to push back a little. 1) It's good that your graph was 9-6. I don't know anyone who works 9-5. That went out in the 70's. 2) If you merely add meal prep/eat/cleanup/grocery shopping to that, you are talking about another 2 hours a day and that is if you are supremely efficient. Throw in laundry, house maintenance, and bills/paperwork and you've got another hour (being ridiculously conservative here). 3) Friends/family/barest social connections eat up at least another hour (again being stupidly conservative here). I'm leaving out a lot of other imperatives of life but I think this gets us at 21 hours and not giving us any buffers to work with and I'm leaving out that I'm on call for work 24 hours a day, non-negotiable and non-compensated. My insides are also screaming that I'm being way too generous for this argument and leaving out whole areas of life that need attending. For instance in order to keep my wage slave job I have to study outside of work just to remain competent to stay competitive and keep the job.
Side hustle? Hobbies? Bwahahahahahahhahaha!
The only thing that keeps me from losing my buttons completely is taking a deep breath and acknowledging that I am in an impossible situation, so, stop, center myself, how can I optimize? What is the best I can do at this moment in time? This is the only thing that keeps me from collapsing into overwhelm.
And yet here I am stealing time from all of the above perseverating and gnawing on this bone feeling like there has to be a better way. The Eisenhower matrix is inadequate. Atomic Habits not enough, systems based productivity inadequate and not large enough in scope. My intuition is that there is a mental framing I'm missing and need. I'm expecting too much out of the scant moments available for the Deep Work and moving the needle forward.
Can't wait to see your other content. I have a feeling you have some good perspectives. Thanks!
You have explained it so beautifully in a simple way. I have heard people say everyone gets 24 hours but what you do with that 24 hours determines how successful you will be? You have given us the roadmap to get the most out of it. Thank you so much. I'm grateful for it.
I'm just exhausted after work so everything is forced. There is no intention. I sleep fine but Im a kindergarten teacher so I have nothing left after wotk
After I wrote that you totally addressed it lol
You're on point in everything. Here is one thing high performer must do: Never ever take work home phisicaly(paperwork atec.) or mentaly(dont even think about work after working hours). Work on your self and make new habit: During work hours do as much as you can but avoid overworking yourself because when time is up if you have unifinished work so be it but make sure whatever is left unfinished is lowest possible priority.
Work-life balance and stressors were my research subjects for 3 years. Let me tell you this, blaming yourself for why you are not a "high achiever", not able to switch work mode to life mode like a robot, etc is stupid.
If you have 8 hours of sleep, work takes up half your day. You need to prepare food, take care of your household, maybe family, take a shower, organize social events and all of it, IT IS TOO MUCH. Sure some people manage better than others, that doesn't mean the system isn't f*cked or we all should turn ourselves into robots.
stay safe and protect your mental health, at. all. costs.
Haven't finished the video yet, but I'm wondering: Is the main point to compartmentalize better? I've found that helps immensely. I'd say it's crucial
Love this! Going to buy the book! I struggle for sure, not passionate about my job and it puts a damper on my evenings and sundays, I try to live in the moment, but I feel overwhelmed with everything I have to do, I am for sure letting my thoughts consume me!
It's also called victim blaming. You get a shitty deal but maybe you can rise above it.
Most high performers are people with a lot of privilege in their lives.
this combined with Alex Hormozi's Maker's Time vs Manager's Time vid + Brendon Burchard's Get Things Done by One = High Performer. top notch!
+ Matt Ragland's Time Audit
In short, just be present and dont overthink about your work.
This only could work if one's job is not a total soul sucking nightmare. It doed not really work for introverts who have to endure thrir coworkers with gritted teeth...
The amount of victims in these comments is ridiculous. Take control of your life! Stop being the victim. That's what she's saying. How long do you sit and scroll on facebook, TikTok, Instagram, netflix?
9 to 5 is actually 8 to 7, because commute, food, showing up on time aka 10 minutes early to park and walk in, clock in. then lunch for an hour, which pushes your stop time until 6, then commute again for what 40-60 minutes in traffic. god forbid you have to grocery shop or have kids. you can tell this lady never had a real job because she doesnt mention traffic or lunch. she really though 9-5 was all you had to do. like people signing off at 4:59 and get home by 5:05 and don't need to shop, work a second job or take care of kids 🤣🤣🤣
4:00 “If a man makes two thirds of his experience…” I will counter and say if a man doesn’t make two thirds of his existence subservient to 1/3 he will be a broke ass. And cannot hope to live fully as society will call him homeless. “
-Me😂
I needed this. Thank you!!!! I work on this with my therapist (I have ADHD), but you and Bennet made it perfectly crystal clear.
PS: I read Bennet and thought it was related to Pride and Prejudice, so I clicked on the video. LOL
Same...
Even though several comments seem negative or cynical, I found this information really helpful and I plan on reading the book. Thank you for sharing.
Me as well!!! 😊
I appreciate this video and I've ordered the book. I consider myself a high performer, but I have to say having a toddler completely obliterates all good use of time. I do slot time just for the kids and that helps them feel less needy when I'm productive, but I still get interrupted constantly. After each interruption I have to get back into the mindset of what I was doing. Toddler time feels like it bleeds over everything except for work.
Thank you so much for this inspiration. Have a nice mentor's day.:)
I appreciate you!
40 hours a week is actually one quarter of your week. Weekend time needs to be ringfenced.
We aren't robots and fo need to process things
I think this is great for a single person, I need another for the stay at home mom, or a family with kids and the parents who work 👍🏼
I throughly enjoyed this for many reasons 😂...Book is on its way to me...Thank you...I just subscribed, I would love to see a part two 😅
About rigidity actually just being set intentions to aim for… I like this perspective as someone with ADHD. The thing that keeps me from making a rigid schedule for myself is that my failure to keep to it is (immediately) inevitable. BUT choosing to look at a schedule as intentions, ideals, feels a lot more fluid and forgiving to me. I’ll be nowhere near perfect but giving myself permission to NOT think about the things I dread when it’s NOT the time… is priceless. I can see how that creates less dread & instead more empowerment as you say. Thanks!
I so needed this video. My life is upside down with work and my mother just pasted away. My time blocker has not been working. But this makes since. I have not been controlling my mind and time,to enjoy my time.because I’m tired. But one day of reorganizing things feels so much better.A little more back on track.Thank you ❤,.
For those with kids I totally get the periodic overwhelm but without social media and TV etc generally we find more time and energy...furthermore teaching your kids to set and clear the table and chores means the mom isn't constantly losing time on repetitive tasks.
I have 4 kids and work for myself. My husband travels 2 weeks per month so I know what it is to juggle but my kids and I tackle chores and cooking as a team. There are times especially when someone's sick that it feels too much but that's just life. I will however say the type of job changes everything - I personal train so my hours are that bit more flexible, actually that could be the key to finding the balance. I hope everyone finds some balance x
so interesting video! here in buenos aires most of people reach their homes at 8/ 9 pm, due to university, meeting friends or family, some people go to the gym or events, is normal to continue enjoying the day very late we nomally have dinner at 10, even during the week, I think that this fact culturally help us a lot to our happiness ( we get tired of course but is nice to enjoy the day as much as we can)
I understand the premise here but to say work takes up only 1/3 of our day is a little misleading when it it actually takes up more like the majority of our waking hours. I wouldn't consider a full 24 hours fair game for productivity because you do have to sleep so I would look at it from how many hours awake, I spending on work...the pre mise still stands...it just is more realistic
I AGREE....I also believe MANY of us have moreeeee responsibilities than others so the time between wake and work or work and sleep is VERY NARROW. I a productive seeking person at heart.....but homework, unpredictability of whining and illness (from the children, not me HA!) amongst other things, slows me down. When my children are at school I work as fast I can to get things done but I hardly ever finish. I have decide this school year I have to get comfortable with things carrying over to the next day so that I can begin to get more rest at night.
After I have been more clean with my carnivore diet, I feel well resten after 6 hours and often wake up natually before 5 am - I love intentionality❤
Do you think of the time you have everyday as a MARGIN? Or as an OPPORTUNITY TO LIVE?? Share your struggle with this below! ⬇
My motto is “I love to grow!” I’ll take those margins more seriously 👌
Do you have kids? How does this look for mothers caring for their children full time?
So helpful and descriptive. I LOVE the language being used in this book and I don't mind that it was from 1931 as wisdom is timeless. Thank you Amy.
I always try to cram too much in a day. How do you let go of that guilt?
This was one of the BEST videos you've ever done, Amy! Loved it! Thankyou ❤
The questions is, what is high performance for you?
The day has 24 h. 1/3 should be for sleep. 1/3 is for work. The last 1/3 is spent on getting ready for work, getting to work, the break you have at work, coming back from work and then also cooking, eating, doing housework, running errands, taking care of others in case you have kids, getting ready for bed, etc.
Yes, you could meal prep, but maybe you wanna eat something freshly cooked. You do not need to clean every single day but there is always some chore to do, maybe grocery shopping or running some errands. Maybe there is someone who is dependent on you. Maybe your job is so tremendously draining that you really have no energy for anything. Maybe you need a second job to survive. Shift work ruins a person's sleeping schedule and if you are not well rested, then well, the rest of the day might not be as good.
I am not sure if this is the book I read about, but I think it was written for rich, white men. They can spend that 1/3 of their time doing whatever they want while the wife is the one doing everything else.
Anyway, maybe people should be paid fair wages so they do not have to stress about the bare necessities. 5-6 h/day, 4 d/week are enough.
Wow! This was an incredible video and I love your energy! Thanks!
I so love this! I have been doing this for 2 years. I wanted to figure out how to get more done. I wanted to find more time in my day to start meditation and practicing mindfulness so I created a schedule. I was so strict at first, but now that these habits have become part of who I am now I can be a little less rigid.
I think the reason why people want to have 'more time' is because whatever they want to do next, they slowly dive into it intending to dive deep, but because they dive so slowly the time period for it ends when they have barely reached the wanted deeps. So the question is, how to dive deep fast?
For example, school. You have 1,5 hours classes and the first minutes may it be 5, 10, 15 minutes you have to remember and connect new information to what you know and only after that you can 'join in' and learn something new.
I get this and seems nice however I work 6am to 6pm and hour commute to work each way. Going to bed at 10 and getting up at 4 I already do this and I’m tired as heck, get home at 7 and I have to cook dinner, walk dog, spent time with family before bed , the only time I get to relax is when I’m sleeping unless I remove those things and relax after work. We work too much , it’s not meant to be that way
Now people travel to and from work in trafic for about 4 hours a day and work the 9 to 5....so we really dont have enough time. Especially if you dont have a wife or family to do everything for you
Time cannot be taken away from you - if you're a middle class Edwardian man with a wife & zero responsibilities within your home & to your children.
This was a piece of social hygiene propaganda written in the lead up to WWI. A time where women were literal property & men still benefited from the ownership of slaves. But also atime where social change was beginning to be thought about & men like this were concerned that their status was under threat - not just by women & black men but by the lower classes.
& I think this is the point you've missed. While you still value the work of early 20th century men the rest of the world has moved on.
It's your values that tell you your time is being wasted doing the things those you don't value do - a pretty short way of understanding social hygiene. You've not it seems thought for a moment why a book written for the Edwardian man was so attractive to you.
From over all every person is saying the same thing and I am a big stickler about the comments and opinions and beliefs that NO I DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME. When IN FACT - YOUR CHOICES brought YOU to this point. Are you going to keep making the same choices?
For example
1. You decided to have kids before you had a sleep schedule under control.
2. You decided to have kids before you had the income to afford help for your chores.
Are you doing the work to change or not? Life is not easy for anyone. But it’s all about what YOU CHOOSE.
Ahem, I'm not spending that time you call white space “thinking” about sleep or work
I need to get ready in the morning and before bed, I spend that time changing my clothes and keeping up my hygiene. After commute I don't have 6 open hours, I have two
Arnold Bennett such an interesting character, writing for "Women" magazine, which promoted women's right to vote. Then following separation from his wife, he had a daughter with a mistress/girlfriend who continued her career as actor and producer.
But based on some presumptuous comments you wouldn't know that about him. 🧐
I just read the book because of this video (it's on Audible and Libby). Even though it was written by a man 100 years ago, just take whatever is useful for you and your individual situation. For me (I don't have kids), I will start following his advice of 7.5 hours a week for "cultivating the mind." He proposes 30 minutes in the morning (while commuting) and 1.5 hours in the evening, three times a week. He said to start slowly but consistently and adjust as necessary. I guess that's what's missing in the video; he didn't propose to have this schedule all 7 days a week. You still have admin things to do (laundry, cooking, cleaning, friends, etc.).
24 hr day for a married woman with 2 children
8 hrs sleep
8 hours work + 2 hr commute 10 hrs total
Get home cook for 1/30 hrs
Do dishes clean up 30-45 mins
4 solid hours ( I didn’t get to hang out with my kids before I sent them to bed) mon-fri - But yeah if I don’t watch Netflix, you tube, tik tok I can either spend 4 hours on personal development, professional courses, working on a potential business/side hustle I.e you tube/etsy shop etc. hmmm notice how I didn’t take a shower or got ready in the morning for work and yeah I no longer have sex with my husband no time for that either. No dates, forget about that much needed intimacy. We are high achievers, all work no play for 9 to 5 workers. This makes sense I’m just lazy and full of excuses 😅
moral of the video: Don't let anxiety about life's burdens chain you to laziness and inaction. Otherwise, you'll waste your life with nothing to show for it but toil and despair.
I did not realize in what manner intentional I am alongside time until I stopped following the schedule I made myself - I was then lethargic, depressed, got naught done. When I went back toward following the blocked time I was productive, joyous and found myself enjoying everything in mine life more. I do mine hobbies more, I intentionally work on mine work more> I spend more loving time alongside mine family and enjoying mine life.
I'm not thinking about work before work.
I am getting ready for work, preparing my lunch for work, driving to work.
So unless you work from home, you don't work '9 to 5'.
Haha. 8 hours of work is actually an average of 10 if you include pre time, commute, lunch hr, more commute time, and minimum prep for the next day. That is just if you are a peon. If you have any responsibilities above and beyond, your work day is even longer. No one I know only works 9 to 5.
Assuming everyone has endless amounts of energy, which is almost impossible considering that we are bombarded with toxins everyday and our food has less nutrients than ever. That is why we are all fat and sick. But sure, productivity is the problem...
I don’t think about work after work, but I do feel like it’s hard to “get things done”, cause by the time I get back from work, I feel like my brain has turned to mush and I can’t focus or think straight or find the energy to be productive. ESPECIALLY if it’s winter and it was dark by the time I leave work
We aren’t all given the same opportunities and assets to make the same use of same 24 hours and I think the genuinely useful things that can be taken from this are kind of drowned out by a rather judgey attitude about what people should be doing.
Hi, love the video(s) as I’m feeling stuck myself… Where did you buy the pink binder notebook? I like how it’s blank pages. I need that. Please share. I’m following your methods to help me execute and stay on track. As old as I am I’m feeling stuck, taking all day to do nothing then feel bad cause I didn’t finish the 50 million things I wanted to attach… Anyways I’m rambling please share where you got notebook. I see that you have planners on your site, but I’m interested in blank journal as well. 😊
Video was gold!!! Loved the content, the enthusiasm in which is was given too ❤
Thank you 🙏
I've read Bennett's book, and I get his point - we do have some time that we could use to learn something to elevate ourselves, but we don't. And, we argue for the notion that we absolutely don't, rather than get curious about how we might. So yeah, I agree, for all of the reasons Bennett's ideas are revealing his gender and class and racial privilege, he (unlike all the other folks who shared those same privileges in that time), has some important insights for us in the current epoch ❤
Oir bodies need sleep to function for work and home life. Because sleep is manadatory for function it should be taken out of the time equation. 8 hrs of sleep and 16 hrs for the rest of the day means working for ONE THIRD of that 16 hours. It should NOT be one third of 24 hrs. The workday should be 5 hrs and 20 min. This amount of work time can easily equal the normal work day in productivity if people were actually getting adequate breaks and sleep. Pay should stay the same as a normal day especially if more productivity occurs. Work culture needs to change.
Well..... the time before and after work "wasted" is spent traveling to and from work, so itsnot 9 to 5, it's probably 7.30am to 6.30pm. No longer just a third
I really want to see how a person fares in the long run with a schedule like this. It maybe high-performing the first few weeks, but I truly wonder how optimising your time every hour of the day might impact you in the long run
I love all of your videos but this one really is my favorite. Thank you for the reminder. 😊
Work is half my day literally 12-13 hours 😅 for half of the week but i still make time for other things i need to do that benefit me witch means if u block your week/ days u can do at least 1percent of the things that make u better and at the end of the year u will be 365% better than last year😊
I am a student, this is actually helpful.my schedule fits right in.ofcourse, I can have to cook clean ,buy grocery, but that i can make it work. Thank you so much.
Wow. This is great. I am good at being in work mode. Only think of work to do some research pre-job. It's the rest of the time that I bleed. Not having captured how to be as effective with my life as I am with work.
Basically this dude is telling us to revolt against the long hours. This video just proved they ain't giving enough time if you take into account commuting and household tasks
The one hour before setting out to work is purely focussed on getting ready for work, then the commuting both ways, and the hour on arrival back home should be subtracted from the “free 3rd”. Imagine also adding children and no help to the mix.
I NEEDED this. Bought the book. Great deal on Kindle at 99 cents. Thanks, Amy!
Makes me think kf not working hours but workout time. If I don't workout first thing in the morning, I'm thinking about it all day. If I ear, I have to wait an hour then I get distracted with other things but half-assed because I really need to get to my workout. If I do it too late, it keeps me up. So I need tk wake up earlier to workout and have a better overall day.
“A high performer is looking at every leverage they’ve got.” You’re right. By the way, I have a mug ☕️ in my shop now, thank you for the idea in the last video!
This so perked me up. You’re hilarious. But it’s like watching exercise videos from the sofa! Yuk! Thank you
Thanks for the video. Im going to do this illistration and assign what i need to do when.
Unfortunately, my husband works 80 hours a week, a lot of which he doesn't get home for. So, he just wants to eat, take a shower and go to bed. He does have weeks here and there he is off though and he does get a lot done in those times.
Thinking about how much time I could have spent doing something else if you cut this video down to two minutes
Please share where you purchased where you got the pink discbound cover. I absolutely love it! Thank you.